WEBVTT 1 00:00:01.280 --> 00:00:19.879 And cancel, Higg, cancelge Honor. It's not Sorrylogy. What's up? 2 00:00:19.920 --> 00:00:24.600 Positive bitches? How are we doing today? If you're hearing this episode, 3 00:00:24.800 --> 00:00:29.239 you are meant to be here, So keep listening on that Bitch's Positive Podcast. 4 00:00:29.440 --> 00:00:34.280 Sometimes we will laugh. Other times, baby Girl, we're gonna cry, 5 00:00:34.560 --> 00:00:39.679 but we will always walk away feeling our most empowered positive bitch self. 6 00:00:40.000 --> 00:00:45.439 That is Babe in true connection with herself. On this podcast, we unbecome 7 00:00:45.479 --> 00:00:49.799 who we are not so we can fully step into exactly who we came here 8 00:00:49.960 --> 00:00:55.200 to be. A couple of things about today's episode. Number one, Happy 9 00:00:55.280 --> 00:01:00.679 Thanksgiving, Happy Holidays. Hello, Hello, Hello Number two. You can 10 00:01:00.799 --> 00:01:04.439 probably hear this, but I do have a bit of a cold going on 11 00:01:04.640 --> 00:01:11.359 right now, so if you hear me sniffling, it's because I am, 12 00:01:11.400 --> 00:01:15.200 in fact sniffling. But I did not want Thanksgiving week to go by without 13 00:01:15.239 --> 00:01:21.640 a podcast because I know when the holiday season is here, a lot of 14 00:01:21.719 --> 00:01:27.719 us experience high tension and anxiety, and I needed to give you my five 15 00:01:27.879 --> 00:01:37.359 step guide for five things mentally, emotionally, psychologically, spiritually strong people do. 16 00:01:38.120 --> 00:01:42.920 And that's why I am here today. When I was going through my 17 00:01:42.000 --> 00:01:47.079 spiritual awakening. I believe I'm still on this journey and there's so many different 18 00:01:47.120 --> 00:01:53.120 levels to it. But I really relied on key figures to post religiously for 19 00:01:53.159 --> 00:01:57.560 me to feel grounded when I was learning all these different concepts. So I 20 00:01:57.640 --> 00:02:02.920 really strive to be that grind for you if you so need so. Yes, 21 00:02:04.280 --> 00:02:07.319 we're gonna be talking. Yes, I have a bit of a cold. 22 00:02:07.359 --> 00:02:09.840 And if you're watching on YouTube, yeah, my tongue does look orange 23 00:02:09.919 --> 00:02:15.000 because I had a vitamin see this morning and it turned my tongue orange. 24 00:02:15.520 --> 00:02:22.080 Anyway, we're gonna be talking about how to keep our emotions in check. 25 00:02:22.719 --> 00:02:28.840 I've just noticed that when you externalize a lot of your emotions, people tend 26 00:02:28.879 --> 00:02:35.199 to not take you as seriously or your message gets lost in your emotions. 27 00:02:35.719 --> 00:02:40.319 And when we're dealing with family members, we're dealing with even coworkers. If 28 00:02:40.360 --> 00:02:44.759 you have a point you want to express, how someone's hurting you, how 29 00:02:44.800 --> 00:02:47.719 someone has offended you, whatever it may be, you need to keep your 30 00:02:47.759 --> 00:02:54.919 emotions in check so that your message actually gets through. Imagine someone was reading 31 00:02:55.599 --> 00:03:00.080 a dialogue to you and they just kept crying through it. You wouldn't be 32 00:03:00.120 --> 00:03:05.560 able to extract the message they were trying to read. Think about a commercial 33 00:03:05.639 --> 00:03:09.319 that's advertising something. If all the actors we're hysterically crying through the whole thing 34 00:03:09.360 --> 00:03:14.680 and couldn't develop their thoughts properly, we wouldn't be able to understand what they're 35 00:03:14.719 --> 00:03:19.599 even selling. In order to get your point of across, you need to 36 00:03:19.719 --> 00:03:23.800 have some sort of composure. This doesn't mean you ignore your emotions. You 37 00:03:23.800 --> 00:03:29.960 push your emotions down. No, and that's what people get confused with. 38 00:03:30.080 --> 00:03:32.400 And that's why we're going to talk about this today. How can we be 39 00:03:32.919 --> 00:03:38.400 aligned with our emotions? How can we understand ourselves and communicate what it is 40 00:03:38.439 --> 00:03:44.080 we want and need. Before we get into five things that strong people do, 41 00:03:44.599 --> 00:03:47.800 I do want to remind you that for this week only, it ends 42 00:03:47.840 --> 00:03:53.680 Sunday, I'm having a Black Friday sale the whole entire week for all of 43 00:03:53.719 --> 00:03:59.520 my one on one coaching programs. 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Okay, because I am a little bit under the weather and I 54 00:04:46.920 --> 00:04:51.439 have a lot to say today, let's just get into today's episode right now. 55 00:04:51.639 --> 00:04:58.160 Five things mentally strong people do. The first thing is mentally strong people 56 00:04:58.319 --> 00:05:02.560 understand that our emotion are meant to be used, they aren't meant to use 57 00:05:02.839 --> 00:05:08.800 us. As someone who's extremely emotional, Hello, I have a cancer moon. 58 00:05:09.040 --> 00:05:13.800 Okay, I feel a lot. I'll be watching a show and I'm 59 00:05:13.879 --> 00:05:17.720 hysterically crying. I started to watch squid Games, the challenge where it's real 60 00:05:17.800 --> 00:05:24.040 people competing for a prize of four million dollars, actually more than that, 61 00:05:24.560 --> 00:05:29.279 and I am hysterically crying watching the whole thing because these people are feeling such 62 00:05:29.560 --> 00:05:35.600 real emotion. I'm constantly feeling a lot of emotions, constantly wanting to externalize 63 00:05:35.600 --> 00:05:40.759 a lot of my emotions. But what I've found throughout my life is that's 64 00:05:40.759 --> 00:05:45.360 beautiful. That's amazing, that's sensitivity. That's your superpower. But when you 65 00:05:45.600 --> 00:05:48.920 want to get your point across, when you want to just sit down and 66 00:05:48.959 --> 00:05:54.680 have a civil dinner, if your emotions are controlling you and you're not controlling 67 00:05:54.680 --> 00:06:00.560 your emotions, you don't get to win. Suddenly you're a on your emotion's 68 00:06:00.680 --> 00:06:08.199 leash rather than being on your own pedestal. Let's understand what our emotions are 69 00:06:08.279 --> 00:06:13.279 actually. For our emotions, they're very important. They're not meant to be 70 00:06:13.319 --> 00:06:17.120 shut down. They're not meant to be ignored. Our emotions are our navigation 71 00:06:17.399 --> 00:06:24.519 system for planet Earth. They tell us when something is okay or something is 72 00:06:24.639 --> 00:06:29.199 crossing our boundary. They tell us when something is aligned with us we feel 73 00:06:29.240 --> 00:06:31.879 good, or they tell us when something is not aligned with us and we 74 00:06:31.959 --> 00:06:36.079 feel bad. They tell us when someone is our friend because we feel really 75 00:06:36.120 --> 00:06:41.560 good around them, versus a friend who's verbally abusive to us will feel bad 76 00:06:41.600 --> 00:06:46.519 abround them. Our emotions are there to help us understand what is in alignment 77 00:06:46.639 --> 00:06:53.120 with us. Our emotions communicate to us what feels good to tell us get 78 00:06:53.199 --> 00:06:57.240 more of this, versus what feels bad and that tells us do less of 79 00:06:57.319 --> 00:07:02.600 this. Our emotions are like the past on a plane. If a stewardess 80 00:07:02.720 --> 00:07:06.519 was walking down the aisle and a passenger said, can I have a drink 81 00:07:06.560 --> 00:07:11.439 of water? The stewardess would listen to the passenger and say, sure, 82 00:07:11.560 --> 00:07:15.240 I'll go get that for you. However, if a passenger said, actually, 83 00:07:15.279 --> 00:07:18.079 you need to fly the plane this way, the stewardess would be like, 84 00:07:18.160 --> 00:07:23.639 well, that's the pilot's job. Your emotions, they're meant to be 85 00:07:23.879 --> 00:07:28.879 listened to. They're like the passenger, But your emotions are not the pilot 86 00:07:29.199 --> 00:07:33.279 of your plane. You are the pilot of your own plane. So your 87 00:07:33.279 --> 00:07:36.879 emotions, yes, they should be listened to. They are our navigation system, 88 00:07:36.879 --> 00:07:40.839 but they are not the controller. They're not the dictator, they are 89 00:07:40.879 --> 00:07:46.399 not the pilot. Understanding your emotions placed in your life can help you work 90 00:07:46.439 --> 00:07:54.600 with them, rather than your emotions just completely controlling you. We should be 91 00:07:54.759 --> 00:07:59.160 in control of our emotions, not our emotions being in control of us. 92 00:07:59.720 --> 00:08:03.399 But again this doesn't mean we ignore them. So when you're sitting at the 93 00:08:03.439 --> 00:08:09.560 Thanksgiving dinner table and you're starting to feel annoyed because uncle Gary keeps saying something 94 00:08:09.600 --> 00:08:16.560 that you disagree with. Politically, this isn't for you to sit up and 95 00:08:16.759 --> 00:08:22.000 throw your I always think I can't help it. I always think of Teresa 96 00:08:22.160 --> 00:08:28.000 from The New Jersey Housewives when she flips the table. This is not a 97 00:08:28.040 --> 00:08:31.519 moment for us to stand up and flip the table at uncle Gary and be 98 00:08:31.679 --> 00:08:37.480 like, you're wrong, I'm gonna take you down. That's okay. No, 99 00:08:37.399 --> 00:08:41.519 we're supposed to listen to our emotions. Oh, I don't agree with 100 00:08:41.600 --> 00:08:46.320 this. This doesn't align with me politically or emotionally. I don't want this 101 00:08:46.440 --> 00:08:50.279 to be a part of my story. That doesn't mean we flip the table. 102 00:08:50.799 --> 00:08:54.360 I could feel like, I don't know, punching someone in the face. 103 00:08:54.480 --> 00:08:56.120 That doesn't mean I should punch them in the face. It's a feeling, 104 00:08:56.120 --> 00:09:00.200 it's an emotion. The emotion is trying to tell me something. It 105 00:09:00.279 --> 00:09:03.399 might be trying to tell me this person is crossing your boundaries. This person 106 00:09:03.480 --> 00:09:07.600 is saying something you don't agree with. There's something about you that's really about 107 00:09:07.759 --> 00:09:13.000 justice, and this person seems to be lacking compassion for justice. So how 108 00:09:13.039 --> 00:09:18.840 can we start to gain control over our emotions, question them, interview them 109 00:09:18.159 --> 00:09:22.399 instead of just blindly listening to them and being terresa and flipping the table. 110 00:09:22.440 --> 00:09:26.879 But I will say that was an amazing moment of reality television. I can't 111 00:09:26.960 --> 00:09:31.600 knock it, but I will say, let's learn from it. Let's learn 112 00:09:31.639 --> 00:09:37.360 from it instead of flipping the table. Let's say, huh, uncle Gary 113 00:09:37.559 --> 00:09:41.120 is really really triggering me right now? What could this be about? What 114 00:09:41.320 --> 00:09:48.360 about what uncle Gary is saying is causing me to feel so angry? Journal 115 00:09:48.440 --> 00:09:52.080 about it, feel about it. You can question it, but do not 116 00:09:52.279 --> 00:09:56.240 let it control you. And let me just tell you why when you let 117 00:09:56.279 --> 00:10:01.600 someone else control you like that, Suddenly you're placing Uncle Gary on your pedestal 118 00:10:01.080 --> 00:10:07.679 and you're letting uncle Gary control you and your little emotions. Uncle Gary now 119 00:10:07.720 --> 00:10:11.399 gets to win. Uncle Gary gets to poke at you, and you are 120 00:10:11.600 --> 00:10:16.000 falling for it. That's not you being in control, you being the big 121 00:10:16.080 --> 00:10:18.159 bad blah blah blah blah blah. That's not you being in control. That's 122 00:10:18.240 --> 00:10:24.159 Uncle Gary controlling you and your emotions controlling you. That's what that is. 123 00:10:26.480 --> 00:10:33.480 Step two here, point number two, I should say with Thanksgiving, any 124 00:10:33.639 --> 00:10:37.120 holiday, really and I think a lot of us do this. We think 125 00:10:37.159 --> 00:10:43.720 about past holiday events and we say, oh, uncle Gary, he's always 126 00:10:43.799 --> 00:10:48.799 so outspoken and he's just so wrong about everything. And then we start thinking 127 00:10:48.840 --> 00:10:52.720 about how uncle Gary, once again this year, is going to be outspoken 128 00:10:52.799 --> 00:10:58.159 and wrong about everything. We think about our past holiday happenings and we think 129 00:10:58.200 --> 00:11:01.840 about how all those people who annoy us are gonna annoy us again. Oh, 130 00:11:01.960 --> 00:11:05.039 I have to see my annoying sibling. I have to see that terrible 131 00:11:05.120 --> 00:11:07.720 uncle. Oh God, I have to be around my dad, who I 132 00:11:07.759 --> 00:11:15.399 can't stand. We start saying these stories based on past experiences. I have 133 00:11:15.480 --> 00:11:20.720 fallen prey to this so many times because it's so easy to do. We 134 00:11:20.799 --> 00:11:24.559 think, well, what's the best predictor of future behavior past behavior? And 135 00:11:24.600 --> 00:11:28.080 we start thinking, Oh, I gotta brace myself because it's gonna be terrible 136 00:11:28.120 --> 00:11:31.200 and it's gonna be so unfortunate. Let's stop doing this, and let me 137 00:11:31.240 --> 00:11:37.759 tell you why. When you think about your past experiences with holidays, even 138 00:11:37.840 --> 00:11:41.919 with coworkers, when you start thinking about that, you start feeling about it. 139 00:11:41.320 --> 00:11:46.600 What you do is repeatedly manifest the same circumstance. You have all these 140 00:11:46.639 --> 00:11:52.360 sticky notes of how they're gonna act and how they are that you give into 141 00:11:52.440 --> 00:11:56.360 your past. You repeatedly manifest your past instead of looking to how your present 142 00:11:56.559 --> 00:12:01.960 might be different. You're not even living in your present anymore. You're living 143 00:12:01.000 --> 00:12:05.240 in your past. You're thinking about how it's been for your whole entire life, 144 00:12:05.240 --> 00:12:11.159 and you're grabbing energy from that, and you're vomiting it onto your present 145 00:12:11.679 --> 00:12:16.399 moment. If you're manifesting from your past, you cannot possibly manifest a new 146 00:12:16.440 --> 00:12:20.440 circumstance. If you're manifesting from your past, you're not living from your future. 147 00:12:20.639 --> 00:12:24.639 If you're manifesting from your past, be prepared to continuously live in your 148 00:12:24.679 --> 00:12:28.720 past. If you want to have a new circumstance, stop thinking about what 149 00:12:28.960 --> 00:12:33.879 was and start thinking about what you want to experience. If you want a 150 00:12:33.919 --> 00:12:37.519 new life, you can't keep plugging into your past. We have to give 151 00:12:37.759 --> 00:12:43.879 thanksgiving or whatever circumstance you're experiencing, a new meaning. We need to open 152 00:12:45.039 --> 00:12:50.960 up the possibility that there's room for new behavior, for new circumstance, for 153 00:12:50.120 --> 00:12:54.799 a new experience. What I would have to do to myself every time I 154 00:12:54.840 --> 00:13:01.799 caught myself complaining about my past, not wanting to go whatever it may be, 155 00:13:01.080 --> 00:13:05.960 I would say to myself, well, that's how it was, but 156 00:13:05.080 --> 00:13:11.759 my past doesn't just equal my future. I know I've changed as a person, 157 00:13:11.399 --> 00:13:18.240 there's possibility that this person could have changed too. Instead of telling myself 158 00:13:18.519 --> 00:13:22.720 that this future Thanksgiving, this current Thanksgiving is going to be like all the 159 00:13:22.759 --> 00:13:30.440 other Thanksgivings, why don't I just say anything's possible. Why don't I just, 160 00:13:31.200 --> 00:13:35.840 you know, stand on the side of possibility, stand on the side 161 00:13:35.879 --> 00:13:41.440 of positive manifestation, and tell myself, what if this time it's different? 162 00:13:41.879 --> 00:13:48.519 Instead of going into a circumstance with all these sticky notes in your mental library 163 00:13:50.559 --> 00:13:54.720 of who this person is and how they act, what if we just questioned, 164 00:13:54.480 --> 00:13:58.080 instead of getting furious, let's get curious. What if we just questioned, 165 00:13:58.879 --> 00:14:03.240 if this time it's different? What if this time it's gonna be peaceful. 166 00:14:03.840 --> 00:14:07.919 I'm not saying this person's gonna have a three sixty change and oh my 167 00:14:07.960 --> 00:14:09.120 god, they're so different, blah blah blah. I'm not saying that. 168 00:14:09.559 --> 00:14:16.279 I'm saying, what if this experience is just a little bit better? What 169 00:14:16.360 --> 00:14:20.320 if Gary doesn't say that this time? What if Aunt Theresa isn't that way 170 00:14:20.360 --> 00:14:24.679 this time? What if the sibling doesn't poke fun at you this time. 171 00:14:24.840 --> 00:14:31.279 What if when you start to open yourself up to new possibility, Oh, 172 00:14:31.440 --> 00:14:37.320 what starts to happen. There's biochemical changes in your body. Suddenly you go 173 00:14:37.399 --> 00:14:45.039 from this fight and flight on edge two, we're going into our parasympathetic nervous 174 00:14:45.080 --> 00:14:50.440 system. We begin to relax. We go from looking for a trigger to 175 00:14:50.759 --> 00:14:56.919 I'm pretty chilled out right now. We go from looking for SOS triggers to 176 00:14:58.000 --> 00:15:01.600 you know what, this turkey's kind of good. I'm enjoying the turkey. 177 00:15:03.759 --> 00:15:07.919 It changes what you look for, what you find, and how you react. 178 00:15:09.279 --> 00:15:13.559 If I look for new possibility, maybe I'll actually find uncle Gary kind 179 00:15:13.559 --> 00:15:16.559 of funny this year, instead of me just sitting. Oh, he's so 180 00:15:16.600 --> 00:15:20.120 annoying. He's so annoying. He's so annoying. You're not letting yourself open 181 00:15:20.240 --> 00:15:26.639 up to new possibility. You're not letting yourself find any positivity in this dinner. 182 00:15:26.759 --> 00:15:30.759 I'm not saying uncle Gary is a saint, but also you're not looking 183 00:15:31.120 --> 00:15:35.480 for any happiness in this circumstance. Let's take accountability for what we can. 184 00:15:35.600 --> 00:15:39.519 We can't control everyone, but we can control how we're gonna show up. 185 00:15:39.759 --> 00:15:45.080 We can control our own emotions and keep them in check, so we can 186 00:15:45.159 --> 00:15:48.480 have a better experience. Keeping your emotions in check and controlling them so they 187 00:15:48.480 --> 00:15:52.159 don't control you. It's not about other people. I don't care about what 188 00:15:52.200 --> 00:15:56.440 anyone else is doing. I care about you. Because you're listening to this. 189 00:15:56.919 --> 00:16:00.559 How can we give you the best circumstance, the best ex experience, 190 00:16:00.799 --> 00:16:06.720 the best unfolding. It's by you keeping yourself in check. That's what we're 191 00:16:06.720 --> 00:16:11.200 gonna do. That's what we have to do. So we're gonna look for, 192 00:16:11.039 --> 00:16:17.000 if not positive experience, at least neutrality of what could happen. Maybe 193 00:16:17.039 --> 00:16:21.159 it's gonna be different this time. Maybe it's gonna be peaceful. Give the 194 00:16:21.159 --> 00:16:26.480 circumstance a new meaning. So you stop repeatedly manifesting your past and you start 195 00:16:26.600 --> 00:16:32.120 enjoying your present. So you stop looking for triggers, and you actually start 196 00:16:32.159 --> 00:16:40.320 looking for happy moments instead of you being so clenched, so much tension in 197 00:16:40.360 --> 00:16:44.720 your body, constantly scanning. You're actually gonna be able to digest your food. 198 00:16:45.000 --> 00:16:48.399 You're actually gonna be able to enjoy other conversation because you're not just looking 199 00:16:48.440 --> 00:16:55.320 for what pisces you off. I also feel like. Something that really helps 200 00:16:55.559 --> 00:17:00.519 me. A new meaning I created is when someone is annoying me and it's 201 00:17:00.559 --> 00:17:04.720 a family member, it helps me just remember that, you know what, 202 00:17:07.039 --> 00:17:11.519 they obviously just didn't get enough of whatever they needed as a child. They 203 00:17:11.519 --> 00:17:15.039 didn't get enough hugs or enough love or enough attention that they're acting out now. 204 00:17:17.559 --> 00:17:22.839 Seeing the person who's annoying you as their child self is helpful for you 205 00:17:22.960 --> 00:17:30.759 to just not have complete rage. Oh yeah, it's not about them. 206 00:17:30.960 --> 00:17:33.960 It's not about you treating them any sort of different way. It's about you 207 00:17:34.440 --> 00:17:40.079 grounding yourself. When you see Gary and he's like bad, bad bad ba, 208 00:17:40.160 --> 00:17:44.640 but you then see him as his little inner child, his little child 209 00:17:44.720 --> 00:17:48.319 self, and you realize, oh, he didn't get enough attention or hugs 210 00:17:48.400 --> 00:17:52.880 or love. It humanizes them. It helps you understand. Okay, they're 211 00:17:52.920 --> 00:17:56.720 being outspoken right now, not probably because they even believe this, but because 212 00:17:56.759 --> 00:18:02.400 they just want attention and negative at tension is still attention at the end of 213 00:18:02.440 --> 00:18:07.480 the day. Humanize them, not for them before you, so you don't 214 00:18:07.480 --> 00:18:14.119 flip a table. Okay, number three I recently watched I don't know if 215 00:18:14.119 --> 00:18:18.480 you know them. I just discovered them. They have like eleven billion subscribers, 216 00:18:18.480 --> 00:18:25.920 so I'm probably late to this party. But there's this pair, Sam 217 00:18:25.960 --> 00:18:33.119 and Colby, and they go through haunted experiences. I I don't recommend scaring 218 00:18:33.160 --> 00:18:38.279 yourself, but they're the mystic within me, the God, the priestess within 219 00:18:38.400 --> 00:18:45.119 me is just so in love with paranormal investigations. I just love it so 220 00:18:45.240 --> 00:18:48.359 much, and they do it. They did do one thing I disagreed with. 221 00:18:48.440 --> 00:18:52.640 They showed something that you're not meant to take a picture of, and 222 00:18:53.960 --> 00:18:56.960 I didn't love that. But if you do watch it, just say before 223 00:18:57.000 --> 00:19:02.559 you watch everything, every single part of their series, I don't claim any 224 00:19:02.599 --> 00:19:07.839 negative energy from this video. Sam and Colby did this series where they went 225 00:19:07.880 --> 00:19:17.319 into the Conjuring House and they did a paranormal investigation, and one of the 226 00:19:17.440 --> 00:19:22.480 parts of the house that they really had a big emphasis on was this basement 227 00:19:22.680 --> 00:19:27.519 level. And they're talking about how the entities in the basement are very different 228 00:19:27.559 --> 00:19:33.440 than the entities on the top floors. The top floors are loving and it's 229 00:19:33.519 --> 00:19:37.319 like child like entities or adult like entities, but they're helpful and loving and 230 00:19:37.400 --> 00:19:42.240 it doesn't incite fear within people. However, the basement level is a little 231 00:19:42.279 --> 00:19:47.359 bit different, and they were talking about how the entities in the basement are 232 00:19:47.400 --> 00:19:51.880 like tricksters. They'll try to trick you or make you scared, and why 233 00:19:51.920 --> 00:19:55.440 would these entities do this. They do this to feed off your fear. 234 00:19:55.960 --> 00:20:02.240 What people don't realize is that your emotions are energy emotion, So whether you're 235 00:20:02.319 --> 00:20:06.640 happy, sad, mad, glad, all those emotions are just energy. 236 00:20:07.039 --> 00:20:11.960 And energy can be used to do something positive go for a run, or 237 00:20:12.119 --> 00:20:17.839 energy can be used for something negative, like leaving hate comments on someone's video, 238 00:20:18.400 --> 00:20:22.599 so energy can be used how you want. Emotions are energy, so 239 00:20:22.759 --> 00:20:26.640 emotions can be used for how you want because they're just energy. And what 240 00:20:27.599 --> 00:20:33.480 kind of sparked my brain for this episode was thinking about how, like Damp, 241 00:20:33.759 --> 00:20:37.960 even after these souls have passed on to another dimension, they're still trying 242 00:20:38.000 --> 00:20:44.559 to feed on your fear and your anger and your frustration. There are some 243 00:20:44.759 --> 00:20:53.559 people who will feed on your emotions. Stop giving them that advantage. The 244 00:20:53.680 --> 00:20:59.240 same way that entities who have crossed over over are feeding on your fear, 245 00:21:00.200 --> 00:21:06.039 there are human beings who also will feed on your fear, your frustration, 246 00:21:06.279 --> 00:21:14.039 and your sadness. So let's kind of untangle this a little bit if there 247 00:21:14.119 --> 00:21:18.880 is someone in your family or someone at work who is blatantly a narcissist, 248 00:21:18.359 --> 00:21:25.720 like you're just you're dumbfounded every time because you can't even understand them. If 249 00:21:25.759 --> 00:21:29.279 that is the case, and I have to take a second here to say 250 00:21:29.400 --> 00:21:33.119 that a narcissist is not someone who's confident. Okay, I think sometimes people 251 00:21:33.119 --> 00:21:36.920 get confused. Self love is not selfish. Self love does not mean you're 252 00:21:36.920 --> 00:21:41.680 a narcissist. A narcissist is not someone who actually loves themselves. A narcissist 253 00:21:41.759 --> 00:21:45.799 is someone who has such deep hatred for themselves that they have to push down 254 00:21:45.839 --> 00:21:49.519 other people and puff themselves up. So, okay, just disclaimer there. 255 00:21:51.119 --> 00:21:56.400 If you have someone who is a narcissist or who just is living on a 256 00:21:56.440 --> 00:22:00.880 completely different planet than you and there's no way you can meet them on any 257 00:22:00.920 --> 00:22:06.480 sort of level, stop trying, because you can only meet someone as deep 258 00:22:06.640 --> 00:22:10.880 as they have met themselves. And if you notice, this person is always 259 00:22:10.960 --> 00:22:12.640 just poking at you, it's always trying to get you upset, it's always 260 00:22:12.640 --> 00:22:17.359 trying to annoy you. It has nothing to do with you. They're trying 261 00:22:17.359 --> 00:22:22.160 to extract your energy, your frustration, your sadness, some people are gonna 262 00:22:22.160 --> 00:22:25.799 get off on that. I'm sorry, that's the truth, and I rather 263 00:22:25.880 --> 00:22:32.319 you have the tools to face this than just be their little prey, because 264 00:22:32.359 --> 00:22:34.799 that is not being in control of your own life. That again is pedestaling 265 00:22:34.880 --> 00:22:40.880 them and letting them have control over you and them having control over your emotions. 266 00:22:41.440 --> 00:22:45.160 If you have someone in your life that is like this, there's no 267 00:22:45.200 --> 00:22:51.039 way of meeting them, there's no way of communicating to them, there's no 268 00:22:51.119 --> 00:22:56.400 way of them understanding your point of view. Stop letting them get the best 269 00:22:56.400 --> 00:23:00.319 of you. Stop allowing them to get you out of character, because they 270 00:23:00.319 --> 00:23:04.160 are not worth you getting out of character. They are not worth you getting 271 00:23:04.160 --> 00:23:08.200 into a miserable state. Misery loves company, so miserable people will try to 272 00:23:08.200 --> 00:23:14.559 bring you down. They are not worth you messing up your own vibration because 273 00:23:14.559 --> 00:23:18.599 they're annoying you. They're not worth you pedestaling them instead of you. So 274 00:23:18.640 --> 00:23:22.839 what you're gonna do is see them for what they are. Give it a 275 00:23:22.880 --> 00:23:27.720 little chuckle if you want very funny. I'm not falling for this shit. 276 00:23:27.799 --> 00:23:30.319 Again. We're not saying this to them, We're saying it to ourselves. 277 00:23:30.640 --> 00:23:36.119 And you're gonna remove yourself from the room for a minute and just release your 278 00:23:36.200 --> 00:23:40.000 energy in the bathroom, in a bedroom outside, jump around and just get 279 00:23:40.039 --> 00:23:41.640 that shit out. Just be like, no, no, no, no, 280 00:23:41.640 --> 00:23:44.200 no, no, no no no, I'm not allowing it. I'm 281 00:23:44.240 --> 00:23:47.279 not allowing it. I don't claim that energy. I don't claim that energy. 282 00:23:47.319 --> 00:23:49.400 I don't claim that energy. I literally do a little workout and song 283 00:23:49.519 --> 00:23:52.720 dance. I'll be like, I'm not claiming this energy today. No, 284 00:23:52.720 --> 00:23:56.599 no, not today. And it just makes me feel so much better because 285 00:23:56.599 --> 00:24:00.960 I'm moving my body. I'm getting out of my head and into my releasing 286 00:24:00.000 --> 00:24:04.119 any energy I may have taken from them. And I will literally say back 287 00:24:04.160 --> 00:24:07.799 to cender, back to center, back to center. So the first thing 288 00:24:07.799 --> 00:24:11.920 I do is shake out my body. The second thing I say is send 289 00:24:11.960 --> 00:24:17.839 back to sender. And the third thing I'll do is positive Bgitude activate activate 290 00:24:18.279 --> 00:24:26.839 activate positive Bititude activate activate activate, positive Bgitute activate activate activate. Now what 291 00:24:26.880 --> 00:24:30.920 am I saying. I'm saying positive Bititude activate. And what I'm doing is 292 00:24:30.960 --> 00:24:36.359 I'm reactivating my magnetic energy. I'm reactivating my own positive energy. I sent 293 00:24:36.440 --> 00:24:41.200 their energy back to them, and now I'm invigorating myself with positive energy. 294 00:24:41.200 --> 00:24:48.119 I'm filling myself up with positive energy. Remember positive, bitch, what is 295 00:24:48.119 --> 00:24:52.359 that? A positive babe and true connection with herself. I'm getting connected back 296 00:24:52.400 --> 00:24:56.039 to me. So I'm not plugged into them because I don't want to plug 297 00:24:56.079 --> 00:24:57.960 into their negativity. I don't want to be a part of their negativity. 298 00:24:59.319 --> 00:25:03.400 I want to be here with me. So I'm sending their energy back to 299 00:25:03.440 --> 00:25:11.559 them, and I'm re energizing myself with my own energy. That's what I'm 300 00:25:11.559 --> 00:25:15.480 gonna do. We have to remember there are some people on this planet that 301 00:25:15.559 --> 00:25:19.880 we cannot reach. And you're not sent here to fix everyone. You're not 302 00:25:21.039 --> 00:25:26.119 a rehabilitation center for them. You're here to live a good life, to 303 00:25:26.279 --> 00:25:29.920 learn, develop, grow, have happiness, have fun. You're not here 304 00:25:29.960 --> 00:25:33.440 to fix everyone. You're not the fixer. You're a human. Okay, 305 00:25:33.079 --> 00:25:41.039 So we're gonna re establish our own self and our own energetic boundaries, and 306 00:25:41.079 --> 00:25:47.559 then we're gonna keep it walking and talking, grooving and moving. Number four. 307 00:25:48.279 --> 00:25:53.279 Like I said before, our emotions are just energy. And actually the 308 00:25:53.359 --> 00:25:59.720 word emotion comes from the Latin term emove. Ray. I hope I'm saying 309 00:25:59.720 --> 00:26:03.640 that I did take two full years of Latin. Do I remember much not 310 00:26:03.720 --> 00:26:07.720 really. We didn't speak it because it's a dead language. Did I cry 311 00:26:07.839 --> 00:26:11.160 every day I had class? Yes, because we had to test every single 312 00:26:11.200 --> 00:26:15.640 day we had class. I've never heard of anyone doing that besides this Latin 313 00:26:15.680 --> 00:26:22.839 class. Okay for two full years. Yeah. Anyway, moving on, 314 00:26:25.720 --> 00:26:30.240 emoveaure. What it means is to move out. Emotions are meant to be 315 00:26:30.359 --> 00:26:34.640 moved out. They're meant to be moved Their natural state is move meant. 316 00:26:36.319 --> 00:26:44.400 So if you know there's a person who has some sort of blockage to this 317 00:26:44.480 --> 00:26:48.880 planet and this reality, then instead of trying to reach them, I want 318 00:26:48.920 --> 00:26:55.119 you to reach into yourself. When you go home later that night, when 319 00:26:55.200 --> 00:26:57.799 you have time to yourself, scream into a pillow. If you have a 320 00:26:57.839 --> 00:27:03.480 punching bag, punch, take a long shower. Imagine the water just washing 321 00:27:03.519 --> 00:27:07.519 off all their negative energy. Take a bath, Pray over the bath like 322 00:27:07.640 --> 00:27:11.279 hands on that bath. This water will re energize me. I've been doing 323 00:27:11.279 --> 00:27:17.359 a lot of salt baths lately. And just come back home to yourself. 324 00:27:17.920 --> 00:27:19.839 I have a little altar in my room. If you're watching on YouTube, 325 00:27:19.880 --> 00:27:25.240 you can see my altars right here. And after a long difficult day, 326 00:27:25.359 --> 00:27:27.680 if it's with family, whatever it may be. I'll light a candle, 327 00:27:27.799 --> 00:27:32.680 I'll do a prayer, I'll do a meditation, and I'll just come back 328 00:27:32.720 --> 00:27:37.440 home to myself. I think so many of us are trying to run away 329 00:27:37.599 --> 00:27:42.359 from family problems, from the drama. We end up running away from ourselves 330 00:27:42.400 --> 00:27:47.920 too. The medicine is to come back home to you. The medicine is 331 00:27:47.960 --> 00:27:52.319 to re energize your own energy. The medicine is to ground yourself, not 332 00:27:52.680 --> 00:28:00.920 to keep running. Come back home to yourself. Journal a song, I 333 00:28:00.920 --> 00:28:04.079 don't care, make a dance, Do something where you're moving your body. 334 00:28:04.119 --> 00:28:08.960 You're moving your energy out and you're coming back home to yourself. You can 335 00:28:10.200 --> 00:28:17.160 light white sage or palisanto and just gently put it around your body, put 336 00:28:17.200 --> 00:28:22.880 it around your room. Just come back to yourself. They're not in your 337 00:28:22.960 --> 00:28:26.319 room with you. They're not retriggering you in your room. People are gonna 338 00:28:26.359 --> 00:28:29.440 hurt us, are gonna trigger us. But you don't need to cause yourself 339 00:28:29.519 --> 00:28:33.079 more suffering by retriggering yourself by thinking about it, thinking about it, thinking 340 00:28:33.119 --> 00:28:38.920 about it, think about something else. Come back home to yourself. If 341 00:28:38.920 --> 00:28:44.799 you need a healthy distraction, put on one of those corny Christmas movies or 342 00:28:44.920 --> 00:28:49.240 a funny show and laugh. Laughter is an amazing medicine to reground ourselves, 343 00:28:49.279 --> 00:28:55.440 to come back home to ourselves. They're not worth you getting out of character, 344 00:28:56.039 --> 00:29:00.200 especially if they're not even there anymore. They might have a whole hold 345 00:29:00.200 --> 00:29:02.559 on you while they're there, but don't let them have a hold on you 346 00:29:02.880 --> 00:29:06.240 while you're home alone, while you're in your room and they're not there with 347 00:29:06.279 --> 00:29:11.559 you anymore. No, No, we don't let those sort of people win. 348 00:29:12.359 --> 00:29:19.839 Where the winners Where the winners. Okay, coming to number five, 349 00:29:21.119 --> 00:29:26.160 let's go. We know we need boundaries with people, and I've done a 350 00:29:26.200 --> 00:29:30.640 plethora of podcasts on that which you can find. But another thing we need 351 00:29:30.680 --> 00:29:38.720 to have boundaries with is our own emotions. Yeah, our emotions. They 352 00:29:38.799 --> 00:29:44.559 are our navigators, but they're not the dictator. We are the dictator in 353 00:29:44.599 --> 00:29:51.319 our own life. This means if you're crying Monday through Sunday or annoyed Monday 354 00:29:51.319 --> 00:29:55.680 through Sunday about something that has happened on Thanksgiving or out of family party or 355 00:29:55.720 --> 00:29:59.880 just your family in general, again, you're letting them win and you're hurd 356 00:30:00.200 --> 00:30:03.920 your own vibration. If they hurt you, fine, but you were causing 357 00:30:03.960 --> 00:30:07.839 your own suffering now, and that is where I just draw the line. 358 00:30:07.920 --> 00:30:14.720 That's where I draw the line. So we need emotions, Yes, we 359 00:30:14.759 --> 00:30:18.880 need to listen to our emotions, yes, But we need boundaries with our 360 00:30:18.920 --> 00:30:22.519 emotions. Yes, So what I want you to start to do If your 361 00:30:22.799 --> 00:30:26.240 emotions are just all over the place and you can't control them at the dinner 362 00:30:26.319 --> 00:30:30.279 table, you can't control them at work now, you're just hurting your own 363 00:30:30.319 --> 00:30:33.640 life and you're not getting anything done and you're crying all day and that's not 364 00:30:33.720 --> 00:30:37.440 going to work. We want to let our emotions out, but we want 365 00:30:37.440 --> 00:30:41.440 to do it in a way that works for our schedule. What I would 366 00:30:41.440 --> 00:30:47.720 literally have to do with myself is schedule crying sessions throughout my week so I 367 00:30:47.759 --> 00:30:49.519 could get my emotions out, and then I would tell myself, Okay, 368 00:30:49.559 --> 00:30:52.279 I let it out. I cried about what I wanted to cry about, 369 00:30:52.359 --> 00:30:56.000 or I journaled it out. Now I need to refocus on work on this, 370 00:30:56.240 --> 00:31:00.960 on my workout, on going to hear whatever it may be. So 371 00:31:02.000 --> 00:31:07.880 let's say Thanksgiving is today again, Happy Thanksgiving, It's Thursday. Let's say 372 00:31:07.880 --> 00:31:12.799 you go to dinner and it's just you know, the circus. It is 373 00:31:12.839 --> 00:31:17.319 a circus. And then you come back home and you're crying about it and 374 00:31:17.359 --> 00:31:21.440 you're upset. Then Friday and Saturday and Sunday, you're just upset every single 375 00:31:21.559 --> 00:31:25.359 day. What I want you to do is schedule crying session. You can 376 00:31:25.400 --> 00:31:30.319 do it once daily or three times a week. And schedule this crying session 377 00:31:30.400 --> 00:31:34.640 for about fifteen minutes to forty five minutes where you can complain to yourself about 378 00:31:34.640 --> 00:31:37.400 it, you can cry about it, you can scream about it, and 379 00:31:37.440 --> 00:31:41.599 then after that forty five minutes. Forty five minutes is how long a human 380 00:31:41.640 --> 00:31:47.279 body can feel an emotion for. After forty five minutes, you'll notice you'll 381 00:31:47.319 --> 00:31:52.079 either go from sadness to anger or sadness to some other emotion. And what 382 00:31:52.240 --> 00:31:56.720 happens is a lot of the time we do this little dance and it's called 383 00:31:56.720 --> 00:32:00.640 a crazy eight, where we go from satsadness to anger, from anger to 384 00:32:00.720 --> 00:32:04.799 sadness, from sadness to anger, and we'll go back and forth and back 385 00:32:04.799 --> 00:32:07.839 and forth because our body can only hold on to this energy for about forty 386 00:32:07.839 --> 00:32:13.559 five minutes and then it's gonna swing to another emotion. So we'll go from 387 00:32:13.559 --> 00:32:19.079 this powerlessness state from sadness, and then we'll go to this anger state, 388 00:32:19.079 --> 00:32:23.640 which makes us feel dignified and powerful, and then we'll drop back into powerlessness 389 00:32:23.640 --> 00:32:30.839 and sadness. Instead of doing that and doing a crazy eight, let's break 390 00:32:30.839 --> 00:32:36.319 this pattern. Let's schedule fifteen to forty five minutes to cry, scream, 391 00:32:36.559 --> 00:32:38.839 whatever you need to do, and then after that you're gonna tell yourself, 392 00:32:39.039 --> 00:32:44.480 Okay, I'm not ignoring my emotions. I'm feeling my emotions. I'm listening 393 00:32:44.480 --> 00:32:46.799 to them, I'm letting them out, and now I have to refocus on 394 00:32:46.839 --> 00:32:52.640 getting this out for Q four, whatever it may be. I'm sorry I 395 00:32:52.680 --> 00:32:55.880 just did a little like because I just used a corporate term, which is 396 00:32:55.960 --> 00:33:01.440 Q four, and I feel very corporate for doing that. Anyway. Yeah, 397 00:33:01.440 --> 00:33:07.400 I don't use Q four that language in my normal vocabulary, but I 398 00:33:07.400 --> 00:33:13.480 thought, why not for the corporate girlies? Hi? Anyway, Q four 399 00:33:13.559 --> 00:33:15.759 is very important, and I know that because that's the end of the year. 400 00:33:15.960 --> 00:33:19.559 Okay, you need to make sure that your mind is primed for Q 401 00:33:19.680 --> 00:33:22.640 four. You need to make sure that you are alive and well in your 402 00:33:22.720 --> 00:33:25.440 life. You can't be worried about uncle Gary when you're trying to get these 403 00:33:25.440 --> 00:33:30.039 emails out. Okay, so you're gonna give yourself fifteen to forty five minutes 404 00:33:30.119 --> 00:33:32.880 to let it out and then refocus on what you gotta do. Go see 405 00:33:32.880 --> 00:33:37.559 a friend for lunch, Go do a workout, do your work, write 406 00:33:37.599 --> 00:33:38.920 a song, do something creative. I don't care what you do, but 407 00:33:38.960 --> 00:33:42.920 it should not be about Uncle Gary. Okay, because the forty five minutes 408 00:33:43.079 --> 00:33:47.480 are up to put it in a nutshell. The five tips for what strong 409 00:33:47.559 --> 00:33:55.119 people do is One, emotions are meant to be used by us. They're 410 00:33:55.200 --> 00:34:00.119 not meant to use us. So we're gonna keep those in check. Or 411 00:34:00.279 --> 00:34:02.839 any holiday, We're not gonna keep telling ourselves what was. We're gonna focus 412 00:34:02.839 --> 00:34:07.480 on the possibility of what can be. Three we're not gonna let these people 413 00:34:07.639 --> 00:34:10.840 use our energy get a rise out of us, because they're getting a kick 414 00:34:10.840 --> 00:34:16.000 out of us and we're getting kicked down. Number four, We're gonna use 415 00:34:16.119 --> 00:34:22.559 our emotions, these energies, emotion, and we're going to either scream it 416 00:34:22.599 --> 00:34:24.280 out, cry it out. When we get back home. Palo Santo, 417 00:34:24.519 --> 00:34:28.440 We're gonna take a long shower, We're gonna take a bath, We're gonna 418 00:34:28.480 --> 00:34:31.159 take a walk, We're gonna release it all and number five, we need 419 00:34:31.199 --> 00:34:36.760 boundaries not just with people, but with our emotions too, so we schedule 420 00:34:36.880 --> 00:34:39.360 those crying sessions. Thank you so much for being here. I know you 421 00:34:39.400 --> 00:34:43.400 could be anywhere doing anything right now, and you are here with me. 422 00:34:43.599 --> 00:34:47.440 Happy freaking Thanksgiving. This is the opening to the holiday season, which is 423 00:34:47.440 --> 00:34:51.760 so exciting. I love you so much. And as always to Sparkle and 424 00:34:51.840 --> 00:34:54.960 me hon as a sparkle in you. And if you enjoyed this podcast, 425 00:34:55.039 --> 00:34:59.800 if you could leave a positive review on Apple Podcasts and Spotify, it means 426 00:35:00.039 --> 00:35:04.119 world to me. It really helps this podcast and I love seeing your feedback. 427 00:35:04.480 --> 00:35:07.840 Also, if not for me, do it for you because good karma. 428 00:35:07.199 --> 00:35:12.639 Don't forget that the sale for Black Friday ends this Sunday, So if 429 00:35:12.679 --> 00:35:15.199 you do want to work one on one with me, you do have the 430 00:35:15.280 --> 00:35:19.280 opportunity. Get it while you still can. And I'll see you in the 431 00:35:19.280 --> 00:35:50.679 next one. When canagey can sae me canceage me