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Yesterday on the Minnesota Goodbye by the
way, welcome, thanks for being here.

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Somebody wrote in about graduation gifts and
they said, well, what do

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you spend? What do you get? Do you spend more when it's your

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kids graduation year? Also on his
friends and we kind of said, hey,

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you know, I think getting anything
is fair. Nobody is ever that.

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I remember when Carson graduated five years
ago. We never said, oh

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my god, the Thompson's only sent
like a ten dollars Chipotle. We never

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did. It was like he was
happy to get get anything. But I

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would say twenty five dollars gift card
is good. Here is a listener,

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big supporter of the show, but
seldom writes in. Her name is Patty.

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Patty says, I want to comment
about graduation gifts. I'm very involved

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with the youth at our church,
so I get invited to a lot of

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grad parties or get announcements from kids
who used to go to my Sunday school

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class. For graduates who are not
family or children of close friends, I

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write a check in the amount of
the graduation year. For example, this

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year it'll be twenty twenty four.
I got the idea from other people who

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also do this. It's a fun
way to acknowledge the graduate without breaking the

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bank. For my nieces and nephews, I usually send fifty bucks. I

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like that because twenty twenty four is
a good amount and it's cash. For

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the record, I always get a
nice thank you note from each kid,

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Yes, a handwritten one in the
mail. Thank you, Patty. I

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like that a lot. Stephanie writes
in because somebody was talking about I'm a

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stay at home mom and what do
I do any tips for now being the

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CEO of my house, She says
to the new stay at home mom,

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look up your local ECFC. That's
early Childhood and Family education classes in your

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area. These classes allow not only
time out of the house with your kid,

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but structure and socializing to your life. Also, swimming lessons are great

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too. I think that's so important. Of a friend of mine when I

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grew up, Monty lived down the
lane from me in Black Forest, and

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he died because he never learned to
swim. He was probably eighteen or nineteen,

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maybe twenty, never learned to swim. He was dicking around one day

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on a pond with like a homemade
raft. So they like, you know,

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tied a bunch of logs together and
my friend Monty fell off the raft

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and drowned. Had he learned to
swim, he could have swimmed the ten

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feet to the shore, but he
died. And it's so sad because we

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would be the same age now and
he never got to get married, have

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kids, get a career, finish
college, you know, go on.

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He never got to do all that
stuff had he learned to swim. And

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you never know, you never know
when your kid might need to learn to

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swim. Yeah, you know,
he could be on a canoe on Lake

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Minnetaka and get capsized and you know, wear a life jacket. But learned

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to swim. How to swim,
of course I do. But we grew

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up with a pool, so it
was like a necessity that we knew how

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to swim. And my sister and
I were a little fit. Me and

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my sisters were all little fishes growing
up. We love swimming. We had

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a pool in our backyard when I
was a kid, and Monty did come

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there a couple of times, but
it was it was only four feet so

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you could kind of wait in it. But our pool was disgusting. My

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dad bought us a pool twenty four
feet across, four feet deep, a

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big round pool. But he would
not get a heater for it, and

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he would not get a filter for
it. Oh, and it was disgusting,

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slimy. We'd have to scrape all
the pine needles off before we got

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in. One time there was a
dead squirrel floating in the pool. I'm

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astay when you didn't put any chemicals
in it either, and we did put

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at least, But my dad grew
up in the middle of nowhere, Montana,

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where they had a reservoir, and
he's like, our reservoir didn't have

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a heater. Our reservoir didn't have
a filter, And I'm like, yeah,

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but there's a difference between a reservoir
that's like an outdoor body of water

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and a stagnant pool. So we
had a pool. We used it,

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but not as much as Dad wanted
us to. So he finally sold it.

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And I think it kind of broke
his heart that he did something really

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nice for us kids and we didn't
seem to appreciate it. So we as

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all the time. We did not
have a heater either, but we did

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have a filter, and I mean
it was our job to clean it out

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a lot and like you'd vacuum the
lining and stuff every so, yeah,

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we took good care of ours.
We would walk along the bottom of the

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pool and slip because of the slime. All I know what you mean,

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because when it got too dirty,
that's how it is. It was gross.

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So yeah, great memory though other
options Let's see, oh it says

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these classes saved me when I was
in the younger stages being a stay at

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home mom. If you don't have
structured activities to do with your kids,

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the days can become long and draining. Other things, libraries they have awesome

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kids sections, reading times meant for
kids of all ages, free books,

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movies, etc. You can borrow
The Children's Museum great for kids aged six

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months to five. Minnesota or Como
Zoo Mall of America every Tuesday is Toddler

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Tuesday with a free show, giveaways, and kids eat free or discounted at

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many restaurants in the mall. Toddler
Tuesday. America also has Sea Life,

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Lego Land, Creola Experience, and
so much more even just walking around.

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No one is at the mall during
the week in the morning, so crowds

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are never a problem. Stephanie,
sincerely, thank you for that. That

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was a really big help in things
that I wouldn't even thought of. Next

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one, Hello, best ease.
My daughter Lexi and I send each other

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videos of our houses when they get
to looking like a tornado went through the

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house, or that we've been robbed. How does this happen, Lexi asks?

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Lexi asked me, Well, Dave
says, it starts with not putting

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something away. So whatever it is, put it away. I learned a

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phrase a year ago, don't put
it down, put it away. Dave,

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You're literally a genius. That's not
my phrase, but I'll take credit

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for it. I also opened bananas
from the bottom now, so thank you

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for that as well. Wait is
that a thing? It wasn't my idea,

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but I passed it along here on
the show. And I've had bananas

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all my life and I've always gotten
the stem and you pull and it never

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comes off cleanly. But if you
go to the bottom, the knobby thing

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on the other end, you pull
that off, Son of a bitch,

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It's a miracle. Jenny, God
yous just saw that one. I wasn't

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here because I would remember that.
I you bananas all the time. I

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have never done it that way,
next time you have a banana, do

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not grab the stem end, especially
on a soft one, because when you

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do it with the soft one,
it kind of scrunches and breaks, and

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now you get a mess. Yeah, do the nobby end, peel that

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little button off and then it'll open
up just fine, and it's way better.

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So she heard that, she says, thanks for that as well.

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Here's a little screenshot of our conversation
that you are in hope you have a

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fabulous day right from Dana. So
here's a screenshot. It says, I

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cleaned the whole upstairs and did almost
all the laundry yesterday, So it just

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starts with things not getting put away. Dave is right, She says.

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Dave is always right, and she
responds, he is Wow. I can't

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tell you how flattered I am that
I can came up in a private,

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personal conversation outside of the morning show. Yeah, that is wow. That

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is life has been worth living,
Jenny, Yeah, your life has been

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worth living that. Katie writes in
She's from Chicago. Loved listening to you

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all. Thanks for continually keeping my
company while I cleaned the house, exercise,

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and of course drive on yesterday's show, you played a clip about a

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pilot who came home from a trip
with a new puppy. You discussed how

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this was not something people do,
or at least should do, without consulting

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their partner first. The exact situation
happened in my home when I was in

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fifth grade. My dad, who
was also a pilot, and my mom

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agreed to take a puppy off her
sister's hands. She got two it once

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and they didn't get along, and
she surprised us with the puppy, and

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when my dad got home from his
trip, we all got to surprise him.

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He liked the pilot and the clip
was not thrilled in the least thought

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when he was home that the bulk
of the responsibility would fall on him,

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which he refused. It didn't help
that our dog was a sheetsu also,

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since he was gone multiple days a
week, we fell into a routine and

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all pitched into help. My dad, of course, ended up loving our

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pup as well, so much that
he would put a little water in with

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her food and microwave it when she
was older and lost her teeth. Oh

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however, my dad always cautions any
parents who are thinking about getting a dog

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to not get one past the younger
child being in kindergarten, as our pup

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lived for another fifteen years and the
kids had long been out of the house

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by that time. I hope you
have a great rest of the week.

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Thanks for reading my story. Katie
in Chicago. We got, you know,

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Josie when Carson was about eight and
Alison would have been about seventeen,

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and they loved having a dog.
Yeah, so it's it is weird.

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It was. I read something that
was very touching the other day. It

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was like, how your dogs,
even when your kids row up and move

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away from home, your dog still
faithfully stays there and loves you and wants

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your attention. And my kids are
grown and gone, but Josie is still

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there for you know how much longer. We don't know. She's fifteen.

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But it is kind of touching and
maybe gets just little emotional to think the

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kids are grown and gone, but
Josie is still there. I can't wait

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till I get a dog that's actually
my dog. Currently, we just we

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watch dogs and that works really well
with us right now because we're not ready

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for the responsibility of like another dog. But I will say, like my

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parents robbed my sisters, and I
of that childhood memory of having a dog.

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We want a dog so badly,
and my mom just wasn't a dog

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person really, and so we had
one. And then when I was three,

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my like she was old and so
they put her down. So up

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until I was three, yes I
had a dog, but not really.

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I was a don't remember. Yeah, yeah, so we always begged for

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dogs, and my parents ever would
do it because my mom said no.

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And then my dad eventually got one. But then, of course I was

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in college when he got a dog. So yeah, I was sad not

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having one growing up because I love
him so much. I know you love

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dogs. Alison wanted a hamster or
a Gerbil or something when she was a

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little girl, and I said no, I said, you won't take care

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of it. And I look back
at that and I go, God,

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I should have let her had a
freaking hamster or a Gerbil. It would

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have been an experience, and of
course she would have taken care of it

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and carried it around for a week, and then she would have never cleaned

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the cage. The same thing that
happened with Carson's turtle. So when Carson

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asked for a turtle, when he
was about seven or eight or nine,

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I said, yeah, we'll get
you a turtle. We went over across

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the street to pet Smart. We
got him red footed tortoise that was the

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size of an apple when we got
him, and grew to the size of

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larger than a football. But I
don't regret it for a minute. We

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love that turtle. He was a
very sweet little creature that would crane his

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head around when we came in the
room and look around, and he ate

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like a pig. And I used
to joke to Carson, are you sure

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it's not a because he eats like
a pig. But I don't regret it.

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But I will say, I wonder
if Cindy regrets not getting you a

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puppy or a dog when you were
a little girl. She loves dogs now

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because she has a landscaping company where
she watches all of our clients dogs,

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or she used to. She doesn't
do it as much, but now my

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younger sister lives at home with her
dog, and my mom loves Clay like

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he is just like the prize possession, grand puppy, whatever you want to

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puppy, and she loves him so
much. So I think like her mind

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changed once she started watching dogs and
having them around. But like, yeah,

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growing up, she just said no, no dogs. My dad was

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kind of the same way. He
never wanted a dog. And then my

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sister moved to Germany with her husband. They didn't want to take the dog

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to Germany. So we got a
little toy poodle and my dog. My

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dad loved the dog, loved the
dog. We didn't treat it like a

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poodle. We didn't get the fancy
haircut. It looked like a mutt and

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it was a kind of an outdoor
indoor kind of a dog followed my dad

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around the property, slept on my
dad's lap, and so he loved the

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dog. Sydney writes in Dave and
Jenny, please let the mom who wrote

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in about money for grad parties know
that y'all are way too generous. Jenny

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says, thirty to seventy five dollars. Do you want to come to my

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grad party that I had fifteen years
ago? Jenny, Dave said, that's

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generous. I think twenty five bucks. Meanwhile, I'm sitting here thinking ten

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to twenty dollars if you go,
but your kid can go, and then

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you don't have to send any money. Maybe I'm cheap or clearly in a

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different tax bracket than the famous KDWB
DJ's. I think you can give close

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friends ten to twenty bucks. Family
consider giving more than twenty if you like

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them. But at Chris, twenty
at any age is a good amount.

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Have fun at grad parties. Interested
to hear what meals kids are doing these

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days. I had giant five foot
pizzas made for mine. That's cool where

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you rent a pizza oven and they
come out, Yeah, that is cool,

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that is cool. Carson had catered
Chipotland Potley. You were there,

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I was there. Here was a
funny story that I've told before about Carson's

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grad party. Jenny came, it
did. Jenny and the twins came.

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And when I say twins, I
mean the ones that she wears on her

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chest every day. Yeahs. And
so we had a trampoline in the backyard,

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and if I remember right, Carson
and all his buddies were watching Jenny

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jump on the trampoline and Chase that's
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Chase was Did he point out the
boys watching? No, he pointed

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out you jumping. I don't think
Carson. Maybe I missed that part of

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the story, but it was Chase
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window from above because I was down
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like Maxi dress, so things were
just bouncing a little bit more than they

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probably would have been other clothing.
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come on and jump with me,
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just my lonesome jumping on my own. I remember that that that was That

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was a fun grad party. We
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beautiful day and met Chase enjoyed it. Dave Jenny Vaant from Oh they Don't

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Say They said, Don't say my
name, wondering if there are still occasions

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you get nerves to speak, either
on radio or a public event. I

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get in my head so bad about
speaking in public and sometimes go into a

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panic attack mode. Once I break
the ice, I'm okay, but it

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can be debilitating. At work.
I have a high visibility leadership role and

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I need to get it under control
so I can elevate my role and speak

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at larger functions. So many bigger
things to worry about in this world wondering

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if you have a special routine,
phrase or thing you do before something you're

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nervous for any tips. We coincidentally
talked about this on the radio show this

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morning, and that was Toastmasters.
Because Toastmasters is a dumb name. It's

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been around for one hundred years.
Where you learn to speak, do public

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speaking, and there's a program and
it's like taking a college course. And

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when I joined Toastmasters, I did
it because I would go to high school

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career day and get nervous and get
flustered in front of a bunch of kids

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that I knew my stuff, I
knew my topic, and they were very

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attentive, but I would get nervous
and it was It pissed me off because

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some people can get up and speak
so wonderfully and I could not. So

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I went to toast Masters and I
still get nervous, but it definitely helped

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me. They say you still get
butterflies, but now they fly in formation,

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and I really like that because when
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it'd be a bunch of very glib, wonderful chatty people. No, they're

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regular people who also get nervous.
And you do the first speech you do

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is an icebreaker speech about yourself for
three to five minutes. What topic do

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we know better than anything? Ourselves? So you learn to speak, you

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learn to use body language gestures,
you know how to make your speech more

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interesting, and it is very non
judgmental. So check out toastmasters dot org.

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It's a dumb name, but it
could really help you any tips on

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speaking Jenny, Yes, before I
helped guest hosts at my first tim role

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game, I was very anxious and
nervous myself, and so I practiced my

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script over and over. But then
after that I sat down because I was

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still feeling like the physical anxiety inside
of me, and I just wrote down

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like all of the good things that
I could think of that could come from

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doing well, and I didn't focus
on like the negative stuff. So I

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just kind of focused on that,
and then I also wrote down like what

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I could look forward to after it
was done. So it's like I just

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had kind of a plan in place
of if you get like, you get

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through this, and then afterwards you
get to do this tomorrow, you get

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to go to brunch with Andrew,
you get to do whatever. So I

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kind of just looked ahead Okay,
So looking past it was like a reward

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kind of a thing. Yeah,
kind of, because Andreid I had brunch

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plans the next day, and so
I just was like, Okay, you

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just get through this and it'll be
fine, And like, I don't know,

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I really focused on what's the worst
thing that could happen. Maybe you

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fumble over a couple words and then
cool. Barely anyone will, even in

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an arena of people at the Timberwolves
game. I wasn't that concerned because everyone's

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in their own world. Yeah,
and they're not going to notice you fumbling

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over a couple words. True.
You know, it's funny. I never

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get nervous on the radio unless we're
doing something that is so out of the

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ordinary that it makes me nervous whether
it's going to go well. But that's

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nervous whether it's going to go well. But talking on the radio never.

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I just don't speaking in front of
a big crowd on a stage, no,

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But in front of a crowd of
like twenty people, if they said,

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hey, Dave, get up and
do a presentation here at work,

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I would be nervous. But this
is because we had to do something a

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few weeks ago for clients. Remember, they all came in and they were

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all doing like an online client kind
of thing, and I was nervous.

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But here's a big tip. In
every crowd, there will be people who

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look at you and nod and smile. I say every crowd, nearly every

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crowd. There will be people who
look at you while you're speaking, and

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they nod and they smile and they're
being supportive. Find those people and look

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at them. Don't look at the
people who aren't looking. Don't look at

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the people who look uncomfortable. Don't
look at the people who look disinterested or

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bored. Find the people who are
being supportive and are smiling. So if

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you're like, yeah, I want
to tell you about my great trip to

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Tahiti, there will be me nodding
and smiling. So look at me,

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all right, David Jenny, I'm
writing in about the strange injury email you

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guys got a couple of days ago. Well, where should I start?

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I got your typical concussion at age
two, twelve and eighteen. Wow.

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When I was eighteen, I was
in a car accident, hit a tree

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head on. I bit through my
lower lip and knocked out five teeth in

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the same accident. I also got
my jaw broken. I also had my

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small intestines come out of my belly
button after just one couch. Now I

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pre read this a couple of times. It literally does say after just one

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couch. It must be a type
of okay, yeah, I don't really

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understand what that means. At the
Rise and the probably the craziest thing.

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I was working at Costco got ran
over by an suv. I broke seven

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bones in my foot. I have
others, but that's probably the craziest thing

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that has happened to me. Thanks
for everything you guys do on and off

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the air. Nicole. Let me
know your intestines came out of your belly

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button after one couch. What are
you trying to say? You think I

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meant punch after one punch or touch
or crunch? Yeah, or I don't

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know pre read Nicole. No,
I'm kidding. You do whatever you want.

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Thank you. That's really interesting and
that is it. That's going to

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do it for the Minnesota Goodbye.
Still some ones we haven't gotten to,

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so we'll try to get to those
a little bit later tomorrow on the Minnesota

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Goodbye Ryan's show at KDWB dot com. And thanks for sending your emails in