WEBVTT 1 00:00:00.040 --> 00:00:03.200 Hi everyone, and welcome back to another podcast episode. My name is Alicia 2 00:00:03.200 --> 00:00:06.839 Gogain, the host of the Globe Secrets podcast or I help you expand your 3 00:00:06.879 --> 00:00:10.279 mind and become more self aware so that you can glow up into the best 4 00:00:10.359 --> 00:00:15.800 version of yourself. Hello, Happy Thursday. If you're listening to this on 5 00:00:15.839 --> 00:00:22.199 a Thursday. It is a very calm, beautiful, peaceful day today in 6 00:00:22.199 --> 00:00:27.920 the city and in my own life. Today, we need to talk. 7 00:00:28.440 --> 00:00:36.479 We need to talk about what to do when nothing feels right. So I've 8 00:00:36.520 --> 00:00:41.200 been thinking you girls, or maybe guys who listen to this podcast, and 9 00:00:41.280 --> 00:00:48.320 even myself included, when we get triggered or when things are not working out 10 00:00:48.320 --> 00:00:54.039 in our lives, we are the ones who want to change that and work 11 00:00:54.079 --> 00:00:58.600 on that and fix that. This is not even to say that that is 12 00:00:58.640 --> 00:01:03.320 the wrong thing to do. Quite frankly, it's better sometimes that you do 13 00:01:03.359 --> 00:01:07.079 that instead of you just ignore, deny, suppress, and leave that to 14 00:01:07.159 --> 00:01:11.159 the side. There are people who love to avoid. We tend to not 15 00:01:11.519 --> 00:01:19.959 if we can do that, So we try to look at the situation in 16 00:01:19.000 --> 00:01:23.480 a better light. We try to change our mindsets. We start trying to 17 00:01:25.000 --> 00:01:29.159 affirm new things about what's currently happening. Things are happening in my favor, 18 00:01:29.239 --> 00:01:33.480 things will change, This is happening. For this reason, we really try 19 00:01:34.159 --> 00:01:40.079 and stay positive, We really try to show up for ourselves and go into 20 00:01:40.120 --> 00:01:45.959 this energy of fixing things so that we can feel better. But sometimes, 21 00:01:45.959 --> 00:01:52.159 and I think you guys can resonate with this, sometimes it just feels like, 22 00:01:52.519 --> 00:01:56.120 no matter how much you try to look at the situation in a different 23 00:01:56.159 --> 00:01:59.640 light, even though logically you know things are going to change, or you 24 00:01:59.760 --> 00:02:02.599 know things are gonna work out, or sometimes maybe you don't. Regardless, 25 00:02:04.000 --> 00:02:08.520 sometimes you just your mind. It's not resonating. It doesn't make you feel 26 00:02:08.719 --> 00:02:16.120 better. Things aren't feeling good. So what do you do in those times 27 00:02:16.159 --> 00:02:23.039 where it seems like it almost seems like you're the one feeling yourself because you 28 00:02:23.080 --> 00:02:27.120 can't even get yourself to feel good about the situation, Especially knowing who you 29 00:02:27.159 --> 00:02:30.000 are as a person and knowing that you are somebody who gets things done and 30 00:02:30.120 --> 00:02:36.280 works on things and find answers, what do you do? And I have 31 00:02:36.360 --> 00:02:43.000 been really experiencing this in my own life, but thinking about this heavily, 32 00:02:44.560 --> 00:02:49.759 what it is that you need to do in these moments is come back to 33 00:02:50.439 --> 00:02:57.360 yourself. Now, what does it really mean to come back to yourself? 34 00:02:58.240 --> 00:03:01.960 And I have a few things that I want to unpack in this episode when 35 00:03:02.000 --> 00:03:07.680 it comes to that. But I think when it comes to you feeling like 36 00:03:07.840 --> 00:03:15.120 crap or feeling triggered, most likely your awareness is on the situation at hand. 37 00:03:16.120 --> 00:03:22.039 Let's say a relationship situation that's not working out the best, or maybe 38 00:03:22.120 --> 00:03:23.879 even a job opportunity. You guys know, I usually use like jobs or 39 00:03:23.919 --> 00:03:31.080 relationships as examples, but there's so many things. When these things are out 40 00:03:31.120 --> 00:03:38.000 of our control, there is sometimes not much else that we can do but 41 00:03:38.159 --> 00:03:44.280 to bring the focus back onto ourselves. And we are trying to find safety. 42 00:03:44.360 --> 00:03:49.400 We are trying to feel good within our own bodies and our own lives 43 00:03:49.840 --> 00:03:54.199 by waiting for the external environment to make us feel good. But the problem 44 00:03:54.280 --> 00:04:01.000 with that is sometimes we don't have control over people situations, and quite frankly, 45 00:04:02.120 --> 00:04:06.879 when we're on a journey of becoming the dream girl the dream guy, 46 00:04:09.319 --> 00:04:12.719 the universe is moving mountains. You guys know, I've been telling you guys 47 00:04:12.759 --> 00:04:19.480 this, and sometimes that in between is messy. Think about this. If 48 00:04:20.199 --> 00:04:25.560 let's say this doesn't actually happen, but like, let's say the universe was 49 00:04:25.600 --> 00:04:30.720 actually moving a physical mountain for you from point A to point B. You 50 00:04:30.800 --> 00:04:32.439 really need it to like be at point B, and the universe is like 51 00:04:32.519 --> 00:04:38.879 working for you, and it's moving this mountain from moving it from point A 52 00:04:39.959 --> 00:04:44.120 to B. Don't you think it's gonna be a little bit messy. Don't 53 00:04:44.160 --> 00:04:48.959 you think there's gonna be a few avalanches or freakin rocks falling down or things 54 00:04:49.040 --> 00:04:54.120 moving out of place. But it's getting to be and it's gonna be there 55 00:04:54.160 --> 00:04:58.519 when you need it. But in the middle of moving from A to B, 56 00:04:58.680 --> 00:05:00.879 there's gonna be a little bit of messiness. There's gonna be a little 57 00:05:00.920 --> 00:05:04.240 bit of I don't really like the way that that mountain looks in the middle 58 00:05:04.279 --> 00:05:13.680 here, right, And sometimes we get really triggered when we see that mess. 59 00:05:14.279 --> 00:05:17.560 So on one hand, yes, we can look at the situation and 60 00:05:17.600 --> 00:05:23.120 say it's just a mess right now. It's it's we're messing with the middle. 61 00:05:23.639 --> 00:05:30.319 Leave leave the middle for the universe. But sometimes just telling yourself that 62 00:05:30.680 --> 00:05:32.319 doesn't still make you feel good, because it's like, well, what do 63 00:05:32.360 --> 00:05:36.040 I do though, Because there is a mess right now, and I don't 64 00:05:36.079 --> 00:05:41.639 feel stable. I feel either stable in point A or point B. What 65 00:05:41.959 --> 00:05:46.000 do I do in the in between? And that is where you take off 66 00:05:46.199 --> 00:05:50.319 the spotlight that you have on the middle on everything else and you bring it 67 00:05:50.439 --> 00:05:56.560 on to you. You create your own safe space. At the end of 68 00:05:56.639 --> 00:06:00.920 the day, you are your safest place. And sometimes we forget that. 69 00:06:01.879 --> 00:06:09.319 Sometimes we are so in this energy of trying to change and fix and keep 70 00:06:09.360 --> 00:06:16.319 everything together and make everything right that we're not focusing and pouring into ourselves. 71 00:06:17.199 --> 00:06:23.720 So there's a few things that you can do when you find that trying to 72 00:06:23.720 --> 00:06:27.279 look at a certain situation and telling yourself, Okay, the mountain's going to 73 00:06:27.319 --> 00:06:30.759 be in a point B soon whatever, that that's not working. Whatever. 74 00:06:31.360 --> 00:06:34.199 The first thing really is is I want you to take your focus off of 75 00:06:34.199 --> 00:06:38.800 the situation at hand, whatever is happening right now. Don't even try to 76 00:06:38.839 --> 00:06:41.600 force yourself to look at it in a different light. You don't even need 77 00:06:41.639 --> 00:06:45.199 to be positive about the situation. Like, let's stop even forcing ourselves to 78 00:06:45.240 --> 00:06:47.360 look at the situation as positive. If that's like really struggling, like you're 79 00:06:47.360 --> 00:06:51.600 struggling with that for a moment, just detach from it, let it go 80 00:06:51.800 --> 00:06:57.079 for a moment. You can come back to it. Come back to yourself. 81 00:06:57.800 --> 00:07:03.079 Self love is going to be key here. So depending on the situation 82 00:07:03.439 --> 00:07:11.480 that you're going through, Let's use the example of relationships. If somebody is 83 00:07:11.519 --> 00:07:14.920 not treating you right, if you're not getting what you want, if you 84 00:07:15.120 --> 00:07:17.480 are scared because you're not getting what you want, if you're getting jealous over 85 00:07:17.600 --> 00:07:24.279 something or somebody, something, whatever. I want you to pourt back into 86 00:07:24.319 --> 00:07:30.360 yourself in terms of how do you view yourself, what do you love like 87 00:07:30.519 --> 00:07:35.879 about yourself? You need to start a practice again of creating more safety within 88 00:07:35.920 --> 00:07:40.839 yourself. And the truth is a lot of us don't do this. The 89 00:07:40.879 --> 00:07:46.720 reason why sometimes also, let's say you are so obsessed about an external situation 90 00:07:47.000 --> 00:07:53.800 in a relationship, or you're anxious or whatever, is really it's a reflection 91 00:07:53.920 --> 00:07:57.839 of your own self concept. It's a lack of self love. It's a 92 00:07:57.920 --> 00:08:01.519 lack of you looking at yourself like you deserve to be prioritized and you deserve 93 00:08:01.560 --> 00:08:05.360 to have these things, and these things are happening for you, and they're 94 00:08:05.399 --> 00:08:09.920 going to happen for you. Things are moving whatever it is. So I 95 00:08:09.959 --> 00:08:16.160 think that when you are going through a period of time, especially when you 96 00:08:16.240 --> 00:08:20.920 are triggered like something just happen. The best thing you can do in the 97 00:08:20.959 --> 00:08:28.079 mornings is to write a list of self love affirmations. Now, these affirmations 98 00:08:28.199 --> 00:08:31.480 need to be specific to you, and you really need to feel into them. 99 00:08:31.959 --> 00:08:35.840 I want you to have this practice be all about you. What makes 100 00:08:35.879 --> 00:08:39.200 you feel the best when you think about yourself? And now, a lot 101 00:08:39.200 --> 00:08:43.200 of us don't have the best beliefs or the best self concept, but this 102 00:08:43.240 --> 00:08:46.279 is the perfect time to do it. A lot of the times, the 103 00:08:46.320 --> 00:08:52.120 reason why we get into these situations is because we actually don't even have a 104 00:08:52.120 --> 00:08:56.840 good self concept. So on one hand, it's like thank you, Universe, 105 00:08:56.919 --> 00:09:00.720 thank you situation at hand, because you're really showing me what I believe 106 00:09:00.720 --> 00:09:05.120 about myself. But this is a time to really act on that. What 107 00:09:05.519 --> 00:09:09.320 is it that you want to love more about yourself? What is it that 108 00:09:09.360 --> 00:09:13.399 you can point out about yourself that is amazing? You know, you don't 109 00:09:13.399 --> 00:09:18.240 have to look at yourself like you have done everything on your to do list 110 00:09:18.279 --> 00:09:22.559 and you are amazing. Like conditional love, I want you to learn how 111 00:09:22.559 --> 00:09:26.240 to love yourself unconditionally. I love the fact that you keep getting up and 112 00:09:26.320 --> 00:09:31.440 trying, Alicia. I love the fact that you are kind to people, 113 00:09:31.600 --> 00:09:35.039 and that you want to unconditionally love people the same way you are trying to 114 00:09:35.120 --> 00:09:39.919 unconditionally love yourself. I love the fact that you are on this mission to 115 00:09:41.080 --> 00:09:43.879 create your dream life. I love the fact that you wake up in the 116 00:09:43.919 --> 00:09:48.799 mornings and you try your best to be positive. And I love this about 117 00:09:48.840 --> 00:09:54.519 you physically, mentally, emotionally, the decisions that you've made in your life, 118 00:09:54.679 --> 00:09:58.000 everything whatever, it is uniquely to you. I want you to start 119 00:09:58.120 --> 00:10:01.480 learning how to unconne love yourself. And how you do that is you're writing 120 00:10:01.559 --> 00:10:07.720 letters to yourself in the morning, Okay. And the reason why I'm saying 121 00:10:07.320 --> 00:10:11.600 this again is like it's like we wake up in the morning and we're trying 122 00:10:11.639 --> 00:10:18.360 to write a letter on or a journal practice, really writing a journal practice 123 00:10:18.399 --> 00:10:22.080 on how to view the situation differently, how it's going to work out for 124 00:10:22.159 --> 00:10:26.480 us, why it's not working out for us, how we're going to get 125 00:10:26.519 --> 00:10:30.399 it to work out for us. Enough with that right now, that's not 126 00:10:30.519 --> 00:10:35.399 making you feel good because you don't feel safe within yourself, You're not feeling 127 00:10:35.519 --> 00:10:39.600 love within yourself. The only person that is the most important thing in this 128 00:10:39.679 --> 00:10:43.639 situation right now in your life is you. You need to start pouring into 129 00:10:43.639 --> 00:10:48.200 yourself, self love, journal practice in the mornings. Do that consistently. 130 00:10:48.279 --> 00:10:52.759 That will make you feel good, I promise you. The next thing is 131 00:10:54.279 --> 00:10:58.399 to create a solid routine for yourself. And I know people always talk about 132 00:10:58.399 --> 00:11:07.039 this, but the reason why this is important is because you're really not doing 133 00:11:07.080 --> 00:11:09.960 this. And maybe you are. In your mind you think that you are 134 00:11:11.000 --> 00:11:16.320 working out, you're journaling, you're listening to podcasts, but really, like, 135 00:11:16.440 --> 00:11:20.000 how many times a day are you actually journaling? How many times a 136 00:11:20.080 --> 00:11:24.399 day are you doing meditations? How often are you actually showing up to the 137 00:11:24.440 --> 00:11:28.600 gym? And on top of that, as you're doing these things, where 138 00:11:28.639 --> 00:11:31.279 is the focus right? Because listen, you could be doing a journal practice 139 00:11:31.320 --> 00:11:35.919 every morning, but the journal practice is focused on the external. You're trying 140 00:11:35.960 --> 00:11:39.600 to change the way you view things. You're trying to manifest something into your 141 00:11:39.639 --> 00:11:43.000 life, like you're trying to get something energy. It really doesn't have to 142 00:11:43.039 --> 00:11:48.960 do with you viewing yourself as this beautiful, adorable, admirable person, like 143 00:11:48.000 --> 00:11:50.799 it's not about you, it's about them, or it's about the situation that 144 00:11:50.799 --> 00:11:54.679 you're trying to get like external when you're going to the gym, it's all 145 00:11:54.759 --> 00:11:58.879 about the external. You're trying to go to the gym so that you can 146 00:11:58.200 --> 00:12:01.840 create something, You can create a response, you can have somebody like you 147 00:12:01.960 --> 00:12:05.960 or love you, or you're just mainly in the gym. All you're doing 148 00:12:05.000 --> 00:12:09.200 is ruminating on the situation you're not there for yourself. Even when it comes 149 00:12:09.200 --> 00:12:13.559 to meditations, like how often are you actually doing it and what type of 150 00:12:13.600 --> 00:12:18.360 meditations are you doing? Are you doing meditations guided meditations where it's all focused 151 00:12:18.360 --> 00:12:24.399 on trying to get something or something, or is it genuinely a sleep meditation 152 00:12:24.519 --> 00:12:28.720 or a meditation that's guided, that's really just making you feel good about yourself, 153 00:12:28.720 --> 00:12:31.600 reminding you that you are a goddess, you are beautiful, You don't 154 00:12:31.639 --> 00:12:35.279 need to try. People are coming to you, but not for this energy 155 00:12:35.279 --> 00:12:39.120 of trying to get people to come for you more just like self love. 156 00:12:39.240 --> 00:12:43.799 Maybe it's just an inner child meditation, sending your inner child a lot of 157 00:12:43.840 --> 00:12:48.679 love, Like it's all about you. What are you doing in your life? 158 00:12:48.679 --> 00:12:52.200 Because again, we could do all of these having these routines for ourselves, 159 00:12:52.240 --> 00:12:54.759 but are they really for you or are they really for the external? 160 00:12:56.279 --> 00:13:01.039 So looking at your current routines, you either have it and maybe it's really 161 00:13:01.120 --> 00:13:07.559 external, or maybe you don't have these routines. Be focused on yourself, 162 00:13:07.080 --> 00:13:11.000 get into the movement practices that make you feel good about yourself. This has 163 00:13:11.080 --> 00:13:15.480 nothing to do with anyone else. This has nothing to do with trying to 164 00:13:16.000 --> 00:13:20.799 change anything outside of yourself. Okay, you're being in the present moment. 165 00:13:20.799 --> 00:13:24.799 You're so in your head, you're so triggered all the time. Create that 166 00:13:24.879 --> 00:13:28.320 safe space within you. Even this weekend, I went to hot yoga. 167 00:13:28.320 --> 00:13:35.240 It was like the most amazing feeling ever. And it wasn't about anything or 168 00:13:35.279 --> 00:13:39.559 anyone but myself. I wasn't trying to, you know, even check. 169 00:13:39.600 --> 00:13:43.679 It wasn't even this workout that was like checking off my to do list. 170 00:13:43.720 --> 00:13:52.000 It wasn't even anything like that. It wasn't even like a workout to fix 171 00:13:52.200 --> 00:13:56.000 my mental health. But it did help my mental health. It made me 172 00:13:56.039 --> 00:14:01.600 feel so good. But it was for me. I wasn't doing this action 173 00:14:03.200 --> 00:14:05.159 so I can have this certain response. I was just doing it because I 174 00:14:05.240 --> 00:14:09.240 knew that that's what I wanted to do in the moment. I really was 175 00:14:09.279 --> 00:14:13.639 craving doing a hot yoga class. And actually there was one thing that I 176 00:14:13.759 --> 00:14:20.039 was observing I thought about. I even talked about it on my last vlog. 177 00:14:20.360 --> 00:14:22.799 If you need more of this like reset self, love energy, I 178 00:14:22.840 --> 00:14:26.039 did just create a vlog on my main channel, which we'll have link down 179 00:14:26.080 --> 00:14:33.000 below. But I was talking about how in my hot yoga class, my 180 00:14:33.360 --> 00:14:41.080 instructor was talking about how when you feel really hot in class, obviously it's 181 00:14:41.120 --> 00:14:46.279 really uncomfortable, but she was trying to tell us how staying as still as 182 00:14:46.320 --> 00:14:52.000 possible even as we come out of the poses is actually more helpful than you 183 00:14:54.960 --> 00:14:58.039 really just like releasing your body so much sitting down, drinking a ton of 184 00:14:58.080 --> 00:15:01.320 water, like mo moving a lot. She obviously wasn't trying to tell us 185 00:15:01.399 --> 00:15:05.360 like you can't sit down or you can't breathe, whatever, but she was 186 00:15:05.399 --> 00:15:09.559 trying to bring us bring our awareness to the fact that it's actually really important 187 00:15:09.559 --> 00:15:13.159 to stay as still as possible even as you move from one post to the 188 00:15:13.200 --> 00:15:18.600 other. And how the reason why you're saying that is because the more that 189 00:15:18.639 --> 00:15:24.320 you move from like the more that you try to get out of this uncomfortable 190 00:15:24.360 --> 00:15:28.879 feeling, you're actually creating more heat within your body. So being as still 191 00:15:28.919 --> 00:15:33.399 as possible is really important. But the reason why we don't stay as still 192 00:15:33.399 --> 00:15:37.039 as possible is because it's really uncomfortable. Right, Like when you are done 193 00:15:37.080 --> 00:15:41.600 holding a pose, all you want to do is sit down and like release 194 00:15:41.639 --> 00:15:46.600 everything and drink a bunch of water and like be done, because that takes 195 00:15:46.600 --> 00:15:50.960 you out of this discomfort. But you trying to get out of this discomfort 196 00:15:52.279 --> 00:15:58.360 actually creates more discomfort by in this circumstance or the situation more heat in your 197 00:15:58.360 --> 00:16:02.519 body, and it makes you actually more hot. And then down the line, 198 00:16:02.519 --> 00:16:04.360 like you're just it's gonna feel even harder. And I was even saying 199 00:16:04.480 --> 00:16:10.159 in the vlog, like how you know when you're in a really hot room 200 00:16:10.679 --> 00:16:12.639 and let's say you have like a menu or something, and you're just like 201 00:16:12.720 --> 00:16:18.279 fanning your face because you're so hot. Obviously, sometimes you might need to 202 00:16:18.320 --> 00:16:22.399 do that, but for the majority of the time, you trying to fan 203 00:16:22.480 --> 00:16:29.240 yourself so much, you're actually creating your internal by temperature to stay up, 204 00:16:29.519 --> 00:16:33.639 or if anything, you're making it harder for yourself to cool down because you're 205 00:16:33.879 --> 00:16:37.159 doing so much more movement, and it's actually better for your internal body temperature 206 00:16:37.200 --> 00:16:42.639 to come down by you not fanning yourself. But you struggle with being in 207 00:16:42.720 --> 00:16:49.279 the uncomfortable feeling of being hot. And I feel like sometimes when we are 208 00:16:49.320 --> 00:16:56.360 trying to fix and look at the situation differently and we can't do it, 209 00:16:56.360 --> 00:17:00.559 it's because we're trying to Again, we think that like fanning by looking at 210 00:17:00.559 --> 00:17:03.519 something, like forcing ourselves to look at the situation in a positive light, 211 00:17:03.759 --> 00:17:10.200 we're fanning ourselves. We're doing that and we're hoping for our bodies to calm 212 00:17:10.240 --> 00:17:15.240 down and feel safe. But it's not happening. And so what do you 213 00:17:15.400 --> 00:17:19.559 do when that's not happening. You put the fan down, okay, and 214 00:17:19.960 --> 00:17:25.640 you face the reality of this stillness. And sometimes the reason why you don't 215 00:17:25.640 --> 00:17:29.279 even want to be still is because it's so uncomfortable because you haven't created a 216 00:17:29.319 --> 00:17:33.440 safe space. When you stop looking in the external environment, when you stop 217 00:17:33.519 --> 00:17:38.559 thinking about that person, you feel lonely, you feel afraid, you don't 218 00:17:38.599 --> 00:17:42.000 feel love. But you know why, because you don't have these self love 219 00:17:42.079 --> 00:17:47.359 practices. You're not doing these workouts for yourself. You're not creating this life 220 00:17:47.440 --> 00:17:52.839 where it's full of happiness and love without the need for all this external stuff. 221 00:17:53.079 --> 00:17:56.759 So that's why I'm saying, thank you, Universe. If things are 222 00:17:56.759 --> 00:18:00.000 happening in your life right now, that's basically forcing you to do this because 223 00:18:00.119 --> 00:18:06.119 realistically you should be doing this anyways, Like we need to have this feeling 224 00:18:06.279 --> 00:18:15.240 of love, in peace and safety within ourselves. So when things aren't working, 225 00:18:15.279 --> 00:18:18.960 when the fan is not cooling you down, Babe, put down the 226 00:18:18.960 --> 00:18:22.920 fan. It's not working. Sometimes the fan works. Right to talk about 227 00:18:22.920 --> 00:18:25.960 it all the time in the podcast, sometimes you really have to drive that 228 00:18:26.319 --> 00:18:30.720 mindset home. Things are changing, The universe is moving things from A to 229 00:18:30.759 --> 00:18:33.160 B. Yes, it's happening one hundred percent. That's literally like what's actually 230 00:18:33.160 --> 00:18:37.759 happening. But sometimes that still doesn't cool us down. How do you cool 231 00:18:37.799 --> 00:18:44.559 yourself down? You come back to yourself, You pour into yourself. And 232 00:18:45.079 --> 00:18:48.160 you might think, well, that's another version of trying to cool yourself down, 233 00:18:49.119 --> 00:18:55.039 but it's the right way of anything to cool yourself down. And we 234 00:18:55.039 --> 00:18:57.640 were talking, or we were talking, oh my gosh, my yoga instructor 235 00:18:57.839 --> 00:19:04.039 was talking about how sometimes there is a difference between your comfort zone and your 236 00:19:04.079 --> 00:19:11.559 safety zone, and sometimes we don't want to slow down and be more still 237 00:19:11.680 --> 00:19:17.359 and stop fanning because we think it's unsafe, right, But the truth is 238 00:19:17.559 --> 00:19:22.960 it's not unsafe to put the fan down and to be with this hot, 239 00:19:22.400 --> 00:19:26.480 you know, energy of our bodies. Right now, it's just uncomfortable. 240 00:19:27.000 --> 00:19:32.200 But when you see when you put your fan down and you sit with your 241 00:19:32.279 --> 00:19:36.200 uncomfortable feelings and it's like, oh my god, like I'm not attached to 242 00:19:36.200 --> 00:19:38.359 the external environment right now. It might feel a little bit uncomfortable, but 243 00:19:38.400 --> 00:19:44.279 you know what ends up happening is you self sustain You end up bringing your 244 00:19:44.279 --> 00:19:48.240 core body temperature back to balance and you're like, holy shit, I feel 245 00:19:48.279 --> 00:19:53.119 good now. And the more times you go into circumstances, you're able to 246 00:19:53.160 --> 00:20:00.119 regulate your body temperature even better because you have practiced that. Okay, And 247 00:20:00.119 --> 00:20:03.920 it's the same thing when it comes to relationships or whatever's going on in your 248 00:20:03.960 --> 00:20:07.880 life right now, practice being with yourself, practice with being with the stillness, 249 00:20:07.920 --> 00:20:18.359 and how how the stillness becomes less uncomfortable is creating this environment of love. 250 00:20:18.920 --> 00:20:22.480 Love is going to sustain you and make you feel really, really good. 251 00:20:22.599 --> 00:20:25.440 It's no wonder that you don't want to slow down. It's no wonder 252 00:20:25.559 --> 00:20:27.599 you don't want to be still. You just never learned how to be with 253 00:20:27.680 --> 00:20:32.200 this stillness, right You've never learned how to tell yourself it's going to be 254 00:20:32.200 --> 00:20:36.039 okay, and This is where it comes back to self love practices like affirmations 255 00:20:36.039 --> 00:20:41.599 and pouring into yourself. I'm not afraid to detach from the external environment when 256 00:20:41.640 --> 00:20:44.480 I can't seem to change the way that I view things, because you know 257 00:20:44.519 --> 00:20:48.880 why, I have myself. My higher self is ready to take on this 258 00:20:48.039 --> 00:20:52.440 energy of pouring back into myself. I love you, Alicia. These are 259 00:20:52.480 --> 00:20:55.640 amazing qualities about you. This is what you're going to get in life, 260 00:20:55.759 --> 00:20:57.559 this is what you're working towards. Blah blah blah blah blah blah. But 261 00:20:57.599 --> 00:21:04.119 it's very much so centered around myself, not anything else. So I really 262 00:21:04.160 --> 00:21:10.400 do think that having a practice during the times that you are really struggling can 263 00:21:10.519 --> 00:21:15.279 help you. Also, finding any sort of guided meditations, going to the 264 00:21:15.400 --> 00:21:19.079 gym, all of these things you can do. It's not that you just 265 00:21:19.119 --> 00:21:22.440 have to sit in dead silence, obviously, like you have to kind of 266 00:21:22.480 --> 00:21:29.119 do something. But what you're doing, like the meditations and the workouts and 267 00:21:29.359 --> 00:21:34.279 you being social, all of these things are revolved around you. Okay, 268 00:21:34.759 --> 00:21:40.480 this workout is for you, it's not about you going to workouts. You 269 00:21:40.519 --> 00:21:44.440 can change your body so someone else can like you, this guided meditation, 270 00:21:44.559 --> 00:21:48.160 whatever you choose to watch on YouTube or whatever has nothing to do with you 271 00:21:48.279 --> 00:21:52.200 manifesting this goal or you manifesting this person whatever. It has everything to do 272 00:21:52.279 --> 00:21:56.759 with self love or inner child healing. I do a lot of that as 273 00:21:56.799 --> 00:22:03.720 well, even when it comes to conversations that you're having with your friends, 274 00:22:03.880 --> 00:22:10.240 your family, wherever, at school, even the content that you're consuming. 275 00:22:11.000 --> 00:22:15.319 What is that reflection? Are these conversations in this content? Is it outward 276 00:22:15.359 --> 00:22:19.240 focus? Is it negative? Is it triggering you? Is it reminding of 277 00:22:19.240 --> 00:22:23.279 you of all the things currently right now that are not working out for you 278 00:22:23.440 --> 00:22:26.759 or you just can't seem to change your mind about. If that's the case, 279 00:22:27.240 --> 00:22:33.279 change it, drop it. I want you to drive your attention straight 280 00:22:33.319 --> 00:22:37.559 back into your soul. Okay. So if you have to tell your friends, 281 00:22:37.599 --> 00:22:41.119 I'm not talking about the situation anymore in the most loving, like nice 282 00:22:41.160 --> 00:22:45.680 way, obviously let them know. Stop watching YouTube videos that have anything to 283 00:22:45.720 --> 00:22:49.200 do with anything other than pouring into yourself. And what I mean pouring into 284 00:22:49.240 --> 00:22:53.200 yourself is like whatever makes you feel good, okay, and you obsessing over 285 00:22:53.240 --> 00:22:59.119 a situation or a person or whatever that most likely is actually internally not making 286 00:22:59.119 --> 00:23:02.400 you feel okay. So so tap back into yourself, what makes you actually 287 00:23:02.440 --> 00:23:07.519 feel good? How can you get your mind off of this situation at hand? 288 00:23:07.960 --> 00:23:11.400 And yes, it's focusing on yourself, but maybe it's like even different 289 00:23:11.400 --> 00:23:15.759 hobbies, work related things, like when I want to detach from something, 290 00:23:17.359 --> 00:23:22.000 I'm coming back to what makes me feel happy, which is like different types 291 00:23:22.039 --> 00:23:23.960 of content that I want to create, or things that I want to learn 292 00:23:25.039 --> 00:23:30.039 about, different books or podcasts, like anything. Even when it comes to 293 00:23:30.079 --> 00:23:33.400 social situations like I'm going out and I'm doing hawk Girl walks with my friends, 294 00:23:33.480 --> 00:23:37.160 I'm going to yoga classes. I'm just doing everything that I want to 295 00:23:37.200 --> 00:23:42.240 do, Okay, not from a place of trying to get my mind off 296 00:23:42.279 --> 00:23:45.519 of this situation or this thing. Nothing. What is it that you want 297 00:23:45.559 --> 00:23:48.160 to do? Do as much as you can. I know you obviously can't 298 00:23:48.200 --> 00:23:51.759 just like live and bliss like all the time. I mean you can, 299 00:23:52.119 --> 00:23:55.160 you definitely can't, but I think you know what I mean. Also, 300 00:23:55.319 --> 00:24:02.240 even when it comes to partying or drinking or smoking, if those things make 301 00:24:02.319 --> 00:24:08.160 you feel triggered more anxiety, these things lead you down a path of you 302 00:24:08.240 --> 00:24:12.200 not taking care of yourself. Stop doing them, seriously, stop doing them, 303 00:24:12.279 --> 00:24:18.839 Stop doing things in your current reality right now that is making your connection 304 00:24:19.039 --> 00:24:25.920 to yourself and self love harder, disconnecting yourself. You have to do this 305 00:24:26.240 --> 00:24:30.400 now. I want to say this, even though it's a little bit contradictory, 306 00:24:30.559 --> 00:24:36.319 because this whole episode is about not worrying about the external things that are 307 00:24:36.359 --> 00:24:38.599 currently happening that you just can't change right now and you just can't view in 308 00:24:38.680 --> 00:24:41.960 any different light. But I do kind of want to say this because I 309 00:24:41.960 --> 00:24:48.039 think it might be helpful when you bring your energy back to yourself, which 310 00:24:48.119 --> 00:24:52.839 is what matters working on your self concept. Looking at yourself as somebody who 311 00:24:53.200 --> 00:25:00.240 is highly favorable, loved, beautiful, amazing, unconditionally loved from herself by 312 00:25:00.279 --> 00:25:03.559 herself, all of these things. That's inherently what you really are. You've 313 00:25:03.599 --> 00:25:11.039 just forgotten this. That is a point of attraction that changes things. So 314 00:25:12.240 --> 00:25:17.160 you are currently in your life trying to change a certain circumstance that is maybe 315 00:25:17.200 --> 00:25:19.599 not the most favorable, or you're waiting or you're wondering when things are going 316 00:25:19.640 --> 00:25:26.440 to change. But if we're looking at it in a stance of a law 317 00:25:26.440 --> 00:25:29.799 of attraction standpoint, if that's what you want to look at it like, 318 00:25:30.680 --> 00:25:37.319 that's not even how you attract things. You attract things by not looking outside 319 00:25:37.359 --> 00:25:41.519 of yourself so much like attracts. Like if you are chasing, if you 320 00:25:41.559 --> 00:25:45.200 are anxious, if you are triggered all the time, if you're worried, 321 00:25:45.200 --> 00:25:48.799 how do you think that you are going to bring in the thing that you 322 00:25:48.839 --> 00:25:52.640 actually really want. So I don't want you to go on a self love 323 00:25:52.759 --> 00:25:57.160 journey and focus on yourself so that you can get an end result. But 324 00:25:57.440 --> 00:26:03.000 realistically, that end result is going to come because you are focusing on yourself. 325 00:26:03.000 --> 00:26:07.279 And I think sometimes we really just forget that. We forget that because 326 00:26:07.720 --> 00:26:10.960 we are the creators of our own realities. At least a lot of you 327 00:26:10.960 --> 00:26:14.880 guys who listen to the podcast like we really like we know we can make 328 00:26:14.920 --> 00:26:18.279 things happen depending on how we look at things. Taking action in our lives 329 00:26:18.680 --> 00:26:22.559 doing all these things doesn't mean that we let go of that. But sometimes 330 00:26:22.599 --> 00:26:30.240 we admit too much trying energy, too much masculine energy. I want you 331 00:26:30.319 --> 00:26:36.240 to bring your energy and your focus back on to yourself. This is where 332 00:26:36.279 --> 00:26:40.160 you're going to attract the things that you want. Anyways, you don't want 333 00:26:40.200 --> 00:26:44.799 to be attracting things by force, not even that's not really attracting things, 334 00:26:44.799 --> 00:26:48.440 to be honest, but you don't want to be having things in your life. 335 00:26:48.519 --> 00:26:51.720 I guess based off of force, and sometimes we do that. Sometimes 336 00:26:51.759 --> 00:26:56.960 we do behaviors when if you really look at it, we made that happen. 337 00:26:56.359 --> 00:27:02.039 You know, we orchestra traded that to happen. And and I don't 338 00:27:02.079 --> 00:27:03.440 mean like, oh, we took a line to action, but I just 339 00:27:03.559 --> 00:27:08.480 mean we'd tried. Like there's many things we do in our lives that will 340 00:27:08.480 --> 00:27:14.880 create results, but it's from this kind of manipulative even if you're not trying 341 00:27:14.880 --> 00:27:19.960 to be like that, but you're like you're you're doing it because you think 342 00:27:21.000 --> 00:27:25.319 that if you don't do it, if you don't make it happen, it's 343 00:27:25.319 --> 00:27:30.039 not gonna happen. And I could even give you an example of you might 344 00:27:30.119 --> 00:27:33.720 be going on a date with a guy, which is technically like what you 345 00:27:33.759 --> 00:27:40.319 want, but you were the one that really pushed for that to happen. 346 00:27:40.359 --> 00:27:41.759 And I'm not saying that you can't ask people to like go on date. 347 00:27:41.799 --> 00:27:45.279 You can do whatever you want, like, but I think you guys know 348 00:27:45.319 --> 00:27:51.480 what I mean. Like, there's definitely situations where if you didn't force or 349 00:27:51.519 --> 00:27:55.799 if you didn't post that thing, or if you didn't double triple freaking text 350 00:27:55.960 --> 00:28:00.160 or BEG, that wouldn't be happening, Like date wouldn't be happening, that 351 00:28:00.200 --> 00:28:03.440 relationship wouldn't be happening. And then you just want to think, like, 352 00:28:03.759 --> 00:28:07.480 do you really want to have situations in your life where you are the one 353 00:28:07.200 --> 00:28:15.119 that made it happen from this place of believing that you won't be able to 354 00:28:15.160 --> 00:28:18.960 get this thing unless you people, please, unless you take the action, 355 00:28:18.079 --> 00:28:21.759 unless you do it. Of course, we have to take action in our 356 00:28:21.759 --> 00:28:25.559 lives, but a lot of us women, especially even when it comes to 357 00:28:25.640 --> 00:28:30.599 dating, realistically, we're doing a lot more than we need to base off 358 00:28:30.599 --> 00:28:34.599 of insecurity. Why don't you believe that you're going to get what you want? 359 00:28:34.920 --> 00:28:38.039 Why do you think that you need to be the one to orchestrate this 360 00:28:38.960 --> 00:28:44.559 meeting or this situation in order for you to get what you want. We're 361 00:28:44.559 --> 00:28:47.359 not doing that. And if you want to think about it like this as 362 00:28:47.359 --> 00:28:53.119 well, whatever situations are currently probably happening in your life, most likely in 363 00:28:53.279 --> 00:28:59.440 order for you to have these circumstances turn out in your favor, it's gonna 364 00:28:59.519 --> 00:29:03.480 require you to be the best version of yourself. It's gonna require you to 365 00:29:03.559 --> 00:29:07.480 be loving yourself more, to be more confident, to be more sure of 366 00:29:07.519 --> 00:29:15.200 yourself. I can guarantee you it is so. If things are not exactly 367 00:29:15.240 --> 00:29:18.359 how you want in your life, I want you to look at it like 368 00:29:18.720 --> 00:29:22.640 perfect. This is simply just a sign from the universe, from whatever you 369 00:29:22.720 --> 00:29:27.039 want to believe in that I need to recalibrate. I need to pour into 370 00:29:27.079 --> 00:29:30.400 myself a little bit more. Maybe I was forgetting about my beautiful self, 371 00:29:30.440 --> 00:29:37.119 my inner child, ough, my amazing energy that is so inherently within me. 372 00:29:37.279 --> 00:29:41.480 I forgot. I forgot about myself through this entire process. Amazing. 373 00:29:42.160 --> 00:29:47.720 This is all that. It is. When you're seeing something not working out 374 00:29:47.759 --> 00:29:49.400 in your life right now and you can't change it, and you can even 375 00:29:49.440 --> 00:29:52.920 look at it any sort of differently, and you're triggered all the time, 376 00:29:52.960 --> 00:29:57.640 and you're feeling anxious come back to yourself safe place, and at the end 377 00:29:57.680 --> 00:30:03.240 of the day, a lot of these situations that are triggering you right now 378 00:30:03.000 --> 00:30:07.960 is really just a reflection of how unsafe that you're feeling in your life right 379 00:30:07.000 --> 00:30:11.720 now. And realistically, if you were feeling a lot of that self love, 380 00:30:11.759 --> 00:30:14.960 you were feeling confident, you were feeling. Knowing of who you are 381 00:30:15.000 --> 00:30:17.519 and what you get in your life, you wouldn't be triggered by this thing. 382 00:30:18.160 --> 00:30:19.960 So if you're triggered by this thing right now, it's a reflection of 383 00:30:21.000 --> 00:30:25.480 you. It's not about blaming. Okay, so let's not twist the words. 384 00:30:25.839 --> 00:30:26.640 Not I don't think you guys are gonna twist my words. But I 385 00:30:26.720 --> 00:30:30.640 just want to maybe like a little disclaimer. It's not about blaming. This 386 00:30:30.759 --> 00:30:37.000 is just a process of life, right. It does become less scary when 387 00:30:37.079 --> 00:30:41.599 you realize when things aren't necessarily working out. It's just a call for you 388 00:30:41.640 --> 00:30:45.400 to come back to yourself. Which it's great over here. It should be 389 00:30:45.480 --> 00:30:49.000 amazing over here. And if you guys aren't watching on YouTube, I'm like, 390 00:30:49.000 --> 00:30:52.880 I have my chest on my heart, or my chest on my heart, 391 00:30:52.880 --> 00:30:56.279 my hand on my chest, my heart area, because that's how it 392 00:30:56.319 --> 00:31:00.599 should feel. You should want to come back to you. And realistically, 393 00:31:02.000 --> 00:31:03.960 if we're talking about relationships right now, guess what you want that guy to 394 00:31:04.000 --> 00:31:07.839 do. You want that guy to want you, I know you do. 395 00:31:07.839 --> 00:31:11.519 Don't be lying. You want that person to love you. You want that 396 00:31:11.559 --> 00:31:15.279 person to have their hand on your chest just like that. Well, how 397 00:31:15.319 --> 00:31:18.880 the hell is that going to happen when you don't have your own hand on 398 00:31:18.920 --> 00:31:26.119 your chest. Think about that for a moment. So I want you to 399 00:31:26.160 --> 00:31:30.079 start looking at yourself like worthy of, amazing and beautiful of You're going to 400 00:31:30.079 --> 00:31:37.359 get everything you want, But don't try to focus on the external circumstance and 401 00:31:37.440 --> 00:31:40.160 try and change it. Stop trying to change it, stop trying to even 402 00:31:40.200 --> 00:31:44.000 look at it differently. Look at yourself. You're the only thing that is 403 00:31:44.680 --> 00:31:48.039 important in this situation right now. Okay, So I just want to quickly 404 00:31:48.119 --> 00:31:55.920 read two cards from my oracle deck. Sometimes I will shuffle my deck and 405 00:31:55.920 --> 00:32:00.559 see if anything comes out depending on what topic I'm talking about, and if 406 00:32:00.559 --> 00:32:04.200 it resonates, then I feel like might as well just share it with you 407 00:32:04.240 --> 00:32:08.200 guys. And I originally pulled one card, but I didn't realize that there 408 00:32:08.240 --> 00:32:12.400 was another one that was attached to it, and I thought it was the 409 00:32:12.400 --> 00:32:16.039 most beautiful message that I think we all need to hear. So I'm not 410 00:32:16.039 --> 00:32:20.160 going to read the entire thing because I think I can explain these two cards 411 00:32:20.200 --> 00:32:22.559 like very simply, so the first one that I pulled, and you're only 412 00:32:22.559 --> 00:32:28.039 going to be able to see if you are on YouTube right now. It 413 00:32:28.119 --> 00:32:32.519 is a number two and it says development, and it says here you have 414 00:32:32.640 --> 00:32:37.960 drawn this card today to remind you that your intuition will come to you while 415 00:32:37.039 --> 00:32:46.160 you are peaceful bringing it back to stillness, you create so much space for 416 00:32:46.599 --> 00:32:55.759 wisdom, your intuition, safety when you slow down, when you drop out 417 00:32:55.759 --> 00:33:00.960 of the masculine energy of trying to fix, of anxiousness of how is it 418 00:33:01.000 --> 00:33:06.240 going to happen? Of standing outside and looking at that mountain and looking at 419 00:33:06.279 --> 00:33:07.519 the universe and being like, when are you going to move it from A 420 00:33:07.599 --> 00:33:12.160 to B? And then when the universe does try to move it from A 421 00:33:12.200 --> 00:33:14.319 to B, you're looking at the mess and you're being like, oh my 422 00:33:14.319 --> 00:33:15.799 god, what the heck is this? Da? Da da. When you 423 00:33:16.440 --> 00:33:22.799 move away from that chaos and you come back to yourself, oh my god, 424 00:33:22.880 --> 00:33:25.319 the downloads that you're gonna get, the downloads that you're gonna have. 425 00:33:25.440 --> 00:33:30.759 Okay, these are the downloads, the things, the connection that you need 426 00:33:30.880 --> 00:33:34.319 to up level. The things are not happening in your life right now. 427 00:33:34.799 --> 00:33:39.079 Require you to come back to yourself, find those downloads, come to that 428 00:33:39.200 --> 00:33:45.279 inspiration, that self love, Whatever comes out from this period of your life 429 00:33:45.559 --> 00:33:47.799 in order for you to get what you want in your life, because you 430 00:33:47.880 --> 00:33:52.319 need to become that person. You need to step in that identity. The 431 00:33:52.400 --> 00:33:55.000 version of you that has somebody commit to you, prioritize you, show up 432 00:33:55.000 --> 00:33:59.920 for you, money coming to you, job opportunities, is the version of 433 00:34:00.119 --> 00:34:05.400 you that loves themselves, that looks at themselves as yes, I am worthy 434 00:34:05.519 --> 00:34:07.639 of these things. A lot of times, when you don't get all this 435 00:34:07.800 --> 00:34:10.400 shit that you don't want right now, it's because you're not standing in that. 436 00:34:10.719 --> 00:34:14.639 You're too focused on trying to get these things, which is a normal 437 00:34:14.639 --> 00:34:19.079 thing. We all want amazing things, but unfortunately we operate from so much 438 00:34:19.119 --> 00:34:22.519 past programming, and deep down we actually don't feel worthier, We don't feel 439 00:34:22.519 --> 00:34:25.079 like we love ourselves. And this that so pour into you. If you 440 00:34:25.199 --> 00:34:28.760 want things in your life. This is not about trying to get anything. 441 00:34:28.800 --> 00:34:30.960 But if you were to say, if you want things in your life, 442 00:34:30.000 --> 00:34:34.960 like I said, come back to yourself. So that was the first card, 443 00:34:35.280 --> 00:34:43.000 and then the second card was twenty six and it says from beyond it 444 00:34:43.039 --> 00:34:46.039 looks like this on YouTube if you are watching, if you're on audio and 445 00:34:46.079 --> 00:34:51.000 you're new here, I do have the podcast on audio, which will be 446 00:34:51.159 --> 00:34:53.360 always linked in the description. You can just type in my podcast on YouTube 447 00:34:53.360 --> 00:34:58.280 as well the Globe SEKST podcast. This card, like I said, says 448 00:34:58.280 --> 00:35:01.440 from beyond you have drawn in this card today to reassure you that your loved 449 00:35:01.440 --> 00:35:07.679 ones will always remember you and will reach out to you when their journey permits. 450 00:35:08.519 --> 00:35:14.280 And I just think that a lot of us probably need to hear that 451 00:35:14.639 --> 00:35:17.519 because I think a lot of you guys are going through different type of relational 452 00:35:17.519 --> 00:35:23.079 things, because realistically everything's relational, but maybe it's even like job opportunities or 453 00:35:23.079 --> 00:35:27.400 like money or whatever. You know, you could swap out the loved ones 454 00:35:27.480 --> 00:35:35.880 for anything external from you. Understand that they will come back, things will 455 00:35:35.960 --> 00:35:40.480 change, But you know what these things are going to come back too and 456 00:35:40.559 --> 00:35:45.760 really be able to prosper with is somebody who is standing in their worth, 457 00:35:46.280 --> 00:35:52.800 who is standing in a form of love of I deserve this, I want 458 00:35:52.800 --> 00:35:58.760 this. I decide what gets to happen in my life type of energy. 459 00:35:59.480 --> 00:36:02.039 And when you have practices and you nourish yourself and you come back to yourself 460 00:36:02.039 --> 00:36:07.440 and you let go of everything outside of here, that's what you will become. 461 00:36:07.039 --> 00:36:12.440 You cannot become somebody who looks at themselves like I am the best. 462 00:36:12.840 --> 00:36:16.960 I get this type of treatment. I really love myself. You know I'm 463 00:36:17.000 --> 00:36:20.440 gonna get X, Y and Z. If you don't have these practices, 464 00:36:21.320 --> 00:36:25.320 you don't just well, actually you do come out of the womb all knowing 465 00:36:25.559 --> 00:36:30.800 and a form of complete love. But unfortunately, when you go through life, 466 00:36:30.960 --> 00:36:34.880 people, places and things tear you down and you're still operating from a 467 00:36:34.880 --> 00:36:38.199 lot of those beliefs. And this is the journey of life. This is 468 00:36:38.239 --> 00:36:42.960 what happens. This is what we're doing on the podcast every week is working 469 00:36:43.039 --> 00:36:45.800 through our mindset shifts and not all the craps that might be coming up and 470 00:36:45.800 --> 00:36:49.440 this, that and the third. So continue to focus on you. That's 471 00:36:49.480 --> 00:36:52.199 what I really want this episode just to be is come back to yourself. 472 00:36:52.480 --> 00:36:55.039 You're running away from yourself. You don't need to run away from yourself. 473 00:36:55.320 --> 00:36:59.480 Although it might be uncomfortable, like when you drop down that fan and you're 474 00:36:59.559 --> 00:37:00.400 like, okay, I get it. This fan is not going to help 475 00:37:00.440 --> 00:37:06.280 me anymore. Understand your core body temperature will come back to balance, you 476 00:37:06.280 --> 00:37:10.239 will start to feel so good. And what comes out of this period of 477 00:37:10.280 --> 00:37:15.239 your life, this recognition of you knowing you need to love yourself a little 478 00:37:15.280 --> 00:37:21.599 more and pour into yourself a little bit more. All the downloads, all 479 00:37:21.679 --> 00:37:25.199 the steps, all the intuitions, all the everything that you need will come 480 00:37:25.239 --> 00:37:29.719 out of this, and you will know where to go and when to go, 481 00:37:29.840 --> 00:37:31.719 and how to look, and who will come in your life, all 482 00:37:31.800 --> 00:37:35.400 that kind of stuff. You will attract everything you need. You don't have 483 00:37:35.480 --> 00:37:42.400 to do anything but focus on yourself. Don't be afraid of your quote unquote 484 00:37:42.440 --> 00:37:49.320 safe space. Create it for yourself and strengthen that, and you stay in 485 00:37:49.320 --> 00:37:52.360 that as well when things start to come back into your life. This is 486 00:37:52.360 --> 00:37:55.760 the problem that a lot of us have as well, is when we get 487 00:37:55.800 --> 00:38:01.400 external things that feel good, we tend to abandon our safe places. We 488 00:38:02.559 --> 00:38:07.639 don't pour into ourselves. So don't forget about yourself. You really are the 489 00:38:07.679 --> 00:38:10.039 most important thing. And this is not a narcissist thing. It's not a 490 00:38:10.480 --> 00:38:15.519 you know you putting people down. It's not about that. Okay, Create 491 00:38:15.559 --> 00:38:19.960 a life that you're happy with and that starts with you in the mornings. 492 00:38:20.119 --> 00:38:22.800 Do a practice that makes you feel good, that makes you inspired with your 493 00:38:22.800 --> 00:38:28.320 life. Focus on your goals. I'm not saying you can't focus on external 494 00:38:28.360 --> 00:38:32.679 things, but focus on what makes you feel the best. Romanticize your life, 495 00:38:34.280 --> 00:38:37.360 move your body, connect with your friends, and go to therapy if 496 00:38:37.400 --> 00:38:40.119 you need to listen to podcast episodes that make you feel inspired about life. 497 00:38:40.480 --> 00:38:49.000 Stop relishing in negativity and stop relishing in trying to fix things. Things will 498 00:38:49.079 --> 00:38:52.239 change once you let go of it, and it's not about letting go of 499 00:38:52.280 --> 00:38:57.440 it in the sense of letting go and letting yourself be defeated. It's not 500 00:38:57.519 --> 00:39:01.880 that. So I hope you guys enjoy today's episode. I can't wait to 501 00:39:01.920 --> 00:39:06.760 film the next few episodes, but definitely let me know what you want me 502 00:39:06.840 --> 00:39:10.199 to talk about next in regards to this topic, if you have anything else 503 00:39:10.239 --> 00:39:15.039 that you want me to expand on, and yeah, that'll be it. 504 00:39:15.079 --> 00:39:17.440 I hope you guys have an amazing day and I'll see you the next one. Bye.