Hey, Hey, I'm bad with something for you to think about. At
least I hope you think about it. You need to think about it.
You. Yeah, you you empower your significant other to treat you the way
they do you. I don't care how you look at it. I don't
care how you blame. I don't care how you complain. None of it
matters. Because you empower your significant other to treat you the way they treat
you. You empower your significant other to do to you whatever they do you.
You empower him or her. You have made them think that it's okay
for them to do whatever it is they are doing. You empower them.
What do I mean? Well, let me tell you what I mean.
Kick listening. Anytime you go along with what you know is not right.
Anytime you keep your lips zipped you have nothing to say. Anytime you do
things that you don't want to do to please hear or her. Anytime you
do wrong for them, no one is wrong. Anytime they abuse you in
any kind of way and you do nothing, you have no consequences for their
actions. Any Time you allow them to do whatever it is they want to
do to you, include taking you for granted, not giving you any time,
or attention, whatever it is. You empower your significant other to treat
you the way they treat you point blank. Some of you won't agree,
and that's fine, but please anyone who does not agree, please prove me
wrong. I welcome it. Please please please prove me wrong. I don't
care what your significant other do to you. You empower them when you allow
them to treat you any kind of way, when you allow them to speak
to you any kind of way, when you allow them to do to you
whatever it is they want to do you, You empower your significant other.
That's why so many of you are in relationships that are dead in no growing.
You've been together forever and nothing has changed. No one is working on
the relationship. You're just in it because they have chipped away so much at
you that you have nothing left. But you empowered your significant other to treat
you the way they treat you. You. Let me tell you something.
If your significant other just respect you by just talking to you crazy in front
of people, or even when you buy yourself with him or her, if
you let that go, you're empowering them. If they put their hands on
you, abuse you physically or verbally, or any way and you let it
go. You're empowering them. If they want to control everything and you let
them. You empowering them. When they tell you what to do, when
to do it, how to do it, who to do it with,
and you let them. You're empowering them. When they cheat on you all
of the time and you do nothing, you empower them. You get what
I'm saying. Are you catching the gist of what I'm saying. They only
do to you what you have empowered them to do. They treat you exactly
how you have taught them to treat you. Whatever you let them get away
with, you empower them to do it. Some of you are in relationships,
living totally separate in the homes. Those of you who are married totally
separate because no one is working on the relationship. You've empowered him or her
to treat you the way that they're treating you in the home. You are.
People get into relationships, and because they don't understand relationships, really,
they just get in them, always going through the same things or similar things,
just different people. Because you don't learn anything you go through, but
you don't learn, you don't grow as you go, and therefore you always
repeat the same things or similar things. You always find yourself in similar situations,
and you wonder sometimes why am I going through this? Because you are
choosing the same types of people, the same types of situations because you don't
learn from your previous experiences. You get out of one relationship because of how
you are treated, and you go right into another one and treat it bad
in that one too. Because the read reason people are treated badly, it's
because sometimes people are so eager to be loved that they open themselves up and
they allow things because they feel that it's the proper way to love, to
let people do certain things, to let them get away with certain things.
You think that's the proper way to love, when it's not. Some of
you are accepting things that has nothing to do with love. It's like,
really, what does love have to do with it? Because nothing that you're
going through, nothing you're dealing with, has anything to do with love.
But you can't tell a lot of people these things because people want what they
want when they want it, with whom they want it with, and therefore
they go through pure hell sometimes because they don't want to hear what no one
else has to say. They're feeling some type of way, but they don't
want anyone to tell them anything, so you just go through turmoil. Many
of you are in situations that you won't talk to anyone about. You lie
about your relationships. You try to glorify your relationships as if they're so good,
but you're going through hell. You're miserable. But you're faking and fronting
because you want people to think you got it going on when you don't have
nothing going on. Nothing, not hude, And I'm not trying to mock
anyone, It's just reality. So many of you put so much time and
effort in faking and fronting your relationships, but you don't use that energy to
work on them. But truth is, you can't fix something that's not fixableth
two people has to want the relationship, not one. And I've told you
on many episodes most people are in one side of relationships most and you have
settled for that. If only people could see beyond their wants, their desires,
their feelings, their emotions, even their hearts, If they can see
beyond those things, it would save them so much headache and heartache. It
would save them so much drama. It really would Because people in so many
ways, get into relationship thinking the wrong way, thinking the wrong way,
accepting anything, allowing anything, believe in anything. Some of you have been
bounboozled, you've been swindled, you've been catfished everything because you have such desire
and you're so eager, and some of you are even desperate for love.
When you are desperate, eager, or anything like that, people can sense
it. They can sense it, and they will take advantage of it.
And what they start doing, They start doing little things to see what they
can get away with. You know, I always talk about the nibblets and
the nuggets. I always talk about nibblets and nuggets. I heard someone else
talk about niblets and nuggets, and I'm like, did they get that from
me? Because that's just not something you hear. You know, people say
nibblets and nuggets. People have been known to steal my material and not even
give me credit for it. But you know, I don't argue about stuff
like that because God fight mind battle sooner or later they don't get dealt with.
So people will give you niblets and nuggets, just enough to keep you
where you are, just enough to make you want to stay you have to
be able to see that. You have to be able to let go when
it's time to let go. Some of you are holding on for dear life.
You've invested time, money, energy, and because you have, you
think that's it. That's all I have, all I will ever have.
It. Don't get any better than this, no matter how bad it is,
because your mind won't let you believe that you can have better. But
you're only that way because that's what you choose. You only think that way
because that is what you choose. I've told you many times. Your mindset,
my mindset, their mindset. All of our mindsets are created, are
formed by the experiences we've gone through. We think according to the things we've
gone through. Many many, many people have not yield from past pains,
and they carry that pain into childhood, thinking, feeling, and acting the
same way as they did when they were going through trauma, or as adults
who have gone through trauma. They carried it right, They carried right on
into other relationships. All it does is caused you drama. You may not
bring the drama to your relationship, but because the brokenness inside of you causes
you to receive that drama from your significant other because you allow them to bring
their drama into your life. You allow them to do whatever it is they
want to do in your relationship and to you. So many people, so
many people are in these types of relationships. So many people you don't understand
how you empower your significant other to treat you. Some of you are married,
you don't have anything. He controls everything, or she controls everything.
You don't get anything. But that's because that's how you have have allowed for
it to be. Some of you, your significant others would do anything in
front of you and dare you to say something, because that's how you've empowered
them to be. You have empowered them to think they can do that to
you, matter of fact, to know they can do that to you,
and they will dare you to say anything. That's crazy. No one,
no one should feel that they are supposed to be controlled in a relationship,
used or abused, no one and anyone who's going through it. I always
tell you you have to look at yourself. Why are you allowing yourself to
go through that trauma? Why self inflicted? Any time you open yourself up
to it, anytime you subject yourself to it self and flut it I don't
care who's doing it to you. You have opened yourself up to it.
It's like people every day open themselves up to demon and entities without even realizing
their actions are their words. It's ushering them into their lives. And so
many people have those things because they're broken and they're full of negativity and sorrow
and woe. It's me that's a good, good breeding ground for entities and
attachments and all of that stuff. Believe it or not, I have to
throw that in there because it's definitely true. It's true because some of you,
you're in it out of relationships and you sleeping with everyone. Some of
you you think you're supposed to have children with every man you get are every
woman you're with, and it's just a bunch of soul tides and you carry
that stuff into your relationships. So there's a lot of things at play,
But the bottom line is that mindsets. That's the bottom line. If you
empower your significant other to have control over you, they'll have it. If
you empower them to treat you like a I don't even know the word to
describe it, but less than you deserve, you empower them. Whatever you
get. It is because you empower them. If you afraid, you empower
them. Because everybody, everybody has the opportunity to lay down requirements, boundaries,
consequences, and when you don't, you empower him or her to do
whatever they want, whenever they want. And many with whom they want,
you empower them. And I really, really really hope you think about what
I'm saying, because it's true. Every situation you go through with your significant
other, you have empowered her or him. If they steal from you,
then you do nothing. You've empowered them. If they force you to do
things you don't want to do, you've empowered them. Like I said,
if you have become afraid of them, it's because you've empowered them. You
didn't go into the relationship afraid because you would have never went into it.
You became afraid along the way because you empowered them. See that's the that's
a part of the game. They the niblets and nuggets. They do a
little here, do a little there. And sometimes you have those bold individuals
who boom boom right in your face. They don't, you know, play
around with it. They just in your face and you still take it because
you can't see beyond your wants, your desires, your feelings, your emotions,
your heart. Even though they showed you up front, you refuse to
accept it. You refuse to and then you find yourself in a bad,
bad situation. You empowered him or her to do whatever it is they are
doing in your life. You did it. You did it, You did
it, And I'm not saying it for you to feel bad about it.
I'm not saying it for you to feel that I'm crucifying you, because I'm
not. I'm just wanting you to wake up. I'm wanting you to take
ownership and responsibility because many of you, all you want to do is blame
him or blame her. But you empowered them to do what they're doing.
And you may not want to receive it. You don't have to, You
don't have to receive it. But I know it's true. And that's not
only your significant other, it's your children, your parents, your whoever ever
it may be. If they do you any kind of way, you empower
them to. I had an incident today where an attorney tried to get off
flipped with me and I just had to check her boom. I don't think
so, I don't think so. So I had to let that attorney know
right away that I was not taking their crap. Being an attorney means nothing
to me. That's your job, not mine, and so I had to
check that person real quick. Didn't have any more problems after that, because
I don't take that from anybody. I don't disrespect anyone, but you're not
gonna disrespect me either. I don't take it. I don't care. If
I had to tell the President of the United States, I would no problem
because just like you deserve to be talked to with respect, I deserve it
too. And if you expected then you better dog gone short give it.
End of that. So you empower people. Had I been an individual who
is afraid of comfortation or afraid because of people with certain titles, Listen,
I've set down with a general on multiple occasions, several generals. They're just
people. They're just people. I don't make no difference from them that if
I'm sending down with the private I don't make any difference. I respect everyone,
but I expect for you to respect me as well, and I won't
settle for less. So you empower people to treat you a certain way.
If you are on a job or somewhere and someone do something inappropriate to you
and you do nothing, You're empowering that person. They will try again until
they get you right where they want you, and it's no difference in your
relationships. Sometimes people think they should give paths to their children and to their
significant significant others. Heck no, heck no, because guess who's gonna suffer
you are You're the one that's gonna be hurting. You're the one gonna be
stressed out. You. So if you empower them, that's on you.
That's all I'm gonna say. Leaving it right there. Thank you so much
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