WEBVTT 1 00:00:00.160 --> 00:00:11.759 This is pod Populi Podcast for the People, the Great Love Debate. It's 2 00:00:11.800 --> 00:00:18.199 the Great Love Debate, the Great Love Debate. It's a Great Love Debase. 3 00:00:18.440 --> 00:00:22.839 Hi again, Everyone's Brian Howie. Welcome to the Great Love Debate, 4 00:00:22.879 --> 00:00:26.640 the world's number one dating and relationship podcasts. It's two thousand and fifteen. 5 00:00:26.719 --> 00:00:30.920 I am back here in these studios of pod Populi Podcast for the People. 6 00:00:31.000 --> 00:00:33.960 I am at the one in Palm Beach Gardens, which I have not been 7 00:00:34.000 --> 00:00:36.960 at in quite some time. It's very nice here if you have the means 8 00:00:37.399 --> 00:00:41.679 Palm Beach Gardens. UM. Quick note before I get into what I want 9 00:00:41.679 --> 00:00:44.679 to get into and who I want to get into it with. I know 10 00:00:44.759 --> 00:00:49.640 I guys have promised you the Bachelor and Bachelorette Party Spectacular. I've been teasing 11 00:00:49.679 --> 00:00:52.200 it for like three episodes now that I keep saying it's going to be the 12 00:00:52.200 --> 00:00:58.119 next episode. You guys have been absolutely burying us with these horror stories about 13 00:00:58.159 --> 00:01:02.640 your bachelor bachelorette parties. I'm surprised anybody gets married once I hear all these, 14 00:01:02.840 --> 00:01:06.159 So I'm gonna give it one more week because you guys just even as 15 00:01:06.159 --> 00:01:10.400 of like an hour ago, I got like thirty more, choose an email 16 00:01:10.439 --> 00:01:12.840 Great Love Debate at gmail dot com with your horror stars, whether you were 17 00:01:12.840 --> 00:01:18.079 the bride, the groom, the best man, the maid of honor, 18 00:01:18.519 --> 00:01:21.680 or in a wedding party, or just did something really bad or witness something 19 00:01:21.680 --> 00:01:25.840 really bad at a bachelor party. And we have had two deaths so far 20 00:01:25.959 --> 00:01:29.239 at one of these things. So let's tell you that's where the bar it's 21 00:01:29.280 --> 00:01:34.719 at these things and many many divorces and break up So Kavi at m tour. 22 00:01:34.799 --> 00:01:38.200 If you're gonna have a bachelor bacherette party, send those in and we 23 00:01:38.239 --> 00:01:42.159 will get to that. I want to continue ours. I don't know how 24 00:01:42.200 --> 00:01:46.480 to say this without sounding insulting. As I've said several times in the last 25 00:01:46.480 --> 00:01:49.879 couple of months, we're doing this series that are focused on women that are 26 00:01:49.040 --> 00:01:55.400 say plus thirty five, and they are what I think is the single best 27 00:01:55.439 --> 00:02:00.719 group of women that exists in the dating pool. However, there is the 28 00:02:00.719 --> 00:02:07.599 one that they're the ones that have the most consternation issues, quandaries, forks 29 00:02:07.599 --> 00:02:09.960 in the road, things to deal with. So I had somebody that I 30 00:02:10.000 --> 00:02:14.960 had some um, I have a lot of questions for it because she has 31 00:02:15.000 --> 00:02:19.080 had some forks in the road. She has made some changes. I don't 32 00:02:19.080 --> 00:02:21.680 know what she looked like at twenty three. She might never look better than 33 00:02:21.719 --> 00:02:23.680 now. I don't know. Her hair looks fantastic, so I'll give her 34 00:02:23.680 --> 00:02:28.240 that. She is. Her husband was on here a couple months ago and 35 00:02:28.240 --> 00:02:30.800 he told you guys, how to spend your money or not spend your money, 36 00:02:30.800 --> 00:02:32.159 and it was very, very smart. So I brought in his better 37 00:02:32.240 --> 00:02:38.240 half today. She's the host of the Spoiled Milk podcast, and I'm going 38 00:02:38.280 --> 00:02:40.199 to let her explain why that is because it leads to what I want to 39 00:02:40.240 --> 00:02:45.240 get into. Brooke rash how are you? Hey, what's up? I'm 40 00:02:45.319 --> 00:02:49.000 laughing about the Bachelor bachelrette. You're like, oh, I think I'd like 41 00:02:49.039 --> 00:02:52.240 to come back for that one. I mean yeah, well, I mean 42 00:02:52.319 --> 00:02:57.120 I had. I had a very interesting bachelorette party. Where was it? 43 00:02:57.319 --> 00:02:59.960 It was in Vegas, and of course it was you know, the numb 44 00:03:00.560 --> 00:03:02.439 We're gonna break this out on the episode. The number one place is Nashville 45 00:03:04.120 --> 00:03:07.479 for bachelor. For Bachelor, I got married twenty one years ago, so 46 00:03:07.520 --> 00:03:10.080 that was a Ford Nashville, right exactly. You should just be Vegas. 47 00:03:10.400 --> 00:03:15.560 One is Nashville. Two is Scottsdale. Interesting, Yeah, and then there's 48 00:03:15.520 --> 00:03:19.879 Nashville or Vegas, Miami, and we will get into all of that. 49 00:03:20.240 --> 00:03:25.159 Um spoiled milk. Where did that come from? So it actually came from 50 00:03:25.280 --> 00:03:30.719 an internet roll. We were my husband and I were having an internet discussion 51 00:03:31.639 --> 00:03:38.439 about Leonardo DiCaprio and his tendency to date these girls that are so super young 52 00:03:38.560 --> 00:03:43.560 and the most recent one is like nineteen. Now keep in mind he's almost 53 00:03:43.599 --> 00:03:49.159 fifty yea. And for us personally, it's really disturbing because we have a 54 00:03:49.240 --> 00:03:53.680 nineteen year old daughter, right, so Leo's older than us and he's dating 55 00:03:53.719 --> 00:03:58.520 to someone that is our daughter's age. And so through this like internet conversation, 56 00:03:58.560 --> 00:04:00.439 of course, a lot of people agreed with us us that they thought 57 00:04:00.439 --> 00:04:02.840 it was disturbing. But then there are the people that they were like, 58 00:04:02.919 --> 00:04:06.039 he's an adult, he can do what he wants to do. I just 59 00:04:06.199 --> 00:04:09.840 was like, this girl's just got out of high school. But hey, 60 00:04:09.919 --> 00:04:15.319 whatever, I digress. So this one commenter said, well, of course 61 00:04:15.360 --> 00:04:19.480 he dates younger women, because women aged like spoiled milk. And I was 62 00:04:19.560 --> 00:04:23.160 just like, at first, like it made my blood boil, and you 63 00:04:23.160 --> 00:04:26.199 know, I went like I started like keyboard like, and then I was 64 00:04:26.240 --> 00:04:28.079 like, nope, like back it up, and I was sak, you 65 00:04:28.079 --> 00:04:30.800 know what, that's actually kind of like catchy. I think I'm gonna like 66 00:04:31.199 --> 00:04:34.519 I was already like stirring on the whole podcast idea, and I was like, 67 00:04:34.519 --> 00:04:39.920 I think I'm gonna use that because that's my motivated yeah, and I'm 68 00:04:39.920 --> 00:04:43.160 like, that's my whole goal in life is to not become spoiled milk. 69 00:04:43.240 --> 00:04:47.600 Like I see these older women who they just quite honestly, they let themselves 70 00:04:47.600 --> 00:04:50.560 go. I'm not saying we shouldn't age at all, and of course women 71 00:04:50.560 --> 00:04:53.639 should do what they want to do. Okay, if you want to let 72 00:04:53.680 --> 00:04:57.120 yourself go, let yourself go. I'm personally not going to be one of 73 00:04:57.120 --> 00:05:01.600 those women that become spoiled milk that society doesn't even see you anymore because you're 74 00:05:01.639 --> 00:05:08.040 like you're expired. Yeah. I agree. Not to defend Leo because I 75 00:05:08.040 --> 00:05:12.360 think it's weird. I think it's part of his brand at this point that 76 00:05:12.439 --> 00:05:16.000 if he started dating somebody more age appropriate, and I'll let the world decide 77 00:05:16.000 --> 00:05:21.040 what that is. If he suddenly started to date like a forty one year 78 00:05:21.040 --> 00:05:27.639 old woman, I think that makes him suddenly accelerate the way he's perceived into 79 00:05:27.680 --> 00:05:30.639 an almost fifty year old man, because he still has come off as kind 80 00:05:30.680 --> 00:05:33.959 of boyish and whatever, sort of like George Clooney when George Clooney got George 81 00:05:33.959 --> 00:05:41.040 Clooney carried around this illusion that he was this perpetual bachelor for many many years. 82 00:05:41.120 --> 00:05:46.680 He was married in his twenties for several years. That never because part 83 00:05:46.720 --> 00:05:48.399 of his image was I am bachelor, as George E We're going to settle 84 00:05:48.439 --> 00:05:51.279 down or whatever. He didn't put that on his bio at all. So 85 00:05:51.360 --> 00:05:55.040 once he got married, people are like, oh, of course that's what 86 00:05:55.160 --> 00:05:58.120 he was holding out for this mature woman who runs his chair, and Everything's 87 00:05:58.120 --> 00:06:01.000 like, no, this is his second wife. And I think it's all 88 00:06:01.079 --> 00:06:04.680 part of branding. And I think, Leo, if he suddenly dates, 89 00:06:04.839 --> 00:06:10.160 you know, forty two year old woman, I think it shifts the ape. 90 00:06:10.279 --> 00:06:13.879 So I think a lot of there's a lot of upside to him being 91 00:06:13.920 --> 00:06:17.040 seen with the nineteen year old Victoria's Secret model, who he may actually not 92 00:06:17.120 --> 00:06:20.160 be dating. I've heard rumors, but I'm not sure if we want to 93 00:06:20.160 --> 00:06:26.040 talk about that. Okay, turned into spoiled milk for those for those rumors. 94 00:06:26.160 --> 00:06:28.560 Yeah, there's a lot of famous men who have a lot of young 95 00:06:28.639 --> 00:06:31.079 models that they're probably not in the same house with. Let's just put it 96 00:06:31.120 --> 00:06:35.399 that way, right. The subtitle of your podcast, because I want to 97 00:06:35.399 --> 00:06:42.000 get into that, is the Hot Girl's Midlife Survival Guide. Now it's I've 98 00:06:42.000 --> 00:06:46.040 always very excited when the hot girl says she's a hot girl. It's very 99 00:06:46.079 --> 00:06:50.199 empowering. It takes back what most people are saying about you anyway, and 100 00:06:50.279 --> 00:06:55.000 it lets you control the dialogue. If it's okay, this is the way 101 00:06:55.000 --> 00:06:58.800 you perceive me, I'm gonna tell you how I'm going to be perceived. 102 00:06:59.160 --> 00:07:01.920 And I am cofinite, and I'm hot, and I'm forty and here's how 103 00:07:01.959 --> 00:07:05.360 I'm going to make the moves. And I'm a mom to navigate in the 104 00:07:05.399 --> 00:07:10.279 world. When did you decide to sort of own that? When I was 105 00:07:10.279 --> 00:07:13.040 trying to come up with a subtitle, I guess you know. I mean, 106 00:07:13.600 --> 00:07:15.720 I've just I'll be forty three on Friday, so in two days, 107 00:07:15.759 --> 00:07:19.000 I'll be forty three. Happy birthday. And yeah, I'm Jim and I 108 00:07:19.560 --> 00:07:26.000 and I'm sure that's not a surprised but I've just always been told like people 109 00:07:26.040 --> 00:07:29.519 are just always shocked at my age. Like just for years and years and 110 00:07:29.600 --> 00:07:31.839 years, people have always told me how young I look, and they always 111 00:07:31.879 --> 00:07:33.839 think them a lot younger. And now I have, like I said, 112 00:07:33.879 --> 00:07:36.439 I have a teenage daughter, and so she and I will be out in 113 00:07:36.480 --> 00:07:41.639 public somewhere shopping and we're having a conversation and people will hear her call me 114 00:07:41.759 --> 00:07:46.319 mom and bl like they thought we were sisters. And so it wasn't like 115 00:07:46.360 --> 00:07:48.319 really an intentional thing, but I was like, h maybe, like I'm 116 00:07:48.399 --> 00:07:55.040 onto something with this whole like looking younger than I am and wanting to help 117 00:07:55.079 --> 00:07:59.319 other women feel good as they get older. So like my whole mission with 118 00:07:59.360 --> 00:08:01.879 this podcast and with you know what I'm what I do for a living is 119 00:08:01.879 --> 00:08:07.560 to help women be the happiest, healthiest, and hottest in their forties and 120 00:08:07.639 --> 00:08:11.160 beyond. So I feel like women get to a certain point where they it's 121 00:08:11.160 --> 00:08:15.120 like they feel like it's too late, and it's really just people in general, 122 00:08:15.160 --> 00:08:18.360 but women especially right, and so I'm like it can actually get better. 123 00:08:18.399 --> 00:08:20.600 Because you mentioned about what I looked like when I was twenty three, 124 00:08:20.600 --> 00:08:24.680 I was not hot. When I was twenty three, I was overweight, 125 00:08:24.120 --> 00:08:28.319 I was not health conscious at all, was like super inflamed. I like, 126 00:08:28.399 --> 00:08:33.000 if I pulled up a photo of myself, you would be shocked. 127 00:08:33.240 --> 00:08:35.720 So it's been It wasn't one of those things where I just was like, 128 00:08:35.960 --> 00:08:41.759 oh, like just effortlessly hot. Like It's taken me a lot of intention, 129 00:08:41.799 --> 00:08:43.720 and I've had a lot of health issues that I've had to overcome as 130 00:08:43.759 --> 00:08:48.279 well through that process. So I just want to help women with all of 131 00:08:48.320 --> 00:08:54.919 the experiences I've had. So when did you shift more change from a woman 132 00:08:56.240 --> 00:09:01.639 who needed help to a woman who was providing the help. Was there like 133 00:09:01.679 --> 00:09:03.360 a fork in the road where you flip the cards enough to think like, 134 00:09:03.759 --> 00:09:07.639 Okay, I have a handle on this, and I've gone far enough down 135 00:09:07.720 --> 00:09:11.000 this journey that I think I can influence and have a voice in this conversation. 136 00:09:11.600 --> 00:09:16.360 I mean, it's been ongoing, but I would say, really for 137 00:09:16.399 --> 00:09:20.879 me, in the last probably six to eight months, you know, we 138 00:09:20.639 --> 00:09:24.519 one of my first episodes I did was the three like shifts that I made 139 00:09:24.519 --> 00:09:26.600 in my health over the last year. And one of those big things for 140 00:09:26.639 --> 00:09:30.840 me as I lost twenty five pounds. I had been really sick for about 141 00:09:30.879 --> 00:09:33.519 three or four years. I had mold exposure, which caused me to gain 142 00:09:33.559 --> 00:09:35.799 a lot of weight, and I finally got that weight off. You know, 143 00:09:35.879 --> 00:09:39.799 like I didn't feel good about myself this time last year. I'll just 144 00:09:39.840 --> 00:09:43.279 say that, like, I was definitely struggling. It was affecting how I 145 00:09:43.320 --> 00:09:46.720 was showing up. It was affecting my business. And that's why it's so 146 00:09:46.799 --> 00:09:50.600 important. That's why I really think it's so important, because when you don't 147 00:09:50.639 --> 00:09:54.240 feel confident, it affects how you show up and how you can impact others 148 00:09:54.240 --> 00:09:58.720 and impact the world. So I saw my business suffer as a result of, 149 00:10:00.080 --> 00:10:01.919 you know, low self esteem. So there was that I lost weight, 150 00:10:03.200 --> 00:10:05.960 I got some things shifted and fixed with my health, and we moved 151 00:10:05.960 --> 00:10:09.240 to Florida. I was living in Colorado, which was beautiful, but it 152 00:10:09.320 --> 00:10:13.000 was cold for I don't know, like nine ten months out of the year, 153 00:10:13.360 --> 00:10:16.960 we had snow in the you know. At the Namay last year, 154 00:10:16.960 --> 00:10:18.799 my daughter graduated in a blizzard, and I just said, I can't do 155 00:10:18.840 --> 00:10:22.360 this anymore. I moved to Florida, and I just feel so good in 156 00:10:22.399 --> 00:10:24.720 the sunshine, like it's just healing my body. But you also can't hide 157 00:10:24.720 --> 00:10:28.360 behind the clothes anymore. You have to be out there, you're wearing less. 158 00:10:28.440 --> 00:10:31.279 You have to end. As I said, your husband is on this 159 00:10:31.320 --> 00:10:37.360 podcast, he's very fit. Yes, during that time, did that motivate 160 00:10:37.360 --> 00:10:41.440 you or that or did that put you into like a darker hole because you 161 00:10:41.440 --> 00:10:45.039 were struggling with your health and you're struggling with your body. How does that 162 00:10:45.080 --> 00:10:48.320 work? Because normally it's the man who's kind of it's definitely a motivator because 163 00:10:48.320 --> 00:10:54.679 he's always been fit and he's always been just into fitness, like, he's 164 00:10:54.720 --> 00:10:58.039 always looked good. He personally, I think he looks better now than he 165 00:10:58.120 --> 00:11:01.480 ever has at forty five years old. But yeah, I mean it definitely 166 00:11:01.559 --> 00:11:05.279 made me self conscious. I mean, first of all, I'm secure in 167 00:11:05.279 --> 00:11:07.679 my relationship. Ain't no bitch coming along and stealing my husband. I'll just 168 00:11:07.720 --> 00:11:13.120 say that bitchy bitches. But but I want to look good. I want 169 00:11:13.120 --> 00:11:16.320 to look good for him, but you know I want to look good for 170 00:11:16.360 --> 00:11:20.120 me too, So yeah, I mean it definitely there. It definitely has 171 00:11:20.159 --> 00:11:24.919 made me feel self conscious over the years because he's always been more into the 172 00:11:24.960 --> 00:11:30.840 fitness arena than I have. I wrote a line twenty years ago. I 173 00:11:30.879 --> 00:11:33.200 wrote this line. I wrote it in a play that I did, but 174 00:11:33.279 --> 00:11:35.519 I looked back and I stand by it, and I said that a woman 175 00:11:35.720 --> 00:11:39.840 finds her finds her way through her teens, finds her body in her twenties, 176 00:11:39.879 --> 00:11:43.960 finds her face in her thirties, and finds herself in her forties. 177 00:11:43.759 --> 00:11:48.799 When did you feel you found yourself? Was that after becoming a mom? 178 00:11:48.960 --> 00:11:52.840 Was that after losing Like was there a moment, like a lightbulb moment where 179 00:11:52.879 --> 00:11:56.440 you because you know you and your husband both have shared your fairly publicly, 180 00:11:56.440 --> 00:12:01.080 your sort of rags to Rich's story, what was the light bulb that went 181 00:12:01.120 --> 00:12:05.720 on for you that had been like, I can do whatever I want to 182 00:12:05.759 --> 00:12:09.559 do, how I want to do it. I think it would be really 183 00:12:09.600 --> 00:12:16.000 hard to define it into just one single moment. It's been a journey with 184 00:12:16.039 --> 00:12:20.200 lots of ups and downs and bumps, and it's not necessarily been linear. 185 00:12:20.639 --> 00:12:24.039 Was there a lowest low though? Like, can you pinpoint that is like 186 00:12:24.120 --> 00:12:28.200 we have got to make some changes and fuck this because that's where the people 187 00:12:28.200 --> 00:12:31.279 are in the dating world where I tell people all the time you talk about 188 00:12:31.279 --> 00:12:35.039 moving from Colorado. I know you moved to Colorado. I know you've moved 189 00:12:35.039 --> 00:12:39.519 a bunch of times where I say that if you are in a funk and 190 00:12:39.559 --> 00:12:41.559 you really need to shake up your snow globe, get the fuck out, 191 00:12:41.720 --> 00:12:46.600 go somewhere else, change your scenery, change your perspective, probably change your 192 00:12:46.600 --> 00:12:52.080 outcome. Was there a low point where you guys or you on your own 193 00:12:52.120 --> 00:12:56.039 were just like, I'm not doing fifty years like this. Yeah, I 194 00:12:56.080 --> 00:13:00.759 mean there's been There's been several. I would say that the the big shift 195 00:13:00.840 --> 00:13:05.639 for us started about sixteen years ago when I started my first business, and 196 00:13:05.679 --> 00:13:09.039 that was I had a three year old, I was pregnant with my second 197 00:13:09.080 --> 00:13:13.159 child. I didn't want to just basically work to pay for daycare, and 198 00:13:13.399 --> 00:13:16.080 I knew I had to do something. So I started my first like home 199 00:13:16.440 --> 00:13:20.679 business at the time, and that was when I first made that decision like 200 00:13:20.879 --> 00:13:24.960 I'm going to make a shift. And so it initially started as like a 201 00:13:24.240 --> 00:13:28.360 survival like I need to be able to survive, and it shifted me into 202 00:13:28.399 --> 00:13:39.279 this state of just running after success and deciding I wasn't gonna continue living the 203 00:13:39.279 --> 00:13:43.960 way that I was living. The next shift for me was in twenty ten 204 00:13:43.039 --> 00:13:46.360 when my son was diagnosed with autism and we just weren't really given any help 205 00:13:46.399 --> 00:13:50.519 from the medical world. Simultaneously, I'm dealing with my own health challenges. 206 00:13:52.000 --> 00:13:56.240 And you know when you go to someone that is the expert and they basically 207 00:13:56.279 --> 00:14:00.399 tell you good luck. You know, I had a pity party for myself 208 00:14:00.399 --> 00:14:03.000 for a couple of months, you know, like I had to like process 209 00:14:03.120 --> 00:14:07.000 everything, and then I was like, fuck this, I can I say 210 00:14:07.000 --> 00:14:09.799 that on par Okay, I'm going to take matters into my own hands. 211 00:14:11.039 --> 00:14:16.879 And so you know, my son is fifteen and he's doing great. But 212 00:14:16.960 --> 00:14:20.600 it was because I took that power into my hands, and honestly, that 213 00:14:20.720 --> 00:14:28.519 was probably the thing that really changed my health and just kind of got me 214 00:14:28.519 --> 00:14:30.879 to where I am now. Okay, So I will say this, because 215 00:14:30.919 --> 00:14:35.039 of the changes that we made because of our son, with our lifestyle and 216 00:14:35.080 --> 00:14:37.600 our diet and our health, I truly believe that because of that, my 217 00:14:37.679 --> 00:14:43.000 husband and I have aged substantially better than our peers. Like it was that 218 00:14:43.000 --> 00:14:48.559 that that rock bottom thing that was like awful for us that forced us to 219 00:14:48.600 --> 00:14:54.679 make those changes that now here we are thirteen years later, and I'm actually 220 00:14:54.720 --> 00:14:58.399 thankful that that happened, because if it hadn't, I would I would probably 221 00:14:58.399 --> 00:15:01.279 be sitting here in the cha I wouldn't be sitting in this chair across from 222 00:15:01.320 --> 00:15:05.279 you, but if I was, I would probably be fifty pounds heavier, 223 00:15:05.840 --> 00:15:09.600 dealing with all kinds of chronic health issues, not feeling good about myself, 224 00:15:09.759 --> 00:15:13.039 right, you know what I mean? Good? And I'm glad you're sitting 225 00:15:13.080 --> 00:15:16.000 in this chair. We have to pay for fresh milk around here. We 226 00:15:16.039 --> 00:15:18.960 are with a host of spoiled milk. She's an influencer and a whole lot 227 00:15:18.960 --> 00:15:20.519 of other things. Broke rash. We are going to get into a lot 228 00:15:20.559 --> 00:15:24.159 of that because I have a bunch of questions. But I got to take 229 00:15:24.159 --> 00:15:35.879 a break right after this and we are back. Being an influencer means that 230 00:15:35.960 --> 00:15:39.639 you are setting yourself up for a whole lot of haters. Did you instantly 231 00:15:41.600 --> 00:15:45.480 learn to tune that out or is it still to this day? You're like, 232 00:15:46.960 --> 00:15:50.519 every time you go on social media, you pay attention to that. 233 00:15:50.639 --> 00:15:54.679 How do you tune out that noise? I mean, yeah, it's the 234 00:15:54.799 --> 00:15:58.720 louder you are, the more people you hear from. Right, So, 235 00:16:00.919 --> 00:16:03.200 I think over the years, I've gotten used to it. You know, 236 00:16:03.240 --> 00:16:07.240 people are going to have opinions. I always that's what you know. I 237 00:16:07.320 --> 00:16:10.879 work with women and I help women make money online. I help influence ers 238 00:16:10.960 --> 00:16:14.759 leverage their platform, and people don't want to put themselves out there because they're 239 00:16:14.759 --> 00:16:17.919 afraid of judgment. And I'm like, why do you care? Like those 240 00:16:17.919 --> 00:16:19.919 people aren't paying your bills. Like people are going to have opinions of you 241 00:16:21.159 --> 00:16:26.519 regardless, no matter what you do. And so it definitely has taken me 242 00:16:26.919 --> 00:16:32.960 time in developing thick skin to just you know, be like okay, whatever 243 00:16:33.000 --> 00:16:34.840 now. Jason, I will say he deals with it a lot better than 244 00:16:34.919 --> 00:16:37.440 I do. I think he really enjoys it, like he gets off on 245 00:16:37.519 --> 00:16:42.360 it. I love it as long as you're listening. Yeah, yeah, 246 00:16:42.360 --> 00:16:48.240 but I definitely see how it can shut people down who aren't maybe strong enough 247 00:16:48.279 --> 00:16:51.320 to handle it. Well. You know, when you set some goals and 248 00:16:51.399 --> 00:16:53.759 you achieve some of them, I think it's positive to share them. I 249 00:16:53.799 --> 00:16:59.600 talked a little bit on that podcast with Jason about this, and as you 250 00:16:59.639 --> 00:17:04.799 said, and most people are just trying to get through the hour, much 251 00:17:04.880 --> 00:17:07.400 less the day, and especially if you are a parent, which I can 252 00:17:08.079 --> 00:17:11.440 I can understand from a distance, not up close. It is a shit 253 00:17:11.640 --> 00:17:15.920 storm trying to survive every single day as a parent, which is why I 254 00:17:15.920 --> 00:17:19.079 am not one seems awful, um, but when you were in a place 255 00:17:19.160 --> 00:17:22.200 like this, a lovely part of the world. You are in Palm Beach 256 00:17:22.240 --> 00:17:26.119 and it is beautiful. It does you have a choice to look at these 257 00:17:26.680 --> 00:17:30.680 twenty thirty forty million dollar homes and look at them with envy or look at 258 00:17:30.759 --> 00:17:37.680 them with motivation. And I get that people are most people are. You 259 00:17:37.680 --> 00:17:40.720 can barely, you know, get through the week and pay your bills and 260 00:17:40.720 --> 00:17:42.599 cover that. It's really hard to see that as an option. But if 261 00:17:42.640 --> 00:17:48.119 you have an incremental goal that substantially moves you out of your place in life 262 00:17:48.200 --> 00:17:51.440 or your comfort zone and sort of shoot for that, that was what he 263 00:17:51.759 --> 00:17:55.440 said. Is the biggest mistake that people make, at least when it comes 264 00:17:55.440 --> 00:17:57.720 to money, is they don't they don't make goals big enough. How do 265 00:17:57.759 --> 00:18:00.839 you go from a day of just like, listen, I'm just trying to 266 00:18:00.839 --> 00:18:04.160 survive. I'm just trying to get some answers here too. Is there a 267 00:18:04.160 --> 00:18:10.319 path for me to have a second home or a first home, or a 268 00:18:10.400 --> 00:18:14.839 boat, or move or private school or any of these things? How do 269 00:18:14.920 --> 00:18:22.000 you sort of harness the negativeness and still point your arrow in a better direction. 270 00:18:22.880 --> 00:18:27.000 Mindset. I mean I have. Here's the thing, I have a 271 00:18:27.039 --> 00:18:33.279 really hard time dealing with people who make excuses because we're all dealing with shit, 272 00:18:33.519 --> 00:18:37.920 all the things that you just talked about. Everyone has, no matter 273 00:18:37.960 --> 00:18:41.160 what walk of life you come from, everyone's dealing with something, right. 274 00:18:41.200 --> 00:18:45.759 It's up to you how you choose to deal with it right. And I 275 00:18:47.119 --> 00:18:51.839 came from nothing and I've made something out of myself because I chose to. 276 00:18:52.000 --> 00:18:56.599 I wasn't lucky, I wasn't privileged, No one gave me anything. Like 277 00:18:56.640 --> 00:19:00.480 I've worked my ass off for everything that I have, every opportunity, like 278 00:19:00.599 --> 00:19:04.400 if it comes to me, awesome, or I'll chase it down if I 279 00:19:04.440 --> 00:19:07.680 have to, you know. So it really boils down to mindset, like 280 00:19:07.680 --> 00:19:11.119 I'm just coming off of. I was sick for a few days and that 281 00:19:11.240 --> 00:19:17.400 was really triggering for me after being ill for four years. I actually had 282 00:19:17.400 --> 00:19:21.640 to go to the er because my fever got really high and I got dehydrated. 283 00:19:21.680 --> 00:19:26.279 I had to go get fluids and anyhow. I mean, yeah, 284 00:19:26.319 --> 00:19:29.359 I mean it all comes back to mindset. It's like, Okay, I 285 00:19:29.400 --> 00:19:33.000 have to make a mindset shift, right. You have to make a mindset 286 00:19:33.039 --> 00:19:34.640 shift, and you have to be intentional, and you have to work on 287 00:19:34.680 --> 00:19:38.680 your mindset every day. Every day is not going to be great. But 288 00:19:38.799 --> 00:19:41.799 as long as each day, as long as you don't stew in it, 289 00:19:41.880 --> 00:19:44.519 right, as long as you don't stay there, like if you need to 290 00:19:44.559 --> 00:19:47.039 have a bad day, like I have a bad day, but just don't 291 00:19:47.119 --> 00:19:51.279 let yourself. Don't let yourself stay there. And you mentioned about the homes 292 00:19:51.279 --> 00:19:53.359 here, and it's very interesting that you said that, because I feel like 293 00:19:53.359 --> 00:19:56.440 when we were in Colorado, we got a little complacent because people out there 294 00:19:56.440 --> 00:20:00.720 are just kind of like m into nature and hiking, you want to be 295 00:20:00.799 --> 00:20:07.279 out, yeah, in Colorado. Yeah, It's just it's a different vibe 296 00:20:07.440 --> 00:20:11.119 there, whereas here, like people are motivated, you know, like we've 297 00:20:11.160 --> 00:20:15.599 met a lot of really cool people here and it actually helped us step our 298 00:20:15.640 --> 00:20:19.119 game up and start to dream again. So you can look at those houses 299 00:20:19.119 --> 00:20:23.039 and you can have envy, and you can think negative things about those people, 300 00:20:23.720 --> 00:20:26.680 But the truth is a lot of those people, you know, of 301 00:20:26.680 --> 00:20:30.920 course, some of them are not first generation money, right, but at 302 00:20:30.079 --> 00:20:33.480 somewhere, somewhere along the line, somewhere, and the someone in their family 303 00:20:33.480 --> 00:20:36.960 had to say this stops with me. I'm going to make a change, 304 00:20:37.039 --> 00:20:40.079 and that's what my husband and I are doing. So you can look at 305 00:20:40.079 --> 00:20:44.440 those people and you can be envious, or you can look at them and 306 00:20:44.519 --> 00:20:47.559 you can be inspired. And that's that's what they do for us here. 307 00:20:47.640 --> 00:20:49.880 Like I'm glad we move because now I'm around bigger things and it's giving me 308 00:20:49.960 --> 00:20:55.039 something more to work for. Because you always have to have goals out in 309 00:20:55.039 --> 00:20:57.759 front of you. If you stop, you're just gonna stop. Like if 310 00:20:57.759 --> 00:21:00.599 you stop dreaming and you stop setting goals, you're going to get complacent. 311 00:21:00.720 --> 00:21:07.480 And you have got to get rid of the words why her or why him, 312 00:21:07.480 --> 00:21:11.720 Like you have got to stop looking at other people as envy. You 313 00:21:11.759 --> 00:21:15.599 have to look at the other people as there are possibilities out there. We 314 00:21:15.640 --> 00:21:18.079 will bring this up on the Bachelor and Bachette party show, but there's a 315 00:21:18.079 --> 00:21:22.079 different energy between we. I shot a pilot for VH one about this years 316 00:21:22.119 --> 00:21:26.680 ago. It was called Last Night, and it was about men and women's 317 00:21:26.759 --> 00:21:32.039 bachelorette and bacherette parties, and the men wanted to go to bachelor parties to 318 00:21:32.039 --> 00:21:36.920 do bad things. The women wanted the bride to do bad things because there 319 00:21:37.000 --> 00:21:42.640 was a certain element of jealousy and cattiness that they did not necessarily support her 320 00:21:42.759 --> 00:21:47.160 in this. And when you surround yourself with that negative energies, you should 321 00:21:47.160 --> 00:21:48.559 be like, great, she's getting married. That means it's possible for somebody 322 00:21:48.559 --> 00:21:52.759 to find happiness and love or whatever. That's a good environment to be around. 323 00:21:52.799 --> 00:21:56.440 When you were in a wealthy community like that, you shouldn't drive around 324 00:21:56.440 --> 00:22:00.440 being pissed off at the one percent or the point ooo one percent that is 325 00:22:00.480 --> 00:22:03.160 here. You should be like, there are possibilities for people from all walks 326 00:22:03.160 --> 00:22:07.000 of life who took all paths to get there. When you surround yourself and 327 00:22:07.039 --> 00:22:11.640 you get rid of the envy of people around you, you should want people 328 00:22:11.680 --> 00:22:15.079 to be happy and successful and not look at it. It just means the 329 00:22:15.160 --> 00:22:19.400 odds are better than you thought. That people can make it right. You 330 00:22:19.480 --> 00:22:22.720 have to believe that anything and everything is possible for you, and if you 331 00:22:22.920 --> 00:22:26.960 don't believe that it's possible, then it's not. And you're originally from where 332 00:22:27.519 --> 00:22:32.680 I'm originally from a really small town in Alabama. Okay, so a really 333 00:22:32.720 --> 00:22:37.640 small town in Alabama? Are you? Is there always a point where you're 334 00:22:37.640 --> 00:22:38.599 like, I want to get out of my small town in Alabama, because 335 00:22:38.599 --> 00:22:41.839 most of people in your small town in Alabama are probably still in your small 336 00:22:41.880 --> 00:22:45.240 town in Alabama, just like every town. Eighty percent of people stay in 337 00:22:45.279 --> 00:22:48.799 their hometown regardless of what that is for most of their lives. Some of 338 00:22:48.799 --> 00:22:49.839 that is habits, some of that as laziness, some of his family. 339 00:22:51.039 --> 00:22:55.119 Sometimes it's just a really nice town. I don't know, I grew up 340 00:22:55.119 --> 00:22:56.079 in a really nice town. I don't want any part of it. But 341 00:22:56.240 --> 00:23:00.440 that's me. Were you when did you be? Like? I want to 342 00:23:00.480 --> 00:23:03.920 get beyond my small town in Alabama. I want to get out of Alabama? 343 00:23:03.000 --> 00:23:06.519 Like how did those increments go? As long as I could remember, 344 00:23:06.680 --> 00:23:10.960 I mean, I grew up in poverty, so I remember from a very 345 00:23:10.960 --> 00:23:12.839 young age being like I, why aren't we rich? I don't understand, 346 00:23:12.839 --> 00:23:15.079 Like why do we not have money? Like I see other people on TV 347 00:23:15.160 --> 00:23:18.079 that have money, like I want more? So yeah, I always wanted 348 00:23:18.079 --> 00:23:21.759 to get out. And don't get me wrong, there are great people where 349 00:23:21.799 --> 00:23:26.279 I'm from. And I appreciate my roots because I really especially my grandparents, 350 00:23:26.279 --> 00:23:30.519 like really raised me to have morals and you know, really developed who I 351 00:23:30.559 --> 00:23:36.519 am underneath. But I felt that in Anyone who is from a small town 352 00:23:36.559 --> 00:23:40.839 probably understands this, that there's a very limited thinking, especially when people never 353 00:23:40.920 --> 00:23:45.559 get outside of that area. So I knew I had to I had to 354 00:23:45.559 --> 00:23:48.200 get out, right, you can always go back, but you got to 355 00:23:48.200 --> 00:23:52.000 get out to know whether or not you want to go back. You've got 356 00:23:52.039 --> 00:23:55.279 to leave at some point. I don't care how comfortable you're right, you've 357 00:23:55.319 --> 00:23:57.519 got to go try it. We bring that up on this podcast all the 358 00:23:57.519 --> 00:24:03.759 time that we think if you are in a committed relationship or you or you're 359 00:24:03.799 --> 00:24:07.640 not, you need to move at least seven hundred miles every seven years, 360 00:24:07.640 --> 00:24:11.680 yep, like a real distance, not just from here to there, not 361 00:24:11.839 --> 00:24:15.960 two towns over, like really experience what it's like to live in a different 362 00:24:17.079 --> 00:24:19.039 part of the country, even even different part of the world. You will 363 00:24:19.039 --> 00:24:22.519 discover more things about yourself than you ever will about the new town that you're 364 00:24:22.519 --> 00:24:26.720 in or the town that you left behind. And I think people don't do 365 00:24:26.759 --> 00:24:30.720 that, and I'm always you know, we run into a lot of people 366 00:24:30.720 --> 00:24:34.279 who are frustrated in their love, dating, relationship environment. They're going to 367 00:24:34.319 --> 00:24:38.279 the same bar they went to in high school. You know, they're recycling 368 00:24:38.279 --> 00:24:42.160 the boyfriend from junior year. They're hoping the guy down the street who they 369 00:24:42.200 --> 00:24:45.759 had a crush on him got divorced, Like there has to be a different 370 00:24:45.759 --> 00:24:49.319 sandbox to kick around in, you know, I know those people. Actually, 371 00:24:51.200 --> 00:24:53.839 do you feel when you're in communication with them? Do you feel envy 372 00:24:55.000 --> 00:24:57.480 from them? Do you feel like you go brook like what are you? 373 00:24:57.559 --> 00:25:02.960 What are you getting back? I just you know, like my best friend 374 00:25:03.000 --> 00:25:07.119 growing up, that's her kind of situation. Like she's my age, she's 375 00:25:07.240 --> 00:25:11.519 divorced, she's doing the whole dating app thing, still in the same you 376 00:25:11.559 --> 00:25:15.119 know, like small town, and I I just feel bad for her, 377 00:25:15.200 --> 00:25:17.680 Like, you know, she's not like envious. She's always been supportive of 378 00:25:17.720 --> 00:25:22.279 me. But I just I just like, wow, like I'm just I'm 379 00:25:22.359 --> 00:25:27.720 grateful that I'm not in that situation. Slight pivot here, and not to 380 00:25:27.720 --> 00:25:30.599 sound like you're gay, best friend, but you have fantastic hair, and 381 00:25:30.640 --> 00:25:33.839 I know you take great pride in that. Somebody told me this a couple 382 00:25:33.880 --> 00:25:37.319 of months ago, and she was actually a doctor. She said, the 383 00:25:37.440 --> 00:25:44.000 thing that people underestimate about what is going to help them look youthful and vibrant 384 00:25:44.359 --> 00:25:47.640 is not the color of their hair. They spend too much time worrying about 385 00:25:47.640 --> 00:25:51.400 gray's. It's the health of their hair. And they say a healthy hair 386 00:25:51.759 --> 00:25:56.759 frames the face and sets up everything for youthfulness. You believe in that, 387 00:25:56.000 --> 00:25:59.880 And how do we get healthier hair? Oh yeah, I mean you have 388 00:26:00.079 --> 00:26:03.799 wrong hairstyle and it can age you twenty years for sure. One of the 389 00:26:03.880 --> 00:26:07.160 things that people don't know women, especially is that our hair actually ages faster 390 00:26:07.240 --> 00:26:12.400 than our skin. We're very busy slathering anti aging skincare products all over our 391 00:26:12.400 --> 00:26:17.680 face and our neck and the rest of our body, but we're completely neglecting 392 00:26:17.720 --> 00:26:19.640 our hair and our scalp. And your hair health starts with your scalp. 393 00:26:19.680 --> 00:26:25.279 So if you support your scalp and you support a scalp health, then you're 394 00:26:25.319 --> 00:26:27.200 going to have healthy hair growth. And then of course a lot of that 395 00:26:27.240 --> 00:26:30.039 has to do with what you're putting into your body as well, like what 396 00:26:30.160 --> 00:26:33.319 is your lifestyle, Like what are you eating and you running through the drive 397 00:26:33.359 --> 00:26:36.519 through at McDonald's or you know, And if you have that healthy glow, 398 00:26:36.559 --> 00:26:40.319 you're going to make yourself attractive and more noticeable and just look like you give 399 00:26:40.359 --> 00:26:44.880 a shit. And people worry way too much about the color the grays and 400 00:26:45.039 --> 00:26:48.359 don't worry about the rest of the stuff. I don't care personally about my 401 00:26:48.400 --> 00:26:52.240 hair, but I have hair. It's easier for me to say, you 402 00:26:52.240 --> 00:26:56.799 know, the balding men out there like to do something, you know, 403 00:26:56.079 --> 00:27:00.839 work on it, book healthier, whatever. All right, I'm gonna let 404 00:27:00.839 --> 00:27:03.720 you plug all your stuff and the podcast in a second. But this is 405 00:27:03.720 --> 00:27:06.119 your first time on the show. You have to think back to your many 406 00:27:06.119 --> 00:27:10.640 many years, to your swinging single days. We play something called worst date 407 00:27:11.039 --> 00:27:14.880 or first date, So you have to either give us the absolute worst date 408 00:27:14.920 --> 00:27:18.200 you ever went on your life or the greatest first date you ever went on 409 00:27:18.240 --> 00:27:23.279 in your life. Your choice. Oh my gosh. So here's the thing 410 00:27:23.359 --> 00:27:26.480 you said, you're swinging twenties. I met Jason when I was nineteen. 411 00:27:26.680 --> 00:27:32.519 Okay, Well, in your Alabama swinging teen days, I dated a few 412 00:27:32.519 --> 00:27:34.680 losers. I'll just say that. Well, what was your first date with 413 00:27:34.680 --> 00:27:37.440 your husband at nineteen? Do you remember? Is it going down to the 414 00:27:38.000 --> 00:27:41.640 well? I'll tell you the story of how we met. How about that 415 00:27:41.799 --> 00:27:44.960 deal? Okay? So we met in English class. We both enrolled in 416 00:27:45.200 --> 00:27:49.599 our local community college, and we were in English one oh one and we 417 00:27:49.720 --> 00:27:52.079 kind of had ran in some of the same circles. We never met each 418 00:27:52.079 --> 00:27:56.680 other. Well, he walked in and I was immediately enamored, like who 419 00:27:56.759 --> 00:28:00.720 was this guy? Was attracted to his energy and so it had been a 420 00:28:00.759 --> 00:28:03.359 few weeks and then finally we go to a computer lab. Okay, so 421 00:28:03.400 --> 00:28:06.799 this is dating it a little bit. So this is before we carried like 422 00:28:06.920 --> 00:28:08.359 computers in our hand, right, so you had to go to the computer 423 00:28:08.480 --> 00:28:12.519 lab. You had to go to the computer lab for whatever the project was. 424 00:28:12.720 --> 00:28:17.160 And he comes in late, the last seat available sitting next to me 425 00:28:17.599 --> 00:28:21.759 at the computer lab, and so I'm over there feverishly typing because I've always 426 00:28:21.759 --> 00:28:25.960 been a social media girl, even like from the very beginning. And he's 427 00:28:26.000 --> 00:28:27.000 like, so what are you What are you doing over there? And I'm 428 00:28:27.000 --> 00:28:30.319 like, I'm just talking to my friend in New York. And keep in 429 00:28:30.400 --> 00:28:32.920 mind we're in Alabama, so I don't, you know, have a network 430 00:28:32.960 --> 00:28:34.200 at this point, but like, oh, you're talking to someone in New 431 00:28:34.240 --> 00:28:37.680 York and like New York, Like now, that's like no big deal. 432 00:28:37.720 --> 00:28:40.920 But in the year two thousand, we had just survived y two k Okay, 433 00:28:40.920 --> 00:28:44.160 this is where we're at. And he was like, what is that 434 00:28:44.279 --> 00:28:47.440 and I was like, oh, it's AOL instant Messenger, and he says, 435 00:28:48.799 --> 00:28:52.680 I know, right, and he's I probably downloaded it illegally on the 436 00:28:52.680 --> 00:28:55.359 school computer too. Now that I think about it, I'm sure it wasn't 437 00:28:55.400 --> 00:29:00.680 on there, but or installed it. But he says, hey, I 438 00:29:00.799 --> 00:29:04.720 just got a computer for Christmas, actually, and would you mind coming over 439 00:29:04.799 --> 00:29:10.839 to my place after class and showing me how to install this program. So 440 00:29:10.920 --> 00:29:12.440 of course I'm like, well, yeah, like, because I totally had 441 00:29:12.480 --> 00:29:15.720 the hots for this guy. So that was really kind of our first date. 442 00:29:17.079 --> 00:29:21.240 I had a tutoring session afterwards because I sucked at math and my tutor 443 00:29:21.319 --> 00:29:22.720 happened to live in the same neighborhood as him, So I was like, 444 00:29:22.759 --> 00:29:26.480 after my math session, which I totally didn't pay attention to you at all, 445 00:29:26.200 --> 00:29:29.480 I'm like, I'll swing by and I'll show you how to install this 446 00:29:30.039 --> 00:29:33.279 program. And so I go over to his house and I show him how 447 00:29:33.319 --> 00:29:36.000 to install the program, and we hung out and talked for a while, 448 00:29:36.119 --> 00:29:40.440 and I remember I was so angry he didn't not so angry, Okay, 449 00:29:40.519 --> 00:29:44.279 I was disappointed that he didn't try to kiss me, like the first time 450 00:29:44.319 --> 00:29:45.680 that I went over to his place. He's like, all right, see 451 00:29:45.680 --> 00:29:48.920 you later and shut the door. And I was like, what come to 452 00:29:48.920 --> 00:29:52.680 find out he had a girlfriend he had to break up with. But years 453 00:29:52.799 --> 00:29:56.599 later I found out. I mean it was probably like ten or more years 454 00:29:56.720 --> 00:29:59.759 later. All of a sudden, we were talking to someone and he tells 455 00:29:59.799 --> 00:30:06.960 them that he actually ran home after class and he deleted AOL and some messenger 456 00:30:07.079 --> 00:30:10.799 off of his computer. So he played he acted like, you know, 457 00:30:10.799 --> 00:30:14.160 played dumb. He acted like he didn't know what AOL and messenger was so 458 00:30:14.160 --> 00:30:17.920 he could get me to come back to there you go, AOL instant messenger 459 00:30:17.960 --> 00:30:19.640 love and there you go. Dumped the girl, kiss the girl. That's 460 00:30:19.640 --> 00:30:23.319 a good lesson. Good, that's a good story. He had integrity. 461 00:30:23.400 --> 00:30:27.599 But I mean, I can't remember like a worst day. The worst day 462 00:30:27.640 --> 00:30:32.279 I ever had with Jason was our second wedding anniversary when we went to Macaroni 463 00:30:32.359 --> 00:30:36.519 Grill and his card declined. Yeah, he told the same story. Wow, 464 00:30:37.559 --> 00:30:40.000 that was good. My first time in Alabama. And this is going 465 00:30:40.039 --> 00:30:41.440 back to the phone book days. There were a phone book I had. 466 00:30:41.519 --> 00:30:45.559 I was looking for restaurants and I saw under Italian restaurants and I just saw 467 00:30:45.680 --> 00:30:48.920 Dominoes. And I was like, I'm not in New York anymore. No, 468 00:30:49.000 --> 00:30:52.119 But I just never the respect I got when I sent us from New 469 00:30:52.200 --> 00:30:53.039 York. Somebody goes, either go where you're from. I go to New 470 00:30:53.119 --> 00:30:55.960 York where New York City? And they go, oh, do you have 471 00:30:55.960 --> 00:30:59.240 sex with supermodels? And I'm like, well, no, there's like twelve 472 00:30:59.240 --> 00:31:02.319 million people there, maybe four have sex with supermodels. Leo is one of 473 00:31:02.359 --> 00:31:04.720 them. I was not one of them. That was my Alabama are you 474 00:31:04.759 --> 00:31:07.960 know, like for me, like, my impression of New York City was 475 00:31:08.000 --> 00:31:14.759 like watching Friends in the nineties. Growing up as a tea a foreigners learn 476 00:31:14.799 --> 00:31:18.559 English. They watch Friends at six people talk at the same time. That's 477 00:31:18.599 --> 00:31:21.880 not a good impression of New York because nobody affords that size apartment at that 478 00:31:21.920 --> 00:31:26.160 age. So anyway, all right, plug your plug your world to the 479 00:31:26.200 --> 00:31:30.519 world, plug my world. Yeah. So check out my podcast Spoil Milk. 480 00:31:30.720 --> 00:31:33.960 It's the Hot Girls Midlife Survival Guide. It's really the health and beauty 481 00:31:34.000 --> 00:31:37.640 podcast for women over forties. So if you're into health and beauty or you 482 00:31:37.759 --> 00:31:41.640 just really you want to make some improvements in your life and you don't really 483 00:31:41.680 --> 00:31:45.160 know where to start, that's really the place. It's going to be with 484 00:31:45.200 --> 00:31:48.400 your health, and it's going to be with your beauty. 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