Am I? What' s your taste, pleasure and privilege? Am I?
Luis Miguel Salgado. Welcome to a new chapter on what a good question.
I am very happy because today I am accompanied from Venezuela Stephan and Bermúdez.
It' s my pleasure. She currently lives in Lima, Peru,
but is Venezuelan born in the Amazon State. What a pleasure and pleasure my
dear Stephan and how you are hello, Luis, Thank you, thank you,
thanks to forty opportunity and good to meet you too, and well I
hope this conversation is pleasant and with love. It shares many very good topics
that help us to a little bit of personal growth. I' m absolutely
sure of that. The truth is, he must tell you that all Venezuelans.
I like Venezuelans excellent, really excellent. They have a good mood chévere,
but also Peruvians, but also Chilean Argentines. The truth is that Latin
America is super rich in culture, history and, of course, food.
In so many things and for me it is a pleasure, a privilege.
We' ll talk about a lot of psychology and, of course, this
psycho- focus project. I' m Luis Miguel Salgado and if I tell
all of you to share, it' s because believe me you' re
going to have a great time. It' s okay with you. We
' re starting with Stephane Bermúdez. The truth. I' m so happy.
Let me introduce you. Her. She has a degree in psychology,
has a clinical mention since the year one thousand two thousand seventeen. Forgive me,
she is the founder and creator of this wonderful concept of psycho- focus
and currently resides in Lima, Peru and for me her pleasure a privilege of
Stephany before starting, before talking about the project, before talking about why psychology
I would love to know who stephan and Bermúdez is. Okay. First of
all, thank you Swick, thank you for precha beautiful invitation and well,
Estefany, what a good question. Well Estefanía is a dreamer, dreamer and
passionate person. Full of passion for knowing new things, for learning new things,
and he was a person who had to reinvent himself and look for the
way each day to be a better person and, obviously, to try all
the ways, to fight with that fear that always terrifies us, to change,
to debar, suddenly to try something new. Then I think I'
m a constant change in day to day and in life. I understand my
dear Stephenin that everything changes all the time. Everything changes all the time.
It looks like a nice phrase to put on Facebook, but the truth is
it' s reality. Why it doesn' t cost you so much to
change. Why, suddenly we' re in a comfort zone and we say
that. I' m fine, that' s how I feel. And
even if we' re living from storm to storm, suddenly we don'
t want to change. Look at the main reason why we have a hard
time changing, suddenly adapting with new changes because of fear. The fear,
the principle that terrifies us all, because we don' t know what will
happen, if it' s going to go well, if it' s
going to be successful, if we' re going to fail then we start
to leave a little negative thoughts that in the end terrifies us so much.
What is going to come then the great fear is what, unfortunately much hinders
us to have a change or to be able to seek an improvement of something.
That' s really what all human beings are. At this point we
are terrified of fear. By changing fear it paralyzes you out there they say
or it drives you. Tell us a little bit, what your personal story
has been To you fear has driven you at some point stopped you at what
time you said it will no longer stop me and come life as it comes,
I will get ahead. Look. I think fear has two, as
you just said, paralyzes us and drives us. And I think it drives
us when we get tired of the same thing you know when I' m
kind of tired of rowing and seeing that this doesn' t work, that
this doesn' t go forward, then it' s like we' re
taking that leap in the run of my life. I think since I left
my country, I' ve had to face up to those two vertices of
fear that paralyzes me and the fear that drove me to watch Hey wake up.
Come on, you have to find a way to do something different,
to move, to change, to adapt in another way so you can feel
that I' m moving forward, that actually my steps are generating something productive
that makes me feel good. But, obviously, I' ve been in
both shoes. I have to tell you that I admire very much the Venezuelan
people, a dedicated people, a people that has gone through very complex,
complicated circumstances, a people that is still standing, It is still standing,
despite the circumstances that desperately calls for a cry for help, And not only
for help, but for a noble people, a people of struggle. No,
I haven' t found a single Venezuelan in my life who' s
lazy, careless. Obviously, we have everything in every part of the world
here in Mexico. Dutch Polo, no, but I do believe that adversity
suddenly strengthens you and makes you bend efforts, that forgiveness makes you double efforts.
And don' t bend so easily. You told us to go with
this change of country. We' re not talking about you moving in.
We' re not talking about you leaving town maybe to the beach to Maracallebo?
Don' t you? No, no, we' re not talking
about you changing country. Tell us a little bit about the decision- making
process, because, obviously, any change of house is difficult, a change
of country. I imagine it was and is suddenly longing for family, food,
neighborhood, community. How this change has been for you Look It was
at first, it was time. I was aware of what was waiting for
me, because really my departure from the country was because my mom had already
served a few months earlier. She was in Colombia and nothing. She put
the money together and told me she came to me this way. I think
it' s with me. Already then I, obviously quit my job,
had to turn myself in to my place or give him private consultations. I
was in another state working too. So when I had to leave everything,
but at that moment, like my mind said well, I' m going
to visit her and not anymore, but everything changed since I set foot outside
my country. So, now, when I set foot outside my country,
I realized everything that was coming. I mean, well, I' m
not in my country anymore. Now what am I going to do, now
what do I do, that is, where do I go, where do
I look like? Then, when terror comes, as I tell you of
that change so suddenly as to hear another culture or other people, that another
lived, not rowing life, then everything changes. No. Yeah. Then
there came a point where good nothing to Colombia, I had to come to
Peru. In reality, Peru was not my destiny, nor was it Chile,
but well I stayed in Peru and nothing was more difficult because I am
older then you were already here with family and here I had to move alone,
learn many things, learn to understand even from Peruvian jargon. Obviously,
it' s very different, so I adapt a lot of things. I
lived a process full of a lot of anxiety, but a process full of
tertifion of todology, of missing my house, my mom your adul had a
time when I had a good feeling of howling so many things. I think
it was not a year or two and it took me a lot to adapt
and understand that I was in another country and that I had to move on.
Of course, the difficult process, or a process of being alone feeling
alone is also quite complicated, no, but well they were processes that gradually
I understood, asked for this, I did not adapt and nothing. Here
we are Here we are Here we are Here we are Here we are Here
we are. It' s nice, because you' ve known other cultures.
They tell me that if you can speak a little louder, please,
right now, that you speak to us, that you speak to us a
little louder than you throw at him cookie, that you have breakfast well man
that we have strength here. We' re going to invite you to a
chilli here with spicy chicken here in Mexico. Hey, let me tell you,
there' s a father, too, because you' re getting to
know other cultures. You knew the Colombian culture, the way of speaking,
which is very different from the Venezuelan one, which is very different from the
Peruvian one, the length as it is not the same to speak to the
Colombian media, than to speak in the Colombian slang. The same happens in
Peru, not the same in Chile. Then he is father, because surely
you have made many friends, many contacts, you already know other cultures and
that greatly enriches the soul. Now please tell us where the idea arises,
how the project arises and that becomes a psycho- focus reality. You hear
me well. There I want to know h not anything else either, as
it is very well, very well to see if it was approach wow,
if focus is born unexpectedly came to my life because really this topic of social
networks start to upload content. I didn' t do it. I didn
' t run social media. I mean, I was very instagram, I
had it there, but as a facebook ornament then I didn' t handle
that. And really everything a day ago I started uploading content, content,
I started to realize that people, in some ways, consisted of people'
s attention, I was generating something on social networks, or a message or
a reflection learning. So, when I realized this, I started paying more
attention to it. After that, that' s when I came up with
the idea of creating a brand. I said well, if I' m
going to start handling content related to psychology, to personal growth, I'
d like to have my own brand and well, one night in that brainstorm.
So, with pok yes, yes, confoque is my two- year
- old baby, has two sounds and well, there, little by little
we go step by step, improving every day, seeing that other things I
can do with five focus. Yeah, you' re thinking about him too,
obviously, attacking other platforms like on YouTube, this tiktok, other networks,
other media so that obviously, the ites and focused voice reaches many people
and obviously leaves its bit of sand in the world. That' s the
idea of focusing is wonderful. I want to invite all the people who follow
spenfoque on their social networks, to follow Stefane on Instagram. It' s
like cic arroba, as it sounds with psycho script, under focus with Kal,
also the same in the same network, with the same psycho sense as
a low focus on Facebook, on Tiktok. That' s right, and
we' re gonna find ourselves in psycho focus. Look at the psycho approach
you will find yourself with many topics, topics related to this topic of relationship,
this topic of depression, anxiety, motivation, this topics related to family,
with work, with topics that I think are day to day and that
are problematic that obviously still exist in the world. So everyone has a problem
that needs to look for a way out or at least find a word that
helps them understand why. Obviously, I mean, it' s not therapy,
because through a message you' re not going to achieve therapy, but
at least it' s like an impulse. I mean, with this I
' m pushing you not to understand that something isn' t right and that
you need help, you need and that it' s not bad. Psychological
help isn' t bad, it' s just health. So, how
you go to the doctor to check you out, do your daily exams,
also go to the psychologist is important to note that it is very well explained.
I think you' re doing very well, because, obviously, we
all need help all of a sudden they even say out there that the more,
the machimuelo, the more carts. But not really. The truth is
that we all need help and what good advice they give us to go to
Therapy, what good advice you give us in following this information that can confront
us, we can like it or not. Suddenly it cannot seem to us
no, but there is a great benefit when it is uncovered in our heart,
within us, certain things that are kept and that rot our soul to
the heart, for when they come out, it is a good opportunity.
Now, my dear Stefany, let' s go into the second part of
the interview or the talk. Where I' m going to ask you questions.
There are no good or bad answers. Ok I' m going to
ask you different questions of different things the idea is to talk, share,
see how you think, because you think what you think and imagine that you
' re going sailing on a boat and you' re going to get to
a deserted island. Okay, you' d rather be on this desert island
by yourself or with the person you hate the most or the person who'
s done the most to you in the life of the fours you' d
do. Wow, it' s pretty complicated. That' s good,
if it' s my turn to be with the person who' s best,
I hate really or, but let' s say yes, if that
happens, well, if it touches me, it touches me, and I
think that when you get to a point and well, we' re not
going to have to talk and we' re going to have to solve that
problem on that island. Really, there' s no way to live together
and to find a way out of that island but what else? If that
' s what touched me. But, but, you' d prefer,
you' d rather be alone or with this person. I think I'
d rather be accompanied, because it must be complicated just by going nothing.
I think it would drive you crazy on the edge. Someone has to lower
the coconuts and better, that person, who is the one who more one
something, something, has to happen there, put her to work hears and
now. If you were on this same island with a person who won'
t stop talking. You know there are people who talk, talk, talk
blah, oh person or with a person who never talks. There are also
people you tell her today you' re alive, not and she doesn'
t even answer who you prefer to talk to a lot, so she doesn
' t talk to. I think I' d rather talk to the one
they talk to a lot, but well, he' s not the one
who talks a lot He' s going to get a little bit and the
person' s going to get tired of talking. Or that all of a
sudden well, a single skit stop, we' re going to reach or
do something else like what way to handle the situation. But a person who
doesn' t make it a little harder. Okay, that' s great.
It' s been my turn to have friends like that, yeah,
look at me imagine, it' s touched me all of a sudden and
there are people who don' t talk that I say right now, who
breathes and I don' t even answer him anymore. I' m leaving
now and I' m getting out of there. That' s when I
don' t hear, let me ask you something. Imagine you have to
go to the moon. You won a prize, or understand and the prize
is to go to the moon for a month and you can only take three
things, things not people, not pet, you take three things that you
can take to the moon, to the moon and I think it would take
me. First all the teams to be able to record as little as they
see the moon, because they are spectacular because for photos, camera, video,
cameras, the whole team. Second meal, I think there' s
a lot of behavior, yes, and third, to see what would take
me. Yeah, I don' t know. I think that to sleep
well, something with which I can sleep well, to be comfortable and not
feel uncomfortable moment to sleep I want to go out flat, I don'
t know very padrásticos platícanos. What would you rather be invisible or be able
to read minds or good question this, but be invisible, as it may
be. I' ll always be invisible. No yes, that' s
when you want it' s like the super there was the invisible man,
this like the superhero who suddenly you' re normal and suddenly you become invisible
hear the others or read people' s minds. This one. I think
reading the person' s mind would be good, well beneficial. As a
psychologist, it would be excellent, but a tool that predates me in a
resollo session. It' s all very clear now. Now imagine tell me,
please, what do you think has been the period of the history of
the universal world. I don' t know about the time of the Romans,
the time of when the mammoths or the dinosaurs were. What' s
the best time on the planet you' d like to live in, the
best time I' d like to live in? Yes, that you would
have liked to live. Look well, I' ve thought about it before,
but I think I' ve based myself more on all the love Okay,
and I think I liked it in times like the' 80s, okay,
okay, it was really good. It was a very good time.
It was my turn to live and believe me it was a very good time.
This one I think was enjoyed and the people, the ones who are
rouquitos we yearn for that eighties. Hey, I want to ask you.
Please tell me three things you do very well with your fingers. Look at
three things to cook, if not very well. Okay, I do very
good massages, okay and very good drawing. Tell me three things you can
find in a bathroom, in a good soap shampoo bath, this shaver.
Ok tell me three cell phone companies that you know clearly, move and live
ok great. Please tell us what you think everyone should have, what skill
everyone should have, what skill everyone should have to try to be happy with,
how interesting, of course, you hear, and in some imagine that
we' re going on a field day. We' re not going on
field day. We take the sangüi ches, we don' t take a
bottle of wine. We' re there with all the friends, and all
of a sudden, they start putting together the games. You know and you
say I wish we played this game, because sure, in this game I
always win what game it would be. Oh my God I am well Malaga
with the games, this game to see good in Venezuela, right now Childhood
to the game that made good. There' s a game in Venezuela called
Hiki Boll I don' t know if you' ve heard it and what
it is, for example, baseball, but you' re not going to
give him the bat, but you' re going to hit him with the
foot. You get your foot and you have your three bases and you have
to run and it' s two teams. He was very good at that
game. I think so there, very, very, very, very,
very weird. Now imagine you have to make a movie and you can choose
some famous actress or actor to be your lead cop. It' s not
who you' d make the movie with, who you' d choose actor
or actress, and who would be an aphistic actor. Yeah, yeah,
don' t worry. Yeah, I think he' ll be a févere
an actor, an actor, or a gmingo Brattin actor, for example,
Brad Bueno might be. Yeah, what a sacrifice, what a sacrifice you
made for me, stefany, that can' t be. I don'
t know something like that. He doesn' t hear. Please tell me
what the most important Council you have been given, the Life Council, the
most important one I have given you. I believe that the most important words
that have been given to me and continue to be given to me. Don
' t be afraid. Don' t be afraid. You can, You
can achieve it with clenti cretir, You have the ability not to listen.
Keep going. I think those words have been the ones that have helped me
the most with the ones I keep fighting, because this is a constant struggle
in my head. But I try to think about how to feedback my mind
and think about what I' m good at what I' ve achieved so
far in what I can do with what I count on, so that'
s a food that I give to my mind every day of my life to
move on and understand my fear. It may be the carri you hear,
please tell me what the learning has been, not the knowledge. I'
m not asking you what the knowledge has been, what you learned best in
school, but what the learning has been. For example, I' m
telling you right now that you' re saying that. I had an etymology
teacher in high school. It made my life impossible, impossible. You don
' t know I was a student disaster. It made my life impossible,
but thanks to her for the punishments she gave me one day. The punishment
he gave me is to learn and represent Don Juan Tenorio and I remember that
in high school I played the main role of Don Juan Tenorio and I had
to learn all the dialogue of the whole work, among many other things.
But it was a punishment and it was a punishment for but it showed me
and I showed myself that I could what the press message left you the school,
the Wow School. How nice to remember Look. I think the school
taught me. I' m not going to mention just one, one teacher
or subject I saw because I think it happened to me like twice and I
put that on. I learned there and let' s say I handled it
in college, but the school often touched me, for example, with teams
that didn' t do anything, didn' t collaborate, they were lazy.
So I practically had the job. It was my turn to roll,
I alone had to present the moment of this test. I did, so
I was the one in front and I sat alone many times because it happened
to me a lot and at the university it repeated the same thing. But
college isn' t the same as school. The school forces you with your
partners. At the University you have an exhibition and if your team is not
prepared, just don' t separate from desk or just not between classes,
because it' s already yours. If you want or don' t want
to study, now, the professor isn' t up to date. If
you go in and introduce yourself or not, then at the university I had
to face that situation and that helped me understand that I can. I mean,
a team is important. But if it' s my turn to face
it alone, it was my turn to stand in front and face it alone,
because there was no other way. So I think it was a learning
that I lived in school, it happened to me in college and I understood
that it' s definitely going to touch only one of them many times,
like being pushed and getting away with it. I love it. I love
that answer. Three desserts you love, three desserts you can' t stop
eating. Ice cream fascinates me, okay go send this cakes as well and
another sweet and another dessert. I think my mom' s desserts have a
lot. Say hello to us. Say hello to your mommy and hopefully,
tell her that one day we' re going to visit her so they can
make us some very rich desserts not and be able to taste them. Hey,
we' re getting to the final straight. But before I can ask
you two more questions. First, confess us, confess us a confession,
so today a confession tell us Please, three times when you hate to hurry,
Three moments is not dear, I don' t want to rush to
the moment I get imprisoned let' s go it' s already late.
It bothers me that it presses me the beginning of any place. Yeah,
this one, too, when I ride public transport. Or it bothers me
to press what I' m pushed, whatever I' m told. Hurry
up. Those are the moments that really bother me to press on that ear.
I' d love you to tell us a final message, but this
final message is for the whole planet. It' s going to be translated
into all languages, it' s going to be made known on the Internet,
television, radio, it' s going to be translated into all dialect
languages. What a message I' d be looking at. A main message
is to make people seek their happiness, but to be happy in this life,
because life is one. Life is beautiful, despite those of chaos,
despite conflicts. But conflicts and chaos are not permanent. These are temporary things
that can generate even new opportunities. Then seek your peace, seek your happiness,
seek help if you need it. Going to the psychologist doesn' t
mean you' re sick, that you just have to have a disorder.
Going to the psychologist is also a way to stay healthy, mentally, psychologically,
emotionally and is a tool for you and nothing. That is happy to
try to diminish things that arrest our peace and be as happy as possible to
enjoy every minute and every moment of life, because today we are tomorrow,
as we know, and everything can change and end up in matters of these.
I embrace many blessings. Thanks for sharing, Thanks for commenting. Please
follow Stephane and Bermúdez on their social networks, Instagram, Facebook and Tiktok.
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k- focus with ka. There you can see all the content you'
re uploading. Really. I send a big hug to you and your mommy
with great pleasure and to you too that you see us listening to us.
Thank you for sharing this chapter, thanks for impacting more people through sharing the
video and audio and for having more people meet Stephan and Bermúdez, and I
also invite you to learn about the other chapters, more than a hundred interviews,
more than a hundred people, writers, actors, actresses, singers,
psychologists, therapists, writers. Well, there' s everything, then the
truth is printed. Good I bless you and I wish you great success and
good day, good afternoon, good night wherever you are until soon I am