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is it is, No, it's Monday. Oh it's Tuesday, Monday,
Tuesday. Yeah, this a little keeping you guys on your game. I
don't why am I holding the cough? Okay, let's say yes. Let
us say hi to Leslie with the coughing. Hi stops home coughing. Everybody's
got a cough. Yeah. I probably caught it from Leslie and then the
other Leslie's out of costing people. She probably just accosted Genie. Oh,
that's a joke. That's like a joke grenade that's gonna hit you in a
couple of days. Yeah, you'll get that in a couple of days.
Gina is getting accosted right now, Ashley. So she and Kelly ooh,
Laddie, Dan and Amy's a cunt and Katie's rolling on e she's down at
a wonderland. Wonderland. Yeah, Sam Ernandino, you'll see, you'll see.
That's another joke that's gonna hit you later. Not Anna Ferris and Aaron
who is and Nikki call your girls and Jacob is very growley. Er you
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cute Oh she want to punch her? Andhan vashpe oh, and Missy and
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surgery right now, so she's out of it. And Valerie Bubba Fenwick and
Polly, we love your pancakes. And Athena, we love your dancing.
And Elizabeth Williamson's got so many kids, uh, and Rita rocks from all
in her basinette, even the big one. And also Stephanie's a stinker wrinker,
and Christa gets a strap in Sandra, it's not easy being green.
Jennifer needs to get up. Aaron is a dirty Sanchez and Sarah Stefano,
you're a Pisano. Here go whoo. So Xander is home sick today.
Yeah, I never thought i'd see the day where my kid he was clear
he's he's clearly sick. Last night he's coughing up a storm. There's a
cough going around, okay, because I took Natalia to urgent care. Oh
you did with it? How long? Has she had it. She's had
this cough for like it's going on like three weeks. It just keeps lingering
and it wakes her up in the middle of the night and blah blah blah,
and I'm like, all right, let's just go to urgent care and
get some shit. Yeah. So ever, they they said, there's a
there is a viral cough that's lingering and it is going around, especially in
teens, she said. So they gave her a butter al in Hailer and
haler and then they gave her like cough syrup, dessorup something, but no
antibiotic. Nope, it's a viral. I don't think it's a secondary infection.
I don't. I don't that. She didn't say no anyway. Yeah,
well, Xander's been coughing, but he was also he was at a
speech and debate. He got very worn out because Friday, he went to
school Friday, which I'll get to this later, but we had a speech
and debate, yeah, competition straight from school that went kind of late Kraka
dawn Saturday morning. We were on the road. We went to the all
day there. So he was so tired. Yeah, you know, but
yesterday like I would say, by afternoon, he just basically slept on it
off all day. At night that he was just constantly coughing. I'm like,
I think you're sick. He goes, no, it's just I have
some like flem in my throat. I was like, no, you don't,
I think you're sick, and he's like, no, I think I'm
fine. So then this morning he's coughing and has a sore throat an had
a headache, no fever though. I was like, I think you need
to stay home, and he was like, oh no, I can't stay
home. Wow, because Mondays are a big day at their school. They
have all their classes Monday, right, they do a block schedule, but
Monday they have all their classes. He's like, oh no, I can't
miss Mondays are hard? This who kids right now? What is happening when
kids want to go to school. I know Natalia she went to she's been
worn down, like not, she's working and she's just running herself ragged.
Yeah. She Saturday, her friend that she grew up with had her debutante
ball thing at her school or something, and her parents got Natalia ticket,
so she was gone. She definitely was going to that. And then it's
her best friend's birthday and they were having like a Manhattan Beach get together what
ever, and spend the night at her at her at her her grandparents house
down in Manhattan Beach on Saturday. On Saturday, so she got up early,
drove down to Manhattan, hung out with the girls down there, then
drove to Bourbank Saturday night to go to this thing. And remember the little
girl that she used to be friends with that's going to be like a CEO,
She's going to run a company someday. She her name was Cammy and
she was so move though, yeah she moved, but she came for this.
Their their friends. She flew in for it. Yeah, her and
her mom, okay, And so she got to see her. She was
so excited to see her. So she was not missing that, but yet
I'm like, and then she goes to Olivia. Yeah Olivia, okay,
yes, since they were like the threesome. The threesome exactly. So Olivia
and Natya don't go to school together either, But so anyway, this was
a big deal, you know. So she and all of Olivia's family was
there and so she's like, I'm not missing that, and and then I
was like, Okay, go to Manhattan Beach during the day and then come
back. And then she's like no, But then I'm driving back to Manhattan
Beach to spend the night with her friends, and I'm like that's a bit
too much. And then Sunday she's coming home early Sunday morning, getting up
at like the krack of dawn to come home because she was going to the
Oscars. Her dad got her an extra ticket and he didn't even go,
I guess, and he gave her the ticket. So it's like last year,
just like last year, so he got it at last minute. So
she got to go, which was really nice, but she don't want to
go now he gave it to her. Yeah, oh he only got one
ticket. He got an extra ticket. Well he got he got a ticket
like to the as he wasn't supposed to then, or at first he was.
Then he was, I don't know something, and then he did at
the last minute get a ticket and he was like do you know, Taler,
do you want to go? And she's like hell yes, so she
went. So then so on Sunday she had to come back. So my
point is is that she had a jam pack weekend, and I said,
why are you going all the way back to Manhattan Beach. Why not just
go to the debutante ball and then come home and go to fucking bed in
your bed. Yeah? Why? Because her she's with three friends, two
of them so the one girl's birthday. The other two friends that was with
her the birthday girl are not very close with the birthday girls as Natalia is,
so she feels like she's the glue for this group of friends. So
she feels like she has to go back. So she went back, and
she drove back, and then of course she didn't get barely night a good
night's sleep because the girls were up late and she went to bed early and
they're waking her up and she couldn't fall asleep, and of course, so
then you know, and then she's like, all these bitches get to sleep
in Sunday morning, She's like, yeah, I know, I'm lucky to
go to the oscars, but still it's like, you know, I didn't
sleep good, and I go, why I could have told you that,
you know, you should have just came home. But so she went to
Olivia's debutante ball thing, and she came they announced her name and she came
out to Here Comes the Sun by the Beatles, and Natalia bursted into tears.
She goes, I couldn't control myself. I just burst it into She's
not a crier in Natalia. It's kind of like elbe'. So this wasn't
like a debutante theme, like she literally had a debutante ball. I guess.
I don't know, because she does go to an all girls school.
I don't know that is weird. Isn't a weird archaic That's what I think,
But like, you know, a debutante is like you're presenting right your
child. I think it's more modern. I think they modern it up.
I don't know. I don't know, but I guess it's a tradition at
her school. I guess. Okay. So yeah, So she's sitting at
the thing at the table with her family and nobody else is crying but her,
and she's like I felt so stupid. I couldn't help, but she's
like really, like that's my friend, Like I love her so much and
we're gonna always be friends and blah blah blah. And I'm like, I
know. Natalia was getting really sappy and I was like this is really a
nice sight of you. Natalia, Is she drunk though, No, she
had a drive. She was dry now she was driving, and then I
think, I don't know, but like then she went back and then she
went back to Manon Beach and then she came back anyway. And then Jody
came over yesterday and we got her Natalia dressed and she did her makeup,
her hair and went to the oscars. Would she wear? She got this
dress like on sale, I don't know, by the mall, by the
whatever, but it was gold. It was really pretty. It was really
pretty, and it was like stretchy material, strapless, really pretty. And
she does her makeup like on fleek or whatever. That's still a word.
But she does her makeup really well. So so who is she hanging out
with there? So she went by herself. But then when she got there,
because she saw like Jimmy, this year was nice and he got everybody
in his family tickets like usually every year. Melissa was like, we all
feel like assholes because half the family gets to go and the other you know,
he's got a big family, he's got cousins. Right, this year,
every he got like everybody a ticket. So the whole family. So
as soon as she got there, she ran into like one of them,
and then she sat with all of them. And then she went to the
Governor's ball and she took a picture with Chris and Elmsworth Endsworth, she took
a selfie with him. He was really nice, and she hung out with
his family and James Baby, all Dixon and everybody. You know, she
it's I think it was. You know, it's good for her, Like,
you know, she loves Dixon. She loves talking to him. She
talked to Jimmy for a long time. She said, Yeah, she took
a selfie with Jimmy. Yeah, she talked to him for a long time.
And then they all get on a shuttle to go get the Uber,
but instead I guess they all got a shuttle just like a sprinter van to
take everybody home. So they were like, we're kidnapping your daughter. She's
coming with us, she's gonna get in the right she's getting a ride home,
but it's gonna be a while because we have to go to like drop
everybody off. So Natalie was like one of the last to get dropped off.
But they're her cousin, Jimmy's cousin Anne and Josh, who are the
sweetest. They're all so sweet, who are so sweet. They were like,
we're gonna take her. She's gonna go with us last because her because
our house is kind of out of the way. Everybody else lives by each
other. So anyway, so she got home at like midnight, and it
was you know, it was I stayed up waited for her, and she
had a great time. Yeah, did she go to school today? Yes?
That was my point. So she got I'm like, you're gonna I
could not believe, I said, because I make her breakfast every morning.
And I sent her a text. I'm like, are you up? And
she's like yep. I'm like, wow, I'm very proud of you.
She was up and dressed and music on and going to school. Yeah.
I mean, she's a kid. She can handle it. I know.
It's just funny for me. I'm exhausted. I know. Well, I
feel like Elbie was like that a lot senior year. I'm pretty sure she
was constantly instantly on the guy. I mean she was working like Ilbi was
working like twenty hours a week all through her senior year. I was just
like, is this crazy? Yeah? And her junior year. But yeah,
constantly doing so many things and like running herself completely ragged, right,
And I tell her, like, you're gonna exhaust yourself. Thank god,
she doesn't have to go to work tonight, but she does. Yeah,
she's been working a bunch of week a bunch of nights. She works like
three or four days a week. She had to go in one day when
it was her off day to cover for the girl that got sick or I
don't know. So she likes it. She's loving it. Yeah, And
but yeah, she's she's gonna run herself ragged, but I guess it is.
It's senior year. Making herself a little money. Though. Does she
get tipped? Thank god? Yes, No, she doesn't get tips.
Oh no, they don't have to give give any they don't have to tip
out the hostess. No, but somebody gave her a twenty dollars bill because
she got them a table. Oh yeah. She was like, She's like,
I didn't really do anything, but we were packed and they didn't have
reservations, and she's like, let me see what I can do. And
then she went and talked to the to the whatever and they made a table
for them and the guy gave her like a twenty buck here you go on
his way out. Thank you for that. Yeah, And she's like wow,
thanks, Like she was like, yeah, it's nice that they're making
their own you know, they can make their own money. Oh yeah,
it's great. Yeah, I'll be I mean I haven't had to. I
don't support anything outside of like I mean, we still pay her insurance and
pay her phone, right stuff like that. Yeah, she doesn't pay rent
or anything. But yeah, I mean she all of her mostly eats meals
out of the house. I mean, yeah, she eats food in the
house, don't get me wrong. But my point is, most stuff she
just pays for herself. I don't give her money anywhere for anything. That's
awesome. Yeah. Yeah. The other thing too, is Natalia eats at
home all the time. Now she used to like order this and that.
She eats lunch. Oh shit, I forgot to make her lunch. Fuck
well, she's got leftovers in the fridge. But she comes home every day
at lunch and eats lunch at home, and then of course I make her
lunch. But whatever, it's easy. You know, throw some chicken,
you know, and some salad together, and that's it, but she could
probably do that. She can do that. Yeah, But and then she
eats breakfast every morning. She eats breakfast, She eats eggs and avocado toast,
which I make for her, and then she eats dinner at home.
Yeah, so she changed. Yeah, she used to eat out all the
time and now she doesn't want to. She likes coming home at lunch.
Interesting, what about our boyfriend? What about him? Aren't they are they
in school together? They are in school. He comes home, he comes
with her. Sometimes she comes with her friends or him. She doesn't go
out to eat with him at night. They do you know what they do?
They do a monthly anniversary where it's like it's our seventh month together,
so we're going for sushi. You know. They do that kind of shit
right during the week, No, you know, No, Like he usually
just comes over in the evenings and hangs out with us, hangs out with
her, and then goes home. She's in bed by nine thirty. She
has to. She's like, I'm in bed at ninth lights out at nine
thirty. That's yeah, I'm wild. I know. She's she's changed,
Like and then she works out like six to seven days a week, she's
got to get her work out in and she tells me, so, yeah,
she's she's I'm pretty proud of her. It's still good, very different
than my kids. But she was the same way. Like I think in
senior year something changed, like some She's just motivated, you know. I
mean Elbie gets no exercise whatsoever. Uh, Xander is more of the like
he gets out, he walks a lot. He used to go to the
gym with John, but he doesn't. He told me he just doesn't like
the gym. Yeah, but he likes he has like a pull up bar
and he's been doing his pull up bar and he does push ups at home.
And then he tries to like get out and he goes like skateboarding every
evening and you know, yeah, stuff like that. Sadie does nothing.
They eat, I mean they eat kind of junkie. Xander eats more healthy
and like limits himself with sweets and but you know they eat like five I
mean the teenagers. Yeah, you know, yeah, it's just still weird,
like just watching them change, you know. And like Sonny goes for
a walk every night. He loves to go for his walks. Yeah,
every night after dinner and listening to his corn. That's right, walking around
the neighborhood listening to porn. So that he's doing. I tell you that.
The other night, I woke up at like I think this was last
month. I woke up at like four thirty four forty five in the morning.
It was pitch black outside, and I took Phil to go to the
bathroom, and as I was walking into the living room, Sonny just comes
walking down the hall dressed with his earbuds on him, like, good morning,
what do you what are you? Where are you going? He goes,
I'm going on a walk. Excuse me, I go now, and
he goes, yeah, I couldn't sleep at all to last He's got really
bad insomnia, and I'm taking him to a doctor in like two weeks.
Oh, actually next week. I'm like okay. So he yeah, he
but but because he took a nap earlier in the day, he took a
lot and he usually does it, so he fell asleep. He woke I
woke him up for dinner. It was like six thirty and he goes like
that nap was like three hours and I was like oh, and he goes,
yeah, so I didn't sleep. So he's like if I go for
a walk right now, tire myself out, and I'm like, it's pitch
black out, and he goes, so what, I go for a walk
at night and it's pitch black and there's not a lot of lights in our
neighborhood either, which is just weird. At three o'clock in the morning.
No, this was like five five in the morning. Oh okay, it
was like four or forty five. And yeah, I ran into him at
like five in the morning. But then was he going to go back to
sleep after his walk? Yes, and like sleep till what eight or he
doesn't have first period. He doesn't have first period, so he can see.
Yeah, so he came back like an hour later, and then he
went to sleep like six forty five seven, and then got up at like
nine and then went to bed at a good time that night. And now
he's back on track. Okay, he will have once in a while like
nights, but he did again take a nap. But he does have these
nights where I mean Adam was like that. Adam's like that, like just
up in the middle of the night, can't sleep. I guess it's hereditary.
Yeah, maybe, so I think it is John used to be like
that, but he's normal now. Yeah, But I think and I think
with John, I was the one I got up every morning and did everything,
and I think that he would sleep in every morning, so it's harder
for him to get to sleep at night. But now he gets up when
I get up because I'm not sure why. But the way it works is
that I take the dog out in the morning and he takes the kids.
He drives the kids to school. Oh okay, and then it's good.
Yeah, I'll pick them up in the afternoon. But yeah, so he
goes to bed at night at a decent time. Yeah. We go to
bed at like midnight, yeah, I mean, and then get up at
seven five, Yeah, which is fine that the kids also go to bed
at like midnight. And I've always thought the kids need, you know,
like ten hours of sleep or something, but my kids do not. They
are wide awake at midnight. A lot of times. I'm just like,
I can't outlast them. I know, I know, I'm in bed usually
by eleven, but sometimes I'm not asleep till twelve. But then I'll put
on a podcast and then I'm like out darted bear, How do you do
you fall asleep. I was listening to a court thing in my earbuds,
and I went to sleep. And then I wake up and I'm like,
how do people do this? I can't find my earbuds now they're gone.
They're all like tangled up in my sheets. I then call one of them
to find I don't listen on my earbuds. I just put the podcast on
and I set it to go off. I said it. I set a
timer. The timers right on the podcast app. I see that. Yeah,
it just has a little moon, and you just hit that and I'll
say when do you want it to go off? And I'll say after the
end of the episode. Oh, And then I just we put it kind
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Speech and debate. Tournament, Yeah, tournament, tournament, tournament, tournament,
tournament. I say tournament, you guys say tournament. That just sounds
so wrong. It sounds like I'm being Chicago, like, yeah, turnament.
I went to the tournament anyway, went to the turnament. I think
that you say it the proper way. Tournament. No, it is tournament.
What do you think tournament? Tournament? Yeah, it seems like it
should be tournament, though. I don't want to get into a whole argument
with our listeners, you know, and get a bunch of hate mail,
because you guys are haters. You guys drink the hater aide and are so
mad at me right now. So I'm gonna please you guys. Tournament,
God, there's better things to cancel us over. Trust me. Tournament anyway,
tournament, Uh, tournament. There was a speech in another Speech and
debate, tournament. It's the state qualifiers. Wow. Yeah, and Xander
was in it along with his team and the people's on his team. I
don't know. Is it small? Say they were like fifteen, that's a
big team. Yeah, I mean there's there are more than that, but
I don't know where the I don't know. Okay, yeah, so they
like them and all the grades. Okay, yeah, so but it's a
small school, right, so okay, but for such a small school,
they won. They won quite a few things. That's awesome. Yeah,
yeah, Xander did not win. Spoiler alert. Okay, but you had
so much fun. Yeah yeah, so but I I'm gonna I get to
complain about this one. Oh now, why so? I was so excited.
I was so excited. I when I got the email from the teacher
asking for judges, I was like the first one. I was like,
I'm in, I'm in. And she was like, listen, I don't
want to have to have people have to work both days, so we really
need people to step up. I was like, no, you don't,
I'll work both days. I got you. I'm your girl on Friday and
Saturday, right, And she was you know, so their coach. I
love her so much. She's like, she's so nice. Yeah, she's
also the uh English, the honors English teacher. Yeah, the kids love
her. She's just funny. She's got like a nose ring and she's like
she's young and you know, she's just cool. But she also was she
competed in speech and debate when she was young, and she's really good and
so had equality to have. I think it's a good skill. Yeah,
really good skills to have learned that skill. I meann't have any speech and
debate at my school. Did they have it at year school? I don't
remember, I don't. I don't think so. I mean I went to
that small magnet right right, hippy dippy school. But okay, okay,
okay, yeah, I don't know, but it's so good for these kids,
it is. It's a great se great skill. Yeah. So anyway,
I agreed to do it. Went there on Friday, so there was
a one round, two rounds to be judged on Friday, and I did
get to judge around I'm trying to think of how many there were. Well
I only got to judge one. But I was like, that's okay,
you know, but you got all day tomorrow, Yes exactly. I'm like
tomorrow I was gonna be crazy, right. A couple of the people though,
on Friday night. The other judges had like back to back rounds and
were already like sweating it a little bit, like so here's how it goes,
and you know me, I get my brain, I'm like fucked up.
I'm not trying to ever claim that I'm super like mentally healthy. I'm
just saying I'm just being I'm just being honest with everybody about my own things
that make me. I'm a planner, and not in a good way,
not in the way of like, oh I like to be organized and plan
things out, more like I like to constantly my brain is constantly going like
what could go wrong? And it's not even catastrophizing. It's more like,
oh no, but if I can't figure out where the parking lot is,
you know, because anytime I have to follow, you know how we both
are like this about like a lot of instructions. I can't take so much
information in my BRAIND right, maybe this is an ADHD thing. But once
there's a second page of instructions for anything I lost the first, Yeah,
I know, me too, And then I have to print it out and
I'm like, oh, what if I am out of service and I'm not
gonna be able to see where to go, and you know, and how
long is it going to take me to get there? And it's a Friday
and Friday traffic and I need to leave right after school. But then Xander
has to change first, so I'm like okay, then one of the roads
is closed. Suffice it to say, I was late. I had to
find this parking lot. So I'm already like anxious. Yeah right, And
it's not like I'm I'm not totally nuts. It's like I'm anxious, but
I'm like it's fine. I tell myself like whatever, hey, I got
here. They're not going to kick me out of it. And of course
a lot of people other people were late. You know, it's Friday traffic
in Los Angeles. Yeah. So but then you get all these judging instructions,
so it's like every beat of this is a lot of instructions. Okay,
right, so you're constantly going like okay, I'm gonna forget this,
Like how much of this do I really need to talk me? Do it?
Like? So, yeah, I did it before. I did it
before, so I wasn't that nervous about that. But you could get a
different thing to judge, and they act like there's new rules like for instance,
for instance, in this one, you're supposed to give the kids a
rating. Remember I described this to you last time, between seventy and one
hundred, but nobody really tells you what to exactly base your rating on.
So some people are giving kids like a hundred, like I gave kids a
hundred, But other people are like, well a ninety is really generous,
Like you don't know. Everybody treats it like we're like we're judging the Olympics,
you know, right, and you're like, well, I got to
take off a tenth of a point for posture. Hey, you don't know
who's doing what or And also it's just super subjective, right, like what
you think is good and what other people think is good. But anyway,
and it's mostly speech, right, no debate, right, there's no debate.
No. So in this one though, So in the last one that
I judged, you give them you rank them, Like let's say you have
seven kids competing in year round. You rank them one through four, and
then the rest of them are all tied for fourth place. So really what
you care about is one through three. Well, in this one, because
it's a state qualifier for whatever reason, there were no speaker points involved,
but our in when they're giving you the instructions, there's a lot of talk
about the speaker points and how many speaker points to give. Then when we
looked at our ballot, there's no no place for speaker points. So then
you have to bring your computer over and show it to them and go,
hey, I don't know there's no speaker points, and they're like, oh,
yeah, we're not doing speaker points. Okay, so just do your
ranking. Okay. Also, this is gonna this is gonna seem like too
much information. But so my computer at home, the battery doesn't work.
Like, if you unplug my computer, you're gonna have no battery in fifteen
minutes. Right, Well, you have to have some kind of a laptop.
So I borrowed Xander's computer. Well, Xander never failed to mention that
the space bar is really sticky, so you can't tight. I don't know
what he freaking uses it for. I mean, I think I have to
get this fixed, right, I don't really know how to get it fixed,
because I think he just deals with it. But you cannot. You
have to you can't use your thumb. You can't tight normally you have to
like specifically hit the space bar and if you hit it to and he gives
you a period. Oh god, it's so ridiculous. Also, I can't
use a track pad, I'm too young. Can I have to use a
mouse? So now I'm like, well, I gotta connect my wireless mouse,
you know, to his computer. Well, so Friday I go and
Xander's like, mom, I need you to bring my clothes, don't forget
the computer. I'm like, of course, I'm not going to forget.
I'm anxious. I've got a list of everything I need. Well, I
get to the school and I forgot the mouse. So now I'm like,
can't you plug in your laptop though, and use it like that? Like
plug it in? And just because if you if there's a lot of people
there, and there are probably like a couple of outlets in the whole place,
So the main place where you're sitting around tables and there's no outlet there,
I'd have to go off by myself and find an outlet. It's like,
would be a pain. It was fine to use Xander's computer, battery
lasted all day. The problem was I had to use a track pad and
a sticky space par key, which I didn't know I was going to be
dealing with. Anyway, I get one round. I judged the round,
it was totally funk, and I don't get the next round. Then I'm
sitting around this Friday night. This is Friday night, okay, yeah,
but I'm like, oh, Saturday, They're going to exhaust me all the
judging I'm going to be doing. Yeah, no, now what? So
I get there, so I'm with I have a friend of mine meets me
there who I really like, So that part was fun. And we were
meeting another friend whose kid goes to the school, who was going to be
judging. So I'm like, well, at the very least, I'm going
to have fun with some mother mom your friend. Yeah. So we get
there. They made this big deal about getting there by eight o'clock, and
I asked, well, can we get there a little late since we heard
the judging instructions already. He's like, you need to be in this room
by eight thirty in the morning, Saturday, the morning, Saturday morning.
So I was like, okay, So now I'm anxious about it. So
I make sure, as you're gonna hear in my Patreon story, I make
sure that the girl that's I'm driving is dropped off at our house at seven
thirty because it's a little bit far. I've got to pick up another girl.
Then I got a Then I'm like gonna be taking kind of a long
way anyway, long story short, I was. I was there by like
ten after eight, OK, but you're supposed to be there at eight.
My deadline. My thing was like, Okay, yeah, you don't have
to be here right at eight, but if you're no later than eight,
pty, Well I there at like ten after a quarter after eight? No
one there. Don't I know what happens? Like, don't you? This
is full on early bird. This happens. It seems like it happens with
these kinds of events, like with track and field and stuff. It's like,
you got to be there at seven fifteen am on the dot, blah
blah blah. We get there and like nobody's there. Yeah, where is
everybody? Right? And why are we the only rule followers? I'm not
even a rule follower, Like that's what's so ridiculous. And it's like I'm
the last person who's really trying to follow rule. I was just anxious,
right and got there on wanted to make sure I was there on time,
so got there a little early. But yeah, not even early though.
It was supposed to be there at eight, right, So like where it
is now, it's like eight thirty. People are like wandering in. People
were wandering until fucking nine o'clock. Oh god, my then nine o'clock.
So so ballots go out, don't get one and neither does neither does my
friend though, so I'm not feeling that bad. Okay, then the next
ballots go out. Nothing. Basically I didn't get anything all day. I'm
sitting in a room. But every time they're like, okay, they're starting
around. These rounds go an hour and a half every time, though,
I'm like scared to leave because a where am I going? Right? Like
I could go like walk around. We were in Burbank, so I could
go to like the Burbank mall, but like and then I'm gonna have to
walk back to my school, and you know, so I was like I
kept thinking, like, well, they're about to give me something to do.
All day long, I had nothing to do except for I ate too
much because they were like munchies, you know, so I ate food and
then I sat around and then this is where this is where my personality is,
Like, this is where I run into issues. This is why I
never was able to keep jobs for too long, you know, Because then
I'm starting to take it a little bit personally, like I'm like, why,
don't know what's going on? Like I was gonna say, like,
doesn't it make you feel there's this such a little twinge of jealousy when they
get the ballots go out and you don't have one. I was feeling bad
for you. Yes, yes, And also I'm starting to get annoyed because
other people are getting overworked. So like the coach's sister had to come because
we were short a judge, and she got every ballot and she was like,
I don't know what's going on. I just keep getting ballot. I'm
having to judge every round like I can't get a break. And I said,
well I'll do I would be happily do your round. I wish I
was getting every round. I would have been thrilled. I was. I'm
like, this is what I'm here for. Yes, this is where I've
come alive. I was meant to do this shit, this is I would
do this for a Do you have an opening for speeching to bage coaches because
put me in. I want to do it. How do I apply?
Like, I got a new this is my new goal in life is to
be a speech to debag coach. You know, I'm like overly into it.
Yes, these assholes are like, oh, I'm too overworked. I
kind of how do I you know, have to blow to get a break
around here? So I'm just getting annoyed. So now the people, Okay,
So there's sort of like administrators. One of them is a speeching debach
coach for like a very big school, and I befriended her at the last
one. So first I start with like a little like amn, like hey,
like how come I haven't gotten any ballots? Like I could really use
a ballot And she's like, oh yeah, it's like totally random. And
so it is. There's something called the tab room. Okay. The tab
room is where they is the app that they use to do all of the
ballots. That's who they send all the ballots out and they organize everything and
then they tally up people's scores. Is this an actual room or is this
an app? Well, it's a room where tab room is. It's an
actual room. But it's it's like a it's an app. It's like a
website, Like you sign up on tab room and that's how you get your
ballots, and then that's how you write your comments directly into this website basically.
And then the people who run tab room, it's they're sitting in another
room. Okay, tabulating. Wow, this is really like yes, oh
it's it's like crazy, it's serious business. Yeah, it's serious. So
she's like, oh that the tab room does everything. But so I'm like,
oh, she's you'll get one. Then she starts telling me like,
don't worry if you don't get them early in the day. They're trying to
So this is like, this is gonna be in the weeds. But they
they call it keeping you clean because if you haven't, if you've judged some
kids, then you can't judge them in later rounds. You've already judge them.
So they're like, oh, she's they're probably saving you for the important
rounds. Oh. I'm like, oh, okay, well of course they
are. Now that makes sense, right, They probably got a load of
my judging abilities from the last one. And they're like, this girl knows
how to judge. Gotta save her right, right. Also, if any
of these schools are looking for a coach, we got this, we got
this judge. You did like a fabulous job, right, So I'm like
okay, so same with my friends. She hasn't judged any rounds either.
So then now it's after lunch and we're in the semi finals. We're in.
We're now into the rounds where like these me clean, these clean,
amazing judges. Yes, no, I get nothing. So now I'm getting
mad and now I'm being there's a difference between the squeaky wheel and like the
wheel that's falling off the heart that people should not have to be paying attention
touse, Like I'm just a judge, and now I'm just like I just
don't understand what's going on, and I can't help myself. Like I'm like,
Stephanie, do not say anything. Nobody cares about you. It is
like very crazy that you're obsessed with why you haven't gotten ballots. But I'm
like, hey, you are wasting a Saturday. Yes, yes, And
I'm sure that some of these people don't, like don't they need to go
somewhere? It's in It is like doesn't somebody need to leave after lunch,
one of the judges from our school was like, had injured her back and
was like, I came, but I really would rather not be here.
They kept giving her ballots and she was like, dude. Finally she went
in and told them, like, is if there's any way that I could
go home? We got other judges that are like not doing anything my school,
right, Yeah, she went and told them, and they told her
she could go. Still didn't give me a ballot. Oh my god.
Now I'm just getting mad. It's getting rigged or something. Yes, And
now I'm of course starting to take it personally. Now I'm like, did
I do something wrong? So I do say, hey, like I I
would really like to get a ballot. And now this woman from the big
the coach who has the big school, who's not in charge, is feeling
bad for me, but also probably annoyed by how much I'm complaining. Now
I've turned into a full on complainer, and I'm just like, I just
don't understand. I just don't know why I'm not getting any ballots. Like,
and then of course when I every time there's a new round and I
don't get one, I'm like and I'm trying not to Lynette. I'm like
in my mind, like this is why you got fired from Burger King when
you were sixteen, and nothing has changed, like Stephanie sitting there and breaking
a pencil every time they call other people. Let's take a quick break and
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loudly like, but I can't help myself. I'm just like, I just
don't understand why I haven't gotten one. So finally, because I'm being so
pushy, she goes the So the coach's sister gets yet another one. She's
like another, She's she's done like six or seven rounds at this point,
I've met none. All of a sudden, she's like, we gave you
a ballot, but they'd already sent out the ballots for this round. This
is like late in the game, so I wasn't gonna get one, but
then because I was being kind of pushy about it, I got one and
my friend got one and we got to do the same one. And the
round is called impromptu. And it's where this is really hard. So kudos
to these kids. They have to they get a topic. You give them
one word. Okay, they get a choice of three words and they could
be like like meditation, board games, optimism. So they pick one,
right, they sit down, they get two minutes to come up with a
speech. They get two minutes to come up with something, and then they
have to speak for five minutes. Wow, it's impressive on the topic.
Yeah, And so we were and you have to time them and you have
to so in this one, because it's the semi finals, there's three judges,
right, so it was me and my friend and then another judge and
you don't get to confer with each other. And anyway, so we watch
these kids. We got like seven kids. They were all adorable, so
good, and that's where we were like, God, what a skill this
is. And they have to be really presentational, like you can't just be
like, so okay board games. Like when I was a kid, I
really liked board games, but now I don't like them as much, but
I still like scrabble. Like, you can't do that. It has to
be What they have to do is they have to go. As a child,
my favorite game was blah blah blah. But then as I got older,
I really wanted a cell phone, and then soon after that, I
was always on my phone, and I lost my appreciation for the simple things
in life. Now I'm going to be talking about uh, Julius Caesar and
blah blah blah and blah blah blah, all to make my point of why
we need to appreciate the simple things like board games. So you have to
make these connections in your head and then use literature or movies or whatever to
make your examples. So I was just like, holy fucking shit, I
could never do this. I was. It's nervous. For each one of
them, I was like, and they were all cool as a cucumber.
None of them seemed like really freaked out. They were all amazing. That's
crazy, that's such a good skill. Yeah. One girl did hers about
the word was loneliness, and her thing was so beautiful, and she talked
about this poet that was an introvert and that was wrote these would go out
into nature and turned her being an introvert and loneliness into these beautiful poems and
how and the end of the thing was like, try to if you feel
lonely, try to find connection through turning your whatever sadness into art and therefore
connecting with other people who also feel lonely. I was like, holy shit,
this girl's number one. I gave her number one. But it was
so interesting because after we all submitted our ballots, me and the other two
judges conferred like yeah, we you know, we compared notes and it was
so interesting because like the person who was like my number two was this person's
last one. Like we all appreciated different things. Yeah, you know,
that's so it's really really fun. So then I was on a high.
I'm like, well here we go, baby, Like she's back. The
coach is bad and you're like, what time is it? How much time
do I have left? I still hope, like there's more to go.
Two more rounds, yes, So so there, and then I promptly did
not get the next round and then did not get the final round. So
then I'm like deflated. Also in my mind, I'm like, so basically
I wasn't going to get any except that I pushed the one that I got
I hadn't gotten originally because I complained. And then they took the coach's sister
off of that round, and I think, put me on it. Do
you think you're not clean? I'm a dirty bird. You're a dirty bird.
Well, so here's what happened. So I'm like having a complete internal
battle with myself. I'm just like, I just feel like something's weird,
you know, right, But it is ridiculous to be thinking about myself.
I mean there's like forty judges in that room, like, you know.
But I so I'm walking out and the one coach from the other team who
I'd befriended was like, I'm so sorry you didn't get like more rounds,
and I was like, yeah, me too. I was told myself I
wasn't going to complain, and then I was like, yeah, it was
really weird, Like I don't understand, and she was like, oh,
next time, you know. So then I see my coach, the coach,
Yeah, my coach see this is how narcissistic I've gotten about this,
like it's all about me. My kid's coach, I see her. Yeah.
Meanwhile, my poor kid did not make it even to semifinals, like
he was eliminated early. I'm like, yeah, whatever, anyway, Sorry,
you're stuck here because I'm judging very important. Quit crying. I'm thinking
about me right now. Did I judge? Yeah, he was fine,
by the way, he didn't care. Yeah, anyway, So I see
our coach, the coach, and I was like, yeah. So I
was like, and I'm in my mind, I'm like, don't don't say
it. Don't say anything. And I'm like, do you think there was
any like reason why I didn't get round? I would like to l too.
I would ask, well, guess what mystery is solved? She said,
you know what. She's like, I she goes, I haven't really
seen this so much. She goes, but I have to give all of
my judges a rating. And she goes, and you're low. You're rated
low right now. And she goes, not for any other reason besides that,
your Brett, you're new to it. She's like, so you happen
to be on a day that I had she goes, the last one that
you did was a kind of lower stakes, and she goes, and most
of you guys were new, she goes, but this one, I've got
my sister who's been doing it for ten years. And then she mentioned the
other two people from our school's team and did it all last year. So
she's like, you were my newest judge. So you on our team of
judges, you were rated the lowest list. She's like, because and she
goes, and because it's like a high stakes, because it's this this determined
who was going to final. She's like, because it was high stakes.
If I have judges here who are higher rated than you, she goes,
every coach has to rate their judges, she goes, So, because you
are the lowest rated in my group of judges who are also available, they're
going to go to them first. She goes, But like next year,
because there's no more, we're done for the year because now the kids go
to states and then some kids go to final go to state. Do not
if my kid's not there? That's a little crazy. No, can you
imagine? I just I drive, I drive to Fresno. I'm like,
Sander's like, where are you going, I'm like to the state, you
know, go to this. Yeah, I'm like, don't worry about it.
I'll fill you in later. Yeah. So anyway, she was like,
next year, you know you can, you'll all rate you higher because
you'll have had experience. Oh good. So she's like, so they'll use
you a lot, especially in the early realms, right right, she's but
I was like, okay, like I just did nothing all day. Yeah,
and then I had to stay the whole time because they want all the
kids to stay to be good sports for the awards ceremony, so we all
had to sit and watch all the kids that were going to the finals.
And so yeah, wow, kind of disappointing, but yeah, but you
know, now you learn, now you know, and you'll be ready for
next year. You have your briefcase and your laptop charged up exactly, ready
for next year exactly. So anyway, that was that was my weekend.
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