WEBVTT 1 00:00:03.480 --> 00:00:08.439 Welcome to Buns and Banter, a podcast buy work Busties for work Busties. 2 00:00:08.679 --> 00:00:13.240 Hey, I'm Lauren and I'm Ali. We're both morning show hosts for iHeartMedia. 3 00:00:14.720 --> 00:00:18.199 We're both millennials, and we're both trying to figure out how to build 4 00:00:18.239 --> 00:00:23.160 the lives we dream about, dating, marriage, career, career and being 5 00:00:23.160 --> 00:00:26.359 a mom. How to get through a week without crying. Welcome to Buns 6 00:00:26.359 --> 00:00:29.280 and Banter. We're glad you're here. Oh, I feel like I want 7 00:00:29.280 --> 00:00:34.719 to take my shoes off today. Oh down, I want to take my 8 00:00:34.799 --> 00:00:41.759 shoes off today. And man, oh man, man oh man. Okay, 9 00:00:42.280 --> 00:00:45.679 I thought this would be a good like midsummer check in. Yeah, 10 00:00:45.719 --> 00:00:50.840 and I feel like we've got a lot to discuss or at least event about. 11 00:00:51.479 --> 00:00:58.079 Yep. You know, I just like I don't understand why things have 12 00:00:58.119 --> 00:01:03.079 to happen veryan full stop, full stop. I just like, you know, 13 00:01:03.319 --> 00:01:08.280 I love I love golfing, and I love that it's something that Yimy 14 00:01:08.319 --> 00:01:15.239 and I can do together. Yeah, And we've been golfing a lot, 15 00:01:15.400 --> 00:01:19.280 and he likes to golf at like nicer courses like I'm happy at like the 16 00:01:19.319 --> 00:01:25.159 twenty dollars nine hole twilight. You know, like I'm I'm good, but 17 00:01:25.200 --> 00:01:30.680 he likes a little bit nicer of a course. Which at these courses, 18 00:01:30.879 --> 00:01:34.480 if you book a tea time for just the two of you, they will 19 00:01:34.519 --> 00:01:40.519 pair you with other groups and like other twosomes. I didn't know that was 20 00:01:40.519 --> 00:01:44.280 a thing. I don't like that. It's the worst part about golf, 21 00:01:44.959 --> 00:01:49.519 and like sometimes it's really really great. Like we played with two guys a 22 00:01:49.560 --> 00:01:53.719 little while ago and they were awesome. They were like so nice and so 23 00:01:53.920 --> 00:01:57.920 chill and like we had a great time. However, about a week ago, 24 00:01:59.359 --> 00:02:02.400 we I thought we were gonna get away with it. When we were 25 00:02:02.439 --> 00:02:07.200 teeing off on the first hole we were trying to get it was like six 26 00:02:07.239 --> 00:02:10.400 o'clock. We were fighting the sunset. Yeah, and like you know, 27 00:02:10.439 --> 00:02:14.479 we were going to try to play eighteen. And this was the day before 28 00:02:14.520 --> 00:02:17.599 fourth of July, so you know, there was like there weren't like too 29 00:02:17.719 --> 00:02:22.199 many people there because everyone's up town, right, So they were like, 30 00:02:22.199 --> 00:02:23.560 oh, we were gonna pair you with another group, but I don't think 31 00:02:23.560 --> 00:02:25.960 they showed up. So you know, you guys might just be good to 32 00:02:27.000 --> 00:02:30.080 go, and we were like yes, like you can just like go fast 33 00:02:30.240 --> 00:02:36.879 it's just the two of us, Like, it's just a more comfortable situation, 34 00:02:38.240 --> 00:02:40.240 not what happens. So we we tea off. We play the first 35 00:02:40.280 --> 00:02:45.919 hole and the starter the golf courtse guy comes barreling down the first hole. 36 00:02:45.960 --> 00:02:49.319 He's like, they made it. It's a super nice couple, like you 37 00:02:49.319 --> 00:02:52.439 guys will have a class, like it's like a double date and you guys 38 00:02:52.599 --> 00:02:59.639 like they seem super nice. And I was like, oh, Mark, 39 00:03:00.400 --> 00:03:04.639 my man. But like you know, okay, whatever, no one wants 40 00:03:04.680 --> 00:03:07.719 to be in this situation. You know, we're polite and this is like 41 00:03:07.759 --> 00:03:12.800 a community space whatever. So we we were instructed to wait for them at 42 00:03:12.800 --> 00:03:16.280 the second tea box, and so we're waiting there and they pull up and 43 00:03:16.520 --> 00:03:21.080 Jimmy's like already out of the cart, like shaking this guy's hand and like 44 00:03:21.120 --> 00:03:23.000 his This woman walks up to me. She's like, Hi, you know, 45 00:03:23.039 --> 00:03:28.240 how are you blah blah blah. I shit you not, I shit 46 00:03:28.319 --> 00:03:34.759 you not. It's a guy I went on several dates with LASSI honest to 47 00:03:34.840 --> 00:03:38.240 god, that is so unkind of the universe. The hell, what the 48 00:03:38.280 --> 00:03:44.439 hell, what the hell? And like what are the chances? I just 49 00:03:44.479 --> 00:03:49.039 like sat there like what do I do. Like I wasn't prepared for this, 50 00:03:49.199 --> 00:03:53.400 Like I don't know how to handle this situation. Like obviously the fail 51 00:03:53.479 --> 00:03:59.000 safe is just like you be nice, you're polite, don't make it awkward 52 00:03:59.120 --> 00:04:02.159 like you just were. Yeah, it's about the situation. But this threw 53 00:04:02.280 --> 00:04:05.479 me. This threw me. So like Jimmy introduces himself to this guy, 54 00:04:05.960 --> 00:04:12.000 I his girlfriend introduces himself to me, and then it like got to the 55 00:04:12.039 --> 00:04:15.360 point where like I was gonna have to introduce myself or he was gonna have 56 00:04:15.360 --> 00:04:17.079 to introduce himself, oh yeah to me, And I was like shit, 57 00:04:17.160 --> 00:04:24.279 what do I say? Like, Hey, good to see you. So 58 00:04:24.480 --> 00:04:27.439 he just like extended his hand and he was like, Hi, nice to 59 00:04:27.480 --> 00:04:31.199 meet you. And I was like, yeah, nice to meet you. 60 00:04:31.240 --> 00:04:33.800 Really, yeah, he just played it. He did it like that. 61 00:04:34.120 --> 00:04:40.160 Maybe he didn't remember me, You're memorable. Maybe he didn't remember at Shady. 62 00:04:40.279 --> 00:04:44.879 So like, you know, my heart is going like one hundred and 63 00:04:44.959 --> 00:04:49.000 fifty beats per minute, like I cannot and like it wasn't like it was 64 00:04:49.040 --> 00:04:54.720 a terrible ending. It just like it didn't work out. We weren't interested 65 00:04:54.759 --> 00:04:58.560 in pursuing. So it's not like it was some like he didn't do you 66 00:04:58.639 --> 00:05:00.399 dirty. Yeah, he didn't get he didn't like do me. It wasn't 67 00:05:00.439 --> 00:05:04.120 like a dramatic ending or anything like that, but I did like want I 68 00:05:04.199 --> 00:05:09.720 just like didn't want to make Jimmy feel uncomfortable and I didn't want to make 69 00:05:09.759 --> 00:05:12.920 sure them feel uncomfortable. And I also didn't want to be like, hey, 70 00:05:13.000 --> 00:05:15.920 so everybody you just saw everyone know. Like I just didn't know what 71 00:05:15.000 --> 00:05:19.040 to do. So I ended up telling Jimmy and just being like, hey, 72 00:05:19.360 --> 00:05:23.920 just so you know, like I did go on a couple of dates 73 00:05:23.920 --> 00:05:28.079 with this guy last summer, so you tell them this. So when you're 74 00:05:28.120 --> 00:05:30.920 out on the course still, yeah, obviously, yeah yeah, oh yeah. 75 00:05:30.920 --> 00:05:32.399 Like we beat off on the second hole and then like as soon as 76 00:05:32.399 --> 00:05:42.480 we drove away, I was like, hey code blue her. But they 77 00:05:42.519 --> 00:05:46.079 were they. I mean, like the the girlfriend was like super nice, 78 00:05:46.120 --> 00:05:50.399 except for like there there was this moment where like the guys were doing whatever 79 00:05:50.399 --> 00:05:53.519 the guys were doing, and like I was kind of talking to her. 80 00:05:53.680 --> 00:05:57.839 She's so sweet, so cool, so nice. Lives in Chicago, oh 81 00:05:57.920 --> 00:06:00.240 awesome, yeah, And like at one she was like where do you live? 82 00:06:00.279 --> 00:06:04.959 And I was like, I live, you know, just outside of 83 00:06:05.160 --> 00:06:09.480 East Grand Rapids and she was like, oh my god, that's crazy. 84 00:06:09.519 --> 00:06:12.040 That's where he lives. And I was like, oh, no, way, 85 00:06:13.560 --> 00:06:19.480 like I had to what you don't say? And like I I, 86 00:06:19.639 --> 00:06:23.560 oh, I never even got far enough where I was like over at his 87 00:06:23.680 --> 00:06:27.079 house or he picked me up for my house one time before we like went 88 00:06:27.319 --> 00:06:30.920 on a date or whatever. But this would happen to you. Yeah, 89 00:06:30.959 --> 00:06:32.639 And then you know, she was like, yeah, we've been dating for 90 00:06:32.839 --> 00:06:36.519 like about a year. And I was like, oh, oh wait, 91 00:06:38.160 --> 00:06:43.160 that's a tight timeline, like just over a year, just under a year 92 00:06:43.199 --> 00:06:46.759 when you say about a year, But like I didn't, I didn't push 93 00:06:46.800 --> 00:06:49.839 her on it because like I did not want to know. And Jimmy, 94 00:06:50.319 --> 00:06:54.399 Jimmy was like, wait, when when did you say you guys? And 95 00:06:54.439 --> 00:06:56.319 I'm like trying to do the math, and I'm like, yeah, would 96 00:06:56.319 --> 00:07:00.680 have been like last summer, like just before we really got into like summer 97 00:07:00.800 --> 00:07:04.040 summer. And he was like, if if he asks how long we've been 98 00:07:04.120 --> 00:07:09.800 dating, I'm gonna tell him two years. And I was like, I 99 00:07:09.800 --> 00:07:15.160 support that, please do it, please do it. But like just most 100 00:07:15.360 --> 00:07:19.000 and everyone did a wonderful job. Jid, we did a wonderful job. 101 00:07:19.600 --> 00:07:25.680 I did the best I could. Oh my god, I did the best 102 00:07:25.720 --> 00:07:30.240 I could. I don't think she knew. I don't think she knew at 103 00:07:30.240 --> 00:07:33.680 all. I mean I would have I would have brought I would have brought 104 00:07:33.720 --> 00:07:35.959 it up, like when I was introducing. I would have been like, 105 00:07:38.079 --> 00:07:41.279 oh, I would have it's great to see you again, because then I 106 00:07:41.319 --> 00:07:44.079 just feel like it's so weird to be like, oh, okay, so 107 00:07:44.160 --> 00:07:48.120 we are hiding this, or if I accident then I'm on edge like myself, 108 00:07:48.160 --> 00:07:51.000 like if I accidentally slip up and mention something, especially if they've been 109 00:07:51.079 --> 00:07:57.879 dating about a year and yeah, like I just like I was like this, 110 00:07:59.079 --> 00:08:01.120 this wasn't the relax golf game I was expecting. And it's not like 111 00:08:01.160 --> 00:08:05.000 you like run into them at a restaurant and you're like oh hey, like 112 00:08:05.079 --> 00:08:09.319 no, no, no, You're saddled with these people for two hours two 113 00:08:09.439 --> 00:08:13.759 hours. Ooh it was wild and I never want to do it again. 114 00:08:13.920 --> 00:08:22.160 Thanks so much for doing that to us, golf course stop. So the 115 00:08:22.199 --> 00:08:26.639 planets aligning on that is almost unheard of. Yeah, it was wild. 116 00:08:28.680 --> 00:08:31.800 It was wild. Have you ever run into an X when you and Chris, 117 00:08:31.839 --> 00:08:33.759 I mean you guys are married so like running into an X when you're 118 00:08:33.799 --> 00:08:37.080 married, I feel like, is totally different than when you've been dating for 119 00:08:37.120 --> 00:08:41.559 six months. The weird the weird one was last summer. Actually, I 120 00:08:41.639 --> 00:08:46.039 went and did a bunch of hosting at what was the there was the big 121 00:08:46.120 --> 00:08:50.159 Miskigan event on the fourth of July. Yeah, they had this huge like 122 00:08:50.399 --> 00:08:56.039 festival and EDM show, and I was out there doing a bunch of stuff. 123 00:08:56.039 --> 00:08:58.799 And at that point, so that would have been Chris's and my like 124 00:09:00.120 --> 00:09:03.320 eighth almost eighth year of being married. Yeah, and we'd been together for 125 00:09:03.360 --> 00:09:07.279 a bit before that, but we had a two year break right when I 126 00:09:07.360 --> 00:09:13.679 started working for iHeart And there was a guy there that was like Lauren Lauren, 127 00:09:13.759 --> 00:09:18.600 which automatically triggers me a bit because nobody calls me by my real name 128 00:09:18.720 --> 00:09:22.000 unless they don't have an affiliation here with me, you know. So I 129 00:09:22.039 --> 00:09:26.159 was like, who could this? Who could this be? And I don't 130 00:09:26.200 --> 00:09:30.080 immediately recognize him, and I'm like, this has to be someone from the 131 00:09:30.120 --> 00:09:33.879 past, yay. And it was indeed the dude that asked me out at 132 00:09:33.879 --> 00:09:37.919 the laundromat while I was pulling my panties out at the dryer. Love that 133 00:09:37.200 --> 00:09:43.679 and I was like, oh, so and so, and he's like, 134 00:09:43.639 --> 00:09:48.000 I did. I did. I went way back, way back, because 135 00:09:48.039 --> 00:09:52.559 we'd gone on a couple dates. And oh, to be fair, it 136 00:09:52.639 --> 00:09:56.120 might have been me. I don't know, like I didn't really I started 137 00:09:56.159 --> 00:09:58.120 seeing another guy after that. I was. I was so in Oh, 138 00:09:58.159 --> 00:10:03.039 it's a bet during at two years trying to I mean, just you know, 139 00:10:03.080 --> 00:10:05.600 make sure that I was headed in the right direction. And it would 140 00:10:05.600 --> 00:10:11.360 have been totally fine and not weird because it had been so long. But 141 00:10:11.399 --> 00:10:13.840 then he was weird. And he was like, God, I can't tell 142 00:10:13.879 --> 00:10:16.879 you how good it is to see you. No, and he not. 143 00:10:18.480 --> 00:10:20.799 And he knew lots of things about me. He knew about my two kids, 144 00:10:22.240 --> 00:10:24.679 he knew about Chris, he knew things that I'd been doing. And 145 00:10:24.720 --> 00:10:28.559 I was like, I don't even think I'm social media friends with you? 146 00:10:28.679 --> 00:10:31.600 Man? How did this all? And then his girlfriend is standing right next 147 00:10:31.600 --> 00:10:37.120 to him, getting increasingly more uncomfortable and rage filled, and I was like, 148 00:10:37.440 --> 00:10:39.679 all right, man, like it's it's super great. I've got a 149 00:10:39.679 --> 00:10:43.879 bunch of stagers to do. So Unfortunately, like I'm gonna be backstage, 150 00:10:43.879 --> 00:10:46.840 I'm walking away, and I see her turn to him and like smack him 151 00:10:46.879 --> 00:10:50.240 in the chest. It would got to be that uncomfortable. And I'm just 152 00:10:50.279 --> 00:10:54.000 like, what is it? She was beautiful, looked fun and I'm like, 153 00:10:54.080 --> 00:10:56.080 no, no, we don't do that. I dated you like ten 154 00:10:56.240 --> 00:11:01.639 years ago. You were the great white Buffalo, the great white I don't 155 00:11:01.720 --> 00:11:05.279 think so maybe were Oh god, I didn't feel like where either. Dinner 156 00:11:05.559 --> 00:11:11.840 felt that way and it was to and done. Yeah. Man, it's 157 00:11:11.919 --> 00:11:16.360 weird when that stuff comes back. Oh so never again. She pats her 158 00:11:16.399 --> 00:11:20.279 hair. Ever again. You did it, you know, two hours though, 159 00:11:20.480 --> 00:11:26.519 Like West Michigan, I cannot tell you the last time I saw like 160 00:11:26.600 --> 00:11:35.440 I ran into an ex like out and about by myself. Yeah you know 161 00:11:35.480 --> 00:11:37.639 what I mean. It feels like we're getting to be big enough. It 162 00:11:37.679 --> 00:11:45.919 doesn't happen. And then to run it just like such a specific place and 163 00:11:45.960 --> 00:11:50.279 out of all the places in West Michigan, you had to pick this golf 164 00:11:50.320 --> 00:11:56.279 course at this exact time, Like there were just there were too many details 165 00:11:56.360 --> 00:12:01.159 that had to just work out exactly because like, okay, you're at the 166 00:12:01.200 --> 00:12:07.240 same golf course. There aren't a ton of golf courses in West Michigan, 167 00:12:07.320 --> 00:12:13.320 but there are there's enough but the time like to choose the like choose the 168 00:12:13.399 --> 00:12:18.799 time ten minutes behind us was just north of July weekend, north of July 169 00:12:20.000 --> 00:12:24.480 weekend. I was like, why am I being punished from the universe, 170 00:12:24.519 --> 00:12:28.639 and like it really it wasn't a punishment because like it really wasn't a miserable 171 00:12:28.679 --> 00:12:33.200 situation. It just like it wasn't my first choice right of situation. It's 172 00:12:33.200 --> 00:12:39.480 still gonna be somewhat uncomfortable because you're still like, let's act natural, but 173 00:12:39.480 --> 00:12:41.320 then when you act natural, you're like, I don't feel like I'm acting 174 00:12:41.440 --> 00:12:46.519 natural. And then I was like so self conscious about like everything that I 175 00:12:46.639 --> 00:12:50.120 was doing, yeah, because I was like I want to be like nice 176 00:12:50.159 --> 00:12:54.840 and friendly, but not too nice and friendly. M h, and like 177 00:12:54.919 --> 00:12:58.519 I don't some mental load, but I don't know if she's clued into the 178 00:12:58.559 --> 00:13:03.279 situation, so I don't want to. Like my ideal situation would have just 179 00:13:03.320 --> 00:13:07.240 been to have been like what are the chances exist like about it, and 180 00:13:07.279 --> 00:13:11.879 then like we're both with other people, like we're super happy, like obviously 181 00:13:11.240 --> 00:13:16.559 the right events happen and like everything worked out for nobody can be mad because 182 00:13:16.600 --> 00:13:20.879 nobody planned this right, and like it just like it could have been just 183 00:13:20.919 --> 00:13:24.440 like so much less awkward, but there was just like this like lingering awkwardness, 184 00:13:24.440 --> 00:13:26.840 and I was like, I don't know what to do to like make 185 00:13:26.879 --> 00:13:31.960 this not awkward. But I also wanted to be so conscious of like Jimmy 186 00:13:31.000 --> 00:13:35.240 not being uncomfortable, and like it wasn't he was great, and I just 187 00:13:35.320 --> 00:13:39.840 like am so that I'd be nervous, like I can't drink because I'll drink 188 00:13:39.840 --> 00:13:43.759 too much and be like, is anyone else uncomfortable? It's because we've dated. 189 00:13:45.799 --> 00:13:50.399 We I drink great times. I had like seventeen high nutes. I 190 00:13:50.480 --> 00:13:54.200 was like every time the car girls coming around, I was like, over 191 00:13:54.240 --> 00:14:00.159 here, beat me up, Scottiere. And then like I also felt like 192 00:14:00.200 --> 00:14:03.960 I played like shit, which was like another I don't like playing like shit 193 00:14:03.080 --> 00:14:07.240 in front of everyone, Like I don't like playing like shit in front of 194 00:14:07.320 --> 00:14:11.879 Jimmy or anyone I've gone on any number of dates with or their girlfriend of 195 00:14:13.039 --> 00:14:20.279 questionable timelines. That's terrible. Come on. She probably she probably meant like 196 00:14:20.519 --> 00:14:26.320 just shy of a year and that math works out, but like also maybe 197 00:14:26.360 --> 00:14:31.600 she didn't mean just maybe it didn't work out, and that would actually explain 198 00:14:31.639 --> 00:14:35.879 a few things. Oh see. Oh, but honestly, like it just 199 00:14:39.720 --> 00:14:43.799 so perfect perfect lead in here. How would you say your midsummer mental health 200 00:14:43.879 --> 00:14:54.200 is doing? You know, not too bad, not too bad. I 201 00:14:54.399 --> 00:15:01.200 just want that sounder right, They're not over good. I don't know what. 202 00:15:01.360 --> 00:15:03.360 My voice keeps going up like that, Like I feel I feel good 203 00:15:05.000 --> 00:15:07.240 right now. But then like I think about like the last like month and 204 00:15:07.279 --> 00:15:11.960 a half, and like I've worked every single weekend and yeah, then I 205 00:15:13.000 --> 00:15:16.440 felt like it was a huge race to get everything done before the fourth of 206 00:15:16.519 --> 00:15:20.240 July. And then I really put a lot of pressure on that Fourth of 207 00:15:20.320 --> 00:15:24.840 July break because I needed to enjoy enjoy it. I needed the reset, 208 00:15:24.960 --> 00:15:31.360 and like I really really have been feeling burned out. And then I just 209 00:15:31.480 --> 00:15:35.679 made some choices like staying up really late and like having more drinks than I 210 00:15:35.759 --> 00:15:41.320 should have and not using that time to reset. Do you do that to 211 00:15:41.360 --> 00:15:46.279 yourself? Sosolutely, I feel the exact same way you, like, rebel 212 00:15:46.480 --> 00:15:50.600 against the healthy choices that you need to make, Like I should go to 213 00:15:50.639 --> 00:15:52.440 bed early, and I should clean the house and I should do all of 214 00:15:52.440 --> 00:15:56.360 the things that I know will set me up for success after this break. 215 00:15:56.600 --> 00:15:58.720 But I just can't. I want to stay up late, I want to 216 00:15:58.759 --> 00:16:00.559 eat like shit, I want to drink, and I want to have a 217 00:16:00.600 --> 00:16:03.120 little fun and let off a little steam. And I can't do all of 218 00:16:03.159 --> 00:16:07.000 it. So I gotta pick. There's two things there for me. The 219 00:16:07.039 --> 00:16:11.840 one I feel like the long summer holiday weekends, your Memorial Day, your 220 00:16:11.840 --> 00:16:17.840 Fourth of July, your Labor Day, are like the Friday slash Saturday nights 221 00:16:17.840 --> 00:16:21.720 of the week where you have the revenge bedtime. Yeah. I feel like 222 00:16:21.840 --> 00:16:26.600 I didn't get what feels like any me time this entire week, and so 223 00:16:26.960 --> 00:16:29.639 like as a mom, I'll put my kids down and then all of a 224 00:16:29.679 --> 00:16:32.600 sudden, it's two thirty in the morning. I did nothing with my life. 225 00:16:32.679 --> 00:16:36.200 I watched Netflix for six hours. I doom scrolled. I did all 226 00:16:36.279 --> 00:16:40.279 that exactly how holiday weekends go for me. And I've got to get better 227 00:16:40.279 --> 00:16:44.080 about this because I don't think I do it in any other season. I 228 00:16:44.159 --> 00:16:48.080 put so much massive pressure on summer. Yeah, oh my god, And 229 00:16:48.120 --> 00:16:51.080 so you nailed it. When you're talking about the fourth of July weekend, 230 00:16:51.440 --> 00:16:53.960 I was like, Okay, we're gonna have people over on the fourth. 231 00:16:53.960 --> 00:16:57.240 It's gonna be great. Then I worked on Friday, But then I like 232 00:16:57.480 --> 00:17:02.840 jet it out of here packed. My kids went up North insanity back home 233 00:17:02.879 --> 00:17:07.200 on Sunday, which was the worst because the traffic was unbelievable. Then you 234 00:17:07.559 --> 00:17:11.079 wake up Monday morning and your body's like, oh, what the fuck did 235 00:17:11.119 --> 00:17:14.759 we just do? Yeah? Like that was supposed to be four days of 236 00:17:14.799 --> 00:17:18.319 a nice reset and it was just spent like oop, Hope I'm creating enough 237 00:17:18.359 --> 00:17:22.160 memories, Hope we're having enough fun. Hope this is something I can post 238 00:17:22.160 --> 00:17:25.480 about and be as great as everybody else that seems to be having super relaxing 239 00:17:25.519 --> 00:17:29.920 body fun times on the fourth Yeah, and then you are just like, 240 00:17:30.200 --> 00:17:34.839 I have a forty eight hour like weakness for anything. If I work out, 241 00:17:34.920 --> 00:17:37.400 it's never that I'm store the next day. It's forty eight hours later 242 00:17:37.720 --> 00:17:42.720 coming home from a holiday weekend. It's not Monday that gets me. It's 243 00:17:42.759 --> 00:17:47.640 that Tuesday where I wake up and my body's like, you, we've got 244 00:17:47.640 --> 00:17:52.039 to rethink what we're doing here, Like, hey, you can't live on 245 00:17:52.200 --> 00:17:56.640 hot dogs for five days. Have a vegetable drink water? Yeah, but 246 00:17:56.839 --> 00:18:00.720 like, and it's just then you're just mad at yourself. Just nobody else's 247 00:18:00.759 --> 00:18:03.839 fault. I did all of that to myself, and then you get in 248 00:18:03.839 --> 00:18:08.440 this stupid, like depressive spiral and you're like, don't worry, I'll fix 249 00:18:08.440 --> 00:18:14.519 it on Labor Day weekend the next summer break, and like fourth of July, 250 00:18:14.640 --> 00:18:17.680 I'm like, summer's over. Yeah, where did summer go? Like 251 00:18:17.759 --> 00:18:21.319 it was just June and now all of a sudden, like fourth of July, 252 00:18:21.519 --> 00:18:25.200 and now all of a sudden, it's July. What tenth, eleven, 253 00:18:25.279 --> 00:18:27.559 twelve, thirteen, We're into the middle of July. Over for some 254 00:18:27.680 --> 00:18:32.400 kids, they are back in school in like four weeks. Oh, I 255 00:18:32.440 --> 00:18:34.359 know. My kid just asked me about its Halloween costume the other day. 256 00:18:34.400 --> 00:18:37.839 You're kidding. Now. I was like, okay, to be fair, 257 00:18:37.880 --> 00:18:41.000 you're like obsessively obsessed with Halloween. But I was like, bro, you've 258 00:18:41.039 --> 00:18:44.640 got like a like a pretty big three months, and he just was like, 259 00:18:45.319 --> 00:18:47.480 well, fourth of July is over, so summer's done. I'm like 260 00:18:47.480 --> 00:18:52.319 who for some people, but not not the stressed out month that needs to 261 00:18:52.319 --> 00:18:56.440 figure out what we're gonna do on Halloween. Hallmark did start Christmas in July. 262 00:18:56.680 --> 00:19:00.519 Oh my god, the Christmas in July. Yeah, yeah, it's 263 00:19:00.559 --> 00:19:04.759 coming. I'm already getting the messages yep, on my on my Christmas station. 264 00:19:06.559 --> 00:19:11.319 I don't know. I was just like trying to google helpful tips because 265 00:19:11.359 --> 00:19:14.400 I thought, Man, I wonder if there's other people that kind of just 266 00:19:14.519 --> 00:19:18.599 feel that way, that just summer lethargy. Is that? Am I saying 267 00:19:18.599 --> 00:19:21.799 that? Right? Am I using that? Yeah? I'm using that the 268 00:19:21.880 --> 00:19:23.799 right way. I think so lethargic. I know whatever, you guys, 269 00:19:23.920 --> 00:19:29.440 my brain is freaking fried. I know everyone. Yeah, for some it 270 00:19:30.519 --> 00:19:33.640 all of our brains are fried. But it can be negative effects of summer. 271 00:19:33.960 --> 00:19:37.039 Summer weather can lead to anxiety, aggressiveness, and higher levels of stress 272 00:19:37.240 --> 00:19:42.839 hormones, especially with the heat, reduced motivation, decreased mood. They're like, 273 00:19:42.880 --> 00:19:47.160 it's great to be in the sun. Your vitamin D is like boo. 274 00:19:47.519 --> 00:19:52.759 But then you feel all this pressure to take advantage of the beautiful months 275 00:19:52.759 --> 00:19:56.240 that we have. It was, oh my god, I saw like somebody 276 00:19:56.319 --> 00:20:00.039 post something yesterday and it was called like like weather regrets. So when you're 277 00:20:00.039 --> 00:20:03.599 sitting in your house and it's a beautiful day outside and you should definitely go 278 00:20:03.680 --> 00:20:04.640 outside, but you don't really feel like going outside, so you spend the 279 00:20:04.680 --> 00:20:07.200 whole day feeling really shitty. That you never went outside. Yes, I 280 00:20:07.240 --> 00:20:11.240 do that all the time. I do that all the time, especially when 281 00:20:11.279 --> 00:20:14.680 I come home after work and like I need a n app oh like, 282 00:20:14.759 --> 00:20:17.440 but what I should do is take the dog for a walk. But it's 283 00:20:17.480 --> 00:20:21.200 too hot at present to take the dog for a walk, so I'm gonna 284 00:20:21.200 --> 00:20:23.720 have to wait until like six seven. But then at six seven, I'm 285 00:20:23.759 --> 00:20:32.279 like, fuck that, right tomorrow. I told you, like Chaftsmacman got 286 00:20:32.319 --> 00:20:33.079 us a new h back. Yeah, this is the first time I've had 287 00:20:33.079 --> 00:20:37.000 central air and ten plus years. Oh, I've never I have not had 288 00:20:37.000 --> 00:20:41.839 central air since college. Every place I rented after college did not have it. 289 00:20:41.880 --> 00:20:45.279 So we have had window units even through our first home. So I'm 290 00:20:45.279 --> 00:20:47.640 sending inside and I'm like, yeah, it's beautiful out there, but it's 291 00:20:47.720 --> 00:20:51.319 sixty eight in here, and I'm just I don't do it. I'm just 292 00:20:51.359 --> 00:20:55.359 a freaking slug on the couch. Amazing. Yeah, I just oh, 293 00:20:55.400 --> 00:20:57.039 I'm sorry. I did get some things done. I just wrapped up The 294 00:20:57.440 --> 00:21:02.079 Man with a thousand Kids Dot documentary on Netflix. So that's what I have 295 00:21:02.200 --> 00:21:06.279 to show for that doctor who like was inseminating his patients with his own sperm. 296 00:21:06.400 --> 00:21:11.279 This is a man from the Netherlands that called himself a super donor and 297 00:21:11.759 --> 00:21:17.759 they think conservatively he has fathered possibly three thousand kids. Oh, you gotta 298 00:21:17.759 --> 00:21:22.000 watch it. It's insane. It just it just dropped. That's insane. 299 00:21:22.160 --> 00:21:25.359 So yeah, I guess I have something to show for the fact not outside 300 00:21:25.359 --> 00:21:27.759 and join the summer weather. That's insane. Yeah, it's really good though. 301 00:21:29.319 --> 00:21:32.559 You know what I watched. I fell asleep towards the end of it. 302 00:21:32.759 --> 00:21:38.279 But I started watching the Mars Opportunity and Spirit documentary. God no, 303 00:21:40.160 --> 00:21:44.160 so like the robots, Yeah, they need to like explore Mars and they're 304 00:21:44.359 --> 00:21:49.880 so human like and cute and like almost emotive and like these robots were supposed 305 00:21:49.880 --> 00:21:52.519 to be on Mars for ninety days and they ended up being there for like 306 00:21:52.559 --> 00:21:57.680 fifteen years. Yeah, and it was just incredible, and there is Jimmy 307 00:21:57.680 --> 00:22:03.599 and I both agreed that, like there's a super cute scientist from Ghana and 308 00:22:03.640 --> 00:22:07.000 we were like, they need to make a separate documentary just about him. 309 00:22:07.039 --> 00:22:11.400 Like we have so many questions. What is it on? I think it's 310 00:22:11.599 --> 00:22:18.720 I love that stuff, Maybe like HBO or maybe Amazon. I don't know. 311 00:22:18.759 --> 00:22:22.319 I'll have to check and get back to you, but it's giving me 312 00:22:22.359 --> 00:22:26.880 wally vibes. It totally does. It totally does. And like they play 313 00:22:26.079 --> 00:22:30.720 a song every morning to like set the mood for the day, but also 314 00:22:30.839 --> 00:22:36.519 like wake the robots up. What so they choose like Abba and Queen and 315 00:22:36.559 --> 00:22:41.480 like all of these and these people there they have like obviously so much invested 316 00:22:41.519 --> 00:22:45.799 in it because this is like decades of their careers. They spend like ten 317 00:22:45.920 --> 00:22:49.720 years researching this and then building it and then to see like it actualized and 318 00:22:49.759 --> 00:22:55.200 for these things to land on the moon. I can't remember the exact analogy, 319 00:22:55.640 --> 00:23:03.319 but it was like throwing a golf ball off of the Sears Tower and 320 00:23:03.400 --> 00:23:08.039 like having it land in a like golf hole on the other side of the 321 00:23:08.079 --> 00:23:11.720 world. Oh my god, that was getting these from And if there was 322 00:23:11.759 --> 00:23:15.240 like a really good analogy. Yeah, and there was like this window where 323 00:23:15.519 --> 00:23:22.880 because you know, the what is this help the moon the lunar what circular 324 00:23:22.000 --> 00:23:29.000 radius radius? Yeah, but like the diameter no, when the rotate not 325 00:23:29.240 --> 00:23:34.000 rotates around the Sun the Earth, I use rotate rotate. I think you're 326 00:23:34.079 --> 00:23:38.319 right, Okay, whatever, But like if they if they didn't get it 327 00:23:38.400 --> 00:23:41.839 right the first time, they had to wait twenty six months to try again. 328 00:23:42.279 --> 00:23:48.079 Oh my god, like shakes were high. This sounds fascinating. I 329 00:23:48.119 --> 00:23:52.359 did fall asleep. It was really late, and it was after that round 330 00:23:52.400 --> 00:23:56.079 of golf and I was like, forget it. This was after the golf. 331 00:23:56.119 --> 00:24:03.839 You were like, please God put me on Mars. Yes. Yes. 332 00:24:03.559 --> 00:24:07.039 All I had to show for mine was like how often they kept saying 333 00:24:07.079 --> 00:24:11.160 the word sperm And I'm a toddler. I was like, I mean, 334 00:24:11.200 --> 00:24:15.799 I know how babies are made, but this different word. Did this man 335 00:24:15.839 --> 00:24:18.279 get paid for each donation? Is that why he did this? What was 336 00:24:18.319 --> 00:24:22.839 his Why they think it? They think and he actually I didn't even read 337 00:24:22.839 --> 00:24:26.559 it. He apparently like released a statement like yesterday about this. Oh no 338 00:24:26.599 --> 00:24:30.039 way, yes, because this is like shot to the top of the Netflix 339 00:24:30.119 --> 00:24:34.559 chart and so many people are talking about it now. There were so he 340 00:24:34.920 --> 00:24:42.160 was going around to like eleven different banks just in the Netherlands, and all 341 00:24:42.160 --> 00:24:45.440 of these women, all these moms started to put together like wait a minute, 342 00:24:45.480 --> 00:24:48.160 they're finding him in Facebook groups and all these things. He's had like 343 00:24:48.680 --> 00:24:53.000 a ton of different aliases and they think he had a god complex because then 344 00:24:53.440 --> 00:24:56.640 it's so insane and I don't want to give much away because every episode starts 345 00:24:56.680 --> 00:25:02.119 with like another bombshell about this. But then they realized he was going to 346 00:25:02.519 --> 00:25:07.240 other countries, like he's got I don't know what country they left off the 347 00:25:07.279 --> 00:25:11.400 map honestly, that he's been to. And it all leads to a lawsuit 348 00:25:11.880 --> 00:25:15.759 where they're trying to take his reproductive rights away, saying you have to stop. 349 00:25:15.839 --> 00:25:21.279 This is a threat to human health, This is a threat to our 350 00:25:21.359 --> 00:25:26.440 children because they're gonna have no idea who they can and can't be with in 351 00:25:26.480 --> 00:25:30.720 the future because of potential incest. That's so, it's true. Why I 352 00:25:30.759 --> 00:25:34.119 didn't even think about the incest. It's wild. It's so crazy, and 353 00:25:34.200 --> 00:25:40.359 like the Netherlands not that big, and that's where I started. And then 354 00:25:40.359 --> 00:25:42.759 they were like, oh my god, he's gone to the Netherlands. He's 355 00:25:42.759 --> 00:25:45.960 gone to Germany, he's gone to the UK, he's gone he's come to 356 00:25:47.000 --> 00:25:51.640 the US, he's gone to Canada, he's gone to Mexico. His pardon 357 00:25:51.680 --> 00:25:56.599 me seed is everywhere, and it was crazy, and it was really really 358 00:25:56.799 --> 00:26:00.319 like the end of it was this whole court proceedings recent This was like last 359 00:26:00.400 --> 00:26:03.920 year. Oh my god, what did his statement say? Did you read 360 00:26:03.960 --> 00:26:06.079 it? And I gotta look it up. We'll look it up right now. 361 00:26:06.119 --> 00:26:11.200 It's really really we will wait, really worth. I wonder if he 362 00:26:11.240 --> 00:26:12.400 pops up as like one of the first ones. It's also wild because his 363 00:26:12.480 --> 00:26:15.440 name is Jonathan Jacob Meyer. And I kept thinking, like I gotta go 364 00:26:15.440 --> 00:26:22.440 to Meyer of the grocers in the house. Slam oh, threatens slander suit. 365 00:26:22.880 --> 00:26:26.119 Dude, Yeah, they always do, they always do. He did 366 00:26:26.119 --> 00:26:32.079 not participate in the docuseries. He claims he's fathered approximately five hundred and fifty 367 00:26:32.200 --> 00:26:34.920 children, not a thousand as the title suggested, but the doc alleges he 368 00:26:36.039 --> 00:26:41.240 lied to even more families about the number of offspring. He said, technically, 369 00:26:41.279 --> 00:26:44.839 I did not lie. I followed the guidelines of every large commercial international 370 00:26:44.839 --> 00:26:48.920 sperm bank that does not inform the recipients about the amount of offspring one donor 371 00:26:48.960 --> 00:26:52.480 will produce. I was doing a much better thing. I gave the parents 372 00:26:52.519 --> 00:26:56.680 an estimated number. This was better and more info than they would ever get 373 00:26:56.720 --> 00:27:02.839 at any clinic. He's absolutely and like nuts, you know how they say, 374 00:27:03.400 --> 00:27:07.200 like there there's a rule for a reason. Yeah, Like and you 375 00:27:07.240 --> 00:27:11.759 know you don't have rules like this because you don't run into something like this 376 00:27:11.000 --> 00:27:15.720 until you run into something like this, And now this is going to have 377 00:27:15.759 --> 00:27:22.079 to be a hard and fast rule at every single sperm bank that exists, 378 00:27:22.160 --> 00:27:29.279 Like Nope, you can donate. What's crazy? What would a responsible number 379 00:27:29.359 --> 00:27:33.839 be for someone like I don't know how many people donate to sperm banks on 380 00:27:33.920 --> 00:27:38.119 average. And that's the thing, it's not that regulated. There's an American 381 00:27:38.279 --> 00:27:42.160 woman, Eve, and I can't remember her last name, but she made 382 00:27:42.160 --> 00:27:45.960 the news here because when she was she was a victim of the doctor you're 383 00:27:47.000 --> 00:27:49.559 talking about, right. She found out when she was thirty, as did 384 00:27:49.599 --> 00:27:55.599 her parents, that the doctor had inseminated her mom with his sperm instead of 385 00:27:55.680 --> 00:27:59.759 her dad's sperm. So she's been on this like legal crusade because she's like 386 00:28:00.039 --> 00:28:07.480 it is more regulated for like puppy mills and cattle to not be bred to 387 00:28:07.519 --> 00:28:11.319 reproduce like this, right humans, She said, there's almost like no enforcement 388 00:28:11.359 --> 00:28:15.880 for anything. It's so insane. It's a fascinating watch, especially like I 389 00:28:15.880 --> 00:28:19.119 don't know if you ever think that you might have to, you know, 390 00:28:19.480 --> 00:28:22.079 do something like that or look to something like that. It was a crazy 391 00:28:22.119 --> 00:28:27.200 watch three episodes and I was just like, but that's his thing. He's 392 00:28:27.240 --> 00:28:32.200 just like he wanted to have a father relationship with all kids. He was 393 00:28:32.279 --> 00:28:37.000 like he was going to people's houses and doing it the natural way. It 394 00:28:37.039 --> 00:28:38.799 was nuts, And that's all I can give away because it's like just you've 395 00:28:38.799 --> 00:28:41.920 got to sit there. It was my before work show. So I'd come 396 00:28:41.920 --> 00:28:45.359 in here and be like, look at an all these men I work with, 397 00:28:45.400 --> 00:28:56.599 like sperm everywhere. Yeah, golf courses, sperm donors, Mars rovers, 398 00:28:56.640 --> 00:29:00.200 Mars rovers work cover it all. The world isn't big enough. That's 399 00:29:00.240 --> 00:29:07.200 the takeaway here. We need we gotta find another planet man, But good 400 00:29:07.279 --> 00:29:12.240 luck with that. Mental health. Yeah, here's the second half of summer.