So we talked about things that we didn't talk about on the radio on the
Minnesota Goodbye. And this is something that I forgot to bring up. Yeah,
my birthday is coming up October twenty fourth, and a package came in
the mail the other day addressed to Susan, and I thought, well,
you know, I'm going to open it because, you know, will it's
probably something maybe I ordered off at Amazon that comes under her name. And
she doesn't mind if I opened up her mail. Who cares. I opened
it up. It's my birthday present. And I said, oh, because
she saw it online and she thought it was really cool. It is a
yetti mug that comes with a set of stickers and a little space on all
over the mug for all the national parks in the country. Okay, so
it's a yetti mug, you know, the size of like you know,
like eight inches high, ten inches high whatever, with little sticker spots and
the set of stickers. And I said, oh, it is a national
park mug. And she's like, fuck, that's your birthday present. And
I'm like, oh, well, do you want me to send it back?
Do you want to give it to me now? She said no,
you know, she made a joke you'll forget by the time her birthday,
So just don't open up things that come to your partner, especially around your
birthday. Oh so it was actually addressed to Susan. Yeah, do you
guys have packages that are addressed to her and you open them too, because
it's like this random house stuff or something. I was gonna say, because
I'd never opened anything that's addressed to Andrew, I don't know what he might
be buying me, which is nothing. He never buys me anything. I'm
just kidding, you should buy her something, Andrew. I thought I was
doing her a favor, like she was way over in the couch and I
thought, oh, I'll open it and say, hey, your X y
Z came, But no, it was the travel Bug. It'll still be
my birthday present. I think we really, we are definitely getting rid of
stuff because, oh, I know. Susan texted me last night and asked
me about some Facebook marketplace stuff deals she's doing. She had some questions and
I was like, don't give your number out. Because she was asking about
giving her phone number. I said, don'tive your number out. There's no
reason you have to give your number to anyone. Is that true? Tell
me why because somebody somebody said I will text you or call you or something.
Right. Yeah, Well, because a lot of times it'll be like
can you can you send me your phone number and then I'm going to send
you a code to verify that it's you. But really that code is like
they just signed your phone number up for something and it got sent to your
phone. So then you give them the code and then they signed up for
something. So I learned my lesson. I never gave them the code,
but I did get my phone number out once and then immediately they're like,
can you send me this code? And I was like, well, that
seems legit, but I was like, I'm not doing it. That seems
weird. So there's just no reason. Did you tell Susan not to know?
I didn't know, because there's no reason you can't just communicate via messenger
if you have a smartphone, unless you're in like the boondocks where there's no
service whatsoever, you should be able to still communicate on messenger the same way
you can on texting. So there's no reason. So when someone tells me
I want to text you, and I said no, I only communicate a
messenger. Then I know that they're not legit because then they stop immediately right
after that. That it is so interesting, because I think you told me
that a couple of weeks ago, because we're such novices at Facebook marketplace,
she put a cabinet on there's it's like a curio cabinet, about six and
a half feet high, and it's got all of our family heirlooms in it,
and we want to get rid of things. So we took all the
heirlooms out, like my dad's war medals and things that my mom made when
she was little, and things that I made when I was little, and
just collectibles and airlooms, and we put them all on the dresser in the
guest room, and then we cleaned it down and dusted it off, and
Susan, it's it's very nineteen ninety nine ish. It's oak and it looks
dated. And she said, should I sell it for twenty bucks or give
it away for free? And I said, I don't know, So she
gave it away for free. Woman pulled up, we loaded in the back
of her minivan and we got rid of it. But there's it's just one
tiny little drop in the bucket. We've got so much, Yeah, that
we just need to get rid of. Yeah, do you want to come
over and do some shopping? No, because I'm also like just a very
minimalist person, so I don't I don't have anything that I don't need.
For the most part. There's one storage room in our house and we just
went through it a month or two ago and got rid of a bunch of
stuff. Uh, it's just yeah, it's it's overwhelming. And I talked
to a friend of mine who her mom is eighty four and she's my age,
and she had heard growing to her mom's house in Missouri and she had
to clean it out. And then I think her mom is moving to New
York. And I don't know. I don't have all the details right,
but she said she wouldn't get rid of shit, she would not get rid
of things. So, yeah, we want to get rid of things so
the kids don't have to cod. The cough is driving me nuts and I
don't know what to do. I don't think it's getting better. But I've
been taking the Tesslon pearls, which some people swear by and some people say
they're worthless. And then an Inhaler, which has done no good whatsoever.
So we'll see all right next one. Here we go a long time listener,
first time contributor, but only because I've been waiting for something to post,
and now I think I have it. I'm a thirty eight year old
woman, mom and wife, and I don't get a whole lot of a
lone time every week or sometimes several weeks between my full time job and my
role as mom to my toddler. Today I got some alone time to grab
my favorite cheap meal taco bell and run to the mall and finally be kid
free looking at stores. The whole experience was great up until I got back
out to my car and the mall parking lot. Oh my god, it
gets terrible. I had not preread this, but I go ahead give you
a little trigger warning. Some middle aged dude in a large black suburban suburban
called me a fucking C word as I was getting into my car. Low
and behold, I had parked ever so slightly off center in the parking lot,
which clearly upset him as he was trying to back out his very large
SUV. I don't want to appear overly sensitive, but I was appalled.
Do people think it's actually okay to call women the word? Now? We
already have multitudes of words to combat bitch, slut, horror, to name
a few. I called my husband in tears over the experience, but I
was also kind of mad at myself for being in tears because I felt like
I should be able to say fuck you and be fine, as I can
only assume he doesn't even remember the incident on a Sunday afternoon that really fucked
up a woman who kind of thought she was confident. I don't know.
Please don't read this on the air if you feel you can't. I just
thought I would email in on this because I can only imagine other women have
gotten similar comments, and I want to make sure people don't feel alone.
And I'm going to leave her name out because maybe she doesn't want me to
say it. I apologize on behalf of this piece of shit. Person who
number one would get mad about something like that to the extent that he would
address you. I might mutter something under my breath like they need to learn
how to drive or they don't know how to park, But it would never
call anybody a name like even stupid. Hey, you don't know how to
park stupid. I wouldn't even do that, but to be so vulgar and
insulting to say that this is a guy, this is one of these guys
who makes the rest of us guys look bad. This is the kind of
guy who treats women like objects, who treats them how I don't know,
however he wants to, and not in a healthy way. Yeah, and
I would say, don't feel bad about you being upset and like not clapping
back, because in moments like that, you also, like women have this
inate ability to react in a certain way, and like we think afterwards that
we wish we would have like said something back to them, But you probably
were looking out for your safety in that moment too. Had you like yelled
something back at him after he already was being so aggressive to you, you
don't know how he would have reacted at that point. So you probably just
like curled up into a ball and went in your car and cried because that
was like the only a reaction that made sense to you and kept you somewhat
safe in a really fortunate situation. Well, you know what, I would
say, definitely forgive yourself because Jenny's right in the moment, you don't know
what to do because it's so unexpected and so shocking. And then ten minutes
later or an hour later, you think of all the things that you should
have done, and why didn't I yell back, fuck you? And why
didn't I like go over and beat on his car and say you got a
problem? You know whatever? You know, you think of all the things,
but you can't blame yourself for this when that was all on him.
What a terrible person to do something like that to a woman, any woman
or any person you know, just you just don't So that sucks. Actually
gonna we can maybe do that on the radio. Two. So I forwarded
that to you, Jenny, so we can possibly do that on the radio.
If you have any stories about that, send me an email to Ryan
Show at katib dot com. And again, I apologize for guys that are
like that. They're still out there, and I know it's not my responsibility
to apologize on their behalf or for them, but I feel like somebody should.
All right, next one and Dave, an idea that came to me
was to incorporate dart Lick into the sticker because I'm trying to make a sticker
that says staff writer, Minnesota, Goodbye. But we also said should it
say dart lick? And then people said, well, I don't really want
to explain dart lick to people who go, what is dart lick mean?
So she said, incorporate dartlick by having a writer writer licking a dart they're
holding like a pen. I'm no graphic designer, but maybe this can be
done by someone creative. We're working on it, Sidney, and I think
we're asking the company that sells the stickers to kind of design something. So
we'll see. And Susan's all freaking out about how much work to put into
it, and I said, it's not that important. It is not a
life altering kind of a situation, so we'll see what happens, all right,
Dave Jenny Drake, Here we go. My heart is pounding as I
write this because this is a vulnerable topic to open up to the larger community.
However, I'm always interested in what other people think. So my husband
and I are fence sitters with having children. It sounds incredibly overstimulating, expensive,
and I've honestly never felt a huge maternal urge to have kids. We
are on a reliable form of birth control, but if anything ever unexpected happened,
we would adjust our lives accordingly. However, we're not sure we'll get
to a place of purposely trying to have a child. What I'd like to
know is do parents of couples who decide parenthood is not for them grieve the
loss of a grandchild they will never have. Both of our parents are wonderful
grandparents to our siblings children, but we can tell they would love for us
to have a baby, so we feel slightly guilty for potentially taking a childless
path in life. Are these feelings normal? Should we have a conversation with
our parents? How would you feel if your daughter told you she and her
husband don't want children. Thanks so much for your thoughts in your time.
You guys are the best. And that is it doesn't matter where the name
is, so I will leave her name out. You do you? I
mean it's as simple as that. Yeah, a child doesn't It's like I
think, you and your husband's decision and it should not be affected by your
parents wanting kids. Wanting ground kids, I should say no. I mean,
if they do, that's great, but I would not ever think there's
any pressure. And I think your parents would understand. They'd be like,
oh my god, when you're gonna have babies, when you're gonna have babies,
But they would never say, well, you should have one, even
if you don't want one. So and if you don't want one, because
you're right. They are overstimulating and they are expensive, and some people are
like, they're worth it. I love being a dad, and Susan loves
being a mom. We have loved every bit of it. It's all worth
the expense. It's all worth the stress and the stimulation. It has been
wonderful. My kids have filled my life with so many memories and just touching
things and experiences and it's lovely. I've loved it. But it's not for
everybody. Yeah, so yeah, no problem. Okay, we're hitting the
lead on that one. We're going to scroll up here, Dave. After
looking at your weekend in five pictures, I want to share my thoughts on
the marathon being canceled. I wholeheartedly agree it is very disappointing and rightfully upsetting
for all the people who trained so hard for it. However, I do
think the race directors made the right decision, and here's why. The two
thousand seven Chicago Marathon was called off due to excessive heat for the time of
the year, nearly the same forecast as the Twin Cities on Sunday. It
was called off after the start of the race, which was a mess.
The heat can be very dangerous. Dozens of people were hospitalized and a man
died. I remember that the heat puts extra strain not only on runners,
but first responders, which can hurt the community at large because there are less
EMT teams to respond to emergencies unrelated to the marathon. I know the cancelation
was controversial, especially so less minute, but as somebody has done several marathons
and races, training in the heat and racing in the heat are not the
same. A marathon is different than a five k or a half marathon,
especially for people who have never done one. There's always going to be people
who are ill prepared, undertrained, and don't know what their limits are.
Yes, I know they signed the waiver and they should understand the risk,
but as outlined from history, the outcomes can be costly. Thanks for taking
your time to read this. That's from Valerie. Valerie, I don't disagree
with anything you said, and I think that, you know, we were
discussing a runner friend of mine and I were discussing who was more at risk.
Would it be the elite runners who are finishing the marathon in two twenty
five or is it the undertrained runners who you know, maybe you have never
run a marathon before, or maybe are a little bit you know, not
quite ready. There's a lot of people, you'd be surprised in a marathon.
A lot of people walk a significant amount of it. If you get
to the of a marathon, there will be a lot of walkers the last
five miles or so that walk like the entire or almost all the last five
miles. Who do you think would be more at risk? The elite runners
or the ones who are maybe not so well trained for it. Maybe like
the elite only because they would push themselves, whereas people who are not as
trained probably aren't going to push themselves as hard so they know, like to
listen to their body. They're not they don't have this competitive nature that the
elite runners are trying to accomplish, you know, yeah, right, I
think you know I'd worry about you know, like I don't know Cassandra who's
maybe fifteen pounds overweight and is doing her marathon and doesn't really know what her
body is telling her, like you need to stop, you need to drop
out, and Cassandra keeps going because she doesn't know what the signs are and
then she could, you know, pass out, hit her head on the
curb, have a heart attack, heat stroke, whatever last one it says.
I'd really like an informational bit on marijuana versus CBD versus t C for
dummies. Okay, this might be a little bit longer than we have a
time for. With marijuana now legal in Minnesota, I feel like US rookies
need help. Trial and error is not great with weed products. I may
know that from a past experience. You had a breathing therapist on a few
weeks ago and she gave simple bullet point info on different breathing techniques and it
was cool. So maybe we could have somebody on marijuana versus CBD versus th
HC for dummies. I like it because I don't really understand it. I
know that CBD is not supposed to get you high. Marijuana is. There's
THHC and delta gummies which are not CBD, so it all gets very convoluted
and confusing to me. Well, yeah, I think you're absolutely right.
I mean, marijuana is the unrestrained, full on dose of all of the
things that get you high. CBD is some sort of an extract, but
I don't know exactly what that is. And I think that THHC does get
you high, but I don't know. That's a really good question, and
I haven't spent a lot of time talking about it or thinking about it myself
because I don't really need to know. But if you if somebody does know
about it, then volunte you want to volunteer to be on the show,
we'd love to have you on. Send an email to Ryan Show at KATWB
dot com. And that is going to do it for today's Minnesota Goodbye.
Love to hear from you for tomorrow's Minnesota Goodbye. Send your email of anything.
If you've been putting it off or want to talk about something, send
it into Ryan Show at KADWB dot com.