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Welcome to the Parenting Roundabout podcast for
the week of May fifteenth, twenty twenty

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three. I'm Catherine Heleco and I'm
here with Terry Morrow. Hello, and

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not with Nicole Ritis, who is
unwell and unable to join us. We

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are going to plunge ahead with just
the two of us. For surgery,

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you get the week off, but
for for other things we just go ahead

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and record without you. Yeah,
we just we just wish you, wish

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you well. You carry on.
So time she's listening to this, we

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hope she's what. We hope she's
better well. Every week, in some

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combination of people, we chat about
what parents are talking, complaining and obsessing

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about right now. This week we're
complaining about parenting quizzes and obsessing about take

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your child to work day. And
we also take a couple of breaks for

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an entertainment discussion and a recommendation round
up. Today we're talking about Mother's Day,

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you know, yesterday. Happy Mother's
Day to you, Terry, thank

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you. Happy Mother's Day to you, Catherine belated though it may be right

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and what do you what do you
usually do for Mother's Day? I thought

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we had come to the point as
a family of adults, where we didn't

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really celebrate much of anything. I
thought, then we barely celebrate birthdays.

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I don't think we've celebrated Father's Day. I think we just don't do stuff.

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And I was comfortable with that,
But in the run up of this

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year's Mother's Day, multiple people family
members came to me saying, so,

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Mom, what do you want from
Mother's Day? What do you want to

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do from Mother's Day? Which do
we do? Where we going? What

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are we doing? What are we
going? Blah blah blah. And it's

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like I thought, I thought we
were doing nothing. Aren't we doing nothing?

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Why aren't we do nothing? But
the question and also it's not my

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job to plan it. What else
it is we're doing, we're not doing?

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Lovely of you to ask go plant
something? Um, you know,

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I'll just like leave an Amazon browser
window open and y'all come in. So

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I think that it has not yet
happened as we were recording this, but

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the plan currently is for us to
go someplace Monday night, the very day

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you are listening to this, if
you listen to the day we drop things,

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which maybe it's a week later,
but whatever. Um, So I

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think we're gonna go to chick fil
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all with the uh with the big
fancy dinners. We were going to go

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on Sunday and then we realized you
can't go to chick fil a on side

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que Bobby Bones and the raging idiots. I want chick Fila. But it's

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someday. I say said, yes, it's a country I'm not talking to

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me. It's a country song.
It is, it's a tagety. But

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so we will go out and do
something. I guess my birthday is not

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that far away, and it's like, how many times are we I don't

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like going out for dinner out like
one out at all. I like sitting

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in my room. So maybe that's
what we should do from others day.

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You're right, just let me sit
in my room and watch things on streaming

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and do work. But so what
are you do? Have a big,

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big celebration planned? No, as
we speak in past tense rights or something

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that happened yesterday. My plan is
to go hiking with my hiking friend who

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you know, she's the one who
says like, oh, you know,

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it's about nine miles, so you
know it's going to be probably ten or

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eleven. So that is my plan. And when my husband asked, you

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know, like your family did,
well, what are we doing? Um,

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I said, well, I'm going
hiking. And he's like, oh,

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okay, you like you don't have
to do anything, you know,

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I'm I'm going. So he was
a little he was a little disappointed,

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it sounded like, but I was
like, oh, this is great for

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you. You know, you don't
have to do anything. So in the

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past, when you know, my
kids were a little alert, I never

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really wanted like gifts. I just
wanted to be left pretty much, you

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know, like you want this year. She wants you to go away,

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she wants you to go do so
much. You should send him on a

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hike, Catherine, Yes, so
was hiking with us? No, she's

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staying home, haven't. I did
actually once once do a hike on Mother's

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Day because I said like, this
is this is what I want to do,

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and we and we all did it
together and that was that was nice.

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That was a very long time ago. My kids are really little.

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Um, but you know there's been
there's been breakfast in bed and that kind

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of thing, which it is nice. So yeah, you know, but

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I also have two dogs, so
it's somewhat challenging to breakfast. And because

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they wanted want dogs get your things
from Mother's Day too as well, they

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should. Yeah, look I brought
you a rodent from the yard. Thank

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you so well. I mean,
like when the kids are little, Mother's

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Day felt like a bigger deal.
Yeah. I mean for the years before

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we adopted our kids, I would
see all the mothers standing up in church

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on Mother's Day and just feel,
why is that not mean? Yeah?

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And then when they we finally had
the kids, I was so psyched to

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go stand up in church. That
was that made my Mother's Day. Yeah,

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and still does, honestly, that
part of it. I like,

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although I go to Mass on Saturday, so I think they'll still have the

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mother's stand up, you know.
And you want the little gifts that the

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kids made in school or in my
kid's case, that the para professional maide

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in school, still right, it
has their name on it. It's so

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sweet. They were present, when
they were present and making of that possibly

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right, theoretically they had some input. Yeah. I love those two.

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Yeah, that was so fun just
to see what you were going to get

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this year, and you know,
it's never for me. I don't think

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ben about the where shall we go
to lunch? I think the first I

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think it was the first Mother's Day
that I would have had them that I

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was a mother, So that would
have been in ninety five, and boy

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was it important to me because it
was the first. Right And so we

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were going to go out with my
husband's mother for Mother's Day, and my

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husband did not make a reservation,
so we wound up driving from place to

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place and being told no, they
could not possibly take us, and we

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wound up at a diner, and
not even like a great New Jersey diner,

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but just sort of a grubby little
diner. I was displeased. Let's

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just say he was in some trouble
and now you're going to check, yeah,

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exactly. And now, boy,
the daughter would have been fine.

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I'll get my d LT. That's
fine. I have no problems with that.

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I don't need anything flashy. But
the first time, after years and

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years of trying to get pregnant and
then trying to adopt, and then having

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this huge saga of Russia and now
I am my mother, it's my Mother's

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Day, should have given more specific
instructions. Clearly, this is where I

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would like to go call them.
Now, would you like me to call

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them for you? I will do
that. Yeah, I learned things over

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the years. Right, Well,
we don't want something done, you gotta

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do it yourself. But I behaved
very badly, even though really it was

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his fault, but still I behaved
badly. I should have kept my bleak

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together a little better. But since
then, you know, it was allowed

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to build up to that. It
was a lot of bill up. Yes,

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It's like if I had gone to
church and the priest had forgotten to

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ask the mothers to say, ye
from did you forget something? Man?

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Listen up? Did they not teach
you anything in seminary? Some things are

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important? Ye? So yeah,
maybe it was all that pressure I put

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on it early on. But now
I'm kind of like, oh, is

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a Mother's day, and nice,
tell me happy Mother's Day and we'll be

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good. Right. Maybe don't fight
with each other for a day. That's

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cool, that's always nice. Yes, And I'm trying to coordinate with my

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brother and sister live in the same
town as my mother and I do not,

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so I'm trying to sort of help
or coordinate you know, what can

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what can I do? Um?
So currently I've suggested I could door dash

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you ice cream because my brother said, well, we should probably have her

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over for dinner, you know,
do something, and I know she she

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likes her ice cream. So this
is Mother's Day in the modern era.

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Yeah, her mother some ice cream. I was joking, but he's like,

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well, ha ha. But then
he said, actually, that's not

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a bad idea. I haven't seen
that on any lists. Next year,

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list makers right door dash put out
a list. Here is a list of

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things you could send to your mother
wherever she's having dinner, right, just

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so she knows you remember her.
That's an untapped market potential, right guilt

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purchases by children who are right local
who are not local. Well, on

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my daughter's birthday, my sister door
dashed her a box of cereal just because

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it has like a somewhat inside joke. So interesting. I had never thought

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of door dash as a gift delivery
system. Yeah, very interesting. I

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mean there's also gold Belly, which
I believe we've talked about as I think

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Nicole mentioned it as a roundup huh
um. But it's a it's a service

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that where you can order food,
specifically food um from restaurants and stores all

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around the country and habit sent well
to wherever at a premium, believe me.

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Um. So, so that's that's
another option, you know, if

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you if you if your gift recipient
lives far away from somewhere and you have

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some um and they have some sort
of favorite local dash, often you can

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get it from there for next Mother's
Day. Everybody take notes, right,

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you can something from your home state
that you think you want. Please feel

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free to send me Chick fil at
anytime. I don't think the sauce.

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I don't think you need gold belly
for that. No. No, you

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could go to Chick fil At on
Saturday and save it, but I don't

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think I don't think it would taste
Listen, I don't think it would.

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I like it nice and hot.
Yes, So usually my husband goes and

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picks it up and brings it home. I'm eat it home. So I

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don't know if we're actually going out
or if he's just going to fetch but

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either way, I usually have the
chicken nuggets, but because it's Mother's Day,

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I might have me at chicken sandwich. Yeah. I get the children's

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Here's a tip for anybody who doesn't
have a huge appetite or is watching calories.

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I get the children's meal. They
don't challenge me, maybe because I'm

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four foot nine and any young A
little thing of chicken nuggets and a little

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thing of waffle fries and maybe a
coloring book. It's very It's a gift,

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a little drink, a little gift
along with your food. So that's

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appropriate for a gift giving occasion.
Yeah, it's perfect for Mother's Day.

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But I think I'm gonna, you
know, go splurge. I'm gonna splurge

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Mother's Day because I'm still getting over
my surgery, and therefore I can indult

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myself. That's right, your strength, that's right, that's right. Don't

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anybody challenge me. Okay, eventually
y'all pass a line on my weight,

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and then I'll have to go back
to denying myself again. But for now,

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Chick fil A all around. Give
me those wabble fries. I want

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the fries and a maid a waffle. Okay, Well, listeners, I

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hope you had a delightful Mother's Day
yesterday or however many days ago you were

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listening to this and or tonight,
if you were like me and people in

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your family worked late on Sundays and
it just seemed better to go out on

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Monday, or the place you wanted
to go was tragically closed on Sundays one

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way or the other. Happy Mother's
Day to all relatedly, or you know

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not, and that is it for
Round one. Tune in tomorrow for our

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entertainment themed Round two, which involves
at least one mother, and later in

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the week to find out what we're
complaining about, obsessing about, and recommending

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