Welcome to the I'm Still Fun Podcast with Fallon and Jenny, and it's just
us today, no extra guest, which is okay, I mean maybe not.
I I will say we got a lot of great response the past couple
of weeks, but last week we got so many I'm sure you did too,
messages from people loving Steve on saying they were laughing so much. And
obviously that always, you know, makes us happy. That's our whole goal.
So I want to thank you all for such positive feedback. We I
think both Jenny and I was like very nostalgic, and it was very weird
because we really haven't done audio talking format with Steve since twenty twenty when I
was like, oh and I didn't think about that. It was weird.
It was weird, but at the same time, because you guys obviously had
like I was a little more, but I was really behind the scenes back
then on the morning so you know, I mean I was on for random
segments, but I wasn't on all the time, and so like I watched
the two of you get right back into the shit that you used to do
on the show. Yeah, I mean it took like ten minutes maybe,
but you guys got back to it, and I just thought it was so
funny and just making fun of each other. Oh yeah, whatever, it's
been. Steve and I we didn't really have like a complete, I guess
update, but I would say, I mean I still talk to Steve at
least weekly, sometimes multiple times a week, you know what I mean?
Like what we have so many mutual things and friends and stories and things that
remind us of each other, and then just keeping each other updated. And
we still get lunch probably every once. There were three months or so.
Yeah, it's not I mean, especially it's harder now because he has a
different job. It's harder for him to go grab lunch with me. But
I know, you guys talk maybe a little bit less than we do,
but you guys still talk. Yeah, yeah we do. We're actually just
texting right now because Big Booty Mix Number Volume twenty four premiered over the weekend,
and he I feel I just was out of it. Yesterday. I
was traveling back from Savannah and he had texted me that there was a preview
on YouTube, and then I realized I forgot to respond to it, and
I just got to the gym and I texted him I was like, oh
my god, I'm so hype that you sent me this because now I have
something to listen to at the gym whatever. And so yeah, we text
about like random things every once in a while. Steve and I are like
not as consistent. But then when we do talk or like we will FaceTime
each other, we'll end up talking for like forty five minutes sometimes, but
it's once every six months, you know, it's not that often. So
but yeah, we stay in touch. And then I mean same with Tina,
Like we're both you probably talking hang out with Tina a little bit more
than I do. At the probab point. Yeah, but yeah, I
still text Tina here and there, and I begged her to come pick me
up from the airport yesterday, but she was busy apparently I just kidding.
No. I told her I would pay your money. I was like,
dude, i'll pay you. It'll be cheaper probably than an uber, but
I was like, I'll throw you some cash. She couldn't. Though she
couldn't uber, I did. I just we'd been taking ubers all weekend and
I just wanted to have someone like there to pick me up. And I
don't know, I we flew into Terminal two, which I did not register
with me because we flew American out there, and then we flew southwest back
and so I was like, I'm ordering an uber not realizing it, and
I'm like ordering it too Terminal one, and all of a sudden, I'm
like looking around. I was like, this is wait a minute, yeahn
one, And anyways, the uber came real fast. I just you know,
when you get home from a trip and you just want to get home
yep, like yep, you don't want to deal with like waiting for someone
to pick you up if they're not there, or like waiting for an uber.
Because I think Andrew got home from a ski trip once and I had
plans already and he had like delayed his ski trips, so it was on
him that like I couldn't come get him. And he got home and he
waited forty five minutes for I think he had ordered Lyft first, and then
he finally canceled and twitched to Uber and it was fine. Yeah, but
it just it's a nightmare having to wait for those cabs or whatever. Sometimes
we unless it's like a super long trip or we have crazy late hours,
we park at the airport now, because it's really like in most situations,
especially for like a long weekend, it's just easier and it's not even that
expensive, especially for where we live. We're lucky. My mom lives there
and she never really has anything going on. So the only time I don't
ask her again is if like our flight's super late, because all of would
be sleeping and she's probably watching all of us. I would never do that.
You're although, now we have Dylan. Oh that's right, unless he's
with us, I can like Dilly come pick us up. That's true.
You got your little built in driver. Absolutely. So how was Savannah?
You went for a bachelorette party this weekend? Yeah? Any drama unfolded?
Anything crazy happen that you're willing to share? Oh, she's looking off to
the distance. What can I share? We'll we'll get me in trouble.
There was drama. I'm not going to share it because it's pointless. But
that was just drama. There were comments made that too many people, you
think, no different personalities. Yeah, that's that's common. I think I
think it was. It all came down to personalities and there was just drama
because a comment was made about food that was cooked and someone else thought it
was hurtful, and it was. And I told that person that it was
hurtful too, because they were something like that. But that was a thing.
I mean, I talked about this on the radio today. But my
I mean, one of my friends, she kind of made me uncomfortable at
dinner because I didn't like my food, like it was not very good.
And I had asked her ahead of time if I could have some of hers,
because I was debating between what she was ordering and what I decided to
order. And I said, can I have a bite of yours when it
comes? And then I'm eating mine and it's not very good, and she
just inhaled hers and then she was full, and she still had about half
of it left. I was like, well, can I have some bites?
I was like, honestly, mine's not good. I might just eat
the rest of yours if you're done, and she's like, yeah, for
sure. But then the server comes and she's trying to ask the server to
take it away and take it off my bill pretty much and all this stuff.
And I just unless there's something really really wrong something, I am not
that type of person. I just think that that is a rude tendency,
and I told her I thought it was rude, and I tried to keep
it calm because we're at dinner and we're out to eat, but her and
I we call each other out for our ish and so sorry if you heard
the story on the radio already. But in the end, the server did
end up taking it off my thing because I didn't eat it. I like,
really, it got pushed to the side and it was never eight again.
I ate the rest of my friend's food, And I know she was
just trying to do the right thing, but she has a very bold personality,
so the way it was handled, I felt like rude and embarrassing.
Okay, yeah, so yeah, that was probably the other part. Other
than that, the trip was good. I mean for having we're supposed to
have twelve and one girl ended up bailing the day she was supposed to fly
out because she drove herself to the airport and she was so sick and she
was like I can't, like I'm going to go back home, and so
that was a bummer for her. And then it was like, yeah,
outside of that, it was pretty drama free, pretty chill. We had
an itinerary. We stuck to most of it. What were highlights you would
recommend people if they're going to Savannah, I would say, I mean,
we had a lot of if you're doing like a group trip. We had
a lot of fun doing the Pedal Pub because we did it during the day,
so you got to see like parts of the city. Well February right,
I wouldn't see it sign you might not want to it's a little too
toasty. So I did really like the Pedal Pub. I thought that that
was fun. I liked just honestly. Wandering around, we stumbled into some
really cool shops, one like boutique. My girlfriend got these really cool vintage
earrings from another like vintage shop right next door. We weren't staying in downtown
Savannah, so that made it a little bit difficult to explore as much as
I would have liked to, because ubers were not like cheap, like if
you wanted to go by yourself. But I also, did you guys go
to Tybee Island when you went? Yeah, but I call it Tibby Island?
Oh? Is that how it is? Gosh, I've been saying it
wrong. That's probably right. Okay, Yeah, we called it Tibby Island,
but I mean I could be wrong too. Yeah, so we I
mean, obviously we went. It was February, so it was pretty cold
and not touristy at all at the time when we went. What time do
the year did you guys go? I want to say around September, but
I can't remember. I feel like a lot of our trips are kind of
like late summer, early fall, and that was my friend's Hidi and Abbey,
and we only really went to Tibby Island to see like the lighthouse,
and then god, we didn't even see the lighthouse. We might have gotten
a meal there and then left. We are we have been old bitches since
we were in our early twenties. We are a lighthouse free. We love
to see a lighthouse. I mean, man, I'm surprised I didn't realize
that there was one there, and I should have because I remember seeing like
photos and pictures and like Stuvenir stuff that had a lighthouse on it. So
I don't know why I didn't realize that. Well, so we someone had
recommended a coffee shop on the way out that way, so I don't know
if it's tybing or tibbying, but it's t y b E A N.
And then it ended up being in this little area with a couple other cute
shops and just the shops itself they looked like surf shops, like very colorful,
yeah, and a really cute area. So I liked that. We
stopped there. And then once we got to the beach, it was cold,
yeah, And I mean it was seventies in like low seventies in Savannah
all weekends. So we all brought our suits like thinking we were going to
like whatever that did not happen and cold punch. Yeah. But what I'll
say is, did you guys have a car when you went Yep? It
was really hard for us to get ubers in that area, Like it was
honestly kind of a nightmare for our group. The other group had way better
luck because we split up all weekend like six and five to get excels and
we could. I thought we were going to be stuck on that island all
day. We could not get an uber to save our life. We asked
our server for a cab company number and try to call them, but they
were going to charge us like ninety dollars for this cab that was going to
take us ten minutes back to our air being maybe like fifteen but still like
kind of extreme. So anyways, we finally got an uber. We had
to split up then and just order a smaller uber yep, but and we
got one right away, but then the other one wasn't coming for like twenty
five minutes. And when you want to leave and keep going with your trip,
you want to get going. So the first one comes and the guy
was so nice and he allowed us to shove five people in his arm,
and we just canceled the other one. So yeah, I would say,
just like walking around and exploring was really fun in Savannah, just looking at
the differentect architecture. We did a ghost tour and I feel bad saying this
because I don't want to insult anyone who might listen to this, but it
was not my thing, like because I have some friends I might listen to
this, and it wasn't my thing, mostly because I'm not into creepy stuff.
And we just walked around. It was nighttime and I know that that's
what people love that stuff, And did you guys do anything like that?
Yeah? I think, And I think it's okay to dislike it. My
friend's Heidi or my friend Abby doesn't like spooky, creepy stuff. She's kind
of like you. But we did in Savannah we did a Hearst tour and
a prison tour and the Hurst tour was fun because they drive you around and
the reason I like that, and like when we went to Salem we did
like the you know which tour and the evening is because a I always think
those tours kind of give you a little bit of a lay of the land,
which is nice if you do them earlier on in the trip too.
You do learn some history, even though a lot of the paranormal portion,
you know, is a story. You know, it could be true,
it could not totally like a tale that's been told for years and years that's
gotten grand or probably yeah, but it's still like I think it's fun,
so like I totally get not liking it, but we like Like the prison
tour we did I thought was lame. The prison ghost tour, I was
like, that was walking. I was like, this is lame. But
the Hurst tour, I think because the tour guide was so fun, like
over the top. That made that one fun. And then the like in
Salem I feel like, if Salem is really small, it's it's so small.
After you do like the hocus Pocus stuff and stuff like that, you
kind of are looking for things to do, so like doing a witch tour,
it kind of makes sense. Yeah, no, and I agree.
I'm I'm happy I got to experience it. And I actually would recommend doing
those tours instead of that we did, because we just met in a park
and then had a guy that we walked around for like an hour and a
half to different places. Okay, And the hearst tours look super cool.
I mean it's literally like an opened hearse where you sit on top and it's
like you're out in the open. So those looked pretty cool, and I
would I would probably have preferred if we would have done one of those,
I would have might have liked it a little bit better. But it's not
really my thing. And there was one story that did like really creep me
out, and I did wake up that night. It was our last night
there. I did wake up after only being asleep for like an hour,
and I was really anxious and I did not I had like a bloody mary
that day, so I know it wasn't from alcohol. Yeah, and I
was super anxious and I couldn't pinpoint where it was stemming from. And I
don't know if it was just like I had been dreaming weird dreams and woke
up feeling weird again from like some of the store worries. Because it's just
I don't like spooky things, because things sit in my head and do not
leave, Like when I hear something scary, it takes over my brain and
it's almost like I can't tell the difference between something that's fake and something that's
real, and like some of that stuff is quote unquote being there. Yeah,
right, So I think that's why I don't like it, because it
makes me feel really uncomfortable. And anyways, but overall, the trip was
good. I was a little nervous, go I've never gone on that big
of a bachelorette party trip before, and I think it was pretty fine.
I mean, I got along with everyone, We had a fun time.
I think the bachelorette had a good time. We were on the same flights
there and back, so I was asking her like how she felt and what
she was most looking forward to and what she liked afterwards, and yeah,
it was good, but my recommendation separate from what we did is stay downtown.
Yeah, we did not, and I think that that kind of took
away from some of the things we could have been doing throughout the trip.
Yeah, we we did a split trip, so we my friend's Droe and
then I flew and met them, and we did a split trip between Charleston
and Savannah. We liked Charleston better. Savannah was cool, had like more
of the spooky history, even though Charleston has its fair amount. But we
also did that's we went to Savannah. They had filmed the water canoe with
the rain scene from the Notebook out of Place there, so we went there
and wrote in the like little canoes. It was so bizarre with like when
you go there, you're like, this is where they filmed. It just
seemed bizarre. We did that, I know, the like kind of marsh
swampy areas or something like that. Yeah, did it stink because we passing
over this. It wasn't really mark. I guess it was like a park.
It was I don't know, it was hard to it wasn't like,
Yeah, I don't know. It was interesting and I'm glad we did like
some different We always researched weird random things like that. Yeah, they're stupid,
and I'm like, this is fun, that's fun. A lot of
the I just feel like, because obviously we had a big group, and
then we didn't have a car and we were staying out close to downtown,
we were kind of limited unless we wanted to be spending a lot of money
on ubers, and we did end up ubering a little bit more than we
even had originally anticipated. Yeah. So, but the funniest part is like
the first night we get in, we got in in the afternoon and we
some of us decided to go explore downtown instead of just like hanging out at
the Airbnb. So we go and on the way back, I'm like,
god, id of like smells in here like someone farted, you know,
in our uber not thinking anything of it. And then the next day we
take another Uber. My friend Shelley is literally like covering her nose at one
point, and we thought our uber driver like that Uber driver the next day
was like crop dusting us. And then finally the next Uber we have,
they're like, that's the swamp. Just so everyone knows, like it's not
me parting like they like said that they clarify that to it. So apparently
like the swamp marsh stuff that we had to drive over constantly is what we
kept smelling. But Shelley and I literally were looking at each other like,
oh my god, this guy is like ripping ass and the hilarious. So
yeah, but it was fun and it's a cool city, just lots of
I mean, I've never seen Spanish moss before, so pretty. Yeah.
We were told by one of our other Uber drivers not to touch it because
it has mites on it and then you'll have like rashes, like bedbug stuff.
I didn't touch any of it, but no one warned me of that.
I'm pretty sure Savannahs where we went to the famous Angel Oak, because
you can drive through. It's this really beautiful road of Spanish moss, and
I think we drove through that. And I want to say, because since
we did both of those, I get them a little confused. But I'm
pretty sure the Angel Oak, which is a very famous tree. We went
got a photo with it. It's a massive tree and you have to go
through like yeah, like a tower or like a I don't know, like
a tunnel of Spanish moss, which is very beautiful. I was like a
toddler. Once the Uber driver said not to touch it, every time I
walked past, I wanted to to touch it. I was like, I
don't see any mites. Yeah, yeah, I have a microscope budget.
How was your weekend? What have you been up to? H What did
I do? I mean, we didn't do we what do we do?
Jake's family came over. His brother is getting married in June. So it's
kind of like a like a discussion. You know, we're having a lot,
like just chatting about that. Not because of them, I think,
you like, we just overly ask them what's going on. I'm gonna miss
Laura his I. It's funny because you have all these bachelorette parties. I
have none. I haven't had bachelorette parties in so many years. And even
I think most of my friends that must have had them they lived in Indiana.
When I worked in Reno, I got ten days off a year.
I could never go home for him. I was like, either can come
home for your wedding or your bachelorette party, you know what I mean?
And also so I mean, I feel like I've only been to a handful
of bachelorette parties, but I'm missing Laura's and hers is like a chill one
in Stillwater. And I guess I have to go to my niece's graduation,
which is fine, but I'm excited. I don't know, I'm excited.
All of this is to be a flower girl and all that stuff. So
I was thinking, that's really cute. And I've said it before, but
Jake's family they fucking kill weddings. It is the They are the best family,
Like his whole family. They'll all come in. It won't be like
my family, where maybe one cousin would come because they're not going to pay
for that and stay in a different city. They're kind of homebodies. No,
the full family from Portland, Arizona, Chicago, They're all gonna fly
in built. It's they and they just have They're so wonderful. Like the
whole family. They dance and the whole night away they party. No one
is sloppy, drunk, annoying. I was gonna say, it doesn't get
too sloppy. Well no, and they're just the best. So I'm really
hype for that. So Jake's aunt came to visit. She moved back from
Ohio, she's stopped by, but we I was like, I could not
believe how much I was into the super Bowl last night. I could not
be like I stopped. I watched like the first half, because you watched
the first half, and I was like, this is so boring. And
I watched the halftime show and then we left. We were over across the
street like in at our friend's house, and we drove back to our house,
put all of to bed, and I was watching the show called One
Day on Netflix and it's a series and I was so into it. I
had one and a half episodes left, so I put that on Jacobs.
So I guess we're watching this and not the super Bowl, And I said,
do you want to? Was like, honestly, no, it was
a lame game. So I watched the two episodes and that covered the third
quarter, and then I pulled it back for the fourth. We downloaded the
free fucking Paramount app for the one week trial wouldn't load. I'm like,
this is the worst example paramount ever, and so Jay could get it on
his phone, but we could not get to work on our TV. So
I did what I did for the Grammys, pulled up TikTok watch the super
Bowl on TikTok Live, and then it started getting I didn't even think.
I was like, what do you mean, Like you were just watching the
clips that everyone was everyone live streams the Grammys. Yeah, so I watched
the last and I was so stressed. I wanted the Chiefs to win so
bad just because I wanted Tailor and Travis to be happy. It was just
so stupid. It's like the dumbest shit ever. And I was like,
it really is true, though, it really is true. You can hate
her all you want, but it really has made a lot of people like
me who did not care about that actually like watch. Yeah, I would
never have I've watched the second half of the super Bowl before this. I
never I would have looked the next morning, read the scom and like cool
congrad unless it was the Vikings, which that hasn't happened, saying and then
maybe I want to care more because it'd be important. But I don't know
that that's pretty much it. I don't know they're too too exciting. I
mean, I do watch football, and not all the time, mostly just
the teams I care about, which is the Packers, And then I do
care about the Broncos now because that's what Andrew sivana. But I do always
watch the Super Bowl for everything, the commercials, the Haften show, and
the actual game. And I also like kind of started falling off like set
end of second quarter or second quarter, love the halftime show. Then third
quarter was half fain attention working on things. But then I got really into
it, and I didn't know who I wanted to win, because I find
Patrick Mahomes to be kind of annoying, so I didn't really want to have
the Chiefs win. But then I also thought about how everyone thinks Aaron Rodgers
is annoying or they whatever they think about him, and I don't feel that
way about him either, so I was like, well, maybe I shouldn't
root out the whole team because I think Patrick Mahomes is a little annoying.
So then I think I was happy in the end. But originally I think
I went into it wanting the forty nine ers to win, and it was
a good game. I thought. I also wanted them to pan to Taylor
Swift more though I wanted to see her reaction, and they did at one
point when Travis had a big play. I remember in the fourth quarter.
But I wanted to see so many more, so much more of her reactions.
And I know that they had to like walk a fine line of what
they could do. But yeah, it was a good It was a good
game. Yeah, period, I said super Bowl. He I mean,
that's I agreed with that, like I think everyone can agree. Ended up
being like a really good game. Two things. Number one, you look
like an elf right now, and I'm going to take a photo. Don't
don't make me stop because my head was hurting. I know, okay,
never, I'm not going to take it. The picture quality with the lighting
is not attractive, but from my angle, you look a beautiful elf.
And I was like, you could be in like Lord of the Rings.
But I also really oh I watched like the TMC footage because like what they
do after and then you go to a party and they saying you belong with
me. They played her song and they sang it to each other. Yeah,
learned Travis with I thought was cute and I just kept thinking, we're
gonna talk about it on our show today too, Like everyone saying the way
he treated the coach is a red flag for a relationship. Did you guys
talk about that. So I'll be honest, I get a little nervous touching
on certain subjects that can be kind of controversial without Dave there because I am
still new because Dave's on vacation, I'm still new to controlling a show.
Yeah, And so I did touch on it at one point. We didn't
get deep into it. I mean, I stated in my opinion that I
don't think it was as bad as people are, like some people are making
it out to be, because testosterone is through the roof. You're in like
the biggest game. You've worked your whole like you work your whole life to
be where you are, and reacting out of anger because of a play that
could have like helped you get like major points in a huge game. I
feel like it's pretty natural. And I feel like I should gone back and
rewatched a video a couple times because I think I only watched it like once
or twice. Yeah, So we kind of talked about it because I know
that people are saying this is a big red flag now for Taylor, right,
And I I'll be honest, So, I thankfully have never been in
any relationship where I have feared any form of domestic violence. So it's really
easy for me to say. My outlook on it was that was he was
it was a dick move. He should not have done that. But his
coach did come out after, by the way, and I'm sure he's just
trying to save face for Travis. Yeah, but he was like, he
just startled me, caught me off guard. And it's not even what he
repeated what Travis said, which was different than what people thought he was saying.
Yeah, he was saying I wanted I should have been in. That
is what he was saying, because then that like he could have stopped something
from happening. Yea blah blah blah. I think it was a turnover when
they were in the red zone to score and they lost seven potentials. The
coach's outlook was he's not being selfish. He loves the game that much like
he wants to help his team. Yeah, that was his reference. I
did not look at that as this is someone who could then turn that on
whoever he's dating in a relationship. But again, I've never dealt with any
form of domestic violence myself, so that is a I guess ignorant statement because
I don't know, but I did think that I just felt like that was
a stretch and someone could tell me very different. But I am going to
talk about it a little bit today not And I also think it's like harmful
to imply that someone is capable of that. I think that's harmful as well.
So I'm gonna I'll address it gently. I'm gonna say this is what
I've been seeing a lot, what do you think, and open it up
to other people instead of overly stating my opinion on it. Since I don't
feel like I have a fair I guess, well, I guess. I
mean, I guess I do have a biased in one way opinion, just
like anyone else would have. Right, So what I was the thing I
was going to talk about that was like one of the top things. I
did watch the clip a lot. He's aggressive, but I feel like I
was surprised, since I don't watch but all, to see how aggressive all
of them were for everything throughout the entire game. I mean, my mention
of it on our show today was, I literally play kickball and people get
like upset and like yelling in each other's faces, Like that's kickball. So
I just I really think that people are passionate about sports, and I agree
that I have no experience in anything like that and luckily, but I also
think that you cannot pick one thing out and immediately turn them into an abuser.
I think that that's a really unfair thing to do to a human.
But yeah, so you guys, you'll have to know how your conversation goes.
I do have some emails on poll I have one too, is it?
I have one from Haley? Okay, I might have more than that
too, actually, but this one went from Balo. So but but I
want to make sure we didn't already do this one. Did she did?
What do we do? The one? We didn't do that one? Yeah,
I didn't do that one because I have that one too. Here.
I'll read mine first, because I don't think it's really like advice, like
if yours is the one you are asking about as advice, so it says,
hey, ladies, first and foremost, I love that you started this
podcast. I work from home, so rarely get to listen to those Fallon
and Zach in the afternoon, and this gives me the girl chat and fallent
time I've been missing. Okay, so I have two topics, and yes,
we are going to touch on Akatar one more time. It says one
Akatar fallon, be prepared to have your life consumed, which you already admitted
you have. I read the entire series and it was exactly like you said.
Like you said you did, I bought each next book before the book
I was reading and it had ended, so it would be seamless. I
wish we were friends so we could talk about it when you were done.
I have only a few book girlies in my life, and none of them
have read the series yet. I had a series depression when it ended,
which you also touched on, right, And when you're done with that series,
I suggest Zodiac Academy if you heard of that one. No, I
was gonna say, that's the first I've heard. I'm on book eight of
eight with the same premise hot Fay is It's Faye right, Hey, Okay,
Hot Fay Spice Magic. It's basically like Harry Potter, but far darker
and a lot sexier, obsessed, and then she goes on to say number
two Jenny's quote unquote to do list. So a few weeks ago I had
said how I always have this to do list in my head that I even
put like reading or something on it. Like I just constantly feel like things
that you used to just like leisurely do all of a sudden it's like on
a to do list. She says, when I say this hit close to
home is an understatement. I was yelling at my podcast while listening because I
couldn't relate to that more. I used to actually have a stress list,
which is where I'd list all the things I'd been putting off in one spot
so I could go look at it and remind myself aka shame myself into getting
it done. More often than not, it did the absolute opposite and just
showed me clearly how much I was still failing at getting stuff done, which
just froze me more. When Jenny said she's now adding reading a book to
her list, it really resonated because I was there. Let me start by
saying, I'm a project manager for a fast paced in store retail agency for
major retailers. It is definitely our careers that put us in that mindset of
organization and aggressive multitasking, which is also why we're good at our jobs,
but also why we can be a little neurotic on the flip side when that
gets applied to life. You lose track of the things that are truly meant
to be relaxing, like reading a book, because it's just another chore we've
added to our task lists. Even going on works was on my list.
I started seeing a therapist and she said, Haley, stop, get the
trash novel, read the book, go on the walk. It doesn't need
to be do the It doesn't need to be perfect to quote, do the
thing. It's okay to sit and spend time reading or insert whatever activity.
It shouldn't be an area of additional stress. The point is that it's okay
to sit and do nothing for more than thirty minute minutes, even if you
have stuff to do, because you deserve to let your mind rest. Your
mind and body need to function properly. She goes on a little bit longer,
but she ends up with saying, anyway, love both of you,
ladies, keep on keeping on, have a great week, enjoy the heat
wave. This came in a couple of weeks ago, so that was when
it was like fifty years So that comes from Haley. Thank you, Hailey,
Hailey, what do you think you you do? List? I read
her email a couple of weeks ago when she first sent it, and I
was like, Hailey, you're right, and so is your therapist. Just
read the trash novel and stop thinking it's like something else to check off your
list. Yep. So I have leaned into that a little bit more.
But I do think that to do list, like actually writing things down on
it to do list, does help me personally still because hers is different.
Here's the stress. She was putting the worst things. So yeah, I
think I'm in the in between. Okay, So yeah, side note,
I have moved on to Throne of Glass, which is a different Sarah series.
It was her same author, but it is her first series. She
started writing when she was sixteen, so way less spicy, like like there's
nothing there's like they might kiss and they might imply that they hooked up,
but there's no detail. So she really graduated as she went along. And
I am on book four and I think there are seven or so. It's
a lot, I know, I know. And then after that I will
do and you know what, it's weird about this one, and then after
that I'm gonna do Crescent City, which is her other one. Number one.
There's this book series is unique. You can either read there's one book
called Assassin's Blade. You can either read it first okay, and then read
book one and two and on word, or you can read book one and
two and then Assassin's Blade at book three. So I read Assassin's Blade at
book three because it's her recommended reading. But it gives you history, so
it's kind of like it stops the story from the first two books to give
you history, which is a little annoying. Then I hear books five and
six you need to read it tandem. They take place at the exact same
timeline. So but they're from two different characters. So if not, if
you don't read them in tandem, back and forth, yep, you'll read
one and instead of moving forward, you're like going back in time to catch
up. And that could be annoying. So what do you do? Read
one chapter from one book and then go read the same chapter And I don't
know book there's actually a there's actually an outline of how you should do it,
and I haven't looked it up, so I was like, that's I
think it's kind of cool and different. So here is our last email,
Fallin and Jenny, listen to both of your show podcasts every day. Thank
you and was so glad you started doing this. I missed you too together
in the morning, so it's great to still be able to hear you to
together once a week on I'm Still Fun. You both always give great advice,
so I thought i'd write in and hope you would maybe read my email
on the podcast. I found out some news last weekend that I am looking
for advice on for starters. I'm twenty four years old, and as usual,
my friends are starting to get engaged in our planning weddings. About a
month ago, my good friend from high school asked me to be a personal
attendant at her wedding this fall. I was honestly surprised by this, as
I still view her as a friend of mine and always will, as we
have many special memories for middle school and high school. But I honestly didn't
think we were close enough anymore to warrant anything more than an invite to our
wedding. She has a friend I see occasionally a few times per year,
along with our other high school friend group to catch up over drinks and dinner.
However, I accepted and was excited to be a part of her day
Now this is where it gets tricky. Last weekend I found out that my
boyfriend's sister is having her wedding the exact same day this fall. She just
booked her venue. What bad luck. Now I do not know what time
everything that day is quite yet, but I assume the weddings will follow a
traditional timeline, such as the weddings in early afternoon, reception for dinner,
and then a dance to follow. My gut instinct is to get ready with
my friend in the morning, do photos, attend the ceremony and politely part
of cocktail hour before leaving, and attend the reception and dinner with my boyfriend
and his family. Thankfully, the weddings are taking place around fifteen to twenty
minutes away from each other, so it would definitely be possible for this plan
to work. To give some context, my boyfriend and I will have been
together for over two years by the time these weddings take place, and I
truly love his family like my own. But I don't want my friend to
be upset about me leaving her on her wedding day, because even though we
are not very close to anymore, I don't want to hurt her feelings.
If this was someone that I still viewed as my best friend, I would
be thinking. I wouldn't be thinking this way. I said, I was
surprised to even be a part of the wedding period. So here are her
questions. I'm going to read them all out. Okay, am I a
jerk if I leave my friend's wedding after the cocktail hour? Whether I am
in the wedding or not. Well, she's personal attendant though, right,
Look, I think that's a little bit different than being in the wedding.
I'm saying no based off of what she's saying about their relationship. Yeah,
next one, is my friend a jerk? If she gets upset, I
cannot attend the entire reception. Here, I'm going to read all of them
because I have, like I feel like, an overall answer. Should I
tell my friend I can no longer be a personal tendant if I have to
leave? There is one other personal attendant a part of the wedding besides me.
Okay, so she isn't the only one. Are there any other solutions
to this dilemma? Have you or anyone else you know been in the same
situation? If so, what did they do and should I just do what
is going to make me the happiest in this situation? All right, Taylor,
here are my thoughts. Yeah, I go for it. I think
this friend asked you to be a personal attendant because she thought that she would
she felt bad. This to me, it's young. It's young because and
that's not an insult at all. I was the exact same way. When
you're younger, you like, I feel like you're so worried about including high
school and college friends and this group of friends and stuff. And then when
you get older, I think you start kind of narrowing it down like your
friends, and you've gone out of touch with some people. So my honest,
my honest thought is what does a personal attendant do? A personal attendant
to me is like the title you give a friend who you didn't want to
put them on your bridal party, but you feel guilty, so you have
them stand at the front and make sure people sign a guestbook and hand out
the program. It's I feel like such an unnecessary thing because most people,
not everyone, because not everyone can afford it. Has like a day of
coordinator or a venue coordinator or someone who actually does the real work of setting
up, tearing down hurdle, it hurting people. So I would do what
I personally would do, is I would give her the option. I would
say, hey, this is that's what happened. What are the odds.
I've been a really tricky situation. So I want to ask you what you
would prefer. Would you prefer I do this half day or is that leaving
you high and dry? And you'd rather just have someone replace me? Totally?
Because it's important to me to be there for my boyfriend's family. It's
your boyfriend's sister. It's not like it's some random person. That's your boyfriend's
sister. And I'm sorry, I think she if she doesn't understand that,
then that's a whole different set of issues. But I think give her the
option if you really are concerned about hurting her feelings. Yeah, And because
I would say personally, I would probably want to spend the full day with
my boyfriend's family, and so I would probably be like, hey, this
is really hard. But it also sounds like that wedding is quite a ways
away still, so like you have you're not leaving her a month before the
wedding. Yeah, maybe I'm wrong. We've I misread it. I don't
know. I just feel like this summer so okay, maybe miss that,
but no, I mean I agree with everything that you have to say.
I would almost be more on the side of like being selfish and bailing on
the wedding completely and saying sorry, I have my boyfriend's sister's wedding. It
just came up. But I also know that this is something I also have
not experienced in life, which is having a wedding and having a party and
having people do all these things. So I know that it's very stressful if
someone bails last minute. But I also don't feel like personal attendants are as
important as like the actual bridal party. No, you know, so I
just feel like if you were in the bridal party, this would be a
different scenario. But I think that she can do without it. I don't
even know what personal attendants do. My sister had two people that I'm pretty
sure she asked kind of last minute, not last minute, but like not
super far ahead of time, that were hers, And I don't know what
they did. Haven't I'll be honest, I maybe I'm just very out of
this world. I haven't heard of anyone doing personal attendance since I was like
in high school and my sister got married. Uh that was I haven't known
a single friend in the past ten years have a personal attendant. Maybe in
Indiana they do still, And I always think it's like an old school title
because it's so common to have like an actual coordinator for your wedding. Now.
Yeah, no, I honestly I have no idea what the two girls
that were my sisters did. I think you need to decide if you want
to give it, if you're gonna if you're gonna feel guilty and it's going
to ruin things and you're fairy stressed, give her the option of the two.
But I'm with Jenny. I would I wouldn't be like, hey,
this is the worst thing. I would still love to come to your bridal
shower and bachelorette party if you're having one, unless it's the same time as
hers alt now, but yeah, yeah, I agree, Oh good luck.
Let us know what you decide. Yeah, and you can always email
us Ballin at katiewb dot com or Jenny at katiewb dot com. A little
bit longer of an episodes these past few weeks, I know, well,
we have a been able to just ch chat ourselves for a while. I
haven't listen to fucking Steve bitch, just kidding. We love you. Steve.
Like he's listening, I know he probably he did listen to his episode,
I think, and that's maybe the only one. So anyway, have
a great week. Thanks for listening.