WEBVTT 1 00:00:01.280 --> 00:00:19.640 Andogy, cancelm so High, Ecstasy, Sage Cancerge not Sorry, Andogy what's 2 00:00:19.719 --> 00:00:24.079 up? Positive bitches? How are we doing today? If you're hearing this 3 00:00:24.199 --> 00:00:29.079 episode, you're meant to be here, So keep listening on that Bitch's Positive 4 00:00:29.079 --> 00:00:34.280 Podcast. Sometimes we will laugh. Other times, baby Girl, we're gonna 5 00:00:34.320 --> 00:00:39.880 cry, but we will always walk away feeling our most empowered positive bitch self. 6 00:00:40.439 --> 00:00:45.479 That is positive babe and true connection with herself. On this podcast, 7 00:00:45.520 --> 00:00:50.439 we simply become who we are not so we can fully step into exactly who 8 00:00:50.479 --> 00:00:55.280 we came here to be. Today, we are decoding one of the biggest 9 00:00:55.439 --> 00:01:00.359 lies we've been told as a woman. Now let me preface this by saying 10 00:01:00.640 --> 00:01:07.879 we've been told a lot of things as women around intimacy. Oh, don't 11 00:01:07.920 --> 00:01:11.599 sleep with anyone, sleep with everyone, be equal feminism. One of my 12 00:01:11.680 --> 00:01:15.200 personal favorites is from my mother. She told me, Ceci, if you 13 00:01:15.280 --> 00:01:19.400 sleep with someone, you will grow cauliflower between your legs and you will die. 14 00:01:19.760 --> 00:01:23.959 That's the message I got in high school. What do you get? 15 00:01:23.760 --> 00:01:29.359 We have so many mixed messages from society, from our peers, from social 16 00:01:29.400 --> 00:01:33.480 media, from our parents, our religion around intimacy and what we should and 17 00:01:33.480 --> 00:01:36.959 should not be doing with our bodies. And it's time we take our power 18 00:01:37.040 --> 00:01:42.239 back and actually look at with a logical mind and with our intuition tuned all 19 00:01:42.239 --> 00:01:48.159 the way up at intimacy. We need to understand what is actually going on. 20 00:01:49.000 --> 00:01:53.120 A lot of us want relationships, we want magnetic energy. We want 21 00:01:53.159 --> 00:01:57.000 to attract, not chase. Well, you can't do that if you're giving 22 00:01:57.040 --> 00:02:04.040 everyone and their father you're an do your body, your attention. Promiscuity is 23 00:02:04.079 --> 00:02:09.080 not your power. You are your power, your energy. You being on 24 00:02:09.120 --> 00:02:13.800 your pedestal, that's your power. Your power lies in your pedestal, not 25 00:02:13.919 --> 00:02:20.280 in your promiscuity. We're going to decode the messages we get. We're going 26 00:02:20.319 --> 00:02:25.639 to understand energy transference. We're going to understand where your power truly lies and 27 00:02:25.680 --> 00:02:31.159 how to tap into it, and how to attract rather than chase, and 28 00:02:31.199 --> 00:02:38.599 what really makes a guy interested in you Before we get into it, I 29 00:02:38.639 --> 00:02:42.639 am a certified life and energy coach. My name is CEC. If you've 30 00:02:42.680 --> 00:02:46.080 never been here before, welcome, Hello, How good do win? I 31 00:02:46.240 --> 00:02:51.240 do offer one on one sessions via zoom. You can DM me on Instagram 32 00:02:51.319 --> 00:02:55.960 at vibe in with ccvi Ibi n with CI CII for more information on my 33 00:02:57.120 --> 00:03:00.199 packages. All the links will be in the show notes, so if you 34 00:03:00.199 --> 00:03:02.879 want to connect with me on Instagram and TikTok, you can do so. 35 00:03:04.360 --> 00:03:07.960 Also in the show notes are all the courses and workbooks that I have to 36 00:03:07.080 --> 00:03:10.719 offer. You can join the twenty one Day Breakup Glow Up Challenge if you're 37 00:03:10.719 --> 00:03:15.360 going through a breakup and you need help to break the obsession you have with 38 00:03:15.439 --> 00:03:20.639 them and refocus on you, allowing you to enter into your greatest glow up. 39 00:03:21.000 --> 00:03:23.199 If you're dating and you want to learn how to magnetize your energy, 40 00:03:23.439 --> 00:03:28.199 you can join the Pedestal Path and that will teach you why you can't put 41 00:03:28.199 --> 00:03:30.879 yourself on the pedestal, how to put yourself on the pedestal, and ultimately 42 00:03:31.000 --> 00:03:37.840 how to upgrade your energy and tap into that magnetic energy that is truly yours. 43 00:03:38.159 --> 00:03:42.759 It's the perfect add on to this podcast episode, which is well free, 44 00:03:42.960 --> 00:03:46.080 so you can find both of those courses in the show notes. If 45 00:03:46.080 --> 00:03:50.560 you want a workbook on how to call your power back, you can get 46 00:03:50.599 --> 00:03:54.199 the workbook and you can also get the Divine Feminine Activation and Healing Workbook to 47 00:03:54.280 --> 00:04:02.000 learn more about your DF That Feminine Girl always listen to my high vibrational music, 48 00:04:02.000 --> 00:04:05.479 which is also in the show notes. And if you just poke around 49 00:04:05.520 --> 00:04:10.479 there you'll find many portals to many places. But without further ado, let's 50 00:04:10.520 --> 00:04:15.280 get into today's episode. If you are wondering why some girls always get the 51 00:04:15.319 --> 00:04:19.079 princess treatment, they always are in relationships, they always get the guy. 52 00:04:19.240 --> 00:04:24.399 But you're over here, like, okay, everyone ghosts me. I can't 53 00:04:24.399 --> 00:04:29.279 get anyone to stay in my life. Why is this happening? How are 54 00:04:29.319 --> 00:04:33.439 there two different realities? Let me just explain it to you. It comes 55 00:04:33.439 --> 00:04:40.519 down to how you're broadcasting your energy, how you're projecting your energy, what 56 00:04:40.639 --> 00:04:46.519 you're doing with your energy. Now common denominator, and you can try to 57 00:04:46.560 --> 00:04:48.360 disagree with me. I don't care. This is the truth. A common 58 00:04:48.399 --> 00:04:54.480 denominator of every single woman I've talked to that wants a relationship so bad it 59 00:04:54.560 --> 00:04:59.120 keeps getting ghosted, or can't get a relationship to last, or can't get 60 00:04:59.160 --> 00:05:02.399 them to commit their partner is that they give too much of themselves too soon, 61 00:05:02.959 --> 00:05:06.480 or in general, they sleep with them right away and the guy leaves. 62 00:05:08.120 --> 00:05:10.480 They give all of their energy away. They try to do everything for 63 00:05:10.519 --> 00:05:15.680 the guy, and the guy leaves. What if your power isn't in trying 64 00:05:15.720 --> 00:05:25.240 to prove yourself worthy, it's actually allowing the guy to pursue. Hmm hmmm. 65 00:05:27.600 --> 00:05:30.639 Men are hunters, They're wired that way. In tribal times, who 66 00:05:30.800 --> 00:05:35.199 was going out and hunting the deer, the fish, who was back picking 67 00:05:35.519 --> 00:05:41.759 cherries and berries? We were. We don't need to get stuck in tribal 68 00:05:41.800 --> 00:05:44.800 times. We've gone away from that. But we just want to have a 69 00:05:45.639 --> 00:05:53.959 foundational understanding that men do have a biological pull to pursue, to go after, 70 00:05:54.199 --> 00:05:59.160 to create that safe space for the feminine to flow through. Let's give 71 00:05:59.199 --> 00:06:03.160 them a chance to do so. If you want a masculine energy in your 72 00:06:03.160 --> 00:06:06.839 life, don't you want to make sure that that person can pursue you can 73 00:06:06.839 --> 00:06:11.800 set up that safe space for you. Don't you want to see them actually 74 00:06:12.759 --> 00:06:15.279 walk the walk, not just talk the talk. The only way to see 75 00:06:15.319 --> 00:06:18.360 it, though, is to give them the space to do so, instead 76 00:06:18.360 --> 00:06:25.439 of just giving all of yourself away right when you meet them. Why would 77 00:06:25.560 --> 00:06:30.959 a man show up in ways to court you when you're already courted. There's 78 00:06:30.000 --> 00:06:34.040 no more courding to do, there's no more recording to do. And if 79 00:06:34.079 --> 00:06:40.160 you think about the law of appreciation, which basically says that over time we 80 00:06:40.360 --> 00:06:44.319 lose appreciation for something. When you get a new car, you're so appreciative 81 00:06:44.360 --> 00:06:46.079 of it, you're, oh my God, my new car. I'm gonna 82 00:06:46.120 --> 00:06:49.240 keep it so clean. A year later that thing is trashed. When you 83 00:06:49.560 --> 00:06:54.120 are willing to give so much of yourself away, you're willing to be the 84 00:06:54.160 --> 00:06:58.920 girlfriend without being paid with the title of the girlfriend up front, that law 85 00:06:58.920 --> 00:07:03.480 of appreciation come and real quick. They don't need to appreciate all of you 86 00:07:03.720 --> 00:07:06.879 because you're already giving them everything. They don't need to pay you with the 87 00:07:06.920 --> 00:07:13.279 title because you're already giving them everything. They don't need to even show up 88 00:07:13.319 --> 00:07:16.959 in their masculine energy because you're already showing up in the masculine energy by giving 89 00:07:17.040 --> 00:07:23.319 doing everything. If you want to be the girl who is in a relationship 90 00:07:23.560 --> 00:07:29.720 who's getting not just attention but commitment, you gotta stop giving all of yourself 91 00:07:29.759 --> 00:07:32.160 away. I'm gonna say this a thousand times this episode. There's always going 92 00:07:32.199 --> 00:07:35.000 to be exceptions to the rule. Where you know, someone who slept with 93 00:07:35.040 --> 00:07:38.560 someone on the first day and now they're married. Okay, fine, that 94 00:07:38.680 --> 00:07:44.319 happens to few and far between. It's not the natural rule for most people. 95 00:07:45.079 --> 00:07:49.360 So we're gonna follow nature. We're not gonna follow the rare exceptions, 96 00:07:49.360 --> 00:07:56.079 because there's always exceptions. We cannot talk about intimacy and dating and women without 97 00:07:56.120 --> 00:08:01.000 talking about feminism, because feminism is in alive entity in society and the world 98 00:08:01.079 --> 00:08:05.439 that we live in. I am the first person to say feminism had an 99 00:08:05.480 --> 00:08:11.360 amazing intention make the plane feel a little bit more neutralized. Women didn't have 100 00:08:11.439 --> 00:08:15.959 the right to vote, they didn't have the right to do most things men 101 00:08:16.000 --> 00:08:20.240 could do. They couldn't get a divorce. So of course feminism has done 102 00:08:20.360 --> 00:08:24.120 amazing things for women and has given us rights that we deserve to have. 103 00:08:24.839 --> 00:08:30.839 But what happens with any movement is that the wrong people get control of the 104 00:08:30.879 --> 00:08:35.279 movement and then they start to manipulate it based on their interests rather than the 105 00:08:35.320 --> 00:08:41.440 interests of the people that the movement was intended to help. What happened with 106 00:08:41.519 --> 00:08:48.840 feminism, and the reason I have a distaste for the current feminism narrative is 107 00:08:48.879 --> 00:08:54.360 because it went from we need to speak up for ourselves, we have power, 108 00:08:54.320 --> 00:09:00.240 we deserve more rights to in order to take down the patriarch, we 109 00:09:00.279 --> 00:09:03.559 should become more like them. And that is the exact point that it starts 110 00:09:03.600 --> 00:09:09.679 to make literally no sense. The thing you're taking down, you're gonna become 111 00:09:09.720 --> 00:09:15.960 more like. That's just adding fuel to the fire. Two wrongs don't make 112 00:09:16.000 --> 00:09:20.000 a right. What are we doing here? Feminism tells women, oh, 113 00:09:20.200 --> 00:09:24.879 just do what men do, sleep with everyone. It's your right. Yet 114 00:09:24.000 --> 00:09:28.200 it's your right, that doesn't mean we should do it. It doesn't mean 115 00:09:28.240 --> 00:09:31.879 it's good for us. It doesn't mean that sleeping with all of these people 116 00:09:31.960 --> 00:09:35.360 is going to have a positive effect on us. In fact, it literally 117 00:09:35.399 --> 00:09:43.039 does the opposite. It does the opposite. I don't care how cold you 118 00:09:43.120 --> 00:09:48.120 think you are, how numb you think you are, how emotionally unavailable you 119 00:09:48.159 --> 00:09:54.919 think you are. Sleeping with the bunch of people only makes those emotions you 120 00:09:54.919 --> 00:09:56.679 think you don't have, which, by the way you do, you're just 121 00:09:56.759 --> 00:10:01.799 running from them, only makes those emotions messier. It does, it does. 122 00:10:01.600 --> 00:10:09.159 I don't want to be equal to men. I want to be treated 123 00:10:09.799 --> 00:10:16.519 better. I feel feminism has gone too far, and it's saying that, 124 00:10:16.720 --> 00:10:20.200 well, women are men, so everything should just be how it was for 125 00:10:20.320 --> 00:10:24.080 men. But now bring it over to the women's side. No, No, 126 00:10:24.559 --> 00:10:28.519 women and men are different entities. Stop trying to make them one thing. 127 00:10:28.559 --> 00:10:31.480 They're not one thing. When I think of women, I think of 128 00:10:31.559 --> 00:10:37.279 these incredible creatures that are so connected to nature that we actually are nature. 129 00:10:37.759 --> 00:10:43.399 We actually do have a natural cycle that we don't have to consciously think about. 130 00:10:43.519 --> 00:10:48.120 It just happens every single month, just like the moon cycles, just 131 00:10:48.159 --> 00:10:52.519 like the season cycle. I think about our amazing ability, even if we 132 00:10:52.600 --> 00:10:58.480 choose not to, even if some of us have hiccups in the process, 133 00:10:58.799 --> 00:11:03.559 we have some level of ability to have this connection to another realm where we 134 00:11:03.600 --> 00:11:09.720 can literally birth a human through our own body. Women are often more times 135 00:11:09.840 --> 00:11:13.960 just intuitive as well, where we have the ability of tuning into different dimensions. 136 00:11:15.279 --> 00:11:20.080 We are the master of the five D of love, of wisdom, 137 00:11:20.200 --> 00:11:24.639 whereas the masculine is the master of the three D realm of the physical world 138 00:11:24.639 --> 00:11:28.639 that we know. I feel like so many of us have lost touch with 139 00:11:28.720 --> 00:11:33.840 our natural cycles, me included. I lost my cycle for six months ish. 140 00:11:33.919 --> 00:11:37.679 There was a side effect of a medication I was taking. And when 141 00:11:37.720 --> 00:11:43.919 we lose this, I feel like we're almost just doing ourselves a disservice. 142 00:11:43.679 --> 00:11:48.159 And that's what I feel like. Feminism has turned into become like them. 143 00:11:48.200 --> 00:11:50.320 Oh, if they're sleeping with everyone, get even and sleep with everyone too. 144 00:11:52.200 --> 00:11:54.960 Is that even working well for them? Did? Is there a survey 145 00:11:56.039 --> 00:12:01.840 on that? Because I'm pretty sure trying to fulfill your emotional and mental needs 146 00:12:01.320 --> 00:12:07.679 by putting another human's body part into it doesn't work last time I checked. 147 00:12:07.639 --> 00:12:15.360 Last time I checked. Yeah, turns out filling your body with another person's 148 00:12:15.360 --> 00:12:20.360 body only gives you temporary relief or pleasure, and then your back feeling the 149 00:12:20.399 --> 00:12:24.320 loneliness, the depression, the anxiety. Oops. Do we forgot to mention 150 00:12:24.440 --> 00:12:31.080 that? Ooh ooh bit bitty bop. The interesting thing is intimacy when I 151 00:12:31.120 --> 00:12:35.360 think about it. I'm not gonna sit here and tell you intimacy is an 152 00:12:35.399 --> 00:12:37.600 evil thing. It's absolutely not. I would never tell you that. I'm 153 00:12:37.600 --> 00:12:39.960 not gonna sit here and tell you what my mother told me that if your 154 00:12:41.000 --> 00:12:45.200 intimate you'll grow cauliflower between your legs and you'll die. It's not true, 155 00:12:45.360 --> 00:12:48.720 by the way I found out. I'm gonna tell you that intimacy is kind 156 00:12:48.720 --> 00:12:54.080 of like money. Money is not good, money is not bad. Money 157 00:12:54.120 --> 00:12:58.159 is a neutral energy. It depends how the person's using it that will dictate 158 00:12:58.279 --> 00:13:01.879 if it's a positive entity or a negative one. It's the same thing with 159 00:13:01.919 --> 00:13:05.480 intimacy. Intimacy is not good nor bad. It depends how you're using it. 160 00:13:05.840 --> 00:13:09.720 You can use intimacy with a person you really love and they love you, 161 00:13:09.759 --> 00:13:13.039 and it can be a beautiful experience time and time again. Or you 162 00:13:13.039 --> 00:13:16.399 can use intimacy as a vehicle to run away from all your emotions, which 163 00:13:16.440 --> 00:13:20.440 only causes you to feel worse about yourself, and then it'd be used as 164 00:13:20.440 --> 00:13:24.039 a negative entity. So intimacy is not good nor bad. It's how we 165 00:13:24.200 --> 00:13:28.360 use it, how we interact with it in our own life. Instead of 166 00:13:28.480 --> 00:13:33.399 listening to our church who just says don't be intimate with anyone for no reason, 167 00:13:33.960 --> 00:13:37.759 or society that says, girl, open your legs twenty four seven, 168 00:13:39.159 --> 00:13:45.120 What if we just took a moment to decode and delve in to truly understand 169 00:13:45.279 --> 00:13:52.000 what's at stake here? How is this going to affect me? Promiscuity is 170 00:13:52.120 --> 00:13:58.639 not your power. And this is why when we're intimate with another person, 171 00:13:58.799 --> 00:14:01.799 it's like we're gluing too pieces of paper together and then we try to pull 172 00:14:01.840 --> 00:14:07.120 them apart energetically. What happened is some of your energy goes onto them, 173 00:14:07.120 --> 00:14:09.919 and some of their energy goes on to you. If you just met someone 174 00:14:09.919 --> 00:14:13.039 at a bar and you go be intimate with them, do what you want, 175 00:14:13.080 --> 00:14:18.039 but understand this, You're going to take on some of their energy, 176 00:14:18.120 --> 00:14:22.360 some of their traumas, some of their thought forms, and that's going to 177 00:14:22.399 --> 00:14:26.279 sit with you. It's going to enter your work field and attach itself onto 178 00:14:26.360 --> 00:14:31.559 you. You're never stuck, so don't worry. We can always remove these 179 00:14:31.679 --> 00:14:35.080 energies, but it's important that we know that. Let's say you go out 180 00:14:35.120 --> 00:14:39.000 to a bar and this person doesn't think highly of you, they think you're 181 00:14:39.360 --> 00:14:43.279 easy, or they think you're not the best, whatever it may be, 182 00:14:43.960 --> 00:14:46.039 and then you're intimate with them, you're now taking on those thought forms. 183 00:14:46.320 --> 00:14:50.480 I remember I was intimate with someone and they must have not thought the best 184 00:14:50.480 --> 00:14:56.080 about me, because afterwards, I literally had anxiety. I had racing thoughts. 185 00:14:56.120 --> 00:14:58.360 I felt like I was obsessed with them, and I'm like, what's 186 00:14:58.440 --> 00:15:03.879 wrong with me? It was because I was holding onto their negative thoughts about 187 00:15:03.919 --> 00:15:09.559 me. I was holding onto their projections, their limiting beliefs, their ideas 188 00:15:09.600 --> 00:15:15.679 about me that weren't true and weren't mine, and it wasn't until I removed 189 00:15:15.679 --> 00:15:18.759 those energetic chords that I was able to come back to myself. And by 190 00:15:18.799 --> 00:15:24.120 the way, if you need an energetic chord removal meditation, you can join 191 00:15:24.159 --> 00:15:28.559 the twenty one Day Breakup Globe Challenge and you can get the chord removal meditation. 192 00:15:28.879 --> 00:15:33.840 There this process of energy transference, you have to be aware of it. 193 00:15:35.440 --> 00:15:39.919 I wish someone told me growing up that that's why these religions tell you 194 00:15:39.960 --> 00:15:43.000 not to be intimate with other people. That's why these institutions tell you this. 195 00:15:43.240 --> 00:15:46.559 No one tells you why. They tell you what to think, but 196 00:15:46.600 --> 00:15:52.879 they don't tell you how to think or why. I wish I had someone 197 00:15:52.000 --> 00:15:58.399 who I saw was just a girl who said, Hey, this is why 198 00:16:00.080 --> 00:16:04.399 it's energy transference. You're picking up on their energy. You're giving them your 199 00:16:04.559 --> 00:16:10.919 energy, and you're doing a swap. You can always remove the energy, 200 00:16:10.960 --> 00:16:15.240 but why take on their energy if you don't have to think about it. 201 00:16:15.279 --> 00:16:18.080 We don't know these people, we don't know their thoughts, we don't know 202 00:16:18.120 --> 00:16:22.159 their traumas, we don't know what's going on with them, and then we're 203 00:16:22.200 --> 00:16:29.200 taking on their energy and we're effing ourselves over because of it. We're giving 204 00:16:29.320 --> 00:16:33.159 way too much of ourselves way too soon. And then what happens is, 205 00:16:33.200 --> 00:16:38.320 once we are intimate with them, it's likely that we're going to start to 206 00:16:38.360 --> 00:16:42.840 obsess a little bit more why because we've now given some of our power to 207 00:16:42.919 --> 00:16:47.480 them. And what this feels like. The way you know if you've given 208 00:16:47.480 --> 00:16:51.440 your power away to them after you've been intimate, is you will feel like 209 00:16:51.480 --> 00:16:53.399 you're starting to itch. You need to know what they're doing. You need 210 00:16:53.440 --> 00:16:56.960 to know who they're talking to you. You need to know why they're not 211 00:16:56.000 --> 00:16:59.480 texting you, why they're not calling. You. Don't miss them, you 212 00:16:59.559 --> 00:17:03.359 miss the energy you gave to them because when your intimate energy transference happened, 213 00:17:03.559 --> 00:17:07.799 you delivered some of your energy to them. You took on theirs, and 214 00:17:07.839 --> 00:17:11.039 now you're missing them, you're wanting them. You think you're missing them and 215 00:17:11.079 --> 00:17:15.640 wanting them, but really what you're missing and wanting is your power back. 216 00:17:15.440 --> 00:17:19.759 If you're feeling this close your eyes, imagine them a couple feet in front 217 00:17:19.799 --> 00:17:26.160 of you, and use my sacral chakra technique, say I lovingly and peacefully 218 00:17:26.960 --> 00:17:33.640 call all of my power back to me now and see your white light energy 219 00:17:33.880 --> 00:17:37.000 leave their body and go back into yours all the way down your spine to 220 00:17:37.079 --> 00:17:42.519 your sacral chakra. This energy vortex that's orange and color. And see this 221 00:17:42.640 --> 00:17:49.279 orange energy vortex grow and glow as you breathe your power back in and you 222 00:17:49.319 --> 00:17:52.480 can open your eyes when you're ready. If you want more on that, 223 00:17:52.519 --> 00:17:56.839 you can get the call in your power back work book. If you want 224 00:17:56.839 --> 00:18:00.359 a meditation, I have a free meditation on YouTube. It's an The show 225 00:18:00.400 --> 00:18:08.440 notes. Energy transference is why sleeping with someone intimacy can be dangerous for you, 226 00:18:10.079 --> 00:18:14.960 because you're taking on their stuff and you're giving away your stuff, and 227 00:18:15.000 --> 00:18:18.480 if their stuff is lower in vibration than your stuff, you're not gonna feel 228 00:18:18.480 --> 00:18:26.720 so good about yourself after I've seen so many of my friends sleeping with all 229 00:18:26.799 --> 00:18:30.599 these people, and you think that would maybe you would think this, it 230 00:18:30.599 --> 00:18:34.200 would somehow up level their confidence. Oh my god, all these people are 231 00:18:34.400 --> 00:18:37.799 are interested in me and they want me and all this stuff. No, 232 00:18:38.039 --> 00:18:45.200 all it did from my perspective was defeat them and no one would date them. 233 00:18:47.319 --> 00:18:49.119 I'm not saying that's true for everyone. It is the rule. Of 234 00:18:49.160 --> 00:18:53.240 course, there's always exceptions to the rule. There are some people who go 235 00:18:53.319 --> 00:18:56.480 on a first date and they sleep with one another, right away and then 236 00:18:56.519 --> 00:18:59.960 they get married. Of course, there's always gonna be exceptions to the rule, 237 00:19:00.559 --> 00:19:03.200 but let's just think about the rule. Let's think about in general, 238 00:19:03.359 --> 00:19:07.480 what is most likely to happen. I've seen it in my own life time 239 00:19:07.559 --> 00:19:11.519 and time again. Just girls who have the best intentions of wanting a relationship 240 00:19:11.599 --> 00:19:17.720 or wanting something serious, and they were sleeping with all these different people in 241 00:19:17.839 --> 00:19:22.039 hopes that would get the person to settle with them and commit to them. 242 00:19:22.519 --> 00:19:29.480 Doesn't work like that. A common misbelief that we have is if I just 243 00:19:29.559 --> 00:19:32.559 give all myself, if I just sleep with them, they'll commit to me. 244 00:19:32.640 --> 00:19:37.279 That's going to show how much how amazing I am, how much I 245 00:19:37.480 --> 00:19:40.759 want them, and they're gonna want me to. This is another reason why 246 00:19:40.799 --> 00:19:48.119 your promiscuity is not your power, because nowhere around planet Earth has a woman 247 00:19:48.200 --> 00:19:52.559 said I gave everything to this man and he finally saw my worth and wanted 248 00:19:52.599 --> 00:19:56.599 to marry me or wanted to date me. Said no, woman, ever, 249 00:19:56.319 --> 00:20:03.680 that doesn't happen. That doesn't happen. It's literally the opposite. It's 250 00:20:03.000 --> 00:20:10.119 the opposite. I'm gonna say this, and I want you to. I 251 00:20:10.160 --> 00:20:14.279 want you to really listen up here, I've seen women chase men. I've 252 00:20:14.279 --> 00:20:18.119 seen women give everything to men. I've seen women do everything for men, 253 00:20:18.319 --> 00:20:22.680 and they still did not stay with them or fully commit. In fact, 254 00:20:22.680 --> 00:20:26.079 they just waited around. They just accepted them until they thought that someone else 255 00:20:26.160 --> 00:20:30.079 who was better came around, and then they went with that person they deemed 256 00:20:30.240 --> 00:20:37.039 better. It's not worth your time, So stop doing the job of a 257 00:20:37.119 --> 00:20:41.079 girlfriend without being paid with the title of the girlfriend, because it's not going 258 00:20:41.119 --> 00:20:48.680 to get you anywhere. It won't get you anywhere. The misbelief that you 259 00:20:48.039 --> 00:20:52.720 have to prove yourself through doing things, through giving all your energy away, 260 00:20:52.279 --> 00:20:56.799 through sleeping with them, that that's going to get them, that's hurting you 261 00:20:56.920 --> 00:21:03.279 right now, and it's not true. Double whammy. What's interesting is it's 262 00:21:03.319 --> 00:21:11.359 literally the opposite. When men invest in women their time, their energy, 263 00:21:11.440 --> 00:21:18.359 their money, it makes them want the women more because in their logical mind, 264 00:21:18.359 --> 00:21:21.720 they're saying, well, I'm giving to her, I'm investing in her. 265 00:21:21.839 --> 00:21:23.559 I want to see where this goes. I've given this much of my 266 00:21:23.640 --> 00:21:27.400 time to her. I want to see where this goes. Think about if 267 00:21:27.440 --> 00:21:32.559 you were to invest in a stock, the more money you invest, the 268 00:21:32.559 --> 00:21:36.599 more invested you're going to be. The more time you invest in anything, 269 00:21:36.920 --> 00:21:41.240 the more invested you're going to be. The more time you invest in creating 270 00:21:41.240 --> 00:21:44.720 your dream home, the more invested you're going to be in living in it 271 00:21:44.759 --> 00:21:48.200 and not wanting to sell it. The more a man invests in you time, 272 00:21:48.440 --> 00:21:52.759 energy, not just money, but money included, the more he's going 273 00:21:52.799 --> 00:21:56.359 to be drawn towards you. First of all, it's a service to a 274 00:21:56.400 --> 00:22:00.480 man to allow a man to feel like a man, service for them for 275 00:22:00.599 --> 00:22:04.160 you to step into your divine feminine energy so they can step into their divine 276 00:22:04.160 --> 00:22:08.359 masculine energy. Now, will you always be in your feminine and them always 277 00:22:08.400 --> 00:22:12.720 be in their masculine? Of course not, that's completely unrealistic. Your man's 278 00:22:12.799 --> 00:22:15.599 is gonna have a bad day here and there. They're gonna need to break 279 00:22:15.599 --> 00:22:18.519 down sometimes, and you're gonna have to step into your maskline energy, and 280 00:22:18.559 --> 00:22:22.559 you're gonna have to be there for them in those moments, of course, 281 00:22:22.640 --> 00:22:26.920 because that's life, and life is not about being in your feminine energy one 282 00:22:26.960 --> 00:22:30.759 hundred percent of the time. We need balance. You might have a sixty 283 00:22:30.880 --> 00:22:34.759 forty split or a seventy thirty split, but it's about allowing yourself to be 284 00:22:34.839 --> 00:22:38.039 in your feminine, so they can be in their masculine. When you allow 285 00:22:38.079 --> 00:22:41.759 them to pay for the date, when you allow them to show up for 286 00:22:41.839 --> 00:22:45.720 you, when you allow them to plan the day, to create the schedule, 287 00:22:45.839 --> 00:22:48.839 whatever it is, you allow them to be in the energy that is 288 00:22:48.920 --> 00:22:53.480 their core frequency. You know how good it feels to be in your feminine 289 00:22:53.559 --> 00:22:57.440 energy. You know how good it feels to be in your core energy. 290 00:22:59.240 --> 00:23:03.279 If you are in y're feminine. It also allows them to be in their 291 00:23:03.359 --> 00:23:10.400 core energy, in their masculine. When a man, a masculine energy invests 292 00:23:10.440 --> 00:23:12.799 in us, it makes them want to invest the more, it makes them 293 00:23:12.799 --> 00:23:22.279 want to hold on to us more. I think another misbelief that we have 294 00:23:22.319 --> 00:23:27.319 is that it's the cool girl thing to sleep with everyone. It's the fun 295 00:23:27.359 --> 00:23:32.319 girl thing to sleep with everyone. And I think some of us who get 296 00:23:32.359 --> 00:23:36.960 into our party girl era, we kind of take on this identity and we 297 00:23:37.079 --> 00:23:40.640 never let go of it. It's okay to let go of that identity. 298 00:23:40.680 --> 00:23:42.960 I don't care who you've been, I don't care what has happened. You're 299 00:23:44.000 --> 00:23:47.400 allowed to decide to be someone completely new today. You're allowed to change everything 300 00:23:47.440 --> 00:23:51.440 about yourself. You're allowed to be intentional with your intimacy. I want you 301 00:23:51.480 --> 00:23:56.759 to come closer for this one. You sleeping with a bunch of people. 302 00:23:59.039 --> 00:24:03.519 It's the least thing you can do. Everyone's doing that. Not special, 303 00:24:04.440 --> 00:24:11.640 not interesting. In fact, it's quite boring doing the same thing and getting 304 00:24:11.680 --> 00:24:18.240 the same result. What is that definition and what is that? Oh insanity? 305 00:24:18.480 --> 00:24:22.160 Right, doing the same thing and expecting a different result. So many 306 00:24:22.200 --> 00:24:26.640 of us have the most beautiful intentions of I want a relationship. I want 307 00:24:26.680 --> 00:24:30.000 to magnetize my energy. I want to be on my pedestal. But if 308 00:24:30.039 --> 00:24:36.319 we keep sleeping with everyone that's doing the opposite, it's like we're kicking ourselves 309 00:24:36.319 --> 00:24:38.599 in the foot here. If you want a relationship, if you want to 310 00:24:38.640 --> 00:24:44.480 magnetize your own energy, sleeping with everyone and their father is not going to 311 00:24:44.519 --> 00:24:48.160 get you that. There are always exceptions to the rule. I know that 312 00:24:48.240 --> 00:24:52.720 you know that. But let's think about the rule here. Let's think about 313 00:24:52.759 --> 00:24:57.599 the dessert principle, which we've talked about in the last episode. When we 314 00:24:57.640 --> 00:25:02.519 give too much of ourselves a wa way too soon, it repels that person 315 00:25:02.559 --> 00:25:07.319 in the opposite direction. If you have the goal of being in a relationship, 316 00:25:07.440 --> 00:25:11.640 I want you to reverse engineer that goal. My goal is to be 317 00:25:11.680 --> 00:25:15.920 in a relationship. Okay, what is the action that I should take that 318 00:25:15.000 --> 00:25:18.680 would most likely get me there? Is it sleeping with them right away? 319 00:25:18.799 --> 00:25:23.079 Is it being completely unconscious when it comes to my intimacy, or is it 320 00:25:23.119 --> 00:25:29.640 being intentional with my intimacy? Or is it letting myself actually get to know 321 00:25:29.720 --> 00:25:32.480 this person to see if I even like them, Because if I am in 322 00:25:32.559 --> 00:25:33.880 submit with them, It's going to cloud my judgment and then I'm going to 323 00:25:33.920 --> 00:25:37.400 fill in their silences with my desires, and then I'm gonna be obsessed with 324 00:25:37.440 --> 00:25:41.160 them because I'd given my power, and then I'm going to completely lose myself 325 00:25:41.160 --> 00:25:47.720 in this relationship. I don't know what do you think is better sleeping with 326 00:25:47.759 --> 00:25:52.440 someone or a bunch of people. It doesn't make you cool, it doesn't 327 00:25:52.440 --> 00:25:57.559 make you interesting, it doesn't make you fun. It makes you someone who 328 00:25:57.640 --> 00:26:02.880 sleeps with a lot of people. And if you're enjoying that, and you 329 00:26:02.920 --> 00:26:06.480 don't care about energy transference, I don't care what you do. Go off, 330 00:26:06.559 --> 00:26:10.799 live life, you know whatever. But if you do care about your 331 00:26:10.920 --> 00:26:14.400 power and magnetizing your own energy and putting yourself on a pedestal and getting a 332 00:26:14.440 --> 00:26:18.400 relationship, then this should matter to you. But I'm not here to tell 333 00:26:18.400 --> 00:26:22.480 you what to do. I'm here to share my experiences of what I know 334 00:26:22.240 --> 00:26:27.160 through energy, through my own experiences, and through coaching. This is what 335 00:26:27.200 --> 00:26:32.200 I know to be true. There are always exceptions. I don't want to 336 00:26:32.200 --> 00:26:36.200 turn a blind eye to that, but for the most part, this is 337 00:26:36.240 --> 00:26:38.759 where we are. I've told this story before, but it bears repeating, 338 00:26:38.920 --> 00:26:45.200 and it's the story about the famous bag. My mom always used to tell 339 00:26:45.240 --> 00:26:48.839 me this story growing up, and the story goes, there was this bag 340 00:26:48.880 --> 00:26:55.599 that everyone wanted. Rich people, middle class people, poorer people, all 341 00:26:55.640 --> 00:27:00.359 different religions, all different races, all people all over the world, just 342 00:27:00.440 --> 00:27:07.039 everybody. Everyone wanted this bag. And my mom said, Cecy, do 343 00:27:07.119 --> 00:27:10.400 you know why? And I said, I don't know. Was it the 344 00:27:10.440 --> 00:27:14.519 most beautiful and she said no, not any more beautiful than any other bag. 345 00:27:14.559 --> 00:27:18.920 I said, okay, was it the most expensive and she said no, 346 00:27:18.640 --> 00:27:23.160 not too far off from the other bags, pretty pretty much the same 347 00:27:23.200 --> 00:27:26.720 as other designer bags. And I said, okay, well it's not the 348 00:27:26.759 --> 00:27:30.960 most beautiful, it's not the most expensive. I don't know. Why does 349 00:27:30.000 --> 00:27:33.720 everyone want the bag? And she said because not everyone could have it. 350 00:27:36.039 --> 00:27:41.400 When you give yourself away to a bunch of people or to anyone in general, 351 00:27:44.039 --> 00:27:48.799 you still have worth, You still have value. Your value has not 352 00:27:48.960 --> 00:27:55.440 changed. How people perceive your value has changed one hundred percent. I hate 353 00:27:55.519 --> 00:27:57.440 these corners of the Internet where they're like, if you sleep with everyone, 354 00:27:57.559 --> 00:28:04.279 you have less value, a load of bowl whatever. That's not true. 355 00:28:04.799 --> 00:28:08.799 Your value doesn't change because you had someone's body part inside of yours. That 356 00:28:08.839 --> 00:28:14.519 makes no sense. Your work doesn't change because you're slept with someone. We 357 00:28:14.559 --> 00:28:18.039 need to grow up. Your value in your worth paved girl is still the 358 00:28:18.079 --> 00:28:25.079 same, and God's eye still the same. However, how you feel about 359 00:28:25.119 --> 00:28:30.240 yourself changes as you take on their lower vibrational energy through energy transference, and 360 00:28:30.240 --> 00:28:36.559 how other people perceive you changes. Why Because if everyone can get the bag, 361 00:28:36.720 --> 00:28:38.960 not everyone's gonna want the bag. It's not exciting, it's not interesting. 362 00:28:40.640 --> 00:28:45.519 However, if not everyone can have the bag, everyone's suddenly interested. 363 00:28:45.599 --> 00:28:49.759 It's human nature that when something is harder to get, more people want it. 364 00:28:51.279 --> 00:28:55.960 But when something is easy to get, people don't care because it's accessible. 365 00:28:56.240 --> 00:28:59.599 Think about celebrities, they're so hard to get. It's so hard to 366 00:28:59.599 --> 00:29:02.000 get an it's so hard to talk to them, it's so hard to connect 367 00:29:02.000 --> 00:29:04.240 with them, so everyone wants to do it. Everyone's obsessed with celebrities. 368 00:29:06.480 --> 00:29:12.359 That's interesting because not everyone can have access to celebrities. Your energy is a 369 00:29:12.400 --> 00:29:18.759 freaking gift. It's a privilege for someone to be in your energy. Stop 370 00:29:18.799 --> 00:29:22.680 thinking you have to prove yourself by giving your body away in order to get 371 00:29:22.720 --> 00:29:26.920 them. And if you have to betray yourself and give your body to them 372 00:29:26.960 --> 00:29:29.880 for them to commit to you, that's not the right person for you. 373 00:29:30.279 --> 00:29:33.839 And I say that with my whole chest. That's not the right person for 374 00:29:33.920 --> 00:29:38.680 you. That's someone who's straight up using you for your body. They're using 375 00:29:38.720 --> 00:29:44.240 you for your physical vessel. You are a means to an end for that 376 00:29:44.319 --> 00:29:48.559 person. If all they care about is when you're intimate with them. Is 377 00:29:48.599 --> 00:29:52.160 that really who you want to give your body to? Is that really who 378 00:29:52.160 --> 00:29:55.359 you want to give your energy to? The people who are using you to 379 00:29:55.440 --> 00:30:00.000 be a whole for them? I don't I don't want to do that. 380 00:30:00.640 --> 00:30:06.039 No, I say like ew ew to you. I'm not giving you me 381 00:30:06.960 --> 00:30:14.200 what so you can use me. It's not interesting to be with a bunch 382 00:30:14.200 --> 00:30:18.519 of people. It's not special everyone's doing it, and no one is feeling 383 00:30:18.519 --> 00:30:22.799 good about it anymore. I really don't think we can lie to ourselves and 384 00:30:22.839 --> 00:30:29.319 say it's fun and it's dandy. It's not. There are other ways you 385 00:30:29.359 --> 00:30:32.599 can please yourself and you don't need to involve anyone else for you. I 386 00:30:32.680 --> 00:30:34.759 understand you have needs. You can meet your own needs. In fact, 387 00:30:36.160 --> 00:30:38.279 that would actually help you so much more so you can understand how your body 388 00:30:38.319 --> 00:30:41.680 actually works and what you actually like. Instead of just blah blah blah blah 389 00:30:41.640 --> 00:30:48.039 blah blah blah word vomiting your body and intimacy to everyone, Let's reel it 390 00:30:48.079 --> 00:30:52.160 back in. Let's understand what we're doing. Let's stop allowing people to use 391 00:30:52.279 --> 00:30:56.559 us. What I want you to do is see how you feel not giving 392 00:30:56.559 --> 00:31:02.440 your energy, your body, your time, tention away immediately. See how 393 00:31:02.519 --> 00:31:11.799 you feel different, See how you feel standing in your power rather than taking 394 00:31:11.839 --> 00:31:17.400 on their lower vibrational energy. A question I think that is so worth asking 395 00:31:17.440 --> 00:31:22.599 yourself is who is benefiting from me being intimate with this person or people? 396 00:31:25.160 --> 00:31:29.839 Is it me? Or is it causing me to be in a tailspin? 397 00:31:30.119 --> 00:31:36.680 Is it causing me to take on their negative energy? Am I benefiting if 398 00:31:36.720 --> 00:31:40.759 I actually want a relationship with this person, they get their cake and they 399 00:31:40.759 --> 00:31:42.079 get to eat it too. They don't have to give me any sort of 400 00:31:42.160 --> 00:31:45.440 label, and I just keep being intimate with them. If you're stuck in 401 00:31:45.480 --> 00:31:49.640 a cycle, you have to change something. You need to do something differently 402 00:31:49.839 --> 00:31:55.519 for things to be different. There's a quote, and it doesn't completely relate 403 00:31:55.559 --> 00:31:59.720 to this, but I think it's a funny comparison, and it says successful 404 00:31:59.720 --> 00:32:02.799 people do what unsuccessful people are not willing to do. I'll say it again, 405 00:32:04.319 --> 00:32:10.680 successful people do what unsuccessful people are not willing to do. So maybe 406 00:32:12.400 --> 00:32:15.920 this is just about a change of action. Maybe could it be? Could 407 00:32:15.960 --> 00:32:22.000 it be? I think so If successful people in relationships the norm, the 408 00:32:22.079 --> 00:32:27.680 majority, don't just sleep with that person automatically and actually get to know that 409 00:32:27.759 --> 00:32:30.319 person, then you have to be willing to do that. Because successful people 410 00:32:30.359 --> 00:32:35.359 are willing to do what unsuccessful people are not willing to do. You have 411 00:32:35.440 --> 00:32:38.119 to be willing to change your action if you want to change your result. 412 00:32:38.880 --> 00:32:43.759 And again, I'm not forcing you to do this. I can't make you 413 00:32:43.799 --> 00:32:47.000 do this, but I'm asking you. I'm inviting you to just try something 414 00:32:47.039 --> 00:32:52.519 different and see what happens, See how you feel, see the different results 415 00:32:52.559 --> 00:32:57.400 you may get, see how your reality starts to transform towards you rather than 416 00:32:57.480 --> 00:33:00.480 fall apart. And then you can make your own decision about what you want 417 00:33:00.480 --> 00:33:05.400 to do. But there's no harm in trying something that may be really helpful 418 00:33:05.440 --> 00:33:08.880 and could change your whole entire life of how you're interacting with other people, 419 00:33:09.200 --> 00:33:14.039 how they're interacting with you. You have to be willing to do what maybe 420 00:33:14.079 --> 00:33:16.359 all your friends aren't doing. You have to be willing to be the person 421 00:33:16.400 --> 00:33:20.200 to say, actually, I'm not going to do what everyone in society is 422 00:33:20.240 --> 00:33:23.440 doing, sleeping with everyone, this really fast hookup culture. I'm not going 423 00:33:23.519 --> 00:33:29.680 to do that. I'm going to do what successful people in relationships do, 424 00:33:29.759 --> 00:33:35.480 which is maybe actually see this person, go on dates with them, not 425 00:33:35.519 --> 00:33:38.119 just sleep with them. Understand who they are before I give them all my 426 00:33:38.279 --> 00:33:45.119 energy, before I invest myself into them. What a concept. What do 427 00:33:45.160 --> 00:33:50.599 you fear about letting someone invest in you? Do you think you're not worthy 428 00:33:50.759 --> 00:33:53.960 of them investing in you? Are you afraid that if you take too much 429 00:33:54.039 --> 00:34:00.039 time that they're going to abandon you? Usually when we're pushing ourselves to sleep 430 00:34:00.039 --> 00:34:04.720 with someone too soon, soon and we keep getting ghosted or they keep leaving 431 00:34:04.799 --> 00:34:09.119 us. There's some fear there. What is it you fear that's causing you 432 00:34:10.039 --> 00:34:15.199 to do something maybe you don't even want to do too soon? What is 433 00:34:15.400 --> 00:34:21.840 causing you to move quicker, move faster than maybe you're even comfortable. What 434 00:34:21.920 --> 00:34:25.360 do you value? What do you want? And let's start reverse engineering what 435 00:34:25.400 --> 00:34:30.920 we want rather than just being like la, just go be with everyone. 436 00:34:30.960 --> 00:34:34.519 And look, I've been. I've been intimate with people who I wasn't in 437 00:34:34.559 --> 00:34:39.920 a relationship with and I didn't go anywhere. Literally pretty much got ghosted. 438 00:34:39.960 --> 00:34:45.320 I would say it was a cosmic cancelation. It doesn't work. If it 439 00:34:45.360 --> 00:34:46.880 worked, I would tell you to do it. It doesn't work. So 440 00:34:47.039 --> 00:34:50.400 like I'm you know, what do you want me to say? It doesn't 441 00:34:50.440 --> 00:34:58.519 work, doesn't work. Let them invest in you if you want them. 442 00:35:00.159 --> 00:35:05.639 That's your power. Your power is your receptivity. It's not in giving given 443 00:35:05.679 --> 00:35:09.440 given giving. Your power is in you receiving the attention and knowing you're worth 444 00:35:09.440 --> 00:35:16.559 it. Your power is in receiving their gifts, their attention, their energy, 445 00:35:16.760 --> 00:35:23.599 and knowing you're worth it. Your power is being and extending that being 446 00:35:23.599 --> 00:35:28.519 onto them. They want to bathe in your being. That's your power. 447 00:35:28.519 --> 00:35:30.679 It's not doing, doing, doing, doing, doing, giving, giving, 448 00:35:30.719 --> 00:35:34.119 give and give a giving. That's actually their power is giving. The 449 00:35:34.159 --> 00:35:38.480 maculine gives, the feminine receives. One belief I would love you to start 450 00:35:38.519 --> 00:35:44.280 to adopt is that there are plenty of fish in the deep blue sea, 451 00:35:44.400 --> 00:35:51.400 baby, plenty of fish. Newsflash, there's what eight billion people out there. 452 00:35:51.920 --> 00:35:55.000 Maybe you're not interested in all, but let's say you're interested in half, 453 00:35:55.039 --> 00:36:01.880 so four billion people. Chances are you're gonna find someone. So you 454 00:36:01.920 --> 00:36:05.719 don't need to sleep with the first person you see, because if it's not 455 00:36:05.920 --> 00:36:08.840 them, then it will be someone else. And here's the thing. What 456 00:36:08.880 --> 00:36:14.480 I'm interested in is if I don't sleep with you, what's your reaction, 457 00:36:15.159 --> 00:36:21.320 because that tells you a lot about their character. What are what are they 458 00:36:21.360 --> 00:36:27.440 actually after? Because if they're after this is an amazing way to weed out 459 00:36:27.480 --> 00:36:31.000 people who are after the wrong things from you. If they're just after being 460 00:36:31.039 --> 00:36:36.719 intimate with you, and you're intimate with them and then they ghost you, 461 00:36:37.000 --> 00:36:40.199 ah, shoot, didn't have the option to figure that out. However, 462 00:36:40.840 --> 00:36:45.920 if you actually create some space to actually get to know them, and you 463 00:36:45.000 --> 00:36:49.400 aren't intimate with them right away. You'll get to see how they react, 464 00:36:49.480 --> 00:36:52.599 and that will tell you everything about their character. Oh suddenly I'm not doing 465 00:36:52.719 --> 00:36:57.599 enough for you, and you're saying that I'm not being intimate quick enough for 466 00:36:57.679 --> 00:37:00.639 you, and blah blah blah, what ever it may be, they ghost, 467 00:37:00.719 --> 00:37:05.199 they're not interested. Thank god you didn't give them all of your time 468 00:37:05.239 --> 00:37:07.519 and energy and body could. You got to see exactly who they were. 469 00:37:08.480 --> 00:37:15.559 It weeds out the people who have negative were not the best intentions. Why 470 00:37:15.599 --> 00:37:20.719 wouldn't you use all of your possible tools to ensure the best case scenario for 471 00:37:21.079 --> 00:37:25.559 you give yourself space to see if you even liked this person, and then 472 00:37:25.599 --> 00:37:29.360 you also get to see how they react, which will tell you a lot 473 00:37:29.400 --> 00:37:35.880 about their character. The interesting thing is every time I see someone go through 474 00:37:35.880 --> 00:37:38.079 a breakup and they're like, it was the best person I've ever known. 475 00:37:38.480 --> 00:37:43.159 I'm never gonna find anyone ever again. I'm gonna die alone. They always 476 00:37:43.199 --> 00:37:46.320 find someone else. I've literally never in my life seen someone go through a 477 00:37:46.320 --> 00:37:52.559 breakup and then never find anyone ever again. It's not happened. Now. 478 00:37:52.599 --> 00:37:58.280 If they wanted another relationship, they got it. So if every time someone 479 00:37:58.320 --> 00:38:01.880 goes through a breakup, they ended up finding someone else. Anyway, Chances 480 00:38:01.920 --> 00:38:06.119 are, like I said, there's plenty of fish in the seat. And 481 00:38:06.159 --> 00:38:08.559 if it's not this person, it's going to be someone better. That's another 482 00:38:08.599 --> 00:38:14.480 beautiful belief. If it's not this person, it's going to be someone better. 483 00:38:15.039 --> 00:38:20.360 I also think waiting to be intimate with someone until you actually feel ready, 484 00:38:20.360 --> 00:38:22.840 you have an emotional connection, you know this person. That's a way 485 00:38:22.920 --> 00:38:28.760 to avoid dating burnout. Because right now, so many of us are meeting 486 00:38:28.800 --> 00:38:30.679 up with people, We're doing your hair, makeup, we're being intimate with 487 00:38:30.719 --> 00:38:35.440 them. Then they go somewhere like what the f The funny thing is, 488 00:38:35.639 --> 00:38:37.599 if you don't allow it, it can't happen. I was talking to one 489 00:38:37.639 --> 00:38:39.199 of my friends the other day. I was like, well, what if 490 00:38:39.239 --> 00:38:45.079 you just stopped allowing that behavior, then it can't happen. If you stop 491 00:38:45.119 --> 00:38:51.320 allowing people to just get what they want and leave, it won't be able 492 00:38:51.360 --> 00:38:55.760 to exist in your reality. But if you keep observing the same actions and 493 00:38:55.800 --> 00:39:01.039 you keep letting it toppen, that baby girl is insanity And it's okay, 494 00:39:01.199 --> 00:39:07.079 we've all been in our insane era. Hello, who cares? Let's move 495 00:39:07.119 --> 00:39:09.760 past it, move on, been there, done that whatever. None of 496 00:39:09.880 --> 00:39:14.440 us are wrong for a living. We've all had just so many messages and 497 00:39:14.480 --> 00:39:19.079 we're all just trying to do our best. It's okay. The thing with 498 00:39:19.280 --> 00:39:22.840 intimacy is you can also do something when you find someone that you really connect 499 00:39:22.880 --> 00:39:27.599 with and you really feel amazing about and you guys, have an emotional connection. 500 00:39:27.719 --> 00:39:34.239 There's also something called energy transmutation where literally when you reach your climax, 501 00:39:34.320 --> 00:39:37.920 the height of your intimacy, you can think about what it is you want 502 00:39:37.960 --> 00:39:40.880 to manifest. It's called the O method. I believe you think about what 503 00:39:40.920 --> 00:39:45.119 you want to manifest, and from your climax, it gives it your manifestation, 504 00:39:45.239 --> 00:39:50.320 an extra umph of energy which helps you manifest it. So again, 505 00:39:50.400 --> 00:39:53.039 the OH method. What is that. It's when you're at your climax during 506 00:39:53.079 --> 00:39:57.840 intimacy, you think about exactly what you want to manifest, and all that 507 00:39:57.920 --> 00:40:00.920 surge of energy goes towards that manif station and it helps you bring it into 508 00:40:01.000 --> 00:40:07.280 existence. That's a beautiful way to use intimacy. Intimacy is a beautiful thing 509 00:40:07.320 --> 00:40:09.199 to use to connect to your partner, to get to know them deeper, 510 00:40:09.239 --> 00:40:15.119 to have this spiritual connection but if you know nothing about them, do you 511 00:40:15.239 --> 00:40:19.199 really want to take on their demons? If you know nothing about them, 512 00:40:19.280 --> 00:40:22.199 are you really willing to lower your vibration just because you met someone and your 513 00:40:22.239 --> 00:40:27.199 board or trying to run from your own emotions? Is it worth it to 514 00:40:27.440 --> 00:40:30.880 you? Maybe it is. I don't know, but I want you to 515 00:40:30.000 --> 00:40:35.880 have the knowledge so you can make the best decision for you. Knowledge is 516 00:40:35.920 --> 00:40:40.559 not just power, but having knowledge and a tuning your action to that knowledge. 517 00:40:40.920 --> 00:40:45.920 That's where real power lies. Power is not in your promiscuity. It's 518 00:40:45.960 --> 00:40:51.119 not in you giving your body away too soon because you feel pressured. No, 519 00:40:51.360 --> 00:40:57.239 your power is in and on your pedestal, standing on your pedestal, 520 00:40:57.360 --> 00:41:01.000 allowing yourself to receive, having the knowledge that if it's not this person, 521 00:41:01.079 --> 00:41:06.599 it will be the next. Your power isn't realizing that you are your own 522 00:41:06.679 --> 00:41:10.480 power. That's it. That's it. And we give our power away when 523 00:41:10.480 --> 00:41:15.559 we're being intimate with everyone. We take on their entities and their energies when 524 00:41:15.599 --> 00:41:19.800 we're being intimate with everyone, and we end up getting more and more and 525 00:41:19.880 --> 00:41:27.280 more insecure for the most part. So what if feminism maybe lie to us 526 00:41:27.320 --> 00:41:30.239 a bit? What if society lied to us a bit. I mean, 527 00:41:30.519 --> 00:41:36.960 think about movies and how they show intimate experiences. It's really not like that. 528 00:41:37.559 --> 00:41:43.000 It's really not like that. It's not It's much different in real life. 529 00:41:44.960 --> 00:41:52.039 So what if there are ways that we can magnetize our energy by actually 530 00:41:52.199 --> 00:41:55.800 standing on our pedestal rather than thinking we have to give all of ourselves away. 531 00:41:57.840 --> 00:42:00.800 What if we just tried this and then saw what the results are. 532 00:42:01.440 --> 00:42:07.159 You don't have to blindly believe me. Why don't you just experiment and see 533 00:42:07.519 --> 00:42:10.159 what happens. That's all I can ever ask you to do is just be 534 00:42:10.280 --> 00:42:15.239 curious and try it out. See what happens with the next person you come 535 00:42:15.239 --> 00:42:19.199 into contact with and you're interested in. See what happens when you take space 536 00:42:19.800 --> 00:42:25.920 and actually require them to take action to pursue you. See what happens when 537 00:42:25.960 --> 00:42:30.519 you require them to show up for you time and time again? Can they 538 00:42:30.519 --> 00:42:32.639 show up for you? Or are they incapable? Okay, great, I 539 00:42:32.679 --> 00:42:35.840 didn't even sleep with them. Now I don't have to feel burnt out. 540 00:42:35.960 --> 00:42:39.440 Now I didn't give them my power. That helps me understand, and we're 541 00:42:39.480 --> 00:42:45.719 not withholding ourselves as a haha, gotcha, We're just on our pedestal. 542 00:42:46.159 --> 00:42:50.800 We're just taking some space to understand who is this person? Do I actually 543 00:42:50.880 --> 00:42:53.840 like this person? Is this connection worth it for me to exchange energy with 544 00:42:53.880 --> 00:43:00.000 them? Because That's what I'm gonna be doing. I'm sending you so much 545 00:43:00.119 --> 00:43:04.639 much love, positive bitches. This really is a podcast episode giving you an 546 00:43:04.719 --> 00:43:08.239 understanding of what's going on in the energetic realm and why we can feel so 547 00:43:08.360 --> 00:43:14.840 obsessed with them and why we may be getting the same results over and over 548 00:43:14.960 --> 00:43:16.719 and over. I love you, I'd love you, I love you. 549 00:43:17.199 --> 00:43:21.760 If you enjoyed this podcast, please share it with a family member, a 550 00:43:21.800 --> 00:43:24.239 friend, and if you really loved it, if you can leave a positive 551 00:43:24.280 --> 00:43:28.440 review on Apple Podcasts and Spotify, it would mean the world for me. 552 00:43:29.239 --> 00:43:34.000 It helps this podcast grow and it helps us reach more positive bitches, So 553 00:43:34.199 --> 00:43:37.800 that would be great. If not for me, do it for you because 554 00:43:37.920 --> 00:43:42.119 Goo karma And if you have any suggestions, you can DM me on at 555 00:43:42.119 --> 00:43:45.280 that bitch is positive on Instagram and tell me what you want to hear. 556 00:43:45.440 --> 00:43:49.599 I'm sending you so much love and I will see you in the next one 557 00:44:00.159 --> 00:44:19.440 can say how came? How came the Jogy? No cancer kan saspect, 558 00:44:19.679 --> 00:44:20.639 can sa spec