Hey, hey, hey, I'm back with something for you to think about.
Are you really celibate? Now, before you answer that question to yourself,
remember Jesus is watching, remember nose and sees it all. So again,
aren't you really celibate? I'm not saying abstinence. Are you celibate?
Are you really celibate? See a lot of people think, because oh,
I haven't had sex and three weeks, they're celibate. No, you're just
refraining from it. You're reframing from sex. That's abstinence, and that's different
from being celibate. You may be reframing for sex longer than three weeks,
a month, six months, or whatever. Making a vow to celibacy and
abstinence is two different things. People choose either or for whatever reasons. But
I'm talking biblical stuff because the Bible says that we don't supposed to commit fornication
or adultery. A lot of people think that married people cannot commit fornication,
but they can. Fornication is for a married person anyone who is having sex
outside of their marriage with someone other than who they are married to. Adultery
is having sex with another married person who is not your spouse. So fornication
when you're married, that other person is not your spouse and it's not married.
But if they're married, it's adultery. So married people can't commit fornication.
I know it's like boo boo boo boo boo boo, whoo whoo,
whoo whoo. That's what I'm speaking to many of you right now. You
went death ears on me. You totally tuned me out when I started talking
about celibacy. And I've done an episode on celibacy before, but I want
you to stop kidding yourself. Are you really truly celibate? If you're really
celibate, that means no contact whatsoever, not with someone else, not with
yourself, nothing, zilch, none, not a And you're that way for
real, for real. See a lot of people say, oh, I'm
celibate, but put the pressure on them and boom they give it up.
But when you know that, you know that, you know where your faithalize,
where your help come from, what side you're on. When you know
that, you know that, you know you're trying to do the works of
the Lord. You're trying to be pleasing in his sight, and you're doing
the things that you know you should do. Celibacy comes much easier, and
you will not let no one, no one, no one shake you or
break you down. I'm a living witness, a living witness. You can
do it if you put your mind to it and your heart is in it.
A lot of people say, oh, I'm celibate, and all you
gotta do, all you have to do is look at them long enough,
and they ready to go. Just look at them long enough, say sweet
things that they want to hear, do sweet things that they like. Ain't
ready to drop celibacy in the trash can somewhere, throw it completely to the
wayside. They're not true, they're not true to it. They're just waiting
for the right opportunity. That's all they're doing. Waiting for the right opportunity.
That's it. That's not true celibacy. Celibacy, you have to have
it in your heart and your soul. You gotta really really be in it,
and you have to know that your walk with the Lord is real.
You know better than anyone else other than the Lord. You know, you
know when you're shucking in job and playing in faith, and you know,
you know, you know. But the thing is, some of you have
shucking, jibed and lied and all of that. For so long you believe
yourself, you think what you're doing is right, when it's far from it.
You cannot uphold and be a true celibate person when you're double minded,
when you're wishy washy, you know, wherever the wind blows, that's where
you go. Whatever sound good, that's where you go. That's not the
hearted mind of a true celibate person. And I'm telling you as a witness
myself, when you are really celibate, the longer you're celibate, it don't
bother you anymore. You may still get the urges, but it don't bother
you. It don't. You get to a place where it's just hey,
this is my walk, this is my testimony. But the problem with the
ways of the world and people in the world is who make up the ways
of the world. By the way is their minds and their hearts are so
focused on the flesh, so focused on the flesh. That's why we have
all of this travesty going on, sex trafficking kids, pawing rings, these
people getting caught up trying to meet children, thinking their meeting children, knowing
their meeting children, and they still go and do it and get popped by
the police. I mean, and guess what some of our police, some
of our teachers, preachers, judges, I mean, some of them are
big wigs. The world is full of people who are sex praised because they're
so about the flesh. They're seeking that self gratification. They're making all types
of excuses, they're making all kinds of bad choices and decisions, they're doing
all types of things. A lot of the things they do, they don't
even want to do them, but to satisfy the flesh, they will.
You will never be a true celibate with that mindset. You'll never be a
true celibate if you're chasing after the flesh, because one thing about chasing the
flesh is you always going to be seeking something. Because of that bottomless pitch.
Lust is a bottomless pitch. You're never satisfied. That's why some people
have the most beautiful relationships and the beautiful individuals that they're with, But because
of that bottomless pit called lust, and they're trying to satisfy the flesh,
no one is ever enough, no one is good enough. Nothing they do
because they're seeking that self gratification. They have that void inside of them,
so they can never ever phantom the thought of celibacy. It's ludicrous to them.
It's just so the far fetched that they can't comprehend being celibate on any
level. But that's because you don't have what it takes. You're not on
that level spiritually. Yet a lot of people profess it from their lips.
Oh I'm celibate, been celibate a whole two minutes. And like I said,
a lot of people say they're celibate, but they're not. You're using
toys, you're doing this, you're doing that, you're fundling, or you're
allowing someone to fundle you. I mean, you have to be completely and
totally celibate. You have to be. So many people claim it, but
it's a lie. People just cannot imagine going years without sex. They think
it would kill them. It won't kill you, booboo. It will not
kill you, I promise you. It makes you stronger. Oh my goodness,
it may make you stronger. And that peace that the Lord promised that
surpasses all understanding, Oh my goodness, people will not they will not understand
you at all, because you have that peace that surpasses all understanding. They
think you're local. And not only that, they really think you're a liar.
When you said you're a celibrate and when you tell them how many years
you've been celibrate, they think you're a liar. But you don't have to
worry about that. You don't have to worry about it as long as you
know, because you can't fool God. You're not fooling God at no time.
So as long as you know, they don't have to believe that you're
celibrate. Long as you know, and the good Lord, No, that's
all that matters. Celibacy is a beautiful, beautyful journey, beautiful, and
I promise if you get on that journey of celibacy, it changes you in
so many ways. Those things you thought were important, you understand that you're
not important. You'll understand that sex is not all of that. It is
not. It really isn't. Don't get me wrong. It's a beautiful thing
when it's with the right person and you're doing it for the right reason,
you're doing it the way it's supposed to be done under marriage. Let me
tell you, it's a beautiful, beautiful, beautiful thing. It truly is.
But it's not everything. It is not I'm just being honest with you.
And I know a lot of you don't understand that. You cannot get
with that, you don't want to even think about it. But I'm telling
you it is. It changes you, It really does. It open your
eyes to things you never thought that you could endure. I know I never
thought I could endure it. But it makes you stronger and your faith.
You keep striving every day to be pleasing in the eyesight of God. You
don't waivers for no one. You just keep pushing forward the way the Lord
wants you to push forward, not man, not man, And on your
journey of celibacy, you become stronger and stronger and stronger, so strong you
can't believe it yourself. You couldnt believe that you've gone for as long as
you've gone. But that's the strength and the comfort that our Father gives us
when he know we're striving and we're doing what he say do and we're not
letting anyone shake us or make us fall. Oh, man, he gives
you double dose, double dose of faith and strength and power. Oh it's
a beautiful thing. It truly is a beautiful thing, Like I said,
people in this world are sex crazed. They don't care that they can get
diseases, some that they can't get rid of. They don't care that you
can potentially get in a relationship with someone because of sex and you end up
losing your life. I mean, so many things can happen. People don't
care. They want sex. People are bringing three and four people into their
relationships, into their marriages because people in the world are sex crazed. It's
like this weed. People are weed heads. They have gone crazy over weeds.
It's the same way with sex. People are sex crazy. They think
to them, it's everything. Oh, I got to have it. I
know that's what you think in your mind. That's what you think in your
mind because that's the way you've always been, that's what's been most important to
you. To me, that's an immature way of thinking to think sex is
everything, because it's not. And I'm guilty. I won't sit here and
act as if I'm not guilty. I'm guilty. Been there. I thought
it was too. Oh, you couldn't tell me that I could ever be
celibate, never ever, ever, ever, ever, no way me,
No one could ever told me that I could be celibate no one, because
I know what I used to like. But thank God for change, Thank
God for conviction. I don't know about you. I'm talking about me because
I know who I was, the type of person I was, what I
thought was important. I know a whole lot of people don't know, but
I know, and I'm saying for me, thank God for change, Thank
You Jesus for salvation. Sometimes I fall on my face and I weep like
a baby, because, oh my goodness, if it wasn't y'all, I'm
not playing. If it wasn't not for the Lord in my life, I
don't know where I'll be. I don't know so many times he's saved my
life from death. I could tell you some things that you would not believe
that he saved me from. And I just I can't turn back from no
one or nothing. And I'm talking about me. I'm not saying anyone has
to be like me, because this your journey. You have to live the
way you want to live. It's up to you. But I'm saying that
for me being saved, and you know, sanctify I filled with the Holy
Spirit. It's everything. It's everything, And I know a lot of people
don't understand it, won't understand it, don't care to understand it. In
all of it is fine. But all I'm telling you or saying to you,
is stop fooling yourself, because my father in heaven sees it all,
knows it all. It don't benefit anyone to lie, fake and pretend it
don't. Not one single soul does it benefit, because first of all,
there are no secrets what you think you're doing in the dark. Sooner or
later, it's gonna come to the light, whether you alive or dead,
it's gonna come to the light sooner or later, on this side or the
other side, it's gonna be revealed. Whatever you choose is definitely your choice.
But are you really celibate? To those people who claim in celibacy,
how are you really celibate? I was talking to a guy yesterday, good
friend of mine, been friends for years, and he's just so funny.
We laugh on the phone. He cracks me up, and I wish that
he would do an episode with me because he's a funny man. But he
told me, he said, he is one of the people, one of
the people, the male, the male species. He is one who told
me he said, he has come across countless amount of women who have told
him that they're celibate. In five minutes he was undressing them. He say,
many in his life just talk it, talk it, talk it,
and all you have to do is say word sweet enough, and they were
giving it up. But when he met me, he was like, never
met anyone like you. You gotta be true to yourself, and most of
all, if you say you love the Lord, you gotta be true to
God, the Father. You gotta be true. He gave his only begotten
son for us, who died on the cross, went through pure hell on
earth, and people are right back in the same days of Noah, Sodom
and Gomore. Just so much going on, so much. You know,
I really want to talk about this because, like I said, I had
that conversation with him yesterday and it just made me start to think and laugh
because he's so funny. He tells you just like it is. And I
know he's telling me the truth because he's not the first guy who said that.
And I am so sure there are men who call themselves celibate or who
are the same way. Yes, there are some men who are celibate for
real. You know you cannot put all men in the same basket, nor
all females in the same basket. We're not the same. We may be
of the same species, but we're not the same. So after talking with
him, I really wanted to talk about it again. And I want you
to think to yourself, are you really celibate? Is the Lord please?
With what he sees you do? Is the Lord please? But what he
sees you do on your journey of celibacy. If you know the Lord sees,
hears and knows all, and you really believe that he sees what you
do, he knows and he hears what you do. If you really believe
that, but you know you're not living what you profess. That's not on
me, that's not on anyone. That's between you and the Father. The
only thing I'm gonna say to you is get yourself together before it's too late,
because once we check out of this body, uh, there's no do
overs on earth. This is all we got. This is the only chance
we have before we make that decision how we're going to live eternally, because
we're one day we're gonna leave this natural body and where we reside after that
is what we choose right now while we live. Some people so worried about
I'm never gonna find a husband. I'm never gonna find a wife. If
it's meant to be, they'll make their way in your life to your life.
Women don't supposed to be looking for husband's any way. Husband's supposed to
find a wife. Some of you not even husband or wife material. You're
not even ready to settle down. That's the problem with so many people.
They are in relationship still doing what they want to do. That's not a
relationship. That's not healthy, that's not right. But it's what's going on
in many relationships. So you have to wonder is it worth it? Well?
I think it is, But you just have to know that you know
that you're with who God has for you. Some of you don't sit back
to listen or to wait. You're just jumping in, jumping in, jumping
in, jumping in, jumping in. You know that's not a God.
And if he didn't make the way open the door, it's not of God.
More relationships are not of God than those that are way more because people
are choosing their own spouses, then you want to call on the Lord.
No, you did that backwards. So a lot of people get into relationships
that are celibate, but they're significant others. They're trying to cohert them,
influence them, all kinds of things to pull them out of celibacy. You
don't need anyone like that. If they don't love you enough to wait,
they're not who you should be with. That's just how I feel. Now.
You don't have to think like me. I'm telling you how I feel.
If they can't wait, it's not the person you should be with.
If they're trying to force you, coherce you, influence you, persuade you,
or whatever. When they know you're trying to do the right thing,
that's not the person for you. I don't care how much you want them,
it's not the person for you. So I'm asking one last time,
are you really celibate? Do you want to begin a journey of celibacy?
If anyone who listened that has been thinking about it, hit me up,
email me, ask me questions. We can talk about it. Go to
my podcast page think on It by Cherry. It'll tell you exactly how to
contact me. My email is there, and I'll tell you I don't normally
put it out there but I'll tell you My email is Cherry like the Fruit
Cherry Girl zero six one five at gmail dot com, so you can.
You can reach out to me at any time. I think I told you
on it's Miss m Z Cherry Girl zero six one five at gmail dot com.
Miss m a Z Cherry Girl zero six one five at gmail dot com.
Hit me up anytime. It don't have to even be just on the
topic of celibacy. It could be about anything. Hit me up. I
will always respond. So that's all I'm saying on this because I want you
to understand that it's no joke. It's no joke, and time for playing
is out. You can play, but God is not playing with no one,
none of us. If you say you're celibate, then I hope you
are. If you don't want to be celibate, that's your choice too.
But just don't fool yourself because you know you're fooling yourself, because you know
you better than anyone outside of God. You know you know what you're doing
behind closed doors. If you can't live openly and behind closed door the same
in vain. In vain. That's why I tell you all, I'm probably
the plainest person for real, just plain. I mean, people tell me
I look nice and all of this and that all of the time, I
dress well, I have nice things, but all my goodness, I'm just
as plain as plain could be. I'm not high maintenance. I don't care
about all of that stuff. But I still look just as good as a
high maintenance person because I take care of myself. You have to live your
life. If you are a child of God and you really love the Lord
and you're living for the Lord, that's who you have to worry about pleasing,
not man. So you could tell man, which I'm referring to men
or woman. You could tell them, oh, I'm celibate all day.
If they're not on the same accord as you, oh, they're gonna try
to talk you right on out of your celibacy. And if you let them,
that falls on you. Were you really, were you thought you was
or who you thought you was, obviously not if you let someone come alone
and talk you out of your celibacy. So if so, if you have
struggles or any of that, please reach out to me. I would love
to hear from you. And I'm leaving it right there. Thank you so
much for listening. Stop fooling yourself. It don't benefit you, it does
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