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Welcome to Round three of the Parenting
Roundabout podcast for the week of June twenty

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sixth. I'm Nicol Artics and I'm
here at Catherine hell Echo Hello, and

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Terry Morrow. Hello. We're moms
of teens and young adults, and when

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it comes to parenting, we've been
there, done that, pot the T

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shirt. But we're still waiting for
that day when we'll reach the finish line

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and have no further need to lay
down in a dark room with a wet

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rag over our eyes worrying about something
or other. Wednesday has Complaint Day here

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on the Parenting Roundabout, and today
we are complaining about a trend of people

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asking for money. So recently there's
been a slew okay, a couple but

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of requests on social media to either
send cash for a graduation gift. And

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these are not these are just acquaintances. So these are not like my best

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friend's daughter type thing. But you
know, the mom has gone and posted

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this on her Facebook and she's got, you know, quite a few followers

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and announces that her daughter has graduated
and um is requesting money for graduation gifts.

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I've also well, you've talked Catherine
about the by the bride a drink

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or by the birthday. Yeah,
like you see it on like car windows,

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like yeah, you know I graduated, or you know it's my bachelorette

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party, or you know I turned
twenty one. If you want to buy

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me a drink, here's my venmo. And I'm like, does anyone does

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that work? Like I got people
do? Oh And the other one I

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saw was baby Gifts, So they
announced the pregnancy and then on Facebook book

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and then said if you would like
to buy us a baby gift, here's

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our registry. All right. So
I don't know, it's like it's very

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it's a very different approach, and
that's very diplomatic. I mean I agree

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with what Terry was saying, like
you know, you can just ignore it.

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Yeah, but it does. It
does kind of catch me off guard

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sometimes, yes, you know,
yeah, I feel like it falls into

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it's actually a little better than but
like when I graduated high school, we

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got printed graduation announcements and sent them
to everybody my parents could think of.

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And there is no reason to send
a graduation announcement without it being like,

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so send a gift, will you? Right? And I mean I didn't

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know a lot of these people,
and we didn't necessarily think less of them

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if they didn't send a gift.
But you send them. Who knows.

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Maybe you get a gift, maybe
you don't, but at least you know

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you're giving people the opportunity to recognize
you are a fantastical achievement. So Facebook

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is even more deluded because it's not
really directed at you personally. It's directed

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just at Hey, if you read
this and want to give me some money,

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give me some money. If you
read this and don't, Hey,

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it's all good. Right. If
they were hitting you up in your DMS,

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that would be different. But you
know, I see so many things,

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charities and different things that people are
gathering money for, right. I

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don't think there's anything wrong long with
taking a stab at it, as long

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as you don't like list on your
post. Okay, here's who has paid

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me so far. How about the
rest of you? Anybody else? I

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also come on. Facebook is for
some people anyway, less of a just

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a wide range of friends and acquaintances, but the way they keep in touch

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with old friends and family members who
might in fact be interested in giving some

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money. So they just put it
out there for whoever feels it's aimed at

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them, right, right, and
that if you don't wish to be aimed

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at, then duck. So I
don't know or block. Of course,

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at my wedding, I walked around
with a big, big fabric bag and

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went to table to table so that
people could stuff money in itself. You

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know, I would rather just put
something on Facebook. I was very embarrassing.

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So this is not as bad as
that, right, but about the

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same as sending out graduation announcements,
because come on, yeah, when when

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my daughter graduated, because it was
twenty twenty, we did send out announcements

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just because you know, we weren't
going to be doing anything else. That

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was kind of the only the only
thing we could do. Put a little

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enclosure that says, don't feel bad
if you don't send her a gift,

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but she is not getting to have
a party or a m or a graduation

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ceremony or anything. But you know
whatever, no pressure. And she did

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she certainly did get some. Yeah, I mean, and we mostly send

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it to like out of town relatives
and that kind of stuff, not at

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home, not to like our local
friends, which is who we invited to

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the party. You know, like
it was a different audience. Really,

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so you did get nicolling me up? You couldn't, I know, Yeah,

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like, you know, slipped us
a little announcement. Now we would

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kept to go, oh god,
So because I have to talk to her

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every week, she's gonna know I
didn't send something when when my son was

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having his first communion, Um,
my husband's grandmother passed to like, and

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so in the space of a weekend, he had his first communion and then

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we flew back to Pennsylvania for his
grandmother's for his you know, my son's

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great grandmother's funeral and and wake and
everything. And I was not expecting this.

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But at the funeral home, at
the wake, everybody was slipping cash

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to my eight year old Oh my
god, because they all heard that it

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had been his first communical congratulations here. You know. It was like five

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horrible and yet good timing, yes, because they certainly wouldn't have like maybe

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one or two of them might have
mailed him a card, you know,

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but mostly it was just like people
that he was only seeing because of this

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funeral. He was like, why
why are people giving me, Like,

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just just give it to me.
I'll hold out to it. It's funny,

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but he kind of kind of like
raked in. Yeah, pretty good

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song. Oh so he would have
rather not lost his grandmother, his great

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grandma. Yeah, but it was
just a coincidence, you know. Yeah.

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Yeah, Well, if you want
to give us money here on the

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podcast, you can just downloaded a
whole bunch of times. Yeah. Or

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to do it, you know,
set up every device you have to automatically

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download the podcast and download all of
them. We have many, many years

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of podcasts right every now and then
I think somebody accidentally downloads all of them

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in our listened spike up. I
can't think of any other way, but

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just some poor soul has now several
thousand of their entire roundabout their entire phone.

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It's to field like there's no room, friend, and thank them very

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much. I appreciate it makes me
feel good when I see that. And

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then I go see which episode did
really really well, and I'm so excited

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to see it. And then it's
like you know one one pages, yes,

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well you can. You can do
that, and or you can tell

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a friend or five or six friends
absolutely subscribe. That's right. That's it

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for today's Round three. Tune in
tomorrow and we'll obsess about family obligations like

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family is obligated to give your kids
money um and then on Friday to see

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what we've come up with for our
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