The other day on the podcast, I said, let's talk about love for
a minute, because I woke up in the middle of the night going why
do we as humans need love? And why do we crave love? And
I thought we'd get a better response. We really didn't get really anything,
but we finally got something regarding love, and Kaylee writes in to kind of
answer, and I'm not gonna spend a lot of time because I don't think
people care that much. And if you want, you can fast forward through
this part of the podcast. But I was just curious, did we evolve
to need love? Because if we don't have love, we don't need each
other. We won't work together and take care of each other. Like if
I love my partner, I will make sure that I take care of them
and help provide for them and protect them from you know, will the beasts
and dragons and things like that. Yeah, Or is love something that our
creator, if you believe in a creator, gave us because it's so pleasurable,
but then heartbreak hurts so bad, So why are you gonna big at
smile? And because you saying will the beasts and dragons is what you need
to protect your partner from? Ever know. You never know, so they
say, regarding why humans seek love, it is part of mass Love's hierarchy
of needs. It is something mass Low's Okay, mass Low's hierarchy of needs.
It is something you're typically taught in psych one oh one and also to
teachers. If a student doesn't have their basic needs met the base layer of
the pyramid, then kids typically don't have the resources to move up the diagram.
So let's start at the bottom of the pyramid. Breathing, food,
water, shelter, clothing, and sleep. That's physiological needs. Next,
safety and security, health, employment, property, family and social ability.
Next, love and belonging, friendship, family intimacy, sense of connection.
Next self esteem, or towards the top of the pyramid, confidence, achievement,
respect of others, the need to be a unique individual. Final step
of the pyramid self actualization, morality, creativity, spontaneity, acceptance, experience,
purpose, meaning, and inner potential. So it is halfway up the
food pyramid of things that we need. She goes on to say, there
was also a study conducted in nineteen forty four where forty babies were examined twenty
in a room with no physical touch hugging, talking, soothing, but only
physiological needs like breathing, food, water, shelter, or clothing, and
sleep. And another twenty where all of their needs were met. The twenty
with no human touch or love died. Okay, Now I find that interesting
that they would. I doubt the validity of that theory because nobody would sit
there and go, Okay, let's let these babies die just for this experiment.
So I'm sure this has been a rumor that's been going around for a
long time, but I'd like to know nobody is going to say, hey,
volunteer your baby, or let's take these orphan babies and put them in
a room and experiment and see whether they die. Yeah. So, while
it sounds valid, I'm such a skeptic about things like that. But Kaylee,
I think your point is valid that we do need this, we need
love, we need to feel loved. But why why is that important?
I'm not sure. Yeah, I don't know either. I remember learning about
that in my AP site class, the hierarchy of needs and thinking like,
I'll never reach self actualization. That's like point. I'm just kidding. No,
I can't, I can't. It just it's it's a lot to get
to that point to just like become the most you can be. There's so
many other needs, and I think a lot of that stems from a lack
of financial security growing up. So I think that that is really like skewed
into my life as an adult. Tell me more about that. What do
you mean? So I think that I have a constant fear of not having
enough money to survive because I grew up in a very low income household.
Okay, and so I base a lot of what I do off of like
making sure I have enough money. And I'm I mean, you and me
talk about it all the time. You're probably annoyed with it by now.
I'm so frugal because I just want to always be saving as much money as
I can, and so I feel like this fear I have to get over,
this fear of not having money to ever reach the next levels in this
hierarchy. Okay, I kind of understand that. That's really interesting to me
because I didn't grow up without a lot without a lot of money either,
and I'm just naturally frugal, but probably not like you. What if you
all of a sudden made a lot of let's say, if all of a
sudden, you were making like four hundred thousand dollars a year, Yeah,
that'd be great. Would you be just as frugal? You'd spend a little
more money on maybe a nicer house or a nicer car or whatever. But
would you still be spending well below your means? Because I know people,
and I could name some that you and I both know they started making a
lot of money and all of a sudden, they're blowing their money up and
showing off everything. Yeah, so what do you what do you think would
you would you be frugal? I would treat myself to a certain like certain
things a little bit more often. Like I don't really let myself go out
to eat very often because I think it's a waste of money to me.
But I think that, but I do enjoy doing it when I do it,
So I think I would probably enjoy little things like that more often.
But I probably would still stay frugal in most ways. And I would use
that money more towards investments and hopefully compounding that money for the future, Like
I would be very smart with the money. I would put it into real
estate or you know your Here's my question, and this is a good topic.
I get it. You want to invest in real estate. Why if
you don't want to spend your money on anything except investments, then why do
you want any money? Because that will provide financial security in the future because
real estate appreciates. So I do trust that real estate is a good investment
for the most part. I mean, every once in a while something might
go wrong, obviously, but I would definitely put it into something I wouldn't
be. I don't know. I don't have a financial advice and I know
at this point in my life I probably should and so I don't have a
lot of money in stocks or whatever else. So maybe I would look into
other things too, But I think it's just the matter of knowing I have
some safety in the future of money that like will appreciate and will do well,
and I won't be touching that, and so I will so even if
I lost my job the next day. I get you. It's like,
well, I have this investment, right, Yeah. I know somebody who
is very wealthy and they've invested, invested, invested, and they don't spend
anything. They have a shitty old car, they got a regular house they've
lived in for fifty years, and they they are multi multi, multi millionaires,
but they're not interested in spending money. And my thing is like,
why do you want money? Yeah? Why do you want so much money
but you don't want to spend it. We got to move on because we
had a lot of emails to get to and I are going to get on
this. We're going to get a rut here. Okay, use my first
name only, missus Robert. They live in Louis. My son has worked
in a movie theater for many years. Told me a lot of horror stories.
There are the usual stories of clogged toilets, poop flung around the bathroom.
One time a kid took a fire extinguisher sprayed around the auditorium. Older
folks complained because ticket sales are not handled the same as they were twenty or
more years ago, and just being cranky old curmudgeons. People smoking during the
movies is common. Like other theater change chains, my son's offers a membership
club where you can pay a monthly fee and see however many movies you want
all month. It was such a good deal that a patron joined the club
and would bring hookers to the theater because it was cheaper than getting a room
at the local hotel. Oh my gosh. He also relates stories from the
release of Fifty Shades of Gray about women warning ushers they would need extra paper
towels to clean up puddles in the seats. Ah, that's wow, that's
crazy. Now it's confession time. When Fifty Shades of Gray came out,
I was dating a woman who loved these books. So for Valentine, I
took her out to eat, followed by a night of the movies, thankfully
not my son's theater. Because it was opening weekend. The theater was packed,
so she brought a coat because it was cold outside, and we sat
on our seats and she laid it on her lap. The movie was boring.
I needed something to do, so to occupy myself, I made sure
it was a night when I made sure it was a night she would never
forget. She always said my hands were magical, and nobody ever knew what
went on under her coat or later in the car as I drove the car
home and I drove her wild in the passenger seat. Good God, Robert
Jaye Horn Dog, I would love a staff writer. Sticker love you,
Jenny Bailey and Vaunt I'm going to take a picture of your address and send
some of those out later. Okay, you know what, that would have
been great for Naughty Tuesday, and thank you, Robert. Next one,
Oh holy shit, Dave and Jenny, you read my email. It was
the title of the episode on April first. I now have two Dave,
Ryan and claims to fame. I first was doing the eat donuts. Listened
to the show for five hundred dollars four years ago. Got to remember that
one? Do you remember that? What is that one? I think you
paid someone to give us a full report and listen to the show every day,
and then we made sure that they had donuts every day too. I
remember that, and they give us a report of the show. I'm still
catching up of the podcast. And you're talking about wedding guests. Well,
here's one. Back when I was newly dating my boyfriend now husband, one
of his uncles got engaged and asked me to ask him to be a groomsman.
My husband said yes, and wedding planning was underway. Skip ahead.
Three months before the wedding, the bride, who I was not friends with
and barely knew, reached out to me and said, can you be a
bridesmaid. I was young and flattered, so I said yes. I found
out a week later she had kicked her brother's wife out of the wedding because
they were getting divorced, and I, someone she didn't know, was the
next option. That should have been a clue this wedding was going to be
a shit show. Another bridesmaid was kicked dowt to replace with somebody else.
There were fights between two bridesmaids over who was going to be the maid of
honor, and one of these bridesmaids also had multiple meltdowns because it wasn't her
wedding. She was dating the twin brother of the groom. I got more
stories, but this email is too long. So in with this marriage didn't
last for more than a couple of years. Question for you, guys and
other staff writers, what are some of the shit show experiences you've had at
weddings, either your own or someone else's. Did these marriages last? Love
you, guys, hope to have you have a fun dart licking weekend if
that's what you're into. Amber, I don't have a wedding shit show story
at all, none at all, Jenny, I do so one of our
old co workers at Bubba Gumps. We went to her wedding a couple of
years ago, and so a lot of people from Bubba Gumps were there,
including our old general manager, and he was going through some unfortunate things in
his personal life at the time, and he got so intoxic. Hid no,
he was falling all over the place. He grabbed Andrew, my boyfriend,
and kissed him on the lips at one point, just like having these
wild like he's just all over the place. Then Andrew went to go find
him in the bathroom because some people were saying he was super drunk, and
he went to grab him and he fell and he smacked his head on like
the concrete floor. Oh no, and he's like a he's like a six
foot four kind of bigger dude. So there was no holding him up.
Andrew and someone else were trying to help him, and so they got him
into a cab back to his hotel down the street because it was over in
still water. And then we found out also he fell going up the stairs
to the lobby of the hotel and then he just had this big goose egg
on his forehead and it was like a pretty big mess. So and it
was really hard for us to see because it was almost like a lot of
us were young. We were in our twenties and he was, you know,
like our dad's age, okay, and he was a really good person
and the really great general manager, and so to see him like that,
it made us really sad because we were just like man and he's still good
at what he does for a job. He just was going through some shit,
and yeah, it was a mess. That's too bad when you see
somebody who is normally just regularly like normal, wonderful and they're sloppy, sloppy,
drunk. Yeah, that is kind of sad. We're We've got a
bunch more emails, and I promised to get through this one, but I
want to throw in a little footnote. I accidentally deleted a bunch of emails
the other day. So if you sent one in within the last week and
we haven't read it, send it again, because it's very possible that I
deleted it. There are some that we don't read. I'll be honest with
you. We don't read every email that we get because some are like you
know, a little bit confusing or a little bit long or something. We
talked about a lot. But if you sent one in we didn't read it,
then you send again. So let's do this one. I think it's
really interesting. It's from I'm gonna leave your name out here. We go.
I think of you as friends and value your opinion. My niece is
getting married in July. The wedding at a YMCA camp in California. The
accommodations are two cabins. Each sleeps eight to eighteen people, with twin beds
and storage cabinets for each person. The bride and groom will make cabin assignments
once everybody are SVPs, and the cost is three point thirty per person for
two nights, including food. When I got this, I thought, there's
no fucking way I'm sleeping, shitting, showering with people I don't know.
My husband and I decided to stay off site, but we brought this up
to his brother and they said, no, you have to stay there.
It'll be fun. We felt guilty and so we gave in. I'm sorry,
I think it's super weird to stay with people I don't know, but
I seem to be the only one who thinks this way. Now. I
looked at the picture they attached it looks like a summer camp cabin. That's
what I'm picked. Sure, a bunch of bucks on this, but it's
nicer. It's not rustic. It's nicer rustic. I've got a very good
digestin system that I'm going to poop several times a day. I don't want
people around showering. What ifeople's snore? Fart? Am I just a bougie
snob that has to have her own space and can't share. The family is
wealthy and proper, and I was very surprised they decided to go this way.
In fact, when I was joking with my brother and sister in law
about pouring POOPERI in the welcome gift bags, they were insulted. They said,
this is a classy wedding with the bride wearing a gown and the groom
in tucks. Why would you suggest that. I'm curious to see what other
people think. Maybe I'm a spoiled brat. No you're not. I think
that, But go ahead and do it. It's for a couple of nights.
Yeah, it ain't gonna kill you. Go ahead and do it.
Yeah, I'd say do it, but I am on your side of like
that. Is not my cup of tea. I did like a group stay
about a year and a half ago that Andrew was in charge of, and
the sleeping arrangements were not to my liking. And honestly, that trip was
not super fun for me because I felt uncomfortable. I don't blame you.
I think that sleeping arrangements can definitely make up. I mean, when we
go too Chases this weekend, we're staying at a hotel because we don't want
to bother Chase, and he said, stay with my in laws, and
we said, we don't want to bother them either, all right, continuing
with the emails, and I just got to find my spot here in the
email chain one second, and here we go. I'm at the gym,
and I've noticed three different moms in their thirties and forties who have long hair
and a bun or ponytail with the bottom of their back of their head below
the ponytail shaved or buzz So you picture, oh okay, and pull the
ponytail to the crown of your head, and then you shave from that crown
down to the shoulder area. Is this a new trend? I'm tempted now
because I'm a mom with long hair and it's a pain in the butt to
manage. But I can't shift to the bob or pixie cut. I'm not
cool enough to rock that look. Just curious, Jenny, you know more
about it than I do. Yeah, Unfortunately, I don't know about mom
trends though, so I'm not sure. I feel like that's more of a
gym trend than maybe necessarily a mom trend. Okay, but it does save
you a lot of time when you take off that amount of hair, if
you have a lot of hair, Okay. Is that why older women cut
their hair really short, like because they're just tired of taking care of it.
I think that's one of the main reasons. It also just gets damaged
at some point where it's like you might as well cut it short because it's
not growing very well naturally anymore. Okay, because I've noticed that older women
usually cut their hair to a more practical length. Susan says, my wife
is still down to her shoulders or so. But my friend, I have
another friend who is like about my age, and she's got it very short,
and she's like, I'm just done with messing with it. I'm like,
okay. Next one from Sydney, a regular staff writer. We are
referring to the email yesterday about the co worker who walks by and says,
can I have a drink of that? Can I have a bite of that?
Yeah? She says Dave and Jenny, I'm baffled by the coworker who
consistently asked to try food or drink at the office. I could maybe understand
once if you had some unique foot or drink. People never heard of it
every time. Absolutely not. Ps. I've been curious to know what texts
look like on your end. Can you paint a picture for us? I
can't imagine you have a studio cell phone you're looking at it's on a computer
screen. Do all text come in on the same window or do you get
windows popping up like the old MSN messenger. I'm very curious. Please share
and paint the picture. Jenny, go ahead and try to paint the picture.
You're a visual person, yeah. I mean basically, if you looked
at like a word document and you had a list of information listed on it,
that's exactly what it is. It's broken up by lines so we can
see which text it goes with which phone number, and your phone number does
come attached to it, so just so you know, we do see your
phone number, which is why sometimes we call people out of nowhere based off
of a text message. But it's all on one basically document that comes in
within the time that the text comes in, so it can refresh. And
no, it's not just a bunch of windows popping up that would be really
hard for us to navigate through. No, it's it's pretty easy. And
it's like Jenny said, it's like a bunch of paragraphs in a word document
and we can click on reply, block or file, So if we want
to put it in a file so we remember them all later, or if
we want to block somebody and we've had we've blocked a few people. It's
like some people just are rude, so we block them and then reply.
We reply. We try to reply to as many as we can because I
think that you want to know that you were seen, you know what I
mean. Next one from Demonte Matthews. He says, I'm really enjoying vont
on the show. The diversity of perspectives and walks of life is really entertaining.
It's very funny to hear y'all's reaction to things. He says that hit
so true to me. If he hadn't gathered from my name, Demante,
I am black. Lol. Not that I didn't enjoy the show before,
obviously, I've been listening since I was a kid. I'm very happy to
see that that vont stand up can do, stand up can do attitude isn't
going unnoticed. From context clues I've gathered, it seems like he might be
on the show now. Hopefully he gets off night soon so he can give
y'all a more focused, less overworked addition to the show. Staff writer Demante,
you know it's not official, but I think it's you know, it's
leaning toward that way. We talked on the show earlier today that in iHeartRadio,
they everything moves at his nails pace. So if we want to I
joke that if we want a new roll of toilet paper in the bathroom,
we've got to, you know, put a file in and put a request
in. It goes up to corporate in New York, and it's got to
be approved by a panel of people, and it takes three weeks, and
it's it is kind of that way. Yeah, it is okay, next
one. Let's see what else we got here. We might be about done,
because I'm I want to save some for tomorrow. How much time we
got? Oh? Yeah? That time? Okay, here we go listening
to the Minnesota Goodbye that had the funeral director write in. That hit me
pretty hard because I just lost my Did we have a funeral director write in?
Yeah? They were talking about how they wanted to give families a good
experience. That's right. Yeah, yeah. A couple of days ago.
He was forty two years old, incredibly healthy, eater, worked out every
single day, and one of the best people who have ever walked this earth.
They don't know what happened yet because the results of the autopsy have not
come back. We are guessing either an aneurysm, a heart attack, or
a stroke. I think it'd be really amazing to have some sort of did
you know? Segment about death planning or even life as a widow. I
recently learned that if your name is not on your spouse's car if they die,
you have to rebuy it from the estate. Things like this could save
us living people in case anything were to happen to us. My husband and
I are thirty three. We have a beautiful little girl. I keep thinking
about what we should do in case one of us goes. For example,
I'm a stay at home mom and my husband is the bread winner. Anyway,
I think it'd be great to have something, whether it would be a
funeral director on what decisions should be made, an attorney talking about what sort
of will or paperwork should be filed. I know my parents set up a
trust because when my mom's parents died, they had to pay in in OH
in oh inheritance tax. Okay, voice to tects did not work. But
when my dad's parents died, they had a trust. They didn't have to
pay any taxes. I loved learning and this is a topic not many people
talk about. Love you all from Stephanie. Stephanie, I'll be honest with
you. I don't think it's a right topic for KATIEWB. I think you
are one of the few. I'm not judging. I love you. You're
one of the few young people who think about death and dying. Most people
that age, it's so far in the distance, it's not even a realistic
thing to think about. Yeah. The only thing I've learned recently, as
these two girls on TikTok. They do an update of what has happened since
their mom passed away, and they're both like in their early twenties, so
their mom must have passed away decently young. But it's kind of humorous because
they laugh about things that have happened. And one of them was that they
didn't know that they had to file their mom's taxes still after she had passed
away, know, yeah, And I was like, what, I would
have never thought to have to file someone's taxes once past. No, yeah,
there's a lot of things. We're not going to do that when I
think it's really valuable. But I will just say, if we had somebody
on and I'm a picture I've been doing radio a long time, if we
had a lawyer on to explain what you need to do, it would get
so confusing that it would lose its entertainment value. I think what's really interesting
is I heard that you can't afford to die in Minnesota because if you die
in Minnesota, Minnesota will take about half of your money as an estate tax
or some sort of tax. So they say, don't die in Minnesota because
this state, which is a very tax heavy state, is going to take
half your money, half your mom's money, half your dad's money. I
want to know. I'll tell you what Susan's working on right now. It's
called the knock box. You know what a knock box is now? Of
course you don't, you're too young. I never heard of it until a
week ago. Next of Ken box okay, you can order one off of
Amazon and Okay, and it'll come with a box with a bunch of folders
of all the stuff you need to provide for the people who are there after
you die. Where's your car title, where's your birth certificate, where's the
title to your home? Where's all your insurance stuff? And if it's scattered
all over the house, it's going to be awful for your kids or next
of Ken to find it. So if you are, you know, getting
to a point in your life where you like, worry that, because what
I don't want is to leave Alison and Carson or Beth or Chase a shitload
of work to do. My dad took care of all of his stuff,
every day thing down to his cremation, his funeral arrangements. Susan's dad did
the same thing. But if you were to die suddenly, Alison and Carson
don't have time to come to the house and go through all the shit.
Can you imagine what if Cindy died all of a sudden. Do you have
time to go to fond of Lac and go through all the Cindy stuff?
No? I do you know where all of her stuff is? No?
And I think she's probably more organized. My dad, on the other side,
on the other hand, would not be. He'd be very difficult to
deal with. That is going to be it for the Minnesota Goodbye today.
Some interesting stuff. If we brought up anything you want to expand on,
then please let us know and send that in too. Ryan Show at KTWB
dot com. There's a bunch we didn't get to today. And remember if
you sent one in and I didn't read it, send it again if you
sent it last week, because I definitely deleted some by accident. Minnesota,
Goodbye, Thank you for listening. Ryan Show at KADIWB dot com