WEBVTT 1 00:00:01.240 --> 00:00:11.679 Hey, hang back with something for you to think about. Many, many 2 00:00:11.720 --> 00:00:21.559 people put everything before their relationships and then expect for their relationship to last. 3 00:00:25.039 --> 00:00:35.000 Let me say it again, many people put everything before their relationship. Everything 4 00:00:35.000 --> 00:00:40.759 else is more important, and then they expect for their relationship to last. 5 00:00:44.359 --> 00:00:51.600 You may still be in it, you may not go anywhere, but it's 6 00:00:51.679 --> 00:00:59.159 dead, dead, dead, because when you're not putting anything into it, 7 00:00:59.200 --> 00:01:04.680 when you're not put born into it, when you're not nurturing it, then 8 00:01:06.640 --> 00:01:23.400 it's like you're strangling, you're suffocating, you're killing it. It's dying because 9 00:01:23.439 --> 00:01:36.959 truly it suffocates because you're not putting into it. You're not putting kindling on 10 00:01:37.040 --> 00:01:45.439 the fire, you're not doing anything to help nurturing the relationship. When this 11 00:01:45.560 --> 00:01:51.159 happens, it fails, and many people stay together. But that don't mean 12 00:01:51.959 --> 00:02:00.680 the relationship is good. Most relationships are not. You must get to a 13 00:02:00.799 --> 00:02:08.560 point of understanding that you have to let your significant other know they are priory 14 00:02:08.680 --> 00:02:15.000 in your life. They mean something to you. But some of you are 15 00:02:15.120 --> 00:02:23.039 so deep in hardcore on the grind that you fail to show your significant other 16 00:02:23.199 --> 00:02:28.960 what they mean to you. You ignore them, You ignore the relationship as 17 00:02:29.000 --> 00:02:36.360 a whole and it will definitely open the doors to things that you did and 18 00:02:36.479 --> 00:02:46.240 not you just didn't want, but it will happen because you're not poured into 19 00:02:46.280 --> 00:02:54.479 the relationship. You're not giving him or her the time that they need and 20 00:02:54.639 --> 00:03:00.840 deserve. Some of you are worker Holly. Everything is work, work, 21 00:03:00.919 --> 00:03:08.599 work, work. Then you come home or when you're around them, you're 22 00:03:08.639 --> 00:03:13.520 exhausted. You don't wanna do anything, you don't want to go anywhere. 23 00:03:16.039 --> 00:03:28.800 You are causing problems for yourself and the relationship. You must it's absolutely necessary 24 00:03:29.919 --> 00:03:39.080 to make your relationship matter. It's crucial. If you want a relationship that's 25 00:03:39.199 --> 00:03:46.360 lasting, that's healthy, you have to nurture it no other ways. You 26 00:03:46.439 --> 00:03:55.080 have to pour into it. It's like having a child. So many people 27 00:03:55.400 --> 00:04:02.680 have children, but they don't pour into their children at all. And as 28 00:04:02.759 --> 00:04:06.960 a parent, you should, just like as an individual in any relationship, 29 00:04:08.039 --> 00:04:13.439 you should pour into your relationship. You should make sure you nurture it. 30 00:04:13.719 --> 00:04:21.959 You should make sure your significant other knows that they matter to you. And 31 00:04:23.079 --> 00:04:30.319 I know people don't like to hear it, but if you don't make them 32 00:04:30.560 --> 00:04:36.160 matter to you, if you don't let them know that they're important in your 33 00:04:36.240 --> 00:04:44.240 life. I guarantee you somebody else will. And I'm not saying that your 34 00:04:44.319 --> 00:04:49.879 significant other will do something such as cheat on you or anything like that. 35 00:04:49.920 --> 00:04:54.519 I'm not saying that. But what I'm saying is you definitely can open the 36 00:04:54.560 --> 00:05:02.240 doors to other people coming in because sometimes when you don't give compliments, you 37 00:05:02.319 --> 00:05:09.759 don't give time, you don't pay any attention, somebody else will and when 38 00:05:09.800 --> 00:05:17.079 they do, your significant others will like it. They will like it, 39 00:05:17.639 --> 00:05:26.279 they will appreciate it. That's the last thing you need, and it's the 40 00:05:26.399 --> 00:05:35.160 last thing you want in your relationship. There's no room, none, whatsoever 41 00:05:35.680 --> 00:05:46.639 for outsiders. So whatever it is, whatever it is, it does not 42 00:05:46.800 --> 00:05:54.439 matter if it's your work, your children, outside, things that you're doing, 43 00:05:54.519 --> 00:06:03.399 extracurriculum things, it don't matter what or who. You absolutely positively must 44 00:06:05.000 --> 00:06:12.439 let your significant other know. They need something to you. They matter to 45 00:06:12.480 --> 00:06:19.680 you. You're important to them, the relationship is important to them. You 46 00:06:19.800 --> 00:06:26.800 must let them know. You must show it, they must know it. 47 00:06:28.800 --> 00:06:33.000 But some of you are way too busy and you know something else. Some 48 00:06:33.120 --> 00:06:41.759 of you will give that attention and time to someone else, But you're not 49 00:06:41.879 --> 00:06:46.199 even giving it to the one that you say you love when it comes to 50 00:06:46.319 --> 00:06:51.720 them. You're exhausted, you just wanna sleep, you just wanna rest, 51 00:06:51.839 --> 00:07:00.040 you just wanna chill out. But you're willing to give time and attention to 52 00:07:00.240 --> 00:07:11.240 other people. It's not right and it will cause you problems eventually, because 53 00:07:11.800 --> 00:07:16.199 no one that's in a relationship wants to feel as if they don't matter. 54 00:07:16.360 --> 00:07:23.079 No one wants that. So many people are in relationships, but they are 55 00:07:23.240 --> 00:07:35.120 lonely. They're desperate for love, they're desperate for attention because they're not receiving 56 00:07:35.160 --> 00:07:45.639 it in their relationships. So it's important that you show them. You can't 57 00:07:45.680 --> 00:07:49.199 just say it, I love you, or you cannot just say words. 58 00:07:49.959 --> 00:07:57.639 You have to show action. And as I say it, if you don't, 59 00:07:58.759 --> 00:08:03.160 somebody else will badly do it. And your significant other just may like 60 00:08:03.399 --> 00:08:11.680 it. I'm not saying they may cheat, but they just may like the 61 00:08:11.839 --> 00:08:18.800 attention that someone else is giving them because you're not giving them any. So 62 00:08:18.920 --> 00:08:24.360 I'm just saying, be careful, be mindful, don't be so busy that 63 00:08:24.439 --> 00:08:30.439 you don't have time for your significant other. Don't be so busy that your 64 00:08:30.519 --> 00:08:43.679 significant other is yearning for attention, yearning, yearning for time and to be 65 00:08:43.879 --> 00:08:50.799 shown love. Don't ever put them in that situation, or they feel that 66 00:08:50.879 --> 00:09:01.600 they're yearning for it, that they're feeling lonely, that they're feeling heartbroken because 67 00:09:01.080 --> 00:09:09.200 you don't ever give them time or attention. Don't put yourself in that situation. 68 00:09:09.600 --> 00:09:13.720 Don't put them in that situation because, like I said, someone else 69 00:09:13.799 --> 00:09:20.559 will, and then you won't like it. You'll feel upset, betrayed when 70 00:09:20.840 --> 00:09:33.000 they haven't done anything. Who doesn't like a compliment? Who doesn't We all 71 00:09:33.200 --> 00:09:41.080 like compliments sometimes, and it's very important to give compliments to your significant other, 72 00:09:43.399 --> 00:09:46.720 to show them, not just provide lip service, but to show them 73 00:09:46.799 --> 00:09:58.519 what they mean to get. Take time because it's important. Be willing to 74 00:09:58.639 --> 00:10:05.799 communicate some of you. You're so exhausted you you can't muster up the energy, 75 00:10:07.159 --> 00:10:18.120 but you must. You must. Don't go dragging your tail home or 76 00:10:18.159 --> 00:10:26.039 to see your significant other with no energy. You think they wanna spend time 77 00:10:26.120 --> 00:10:37.440 with you when you have no energy, you're too exhausted to communicate, You're 78 00:10:37.480 --> 00:10:41.679 too exhausted to do anything with them. They're gonna feel like, well, 79 00:10:41.679 --> 00:10:48.720 why bother? Why bother? If you're gonna come here, or if we 80 00:10:48.840 --> 00:10:58.240 see each other and you're totally exhausted. You're sitting trying to watch a movie 81 00:10:58.320 --> 00:11:05.240 or do something, and you follow in a sleep. No one wants to 82 00:11:05.279 --> 00:11:15.240 be subjected to that, but unfortunately this is the story for many, many 83 00:11:15.279 --> 00:11:26.080 people. Many people are dealing with this in their relationship. So mine suggestion 84 00:11:26.240 --> 00:11:35.159 to you is get it together. Get it together before your significant other has 85 00:11:35.200 --> 00:11:48.000 had enough. Stop putting everything and everyone before your relationship. Stop acting as 86 00:11:48.080 --> 00:11:52.679 if you don't want to be with who you're with. You say you love 87 00:11:52.799 --> 00:12:00.360 him or her, but you're not acting like it. You setting your self 88 00:12:00.480 --> 00:12:09.240 up for problems. And that's just the honest truth, because people will only 89 00:12:09.320 --> 00:12:15.720 take it for so long before they start saying something or before they start acting 90 00:12:16.120 --> 00:12:26.720 concerting way, Because people can only take so much if you don't love them 91 00:12:26.759 --> 00:12:33.240 and treat them the way they want you to or deserve. Sometimes people get 92 00:12:33.240 --> 00:12:37.600 fed up and want to move on, But you have to remember the role 93 00:12:37.720 --> 00:12:48.039 you played. You have to remember the role you played. You think that 94 00:12:48.120 --> 00:12:54.000 you can push your significant other to the side all of the time and think 95 00:12:54.120 --> 00:13:00.320 they're not gonna feel some type of way about it, they most certainly will. 96 00:13:01.039 --> 00:13:05.159 Eventually they will. Eventually they will get to a point where they have 97 00:13:05.320 --> 00:13:15.399 had enough. I don't care what it is. Hey, I understand people 98 00:13:15.480 --> 00:13:22.240 have to work. I get it. I totally understand it. But if 99 00:13:22.240 --> 00:13:28.279 you're in a relationship, you must make time. You must. There's no 100 00:13:28.480 --> 00:13:35.320 excuse whatsoever for a person to neglect the individual if they say they love, 101 00:13:37.799 --> 00:13:43.480 there's no excuse for it. And I'm telling you when you do that, 102 00:13:46.559 --> 00:13:52.440 it's gonna come and bite you. Eventually, your significant other is gonna get 103 00:13:52.440 --> 00:13:58.480 sick and tired of it. They all feel, well, hey, I'm 104 00:13:58.519 --> 00:14:07.840 mighty as well be by myself, or maybe even be with someone who really 105 00:14:07.879 --> 00:14:13.320 wants to spend time with me, who's not all about lip service. I 106 00:14:13.360 --> 00:14:20.080 don't know. I'm just saying it's possible because people get tired of being pushed 107 00:14:20.080 --> 00:14:31.879 aside. They get tired of being treated as if they don't matter. It 108 00:14:31.919 --> 00:14:39.360 comes back to you, So just be aware of what you're doing in your 109 00:14:39.399 --> 00:14:45.919 relationship. You have to always put kennel on the fire to keep the fire 110 00:14:46.080 --> 00:14:50.639 going. If you let it burn out, you may not be able to 111 00:14:50.759 --> 00:14:56.720 at night it anymore. So take time and show love. Don't just say 112 00:14:56.759 --> 00:15:03.000 it. Some of you don't even do that. Some of you don't even 113 00:15:03.039 --> 00:15:09.240 tell your significant other I love you. You don't tell them, you don't 114 00:15:09.279 --> 00:15:13.879 show them, what do you think it's going to happen? They're gonna get 115 00:15:13.879 --> 00:15:22.200 tired of that. So again, my suggestion is that you be aware of 116 00:15:22.559 --> 00:15:30.360 what you're doing. You be mindful of what you're doing, because it's going 117 00:15:30.440 --> 00:15:39.799 to eventually be right there in your face, but not in a good way. 118 00:15:41.080 --> 00:15:45.440 Because you're significant other. It's going to have enough sooner or later. 119 00:15:46.320 --> 00:15:50.440 So just do the right thing. And the right thing is letting them know 120 00:15:52.279 --> 00:15:58.279 that they matter, that they need something to me that no matter what or 121 00:15:58.320 --> 00:16:07.480 who, they gonna have time for you. They have to know it. 122 00:16:07.240 --> 00:16:14.679 You have to show it, because when you don't, all it does is 123 00:16:14.759 --> 00:16:23.600 causes problems. I promise you sooner or lady. Now, if you don't 124 00:16:23.639 --> 00:16:30.399 care, that's a whole different story. If you don't care, and you 125 00:16:30.840 --> 00:16:37.600 know you don't care, why play games? Why play games? Just move 126 00:16:37.639 --> 00:16:48.279 on so they can move on. I did an episode months ago that said 127 00:16:49.000 --> 00:17:00.480 people are committed to the relationship, but not till their significant other, and 128 00:17:00.639 --> 00:17:03.960 that is the truth. Some people, yeah, they committed to being in 129 00:17:03.039 --> 00:17:08.079 the relationship, they feel obligated once they get in it. But they're not 130 00:17:08.519 --> 00:17:17.119 committed to the person that they're with. Makes no sense at all for people. 131 00:17:18.920 --> 00:17:26.559 Some people do this makes no sense. So if it don't mean anything 132 00:17:26.640 --> 00:17:30.880 to you, if it don't matter to you, don't waste another second. 133 00:17:32.480 --> 00:17:36.680 But if you're saying that it does matter, then you better get it together 134 00:17:37.160 --> 00:17:44.279 before it's too late, and you don't have anyone to blame but of yourself, 135 00:17:45.400 --> 00:17:56.000 you and you alone. Sometimes your significant other is trying desperately to get 136 00:17:56.119 --> 00:18:03.839 you to act as if you care. They shouldn't have to do that. 137 00:18:06.480 --> 00:18:11.279 They should not have to do that, twist your arm for you to show 138 00:18:11.400 --> 00:18:15.160 that you care about them. No, that's not how it's supposed to be. 139 00:18:18.440 --> 00:18:22.200 So be very aware and careful of what you're doing, and if you're 140 00:18:22.200 --> 00:18:26.440 not doing the right thing, you better get it together before it's too late. 141 00:18:26.759 --> 00:18:33.240 Because sometimes when it's too late, that means your significant other has gotten 142 00:18:33.319 --> 00:18:37.920 sick and tired and you can do whatever. It won't even matter anymore. 143 00:18:41.279 --> 00:18:52.359 They're done, So don't be that individual who have to go through that. 144 00:18:55.519 --> 00:19:03.759 Sometimes people don't miss the water until the whild runs right. So just be 145 00:19:03.200 --> 00:19:10.680 very very mindful and aware of what you're doing in your relationship. Be mindful 146 00:19:10.759 --> 00:19:17.240 and aware, because if you love who you are with, you should be 147 00:19:17.240 --> 00:19:22.960 showing it. You should be spending time, You should be showing affection, 148 00:19:22.359 --> 00:19:30.799 You should be willing to communicate, and many other things to help that relationship 149 00:19:32.200 --> 00:19:41.119 to flourish and grow. It takes nurturing. Okay, you got that. 150 00:19:42.079 --> 00:19:51.200 Some of you needed to hear that on today because you have gotten comfortable with 151 00:19:51.440 --> 00:19:56.839 doing nothing, very comfortable. Some of you are to the point that you 152 00:19:57.000 --> 00:20:06.839 even reject your signing with another. You reject them. How do you think 153 00:20:06.880 --> 00:20:11.680 they feel, especially on top of the fact you don't give them attention anyways, 154 00:20:14.200 --> 00:20:22.160 mind what you are doing before it's too late. Sometimes people open their 155 00:20:22.200 --> 00:20:30.359 eyes when it's too late. Now you have an attitude because they don't want 156 00:20:30.400 --> 00:20:36.599 you anymore. They tried and tried and tried, and you ignore them, 157 00:20:37.279 --> 00:20:41.799 dismiss them, and now they've had enough. So don't let it get to 158 00:20:41.920 --> 00:20:47.279 that point. If you love who you're with, then you'll do what you're 159 00:20:47.279 --> 00:20:52.799 supposed to do. You'll do right by him or her. And remember, 160 00:20:52.400 --> 00:20:56.839 if you don't, someone else would definitely be willing to. And that's all 161 00:20:56.920 --> 00:21:03.920 I have on that. I'm leaving it right there. Please share this episode 162 00:21:03.039 --> 00:21:08.400 people need to hear so many are in these types of relationships. Please share. 163 00:21:08.960 --> 00:21:15.440 Also, check out relatable life chronicles and share that as well. Thank 164 00:21:15.519 --> 00:21:22.680 you so much for listening. Much love to you. You and you I 165 00:21:22.880 --> 00:21:30.640 in every episode the same and I hope you do it. Thank for it.