WEBVTT 1 00:00:06.160 --> 00:00:09.679 Hey guys, Welcome and welcome back to the podcast where your friends Maddie and 2 00:00:09.839 --> 00:00:14.720 Lauren, and we're back for another episode. Today we are recording remotely. 3 00:00:14.800 --> 00:00:20.280 Lauren is off to school. She's living in a hotel. So lovely background. 4 00:00:20.280 --> 00:00:23.039 You've got there, very clean room, thank you, thank you. 5 00:00:23.760 --> 00:00:27.399 So today we're going to talk about how to be cool. I feel like 6 00:00:27.399 --> 00:00:31.480 this is something that you know, everyone's a bit interested in, including myself. 7 00:00:31.559 --> 00:00:34.640 Like if I saw a podcast titled how to be Cool, I'd be 8 00:00:34.679 --> 00:00:38.479 like, maybe I should give this a listen. Agreed. I also feel 9 00:00:38.479 --> 00:00:41.560 like recently, I've heard a lot of people talking about how no one's actually 10 00:00:41.560 --> 00:00:46.439 cool. Like a lot of times what's cool about people is that they're mysterious 11 00:00:46.439 --> 00:00:48.399 and you don't know them that well, and then when you get to know 12 00:00:48.479 --> 00:00:52.880 them, they're not actually that cool and they're pretty normal. Like celebrities are 13 00:00:52.920 --> 00:00:57.200 the perfect example of that, because you could see someone online and think that 14 00:00:57.240 --> 00:01:02.159 they're so cool. Like let's talk about Hailey Bieberford example. So I bet 15 00:01:02.200 --> 00:01:04.079 you if you met Haley bieber and you became her friend, or if you're 16 00:01:04.799 --> 00:01:08.239 someone who's known her for a long time, you would realize that she's just 17 00:01:08.519 --> 00:01:12.719 like everyone else, and she's very normal. And this is my experience with 18 00:01:12.760 --> 00:01:15.560 anyone I've met who if I followed them before, i'd be like, oh 19 00:01:15.599 --> 00:01:19.159 my gosh, they're cool, but then you meet them and you're like, 20 00:01:19.200 --> 00:01:23.239 they're kind of just like everybody else. So I definitely agree with that. 21 00:01:23.400 --> 00:01:29.120 But there are a couple of things that I thought of that make somebody cool 22 00:01:29.200 --> 00:01:32.040 more like in a more normal sense, like people that I know in real 23 00:01:32.079 --> 00:01:34.480 life that I think are cool. These are some common traits with these people. 24 00:01:34.959 --> 00:01:40.359 Yeah, I feel like it's not cool in like, oh my god, 25 00:01:40.439 --> 00:01:42.480 they're awesome and I want to be them kind of way. It's kind 26 00:01:42.480 --> 00:01:46.400 of just cool as in, they're the kind of person I would want to 27 00:01:46.439 --> 00:01:49.120 hang around. Yeah, for sure. Okay, let's get into it, 28 00:01:49.159 --> 00:01:56.120 because I actually could think of quite a few Okay, Okay, So at 29 00:01:56.120 --> 00:02:00.480 the end of the day, I think that being cool equals being confident. 30 00:02:00.120 --> 00:02:06.680 Like the most confident or the most cool people are the most confident people, 31 00:02:06.719 --> 00:02:09.000 the people that just kind of own who they are, own their style, 32 00:02:09.960 --> 00:02:15.960 they don't care to change for other people, and that if it's genuine. 33 00:02:15.000 --> 00:02:20.919 I feel like that is very outwardly expressed and that's kind of like the energy 34 00:02:21.000 --> 00:02:24.439 that people think is cool. I agree. I feel like so many of 35 00:02:24.439 --> 00:02:29.800 my points go back to confidence, but one of my first is actually very 36 00:02:29.840 --> 00:02:32.560 closely related to this, and it is dressing in a way that is authentic 37 00:02:32.639 --> 00:02:38.120 to you. I feel like if you are someone who does this, then 38 00:02:38.159 --> 00:02:42.919 you're probably pretty confident, because people who aren't confident, to me, are 39 00:02:42.919 --> 00:02:46.319 more likely to follow trends because they want to fit in. And yeah, 40 00:02:47.360 --> 00:02:51.800 I think that you can still dress in a way that is authentic to you 41 00:02:51.800 --> 00:02:55.719 and incorporate trends, like if there is a trend that closely aligns with your 42 00:02:55.759 --> 00:02:59.439 style or you're like, oh, I genuinely really like that, and I 43 00:02:59.520 --> 00:03:02.919 think part of this is you, you know, incorporating that trend. But 44 00:03:04.000 --> 00:03:07.960 if you're doing it to fit in because everyone else thinks it's cool, then 45 00:03:08.039 --> 00:03:15.039 I don't think that is very cool. Yeah. On a more micro level, 46 00:03:15.080 --> 00:03:20.360 I said that rather than following trends, look at vintage clothes or like 47 00:03:20.439 --> 00:03:23.680 styles that were popular, you know, twenty years ago, because that's usually 48 00:03:23.680 --> 00:03:29.400 how the fashion cycle goes, Like the what was popular twenty years ago now 49 00:03:29.520 --> 00:03:32.639 is coming back, like compries and off the shoulder and all that, so 50 00:03:34.120 --> 00:03:38.560 I like to look on Pinterest rather than even TikTok because TikTok is like very 51 00:03:38.599 --> 00:03:42.439 generic. I think if you have cool style, usually it's a little bit 52 00:03:42.479 --> 00:03:46.039 different than what everyone else is wearing. Like you're saying, I also said 53 00:03:46.080 --> 00:03:52.199 to stop shopping at generic clothes or generic stores, like the ones that you 54 00:03:52.240 --> 00:03:55.319 find in them all if you can. It's cool to support small businesses or 55 00:03:55.439 --> 00:04:00.159 thrift in general, like better for the environment, better to support small business 56 00:04:00.159 --> 00:04:03.039 and big businesses. And the other plus side is that you have cool stuff 57 00:04:03.039 --> 00:04:08.199 that nobody has. I think, especially when I was younger, one thing 58 00:04:08.280 --> 00:04:11.680 that was important to me, or like it was talked about, was having 59 00:04:11.719 --> 00:04:15.479 clothes that nobody else had, and that was like a cool thing. We 60 00:04:15.479 --> 00:04:17.439 were a uniform for most of school, but I remember people talking about that. 61 00:04:17.519 --> 00:04:23.560 So I think that that's a great way to appear cool, Like to 62 00:04:23.639 --> 00:04:26.519 be cool, you have different clothes, you own your style, and then 63 00:04:26.560 --> 00:04:31.240 you also support small businesses or thrift in the making of that, and it's 64 00:04:31.240 --> 00:04:36.240 like a win win for everyone. M I also feel like places like urban 65 00:04:36.240 --> 00:04:44.079 Outfitters Brandy Melville that all sell similar clothes kind of all follow the same style, 66 00:04:44.240 --> 00:04:47.000 like it's hard and probably to dress in a way that is super authentic 67 00:04:47.040 --> 00:04:51.560 to you if you're only shopping at those places, because if your style is 68 00:04:51.600 --> 00:04:57.160 super like Boho, for example, you're not really going to find those pieces 69 00:04:57.199 --> 00:05:01.000 at those fast fashion retailers, like you'll be way better off looking for pieces 70 00:05:01.040 --> 00:05:04.800 like that at a thrift store, for example. M I think a thrift 71 00:05:04.879 --> 00:05:10.079 store is a great way to be cool because or I guess visiting or shopping 72 00:05:10.120 --> 00:05:14.800 from a thrift store because then you are, like Lauren just said, open 73 00:05:14.879 --> 00:05:17.120 to so many different styles of clothes, like some event's going to be horrible, 74 00:05:17.560 --> 00:05:23.040 but you'll find some gems and it's just different stuff. I think that 75 00:05:23.040 --> 00:05:28.360 that's really cool personally. What's your next point? My next one is caring 76 00:05:28.399 --> 00:05:32.079 about things. I think it's really cool when people have interests and passions and 77 00:05:32.120 --> 00:05:36.560 they're not shy about sharing them, even if they think that other people might 78 00:05:36.600 --> 00:05:42.120 not think that they're cool, because at the end of the day, part 79 00:05:42.160 --> 00:05:44.879 of being cool is not caring what other people think of you, or doing 80 00:05:44.920 --> 00:05:49.040 what you want regardless of what other people think. So I don't know, 81 00:05:49.079 --> 00:05:55.000 I think this is especially cool when it's just like interests and passions that aren't 82 00:05:55.000 --> 00:05:58.240 super popular. Though, if your interests aren't popular, I feel like that's 83 00:05:58.279 --> 00:06:02.000 fine too, and just owning them is the important part. And what's interesting 84 00:06:02.079 --> 00:06:09.000 is I feel like when we think about someone who's really cool in like movies 85 00:06:09.040 --> 00:06:13.360 and stuff, they aren't often portrayed as people who really care about things. 86 00:06:13.519 --> 00:06:15.600 You know. I feel like a lot of times not caring is seen as 87 00:06:15.600 --> 00:06:20.319 cool, but I think it's actually the opposite. Yeah, I said being 88 00:06:20.360 --> 00:06:25.600 unapologetic with your opinions and values, So like owning what you believe in. 89 00:06:26.040 --> 00:06:30.240 I think that caring about fit like stuff like activities or hobbies like you're saying, 90 00:06:30.279 --> 00:06:35.240 is also really cool because I don't know. I think that anything can 91 00:06:35.279 --> 00:06:41.839 be cool if the right people are talking about it, Like things become mainstream 92 00:06:41.920 --> 00:06:45.240 just by people talking about it. So there's nothing that's actually cool or not 93 00:06:45.319 --> 00:06:48.560 cool, Like say, if you're into horses, being a horse girl was 94 00:06:48.639 --> 00:06:51.879 never cool. Somehow it's not cool, like it's the same activity. I 95 00:06:51.879 --> 00:06:57.040 don't know what happened, but it's just like people start to own it and 96 00:06:57.079 --> 00:06:58.759 be like, this is what I like to do, and then people are 97 00:06:58.800 --> 00:07:00.600 like, oh, I think that that's cool. I admire that it's more 98 00:07:00.639 --> 00:07:05.040 of like the owning it that's the cool part, not the actual thing itself. 99 00:07:05.399 --> 00:07:11.959 Agreed for sure. Okay, so my next one is to be friendly, 100 00:07:12.560 --> 00:07:15.639 but not overly friendly, where you're like trying to be friends with everyone. 101 00:07:15.959 --> 00:07:18.959 So it's a fine line, like be approachable, be a nice person, 102 00:07:19.160 --> 00:07:24.160 have a smile on your face, but you don't have desperate energy, 103 00:07:24.399 --> 00:07:27.600 you know, Like I'm always trying to make new friends, but if I 104 00:07:27.639 --> 00:07:30.000 don't click with someone, I don't care if they like me or not. 105 00:07:30.240 --> 00:07:33.040 Like it all comes back to being yourself, I think, and the right 106 00:07:33.040 --> 00:07:38.040 people will find you, like you'll attract each other. But I always try 107 00:07:38.120 --> 00:07:41.920 to be friendly at first, like nice enough, and then if I click 108 00:07:41.959 --> 00:07:44.839 with someone, I'll pursue the relationship further. But I'm not trying to be 109 00:07:44.839 --> 00:07:47.240 friends with everyone. I don't care. Yeah, I agree with that. 110 00:07:47.360 --> 00:07:54.360 I think that when people are too persistent that isn't that isn't very cool. 111 00:07:54.360 --> 00:07:59.000 And also if it's like you're changing yourself to try to be friends with a 112 00:07:59.000 --> 00:08:03.759 group of people, that's not something a cool girl would do. Yeah, 113 00:08:03.759 --> 00:08:07.480 it's very true. I also said on the topic of other people, be 114 00:08:07.639 --> 00:08:13.160 nice to people who can do nothing for you. I think that is a 115 00:08:13.240 --> 00:08:18.199 cool thing, Like if this is like a classic example, but if you're 116 00:08:18.800 --> 00:08:22.439 rude to a waiter, I think that that is the most uncool thing, 117 00:08:22.560 --> 00:08:26.120 Like people that are ride to people that they see as below them, Like 118 00:08:26.240 --> 00:08:31.240 that to me is horrible and so uncool, like I can't even explain it. 119 00:08:31.200 --> 00:08:33.960 No, I fully agree with that. And another one that I thought 120 00:08:35.000 --> 00:08:41.679 of that also relates to how you treat other people is don't be judgmental of 121 00:08:41.720 --> 00:08:45.480 what other people think is cool. Let other people enjoy what they want, 122 00:08:46.000 --> 00:08:50.519 and also recognize that you can learn things from other people. So I think 123 00:08:50.519 --> 00:08:58.840 a cool girl or a cool person is like outspoken and not shy about what 124 00:08:58.879 --> 00:09:01.039 they think is cool and what they're interested in, and they don't judge other 125 00:09:01.039 --> 00:09:07.519 people for having different interests and also speaking out about their interests. Yeah, 126 00:09:07.519 --> 00:09:11.679 I think being judgmental is a sign of insecurity, Like if you are happy 127 00:09:11.720 --> 00:09:15.279 with yourself and what you're doing, you don't really care what people are doing. 128 00:09:15.320 --> 00:09:18.000 You kind of can just celebrate people for their accomplishments. You don't feel 129 00:09:18.039 --> 00:09:22.639 threatened by them. I think it's always really a sign of insecurity, and 130 00:09:24.519 --> 00:09:26.200 everyone has a level of it. But I don't think it's cool to put 131 00:09:26.240 --> 00:09:31.600 people down to make yourself feel better. Another friend related thing that I wrote 132 00:09:31.600 --> 00:09:37.960 down is have friends with a wide variety of interests or like, meet people 133 00:09:37.000 --> 00:09:41.159 in a lot of different spaces so that you are more like exposed to more 134 00:09:41.159 --> 00:09:48.200 opinions and perspectives. I think that it's cool when somebody can talk to anyone 135 00:09:48.399 --> 00:09:52.840 like, how do you explain this? Like, you are able to relate 136 00:09:52.919 --> 00:09:54.960 and talk to people who are different than you, And I think that that 137 00:09:56.000 --> 00:10:01.320 goes back to having friends that can provide you with different perspectives and going off 138 00:10:01.360 --> 00:10:05.399 of that, I think it's cool when people aren't so caught up in their 139 00:10:05.440 --> 00:10:09.279 own friend group and aren't aren't like, oh, I have my own friends, 140 00:10:09.279 --> 00:10:11.360 so I don't need to talk to people who aren't my close friends. 141 00:10:11.200 --> 00:10:16.840 Like recognizing that you can converse with people who aren't your best friends. Maybe 142 00:10:16.879 --> 00:10:20.679 they will turn into your friends, maybe they won't, but you're just like 143 00:10:20.759 --> 00:10:24.120 open to that even if they are people who aren't super similar to you. 144 00:10:24.600 --> 00:10:30.240 Another one I have on the topic of friends is being reliable. I feel 145 00:10:30.279 --> 00:10:33.080 like I've probably talked about this on the podcast, but being able to rely 146 00:10:33.200 --> 00:10:37.840 on my friends is really important to me. So I just said, being 147 00:10:37.879 --> 00:10:41.159 there for your friends, following through with the things you commit to, I 148 00:10:41.200 --> 00:10:46.360 think that's cool. I don't think flakey people are cool. M Yeah, 149 00:10:46.519 --> 00:10:50.080 like, be a good person, be a friend that you would want to 150 00:10:50.120 --> 00:10:52.440 have, and don't be so caught up in your own world that you put 151 00:10:54.000 --> 00:10:58.279 your self and the important things to you over the important things to other people. 152 00:10:58.320 --> 00:11:01.240 And going off what you just said, I think that it's cool when 153 00:11:01.240 --> 00:11:05.759 you tell someone something You're like, oh, I have this big test coming 154 00:11:05.840 --> 00:11:07.279 up, for example, and then they text you and they're like, oh 155 00:11:07.279 --> 00:11:11.000 my gosh, how did it go? Like when they remember things about you 156 00:11:11.279 --> 00:11:13.759 because they have been listening to you and they care about you. Yeah, 157 00:11:13.840 --> 00:11:18.679 I definitely agree. So the next thing that I was thinking is, or 158 00:11:18.759 --> 00:11:22.000 what I wrote down in my notes, is if you can travel. I 159 00:11:22.039 --> 00:11:26.080 know that this is obviously easier said than done. I just think traveling or 160 00:11:26.120 --> 00:11:31.399 being exposed to a wide variety of places, people, cultures makes you a 161 00:11:31.399 --> 00:11:35.840 more well rounded person. So I know that that's like a hard one to 162 00:11:35.840 --> 00:11:39.360 implement, like way harder than the rest of them. But traveling, to 163 00:11:39.399 --> 00:11:41.799 me is something that I value a lot, and it's something I want to 164 00:11:41.840 --> 00:11:48.919 continue and also share with my future kids when they are younger to you, 165 00:11:48.039 --> 00:11:52.559 like, I hope to be able to travel with my own family because that's 166 00:11:52.559 --> 00:11:56.600 something I really value from my childhood. Yeah, obviously this is a more 167 00:11:56.639 --> 00:11:58.759 difficult one to do, but I think that if you aren't able to travel, 168 00:12:00.720 --> 00:12:05.879 just taking the time to learn about other cultures. So even if you 169 00:12:05.919 --> 00:12:09.639 can't speak about your personal experiences when something like that comes up in conversation, 170 00:12:11.120 --> 00:12:13.919 you are able to talk about things you know about certain cultures. Or even 171 00:12:13.919 --> 00:12:16.919 if it's not like, oh, this is what I learned about that, 172 00:12:16.320 --> 00:12:22.240 you're just not You're not shocked at the information that people are telling you. 173 00:12:22.240 --> 00:12:24.200 You know, and you maybe have something to contribute to the conversation in some 174 00:12:24.279 --> 00:12:28.960 way because you've taken the time to either go on vacation there and learn about 175 00:12:28.960 --> 00:12:33.039 the culture, or you've done your own research at home, you've watched documentaries, 176 00:12:33.039 --> 00:12:37.480 whatever it might be. I think, honestly, a lot of people 177 00:12:37.519 --> 00:12:41.720 don't even know where certain countries are, like which continent countries are in, 178 00:12:41.799 --> 00:12:46.360 how many continents there are, what are they called? Like, I guess 179 00:12:46.399 --> 00:12:48.720 I don't know if we don't learn that in school. I think I took 180 00:12:48.799 --> 00:12:52.120 one geography class, but we don't learn that much about other countries, so 181 00:12:52.120 --> 00:12:56.159 you kind of have to go out of your way. And I think doing 182 00:12:56.200 --> 00:13:00.600 that in whatever way it makes sense for you is really valuable and it's really 183 00:13:00.600 --> 00:13:03.519 cool. It makes you a cool person if you're able to contribute to conversations. 184 00:13:03.440 --> 00:13:07.960 M Yeah, I see that come up all the time when I'm in 185 00:13:07.000 --> 00:13:11.480 the US, And for example, I was talking to Darian about this and 186 00:13:11.519 --> 00:13:13.960 she was like, people genuinely think it snows for most of the year, 187 00:13:15.080 --> 00:13:18.840 like almost year round, and they don't realize that it gets as hot in 188 00:13:18.960 --> 00:13:24.039 Toronto as it does here sometimes in the summer. So that, for example, 189 00:13:24.200 --> 00:13:28.000 is something that isn't that difficult to find out about, and you just 190 00:13:28.600 --> 00:13:35.120 seem more educated and worldly if that's something that you know before going into a 191 00:13:35.120 --> 00:13:41.320 conversation. Yeah, definitely having knowledge about things like that aren't in your own 192 00:13:41.360 --> 00:13:46.000 personal life is super cool. Something kind of related to that is reading. 193 00:13:46.159 --> 00:13:52.639 I think reading is very helpful and it makes you seem really cool because, 194 00:13:52.320 --> 00:13:56.080 like we're just saying, you're able to contribute to conversations way better than if 195 00:13:56.080 --> 00:14:01.799 you're someone who doesn't read or doesn't consume information. Because, as you know, 196 00:14:01.960 --> 00:14:05.360 sometimes people are talking about things like current events politics. If you have 197 00:14:05.399 --> 00:14:09.200 an opinion that is based in fact, I think that it's really cool. 198 00:14:09.279 --> 00:14:13.639 Like if I'm talking to someone and they know what they're talking about about, 199 00:14:13.679 --> 00:14:18.919 like say American politics, even if their perspective is different than mine, if 200 00:14:18.919 --> 00:14:22.559 they're able to back it up with actual information, I'm like, yeah, 201 00:14:22.600 --> 00:14:26.039 that's cool. We don't have to agree on everything, but at least you 202 00:14:26.080 --> 00:14:28.919 have something to say. Yeah, that's something that we didn't mention when we 203 00:14:28.919 --> 00:14:33.600 were talking about opinions earlier. But honestly, I think one of the worst 204 00:14:33.600 --> 00:14:39.679 things is when people are super opinionated but they either have no information to back 205 00:14:39.720 --> 00:14:43.600 up what they're saying or misinformation. It's like, at that point it's better 206 00:14:43.639 --> 00:14:48.080 to be quiet. So I think it's cool if you genuinely know what you're 207 00:14:48.120 --> 00:14:54.840 talking about. Obviously, some things are well I guess, I guess maybe 208 00:14:54.879 --> 00:14:58.639 opinion isn't the right word to use, because an opinion is something that you 209 00:15:00.080 --> 00:15:03.000 come up with on your own, and when it comes to like fashion, 210 00:15:03.320 --> 00:15:07.360 you don't need to have facts to back up why you like certain things. 211 00:15:07.440 --> 00:15:13.440 But when you are saying that something is a fact, I think it's cool 212 00:15:13.480 --> 00:15:16.919 to make sure that you know what you're talking about first. Yeah, it's 213 00:15:16.960 --> 00:15:24.080 mostly about controversial topics where this comes into play, like if you're discussing politics, 214 00:15:24.159 --> 00:15:28.519 religion, money, like stuff like that where people people are usually just 215 00:15:28.559 --> 00:15:33.080 avoid it because it's a rabbit hole of sorts. Everyone has different perspectives or 216 00:15:33.080 --> 00:15:39.320 opinions. But I think it's cool if you're able to talk about important topics 217 00:15:39.879 --> 00:15:45.360 in a way that is mature and calm, and you have facts to support 218 00:15:45.360 --> 00:15:48.799 your opinions about things. I think it's a very cool thing. Agreed. 219 00:15:50.919 --> 00:15:56.840 Another one that I thought of is just being chill. We would talk about 220 00:15:56.840 --> 00:16:00.879 this phone on the podcast. But it's important not to let the people control 221 00:16:00.960 --> 00:16:03.480 you. We always say you can't control other people's actions, but you can 222 00:16:03.480 --> 00:16:08.120 control your reactions. And I think it's cool to not let other people dictate 223 00:16:08.440 --> 00:16:14.519 how you feel all the time. M Yeah, I agree. I think 224 00:16:14.559 --> 00:16:18.240 it's also nice or cool when people don't let things shake them, Like if 225 00:16:18.279 --> 00:16:22.320 you have the ability to zoom out and put things into perspective, I think 226 00:16:22.320 --> 00:16:26.039 you're able to just live away more chill life and then you're not a person 227 00:16:26.080 --> 00:16:30.799 who is high strung. And I think yeah, Like you're saying, it's 228 00:16:32.039 --> 00:16:36.399 it's cool to be chill to a certain extent care about important things, but 229 00:16:36.440 --> 00:16:40.519 if something is like not that important in the grand scheme of things, the 230 00:16:40.559 --> 00:16:45.080 ability to move on is a very cool trait. Our parents always say pick 231 00:16:45.120 --> 00:16:48.519 your battles. I feel like that's something that they said when they were raising 232 00:16:48.600 --> 00:16:52.000 us. They're like, oh, I'm not going to freak out about this 233 00:16:52.039 --> 00:16:55.200 thing that one of my kids did because I'm picking my battles. I think 234 00:16:55.200 --> 00:17:00.039 it's. Yeah, it's important to let some things go and just not to 235 00:17:00.120 --> 00:17:03.680 let other people have too much power over you. Like you gain so much 236 00:17:03.759 --> 00:17:11.039 more control over your own life when you approach things from a more calm place. 237 00:17:11.279 --> 00:17:15.400 Well, it's kind of like choosing peace for yourself. Like I say 238 00:17:15.440 --> 00:17:19.039 this a lot. Yeah, Actually, in my relationship, I'm like, 239 00:17:19.480 --> 00:17:23.079 I am choosing peace. I'm not going to do this thing. I'm not 240 00:17:23.119 --> 00:17:26.160 going to look at your phone because I'm choosing peace. Like you just have 241 00:17:26.200 --> 00:17:30.920 to sometimes not get into fights, not bring things up, let things go. 242 00:17:32.839 --> 00:17:36.920 If something happens, like you miss your flight, don't let it ruin 243 00:17:36.960 --> 00:17:40.799 your day. Like you control how much peace you have in your life at 244 00:17:40.799 --> 00:17:42.920 the end, of the day, so don't let things affect you too much 245 00:17:42.960 --> 00:17:47.720 if you can. My next one is to generally just take care of yourself. 246 00:17:48.000 --> 00:17:52.119 I think it's cool when people work out, eat healthy, have their 247 00:17:52.160 --> 00:17:55.720 nails done. Lauren does our own nails, so it doesn't necessarily need to 248 00:17:55.720 --> 00:18:00.359 be like a professional manicure, but I think it's it's cool in this to 249 00:18:00.440 --> 00:18:04.559 care about your health and to a certain extent, the way that you look. 250 00:18:04.640 --> 00:18:07.920 Like if somebody came into my class, let's say, and they had 251 00:18:08.440 --> 00:18:11.680 like some light makeup on and their hair done, I'd be like, that 252 00:18:11.720 --> 00:18:15.799 person is cool, like they've got their life together. And then I'd probably 253 00:18:15.839 --> 00:18:18.519 be like, Okay, I need to start doing that. That would be 254 00:18:18.559 --> 00:18:21.400 something that like a trait that I would want to have, is like the 255 00:18:21.440 --> 00:18:25.920 ability to wake up in the morning, get ready and get on with my 256 00:18:26.000 --> 00:18:30.319 day. And I think there are some things that just show that that person 257 00:18:30.359 --> 00:18:36.519 cares about themselves, Like if someone seems well rested and they have a lot 258 00:18:36.519 --> 00:18:38.880 of energy, it's like, Okay, that person is making sure that they 259 00:18:38.880 --> 00:18:42.200 get enough sleep. And obviously there are some things that you can't control, 260 00:18:42.359 --> 00:18:47.039 like some people simply don't have time to sleep for eight hours a night, 261 00:18:47.079 --> 00:18:49.680 like they have a lot of the they're working, they have kids, whatever. 262 00:18:49.960 --> 00:18:53.920 But I think as much as you are able to making those choices for 263 00:18:53.960 --> 00:19:00.960 yourself, it's cool. Yeah, prioritize yourself. Yeah. I just think 264 00:19:00.960 --> 00:19:07.559 it's cool to have things together to feel and appear like you're not living in 265 00:19:07.599 --> 00:19:12.599 a stressful state, which is different for everyone. But whatever you can do 266 00:19:14.000 --> 00:19:18.160 to make your life less stressful. And I don't know, I guess it's 267 00:19:18.200 --> 00:19:21.960 just appearing put together, being put together that personally makes me feel cool. 268 00:19:21.960 --> 00:19:25.200 When I can walk into a room and feel confident because I did my hair 269 00:19:25.200 --> 00:19:26.920 and makeup and like, I just know that I look good, like, 270 00:19:26.920 --> 00:19:30.640 it just makes me feel cool. So that's something I would definitely suggest. 271 00:19:32.759 --> 00:19:36.880 It's funny because at first glance, my next one seems contradictory to what you 272 00:19:36.920 --> 00:19:40.960 just said. But I agree with both of these points. So I agree 273 00:19:41.000 --> 00:19:42.920 with what you said. But I also don't like when people try to seem 274 00:19:44.000 --> 00:19:48.359 too perfect when you actually get to know someone and you're trying to connect with 275 00:19:48.400 --> 00:19:52.799 them and they just won't admit that they have faults, because no one's perfect. 276 00:19:52.839 --> 00:19:56.480 It's not cool, and pretending to be only makes it more difficult for 277 00:19:56.480 --> 00:19:59.680 people to get to know you and really connect with you because they just won't 278 00:19:59.720 --> 00:20:03.799 feel like they're getting to know the real version of you. They'll feel like 279 00:20:03.880 --> 00:20:07.519 you are putting on a front, which I think if you're trying to seem 280 00:20:07.519 --> 00:20:11.039 perfect, you kind of are. Yeah, for sure. I think on 281 00:20:11.200 --> 00:20:15.680 a personal level, you need to be able to share your true self. 282 00:20:15.039 --> 00:20:19.039 It's cool when you're able to connect with someone as a friend or whatever. 283 00:20:19.279 --> 00:20:22.480 Like, you can't get to know someone if they don't open up to you. 284 00:20:23.160 --> 00:20:27.240 So I totally agree if someone's able to show vulnerability, I think that's 285 00:20:27.279 --> 00:20:32.039 cool, and I know it's hard, but I totally agree with that point. 286 00:20:32.039 --> 00:20:36.319 It's not even like having your hair and makeup done is not appearing perfect. 287 00:20:36.319 --> 00:20:41.200 It's appearing like put together, like you've planned this out. Like. 288 00:20:41.240 --> 00:20:45.799 I think it's the intention behind that that I think is cool. But appearing 289 00:20:45.839 --> 00:20:48.519 perfect in life is not cool because nobody's perfect. Like you just said, 290 00:20:49.720 --> 00:20:55.640 yeah, I think, especially when it comes to admitting that sometimes they're wrong, 291 00:20:56.400 --> 00:21:00.359 which is something I struggle with, not actually like most people will do. 292 00:21:00.680 --> 00:21:03.880 I feel like I'm quick to apologize about things when I realize I'm in 293 00:21:03.880 --> 00:21:07.680 the wrong, but I don't. I don't love when people are like, 294 00:21:07.400 --> 00:21:11.759 oh, that was not my fault at all in every situation, Like, 295 00:21:11.880 --> 00:21:17.200 sometimes it is your fault and it's okay to admit that. Yeah. This 296 00:21:17.279 --> 00:21:19.720 is also hard for me because I generally feel like I have done the right 297 00:21:19.759 --> 00:21:23.200 thing, So that's hard. It's hard when you feel like you've done the 298 00:21:23.240 --> 00:21:29.400 right thing to admit that you're wrong. But it's usually not one hundred percent 299 00:21:29.680 --> 00:21:33.480 one person's fault. I think it's usually somewhere in the middle. So agreed 300 00:21:33.519 --> 00:21:37.440 with that as well. My last one is just stepping out of your comfort 301 00:21:37.519 --> 00:21:44.759 zone. I think it's cool when people live a life that is dynamic and 302 00:21:44.839 --> 00:21:47.880 unique, and I always admire people who are doing something different than the rest 303 00:21:47.920 --> 00:21:51.799 of their peers or like people their age. I think, especially when it 304 00:21:51.839 --> 00:21:55.559 comes to career. If you think about the people that you admire in a 305 00:21:55.599 --> 00:22:00.200 career sense, it's usually someone who's like challenging the status quo or like doing 306 00:22:00.200 --> 00:22:06.480 something different. I don't know how like other specific examples, but I would 307 00:22:06.480 --> 00:22:08.680 say in general and life, stepping out of your comfort zone makes other people 308 00:22:08.680 --> 00:22:11.799 think that you're cool, and you feel cool because you're doing something different and 309 00:22:11.920 --> 00:22:17.000 growing within yourself. Yeah. I like that. That's come up a lot 310 00:22:17.039 --> 00:22:18.920 recently because I feel like that's important. We've been talking about it on the 311 00:22:18.920 --> 00:22:25.279 podcast. But definitely agree, and I think that first the end of the 312 00:22:25.279 --> 00:22:29.640 episode. Yeah, that was a great one. Hopefully you guys feel super 313 00:22:29.680 --> 00:22:32.960 cool. Before we go, Do we have time for a quick life update? 314 00:22:33.000 --> 00:22:37.079 We have about four minutes, so I actually have no updates. Really. 315 00:22:37.119 --> 00:22:41.759 I talked about my birthday and since then, I've just been working and 316 00:22:42.000 --> 00:22:45.319 getting back into things. So you take it away, Lauren, because you 317 00:22:45.359 --> 00:22:51.839 have more of a transition going on right now. Okay, Well, Sunday, 318 00:22:51.920 --> 00:22:56.480 I moved into my hotel. It's looking like I'll be here for three 319 00:22:56.519 --> 00:23:00.880 more weeks, but I'll keep you guys update on whether that changes. But 320 00:23:00.960 --> 00:23:03.559 honestly, so far, it's been kind of cool. I have been able 321 00:23:03.599 --> 00:23:07.039 to hang out with my friends a lot, which is great. We're all 322 00:23:07.079 --> 00:23:10.279 pretty close. We're like not on the same floor or anything, but all 323 00:23:10.279 --> 00:23:14.960 in the same hotel. And it's also fun because we get to order food 324 00:23:14.960 --> 00:23:18.400 for like every meal or go out for dinner together, so we've been doing 325 00:23:18.440 --> 00:23:22.599 a lot of bonding. It's just nice to see everyone again, and I've 326 00:23:22.599 --> 00:23:26.480 had most of my classes. Now I have a guitar class to where for 327 00:23:26.480 --> 00:23:30.400 the first time, But other than that, I've had all of my classes 328 00:23:30.240 --> 00:23:34.440 and met some cool people. I Actually, this is kind of a funny 329 00:23:34.480 --> 00:23:38.000 story. I met a girl in my math class, literally the only girl 330 00:23:38.000 --> 00:23:41.400 in the class that I had talked to because we were sitting next to each 331 00:23:41.400 --> 00:23:42.799 other, and I was like, Oh, she's so nice. Whatever. 332 00:23:44.200 --> 00:23:48.039 And then later that day I went to my stats class for the first day 333 00:23:48.480 --> 00:23:52.759 and I met this girl and then she's telling me about her sister. She's 334 00:23:52.799 --> 00:23:55.640 like, Oh, my sister's really struggling in this math class. And I 335 00:23:55.680 --> 00:23:57.400 was like, Oh, what math is your sister taking? She tells me 336 00:23:57.480 --> 00:24:00.279 what math it is. It's the only girl I met in my math class. 337 00:24:00.359 --> 00:24:03.960 Their sisters so weird, so weird. But anyway, I look alike, 338 00:24:04.359 --> 00:24:11.119 uh like kind of, I guess, but not exactly, Like I 339 00:24:11.160 --> 00:24:15.440 would never have known if they if she hadn't said, but how did you 340 00:24:15.480 --> 00:24:18.680 figure out that they were sisters? Because she was telling me about her math 341 00:24:18.680 --> 00:24:21.039 class and then I was like, what math is she taking? And I 342 00:24:21.200 --> 00:24:22.480 was like, I'm in that math. And then I asked what her sister's 343 00:24:22.519 --> 00:24:27.240 name was, and then maybe I knew her. I said, Oh, 344 00:24:27.279 --> 00:24:30.440 that's the only girl that I know. I was like, oh my god, 345 00:24:30.440 --> 00:24:34.799 I sit next to her. That's so weird. Small world. Maybe 346 00:24:34.799 --> 00:24:40.240 you're vibe with their energy as a family. So true. I can't wait 347 00:24:40.279 --> 00:24:45.480 to meet their parents. It must be a sign from the universe. Definitely. 348 00:24:45.640 --> 00:24:48.839 Wow, how exciting. Yeah, I'm trying to think if there's anything 349 00:24:48.839 --> 00:24:55.559 else eventful. Nothing's standing out to me. There's like, there's not that 350 00:24:55.640 --> 00:24:57.440 much going on this week. It's been a pretty slow week, no work 351 00:24:57.559 --> 00:25:02.559 yet, but there's a bunch of of like frat rush events, so my 352 00:25:02.599 --> 00:25:06.039 friends and I will probably go to that later this week. It just feels 353 00:25:06.079 --> 00:25:08.400 wrong to do that on a Monday or Tuesday, so we'll see as we 354 00:25:08.400 --> 00:25:11.480 get closer to the weekend. Then this weekend, I'm going to my first 355 00:25:11.559 --> 00:25:15.920 USC football game, which I'm excited about. So I'll let you guys know 356 00:25:15.960 --> 00:25:21.359 how that is. How exciting sounds like you're a real college girl. Now. 357 00:25:21.440 --> 00:25:26.119 Oh yeah, I'm going to Palm Springs this weekend on a wellness retreat, 358 00:25:26.240 --> 00:25:30.319 so I will have some exciting updates from that on next week's episode. 359 00:25:30.839 --> 00:25:36.839 More to come. Awesome. I look forward to it all right. Well, 360 00:25:37.000 --> 00:25:38.319 that's it for this episode. Thank you guys so much for listening, 361 00:25:38.359 --> 00:25:40.480 and we'll talk to you next week.