Oh, Live from the Plaza Hotel ballroom in the heart of New York City.
Welcome to a special edition of Always in Fashion tonight. It's Jesse and
Haley's wedding. Who is Mark Webber. He's a self made business executive here
to help you find your success from the New York City projects to the Avenue
Montaigne in Paris. His global success story in the luxury world of fashion is
inspiration off. He's gone from clerk to CEO twice. Mark is classic proof
that the American dream is alive. And well, here's your host of Always
in Fashion, Mark Webber. Weber the reason, gentlemen. Yes, welcome
to Always Fashion. It is a special edition. My son Jesse Webber married
just moments ago the former Miss Hailey Siegel and now mister and missus Jesse Webber
are here with two hundred and fifty guests, orchestra, chamber music, all
kinds of things going on at this wedding. And I am chosen now to
speak. I used to be important, I used to be relevant. I
no longer I am. It's just the way of the world as it goes.
I used to be a master of the universe. I used to be
a big shot. And I'll never forget how people would knock over people.
They would push my children aside to get and shake my hand. Now they
pushed me aside to get to my children. Now I am irrelevant. I'm
cellophane. I've been thinking maybe I should rob a bank. The cameras wouldn't
pick me up. Nobody sees me anymore. But tonight there is a difference.
I am relevant because I'm here as a father. I've getten a great
deal of thought to what I want to say Tonight. It's a night for
a celebration, and it's a night for introspection. As a father, I
have insights and I have many lessons, and that's what I want to dress
First. I was never ready to be a father, but you become one.
But the one thing I never expected, the one thing I wasn't preferred
for when being a father, was starting my life all over again. I
worked so hard to find success in my career. I remember so clearly.
After working for the first fifteen or twenty years, I finally felt successful for
the first time. I actually drove to Brooklyn, to the city projects,
right to the building I grew up in. I got out of my car.
I stood up and looked at the apartment windows where I grew up,
and I screamed out, I will never have to come back to the projects.
I've made it. Then one day I wake up and now I'm worrying
all over again because I'm a father, and this time I'm worrying for my
sons. I wasn't prepared. I didn't expect it. However, after college,
after law school, after the boys passing the bar, both of them,
Uncle Crea pass for success, and it's one less thing for a father
to have to worry about. I've learned by experience that the single most important
decision, however, you'll make in your life is deciding who you spend your
life with. Me. I never had to think about this when I was
running around and I was single. I've found my soul mate. And then
one day, as a father, here i am. I'm worried for my
sons. Will they meet the right women? Will they have happy lives?
I thought I was done, but nope, I wasn't prepared. Fathers have
to worry. Now I have two sons, two daughter in laws. I'm
deede to two little boys. Jarard found ena perfect Jesse chose Haley perfect.
I wish it was, but fatherhood is not so simple more. It seems,
as I said, I don't know if I'm smart. I know I'm
well trained, and now I know how to navigate life. I was always
aware that my sons would choose right from wrong, but I need it well
before I need. Everyone needs mentors, We all need role models. Even
more importantly for me, I needed my sons to respect me, not for
me, for them. I had to be able to guide my sons,
and the only way to do it is if they'd be interested. In my
opinion, that's what you have to do for the well being of your children.
A father's responsibility is to teach to be the calm like an eagle flying
through a snowstorm. Your children need to know you're there. Unconditionally, I
reached a pinnacle. I won the game of corporate life. I became president,
CEO, board member. Yeah, I was a big shot, but
I was also a father, and thank god, I knew that I used
my success to ensure that I could be with my children, that I could
be with the boys anytime I had a support and speech to give the boys
were there. Sales meetings one hundred and ten people, regional managers, salesman
executives. When we selected the site for our sales meetings, it was clear,
if you get Mark Webber, you get his sons. Whoever was asked
to arrange the agreement between us and the hotel knew that they had to orchestrate
a deal with the hotel that my sons would have access to wherever I went.
So if we're going to be in the bar, they had to have
access. If they're going to in the ballrooms, they had to have access.
And that's the way it was. My sons always were there with me
to hear me speak. Might explain why they're so articulate themselves. When I
became CEO at the annual shareholders meeting, Jesse was in the audience. When
I had board meetings in Paris with Louis Vuitton moet Henness, Jesse and Jared
both got to see it. They sat at it and listen. Yeah,
this explains in part why they can speak so well. But I'll tell you
something that probably was even more important. This big shot knew his place in
life. Family came first. I made sure I made time for the family.
What's the benefit of success if you couldn't break away to spend time with
your family. Don Corleone speaking to Johnny Fontaine, do you spend time with
your family? Sure? I do. Godfather good because a man who doesn't
spend time with his family can never be a real man. My wife she
made sure I knew how to be a father. I never missed a soccer
game. I never missed a baseball game. A father needs to know what's
important in life. It's simple. It's family and speaking family. Jesse,
I know you just got married an hour ago, and far be it from
me to press you to tell you what to do. But you're the next
web father too, will have responsibility to send an example from your children.
All of you guys in the audience have that responsibility. I mentioned my wife.
She made me what I am today. She made me when I met
my wife had a great smile. That's it. She taught me substance.
Jesse insisted that his mom beyond the invitation for this wedding, good for him.
He's already a better guy than me. If you know our family,
you know it's always going to be about Susie Mammy, Susie Grandma, Susie,
Aunt, Susie, my Susie. She put this thing together. She
taught us what was important. She taught me to be a father. Susie
responsible for our family. So I may have been the provider. She was
the teacher and the architect and the brains behind the Webbers. So of course
on Jesse's wedding day we think of her, how fortunate we were to have
had her in our life. Susie. Jesse was her baby. Jaredy,
even as a little boy, already had my swagger. I've always called him
the new improved version of me. He's just like me. And she would
say to me, you got your clutches in, Jared, because she had
to deal with both of us. We were a team. Jesse is mine.
Stay away from him. She loved her little baby. When Jesse was
born, where the babies were kept in that special area for all the babies,
if you walked over, you would see it would say on his bed,
whatever you call it, baby boy Webber. We couldn't agree on the
name the entire time. We're in the hospital. The sign a hunter his
crib said, baby boy Webber. Now Susy was in no rush to leave.
She was happy for the help. We had a relationship with the hospital.
I visited her each day. We had a spirited conversation on what his
name would be. Hey, Sue, I'm the father, and she would
look at me and say so. One night we had a hospital romantic dinner.
Being in a hospital, it wasn't so romantic, but it was important
to see. Still no name after all of that. So on the last
day I came to pick her up to leave. I was panicked and I
said, Susie, we have to name the baby. And she said,
we did. His name is Jesse. Let's go home. In the end,
I guess it's better than Derek. Yep. Jesse was Susie's baby.
She was his role model. She ruined him, she made him a good
guy. Jesse's a good guy. Jared and I often wondered they give us
the wrong baby in the hospital all the time. Jesse and I became very
close. We spent a lot of time together, particularly when Jared went away
for college. As a father, I never forget they're my sons. I
never forget though we're also best friends. Jesse and I traveled the world together.
Where I went, the boys went Asia, Europe, South of France
Business pleasure. We were words in music. You get Mark Webber, you
get his sons. Were a package deal. Everyone knew the boys. I
like life's lessons. I trust you're listening and getting him out there. It's
Jesse's wedding night. It's the right time being in your children's lives. Let
them know you want to help. Be a good listener, make sure you
think carefully before giving advice. And lastly, it's okay to be their friends
and companion. When I think about our relationships with myself and the boys,
it's priceless. There's not a day that goes by that Jesse doesn't text me
and tells me he loves me and misses me. Priceless. Two weeks ago,
Jared was at Pebble Beach for business and playing golf. When we spoke,
Unsolicity said, Daddy, it's great here, but it doesn't feel the
same with you not being with me. Priceless. Yeah. I never dreamed,
after figuring out Live's game, that I had to worry all over from
my children. Tonight Jesse married Haley. I am no longer worrying. Jesse
and Haley Webber starting a new life together. Na Weber managing three babies,
including Jared na. I admire you, I love you, all of you
priceless. During the course of planning for this wedding for a year, Hayley
taught me a lesson. Every time I would see her, she would ask
me if I was excited, and the antswer was always the same, I'm
not excited about this stuff. It just doesn't get me excited. Aren't you
excited for the wedding? No? And then one day she looked at me
and said, aren't you excited. You're extending the family. And I put
my head down and I said, of course, and she was right.
So that made me excited. Now having said this, enough of the sweet
stuff. I can't take it. I know it's Jesse's wedding, but it's
our radio show, our podcast. Allow me to introduce my lawyer, co
host and son, Jesse Weber. Come on up, Jesse. Time to
work. I can't get one night off when when one night off, I'm
working your work here? Remember when you said you're not a character. This
isn't helping. Oh well, I think it's only appropriate now I have a
couple of questions for you. You're ready. I can't believe that you're doing
this. You're getting I was enjoying my short rib. I was in listening
to the speeches. You know, so, what what do you I thought
you like doing our show. I need one day off, one day forget
it, forget it, forget it. You know, work is work.
If it's work, you work hard. Though you're lucky, you get.
I need you here with me. Okay, So listen. When I first
met Hailey, I'm pretty hard on you bringing meat dates. I've never been
easy about it. Correct, that's an understatement. Well, let me ask
you a question. How was I when it came to Haley? Interestingly enough,
the first thing you said, she handles herself so well. She seems
very smart, and she seems very kind. That was what you first said
about her. So I was pretty nice to her. Right? Do you
know why? Why take beauty aside, telling sweetness aside, taking family aside?
Think about it? What you told me why I was so nice to
Haley? Well, the truth of the matter is, and this is not
scripted. I told my dad this. He asked me, what makes Haley
so special? She just makes me happy. You know a lot of people
don't know this. We didn't see each other for the last eighteen hours,
and I missed her. When I don't see her, I miss her.
She means the world to me, so I love her. So of course
I was so you being happy as your father was all I cared about.
And the fact that you was so happy with Haley instantly cognition, an instant
set. So that's why cutter slacking. So we're done. I can go
back. No no, no, no, no no, that's so easy.
This show this called always in fashion. And as much as I wanted
to be a business show, and as much as it's cultural and lifestyle,
it's fashion. And I can't talk fashion wellout the other member of this trio
coming up and joining me, Jared Webber. You know we're on radio and
podcast is the or an audience out there? I can't hear you. Jared,
you look amazing. Tell us who you're wearing. I'm wearing Ralph Lauren
Purple label. More specifically, as you pick up the paper, I'm wearing
a peek lapel tuxedo with a grow grain waistcoat and velvet slippers. And the
waistcoat is a shawl collar. And about you tonight, who are you wearing?
I have to admit you got me interested in Ralph Floren. I never
wore him before because all the companies I work for I couldn't wear a competitor.
But I gotta tell you this is made to measure from Italy. I
can't believe how comfortable it feels. It's really really great. But I want
to change the subject a little. Do you look the best you can look?
Right now? To be intellectually honest, no, I don't. If
this is what I think it's about, made fun of me enough, you
don't have to do it anymore. It's what you think it's about. This
is ridiculous. I'm one hundred percent right. You'll hear the crowd agree with
me. Do you look the best you look tonight day? In spite of
the way this suit feels, No, I'm not wearing what I wanted to
wear? What did you want to wear tonight? I wanted to wear a
white shawl collar dinner jacket, just like the one Jesse's wearing tonight? What
did you want to wear tonight? Ever since I saw a Sean Connery and
Thunderball, I wanted to wear a white dinner jacket, but Jesse didn't want
us to win white dinner jackets. He didn't want us to over a shadow
him a little selfish? Am I allowed to be selfish on my wedding?
Can I not be a peacock a little bit? All right, I'm gonna
take over. I will say, Daddy, we lucked out because they didn't
have any white dinner jackets and adult sizes at the start. I gotta tell
you, Jesse, the whole thing sounds really selfish to me. I wanted
to wear a white dinner jacket and instead I'm wearing this. This isn't about,
you know, whether anybody's out shining. I'm allowed to be selfish this
one time in my life. You can wear a white dinner jacket any other
time. All right, ladies and gentlemen, if you're just tuning in,
this is Mark Webber, Jesse Webber, and Jared Webber. This is always
in Fashion, a special edition. Jesse Webber just married Hayley Si and we're
talking about that wedding. Here we are talking about fashion. Now. I
can't help myself. I am going to choose my words carefully. I was
going to do a real number on the way the guys addressed look women,
the ladies here. You'll all look beautiful, You're all dress well. I'm
enjoying just being in your presence, but the guys not so much. Now
there's a part of me that before I even begin, it's not your fault.
The signals you're getting, what you're seeing on award shows, what you're
reading in GQR esqui. They're telling you the wrong things. I remember seeing
Seth Rogan wear a pink tuck sedo to the Academy Awards. I was wondering,
should I wear a pink tuch sedo when I go to a board meeting
or a formal dinner with my company. I'm sure they'd appreciate it. You're
getting the wrong signals, but nonetheless I'm looking out there are rules. Some
of you are wearing suits. Guys, the Hilton is down the street.
This is the Plaza Hotel. Some of you are wearing socks. Some of
you are wearing regular shoes. You know I was going to get into this.
I really don't because five minutes into dancing, fifty percent of you all
took off your jackets and you're running around with your shirts. So so much
for black ties. I can't win. Now that I got that out of
my system. Let me get back to life and being a father. I've
learned a few lessons along the way about life marriage. There's a lot of
younger people out there in the audience tonight, and I'm concerned because the statistics
are not in favor of marriage. Fifty to seventy percent of marriages end in
divorce. Less people are getting married because they hear that information. And I
know the secret to a successful marriage, and it's simple. I know the
secret to not getting divorce. Divorce is not an option. It's not simple.
My wife and I agreed before we got married that we were staying married.
There is no way either one of us would ever have considered divorce.
And in the forty years we were married, not once did we ever threaten
each other because we made a promise to each other. Did we fight,
of course, did we say crazy things to one another? Of course,
there were times we went to bed not talking to each other. I woke
up the next morning I forgot what we fight about, but we knew,
no matter what, if we were to stay together, you have to work
it out. No. I understand some of you think I'm crazy. I
know people say I changed he changed. She changed. I'm not happy.
Wake up. It's your job to figure that out before you pick upon or
and decide you're getting married. That's your job. It's your life we're talking
about. I also want to talk to you about being a father in law.
I'm a father in law. But before I go there, I have
to tell you I had an amazing relationship with my in laws. My mother
in law I think loved me. I think she was funny, she had
no filter. After a couple of years with her, I remember her sitting
down with me and saying to me, Susie always said, you'd be good.
What the heck were they talking about? But my father in law,
he was a very very interesting guy, an important guy, and helpful guy
in life and in marriage for me. Joe copplewis you know I had a
problem. Like a lot of you out there, youth is wasted on the
young. I didn't show the respect to my parents that I should have.
I could have been better. I learned respect for parents from my wife.
I'd been dating Susie for about a month and she said it's time I'd like
you to come meet my parents. So I went to our home. When
inside met her parents. We had nice conversation. They were very nice to
me, and we got up to leave, and as we were walking,
my future father in law opened me to the door and he said, Mark
brings Susie back by eleven o'clock. And I started to laugh to myself and
we got outside. He closed the door and I started to laugh. I
said, yeah, right, bring you back at eleven o'clock. And as
I'm walking, I looked to my left and Susie's not there. I said,
whoa. I turned around and she's still at the door. I walked
back and said, what happened? What's going on? And she looked at
me says, when my father tells you that he wants you to bring me
back at eleven o'clock, you bring me back at eleven o'clock. That's when
I learned respect for parents. And that's when I realized how serious and how
precious Susie was as a woman. Now, as for me, my first
encounter with my father in law in a great less than I learned. Susie
and I were talking about a wedding and my father in Laura sat us down
and he said, look, I've been planning on Susie having a wedding for
a very long time. We put away money to have a special wedding.
But I have to ask Mark. I know you come from humble circumstances,
and I thought that if you'd prefer to have a check rather than a big
wedding, I would offer you that opportunity. What do you want to do
now? Susie and I had talked about this, and she's definitely wanted a
wedding, but she knew that I was excited about the idea of a check
because where would I put that kind of money together. We could buy a
house right away, And Susie said to me, Mark, we'll be able
to buy a house. I have faith in you. We don't need the
money. So anyway, my father asked me, I said, you know,
sir, I think we'd like to get the check right then. And
there he stood up, walked out, didn't talk to me for three weeks
till I came back and begged him to make a wedding. On a serious
note, I was working. I was relatively new at my company, but
I started to realize I was making compromises. I started to realize that people
were asking me to say and do things that I didn't like doing. I'm
not a liar, I'm not a fibber. I don't like bending the truth.
And I was being asked to do it, and my career was put
in front of me. I started to think that I needed this job,
and I was making decisions because I was fearful of not working and not having
money. And I shared that with my father in law, and what a
great guy he said to me, Mark, I hope you never need to
come to me, but you should never make decisions based on money. You
should always make decisions based on what you feel is right. And in this
guard I want you to know I have your back. So Jesse, I
will tell you like my father in law said to me, I hope you
never need me. I hope you never have the problems that I had.
I hope you never have to make decisions for money, but if you do,
I have your back. And lastly, I learned the lesson that I
want to share now with Haley. If you watch my father in law,
he was fair, he was neutral. You would never know by talking to
my father in law who is his son or who is his daughter in our
marriage. You would never know because he treated us fairly. If there was
an argument, if there was a dispute, if there was something no one
agreed on. He didn't pick sides. He was fair, he was just,
and because that you could trust him implacably. And I want to I
promise you tonight, Hailey, that no matter what happens with you and Jesse,
I will treat you evenly. With that said, I want to thank
all of you for being here tonight. I've had a wonderful time so far.
I appreciate the opportunity to speak with you. I believe somewhere in those
last fifteen minutes there were lessons for all of you to gain by. I
hope you are listening. I know you're drinking. I know you're having fun,
and you want to get back to the body with that, Let's have
some fun. I'm going to take a break. You'll be back in a
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to Always in Fashion. Here's your host, Mark Webber, Jesse my son
and co host just got married. It's actually three o'clock in the morning and
I'm still pumped up. So I figured i would talk about the wedding.
But before I go there, I had an incredible experience last night. It's
Sunday night, Memorial Day weekend. Last night, Saturday night, I took
a group of friends out to dinner, eleven of us in total, to
Avron Madison Avenue. It was a great time and it meant a lot to
be with close friends that were all in New York getting ready for the wedding.
The next day, we all hung out, we had dinner together,
and I made a speech to them because I was happy. I was in
the mood. It was my dinner party. I felt like entertaining and holding
court. And I made a speech and it was really fun and I enjoyed
doing it, and I called it going to the poorhouse speech. You know,
I'm sitting in there in this restaurant. I'm figure it's going to cost
me at least twenty five hundred dollars for dinner, and then you know,
I will choose my words carefully. I made a important contribution to the wedding.
Leading up to the wedding, I had been very gracious and I sent
my family to Disney World, all expenses paid, hired those tour guides,
those special tour guides that walstered through all of Disney, the back doors,
etc. Fortune And of course, as a wedding gift to Jesse and Haley,
I decided to pay for their honeymoon to the Greek Islands first class,
all the way through cruises around the islands. You watched Jesse pilot on.
It was amazing and I said to Jesse, you know, let's take a
minute. You remind me of the contractor I used to build my house.
I bought a house a few years ago and decided to change our lifestyle.
I bought a bigger house and it was really exciting time for us. The
house on the outside, to me, you know, brick colonial looked like
any other house, but inside it was very warm and very special. And
at the time, I remember I was working at LVMH and in particular I
was thinking I was working with Donna Karan's architect. He's the guy who designed
her penthouse in Manhattan, who who built her compound at Paracay in the Turks
and Caicos. You know, extraordinary group of guys and gals, designers,
really special. And I asked them to come to see this house. I
had bought it, and I had a couple of things I wanted to do,
really only two things. One there were two rooms that shared a fireplace,
and as I looked at it, the fireplace was from the floor to
the top of the colonial ceiling. I looked at two rooms and I said
to myself, you know what, this should all be one big room.
This family room, in this living room should all be one room. And
I think I want to tear down the walls and turn it into one room.
And secondarily, in the kitchen there was a bathroom. Now there's nothing
wrong with that, except the house looks out at the water and the bathroom
took up so much space. So I bought this house, and only thing
my wife and I agreed on we needed to do was knock down that wall
and make two rooms into one and take the bathroom out of the kitchen.
And Donna Karen's architect and designer comes to our house. I said, listen,
the outside is not a dream house, it's just a colonial. But
inside it's really nice. And I have a couple of little things I want
you to do and recommend. I'll never forget, he said, Mark,
I wouldn't think twice about the outside. There is a trend in architecture and
design now that houses on the outside and what they look like in the inside
are surprises. So the inside could very often be incredibly different, exciting,
and not what you'd expect when you open the door to look in. And
that's what I think we'll do. We open the door, we all go
in. He takes one foot and set up in the house. He turns
his head, he looks around. He said, you're not living like this.
I said, what do you mean? He said, you're not living
like this? I know you're Mark. This is for you. You got
to change all of this. And I went from just knocking down one wall
and taking out a bathroom to redoing the entire house. Every screw, every
window, everything, Everything was changed except for the front windows on the house.
It was crazy. What was supposed to be a seven month project too
close to two years. And I can't tell you how frustrated I was and
how expensive it became. And I remember between the designers and architects and the
builder, my contractor having a meeting with them when we were almost done,
and I said, you know, particularly to the contractor, you could have
bankrupted me. This thing was three times what we agreed it would cost.
You could have bankrupted me. And I remember it, and here I am
in this dinner the night before the wedding. I looked at Jesse and I
said, to Jesse, you remind me of the contract that if I didn't
know better, you were trying to take me to the warhouse. And I
reminded him all these things that are going on, And what really triggered it
for me is the day before the wedding, I find out we have to
tip everyone, tip everyone. We signed a deal with a photographer to come
in to take pictures in video. We have to tip him and all his
assistance. I don't get it. He signed a contract deal. The guy
is the owner, he's the photographer. You don't tip the owner. Then
I find out that the caterer expects us to tip the entire weight staff of
the event. I find out that the band leader and his band it's customary
to tip. I find out the flower people, the woman who was at
point deserves to be tipped. I find out that the person at the plaza
who organized the entire event, I'm supposed to tip, and I went crazy,
going crazy. Where is this coming from the eleventh hour? And why
am I tipping people to do their jobs? It's not a thinking about it.
I remember so clearly my first trip to Japan. Japan society is very
different. They're very polite, they're very elegant. They're very fastidious about their
appearance and the way they take care of things. You get in a taxi
cab in Japan, you could eat off the floor. All the seat covers
are covered in white doilies. Every driver is wearing white gloves, immaculate.
I remember going in the subway. No noise, no screaming, everyone's dress,
there are no smells, there are no sound, there's no squeaky and
once again, you could eat off the floors. But the most remarkable thing
of all of it, after all of a sudden, I went to tip
the doorman. I went to tip the drive. They put their hand out
in front of your palms up and they shake it, say no, no,
no, no, no, there's no tipping. And it got me
thinking, who came up with this idea of tipping? I don't even want
to know. It's kind of like our lives. Who came up with the
idea that we would work five days a week to get two days off?
Who came up with the idea that we would work fifty weeks out of the
year to get two weeks off and for lucky maybe three? Look, I
mean think who came up with the idea of tipping? This idea that it's
our responsibility to take care of workers working in a restaurant or taxi driver is
driving a cab? Why is that our responsibility? I just don't get it.
Food it's expensive you eat out. Do you know that it costs twelve
dollars to have a diet coke and a good bar in Manhattan? Plus I'll
tell its twelve dollars for a diet coke? Are you kidding me? At
home? I could buy twelve cans for twelve dollars, But here it is,
And I'm thinking, there's no shame. Restaurants raise their price during COVID
after COVID incredibly and yet we're taking them off the hook of having to pay
for their workers. I don't get it. I don't understand the whole concept.
I went to one of my favorite restaurants the other night on a Sunday
with the family, seven of us, five o'clock. I get there before
everyone to make sure I like the table it's there. Fifteen minutes goes by
twenty minutes. I'm early half hour. The waiter doesn't even come over to
me. You know you want to drink? What can I do for you?
Give me a piece of bread, anything, a breadcrumb. One of
my favorite restaurants. They know me well. And after all is said and
done, it took over an hour once everyone was there to get to the
food. When the way to finally came over, I said, what's going
on here? This is well, Sunday at five o'clock is one of our
busiest time and there's just not enough stamp What I'm saying, Am I screw
you? What are you nuts tips to insure prompt service? Now let me
ask you a question. In all honesty, seven people have dinner, we
get served. Am I not going to tip the guy because he didn't insure
prop service? M I not to tip the guy because a half hour I
waited, it ain't give me a glass of water or a drink. No,
we're obligated to tipp. And that got me thinking and I started talking
to Jesse and I said to him, you remind me of my contractor.
And between all this money I'm spending, I feel like I'm I'm going to
the poorhouse. One thing on tipping. I love Steve Martin. It'll be
twelve dollars, okay, and keep the change please. Oh we're not allowed
to accept tips. I'm not allowed to accept tips. Oh you change is
eight? Thank you? Thank you? Can I get you something down?
I find things? Would you like something to drink? Now? Be sure
bike you tip a flight attendant. I tip everybody. That's my philosophy.
See, actually it's not tipping. I believe in it's over tipping. Yeah.
I don't believe in tipping. I believe in overtipping. The truth is
is that's what it feels like, all day long, all night long,
tipping, tipping, tipping, tipping, tipping, tipping. We just added
the most incredible wedding Plaza Hotel is beautiful. When you walk into that ballroom,
you look at it. It's like the Sistine Chapel. It's amazing and
there's so many nice events. During the photography sessions. In the early stage,
Jesse sore his soon to be wife in her gown for the first time.
Oh, it was beautiful. Nice. So she comes walking down the
stairs. Great moment. And during that whole photography we went outside in front
of the Plasa and took pictures and that was a really fun experience. All
of us, the boys, all of us, the friends, all of
us were in sunglasses in front of the plaza fountain. It was so much
fun. But the wedding begins in the I don't know what you call the
room, but Jesse and I went up first to the stage the platform to
wait for the wedding party. As they started to play music. Jesse played
for us Claire Dulon because Oceans a level than had Claire Delone. It's one
of our favorite movies, and I suppose that's why he chose it. And
we went up and were on the stage, and he wanted to be the
first traditionally and never the first. The groom is never the first, but
he wanted to watch the event as a the unfold. It was turned out
to be a great idea, and I can only tell you that the entirety
of the wedding that was my favorite part. I stood behind Jesse as he
waited for his bride to walk down the aisle, and I had my hands
on his shoulders and I was whispering in his ear, and the two of
us were talking father and son as close as we always are, and we're
looking out as people and the proceed of the groups come walking down the aisle,
and it was truly a special moment, more than a moment, and
we loved it. And he was right all the flowers, the room was
lit primarily by candles, my son's, Hailey's family, two little boys.
One came to the vada music of Star Trek. It was amazing other to
the greatest showman, and it was just a very very special time. And
then after that we go into the ceremony and the first dance and Jesse comes
in with an outfit change from a black tuxedo to white dinner jacket. Spectacular,
and he and Haley come in and they start to dance. I didn't
know who this guy was. I didn't recognize him. Jesse can really dance.
I never saw it, I suppose, and the whole wedding was active
and alive and so much going on. There were four speeches. I gave
you mine earlier, I would say to you. Arguably, I was right
in the middle of the back my daughter and Laurina gave a speech that was
so remarkable. I was spellbound. One had to do with the content,
and she was talking to Haley about joining the incredible league of Weber women who
came before her. And it was a beautiful speech, but the way she
delivered it, I was shocked. I know Ena so well, I know
for a long time. Now we spend time together. It's it's we're all
close. The speech she made was breathtaking, amazing. Afterwards they said,
you know, we got to put you up for President of the United States.
It was of that ilk. I mean, I've seen and heard a
lot of people speak in my time. I've never seen anything like this.
Better than anyone. I think she'd rival Bill Clinton. She was amazing and
it was great, and there was a moment then when a speech was done,
Jesse and Haley, who were at their special table, came up to
hug her and I couldn't help myself and Jared couldn't help himself, and the
five of us were wrapped in an embrace, hugging Ena for the speech she
gave. And it was just a very special moment. And you can go
on and on, from the cake ceremony to the dancing ceremony. Everything about
it was beautiful. And while I said earlier, I don't get excited,
I was content. I was happy. I was happy for Jesse. After
all, he's my little son. I love him. And the fact that
he was so happy. Yeah, by the way, he gets up on
the stage with his now bride, with the band and starts dancing. And
for the entirety of the wedding, I would say for at least an hour
of it, he was up on the stage. That's gretty. Oh one
more thing before I leave my night where I was talking about going to the
poorhouse. Thank you. Jesse, my contractor. We're planning the wedding.
The wedding's done and Jesse comes to me, Daddy, we'd like to have
an afterparty. What what's an after party? Says Well, when the wedding
ends, we want to have a select group of people stay on for another
hour, he said, free. He looked at me and I'm crazy,
and no it's gonna cause I said, what are you nuts? The wedding
started at six o'clock. It's one in the morning. Now you need another
after hour. So they had it in all of this. And as I
sit here in the middle of the night talking to you guys, I have
this smile on my face, a warmth in my heart. It is such
a nice feeling for the human race. I hope when I wake up in
the morning I still feel this way towards my fellow man, but I doubt
it. It was a great night so far. I'll take a break back
in a minute. Tonight it's Jesse's wedding. Always in fashion, been a
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great, you should go look at him. Welcome back to Always in Fashion.
Here's your host, Mark Webber. Good evening, good morning, and
I guess it is more accurate. It's the middle of the night. Jesse's
wedding just concluded two o'clock in the morning, finished the after party. I'm
in my room. I'm still sitting in my tuxedo. I'm thinking about the
night with a smile. My son, Jesse, my baby, is married,
and we had a great time. He had a great time, is
happy from beginning to end. He's been excited about this, looking forward to
it. Big night, great night. Everyone had a good time, everyone
including me. But I have to admit I'm admittedly not a fan of humans,
and here I am having to be one of the focal points of an
evening, a personal focal point, which is very different from business. You
stand up as a business guy at these events. You're detached. It's business.
It's not personal, Sunny, it's business. Personal is different, and
it's an awkward situation for me. Made me think about the last few weeks.
Last month or so, I've been considering what to do about being called
a character. I don't like being called the character. It's happened a couple
of times in the last month, and I find it incredibly insulting, and
I don't like it. And I can't believe people are judging me now versus
then. Now I'm on the radio, I'm entertaining, I'm trying to be
funny, I'm trying to do things. I'm trying to be very out there,
and I shouldn't be judged at this point in my life after forty years
of a career, solid serious business guys A and I've had trouble coming to
grips with it, the same way I had trouble coming to grips with fashion.
I've just seen posted on Instagram Mark Webb a dropping bombs and the fashion
rules at a black tie wedding. I loved it. Yeah, I was
all over that. But just like in fashion, how do I come to
grips with guys showing up in dresses or kilts or these funny outfits or no
socks or no shirts or whatever at black tie events and on the runway,
etc. I just can't stand fashion. I was able to come up with
because if some Laurent and Coco Chanelle said fashion comes and goals and styles forever,
so I've recognized and reconciled that fashion can exist whatever it is. You
want to make a fool yourself go right ahead. But style is enduring and
should have to have style, and I could deal with all these fashion faux
pas and deal with it and not get upset. But I come to the
conclusion sitting here in the middle of the night, thinking out tonight, being
out there, how to deal with being a character? How to deal with
it? And I came up with something I dealt with a long time ago,
that my character is an alter ego, and I could adopt the fact
that when I am in character or being a character, it's a part of
me that I could put off to the side and separate from the rest of
myself. And I've come to grips with us tonight as I sit here at
three o'clock in the morning, and I thought about the time that I became
escalante. Yeah, my alter ego here I am. I'm going through a
time when I started playing golf, and golf is a sport that if you
are alone, you can't play alone. They put you with other people and
you have to interact with strangers. And I remember being in Turnberry Isle in
Miami playing golf on their golf course, and I was playing with two German
businessmen and one of them in particular decided he wanted to talk to me.
In his German accent, he said, so tell me who you are,
what do you do? And it's then that I realized, right then and
there, that I no longer wanted to be Mark Webber with strangers. And
I said, my name is Escalante. I go by one name, and
I'm playing golf here, but I really live in Barcelona. It's a guy
goes, nah, you're not from Barcelona. You know how I know?
And I said, yeah, I'll tell you how because I didn't say Barcelona.
And then he looked at me differently. So you're really from Barcelona.
I said, yeah, I'm from Barcelona. What do you do there?
I said, when I tell you, you're not going to believe me.
He said, no, tell me. I said, I'm a bullfighter,
and he goes, come on, you're not a bullfighter. I said,
I am a bullfighter. That's what I did for a living. And he
looked at me like I was crazy. He says, tell me, how
did you become a bullfighter? That's a long story. You really want to
hear it. Now we're playing golf and we're going alon. I said,
well, I started as a highlight player in Miami. I got to a
point that I heard my ankle and my wrist and elbow were affected by the
throwing of the siesta, and I couldn't do it anymore. And I was
in these places, you know, South America, Brazil, Mexico, and
I decided I'd become a bullfighter, and I was known as escalante and that's
what I did for a living. He said, you speak Spanish. I
said, no, this is how could you be a bull fight if you
don't speak Spanish? I said, the bulls don't speak it either. To
make a long story short, I was reflecting on the night and it was
a peculiar place for me to be where I had to be front and center.
As a personal note, because I'm not good with the warm and fuzzy
stuff. But I can only tell you this, as a father, you
have responsibilities. You have responsibilities to first and foremost, be there for your
children, be a guiding light, help them, make sure you show interest
in them and support them. And I thought about that tonight and I felt
that I've done well and I was happy, and I could picture my wife
saying to me, Mark, you're a good boy. And then and of
itself made my night. So Jesse, congratulations. I'm so happy for you.
Enjoy your honeymoon. I miss you. There's a new member of our
family, Hailey Weber. That's so exciting. And after all is said and
done, I'm finally going to say good night. From Jesse's wedding at the Plaza Hotel