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What's up? Positive bitches? How are we doing today? If you're hearing
this episode, then you are meant to be here, So keep watching.
On that Bitch's Positive Podcast, sometimes we will laugh. Other times, baby
Girl, we're gonna cry, but we will always walk away feeling our most
empowered positive bitch self. That is Babe in true connection with herself. On
this podcast, we unbecome who we are not so we can fully step into
exactly who we came here to be? Can I get a name? E
Manna? This month? In fabru Rury? Because it's all about you,
baby girl. We've been talking about self love, but not the honky dory
self love we see in mass media. Oh, just love yourself. Keep
doing everything exactly how you're doing it, but love yourself anyway. That doesn't
work. If you want to shift what you're feeling, you have to shift
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that will help you actually like yourself better. We wouldn't like a friend who
was being really mean to us. We're not gonna like ourselves if we're being
really mean to ourself. So if we notice I'm not liking myself, it's
a side effect of how we're thinking being an emotive. That's why we come
to that which is positive, to actually learn how to make moves. This
month, we've talked about thus far, how to forgive ourselves, how to
stop self sacrificing ourselves because we are the alter, We're not the sacrifice,
baby No. And we're gonna continue that in February. Today we're gonna talk
about how to romanticize our life, our self, health, and most importantly,
our season. We're gonna learn how to really become that princess or that
prince on our very own pedestal. Remember, your pedestal is your rightful throne,
and whoever's on your pedestal has the most power in your reality. So
I'm going to whoop I check you today to figure out who's on your pedestal,
and we're going to learn how to romanticize our life again. Now,
maybe you're thinking this is kind of a topic that has been talked about.
We've heard about it, Yeah, but we're gonna do it differently because that's
how we do it around here. I was thinking, is there even a
point to make an episode about how to romanticize your life. But then I
thought, well, what's the alternative If we don't romanticize our life, what
are we doing? Okay, so we hate it? That would be at
the other side of the poll. What would be the point of that If
you're not romanticizing your life because you think it's dumb or stupid. I want
you to rethink because I hear a lot of people saying, oh, that's
the bunths of bs, it's a waste of time. No, it's not.
The alternative to not romanticizing your life is hating it. Guess what,
bitch, You're already here. You're on planet Earth. You're on the roller
coaster. There's no getting off right now. So you can either hate the
roller coaster the whole entire ride through, or you can put on your positive
bitch pants and you can start to enjoy the ride. You can it's your
choice. You can decide if you want to hate your whole entire life.
That's that's your prerogative. Like, I can't stop you from doing that.
If that's what you want to do, okay, go do it. But
if you want to actually have an earthly experience, that you can enjoy.
Okay, romanticizing it is a tool we can use to make life a little
bit better. And you know what, while we're we're here, why don't
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I last night made a video about standards, okay, And in this
video, I was talking about how I've had clients literally all over the world,
hundreds, if not thousands. I've had any type of client you can
think about, from er doctors to lawyers, to Instagram models to moms and
literally everyone in between. And not once ever have I looked at a person
and say, you know what your problem is. Your problem is that your
standards are too high. I've never once said that, because that's never once
been the case. Yeah, sometimes they had faulty programming about relationships and beliefs
about men and women and connection. Yeah, some of them were steeped really
deeply into their masculine energy. Yeah, some of them were still dealing with
their wounds and their traumas. But not one of them, literally, ever,
literally ever had the problem of their standards being too high. You came
all the way down to planet Earth and incarnated in your body for what average.
No, you should be your biggest advocate. You should be having the
highest of high standards for yourself. Being high maintenance. That is not an
insult. I love that I'm high maintenance because I require the best of the
best from myself and I require the best of the best from other people.
If you want to see that as a negative thing, baby girl, I
think someone is projecting because they're mad they don't have as high of a regard
for their own life. I value my existence. I value my life.
Of course, I'm going to value everything that comes into contact with me as
well. It's as if our parents gave us this luxurious gift, or our
partner gave us a luxurious gift, would we just throw it away and be
like, oh, it's so stupid. No, we would tell you that
we would act in accordance with high maintenance mindset and really take care of this
really nice car or this really nice piece of jewelry because we value it.
I want you to adopt something I'd call the Harvard principle. If you think
about these Ivy League schools, it can be any one of them. What
do all of them have in common. They have a really high standard for
who's allowed to get into their college and a really low acceptance rate for everyone
that does get through. This is how I apply the Harvard principle in my
own life. I have a very high standard from what I expect from myself
and a very high standard for what do I expect from other people. Period.
If I can give that energy to myself and others, you can do
it too. And if you can't, that's fine, but you're not going
to have as much access to me. Harvard isn't going around. Oh I'm
so I'm so sorry we didn't let you in. I'm so sorry. Okay,
a pity let it. No, No, they're not doing that.
These schools have a very high standard and a low acceptance rate. I have
a low acceptance rate for the amount of bs I let into my life.
I have a very low tolerance for it. Why. Because I value my
time, my space, and my energy. I don't have time to put
together your mental puzzle pieces. Because I'm focusing on growing as an individual,
my love life, my business, my career, my friends. I'm focused
on watering what's actually growing. And we have to know when to stop watering
dead flowers when we're getting no return on investment. Literally, ever stop watering
the dead flower. We want to instead romanticize ourself, our season, and
honestly, our own. Can we romanticize that because I think some of us
have forgotten how truly valuable we all are mantra moment. I value my time,
my space, and my energy. Yes, I value my time,
my space, and my energy. Yesterday was Valentine's Day and apparently today is
Single Awareness Day, February fifteenth. I did not know about that, but
okay, sure, today's single Awareness Day. How can we romanticize our self,
whether we're in a relationship or not, our season, our life,
romanticizing yourself? And again, why are we doing this? Because the alternative
sucks? The alternative of hating your life is effing boring and it's not useful.
Just ask yourself if is what I'm doing useful to me? Or is
it not? Is hating my life useful? No? Okay, so I'm
not gonna do it anymore. Sometimes it's as simple as that, check yourself
before you wreck yourself. Romanticizing your life is easy. Think about when someone
notices the little things about you and they remember the kind of coffee you like,
or to get you your favorite dessert. Just think about anytime someone has
done something really small for you, how seen and validated you felt. They
did the smallest action, but yet you're overcome with gratitude. I feel so
seen, I feel so validated. We don't have to create big moments in
order for us to romanticize ourself and our life. It's the little things that
add up. Just like when that person remembers your coffee order or your favorite
dessert, we feel so seen. Start giving to yourself small moments. These
small moments are truely magical. So how can we start to romanticize our life
on a small scale. I like to light a candle for myself every single
new day to just honor today is a new day, a new beginning.
I am a co creator in my universe. I have a lot more creative
control than I think, and I have got this. I'm gonna honor myself.
I'm gonna honor my body. I'm reminding myself. I'm going to have
positive thoughts, speak positive words, and feel positive emotions every single day.
This is actually a manifesting technique called segment intending, created by Abraham Hicks.
When you think about what you want to manifest, usually they're large scale manifestations.
I want a house, in this career, in this family. They're
long term goals. But if you break down those long term goals into daily,
actionable goals, you manifest much easier. This is how it would look.
Let's say I'm about to go into my new day. I want a
segment intend exactly how I want this day to go. Okay, so I
have this meeting. It's gonna be a great meeting. I'm gonna get exactly
what I want out of it. I'm gonna have an amazing workout. I'm
gonna eat high vibrational foods, and I'm gonna feel great today. When I
break down my larger manifestations of just being healthy into today, I'm gonna eat
good, feel good. I take my energy and it goes from being this
diffused lighting to this laser focus today. This is where my energy is going,
and it actually amps up momentum to manifest faster easier, quicker. So
segment intend every single day, how do I want day to go. It's
gonna be easy, there will be no traffic. I'm gonna have great meetings.
I'm gonna have a lovely meal with my loved ones. When you break
down these big momentous manifestations into smaller dale actions, they manifest quicker because you
are literally instead of this diffused energy making it into that laser. That's a
side note. The other part of this is when you wake up and you
take a moment, a small moment to honor it's a new day, Honor
yourself. Honor waking up, by the way, waking up every single day,
what a gift. You know. Not everyone woke up today. Do
we need to remind ourselves of this? Yeah, sometimes we do. Not
everyone took a breath today. Not everyone opened up their eyes today. Not
everyone felt their spirit flowing through their body today. Thank you God from my
life today, because not everyone has that privilege to open their eyes waking up
having a moment of gratitude for our self, for our life. Segment intending
how we want our day to go. This is romanticizing our life because we're
not just shuffling unconsciously through it, we're becoming conscious creators. Instead of dragging
our past into our present and repeatedly manifesting the same life over and over and
over and over again, we're saying, no, I'm interrupting my old personality.
I'm interrupting the habitual. And that's what our personality is. It's the
habits of thoughts, feelings, and emotions and actions. That's who we are.
Personality makes our personal reality. When I interrupt my past and instead of
thinking about, oh God, I have to do this and this is who
I am and I'm still mad at my sister, instead of just getting rushed
into that river of negativity, we're interrupting. We're creating space to actually live
in the present moment. And by the way, where is our pedestal,
it's in the present. Where is our power, It's in the present.
If you want to unlock creative abilities, if you want to unlock a new
reality, that power is in your present moment. You have to wake up
to your now. So, whether you're romanticizing yourself by just waking up and
segment intending, by taking a moment to create space to be present instead of
just going back into the river of who I used to be. That is
how you romanticize your life. That is how you change your life. Now.
I'm not gonna sit here and tell you if you hate your life,
just romanticize it. What I'm telling you is that you have to make actionable
change. Things out there don't change unless we start changing in here. Your
change can be very small. Just wanting different is setting an intention to start
attracting different. But you gotta at least want it. And once we want
it, we start attracting new ideas of well, what should I change,
how can I change? Maybe I should do this instead that feeling of maybe
I shouldn't eat the whole entire bag of oreos that I you know how many
signs I thought that I did. I did, and I was like,
I need a sign that I should stop binging, bitch. That was the
sign. Wanting the sign is the sign. It's just coming from inside of
the house. And we think, well, just wanting to change is not
a good enough sign. No, wanting to change, that is a sign.
It's time to change. We just don't trust ourselves enough, and our
ego is always in our ears saying you need an external sign because you can't
trust who you are. Let's start tuning into our intuition and out of the
fears of our ego, and let's realize that that want to change, to
stop hating our lives, to stop hating every single day. That is a
sign that it is time time to start attracting new ideas, nu wants,
new desires, and new actions. I've been there. I did hate my
life. Why because I was so mean to myself. I was binging every
in every direction, left right center. I wasn't taking care of myself.
I was in valid you myself, and therefore I didn't feel good. If
someone was treating me how I was treating myself, I would not have liked
them. So it made sense that I didn't like myself. I like myself
now. I love myself now because I treat myself a whole lot better.
I have a low acceptance rate for that bs from other people and you know
who else from myself. I don't allow myself to go off on a tangent
and do things that are going to hurt me. I hold myself accountable,
just like I hold my partner accountable, just like I hold my friend's accountable.
Next, we want to romanticize the meaning that we give to our life.
So not just creating a little moment in the early morning to light a
candle, not just getting ourselves that little gift, not just cooking ourself a
healthy meal. We want to romanticize the meaning we give to our life and
why we give meaning to our life, and then our meaning gives us life.
We don't live life, We live through the meaning that we give to
you life. Maybe you're thinking, CC, what are you saying? This
is the thing. Our ego is always trying to look at the unpredictable,
non linear world, and it's always trying to organize this non linear, unpredictable
world into stories that we can tell ourselves. Because our ego is scared and
it hates change, and it's clinging to familiarity. So our ego will try
to tell us, Ugh, being single is the worst. In fact,
I'm gonna die alone. I have to let in the f boys, I
have to let in the situation shift. I have to be treated badly because
I'm gonna die alone and I'm single and this is the worst thing ever,
And all my friends are in relationships. It is that no, no,
no, no, no, no no, it's like a bird chirping in
your ears. The most annoying thing ever. That's your ego. Okay,
your ego is gonna want to rush you. It's going to say A and
then B and then A and then B, and it's going to act from
fear. That ego voice is not who we're listening to when we're romanticizing ourself
and our life and our pedestal. We're instead going to start to listen to
our intuition. Our intuition is like this. So she's so quiet, she's
so quiet, she whispers to us. She doesn't say A and then B.
No, she gives us one answer. She gives us no information why.
She just says, don't go down that alleyway? Why? Why why
shouldn't I silence? No information as to why. It's just an answer.
She's quiet. She won't bully you. Your ego does that, and she
won't rush you. We don't need to rush through the seasons of our life.
When we're single. We want to be in a relationship. When we're
in a relationship, we want to be single. When we get the job,
we don't want to be there anymore. When we don't have the job,
we're looking for a job. What if we just calmed the f down
for one minute and we created a different meaning, and that meaning was what
if I just honored where I'm at? Hold the phone. I know,
I know, you're probably jumping out of your skin right now, cecy No,
I know. What if we just sat still? You mean, I
have to feel my emotions. I have to look out what's in front of
me. I can't just but in my own mind. Yeah, that is
that is what I'm saying. Positive bitches, that is, in fact what
I'm saying. Instead of rushing, rushing, rushing, ego, ego,
ego, what if we just paused, held the phone, took a second,
and said, what if I just enjoyed where I'm at? Can I
tell you when I was going through my breakup? I mean I was crying
for hours every single day, abse freaking lutely, and I was having very
low lows. I also was having the highest highs because that was when I
was learning the most new information. It was when I was starting my spiritual
I knew nothing. I didn't know what the ego even was. I look
back on that time and it will forever be one of the favorite one of
my favorite seasons of my life. I get like choked up about it.
I have goosebumped when I think about single CC after the worst heartbreak of her
life. I loved that version of me. I miss that version of me
because it was so exciting to realize the power I had and it was it
was like it was just the first. You know how we always romanticize our
first, like, oh, our first time, our first margarita, our
first day being twenty one, our first night going out at twenty one.
We tend to romanticize our first because a new experience, and that was that
was a rebirth for me, and it was like my first, my first
time stepping into my own power, my first time really becoming an adult,
my first time learning who I was and who I was not and realizing that
I can heal myself. And when we have a season like that, I
don't want you to miss out on your first. We don't get to remember
our first from when we were a child, because we were a child.
But you're an adult now and you're still gonna have your first, and they're
gonna be many first, so many different things. The first time we tried
chocolate ice cream, I don't remember that. The first time I went to
a movie theater, I don't remember that, but I'm sure it was like,
oh my god, this chocolate is so good, or oh my god,
this movie is crazy. Let's romanticize that we can still have our first
and just because there's a learning curve and it's not always comfortable and we're gonna
have to get used to new things instead of fearing that from our ego because
it doesn't like uncomfortable, unknown situations. What if we intuitively enjoyed our first
This will never be the first again. Once you do it, it's not
the first anymore. It doesn't hit the same you know, they say that
first high, that is what addicts try to always go back to, because
nothing hits as as much as that first high. What if we realize that
there's going to be many first highs in our life and we can romanticize them
by realizing this breakup is a different first high, but it's one in which
I'm gonna date myself. Maybe my ex is getting into some new person,
but they're avoiding their healing when I'm focused on me dating myself and healing.
Now they're gonna have to do this too, they'll just be doing it later.
Studies literally show that men and women, when we are processing information,
we process it different in our brain. A man processes information in localized areas,
so over here, over here, you know whatever it is. But
a female we process information on both hemispheres all over at once. That's why
when we go to or through a breakup, we're thinking about our past,
our present, and our future. How all of this is being ripped away
from us. We've romanticized a future that now we're not going to have.
And a man can just look at a breakup and say, okay, i'm
breaking up. I'm just going to focus on someone else or something else,
and I can distract myself. Men are better at distracting themselves after a breakup
because they process information in localized areas, where we're processing information all over and
so that experience is very different. But as you are processing everything at once.
Just because they're distracting themselves now doesn't mean they're not going to process information
later. They're going to have to have that come to Jesus moment and process
the breakup too. It might be after you, but they're going to have
to do it. Think about a distraction. It only lasts for so long.
Eventually we eat all the oreos in the bag and the bag is done
and we don't have that distraction anymore, but the pain is still there.
Being in denial of pain doesn't mean that pain goes away. It means we're
in denial of it and it's gonna come back later. If you're in your
first really bad breakup and you're thinking, my ex has a new person already,
I'm over here, I'm all alone. You're not alone. Instead of
getting into someone else, get into yourself. Get into your spirit, guides,
your angel, your connection with God. That's who you're gonna get into,
and that's what's going to bring your healing. The way to get through
things is not to go around them, it's to dive on deep into those
waters. So let's think about what meaning am I giving to my life?
Because if I give myself a terrible negative meaning about this season and I say
I'm signal and it's the worst, I'm gonna feel bad Because our thoughts create
a biochemical reaction in our body. If I'm thinking and labeling negative meanings life,
I'm going to feel negative inside my body. What positive meaning can you
create. Are your meanings empowering you or are they disempowering you? That's the
question you want to ask yourself. What meanings can we create to romanticize our
life. This is my first this is my first time I'm going through a
tough breakup. It's the first time I'm rediscovering myself. It's not life and
then death. It's life and then death and the new life, and then
another death, and then another life and then another death. We're constantly cycling
through seasons. So we'll honor each season and we'll give it a meaning that's
closer to the truth. Because the truth is, even if you are single
right now, this could be the last Valentine's Day that your single, that
you get to do whatever it is you want to do, could be the
last one. You might next year be in a relationship, have to go
out to dinner, have to give them a gift. Da da da da
da da da. Then have kids a da da da da da da.
This might be the last Valentine's say that you get to do whatever you want
and freedom is oh so sweet? Is it not honor that? What meaning
are you giving to your current version of you, to your current season because
it's going to affect how you're feeling. And like I said, we don't
really realize it in the moment. I didn't realize when I was having my
super low lows and my super high highs that that was going to be one
of my favorite seasons of my life. But she's the reason I am where
I am today. She's the version of me that started everything. She is
the one who made the decision to go to therapy, to pick up at
Cartole and read the Power of Now, to become a certified life and energy
coach, to get onto TikTok. That girl, I owe my life to
her. I owe my life to her. I really do that version of
me. I love her and I honor her. And at that time,
what was that version of me thinking, Oh my god, windows is end?
Who is my future self? How do I get that out of here?
By the way, you can connect to your future self whenever you want.
If you're having difficulty during the season, call on your future self.
In the quantum fields, all versions of us exist simultaneously. Our past,
our present, and our future all exist simultaneously. The quantum field does not
process time as this realm does. If you need guidance or help. Call
on your future self. Future self, you already know how I started the
business, how I healed myself, how I got out of this toxic relationship.
Give me the strength, give me the wisdom, give me the knowledge
of what I need to do, and you'll start getting internal insights. You'll
start getting the feeling of you know, maybe I should try to look on
this website to find help. Maybe I should book that session with CC for
Life and Energy healing session. Maybe I should try to do this those maybes
is a little internal flame that's flickering. Follow the flame. It will teach
you, it will show you, It will get you to your next spot,
It will get you to the next base. So we're romanticizing our present
moment, our days. We're romanticizing our seasons, We're romanticizing our positive First,
we're romanticizing ourselves. You know, the one thing I don't want you
to romanticize. That's your ex That might be obvious, but let me tell
you why. Studies show that fifty percent fifty fifty. Studies show that fifty
percent of what we think about from our past isn't even accurate because our mind
likes to get creative. Oh yeah, our mind likes to do this cute
for a little thing where it gets creative with it, and our mind will
mold past memories in a way that helps us reconnect with emotions like keep us
stuck in our past emotions that we're addicted to, emotions that we're trying to
get away from. It will strengthen the connection to these emotions. So let's
say I am trying to get over my ex, but I'm looking for that
dopamine hit because I used to get that dopamine hit from their text or their
calls or their kisses, and now I need that dopamine hit. So what
is my mind gonna do. It's gonna embellish memories and make those memories seem
better than what they were so I can get that dopamine hit. Oh interesting.
Instead of getting a dopamine hit by lying to yourself about your ax and
how great they were, I want you to get your dopamine hit through either
finding healthy habits, a creative endeavor, or positively lying to yourself. If
you're gonna lie to yourself, you might as well do it in a way
to work for you. Okay, So right now you're lying to yourself that
your ex was better than what they were Okay, awesome. Instead, when
that happens, I want you to interrupt this behavior and say, actually,
if I'm gonna lie to myself, let me not negatively lie to myself about
my past that keeps me stuck in my past. I'm gonna positively lie to
myself about how I'm feeling right now. I'm actually doing much better than I
thought i am. I'm actually getting better and better every single day. I'm
actually doing thing wonderful, even if you don't believe it right now. The
more you repeat this to yourself, the more consistent you are with telling yourself
that you're getting better. Things are getting better, even if you don't believe
it right now. Guess what, You're gonna start to wire that into your
brain and you're gonna start to believe it. Then you're gonna start to act
in accordance with it. Then you're gonna start to feel it, and then
you're gonna start to see the reality shift around you. So, if you're
going to negatively lie to yourself, stop doing that, intergrub it, interrupt
it, and positively lie to yourself about your current moment and that positive lie
will eventually just become your present moment because you're gonna wire it in so much
that you're gonna start to believe it. And if it feels too fake,
neutralize it a little bit. If saying I feel so hot and wonderful feels
too fake, just say it to yourself. I'm getting better, I'm getting
better. I'm on the road. Okay, I'm on the path, I'm
on the journey, and I'm gonna get there. You can always neutralize it
a bit. Maybe you're thinking to yourself, CC, no, I'm not
romanticizing my ex. They actually were amazing, They actually were great, and
I messed it up. Okay, so still we're gonna romanticize this season.
I want you to start healing yourself. If you're the one who brought the
toxic energy, if you're the one who in your mind you're perceiving that you
mess it up, then okay, what did you mess up? Is it
your attachment system? Did you push them away from you? Is it you
wanted to avoid them? Because you can't except in a good man. That's
still information, that's still data that you need to reflect on yourself, because
if you don't take the time to romanticize this current season and heal. What
are you going to do but repeat the same thing in the next relationship.
This is still a beautiful moment for you to create a relationship with yourself because
at the end of the day, we are going to wake up with ourselves
and we're going to go to sleep with ourselves every single day, and we
have to start to learn how to like the person in here. This is
still a moment for you to focus here. Remember the pedestal principle. When
you place yourself on the pedestal, and we romanticize our pedestal, we romanticize
our throne. We prioritize our wants, our needs, our desires. The
universe will match this energy and also give us people places, opportunities that want
to fulfill our needs, that want to meet our desires, that want to
give us what we want. When you are courageous enough to ask for what
you want and go after it, the universe the people in your life will
match that energy. So you need to prioritize your placement on your pedestal because
whatever is on your pedestal has the most power. If we're pedestaling that relationship,
that x that past season, it's gonna have power over us. And
honestly, if we're recalling it, we're probably lying to ourselves about it,
because remember, fifty percent is not even accurate. So push that thing that
sees in that person off your pedestal and remind yourself you came here to live
a good life, for you to learn, develop and grow. What is
it that you're missing? What is it that you need to learn? What
is it that you need to refocus on and put your attention there every time
you want to romanticize them, interrupt it, healthy habit, segment intent,
refocus on something you can do for yourself. This can be exciting. Sometimes
we experience newness and we label it as fear. But what if we go
back to that childlike wonder of awe, Oh, this is a new first,
This is excitement. Remember, we can fulfill our need for uncertainty by
doing really unhealthy, maladaptive coping mechanisms, or we can fulfill that need for
uncertainty by doing new and exciting things. I've been recently fulfilling my need for
uncertainty by going on network television. I've been making a couple of appearances which
you can see on my Instagram at vibecc and it's been so fun, so
exciting and new. It's something new for me to do. I'm sending you
so much love. As always, the sparkle in me honors the sparkle in
you. If you have suggestions for next week's topic, then you can always
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