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Hey, Hey, I'm bad with
something for you to think about. At

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least I hope you think about it. You need to think about it.

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You. Yeah, you you empower
your significant other to treat you the way

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they do you. I don't care
how you look at it. I don't

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care how you blame. I don't
care how you complain. None of it

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matters. Because you empower your significant
other to treat you the way they treat

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you. You empower your significant other
to do to you whatever they do you.

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You empower him or her. You
have made them think that it's okay

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for them to do whatever it is
they are doing. You empower them.

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What do I mean? Well,
let me tell you what I mean.

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Kick listening. Anytime you go along
with what you know is not right.

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Anytime you keep your lips zipped you
have nothing to say. Anytime you do

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things that you don't want to do
to please hear or her. Anytime you

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do wrong for them, no one
is wrong. Anytime they abuse you in

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any kind of way and you do
nothing, you have no consequences for their

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actions. Any Time you allow them
to do whatever it is they want to

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do to you, include taking you
for granted, not giving you any time,

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or attention, whatever it is.
You empower your significant other to treat

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you the way they treat you point
blank. Some of you won't agree,

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and that's fine, but please anyone
who does not agree, please prove me

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wrong. I welcome it. Please
please please prove me wrong. I don't

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care what your significant other do to
you. You empower them when you allow

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them to treat you any kind of
way, when you allow them to speak

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to you any kind of way,
when you allow them to do to you

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whatever it is they want to do
you, You empower your significant other.

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That's why so many of you are
in relationships that are dead in no growing.

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You've been together forever and nothing has
changed. No one is working on

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the relationship. You're just in it
because they have chipped away so much at

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you that you have nothing left.
But you empowered your significant other to treat

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you the way they treat you.
You. Let me tell you something.

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If your significant other just respect you
by just talking to you crazy in front

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of people, or even when you
buy yourself with him or her, if

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you let that go, you're empowering
them. If they put their hands on

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you, abuse you physically or verbally, or any way and you let it

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go. You're empowering them. If
they want to control everything and you let

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them. You empowering them. When
they tell you what to do, when

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to do it, how to do
it, who to do it with,

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and you let them. You're empowering
them. When they cheat on you all

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of the time and you do nothing, you empower them. You get what

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I'm saying. Are you catching the
gist of what I'm saying. They only

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do to you what you have empowered
them to do. They treat you exactly

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how you have taught them to treat
you. Whatever you let them get away

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with, you empower them to do
it. Some of you are in relationships,

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living totally separate in the homes.
Those of you who are married totally

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separate because no one is working on
the relationship. You've empowered him or her

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to treat you the way that they're
treating you in the home. You are.

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People get into relationships, and because
they don't understand relationships, really,

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they just get in them, always
going through the same things or similar things,

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just different people. Because you don't
learn anything you go through, but

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you don't learn, you don't grow
as you go, and therefore you always

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repeat the same things or similar things. You always find yourself in similar situations,

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and you wonder sometimes why am I
going through this? Because you are

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choosing the same types of people,
the same types of situations because you don't

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learn from your previous experiences. You
get out of one relationship because of how

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you are treated, and you go
right into another one and treat it bad

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in that one too. Because the
read reason people are treated badly, it's

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because sometimes people are so eager to
be loved that they open themselves up and

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they allow things because they feel that
it's the proper way to love, to

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let people do certain things, to
let them get away with certain things.

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You think that's the proper way to
love, when it's not. Some of

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you are accepting things that has nothing
to do with love. It's like,

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really, what does love have to
do with it? Because nothing that you're

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going through, nothing you're dealing with, has anything to do with love.

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But you can't tell a lot of
people these things because people want what they

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want when they want it, with
whom they want it with, and therefore

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they go through pure hell sometimes because
they don't want to hear what no one

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else has to say. They're feeling
some type of way, but they don't

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want anyone to tell them anything,
so you just go through turmoil. Many

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of you are in situations that you
won't talk to anyone about. You lie

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about your relationships. You try to
glorify your relationships as if they're so good,

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but you're going through hell. You're
miserable. But you're faking and fronting

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because you want people to think you
got it going on when you don't have

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nothing going on. Nothing, not
hude, And I'm not trying to mock

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anyone, It's just reality. So
many of you put so much time and

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effort in faking and fronting your relationships, but you don't use that energy to

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work on them. But truth is, you can't fix something that's not fixableth

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two people has to want the relationship, not one. And I've told you

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on many episodes most people are in
one side of relationships most and you have

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settled for that. If only people
could see beyond their wants, their desires,

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their feelings, their emotions, even
their hearts, If they can see

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beyond those things, it would save
them so much headache and heartache. It

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would save them so much drama.
It really would Because people in so many

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ways, get into relationship thinking the
wrong way, thinking the wrong way,

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accepting anything, allowing anything, believe
in anything. Some of you have been

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bounboozled, you've been swindled, you've
been catfished everything because you have such desire

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and you're so eager, and some
of you are even desperate for love.

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When you are desperate, eager,
or anything like that, people can sense

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it. They can sense it,
and they will take advantage of it.

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And what they start doing, They
start doing little things to see what they

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can get away with. You know, I always talk about the nibblets and

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the nuggets. I always talk about
nibblets and nuggets. I heard someone else

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talk about niblets and nuggets, and
I'm like, did they get that from

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me? Because that's just not something
you hear. You know, people say

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nibblets and nuggets. People have been
known to steal my material and not even

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give me credit for it. But
you know, I don't argue about stuff

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like that because God fight mind battle
sooner or later they don't get dealt with.

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So people will give you niblets and
nuggets, just enough to keep you

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where you are, just enough to
make you want to stay you have to

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be able to see that. You
have to be able to let go when

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it's time to let go. Some
of you are holding on for dear life.

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You've invested time, money, energy, and because you have, you

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think that's it. That's all I
have, all I will ever have.

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It. Don't get any better than
this, no matter how bad it is,

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because your mind won't let you believe
that you can have better. But

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you're only that way because that's what
you choose. You only think that way

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because that is what you choose.
I've told you many times. Your mindset,

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my mindset, their mindset. All
of our mindsets are created, are

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formed by the experiences we've gone through. We think according to the things we've

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gone through. Many many, many
people have not yield from past pains,

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and they carry that pain into childhood, thinking, feeling, and acting the

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same way as they did when they
were going through trauma, or as adults

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who have gone through trauma. They
carried it right, They carried right on

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into other relationships. All it does
is caused you drama. You may not

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bring the drama to your relationship,
but because the brokenness inside of you causes

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you to receive that drama from your
significant other because you allow them to bring

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their drama into your life. You
allow them to do whatever it is they

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want to do in your relationship and
to you. So many people, so

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many people are in these types of
relationships. So many people you don't understand

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how you empower your significant other to
treat you. Some of you are married,

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you don't have anything. He controls
everything, or she controls everything.

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You don't get anything. But that's
because that's how you have have allowed for

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it to be. Some of you, your significant others would do anything in

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front of you and dare you to
say something, because that's how you've empowered

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them to be. You have empowered
them to think they can do that to

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you, matter of fact, to
know they can do that to you,

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and they will dare you to say
anything. That's crazy. No one,

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no one should feel that they are
supposed to be controlled in a relationship,

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used or abused, no one and
anyone who's going through it. I always

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tell you you have to look at
yourself. Why are you allowing yourself to

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go through that trauma? Why self
inflicted? Any time you open yourself up

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to it, anytime you subject yourself
to it self and flut it I don't

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care who's doing it to you.
You have opened yourself up to it.

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It's like people every day open themselves
up to demon and entities without even realizing

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their actions are their words. It's
ushering them into their lives. And so

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many people have those things because they're
broken and they're full of negativity and sorrow

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and woe. It's me that's a
good, good breeding ground for entities and

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attachments and all of that stuff.
Believe it or not, I have to

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throw that in there because it's definitely
true. It's true because some of you,

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you're in it out of relationships and
you sleeping with everyone. Some of

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you you think you're supposed to have
children with every man you get are every

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woman you're with, and it's just
a bunch of soul tides and you carry

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that stuff into your relationships. So
there's a lot of things at play,

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But the bottom line is that mindsets. That's the bottom line. If you

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empower your significant other to have control
over you, they'll have it. If

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you empower them to treat you like
a I don't even know the word to

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describe it, but less than you
deserve, you empower them. Whatever you

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get. It is because you empower
them. If you afraid, you empower

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them. Because everybody, everybody has
the opportunity to lay down requirements, boundaries,

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consequences, and when you don't,
you empower him or her to do

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whatever they want, whenever they want. And many with whom they want,

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you empower them. And I really, really really hope you think about what

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I'm saying, because it's true.
Every situation you go through with your significant

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other, you have empowered her or
him. If they steal from you,

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then you do nothing. You've empowered
them. If they force you to do

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things you don't want to do,
you've empowered them. Like I said,

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if you have become afraid of them, it's because you've empowered them. You

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didn't go into the relationship afraid because
you would have never went into it.

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You became afraid along the way because
you empowered them. See that's the that's

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a part of the game. They
the niblets and nuggets. They do a

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little here, do a little there. And sometimes you have those bold individuals

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who boom boom right in your face. They don't, you know, play

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around with it. They just in
your face and you still take it because

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you can't see beyond your wants,
your desires, your feelings, your emotions,

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your heart. Even though they showed
you up front, you refuse to

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accept it. You refuse to and
then you find yourself in a bad,

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bad situation. You empowered him or
her to do whatever it is they are

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doing in your life. You did
it. You did it, You did

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it, And I'm not saying it
for you to feel bad about it.

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I'm not saying it for you to
feel that I'm crucifying you, because I'm

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not. I'm just wanting you to
wake up. I'm wanting you to take

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ownership and responsibility because many of you, all you want to do is blame

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him or blame her. But you
empowered them to do what they're doing.

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And you may not want to receive
it. You don't have to, You

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don't have to receive it. But
I know it's true. And that's not

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only your significant other, it's your
children, your parents, your whoever ever

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it may be. If they do
you any kind of way, you empower

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them to. I had an incident
today where an attorney tried to get off

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flipped with me and I just had
to check her boom. I don't think

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so, I don't think so.
So I had to let that attorney know

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right away that I was not taking
their crap. Being an attorney means nothing

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to me. That's your job,
not mine, and so I had to

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check that person real quick. Didn't
have any more problems after that, because

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I don't take that from anybody.
I don't disrespect anyone, but you're not

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gonna disrespect me either. I don't
take it. I don't care. If

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I had to tell the President of
the United States, I would no problem

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because just like you deserve to be
talked to with respect, I deserve it

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too. And if you expected then
you better dog gone short give it.

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End of that. So you empower
people. Had I been an individual who

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is afraid of comfortation or afraid because
of people with certain titles, Listen,

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I've set down with a general on
multiple occasions, several generals. They're just

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people. They're just people. I
don't make no difference from them that if

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I'm sending down with the private I
don't make any difference. I respect everyone,

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but I expect for you to respect
me as well, and I won't

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settle for less. So you empower
people to treat you a certain way.

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If you are on a job or
somewhere and someone do something inappropriate to you

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and you do nothing, You're empowering
that person. They will try again until

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they get you right where they want
you, and it's no difference in your

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relationships. Sometimes people think they should
give paths to their children and to their

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significant significant others. Heck no,
heck no, because guess who's gonna suffer

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you are You're the one that's gonna
be hurting. You're the one gonna be

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stressed out. You. So if
you empower them, that's on you.

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That's all I'm gonna say. Leaving
it right there. Thank you so much

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for listening. Much much much much
love to each and every one of you.

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