Welcome to the Parenting Roundabout podcast for the week of May fifteenth, twenty twenty
three. I'm Catherine Heleco and I'm here with Terry Morrow. Hello, and
not with Nicole Ritis, who is unwell and unable to join us. We
are going to plunge ahead with just the two of us. For surgery,
you get the week off, but for for other things we just go ahead
and record without you. Yeah, we just we just wish you, wish
you well. You carry on. So time she's listening to this, we
hope she's what. We hope she's better well. Every week, in some
combination of people, we chat about what parents are talking, complaining and obsessing
about right now. This week we're complaining about parenting quizzes and obsessing about take
your child to work day. And we also take a couple of breaks for
an entertainment discussion and a recommendation round up. Today we're talking about Mother's Day,
you know, yesterday. Happy Mother's Day to you, Terry, thank
you. Happy Mother's Day to you, Catherine belated though it may be right
and what do you what do you usually do for Mother's Day? I thought
we had come to the point as a family of adults, where we didn't
really celebrate much of anything. I thought, then we barely celebrate birthdays.
I don't think we've celebrated Father's Day. I think we just don't do stuff.
And I was comfortable with that, But in the run up of this
year's Mother's Day, multiple people family members came to me saying, so,
Mom, what do you want from Mother's Day? What do you want to
do from Mother's Day? Which do we do? Where we going? What
are we doing? What are we going? Blah blah blah. And it's
like I thought, I thought we were doing nothing. Aren't we doing nothing?
Why aren't we do nothing? But the question and also it's not my
job to plan it. What else it is we're doing, we're not doing?
Lovely of you to ask go plant something? Um, you know,
I'll just like leave an Amazon browser window open and y'all come in. So
I think that it has not yet happened as we were recording this, but
the plan currently is for us to go someplace Monday night, the very day
you are listening to this, if you listen to the day we drop things,
which maybe it's a week later, but whatever. Um, So I
think we're gonna go to chick fil A. So it's like, I'm all
all with the uh with the big fancy dinners. We were going to go
on Sunday and then we realized you can't go to chick fil a on side
que Bobby Bones and the raging idiots. I want chick Fila. But it's
someday. I say said, yes, it's a country I'm not talking to
me. It's a country song. It is, it's a tagety. But
so we will go out and do something. I guess my birthday is not
that far away, and it's like, how many times are we I don't
like going out for dinner out like one out at all. I like sitting
in my room. So maybe that's what we should do from others day.
You're right, just let me sit in my room and watch things on streaming
and do work. But so what are you do? Have a big,
big celebration planned? No, as we speak in past tense rights or something
that happened yesterday. My plan is to go hiking with my hiking friend who
you know, she's the one who says like, oh, you know,
it's about nine miles, so you know it's going to be probably ten or
eleven. So that is my plan. And when my husband asked, you
know, like your family did, well, what are we doing? Um,
I said, well, I'm going hiking. And he's like, oh,
okay, you like you don't have to do anything, you know,
I'm I'm going. So he was a little he was a little disappointed,
it sounded like, but I was like, oh, this is great for
you. You know, you don't have to do anything. So in the
past, when you know, my kids were a little alert, I never
really wanted like gifts. I just wanted to be left pretty much, you
know, like you want this year. She wants you to go away,
she wants you to go do so much. You should send him on a
hike, Catherine, Yes, so was hiking with us? No, she's
staying home, haven't. I did actually once once do a hike on Mother's
Day because I said like, this is this is what I want to do,
and we and we all did it together and that was that was nice.
That was a very long time ago. My kids are really little.
Um, but you know there's been there's been breakfast in bed and that kind
of thing, which it is nice. So yeah, you know, but
I also have two dogs, so it's somewhat challenging to breakfast. And because
they wanted want dogs get your things from Mother's Day too as well, they
should. Yeah, look I brought you a rodent from the yard. Thank
you so well. I mean, like when the kids are little, Mother's
Day felt like a bigger deal. Yeah. I mean for the years before
we adopted our kids, I would see all the mothers standing up in church
on Mother's Day and just feel, why is that not mean? Yeah?
And then when they we finally had the kids, I was so psyched to
go stand up in church. That was that made my Mother's Day. Yeah,
and still does, honestly, that part of it. I like,
although I go to Mass on Saturday, so I think they'll still have the
mother's stand up, you know. And you want the little gifts that the
kids made in school or in my kid's case, that the para professional maide
in school, still right, it has their name on it. It's so
sweet. They were present, when they were present and making of that possibly
right, theoretically they had some input. Yeah. I love those two.
Yeah, that was so fun just to see what you were going to get
this year, and you know, it's never for me. I don't think
ben about the where shall we go to lunch? I think the first I
think it was the first Mother's Day that I would have had them that I
was a mother, So that would have been in ninety five, and boy
was it important to me because it was the first. Right And so we
were going to go out with my husband's mother for Mother's Day, and my
husband did not make a reservation, so we wound up driving from place to
place and being told no, they could not possibly take us, and we
wound up at a diner, and not even like a great New Jersey diner,
but just sort of a grubby little diner. I was displeased. Let's
just say he was in some trouble and now you're going to check, yeah,
exactly. And now, boy, the daughter would have been fine.
I'll get my d LT. That's fine. I have no problems with that.
I don't need anything flashy. But the first time, after years and
years of trying to get pregnant and then trying to adopt, and then having
this huge saga of Russia and now I am my mother, it's my Mother's
Day, should have given more specific instructions. Clearly, this is where I
would like to go call them. Now, would you like me to call
them for you? I will do that. Yeah, I learned things over
the years. Right, Well, we don't want something done, you gotta
do it yourself. But I behaved very badly, even though really it was
his fault, but still I behaved badly. I should have kept my bleak
together a little better. But since then, you know, it was allowed
to build up to that. It was a lot of bill up. Yes,
It's like if I had gone to church and the priest had forgotten to
ask the mothers to say, ye from did you forget something? Man?
Listen up? Did they not teach you anything in seminary? Some things are
important? Ye? So yeah, maybe it was all that pressure I put
on it early on. But now I'm kind of like, oh, is
a Mother's day, and nice, tell me happy Mother's Day and we'll be
good. Right. Maybe don't fight with each other for a day. That's
cool, that's always nice. Yes, And I'm trying to coordinate with my
brother and sister live in the same town as my mother and I do not,
so I'm trying to sort of help or coordinate you know, what can
what can I do? Um? So currently I've suggested I could door dash
you ice cream because my brother said, well, we should probably have her
over for dinner, you know, do something, and I know she she
likes her ice cream. So this is Mother's Day in the modern era.
Yeah, her mother some ice cream. I was joking, but he's like,
well, ha ha. But then he said, actually, that's not
a bad idea. I haven't seen that on any lists. Next year,
list makers right door dash put out a list. Here is a list of
things you could send to your mother wherever she's having dinner, right, just
so she knows you remember her. That's an untapped market potential, right guilt
purchases by children who are right local who are not local. Well, on
my daughter's birthday, my sister door dashed her a box of cereal just because
it has like a somewhat inside joke. So interesting. I had never thought
of door dash as a gift delivery system. Yeah, very interesting. I
mean there's also gold Belly, which I believe we've talked about as I think
Nicole mentioned it as a roundup huh um. But it's a it's a service
that where you can order food, specifically food um from restaurants and stores all
around the country and habit sent well to wherever at a premium, believe me.
Um. So, so that's that's another option, you know, if
you if you if your gift recipient lives far away from somewhere and you have
some um and they have some sort of favorite local dash, often you can
get it from there for next Mother's Day. Everybody take notes, right,
you can something from your home state that you think you want. Please feel
free to send me Chick fil at anytime. I don't think the sauce.
I don't think you need gold belly for that. No. No, you
could go to Chick fil At on Saturday and save it, but I don't
think I don't think it would taste Listen, I don't think it would.
I like it nice and hot. Yes, So usually my husband goes and
picks it up and brings it home. I'm eat it home. So I
don't know if we're actually going out or if he's just going to fetch but
either way, I usually have the chicken nuggets, but because it's Mother's Day,
I might have me at chicken sandwich. Yeah. I get the children's
Here's a tip for anybody who doesn't have a huge appetite or is watching calories.
I get the children's meal. They don't challenge me, maybe because I'm
four foot nine and any young A little thing of chicken nuggets and a little
thing of waffle fries and maybe a coloring book. It's very It's a gift,
a little drink, a little gift along with your food. So that's
appropriate for a gift giving occasion. Yeah, it's perfect for Mother's Day.
But I think I'm gonna, you know, go splurge. I'm gonna splurge
Mother's Day because I'm still getting over my surgery, and therefore I can indult
myself. That's right, your strength, that's right, that's right. Don't
anybody challenge me. Okay, eventually y'all pass a line on my weight,
and then I'll have to go back to denying myself again. But for now,
Chick fil A all around. Give me those wabble fries. I want
the fries and a maid a waffle. Okay, Well, listeners, I
hope you had a delightful Mother's Day yesterday or however many days ago you were
listening to this and or tonight, if you were like me and people in
your family worked late on Sundays and it just seemed better to go out on
Monday, or the place you wanted to go was tragically closed on Sundays one
way or the other. Happy Mother's Day to all relatedly, or you know
not, and that is it for Round one. Tune in tomorrow for our
entertainment themed Round two, which involves at least one mother, and later in
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