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out there. And I believe the new term is master therapist. Yes,
two master therapist. So this is July twenty twenty three. Hope you had
a great Fourth of July weekend or a week doctor Asia. I know I
did. I survived it. It was hot, Yeah, it was hot,
but I was determined to have a fun time for the holiday, so
I survived it. So July is also national BIPOC Mental Health Awareness month,
and that's a new term that I learned about a new year ago, Black
and Indigenous people of color, which is replacing minority here. And I just
want to shout out to all the clinicians out there who helped black folks and
brown people and other groups to overcome any challenges out there, and this month
we're gonna try to highlight some of those issues in the black community. Yeah,
I've seen a lot of presentations. I know. Essence Fest was in
July well, I guess fourth of July weekend as well, and they had
a whole mental health section. I saw quite a few people we know Harrison
who were there speaking, which I was really excited about because they're actually talking
to therapists and not people who feel like they can coach. So I'm when
I see an LPC, I'm like, Okay, now they actually want to
make a difference. They don't want to just have people they're talking. So
I was excited about that. At FIST. I'm excited too that they got
some license folks. You know, I've encountered a few people who informed me
that they are life coaches, and I just asked them about their credentials,
you know, me and and found out they took a weekend course. Oh,
and I just want to lead that right there. Well, I want
to take the weekend of course too. Maybe I can call myself a life
coach too. Maybe it's marketable. Yeah, I'm gonna tell my thirteen year
daughter to call herself too. They can take it together and they can start
them so absolutely, I'd like to start them off early. So today we're
gonna talk about relationship issues. That's a hot topic and recent incidents that took
place that's really hot on the internet these days, and I saw a few
shows about it. You might have to help me out with a few things.
As I tried, I'm not helping anymore. And I don't even try
to hide it. Um. But it's about Kiki Palmer and she went to
their Ersha concert and Las Vegas. That's ussher. And let me play a
clip to give you guys an idea of what actually happened. Give me one
second, and then we're gonna talk about relationships and roles and expectations. Add
that to this great there we go, Let be hit play. Can you
hear it? Yes? Keky Palmer's partner Darius Jackson shames her for wearing a
see through outfit to an Usher concert. Oh my gosh, come on,
let's talk about it. Kki hit up Usher's Las Vegas residency show on the
fourth of July, rocking a sheer black dress over a matching song bodysuit for
the occasion. It was such a great experience for me. Yeah, but
Darius didn't seem to be a fan of the sexy fit, retweeting a viral
video of the singer serenading Kiki in the audience to his track there Goes My
Baby and writing, it's the outfit though you a mom, of course.
Kiki and Darius welcome their first child together, a son named Leotis, in
February. What has been your favorite part so far of motherhood? You know,
I think it's our mornings. That's our mornings are a long time together,
you know what I'm saying. He's left me smiling and he's a little
sleepy, so I don't have to hit him cries. You know, It's
just a little bit of everything. As for that tweet, Darius doubled down
in a separate post, writing, we live in a generation where a man
of the family doesn't want the wife and mother to his kids to showcase booty
cheeks to please others, and he gets told how much of a hater he
is. This is my family and my representation. I have standards and morals
to what I believe. Kiki has not publicly addressed Darius's comments, but as
of Thursday, they're not following each other on Instagram. Meanwhile, the Nope
actress is proud of her fit, sharing a closer look at her see through
number and writing that she wished she had taken more picks, but they were
running late already. Kiki also praised Usher's performance, calling it so fabulous and
while Darius and Kiki might not be seeing ida eye now, back in April,
she told ET she loves watching her man become a dad. It's just
so attentive. I guess that's what you want all fathers to be, but
it's even more than I expected it. Um. I just really am grateful
to have such an amazing partner to do this with. But I think that
is obviously why. All right, So that was a lot in that little
segment. Yeah, I don't really know Kiki Palmer. I think I remember
her in a movie years ago, Leela and the Bee, about a little
girl in a spelling bee like her her first really famous role. But she's
been in a lot since then, you know, like we kind of I
say, we've watched her grow up. But she's about my age, so
we grew up together. Like you though it's like my cousin. You know
that that I don't know about him, she don't know about me. But
an brown scared black girls of a certain age and hearing her talk, I
feel connected to her, like we have a lot of similarities. A lot
of sisters are connecting with her. I like I mentioned, I don't know
her. I just haven't kept up with her. I know she's an actress
and she was on a talk show, she was a home She can sing
and she can dance like she can do it all. And let me tell
you, her body looks nice. I'm I have to give her props.
I didn't know she recently had a baby, you know, but but she
looks nice. But there's an issue, and I want to get your thoughts
about this. First heard and her on the segment and said her partner,
Darius, I think his name has deleted his um Instagram or Twitter account where
he made the comments. I know it's back, it's back, Okay,
no more than I do. Yeah, I keep up with it because you
know, like to be in the mix. So what's what's your take on
that? Because people were attacking him and now people are some individuals are coming
to his rescue. I think that for me, it has nothing to do
with either of them being celebrities. For me, if you're in a relationship
and you have an issue with something your partner, does you address it directly
with your partner. I don't know if that was his first time seeing the
outfit, but I mean, if it was, if it was, say
send her a message, Hey, what's going on with this outfit? The
biggest issue for me is the public not shaming because I'm not I want well,
it might be shaming, but it's the public discussion of it, like
it's social media. Keep your business off social media. Yeah, so I
hear. I hear what you're saying that if yeah, I'm with you on
that. But this is a new generation talked about this before. Everybody.
They put things on social media and they reveal a lot, and so he
did. Um somebody said wow, yeah, he put it out there in
the public, and I think that has become the norm, he scolded her.
Right, but you're saying I'm with you, then perhaps that should have
been um um, a private conversation between them two. With that, however,
when don't you think about the comments he made, well, he doubled
down with to me using the wrong terms his family. Okay, I get
the baby, and you may consider Keyy your family too, But the truth
is that she's not your wife, and I'm she ain't your wife. She
is your partner, and that's the term. It's one of the reasons that
a lot of people won't get legally attached to somebody because what comes with that.
At this point, if you don't like what she wore and she didn't
like your comments, y'all could just walk away from each other. You don't
have to discuss anything. You can go ahead and put it on social media
all you want to, because you have nothing to lose and she has nothing
to lose, and they are in the relationship. I understand it. I
used to turn partner and he was. He was obviously offended by her actions.
I'm gonna put it that way, but he said it. He came
at her like, how dare my wife be out there showing her booty cheeks.
She ain't your wife, she is she is your baby mama. That
so you see it. Because he didn't put a ring on it, He
doesn't have a say soul said, if you like it, then you should
have put a ring on it. But y'all don't said it. Now they
had a baby together. You know, I hear what you're saying. So
you say that he has no authority over how she dresses or how she acts
in public, all the way. They have a baby together and they're in
a partnership because he had he didn't put a ring on he's not married to
her. No man owns a woman. But you sure don't have You sure
lose a lot of steak without some type of commitment. Unfortunately, a child
is not a commitment to a woman. It's a commitment to the child.
You have a new commitment, but it's not a commitment to that woman.
Acknowledge that he was a great father, Yeah yeah, I saw that part.
And she said it's been a joy watching him grow as a father and
she's happy that she has someone to do this parenting thing with. Period.
She says she he's a great parent. She didn't say he was a wonderful
partner that you know she loves something. Well she did tweet because I looked
at her tweets too. All I have to say is I love my man.
Okay, Okay, So see I I did a little research on it
before I heard through the internet great that they were actually still together and in
a committed relationship. So you know, we agreed on that first part.
Perhaps you should have had a private conversation with it. Well, and then
they both unfollowed each other on social media, and I'm not sure exactly what
that fixes when I mean period, and not just for celebrities, but there
are a lot of couples who are like, well, I'm not gonna let
you follow me, and I'm not going to follow you, and we can
stay out of each other's business like that. That's not how that works.
People look going to screenshot it, and they're going to send you pictures.
Other people are going to talk about it. You're gonna know everything that they
do on social media. You just don't know as quickly as you would have
otherwise, even if they block you. So the key is not to stop
following each other. The key is to stop putting your business on social media.
The key for him would be to grow up because that was so immature.
Oh okay, so here's where we virgent paths, you know with that.
But I do encourage people to handle those disputes with your partner privately instead
of involving the rest of the world. I think that might be great.
However, the question that I have, it sounds like brother Man is he
black? I don't know. I believe he is. I think it's vibration.
Okay, so brother manum he felt a little bit disrespected, and the
question and I was thinking about, you know, she went on stage,
had a great time wearing his outfit. Did they not check with each other
about what she was gonna wear or behavior whatever? In rules established about what
you're gonna do when you go out without me? And how did she honor
him as her partner by revealing so much? You know, I'm part of
a different generation, I think, you know. But do you have to
show your ass cheeks? No? And I'm just not used to see in
her dress like that. It actually looks like she was going to the beach.
She put on a mesh looking cover up. I'm gonna go to a
concert instead. Look great. You know what your bikini and your mesh cover
up. I know it was cute. I mean, it couldn't be me.
I mean maybe if it had a little more coverage in the back.
I think it was the throng that set it off. Maybe if it had
just been really more just, you know, at least covered half a beach
cheek, he might have had such a big problem with it. But she
honored her relationship. That's the thing. That's the question I'm asking. We
don't know what boundaries they have set, and this may be one of those
times when it's when they need to sit down. And it feels like we're
talking about boundaries a lot lately every time, but it may be time for
them to sit down and establish what their boundaries are with each other. I
agree, because something was obviously cross, he was surprised. Perhaps he didn't
respond in the most mature way. Perhaps he could have shared that information with
her privately. You know. However, he let her know how he felt
instead of holding an in or lashing out at her when when they're having a
conversation or something. However, I'm gonna have to, uh, you know,
I guess I can understand the brother a little bit more. Yeah,
tell me what an't your thoughts? Yeah, from a male perspective, because
I've heard a few, well I've seen rather a female perspectives. What do
you think? So I I you know, if they're in a committed relationship,
you know, perhaps they could have had these conversations, like you said,
right up front, but something wasn't communicated. So I don't know the
quality of that relationship. He wasn't aware of what she was wearing, you
know, even when you I know people who've gone to the Usher concert and
they're married, and they already have some established rules about behavior and they're not
going to embarrass their spouse. However, they are married, right, there
are two rings one on his finger and her fingers two on hers. That's
right, that's right. But but um, yeah, they didn't do anything
to dishonor their relationship or embarrass their spouse. They had a great time.
I don't think key Key and Darius had that conversation and where their relationship stands,
you know, and how they're going to protect each other. And like
you said, you know they're not married, I don't know if it's really
a relationship, to be honest with you. Well, and so there are
other things that are going through my mind, like not just had have you
seen the dress? But do you ever let your woman know what you think
she looks nice in what you would like to see her in. The best
way to do that is to purchase the dress for her? And who we
were just talking about this this weekend because I love the pictures and what she
had on for her birthday. And I told her, I've got to come
shop in your closet and she said, well, I have a personal shopper,
and she tagged her husband. He knows what he likes to see her
in, where he wouldn't want to see her in, and just in case
she's confused, he buys the dresses for And then it's like, look,
I love you, I think you look great in this, so I bought
it for you. It's the best way. I like that policy. I
like that policy, you know, or even going together making it a fun
little date, you know, ideally going out together, but even if you
aren't, here's what I'm gonna do to help you to ensure you know that
you're representing us, you know, in an appropriate way. I think that's
a great idea. I think there are already some red flags in that relationship
with Darius and Keyking one. I think that when you and what people are
calling publicly shamed someone, it is if not one hundred percent, is verging
on abuse. It's just like snatching her up in the club when she's talking
to somebody. I think, so, yeah, it was hard to me.
You are virtually snatching her up. Don't you talk to that man?
Or don't you what you got on? And you're dragging her out the club?
I got you, okay to me when I read that, Whereas I
saw him expressing his disappointment and how he supposedly has a brother that he's very
close to express it to your brother, okay. Well, yeah, well
he let her know he was disappointed with the outfit, and um, he
mentioned morals and statements about today's I guess hip hop young people, you know,
and uh, he was attacked for expressing his morals and things like that.
I was surprised by the reaction. And he actually sort of asked what
is wrong with the man in the head the household m letting his woman know,
you know that he how she should dress and she shouldn't show her her
ass cheeks in public. You know, he was expressing his morals. I'm
just was hoping he had that discussion before the Usher concert. Well that's the
thing, like this the first time y'all talked about morals and expectations. And
also like she didn't make out with Usher. They rocked back and forth.
That she sang some of the songs. Yeah, but he pointed up.
But when she turned around she showed that ass. She did, but she
wasn't there. I mean not to diminish, are dismissed his feelings, but
she could have had him something much worse, Like did you watch the beet
Awards? I avoided that. She was very classy, I went compared to
a lot of what. Okay, so she was tamed, the outfit was
tamed. Here we go. I like that Hey pulled inside. It was
a whole one piece and then you know the sea through part over it.
Yeah, the beach cover up. Yeah. The other question that popped up
before we move on to talk about relationships and how to avoid situations like this,
Um is it he called her out because she's a mom? And um,
is it okay for a mom to go out with that type of outfit
in public? Who has a man at home? Um? And and do
things like that. That's that's the other question. I don't know how to
answer that. I just want to hear what are your thoughts about it?
I don't I don't know. Yes, she is a mom, and let's
be really real, she is a single mom. Okay you think so,
yes, Now, well she's not married, so she is a single She
is a single mother, and so I do know that. It's there's a
lot where you have to get your confidence back a lot of times after you
have a child, you know. I'm sure there were some cinching parts to
that outfit that helped pull her in real tight, and she felt like,
Okay, Okay, maybe I haven't felt sexy in a while. I feel
sexy now. I want her to have and she she could be experiencing postpartum
depression instead, this is a much better scenario to lift the mood. Okay.
I saw comments like that, um, and I don't know. Like
I said, I don't know how to answer that. I don't know.
You know, she was comfortable wearing the outfit. Um. I mean,
being the mom is just not a reason. It's not like the mom's of
the eighties. He want this woman watching That's what I'm on, you know,
prior to some kids and some capri pants because but no call it shirt.
I've met some grandmothers who dressed like that, okay uh, and I'm
not talking about in their sixties. However, it goes back to the relationship
and whatever conversations they had and how they're going to honor each other. He
seemed awful surprised, and I was surprised. It was my biggest thing,
Like y'all in FaceTime before you went down a babe, how do you like
my outfit? How much do y'all communicate? I was thinking the same thing,
like before you know, call him up. Hey, I'm about to
go out. What do you think how I look? You know, what
do you think about this outfit? I was thinking, didn't you guys do
that? Or was he back at home with the baby? But still like
you didn't send them any pictures from the concert? I mean, I know
when I've been in the relationship, I've sent pictures from the night are checked.
I mean, he was like blindsided and so appalled that I have to
post about this. This seeing this on Twitter, it's my first time seeing
it, and I'm going to post about it right now. Because I'm so
upset with you that I can't hold it in. I want the world to
know I'm upset with me. I'm gonna blow this whole relationship up and forget
that you're a mom, but also forget that I'm a dad. I mean,
like, by posted, it's just for you think that the issue is
she's embarrassing as a mom, but you think it's okay for you to post
about your baby's mama on Twitter. And I talked to a lot of guys
about that all the time, like, if you want to be a good
father, respect your kids mother, don't talk bad about her and from the
kids, don't talk bad about her in public. Because now it's on the
Internet, the kid is going to be able to say it never go away,
regardless of what you delete. But we're in a we we have an
internet culture now. Well social media is here to stay. And I just
remember when we didn't have the internet, so you know I do too,
but but but I remember. Yeah, I believe it was a mistake,
like you mentioned, for him to take that public um and perhaps she should
have just checked with them. Yeah, if if she hasn't deleted it,
he is, Like I said, what I said, is there. Yeah,
I respect his comments. It's just I wouldn't if he if he was
my client, I would not have encouraged him to go public with it.
But like you said, he was outraged about that, and uh, something
new came up. What I was doing my research on this topic, you
know, is there a double standard? Chance to rapper recently had a video
come out of him and some type of carnival because it looks like a Caribbean
carnival thing. He was dancing behind one of the dances her but cheeks were
out and he was grinding her. I think his shirt was off. And
I believe he's married, and and people were making comments about shame on him
for embarrassing his wife. Now he is married, says she's embarrassed. The
problem art still here is what are the expectations in the relationship. She made
me like, I don't care anything about that. T Payne's wife doesn't care
anything about the strippers he deals with. Some people are Ta and Tinity.
They have threesomes. The question is what are the expectations of the relationship and
what boundaries have He said, She's like, I don't care about you danced
with a woman that Carnival is Carnival, she might have been a little bit
further down the street dancing. That was correct. However, what is interesting
You're correct the tone of the reactions he chanced. The wrapper was scolded by
the public, whereas a lot of people are coming to the defense of Keiki
Palmer. And like you mentioned, she's a mom. She wanted to be
sexied. This may have helped her to feel better about herself and you know,
let her be free and independent. I was surprised by the differences in
the tone. And are there some gender differences that came along with how you
act in public? Are women more critical of men who do things like that
and more forgiving of women who do something similar? Let that marinate perhaps,
I don't know. That's a good question, that's a great question. I
don't have an answer to that. I mean, I don't. I don't
care what chance the rappers doing either. If his wife didn't have an issue
with it, don't have an issue with it. And okay, Keiki Charmer
is a mother. But I'm just think about Carnival. There's plenty of half
nick and mothers walking down the street dancing, ye, and nobody ever says
anything about Okay, nobody ever says anything about it. Yeah, yeah,
but when I went, people were not holding phones and taking pictures. Maybe
you just didn't see it. I didn't see it at all. So now
let's talk about how people can avoid some of these situations. You know,
we've sort of dissected this issue a little bit, you know, gave your
opinion of mine, you know, our thoughts about it. Let's talk about,
you know, how to create that healthy relationship with some healthy boundaries.
What what can the audience members do to avoid something like this? That's the
question that I have. Yeah. The number one thing that you can do
is have the conversations up front for you way before you get pregnant. What
are your expectations for my outfits? Is it okay for me to go to
for me to have friendships with single women? Do you need to be friends
with them too? How do you feel about me talking to my ex?
How close can I be with my co parent from my previous relationship? Do
you want kids in the first place? And am I expected to dress a
certain way before and after kids? Are you gonna pay half the bills?
Can you can you have me flowers delivered once a week talk about everything.
I agree, don't don't, don't shy away with those questions. Um.
Now, they decided to have the baby before marriage, and I don't know
what's going on with the relationship. Um, but I do believe there's a
much more of a deeper commitment when you are married. However, you still
got to know what to expect. Tomboy was shocked. He was surprised,
And I'm just sitting back thinking that he didn't know that she likes to dress
like that. He didn't know, He wasn't aware. Did they never have
that conversation about how to act and what does he do when he goes out?
You know? And right because nobody's pulling out their phones recording him,
because we wouldn't know who he was if we crossed him on the street.
Are you damn Right's baby daddy? It is not got the Google and see,
Oh maybe it is, and maybe it's just another light scanned dude.
I wouldn't know. Yeah, Yeah, I agree with you one hundred percent.
Have those conversations so that you're not surprised. In addition, I like
to help couples set up some rules. You know, how are you going
to honor your partner. How are you going to protect their feelings when you're
out in public? Many times, what I've heard from a lot of couples
when they're out, somebody tries to hit on them, you know, although
they are married, and he let them know that they are married or something
like that. The question is what are you going to do? And you
have to trust your spouse and you gotta come up with some rules about that
and come back home and talk about it, as opposed to not doing anything,
sharing your number and hoping that your spouse doesn't find out about it.
You got you gotta set up those rules about what you're going to do on
the job. And just heard a radio segment about what is it called work
husbands work job? I think you and I've talked about that. This is
like years ago and someone was like, because you know you have that work
husband, work wife, and both of us were like, not me,
if you ain't, if you ain't hemping out with stuff or cooking or whatever,
giving me And I'm not telling you about in my household. I don't
understand that comes from I'm not buying unless my husband knows. You know,
I'm not showing up at your party and he doesn't know where I'm headed to.
If I do, it's intentional, and you know we're headed towards divorce,
and perhaps that needs to be part of the rules that you come up
with. And like you mentioned, talking with your ex and some other person
from your job and you're going out to dinner or lunch with them, to
a lunch and whether or not you can talk with them over the phone,
how about you sharing that information with your partner to avoid these mishaps and these
misunderstandings. And if that, if the rules that your partner sets are too
much for you, you may have to determine that they might not be the
partner for you. I'm sure somebody had doesn't care what you do at all
to come home. Negotiate. You can negotiate, you know, as some
people are very comfortable. I know a lot of the young folks, you
know, they're in couples relationships. Sometimes they're married, and somebody's still going
to the clubs and they go separately, you know, with their friends.
You know, and somebody goes on a vacation without their spouse. You gotta
talk about some rules. And when I'm on vacation, don't contact me.
I get to do whatever I want to do, and when I come home,
just say that's something you can negotiate with your husband, your partner want
me, I'm like, face time me. What y'all doing out there?
Let me see the beach. So what about the roles within a relationship as
I'm familiar now that Kiki is a celebrity, Yes, and celebrities they got
to keep their names out there. Yeah, they gotta stay relevant, whether
they're in a movie or TV show or what. And I'm assuming because she
is a celebrity, she makes more money and so she she she brings in
the income. And so in a situation like that, uh, you gotta
think about your role and that that's her job. Because a part of me
is the believing that whole thing was staged well. And if he had played
it right, well I know about the partners that he is a personal trainer.
If he had played it right, he could have been his best advertisement.
Look how great she looks. We worked out together every day. I
did that. I made that, I help I helped her be that way.
And that's my woman. But instead you, uh, it's the outfit
though you are mom. Yeah, So so I see what you're saying.
Yeah, he could have played up on that celebrity get your name out their
game, you know. And sometimes they do some outrageous stuff, I e.
Will Smith, Jada some outragious stuff. But I don't know if he
can handle who celebrity. I don't know. And and and they never talked
about what role she's gonna play as the mother of his child and his partner,
and what that's going to look like. It's easier when there are no
celebrities in the relationship. However, Um, she's not going to get a
whole lot of attention. And she's going up there on stage when a floor
length dress. This is true covered up. Now everybody's talking about Kiki and
I can't remember her since she was in the well. You know, Chris
Rock had a comedy special called I think it was called Tambourine where he was
like, sometimes she just gotta be comfortable with playing the tambourine and her man,
Mike, just play your tambourine and back support your woman, I see,
I see be the support to help the family financially. Of course she's
gonna pull it in, you know. Now, I don't know she's ready
for that. Because she she looks like she's ready to fly. She she
was on that stage looking like what relationship? What She's an actress and I
mean in this Usher and if Usher came up to me, I'm a dance
too, and Hammy and Mike, I'm a scene too. Okay. It
was a great It was not just a way to promote herself, but it
was a great experience like happy birthday. That would be like such a memorable
birthday, and she showed off that magnificent body and all that was great.
I'm just pointing out her partner's reaction and how that shows some cracks in that
relationship. Definitely, And of course boundaries are important and how you're gonna honor
your your partner and what role you're gonna play, because if he's gonna stick
in there with her and she's a celebrity and she's gonna grow her business as
a celebrity, then he might have to get used to some of these things.
I saw somebody posts and something that was to the effect of, I
know, you ain't in ky Keys house telling Kiki how to dress, you
know, and kikiS money, like she has all her own stuff. Yeah,
and so she seems to be free spirited and likes to have fun.
From the videos that I pulled up, she seems like a party girl.
And I mean that in a nice way. I'm not being sarcastic. And
he doesn't seem like a party guy to me. I mean, he might
be, but we wouldn't know, because, like I said, nobody's pulling
up their phone check off for Darius. Yeah, but but by his post,
I'm concluding he's not a party guy, you know. With that,
So compatibility is also and that's another thing. She wants to be able with
her girls for a birthday, not a man. I was still the same
thing. Why didn't she go with her man? Maybe he was at home
babysitting. Maybe he was mad. She said, this damn concert. And
I don't know what she's wearing, what she's doing, because those photos,
she certainly looks single. To your point, she looks single. So those
those are some of my comments about how to avoid, you know, situations
like that. Communication is important, Yeah, establishing those rules and what you're
gonna do when your partner's not there, what's acceptable and what's not acceptable.
You can negotiate, you can even modify some of the rules. But I
like to tell people set it up so you're not surprised, you know,
because now if you have rules and you agree with it, as somebody violates
the rules, what does that lead to? Doctor Asia break up? Yeah?
Period, But you're not both know. They show up to our couch
sometime and I asked, didn't y'all talk about this before you got married?
So you never discussed this. You never talked about how often they do this
and whether or not he want to continue doing this? You know? Um,
So that's very important. That's that's that's my thought about that. I
feel sorry for the brother. I really do. H Harrison, you already
know I don't agree with you, but that's okay. We can still be
friends. He brought this on himself, he contributed. But I do hope
for her sake that they're able to work it out, that he will let
his pride go and delete the TWEETU and acknowledge that although he may not have
liked the outfit, social media was in the best place to in a good
place period to say anything like that or to communicate any message to your partner.
I agree, and hopefully Key Key has also learned some lessons to be
you can. You look great, how fun. However, there's someone else
involved and he seems to care about her, and you gotta come up with
some policies of rules about some things you can still negotiate. At least let
them know what you're wearing, you know, so that you and she should
know him as well. And if he's a little bit emotionally reactive and has
the propensity for fire and off on social media, then she should have known,
Oh, my man's gonna go do this, He's gonna add crazy over
the damn Twitter. You know, perhaps you could have avoided all of that
yourself. And I don't know if it has anything to do with the outfit.
You know, I'm just part of a different generation and where you don't
show your ass cheeks, you know. I guess that was the part that
was really surprising. But people apparently go to awards ceremony wearing glitter baby suits.
It was Jess ass Cheese, I know he pointed that out. So
any final words, doctor Asia, Uh, talk to your partner's face to
face and on the phone. To keep your business off social media and out
the streets. Absolutely, Why why why go to social media? You know,
ship's already in trouble, you know, why why make it worse,
you know, by letting everybody know how you feel? And why do something
to embarrass your spouse? And she commented on him being a parent, and
as you said, she mentioned that she loves her man. Then you need
to show it. Yeah, show it when you're in public and when he's
not around. And if you know he's not gonna like that outfit, you
need to at least discuss it with him before your ass goes out there.
Because I don't remember anything else about her except her as you gonna remember her
ass from that way. So I hope you guys enjoy today's segment today's show
talking about Kiki Palmer boundary issues, communication and establishing some rules and don't air
out your grievous is on the internet, you know, but know your partner.
So you guys have been watching two therapists on a microphone. I am
doctor Harrison Davis and I'm doctor Asian Dickerson. Tune in next week and Monday
evening at seven o'clock PM and we will see you guys. Then have a
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