WEBVTT 1 00:00:00.480 --> 00:00:04.759 Oh, Live from the Plaza Hotel ballroom in the heart of New York City. 2 00:00:05.120 --> 00:00:10.880 Welcome to a special edition of Always in Fashion tonight. It's Jesse and 3 00:00:11.119 --> 00:00:17.679 Haley's wedding. Who is Mark Webber. He's a self made business executive here 4 00:00:17.719 --> 00:00:22.120 to help you find your success from the New York City projects to the Avenue 5 00:00:22.160 --> 00:00:27.280 Montaigne in Paris. His global success story in the luxury world of fashion is 6 00:00:27.399 --> 00:00:33.600 inspiration off. He's gone from clerk to CEO twice. Mark is classic proof 7 00:00:33.880 --> 00:00:38.399 that the American dream is alive. And well, here's your host of Always 8 00:00:38.439 --> 00:00:44.600 in Fashion, Mark Webber. Weber the reason, gentlemen. Yes, welcome 9 00:00:44.640 --> 00:00:49.600 to Always Fashion. It is a special edition. My son Jesse Webber married 10 00:00:49.880 --> 00:00:55.679 just moments ago the former Miss Hailey Siegel and now mister and missus Jesse Webber 11 00:00:55.719 --> 00:01:00.880 are here with two hundred and fifty guests, orchestra, chamber music, all 12 00:01:00.960 --> 00:01:04.959 kinds of things going on at this wedding. And I am chosen now to 13 00:01:06.000 --> 00:01:11.359 speak. I used to be important, I used to be relevant. I 14 00:01:11.480 --> 00:01:15.439 no longer I am. It's just the way of the world as it goes. 15 00:01:17.159 --> 00:01:19.680 I used to be a master of the universe. I used to be 16 00:01:19.719 --> 00:01:23.439 a big shot. And I'll never forget how people would knock over people. 17 00:01:23.920 --> 00:01:30.959 They would push my children aside to get and shake my hand. Now they 18 00:01:30.000 --> 00:01:36.120 pushed me aside to get to my children. Now I am irrelevant. I'm 19 00:01:36.159 --> 00:01:40.120 cellophane. I've been thinking maybe I should rob a bank. The cameras wouldn't 20 00:01:40.159 --> 00:01:46.719 pick me up. Nobody sees me anymore. But tonight there is a difference. 21 00:01:47.640 --> 00:01:53.519 I am relevant because I'm here as a father. I've getten a great 22 00:01:53.560 --> 00:01:57.239 deal of thought to what I want to say Tonight. It's a night for 23 00:01:57.359 --> 00:02:02.840 a celebration, and it's a night for introspection. As a father, I 24 00:02:02.920 --> 00:02:07.719 have insights and I have many lessons, and that's what I want to dress 25 00:02:07.800 --> 00:02:16.000 First. I was never ready to be a father, but you become one. 26 00:02:16.360 --> 00:02:20.800 But the one thing I never expected, the one thing I wasn't preferred 27 00:02:20.800 --> 00:02:24.879 for when being a father, was starting my life all over again. I 28 00:02:25.000 --> 00:02:30.680 worked so hard to find success in my career. I remember so clearly. 29 00:02:30.479 --> 00:02:36.719 After working for the first fifteen or twenty years, I finally felt successful for 30 00:02:36.759 --> 00:02:40.199 the first time. I actually drove to Brooklyn, to the city projects, 31 00:02:40.560 --> 00:02:44.400 right to the building I grew up in. I got out of my car. 32 00:02:45.000 --> 00:02:47.800 I stood up and looked at the apartment windows where I grew up, 33 00:02:47.800 --> 00:02:52.560 and I screamed out, I will never have to come back to the projects. 34 00:02:52.599 --> 00:02:55.199 I've made it. Then one day I wake up and now I'm worrying 35 00:02:55.280 --> 00:02:59.240 all over again because I'm a father, and this time I'm worrying for my 36 00:02:59.280 --> 00:03:05.159 sons. I wasn't prepared. I didn't expect it. However, after college, 37 00:03:05.199 --> 00:03:07.199 after law school, after the boys passing the bar, both of them, 38 00:03:07.360 --> 00:03:12.919 Uncle Crea pass for success, and it's one less thing for a father 39 00:03:13.039 --> 00:03:17.759 to have to worry about. I've learned by experience that the single most important 40 00:03:17.800 --> 00:03:23.039 decision, however, you'll make in your life is deciding who you spend your 41 00:03:23.039 --> 00:03:27.719 life with. Me. I never had to think about this when I was 42 00:03:27.759 --> 00:03:30.439 running around and I was single. I've found my soul mate. And then 43 00:03:30.520 --> 00:03:34.000 one day, as a father, here i am. I'm worried for my 44 00:03:34.120 --> 00:03:37.159 sons. Will they meet the right women? Will they have happy lives? 45 00:03:37.400 --> 00:03:43.560 I thought I was done, but nope, I wasn't prepared. Fathers have 46 00:03:43.719 --> 00:03:49.560 to worry. Now I have two sons, two daughter in laws. I'm 47 00:03:49.639 --> 00:03:54.280 deede to two little boys. Jarard found ena perfect Jesse chose Haley perfect. 48 00:03:55.360 --> 00:04:01.120 I wish it was, but fatherhood is not so simple more. It seems, 49 00:04:01.199 --> 00:04:04.039 as I said, I don't know if I'm smart. I know I'm 50 00:04:04.039 --> 00:04:09.879 well trained, and now I know how to navigate life. I was always 51 00:04:09.919 --> 00:04:15.159 aware that my sons would choose right from wrong, but I need it well 52 00:04:15.199 --> 00:04:19.959 before I need. Everyone needs mentors, We all need role models. Even 53 00:04:20.000 --> 00:04:24.839 more importantly for me, I needed my sons to respect me, not for 54 00:04:25.040 --> 00:04:28.920 me, for them. I had to be able to guide my sons, 55 00:04:28.959 --> 00:04:30.519 and the only way to do it is if they'd be interested. In my 56 00:04:30.639 --> 00:04:34.759 opinion, that's what you have to do for the well being of your children. 57 00:04:35.240 --> 00:04:40.279 A father's responsibility is to teach to be the calm like an eagle flying 58 00:04:40.319 --> 00:04:45.519 through a snowstorm. Your children need to know you're there. Unconditionally, I 59 00:04:45.680 --> 00:04:49.920 reached a pinnacle. I won the game of corporate life. I became president, 60 00:04:50.040 --> 00:04:54.680 CEO, board member. Yeah, I was a big shot, but 61 00:04:54.759 --> 00:05:00.480 I was also a father, and thank god, I knew that I used 62 00:05:00.519 --> 00:05:03.879 my success to ensure that I could be with my children, that I could 63 00:05:03.920 --> 00:05:09.439 be with the boys anytime I had a support and speech to give the boys 64 00:05:09.439 --> 00:05:15.759 were there. Sales meetings one hundred and ten people, regional managers, salesman 65 00:05:15.920 --> 00:05:20.519 executives. When we selected the site for our sales meetings, it was clear, 66 00:05:20.519 --> 00:05:25.959 if you get Mark Webber, you get his sons. Whoever was asked 67 00:05:26.000 --> 00:05:31.079 to arrange the agreement between us and the hotel knew that they had to orchestrate 68 00:05:31.079 --> 00:05:34.839 a deal with the hotel that my sons would have access to wherever I went. 69 00:05:35.399 --> 00:05:38.600 So if we're going to be in the bar, they had to have 70 00:05:38.720 --> 00:05:41.600 access. If they're going to in the ballrooms, they had to have access. 71 00:05:41.639 --> 00:05:45.480 And that's the way it was. My sons always were there with me 72 00:05:45.600 --> 00:05:51.120 to hear me speak. Might explain why they're so articulate themselves. When I 73 00:05:51.160 --> 00:05:57.079 became CEO at the annual shareholders meeting, Jesse was in the audience. When 74 00:05:57.079 --> 00:06:00.120 I had board meetings in Paris with Louis Vuitton moet Henness, Jesse and Jared 75 00:06:00.240 --> 00:06:03.519 both got to see it. They sat at it and listen. Yeah, 76 00:06:03.639 --> 00:06:08.079 this explains in part why they can speak so well. But I'll tell you 77 00:06:08.240 --> 00:06:13.600 something that probably was even more important. This big shot knew his place in 78 00:06:13.720 --> 00:06:17.920 life. Family came first. I made sure I made time for the family. 79 00:06:18.560 --> 00:06:23.199 What's the benefit of success if you couldn't break away to spend time with 80 00:06:23.319 --> 00:06:29.319 your family. Don Corleone speaking to Johnny Fontaine, do you spend time with 81 00:06:29.480 --> 00:06:33.759 your family? Sure? I do. Godfather good because a man who doesn't 82 00:06:33.800 --> 00:06:40.800 spend time with his family can never be a real man. My wife she 83 00:06:41.000 --> 00:06:44.240 made sure I knew how to be a father. I never missed a soccer 84 00:06:44.319 --> 00:06:46.279 game. I never missed a baseball game. A father needs to know what's 85 00:06:46.319 --> 00:06:53.160 important in life. It's simple. It's family and speaking family. Jesse, 86 00:06:53.279 --> 00:06:55.920 I know you just got married an hour ago, and far be it from 87 00:06:55.959 --> 00:06:58.439 me to press you to tell you what to do. But you're the next 88 00:06:58.480 --> 00:07:02.199 web father too, will have responsibility to send an example from your children. 89 00:07:02.319 --> 00:07:08.120 All of you guys in the audience have that responsibility. I mentioned my wife. 90 00:07:08.959 --> 00:07:12.439 She made me what I am today. She made me when I met 91 00:07:12.519 --> 00:07:15.959 my wife had a great smile. That's it. She taught me substance. 92 00:07:16.120 --> 00:07:23.079 Jesse insisted that his mom beyond the invitation for this wedding, good for him. 93 00:07:23.519 --> 00:07:27.800 He's already a better guy than me. If you know our family, 94 00:07:27.920 --> 00:07:31.120 you know it's always going to be about Susie Mammy, Susie Grandma, Susie, 95 00:07:31.279 --> 00:07:35.279 Aunt, Susie, my Susie. She put this thing together. She 96 00:07:35.560 --> 00:07:40.120 taught us what was important. She taught me to be a father. Susie 97 00:07:40.240 --> 00:07:44.199 responsible for our family. So I may have been the provider. She was 98 00:07:44.279 --> 00:07:47.519 the teacher and the architect and the brains behind the Webbers. So of course 99 00:07:47.560 --> 00:07:51.399 on Jesse's wedding day we think of her, how fortunate we were to have 100 00:07:51.560 --> 00:07:58.360 had her in our life. Susie. Jesse was her baby. Jaredy, 101 00:07:58.439 --> 00:08:01.079 even as a little boy, already had my swagger. I've always called him 102 00:08:01.160 --> 00:08:05.879 the new improved version of me. He's just like me. And she would 103 00:08:05.920 --> 00:08:09.000 say to me, you got your clutches in, Jared, because she had 104 00:08:09.040 --> 00:08:13.120 to deal with both of us. We were a team. Jesse is mine. 105 00:08:13.480 --> 00:08:18.519 Stay away from him. She loved her little baby. When Jesse was 106 00:08:18.600 --> 00:08:24.040 born, where the babies were kept in that special area for all the babies, 107 00:08:24.120 --> 00:08:26.759 if you walked over, you would see it would say on his bed, 108 00:08:26.879 --> 00:08:31.279 whatever you call it, baby boy Webber. We couldn't agree on the 109 00:08:31.399 --> 00:08:35.679 name the entire time. We're in the hospital. The sign a hunter his 110 00:08:35.759 --> 00:08:39.000 crib said, baby boy Webber. Now Susy was in no rush to leave. 111 00:08:39.159 --> 00:08:43.399 She was happy for the help. We had a relationship with the hospital. 112 00:08:43.799 --> 00:08:46.120 I visited her each day. We had a spirited conversation on what his 113 00:08:46.240 --> 00:08:50.399 name would be. Hey, Sue, I'm the father, and she would 114 00:08:50.440 --> 00:08:56.600 look at me and say so. One night we had a hospital romantic dinner. 115 00:08:56.120 --> 00:08:58.679 Being in a hospital, it wasn't so romantic, but it was important 116 00:08:58.679 --> 00:09:03.720 to see. Still no name after all of that. So on the last 117 00:09:03.799 --> 00:09:07.279 day I came to pick her up to leave. I was panicked and I 118 00:09:07.360 --> 00:09:11.559 said, Susie, we have to name the baby. And she said, 119 00:09:11.799 --> 00:09:20.279 we did. His name is Jesse. Let's go home. In the end, 120 00:09:20.320 --> 00:09:22.679 I guess it's better than Derek. Yep. Jesse was Susie's baby. 121 00:09:22.799 --> 00:09:26.240 She was his role model. She ruined him, she made him a good 122 00:09:26.279 --> 00:09:31.240 guy. Jesse's a good guy. Jared and I often wondered they give us 123 00:09:31.279 --> 00:09:37.039 the wrong baby in the hospital all the time. Jesse and I became very 124 00:09:37.159 --> 00:09:39.480 close. We spent a lot of time together, particularly when Jared went away 125 00:09:39.519 --> 00:09:43.639 for college. As a father, I never forget they're my sons. I 126 00:09:43.759 --> 00:09:50.120 never forget though we're also best friends. Jesse and I traveled the world together. 127 00:09:50.840 --> 00:09:54.320 Where I went, the boys went Asia, Europe, South of France 128 00:09:54.440 --> 00:09:58.279 Business pleasure. We were words in music. You get Mark Webber, you 129 00:09:58.440 --> 00:10:03.399 get his sons. Were a package deal. Everyone knew the boys. I 130 00:10:03.720 --> 00:10:07.399 like life's lessons. I trust you're listening and getting him out there. It's 131 00:10:07.519 --> 00:10:13.360 Jesse's wedding night. It's the right time being in your children's lives. Let 132 00:10:13.480 --> 00:10:16.039 them know you want to help. Be a good listener, make sure you 133 00:10:16.159 --> 00:10:20.720 think carefully before giving advice. And lastly, it's okay to be their friends 134 00:10:20.759 --> 00:10:26.600 and companion. When I think about our relationships with myself and the boys, 135 00:10:26.679 --> 00:10:31.399 it's priceless. There's not a day that goes by that Jesse doesn't text me 136 00:10:31.480 --> 00:10:37.159 and tells me he loves me and misses me. Priceless. Two weeks ago, 137 00:10:37.279 --> 00:10:41.519 Jared was at Pebble Beach for business and playing golf. When we spoke, 138 00:10:41.759 --> 00:10:46.399 Unsolicity said, Daddy, it's great here, but it doesn't feel the 139 00:10:46.480 --> 00:10:50.159 same with you not being with me. Priceless. Yeah. I never dreamed, 140 00:10:50.240 --> 00:10:54.519 after figuring out Live's game, that I had to worry all over from 141 00:10:54.600 --> 00:11:03.039 my children. Tonight Jesse married Haley. I am no longer worrying. Jesse 142 00:11:03.120 --> 00:11:13.759 and Haley Webber starting a new life together. Na Weber managing three babies, 143 00:11:13.240 --> 00:11:16.600 including Jared na. I admire you, I love you, all of you 144 00:11:16.879 --> 00:11:22.440 priceless. During the course of planning for this wedding for a year, Hayley 145 00:11:22.559 --> 00:11:26.120 taught me a lesson. Every time I would see her, she would ask 146 00:11:26.240 --> 00:11:30.559 me if I was excited, and the antswer was always the same, I'm 147 00:11:30.600 --> 00:11:33.840 not excited about this stuff. It just doesn't get me excited. Aren't you 148 00:11:33.919 --> 00:11:39.799 excited for the wedding? No? And then one day she looked at me 149 00:11:39.840 --> 00:11:46.039 and said, aren't you excited. You're extending the family. And I put 150 00:11:46.200 --> 00:11:50.519 my head down and I said, of course, and she was right. 151 00:11:50.519 --> 00:11:56.600 So that made me excited. Now having said this, enough of the sweet 152 00:11:56.679 --> 00:12:00.360 stuff. I can't take it. I know it's Jesse's wedding, but it's 153 00:12:00.399 --> 00:12:03.919 our radio show, our podcast. Allow me to introduce my lawyer, co 154 00:12:05.159 --> 00:12:15.120 host and son, Jesse Weber. Come on up, Jesse. Time to 155 00:12:15.240 --> 00:12:20.960 work. I can't get one night off when when one night off, I'm 156 00:12:20.960 --> 00:12:24.600 working your work here? Remember when you said you're not a character. This 157 00:12:24.799 --> 00:12:28.519 isn't helping. Oh well, I think it's only appropriate now I have a 158 00:12:28.559 --> 00:12:31.559 couple of questions for you. You're ready. I can't believe that you're doing 159 00:12:31.600 --> 00:12:35.799 this. You're getting I was enjoying my short rib. I was in listening 160 00:12:35.840 --> 00:12:37.799 to the speeches. You know, so, what what do you I thought 161 00:12:37.840 --> 00:12:41.759 you like doing our show. I need one day off, one day forget 162 00:12:41.799 --> 00:12:45.320 it, forget it, forget it. You know, work is work. 163 00:12:45.360 --> 00:12:46.480 If it's work, you work hard. Though you're lucky, you get. 164 00:12:46.720 --> 00:12:52.919 I need you here with me. Okay, So listen. When I first 165 00:12:52.000 --> 00:12:58.600 met Hailey, I'm pretty hard on you bringing meat dates. I've never been 166 00:12:58.679 --> 00:13:03.000 easy about it. Correct, that's an understatement. Well, let me ask 167 00:13:03.039 --> 00:13:07.080 you a question. How was I when it came to Haley? Interestingly enough, 168 00:13:07.200 --> 00:13:11.559 the first thing you said, she handles herself so well. She seems 169 00:13:11.720 --> 00:13:15.799 very smart, and she seems very kind. That was what you first said 170 00:13:15.799 --> 00:13:18.480 about her. So I was pretty nice to her. Right? Do you 171 00:13:18.559 --> 00:13:24.399 know why? Why take beauty aside, telling sweetness aside, taking family aside? 172 00:13:24.840 --> 00:13:28.240 Think about it? What you told me why I was so nice to 173 00:13:28.320 --> 00:13:30.519 Haley? Well, the truth of the matter is, and this is not 174 00:13:30.679 --> 00:13:33.639 scripted. I told my dad this. He asked me, what makes Haley 175 00:13:33.720 --> 00:13:37.360 so special? She just makes me happy. You know a lot of people 176 00:13:37.360 --> 00:13:41.639 don't know this. We didn't see each other for the last eighteen hours, 177 00:13:43.360 --> 00:13:46.600 and I missed her. When I don't see her, I miss her. 178 00:13:46.080 --> 00:13:52.480 She means the world to me, so I love her. So of course 179 00:13:52.759 --> 00:13:56.960 I was so you being happy as your father was all I cared about. 180 00:13:56.039 --> 00:14:01.240 And the fact that you was so happy with Haley instantly cognition, an instant 181 00:14:01.320 --> 00:14:05.799 set. So that's why cutter slacking. So we're done. I can go 182 00:14:05.879 --> 00:14:07.840 back. No no, no, no, no no, that's so easy. 183 00:14:09.240 --> 00:14:11.639 This show this called always in fashion. And as much as I wanted 184 00:14:11.720 --> 00:14:15.679 to be a business show, and as much as it's cultural and lifestyle, 185 00:14:16.279 --> 00:14:22.320 it's fashion. And I can't talk fashion wellout the other member of this trio 186 00:14:22.480 --> 00:14:30.559 coming up and joining me, Jared Webber. You know we're on radio and 187 00:14:30.679 --> 00:14:37.559 podcast is the or an audience out there? I can't hear you. Jared, 188 00:14:37.480 --> 00:14:43.799 you look amazing. Tell us who you're wearing. I'm wearing Ralph Lauren 189 00:14:43.879 --> 00:14:50.399 Purple label. More specifically, as you pick up the paper, I'm wearing 190 00:14:50.440 --> 00:14:56.000 a peek lapel tuxedo with a grow grain waistcoat and velvet slippers. And the 191 00:14:56.120 --> 00:15:01.519 waistcoat is a shawl collar. And about you tonight, who are you wearing? 192 00:15:01.879 --> 00:15:05.159 I have to admit you got me interested in Ralph Floren. I never 193 00:15:05.240 --> 00:15:07.960 wore him before because all the companies I work for I couldn't wear a competitor. 194 00:15:09.080 --> 00:15:11.879 But I gotta tell you this is made to measure from Italy. I 195 00:15:11.039 --> 00:15:16.000 can't believe how comfortable it feels. It's really really great. But I want 196 00:15:16.039 --> 00:15:20.559 to change the subject a little. Do you look the best you can look? 197 00:15:20.639 --> 00:15:26.080 Right now? To be intellectually honest, no, I don't. If 198 00:15:26.159 --> 00:15:28.840 this is what I think it's about, made fun of me enough, you 199 00:15:28.840 --> 00:15:31.679 don't have to do it anymore. It's what you think it's about. This 200 00:15:31.879 --> 00:15:35.799 is ridiculous. I'm one hundred percent right. You'll hear the crowd agree with 201 00:15:35.919 --> 00:15:41.200 me. Do you look the best you look tonight day? In spite of 202 00:15:41.639 --> 00:15:48.000 the way this suit feels, No, I'm not wearing what I wanted to 203 00:15:48.120 --> 00:15:52.519 wear? What did you want to wear tonight? I wanted to wear a 204 00:15:52.639 --> 00:15:58.840 white shawl collar dinner jacket, just like the one Jesse's wearing tonight? What 205 00:15:58.960 --> 00:16:02.559 did you want to wear tonight? Ever since I saw a Sean Connery and 206 00:16:02.679 --> 00:16:08.320 Thunderball, I wanted to wear a white dinner jacket, but Jesse didn't want 207 00:16:08.399 --> 00:16:12.519 us to win white dinner jackets. He didn't want us to over a shadow 208 00:16:12.759 --> 00:16:18.120 him a little selfish? Am I allowed to be selfish on my wedding? 209 00:16:18.159 --> 00:16:22.600 Can I not be a peacock a little bit? All right, I'm gonna 210 00:16:22.600 --> 00:16:27.759 take over. I will say, Daddy, we lucked out because they didn't 211 00:16:27.799 --> 00:16:34.559 have any white dinner jackets and adult sizes at the start. I gotta tell 212 00:16:34.600 --> 00:16:38.440 you, Jesse, the whole thing sounds really selfish to me. I wanted 213 00:16:38.480 --> 00:16:42.480 to wear a white dinner jacket and instead I'm wearing this. This isn't about, 214 00:16:42.639 --> 00:16:45.720 you know, whether anybody's out shining. I'm allowed to be selfish this 215 00:16:45.919 --> 00:16:49.000 one time in my life. You can wear a white dinner jacket any other 216 00:16:49.080 --> 00:16:52.399 time. All right, ladies and gentlemen, if you're just tuning in, 217 00:16:52.519 --> 00:16:56.080 this is Mark Webber, Jesse Webber, and Jared Webber. This is always 218 00:16:56.120 --> 00:17:00.679 in Fashion, a special edition. Jesse Webber just married Hayley Si and we're 219 00:17:00.759 --> 00:17:03.880 talking about that wedding. Here we are talking about fashion. Now. I 220 00:17:04.000 --> 00:17:07.640 can't help myself. I am going to choose my words carefully. I was 221 00:17:07.680 --> 00:17:11.720 going to do a real number on the way the guys addressed look women, 222 00:17:12.000 --> 00:17:17.160 the ladies here. You'll all look beautiful, You're all dress well. I'm 223 00:17:17.319 --> 00:17:23.039 enjoying just being in your presence, but the guys not so much. Now 224 00:17:23.079 --> 00:17:29.359 there's a part of me that before I even begin, it's not your fault. 225 00:17:30.440 --> 00:17:34.240 The signals you're getting, what you're seeing on award shows, what you're 226 00:17:34.279 --> 00:17:40.640 reading in GQR esqui. They're telling you the wrong things. I remember seeing 227 00:17:40.759 --> 00:17:45.039 Seth Rogan wear a pink tuck sedo to the Academy Awards. I was wondering, 228 00:17:45.079 --> 00:17:48.160 should I wear a pink tuch sedo when I go to a board meeting 229 00:17:48.720 --> 00:17:52.000 or a formal dinner with my company. I'm sure they'd appreciate it. You're 230 00:17:52.000 --> 00:17:57.119 getting the wrong signals, but nonetheless I'm looking out there are rules. Some 231 00:17:57.359 --> 00:18:03.119 of you are wearing suits. Guys, the Hilton is down the street. 232 00:18:03.240 --> 00:18:08.960 This is the Plaza Hotel. Some of you are wearing socks. Some of 233 00:18:10.079 --> 00:18:12.799 you are wearing regular shoes. You know I was going to get into this. 234 00:18:12.880 --> 00:18:17.359 I really don't because five minutes into dancing, fifty percent of you all 235 00:18:17.359 --> 00:18:19.720 took off your jackets and you're running around with your shirts. So so much 236 00:18:19.759 --> 00:18:23.680 for black ties. I can't win. Now that I got that out of 237 00:18:23.720 --> 00:18:27.160 my system. Let me get back to life and being a father. I've 238 00:18:27.279 --> 00:18:33.160 learned a few lessons along the way about life marriage. There's a lot of 239 00:18:33.279 --> 00:18:38.000 younger people out there in the audience tonight, and I'm concerned because the statistics 240 00:18:38.759 --> 00:18:44.720 are not in favor of marriage. Fifty to seventy percent of marriages end in 241 00:18:44.799 --> 00:18:48.640 divorce. Less people are getting married because they hear that information. And I 242 00:18:49.759 --> 00:18:56.079 know the secret to a successful marriage, and it's simple. I know the 243 00:18:56.240 --> 00:19:06.160 secret to not getting divorce. Divorce is not an option. It's not simple. 244 00:19:07.079 --> 00:19:11.200 My wife and I agreed before we got married that we were staying married. 245 00:19:11.720 --> 00:19:15.799 There is no way either one of us would ever have considered divorce. 246 00:19:17.599 --> 00:19:19.920 And in the forty years we were married, not once did we ever threaten 247 00:19:21.039 --> 00:19:23.599 each other because we made a promise to each other. Did we fight, 248 00:19:23.839 --> 00:19:27.559 of course, did we say crazy things to one another? Of course, 249 00:19:29.160 --> 00:19:32.000 there were times we went to bed not talking to each other. I woke 250 00:19:32.079 --> 00:19:34.559 up the next morning I forgot what we fight about, but we knew, 251 00:19:34.640 --> 00:19:37.319 no matter what, if we were to stay together, you have to work 252 00:19:37.400 --> 00:19:42.039 it out. No. I understand some of you think I'm crazy. I 253 00:19:42.200 --> 00:19:48.039 know people say I changed he changed. She changed. I'm not happy. 254 00:19:48.920 --> 00:19:52.279 Wake up. It's your job to figure that out before you pick upon or 255 00:19:52.279 --> 00:19:56.559 and decide you're getting married. That's your job. It's your life we're talking 256 00:19:56.640 --> 00:20:02.000 about. I also want to talk to you about being a father in law. 257 00:20:02.279 --> 00:20:04.400 I'm a father in law. But before I go there, I have 258 00:20:04.519 --> 00:20:08.920 to tell you I had an amazing relationship with my in laws. My mother 259 00:20:10.039 --> 00:20:15.599 in law I think loved me. I think she was funny, she had 260 00:20:15.839 --> 00:20:22.440 no filter. After a couple of years with her, I remember her sitting 261 00:20:22.519 --> 00:20:26.720 down with me and saying to me, Susie always said, you'd be good. 262 00:20:27.480 --> 00:20:32.200 What the heck were they talking about? But my father in law, 263 00:20:32.319 --> 00:20:37.480 he was a very very interesting guy, an important guy, and helpful guy 264 00:20:37.000 --> 00:20:42.240 in life and in marriage for me. Joe copplewis you know I had a 265 00:20:42.319 --> 00:20:45.279 problem. Like a lot of you out there, youth is wasted on the 266 00:20:45.359 --> 00:20:49.119 young. I didn't show the respect to my parents that I should have. 267 00:20:49.880 --> 00:20:55.720 I could have been better. I learned respect for parents from my wife. 268 00:20:56.400 --> 00:21:00.279 I'd been dating Susie for about a month and she said it's time I'd like 269 00:21:00.319 --> 00:21:03.839 you to come meet my parents. So I went to our home. When 270 00:21:03.880 --> 00:21:07.400 inside met her parents. We had nice conversation. They were very nice to 271 00:21:07.519 --> 00:21:10.599 me, and we got up to leave, and as we were walking, 272 00:21:10.759 --> 00:21:14.200 my future father in law opened me to the door and he said, Mark 273 00:21:14.319 --> 00:21:18.240 brings Susie back by eleven o'clock. And I started to laugh to myself and 274 00:21:18.279 --> 00:21:21.079 we got outside. He closed the door and I started to laugh. I 275 00:21:21.160 --> 00:21:23.440 said, yeah, right, bring you back at eleven o'clock. And as 276 00:21:23.480 --> 00:21:27.400 I'm walking, I looked to my left and Susie's not there. I said, 277 00:21:27.440 --> 00:21:32.200 whoa. I turned around and she's still at the door. I walked 278 00:21:32.200 --> 00:21:33.759 back and said, what happened? What's going on? And she looked at 279 00:21:33.799 --> 00:21:38.240 me says, when my father tells you that he wants you to bring me 280 00:21:38.359 --> 00:21:45.759 back at eleven o'clock, you bring me back at eleven o'clock. That's when 281 00:21:45.799 --> 00:21:52.079 I learned respect for parents. And that's when I realized how serious and how 282 00:21:52.200 --> 00:21:57.279 precious Susie was as a woman. Now, as for me, my first 283 00:21:57.359 --> 00:22:02.480 encounter with my father in law in a great less than I learned. Susie 284 00:22:02.519 --> 00:22:04.960 and I were talking about a wedding and my father in Laura sat us down 285 00:22:06.039 --> 00:22:10.400 and he said, look, I've been planning on Susie having a wedding for 286 00:22:10.440 --> 00:22:14.839 a very long time. We put away money to have a special wedding. 287 00:22:15.000 --> 00:22:18.240 But I have to ask Mark. I know you come from humble circumstances, 288 00:22:18.279 --> 00:22:25.240 and I thought that if you'd prefer to have a check rather than a big 289 00:22:25.319 --> 00:22:29.000 wedding, I would offer you that opportunity. What do you want to do 290 00:22:29.680 --> 00:22:33.599 now? Susie and I had talked about this, and she's definitely wanted a 291 00:22:33.640 --> 00:22:38.440 wedding, but she knew that I was excited about the idea of a check 292 00:22:38.640 --> 00:22:41.839 because where would I put that kind of money together. We could buy a 293 00:22:41.920 --> 00:22:45.200 house right away, And Susie said to me, Mark, we'll be able 294 00:22:45.279 --> 00:22:48.519 to buy a house. I have faith in you. We don't need the 295 00:22:48.599 --> 00:22:51.400 money. So anyway, my father asked me, I said, you know, 296 00:22:52.039 --> 00:22:55.839 sir, I think we'd like to get the check right then. And 297 00:22:55.920 --> 00:22:59.839 there he stood up, walked out, didn't talk to me for three weeks 298 00:23:00.039 --> 00:23:07.000 till I came back and begged him to make a wedding. On a serious 299 00:23:07.119 --> 00:23:12.119 note, I was working. I was relatively new at my company, but 300 00:23:12.240 --> 00:23:18.519 I started to realize I was making compromises. I started to realize that people 301 00:23:18.599 --> 00:23:23.079 were asking me to say and do things that I didn't like doing. I'm 302 00:23:23.119 --> 00:23:26.640 not a liar, I'm not a fibber. I don't like bending the truth. 303 00:23:26.680 --> 00:23:30.279 And I was being asked to do it, and my career was put 304 00:23:30.319 --> 00:23:33.839 in front of me. I started to think that I needed this job, 305 00:23:33.480 --> 00:23:37.880 and I was making decisions because I was fearful of not working and not having 306 00:23:38.000 --> 00:23:41.559 money. And I shared that with my father in law, and what a 307 00:23:41.640 --> 00:23:47.559 great guy he said to me, Mark, I hope you never need to 308 00:23:47.720 --> 00:23:53.319 come to me, but you should never make decisions based on money. You 309 00:23:53.359 --> 00:23:59.680 should always make decisions based on what you feel is right. And in this 310 00:24:00.039 --> 00:24:07.119 guard I want you to know I have your back. So Jesse, I 311 00:24:07.200 --> 00:24:11.119 will tell you like my father in law said to me, I hope you 312 00:24:11.240 --> 00:24:15.160 never need me. I hope you never have the problems that I had. 313 00:24:15.920 --> 00:24:18.920 I hope you never have to make decisions for money, but if you do, 314 00:24:19.839 --> 00:24:25.839 I have your back. And lastly, I learned the lesson that I 315 00:24:25.880 --> 00:24:29.799 want to share now with Haley. If you watch my father in law, 316 00:24:30.920 --> 00:24:37.400 he was fair, he was neutral. You would never know by talking to 317 00:24:37.559 --> 00:24:42.720 my father in law who is his son or who is his daughter in our 318 00:24:42.839 --> 00:24:48.119 marriage. You would never know because he treated us fairly. If there was 319 00:24:48.200 --> 00:24:51.079 an argument, if there was a dispute, if there was something no one 320 00:24:51.119 --> 00:24:53.799 agreed on. He didn't pick sides. He was fair, he was just, 321 00:24:55.119 --> 00:25:00.039 and because that you could trust him implacably. And I want to I 322 00:25:00.079 --> 00:25:04.400 promise you tonight, Hailey, that no matter what happens with you and Jesse, 323 00:25:06.119 --> 00:25:11.400 I will treat you evenly. With that said, I want to thank 324 00:25:11.480 --> 00:25:15.519 all of you for being here tonight. I've had a wonderful time so far. 325 00:25:15.799 --> 00:25:19.799 I appreciate the opportunity to speak with you. I believe somewhere in those 326 00:25:21.519 --> 00:25:26.200 last fifteen minutes there were lessons for all of you to gain by. I 327 00:25:26.319 --> 00:25:29.359 hope you are listening. I know you're drinking. I know you're having fun, 328 00:25:29.400 --> 00:25:32.160 and you want to get back to the body with that, Let's have 329 00:25:32.480 --> 00:25:34.359 some fun. I'm going to take a break. You'll be back in a 330 00:25:34.480 --> 00:25:42.920 moment. Always in fashion, my favorite brand has always been ISOD. My 331 00:25:44.039 --> 00:25:47.440 company at one time brought that brand. The CEO of the company handed it 332 00:25:47.519 --> 00:25:49.799 to me and said, you better make it work. And I put everything 333 00:25:49.920 --> 00:25:53.559 in my career to make Eyesod work, and I fell in love with that 334 00:25:53.720 --> 00:25:59.839 brand, and to this day it is one of the most exciting endeavors I've 335 00:26:00.000 --> 00:26:06.000 ever got involved with. 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You can find eyes That at your leading 363 00:28:17.000 --> 00:28:21.559 retailers and online at eod dot com. Talk to you later, guys, 364 00:28:22.160 --> 00:28:26.079 I wish you. I'm very happy spring and summer, and I help you 365 00:28:26.240 --> 00:28:30.960 by telling you if you were eyesod, you're gonna look great. Welcome back 366 00:28:30.039 --> 00:28:36.720 to Always in Fashion. Here's your host, Mark Webber, Jesse my son 367 00:28:37.480 --> 00:28:42.599 and co host just got married. It's actually three o'clock in the morning and 368 00:28:42.799 --> 00:28:47.359 I'm still pumped up. So I figured i would talk about the wedding. 369 00:28:47.759 --> 00:28:52.000 But before I go there, I had an incredible experience last night. It's 370 00:28:52.039 --> 00:28:56.039 Sunday night, Memorial Day weekend. Last night, Saturday night, I took 371 00:28:56.519 --> 00:29:00.359 a group of friends out to dinner, eleven of us in total, to 372 00:29:00.440 --> 00:29:04.400 Avron Madison Avenue. It was a great time and it meant a lot to 373 00:29:04.519 --> 00:29:11.920 be with close friends that were all in New York getting ready for the wedding. 374 00:29:11.000 --> 00:29:15.359 The next day, we all hung out, we had dinner together, 375 00:29:15.720 --> 00:29:19.680 and I made a speech to them because I was happy. I was in 376 00:29:19.759 --> 00:29:22.960 the mood. It was my dinner party. I felt like entertaining and holding 377 00:29:23.279 --> 00:29:29.240 court. And I made a speech and it was really fun and I enjoyed 378 00:29:29.359 --> 00:29:36.759 doing it, and I called it going to the poorhouse speech. You know, 379 00:29:36.799 --> 00:29:38.839 I'm sitting in there in this restaurant. I'm figure it's going to cost 380 00:29:38.880 --> 00:29:42.559 me at least twenty five hundred dollars for dinner, and then you know, 381 00:29:42.759 --> 00:29:48.119 I will choose my words carefully. I made a important contribution to the wedding. 382 00:29:49.240 --> 00:29:53.519 Leading up to the wedding, I had been very gracious and I sent 383 00:29:53.680 --> 00:30:00.920 my family to Disney World, all expenses paid, hired those tour guides, 384 00:30:00.039 --> 00:30:03.599 those special tour guides that walstered through all of Disney, the back doors, 385 00:30:03.680 --> 00:30:10.759 etc. Fortune And of course, as a wedding gift to Jesse and Haley, 386 00:30:10.960 --> 00:30:15.279 I decided to pay for their honeymoon to the Greek Islands first class, 387 00:30:15.559 --> 00:30:22.200 all the way through cruises around the islands. You watched Jesse pilot on. 388 00:30:22.799 --> 00:30:26.039 It was amazing and I said to Jesse, you know, let's take a 389 00:30:26.119 --> 00:30:30.519 minute. You remind me of the contractor I used to build my house. 390 00:30:30.319 --> 00:30:37.519 I bought a house a few years ago and decided to change our lifestyle. 391 00:30:37.599 --> 00:30:42.519 I bought a bigger house and it was really exciting time for us. The 392 00:30:42.640 --> 00:30:48.720 house on the outside, to me, you know, brick colonial looked like 393 00:30:48.839 --> 00:30:52.119 any other house, but inside it was very warm and very special. And 394 00:30:52.240 --> 00:30:57.240 at the time, I remember I was working at LVMH and in particular I 395 00:30:57.359 --> 00:31:03.799 was thinking I was working with Donna Karan's architect. He's the guy who designed 396 00:31:03.839 --> 00:31:10.200 her penthouse in Manhattan, who who built her compound at Paracay in the Turks 397 00:31:10.240 --> 00:31:17.039 and Caicos. You know, extraordinary group of guys and gals, designers, 398 00:31:17.279 --> 00:31:22.000 really special. And I asked them to come to see this house. I 399 00:31:22.039 --> 00:31:25.319 had bought it, and I had a couple of things I wanted to do, 400 00:31:25.480 --> 00:31:30.000 really only two things. One there were two rooms that shared a fireplace, 401 00:31:30.400 --> 00:31:33.319 and as I looked at it, the fireplace was from the floor to 402 00:31:33.440 --> 00:31:37.759 the top of the colonial ceiling. I looked at two rooms and I said 403 00:31:37.799 --> 00:31:40.880 to myself, you know what, this should all be one big room. 404 00:31:41.000 --> 00:31:44.319 This family room, in this living room should all be one room. And 405 00:31:44.440 --> 00:31:47.880 I think I want to tear down the walls and turn it into one room. 406 00:31:48.279 --> 00:31:52.559 And secondarily, in the kitchen there was a bathroom. Now there's nothing 407 00:31:52.640 --> 00:31:56.279 wrong with that, except the house looks out at the water and the bathroom 408 00:31:56.319 --> 00:32:00.480 took up so much space. So I bought this house, and only thing 409 00:32:00.559 --> 00:32:05.440 my wife and I agreed on we needed to do was knock down that wall 410 00:32:05.519 --> 00:32:08.720 and make two rooms into one and take the bathroom out of the kitchen. 411 00:32:09.240 --> 00:32:15.839 And Donna Karen's architect and designer comes to our house. I said, listen, 412 00:32:15.200 --> 00:32:17.799 the outside is not a dream house, it's just a colonial. But 413 00:32:17.920 --> 00:32:22.640 inside it's really nice. And I have a couple of little things I want 414 00:32:22.680 --> 00:32:25.039 you to do and recommend. I'll never forget, he said, Mark, 415 00:32:25.240 --> 00:32:30.720 I wouldn't think twice about the outside. There is a trend in architecture and 416 00:32:30.839 --> 00:32:36.839 design now that houses on the outside and what they look like in the inside 417 00:32:37.000 --> 00:32:42.759 are surprises. So the inside could very often be incredibly different, exciting, 418 00:32:42.880 --> 00:32:45.240 and not what you'd expect when you open the door to look in. And 419 00:32:45.359 --> 00:32:47.839 that's what I think we'll do. We open the door, we all go 420 00:32:49.000 --> 00:32:51.759 in. He takes one foot and set up in the house. He turns 421 00:32:51.799 --> 00:32:53.119 his head, he looks around. He said, you're not living like this. 422 00:32:55.480 --> 00:32:58.359 I said, what do you mean? He said, you're not living 423 00:32:58.400 --> 00:33:00.920 like this? I know you're Mark. This is for you. You got 424 00:33:00.039 --> 00:33:05.839 to change all of this. And I went from just knocking down one wall 425 00:33:05.960 --> 00:33:12.279 and taking out a bathroom to redoing the entire house. Every screw, every 426 00:33:12.359 --> 00:33:16.680 window, everything, Everything was changed except for the front windows on the house. 427 00:33:17.039 --> 00:33:22.119 It was crazy. What was supposed to be a seven month project too 428 00:33:22.160 --> 00:33:27.319 close to two years. And I can't tell you how frustrated I was and 429 00:33:27.480 --> 00:33:35.039 how expensive it became. And I remember between the designers and architects and the 430 00:33:35.200 --> 00:33:38.720 builder, my contractor having a meeting with them when we were almost done, 431 00:33:39.480 --> 00:33:44.480 and I said, you know, particularly to the contractor, you could have 432 00:33:44.559 --> 00:33:47.720 bankrupted me. This thing was three times what we agreed it would cost. 433 00:33:49.400 --> 00:33:52.000 You could have bankrupted me. And I remember it, and here I am 434 00:33:52.039 --> 00:33:55.920 in this dinner the night before the wedding. I looked at Jesse and I 435 00:33:57.039 --> 00:34:00.319 said, to Jesse, you remind me of the contract that if I didn't 436 00:34:00.359 --> 00:34:04.640 know better, you were trying to take me to the warhouse. And I 437 00:34:04.799 --> 00:34:09.000 reminded him all these things that are going on, And what really triggered it 438 00:34:09.119 --> 00:34:14.920 for me is the day before the wedding, I find out we have to 439 00:34:15.079 --> 00:34:19.920 tip everyone, tip everyone. We signed a deal with a photographer to come 440 00:34:19.960 --> 00:34:22.320 in to take pictures in video. We have to tip him and all his 441 00:34:22.639 --> 00:34:27.360 assistance. I don't get it. He signed a contract deal. The guy 442 00:34:27.480 --> 00:34:30.320 is the owner, he's the photographer. You don't tip the owner. Then 443 00:34:30.400 --> 00:34:37.280 I find out that the caterer expects us to tip the entire weight staff of 444 00:34:37.400 --> 00:34:42.480 the event. I find out that the band leader and his band it's customary 445 00:34:43.000 --> 00:34:45.639 to tip. I find out the flower people, the woman who was at 446 00:34:45.719 --> 00:34:51.400 point deserves to be tipped. I find out that the person at the plaza 447 00:34:51.480 --> 00:34:57.840 who organized the entire event, I'm supposed to tip, and I went crazy, 448 00:35:00.000 --> 00:35:02.880 going crazy. Where is this coming from the eleventh hour? And why 449 00:35:02.920 --> 00:35:07.719 am I tipping people to do their jobs? It's not a thinking about it. 450 00:35:07.920 --> 00:35:15.440 I remember so clearly my first trip to Japan. Japan society is very 451 00:35:15.559 --> 00:35:22.800 different. They're very polite, they're very elegant. They're very fastidious about their 452 00:35:22.840 --> 00:35:27.280 appearance and the way they take care of things. You get in a taxi 453 00:35:27.440 --> 00:35:30.880 cab in Japan, you could eat off the floor. All the seat covers 454 00:35:30.920 --> 00:35:36.960 are covered in white doilies. Every driver is wearing white gloves, immaculate. 455 00:35:37.440 --> 00:35:40.480 I remember going in the subway. No noise, no screaming, everyone's dress, 456 00:35:40.519 --> 00:35:45.119 there are no smells, there are no sound, there's no squeaky and 457 00:35:45.320 --> 00:35:49.400 once again, you could eat off the floors. But the most remarkable thing 458 00:35:49.760 --> 00:35:51.639 of all of it, after all of a sudden, I went to tip 459 00:35:51.800 --> 00:35:53.280 the doorman. I went to tip the drive. They put their hand out 460 00:35:53.320 --> 00:35:55.480 in front of your palms up and they shake it, say no, no, 461 00:35:55.599 --> 00:35:59.239 no, no, no, there's no tipping. And it got me 462 00:35:59.360 --> 00:36:01.920 thinking, who came up with this idea of tipping? I don't even want 463 00:36:01.960 --> 00:36:06.800 to know. It's kind of like our lives. Who came up with the 464 00:36:06.880 --> 00:36:09.000 idea that we would work five days a week to get two days off? 465 00:36:09.760 --> 00:36:15.360 Who came up with the idea that we would work fifty weeks out of the 466 00:36:15.440 --> 00:36:19.440 year to get two weeks off and for lucky maybe three? Look, I 467 00:36:19.519 --> 00:36:22.719 mean think who came up with the idea of tipping? This idea that it's 468 00:36:22.800 --> 00:36:30.800 our responsibility to take care of workers working in a restaurant or taxi driver is 469 00:36:30.880 --> 00:36:35.280 driving a cab? Why is that our responsibility? I just don't get it. 470 00:36:36.079 --> 00:36:40.000 Food it's expensive you eat out. Do you know that it costs twelve 471 00:36:40.199 --> 00:36:45.519 dollars to have a diet coke and a good bar in Manhattan? Plus I'll 472 00:36:45.559 --> 00:36:47.920 tell its twelve dollars for a diet coke? Are you kidding me? At 473 00:36:47.960 --> 00:36:52.159 home? I could buy twelve cans for twelve dollars, But here it is, 474 00:36:52.239 --> 00:36:58.719 And I'm thinking, there's no shame. Restaurants raise their price during COVID 475 00:36:58.800 --> 00:37:04.920 after COVID incredibly and yet we're taking them off the hook of having to pay 476 00:37:04.960 --> 00:37:07.920 for their workers. I don't get it. I don't understand the whole concept. 477 00:37:08.840 --> 00:37:12.960 I went to one of my favorite restaurants the other night on a Sunday 478 00:37:13.039 --> 00:37:16.119 with the family, seven of us, five o'clock. I get there before 479 00:37:16.159 --> 00:37:21.480 everyone to make sure I like the table it's there. Fifteen minutes goes by 480 00:37:21.559 --> 00:37:25.000 twenty minutes. I'm early half hour. The waiter doesn't even come over to 481 00:37:25.079 --> 00:37:27.920 me. You know you want to drink? What can I do for you? 482 00:37:28.159 --> 00:37:30.880 Give me a piece of bread, anything, a breadcrumb. One of 483 00:37:30.920 --> 00:37:34.480 my favorite restaurants. They know me well. And after all is said and 484 00:37:34.559 --> 00:37:37.320 done, it took over an hour once everyone was there to get to the 485 00:37:37.400 --> 00:37:38.719 food. When the way to finally came over, I said, what's going 486 00:37:38.760 --> 00:37:42.360 on here? This is well, Sunday at five o'clock is one of our 487 00:37:42.400 --> 00:37:45.480 busiest time and there's just not enough stamp What I'm saying, Am I screw 488 00:37:45.599 --> 00:37:52.000 you? What are you nuts tips to insure prompt service? Now let me 489 00:37:52.039 --> 00:37:55.360 ask you a question. In all honesty, seven people have dinner, we 490 00:37:55.519 --> 00:37:59.519 get served. Am I not going to tip the guy because he didn't insure 491 00:37:59.639 --> 00:38:01.239 prop service? M I not to tip the guy because a half hour I 492 00:38:01.280 --> 00:38:04.880 waited, it ain't give me a glass of water or a drink. No, 493 00:38:05.440 --> 00:38:07.599 we're obligated to tipp. And that got me thinking and I started talking 494 00:38:07.679 --> 00:38:12.320 to Jesse and I said to him, you remind me of my contractor. 495 00:38:12.840 --> 00:38:16.079 And between all this money I'm spending, I feel like I'm I'm going to 496 00:38:16.199 --> 00:38:21.400 the poorhouse. One thing on tipping. I love Steve Martin. It'll be 497 00:38:21.440 --> 00:38:24.840 twelve dollars, okay, and keep the change please. Oh we're not allowed 498 00:38:24.840 --> 00:38:30.599 to accept tips. I'm not allowed to accept tips. Oh you change is 499 00:38:30.719 --> 00:38:34.199 eight? Thank you? Thank you? Can I get you something down? 500 00:38:34.360 --> 00:38:37.039 I find things? Would you like something to drink? Now? Be sure 501 00:38:37.880 --> 00:38:43.920 bike you tip a flight attendant. I tip everybody. That's my philosophy. 502 00:38:45.119 --> 00:38:49.320 See, actually it's not tipping. I believe in it's over tipping. Yeah. 503 00:38:49.360 --> 00:38:52.280 I don't believe in tipping. I believe in overtipping. The truth is 504 00:38:52.480 --> 00:38:54.519 is that's what it feels like, all day long, all night long, 505 00:38:54.639 --> 00:38:59.880 tipping, tipping, tipping, tipping, tipping, tipping. We just added 506 00:39:00.239 --> 00:39:05.280 the most incredible wedding Plaza Hotel is beautiful. When you walk into that ballroom, 507 00:39:05.360 --> 00:39:07.800 you look at it. It's like the Sistine Chapel. It's amazing and 508 00:39:07.840 --> 00:39:14.559 there's so many nice events. During the photography sessions. In the early stage, 509 00:39:15.079 --> 00:39:20.599 Jesse sore his soon to be wife in her gown for the first time. 510 00:39:20.760 --> 00:39:22.320 Oh, it was beautiful. Nice. So she comes walking down the 511 00:39:22.400 --> 00:39:28.199 stairs. Great moment. And during that whole photography we went outside in front 512 00:39:28.199 --> 00:39:31.320 of the Plasa and took pictures and that was a really fun experience. All 513 00:39:31.360 --> 00:39:35.280 of us, the boys, all of us, the friends, all of 514 00:39:35.360 --> 00:39:38.360 us were in sunglasses in front of the plaza fountain. It was so much 515 00:39:38.440 --> 00:39:43.960 fun. But the wedding begins in the I don't know what you call the 516 00:39:44.039 --> 00:39:51.760 room, but Jesse and I went up first to the stage the platform to 517 00:39:51.880 --> 00:39:57.079 wait for the wedding party. As they started to play music. Jesse played 518 00:39:57.159 --> 00:40:00.400 for us Claire Dulon because Oceans a level than had Claire Delone. It's one 519 00:40:00.400 --> 00:40:04.920 of our favorite movies, and I suppose that's why he chose it. And 520 00:40:05.079 --> 00:40:07.280 we went up and were on the stage, and he wanted to be the 521 00:40:07.360 --> 00:40:10.760 first traditionally and never the first. The groom is never the first, but 522 00:40:10.880 --> 00:40:15.760 he wanted to watch the event as a the unfold. It was turned out 523 00:40:15.760 --> 00:40:19.920 to be a great idea, and I can only tell you that the entirety 524 00:40:19.960 --> 00:40:23.440 of the wedding that was my favorite part. I stood behind Jesse as he 525 00:40:23.559 --> 00:40:30.000 waited for his bride to walk down the aisle, and I had my hands 526 00:40:30.079 --> 00:40:32.039 on his shoulders and I was whispering in his ear, and the two of 527 00:40:32.199 --> 00:40:37.159 us were talking father and son as close as we always are, and we're 528 00:40:37.239 --> 00:40:42.480 looking out as people and the proceed of the groups come walking down the aisle, 529 00:40:42.559 --> 00:40:45.880 and it was truly a special moment, more than a moment, and 530 00:40:45.960 --> 00:40:50.559 we loved it. And he was right all the flowers, the room was 531 00:40:50.880 --> 00:40:57.639 lit primarily by candles, my son's, Hailey's family, two little boys. 532 00:40:58.519 --> 00:41:02.159 One came to the vada music of Star Trek. It was amazing other to 533 00:41:02.280 --> 00:41:07.800 the greatest showman, and it was just a very very special time. And 534 00:41:07.960 --> 00:41:10.840 then after that we go into the ceremony and the first dance and Jesse comes 535 00:41:10.880 --> 00:41:16.039 in with an outfit change from a black tuxedo to white dinner jacket. Spectacular, 536 00:41:16.400 --> 00:41:20.519 and he and Haley come in and they start to dance. I didn't 537 00:41:20.559 --> 00:41:23.559 know who this guy was. I didn't recognize him. Jesse can really dance. 538 00:41:23.760 --> 00:41:28.119 I never saw it, I suppose, and the whole wedding was active 539 00:41:28.199 --> 00:41:32.559 and alive and so much going on. There were four speeches. I gave 540 00:41:32.639 --> 00:41:38.039 you mine earlier, I would say to you. Arguably, I was right 541 00:41:38.079 --> 00:41:42.840 in the middle of the back my daughter and Laurina gave a speech that was 542 00:41:43.440 --> 00:41:49.360 so remarkable. I was spellbound. One had to do with the content, 543 00:41:50.159 --> 00:41:57.119 and she was talking to Haley about joining the incredible league of Weber women who 544 00:41:57.239 --> 00:42:00.800 came before her. And it was a beautiful speech, but the way she 545 00:42:00.000 --> 00:42:05.119 delivered it, I was shocked. I know Ena so well, I know 546 00:42:05.320 --> 00:42:07.400 for a long time. Now we spend time together. It's it's we're all 547 00:42:07.519 --> 00:42:14.360 close. The speech she made was breathtaking, amazing. Afterwards they said, 548 00:42:14.559 --> 00:42:15.920 you know, we got to put you up for President of the United States. 549 00:42:15.960 --> 00:42:20.000 It was of that ilk. I mean, I've seen and heard a 550 00:42:20.079 --> 00:42:22.199 lot of people speak in my time. I've never seen anything like this. 551 00:42:22.960 --> 00:42:28.800 Better than anyone. I think she'd rival Bill Clinton. She was amazing and 552 00:42:28.800 --> 00:42:31.440 it was great, and there was a moment then when a speech was done, 553 00:42:32.280 --> 00:42:36.559 Jesse and Haley, who were at their special table, came up to 554 00:42:36.679 --> 00:42:40.400 hug her and I couldn't help myself and Jared couldn't help himself, and the 555 00:42:40.840 --> 00:42:45.320 five of us were wrapped in an embrace, hugging Ena for the speech she 556 00:42:45.480 --> 00:42:51.400 gave. And it was just a very special moment. And you can go 557 00:42:51.559 --> 00:42:57.039 on and on, from the cake ceremony to the dancing ceremony. Everything about 558 00:42:57.119 --> 00:43:02.360 it was beautiful. And while I said earlier, I don't get excited, 559 00:43:04.559 --> 00:43:10.559 I was content. I was happy. I was happy for Jesse. After 560 00:43:10.679 --> 00:43:14.559 all, he's my little son. I love him. And the fact that 561 00:43:14.719 --> 00:43:16.679 he was so happy. Yeah, by the way, he gets up on 562 00:43:16.760 --> 00:43:21.880 the stage with his now bride, with the band and starts dancing. And 563 00:43:22.079 --> 00:43:24.039 for the entirety of the wedding, I would say for at least an hour 564 00:43:24.159 --> 00:43:29.239 of it, he was up on the stage. That's gretty. Oh one 565 00:43:29.320 --> 00:43:34.960 more thing before I leave my night where I was talking about going to the 566 00:43:35.039 --> 00:43:38.400 poorhouse. Thank you. Jesse, my contractor. We're planning the wedding. 567 00:43:38.559 --> 00:43:45.719 The wedding's done and Jesse comes to me, Daddy, we'd like to have 568 00:43:45.840 --> 00:43:50.599 an afterparty. What what's an after party? Says Well, when the wedding 569 00:43:50.719 --> 00:43:53.239 ends, we want to have a select group of people stay on for another 570 00:43:53.320 --> 00:44:00.639 hour, he said, free. He looked at me and I'm crazy, 571 00:44:00.039 --> 00:44:04.480 and no it's gonna cause I said, what are you nuts? The wedding 572 00:44:04.559 --> 00:44:07.519 started at six o'clock. It's one in the morning. Now you need another 573 00:44:07.599 --> 00:44:10.039 after hour. So they had it in all of this. And as I 574 00:44:10.119 --> 00:44:14.639 sit here in the middle of the night talking to you guys, I have 575 00:44:14.840 --> 00:44:21.440 this smile on my face, a warmth in my heart. It is such 576 00:44:21.440 --> 00:44:25.960 a nice feeling for the human race. I hope when I wake up in 577 00:44:27.039 --> 00:44:31.480 the morning I still feel this way towards my fellow man, but I doubt 578 00:44:31.519 --> 00:44:37.039 it. It was a great night so far. I'll take a break back 579 00:44:37.079 --> 00:44:42.400 in a minute. Tonight it's Jesse's wedding. Always in fashion, been a 580 00:44:42.480 --> 00:44:46.400 lifetime of my career building the van usen Brand, and I am so pleased 581 00:44:46.719 --> 00:44:52.280 that they're back with us now talking about suits, men, we're dressing up 582 00:44:52.280 --> 00:44:57.039 again and it's become cool to wear a suit. Suits can be one on 583 00:44:57.199 --> 00:45:01.000 multiple occasions in multiple ways. Wear a suit formally to go out at night 584 00:45:01.320 --> 00:45:05.239 or to an event. To wear a suit to the office with or without 585 00:45:05.280 --> 00:45:08.320 a tie. If you look closely, now fashion trends, suits are being 586 00:45:08.400 --> 00:45:15.360 worn with turtlenecks or mocknecks. The choices are endless and every one of them 587 00:45:15.880 --> 00:45:21.159 looks right. You could really really look the part. 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Let's not forget 596 00:46:00.039 --> 00:46:04.880 van Euson made its name with dress shirts. It's only proper that the suit 597 00:46:05.000 --> 00:46:09.199 business follows strongly in its way. You can find van Uson cool Flex Men's 598 00:46:09.199 --> 00:46:15.920 Stretched suits at Jase Penny or online at jcpenny dot com. Guys, they're 599 00:46:15.039 --> 00:46:20.239 great, you should go look at him. Welcome back to Always in Fashion. 600 00:46:20.559 --> 00:46:24.079 Here's your host, Mark Webber. Good evening, good morning, and 601 00:46:24.119 --> 00:46:28.639 I guess it is more accurate. It's the middle of the night. Jesse's 602 00:46:28.719 --> 00:46:34.199 wedding just concluded two o'clock in the morning, finished the after party. I'm 603 00:46:34.280 --> 00:46:38.679 in my room. I'm still sitting in my tuxedo. I'm thinking about the 604 00:46:38.840 --> 00:46:43.719 night with a smile. My son, Jesse, my baby, is married, 605 00:46:44.199 --> 00:46:45.360 and we had a great time. He had a great time, is 606 00:46:45.400 --> 00:46:49.840 happy from beginning to end. He's been excited about this, looking forward to 607 00:46:49.960 --> 00:46:53.880 it. Big night, great night. Everyone had a good time, everyone 608 00:46:54.719 --> 00:47:01.280 including me. But I have to admit I'm admittedly not a fan of humans, 609 00:47:02.199 --> 00:47:07.400 and here I am having to be one of the focal points of an 610 00:47:07.440 --> 00:47:12.639 evening, a personal focal point, which is very different from business. You 611 00:47:12.760 --> 00:47:16.719 stand up as a business guy at these events. You're detached. It's business. 612 00:47:17.440 --> 00:47:22.920 It's not personal, Sunny, it's business. Personal is different, and 613 00:47:22.039 --> 00:47:27.239 it's an awkward situation for me. Made me think about the last few weeks. 614 00:47:27.400 --> 00:47:31.320 Last month or so, I've been considering what to do about being called 615 00:47:31.360 --> 00:47:37.039 a character. I don't like being called the character. It's happened a couple 616 00:47:37.079 --> 00:47:39.920 of times in the last month, and I find it incredibly insulting, and 617 00:47:40.079 --> 00:47:45.599 I don't like it. And I can't believe people are judging me now versus 618 00:47:45.760 --> 00:47:49.280 then. Now I'm on the radio, I'm entertaining, I'm trying to be 619 00:47:49.320 --> 00:47:52.639 funny, I'm trying to do things. I'm trying to be very out there, 620 00:47:52.079 --> 00:47:55.920 and I shouldn't be judged at this point in my life after forty years 621 00:47:55.920 --> 00:48:00.800 of a career, solid serious business guys A and I've had trouble coming to 622 00:48:00.920 --> 00:48:05.119 grips with it, the same way I had trouble coming to grips with fashion. 623 00:48:05.960 --> 00:48:09.639 I've just seen posted on Instagram Mark Webb a dropping bombs and the fashion 624 00:48:09.760 --> 00:48:14.920 rules at a black tie wedding. I loved it. Yeah, I was 625 00:48:15.400 --> 00:48:17.880 all over that. But just like in fashion, how do I come to 626 00:48:19.000 --> 00:48:23.199 grips with guys showing up in dresses or kilts or these funny outfits or no 627 00:48:23.400 --> 00:48:28.480 socks or no shirts or whatever at black tie events and on the runway, 628 00:48:28.519 --> 00:48:32.039 etc. I just can't stand fashion. I was able to come up with 629 00:48:32.199 --> 00:48:39.679 because if some Laurent and Coco Chanelle said fashion comes and goals and styles forever, 630 00:48:39.800 --> 00:48:45.840 so I've recognized and reconciled that fashion can exist whatever it is. You 631 00:48:45.920 --> 00:48:49.639 want to make a fool yourself go right ahead. But style is enduring and 632 00:48:49.719 --> 00:48:52.840 should have to have style, and I could deal with all these fashion faux 633 00:48:52.880 --> 00:48:55.320 pas and deal with it and not get upset. But I come to the 634 00:48:55.960 --> 00:49:00.800 conclusion sitting here in the middle of the night, thinking out tonight, being 635 00:49:00.880 --> 00:49:05.760 out there, how to deal with being a character? How to deal with 636 00:49:05.840 --> 00:49:07.599 it? And I came up with something I dealt with a long time ago, 637 00:49:08.599 --> 00:49:15.039 that my character is an alter ego, and I could adopt the fact 638 00:49:15.119 --> 00:49:20.280 that when I am in character or being a character, it's a part of 639 00:49:20.559 --> 00:49:23.360 me that I could put off to the side and separate from the rest of 640 00:49:23.480 --> 00:49:27.559 myself. And I've come to grips with us tonight as I sit here at 641 00:49:27.599 --> 00:49:31.000 three o'clock in the morning, and I thought about the time that I became 642 00:49:31.760 --> 00:49:37.239 escalante. Yeah, my alter ego here I am. I'm going through a 643 00:49:37.320 --> 00:49:42.199 time when I started playing golf, and golf is a sport that if you 644 00:49:42.360 --> 00:49:45.639 are alone, you can't play alone. They put you with other people and 645 00:49:45.760 --> 00:49:50.880 you have to interact with strangers. And I remember being in Turnberry Isle in 646 00:49:51.039 --> 00:49:54.360 Miami playing golf on their golf course, and I was playing with two German 647 00:49:54.480 --> 00:49:59.760 businessmen and one of them in particular decided he wanted to talk to me. 648 00:50:00.960 --> 00:50:02.840 In his German accent, he said, so tell me who you are, 649 00:50:02.880 --> 00:50:07.159 what do you do? And it's then that I realized, right then and 650 00:50:07.239 --> 00:50:12.320 there, that I no longer wanted to be Mark Webber with strangers. And 651 00:50:12.480 --> 00:50:15.320 I said, my name is Escalante. I go by one name, and 652 00:50:16.599 --> 00:50:22.320 I'm playing golf here, but I really live in Barcelona. It's a guy 653 00:50:22.400 --> 00:50:25.320 goes, nah, you're not from Barcelona. You know how I know? 654 00:50:25.559 --> 00:50:29.599 And I said, yeah, I'll tell you how because I didn't say Barcelona. 655 00:50:30.159 --> 00:50:32.400 And then he looked at me differently. So you're really from Barcelona. 656 00:50:34.039 --> 00:50:36.880 I said, yeah, I'm from Barcelona. What do you do there? 657 00:50:37.559 --> 00:50:38.360 I said, when I tell you, you're not going to believe me. 658 00:50:39.039 --> 00:50:42.440 He said, no, tell me. I said, I'm a bullfighter, 659 00:50:42.519 --> 00:50:44.840 and he goes, come on, you're not a bullfighter. I said, 660 00:50:44.840 --> 00:50:46.920 I am a bullfighter. That's what I did for a living. And he 661 00:50:47.000 --> 00:50:50.119 looked at me like I was crazy. He says, tell me, how 662 00:50:50.159 --> 00:50:52.800 did you become a bullfighter? That's a long story. You really want to 663 00:50:52.800 --> 00:50:53.719 hear it. Now we're playing golf and we're going alon. I said, 664 00:50:53.719 --> 00:50:59.119 well, I started as a highlight player in Miami. I got to a 665 00:50:59.239 --> 00:51:04.400 point that I heard my ankle and my wrist and elbow were affected by the 666 00:51:04.519 --> 00:51:08.079 throwing of the siesta, and I couldn't do it anymore. And I was 667 00:51:08.199 --> 00:51:14.079 in these places, you know, South America, Brazil, Mexico, and 668 00:51:14.280 --> 00:51:19.119 I decided I'd become a bullfighter, and I was known as escalante and that's 669 00:51:19.159 --> 00:51:21.679 what I did for a living. He said, you speak Spanish. I 670 00:51:21.719 --> 00:51:23.119 said, no, this is how could you be a bull fight if you 671 00:51:23.159 --> 00:51:29.719 don't speak Spanish? I said, the bulls don't speak it either. To 672 00:51:29.880 --> 00:51:34.599 make a long story short, I was reflecting on the night and it was 673 00:51:35.840 --> 00:51:37.880 a peculiar place for me to be where I had to be front and center. 674 00:51:38.000 --> 00:51:44.039 As a personal note, because I'm not good with the warm and fuzzy 675 00:51:44.119 --> 00:51:47.880 stuff. But I can only tell you this, as a father, you 676 00:51:49.039 --> 00:51:53.880 have responsibilities. You have responsibilities to first and foremost, be there for your 677 00:51:53.960 --> 00:51:59.519 children, be a guiding light, help them, make sure you show interest 678 00:51:59.639 --> 00:52:04.719 in them and support them. And I thought about that tonight and I felt 679 00:52:04.800 --> 00:52:08.800 that I've done well and I was happy, and I could picture my wife 680 00:52:08.920 --> 00:52:14.119 saying to me, Mark, you're a good boy. And then and of 681 00:52:14.199 --> 00:52:20.800 itself made my night. So Jesse, congratulations. I'm so happy for you. 682 00:52:21.519 --> 00:52:24.679 Enjoy your honeymoon. I miss you. There's a new member of our 683 00:52:24.760 --> 00:52:30.000 family, Hailey Weber. That's so exciting. And after all is said and 684 00:52:30.079 --> 00:52:36.719 done, I'm finally going to say good night. From Jesse's wedding at the Plaza Hotel