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Hello everyone, Welcome back to another
podcast episode. My name is Alicia Gogan,

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the host of the Globe Secrets podcast, where I help you expand your

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mind and become more self aware so
that you can blow up into the best

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version of yourself. Hi. If
you're watching on YouTube, there is a

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new background. Listen. We have
things going on in this apartment. This

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is not the final production, although
I don't mind it. You know new

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vibe. You can see my coffee
table TV. My living room is very

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minimal. I need to get a
carpet still. You guys know, I

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moved my makeup and like my desk
more into the living room, but it

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looks really put together. I feel
like I just love this setup. I

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know you can't really see too much
of it, but follow me on Instagram

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because I'm always posting, and lately
I've been posting my mirror selfies in the

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new mirror area and it looks brilliant. It's here. It's a little bit

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of a rebrun but what I did. The reason why I'm the reason why

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that I'm in my living room right
now is because I need to make space

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for my actual office where the studio
is going to be. Because I did

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purchase the chair, okay, and
I got it custom blue, and I'm

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really hoping that the blue that I
get is like the proper baby blue,

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the cloud blue, something similar to
the color that I'm wearing in my podcast

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photo. So for the time being, we will be in the living room.

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I don't hate it. I do
not hate it. If you're listening

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on audio, then you know,
maybe go check out the pod if you're

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really interested and to see my living
room, but you probably don't really care.

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Also, just one more thing,
I am wearing this long sleeve shirt

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from Aloe. They did send it
to me because I'm gonna be working with

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them on a new project. But
I gotta say this is snatching the body

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where it needs to be snatched,
and the color, the dark green,

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is giving fall. So I don't
know if you want it. I have

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it linked on my light to know
it. But we are not here to

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talk about shirts today, are we. No, we are not. We

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are here to talk about back to
school season, because you know what,

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I realize that just because I'm not
going back to school doesn't mean y'all aren't

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going back to school. And honestly, when I look at my analytics,

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and I see your guys's age,
and yes, I know how old you

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guys are. Well, not really
individually, I do not know how old

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every single one of you guys are, but in general, my analytics tell

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me the age group that listens to
my podcasts, and I would say is

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a pretty fifty fifty split between eighteen
and twenty four and then like twenty four

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to thirty four, so you know, we got the young ins love you

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guys like eighteen years old? Wow, was I even listening? Yes,

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I was listening to podcast when I
was eighteen. But I love it.

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I love that you guys are so
interested in this kind of content, healing,

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leveling up, going up into the
best version of yourself at eighteen,

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Like, girl, you really have
it together more than you even think.

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And even the ones who were older
are like the thirty four year old.

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I know there's older people who listen
to my podcast too, which I'm also

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just honored. I freaking love that
so regardless. I posted on the Instagram,

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not the Instagram, the podcast Instagram, the Globe Secrets podcast. If

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you guys like pin, if you
guys are really into Pinterest and like Pinterest

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quotes, and just like I don't
know, funny, cool aesthetic things.

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Then definitely follow the podcast Instagram because
it's just I don't know, it's fun

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over there. But I do also
ask all of the Q and A's on

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there and all my Instagram sometimes and
I just tell you guys to go somewhere

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whatever. I ask you guys,
what advice you need for back to school,

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and a lot of you guys sent
in questions, and you guys needed

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advice, So we got to make
a whole episode about this. Now,

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this is definitely going to be for
any age group, like the freshman's,

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the ones who were just graduating,
the ones who were going into college,

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the ones who maybe took a few
years off and they're going back to college

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as a mature student. You guys
had a lot of questions regarding balancing so

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many things now that you're going back
into the school year. Advice for when

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it comes to friendships, obviously that's
a thing, failing grades, being productive.

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A few of you guys were asking
about what to do when you're taking

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a major that your parents are making
you take. So I compiled a list,

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of course in my notion. My
notion, I freaking love notion.

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I guess that's the first tip for
your back to school get on notion.

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Yeah. Anyways, I compiled a
list and we're gonna go through them,

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and I'm gonna give you my best
advice. Listen, I've been in school

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for I haven't sorry if you didn't
hear that. I have not been in

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school for a very long time.
When my last program, I graduated in

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twenty twenty nineteen, so it was
the beginning of twenty nineteen, well not

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the beginning, I should say springtime
of twenty nineteen and then but you know

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what, Okay, let me just
let me know it. Let me completely

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backtrack here and give you a little
rundown of like my college experience in a

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way, I'm not going to give
everything because like I want to give you

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guys the tips. So I right
after high school, I went to Durham

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College and I took special event planning
and then I end up having to come

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back home because your girl didn't have
enough money. And that's the times where

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things were rough back home with my
mom as well. So I went back

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home. I ended up working for
like a year at Tim Horenn's and I

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worked full time girl six to two
six to two woke my ass up every

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day at like five am. I
grinded, I worked, and I just

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I don't know. I was like
eighteen at that point, and yeah,

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eighteen years old. So I wasso
trying to figure out what type of program

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that I wanted to take. I
was just trying to like make money and

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get my car, get my license, all that kind of stuff. And

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then I ended up going back to
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and I went to Georgian College.
By the way, I'm from Barry,

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Ontario, if anyone does not know. And so I went to Georgian

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College, which was like in my
hometown Berry, and I took what I

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take, hospitality management for hotels and
resorts. I don't really, I think

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at that point, I just was
like looking at different programs and I wanted,

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like that sound interested to me,
interesting to me. Sorry, I

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had no idea about psychology. I
had no idea about mindset work. I

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was like just kind of starting like
fitness and health like interested in that,

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but I had no really idea of
like like I was into self help,

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yes, but I wasn't I didn't
like correlate like that could be maybe something

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that I pursue for a career,
so like that was not even a thing

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for me. I literally didn't even
know that, Like you could go to

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school for psychology in high school,
Like nobody told me that, Like I

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missed the memo on that one.
But I digress. So I went to

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school for hospitality management for hotels and
resorts. I was like a two year

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program. Learned business, learned how
to manage resorts like hotels, all that

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kind of stuff, got a lot
of experience would honestly, it was like

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a pretty well rounded course. But
as I was in that course, I

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started to get really into health and
fitness. This is where like my self

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development era had occurred, like full
blown whatever, and so I kind of

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knew honestly, by the time I
was done that course, I didn't really

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want to pursue like working in hospitality
management. And then I got into hospitality

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in terms of making money, like
as a servant and things like that,

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but I didn't really want to go
any further than that. I didn't want

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to go out west like most of
the people in my program did. They

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all went out West and they all
worked at like the really beautiful hotels and

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BAMF. I didn't have had no
literally, you could not catch me out

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in BAM for nothing. For nothing, I wanted to be like send me

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out to Florida or something, but
I wasn't going there, and so I

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didn't really do much with that program. But throughout by the time I was

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done in that program, I should
say I got really into health and fitness,

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and so I already was already pursuing
another program, which was I ended

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up being Workplaced Wellness and health Promotion, so that was kind of more aligned

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to me, and I took that
program as well. So that's when I

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moved out to closer to Toronto and
I took that course, and then I

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got a job through co Op.
And then as I was going as I

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did my co op and I got
into that job. This is now beginning

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of like twenty nineteen, and then
I got a full time position at a

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tech company being a health and well
as consultant. As I was doing that,

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though, I started getting into like
really getting into psychology and mental health

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and stuff like that. And now
I had always been into mental health like

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way before I even took that,
but I started to realize especially in the

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fitness and health space, especially from
my experience and working with other people that

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it was so much meant it was
like it was your mental health that was

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the issue. It wasn't the fact
that you don't know what to do in

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the gym. So I kind of
realized very quickly I didn't want to be

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in that field, and so I
was trying to figure out like what I

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wanted to do. And in that
moment in time, that's where my hand

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pain occurred, which made me go
deeper into mental health and understand more about

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psychology and everything like that in my
body connection. And then the pandemic happened,

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and then I was still working at
that job, but I was trying

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to heal myself, so like I
wasn't trying to pursue a new career because

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I didn't even know if I could
even start a new career. And I

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definitely by the time I was out
of all that my death and my rebirth,

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I healed myself. And this is
when COVID started like calming down a

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little bit more and everyone was going
back to work and I was still a

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server by the way, and I
was doing still working at the tech company.

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I realized that I wanted to leave
the tech company because it wasn't paying

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me enough and this is not even
what I wanted to pursue anyways, and

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so I was like, you know
what, I'll just grind it out.

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I'll just bartend. I'm making way
more money, and I will either consider

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going back to school to do something
in psychology field or I will Actually it

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wasn't really an or. I was
just considering, like do I want to

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go back for another four to six
years to become a psychologist or something,

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or do I want to like see
other routes, Like I was into sematic

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therapy when I still am just life
coaching in general, just coaching. I

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took a lot of different like extra
cool, that's not even the word.

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I took a lot of courses outside
of regular schooling. I spent a lot

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of money learning about like it,
took a bunch of stress resilience courses.

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I obviously I got certified as a
life coach, health coach, so many

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coaches certifications you don't even need to
be, but whatever, I took all

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of these like extra things. So
I was trying to figure out what I

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wanted to do. And then this
is when I was also starting my social

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media and I just knew that I
wanted to do social media and that was

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going. I wasn't like I wasn't
going to not go back to school,

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but I just I knew that I
wanted to do and share what I've learned

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through my whole entire life on social
media, and I didn't need to go

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be a psychologist to do that.
Like, that's totally fine, that can

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share my story. I just say
all that because I've gone through a lot

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of different ebbs and flows. So
I mean, maybe the first thing when

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it comes to giving you advice is
it's totally fine if you do not know

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what you want to fully do.
And I think that you'll just never fully

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know until you start something and then
you realize, oh I don't like this,

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or oh I like this instead,
and you kind of go wherever you

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want. Even for me, like
I'm a lifelong learner, I don't think

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that I'll ever stop learning, whether
that be traditional school or different programs that

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I'm investing in outside of the actual
school system, which I really not gonna

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lie. I don't want to get
too much into this, but I do

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think that especially in Canada. I'm
live in Canada. Do you think a

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lot of the school systems have a
lot of politics weaving themselves within a lot

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of curriculum, and that's been one
of the reasons why I haven't actually decided

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to go back to school, because
there's a lot of political things happening,

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and so yeah, anyways, and
also I'm just successful doing what I'm doing.

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And but anyways, regardless, I
will always be life long learner,

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whether I go back to school or
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Whatever. So again, I say
all that because I have definitely been

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through the journey and I've had to
go back. I've had to contemplate about

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going back or deciding not to,
or just dealing with all the things that

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come with schooling. Schooling was such
a huge part of my life only until

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kind of recently, but it's still
kind of is. But I think it's

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important to talk about this because,
yeah, schooling is going to be a

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part of your life probably for a
long time. So it's like, how

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can we enjoy the process more?
How can we not you know, only

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love our lives when it's like two
months of summer and then the rest we're

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just dreading it because we hate what
we're doing or we don't know how to

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be productive, or we struggle with
friends like all that kind of stuff,

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Like we need to learn how to
enjoy this because it's going to be a

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part of our lives for a long
time. And for me personally, education

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is always going to be a part
of my life and I don't want to

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ever give that up. I actually
love it, but I didn't love it

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back in the day. I was
really not It wasn't that I wasn't a

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good student, but I you know
what, we're going to talk about that

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because somebody had asked about feeling like
not smart enough and stuff, and that

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was that was my experience in high
school. I was not a good student

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in a way. I was not
getting good grades, I didn't understand anything.

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Ever, I got pulled out of
class to sit in those classes where

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they gave you extra time, which
ended up messing me up more because then

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I was lost. When I got
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was told basically like I was not
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way, and so that really affect
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understand things, and until I completely
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grade twelve. Instantly my grades got
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really really good in college and I
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applied myself simply and also changing how
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and dumb to somebody who understands things. And it's fine if I need more

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time, like and I'm not actually
saying like not actually trying to call myself

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dumb or slow, but like literally
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anyways, let's get into the tips, because there's a lot. So somebody

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had asked tips for freshman year of
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year. Okay. So the thing
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we don't really call each year like
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are. We just call it like
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and twelve, like that is high
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I believe I could look that up, and I'm too lazy because I'm

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reading off my notion. Whatever you're
early in your school year, I already

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know it understand that everyone everyone is
in your shoes when you were starting out

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somewhere new or like a new grade
or whatever. Like everyone doesn't know what

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the f they're doing. Everyone is
scared and nervous. Everyone wants to do

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really well. So just like embrace
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the times it's like we demonize the
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the fact that we're nervous, or
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how do I be more confident?
How do I like love this stuff?

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nervous today, Like yeah, oh
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school and like nobody really knows each
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this. That like just embrace that
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pressure on yourself when you try and
tell yourself like you shouldn't be nervous or

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you shouldn't be in this like new
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when you are starting anything off in
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coming back to anything. Be open
to friends, be open to listening,

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be open to the teachers. Just
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going to help you be able to
create networks and friendships and connections everything,

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regardless of the goal is to have
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to good grades. Like I just
being open with your energy is going to

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be so important for you to actually
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that. One more thing is I
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I think sometimes again we put a
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we're starting a new year in school
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my gosh, like I have to
have the perfect outfit or I have to

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like say the right thing. Like
you might put a lot of pressure on

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yourself to let's say, find a
group of friends, and you know,

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if you aren't having the best first
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people are not as a social or
whatever, if you're super attached to being

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like oh I have to have I
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I have to understand a concept in
school, or like you know, my

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life is over, then it's just
again you're just adding more pressure to yourself.

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So detach from like needing to have
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like needing to have the best grades, like you're going to get them.

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Yes, you're absolutely gonna get them, but like just chill, relax,

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like it doesn't need to be that
big of a deal, like you will

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absolutely figure it out. Somebody asked
advice on being motivated but then procrastinating on

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things, and I just wrote my
notes like you're not always going to be

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motivated, like you can't always rely
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continue to speak on that more,
but just know, like you're not always

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going to feel motivated, so I'll
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always be motivated, so don't rely
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connections with people and make friends while
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if you are somebody who's like studying
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but definitely don't underestimate the importance of
connection. And I used to do

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this too, like I am definitely
an introvert, and especially back in the

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day, like I had no interest
in making friends. Well, I did

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have the college experience for sure,
when I went to Durham College. But

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as I was getting older, I
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work done and that's that. And
that's totally fine if that's like where you're

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at in life. But I also
did not have a social group to begin

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with, Like I didn't even really
have like solid friendship, So I really

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should have been putting myself out more. And so what I would say for

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that, and I think this kind
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too, is get yourself out of
the house. So if you can maybe

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go study or work at a like
a public library that's near you. I

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used to do that sometimes depending on
the school, like I'm you might have

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certain connections with different libraries or the
actual school library of course, going to

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coffee shops, going to places where
you know there's a lot of students that

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spend a lot of their times because
students don't just always stay at the school

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to study. Like I know,
when I was in college, I definitely

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went to different like coffee shops,
just getting around people who are kind of

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in that same vibe as you college
student, or even maybe they're just they

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have their normal jobs. Getting around
those people, you're going to give yourself

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the opportunity potentially just to look somebody
in the eyes and say hi, and

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then you say hi every single time
that you're there, and then eventually you

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start talking. Like very small little
things that you do changing up your environment

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will make a big impact on the
potential friendships that you will make in your

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life. But like you just have
to think about like this, and I

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guess this can kind of be a
limiting belief because yes, you can make

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friends in certain situations, but like
if you're always at home, the chances

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are you are not going to have
a lot of friendships or connections because you're

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always at home. So if that's
what you're looking for, you must take

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yourself outside of your home. Go
to coffee shop, go to a library

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that's like public. You can even
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that there's there was a lot of
Facebook groups that I would get into.

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I remember when I was going to
Durham College. There's like Facebook groups for

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the dorms and stuff, so you
can meet friends that way, and then

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they would have like weekly meetups where
you would study together or you would even

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go out together. Like there's so
many things even looking in your hometown,

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Like I know, that outside of
Georgian College, there were different I don't

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know, companies that would run these
like weekends college things where it was more

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so like bar stuff, which I'm
not really suggesting you go do like bar

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hops and stuff, but like that
is another way that you could meet people,

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even if you like you follow them
on Instagram. In the next day,

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like you go and meet up with
them and stuff. Obviously, not

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everyone, especially at the bar,
is going to be your best friend during

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the day, but you never know, right, and it doesn't always have

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to be bar things, like there's
always things probably going around to looking in

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your hometown on Facebook groups things like
that, and even I'm sure you have

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some friends who are in college that
have other friends. So there's many times

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where you know what I actually think
about this when it comes to my siblings.

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By the way, if you guys
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few siblings, but they're half siblings, so I technically like I was,

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I grew up in a single parent
not single parent, single child household,

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I guess, but I did have
sisters and a brother who were around my

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age, but same dad, different
moms, so they lived with their moms

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and I went to a high school
right down the street from two of my

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siblings, and then my actual my
third sister, ended up going to that

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high school as well. So they
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at East View, and so I
didn't have like the best I had friend

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groups at East View, but I
feel like my high school experience was it

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was just like awkward and weird,
and it wasn't like I didn't have friends.

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I definitely did, but I didn't
have like the best friendships because I

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was also like unhappy and like I
had friends. I definitely did, and

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we did a lot of things together. So I don't even know why I'm

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saying that, but whatever doesn't matter. I think high school is like friendships

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are way different than older friendships.
But a lot of the times I hung

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out with my siblings and then I
met so many of my current friends now

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from them because I went to their
parties. And it's so funny because last

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night on Instagram, this is going
to be a quick side note, probably

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not quick though. Last night I
posted a video on my story and it

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was this video where you know where
they have like little camcorders of recording whoever

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comes in and out of the house
and it was recording like like a bunch

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of kids, like boys and girls
walking in the house out of the house.

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They had like towels and bathing suits
and you know, just like every

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day. The camera was just recording
them coming in and out and there were

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just like a bunch of friend groups
and whatever, and they're talking about how

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or the parents I guess had recorded
that and put it on Instagram and they

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were like when your house is the
house and they're just saying, like,

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you know, we have the house
that everyone comes to. We have all

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the snacks, we have all the
things. All the kids always want to

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come over things like that, which, by the way, I want that

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for my kids so bad, Like
I want to have a home where all

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their friends come over, pool parties, like team parties, whatever. It

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is like I will be that suburban
mother living through my children. I promise

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you that. I promise you that. But anyways, I had posted that

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and my sister had responded last night
and she was like, oh my god,

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this just reminds us. Reminds me
of the days when we when her

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house was the house. By the
way, her mom always let everyone come

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over. And my brother he was
he played football, he played soccer,

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he played everything. He was like
one of those like light skin athletes that

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like everyone loved, like everyone loved
Row and so he was like very popular

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and like everyone always wanted to come
to the parties. And then Vanessa was

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a very big socialite as well,
so she had like a lot of friends

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whatever. So everyone was always at
the place at the house, and I

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met so many people from just putting
myself there and now obviously like they're my

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siblings, so I was just like
over there all the time. But I

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just mean, simply, if you
have a friend who is more of a

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social butterfly than you, go hang
out with that friend and listen, Okay,

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I was talking about partying. Obviously
partying is not the most important thing.

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But I've I definitely met people who
I didn't just like party with.

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I was able to see and hang
out with during the day, and I

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got into their friend groups and things
like that. So I think, honestly,

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the best thing is if you are
somebody who's more isolated, and you

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you were from home, you study
from home, whatever, who is your

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friend that's more of a social butterfly
than you, because honestly, go out

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with them a few times, and
you will make a lot more friends,

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like honestly, and you'll probably pick
up how to be a little bit more

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social as well. That is my
best tip. Someone asked, how does

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that being anxious about studying, and
I think that, like, you need

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to remind yourself that you're not gonna
die if you don't understand something or if

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something feels overwhelming. Okay, because
this is a thing like when you're when

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you think about studying, it's like
this huge project and you have the story

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that's attached to it, and the
story is like I can't do it.

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It's going to be so hard,
I'm not going to understand it. I

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need to get this grade, or
like I'm gonna die. Like you need

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to kind of like de escalate the
situation or the story that you have in

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your mind about what it is that
you're about to do, like truly,

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because if you don't, then yes, it's going to feel that big.

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It's going to feel like you're literally
going to die, and then you're going

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to continue to procrastinate it. And
you know, I think another thing is

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you need to start in smaller chunks
when you feel like, oh my gosh,

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this thing is so big. You
want to work on the story that

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you're telling yourself about this thing,
and then you want to give yourself a

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little small tangible goals or like things
that you want to work towards when it

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comes to maybe studying or working on
a project, if you think about that

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whole entire project and how you have
to get all this done, and oh

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my god, I have to research
for like two weeks, and then on

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top of that, then I have
to come up with the presentation and then

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I have to think about presenting it
in front of my class, and I

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have so much anxiety, and that's
going to be a whole Okay, let's

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not even think about you presenting in
front of the class. Irrelevant right now.

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Okay, let's not think about the
fact that you have to then take

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all that research and put it into
something to presentation. Irrelevant right now.

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Let's first look at the fact that
you have to research. Okay, that

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is still a little bit big and
like it's a lot, but let's just

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only focus on that. We will
focus on the rest of stuff later.

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And on top of that, how
can we make doing the research of this

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project a little bit more tangible,
a little less scary Okay, well,

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let's not think about having to spend
the whole entire week, every single day

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after school for five hours studying on
this thing, Like that's also really big.

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Okay, how can I bring it
into smaller chunks? Okay, well

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maybe if I have to study every
single day, which I do think when

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you are working on a projects,
it really is helpful for you to stay

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00:25:37.920 --> 00:25:41.359
consistent on that thing and do it
in smaller chunks rather than you wait a

411
00:25:41.400 --> 00:25:45.559
whole week and then you bust it
out for like five hours. I do

412
00:25:45.720 --> 00:25:51.599
think that it just it helps with
anxiety if if you do something small every

413
00:25:51.599 --> 00:25:55.119
single day I do think that.
So, yeah, instead of doing four

414
00:25:55.160 --> 00:25:57.640
hours, you're just going to do
one hour, and within that one hour

415
00:25:57.720 --> 00:26:02.880
study session, you're going to a
method that we're going to talk about later

416
00:26:02.920 --> 00:26:04.920
on when it comes to studying.
So it makes it even easier, Like

417
00:26:04.960 --> 00:26:08.640
you really have to make things smaller, more tangible. If not, the

418
00:26:08.680 --> 00:26:11.759
story is going to be insane,
you're going to keep procrastinating and then you're

419
00:26:11.759 --> 00:26:15.599
going to make it way worse than
it needs to be. And it truly

420
00:26:15.640 --> 00:26:17.559
does not need to be like that, because at the end of the day,

421
00:26:17.920 --> 00:26:19.400
you are not going to die.
I promise you that I know studying

422
00:26:19.400 --> 00:26:22.359
can be annoying and difficult, but
you will not die. You'll be able

423
00:26:22.400 --> 00:26:26.400
to do it. Okay, somebody
asked, how can I say consistent with

424
00:26:26.440 --> 00:26:30.400
my healthy habits when my whole entire
routine changes now that you're going back to

425
00:26:30.440 --> 00:26:33.960
school, which it would totally makes
sense, right because usually maybe during the

426
00:26:33.960 --> 00:26:36.720
summer, you're waking up at like
eight o'clock or nine o'clock and you have

427
00:26:36.839 --> 00:26:37.880
time to, like, I don't
know, do whatever. Maybe you have

428
00:26:38.119 --> 00:26:41.000
a job, so you work at
like five o'clock or whatever you do,

429
00:26:41.480 --> 00:26:45.079
but you have so much time.
But now, like back to school,

430
00:26:45.079 --> 00:26:47.680
you got to wake up at like
six am get things done, and you

431
00:26:47.759 --> 00:26:49.880
have all this time throughout the day
that you're at school. Like, I

432
00:26:49.960 --> 00:26:55.400
totally get it. Oh my gosh. I just remember I was posting a

433
00:26:55.480 --> 00:27:00.920
Drake song the other day, Scholarships
from What a Time to Be Alive?

434
00:27:00.160 --> 00:27:03.960
I think that's the album I don't
really remember, and it just brought me

435
00:27:04.000 --> 00:27:07.400
back to the time where I was
really really in my health and fitness grind,

436
00:27:07.440 --> 00:27:11.039
although I usually am so I don't
even know why. I like say

437
00:27:11.079 --> 00:27:15.519
it as if I'm not really,
but I would wake up at like five

438
00:27:15.599 --> 00:27:19.920
am in the dead middle of the
winter, dark as shit, eat my

439
00:27:19.960 --> 00:27:25.039
oatmeal with my protein powder and my
freaking peanut butter in that thing. Because

440
00:27:25.039 --> 00:27:27.759
that's when I was counting macros,
which don't recommend. That was just way

441
00:27:27.759 --> 00:27:32.079
too stressful for me. I would
listen to that song. I would drive

442
00:27:32.119 --> 00:27:36.039
my old ass mas staff from my
grandma's house because me and my mom got

443
00:27:36.119 --> 00:27:38.000
kicked out of our trap house at
that point and I wasn't living with her.

444
00:27:38.119 --> 00:27:42.160
Love that for me, so I
just grinded more. That was a

445
00:27:42.160 --> 00:27:47.319
hard time for me, and I
would drive to the gym and I would

446
00:27:47.319 --> 00:27:49.759
do like my hour workout and then
I would get to class at like I

447
00:27:49.759 --> 00:27:52.880
don't even know by then, it
was like six to seven seven ish,

448
00:27:53.359 --> 00:27:56.079
and I would oh, my gosh, it's so funny because I would have

449
00:27:56.200 --> 00:28:00.680
usually have oatmeal again. I would
literally go to tim Moren I would ask

450
00:28:00.960 --> 00:28:03.519
for a hot cup of water and
I would go sit my ass down in

451
00:28:03.599 --> 00:28:10.200
class and I would pull out my
container with my more protein powder and oats

452
00:28:10.440 --> 00:28:11.680
and I would put the hot water
in it. I would make it in

453
00:28:11.759 --> 00:28:15.079
class, and that's that's what I
would eat, and then I would be

454
00:28:15.160 --> 00:28:18.720
into class because I just need to
get it done. Like I didn't have

455
00:28:18.759 --> 00:28:21.319
a lot of time, and you
know, it wasn't summer anymore where I

456
00:28:21.359 --> 00:28:22.480
could wake up at like seven o'clock
and go to the gym and have this

457
00:28:22.559 --> 00:28:26.759
like fun fresh that girl morning routine. So I say all that, I

458
00:28:26.759 --> 00:28:30.119
don't know, maybe as inspiration,
but also like this is what you're gonna

459
00:28:30.119 --> 00:28:34.720
have to understand. Your priorities are
going to shift. Okay, so you

460
00:28:34.839 --> 00:28:40.160
might have to, yes, do
a shorter workout if that's what you want

461
00:28:40.200 --> 00:28:45.440
to do when it comes to consistent
with your healthy habits. Another thing is

462
00:28:45.640 --> 00:28:48.640
maybe you need to go to sleep
at least thirty minutes earlier than you usually

463
00:28:48.640 --> 00:28:52.759
do, or wake up at least
fifteen minutes earlier than you usually do.

464
00:28:52.839 --> 00:28:56.000
And I know it sounds like small
and like that's not gonna make a difference.

465
00:28:56.039 --> 00:28:57.880
It does. If you want to
be healthy, you're gonna have to

466
00:28:57.960 --> 00:29:00.799
understand the priorities are going to switch. But on top of that, you're

467
00:29:00.799 --> 00:29:03.480
gonna need to make a little bit
more room for things, and you're going

468
00:29:03.519 --> 00:29:07.519
to shorten the things that you do
do when it comes to healthy habits.

469
00:29:07.759 --> 00:29:11.599
But it's still it's still going to
count. Your workout is still going to

470
00:29:11.680 --> 00:29:14.559
count, even if you do a
thirty minute workout versus like your forty five

471
00:29:14.599 --> 00:29:17.680
minute like going to the gym and
getting everything done, like having the best

472
00:29:17.680 --> 00:29:18.640
time in your life. Like you
just need to be a little bit more

473
00:29:18.640 --> 00:29:22.880
efficient. Now, I will suggest
you will listen to the podcast that I

474
00:29:22.000 --> 00:29:26.519
posted last week about productivity. I
talk about a lot of ways in which

475
00:29:26.559 --> 00:29:29.359
that you can be more productive and
more efficient and short amount of times.

476
00:29:29.359 --> 00:29:33.240
And someone had also asked how to
manage seven hours of school two hours of

477
00:29:33.559 --> 00:29:36.720
tuition? They said tuition, I
don't know what that really means. Homework,

478
00:29:36.839 --> 00:29:40.119
exams, hobbies, getting it all
done. And honestly, like,

479
00:29:40.160 --> 00:29:44.839
if I'm gonna be dead ass with
you, and I'm doing this because I

480
00:29:44.880 --> 00:29:48.720
want you to just like not be
so stressed, You're not going to get

481
00:29:48.720 --> 00:29:52.720
it all done. You're not You're
not going to be able to get seven

482
00:29:52.880 --> 00:29:57.440
eight hours of school and then like
let's say you have a job and then

483
00:29:57.720 --> 00:30:06.599
hobbies and then all your healthy routines
and balancing friends and family and everything perfect,

484
00:30:06.839 --> 00:30:08.480
You're not going to do it.
And guess what, you don't need

485
00:30:08.519 --> 00:30:12.000
to this is a new season of
your life. Understand this. Okay,

486
00:30:12.160 --> 00:30:15.279
So the season of life for you, for most of you is school.

487
00:30:15.680 --> 00:30:19.640
So the main priority is going to
be school and studying and getting the ship

488
00:30:19.759 --> 00:30:23.000
done that you need to get done
and being very productive and efficient and learning

489
00:30:23.000 --> 00:30:29.680
how to do things and not waste
your time of course, but even then

490
00:30:29.799 --> 00:30:33.559
there's still going to be like a
little bit of time and your days and

491
00:30:33.559 --> 00:30:36.480
your weeks where you're going to have
to be able to allot it to your

492
00:30:36.519 --> 00:30:40.839
hobbies, to your friends, to
your work whatever. It's not that you

493
00:30:40.880 --> 00:30:44.559
can't have your hobbies or you can't
see your friends, but maybe it's gonna

494
00:30:44.559 --> 00:30:48.039
look like you're probably having like a
weekend with your friends once a month,

495
00:30:48.279 --> 00:30:52.240
like you have three other weekends.
Like there's not that many weekends in a

496
00:30:52.240 --> 00:30:55.079
month, right, so you know, ideally, yes, we want to

497
00:30:55.079 --> 00:30:57.119
have our weekends with our friends and
there are hobbies and then after school like

498
00:30:57.599 --> 00:31:00.440
asleep whatever. But really basically,
yeah, maybe it's going to be once

499
00:31:00.440 --> 00:31:03.519
a month that you go and see
your friends and you go out and do

500
00:31:03.599 --> 00:31:07.440
something, and the other three weekends
are using to prioritize your hobbies or working

501
00:31:07.759 --> 00:31:12.519
working at work like I did not
have a social life for so many freaking

502
00:31:12.559 --> 00:31:15.880
years because weekends we're not an option
for me to just go hang out.

503
00:31:15.920 --> 00:31:18.480
And if I did go out,
I was still getting my ass up and

504
00:31:18.519 --> 00:31:22.559
working. Like there was I never, ever, ever, ever, until

505
00:31:23.039 --> 00:31:29.000
I went full time as a social
media influencer that I had free weekends to

506
00:31:29.039 --> 00:31:33.480
like wake up at eight am and
like watch YouTube videos and like go see

507
00:31:33.480 --> 00:31:36.240
my friends and like get ready and
like whatever. No, I worked.

508
00:31:36.960 --> 00:31:38.680
I worked all of the time,
and if I did go out, I

509
00:31:38.799 --> 00:31:44.559
literally this is insane that I even
did this. But I would go out

510
00:31:44.920 --> 00:31:48.200
to the club. And this is
like early in the college years. Though,

511
00:31:48.319 --> 00:31:49.920
I will say, but even when
after the college years, like I

512
00:31:51.000 --> 00:31:52.400
still worked and sometimes I would go
out, but maybe it wouldn't go as

513
00:31:52.480 --> 00:31:56.279
late. But when like my early
college years, I would literally go out

514
00:31:56.319 --> 00:32:00.559
to the club. I would get
home maybe two oclock, get into bed

515
00:32:00.599 --> 00:32:06.720
at three o'clock, wake my ass
up at five am to start my tim

516
00:32:06.759 --> 00:32:09.799
Horton shift at six am. That's
literally what I would do until I started

517
00:32:09.799 --> 00:32:14.759
to move into the more bartending industry. And then obviously I had like days

518
00:32:14.799 --> 00:32:17.720
where I could actually sleep in,
but still, you know what I would

519
00:32:17.759 --> 00:32:22.200
do when I would bartend, and
I would like bartend weddings and whatever.

520
00:32:22.079 --> 00:32:24.880
The wedding would be done at,
Like it depends on when. Sometimes I

521
00:32:24.880 --> 00:32:29.480
would close a shift and there'd be
no point because everyone that's downtown would be

522
00:32:29.519 --> 00:32:31.759
leaving. But sometimes I would be
done around like twelve or one o'clock.

523
00:32:31.960 --> 00:32:37.200
Guess where my ass was going downtown
to meet all my friends. Like,

524
00:32:37.279 --> 00:32:39.480
girl, you just worked an eight
hour shift. So anyways, I say

525
00:32:39.480 --> 00:32:42.960
all that just to say, you're
not going to be able to balance at

526
00:32:43.000 --> 00:32:45.960
all, and that's totally fine,
so don't try, Like, just don't

527
00:32:45.000 --> 00:32:50.759
try to do it, like take
off the stress. Understand that there's going

528
00:32:50.799 --> 00:32:54.599
to be so much time for hobbies
and so much time for friends and all

529
00:32:54.640 --> 00:32:59.400
of these amazing things certain areas of
your life, and it doesn't need to

530
00:32:59.400 --> 00:33:02.680
be perfectly It's like a perfectly balanced
life does not exist. Like we can

531
00:33:02.799 --> 00:33:07.400
try and aim for balance, but
it's not. It's not always going to

532
00:33:07.440 --> 00:33:09.440
be like that, and that's totally
fine. Someone had asked advice for going

533
00:33:09.480 --> 00:33:14.319
back to school after a few years. So I'm assuming you're probably like a

534
00:33:14.359 --> 00:33:17.160
mature student, so maybe you took
time off and then you're going back,

535
00:33:17.480 --> 00:33:22.000
and they also said, like how
to put blinders on and just like focus

536
00:33:22.240 --> 00:33:28.559
on yourself without comparing. I'm assuming, I'm assuming what they mean is feeling

537
00:33:28.640 --> 00:33:30.119
maybe a little bit insecure because you're
going back to school. Maybe you're a

538
00:33:30.119 --> 00:33:35.720
little bit older, and you're not
in like the college scene of like partying

539
00:33:35.799 --> 00:33:38.000
and like doing like I don't know, sorority shit, not like we had

540
00:33:38.039 --> 00:33:40.240
it here, but like that kind
of stuff, you know, the partying

541
00:33:40.240 --> 00:33:46.799
that this that understand that there are
so many people who are mature students and

542
00:33:46.880 --> 00:33:52.799
who take a long periods of time
off and come back. And so I

543
00:33:52.839 --> 00:33:55.160
just say that because you're not alone, Like you're absolutely not alone, but

544
00:33:55.240 --> 00:33:59.720
even younger people like not everyone does
the whole college experience in the partying.

545
00:33:59.759 --> 00:34:02.039
Some people can't. Like I did
for a little bit when I was living

546
00:34:02.039 --> 00:34:06.119
in the dorms at Durham College.
But like at the end of the day,

547
00:34:06.240 --> 00:34:10.559
like girl, like I not no
nepple baby, nobody paying my bills.

548
00:34:10.960 --> 00:34:14.760
Okay, I had to get up
every day and every single time that

549
00:34:14.800 --> 00:34:17.440
I wasn't studying, I was basically
working or doing something. Like I tried

550
00:34:17.480 --> 00:34:22.039
my best to go out and have
fun, but like that wasn't the reality

551
00:34:22.320 --> 00:34:24.760
of like every single year in college. I experienced it for a little bit,

552
00:34:24.760 --> 00:34:27.960
but then I realized like now,
But on top of that, I

553
00:34:28.039 --> 00:34:30.559
didn't even really love it, Like
I wanted to work on my health and

554
00:34:30.559 --> 00:34:34.320
fitness and like prep myself for my
future because I had to, Like I

555
00:34:34.360 --> 00:34:36.920
was in survival mode, like I
had no time to chill. But honestly,

556
00:34:36.960 --> 00:34:39.880
I think that there's no point in
comparing yourself or judging yourself because no

557
00:34:39.880 --> 00:34:44.119
one's really judging you. But you
like if you were to go into a

558
00:34:44.119 --> 00:34:49.960
classroom, let's say, and everyone's
younger than you, it is really irrelevant

559
00:34:50.280 --> 00:34:53.159
that you're older. Like if somebody, let's says, if somebody did say

560
00:34:53.159 --> 00:34:57.280
something to you, it's like,
okay, well they're just being rude and

561
00:34:57.320 --> 00:35:00.760
insecure, so like they're irrelevant and
a lot of the times, like I

562
00:35:00.800 --> 00:35:04.719
remember when I was in school,
like if I did see something, there

563
00:35:05.039 --> 00:35:07.639
was always people who were older than
me in school, and I looked at

564
00:35:07.679 --> 00:35:10.239
them like amazing, You're amazing.
You're going back to school, you're taking

565
00:35:10.280 --> 00:35:15.519
something, you're getting stuff done,
Like who could even knock that? You

566
00:35:15.559 --> 00:35:19.119
know, like other than you,
Like you're the one being insecure, So

567
00:35:19.199 --> 00:35:22.039
anything that you think you're gonna perceive
everyone to be like judging you, and

568
00:35:22.159 --> 00:35:25.800
really it's like just you and your
perception. So anyways, yeah, like

569
00:35:25.920 --> 00:35:31.440
you're you're not wrong for going back. It's actually really like I commend you

570
00:35:31.480 --> 00:35:37.000
for going back. And also like
you're not missing out on anything. If

571
00:35:37.079 --> 00:35:40.159
you feel like you're back in college
and everyone else is like having that college

572
00:35:40.159 --> 00:35:45.639
experience and you're not, that's totally
fine. There's many many students regardless of

573
00:35:45.679 --> 00:35:49.559
age, that are not partying,
who are not like having all these crazy

574
00:35:49.599 --> 00:35:53.239
friend groups in sorority and like the
college pictures and this that Like, no,

575
00:35:53.679 --> 00:35:59.559
that is not that's just what you
see on social media honestly and maybe

576
00:35:59.679 --> 00:36:01.199
maybe sometimes in school too. But
like, it's totally fine if you're not

577
00:36:01.239 --> 00:36:05.039
that. Like, there's so many
people who you can find who are honestly

578
00:36:05.079 --> 00:36:07.599
just like studying and doing their own
thing as well. Okay, somebody asked

579
00:36:07.639 --> 00:36:13.840
how to decide your major. Listen, what you're not going to do is

580
00:36:13.920 --> 00:36:20.079
decide your life path from somebody on
the internet who gives you advice. So

581
00:36:20.199 --> 00:36:22.679
just take this with a pinch of
salt. Okay. I do think though,

582
00:36:22.760 --> 00:36:25.440
like one thing and by the way, like thank you for asking,

583
00:36:25.599 --> 00:36:30.639
Like I'm not saying like that that
was a stupid question, but it's just

584
00:36:30.679 --> 00:36:34.679
like you, I don't know,
Like I can only give you my advice

585
00:36:34.719 --> 00:36:37.039
to take out the pinch of salt. I think, for one, you're

586
00:36:37.079 --> 00:36:40.719
never going to fully know, so
just like always leave room for that.

587
00:36:40.960 --> 00:36:45.920
Like I feel like some people really
struggle with choosing me because they really just

588
00:36:45.920 --> 00:36:49.119
don't know. So I would say, you don't need to fully know,

589
00:36:49.239 --> 00:36:51.800
and most likely things are going to
change anyways, and you can do that

590
00:36:51.840 --> 00:36:54.519
throughout school, so don't wait for
the time that you're going to feel one

591
00:36:54.559 --> 00:36:58.639
thousand percent like yes, I got
this and I know exactly what I want

592
00:36:58.639 --> 00:37:00.960
to do. And even if you
do, I thought that I did.

593
00:37:00.000 --> 00:37:04.079
I told myself that I did,
and I decided that I did not want

594
00:37:04.079 --> 00:37:07.159
to do that. So it's totally
fine, okay, But you know,

595
00:37:07.360 --> 00:37:12.280
thinking about like what you do well
in or what major you should take.

596
00:37:12.639 --> 00:37:15.320
I think you just have to think
about what are you interested in? What

597
00:37:15.400 --> 00:37:21.639
could you sit down and like watch
youtubes for hours about like videos I should

598
00:37:21.639 --> 00:37:27.599
say not youtubes videos for like hours
about or read about or what does your

599
00:37:27.639 --> 00:37:31.239
friends or your family always say that
you're super super good at Now. I

600
00:37:31.280 --> 00:37:34.920
feel like a lot of people,
especially girls, would be like, oh,

601
00:37:35.039 --> 00:37:37.320
like I'm the advice friend, like
everyone comes to me for advice,

602
00:37:37.360 --> 00:37:39.000
like I love it whatever, and
you see them go into the field of

603
00:37:39.000 --> 00:37:45.800
psychology, which is like would make
kind of sense, maybe even more into

604
00:37:45.840 --> 00:37:50.039
communications per se, but like,
yeah, just thinking about you know,

605
00:37:50.119 --> 00:37:53.480
what are your kind of natural talents
and gifts. What are you naturally really

606
00:37:53.480 --> 00:37:57.519
really interested even if you let's say
you're not talented at that thing, but

607
00:37:57.559 --> 00:38:00.840
like what are you really interested in? And when you take that major,

608
00:38:00.000 --> 00:38:04.840
like you're going to find certain classes
that spark an interest within you and you

609
00:38:04.880 --> 00:38:07.840
can go in that direction. So
I would say that now. I think

610
00:38:07.880 --> 00:38:10.199
also making sure you do a lot
of research on the types of majors and

611
00:38:10.199 --> 00:38:15.519
like degrees and everything that you can
get is very helpful because I just think

612
00:38:15.599 --> 00:38:17.960
back to when I would take when
I took hospitality, Like as much as

613
00:38:19.039 --> 00:38:21.639
yes, I was interested in that
because that's how I thought I wanted to

614
00:38:21.800 --> 00:38:25.119
live my life and have that career, I also was not even looking at

615
00:38:25.119 --> 00:38:32.960
anything to do with marketing, communications
and or psychology or even social work or

616
00:38:34.000 --> 00:38:37.400
sociology anything like that, and those
were the things that I was actually really

617
00:38:37.440 --> 00:38:39.079
interested in. And I feel like
if I did more research than I would

618
00:38:39.079 --> 00:38:42.920
have came across programs like that,
and I probably would have considered doing that.

619
00:38:42.960 --> 00:38:46.400
So I would just really say,
do your research. And a lot

620
00:38:46.440 --> 00:38:50.599
of people nowadays, not everyone,
I know, all you guys are really

621
00:38:50.599 --> 00:38:52.920
into like social media and stuff,
but a lot of you guys are into

622
00:38:53.159 --> 00:38:57.639
wanting to do something with social media. Let's say, but let's say you

623
00:38:57.679 --> 00:39:00.199
still have to go to school,
Like for sure, I've seen a lot

624
00:39:00.239 --> 00:39:02.000
of people do this, and they've
actually especially in my one friend tests like

625
00:39:02.480 --> 00:39:06.599
she she I don't know if she
was into social media before she went to

626
00:39:06.599 --> 00:39:07.639
school. I don't think so.
I don't think that that's how it worked.

627
00:39:07.639 --> 00:39:13.800
But I see a lot of people
and her using their degrees to apply

628
00:39:13.960 --> 00:39:15.840
to things like social media, Like
they became content creators. That became something

629
00:39:15.880 --> 00:39:20.199
to do with branding or marketing things
like that. So let's say you're really

630
00:39:20.199 --> 00:39:22.760
into something to do with social media, well maybe if you go to that

631
00:39:22.840 --> 00:39:27.599
you go on into the school's website
and there's no actual program about like how

632
00:39:27.639 --> 00:39:30.400
to be social media influencer, or
whatever. But maybe you look at more

633
00:39:30.440 --> 00:39:36.159
things like marketing or pr communications,
and what you will find is there's gonna

634
00:39:36.159 --> 00:39:39.559
be a lot of crossover when it
comes to the social media world. So

635
00:39:39.599 --> 00:39:43.519
I would say, maybe look into
that if you're really interested in that,

636
00:39:43.840 --> 00:39:49.840
of course, obviously, like if
you love watching YouTube videos on health and

637
00:39:49.880 --> 00:39:52.840
wellness or YouTube videos. I don't
know, I know not everyone only just

638
00:39:52.880 --> 00:39:55.639
watches YouTube videos, but I'm just
saying, like this is just an example

639
00:39:55.679 --> 00:40:00.679
of something that may spark your interests. If you find that you're reading a

640
00:40:00.719 --> 00:40:04.440
lot or watching a lot of podcasts
or listening to a lot of podcasts about

641
00:40:04.440 --> 00:40:10.320
health, fitness, or psychology or
like social like social issues, then maybe

642
00:40:10.440 --> 00:40:15.760
you can look into like more social
work or sociology or of course psychology,

643
00:40:15.880 --> 00:40:20.239
things like that. So I would
just think about the things that you really

644
00:40:20.280 --> 00:40:23.480
love and are interested in, and
people will also say that you're really good

645
00:40:23.519 --> 00:40:28.000
at. Or let's say you start
asking your friends and family like what could

646
00:40:28.000 --> 00:40:32.000
you see me doing? You know, And a lot of the times sometimes

647
00:40:32.039 --> 00:40:36.519
we know, like when people tell
us like, oh, like I like

648
00:40:36.559 --> 00:40:37.559
when people tell me, oh,
I could see you being a therapist,

649
00:40:37.559 --> 00:40:40.119
Like obviously, it's like the number
one thing that I always get. I

650
00:40:40.159 --> 00:40:45.360
always knew that, But there's obviously
like certain things too that people will tell

651
00:40:45.360 --> 00:40:50.159
me that I never really thought of. But then I because people see parts

652
00:40:50.199 --> 00:40:55.079
of you that you actually don't necessarily
see or don't believe in. So like

653
00:40:55.199 --> 00:41:00.719
for me, I remember, like
all my life, people would always say

654
00:41:00.760 --> 00:41:02.320
that, like they could see me
becoming like one of those dancers, like

655
00:41:02.400 --> 00:41:08.320
background dancers or just like dancers with
people like big celebrities who are on stage

656
00:41:08.320 --> 00:41:14.159
all the time. And I was
like, I actually loved I wanted to

657
00:41:14.159 --> 00:41:16.719
do that, but like that part
of me was like thrown into my shadows

658
00:41:16.760 --> 00:41:20.360
so much that I had just like
never even considered it. I never ever

659
00:41:20.400 --> 00:41:22.920
looked at myself like somebody who could
ever be able to be a background dancer

660
00:41:23.000 --> 00:41:28.320
or whatever. But people around me
saw, like, you have talent,

661
00:41:28.519 --> 00:41:31.199
you could do that like whatever.
Obviously that wasn't my life path at least

662
00:41:31.239 --> 00:41:36.239
for right now it's not. But
like it's good to kind of ask people

663
00:41:36.599 --> 00:41:39.239
their opinions in a way, not
from a place of like guiding you and

664
00:41:39.320 --> 00:41:43.920
like deciding, but just to see
what people think and like what they could

665
00:41:43.960 --> 00:41:47.639
see you doing based off of your
amazingness that maybe you can't fully see yet.

666
00:41:47.719 --> 00:41:52.239
Okay, somebody said, well,
multiple people had said this, how

667
00:41:52.239 --> 00:41:55.840
to study something I don't really like? And she said it was med school

668
00:41:55.880 --> 00:41:58.679
or maybe it was a guy,
but I'm pretty sure it was a girl.

669
00:41:59.440 --> 00:42:00.719
But I have to because my parents. And then somebody else said,

670
00:42:00.719 --> 00:42:02.840
like, I want to drop out, but my mom is forcing me da

671
00:42:02.920 --> 00:42:07.679
da Again, this is coming from
somebody on the internet, Like, I

672
00:42:07.760 --> 00:42:10.679
can't dictate your life. Obviously,
if you are under the age of like

673
00:42:12.039 --> 00:42:15.719
eighteen, you only have so much
decision making that you can make, right.

674
00:42:15.800 --> 00:42:19.760
I really do think it's very unfortunate
that and this, you know what,

675
00:42:20.800 --> 00:42:24.400
I'll pay play Devil's advocate here.
I understand why parents, for the

676
00:42:24.440 --> 00:42:28.960
most part, push their children to
do something like med school or become a

677
00:42:29.000 --> 00:42:34.239
freaking scientist or become a well med
school as a doctor but whatever, something

678
00:42:34.400 --> 00:42:37.199
in that field, or a lawyer
or things like that, because that's what

679
00:42:37.239 --> 00:42:39.880
they've learned how to do, and
like that's gonna be quote unquote where you

680
00:42:39.920 --> 00:42:43.880
make money and things like that,
and it's it's like a survival thing.

681
00:42:44.039 --> 00:42:45.159
They want their best for the kids. This that. But I do think

682
00:42:45.199 --> 00:42:49.760
that it's also really sad because it's
like a lot of people don't want to

683
00:42:49.760 --> 00:42:52.039
do that. And I think that
there's a lot of people who go through

684
00:42:52.119 --> 00:42:53.599
years and the years and years of
this stuff where they end up becoming very

685
00:42:53.679 --> 00:42:59.400
unhappy and they're in debt and they
literally don't want to do it. So

686
00:43:00.320 --> 00:43:04.280
this is what I would suggest,
okay, And this is coming from somebody

687
00:43:04.360 --> 00:43:07.480
who did not have a parent who
forced them to do anything they didn't want

688
00:43:07.480 --> 00:43:10.559
to do. And when I mean
that is my mother. When my father

689
00:43:10.679 --> 00:43:14.000
is a whole completely different story.
But he also passed away when I was

690
00:43:14.039 --> 00:43:15.159
sixteen years old, and that would
have been a different story. Although he

691
00:43:15.199 --> 00:43:20.440
wasn't super hard with me when it
came to academia because he wasn't really an

692
00:43:20.440 --> 00:43:23.559
academic, he was hard on me
about other things. A lot of the

693
00:43:23.599 --> 00:43:28.760
times it was helpful and some of
the times it was traumatizing to say the

694
00:43:28.880 --> 00:43:32.000
least. But when it came to
school, he didn't really have that much

695
00:43:32.000 --> 00:43:36.519
of a say because he also wasn't
that successful when it came to school.

696
00:43:37.480 --> 00:43:40.719
Love him though, obviously arrest in
peace. But my mom, on the

697
00:43:40.760 --> 00:43:44.199
other hand, was completely different,
and she was very very open and like

698
00:43:44.320 --> 00:43:46.039
let me do whatever I wanted,
which was great. I love that.

699
00:43:46.159 --> 00:43:49.800
So it's coming from somebody who did
not have that. So this is what

700
00:43:49.920 --> 00:43:53.800
I think my best advice. And
like what maybe could I'm not even gonna

701
00:43:53.840 --> 00:43:57.679
say could work. Okay, I
understand that this might not work, but

702
00:43:57.800 --> 00:44:00.920
almost like build a case for yourself, because this is the thing you're saying,

703
00:44:00.920 --> 00:44:01.960
like you don't want to do med
school or like you want to drop

704
00:44:01.960 --> 00:44:05.840
out, or you don't want to
do this. Okay, you need to

705
00:44:05.880 --> 00:44:08.440
come up with a very good reason
as to why you don't want to do

706
00:44:08.480 --> 00:44:13.119
this and what you want to do
instead. Because understand that your parents are

707
00:44:13.159 --> 00:44:15.519
not going to be okay with you
not doing anything. So if you're coming

708
00:44:15.519 --> 00:44:16.679
to them just being like I don't
want to do it anymore and like I

709
00:44:16.719 --> 00:44:20.800
don't like it and it's just it's
just stressfulness that okay, well guess what

710
00:44:21.920 --> 00:44:23.000
you gotta do something? So what
is it going to be? And if

711
00:44:23.039 --> 00:44:25.239
you have not built a case,
if you have not done your research,

712
00:44:25.280 --> 00:44:29.840
if you have not followed your interests
or your passions, and you've done your

713
00:44:29.960 --> 00:44:32.599
like like I just said, research
and you've written like a huge case as

714
00:44:32.599 --> 00:44:36.239
to what you can do differently,
if you drop out, like what you're

715
00:44:36.280 --> 00:44:38.679
gonna do, like your whole plan
everything like that, are you going to

716
00:44:38.760 --> 00:44:42.280
convince them to be able to leave
this whatever it is that you're doing.

717
00:44:42.320 --> 00:44:45.480
Probably not. Now. I'm not
saying that this is going to work,

718
00:44:45.719 --> 00:44:47.679
but I think that that is going
to be your best bet when it comes

719
00:44:47.679 --> 00:44:52.280
to trying to change somebody's mind about
something, because again, your parents want

720
00:44:52.280 --> 00:44:54.760
the best for you. They want
to see you grow and involve, and

721
00:44:54.800 --> 00:45:00.719
honestly a lot of parents don't even
know what's out there other then like med

722
00:45:00.800 --> 00:45:05.440
school, are going to be a
lawyer or going into business or get counting

723
00:45:05.559 --> 00:45:07.480
things like that, right, so
they might not even be aware. And

724
00:45:07.719 --> 00:45:12.519
again this might be so much convincing
that it might be too much and you

725
00:45:12.639 --> 00:45:15.000
never be able to change their mind, but who really knows. And the

726
00:45:15.079 --> 00:45:20.000
last thing I'll say about the whole
not wanting to take this major, if

727
00:45:20.440 --> 00:45:24.800
that doesn't work and you can't convince
your parents of you know, leaving dropping

728
00:45:24.800 --> 00:45:29.840
out things like that, and it's
really not your decision, which it really

729
00:45:29.840 --> 00:45:35.039
should be. I just think that
you should really try and be open and

730
00:45:35.199 --> 00:45:37.440
understand that not every single class you're
gonna like and not every single class you're

731
00:45:37.480 --> 00:45:43.280
going to like excel at. Maybe
but if you and I know it can

732
00:45:43.280 --> 00:45:45.480
be hard, like med school,
Like I never went to med school,

733
00:45:45.519 --> 00:45:49.440
I can only imagine, and I
like, I commend people for that,

734
00:45:49.840 --> 00:45:52.480
but like for you to even expect
yourself to love it, I don't know.

735
00:45:52.559 --> 00:45:58.440
I think that's kind of I don't
think anyone could possibly love every single

736
00:45:58.440 --> 00:46:01.840
part of med school. But I
feel like if you're open and you have

737
00:46:01.920 --> 00:46:08.880
a positive mindset and optimistic mindset,
you might start to I'm not saying you're

738
00:46:08.920 --> 00:46:12.960
going to absolutely love and enjoy it, but maybe you'll pick up on something

739
00:46:12.960 --> 00:46:15.719
that you didn't because you were open
or because you enjoyed it, and that's

740
00:46:15.719 --> 00:46:20.679
going to lead you into a new
insight or a new interest that will lead

741
00:46:20.679 --> 00:46:23.239
you into a new class. And
maybe that is a class that opens up

742
00:46:23.239 --> 00:46:27.280
your mind about you know, specializing
in something when it came to med school,

743
00:46:27.280 --> 00:46:29.320
and maybe actually you do want to
be in med school, but maybe

744
00:46:29.360 --> 00:46:31.679
you just didn't want to do this
specialization or like you know, like something

745
00:46:32.039 --> 00:46:36.800
sparks your interests or your passion,
but when you are very very very close

746
00:46:36.840 --> 00:46:37.800
off and you're like, I don't
want to be here and I'm not going

747
00:46:37.880 --> 00:46:40.199
to do this and whatever. Well, if you're if you're going to be

748
00:46:40.239 --> 00:46:44.559
there and you have to do it, then do your best to make it

749
00:46:44.599 --> 00:46:46.679
the best damn fucking year that you
possibly can make it or years right,

750
00:46:47.280 --> 00:46:52.440
And I know it can be difficult
when you're when you've been like you're convinced

751
00:46:52.440 --> 00:46:53.719
yourself like absolutely not, I do
not want to do this. But I

752
00:46:53.719 --> 00:46:57.039
think that if you learn how to
be a little bit more productive, you

753
00:46:57.159 --> 00:47:00.880
learn how to overwhelm yourself too much
and not have much anxiety and stress when

754
00:47:00.880 --> 00:47:04.920
it comes to studying and like managing
school, which can be difficult, I

755
00:47:05.000 --> 00:47:07.679
know it can. I think that
it does give you a little bit more

756
00:47:07.800 --> 00:47:12.960
room to find something because I just
I just believe, no matter what path

757
00:47:12.960 --> 00:47:15.159
you're taking, whether it's not necessarily
the path you want to be on,

758
00:47:15.960 --> 00:47:21.320
taking steps forward will eventually get you
to where it is that you're supposed to

759
00:47:21.320 --> 00:47:24.679
be in life. But if you
dig your heels into the ground and you

760
00:47:24.760 --> 00:47:28.519
say no, I don't want to
do this and I want to do nothing

761
00:47:28.559 --> 00:47:30.559
at all, then no, you're
not going to find what it is that

762
00:47:30.599 --> 00:47:36.920
you really are passionate about. And
if you have this circumstance that is very

763
00:47:37.199 --> 00:47:40.360
fixed right now. And I've been
in very fixed environments and situations and I

764
00:47:40.400 --> 00:47:44.199
couldn't get out of them. The
only thing that I could do is change

765
00:47:44.239 --> 00:47:46.559
my perception about those experiences and say, you know what I got to do

766
00:47:46.639 --> 00:47:50.599
with what I have right now?
This is not ideal. I don't want

767
00:47:50.599 --> 00:47:52.800
to be in it, but I'm
going to find some light, some positive

768
00:47:52.840 --> 00:47:57.360
aspect of this shitty ass thing right
now, and I'm going to make this

769
00:47:57.400 --> 00:48:00.840
work as much as I can.
In every single time, I changed my

770
00:48:00.880 --> 00:48:04.480
mindset and my perception around the thing
that I was happening in my life from

771
00:48:04.519 --> 00:48:07.320
looking at it as negative to somewhat
positive and somewhat this is a part of

772
00:48:07.360 --> 00:48:10.119
my journey, this is there's a
reason for this, There was a lesson

773
00:48:10.199 --> 00:48:14.599
for this. I always found what
it is that I was supposed to find.

774
00:48:14.840 --> 00:48:17.119
I always found my path. I
always found some insight that brought me

775
00:48:17.159 --> 00:48:22.480
closer to where it is that I
am today. So just take that with

776
00:48:22.559 --> 00:48:25.719
what you will. I know it
can be difficult, but I would honestly

777
00:48:25.760 --> 00:48:30.559
say, like, build a really
solid case for your parents if you're really

778
00:48:30.599 --> 00:48:34.159
trying to like change something. Oh
one thing Actually, I will say this.

779
00:48:34.280 --> 00:48:36.599
My mom did push me a little
bit in school, and I'll give

780
00:48:36.599 --> 00:48:38.920
you this quick thing. Not quick, you already know it's not gonna be

781
00:48:39.000 --> 00:48:43.880
quick. So when I was in
hospitality at that point, it was my

782
00:48:43.920 --> 00:48:45.559
second year, and I kind of
knew that I didn't want to go out

783
00:48:45.559 --> 00:48:49.239
west and work in the hotels and
resorts. I didn't really want to do

784
00:48:49.280 --> 00:48:52.400
that. So I was kind of
like checked out of it, and I

785
00:48:52.440 --> 00:48:53.639
was really into health and fitness,
and like I just didn't want to pursue

786
00:48:53.679 --> 00:48:55.639
anything. But I was still gonna
do it. I wasn't gonna drop out.

787
00:48:55.679 --> 00:48:58.800
I was going to finish the course
whatever it wasn't it was easy,

788
00:48:58.800 --> 00:49:01.800
fun course whatever. Had a good
time in school. But one of our

789
00:49:01.920 --> 00:49:06.440
classes was co op. So we
had to find a co op and the

790
00:49:06.519 --> 00:49:09.159
co op had to be which is
like an internship. By the way,

791
00:49:09.159 --> 00:49:15.599
if you guys don't know, it
was wasn't unpaid. Yes, it was

792
00:49:15.639 --> 00:49:21.239
an unpaid internship. So we had
to find something in the field of hospitality.

793
00:49:21.559 --> 00:49:24.320
And now a lot of people went
to hotels and worked at the front

794
00:49:24.360 --> 00:49:29.840
desk or they did some sort of
management or whatever, but hospitality also includes

795
00:49:29.880 --> 00:49:34.159
bartending, and serving. And now
we actually had a fine dining class where

796
00:49:34.159 --> 00:49:37.159
we taught. We got taught everything. We had a wine in spirits class,

797
00:49:37.440 --> 00:49:42.480
we got trained. The top of
the line had to serve highest end.

798
00:49:42.599 --> 00:49:45.039
It was great. Although I hated
it. I hated fine fine dining.

799
00:49:45.079 --> 00:49:47.000
I did not want to serve ice. Still to this day do not

800
00:49:47.119 --> 00:49:51.000
like serving fine dining. Like I
would never be able to work at a

801
00:49:51.039 --> 00:49:54.320
really expensive stakhouse or anything because I
just like cannot, I cannot, I

802
00:49:54.440 --> 00:50:00.320
just like I don't know whatever.
So even though I did, I did

803
00:50:00.360 --> 00:50:01.960
work and do fine dining at a
private golf club. I ended up doing

804
00:50:01.960 --> 00:50:06.000
that and I literally hated that part
of it. I hated working in the

805
00:50:06.000 --> 00:50:09.239
dinner service part. I liked doing
like bartending and working on the course and

806
00:50:09.280 --> 00:50:14.320
stuff like that. But anyways,
we had to find an internship. And

807
00:50:14.400 --> 00:50:19.599
so while I was at Georgian College
still I was still working full time at

808
00:50:19.599 --> 00:50:23.159
Tim Hortons because it was just an
easy job that was paying my bills for

809
00:50:23.199 --> 00:50:28.719
what I had to pay, and
I had seniority there at at the end

810
00:50:28.719 --> 00:50:30.679
of the day, like I was
a good worker. It was very easy.

811
00:50:30.719 --> 00:50:32.159
It was like home to me.
So I worked there for a long

812
00:50:32.199 --> 00:50:37.280
time, and I was like,
Okay, well, let me just do

813
00:50:37.400 --> 00:50:40.800
extra hours at tim Hortons because it
falls under hospitality. And I was able

814
00:50:40.800 --> 00:50:45.559
to actually get them to actually do
it if I wanted to, and I

815
00:50:45.679 --> 00:50:47.679
knew I was keeping very small because
it was already a place that I was

816
00:50:47.719 --> 00:50:51.920
working at. But I was like, I don't really want to, like

817
00:50:51.960 --> 00:50:54.480
I don't want to do anything,
so like, let me just stay here

818
00:50:54.480 --> 00:50:59.039
and just do extra hours here.
And my mom was like, you're not

819
00:50:59.079 --> 00:51:01.760
doing that. You're not doing that. You're going to find a job that's

820
00:51:01.800 --> 00:51:06.559
in the hospitality, even if it's
not your job, or sorry, even

821
00:51:06.559 --> 00:51:09.199
if it's not in a hotel,
You're at least gonna go find something.

822
00:51:09.280 --> 00:51:12.440
And they had a list of things
where you could work, right, And

823
00:51:12.440 --> 00:51:15.519
so that's where I found the golf
course because golf courses are tied into like

824
00:51:15.519 --> 00:51:21.119
the hospitality, because yes, it's
like serving and bartending, but there's like

825
00:51:21.159 --> 00:51:23.360
events that you can do, and
like I did a lot of bartending weddings,

826
00:51:23.360 --> 00:51:27.599
and I did a lot of setups
for weddings. We set up weddings

827
00:51:27.639 --> 00:51:30.840
every single weekend. It was insane
the amount of weddings that I worked,

828
00:51:30.239 --> 00:51:36.239
and so there's all that hospitality aspect
of things, and like different little corporate

829
00:51:36.239 --> 00:51:40.480
events and stuff that we did.
So I ended up finding the golf course

830
00:51:40.519 --> 00:51:42.960
and then I was like, Okay, I'll go to the interview, and

831
00:51:43.000 --> 00:51:45.280
I ended up getting that job and
I did co op. So I did

832
00:51:45.320 --> 00:51:49.880
all the events and everything like that, and then I ended up realizing that

833
00:51:49.920 --> 00:51:53.159
there's more money to be made in
the serving and bartending industry than there is

834
00:51:53.199 --> 00:51:58.239
working a minimumui's job at tim Horton. So even though I still didn't want

835
00:51:58.239 --> 00:52:00.320
to work in hospitality, and I
decided and I graduated that I'm not going

836
00:52:00.320 --> 00:52:02.920
out west, I'm not working at
a hotel resort. I don't really care

837
00:52:02.960 --> 00:52:07.000
to do that. I ended up
getting a job out of this, which

838
00:52:07.119 --> 00:52:13.280
was a job that allowed me so
much experience to not only move into another

839
00:52:13.400 --> 00:52:16.039
like I ended up obviously when I
left Barry, I served and bartended at

840
00:52:16.079 --> 00:52:20.400
an actual, like true restaurant,
even though that was a true restaurant.

841
00:52:21.239 --> 00:52:23.559
And on top of that, it
made me so much more money, so

842
00:52:23.639 --> 00:52:27.880
much more money, and I gained
so much more experience, and I was

843
00:52:29.239 --> 00:52:31.519
I came in contact with so many
people that actually was like at the golf

844
00:52:31.519 --> 00:52:36.440
club, like very wealthy people at
the golf club, very connected, well

845
00:52:36.480 --> 00:52:40.480
connected people. I made so many
cool friends there and it just allowed me

846
00:52:40.519 --> 00:52:45.239
to work smart or not harder,
and I wouldn't have been able. And

847
00:52:45.239 --> 00:52:51.159
I the reason why I'm saying this
too is because the serving and bartending literally

848
00:52:51.199 --> 00:52:54.480
held me all the way until I
wanted to leave my corporate job and be

849
00:52:54.559 --> 00:52:59.440
able to do social media full time
because I was still serving and bartending as

850
00:52:59.480 --> 00:53:00.400
I was doing my corporate job,
and then I want to realize I didn't

851
00:53:00.400 --> 00:53:04.880
want to do that as well in
the health and fitness space. I was

852
00:53:04.920 --> 00:53:07.360
like, Okay, well I want
to leave this job. And I was

853
00:53:07.400 --> 00:53:09.880
able to leave because I was making
enough money in a short amount of time

854
00:53:09.920 --> 00:53:15.199
bartending and serving, which allowed me
to work on my social media to get

855
00:53:15.199 --> 00:53:17.440
me to where I'm at right now. So that was needed. I had

856
00:53:17.480 --> 00:53:21.280
to take that leap, not even
to leap of faith. I shouldn't say

857
00:53:21.320 --> 00:53:22.880
that, but I had to take
that step out of my comfort zone even

858
00:53:22.920 --> 00:53:27.519
though I was convinced I didn't want
to. M no, I'm just gonna

859
00:53:27.519 --> 00:53:30.079
stay here, and my mom was
like, no, you're going in that

860
00:53:30.119 --> 00:53:32.599
direction. So I guess I say
that as well as because like, as

861
00:53:32.679 --> 00:53:36.320
much as you might think that you
know something, it's not that you don't,

862
00:53:36.559 --> 00:53:38.760
right, But it's like, don't
have so much resistance to things because

863
00:53:38.800 --> 00:53:43.199
you never know where that could lead
you. And that was a part of

864
00:53:43.199 --> 00:53:46.679
my path That wasn't the end all
working at the golf club or anything to

865
00:53:46.719 --> 00:53:51.559
do with hospitality, but that was
a bridge to where I'm at right now.

866
00:53:51.960 --> 00:53:54.800
It made my life ten times more
easier to be able to build my

867
00:53:54.840 --> 00:54:00.920
social media on the side when I
had when I was able to work let's

868
00:54:00.920 --> 00:54:05.559
say, four shifts a week versus
a five work week Monday to Friday,

869
00:54:05.760 --> 00:54:08.280
driving in and out of work and
all this shit, and not even making

870
00:54:08.400 --> 00:54:14.119
enough money to be able to like
live versus like bartending, not even working

871
00:54:14.159 --> 00:54:16.159
as many hours, but making a
fun time of money and tips and a

872
00:54:16.199 --> 00:54:20.760
short amount of time. Right.
So it's just like everything is connected.

873
00:54:20.800 --> 00:54:23.920
I swear I could go for days. Everything is connected. Okay, Oh

874
00:54:23.920 --> 00:54:27.800
my gosh, this episode's getting really
really long. But whatever, I haven't

875
00:54:27.840 --> 00:54:30.320
done a very long episode in a
long time study techniques. Okay, so

876
00:54:30.480 --> 00:54:36.079
I use this thing and it's called
the Palmadero. I don't know if I'm

877
00:54:36.079 --> 00:54:39.480
saying that right, but it's spelt
p O m O d O r O,

878
00:54:40.440 --> 00:54:45.719
and it's essentially this technique where you
study on and then you take a

879
00:54:45.760 --> 00:54:46.760
break, and then you study on, take a break on and off,

880
00:54:46.800 --> 00:54:53.239
on and off. Now I don't
think it matters like how many minutes.

881
00:54:53.320 --> 00:54:57.119
Like I think that there's people who
do like twenty five minutes on and then

882
00:54:57.159 --> 00:55:00.400
you take a five minute break and
then twenty five minutes and then five minute

883
00:55:00.400 --> 00:55:02.440
break until you hit an hour or
until you hit the goal that you wanted

884
00:55:02.480 --> 00:55:07.280
to actually accomplish. But what you
can do is you can go on YouTube

885
00:55:07.320 --> 00:55:08.800
and I do this. The reason
why I'm also really saying this is because

886
00:55:08.840 --> 00:55:14.280
I still use this today when I
do any sort of work, but especially

887
00:55:14.280 --> 00:55:19.159
when I'm writing my book and I'm
doing things regarding like writing, I go

888
00:55:19.239 --> 00:55:22.880
on YouTube and I will either I
use that method, but I also just

889
00:55:22.960 --> 00:55:27.239
sometimes just go on and write a
one hour or two hours study with me,

890
00:55:27.559 --> 00:55:30.559
and I like work through that whole
entire thing. So it depends on

891
00:55:30.559 --> 00:55:32.760
if you want breaks or not.
I find if you're somebody who's very overwhelmed,

892
00:55:32.760 --> 00:55:36.920
you have a lot of anxiety and
a lot of stress, it's better

893
00:55:36.960 --> 00:55:39.320
to do this method where you're timed
for twenty five minutes and then what it

894
00:55:39.360 --> 00:55:43.639
will do. It will beep on
YouTube and then you can take your five

895
00:55:43.639 --> 00:55:45.679
minute break and then go back into
it. My lord, that's when you

896
00:55:45.679 --> 00:55:49.199
know I've been talking for way too
long when my camera keeps heating up.

897
00:55:49.440 --> 00:55:52.800
I don't know where I stopped,
but we were talking about the study technique.

898
00:55:52.960 --> 00:55:57.239
So if you are doing something that's
creative and you need a lot of

899
00:55:57.280 --> 00:56:00.480
like creative flow and just like writing, I honestly highly suggest you just go

900
00:56:00.519 --> 00:56:02.519
on YouTube and find like a one
hour or two hours study with me with

901
00:56:02.559 --> 00:56:07.360
no breaks, and then just take
a break when you need to. But

902
00:56:07.760 --> 00:56:13.239
if you are overwhelmed or you just
are doing tasks that don't necessarily involve a

903
00:56:13.239 --> 00:56:15.960
lot of flow states and it's just
like you doing some research or I don't

904
00:56:15.960 --> 00:56:20.800
know, mundane tasks but for a
project, then I would suggest maybe doing

905
00:56:20.840 --> 00:56:24.559
the Palm and Darrow. I think
that's how you say it study technique.

906
00:56:24.599 --> 00:56:28.960
I just think that it just helps
and just having a timer in general in

907
00:56:29.000 --> 00:56:30.679
the background, and they usually play
music in the background as well, so

908
00:56:30.719 --> 00:56:36.000
I would suggest that and also again
go to my productivity episode that I did

909
00:56:36.079 --> 00:56:38.760
last week, and I have some
good tips for that as well. Somebody

910
00:56:38.800 --> 00:56:43.559
asked tips on how to take notes, and this is a good The reason

911
00:56:43.599 --> 00:56:45.840
why I wrote this is because I
used to be somebody who would chronically try

912
00:56:45.840 --> 00:56:51.320
and write absolutely every single thing that
the teacher would be saying, and I

913
00:56:51.360 --> 00:56:57.519
would then not actually take in anything
at all. And I realized as I

914
00:56:57.519 --> 00:57:04.880
started to really apply myself in school, I would actually learn something when I

915
00:57:05.039 --> 00:57:08.440
listen to the teacher instead of focusing
on writing down every single word. Because

916
00:57:08.840 --> 00:57:13.039
half the time that I'm writing down
these things, I'm not even gonna remember

917
00:57:13.039 --> 00:57:15.519
it. So then when it comes
to test time or when it comes to

918
00:57:15.559 --> 00:57:17.880
actually going home and learning something,
I have actually no idea what it is

919
00:57:17.920 --> 00:57:21.639
that I learned, and I have
to reread all my notes. But even

920
00:57:21.679 --> 00:57:24.840
when I'm reading the notes, like
I'm not retaining the information because I wasn't

921
00:57:24.920 --> 00:57:29.519
engaged with what they were saying.
So this is what I say. You

922
00:57:29.559 --> 00:57:32.320
can take notes, sure, but
like literally just take notes in a way

923
00:57:32.360 --> 00:57:35.920
of like, oh, this is
interesting and this is something that I don't

924
00:57:35.920 --> 00:57:37.159
really know too much about, so
I'm gonna write it down. I'm gonna

925
00:57:37.199 --> 00:57:39.960
jot it down on my paper,
and I'm gonna look into it later,

926
00:57:40.039 --> 00:57:44.199
or I'm gonna look into the textbook
that we have for the class later,

927
00:57:44.480 --> 00:57:46.440
or I'm gonna ask my teacher about
this later. I'm not going to try

928
00:57:46.440 --> 00:57:51.119
and write every single word that they're
saying. I will like literally research that

929
00:57:51.239 --> 00:57:53.480
later. The main thing is,
I let me listen to what the teacher

930
00:57:53.519 --> 00:57:55.519
is saying, because this is what
happens. When you actually listen to the

931
00:57:55.519 --> 00:58:01.039
teacher. You are actually retaining the
information you are imagining in your head,

932
00:58:01.239 --> 00:58:04.639
or you're listening to their words or
whatever it is. However, you learn

933
00:58:04.679 --> 00:58:08.400
and everyone's like different and people are
like neurodivergent in this that. But I

934
00:58:08.400 --> 00:58:12.159
think it's really important for you to
be engaged with the teacher. And this

935
00:58:12.199 --> 00:58:15.000
is what's going to happen if you
don't actually understand something. That is when

936
00:58:15.000 --> 00:58:19.360
you can actually put up your hand
and ask. You need to ask questions.

937
00:58:19.480 --> 00:58:22.559
If you don't understand something, ask
And I get it. I used

938
00:58:22.599 --> 00:58:25.679
to be somebody who was definitely afraid
to put my hand up in class.

939
00:58:25.719 --> 00:58:30.960
Okay, I get it, But
you can't be that person if you do

940
00:58:31.000 --> 00:58:36.039
not understand, put up your hand
and ask in that moment, or write

941
00:58:36.039 --> 00:58:37.920
something down that you do not understand
that they just said, and at the

942
00:58:38.000 --> 00:58:40.880
end of class, go ask and
get them to explain it to you,

943
00:58:42.159 --> 00:58:44.480
because this is what's gonna happen.
If you don't understand something, you're gonna

944
00:58:44.559 --> 00:58:46.400
keep going down this road of not
understanding more and more things, and things

945
00:58:46.440 --> 00:58:50.639
are gonna get more confusing for you. There's so many times where I didn't

946
00:58:50.639 --> 00:58:54.039
ask questions, and once I started
asking questions in class, I was like,

947
00:58:54.079 --> 00:58:58.559
oh my god, now I get
it because somebody explained it to me.

948
00:58:59.119 --> 00:59:02.000
Or I stop trying to rate everything
word for word because half that ship

949
00:59:02.079 --> 00:59:06.119
was irrelevant anyways, and just listen
to what they're saying. And then I

950
00:59:06.159 --> 00:59:08.000
actually went home and realized that I
understood what it is that they were saying

951
00:59:08.000 --> 00:59:12.360
because I was listening. I wasn't
writing things. I wasn't trying to like

952
00:59:12.400 --> 00:59:15.880
recall what was that word she said
before that word? No, please take

953
00:59:16.400 --> 00:59:21.400
taking notes very very lightly, I
guess. I don't know, just like,

954
00:59:21.440 --> 00:59:24.440
don't put that your main focus.
I just think that it's it's very

955
00:59:24.440 --> 00:59:30.400
counterproductive at least somebody, especially for
me, Like I'll say, like I

956
00:59:30.599 --> 00:59:35.039
need time, I need a lot
of time to understand a concept. I

957
00:59:35.119 --> 00:59:38.559
need to ask a lot of questions. And I was never a student in

958
00:59:38.639 --> 00:59:45.000
school where like let's say in a
math like a math class and they're doing

959
00:59:45.079 --> 00:59:49.320
some calculation on the board, and
then the teacher turns around and says,

960
00:59:49.400 --> 00:59:52.239
Okay, what's the answer, and
everyone's hands are flying up. My hand

961
00:59:52.280 --> 00:59:54.000
wasn't flying up because I still need
to sit here and like calculate what I'm

962
00:59:54.039 --> 00:59:58.599
just what I'm seeing on the board, Like I need a second. And

963
00:59:58.960 --> 01:00:01.039
if you're a person who needs a
second, most likely it's not going to

964
01:00:01.079 --> 01:00:05.480
be helpful for you to just like
try and word for word right whatever it

965
01:00:05.559 --> 01:00:09.400
is, and instead give yourself time
to understand something by just listening, digest

966
01:00:09.440 --> 01:00:14.840
the information, ask your question,
and move on, and then of course

967
01:00:14.920 --> 01:00:17.360
go home and think about it again
and work it out, or like ask

968
01:00:17.400 --> 01:00:22.199
somebody to explain it to you if
you need. Somebody had said advice on

969
01:00:22.320 --> 01:00:28.159
failing classes, thinking these classes are
not for you getting selected or not feeling

970
01:00:28.159 --> 01:00:30.559
not smart enough. I think the
worst thing that you could do for yourself

971
01:00:30.679 --> 01:00:35.559
is to now look at yourself.
If you, let's say you fail to

972
01:00:35.559 --> 01:00:39.119
class or you didn't get selected or
whatever, like you are less than that,

973
01:00:39.159 --> 01:00:43.079
you're dumb, that you can't do
it, whatever. And I know

974
01:00:43.400 --> 01:00:46.719
obviously that's how you're going to feel
initially when you get a bad grade or

975
01:00:46.719 --> 01:00:52.079
you're not understanding something. But I
think there's no reason for you. First

976
01:00:52.119 --> 01:00:55.360
of all, you're not going to
be one hundred percent perfect all the time.

977
01:00:55.400 --> 01:00:59.400
And if you're straight a student,
amazing, you're just so amazing.

978
01:00:59.519 --> 01:01:01.079
We love that part. Yeah,
okay, but I was not that,

979
01:01:01.840 --> 01:01:05.559
And I think that, like I
had already said, the worst thing that

980
01:01:05.599 --> 01:01:09.119
you can do is try, and
now create not try, but you're creating

981
01:01:09.119 --> 01:01:15.960
this self concept that you are somebody
who fails. That's somebody who doesn't get

982
01:01:15.000 --> 01:01:17.920
it, somebody who will never understand
it. I remember I used to tell

983
01:01:17.960 --> 01:01:22.280
myself all the time, I don't
understand math, or I don't understand science,

984
01:01:22.400 --> 01:01:23.880
or I can't do it. I
can't do it. Stop telling yourself

985
01:01:23.880 --> 01:01:28.039
that you can't do it. Start
telling yourself a new story. Okay,

986
01:01:28.079 --> 01:01:30.880
I struggle with this topic and I
need to learn how to learn better and

987
01:01:31.400 --> 01:01:37.239
retain the information better. But it
doesn't mean that I can't understand science or

988
01:01:37.280 --> 01:01:40.079
I can't understand complex topics. Do
you know how many times I thought that

989
01:01:40.119 --> 01:01:45.920
I couldn't understand anything to do with
psychology, sociology, economics, politics.

990
01:01:46.199 --> 01:01:49.719
Every time I heard anything to do
with any of those subjects, I was

991
01:01:49.760 --> 01:01:51.559
like, Nope, I have no
idea, I can't, I don't.

992
01:01:51.599 --> 01:01:53.679
I don't get it until I was
like and even geography, by the way,

993
01:01:54.360 --> 01:01:58.559
and then I was like, you
know what, No, my schooling

994
01:01:58.639 --> 01:02:02.000
has been completely shit okay, And
all I needed was more time and extra

995
01:02:02.039 --> 01:02:05.000
help that I didn't get. On
top of that, I came from a

996
01:02:05.039 --> 01:02:09.880
household that was not it wasn't helpful
for me to actually learn. I went

997
01:02:09.920 --> 01:02:13.639
home and nobody was checking on if
I was doing school work, and if

998
01:02:13.679 --> 01:02:15.079
I was, my dad was screaming
at me, so then I didn't understand

999
01:02:15.079 --> 01:02:19.480
anything anyways. Or my mom,
like she was at work so she couldn't

1000
01:02:19.480 --> 01:02:22.960
really help me. Like there was
many things at home life that that wasn't

1001
01:02:22.400 --> 01:02:28.039
creating an environment where I was able
to actually retain information and understand things.

1002
01:02:28.039 --> 01:02:30.440
So no wonder I wasn't the best
student, honestly, so you kind of

1003
01:02:30.480 --> 01:02:34.239
have to look at your life in
that way. And like we didn't have

1004
01:02:34.280 --> 01:02:37.679
any money to do any tutoring or
anything like that either. But I never

1005
01:02:37.840 --> 01:02:44.320
let my upbringing or the fact that
I struggled at one point understanding different topics

1006
01:02:44.320 --> 01:02:49.119
at school affect how I was going
to learn when I was older, and

1007
01:02:49.159 --> 01:02:51.760
I realized, Okay, these are
things that I still do not understand,

1008
01:02:51.800 --> 01:02:54.599
and it's affecting how I show up
in life and conversations, and I want

1009
01:02:54.599 --> 01:03:00.760
to understand them. So I decided
to take my time and learn them,

1010
01:03:00.039 --> 01:03:04.119
however long it was going to take, if I had to spend time after

1011
01:03:04.199 --> 01:03:07.519
school, if I was in school
learning about a certain topic, or even

1012
01:03:07.559 --> 01:03:08.679
after I was out of college,
and I realized, oh, I don't

1013
01:03:08.719 --> 01:03:14.559
know a lot about geography or economics
or freaking geography, Like I feel like

1014
01:03:14.559 --> 01:03:17.039
a lot of us come out of
school not knowing shit at all. So

1015
01:03:17.079 --> 01:03:21.960
I just decided to take my time. And I think that, yeah,

1016
01:03:22.199 --> 01:03:27.599
just you aren't. Even if you
feel like you're not understanding something, there's

1017
01:03:27.679 --> 01:03:30.960
usually probably a reason, like maybe
it's the way in which that you're trying

1018
01:03:31.000 --> 01:03:34.880
to learn that thing, or maybe
you're putting a lot of stress on it.

1019
01:03:34.960 --> 01:03:37.199
And then of course there's always gonna
be time where you just don't really

1020
01:03:37.280 --> 01:03:38.559
you're not interested in certain topics,
so it's going to be harder for you

1021
01:03:38.639 --> 01:03:44.199
to stay focused on And that's also
okay too, Like I don't think that

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01:03:44.239 --> 01:03:46.440
you're going to excel in absolutely every
single thing. It doesn't mean that you're

1023
01:03:46.519 --> 01:03:50.079
dumb or whatever. It's just like
that topic is probably not for you,

1024
01:03:50.119 --> 01:03:52.639
and that's totally fine. And also, like even in school, like if

1025
01:03:52.679 --> 01:03:55.920
you do need more time on an
exam or a test or a project,

1026
01:03:57.079 --> 01:03:59.719
or you have to ask a lot
more questions than the other people in your

1027
01:03:59.719 --> 01:04:06.079
claus who cares literally irrelevant, irrelevant
what somebody else and how they are learning

1028
01:04:06.079 --> 01:04:11.440
and what they are doing is compared
to you. Like just like let's leave

1029
01:04:11.440 --> 01:04:14.239
that at the door. Let's leave
comparison at the door. Somebody that also

1030
01:04:14.280 --> 01:04:16.719
asks, like you know, I
shall gole with like secretly kind of feeling

1031
01:04:16.760 --> 01:04:20.800
like I have to compete with my
friends in terms of grades and projects and

1032
01:04:20.840 --> 01:04:24.239
all that kind of stuff. And
I get it, Like, you know,

1033
01:04:24.440 --> 01:04:27.639
it's not bad to be having a
little part of you that's like competitive

1034
01:04:27.679 --> 01:04:30.960
in a sense of like you want
to just be successful, right, but

1035
01:04:30.199 --> 01:04:34.119
other people's success should really be irrelevant
to yours because there's room for a lot

1036
01:04:34.199 --> 01:04:38.719
of people to win. Okay,
a lot of people live in scarcity and

1037
01:04:38.760 --> 01:04:41.440
they think that there is not and
there is. So I would suggest just

1038
01:04:41.519 --> 01:04:45.920
focusing on your path what you need
to do when it comes to educating yourself,

1039
01:04:45.960 --> 01:04:51.599
asking questions, applying yourself listening,
taking that extra time, prioritizing school

1040
01:04:51.679 --> 01:04:55.639
right now. And if that means
yes, you're gonna have to, you

1041
01:04:55.639 --> 01:04:58.159
know, not hang out with your
friends all the time or like all of

1042
01:04:58.159 --> 01:05:00.880
this time into hobbies even if you're
ends are doing that. Guess what you

1043
01:05:00.880 --> 01:05:03.639
are on the path that you need
to be on. And guess what all

1044
01:05:03.679 --> 01:05:09.119
of this time that you put towards
school and working on your future self is

1045
01:05:09.159 --> 01:05:11.719
going to be worth it. I
promise you it's never not going to be

1046
01:05:11.719 --> 01:05:14.719
worth it if you decide to bet
on yourself and go for what you want

1047
01:05:14.760 --> 01:05:16.840
in your life. Someone also asked, like, how to get a job

1048
01:05:16.880 --> 01:05:20.400
after college. Now, I'll quickly
just sum it up by saying, start

1049
01:05:20.400 --> 01:05:25.159
as soon as you can if you're
in college still last year, because there's

1050
01:05:25.159 --> 01:05:28.400
a few people who are in their
last years. Set yourself up for success.

1051
01:05:28.599 --> 01:05:30.360
Start looking for jobs in the industry
that you need. Also, be

1052
01:05:30.440 --> 01:05:35.000
open to people and places and connections. Going on LinkedIn. Can you help

1053
01:05:35.159 --> 01:05:41.840
like you searching up like people in
certain roles of the companies that you're trying

1054
01:05:41.880 --> 01:05:45.679
to get into, Let's say,
using the teasered resources that they give you

1055
01:05:45.719 --> 01:05:54.400
that nobody wants to freaking like take
or apply themselves to be super open even

1056
01:05:54.440 --> 01:05:58.159
if you feel like I don't want
to be in that job or that job

1057
01:05:58.199 --> 01:06:00.960
seems boring or whatever. You never
know. You could start at a position

1058
01:06:00.000 --> 01:06:02.519
and then three months later they open
up a new position and it gives you

1059
01:06:02.559 --> 01:06:05.079
more money, or it gives you
more experience, and then that experience leads

1060
01:06:05.119 --> 01:06:09.880
to something else. Also understand that
when you're starting out somewhere new in a

1061
01:06:10.000 --> 01:06:13.480
field, there's gonna be times where
you're gonna have to put in that work

1062
01:06:13.519 --> 01:06:15.480
and it might be free work,
right or whatever. Like when you're starting

1063
01:06:15.519 --> 01:06:19.840
out new, you kind of have
to really put your effort and understand that

1064
01:06:19.880 --> 01:06:23.920
people are looking for value. What
value can you bring me to this job

1065
01:06:24.119 --> 01:06:27.199
right now as an intern as somebody, let's say, or even if I'm

1066
01:06:27.199 --> 01:06:30.199
gonna pay you, what do you
have that's different than everyone else's And a

1067
01:06:30.239 --> 01:06:32.239
lot of the times people business owners, it's not even just about them looking

1068
01:06:32.239 --> 01:06:35.840
for credentials. I hear this all
the time. Even for me. When

1069
01:06:35.880 --> 01:06:39.639
I got my corporate job, I
didn't even have the actual I did have

1070
01:06:39.880 --> 01:06:43.199
the credentials, but there are people
who had way more credentials than I did.

1071
01:06:43.480 --> 01:06:45.840
But I decided to apply myself.
I decided to continue to ask to

1072
01:06:45.880 --> 01:06:49.920
show up to help extra help.
I would even pick up shifts or people.

1073
01:06:50.320 --> 01:06:54.440
I would ask people like do you
need to actually help on any projects

1074
01:06:54.440 --> 01:06:58.000
that you need, like always telling
them like I'm available, I want this

1075
01:06:58.079 --> 01:07:00.519
job, like please let me know
if anything opens up. I made very

1076
01:07:00.719 --> 01:07:03.960
deep connections with the managers. I
always made sure that I was falling up

1077
01:07:03.960 --> 01:07:08.800
with things like being proactive in that
way is going to put you in the

1078
01:07:08.800 --> 01:07:12.079
eyes of somebody who eventually is going
to need you to fill a position.

1079
01:07:12.559 --> 01:07:15.719
So like, you ain't gonna get
what you want by sitting sitting around and

1080
01:07:15.719 --> 01:07:17.639
hoping and praying and wishing on a
damn star. I'll tell you that for

1081
01:07:17.679 --> 01:07:20.639
free. You know, like even
when it comes to manifesting, like yes,

1082
01:07:20.760 --> 01:07:23.960
yes, yes, get the mindset
right, spiritual, this, that

1083
01:07:24.079 --> 01:07:27.760
and the third vibes high vibrations.
But and then you have to take that

1084
01:07:27.800 --> 01:07:30.320
action and go and do the thing
that you want. Right, if you

1085
01:07:30.360 --> 01:07:33.079
want to become a YouTuber, you
need to actually decide what it is that

1086
01:07:33.079 --> 01:07:36.800
you're going to sit down and film
and record and upload a video and do

1087
01:07:36.840 --> 01:07:41.280
it consistently. You're not going to
be a YouTuber by not doing that.

1088
01:07:41.599 --> 01:07:45.880
So there's always the masculine with the
feminine. Stop letting your anxiety take over

1089
01:07:46.000 --> 01:07:51.039
you asking a question. Understand that
those thoughts and those negative stories that you

1090
01:07:51.079 --> 01:07:56.559
have are just old manifestations of you
and the self doubt. That's irrelevant.

1091
01:07:56.639 --> 01:08:00.239
It's not you, it's not the
story. You are smart. You can

1092
01:08:00.360 --> 01:08:02.639
do it. You can learn,
you can implement things, even if it

1093
01:08:02.639 --> 01:08:05.360
takes you a lot of time.
Whatever it is, you have to start

1094
01:08:05.400 --> 01:08:10.719
to reconstruct that story that you tell
yourself. Oh one more quick question that

1095
01:08:10.800 --> 01:08:14.000
I'll answer because I didn't actually I
forgot about that one. Someone said how

1096
01:08:14.039 --> 01:08:16.439
to deal with girl drama, and
like friendship drama, I literally just wrote

1097
01:08:16.479 --> 01:08:21.159
on my notes, don't just don't, just don't, don't deal with it.

1098
01:08:21.439 --> 01:08:25.600
If people are gossiping and people are
doing shit you don't want to do,

1099
01:08:25.720 --> 01:08:28.039
and you know it's not align to
you, this is not the time

1100
01:08:28.079 --> 01:08:30.520
anymore. Like I'm so sick and
TI. I don't care what aige you're

1101
01:08:30.560 --> 01:08:34.840
at that we just like feel like
we have to deal with stupid shit we

1102
01:08:34.840 --> 01:08:38.840
don't want to. This is not
the year that we're going to be dealing

1103
01:08:38.880 --> 01:08:42.359
with things that we do not want
to deal with. If people are around

1104
01:08:42.359 --> 01:08:45.239
you who are being negative, who
are complaining, who are gossiping, who

1105
01:08:45.239 --> 01:08:47.000
are doing shit you don't want to
do, remove yourself from the situation,

1106
01:08:47.359 --> 01:08:51.159
find you friends, stop people pleasing. I literally put a post a video

1107
01:08:51.159 --> 01:08:55.840
on YouTube. If you struggle with
that people pleasing. Focus on your vision

1108
01:08:55.880 --> 01:08:58.560
that you hold for yourself, and
if you don't have one, make a

1109
01:08:58.640 --> 01:09:00.720
vision where you want to be next
three to five years. What are the

1110
01:09:00.760 --> 01:09:03.239
steps in which you're going to take
to get to yourself there? And how

1111
01:09:03.279 --> 01:09:06.600
are you going to do that every
single day? And keep focus on that.

1112
01:09:06.680 --> 01:09:10.880
And I think that productivity video will
definitely help, and also my videos

1113
01:09:10.920 --> 01:09:14.079
on preparing for a fall will definitely
help on YouTube. But I just think

1114
01:09:14.119 --> 01:09:16.720
that, like you know, it's
just you have to think about the bigger

1115
01:09:16.720 --> 01:09:19.840
picture here. I don't care what
age you're at, Like, this is

1116
01:09:19.880 --> 01:09:23.960
not we don't have we have a
lot of time here on earth. But

1117
01:09:24.000 --> 01:09:27.119
we don't have that much time,
okay, to just be wasting our time

1118
01:09:28.079 --> 01:09:30.520
doing things we don't want to do, or talking about things that we don't

1119
01:09:30.520 --> 01:09:31.800
want to do, or being friends
with people who don't want to be friends

1120
01:09:31.840 --> 01:09:35.279
with. And this is the thing, Like you're probably going to upset some

1121
01:09:35.319 --> 01:09:41.680
people when you decide that you don't
want to engage in conversation about certain topics

1122
01:09:41.960 --> 01:09:45.640
or party anymore, or focus on
yourself more. And that's okay, And

1123
01:09:45.680 --> 01:09:50.039
I honestly just think that's kind of
the price that you pay to becoming the

1124
01:09:50.039 --> 01:09:54.560
person that you really want to be
and understanding that. You know, in

1125
01:09:54.600 --> 01:09:57.720
the moment, you might lose some
friends or you might feel like you're being

1126
01:09:57.800 --> 01:10:00.960
left out because you're not doing what
everyone else is do in college or high

1127
01:10:00.000 --> 01:10:02.880
school or whatever. But that also
doesn't mean that you're always going to be

1128
01:10:02.960 --> 01:10:06.039
lonely as well, Like you're actually
creating a lot of room for people to

1129
01:10:06.039 --> 01:10:09.960
come into your life that you actually
want to spend time with and you want

1130
01:10:09.960 --> 01:10:14.000
to do fun things with and you
want to have this life or relationships.

1131
01:10:14.000 --> 01:10:15.399
You know, even when you like
step out of hook up culture and you

1132
01:10:15.439 --> 01:10:18.880
stop doing all that stupid shit,
you might feel like, oh it's boring.

1133
01:10:18.920 --> 01:10:23.000
I'm alone, I'm a loner,
I'm single. But you're creating a

1134
01:10:23.000 --> 01:10:26.439
lot of space for healthier people to
come into your life. So just understand

1135
01:10:26.479 --> 01:10:29.319
that. But in the moment,
yes, you will have to kind of

1136
01:10:29.640 --> 01:10:33.159
deprioritize things and lose a few things, but understand that it's all for you

1137
01:10:33.199 --> 01:10:36.840
and it's not against you. So
I hope this episode helped you in some

1138
01:10:36.960 --> 01:10:41.920
capacity. I rented for so long
about so many things. I realized that

1139
01:10:41.960 --> 01:10:44.840
I just had way too many questions. I couldn't even answer them all.

1140
01:10:45.119 --> 01:10:49.079
I wish you guys nothing but the
best for the school year, and I'll

1141
01:10:49.119 --> 01:10:54.119
be here every week. So if
you guys need more advice or anything like

1142
01:10:54.159 --> 01:10:58.239
that, you can always submit your
questions on the podcast Instagram or on the

1143
01:10:58.279 --> 01:11:00.119
community tab here on YouTube if your
wing. Make sure that you subscribe to

1144
01:11:00.119 --> 01:11:02.680
the YouTube channel if you aren't,
because I know a lot of people,

1145
01:11:02.800 --> 01:11:06.439
just find my videos on the homepage. Also, I am considering doing two

1146
01:11:06.439 --> 01:11:10.359
episodes a week on the podcast starting
sometime in September, but I want to

1147
01:11:10.359 --> 01:11:12.600
talk about that next week because next
week is going to be a little bit

1148
01:11:12.600 --> 01:11:15.159
more chatty as well. When it
comes to just like the summer ending.

1149
01:11:15.520 --> 01:11:19.399
Things that helped me gloat up this
summer. Lots of recommendations, just chit

1150
01:11:19.479 --> 01:11:25.399
chat shit that sounded really weird.
Also like things that I want to do

1151
01:11:25.479 --> 01:11:29.560
for the podcasts and stuff. So
you'll hear more about that next week.

1152
01:11:29.640 --> 01:11:31.159
So I hope you guys enjoyed and
I'll see you in the next one. By