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The other day on the podcast,
I said, let's talk about love for

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a minute, because I woke up
in the middle of the night going why

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do we as humans need love?
And why do we crave love? And

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I thought we'd get a better response. We really didn't get really anything,

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but we finally got something regarding love, and Kaylee writes in to kind of

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answer, and I'm not gonna spend
a lot of time because I don't think

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people care that much. And if
you want, you can fast forward through

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this part of the podcast. But
I was just curious, did we evolve

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to need love? Because if we
don't have love, we don't need each

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other. We won't work together and
take care of each other. Like if

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I love my partner, I will
make sure that I take care of them

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and help provide for them and protect
them from you know, will the beasts

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and dragons and things like that.
Yeah, Or is love something that our

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creator, if you believe in a
creator, gave us because it's so pleasurable,

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but then heartbreak hurts so bad,
So why are you gonna big at

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smile? And because you saying will
the beasts and dragons is what you need

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to protect your partner from? Ever
know. You never know, so they

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say, regarding why humans seek love, it is part of mass Love's hierarchy

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of needs. It is something mass
Low's Okay, mass Low's hierarchy of needs.

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It is something you're typically taught in
psych one oh one and also to

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teachers. If a student doesn't have
their basic needs met the base layer of

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the pyramid, then kids typically don't
have the resources to move up the diagram.

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So let's start at the bottom of
the pyramid. Breathing, food,

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water, shelter, clothing, and
sleep. That's physiological needs. Next,

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safety and security, health, employment, property, family and social ability.

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Next, love and belonging, friendship, family intimacy, sense of connection.

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Next self esteem, or towards the
top of the pyramid, confidence, achievement,

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respect of others, the need to
be a unique individual. Final step

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of the pyramid self actualization, morality, creativity, spontaneity, acceptance, experience,

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purpose, meaning, and inner potential. So it is halfway up the

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food pyramid of things that we need. She goes on to say, there

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was also a study conducted in nineteen
forty four where forty babies were examined twenty

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in a room with no physical touch
hugging, talking, soothing, but only

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physiological needs like breathing, food,
water, shelter, or clothing, and

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sleep. And another twenty where all
of their needs were met. The twenty

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with no human touch or love died. Okay, Now I find that interesting

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that they would. I doubt the
validity of that theory because nobody would sit

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there and go, Okay, let's
let these babies die just for this experiment.

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So I'm sure this has been a
rumor that's been going around for a

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long time, but I'd like to
know nobody is going to say, hey,

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volunteer your baby, or let's take
these orphan babies and put them in

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a room and experiment and see whether
they die. Yeah. So, while

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it sounds valid, I'm such a
skeptic about things like that. But Kaylee,

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I think your point is valid that
we do need this, we need

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love, we need to feel loved. But why why is that important?

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I'm not sure. Yeah, I
don't know either. I remember learning about

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that in my AP site class,
the hierarchy of needs and thinking like,

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I'll never reach self actualization. That's
like point. I'm just kidding. No,

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I can't, I can't. It
just it's it's a lot to get

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to that point to just like become
the most you can be. There's so

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many other needs, and I think
a lot of that stems from a lack

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of financial security growing up. So
I think that that is really like skewed

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into my life as an adult.
Tell me more about that. What do

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you mean? So I think that
I have a constant fear of not having

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enough money to survive because I grew
up in a very low income household.

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Okay, and so I base a
lot of what I do off of like

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making sure I have enough money.
And I'm I mean, you and me

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talk about it all the time.
You're probably annoyed with it by now.

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I'm so frugal because I just want
to always be saving as much money as

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I can, and so I feel
like this fear I have to get over,

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this fear of not having money to
ever reach the next levels in this

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hierarchy. Okay, I kind of
understand that. That's really interesting to me

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because I didn't grow up without a
lot without a lot of money either,

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and I'm just naturally frugal, but
probably not like you. What if you

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all of a sudden made a lot
of let's say, if all of a

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sudden, you were making like four
hundred thousand dollars a year, Yeah,

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that'd be great. Would you be
just as frugal? You'd spend a little

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more money on maybe a nicer house
or a nicer car or whatever. But

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would you still be spending well below
your means? Because I know people,

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and I could name some that you
and I both know they started making a

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lot of money and all of a
sudden, they're blowing their money up and

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showing off everything. Yeah, so
what do you what do you think would

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you would you be frugal? I
would treat myself to a certain like certain

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things a little bit more often.
Like I don't really let myself go out

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to eat very often because I think
it's a waste of money to me.

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But I think that, but I
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So I think I would probably enjoy
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But I probably would still stay frugal
in most ways. And I would use

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that money more towards investments and hopefully
compounding that money for the future, Like

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I would be very smart with the
money. I would put it into real

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estate or you know your Here's my
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I get it. You want to
invest in real estate. Why if

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you don't want to spend your money
on anything except investments, then why do

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you want any money? Because that
will provide financial security in the future because

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real estate appreciates. So I do
trust that real estate is a good investment

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for the most part. I mean, every once in a while something might

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go wrong, obviously, but I
would definitely put it into something I wouldn't

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be. I don't know. I
don't have a financial advice and I know

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at this point in my life I
probably should and so I don't have a

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lot of money in stocks or whatever
else. So maybe I would look into

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other things too, But I think
it's just the matter of knowing I have

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some safety in the future of money
that like will appreciate and will do well,

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and I won't be touching that,
and so I will so even if

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I lost my job the next day. I get you. It's like,

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well, I have this investment,
right, Yeah. I know somebody who

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is very wealthy and they've invested,
invested, invested, and they don't spend

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anything. They have a shitty old
car, they got a regular house they've

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lived in for fifty years, and
they they are multi multi, multi millionaires,

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but they're not interested in spending money. And my thing is like,

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why do you want money? Yeah? Why do you want so much money

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but you don't want to spend it. We got to move on because we

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had a lot of emails to get
to and I are going to get on

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this. We're going to get a
rut here. Okay, use my first

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name only, missus Robert. They
live in Louis. My son has worked

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in a movie theater for many years. Told me a lot of horror stories.

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There are the usual stories of clogged
toilets, poop flung around the bathroom.

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One time a kid took a fire
extinguisher sprayed around the auditorium. Older

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folks complained because ticket sales are not
handled the same as they were twenty or

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more years ago, and just being
cranky old curmudgeons. People smoking during the

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movies is common. Like other theater
change chains, my son's offers a membership

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club where you can pay a monthly
fee and see however many movies you want

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all month. It was such a
good deal that a patron joined the club

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and would bring hookers to the theater
because it was cheaper than getting a room

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at the local hotel. Oh my
gosh. He also relates stories from the

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release of Fifty Shades of Gray about
women warning ushers they would need extra paper

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towels to clean up puddles in the
seats. Ah, that's wow, that's

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crazy. Now it's confession time.
When Fifty Shades of Gray came out,

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I was dating a woman who loved
these books. So for Valentine, I

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took her out to eat, followed
by a night of the movies, thankfully

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not my son's theater. Because it
was opening weekend. The theater was packed,

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so she brought a coat because it
was cold outside, and we sat

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on our seats and she laid it
on her lap. The movie was boring.

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I needed something to do, so
to occupy myself, I made sure

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it was a night when I made
sure it was a night she would never

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forget. She always said my hands
were magical, and nobody ever knew what

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went on under her coat or later
in the car as I drove the car

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home and I drove her wild in
the passenger seat. Good God, Robert

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Jaye Horn Dog, I would love
a staff writer. Sticker love you,

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Jenny Bailey and Vaunt I'm going to
take a picture of your address and send

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some of those out later. Okay, you know what, that would have

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been great for Naughty Tuesday, and
thank you, Robert. Next one,

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Oh holy shit, Dave and Jenny, you read my email. It was

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the title of the episode on April
first. I now have two Dave,

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Ryan and claims to fame. I
first was doing the eat donuts. Listened

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to the show for five hundred dollars
four years ago. Got to remember that

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one? Do you remember that?
What is that one? I think you

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paid someone to give us a full
report and listen to the show every day,

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and then we made sure that they
had donuts every day too. I

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remember that, and they give us
a report of the show. I'm still

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catching up of the podcast. And
you're talking about wedding guests. Well,

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here's one. Back when I was
newly dating my boyfriend now husband, one

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of his uncles got engaged and asked
me to ask him to be a groomsman.

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My husband said yes, and wedding
planning was underway. Skip ahead.

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Three months before the wedding, the
bride, who I was not friends with

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and barely knew, reached out to
me and said, can you be a

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bridesmaid. I was young and flattered, so I said yes. I found

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out a week later she had kicked
her brother's wife out of the wedding because

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they were getting divorced, and I, someone she didn't know, was the

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next option. That should have been
a clue this wedding was going to be

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a shit show. Another bridesmaid was
kicked dowt to replace with somebody else.

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There were fights between two bridesmaids over
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honor, and one of these bridesmaids
also had multiple meltdowns because it wasn't her

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wedding. She was dating the twin
brother of the groom. I got more

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stories, but this email is too
long. So in with this marriage didn't

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last for more than a couple of
years. Question for you, guys and

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other staff writers, what are some
of the shit show experiences you've had at

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weddings, either your own or someone
else's. Did these marriages last? Love

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you, guys, hope to have
you have a fun dart licking weekend if

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that's what you're into. Amber,
I don't have a wedding shit show story

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at all, none at all,
Jenny, I do so one of our

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old co workers at Bubba Gumps.
We went to her wedding a couple of

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years ago, and so a lot
of people from Bubba Gumps were there,

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including our old general manager, and
he was going through some unfortunate things in

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his personal life at the time,
and he got so intoxic. Hid no,

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he was falling all over the place. He grabbed Andrew, my boyfriend,

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and kissed him on the lips at
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wild like he's just all over the
place. Then Andrew went to go find

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him in the bathroom because some people
were saying he was super drunk, and

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he went to grab him and he
fell and he smacked his head on like

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the concrete floor. Oh no,
and he's like a he's like a six

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foot four kind of bigger dude.
So there was no holding him up.

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Andrew and someone else were trying to
help him, and so they got him

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into a cab back to his hotel
down the street because it was over in

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still water. And then we found
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to the lobby of the hotel and
then he just had this big goose egg

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on his forehead and it was like
a pretty big mess. So and it

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was really hard for us to see
because it was almost like a lot of

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us were young. We were in
our twenties and he was, you know,

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like our dad's age, okay,
and he was a really good person

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and the really great general manager,
and so to see him like that,

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it made us really sad because we
were just like man and he's still good

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at what he does for a job. He just was going through some shit,

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and yeah, it was a mess. That's too bad when you see

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somebody who is normally just regularly like
normal, wonderful and they're sloppy, sloppy,

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drunk. Yeah, that is kind
of sad. We're We've got a

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bunch more emails, and I promised
to get through this one, but I

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want to throw in a little footnote. I accidentally deleted a bunch of emails

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the other day. So if you
sent one in within the last week and

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we haven't read it, send it
again, because it's very possible that I

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deleted it. There are some that
we don't read. I'll be honest with

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you. We don't read every email
that we get because some are like you

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know, a little bit confusing or
a little bit long or something. We

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talked about a lot. But if
you sent one in we didn't read it,

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then you send again. So let's
do this one. I think it's

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really interesting. It's from I'm gonna
leave your name out here. We go.

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I think of you as friends and
value your opinion. My niece is

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getting married in July. The wedding
at a YMCA camp in California. The

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accommodations are two cabins. Each sleeps
eight to eighteen people, with twin beds

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and storage cabinets for each person.
The bride and groom will make cabin assignments

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once everybody are SVPs, and the
cost is three point thirty per person for

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two nights, including food. When
I got this, I thought, there's

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no fucking way I'm sleeping, shitting, showering with people I don't know.

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My husband and I decided to stay
off site, but we brought this up

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to his brother and they said,
no, you have to stay there.

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It'll be fun. We felt guilty
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I think it's super weird to stay
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I seem to be the only one
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looked at the picture they attached it
looks like a summer camp cabin. That's

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what I'm picked. Sure, a
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nicer. It's not rustic. It's
nicer rustic. I've got a very good

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digestin system that I'm going to poop
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people around showering. What ifeople's snore? Fart? Am I just a bougie

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snob that has to have her own
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wealthy and proper, and I was
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In fact, when I was joking
with my brother and sister in law

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about pouring POOPERI in the welcome gift
bags, they were insulted. They said,

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this is a classy wedding with the
bride wearing a gown and the groom

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in tucks. Why would you suggest
that. I'm curious to see what other

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people think. Maybe I'm a spoiled
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that, But go ahead and do
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Yeah, it ain't gonna kill you. Go ahead and do it.

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Yeah, I'd say do it,
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that. Is not my cup of
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about a year and a half ago
that Andrew was in charge of, and

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the sleeping arrangements were not to my
liking. And honestly, that trip was

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not super fun for me because I
felt uncomfortable. I don't blame you.

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I think that sleeping arrangements can definitely
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go too Chases this weekend, we're
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to bother Chase, and he said, stay with my in laws, and

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we said, we don't want to
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with the emails, and I just
got to find my spot here in the

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email chain one second, and here
we go. I'm at the gym,

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and I've noticed three different moms in
their thirties and forties who have long hair

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and a bun or ponytail with the
bottom of their back of their head below

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the ponytail shaved or buzz So you
picture, oh okay, and pull the

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ponytail to the crown of your head, and then you shave from that crown

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down to the shoulder area. Is
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because I'm a mom with long hair
and it's a pain in the butt to

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manage. But I can't shift to
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cool enough to rock that look.
Just curious, Jenny, you know more

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about it than I do. Yeah, Unfortunately, I don't know about mom

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trends though, so I'm not sure. I feel like that's more of a

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gym trend than maybe necessarily a mom
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you a lot of time when you
take off that amount of hair, if

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you have a lot of hair,
Okay. Is that why older women cut

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their hair really short, like because
they're just tired of taking care of it.

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I think that's one of the main
reasons. It also just gets damaged

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at some point where it's like you
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not growing very well naturally anymore.
Okay, because I've noticed that older women

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usually cut their hair to a more
practical length. Susan says, my wife

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is still down to her shoulders or
so. But my friend, I have

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another friend who is like about my
age, and she's got it very short,

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and she's like, I'm just done
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okay. Next one from Sydney,
a regular staff writer. We are

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referring to the email yesterday about the
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can I have a drink of that? Can I have a bite of that?

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Yeah? She says Dave and Jenny, I'm baffled by the coworker who

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consistently asked to try food or drink
at the office. I could maybe understand

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once if you had some unique foot
or drink. People never heard of it

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every time. Absolutely not. Ps. I've been curious to know what texts

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look like on your end. Can
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can't imagine you have a studio cell
phone you're looking at it's on a computer

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screen. Do all text come in
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windows popping up like the old MSN
messenger. I'm very curious. Please share

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and paint the picture. Jenny,
go ahead and try to paint the picture.

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You're a visual person, yeah.
I mean basically, if you looked

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at like a word document and you
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that's exactly what it is. It's
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see which text it goes with which
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come attached to it, so just
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phone number, which is why sometimes
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of a text message. But it's
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within the time that the text comes
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no, it's not just a bunch
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hard for us to navigate through.
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it's like Jenny said, it's like
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and we can click on reply,
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to put it in a file so
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we want to block somebody and we've
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like some people just are rude,
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think that you want to know that
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mean. Next one from Demonte Matthews. He says, I'm really enjoying vont

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on the show. The diversity of
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so true to me. If he
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I am black. Lol. Not
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obviously, I've been listening since I
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see that that vont stand up can
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going unnoticed. From context clues I've
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on the show now. Hopefully he
gets off night soon so he can give

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y'all a more focused, less overworked
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you know it's not official, but
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leaning toward that way. We talked
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they everything moves at his nails pace. So if we want to I

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joke that if we want a new
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we've got to, you know,
put a file in and put a request

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in. It goes up to corporate
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be approved by a panel of people, and it takes three weeks, and

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it's it is kind of that way. Yeah, it is okay, next

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one. Let's see what else we
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because I'm I want to save some
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got? Oh? Yeah? That
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to the Minnesota Goodbye that had the
funeral director write in. That hit me

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pretty hard because I just lost my
Did we have a funeral director write in?

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Yeah? They were talking about how
they wanted to give families a good

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experience. That's right. Yeah,
yeah. A couple of days ago.

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He was forty two years old,
incredibly healthy, eater, worked out every

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single day, and one of the
best people who have ever walked this earth.

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They don't know what happened yet because
the results of the autopsy have not

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come back. We are guessing either
an aneurysm, a heart attack, or

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a stroke. I think it'd be
really amazing to have some sort of did

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you know? Segment about death planning
or even life as a widow. I

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recently learned that if your name is
not on your spouse's car if they die,

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you have to rebuy it from the
estate. Things like this could save

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us living people in case anything were
to happen to us. My husband and

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I are thirty three. We have
a beautiful little girl. I keep thinking

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about what we should do in case
one of us goes. For example,

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I'm a stay at home mom and
my husband is the bread winner. Anyway,

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I think it'd be great to have
something, whether it would be a

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funeral director on what decisions should be
made, an attorney talking about what sort

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of will or paperwork should be filed. I know my parents set up a

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trust because when my mom's parents died, they had to pay in in OH

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in oh inheritance tax. Okay,
voice to tects did not work. But

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when my dad's parents died, they
had a trust. They didn't have to

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pay any taxes. I loved learning
and this is a topic not many people

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talk about. Love you all from
Stephanie. Stephanie, I'll be honest with

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you. I don't think it's a
right topic for KATIEWB. I think you

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are one of the few. I'm
not judging. I love you. You're

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one of the few young people who
think about death and dying. Most people

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that age, it's so far in
the distance, it's not even a realistic

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thing to think about. Yeah.
The only thing I've learned recently, as

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these two girls on TikTok. They
do an update of what has happened since

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their mom passed away, and they're
both like in their early twenties, so

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their mom must have passed away decently
young. But it's kind of humorous because

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they laugh about things that have happened. And one of them was that they

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didn't know that they had to file
their mom's taxes still after she had passed

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away, know, yeah, And
I was like, what, I would

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have never thought to have to file
someone's taxes once past. No, yeah,

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there's a lot of things. We're
not going to do that when I

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think it's really valuable. But I
will just say, if we had somebody

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on and I'm a picture I've been
doing radio a long time, if we

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had a lawyer on to explain what
you need to do, it would get

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so confusing that it would lose its
entertainment value. I think what's really interesting

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is I heard that you can't afford
to die in Minnesota because if you die

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in Minnesota, Minnesota will take about
half of your money as an estate tax

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or some sort of tax. So
they say, don't die in Minnesota because

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this state, which is a very
tax heavy state, is going to take

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half your money, half your mom's
money, half your dad's money. I

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want to know. I'll tell you
what Susan's working on right now. It's

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called the knock box. You know
what a knock box is now? Of

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course you don't, you're too young. I never heard of it until a

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week ago. Next of Ken box
okay, you can order one off of

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Amazon and Okay, and it'll come
with a box with a bunch of folders

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of all the stuff you need to
provide for the people who are there after

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you die. Where's your car title, where's your birth certificate, where's the

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title to your home? Where's all
your insurance stuff? And if it's scattered

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all over the house, it's going
to be awful for your kids or next

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of Ken to find it. So
if you are, you know, getting

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to a point in your life where
you like, worry that, because what

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I don't want is to leave Alison
and Carson or Beth or Chase a shitload

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of work to do. My dad
took care of all of his stuff,

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every day thing down to his cremation, his funeral arrangements. Susan's dad did

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the same thing. But if you
were to die suddenly, Alison and Carson

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don't have time to come to the
house and go through all the shit.

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Can you imagine what if Cindy died
all of a sudden. Do you have

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time to go to fond of Lac
and go through all the Cindy stuff?

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No? I do you know where
all of her stuff is? No?

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And I think she's probably more organized. My dad, on the other side,

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on the other hand, would not
be. He'd be very difficult to

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deal with. That is going to
be it for the Minnesota Goodbye today.

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Some interesting stuff. If we brought
up anything you want to expand on,

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then please let us know and send
that in too. Ryan Show at KTWB

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dot com. There's a bunch we
didn't get to today. And remember if

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you sent one in and I didn't
read it, send it again if you

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sent it last week, because I
definitely deleted some by accident. Minnesota,

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Goodbye, Thank you for listening.
Ryan Show at KADIWB dot com