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Hey, hey, hey, good
people, I'm back. Oh, yes,

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with something for you to think about. Some of you are literally asking

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the questions why am I not good
enough? You're in relationships with individuals and

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you're asking why am I not good
enough? What does she have that I

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don't have? What does he have
that I don't have? Some of you

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are asking your significant others such questions, why am I not good enough?

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Now? Think about what I just
said. Think about what I just said.

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You asking your significant other why you're
not good enough? Seriously, seriously,

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come on, come on. If
you have to ask you a significant

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other a question like that, something
is wrong. Something may be wrong with

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him or her, but something is
definitely going on within you. You should

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never have to ask you a significant
other whether you're good enough or not.

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Something is wrong with that relationship,
Something is wrong within you to feel that

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you have to go to that limit
to ask your significant other why you're not

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good enough? You may not be
good enough to yourself in your own mind

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if you're asking that type of question, Because let me tell you something,

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let me educate you really quick here. You will never be enough. Nothing

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you do will ever be enough for
someone who is unhappy. Inside, don't

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love self, have their own unresolved
issues. You will never be good enough.

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Nothing you do will be good enough. They will always bring problems into

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your life. Now, if you're
asking such a question, that means there's

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a disconnect within you as well.
Sometimes you have individuals who get together other

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wannat mean well, They mean well, But that joker there with male or

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female, they are bringing the smoke. They are bringing nothing but drama to

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the relationship. If you find that
you are in a relationship with somebody like

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that, run like Forrest Gump,
Run run, run, run quickly,

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make haste, because I promise you
you're gonna have a very hard time in

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that relationship. Some of you are
so busy worrying about whether you're good enough

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for your significant other when you don't
even feel good enough for yourself. You

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don't feel that you're worthy of anything. That's why you with the type of

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person you're with. You don't feel
you deserve better, But you do you

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most certainly do. You are having
to ask such a question that says a

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lot about what you think about yourself
because you don't go right, I'm good

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enough, that's the mindset I have. Oh, I know I'm good enough.

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You have to believe in yourself.
Don't put it in the hands of

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a person that's bringing you drama and
misery, because that's telling you something about

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that person. Never look to another
person to try to figure out what's wrong

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with you, why you're the problem. People that's bringing the drama in your

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life, they're gonna always make you
feel that if as if you're the problem,

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when they know the whole time they
are the problem. They are a

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major part of it. If you're
if you're a person who's taken it,

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you're a part of the problem too. Both individuals need to deal with their

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unresolved issues. Why you are in
the mindset that you're in to even have

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to pose a question like that to
anyone, because you should know you're good

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enough. It does not matter what
you've gone through, who did it,

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how long you endured it, You
are good enough. Because remember when when

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someone else is projecting their pain onto
you and causing you trauma suffering bad experiences,

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you should never give power to those
people to make you feel like you're

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not worthy. You you don't have
any value or self worth or anything.

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You should never give that power to
those type of people. But unfortunately most

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people in the world, that's what
they do. They carry around all of

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that pain and it makes them say
negative things to self thinking negative all types

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of things that are not conducive to
a healthy lifestyle. You're significant other,

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if he or she brings drama,
chaos, all types of foolishness into the

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relationship, that's a problem right there. If you accept it, that's a

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problem. You have to figure out
why you're entertaining such an individual. It's

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time to do a self assessment,
self evaluation because something is wrong within you.

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Don't ever then, I do mean, never ever let someone think that

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they have an upper hand on you
like that, that you got to ask

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them, what are you doing wrong? Why you're not good enough? Come

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on? That empowers them because they
know if you get to that point of

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having to ask them that question,
they know they have power over you.

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To even think about asking such a
question. That tells you something about yourself.

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That's when you need to look at
yourself and figure out what is going

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on inside of you to make you
feel that you need to ask anyone that

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question, especially your significant other.
And I promise you you give them power.

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You give them power because now they
really know that you lack confidence.

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If you're having to ask them that
question, they know you lack confidence.

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They know you don't feel that you
have any self worth. Anytime you have

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to ask somebody that, then you
know what. A lot of times those

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individuals they're preying on you anyways.
They're taking you for granted, cheating on

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you, using and abusing you,
all types of things. And then you're

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going to give them more power by
asking why you're not good enough? Come

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on, and I'm not trying to
hurt you. I'm trying to open your

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eyes, give you something to think
about. Too many people are in relationships

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giving their power to their significant others
who actually are weak individuals. They're actually

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weak individuals because they're praying on you. If you're in a relationship with someone

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that you have to ask why am
I not good enough? Something is wrong,

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something is wrong. They're doing something
that make you feel as if they

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don't love you. So you're trying
to figure out why, why, what

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have I done? What do I
need to do? I'll do anything that's

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the I said. Some of you
are in it's crazy, it really is,

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because you shouldn't give anyone that power
over you and every time you do

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things like that, it empowers them. It really does. I always tell

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you all you must know your self
worth, get to know yourself, get

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to love yourself before you get into
a relationship, because if you don't,

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you will be the prey or the
predator, or you can say the victim

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or the victimizing guaranteed, guaranteed,
you create the musters in your life.

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I've said it many, many,
many, many times. You create the

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musters in your life. What you
teach people that is exactly, without a

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doubt, the way they will respond, how you show them they can treat

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you. That's what they're gonna do. When you turn around and say why

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am I not good enough? You're
making them think they're all of that and

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some but you're nothing. Don't feel
like that about yourself. I don't care

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what you've gone through. No man
or woman is worth it. So you

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have to look at yourself and figure
out what's going on, what you have

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not dealt with that has you in
the mindset that you're in to think that

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well about yourself to have to ask
your significant other why you're not good enough?

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It's not you, it's them.
They're still doing things that they want

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to do. Because a lot of
people are in relationships supposedly committed, but

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they're still doing whatever they want to
do. That's not being committed to me.

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It makes no sense. You're committed
to the relationship but not to the

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individual, makes no sense. The
reason I said that is because a lot

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of people they don't want to leave
the relationship because they're comfortable, familiar,

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They like what they're getting. Even
though some of them are being treated like

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dogs and treating people like dogs,
they're still getting something out of it.

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Whatever you open to yourself up to, that's exactly what you're going to get.

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So if you go around with no
self esteem because you're giving power to

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people who have hurt you in your
past, you're still holding all of that

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in because of your memories of it. You are giving your power away.

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And a lot of people are giving
their power away to people that sometimes they're

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dead and gone, dead and gone, or sometimes they don't even know,

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have no clue. You're living your
life in misery, giving your power away,

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living your life in misery and pain
over something that's over. You're just

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retaining it in your memories. That's
formulating into thoughts. Never ever make anyone

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feel that they have that type of
power over you that they can treat you

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any kind of way they want to
treat you because they know you're gonna take

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it to the point that you have
to ask them why you're not good enough.

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If he's out there cheating or she's
out there cheating, that's not you,

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that's them. What's going on inside
of them. They are cheats.

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They have their own issues, their
own insecurities. Sometimes people they need to

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be pumped up by other people.
They want their egos stroked by other people,

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even though you may be doing it
at home. They need more and

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more and more. Some people it's
just all about sex. They're in a

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relationship, but they still want more
and more and more. That's about what's

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inside of them. They're insecurities,
all the things, and side to have

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them in that mindset that they're in. Don't take that on as your problem,

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because obviously you have your own If
you have to ask him or hurt,

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why are you not good enough?
Because you are good enough? And

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if you pose that question to your
significant other, you may not like the

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answer they give you. Because when
you give people power over you like that,

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they'll talk down to you. Because
they know you already feel self conscious,

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they know you feel insecure, so
if you pose that question, they

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may lash out at you, blame
you, talk down to you, and

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everything to make you feel even worse
about yourself. So I don't care what

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you've gone through in life. You
are worthy. You deserve to be the

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best you can be. Going through
life holding in all of that negativity,

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it benefits you none at all,
and all it does is keep you in

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the same state of mind your end, asking why you're not good enough?

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No, they're not good enough for
you. That's why it's so important to

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love yourself. When you love yourself, you would never put yourself in a

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situation for any man or any woman
to mistoot you in any way. You

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will not give them the chance to
do so. You would not. But

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so many people go through life chasing
seeking that love, allowing and accepting all

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types of foolishness, doing things they
don't want to do, things they would

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have never done because they want that
individual who's bringing nothing but drama into their

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lives. You have to look at
yourself, why are you doing this to

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yourself? You have to deal with
your unresolved issues so you can heal from

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them and get to a place of
self love, because when you do,

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you're not taking that from anyone.
You're not taking and you definitely will not

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be asking anyone why you're not good
enough, because you are. No,

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you are good enough. You're so
good that you won't put up with that

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crap. You're good enough. You
have to believe you're good enough. And

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guess what. Most times when you
gain confidence, oh, they really try

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to put you down. Then they
really try to put you down. No

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one will want you. You're ugly, you're fat, you don't have anything.

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Oh, they'll say all types of
things to try to put you back

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in that negative state of mind.
Don't allow anyone that power over you.

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I don't care what people say.
Let them talk. You don't have to

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believe anything they say. It only
affects you if you believe it. If

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you're with a significant other and they're
talking down to you, belittleing you,

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you're with the wrong person. No
one should allow that from someone who's supposed

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to love them. No one.
You should not allow any form of aviewth

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any form two. Many people are
settling for it. They're settling for individuals

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who are treating them like crap.
Then on top of it, you're asking

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questions such as, why am I
not good enough? I do everything for

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you, I cook for you,
I've had your children, I do this,

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I do that, males and females, but it's just not good enough?

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Why am I not good enough?
Everyone else seems to be good enough?

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No, no, don't put yourself
in that situation. You deserve better,

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You are worthy, you are good
enough, but you have to believe

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it. I don't care what your
mother said, your father, anyone,

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It don't matter. You have to
believe you're good enough, and you are.

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When you give away your power,
people will take your power. Simple

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as that. When you show people
how they can teach you, treat you.

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I'm sorry, treat you. That's
exactly what they could do. If

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you show them how they can treat
you, that means you let them get

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away with whatever. Whenever they will
do it. They'll do it. When

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people mistreat you in any way,
that's telling you what they think of you.

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If you let someone constantly cheat on
you, what you think about yourself,

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They already know. That's why they
keep doing it, because you don't

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have no consequences for what they're doing, so they already know what you think

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of yourself. When you let them
abuse you in any way, when you

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let them disrespect you, they already
know what you think of yourself because you're

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showing them by accepting their behavior.
I really wanted to share this with you

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because so many people in this world
are in very, very unhappy relationships.

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Because people go into relationships with blinders
on and looking at what they want,

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what they desire, how they feel. They get so engulfed in their significant

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others that they forget about self because
they're worried about how can I make him

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or her lovely? What can I
do to make them want to say?

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No? No, If you can't
see what's happening, Oh my goodness,

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you're gonna go through pure hell for
real, because people gonna do it to

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you what you open yourself up too. If you let them treat you any

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kind of way, expect it,
because they're gonna do it, and I

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mean some of them will get comfortable
with it, very comfortable. You always

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create the monsters in your life.
When I say that, I really mean

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it. It does not matter what
the situation is. You create them monsters

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in your life. Yes, there
are some people out there, who are

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terrible and do horrific things. You
don't even know them. They come into

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your life, we can have it. You don't know them, but remember,

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whatever you allow someone to do to
you, whether you know them or

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not, they'll do it. On
this episode, I'm speaking strictly about relationships

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with significant others. They know exactly
what they can get away with with you.

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They know exactly because you've shown them
over and over again. Now you're

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asking a question while you're not good
enough, are you kidding me? They'll

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give you some answers too. Up. You may not like them, but

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they will oblige you with some answers. So don't do that to yourself.

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Don't put yourself in that situation.
Get yourself together, deal with what have

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you in the mindset you're in,
so you can heal from that and grove

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and mature. Love yourself. That
way, you won't go through life letting

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people treat you any kind of way, significant other or otherwise. That's all

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I'm gonna say on this. I
hope I said enough for you to get

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it. Thank you so much for
listening. Please please share this episode.

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We all know people who need to
hear, so please share this episode.

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Also, don't forget about my other
podcasts, which is relatable life chronicles.

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Please listen to those episodes. Got
a little bit of everything on there,

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and please share. Thank you again, much love to each and every one

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of you. Please reach out to
me at any time. Go to my

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podcast page and have my email there. Please drop me an email. I

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will always respond. If you just
need to talk, please reach out to

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me. I will respond. Thank
you again. Share. I end every

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episode the same and I hope you
do it. I hope you do it

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after every episode, thank on it