Minnesota goodbye, and I wanted to. I promised this. Earlier on the
show. We were talking about kind of the inside jokes that you might have
with your partner, because there was an inside joke on War of the Roses
this morning that we never really got explained. And he said on the Roses
card he wanted to say, bend it, but don't break it. And
we thought, oh, well, there's a story there. They were probably
having sex and she came down the wrong way and bent it. And then
you know that can be very painful and unfortunate. So I've heard actually guys
will gun to the hospital if they like it'll like almost snap, you know
what I mean. That's just sound painful. Y, Yeah, bend it,
but don't break it. So then I said, well, all couples
have like their inside jokes, and Susan and I it's like, you know,
will The story goes when she was a kid, she was in her
bedroom and she heard her dad say to her mom, suck it, Betty.
And so she's told me that story and I love telling that story like
neighbors at cocktail parties. And so sometimes I'll walk in the front door and
she'll be sitting there on the on her computer, and I'll say, hey,
suck it, Betty, yeah, and she'll laugh and then she'll like,
you know, come up behind me in the kitchen and go, hey,
suck it, Betty, yeah. And it's just funny. So it's
an inside joke, yes, so I told earlier on the show, I
said I would explain the inside joke. Do you and Jake have any inappropriate
inside jokes? Probably? But I don't know if I think we're just dirty.
I think we're just very dirty with each other. I don't think we
have one set inside joke like that. So no, I think we're just
highly inappropriate with each other all the time. I mean almost every time I
walk into the room he's in, I flash him and he always gives me
like high praise and compliments. I'll tell you this about Jake. He is
consistent with making me feel desired, and I will I appreciate that. That
is a big thing, and I appreciate that from him. But I mean
good, because you want to feel desired. It's kind of like if you
if you like came in and like, yeah, let's do something, and
he like put his book down on his lap. Inside heavily like I know,
but I don't mean just like that. I mean he actively says stuff
without me doing anything like that. Like it's he just goes out of his
way to make me feel that way, which I think is very special.
Good for you guys. Email Hi there, longtime listener here. Thanks for
laughing. Love the podcast. So I'm turning forty this year, and I
don't feel as though the actual number is bothering me, but I've noticed that
I started to look at life differently. When thinking about the future or making
plans, there is now a small voice that reminds me that I won't be
around forever. In some ways, it's made me more grateful to just be
alive and try to enjoy the time here. But I'm also starting to think
about how I might not have time in my life to do certain things.
I celebrated my brother's birthday this weekend, and he still talks as though he's
going to live forever. I feel like I've thought that at that age too.
So did turning forty or almost forty fallen have a big impact on you?
Did some of these anxieties fade after the big birthday? Or is this
just how it's going to be from now on, love to hear what you
think, Kate, not forty, so I haven't hit that. I don't
know if, like be, hitting forty will change everything. I don't feel
like I think forty is that pivotal age that you're describing in mind. Maybe
because I'm so close to it in my mind, I feel like it for
me, I like look at it like in twenty years more so than I
do like in a couple of years. It happens in your fifties. Yeah,
what I've noticed when I turn it's so interesting because at my age it
does come up and you think about will I have time to do this?
Like one of the things I want to do is ride my motorcycle all around
and go to the National Parks and go through Yellowstone and go to Alaska,
and you think, will I have time? I mean, you know,
nobody knows you could be twenty five. You don't know if you have time.
But it becomes more of a reality. Never occurred to me twenty five,
thirty five, even in forty five. But once I hit fifty,
and I've noticed my friends are around the same age, they start thinking about
it's an ugly word, your own mortality. Let me tell you this one,
Kate, You're way too to be thinking about that one. Put it
out of your mind, enjoy it. You don't want to become preoccupied in
any little way like oh my god, I mean I could die next week
or next year, or I might not be around to see fifty years old.
Don't think that way because you're way too young. The odds are ever
in your favor. The chances that you're going to make it to fifty,
sixty seventy right now are really good, a great I would say there are
two things you could look at it in that way that's a positive way,
like I'm not going to sit around and let this next these you know,
youthful years I have left get away from me. I'm going to do the
things I want because I know how a little our time is on earth.
I'm going to focus more on At forty, I would think you've probably realized
what's actually important in life. You're going to focus more, maybe on the
important things instead of the other things. But that's so. I think you
could look at it and like a shift that look of like my limited time,
I want to use it in better ways. Positive way. I also
would say I've have his dinner with this group of women who are so inspiring,
they're so successful, and I think three or four of them were in
their fifties, and they told me fifties are the most magical time for women
because you don't give anymore, you don't care. And I don't mean that
in a bad way. I mean in your fifties you are less concerned with
what people think of you physically, you are more concerned with the important things
in life. And it is just they described it as a magical time in
a woman's life. So instead of dreading it, I think that sounds lovely.
You know, I'll be honest with you. That is a very positive
way to look at it. Here's what you might be surprised. You're not
surprised. In your fifties, things in your bodies start to change. And
there's not a lot of change from twenty to thirty. There's not a lot
of change from thirty to forty. I mean there is, obviously, there's
not a lot of change from forty to fifty. But in your fifties,
your body starts to things change. So while mentally you might be a little
bit more prepared or happy that you don't have you don't give a shit,
but there are other things in your fifties two. But I will say,
enjoy that. Will enjoy the age where you are now. Don't put it
off. So I would say that you used to kind of get perspective,
and a lot of people, even as they get older, they don't realize
that your time is limited. I'll give you one last example and we'll move
on. My friend Brentley is my age couple of years younger, and Brentley
is single, no kids, and he has always been a playboy. He's
always enjoyed dating women. He's handsome and charming enough that he can date women
that are twenty, sometimes thirty years younger than him. But I last time
I talked to him, he said something like, you know, I've really
blown it. I think of all these wonderful, beautiful women that I've known
that I could have married, I could have settled down with, I could
have had a family with. And he is now. I said, it's
not too late. I said, you can still do that. He's like,
na man, I don't know, but he is to the point where
it all of a sudden dawned on him. In his fifties that he's not
going to be around forever. But you're forty, Kate. Shut up,
Kate, You're still young. You're fine. Don't aige yourself premature. Not
become an old lady at forty years old. You got plenty of time when
you are fifty five or sixty, you will look at the age of forty
and go shit, I didn't know how young I was. Yeah, next
one. I'm a faithful listener for many years. I drive to work,
never thought of contacting the radio station ever before I caught the segment with Jenny
as she endured the people who brought you brought into chew in front of her
to win tickets. I was horrified, as she obviously has a condition called
misophonia. My son shares the same condition, as characterized by people being panicky
and raised and irritated by the sounds of chewing, dripping water, chewing,
or repetitive sounds. It's a legitimate condition that needs therapy or noise canceling devices
devices to live in the world for some people who have a severe case.
My son's a medical professional and he has suffered with it for ears. The
trigger sounds can be truly painful to the individual, and nothing to me made
light of or the butt of a joke. Please be informed about this condition
and give Jenny grace as she deals with such a life altering affliction, and
apology might even be in order. Thank you for your consideration, and I
appreciate you writing that in I didn't know that. I think i'd heard about
it. I will only say if Jenny really was affected by it, we
would have known in advance, and Jenny would have said, there's no fucking
way you're going to do that. Yeah, because Jenny advocates for herself,
and she would have never said yeah, Okay, No, I wouldn't of
And I don't think I have a severe case. I just have like a
mild case. I will say that I didn't realize that it's all incompassing of
other noises. And now it makes sense because last night we had put our
window unit into our bedroom a week ago, when it was like eighty five
degrees out and it was raining on the window unit, and it sounded like
the loudest pelts on that window unit, and it was when we were going
to sleep, and it was driving me insane and I could not focus on
anything else. That eventually stopped, but I thought it was more just a
food thing. But I do notice little noises all the time, and it
does drive me insane if I'm trying to like do something like sleep. Obviously
there is We've talked about this, probably on the radio. There's a ceiling
fan. We've had to have it replaced several times because it goes lightest and
it sounds enough like my alarm clock that I would wake up to it thinking
my alarm is going off, that I'd realize it's the ceiling fans. So
we had somebody come by and fix it. It was fixed for a couple
of weeks, started up again. We finally got rid of it, because
I mean, and I think that's normal. I don't think our brains can
get used to something that is I mean, maybe some people can get used
to just noises like that that are consistent and it won't stop. Next to
email listening to old podcasts. Two random questions from Christy Fallon. Is your
friend Abbie still dating the guy she met and was so happy with? Sadly,
No, And it's really such a bummer because Abby, she said that
was probably her first boyfriend she's had and got. I don't know how many
years, She said, maybe thirteen. It's been a long time because she's
dated, she's gone on date, she's gone on a couple of dates,
and it's she's really sad about it. Honestly. He gave her, I
think a couple of BS excuses and yeah, I just feel so bad for
because her thing was it was the first person she's she's ever dated who actively
let her know he liked her, he thought she was pretty, things like
that, she'd never had someone make her feel like cared for. Yes,
So he said that he's been living in that town for a very long time.
He wants to get out and his dream is to be a traveling nurse
and because that's what he does now, and so he said that he doesn't
want to be in a relationship with someone and be kept there any longer.
If he decides tomorrow he wants to go do this, he wants to do
that and not deal with being in a relationship. And Abby even said,
well, my job would let me go for like short periods, not like
I couldn't be gone for three years. And he was like, nope,
I don't want the like thing. And the annoying part is I think it's
like partial true, partial excuse. I think he's someone who wants to do
that, but he's never going to actually do it because he's lived there for
twenty three years. And I think that she's going to see him out and
about in a bar in two years and he'll never have done it and she'll
be sad. But it's fine, and I hope she finds someone by then.
And I think he's been very straightforward and honest and kind to her,
so I don't fault him at all. And it's possible he's just not as
into her as she is to him, you know what I mean. Then
that's fine. So and I think he probably just want to tell her the
truth. And it's easier to say here's my excuse than to say, yeah,
I'm just not that into you. Yeah, I don't know what.
It is a hard thing to hear. Yeah. Also, Daved is still
Susan's work at her store all of the time she does. We've reached a
little bit of a compromise on it. The background on this is Susan owns
a store in Chanhassan with her friend and they're the owners, and they do
have some kids that work there, so they don't have to work there all
the time and run the workshops, but she is there a lot, and
it's become a real bone of contention because it is not a money making store.
It makes enough to pay the bills and bring home a little bit,
but it's more of a hobby than it is a source of income. So
I get really annoyed that she's down there, working, working, working on
kind of a hobby store. And that means on Saturday's, if she has
to work from eleven until four, we can't go out of town for the
weekend. That means we cannot leave Friday at five o'clock and then go to
Duluth for the weekend and then come back on Sunday at five. We can't,
And it really it affects my lifestyle because I want to do things on
the weekend and she's got to work at her store most of the time on
Saturdays. So she has done better. And you might roast me for this,
but it's like, let her have her thing. It's like, you
know, we we always agree that our schedules were kind of the same.
We all work Monday through Friday and then we had our weekends free and once
in a while, we'd want to go out of town, but now we
don't get trips unless it's a vacation. Have a serious question. Is there
an end game for her? Like does she want to do this for the
rest of her life until she retires or whine? No, Well that's that's
a really good question, because I will be very transparent. I said,
what are you going to do when this business goes away? Like the paint
paint paintings and drink wine. Those were really cool about five or ten years
ago. Remember whenebod we go to a little like a little boutique and paint
paintings and drink wine. And they went away, And I don't think people
do that anymore. He said, what's going to happen when people don't want
to do your business anymore? Oh? No, they really And I will
tell I will give her this she works or ass off at it to market
market market, and those workshops are full every single day. The workshops are
full, they're busy, and they do such a good job that people want
to come back, like ten fifteen times some people want to come back.
Yeah. So I don't know what the endgame is, but I do think
that one day like any business, it will run its course. I'm gonna
throw in a little shout out for the Indian Place that's a couple of doors
away. So there's a they're in a strip mall in chanhass And where the
cub is and there's like a man cave barber. There's furnished air which they
take donated furniture they're cleaning up and they sell it for charity. But there's
an Indian place about two doors away. Tried it the other day. I
don't know anything about Indian food. All I know is it's curry. It's
all curry. Whatever it was, it was delicious. I love Indian food.
It's so good. And they didn't give me a freebee. They didn't
even know. I didn't walk in and goach Dave Ryan, I'll give you
a plug on the radio. Yeah that's illegal anyway. So I'm doing it
beca as I really liked it. So there's a little plug for the Indian
Place in this trip mall. Okay, next one, checking emails, Minnesota,
Goodbye. On four nineteen yesterday you brought up how you keep your email
box very clean and organized. I want to add a little chaos to your
life and let you know how my email box looks. Currently, I have
ten fifteen emails fun as talk to my friends co workers who were in the
same situation. Just for reference, I'm twenty three. I've talked with friends
from ages twenty to twenty six were in the same spot. Isn't an age
thing an irresponsibility thing? Both just want to add some spice to your day.
Laugh, Emoti, thank you for keeping me company every morning with the
morning show and whatever time I listened to the podcast. Have a wonderful day
from Amanda. Amanda, I'm a little bit more like you. I don't
think it's an age thing at all. I think that it is an organizational
add I like things tidy kind of a thing. Amanda, you're sick.
You're sick. If I was, if I was as deep as you are,
I would highlight, select all and delete everything period and then if there
was something important in there, I would be able to search it in my
deleted box. Or that person will reach out to me, Oh god,
no, oh yes? Is that like intern John who used to work on
your show will show his phone and he has like eight thousand unread text messages.
I could never well in my email on my phone. When you open
up your iPhone, it's got the mailbox indicator down at the bottom with a
number of emails that are in there minus two three eighty eight. So don't
know why they're still in there. I don't know why it doesn't say zero
because I delete my empty my email box. I don't know what mysterious box
this email is in. It could be like an unused mailbox that I never
look at, probably like like I have one email address that I don't I
don't ever open it because I never use it. So it would probably spam
alerts notifications, probably that one. Then yeah, well that's it for the
Minnesota goodbye. Thank you for the emails. I will say we had trouble
getting into today's emails because our outlook is down. So if you wrote in
an email and you're going it was really good, where is it? We
weren't able to open it today, but chances are good I got in this
morning at like six am or five thirty am, but not after that,
not after that, So send them in to Ryan Show at katwb dot com.
Tell your friend about the Minnesota goodbye, and we'll see you tomorrow.