Welcome to Round three of the Parenting Roundabout podcast for the week of June twenty
sixth. I'm Nicol Artics and I'm here at Catherine hell Echo Hello, and
Terry Morrow. Hello. We're moms of teens and young adults, and when
it comes to parenting, we've been there, done that, pot the T
shirt. But we're still waiting for that day when we'll reach the finish line
and have no further need to lay down in a dark room with a wet
rag over our eyes worrying about something or other. Wednesday has Complaint Day here
on the Parenting Roundabout, and today we are complaining about a trend of people
asking for money. So recently there's been a slew okay, a couple but
of requests on social media to either send cash for a graduation gift. And
these are not these are just acquaintances. So these are not like my best
friend's daughter type thing. But you know, the mom has gone and posted
this on her Facebook and she's got, you know, quite a few followers
and announces that her daughter has graduated and um is requesting money for graduation gifts.
I've also well, you've talked Catherine about the by the bride a drink
or by the birthday. Yeah, like you see it on like car windows,
like yeah, you know I graduated, or you know it's my bachelorette
party, or you know I turned twenty one. If you want to buy
me a drink, here's my venmo. And I'm like, does anyone does
that work? Like I got people do? Oh And the other one I
saw was baby Gifts, So they announced the pregnancy and then on Facebook book
and then said if you would like to buy us a baby gift, here's
our registry. All right. So I don't know, it's like it's very
it's a very different approach, and that's very diplomatic. I mean I agree
with what Terry was saying, like you know, you can just ignore it.
Yeah, but it does. It does kind of catch me off guard
sometimes, yes, you know, yeah, I feel like it falls into
it's actually a little better than but like when I graduated high school, we
got printed graduation announcements and sent them to everybody my parents could think of.
And there is no reason to send a graduation announcement without it being like,
so send a gift, will you? Right? And I mean I didn't
know a lot of these people, and we didn't necessarily think less of them
if they didn't send a gift. But you send them. Who knows.
Maybe you get a gift, maybe you don't, but at least you know
you're giving people the opportunity to recognize you are a fantastical achievement. So Facebook
is even more deluded because it's not really directed at you personally. It's directed
just at Hey, if you read this and want to give me some money,
give me some money. If you read this and don't, Hey,
it's all good. Right. If they were hitting you up in your DMS,
that would be different. But you know, I see so many things,
charities and different things that people are gathering money for, right. I
don't think there's anything wrong long with taking a stab at it, as long
as you don't like list on your post. Okay, here's who has paid
me so far. How about the rest of you? Anybody else? I
also come on. Facebook is for some people anyway, less of a just
a wide range of friends and acquaintances, but the way they keep in touch
with old friends and family members who might in fact be interested in giving some
money. So they just put it out there for whoever feels it's aimed at
them, right, right, and that if you don't wish to be aimed
at, then duck. So I don't know or block. Of course,
at my wedding, I walked around with a big, big fabric bag and
went to table to table so that people could stuff money in itself. You
know, I would rather just put something on Facebook. I was very embarrassing.
So this is not as bad as that, right, but about the
same as sending out graduation announcements, because come on, yeah, when when
my daughter graduated, because it was twenty twenty, we did send out announcements
just because you know, we weren't going to be doing anything else. That
was kind of the only the only thing we could do. Put a little
enclosure that says, don't feel bad if you don't send her a gift,
but she is not getting to have a party or a m or a graduation
ceremony or anything. But you know whatever, no pressure. And she did
she certainly did get some. Yeah, I mean, and we mostly send
it to like out of town relatives and that kind of stuff, not at
home, not to like our local friends, which is who we invited to
the party. You know, like it was a different audience. Really,
so you did get nicolling me up? You couldn't, I know, Yeah,
like, you know, slipped us a little announcement. Now we would
kept to go, oh god, So because I have to talk to her
every week, she's gonna know I didn't send something when when my son was
having his first communion, Um, my husband's grandmother passed to like, and
so in the space of a weekend, he had his first communion and then
we flew back to Pennsylvania for his grandmother's for his you know, my son's
great grandmother's funeral and and wake and everything. And I was not expecting this.
But at the funeral home, at the wake, everybody was slipping cash
to my eight year old Oh my god, because they all heard that it
had been his first communical congratulations here. You know. It was like five
horrible and yet good timing, yes, because they certainly wouldn't have like maybe
one or two of them might have mailed him a card, you know,
but mostly it was just like people that he was only seeing because of this
funeral. He was like, why why are people giving me, Like,
just just give it to me. I'll hold out to it. It's funny,
but he kind of kind of like raked in. Yeah, pretty good
song. Oh so he would have rather not lost his grandmother, his great
grandma. Yeah, but it was just a coincidence, you know. Yeah.
Yeah, Well, if you want to give us money here on the
podcast, you can just downloaded a whole bunch of times. Yeah. Or
to do it, you know, set up every device you have to automatically
download the podcast and download all of them. We have many, many years
of podcasts right every now and then I think somebody accidentally downloads all of them
in our listened spike up. I can't think of any other way, but
just some poor soul has now several thousand of their entire roundabout their entire phone.
It's to field like there's no room, friend, and thank them very
much. I appreciate it makes me feel good when I see that. And
then I go see which episode did really really well, and I'm so excited
to see it. And then it's like you know one one pages, yes,
well you can. You can do that, and or you can tell
a friend or five or six friends absolutely subscribe. That's right. That's it
for today's Round three. Tune in tomorrow and we'll obsess about family obligations like
family is obligated to give your kids money um and then on Friday to see
what we've come up with for our Roundabout round Up picks this week. Find
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