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Hey, hey, hey, hey, I'm bad with something for you to

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think about. I feel good.
I just finished doing a long walk.

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I wanted to sit down and do
an episode. Many of you who are

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listening to my voice right now are
in relationships you don't want to be in,

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you shouldn't be in. Many of
you are in relationships where you got

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warnings from people. You got warnings
from friends, family, other people.

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You saw your own red flags and
signs, but you refused to take heed.

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You absolutely refused to take heed.
Now you find yourself in an unhealthy

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and unhappy situation. So many people
go through life refusing to acknowledge the truth.

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You see the truth, but because
of your mindset, because of who

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you are as an individual and the
things that you have not resolved within you,

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you are blind. You cannot see
the truth. You do not see

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reality as it really is. You
see your version of it, but it's

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not necessarily the truth. People try
to warn you, you didn't want to

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hear it. Some of you got
so angry you even severed the tie to

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the relationship. Some of you walked
away from family and friends because of your

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significant other. Now you're in a
bad situation. Some of you totally cut

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the tides and didn't want anything else
to do with your family or your friends.

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And that was great for your significant
other. They wanted to ostracize you

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anyway, but you helped him or
her to do it. You allowed yourself

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to be in that situation, and
then you found yourself totally totally alone and

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afraid, sad, unhappy because you
allowed yourself to be pulled away from your

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family members because you got upset because
they tried to warn you about your significant

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other. Unfortunately, many people have
died in their relationships because they did not

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take heed to the red flags.
They did not take heed to the wounds

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that was right before them. They
failed to take heed, and because of

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it, they end up losing their
lives. I had someone to email me

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one time about their situation, and
they were upset because I always talk about

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if you stayed, if you're afraid
to go, you stayed too long.

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If you're afraid to stay, you
stayed too long. So they were a

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little upset because they told me that
they got out. They walked away.

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But that's great, But the thing
is if when you walked away, this

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was this was a female that emailed
me when you walked away, you still

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had all types of problems from that
guy. That guy was stalking you.

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That guy was still causing you all
types of problems. So you still stay

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too loan. You stayed too long. Anytime you walk away and you're still

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having problems from that individual, you
stay too long. So don't come at

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me with an attitude, because I'm
telling you the truth. Some people do

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get out and they still lose their
lives because they had stayed too long.

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I will stand on that. I
mean, come on, it's obvious.

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That's why I tell people love yourself
enough to walk away. Too many people

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are trying to figure out their significant
others when you need to be understanding who

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you are dealing with, who you
are dealing with, who you've allowed yourself

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to become, deal with your unresolved
issues, and love yourself so you can

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love yourself enough to walk away.
People are seeking love in all the wrong

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ways from all the wrong people,
and you get into these relationships. No

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one can tell you anything because you
know every thing. When you know nothing,

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you don't want to listen because you
got it, You got it together.

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You know that's mister Wright. You
know she's missus, right, You

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know nothing. You don't even know
yourself. You don't even love yourself.

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That's why you make all of the
bad choices and decisions. That's why you

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allow and accepted things you allow and
accept in your life, in many of

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you, in the lives of your
children, because you bring that garbage around

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them. Children have lost their lives
because of the decisions you made, or

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because of decisions parents made. Children
have lost their lives in relationships that their

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parents or parents it was a part
of because people failed to and heed to

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the red flags and signs or the
warnings from others. People failed to to

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take notice, to acknowledge, take
heed. Sometimes people they are so blind,

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but they won't even accept the fact
that they're blind. They just won't

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because they want what they want.
They desire who they desire. They have

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these starts and these feelings, and
that's all they're chasing after because they want

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that person totally totally disregarding all the
red flags and signs. When you do

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not heed to the warnings, you
suffer the consequences. You will feel the

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effects in your life. So many
people already are dealing with their own issues

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because they have unresolved issues inside of
them. So they're already dealing with their

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own situations, their own drama,
their own problems. Then they get into

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relationship with someone who's bringing even more. People try to warn you or you

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saw the red flags. You saw
them, but you refuse to take heed,

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you refuse to acknowledge them, because
you want it who you want it,

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And that's that you didn't care about
anything else. You didn't care what

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people was trying to tell you.
You didn't care about what you saw because

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you want it who you wanted,
And unfortunately it has really caused people many,

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many issues. You find yourself very
unhappy in an unhappy situation. Many

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people, many people settle for this
sin what's before them, but they still

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remain where they are. You were
warned, you saw the red flags,

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you saw the signs. People tried
to tell you. You were warned,

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but you chose to ignore the warning. And now you're in a bad situation.

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Some of you are angry at your
parents, angry at your friends because

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they tried to tell you. Now
you're looking like a deer in a headlight,

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because you know you're in a volatile
situation. You're in a very unhappy

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situation. Now you feel like you
don't have anyone you can go to because

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you pushed everyone away. I don't
care what your situation is. There is

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always a positive way out, but
you cannot see it up. You don't

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have that mindset. Some people believe
that what they're in that's as good as

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it get. But that's a lie. And I know anyone who feels like

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that don't love his or herself.
The only way you're gonna have better in

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your life, you have to want
better. You cannot look at your significant

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other to find better. You have
to want better for yourself. You have

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to make it happen for yourself in
your life. I've always told you people

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come to your into your life to
compliment you c O M P L E

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M E n T. They come
to enhance your life. But well,

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let me let me retract that,
let me rephrase it. They should come

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into your life to enhance your life. But the terrible truth is most people

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are choosing individuals who are doing just
the opposite. You're choosing individuals who are

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bringing drama and chaos, toxicity into
your life, nothing but toxicity. Those

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are the individuals many of you are
choosing, or you know people who have

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chosen those types of people. That
alone tells you something about yourself. If

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you're in a toxic relationship, if
you're in an unhappy relationship, that individual

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is not one who is enhancing your
life. So I want you to think

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about that. If they're not complimenting
you, enhancing your life, making things

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better, better, you've chosen wrong. That's what I believe. I believe

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significant others should make your life brighter, better because they're bringing just as good

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to the relationship as you are.
Anything less, you're failing yourself. But

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so many people are because they get
into relationships with people who have nothing to

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bring to the table. They get
into relationships with people who are controlling everything.

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If from the start, if your
eyes are not able to see the

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truth, you will find yourself in
a relationship that you're very unhappy with.

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Too many people settle because they rather
have some person than no one at all.

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That's a terrible mindset. That's an
unhealthy mindset. That's a mindset that

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has not grow or matured into an
individual whom understand self and love self and

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understand what love is. You can't
understand what love is when you don't love

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yourself, You just cannot. I
don't care how much you think you can.

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You cannot understand love when you don't
love yourself. You just can't.

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But people struggle every day in their
relationships, trying to work it out,

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trying to work it out with someone
who has the same mindset as you.

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How are you going to do that? They have unresolved You have unresolved chaos,

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drama, turbulence all of the time. But you keep struggling, trying

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to make it work. You trying
to make something work that's not workable.

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Some of you even believe that you
don't deserve better. When you're done wrong

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by your significant other, you take
the blame for it, You take the

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fall. You're the scapegoat. You
believe you caused it. But that is

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because of the insecurities and the unresolved
inside of an individual who thinks like that.

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And I will tell you significant others
who have unhealthy mindsets, they will

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feed off of it. They will
feed off of it. I've always told

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you you're the victim, or the
victimizer, the prayer, the predator,

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however you want to characterize it.
If you have not dealt with who you

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are as an individual, know yourself, love yourself, have let go of

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all of the things that made you
have that negative mindset and grew immatured into

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a better person. If you have
not gotten to that point, I'm telling

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you you will be blind. You
will not be able to see the truth

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right in your face. You will
find yourself in bass situations with individuals you

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should not have been with. But
there's no one on earth who cannot As

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long as you have breath in your
body make your situation better. You can

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make your situation better. You have
to want to. You have to make

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in your mind. There are very
tough decisions, but they're really not tough.

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But okay, we can say they're
tough for you to walk away from

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an abusive relationship. For some people, it's still tough to walk away because

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of insecurities within selfs. So if
it's tough for you to walk away,

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is it worth you stand? You
have to think about those things, because

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you will talk yourself into remaining where
you know you shouldn't be. You will

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talk yourself into it stand in an
unhealthy relationship. So you have to make

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up your mind for yourself that you
want better. Then make a decision on

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how to obtain that. Your significant
other is not going to give it to

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you. You have to want it
for yourself. And as I said,

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if they're not making things in your
life better, they're taking from you.

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They're making the situation worse. Come
on, that's not the one I'm telling

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you. That's not the one.
People shouldn't struggle all the time and their

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relationships. Yeah, you're gonna have
some issues that come up because you're two

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different people. But when you're grown, mature people who know who they are

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as individuals and love self, things
are gonna be different. Especially when Jesus,

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when God the Father is the center. Now I have to put it

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in there because if you've listened to
me, you know my faith. So

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I believe everything is Jesus first,
Jesus the Son, God the Father first.

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But I know a lot of people
don't believe. And I'm not knocking

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you for not believing. That's on
you. That's on you. I just

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know what he's done from my life. I know how he's opened my eyes.

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I know how he's changed my life
because I see things that oh I

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did not see before, clearly,
clearly, clearly. But that's me.

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You have to choose for yourself like
you choose everything else for yourself. So

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even if, even if you go
through life and you never choose God at

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least, choose yourself at least.
And what I mean by choose yourself is

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want to be the best you can
be, want to have a better mindset,

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a better heart. So many people
just go through life the very same,

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expecting a change. It's not gonna
happen. If you go through life

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the very same, you get the
very same. Shenanigan's trouble, problems on

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top of problems, constantly bickering,
bickering and fighting, constantly, drama,

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chaos, unrest, because that's what
people are opening themselves up to, that's

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what they're settling for, because they
just want to be with who therewith see

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the red flags and signs, have
been warned many times, but refuse to

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take heed. We only have one
life to live, and so many choose

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to live it miserably, a free
will, miserably, just unhappy, facing

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happiness. It's never ever gonna get
better when you're not working on getting better.

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Sometimes you just have to walk away. Sometimes walking away it's the best

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thing you could have ever done for
yourself. That's why I'm always telling people,

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have your own get your own.
You don't have to depend on nobody

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else. You don't have to depend
on their money, their shelter, their

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food, them clothing you when you
have your own. But so many people

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are lazy. They don't want to
work. All they want to do is

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gain the benefits of other people.
They want to gain the benefits of someone

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else. Hard label. Sometimes that
comes with a price. Oh you want

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my money, then I'm getting ready
to put you through some stuff. You

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want me because I look good.
Oh, I'm gonna show you some drama.

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You want me because I have these
possessions. I mean, there are

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consequences for your choices and decisions.
I'm telling you. Sometimes you have an

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agenda and sometimes they have an agenda. How is that gonna work? Or

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sometimes you have no agenda but they
definitely have an agenda. It still won't

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work. You have to be on
the same accord, and when you're not,

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drama will pursue. So all I'm
trying to say is, you were

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warm, you did not take heed
to the warnings. Now you're dealing with

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the consequences them, the after math
of not taking heed, because sooner or

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later, your significant other is gonna
show you who they really are, You're

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gonna show them who you really are. And when you've already been warned or

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you've seen the warnings but you didn't
take heed, all you do is in

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power, and you also create that
must. Always tell you about when you

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let people treat you any kind of
way, they will, and as they

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do, you're creating that must.
It happens every day, every single day

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in someone's life because people refuse to
take heed to the warnings. If you

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want better, you have to make
better for yourself, whatever it takes.

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Positive, always positive. That's how
you have to think. When people come

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at you crazy, positive, Remain
positive. Don't let people try to knock

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you off of your stupid stay positive. You can't be positive in a relationship

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with someone that's going nowhere. If
you want better, you have to do

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something different. In order for better
to become a thing in your life.

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You have to want it for yourself. And so many of you are searching

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and seeking better in someone else,
some of you not even seeking better because

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you're going and get the worst people
ever. You want to get. People

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you know don't have nothing a pot
to pee in or a window to throw

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it out of it. They have
nothing. They're not trying to get nothing.

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How you're gonna have better with someone
who's just taken taking taking taken from

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you. You're getting in relationships based
on the wrong thing. How people look,

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what they have, their titles and
positions. None of that is gonna

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help you. You're gonna have drama
behind all of that. If you do

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not take you to the warnings,
you will suffer the consequences. I'm not

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saying it anymore. That's all I'm
saying on this episode. I'm leaving it

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right there. Thank you for listening. I hope you get enough out of

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this to understand what I'm saying.
When you're warn take Heed because if you

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don't, you will wish you had
of taking Heed, because you will suffer

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the consequences of not taking Heed.
So many people have died in a relationship

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because they didn't take Heed. So
many and so many will die because no

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matter how much you tell people,
they still gonna do what they want to

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do. So thank you for listening. Please please share this episode. I

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appreciate you much. Love to you, you and you if it's your first

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time here, thank you so much. Please come and listen again. I

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also listen to my other episodes.
I have a a podcast also called Relatable

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Life Chronicles. Check it out.
Also share thank you again. I end

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every episode the same, and I
hope and I pray you do it,

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think on it,