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we simply become who we are not so we can fully step into exactly who
we came here to be. Today, we are decoding one of the biggest
lies we've been told as a woman. Now let me preface this by saying
we've been told a lot of things as women around intimacy. Oh, don't
sleep with anyone, sleep with everyone, be equal feminism. One of my
personal favorites is from my mother. She told me, Ceci, if you
sleep with someone, you will grow cauliflower between your legs and you will die.
That's the message I got in high school. What do you get?
We have so many mixed messages from society, from our peers, from social
media, from our parents, our religion around intimacy and what we should and
should not be doing with our bodies. And it's time we take our power
back and actually look at with a logical mind and with our intuition tuned all
the way up at intimacy. We need to understand what is actually going on.
A lot of us want relationships, we want magnetic energy. We want
to attract, not chase. Well, you can't do that if you're giving
everyone and their father you're an do your body, your attention. Promiscuity is
not your power. You are your power, your energy. You being on
your pedestal, that's your power. Your power lies in your pedestal, not
in your promiscuity. We're going to decode the messages we get. We're going
to understand energy transference. We're going to understand where your power truly lies and
how to tap into it, and how to attract rather than chase, and
what really makes a guy interested in you Before we get into it, I
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there you'll find many portals to many places. But without further ado, let's
get into today's episode. If you are wondering why some girls always get the
princess treatment, they always are in relationships, they always get the guy.
But you're over here, like, okay, everyone ghosts me. I can't
get anyone to stay in my life. Why is this happening? How are
there two different realities? Let me just explain it to you. It comes
down to how you're broadcasting your energy, how you're projecting your energy, what
you're doing with your energy. Now common denominator, and you can try to
disagree with me. I don't care. This is the truth. A common
denominator of every single woman I've talked to that wants a relationship so bad it
keeps getting ghosted, or can't get a relationship to last, or can't get
them to commit their partner is that they give too much of themselves too soon,
or in general, they sleep with them right away and the guy leaves.
They give all of their energy away. They try to do everything for
the guy, and the guy leaves. What if your power isn't in trying
to prove yourself worthy, it's actually allowing the guy to pursue. Hmm hmmm.
Men are hunters, They're wired that way. In tribal times, who
was going out and hunting the deer, the fish, who was back picking
cherries and berries? We were. We don't need to get stuck in tribal
times. We've gone away from that. But we just want to have a
foundational understanding that men do have a biological pull to pursue, to go after,
to create that safe space for the feminine to flow through. Let's give
them a chance to do so. If you want a masculine energy in your
life, don't you want to make sure that that person can pursue you can
set up that safe space for you. Don't you want to see them actually
walk the walk, not just talk the talk. The only way to see
it, though, is to give them the space to do so, instead
of just giving all of yourself away right when you meet them. Why would
a man show up in ways to court you when you're already courted. There's
no more courding to do, there's no more recording to do. And if
you think about the law of appreciation, which basically says that over time we
lose appreciation for something. When you get a new car, you're so appreciative
of it, you're, oh my God, my new car. I'm gonna
keep it so clean. A year later that thing is trashed. When you
are willing to give so much of yourself away, you're willing to be the
girlfriend without being paid with the title of the girlfriend up front, that law
of appreciation come and real quick. They don't need to appreciate all of you
because you're already giving them everything. They don't need to pay you with the
title because you're already giving them everything. They don't need to even show up
in their masculine energy because you're already showing up in the masculine energy by giving
doing everything. If you want to be the girl who is in a relationship
who's getting not just attention but commitment, you gotta stop giving all of yourself
away. I'm gonna say this a thousand times this episode. There's always going
to be exceptions to the rule. Where you know, someone who slept with
someone on the first day and now they're married. Okay, fine, that
happens to few and far between. It's not the natural rule for most people.
So we're gonna follow nature. We're not gonna follow the rare exceptions,
because there's always exceptions. We cannot talk about intimacy and dating and women without
talking about feminism, because feminism is in alive entity in society and the world
that we live in. I am the first person to say feminism had an
amazing intention make the plane feel a little bit more neutralized. Women didn't have
the right to vote, they didn't have the right to do most things men
could do. They couldn't get a divorce. So of course feminism has done
amazing things for women and has given us rights that we deserve to have.
But what happens with any movement is that the wrong people get control of the
movement and then they start to manipulate it based on their interests rather than the
interests of the people that the movement was intended to help. What happened with
feminism, and the reason I have a distaste for the current feminism narrative is
because it went from we need to speak up for ourselves, we have power,
we deserve more rights to in order to take down the patriarch, we
should become more like them. And that is the exact point that it starts
to make literally no sense. The thing you're taking down, you're gonna become
more like. That's just adding fuel to the fire. Two wrongs don't make
a right. What are we doing here? Feminism tells women, oh,
just do what men do, sleep with everyone. It's your right. Yet
it's your right, that doesn't mean we should do it. It doesn't mean
it's good for us. It doesn't mean that sleeping with all of these people
is going to have a positive effect on us. In fact, it literally
does the opposite. It does the opposite. I don't care how cold you
think you are, how numb you think you are, how emotionally unavailable you
think you are. Sleeping with the bunch of people only makes those emotions you
think you don't have, which, by the way you do, you're just
running from them, only makes those emotions messier. It does, it does.
I don't want to be equal to men. I want to be treated
better. I feel feminism has gone too far, and it's saying that,
well, women are men, so everything should just be how it was for
men. But now bring it over to the women's side. No, No,
women and men are different entities. Stop trying to make them one thing.
They're not one thing. When I think of women, I think of
these incredible creatures that are so connected to nature that we actually are nature.
We actually do have a natural cycle that we don't have to consciously think about.
It just happens every single month, just like the moon cycles, just
like the season cycle. I think about our amazing ability, even if we
choose not to, even if some of us have hiccups in the process,
we have some level of ability to have this connection to another realm where we
can literally birth a human through our own body. Women are often more times
just intuitive as well, where we have the ability of tuning into different dimensions.
We are the master of the five D of love, of wisdom,
whereas the masculine is the master of the three D realm of the physical world
that we know. I feel like so many of us have lost touch with
our natural cycles, me included. I lost my cycle for six months ish.
There was a side effect of a medication I was taking. And when
we lose this, I feel like we're almost just doing ourselves a disservice.
And that's what I feel like. Feminism has turned into become like them.
Oh, if they're sleeping with everyone, get even and sleep with everyone too.
Is that even working well for them? Did? Is there a survey
on that? Because I'm pretty sure trying to fulfill your emotional and mental needs
by putting another human's body part into it doesn't work last time I checked.
Last time I checked. Yeah, turns out filling your body with another person's
body only gives you temporary relief or pleasure, and then your back feeling the
loneliness, the depression, the anxiety. Oops. Do we forgot to mention
that? Ooh ooh bit bitty bop. The interesting thing is intimacy when I
think about it. I'm not gonna sit here and tell you intimacy is an
evil thing. It's absolutely not. I would never tell you that. I'm
not gonna sit here and tell you what my mother told me that if your
intimate you'll grow cauliflower between your legs and you'll die. It's not true,
by the way I found out. I'm gonna tell you that intimacy is kind
of like money. Money is not good, money is not bad. Money
is a neutral energy. It depends how the person's using it that will dictate
if it's a positive entity or a negative one. It's the same thing with
intimacy. Intimacy is not good nor bad. It depends how you're using it.
You can use intimacy with a person you really love and they love you,
and it can be a beautiful experience time and time again. Or you
can use intimacy as a vehicle to run away from all your emotions, which
only causes you to feel worse about yourself, and then it'd be used as
a negative entity. So intimacy is not good nor bad. It's how we
use it, how we interact with it in our own life. Instead of
listening to our church who just says don't be intimate with anyone for no reason,
or society that says, girl, open your legs twenty four seven,
What if we just took a moment to decode and delve in to truly understand
what's at stake here? How is this going to affect me? Promiscuity is
not your power. And this is why when we're intimate with another person,
it's like we're gluing too pieces of paper together and then we try to pull
them apart energetically. What happened is some of your energy goes onto them,
and some of their energy goes on to you. If you just met someone
at a bar and you go be intimate with them, do what you want,
but understand this, You're going to take on some of their energy,
some of their traumas, some of their thought forms, and that's going to
sit with you. It's going to enter your work field and attach itself onto
you. You're never stuck, so don't worry. We can always remove these
energies, but it's important that we know that. Let's say you go out
to a bar and this person doesn't think highly of you, they think you're
easy, or they think you're not the best, whatever it may be,
and then you're intimate with them, you're now taking on those thought forms.
I remember I was intimate with someone and they must have not thought the best
about me, because afterwards, I literally had anxiety. I had racing thoughts.
I felt like I was obsessed with them, and I'm like, what's
wrong with me? It was because I was holding onto their negative thoughts about
me. I was holding onto their projections, their limiting beliefs, their ideas
about me that weren't true and weren't mine, and it wasn't until I removed
those energetic chords that I was able to come back to myself. And by
the way, if you need an energetic chord removal meditation, you can join
the twenty one Day Breakup Globe Challenge and you can get the chord removal meditation.
There this process of energy transference, you have to be aware of it.
I wish someone told me growing up that that's why these religions tell you
not to be intimate with other people. That's why these institutions tell you this.
No one tells you why. They tell you what to think, but
they don't tell you how to think or why. I wish I had someone
who I saw was just a girl who said, Hey, this is why
it's energy transference. You're picking up on their energy. You're giving them your
energy, and you're doing a swap. You can always remove the energy,
but why take on their energy if you don't have to think about it.
We don't know these people, we don't know their thoughts, we don't know
their traumas, we don't know what's going on with them, and then we're
taking on their energy and we're effing ourselves over because of it. We're giving
way too much of ourselves way too soon. And then what happens is,
once we are intimate with them, it's likely that we're going to start to
obsess a little bit more why because we've now given some of our power to
them. And what this feels like. The way you know if you've given
your power away to them after you've been intimate, is you will feel like
you're starting to itch. You need to know what they're doing. You need
to know who they're talking to you. You need to know why they're not
texting you, why they're not calling. You. Don't miss them, you
miss the energy you gave to them because when your intimate energy transference happened,
you delivered some of your energy to them. You took on theirs, and
now you're missing them, you're wanting them. You think you're missing them and
wanting them, but really what you're missing and wanting is your power back.
If you're feeling this close your eyes, imagine them a couple feet in front
of you, and use my sacral chakra technique, say I lovingly and peacefully
call all of my power back to me now and see your white light energy
leave their body and go back into yours all the way down your spine to
your sacral chakra. This energy vortex that's orange and color. And see this
orange energy vortex grow and glow as you breathe your power back in and you
can open your eyes when you're ready. If you want more on that,
you can get the call in your power back work book. If you want
a meditation, I have a free meditation on YouTube. It's an The show
notes. Energy transference is why sleeping with someone intimacy can be dangerous for you,
because you're taking on their stuff and you're giving away your stuff, and
if their stuff is lower in vibration than your stuff, you're not gonna feel
so good about yourself after I've seen so many of my friends sleeping with all
these people, and you think that would maybe you would think this, it
would somehow up level their confidence. Oh my god, all these people are
are interested in me and they want me and all this stuff. No,
all it did from my perspective was defeat them and no one would date them.
I'm not saying that's true for everyone. It is the rule. Of
course, there's always exceptions to the rule. There are some people who go
on a first date and they sleep with one another, right away and then
they get married. Of course, there's always gonna be exceptions to the rule,
but let's just think about the rule. Let's think about in general,
what is most likely to happen. I've seen it in my own life time
and time again. Just girls who have the best intentions of wanting a relationship
or wanting something serious, and they were sleeping with all these different people in
hopes that would get the person to settle with them and commit to them.
Doesn't work like that. A common misbelief that we have is if I just
give all myself, if I just sleep with them, they'll commit to me.
That's going to show how much how amazing I am, how much I
want them, and they're gonna want me to. This is another reason why
your promiscuity is not your power, because nowhere around planet Earth has a woman
said I gave everything to this man and he finally saw my worth and wanted
to marry me or wanted to date me. Said no, woman, ever,
that doesn't happen. That doesn't happen. It's literally the opposite. It's
the opposite. I'm gonna say this, and I want you to. I
want you to really listen up here, I've seen women chase men. I've
seen women give everything to men. I've seen women do everything for men,
and they still did not stay with them or fully commit. In fact,
they just waited around. They just accepted them until they thought that someone else
who was better came around, and then they went with that person they deemed
better. It's not worth your time, So stop doing the job of a
girlfriend without being paid with the title of the girlfriend, because it's not going
to get you anywhere. It won't get you anywhere. The misbelief that you
have to prove yourself through doing things, through giving all your energy away,
through sleeping with them, that that's going to get them, that's hurting you
right now, and it's not true. Double whammy. What's interesting is it's
literally the opposite. When men invest in women their time, their energy,
their money, it makes them want the women more because in their logical mind,
they're saying, well, I'm giving to her, I'm investing in her.
I want to see where this goes. I've given this much of my
time to her. I want to see where this goes. Think about if
you were to invest in a stock, the more money you invest, the
more invested you're going to be. The more time you invest in anything,
the more invested you're going to be. The more time you invest in creating
your dream home, the more invested you're going to be in living in it
and not wanting to sell it. The more a man invests in you time,
energy, not just money, but money included, the more he's going
to be drawn towards you. First of all, it's a service to a
man to allow a man to feel like a man, service for them for
you to step into your divine feminine energy so they can step into their divine
masculine energy. Now, will you always be in your feminine and them always
be in their masculine? Of course not, that's completely unrealistic. Your man's
is gonna have a bad day here and there. They're gonna need to break
down sometimes, and you're gonna have to step into your maskline energy, and
you're gonna have to be there for them in those moments, of course,
because that's life, and life is not about being in your feminine energy one
hundred percent of the time. We need balance. You might have a sixty
forty split or a seventy thirty split, but it's about allowing yourself to be
in your feminine, so they can be in their masculine. When you allow
them to pay for the date, when you allow them to show up for
you, when you allow them to plan the day, to create the schedule,
whatever it is, you allow them to be in the energy that is
their core frequency. You know how good it feels to be in your feminine
energy. You know how good it feels to be in your core energy.
If you are in y're feminine. It also allows them to be in their
core energy, in their masculine. When a man, a masculine energy invests
in us, it makes them want to invest the more, it makes them
want to hold on to us more. I think another misbelief that we have
is that it's the cool girl thing to sleep with everyone. It's the fun
girl thing to sleep with everyone. And I think some of us who get
into our party girl era, we kind of take on this identity and we
never let go of it. It's okay to let go of that identity.
I don't care who you've been, I don't care what has happened. You're
allowed to decide to be someone completely new today. You're allowed to change everything
about yourself. You're allowed to be intentional with your intimacy. I want you
to come closer for this one. You sleeping with a bunch of people.
It's the least thing you can do. Everyone's doing that. Not special,
not interesting. In fact, it's quite boring doing the same thing and getting
the same result. What is that definition and what is that? Oh insanity?
Right, doing the same thing and expecting a different result. So many
of us have the most beautiful intentions of I want a relationship. I want
to magnetize my energy. I want to be on my pedestal. But if
we keep sleeping with everyone that's doing the opposite, it's like we're kicking ourselves
in the foot here. If you want a relationship, if you want to
magnetize your own energy, sleeping with everyone and their father is not going to
get you that. There are always exceptions to the rule. I know that
you know that. But let's think about the rule here. Let's think about
the dessert principle, which we've talked about in the last episode. When we
give too much of ourselves a wa way too soon, it repels that person
in the opposite direction. If you have the goal of being in a relationship,
I want you to reverse engineer that goal. My goal is to be
in a relationship. Okay, what is the action that I should take that
would most likely get me there? Is it sleeping with them right away?
Is it being completely unconscious when it comes to my intimacy, or is it
being intentional with my intimacy? Or is it letting myself actually get to know
this person to see if I even like them, Because if I am in
submit with them, It's going to cloud my judgment and then I'm going to
fill in their silences with my desires, and then I'm gonna be obsessed with
them because I'd given my power, and then I'm going to completely lose myself
in this relationship. I don't know what do you think is better sleeping with
someone or a bunch of people. It doesn't make you cool, it doesn't
make you interesting, it doesn't make you fun. It makes you someone who
sleeps with a lot of people. And if you're enjoying that, and you
don't care about energy transference, I don't care what you do. Go off,
live life, you know whatever. But if you do care about your
power and magnetizing your own energy and putting yourself on a pedestal and getting a
relationship, then this should matter to you. But I'm not here to tell
you what to do. I'm here to share my experiences of what I know
through energy, through my own experiences, and through coaching. This is what
I know to be true. There are always exceptions. I don't want to
turn a blind eye to that, but for the most part, this is
where we are. I've told this story before, but it bears repeating,
and it's the story about the famous bag. My mom always used to tell
me this story growing up, and the story goes, there was this bag
that everyone wanted. Rich people, middle class people, poorer people, all
different religions, all different races, all people all over the world, just
everybody. Everyone wanted this bag. And my mom said, Cecy, do
you know why? And I said, I don't know. Was it the
most beautiful and she said no, not any more beautiful than any other bag.
I said, okay, was it the most expensive and she said no,
not too far off from the other bags, pretty pretty much the same
as other designer bags. And I said, okay, well it's not the
most beautiful, it's not the most expensive. I don't know. Why does
everyone want the bag? And she said because not everyone could have it.
When you give yourself away to a bunch of people or to anyone in general,
you still have worth, You still have value. Your value has not
changed. How people perceive your value has changed one hundred percent. I hate
these corners of the Internet where they're like, if you sleep with everyone,
you have less value, a load of bowl whatever. That's not true.
Your value doesn't change because you had someone's body part inside of yours. That
makes no sense. Your work doesn't change because you're slept with someone. We
need to grow up. Your value in your worth paved girl is still the
same, and God's eye still the same. However, how you feel about
yourself changes as you take on their lower vibrational energy through energy transference, and
how other people perceive you changes. Why Because if everyone can get the bag,
not everyone's gonna want the bag. It's not exciting, it's not interesting.
However, if not everyone can have the bag, everyone's suddenly interested.
It's human nature that when something is harder to get, more people want it.
But when something is easy to get, people don't care because it's accessible.
Think about celebrities, they're so hard to get. It's so hard to
get an it's so hard to talk to them, it's so hard to connect
with them, so everyone wants to do it. Everyone's obsessed with celebrities.
That's interesting because not everyone can have access to celebrities. Your energy is a
freaking gift. It's a privilege for someone to be in your energy. Stop
thinking you have to prove yourself by giving your body away in order to get
them. And if you have to betray yourself and give your body to them
for them to commit to you, that's not the right person for you.
And I say that with my whole chest. That's not the right person for
you. That's someone who's straight up using you for your body. They're using
you for your physical vessel. You are a means to an end for that
person. If all they care about is when you're intimate with them. Is
that really who you want to give your body to? Is that really who
you want to give your energy to? The people who are using you to
be a whole for them? I don't I don't want to do that.
No, I say like ew ew to you. I'm not giving you me
what so you can use me. It's not interesting to be with a bunch
of people. It's not special everyone's doing it, and no one is feeling
good about it anymore. I really don't think we can lie to ourselves and
say it's fun and it's dandy. It's not. There are other ways you
can please yourself and you don't need to involve anyone else for you. I
understand you have needs. You can meet your own needs. In fact,
that would actually help you so much more so you can understand how your body
actually works and what you actually like. Instead of just blah blah blah blah
blah blah blah word vomiting your body and intimacy to everyone, Let's reel it
back in. Let's understand what we're doing. Let's stop allowing people to use
us. What I want you to do is see how you feel not giving
your energy, your body, your time, tention away immediately. See how
you feel different, See how you feel standing in your power rather than taking
on their lower vibrational energy. A question I think that is so worth asking
yourself is who is benefiting from me being intimate with this person or people?
Is it me? Or is it causing me to be in a tailspin?
Is it causing me to take on their negative energy? Am I benefiting if
I actually want a relationship with this person, they get their cake and they
get to eat it too. They don't have to give me any sort of
label, and I just keep being intimate with them. If you're stuck in
a cycle, you have to change something. You need to do something differently
for things to be different. There's a quote, and it doesn't completely relate
to this, but I think it's a funny comparison, and it says successful
people do what unsuccessful people are not willing to do. I'll say it again,
successful people do what unsuccessful people are not willing to do. So maybe
this is just about a change of action. Maybe could it be? Could
it be? I think so If successful people in relationships the norm, the
majority, don't just sleep with that person automatically and actually get to know that
person, then you have to be willing to do that. Because successful people
are willing to do what unsuccessful people are not willing to do. You have
to be willing to change your action if you want to change your result.
And again, I'm not forcing you to do this. I can't make you
do this, but I'm asking you. I'm inviting you to just try something
different and see what happens, See how you feel, see the different results
you may get, see how your reality starts to transform towards you rather than
fall apart. And then you can make your own decision about what you want
to do. But there's no harm in trying something that may be really helpful
and could change your whole entire life of how you're interacting with other people,
how they're interacting with you. You have to be willing to do what maybe
all your friends aren't doing. You have to be willing to be the person
to say, actually, I'm not going to do what everyone in society is
doing, sleeping with everyone, this really fast hookup culture. I'm not going
to do that. I'm going to do what successful people in relationships do,
which is maybe actually see this person, go on dates with them, not
just sleep with them. Understand who they are before I give them all my
energy, before I invest myself into them. What a concept. What do
you fear about letting someone invest in you? Do you think you're not worthy
of them investing in you? Are you afraid that if you take too much
time that they're going to abandon you? Usually when we're pushing ourselves to sleep
with someone too soon, soon and we keep getting ghosted or they keep leaving
us. There's some fear there. What is it you fear that's causing you
to do something maybe you don't even want to do too soon? What is
causing you to move quicker, move faster than maybe you're even comfortable. What
do you value? What do you want? And let's start reverse engineering what
we want rather than just being like la, just go be with everyone.
And look, I've been. I've been intimate with people who I wasn't in
a relationship with and I didn't go anywhere. Literally pretty much got ghosted.
I would say it was a cosmic cancelation. It doesn't work. If it
worked, I would tell you to do it. It doesn't work. So
like I'm you know, what do you want me to say? It doesn't
work, doesn't work. Let them invest in you if you want them.
That's your power. Your power is your receptivity. It's not in giving given
given giving. Your power is in you receiving the attention and knowing you're worth
it. Your power is in receiving their gifts, their attention, their energy,
and knowing you're worth it. Your power is being and extending that being
onto them. They want to bathe in your being. That's your power.
It's not doing, doing, doing, doing, doing, giving, giving,
give and give a giving. That's actually their power is giving. The
maculine gives, the feminine receives. One belief I would love you to start
to adopt is that there are plenty of fish in the deep blue sea,
baby, plenty of fish. Newsflash, there's what eight billion people out there.
Maybe you're not interested in all, but let's say you're interested in half,
so four billion people. Chances are you're gonna find someone. So you
don't need to sleep with the first person you see, because if it's not
them, then it will be someone else. And here's the thing. What
I'm interested in is if I don't sleep with you, what's your reaction,
because that tells you a lot about their character. What are what are they
actually after? Because if they're after this is an amazing way to weed out
people who are after the wrong things from you. If they're just after being
intimate with you, and you're intimate with them and then they ghost you,
ah, shoot, didn't have the option to figure that out. However,
if you actually create some space to actually get to know them, and you
aren't intimate with them right away. You'll get to see how they react,
and that will tell you everything about their character. Oh suddenly I'm not doing
enough for you, and you're saying that I'm not being intimate quick enough for
you, and blah blah blah, what ever it may be, they ghost,
they're not interested. Thank god you didn't give them all of your time
and energy and body could. You got to see exactly who they were.
It weeds out the people who have negative were not the best intentions. Why
wouldn't you use all of your possible tools to ensure the best case scenario for
you give yourself space to see if you even liked this person, and then
you also get to see how they react, which will tell you a lot
about their character. The interesting thing is every time I see someone go through
a breakup and they're like, it was the best person I've ever known.
I'm never gonna find anyone ever again. I'm gonna die alone. They always
find someone else. I've literally never in my life seen someone go through a
breakup and then never find anyone ever again. It's not happened. Now.
If they wanted another relationship, they got it. So if every time someone
goes through a breakup, they ended up finding someone else. Anyway, Chances
are, like I said, there's plenty of fish in the seat. And
if it's not this person, it's going to be someone better. That's another
beautiful belief. If it's not this person, it's going to be someone better.
I also think waiting to be intimate with someone until you actually feel ready,
you have an emotional connection, you know this person. That's a way
to avoid dating burnout. Because right now, so many of us are meeting
up with people, We're doing your hair, makeup, we're being intimate with
them. Then they go somewhere like what the f The funny thing is,
if you don't allow it, it can't happen. I was talking to one
of my friends the other day. I was like, well, what if
you just stopped allowing that behavior, then it can't happen. If you stop
allowing people to just get what they want and leave, it won't be able
to exist in your reality. But if you keep observing the same actions and
you keep letting it toppen, that baby girl is insanity And it's okay,
we've all been in our insane era. Hello, who cares? Let's move
past it, move on, been there, done that whatever. None of
us are wrong for a living. We've all had just so many messages and
we're all just trying to do our best. It's okay. The thing with
intimacy is you can also do something when you find someone that you really connect
with and you really feel amazing about and you guys, have an emotional connection.
There's also something called energy transmutation where literally when you reach your climax,
the height of your intimacy, you can think about what it is you want
to manifest. It's called the O method. I believe you think about what
you want to manifest, and from your climax, it gives it your manifestation,
an extra umph of energy which helps you manifest it. So again,
the OH method. What is that. It's when you're at your climax during
intimacy, you think about exactly what you want to manifest, and all that
surge of energy goes towards that manif station and it helps you bring it into
existence. That's a beautiful way to use intimacy. Intimacy is a beautiful thing
to use to connect to your partner, to get to know them deeper,
to have this spiritual connection but if you know nothing about them, do you
really want to take on their demons? If you know nothing about them,
are you really willing to lower your vibration just because you met someone and your
board or trying to run from your own emotions? Is it worth it to
you? Maybe it is. I don't know, but I want you to
have the knowledge so you can make the best decision for you. Knowledge is
not just power, but having knowledge and a tuning your action to that knowledge.
That's where real power lies. Power is not in your promiscuity. It's
not in you giving your body away too soon because you feel pressured. No,
your power is in and on your pedestal, standing on your pedestal,
allowing yourself to receive, having the knowledge that if it's not this person,
it will be the next. Your power isn't realizing that you are your own
power. That's it. That's it. And we give our power away when
we're being intimate with everyone. We take on their entities and their energies when
we're being intimate with everyone, and we end up getting more and more and
more insecure for the most part. So what if feminism maybe lie to us
a bit? What if society lied to us a bit. I mean,
think about movies and how they show intimate experiences. It's really not like that.
It's really not like that. It's not It's much different in real life.
So what if there are ways that we can magnetize our energy by actually
standing on our pedestal rather than thinking we have to give all of ourselves away.
What if we just tried this and then saw what the results are.
You don't have to blindly believe me. Why don't you just experiment and see
what happens. That's all I can ever ask you to do is just be
curious and try it out. See what happens with the next person you come
into contact with and you're interested in. See what happens when you take space
and actually require them to take action to pursue you. See what happens when
you require them to show up for you time and time again? Can they
show up for you? Or are they incapable? Okay, great, I
didn't even sleep with them. Now I don't have to feel burnt out.
Now I didn't give them my power. That helps me understand, and we're
not withholding ourselves as a haha, gotcha, We're just on our pedestal.
We're just taking some space to understand who is this person? Do I actually
like this person? Is this connection worth it for me to exchange energy with
them? Because That's what I'm gonna be doing. I'm sending you so much
much love, positive bitches. This really is a podcast episode giving you an
understanding of what's going on in the energetic realm and why we can feel so
obsessed with them and why we may be getting the same results over and over
and over. I love you, I'd love you, I love you.
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