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Okay, Minnesota, goodbye these two
Jenny and Bailey. We're talking about the

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big concert tonight, which is right
now. It's Friday morning, so you

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guys were excited about that one.
Yeah, the Minnesota Yacht Club Festival.

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It's all weekend. But we were
talking about Bailey's only going tonight, right,

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Yes, I'm going tonight. Yeah, And I'm just pumped because it's

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like one of those festival things where
you want to see multiple acts, but

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the acts you want to see are
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So like I want to see the
headliner, but I also want to

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see somebody that plays at like five. So then in the in between,

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I didn't want to be there for
like a million five hours walking around drinking.

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Yeah. Now it got switched around
a little bit because one of the

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acts dropped out. So now the
people I care about are back to back,

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so I'm good. Yeah, Okay, well good news. Let's dive

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in with some emails, and this
is a totally random one, but I

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like it, so let's get started. Hello. I'm a thirty three year

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old Saint Louis Park resident. Like
going out on the weekends, and I

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like going somewhere with alcohol. As
a single female, guys will frequently offer

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to buy me a drink which I
can afford to buy myself, but also

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who doesn't enjoy a free drink.
I was in a situation yesterday where a

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guy bought me my friend a drink
and then I pulled her away shortly after

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to dance with her, and he
was irritated. She's very shy and timid

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and had no interest in him,
but didn't know how to get out of

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the situation without being rude, which
is what girlfriends are for. Let me

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first put a disclaimer out here that, as an LGBTQ ally that the examples

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in my scenarios could it could be
any role gender sexuality. I'm not implying

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other scenarios don't exist, but for
the ease of explaining, I will use

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guy girl question one. Obviously,
a guy that offers to buy a girl

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of drink is not entitled to anything. However, is there an unwritten rule

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that if the drink is accepted,
she is obligated to entertain him for a

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certain period of time or share her
number, etc. I don't know.

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I don't think I've ever been in
that situation where I bought a girl of

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drink and expected to have conversation or
tried to use it as a way to

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meet her. Yeah, I would
say that honestly, if I didn't want

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to at least like have a tiny
conversation with them, I wouldn't accept the

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drink. So what do you do? You just like the way, I'm

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good, thank you. I I
already have one, or I'm going to

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go get one myself. That's like
all it would be, because I just

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feel like that accepting a drink is
kind of like engaging in a conversation,

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at least at that point. In
my opinion. You're not obligated by any

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means, But I think, like, don't accept the drink if you don't

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want to talk to the person.
This is interesting. We should move this

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to the regular show because I think
this is uh, this is I'm gonna

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I'm gonna email it to you,
Jenny, and we can talk about this

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on the regular show. But I
really like it. She says question two.

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In general, if a girl knows
she's not interested in the guy,

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but he offers to buy her a
drink, it is it against the rule

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to take him up on it?
If you have no intentions in mingling with

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him. Does the guy have a
right to be upset? I don't think.

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Well, I don't know. It
depends because is he If he's offering

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to buy you a drink, you
can easily say no and then just like

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shove off and go away. But
if he is handing you a drink,

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it's so much more difficult to say
no, I already have one, because

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then I don't know what if he
gets like cranky and huffy about it,

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and then you have got like then
you have to share space with this cranky

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dude for the rest of the night. That would suck. So if he's

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handing it to me, I'm gonna
take it. Yeah, but it's not

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I feel like you're taking I feel
like you're almost taking like blame for him

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offering you a drink when you didn't
want it. Like it's not your fault

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that he offered you a drink.
Like I said, I think it's okay.

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If you accept it and you still
don't talk to him, that's up

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to you. Yeah, Personally,
I just wouldn't open that door to them

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thinking that a conversation is going to
happen at that point, So I would

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just be like, nah, I'm
good. You talk to him for like

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two minutes and then be like,
well, thanks so much for the drink.

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See, but people don't get the
picture though. That's why I just

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say no, Like some people don't
get it, like I'm not interested.

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Thanks for the drink, but I'm
not interested. I will I think she

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wants a little bit of the guy
perspective too, so I will throw that

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in. I'll say it's tough.
It's tough because you know what, guys

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want to meet somebody and maybe if
they're single and they see somebody who looks

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interesting that they'll buy a drink because
you know it is is it easier to

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say, hey, can I buy
you a drink? Or I'll send over

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a drink? Or is it easier
to go up and say Hi, what's

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your name? Do you come here? Often? I don't think it's it's

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easy either way for either gender.
But I think that you know, most

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guys are probably shooting their shot and
if it doesn't go well, then you

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know, he lost four dollars for
a drink. Yeah, that's not very

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financially responsible. Start a conversation first, yeah, and then and then maybe

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be like, all right, let's
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they're going to say like, oh, I'm going to buy I'm buying you

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a drink, or here's a drink
to kind of like trap you to talk

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to them, versus talking to them
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drink. I had a friend,
Brentley. I've heard you heard me talk

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about Brentley. Brentley was very handsome, very he worked out all the time.

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He looked great. And we were
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town and he saw in a track. It was one of those square bars,

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so you look across and there's people
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and so he saw a woman.
He's like, I want to send

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her a drink. And it worked
for Brentley, and he either took her

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home that night or went out with
her later and hooked up. Because Brentley

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was you could have bought, you
could buy. He could buy a girl

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a cup of mosquito larvae and she
would be like, oh God, let's

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go home and hook up. And
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magic. One time we were out
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saw a woman with another guy and
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around the girl. The guy had
his arm around the girl whatever, And

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Brentley gave this girl the eye and
the girl gave Brentley the eyeback, and

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pretty soon she was flirting with Brinley
and pissed off the guy that she had

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come with. Brentley just had this
magic touch. Yeah, magnetism, he

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did. He had this magnetism.
And you know, I don't know what

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he's up to lately. I haven't
talked to him aco I kind of look

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him up online. I kind of
want to know what Brentley looks like.

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Now. He's a good looking guy. He looks a little bit like a

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reject from the nineties. And I
used to give him hard about that.

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A hard time. I said,
you look like the lead singer of Color

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Me Bad. Now, if you
look up Color Me Bad, they were

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a group thirty years ago. So
if you look up Color Me Bad,

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he looked a little bit like that
guy. Are you seeing what I'm seeing?

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I'm looking at Color Me Bad.
There's four of them. I don't

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know which one's the least. The
mustache guy, the must oh oh,

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he looks like that. Yeah,
that guy's a babe. Yeah, okay

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cool. Oh yeah, I feel
like I have seen pictures of him before.

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Okay, of Brentley or color me
bad. No, of Brentley,

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because I feel like I had an
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didn't remember. But now looking up, color me bad, I feel like

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I've seen him. This guy's hot. He is a pretty good like well,

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I mean, not know what I
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Now I think that, Well,
he's thirty years older now, so

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he's probably got he's probably bald and
whatever. But I think that was really

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Brentley had this power and it's kind
of like a very very beautiful woman.

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They turn heads wherever they go,
and anybody who's like, oh, would

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you like to hook up with her? Absolutely? Would you like to hook

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up with this beautiful specimen of a
man? Absolutely? So Brentley could,

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like I said, he could send
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woman would be like, oh my
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would drink it because she would want
to please Brentley. Sure, Okay,

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moving on, this guy's not cute
anymore. I looked him up. Oh

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okay, well that happens, as
you agh, Dave. You can say

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my name. This is my first
podcast email from Leah Dave. Your bold

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statement about a correlation between stupid and
chatty could not have resonated more. I

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said this yesterday. I said,
is there a correlation between stupid and chatty?

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And we talked about it for a
while. My aunt is the chattiest

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person. She frequently interrupts and talks
over people so much to the point you

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can't have a decent conversation. She
has no filter and has nothing intelligent to

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say. Years ago, my uncle, her husband, said she's got diarrhea

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of the mouth. She just spits
out everything that goes through her head.

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This behavior makes family gatherings difficult.
However, this past fourth she and my

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uncle were not there and it was
a welcome relief to hold conversations without the

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fear of it being hijacked. Anyway, thank you all for the daily laughs.

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It is truly appreciated. All right. That's from Leah in Savage.

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As we as you read that,
I did just like think of someone in

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my head who chats a lot and
definitely is probably not intelligent and probably what

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you're like describing when you talk about
these people, and I would agree with

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it. Now that I'm thinking more
about it because I said Andrew talks a

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lot, but he knows how to
listen to. You know, there's people

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who talk a lot and just don't
even listen. No, that's true.

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And I've run into that where you
try to contribute to the conversation and they

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either interrupt you as if you were
never speaking at all, or they don't

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respond in any way, And so
you'll say something like yeah, I met

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Joe Mauer and we played chess together, and they keep going as if they

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didn't even hear you say, and
you're and then you sit there inside your

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head going, why the fuck am
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They're not even listening to what I
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They are. I'm always I always
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and they have like a thousand kids, and I'm like, how how did

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someone decide like, yep, this
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know. I think about that a
lot all, you know, because that's

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true because I'm alone probably where I'm
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And I'm not because that's the truth. I dated a woman years ago and

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she was not smart and she every
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That's the thing. She was so
sweet, but every time you would

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say something about you, it would
remind her of something similar about her.

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So if I said, yeah,
I met Joe Mauer and we played chess

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together, she'd be like, yeah, I like Joe Mauer. You know

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what. I used to watch him
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Mauer jersey. I got him,
I met him, and it's like,

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bitch, I was talking about me, but you had to make it about

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you. But then she got married, yeah, to a smart, successful

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person and they live in a million
dollar house on a lake. And I

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always go, how did you do
that? How did you get somebody to

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like you enough? And a decent
guy? Yeah? Yeah, all right.

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Now here's one that goes the other
way, about somebody who is chatty

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but very intelligent. And this is
from Alexis. And I know Alexis sort

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of personally. I've actually been to
her house before, because when I used

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to do my podcast, I would
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from their home, and she and
her husband wereun so shout out, Alexis.

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I want to send you guys an
email regarding being chatty and if it

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means you are smart versus dumb.
My late husband was one of the smartest

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humans I know. He was in
mensa eagle scout, accepted into MIT,

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but got a full ride to the
U of M, so he stayed in

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Minnesota. In four years, he
got two bachelor's degrees actuarial, math and

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Japanese. So he was pretty good
with his noggin. But he would never

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stop talking. Talked in his sleep. He would talk over everybody else speaking

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if he had a thought that pertained
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him. After a few years of
marriage, he talked in movies, etc.

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It drove me fucking insane. I'd
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and a thousand thoughts per second.
When he was fighting cancer, the first

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time, I jokingly told him my
wish had cancer of the throat, So

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you'd shut the fuck up, my
god, which is funny. I love

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humor like that. I love humor
like that. Q pindrop and shocked Pikachu

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face, then hysterical laughter. And
after that he was a little more conscious

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of the chatty. But now because
he's passed away, sure, I would

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give anything to hear his voice.
It's been a year since he passed in

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my house and life are incredibly quiet. In the opposite direction, one of

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my sisters is dumber than a bag
of hair who never shuts up and who

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is so who's to say what the
correlation is. I would love staff Rider

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sticker if you're still slanging them babies
out. New crew of people are just

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awesome and I listen to podcast every
day during work All the Best and dart

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Lick Alexis and Alexis, We will
send you a staff Rider sticker. Yeah,

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that's like what I said yesterday that
it's the ADHD that makes them talk

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a lot. So the slightly neurodivergent
people who are super chatty doesn't mean that

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they're not smart. They just have
ADHD. Well. I think that's true.

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And I think some people that are
very intelligent are a little bit awkward

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because I think there may be a
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and really smart because your brain is
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but not necessarily very socially lubricated.
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of our regular staff writers, says, you were talking about people who talk

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a lot. I want to chime
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talk your ear off for an hour
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some point say well, I got
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my input to a lot of conversations
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or oh yeah, or I get
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I got to be a manager in
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because I think I'm pretty boring quiet, yet others must not see me that

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same way. I don't know.
I don't know either. I will tell

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you this one. Carson is extremely
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must be chatty and interesting around his
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we got a pull conversation out of
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with like people who are quiet in
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then they have a million friends,
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in high school or even middle school
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a billion friends, and they're just
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About. What do you talk about? Yeah, that's what I always

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wonder. But I've always been super
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that way? You have the gift
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talk about with his friends? I
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wall. I don't know. Yeah, or do they all just sit around

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and stare at each other? Maybe
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Dave Jenny Bailey, Bailey, you
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story about the spider and your lufa, and I have been checking religiously,

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saying, gotta did I miss this? No, you were here when I

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had a spider in my lufa and
I was like scrubbing my body with it

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before I found found it, and
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and so I had to like use
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lufa. I look at it every
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I have to give it a three
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goes on to say, today I
found an earwig in my loop. What

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is an ear wig? Yeah,
you'll know what it is, Okay,

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bug have I never seen one of
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like creepy little like pincers on this
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head. I'm not sure. Is
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the butt, okay, but yeah, Well, she goes on to say

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I have died. I wanted to
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new fear and saving me from washing
myself with an ear wig. Well,

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hey, you're welcome. I'm sorry
that that happened to you, but I'm

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glad you found it. I love
the variety of shit we get in on

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the Minnesota good I seriously love,
love, love. I love this part

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of the show better than the actual
show itself. If we could do nothing

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but the Minnesota Goodbye and read emails
all morning, I would rather do that

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in the show. That's called just
doing a podcast, Dave, that's just

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that you can do that. You
understand that you could. You would probably

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not saying that this is what I
don't want to do it alone. I

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was going to say, you could
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which you've done podcasts before. I
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new one that I've got in the
works, and it's called KATIWB Hits and

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Missus. And I think if you
go to Dave ryanshow dot com, there's

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a link to the preview episode on
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I did a little teaser for it
the other day just to kind of hold

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a place for it. But it's
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of the dark moments, the big
things we did over the years, the

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things that failed, and inspired by
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also it's got some other things in
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Do you see it on there?
Where Am I looking? On? Da

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Ryan? On my podcast? There
yet? Okay? Okay. We talk

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about Molly's birthday on the show yesterday, and Molly was on the show.

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It's Bailey's friend. When she turned
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was expecting a lot of people and
mom and dad had food, cake and

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ice cream and things, and nobody
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actually said that she had a decent
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I heard from another woman yesterday who
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thirteen. Literally nobody showed up for
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just it was awful. It was
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to this day. Well here's another
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a little bit happier ending. I
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a similar experience. The year was
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my golden birthday. I was convinced
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yet. Before that year, the
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Circus, pizza rip, or a
hotel pool. But for my golden birthday,

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I wanted to go to Mall of
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of friends. I felt so grown
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all of my friends canceled. I
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She invited my cousin and my cousin's
friend and we went to the Science

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Museum instead. It ended up being
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Katie WB on the way home.
I think that's so sweet and it almost

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makes me cry a little bit.
That Grandma saved the day. Yeah,

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because Grandma looked at twelve year old
granddaughter and said, ah, let's get

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some kids and we'll go to the
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Well, better luck next year.
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Right. Yeah. I've been a
lifelong listener, but it wasn't until

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this year that I have been able
to listen to the Morning Show for more

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than just my commute. Thank you
for all the entertainment. Have a great

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day and a great weekend. Kelsey
wants a staff writer sticker, and we

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will send one over. Shout out
to Brie, who is secretary. Brie

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and she sends out the staff writer
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Bailey vant. I had to write
in because I heard you talking about hiding

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food, mostly Jenny, from their
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chunk food, from my partner because
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If I buy a bag chips,
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sitting, same with any candy.
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it's easier to not eat the whole
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he buys any junk food. He
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me to keep anything snacky. What
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in my trunk, depending on the
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so it's very hot shout out people
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hide them in one of my backpacks
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each other's things or anything. He
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not worried about him finding it.
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store it. He will ask me, do you have anything hidden away?

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but he doesn't know where they are. And usually when I share, I

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make sure we are in agreement that
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fault because he asked. We talked
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is funny. We don't hide food
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it, but I guess you have
self control. I don't know. I'm

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guilty of it too. Let's see
I there's another one here, and there

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might be yes again, random totally
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and I just listened to the May
twentieth episode where a listener asked if anybody

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had a dream about a loved one
that left them feeling calm afterward like they

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did. I lost my dad ten
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It was probably six months after his
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was sitting on the couch with a
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much I missed my dad and how
sad I was he wasn't there. From

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behind my friend, my dad leaned
forward. He looked around and waved his

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arms as if saying, can you
not see me? I'm right here,

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I'm right here. His life easy
without my dad? No, but I

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do feel much better and a sense
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this dream, I think he knew
exactly what I needed. I'm happy to

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hear another person who's had a similar
dream to mine. Thanks for sharing,

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Caitlin. My dad's been gone for
twenty something years and I dream about him

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probably several times a week, really, and he's right there. And sometimes

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it's not always like I feel like
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doing something or he's mad because I
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sometimes he's just there. And in
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Yeah, you know, he's just
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coming to visit you. I guess
your dreams. I wish i'd dreamt more

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about people I've loved. My dad. You want to dream about my dad?

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Not about your dad, but maybe
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Do you ever dream about your grandpa? I have had dreams about my grandparents,

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but it's usually just like not moments, but like a couple of days

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after they've died versus years later.
There is something comforting about that. Yeah,

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I love that. That is going
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I love the randomness and anything random
that you think of. Please send

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it to us and we'd love to
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put your address in there and we
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actually, Bree, we'll send it
over to you. Thank you for listening,

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have a great weekend or whenever you
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