All right, let's see what happens here on the Minnesota Goodbye. Let's start
off with this one. Hello, my name is Jeff. It is okay
to use my name. I had to write in on the brief subject you
guys talked about this morning. We were talking about how the woman had a
secret to tell her friend, and her friend already knew. And then we
talked about sometimes you just know, and how it is that your gut just
tells you something is off. Jeff says, I had to write in a
woman's intuition. So on Monday, Monday, just a couple of days ago,
it was hot out. I'm a firefighter. My wife has an app
so she can hear on the main channel what's going on with the fire calls,
etc. Long story short, I overheated and I started to black out.
Fire command said over the main channel, we're treating a firefighter for dehydration.
My wife texted me and said, let me know you're okay. After
we left, I texted her I'm okay, and he asked who was the
one they treated. I said it was me, And she said that as
soon as she heard of firefighters being treated for dehydration, she knew it was
me. She got butterflies in her stomach. She knew it was me.
I looked at her and I said, that is weird. I would think,
though, if you know, it's one of those things where if I,
you know, listen to traffic in the morning and I hear, oh,
there's a car accident on like Highway five in Chanhassan, I always go,
God, I hope it's not Susan, or I hope it's nobody that
I know. And it's not a matter of any kind of intuition. I've
never had a vibe kind of an intuition about something like that. They say
like, oh, yeah, I knew my dad was dying because I,
you know, I woke up in the middle of the night and whatever.
Have you ever had anything like an intuition, any kind of a thing where
like, you know, your mom just fell down the stairs, or you
know, your dog just got hit by a car or whatever. It's not
about anything like that. But mine was about a job once I had had.
There was like this job that was for grabs with the Minnesota Timberwolves,
and I was working part time on their interactive squad at the time, and
I had this dream that this girl that I used to intern away got the
job and she was working down in Tennessee at the time. The next time
I came into work, she was there and she had gotten the job,
and I hadn't talked to her like since she had moved down to Tennessee.
So I was like, what was that all about? Like how did thus
more of like I did I just predict the future, not in so much
intuition, but that was like a really weird thing. I mean, there
obviously was some kind of thought in my head that like, these are potentials
who might get the job. Signs yeah right, yeah, but not out
of the blue completely. I fully had a dream like she got the job,
she's working there, and then like two days later I went in for
like my role with the Timberwolves, and there she was. She had gotten
the job, and so you kind of it was intuitive, but also there
was a couple of signs that maybe it would happen. Yeah, I mean,
just like I just thought of probably before I had that dream, that
these are options of people who could get the jobs. There's probably you know,
like your dreams always stem from something that was going on in like your
day. Speaking of dreams going to ask you something. I have a recurring
dream, and I had it again last night. I have it a couple
of times a week where I am somewhere away from home and it's time to
go, and I've got to get all packed up, but there's too much
stuff scattered around all over the place to pack up. Yeah, so I
asked fucking Alexa. This morning, I got out of bed, I took
a shower, I thought about this dream, and I was somewhere where it
was time to go, and I remember some co workers were like, Oh,
we're getting on the elevator. It's time to go. Like we were
at a destination, a trip, and we've been there for a few days
and now it's time to go, and I'm running around trying to get all
my stuff. So I asked Alexa this morning. I said, Alexa,
what does it mean if I have a dream where I'm packing up getting ready
to leave and alexas said, according to one Alexa user, it means you
had a great night's sleep. And I'm like, you bitch, what you
bitch? Because it's in other words, Alexa didn't know what to say,
so they interpreted it as you had a great night's sleep. So the way
you're describing it is you're either at home or you said you might be on
a trip somewhere, and you just like can't get your things together to get
somewhere. It's time to go. Everybody's getting packed up to leave, and
I'm behind and I got things over here and they won't fit in my suit
case and I got things over here, and I got to go downstairs and
get this, and I got to wake up Susan because Susan's got to go
too, and the plane is going to be leaving, and I'm kind of
like stressed. Okay, So this is about more so like not being able
to get somewhere, but that's kind of what you're trying to do. You're
not getting somewhere because you can't get your things packed up. Okay. But
it says that this might be due to feeling stuck due to lack of progress.
So dreams about not being able to get somewhere could mean that the person
feels stuck and is unable to move forward. The dreamer may feel that there
is no progress in his or her awaking life. Another one is the fear
of the known. Paralyzed due to fear of failure is another reason I don't
have a fear of failure. I have a fear of not trying things and
never doing anything different because I'm not trying things. So I've never really had
a fear of failure, right, but definitely like kind of like, you
know what I think it is. I think that what happens you've been married,
you've been with somebody for a long time, and it gets so ordinary.
Let's face it, it does. It gets ordinary. Susan, I
love each other, but it's very ordinary now and there's no like, oh
my god, I've been thinking about you all day. We used to have
that, but we've been married a long time and it's not unusual. So
I wonder if that's kind of what the ordinary is, you know, And
maybe we should appreciate each other more. But you can't just snap your fingers
and say, appreciate each other more. Am I giving you too much information?
I love all the information. I completely agree that you can't just snap
your fingers and do that. I think that one thing with Andrew is that
he is all about like mindset stuff. So he does like affirmations and he'll
write things down and stuff, and I think that that does come into play
with a relationship as well, that you do have to like remind yourself sometimes
like what you appreciate about that person, because like, you're right, it
becomes very ordinary. We'll start becoming roommates almost after you've been with someone for
so long that you're just like, what's up, how was your day?
But like you're not like so close. You're close, but you're like it's
just a different kind of close. At that point, you're very comfortably close,
so you don't always like know everything about the person anymore. And yeah,
I think in relationships you just kind of have to you have to make
an effort. And that's that's like what is the you know, Okay,
yes, you have to make an effort. I didn't mean to interrupt you.
No, I was pretty much done. But sometimes you don't know what
the effort is. Like, Okay, Susan and I went on a long
motorcycle ride up to Two Harbors a couple of weeks ago, and it wasn't
an effort to do anything, but it didn't change anything. It still kind
of felt like we're just so comfortable that it seems so ordinary, and I'm
going to go I'm being a little bit, you know, confessional on that.
And the reason I do it is because it's true, but also I
think a lot of other people that have been married. I know a couple
that's been married. I don't want to give it away because I think they
might listen X amount of years and they're bored with each other. They don't
turn each other on anymore. They're both attractive people, but they don't turn
each other on anymore. They haven't enjoyed the love it in a very long
time, and it's become kind of like a problem, like is this what
I want to settle for for the rest of my life or are they going
to head for divorce. I had lunch with a friend of mine close to
my age and she said, yeah, my marriage is the same way,
and so we're going to start sleeping together because I thought it would start spice
I'm just seeing if you're paying I'm seeing if you're paying attention. That I
was I was like, okay, what was the advice I'm seeing If you're
paying attention, we're going to start sleeping together. Well, I thought it
would spice it up a little bit, but no, we hadn't. We
had lunch and she was, and she's very funny and a little bit dry
humor, and she's like, yeah, that's jido, that's just the way
it is. And I like to hold hands and they don't like to hold
hands. And I like this and they don't like that. Yeah, And
I said, well that kind of sucks. But I think all of these
people should look into the swinger lifestyle or something. I'm just kidding. I
mean, why not, you know what? And that's that's the things.
Like I was joking about that with Susan. I said we should become swingers,
and she's like, she said something really funny and sarcastic, like you
can't do that because you don't like to go out or something like that,
and I'm like, deep, you're right, we can't become swingers. When
we had that swing around the show for like an ask Me Anything segment,
and it was just so interesting. Andrew, my boyfriend, listened to all
of it and we discussed it later and like just the whole lifestyle. I
was like, it's very interesting. And we both like kind of looked at
each other like are we interested in swinging? And we both agreed like we're
not. But then my boyfriend was like, I'm definitely not because we would
go to one of these parties and I would get no attention and you would
get all of it. Which I completely disagree with him because he looks like
Ben Affleck, a younger version of Ben Affleck. He's a very good looking
human. Andrew, Yes, okay, I agree with my opinion, and
so I was like, I don't think that that's how it would go,
but I do know that there is more. It seems from that woman.
There is a little bit more attention on women went at these swinger parties than
I met. I would imagine, because guys are a dime a dozen,
but a willing woman at a swingers party would probably be like, oh wow,
you got to go down to the third bedroom on the left. There's
a woman in there who's hot. That would be what it would be with
me and Susan too, because Susan is still attractive and people would be like
lining up there. I'd have to put in a turnstyle in a ticket booth.
All right, Next one, SiZ, I need advice. I recently
visited my hometown for a visit and I met up with an old boyfriend of
mine that I'm still friends with. We had dinner. We broke up seven
years ago. We moved on to other relationships, and now this hometown is
alw long way away, six hundred miles away. I haven't physically seen him
in seven years, but we've kept in touch here and there on Facebook.
And I'm currently in a good relationship and I'm happy with my current partner.
We've been together for three years and have lived together for a year. We
have three kids and two cats between the two of us. Anyway, my
ex apologized and poured his heart out about what a mistake he made and how
he still loves me and wishes we could get back together, but he knows
him in a happy relationship and he just wants me to be happy. I
think the thing is he has now stirred up old feelings that I thought were
long gone, and I don't know how to deal with him. Any advice
besides cutting contact, which would help, but it won't shut off my brain
and memories. Any of you guys ever been in this situation, Any advice
would be appreciated. I'll let Jenny take this one, because yeah, I
think we've absolutely been in the situation. But I'll let you go ahead and
take this one, I would say, she said, did she say that
she was told to cut off contact? But no, She's like, what
advice can you give me besides cutting off contact? That is my advice is
to cut off contact because I think that's like, truly the only way you
can get over that situation. It's pretty simple. I had when I moved
from Las Vegas, had a girlfriend nam Kathy, and that was the most
in love I'd ever been was Kathy in Las Vegas and I was twenty three
and I moved to Ohio, and I thought about Kathy every day, many
times for years until I met someone new. And then when I found that
someone knew that not just somebody to date or to hook up with, but
somebody that I really loved, then I didn't think about Kathy as a bunch
anymore. But I would dream about her at night, and I would dream
that I saw her again and we were getting back together. And it's hard,
but I would say it's part of the human experiences. You know,
you break up with somebody and you really miss them, yea, And sometimes
you do get back together. And I think one thing is that I don't
think you should because you're in a happy relationship. But I think sometimes it's
okay to get back together with somebody who broke up with I think there are
probably countless happy couples marriages that are happy the second time around, because maybe
it was like, you don't know what she got until it's gone and you
went out with some other people and you go, wow, I didn't realize
what a good partner they were. Yeah, they had their flaws, but
now that I've dated other people, I really can appreciate what a great partner
they were. So don't get back together with him, though it sounds like
you're pretty happy, all right. Next one. I think there's something that
happens when men lose their dads at a relatively young age. Growing up,
my dad was always tough and never showed any emotion. He lost his dad
when he was in his early forties, and it softened him up a little
bit. He also has been way more emotional since my sister and I both
got married and started her own families. Ever so often inside joke, I
get it, send me a text saying how proud he is of me,
how good of a mom I am, etc. And I love it.
I love hearing things like this from my dad, and I think it's important
to feel your feelings and say what you feel because you never know if you'll
have another opportunity to say it. I don't think his dad was in tune
with his emotions, and I think my dad probably feels there was a lot
left unset in their relationship, and I feel like he's doing his best to
not let that be the case in his relationship with me and my sister.
One hundred percent. I think that's true. I tell my daughters I love
them all the time. My dad was not an emotional I love you.
Towards the end of his life, he'd say love you if I said I
love you first, love you, Dad, love you. But now I
try to over not overcompensate, but to make sure I don't make those mistakes.
So I sent Alison to texts the other night. You want to hear
it. Yeah. So i'd gone over to her house for Memorial Day,
a little cook out, and so when I got home, I said,
thanks for having me over. That was very fun and I love spending time
with the girls and Justin two, and she said, yes, I loved
having you over. Thanks for spending the afternoon with us. I said,
you are a very special girl, and I love you so much because I
want her to know. But I also don't want those things to go unsaid.
So if I get hit by a light rail train later today, Alison
won't have any doubt that I loved her. Yeah. No, that's a
good point, because you're frequently around the light trails lightrail try all the time,
all the time. Also, this goes on to say, I feel
like I have a weird thing with feelings. I will cry at the drop
of the hat. This is from Rachel for context watching a movie or TV
show, but I legitimately do not remember the last time I cried at something
in my own life. Having kids definitely changes you, though, and I
do feel myself getting emotional as my baby is approaching his first birthday and is
becoming an entire little person. It's so weird to me that I can experience
sadness in my own life and just brush it off. But I see a
TikTok about a soldier reuniting with their dog, I'm a mess. Yeah,
oh my god, I know what you mean. Anyway, I have a
great day. You guys are the best. From Rachel, I also get
very emotionally messy at the drop of a hat, and I talked about on
the radio. It's like, I think it's getting worse as I get older,
and I'm not really sure why. Let's see, here's an interesting question.
If you were young, drunk, young and drunk and a trash human,
which restaurant would you break into to make yourself some grub? So you're
young, you're drunk or high, and a trash human, You're going to
break into a restaurant to make yourself some grub? Denny's. I think Denny's.
I'd make myself some bacon and eggs. Oh, I was thinking more
of more of like a Perkins vibe, because I don't think I would know
how to make myself like a crunch wrapped supreme, that is, to food.
But I would not be able to make myself that. No, but
you can break into a Perkins and have some pie or go back in the
back and get some like, you know, bacon and eggs and hash browns.
Yeah, okay, Joe, that's a really fucking weird question. But
I love that you wrote in, so thank you very much. Let's see
if I had one more and I may or may not, so bear with
me. Mike does write in about running through the cemeteries, and we were
talking about how Jenny thinks it's okay to go running through a cemetery. I
think it's disrespectful. Mike, our buddy writes in, says Lebanon cemetery.
Yes, there is no purpose for that space except for burial, okay.
Really, the only thing there to do is visit where someone is buried.
I would say there are some cemeteries where a walker jog would be just fine.
It's a beautiful setting, quiet, peaceful, sounds like the ideal place
for a run. Sorry, I have to take the counter to your point
on this one because I said you should not, but most people agreed that
you should be able to run through a cemetery. Yeah, all right,
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Dave Well today? Is this the one thousandth Minnesota Goodbye? Yeah?
It is. Somebody pointed that out. I can't believe that somebody went through
and counted up all the Minnesota goodbyes, but apparently this is the one thousandth
Minnesota Goodbye. So that would be if you take out all the weekends that
goes back probably fourish five ish years of Minnesota Goodbye. There's fifty two weeks
in a year, so your time's up by five. It's a one hundred
and sixty episodes a year then, so divide that by a thousand. I
think you guys have been doing it for almost five It sounds about right.
Yeah. Wow, And there it is, the one thousandth Minnesota Goodbye on
Katie WB and you were here for it. Wow. Thanks for listening.