WEBVTT 1 00:00:00.880 --> 00:00:04.839 Welcome to the I'm Still Fun Podcast with Fallon and Jenny, and it's just 2 00:00:04.919 --> 00:00:09.080 us today, no extra guest, which is okay, I mean maybe not. 3 00:00:09.599 --> 00:00:13.359 I I will say we got a lot of great response the past couple 4 00:00:13.400 --> 00:00:18.239 of weeks, but last week we got so many I'm sure you did too, 5 00:00:18.440 --> 00:00:24.320 messages from people loving Steve on saying they were laughing so much. And 6 00:00:24.879 --> 00:00:29.519 obviously that always, you know, makes us happy. That's our whole goal. 7 00:00:29.960 --> 00:00:33.799 So I want to thank you all for such positive feedback. We I 8 00:00:33.840 --> 00:00:38.960 think both Jenny and I was like very nostalgic, and it was very weird 9 00:00:39.079 --> 00:00:46.000 because we really haven't done audio talking format with Steve since twenty twenty when I 10 00:00:46.039 --> 00:00:49.479 was like, oh and I didn't think about that. It was weird. 11 00:00:49.600 --> 00:00:53.280 It was weird, but at the same time, because you guys obviously had 12 00:00:53.439 --> 00:00:56.439 like I was a little more, but I was really behind the scenes back 13 00:00:56.439 --> 00:00:58.759 then on the morning so you know, I mean I was on for random 14 00:00:58.759 --> 00:01:02.320 segments, but I wasn't on all the time, and so like I watched 15 00:01:02.320 --> 00:01:04.959 the two of you get right back into the shit that you used to do 16 00:01:06.040 --> 00:01:08.200 on the show. Yeah, I mean it took like ten minutes maybe, 17 00:01:08.239 --> 00:01:11.239 but you guys got back to it, and I just thought it was so 18 00:01:11.359 --> 00:01:15.200 funny and just making fun of each other. Oh yeah, whatever, it's 19 00:01:15.239 --> 00:01:19.000 been. Steve and I we didn't really have like a complete, I guess 20 00:01:19.079 --> 00:01:23.760 update, but I would say, I mean I still talk to Steve at 21 00:01:23.879 --> 00:01:26.879 least weekly, sometimes multiple times a week, you know what I mean? 22 00:01:26.920 --> 00:01:30.680 Like what we have so many mutual things and friends and stories and things that 23 00:01:30.760 --> 00:01:34.200 remind us of each other, and then just keeping each other updated. And 24 00:01:34.239 --> 00:01:38.120 we still get lunch probably every once. There were three months or so. 25 00:01:38.439 --> 00:01:40.840 Yeah, it's not I mean, especially it's harder now because he has a 26 00:01:40.840 --> 00:01:44.640 different job. It's harder for him to go grab lunch with me. But 27 00:01:44.879 --> 00:01:47.879 I know, you guys talk maybe a little bit less than we do, 28 00:01:48.120 --> 00:01:49.680 but you guys still talk. Yeah, yeah we do. We're actually just 29 00:01:49.680 --> 00:01:56.359 texting right now because Big Booty Mix Number Volume twenty four premiered over the weekend, 30 00:01:56.519 --> 00:01:59.840 and he I feel I just was out of it. Yesterday. I 31 00:01:59.879 --> 00:02:04.319 was traveling back from Savannah and he had texted me that there was a preview 32 00:02:04.400 --> 00:02:07.239 on YouTube, and then I realized I forgot to respond to it, and 33 00:02:07.280 --> 00:02:08.120 I just got to the gym and I texted him I was like, oh 34 00:02:08.159 --> 00:02:10.319 my god, I'm so hype that you sent me this because now I have 35 00:02:10.360 --> 00:02:15.159 something to listen to at the gym whatever. And so yeah, we text 36 00:02:15.360 --> 00:02:17.400 about like random things every once in a while. Steve and I are like 37 00:02:17.560 --> 00:02:22.240 not as consistent. But then when we do talk or like we will FaceTime 38 00:02:22.240 --> 00:02:25.120 each other, we'll end up talking for like forty five minutes sometimes, but 39 00:02:25.240 --> 00:02:30.840 it's once every six months, you know, it's not that often. So 40 00:02:30.400 --> 00:02:32.919 but yeah, we stay in touch. And then I mean same with Tina, 41 00:02:34.039 --> 00:02:38.800 Like we're both you probably talking hang out with Tina a little bit more 42 00:02:38.840 --> 00:02:42.599 than I do. At the probab point. Yeah, but yeah, I 43 00:02:42.719 --> 00:02:46.280 still text Tina here and there, and I begged her to come pick me 44 00:02:46.360 --> 00:02:50.400 up from the airport yesterday, but she was busy apparently I just kidding. 45 00:02:50.479 --> 00:02:51.840 No. I told her I would pay your money. I was like, 46 00:02:51.879 --> 00:02:53.039 dude, i'll pay you. It'll be cheaper probably than an uber, but 47 00:02:53.080 --> 00:02:55.360 I was like, I'll throw you some cash. She couldn't. Though she 48 00:02:55.400 --> 00:03:00.319 couldn't uber, I did. I just we'd been taking ubers all weekend and 49 00:03:00.360 --> 00:03:01.919 I just wanted to have someone like there to pick me up. And I 50 00:03:02.319 --> 00:03:06.879 don't know, I we flew into Terminal two, which I did not register 51 00:03:06.960 --> 00:03:09.280 with me because we flew American out there, and then we flew southwest back 52 00:03:09.879 --> 00:03:14.719 and so I was like, I'm ordering an uber not realizing it, and 53 00:03:14.759 --> 00:03:16.080 I'm like ordering it too Terminal one, and all of a sudden, I'm 54 00:03:16.120 --> 00:03:19.439 like looking around. I was like, this is wait a minute, yeahn 55 00:03:19.639 --> 00:03:23.719 one, And anyways, the uber came real fast. I just you know, 56 00:03:23.719 --> 00:03:24.639 when you get home from a trip and you just want to get home 57 00:03:24.719 --> 00:03:28.479 yep, like yep, you don't want to deal with like waiting for someone 58 00:03:28.479 --> 00:03:30.280 to pick you up if they're not there, or like waiting for an uber. 59 00:03:30.319 --> 00:03:34.719 Because I think Andrew got home from a ski trip once and I had 60 00:03:34.759 --> 00:03:37.560 plans already and he had like delayed his ski trips, so it was on 61 00:03:37.680 --> 00:03:40.280 him that like I couldn't come get him. And he got home and he 62 00:03:40.639 --> 00:03:45.560 waited forty five minutes for I think he had ordered Lyft first, and then 63 00:03:45.599 --> 00:03:47.639 he finally canceled and twitched to Uber and it was fine. Yeah, but 64 00:03:47.680 --> 00:03:52.560 it just it's a nightmare having to wait for those cabs or whatever. Sometimes 65 00:03:52.680 --> 00:03:57.159 we unless it's like a super long trip or we have crazy late hours, 66 00:03:57.680 --> 00:04:01.319 we park at the airport now, because it's really like in most situations, 67 00:04:01.400 --> 00:04:05.479 especially for like a long weekend, it's just easier and it's not even that 68 00:04:05.759 --> 00:04:10.840 expensive, especially for where we live. We're lucky. My mom lives there 69 00:04:10.840 --> 00:04:13.800 and she never really has anything going on. So the only time I don't 70 00:04:13.840 --> 00:04:16.360 ask her again is if like our flight's super late, because all of would 71 00:04:16.399 --> 00:04:19.680 be sleeping and she's probably watching all of us. I would never do that. 72 00:04:19.720 --> 00:04:25.199 You're although, now we have Dylan. Oh that's right, unless he's 73 00:04:25.240 --> 00:04:28.480 with us, I can like Dilly come pick us up. That's true. 74 00:04:28.519 --> 00:04:31.480 You got your little built in driver. Absolutely. So how was Savannah? 75 00:04:31.519 --> 00:04:35.399 You went for a bachelorette party this weekend? Yeah? Any drama unfolded? 76 00:04:35.480 --> 00:04:39.720 Anything crazy happen that you're willing to share? Oh, she's looking off to 77 00:04:39.800 --> 00:04:42.959 the distance. What can I share? We'll we'll get me in trouble. 78 00:04:43.759 --> 00:04:46.879 There was drama. I'm not going to share it because it's pointless. But 79 00:04:46.959 --> 00:04:50.439 that was just drama. There were comments made that too many people, you 80 00:04:50.480 --> 00:04:56.639 think, no different personalities. Yeah, that's that's common. I think I 81 00:04:56.680 --> 00:05:00.920 think it was. It all came down to personalities and there was just drama 82 00:05:00.240 --> 00:05:03.399 because a comment was made about food that was cooked and someone else thought it 83 00:05:03.439 --> 00:05:06.319 was hurtful, and it was. And I told that person that it was 84 00:05:06.399 --> 00:05:12.600 hurtful too, because they were something like that. But that was a thing. 85 00:05:14.040 --> 00:05:15.680 I mean, I talked about this on the radio today. But my 86 00:05:16.680 --> 00:05:19.839 I mean, one of my friends, she kind of made me uncomfortable at 87 00:05:19.839 --> 00:05:24.040 dinner because I didn't like my food, like it was not very good. 88 00:05:24.519 --> 00:05:27.959 And I had asked her ahead of time if I could have some of hers, 89 00:05:27.959 --> 00:05:30.720 because I was debating between what she was ordering and what I decided to 90 00:05:30.839 --> 00:05:31.759 order. And I said, can I have a bite of yours when it 91 00:05:31.800 --> 00:05:34.319 comes? And then I'm eating mine and it's not very good, and she 92 00:05:35.240 --> 00:05:39.600 just inhaled hers and then she was full, and she still had about half 93 00:05:39.600 --> 00:05:41.439 of it left. I was like, well, can I have some bites? 94 00:05:41.639 --> 00:05:43.399 I was like, honestly, mine's not good. I might just eat 95 00:05:43.439 --> 00:05:45.439 the rest of yours if you're done, and she's like, yeah, for 96 00:05:45.480 --> 00:05:48.399 sure. But then the server comes and she's trying to ask the server to 97 00:05:48.480 --> 00:05:51.480 take it away and take it off my bill pretty much and all this stuff. 98 00:05:51.519 --> 00:05:56.519 And I just unless there's something really really wrong something, I am not 99 00:05:56.639 --> 00:06:00.319 that type of person. I just think that that is a rude tendency, 100 00:06:00.560 --> 00:06:03.680 and I told her I thought it was rude, and I tried to keep 101 00:06:03.720 --> 00:06:06.839 it calm because we're at dinner and we're out to eat, but her and 102 00:06:06.879 --> 00:06:11.879 I we call each other out for our ish and so sorry if you heard 103 00:06:11.879 --> 00:06:15.120 the story on the radio already. But in the end, the server did 104 00:06:15.199 --> 00:06:18.160 end up taking it off my thing because I didn't eat it. I like, 105 00:06:18.360 --> 00:06:20.360 really, it got pushed to the side and it was never eight again. 106 00:06:20.360 --> 00:06:24.360 I ate the rest of my friend's food, And I know she was 107 00:06:24.399 --> 00:06:29.519 just trying to do the right thing, but she has a very bold personality, 108 00:06:29.920 --> 00:06:32.199 so the way it was handled, I felt like rude and embarrassing. 109 00:06:32.279 --> 00:06:36.879 Okay, yeah, so yeah, that was probably the other part. Other 110 00:06:36.959 --> 00:06:41.040 than that, the trip was good. I mean for having we're supposed to 111 00:06:41.079 --> 00:06:44.600 have twelve and one girl ended up bailing the day she was supposed to fly 112 00:06:44.680 --> 00:06:46.000 out because she drove herself to the airport and she was so sick and she 113 00:06:46.079 --> 00:06:50.160 was like I can't, like I'm going to go back home, and so 114 00:06:50.240 --> 00:06:55.959 that was a bummer for her. And then it was like, yeah, 115 00:06:56.040 --> 00:06:59.079 outside of that, it was pretty drama free, pretty chill. We had 116 00:06:59.079 --> 00:07:01.439 an itinerary. We stuck to most of it. What were highlights you would 117 00:07:01.439 --> 00:07:05.000 recommend people if they're going to Savannah, I would say, I mean, 118 00:07:05.000 --> 00:07:08.279 we had a lot of if you're doing like a group trip. We had 119 00:07:08.279 --> 00:07:10.959 a lot of fun doing the Pedal Pub because we did it during the day, 120 00:07:11.079 --> 00:07:15.120 so you got to see like parts of the city. Well February right, 121 00:07:15.160 --> 00:07:19.160 I wouldn't see it sign you might not want to it's a little too 122 00:07:19.240 --> 00:07:23.240 toasty. So I did really like the Pedal Pub. I thought that that 123 00:07:23.360 --> 00:07:27.759 was fun. I liked just honestly. Wandering around, we stumbled into some 124 00:07:27.800 --> 00:07:30.800 really cool shops, one like boutique. My girlfriend got these really cool vintage 125 00:07:30.800 --> 00:07:38.879 earrings from another like vintage shop right next door. We weren't staying in downtown 126 00:07:38.959 --> 00:07:42.360 Savannah, so that made it a little bit difficult to explore as much as 127 00:07:42.360 --> 00:07:45.720 I would have liked to, because ubers were not like cheap, like if 128 00:07:45.759 --> 00:07:48.720 you wanted to go by yourself. But I also, did you guys go 129 00:07:48.759 --> 00:07:53.279 to Tybee Island when you went? Yeah, but I call it Tibby Island? 130 00:07:53.399 --> 00:07:55.519 Oh? Is that how it is? Gosh, I've been saying it 131 00:07:55.560 --> 00:07:58.800 wrong. That's probably right. Okay, Yeah, we called it Tibby Island, 132 00:07:58.800 --> 00:08:01.399 but I mean I could be wrong too. Yeah, so we I 133 00:08:01.439 --> 00:08:05.279 mean, obviously we went. It was February, so it was pretty cold 134 00:08:05.279 --> 00:08:07.160 and not touristy at all at the time when we went. What time do 135 00:08:07.199 --> 00:08:11.759 the year did you guys go? I want to say around September, but 136 00:08:11.920 --> 00:08:15.519 I can't remember. I feel like a lot of our trips are kind of 137 00:08:15.519 --> 00:08:18.639 like late summer, early fall, and that was my friend's Hidi and Abbey, 138 00:08:20.040 --> 00:08:22.439 and we only really went to Tibby Island to see like the lighthouse, 139 00:08:22.720 --> 00:08:26.120 and then god, we didn't even see the lighthouse. We might have gotten 140 00:08:26.240 --> 00:08:31.279 a meal there and then left. We are we have been old bitches since 141 00:08:31.320 --> 00:08:35.159 we were in our early twenties. We are a lighthouse free. We love 142 00:08:35.200 --> 00:08:37.919 to see a lighthouse. I mean, man, I'm surprised I didn't realize 143 00:08:37.919 --> 00:08:41.480 that there was one there, and I should have because I remember seeing like 144 00:08:41.519 --> 00:08:43.720 photos and pictures and like Stuvenir stuff that had a lighthouse on it. So 145 00:08:43.840 --> 00:08:48.840 I don't know why I didn't realize that. Well, so we someone had 146 00:08:48.840 --> 00:08:52.519 recommended a coffee shop on the way out that way, so I don't know 147 00:08:52.519 --> 00:08:54.879 if it's tybing or tibbying, but it's t y b E A N. 148 00:08:56.279 --> 00:09:00.519 And then it ended up being in this little area with a couple other cute 149 00:09:00.519 --> 00:09:05.559 shops and just the shops itself they looked like surf shops, like very colorful, 150 00:09:05.679 --> 00:09:07.279 yeah, and a really cute area. So I liked that. We 151 00:09:07.320 --> 00:09:11.120 stopped there. And then once we got to the beach, it was cold, 152 00:09:11.279 --> 00:09:16.320 yeah, And I mean it was seventies in like low seventies in Savannah 153 00:09:16.320 --> 00:09:20.879 all weekends. So we all brought our suits like thinking we were going to 154 00:09:20.000 --> 00:09:24.519 like whatever that did not happen and cold punch. Yeah. But what I'll 155 00:09:24.559 --> 00:09:28.320 say is, did you guys have a car when you went Yep? It 156 00:09:28.399 --> 00:09:33.000 was really hard for us to get ubers in that area, Like it was 157 00:09:33.039 --> 00:09:37.080 honestly kind of a nightmare for our group. The other group had way better 158 00:09:37.159 --> 00:09:41.240 luck because we split up all weekend like six and five to get excels and 159 00:09:41.840 --> 00:09:43.080 we could. I thought we were going to be stuck on that island all 160 00:09:43.120 --> 00:09:46.879 day. We could not get an uber to save our life. We asked 161 00:09:46.919 --> 00:09:50.440 our server for a cab company number and try to call them, but they 162 00:09:50.440 --> 00:09:54.440 were going to charge us like ninety dollars for this cab that was going to 163 00:09:54.480 --> 00:09:56.879 take us ten minutes back to our air being maybe like fifteen but still like 164 00:09:58.320 --> 00:10:03.000 kind of extreme. So anyways, we finally got an uber. We had 165 00:10:03.000 --> 00:10:05.480 to split up then and just order a smaller uber yep, but and we 166 00:10:05.559 --> 00:10:09.440 got one right away, but then the other one wasn't coming for like twenty 167 00:10:09.440 --> 00:10:11.279 five minutes. And when you want to leave and keep going with your trip, 168 00:10:11.320 --> 00:10:15.759 you want to get going. So the first one comes and the guy 169 00:10:15.879 --> 00:10:18.759 was so nice and he allowed us to shove five people in his arm, 170 00:10:18.200 --> 00:10:22.159 and we just canceled the other one. So yeah, I would say, 171 00:10:22.240 --> 00:10:26.480 just like walking around and exploring was really fun in Savannah, just looking at 172 00:10:26.519 --> 00:10:33.960 the differentect architecture. We did a ghost tour and I feel bad saying this 173 00:10:33.960 --> 00:10:35.159 because I don't want to insult anyone who might listen to this, but it 174 00:10:35.200 --> 00:10:39.000 was not my thing, like because I have some friends I might listen to 175 00:10:39.000 --> 00:10:43.080 this, and it wasn't my thing, mostly because I'm not into creepy stuff. 176 00:10:43.440 --> 00:10:46.440 And we just walked around. It was nighttime and I know that that's 177 00:10:46.480 --> 00:10:50.200 what people love that stuff, And did you guys do anything like that? 178 00:10:50.279 --> 00:10:52.799 Yeah? I think, And I think it's okay to dislike it. My 179 00:10:52.919 --> 00:10:56.440 friend's Heidi or my friend Abby doesn't like spooky, creepy stuff. She's kind 180 00:10:56.480 --> 00:11:01.120 of like you. But we did in Savannah we did a Hearst tour and 181 00:11:01.279 --> 00:11:05.080 a prison tour and the Hurst tour was fun because they drive you around and 182 00:11:05.120 --> 00:11:07.879 the reason I like that, and like when we went to Salem we did 183 00:11:07.919 --> 00:11:11.159 like the you know which tour and the evening is because a I always think 184 00:11:11.159 --> 00:11:13.320 those tours kind of give you a little bit of a lay of the land, 185 00:11:13.320 --> 00:11:16.159 which is nice if you do them earlier on in the trip too. 186 00:11:16.600 --> 00:11:22.039 You do learn some history, even though a lot of the paranormal portion, 187 00:11:22.240 --> 00:11:24.840 you know, is a story. You know, it could be true, 188 00:11:24.879 --> 00:11:30.559 it could not totally like a tale that's been told for years and years that's 189 00:11:30.639 --> 00:11:35.399 gotten grand or probably yeah, but it's still like I think it's fun, 190 00:11:35.559 --> 00:11:39.960 so like I totally get not liking it, but we like Like the prison 191 00:11:41.000 --> 00:11:43.879 tour we did I thought was lame. The prison ghost tour, I was 192 00:11:43.919 --> 00:11:45.840 like, that was walking. I was like, this is lame. But 193 00:11:45.879 --> 00:11:48.600 the Hurst tour, I think because the tour guide was so fun, like 194 00:11:48.720 --> 00:11:52.799 over the top. That made that one fun. And then the like in 195 00:11:52.519 --> 00:11:56.679 Salem I feel like, if Salem is really small, it's it's so small. 196 00:11:56.679 --> 00:12:01.320 After you do like the hocus Pocus stuff and stuff like that, you 197 00:12:01.799 --> 00:12:03.399 kind of are looking for things to do, so like doing a witch tour, 198 00:12:03.440 --> 00:12:07.159 it kind of makes sense. Yeah, no, and I agree. 199 00:12:07.240 --> 00:12:11.519 I'm I'm happy I got to experience it. And I actually would recommend doing 200 00:12:11.559 --> 00:12:15.080 those tours instead of that we did, because we just met in a park 201 00:12:15.080 --> 00:12:16.919 and then had a guy that we walked around for like an hour and a 202 00:12:16.960 --> 00:12:20.120 half to different places. Okay, And the hearst tours look super cool. 203 00:12:20.159 --> 00:12:24.360 I mean it's literally like an opened hearse where you sit on top and it's 204 00:12:24.399 --> 00:12:28.240 like you're out in the open. So those looked pretty cool, and I 205 00:12:28.240 --> 00:12:31.960 would I would probably have preferred if we would have done one of those, 206 00:12:31.000 --> 00:12:33.919 I would have might have liked it a little bit better. But it's not 207 00:12:33.919 --> 00:12:37.240 really my thing. And there was one story that did like really creep me 208 00:12:37.240 --> 00:12:39.720 out, and I did wake up that night. It was our last night 209 00:12:39.759 --> 00:12:41.720 there. I did wake up after only being asleep for like an hour, 210 00:12:41.799 --> 00:12:46.720 and I was really anxious and I did not I had like a bloody mary 211 00:12:46.759 --> 00:12:50.279 that day, so I know it wasn't from alcohol. Yeah, and I 212 00:12:50.399 --> 00:12:52.960 was super anxious and I couldn't pinpoint where it was stemming from. And I 213 00:12:54.039 --> 00:12:56.000 don't know if it was just like I had been dreaming weird dreams and woke 214 00:12:56.080 --> 00:13:01.600 up feeling weird again from like some of the store worries. Because it's just 215 00:13:01.799 --> 00:13:05.759 I don't like spooky things, because things sit in my head and do not 216 00:13:05.960 --> 00:13:09.360 leave, Like when I hear something scary, it takes over my brain and 217 00:13:09.120 --> 00:13:13.600 it's almost like I can't tell the difference between something that's fake and something that's 218 00:13:13.679 --> 00:13:18.240 real, and like some of that stuff is quote unquote being there. Yeah, 219 00:13:18.320 --> 00:13:20.919 right, So I think that's why I don't like it, because it 220 00:13:20.919 --> 00:13:26.080 makes me feel really uncomfortable. And anyways, but overall, the trip was 221 00:13:26.120 --> 00:13:30.039 good. I was a little nervous, go I've never gone on that big 222 00:13:30.080 --> 00:13:33.240 of a bachelorette party trip before, and I think it was pretty fine. 223 00:13:33.279 --> 00:13:37.120 I mean, I got along with everyone, We had a fun time. 224 00:13:37.159 --> 00:13:39.480 I think the bachelorette had a good time. We were on the same flights 225 00:13:39.799 --> 00:13:43.080 there and back, so I was asking her like how she felt and what 226 00:13:43.200 --> 00:13:48.039 she was most looking forward to and what she liked afterwards, and yeah, 227 00:13:48.080 --> 00:13:52.320 it was good, but my recommendation separate from what we did is stay downtown. 228 00:13:52.440 --> 00:13:56.120 Yeah, we did not, and I think that that kind of took 229 00:13:56.159 --> 00:13:58.799 away from some of the things we could have been doing throughout the trip. 230 00:14:00.080 --> 00:14:03.320 Yeah, we we did a split trip, so we my friend's Droe and 231 00:14:03.320 --> 00:14:05.679 then I flew and met them, and we did a split trip between Charleston 232 00:14:05.679 --> 00:14:09.519 and Savannah. We liked Charleston better. Savannah was cool, had like more 233 00:14:09.559 --> 00:14:13.159 of the spooky history, even though Charleston has its fair amount. But we 234 00:14:13.240 --> 00:14:20.480 also did that's we went to Savannah. They had filmed the water canoe with 235 00:14:20.519 --> 00:14:24.279 the rain scene from the Notebook out of Place there, so we went there 236 00:14:24.279 --> 00:14:26.679 and wrote in the like little canoes. It was so bizarre with like when 237 00:14:26.679 --> 00:14:28.720 you go there, you're like, this is where they filmed. It just 238 00:14:28.759 --> 00:14:31.080 seemed bizarre. We did that, I know, the like kind of marsh 239 00:14:31.159 --> 00:14:35.559 swampy areas or something like that. Yeah, did it stink because we passing 240 00:14:35.600 --> 00:14:39.679 over this. It wasn't really mark. I guess it was like a park. 241 00:14:39.840 --> 00:14:41.799 It was I don't know, it was hard to it wasn't like, 242 00:14:41.879 --> 00:14:45.840 Yeah, I don't know. It was interesting and I'm glad we did like 243 00:14:45.879 --> 00:14:48.840 some different We always researched weird random things like that. Yeah, they're stupid, 244 00:14:48.879 --> 00:14:52.559 and I'm like, this is fun, that's fun. A lot of 245 00:14:52.600 --> 00:14:54.840 the I just feel like, because obviously we had a big group, and 246 00:14:54.879 --> 00:14:58.759 then we didn't have a car and we were staying out close to downtown, 247 00:14:58.279 --> 00:15:01.360 we were kind of limited unless we wanted to be spending a lot of money 248 00:15:01.360 --> 00:15:05.080 on ubers, and we did end up ubering a little bit more than we 249 00:15:05.120 --> 00:15:11.000 even had originally anticipated. Yeah. So, but the funniest part is like 250 00:15:11.279 --> 00:15:15.120 the first night we get in, we got in in the afternoon and we 251 00:15:15.320 --> 00:15:18.960 some of us decided to go explore downtown instead of just like hanging out at 252 00:15:18.000 --> 00:15:22.000 the Airbnb. So we go and on the way back, I'm like, 253 00:15:22.080 --> 00:15:24.000 god, id of like smells in here like someone farted, you know, 254 00:15:24.240 --> 00:15:28.639 in our uber not thinking anything of it. And then the next day we 255 00:15:28.679 --> 00:15:33.159 take another Uber. My friend Shelley is literally like covering her nose at one 256 00:15:33.200 --> 00:15:35.519 point, and we thought our uber driver like that Uber driver the next day 257 00:15:35.600 --> 00:15:39.799 was like crop dusting us. And then finally the next Uber we have, 258 00:15:39.919 --> 00:15:43.159 they're like, that's the swamp. Just so everyone knows, like it's not 259 00:15:43.279 --> 00:15:46.600 me parting like they like said that they clarify that to it. So apparently 260 00:15:46.679 --> 00:15:50.960 like the swamp marsh stuff that we had to drive over constantly is what we 261 00:15:50.039 --> 00:15:52.679 kept smelling. But Shelley and I literally were looking at each other like, 262 00:15:52.759 --> 00:15:58.559 oh my god, this guy is like ripping ass and the hilarious. So 263 00:15:58.240 --> 00:16:00.960 yeah, but it was fun and it's a cool city, just lots of 264 00:16:02.120 --> 00:16:03.919 I mean, I've never seen Spanish moss before, so pretty. Yeah. 265 00:16:04.000 --> 00:16:07.080 We were told by one of our other Uber drivers not to touch it because 266 00:16:07.080 --> 00:16:11.000 it has mites on it and then you'll have like rashes, like bedbug stuff. 267 00:16:11.200 --> 00:16:12.600 I didn't touch any of it, but no one warned me of that. 268 00:16:12.720 --> 00:16:17.159 I'm pretty sure Savannahs where we went to the famous Angel Oak, because 269 00:16:17.200 --> 00:16:22.559 you can drive through. It's this really beautiful road of Spanish moss, and 270 00:16:22.679 --> 00:16:25.480 I think we drove through that. And I want to say, because since 271 00:16:25.480 --> 00:16:27.720 we did both of those, I get them a little confused. But I'm 272 00:16:27.720 --> 00:16:30.519 pretty sure the Angel Oak, which is a very famous tree. We went 273 00:16:30.600 --> 00:16:33.080 got a photo with it. It's a massive tree and you have to go 274 00:16:33.120 --> 00:16:36.799 through like yeah, like a tower or like a I don't know, like 275 00:16:36.840 --> 00:16:38.919 a tunnel of Spanish moss, which is very beautiful. I was like a 276 00:16:38.960 --> 00:16:41.559 toddler. Once the Uber driver said not to touch it, every time I 277 00:16:41.559 --> 00:16:44.679 walked past, I wanted to to touch it. I was like, I 278 00:16:44.720 --> 00:16:48.360 don't see any mites. Yeah, yeah, I have a microscope budget. 279 00:16:49.720 --> 00:16:52.480 How was your weekend? What have you been up to? H What did 280 00:16:52.480 --> 00:16:55.519 I do? I mean, we didn't do we what do we do? 281 00:16:55.600 --> 00:16:59.440 Jake's family came over. His brother is getting married in June. So it's 282 00:16:59.480 --> 00:17:02.360 kind of like a like a discussion. You know, we're having a lot, 283 00:17:02.440 --> 00:17:03.599 like just chatting about that. Not because of them, I think, 284 00:17:03.640 --> 00:17:07.240 you like, we just overly ask them what's going on. I'm gonna miss 285 00:17:07.400 --> 00:17:11.559 Laura his I. It's funny because you have all these bachelorette parties. I 286 00:17:11.599 --> 00:17:15.640 have none. I haven't had bachelorette parties in so many years. And even 287 00:17:15.200 --> 00:17:18.839 I think most of my friends that must have had them they lived in Indiana. 288 00:17:18.839 --> 00:17:21.000 When I worked in Reno, I got ten days off a year. 289 00:17:21.400 --> 00:17:22.960 I could never go home for him. I was like, either can come 290 00:17:23.000 --> 00:17:26.759 home for your wedding or your bachelorette party, you know what I mean? 291 00:17:26.039 --> 00:17:29.440 And also so I mean, I feel like I've only been to a handful 292 00:17:29.440 --> 00:17:32.880 of bachelorette parties, but I'm missing Laura's and hers is like a chill one 293 00:17:32.920 --> 00:17:36.359 in Stillwater. And I guess I have to go to my niece's graduation, 294 00:17:36.799 --> 00:17:40.279 which is fine, but I'm excited. I don't know, I'm excited. 295 00:17:40.319 --> 00:17:41.079 All of this is to be a flower girl and all that stuff. So 296 00:17:41.079 --> 00:17:45.799 I was thinking, that's really cute. And I've said it before, but 297 00:17:45.920 --> 00:17:52.039 Jake's family they fucking kill weddings. It is the They are the best family, 298 00:17:52.039 --> 00:17:55.720 Like his whole family. They'll all come in. It won't be like 299 00:17:55.759 --> 00:17:57.640 my family, where maybe one cousin would come because they're not going to pay 300 00:17:57.640 --> 00:18:02.039 for that and stay in a different city. They're kind of homebodies. No, 301 00:18:02.440 --> 00:18:07.039 the full family from Portland, Arizona, Chicago, They're all gonna fly 302 00:18:07.160 --> 00:18:11.359 in built. It's they and they just have They're so wonderful. Like the 303 00:18:11.400 --> 00:18:15.200 whole family. They dance and the whole night away they party. No one 304 00:18:15.319 --> 00:18:18.880 is sloppy, drunk, annoying. I was gonna say, it doesn't get 305 00:18:18.920 --> 00:18:23.319 too sloppy. Well no, and they're just the best. So I'm really 306 00:18:23.400 --> 00:18:27.160 hype for that. So Jake's aunt came to visit. She moved back from 307 00:18:27.200 --> 00:18:32.119 Ohio, she's stopped by, but we I was like, I could not 308 00:18:32.240 --> 00:18:34.559 believe how much I was into the super Bowl last night. I could not 309 00:18:34.599 --> 00:18:38.440 be like I stopped. I watched like the first half, because you watched 310 00:18:38.480 --> 00:18:42.119 the first half, and I was like, this is so boring. And 311 00:18:42.400 --> 00:18:45.759 I watched the halftime show and then we left. We were over across the 312 00:18:45.759 --> 00:18:48.880 street like in at our friend's house, and we drove back to our house, 313 00:18:48.920 --> 00:18:52.640 put all of to bed, and I was watching the show called One 314 00:18:52.720 --> 00:18:56.359 Day on Netflix and it's a series and I was so into it. I 315 00:18:56.359 --> 00:18:57.960 had one and a half episodes left, so I put that on Jacobs. 316 00:18:59.000 --> 00:19:02.079 So I guess we're watching this and not the super Bowl, And I said, 317 00:19:02.359 --> 00:19:03.759 do you want to? Was like, honestly, no, it was 318 00:19:03.799 --> 00:19:07.720 a lame game. So I watched the two episodes and that covered the third 319 00:19:07.799 --> 00:19:11.960 quarter, and then I pulled it back for the fourth. We downloaded the 320 00:19:11.000 --> 00:19:15.920 free fucking Paramount app for the one week trial wouldn't load. I'm like, 321 00:19:17.200 --> 00:19:21.640 this is the worst example paramount ever, and so Jay could get it on 322 00:19:21.680 --> 00:19:22.960 his phone, but we could not get to work on our TV. So 323 00:19:23.079 --> 00:19:26.319 I did what I did for the Grammys, pulled up TikTok watch the super 324 00:19:26.319 --> 00:19:30.200 Bowl on TikTok Live, and then it started getting I didn't even think. 325 00:19:30.680 --> 00:19:33.160 I was like, what do you mean, Like you were just watching the 326 00:19:33.160 --> 00:19:38.119 clips that everyone was everyone live streams the Grammys. Yeah, so I watched 327 00:19:38.319 --> 00:19:42.960 the last and I was so stressed. I wanted the Chiefs to win so 328 00:19:44.039 --> 00:19:45.880 bad just because I wanted Tailor and Travis to be happy. It was just 329 00:19:45.920 --> 00:19:48.519 so stupid. It's like the dumbest shit ever. And I was like, 330 00:19:48.920 --> 00:19:52.319 it really is true, though, it really is true. You can hate 331 00:19:52.359 --> 00:19:53.680 her all you want, but it really has made a lot of people like 332 00:19:53.759 --> 00:19:59.160 me who did not care about that actually like watch. Yeah, I would 333 00:19:59.319 --> 00:20:02.920 never have I've watched the second half of the super Bowl before this. I 334 00:20:03.000 --> 00:20:06.440 never I would have looked the next morning, read the scom and like cool 335 00:20:06.599 --> 00:20:10.599 congrad unless it was the Vikings, which that hasn't happened, saying and then 336 00:20:10.720 --> 00:20:14.759 maybe I want to care more because it'd be important. But I don't know 337 00:20:15.240 --> 00:20:18.160 that that's pretty much it. I don't know they're too too exciting. I 338 00:20:18.359 --> 00:20:21.759 mean, I do watch football, and not all the time, mostly just 339 00:20:21.759 --> 00:20:22.880 the teams I care about, which is the Packers, And then I do 340 00:20:22.960 --> 00:20:26.960 care about the Broncos now because that's what Andrew sivana. But I do always 341 00:20:26.960 --> 00:20:30.440 watch the Super Bowl for everything, the commercials, the Haften show, and 342 00:20:30.480 --> 00:20:36.839 the actual game. And I also like kind of started falling off like set 343 00:20:36.960 --> 00:20:40.759 end of second quarter or second quarter, love the halftime show. Then third 344 00:20:40.799 --> 00:20:44.400 quarter was half fain attention working on things. But then I got really into 345 00:20:44.440 --> 00:20:47.440 it, and I didn't know who I wanted to win, because I find 346 00:20:47.480 --> 00:20:51.880 Patrick Mahomes to be kind of annoying, so I didn't really want to have 347 00:20:51.960 --> 00:20:55.279 the Chiefs win. But then I also thought about how everyone thinks Aaron Rodgers 348 00:20:55.359 --> 00:20:59.519 is annoying or they whatever they think about him, and I don't feel that 349 00:20:59.559 --> 00:21:02.200 way about him either, so I was like, well, maybe I shouldn't 350 00:21:02.279 --> 00:21:06.400 root out the whole team because I think Patrick Mahomes is a little annoying. 351 00:21:06.839 --> 00:21:08.079 So then I think I was happy in the end. But originally I think 352 00:21:08.079 --> 00:21:11.119 I went into it wanting the forty nine ers to win, and it was 353 00:21:11.160 --> 00:21:15.480 a good game. I thought. I also wanted them to pan to Taylor 354 00:21:15.519 --> 00:21:19.519 Swift more though I wanted to see her reaction, and they did at one 355 00:21:19.519 --> 00:21:22.640 point when Travis had a big play. I remember in the fourth quarter. 356 00:21:23.119 --> 00:21:26.359 But I wanted to see so many more, so much more of her reactions. 357 00:21:26.400 --> 00:21:30.599 And I know that they had to like walk a fine line of what 358 00:21:30.640 --> 00:21:33.839 they could do. But yeah, it was a good It was a good 359 00:21:33.920 --> 00:21:37.880 game. Yeah, period, I said super Bowl. He I mean, 360 00:21:37.960 --> 00:21:40.839 that's I agreed with that, like I think everyone can agree. Ended up 361 00:21:40.839 --> 00:21:42.759 being like a really good game. Two things. Number one, you look 362 00:21:42.799 --> 00:21:45.160 like an elf right now, and I'm going to take a photo. Don't 363 00:21:45.400 --> 00:21:48.799 don't make me stop because my head was hurting. I know, okay, 364 00:21:48.839 --> 00:21:52.799 never, I'm not going to take it. The picture quality with the lighting 365 00:21:52.880 --> 00:21:55.400 is not attractive, but from my angle, you look a beautiful elf. 366 00:21:55.480 --> 00:21:56.759 And I was like, you could be in like Lord of the Rings. 367 00:21:57.000 --> 00:22:03.359 But I also really oh I watched like the TMC footage because like what they 368 00:22:03.400 --> 00:22:06.640 do after and then you go to a party and they saying you belong with 369 00:22:06.680 --> 00:22:08.240 me. They played her song and they sang it to each other. Yeah, 370 00:22:08.359 --> 00:22:11.799 learned Travis with I thought was cute and I just kept thinking, we're 371 00:22:11.839 --> 00:22:15.559 gonna talk about it on our show today too, Like everyone saying the way 372 00:22:15.599 --> 00:22:18.920 he treated the coach is a red flag for a relationship. Did you guys 373 00:22:18.920 --> 00:22:22.240 talk about that. So I'll be honest, I get a little nervous touching 374 00:22:22.279 --> 00:22:25.559 on certain subjects that can be kind of controversial without Dave there because I am 375 00:22:25.599 --> 00:22:27.799 still new because Dave's on vacation, I'm still new to controlling a show. 376 00:22:27.920 --> 00:22:32.519 Yeah, And so I did touch on it at one point. We didn't 377 00:22:32.559 --> 00:22:36.279 get deep into it. I mean, I stated in my opinion that I 378 00:22:36.319 --> 00:22:38.680 don't think it was as bad as people are, like some people are making 379 00:22:38.720 --> 00:22:42.200 it out to be, because testosterone is through the roof. You're in like 380 00:22:42.319 --> 00:22:45.759 the biggest game. You've worked your whole like you work your whole life to 381 00:22:45.799 --> 00:22:52.319 be where you are, and reacting out of anger because of a play that 382 00:22:52.359 --> 00:22:56.359 could have like helped you get like major points in a huge game. I 383 00:22:56.400 --> 00:23:00.559 feel like it's pretty natural. And I feel like I should gone back and 384 00:23:00.599 --> 00:23:03.119 rewatched a video a couple times because I think I only watched it like once 385 00:23:03.200 --> 00:23:07.559 or twice. Yeah, So we kind of talked about it because I know 386 00:23:07.720 --> 00:23:10.880 that people are saying this is a big red flag now for Taylor, right, 387 00:23:11.000 --> 00:23:15.759 And I I'll be honest, So, I thankfully have never been in 388 00:23:15.839 --> 00:23:22.119 any relationship where I have feared any form of domestic violence. So it's really 389 00:23:22.359 --> 00:23:26.359 easy for me to say. My outlook on it was that was he was 390 00:23:26.640 --> 00:23:30.759 it was a dick move. He should not have done that. But his 391 00:23:30.799 --> 00:23:33.079 coach did come out after, by the way, and I'm sure he's just 392 00:23:33.119 --> 00:23:36.119 trying to save face for Travis. Yeah, but he was like, he 393 00:23:36.240 --> 00:23:38.200 just startled me, caught me off guard. And it's not even what he 394 00:23:38.279 --> 00:23:41.319 repeated what Travis said, which was different than what people thought he was saying. 395 00:23:41.400 --> 00:23:45.640 Yeah, he was saying I wanted I should have been in. That 396 00:23:45.759 --> 00:23:48.240 is what he was saying, because then that like he could have stopped something 397 00:23:48.279 --> 00:23:51.960 from happening. Yea blah blah blah. I think it was a turnover when 398 00:23:51.960 --> 00:23:55.359 they were in the red zone to score and they lost seven potentials. The 399 00:23:55.440 --> 00:23:59.160 coach's outlook was he's not being selfish. He loves the game that much like 400 00:23:59.240 --> 00:24:03.599 he wants to help his team. Yeah, that was his reference. I 401 00:24:03.680 --> 00:24:07.440 did not look at that as this is someone who could then turn that on 402 00:24:07.200 --> 00:24:12.119 whoever he's dating in a relationship. But again, I've never dealt with any 403 00:24:12.119 --> 00:24:17.680 form of domestic violence myself, so that is a I guess ignorant statement because 404 00:24:17.680 --> 00:24:19.400 I don't know, but I did think that I just felt like that was 405 00:24:19.400 --> 00:24:22.960 a stretch and someone could tell me very different. But I am going to 406 00:24:23.000 --> 00:24:27.640 talk about it a little bit today not And I also think it's like harmful 407 00:24:27.799 --> 00:24:33.720 to imply that someone is capable of that. I think that's harmful as well. 408 00:24:33.960 --> 00:24:37.200 So I'm gonna I'll address it gently. I'm gonna say this is what 409 00:24:37.240 --> 00:24:40.000 I've been seeing a lot, what do you think, and open it up 410 00:24:40.039 --> 00:24:42.440 to other people instead of overly stating my opinion on it. Since I don't 411 00:24:42.480 --> 00:24:45.680 feel like I have a fair I guess, well, I guess. I 412 00:24:45.720 --> 00:24:49.279 mean, I guess I do have a biased in one way opinion, just 413 00:24:49.279 --> 00:24:52.599 like anyone else would have. Right, So what I was the thing I 414 00:24:52.599 --> 00:24:55.359 was going to talk about that was like one of the top things. I 415 00:24:55.359 --> 00:24:57.680 did watch the clip a lot. He's aggressive, but I feel like I 416 00:24:57.759 --> 00:25:00.200 was surprised, since I don't watch but all, to see how aggressive all 417 00:25:00.240 --> 00:25:06.079 of them were for everything throughout the entire game. I mean, my mention 418 00:25:06.160 --> 00:25:10.160 of it on our show today was, I literally play kickball and people get 419 00:25:10.200 --> 00:25:14.839 like upset and like yelling in each other's faces, Like that's kickball. So 420 00:25:14.920 --> 00:25:19.599 I just I really think that people are passionate about sports, and I agree 421 00:25:19.880 --> 00:25:25.559 that I have no experience in anything like that and luckily, but I also 422 00:25:25.680 --> 00:25:30.720 think that you cannot pick one thing out and immediately turn them into an abuser. 423 00:25:30.799 --> 00:25:33.559 I think that that's a really unfair thing to do to a human. 424 00:25:34.720 --> 00:25:38.079 But yeah, so you guys, you'll have to know how your conversation goes. 425 00:25:38.119 --> 00:25:41.640 I do have some emails on poll I have one too, is it? 426 00:25:44.799 --> 00:25:48.599 I have one from Haley? Okay, I might have more than that 427 00:25:48.640 --> 00:25:53.680 too, actually, but this one went from Balo. So but but I 428 00:25:53.680 --> 00:25:57.279 want to make sure we didn't already do this one. Did she did? 429 00:25:57.079 --> 00:25:59.759 What do we do? The one? We didn't do that one? Yeah, 430 00:26:00.000 --> 00:26:02.400 I didn't do that one because I have that one too. Here. 431 00:26:02.440 --> 00:26:04.480 I'll read mine first, because I don't think it's really like advice, like 432 00:26:04.519 --> 00:26:08.839 if yours is the one you are asking about as advice, so it says, 433 00:26:10.400 --> 00:26:11.599 hey, ladies, first and foremost, I love that you started this 434 00:26:11.599 --> 00:26:15.240 podcast. I work from home, so rarely get to listen to those Fallon 435 00:26:15.279 --> 00:26:18.680 and Zach in the afternoon, and this gives me the girl chat and fallent 436 00:26:18.759 --> 00:26:21.839 time I've been missing. Okay, so I have two topics, and yes, 437 00:26:21.880 --> 00:26:25.359 we are going to touch on Akatar one more time. It says one 438 00:26:25.599 --> 00:26:29.559 Akatar fallon, be prepared to have your life consumed, which you already admitted 439 00:26:29.559 --> 00:26:33.119 you have. I read the entire series and it was exactly like you said. 440 00:26:33.480 --> 00:26:37.119 Like you said you did, I bought each next book before the book 441 00:26:37.160 --> 00:26:38.599 I was reading and it had ended, so it would be seamless. I 442 00:26:38.640 --> 00:26:41.799 wish we were friends so we could talk about it when you were done. 443 00:26:41.880 --> 00:26:44.720 I have only a few book girlies in my life, and none of them 444 00:26:44.720 --> 00:26:48.039 have read the series yet. I had a series depression when it ended, 445 00:26:48.039 --> 00:26:51.759 which you also touched on, right, And when you're done with that series, 446 00:26:51.759 --> 00:26:55.119 I suggest Zodiac Academy if you heard of that one. No, I 447 00:26:55.160 --> 00:26:56.920 was gonna say, that's the first I've heard. I'm on book eight of 448 00:26:57.079 --> 00:27:02.480 eight with the same premise hot Fay is It's Faye right, Hey, Okay, 449 00:27:02.720 --> 00:27:06.480 Hot Fay Spice Magic. It's basically like Harry Potter, but far darker 450 00:27:06.519 --> 00:27:08.559 and a lot sexier, obsessed, and then she goes on to say number 451 00:27:08.559 --> 00:27:12.000 two Jenny's quote unquote to do list. So a few weeks ago I had 452 00:27:12.000 --> 00:27:15.799 said how I always have this to do list in my head that I even 453 00:27:15.880 --> 00:27:18.279 put like reading or something on it. Like I just constantly feel like things 454 00:27:18.279 --> 00:27:21.799 that you used to just like leisurely do all of a sudden it's like on 455 00:27:21.839 --> 00:27:23.480 a to do list. She says, when I say this hit close to 456 00:27:23.559 --> 00:27:26.720 home is an understatement. I was yelling at my podcast while listening because I 457 00:27:26.720 --> 00:27:30.200 couldn't relate to that more. I used to actually have a stress list, 458 00:27:30.480 --> 00:27:33.440 which is where I'd list all the things I'd been putting off in one spot 459 00:27:33.480 --> 00:27:37.319 so I could go look at it and remind myself aka shame myself into getting 460 00:27:37.319 --> 00:27:41.480 it done. More often than not, it did the absolute opposite and just 461 00:27:41.519 --> 00:27:44.720 showed me clearly how much I was still failing at getting stuff done, which 462 00:27:44.799 --> 00:27:48.519 just froze me more. When Jenny said she's now adding reading a book to 463 00:27:48.559 --> 00:27:51.599 her list, it really resonated because I was there. Let me start by 464 00:27:51.599 --> 00:27:55.640 saying, I'm a project manager for a fast paced in store retail agency for 465 00:27:55.720 --> 00:28:00.240 major retailers. It is definitely our careers that put us in that mindset of 466 00:28:00.319 --> 00:28:03.519 organization and aggressive multitasking, which is also why we're good at our jobs, 467 00:28:03.759 --> 00:28:08.160 but also why we can be a little neurotic on the flip side when that 468 00:28:08.200 --> 00:28:11.920 gets applied to life. You lose track of the things that are truly meant 469 00:28:11.960 --> 00:28:14.960 to be relaxing, like reading a book, because it's just another chore we've 470 00:28:14.960 --> 00:28:18.119 added to our task lists. Even going on works was on my list. 471 00:28:18.279 --> 00:28:22.079 I started seeing a therapist and she said, Haley, stop, get the 472 00:28:22.119 --> 00:28:25.640 trash novel, read the book, go on the walk. It doesn't need 473 00:28:25.680 --> 00:28:29.680 to be do the It doesn't need to be perfect to quote, do the 474 00:28:29.720 --> 00:28:33.400 thing. It's okay to sit and spend time reading or insert whatever activity. 475 00:28:33.799 --> 00:28:37.039 It shouldn't be an area of additional stress. The point is that it's okay 476 00:28:37.079 --> 00:28:40.079 to sit and do nothing for more than thirty minute minutes, even if you 477 00:28:40.119 --> 00:28:41.559 have stuff to do, because you deserve to let your mind rest. Your 478 00:28:41.599 --> 00:28:45.599 mind and body need to function properly. She goes on a little bit longer, 479 00:28:45.640 --> 00:28:48.640 but she ends up with saying, anyway, love both of you, 480 00:28:48.759 --> 00:28:52.079 ladies, keep on keeping on, have a great week, enjoy the heat 481 00:28:52.079 --> 00:28:55.440 wave. This came in a couple of weeks ago, so that was when 482 00:28:55.480 --> 00:28:57.359 it was like fifty years So that comes from Haley. Thank you, Hailey, 483 00:28:57.400 --> 00:29:02.279 Hailey, what do you think you you do? List? I read 484 00:29:02.319 --> 00:29:03.559 her email a couple of weeks ago when she first sent it, and I 485 00:29:03.599 --> 00:29:07.119 was like, Hailey, you're right, and so is your therapist. Just 486 00:29:07.319 --> 00:29:11.880 read the trash novel and stop thinking it's like something else to check off your 487 00:29:11.920 --> 00:29:15.640 list. Yep. So I have leaned into that a little bit more. 488 00:29:15.680 --> 00:29:18.000 But I do think that to do list, like actually writing things down on 489 00:29:18.039 --> 00:29:22.240 it to do list, does help me personally still because hers is different. 490 00:29:22.359 --> 00:29:26.160 Here's the stress. She was putting the worst things. So yeah, I 491 00:29:26.200 --> 00:29:30.240 think I'm in the in between. Okay, So yeah, side note, 492 00:29:30.319 --> 00:29:34.240 I have moved on to Throne of Glass, which is a different Sarah series. 493 00:29:34.359 --> 00:29:38.000 It was her same author, but it is her first series. She 494 00:29:38.000 --> 00:29:44.839 started writing when she was sixteen, so way less spicy, like like there's 495 00:29:45.000 --> 00:29:48.759 nothing there's like they might kiss and they might imply that they hooked up, 496 00:29:48.759 --> 00:29:52.559 but there's no detail. So she really graduated as she went along. And 497 00:29:52.759 --> 00:29:59.759 I am on book four and I think there are seven or so. It's 498 00:29:59.759 --> 00:30:03.599 a lot, I know, I know. And then after that I will 499 00:30:03.640 --> 00:30:06.119 do and you know what, it's weird about this one, and then after 500 00:30:06.160 --> 00:30:08.759 that I'm gonna do Crescent City, which is her other one. Number one. 501 00:30:10.039 --> 00:30:14.000 There's this book series is unique. You can either read there's one book 502 00:30:14.039 --> 00:30:17.559 called Assassin's Blade. You can either read it first okay, and then read 503 00:30:17.559 --> 00:30:21.279 book one and two and on word, or you can read book one and 504 00:30:21.319 --> 00:30:23.839 two and then Assassin's Blade at book three. So I read Assassin's Blade at 505 00:30:23.839 --> 00:30:27.359 book three because it's her recommended reading. But it gives you history, so 506 00:30:27.400 --> 00:30:30.119 it's kind of like it stops the story from the first two books to give 507 00:30:30.160 --> 00:30:34.720 you history, which is a little annoying. Then I hear books five and 508 00:30:34.759 --> 00:30:40.279 six you need to read it tandem. They take place at the exact same 509 00:30:40.359 --> 00:30:45.799 timeline. So but they're from two different characters. So if not, if 510 00:30:45.839 --> 00:30:48.240 you don't read them in tandem, back and forth, yep, you'll read 511 00:30:48.279 --> 00:30:52.799 one and instead of moving forward, you're like going back in time to catch 512 00:30:52.880 --> 00:30:55.000 up. And that could be annoying. So what do you do? Read 513 00:30:55.119 --> 00:30:57.480 one chapter from one book and then go read the same chapter And I don't 514 00:30:57.519 --> 00:31:02.079 know book there's actually a there's actually an outline of how you should do it, 515 00:31:02.240 --> 00:31:03.480 and I haven't looked it up, so I was like, that's I 516 00:31:03.480 --> 00:31:08.279 think it's kind of cool and different. So here is our last email, 517 00:31:08.839 --> 00:31:12.440 Fallin and Jenny, listen to both of your show podcasts every day. Thank 518 00:31:12.480 --> 00:31:15.119 you and was so glad you started doing this. I missed you too together 519 00:31:15.160 --> 00:31:18.119 in the morning, so it's great to still be able to hear you to 520 00:31:18.200 --> 00:31:21.759 together once a week on I'm Still Fun. You both always give great advice, 521 00:31:21.759 --> 00:31:23.160 so I thought i'd write in and hope you would maybe read my email 522 00:31:23.200 --> 00:31:26.680 on the podcast. I found out some news last weekend that I am looking 523 00:31:26.720 --> 00:31:30.240 for advice on for starters. I'm twenty four years old, and as usual, 524 00:31:30.279 --> 00:31:33.400 my friends are starting to get engaged in our planning weddings. About a 525 00:31:33.440 --> 00:31:36.839 month ago, my good friend from high school asked me to be a personal 526 00:31:36.839 --> 00:31:40.039 attendant at her wedding this fall. I was honestly surprised by this, as 527 00:31:40.079 --> 00:31:42.279 I still view her as a friend of mine and always will, as we 528 00:31:42.279 --> 00:31:45.559 have many special memories for middle school and high school. But I honestly didn't 529 00:31:45.559 --> 00:31:49.119 think we were close enough anymore to warrant anything more than an invite to our 530 00:31:49.119 --> 00:31:52.160 wedding. She has a friend I see occasionally a few times per year, 531 00:31:52.519 --> 00:31:56.519 along with our other high school friend group to catch up over drinks and dinner. 532 00:31:56.519 --> 00:31:59.599 However, I accepted and was excited to be a part of her day 533 00:32:00.039 --> 00:32:01.759 Now this is where it gets tricky. Last weekend I found out that my 534 00:32:01.799 --> 00:32:07.359 boyfriend's sister is having her wedding the exact same day this fall. She just 535 00:32:07.400 --> 00:32:12.799 booked her venue. What bad luck. Now I do not know what time 536 00:32:12.920 --> 00:32:15.119 everything that day is quite yet, but I assume the weddings will follow a 537 00:32:15.160 --> 00:32:20.200 traditional timeline, such as the weddings in early afternoon, reception for dinner, 538 00:32:20.240 --> 00:32:22.079 and then a dance to follow. My gut instinct is to get ready with 539 00:32:22.119 --> 00:32:25.640 my friend in the morning, do photos, attend the ceremony and politely part 540 00:32:28.039 --> 00:32:31.759 of cocktail hour before leaving, and attend the reception and dinner with my boyfriend 541 00:32:31.759 --> 00:32:36.160 and his family. Thankfully, the weddings are taking place around fifteen to twenty 542 00:32:36.200 --> 00:32:38.240 minutes away from each other, so it would definitely be possible for this plan 543 00:32:38.319 --> 00:32:40.920 to work. To give some context, my boyfriend and I will have been 544 00:32:40.960 --> 00:32:44.759 together for over two years by the time these weddings take place, and I 545 00:32:44.799 --> 00:32:47.640 truly love his family like my own. But I don't want my friend to 546 00:32:47.640 --> 00:32:52.200 be upset about me leaving her on her wedding day, because even though we 547 00:32:52.279 --> 00:32:54.079 are not very close to anymore, I don't want to hurt her feelings. 548 00:32:54.319 --> 00:32:57.920 If this was someone that I still viewed as my best friend, I would 549 00:32:57.920 --> 00:33:00.559 be thinking. I wouldn't be thinking this way. I said, I was 550 00:33:00.559 --> 00:33:02.319 surprised to even be a part of the wedding period. So here are her 551 00:33:02.400 --> 00:33:05.880 questions. I'm going to read them all out. Okay, am I a 552 00:33:05.960 --> 00:33:08.519 jerk if I leave my friend's wedding after the cocktail hour? Whether I am 553 00:33:08.559 --> 00:33:13.160 in the wedding or not. Well, she's personal attendant though, right, 554 00:33:13.920 --> 00:33:15.119 Look, I think that's a little bit different than being in the wedding. 555 00:33:16.200 --> 00:33:21.519 I'm saying no based off of what she's saying about their relationship. Yeah, 556 00:33:22.200 --> 00:33:24.319 next one, is my friend a jerk? If she gets upset, I 557 00:33:24.319 --> 00:33:29.000 cannot attend the entire reception. Here, I'm going to read all of them 558 00:33:29.000 --> 00:33:31.160 because I have, like I feel like, an overall answer. Should I 559 00:33:31.160 --> 00:33:34.720 tell my friend I can no longer be a personal tendant if I have to 560 00:33:34.799 --> 00:33:37.799 leave? There is one other personal attendant a part of the wedding besides me. 561 00:33:37.880 --> 00:33:39.960 Okay, so she isn't the only one. Are there any other solutions 562 00:33:39.960 --> 00:33:44.759 to this dilemma? Have you or anyone else you know been in the same 563 00:33:44.799 --> 00:33:46.880 situation? If so, what did they do and should I just do what 564 00:33:47.519 --> 00:33:52.160 is going to make me the happiest in this situation? All right, Taylor, 565 00:33:52.559 --> 00:33:54.039 here are my thoughts. Yeah, I go for it. I think 566 00:33:54.079 --> 00:33:59.160 this friend asked you to be a personal attendant because she thought that she would 567 00:33:59.279 --> 00:34:04.519 she felt bad. This to me, it's young. It's young because and 568 00:34:04.519 --> 00:34:07.640 that's not an insult at all. I was the exact same way. When 569 00:34:07.640 --> 00:34:10.639 you're younger, you like, I feel like you're so worried about including high 570 00:34:10.639 --> 00:34:14.360 school and college friends and this group of friends and stuff. And then when 571 00:34:14.360 --> 00:34:16.199 you get older, I think you start kind of narrowing it down like your 572 00:34:16.199 --> 00:34:21.639 friends, and you've gone out of touch with some people. So my honest, 573 00:34:22.199 --> 00:34:25.559 my honest thought is what does a personal attendant do? A personal attendant 574 00:34:25.599 --> 00:34:30.679 to me is like the title you give a friend who you didn't want to 575 00:34:30.679 --> 00:34:32.800 put them on your bridal party, but you feel guilty, so you have 576 00:34:32.880 --> 00:34:36.519 them stand at the front and make sure people sign a guestbook and hand out 577 00:34:36.519 --> 00:34:42.639 the program. It's I feel like such an unnecessary thing because most people, 578 00:34:42.719 --> 00:34:45.239 not everyone, because not everyone can afford it. Has like a day of 579 00:34:45.360 --> 00:34:49.840 coordinator or a venue coordinator or someone who actually does the real work of setting 580 00:34:49.920 --> 00:34:53.719 up, tearing down hurdle, it hurting people. So I would do what 581 00:34:53.800 --> 00:34:58.360 I personally would do, is I would give her the option. I would 582 00:34:58.400 --> 00:35:01.039 say, hey, this is that's what happened. What are the odds. 583 00:35:01.480 --> 00:35:05.480 I've been a really tricky situation. So I want to ask you what you 584 00:35:05.519 --> 00:35:09.599 would prefer. Would you prefer I do this half day or is that leaving 585 00:35:09.599 --> 00:35:13.880 you high and dry? And you'd rather just have someone replace me? Totally? 586 00:35:13.960 --> 00:35:15.960 Because it's important to me to be there for my boyfriend's family. It's 587 00:35:16.000 --> 00:35:22.840 your boyfriend's sister. It's not like it's some random person. That's your boyfriend's 588 00:35:22.880 --> 00:35:25.880 sister. And I'm sorry, I think she if she doesn't understand that, 589 00:35:25.960 --> 00:35:30.000 then that's a whole different set of issues. But I think give her the 590 00:35:30.039 --> 00:35:36.679 option if you really are concerned about hurting her feelings. Yeah, And because 591 00:35:36.719 --> 00:35:40.119 I would say personally, I would probably want to spend the full day with 592 00:35:40.159 --> 00:35:45.000 my boyfriend's family, and so I would probably be like, hey, this 593 00:35:45.039 --> 00:35:47.159 is really hard. But it also sounds like that wedding is quite a ways 594 00:35:47.199 --> 00:35:51.840 away still, so like you have you're not leaving her a month before the 595 00:35:51.840 --> 00:35:55.000 wedding. Yeah, maybe I'm wrong. We've I misread it. I don't 596 00:35:55.039 --> 00:35:59.000 know. I just feel like this summer so okay, maybe miss that, 597 00:35:59.039 --> 00:36:01.679 but no, I mean I agree with everything that you have to say. 598 00:36:01.880 --> 00:36:07.599 I would almost be more on the side of like being selfish and bailing on 599 00:36:07.639 --> 00:36:10.440 the wedding completely and saying sorry, I have my boyfriend's sister's wedding. It 600 00:36:10.599 --> 00:36:15.960 just came up. But I also know that this is something I also have 601 00:36:15.039 --> 00:36:19.440 not experienced in life, which is having a wedding and having a party and 602 00:36:19.480 --> 00:36:22.119 having people do all these things. So I know that it's very stressful if 603 00:36:22.119 --> 00:36:27.320 someone bails last minute. But I also don't feel like personal attendants are as 604 00:36:27.360 --> 00:36:30.800 important as like the actual bridal party. No, you know, so I 605 00:36:30.880 --> 00:36:34.719 just feel like if you were in the bridal party, this would be a 606 00:36:34.760 --> 00:36:37.599 different scenario. But I think that she can do without it. I don't 607 00:36:37.639 --> 00:36:42.360 even know what personal attendants do. My sister had two people that I'm pretty 608 00:36:42.360 --> 00:36:45.400 sure she asked kind of last minute, not last minute, but like not 609 00:36:45.440 --> 00:36:49.039 super far ahead of time, that were hers, And I don't know what 610 00:36:49.079 --> 00:36:52.239 they did. Haven't I'll be honest, I maybe I'm just very out of 611 00:36:52.239 --> 00:36:58.039 this world. I haven't heard of anyone doing personal attendance since I was like 612 00:36:58.079 --> 00:37:01.079 in high school and my sister got married. Uh that was I haven't known 613 00:37:01.119 --> 00:37:07.440 a single friend in the past ten years have a personal attendant. Maybe in 614 00:37:07.440 --> 00:37:10.960 Indiana they do still, And I always think it's like an old school title 615 00:37:12.039 --> 00:37:15.599 because it's so common to have like an actual coordinator for your wedding. Now. 616 00:37:16.239 --> 00:37:20.559 Yeah, no, I honestly I have no idea what the two girls 617 00:37:20.599 --> 00:37:27.920 that were my sisters did. I think you need to decide if you want 618 00:37:27.920 --> 00:37:30.159 to give it, if you're gonna if you're gonna feel guilty and it's going 619 00:37:30.199 --> 00:37:32.760 to ruin things and you're fairy stressed, give her the option of the two. 620 00:37:34.559 --> 00:37:37.239 But I'm with Jenny. I would I wouldn't be like, hey, 621 00:37:37.760 --> 00:37:40.320 this is the worst thing. I would still love to come to your bridal 622 00:37:40.360 --> 00:37:45.119 shower and bachelorette party if you're having one, unless it's the same time as 623 00:37:45.119 --> 00:37:49.880 hers alt now, but yeah, yeah, I agree, Oh good luck. 624 00:37:49.960 --> 00:37:52.440 Let us know what you decide. Yeah, and you can always email 625 00:37:52.519 --> 00:37:55.440 us Ballin at katiewb dot com or Jenny at katiewb dot com. A little 626 00:37:55.480 --> 00:37:59.639 bit longer of an episodes these past few weeks, I know, well, 627 00:37:59.679 --> 00:38:01.239 we have a been able to just ch chat ourselves for a while. I 628 00:38:01.320 --> 00:38:06.800 haven't listen to fucking Steve bitch, just kidding. We love you. Steve. 629 00:38:07.280 --> 00:38:09.920 Like he's listening, I know he probably he did listen to his episode, 630 00:38:09.960 --> 00:38:14.000 I think, and that's maybe the only one. So anyway, have 631 00:38:14.199 --> 00:38:15.599 a great week. Thanks for listening.