Hey, hey, hey, hey, I'm bad with something for you to
think about. I feel good. I just finished doing a long walk.
I wanted to sit down and do an episode. Many of you who are
listening to my voice right now are in relationships you don't want to be in,
you shouldn't be in. Many of you are in relationships where you got
warnings from people. You got warnings from friends, family, other people.
You saw your own red flags and signs, but you refused to take heed.
You absolutely refused to take heed. Now you find yourself in an unhealthy
and unhappy situation. So many people go through life refusing to acknowledge the truth.
You see the truth, but because of your mindset, because of who
you are as an individual and the things that you have not resolved within you,
you are blind. You cannot see the truth. You do not see
reality as it really is. You see your version of it, but it's
not necessarily the truth. People try to warn you, you didn't want to
hear it. Some of you got so angry you even severed the tie to
the relationship. Some of you walked away from family and friends because of your
significant other. Now you're in a bad situation. Some of you totally cut
the tides and didn't want anything else to do with your family or your friends.
And that was great for your significant other. They wanted to ostracize you
anyway, but you helped him or her to do it. You allowed yourself
to be in that situation, and then you found yourself totally totally alone and
afraid, sad, unhappy because you allowed yourself to be pulled away from your
family members because you got upset because they tried to warn you about your significant
other. Unfortunately, many people have died in their relationships because they did not
take heed to the red flags. They did not take heed to the wounds
that was right before them. They failed to take heed, and because of
it, they end up losing their lives. I had someone to email me
one time about their situation, and they were upset because I always talk about
if you stayed, if you're afraid to go, you stayed too long.
If you're afraid to stay, you stayed too long. So they were a
little upset because they told me that they got out. They walked away.
But that's great, But the thing is if when you walked away, this
was this was a female that emailed me when you walked away, you still
had all types of problems from that guy. That guy was stalking you.
That guy was still causing you all types of problems. So you still stay
too loan. You stayed too long. Anytime you walk away and you're still
having problems from that individual, you stay too long. So don't come at
me with an attitude, because I'm telling you the truth. Some people do
get out and they still lose their lives because they had stayed too long.
I will stand on that. I mean, come on, it's obvious.
That's why I tell people love yourself enough to walk away. Too many people
are trying to figure out their significant others when you need to be understanding who
you are dealing with, who you are dealing with, who you've allowed yourself
to become, deal with your unresolved issues, and love yourself so you can
love yourself enough to walk away. People are seeking love in all the wrong
ways from all the wrong people, and you get into these relationships. No
one can tell you anything because you know every thing. When you know nothing,
you don't want to listen because you got it, You got it together.
You know that's mister Wright. You know she's missus, right, You
know nothing. You don't even know yourself. You don't even love yourself.
That's why you make all of the bad choices and decisions. That's why you
allow and accepted things you allow and accept in your life, in many of
you, in the lives of your children, because you bring that garbage around
them. Children have lost their lives because of the decisions you made, or
because of decisions parents made. Children have lost their lives in relationships that their
parents or parents it was a part of because people failed to and heed to
the red flags and signs or the warnings from others. People failed to to
take notice, to acknowledge, take heed. Sometimes people they are so blind,
but they won't even accept the fact that they're blind. They just won't
because they want what they want. They desire who they desire. They have
these starts and these feelings, and that's all they're chasing after because they want
that person totally totally disregarding all the red flags and signs. When you do
not heed to the warnings, you suffer the consequences. You will feel the
effects in your life. So many people already are dealing with their own issues
because they have unresolved issues inside of them. So they're already dealing with their
own situations, their own drama, their own problems. Then they get into
relationship with someone who's bringing even more. People try to warn you or you
saw the red flags. You saw them, but you refuse to take heed,
you refuse to acknowledge them, because you want it who you want it,
And that's that you didn't care about anything else. You didn't care what
people was trying to tell you. You didn't care about what you saw because
you want it who you wanted, And unfortunately it has really caused people many,
many issues. You find yourself very unhappy in an unhappy situation. Many
people, many people settle for this sin what's before them, but they still
remain where they are. You were warned, you saw the red flags,
you saw the signs. People tried to tell you. You were warned,
but you chose to ignore the warning. And now you're in a bad situation.
Some of you are angry at your parents, angry at your friends because
they tried to tell you. Now you're looking like a deer in a headlight,
because you know you're in a volatile situation. You're in a very unhappy
situation. Now you feel like you don't have anyone you can go to because
you pushed everyone away. I don't care what your situation is. There is
always a positive way out, but you cannot see it up. You don't
have that mindset. Some people believe that what they're in that's as good as
it get. But that's a lie. And I know anyone who feels like
that don't love his or herself. The only way you're gonna have better in
your life, you have to want better. You cannot look at your significant
other to find better. You have to want better for yourself. You have
to make it happen for yourself in your life. I've always told you people
come to your into your life to compliment you c O M P L E
M E n T. They come to enhance your life. But well,
let me let me retract that, let me rephrase it. They should come
into your life to enhance your life. But the terrible truth is most people
are choosing individuals who are doing just the opposite. You're choosing individuals who are
bringing drama and chaos, toxicity into your life, nothing but toxicity. Those
are the individuals many of you are choosing, or you know people who have
chosen those types of people. That alone tells you something about yourself. If
you're in a toxic relationship, if you're in an unhappy relationship, that individual
is not one who is enhancing your life. So I want you to think
about that. If they're not complimenting you, enhancing your life, making things
better, better, you've chosen wrong. That's what I believe. I believe
significant others should make your life brighter, better because they're bringing just as good
to the relationship as you are. Anything less, you're failing yourself. But
so many people are because they get into relationships with people who have nothing to
bring to the table. They get into relationships with people who are controlling everything.
If from the start, if your eyes are not able to see the
truth, you will find yourself in a relationship that you're very unhappy with.
Too many people settle because they rather have some person than no one at all.
That's a terrible mindset. That's an unhealthy mindset. That's a mindset that
has not grow or matured into an individual whom understand self and love self and
understand what love is. You can't understand what love is when you don't love
yourself, You just cannot. I don't care how much you think you can.
You cannot understand love when you don't love yourself. You just can't.
But people struggle every day in their relationships, trying to work it out,
trying to work it out with someone who has the same mindset as you.
How are you going to do that? They have unresolved You have unresolved chaos,
drama, turbulence all of the time. But you keep struggling, trying
to make it work. You trying to make something work that's not workable.
Some of you even believe that you don't deserve better. When you're done wrong
by your significant other, you take the blame for it, You take the
fall. You're the scapegoat. You believe you caused it. But that is
because of the insecurities and the unresolved inside of an individual who thinks like that.
And I will tell you significant others who have unhealthy mindsets, they will
feed off of it. They will feed off of it. I've always told
you you're the victim, or the victimizer, the prayer, the predator,
however you want to characterize it. If you have not dealt with who you
are as an individual, know yourself, love yourself, have let go of
all of the things that made you have that negative mindset and grew immatured into
a better person. If you have not gotten to that point, I'm telling
you you will be blind. You will not be able to see the truth
right in your face. You will find yourself in bass situations with individuals you
should not have been with. But there's no one on earth who cannot As
long as you have breath in your body make your situation better. You can
make your situation better. You have to want to. You have to make
in your mind. There are very tough decisions, but they're really not tough.
But okay, we can say they're tough for you to walk away from
an abusive relationship. For some people, it's still tough to walk away because
of insecurities within selfs. So if it's tough for you to walk away,
is it worth you stand? You have to think about those things, because
you will talk yourself into remaining where you know you shouldn't be. You will
talk yourself into it stand in an unhealthy relationship. So you have to make
up your mind for yourself that you want better. Then make a decision on
how to obtain that. Your significant other is not going to give it to
you. You have to want it for yourself. And as I said,
if they're not making things in your life better, they're taking from you.
They're making the situation worse. Come on, that's not the one I'm telling
you. That's not the one. People shouldn't struggle all the time and their
relationships. Yeah, you're gonna have some issues that come up because you're two
different people. But when you're grown, mature people who know who they are
as individuals and love self, things are gonna be different. Especially when Jesus,
when God the Father is the center. Now I have to put it
in there because if you've listened to me, you know my faith. So
I believe everything is Jesus first, Jesus the Son, God the Father first.
But I know a lot of people don't believe. And I'm not knocking
you for not believing. That's on you. That's on you. I just
know what he's done from my life. I know how he's opened my eyes.
I know how he's changed my life because I see things that oh I
did not see before, clearly, clearly, clearly. But that's me.
You have to choose for yourself like you choose everything else for yourself. So
even if, even if you go through life and you never choose God at
least, choose yourself at least. And what I mean by choose yourself is
want to be the best you can be, want to have a better mindset,
a better heart. So many people just go through life the very same,
expecting a change. It's not gonna happen. If you go through life
the very same, you get the very same. Shenanigan's trouble, problems on
top of problems, constantly bickering, bickering and fighting, constantly, drama,
chaos, unrest, because that's what people are opening themselves up to, that's
what they're settling for, because they just want to be with who therewith see
the red flags and signs, have been warned many times, but refuse to
take heed. We only have one life to live, and so many choose
to live it miserably, a free will, miserably, just unhappy, facing
happiness. It's never ever gonna get better when you're not working on getting better.
Sometimes you just have to walk away. Sometimes walking away it's the best
thing you could have ever done for yourself. That's why I'm always telling people,
have your own get your own. You don't have to depend on nobody
else. You don't have to depend on their money, their shelter, their
food, them clothing you when you have your own. But so many people
are lazy. They don't want to work. All they want to do is
gain the benefits of other people. They want to gain the benefits of someone
else. Hard label. Sometimes that comes with a price. Oh you want
my money, then I'm getting ready to put you through some stuff. You
want me because I look good. Oh, I'm gonna show you some drama.
You want me because I have these possessions. I mean, there are
consequences for your choices and decisions. I'm telling you. Sometimes you have an
agenda and sometimes they have an agenda. How is that gonna work? Or
sometimes you have no agenda but they definitely have an agenda. It still won't
work. You have to be on the same accord, and when you're not,
drama will pursue. So all I'm trying to say is, you were
warm, you did not take heed to the warnings. Now you're dealing with
the consequences them, the after math of not taking heed, because sooner or
later, your significant other is gonna show you who they really are, You're
gonna show them who you really are. And when you've already been warned or
you've seen the warnings but you didn't take heed, all you do is in
power, and you also create that must. Always tell you about when you
let people treat you any kind of way, they will, and as they
do, you're creating that must. It happens every day, every single day
in someone's life because people refuse to take heed to the warnings. If you
want better, you have to make better for yourself, whatever it takes.
Positive, always positive. That's how you have to think. When people come
at you crazy, positive, Remain positive. Don't let people try to knock
you off of your stupid stay positive. You can't be positive in a relationship
with someone that's going nowhere. If you want better, you have to do
something different. In order for better to become a thing in your life.
You have to want it for yourself. And so many of you are searching
and seeking better in someone else, some of you not even seeking better because
you're going and get the worst people ever. You want to get. People
you know don't have nothing a pot to pee in or a window to throw
it out of it. They have nothing. They're not trying to get nothing.
How you're gonna have better with someone who's just taken taking taking taken from
you. You're getting in relationships based on the wrong thing. How people look,
what they have, their titles and positions. None of that is gonna
help you. You're gonna have drama behind all of that. If you do
not take you to the warnings, you will suffer the consequences. I'm not
saying it anymore. That's all I'm saying on this episode. I'm leaving it
right there. Thank you for listening. I hope you get enough out of
this to understand what I'm saying. When you're warn take Heed because if you
don't, you will wish you had of taking Heed, because you will suffer
the consequences of not taking Heed. So many people have died in a relationship
because they didn't take Heed. So many and so many will die because no
matter how much you tell people, they still gonna do what they want to
do. So thank you for listening. Please please share this episode. I
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