Hey, hang back with something for you to think about. Many, many
people put everything before their relationships and then expect for their relationship to last.
Let me say it again, many people put everything before their relationship. Everything
else is more important, and then they expect for their relationship to last.
You may still be in it, you may not go anywhere, but it's
dead, dead, dead, because when you're not putting anything into it,
when you're not put born into it, when you're not nurturing it, then
it's like you're strangling, you're suffocating, you're killing it. It's dying because
truly it suffocates because you're not putting into it. You're not putting kindling on
the fire, you're not doing anything to help nurturing the relationship. When this
happens, it fails, and many people stay together. But that don't mean
the relationship is good. Most relationships are not. You must get to a
point of understanding that you have to let your significant other know they are priory
in your life. They mean something to you. But some of you are
so deep in hardcore on the grind that you fail to show your significant other
what they mean to you. You ignore them, You ignore the relationship as
a whole and it will definitely open the doors to things that you did and
not you just didn't want, but it will happen because you're not poured into
the relationship. You're not giving him or her the time that they need and
deserve. Some of you are worker Holly. Everything is work, work,
work, work. Then you come home or when you're around them, you're
exhausted. You don't wanna do anything, you don't want to go anywhere.
You are causing problems for yourself and the relationship. You must it's absolutely necessary
to make your relationship matter. It's crucial. If you want a relationship that's
lasting, that's healthy, you have to nurture it no other ways. You
have to pour into it. It's like having a child. So many people
have children, but they don't pour into their children at all. And as
a parent, you should, just like as an individual in any relationship,
you should pour into your relationship. You should make sure you nurture it.
You should make sure your significant other knows that they matter to you. And
I know people don't like to hear it, but if you don't make them
matter to you, if you don't let them know that they're important in your
life. I guarantee you somebody else will. And I'm not saying that your
significant other will do something such as cheat on you or anything like that.
I'm not saying that. But what I'm saying is you definitely can open the
doors to other people coming in because sometimes when you don't give compliments, you
don't give time, you don't pay any attention, somebody else will and when
they do, your significant others will like it. They will like it,
they will appreciate it. That's the last thing you need, and it's the
last thing you want in your relationship. There's no room, none, whatsoever
for outsiders. So whatever it is, whatever it is, it does not
matter if it's your work, your children, outside, things that you're doing,
extracurriculum things, it don't matter what or who. You absolutely positively must
let your significant other know. They need something to you. They matter to
you. You're important to them, the relationship is important to them. You
must let them know. You must show it, they must know it.
But some of you are way too busy and you know something else. Some
of you will give that attention and time to someone else, But you're not
even giving it to the one that you say you love when it comes to
them. You're exhausted, you just wanna sleep, you just wanna rest,
you just wanna chill out. But you're willing to give time and attention to
other people. It's not right and it will cause you problems eventually, because
no one that's in a relationship wants to feel as if they don't matter.
No one wants that. So many people are in relationships, but they are
lonely. They're desperate for love, they're desperate for attention because they're not receiving
it in their relationships. So it's important that you show them. You can't
just say it, I love you, or you cannot just say words.
You have to show action. And as I say it, if you don't,
somebody else will badly do it. And your significant other just may like
it. I'm not saying they may cheat, but they just may like the
attention that someone else is giving them because you're not giving them any. So
I'm just saying, be careful, be mindful, don't be so busy that
you don't have time for your significant other. Don't be so busy that your
significant other is yearning for attention, yearning, yearning for time and to be
shown love. Don't ever put them in that situation, or they feel that
they're yearning for it, that they're feeling lonely, that they're feeling heartbroken because
you don't ever give them time or attention. Don't put yourself in that situation.
Don't put them in that situation because, like I said, someone else
will, and then you won't like it. You'll feel upset, betrayed when
they haven't done anything. Who doesn't like a compliment? Who doesn't We all
like compliments sometimes, and it's very important to give compliments to your significant other,
to show them, not just provide lip service, but to show them
what they mean to get. Take time because it's important. Be willing to
communicate some of you. You're so exhausted you you can't muster up the energy,
but you must. You must. Don't go dragging your tail home or
to see your significant other with no energy. You think they wanna spend time
with you when you have no energy, you're too exhausted to communicate, You're
too exhausted to do anything with them. They're gonna feel like, well,
why bother? Why bother? If you're gonna come here, or if we
see each other and you're totally exhausted. You're sitting trying to watch a movie
or do something, and you follow in a sleep. No one wants to
be subjected to that, but unfortunately this is the story for many, many
people. Many people are dealing with this in their relationship. So mine suggestion
to you is get it together. Get it together before your significant other has
had enough. Stop putting everything and everyone before your relationship. Stop acting as
if you don't want to be with who you're with. You say you love
him or her, but you're not acting like it. You setting your self
up for problems. And that's just the honest truth, because people will only
take it for so long before they start saying something or before they start acting
concerting way, Because people can only take so much if you don't love them
and treat them the way they want you to or deserve. Sometimes people get
fed up and want to move on, But you have to remember the role
you played. You have to remember the role you played. You think that
you can push your significant other to the side all of the time and think
they're not gonna feel some type of way about it, they most certainly will.
Eventually they will. Eventually they will get to a point where they have
had enough. I don't care what it is. Hey, I understand people
have to work. I get it. I totally understand it. But if
you're in a relationship, you must make time. You must. There's no
excuse whatsoever for a person to neglect the individual if they say they love,
there's no excuse for it. And I'm telling you when you do that,
it's gonna come and bite you. Eventually, your significant other is gonna get
sick and tired of it. They all feel, well, hey, I'm
mighty as well be by myself, or maybe even be with someone who really
wants to spend time with me, who's not all about lip service. I
don't know. I'm just saying it's possible because people get tired of being pushed
aside. They get tired of being treated as if they don't matter. It
comes back to you, So just be aware of what you're doing in your
relationship. You have to always put kennel on the fire to keep the fire
going. If you let it burn out, you may not be able to
at night it anymore. So take time and show love. Don't just say
it. Some of you don't even do that. Some of you don't even
tell your significant other I love you. You don't tell them, you don't
show them, what do you think it's going to happen? They're gonna get
tired of that. So again, my suggestion is that you be aware of
what you're doing. You be mindful of what you're doing, because it's going
to eventually be right there in your face, but not in a good way.
Because you're significant other. It's going to have enough sooner or later.
So just do the right thing. And the right thing is letting them know
that they matter, that they need something to me that no matter what or
who, they gonna have time for you. They have to know it.
You have to show it, because when you don't, all it does is
causes problems. I promise you sooner or lady. Now, if you don't
care, that's a whole different story. If you don't care, and you
know you don't care, why play games? Why play games? Just move
on so they can move on. I did an episode months ago that said
people are committed to the relationship, but not till their significant other, and
that is the truth. Some people, yeah, they committed to being in
the relationship, they feel obligated once they get in it. But they're not
committed to the person that they're with. Makes no sense at all for people.
Some people do this makes no sense. So if it don't mean anything
to you, if it don't matter to you, don't waste another second.
But if you're saying that it does matter, then you better get it together
before it's too late, and you don't have anyone to blame but of yourself,
you and you alone. Sometimes your significant other is trying desperately to get
you to act as if you care. They shouldn't have to do that.
They should not have to do that, twist your arm for you to show
that you care about them. No, that's not how it's supposed to be.
So be very aware and careful of what you're doing, and if you're
not doing the right thing, you better get it together before it's too late.
Because sometimes when it's too late, that means your significant other has gotten
sick and tired and you can do whatever. It won't even matter anymore.
They're done, So don't be that individual who have to go through that.
Sometimes people don't miss the water until the whild runs right. So just be
very very mindful and aware of what you're doing in your relationship. Be mindful
and aware, because if you love who you are with, you should be
showing it. You should be spending time, You should be showing affection,
You should be willing to communicate, and many other things to help that relationship
to flourish and grow. It takes nurturing. Okay, you got that.
Some of you needed to hear that on today because you have gotten comfortable with
doing nothing, very comfortable. Some of you are to the point that you
even reject your signing with another. You reject them. How do you think
they feel, especially on top of the fact you don't give them attention anyways,
mind what you are doing before it's too late. Sometimes people open their
eyes when it's too late. Now you have an attitude because they don't want
you anymore. They tried and tried and tried, and you ignore them,
dismiss them, and now they've had enough. So don't let it get to
that point. If you love who you're with, then you'll do what you're
supposed to do. You'll do right by him or her. And remember,
if you don't, someone else would definitely be willing to. And that's all
I have on that. I'm leaving it right there. Please share this episode
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