All, all right, here we go with the Minnesota exact. Hey,
guys, Dave, I heard you talking about the safe choice. It totally
hit home for me. Well, let's talk about what we brought up.
I think yesterday that we gravitate toward the safe choice in life. We'll date
somebody who's a lot of fun, but they might have a little bit of
a baggage thing, or they might have a I don't know, maybe they're
not good with money, or maybe there I don't know, whatever it is.
So we gravitate toward the safe choice. Then a lot of the time
we get bored with that safe choice and we go, wow, I wish
that I'd chosen somebody. They say, choose the one that you don't choose
the one you can live with, Choose the one you can't live without.
Have you heard that before? Yeah, I think you've said it. Yeah,
I really like that. Don't choose the one that I can live with
them, choose the one that you can't live without. Very wise, but
I said that we gravitate toward the safe choice, and a lot of the
time we spend the the rest of our life kind of ruminating about God,
I should have been with Brad or Marlee or who Marlee? Where the fuck
did I get that as a dog because I'm bored with the person that I'm
with, and I think that we find so anyway, She says. In
my very early twenties, I met a guy. We were never officially together,
but we were together all the time, if that makes sense, And
oh my gosh, the passion and the sex was so good. It wasn't
the healthiest relationship, but I can say we both loved each other. I
ended up getting pregnant and chose to have an abortion. After that, we
definitely fell apart. After we ended things, I met another guy. We
will call him a safe choice come polete opposite a guy number one. About
a year After about a year, we broke up and I ended up calling
Guy number one. We started hooking up again. The passion was still there,
but my family didn't care for him. After everything else, I led
him to go back to my safe choice. He had a better job fit
and better with my family. I'm married Safe choice and we have kids and
live in the suburbs. Life is good, but I think about the other
guy a lot, and I always wonder what my life would be like had
I not gone back to my safe choice? Who is now my husband?
Thanks for bringing this up. I hope I hear more stories of people with
similar choices. I often feel guilty for thinking this way. Have a great
day, not going to say my name. I really like that. And
I'm not looking for people who are miserable with their safe choice. I'm looking
for a confirmation that we gravitate. And if you did gravitate to your safe
choice and you're happy, then you know what. Sometimes you got to think.
There's an old Twilight Zone. Can I tell you about this? Yeah,
okay, you know the show Twilight Zone. I do. So there's
a woman and it takes place like back in the eighteen fifties or something,
and it's a half an hour's show and I can't remember what it's called.
No spur of the Moment. If you ever get a chance, watch Spur
of the Moment, half an hour Twilight Zone. Woman twenty twenty two years
old. She's getting married to a boring ass guy that's very stable and her
family loves him. The night before her wedding, the guy that she's crazy
about sneaks up to the house and he whistles and she comes out and he
goes, go away with me, come away with me. Let's go,
let's go, let's go. And so she does, and she leaves the
wonderful Safe Choice standing there and they don't get married. Flash forward, it's
twenty years later. Thirty years later, they're broke. He's a drunk,
her life is miserable. I think she's a drunk now too. She looks
like shit. He's an asshole, he's abusive. So mister fun fun Times
turned out to be a disaster, and who knows what would have happen with
the safe Choice. And I think sometimes you got to keep that in mind,
because yes, you were with guy number one and there was the passion
in the saxon all that, But how long would that have lasted? Would
mister safe Choice have been eventually been a cheater, abusive, a drunk,
a gambler, whatever. So I think sometimes you can console yourself by saying,
what if I would have been with mister Excitement and would have been a
disaster. Yeah, So I totally agree. There's one person I could think
of that I had seen for a little bit when I was single. We
never officially dated, but I definitely wanted to date him and now I see
where he's at in his life, and I'm be honest, I definitely dodge
a bull it with that one. Like a he's heavily like drinks parties all
the time. It's like constant, and I'm like, what are you going
to grow up? Like that? Like that is unattractive enough to me to
not think that that person's exciting anymore. I think that that person doesn't have
their life together and they're going down a path that doesn't align with me.
So yeah, absolutely, all right. Next one, he says, good
morning friends, I'm excited to be a staff writer contributor. That's where we
get the meat of our If you're new to this podcast, first of all,
thank you, But this where we get the meat of our content is
from you. We come up with stuff on our own, but we love
your ideas and that's why we call you a staff writer and we send you
a sticker if we use your email on the show. I want to share
that Jenny's song choice from Wednesday, if You're Not the one by David Bettingfield
brought back all the feels from my college breakup. Oh oof, that hit
hard. I don't think i've thought about that song since two thousand and four.
I'm glad those days were over. I'm happily married now. So I'm
wondering, do you guys have a particular song that instantly sparks feelings good or
bad? Hope this topic wasn't already covered. Do you jenny off the top
of your head? A song that brings you back to yes, that relationship
or a relationship, yes the first time. Well, okay, so Andrew
and I dated previously, and when we broke up, there was a song.
Oh god, no, I'm not going to even remember what it's called,
but it's like, it's the lyrics in it are all about how you
guys dated when you were younger. You want your separate ways, and you're
wondering how their life was, and like, how did it turn out?
And I hope you got I hope you did everything that you dreamed about doing.
And even though Andrew and I had a tough breakup, like lots of
heartbreak was involved, I still wanted nothing but the best for him, and
I think he felt the same way for me. I mean I would think
that he felt the same way. We're together now, so we like,
you know, So, there was one song and i'd have to look up
on like a playlist where I have it because I can't think of the name
of it. But that always reminds me of that time in my life.
There's an old song from the seventies that's by a guy named Peter Frampton and
it goes, I don't care where I go when I'm with you. And
I didn't have a girlfriend back then. That mes I was like a kid,
But that became a song for somebody since then, and it was very
true true because we didn't care where we went. We always said. We
used to joke we could go to a landfill and we would have a good
time. Everything we did was fun. I don't care where I go when
I'm with you. And I don't hear that song often anymore, thank god.
But the last time I heard it, I had to turn it off
because I just could not go back to thinking about that. Yeah. So
yeah. Sometimes if you're curious what my songs called, it's called Follow Your
Fire by a band called cod Aline or Code Line. I don't even know
how to pres it. I don't know how I found it. I don't
listen to that band. I just heard it one day and it was like
fate of hearing it. No, I get that. She goes on to
say, I attached a picture of my first time meeting day with my two
kids about fourteen years ago. I had one tickets for breakfast at the Zoo
promoting the new Colobus monkey exhibit. Thanks for taking the time to read this.
I appreciate all the time you guys dedicate to providing such a great and
enjoyable show. Thank you very much, Elizabeth. And she sends a picture
of a fourteen year younger me and I remember that shirt, and I remember
the watch, and she's holding I'm holding her little redheaded boy who would now
be about fifteen years old, and she is holding her adorable daughter, who
would now be about seventeen years old. That is cool, Libby, Thank
you so much. Next one, let's see, can't we go to this
one because it's oh boy, it's a law ooh. I'm going to come
back to that one because it is probably the longest email that I saw on
the Minnesota Goodbye in a long time, so I'll probably come back to that
one. This one says, hey, gang, emailed you guys this morning
about the company that I'm working for. Just laid off a bunch of people.
It's General Dynamics to whoever asked back for my text messages. Luckily that
wasn't the first I wasn't the first two wave that got laid off, but
I feel very sad for the ones that did. It was very heartbreaking seeing
people get walked out, especially the more elderly people who have worked here for
thirty or forty years. General Dynamics, I believe they make electronics and engines
and aircraft components. I think companies that does this only lose faith and trust
from their employees, and people wonder why younger folks don't want to dedicate themselves
to working hard and pushing over time for these companies. You know that is
had that there's so many layoffs, and there's layoffs in our company here and
there, and you know, we none of us are safe. We think
we all know that some of us are safer than others. I think a
lot of I think one thing that's happened in our business is a lot of
the people who didn't do a lot of work. And there are several in
this building that are no longer here because people couldn't figure out what they did
and then finally they said, okay, let them go. But yeah,
it's got to be very sad. And I get your point about not wanting
to dedicate yourself to working and pushing over time for these companies. Think about
it this way. You're doing it not for them, but for you.
You're doing it to retain your value. And I think sometimes you don't work
for General Dynamics, you work for you. So if you work for everything
from oh, I don't know, kemps to Best Buy, you don't work
for them. You work for you. So if you work harder and you're
reliable, you're not on the chopping block. So when when layoffs come up
around here. I'm not in charge of that, but there have been people
who have been let go because they can't be counted on. Yeah, so
work for yourself, not for them, And that's the way to think about
it. Next one, Hello, my favorite morning show, peeps. I
can attest to those synchronicities that happened to me all the time with your show.
We talked about this the other day. I remember what they got most
recently Monday morning during the football game on Sunday, after a couple of cocktails
and endless panning back and forth between the two coaches. Out of the blue,
I blurted out to the between the bub to my boyfriend that between the
two, i'd get after the Lions coach versus the forty nine Ers coach,
because sometimes you just want to be picked up and thrown around, get a
little roadhouse action. Okay, that's funny, and I think that sometimes we
talk about Travis Kelcey. He's dating Taylor Swift, who's five foot eleven,
and he's big enough that he can pick her up and roadhouse or and maybe
she likes that one. He was shocked it was the bloody Mary talking and
no, he didn't quite get the hint. It turned into a discussion that
sometimes it's nice to feel smaller than your partner, and it's one of those
things I love and appreciate about him. YadA, YadA, YadA. Any
who. Later down the line, during the same game, a Carnival cruise
commercial came on, and we're talking about cruise lines. We both agree that
even though neither of us are Disney people, a Disney cruise seemed like would
be the most legit. Fast forward to Monday morning, you were talking about
the Chiefs game Travis and Taylor came up, and here it is. You
talked about how Taylor's five foot eleven. She probably loves that she's smaller than
Travis. And then Jenny chimed in with sometimes a girl just wants to be
road housed, you know, preach girl. Then the keyword for winning the
thousand dollars came up, and I believe it was Dave that mentioned using it
to pay for a Disney cruise. Dead Yeah, you said, like a
cruise, and then you want specifically with Disney. At one point. This
happens at least once a week. It always makes me laugh and shake my
head in disbelief. I think that means that we're on target with relating to
people who listened to the show. I knew a DJ one time who worked
on a station like ours, and he talked a lot about phishing, and
I'm like, Nahn, does it really hit home with the audience. So
I think that we're kind of tuned in with that in a lot of ways.
Since I've written in twice this week, I'm the one who's ex hit
all the financial fun I'm working up the nerve to ask for a staff writer
sticker, please may I have one. You'd make my day even more than
usual. And yes, absolutely, I'm going to send this to you.
I'm taking a picture of your mail email right now. Okay, next one,
No, that's the long one. Let's try. I got to try
to find a shorter one. Okay, Hello, fam. My husband and
I are driving in Florida Onction, listening to old episodes, and I when
I've written in and you read my emails, makes the time go by with
a good laugh. Something we thought of is when people incorrectly say I could
care less. As an example, everybody keeps talking about the weather, and
I could care less. So you're saying you could care less than you do
care You want to articulate that the topic doesn't matter to you, but you're
saying it wrong. You're supposed to say I couldn't care less. I get
that one. Confused. I do say I could not care less, but
I get confused. Now Sometimes no, I get and I don't really have
one except people say especially yeah, and that bugs me. I don't hear
it that often. But okay. Something I don't want to interrupt real quick
with something I saw that my friend posted the other day is when somebody's first
name has an S at the end of it, and you're like, oh,
I'm going to go to so and so's house. So, for instance,
in Miles, do you say I'm going to Miles house or am I
going to Miles's house? Miles's house? Yeah, that's what I thought too,
But then I guess, like the answer is it works either way.
But I was like, I don't think saying I know. I was like
no, but this person literally talked to like teachers and they said, ye,
okay, you're right. Probably they might be and I haven't verified her
sources, so they might be wrong. I'm going to Less house. No,
you're going to Less's house. Right, It just sounds weird with certain
names, like it sounds more normal than certain names. I'm trying to think
of another one that like Janice, I'm going to Janis house. No,
Well that's a bad that's a bad example. No, actually it's a good
example because that's exactly what you're saying. Just because it ends in an S
doesn't mean you get to say I'm going to Jani's house. Yeah, it's
the same thing as less house. Yeah, I'm going to best Best b
E S S. I'm going to best his house, right. Kind of
dumbass teachers? Did you talk to me? It's not me that talked to
him. It was a friend who posted it on our Instagram story. And
then she said that some teachers respond in saying it works either way, so
anyway, sorry, they're stupid. Okay, we're just having fun. I'm
responding it, says kellay uh to the person that says, get a colonoscopy.
Okay, I'm fifty and I do my yearly checkups and the doctor put
into prescription for call of guard. I did it, results came back needing
to call it ad oscoby to investigate my positive result, which they say in
the pamphlet that a positive negative can result. Well, I made the appointment
for the colonoscoby for this past Monday. The financial department of the doctor's called
and have me prepay for my appointment, which is normal because we don't have
health insurance. The lady said the colonoscoby was a minimum of eight thousand dollars.
Yes, eight thousand dollars. I cannot believe the system can charge so
much money for procedures that are to be done. Same with pap smears and
mammograms. I spend a few thousand dollars on them just in the past few
months. I'm fed up with the cost of the medical system. My husband
and I each own our own business, so paying for medical insurance would cost
up to eighteen hundred per month. I agree all those preventative precautions should be
done, but why does it cost so much since it's preventative. Well,
there's an answer. I don't It's just that's the way it is. But
preventative care. It's kind of like how health insurance companies want you to eat
better and they want you to exercise because they as a business want you to
be healthy, so you don't need them to pay up. Yep, collecting
your month's it is preventative preventative. I agree they should have been done,
but why does it cost so much? Sorry for yapping on so long,
but I am frustrated. You all are awesome. I listen every day.
My day is not complete without you all. From Kelly. Kelly, I
wish you would get insurance, but I guess I mean it depends on how
well your business is doing. A month is a lot for insurance. That's
a lot of money. Can it pay for itself. I mean, what
is eighteen hey ser or hey Alexa? What is eighteen hundred times twelve?
Good morning, David? One? Eight hundred times twelve is twenty one thousand,
six hundred. So you'd pay twenty one thousand dollars a year for insurance.
That is a lot of money. It's a lot of money. So
I get why you wouldn't pay for it, But man, I would encourage
you. Kelly, Somewhere down the road, you've got to get insurance,
especially you're fifty and you're going to run into fifties and when shit starts to
go wrong in your body. Yeah, you don't know this, Jenny.
You're young and you're healthy, and when you're in your twenties and thirties,
you're like, I'm healthy, I don't need any of this shit. But
when you're in your fifties, you start to get like your joints hurt and
you've got to go in for an MRI on your shoulder, or you I
don't know, you have some sort of pain in your belly and you've got
to go in for a colonoscopy or an endoscopy. Kelly. I hope that
somewhere down the road you get insurance. I don't know if there's a way
to get it that's more affordable or what. But wow. But at the
same time, I admire you for having your own business. Where are we
doing for time? Jay? You got to wrap up in about sixty seconds
here? Okay, well then we timed it perfectly. Thank you so much.
And I'm going to get to this really long one. It is written
by where's her name Katie and it's really long, but I'm going to give
it the respect it deserves and probably read that tomorrow on the Minnesota Goodbye and
I think that is it. Send your emails. I want to hear more
about your safe choice, whether you went with the safe one or whether you
went with the one that you really love, whether you're happy, and if
you get a chance, watch Spur of the Moment if you watch it on
probably it's on YouTube. I know it's on Netflix. Spur of the Moment,
old Twilight Zone episode because it really is powerful and it makes you realize,
Hey, maybe the wonderful one wouldn't be so wonderful in the end.
Yeah, that's it. Ryanshow at katiwb dot com and we'll get just a
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