Hey, hey, hey, good people, I'm back. Oh, yes,
with something for you to think about. Some of you are literally asking
the questions why am I not good enough? You're in relationships with individuals and
you're asking why am I not good enough? What does she have that I
don't have? What does he have that I don't have? Some of you
are asking your significant others such questions, why am I not good enough?
Now? Think about what I just said. Think about what I just said.
You asking your significant other why you're not good enough? Seriously, seriously,
come on, come on. If you have to ask you a significant
other a question like that, something is wrong. Something may be wrong with
him or her, but something is definitely going on within you. You should
never have to ask you a significant other whether you're good enough or not.
Something is wrong with that relationship, Something is wrong within you to feel that
you have to go to that limit to ask your significant other why you're not
good enough? You may not be good enough to yourself in your own mind
if you're asking that type of question, Because let me tell you something,
let me educate you really quick here. You will never be enough. Nothing
you do will ever be enough for someone who is unhappy. Inside, don't
love self, have their own unresolved issues. You will never be good enough.
Nothing you do will be good enough. They will always bring problems into
your life. Now, if you're asking such a question, that means there's
a disconnect within you as well. Sometimes you have individuals who get together other
wannat mean well, They mean well, But that joker there with male or
female, they are bringing the smoke. They are bringing nothing but drama to
the relationship. If you find that you are in a relationship with somebody like
that, run like Forrest Gump, Run run, run, run quickly,
make haste, because I promise you you're gonna have a very hard time in
that relationship. Some of you are so busy worrying about whether you're good enough
for your significant other when you don't even feel good enough for yourself. You
don't feel that you're worthy of anything. That's why you with the type of
person you're with. You don't feel you deserve better, But you do you
most certainly do. You are having to ask such a question that says a
lot about what you think about yourself because you don't go right, I'm good
enough, that's the mindset I have. Oh, I know I'm good enough.
You have to believe in yourself. Don't put it in the hands of
a person that's bringing you drama and misery, because that's telling you something about
that person. Never look to another person to try to figure out what's wrong
with you, why you're the problem. People that's bringing the drama in your
life, they're gonna always make you feel that if as if you're the problem,
when they know the whole time they are the problem. They are a
major part of it. If you're if you're a person who's taken it,
you're a part of the problem too. Both individuals need to deal with their
unresolved issues. Why you are in the mindset that you're in to even have
to pose a question like that to anyone, because you should know you're good
enough. It does not matter what you've gone through, who did it,
how long you endured it, You are good enough. Because remember when when
someone else is projecting their pain onto you and causing you trauma suffering bad experiences,
you should never give power to those people to make you feel like you're
not worthy. You you don't have any value or self worth or anything.
You should never give that power to those type of people. But unfortunately most
people in the world, that's what they do. They carry around all of
that pain and it makes them say negative things to self thinking negative all types
of things that are not conducive to a healthy lifestyle. You're significant other,
if he or she brings drama, chaos, all types of foolishness into the
relationship, that's a problem right there. If you accept it, that's a
problem. You have to figure out why you're entertaining such an individual. It's
time to do a self assessment, self evaluation because something is wrong within you.
Don't ever then, I do mean, never ever let someone think that
they have an upper hand on you like that, that you got to ask
them, what are you doing wrong? Why you're not good enough? Come
on? That empowers them because they know if you get to that point of
having to ask them that question, they know they have power over you.
To even think about asking such a question. That tells you something about yourself.
That's when you need to look at yourself and figure out what is going
on inside of you to make you feel that you need to ask anyone that
question, especially your significant other. And I promise you you give them power.
You give them power because now they really know that you lack confidence.
If you're having to ask them that question, they know you lack confidence.
They know you don't feel that you have any self worth. Anytime you have
to ask somebody that, then you know what. A lot of times those
individuals they're preying on you anyways. They're taking you for granted, cheating on
you, using and abusing you, all types of things. And then you're
going to give them more power by asking why you're not good enough? Come
on, and I'm not trying to hurt you. I'm trying to open your
eyes, give you something to think about. Too many people are in relationships
giving their power to their significant others who actually are weak individuals. They're actually
weak individuals because they're praying on you. If you're in a relationship with someone
that you have to ask why am I not good enough? Something is wrong,
something is wrong. They're doing something that make you feel as if they
don't love you. So you're trying to figure out why, why, what
have I done? What do I need to do? I'll do anything that's
the I said. Some of you are in it's crazy, it really is,
because you shouldn't give anyone that power over you and every time you do
things like that, it empowers them. It really does. I always tell
you all you must know your self worth, get to know yourself, get
to love yourself before you get into a relationship, because if you don't,
you will be the prey or the predator, or you can say the victim
or the victimizing guaranteed, guaranteed, you create the musters in your life.
I've said it many, many, many, many times. You create the
musters in your life. What you teach people that is exactly, without a
doubt, the way they will respond, how you show them they can treat
you. That's what they're gonna do. When you turn around and say why
am I not good enough? You're making them think they're all of that and
some but you're nothing. Don't feel like that about yourself. I don't care
what you've gone through. No man or woman is worth it. So you
have to look at yourself and figure out what's going on, what you have
not dealt with that has you in the mindset that you're in to think that
well about yourself to have to ask your significant other why you're not good enough?
It's not you, it's them. They're still doing things that they want
to do. Because a lot of people are in relationships supposedly committed, but
they're still doing whatever they want to do. That's not being committed to me.
It makes no sense. You're committed to the relationship but not to the
individual, makes no sense. The reason I said that is because a lot
of people they don't want to leave the relationship because they're comfortable, familiar,
They like what they're getting. Even though some of them are being treated like
dogs and treating people like dogs, they're still getting something out of it.
Whatever you open to yourself up to, that's exactly what you're going to get.
So if you go around with no self esteem because you're giving power to
people who have hurt you in your past, you're still holding all of that
in because of your memories of it. You are giving your power away.
And a lot of people are giving their power away to people that sometimes they're
dead and gone, dead and gone, or sometimes they don't even know,
have no clue. You're living your life in misery, giving your power away,
living your life in misery and pain over something that's over. You're just
retaining it in your memories. That's formulating into thoughts. Never ever make anyone
feel that they have that type of power over you that they can treat you
any kind of way they want to treat you because they know you're gonna take
it to the point that you have to ask them why you're not good enough.
If he's out there cheating or she's out there cheating, that's not you,
that's them. What's going on inside of them. They are cheats.
They have their own issues, their own insecurities. Sometimes people they need to
be pumped up by other people. They want their egos stroked by other people,
even though you may be doing it at home. They need more and
more and more. Some people it's just all about sex. They're in a
relationship, but they still want more and more and more. That's about what's
inside of them. They're insecurities, all the things, and side to have
them in that mindset that they're in. Don't take that on as your problem,
because obviously you have your own If you have to ask him or hurt,
why are you not good enough? Because you are good enough? And
if you pose that question to your significant other, you may not like the
answer they give you. Because when you give people power over you like that,
they'll talk down to you. Because they know you already feel self conscious,
they know you feel insecure, so if you pose that question, they
may lash out at you, blame you, talk down to you, and
everything to make you feel even worse about yourself. So I don't care what
you've gone through in life. You are worthy. You deserve to be the
best you can be. Going through life holding in all of that negativity,
it benefits you none at all, and all it does is keep you in
the same state of mind your end, asking why you're not good enough?
No, they're not good enough for you. That's why it's so important to
love yourself. When you love yourself, you would never put yourself in a
situation for any man or any woman to mistoot you in any way. You
will not give them the chance to do so. You would not. But
so many people go through life chasing seeking that love, allowing and accepting all
types of foolishness, doing things they don't want to do, things they would
have never done because they want that individual who's bringing nothing but drama into their
lives. You have to look at yourself, why are you doing this to
yourself? You have to deal with your unresolved issues so you can heal from
them and get to a place of self love, because when you do,
you're not taking that from anyone. You're not taking and you definitely will not
be asking anyone why you're not good enough, because you are. No,
you are good enough. You're so good that you won't put up with that
crap. You're good enough. You have to believe you're good enough. And
guess what. Most times when you gain confidence, oh, they really try
to put you down. Then they really try to put you down. No
one will want you. You're ugly, you're fat, you don't have anything.
Oh, they'll say all types of things to try to put you back
in that negative state of mind. Don't allow anyone that power over you.
I don't care what people say. Let them talk. You don't have to
believe anything they say. It only affects you if you believe it. If
you're with a significant other and they're talking down to you, belittleing you,
you're with the wrong person. No one should allow that from someone who's supposed
to love them. No one. You should not allow any form of aviewth
any form two. Many people are settling for it. They're settling for individuals
who are treating them like crap. Then on top of it, you're asking
questions such as, why am I not good enough? I do everything for
you, I cook for you, I've had your children, I do this,
I do that, males and females, but it's just not good enough?
Why am I not good enough? Everyone else seems to be good enough?
No, no, don't put yourself in that situation. You deserve better,
You are worthy, you are good enough, but you have to believe
it. I don't care what your mother said, your father, anyone,
It don't matter. You have to believe you're good enough, and you are.
When you give away your power, people will take your power. Simple
as that. When you show people how they can teach you, treat you.
I'm sorry, treat you. That's exactly what they could do. If
you show them how they can treat you, that means you let them get
away with whatever. Whenever they will do it. They'll do it. When
people mistreat you in any way, that's telling you what they think of you.
If you let someone constantly cheat on you, what you think about yourself,
They already know. That's why they keep doing it, because you don't
have no consequences for what they're doing, so they already know what you think
of yourself. When you let them abuse you in any way, when you
let them disrespect you, they already know what you think of yourself because you're
showing them by accepting their behavior. I really wanted to share this with you
because so many people in this world are in very, very unhappy relationships.
Because people go into relationships with blinders on and looking at what they want,
what they desire, how they feel. They get so engulfed in their significant
others that they forget about self because they're worried about how can I make him
or her lovely? What can I do to make them want to say?
No? No, If you can't see what's happening, Oh my goodness,
you're gonna go through pure hell for real, because people gonna do it to
you what you open yourself up too. If you let them treat you any
kind of way, expect it, because they're gonna do it, and I
mean some of them will get comfortable with it, very comfortable. You always
create the monsters in your life. When I say that, I really mean
it. It does not matter what the situation is. You create them monsters
in your life. Yes, there are some people out there, who are
terrible and do horrific things. You don't even know them. They come into
your life, we can have it. You don't know them, but remember,
whatever you allow someone to do to you, whether you know them or
not, they'll do it. On this episode, I'm speaking strictly about relationships
with significant others. They know exactly what they can get away with with you.
They know exactly because you've shown them over and over again. Now you're
asking a question while you're not good enough, are you kidding me? They'll
give you some answers too. Up. You may not like them, but
they will oblige you with some answers. So don't do that to yourself.
Don't put yourself in that situation. Get yourself together, deal with what have
you in the mindset you're in, so you can heal from that and grove
and mature. Love yourself. That way, you won't go through life letting
people treat you any kind of way, significant other or otherwise. That's all
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