1 00:00:00,440 --> 00:00:04,240 From Ritmo ninety- six five, Don Luis Minaya with us. Luis, 2 00:00:04,559 --> 00:00:07,160 welcome, how are you? Thank you, thank you, good morning. 3 00:00:08,080 --> 00:00:11,439 It' s convenient how life walks. Life' s fine. Sometimes we 4 00:00:11,480 --> 00:00:16,600 ' re the ones who break down. Sometimes yes, yes, very well. 5 00:00:17,800 --> 00:00:23,800 Well, you look good there in your DJ system me. Thank you, 6 00:00:24,160 --> 00:00:26,160 thank you, thank you. What do we have for today? Well, 7 00:00:26,440 --> 00:00:30,960 last week we were talking about the corporate crisis. So today we' 8 00:00:31,039 --> 00:00:35,960 re going to talk about the crisis in people, what' s known as 9 00:00:36,119 --> 00:00:44,439 the existential crisis. The existential crisis is when I' m not satisfied with 10 00:00:44,560 --> 00:00:47,479 what I am, with what I have, where I am, what I 11 00:00:48,119 --> 00:00:52,560 ' m doing, the work I have or the life I have, when 12 00:00:52,679 --> 00:00:58,679 I' m not happy, I don' t feel well like I feel 13 00:00:59,039 --> 00:01:03,760 and perceive that I deserve something better, or when my life doesn' t 14 00:01:03,840 --> 00:01:06,159 have the sense that I thought and I thought that at this age I was 15 00:01:06,159 --> 00:01:11,799 going to have. So what I' m doing doesn' t reflect what 16 00:01:11,799 --> 00:01:15,760 I thought, I thought I was going to be doing at this point in 17 00:01:15,799 --> 00:01:21,920 the game, so I kind of don' t feel good, so that 18 00:01:22,000 --> 00:01:25,400 ' s an existential crisis, because it has to do with existence, with 19 00:01:25,400 --> 00:01:29,640 one' s life. The truth is that human nature doesn' t matter 20 00:01:29,719 --> 00:01:34,079 where you are. You' re always changing. That thinking that life is 21 00:01:34,120 --> 00:01:40,000 static isn' t so there' s always a change. However, there 22 00:01:40,120 --> 00:01:46,120 are many elements that one must take into account. First, for a reason 23 00:01:46,159 --> 00:01:49,120 you never know the human being. Think that the only ones who grow up 24 00:01:49,200 --> 00:01:55,200 and change are the children and like the world is over when you' re 25 00:01:55,239 --> 00:02:00,480 out of college and you' re out of adolescence, like adolescence is that 26 00:02:00,560 --> 00:02:04,719 transit you have to cross to get out now and enter a life of peace, 27 00:02:04,799 --> 00:02:08,919 tranquility and stability. And it' s definitely not like that. There 28 00:02:09,080 --> 00:02:15,960 are always changes. For us psychologists, always a change is positive. That 29 00:02:15,960 --> 00:02:20,000 is to say, I think I' m going to change, yes, 30 00:02:20,120 --> 00:02:22,879 but they have to be favorable. Of course I do. Changes are always 31 00:02:22,960 --> 00:02:27,960 favorable. There are two situations that mark us and I will be brief. 32 00:02:29,360 --> 00:02:35,280 First, in the development of the life of an adult human being you will 33 00:02:35,319 --> 00:02:43,479 always have to face pleasant and unpleasant situations. There will always be problems, 34 00:02:43,800 --> 00:02:50,199 difficulties and you know what is always the same thing, that is, you 35 00:02:50,199 --> 00:02:54,360 can bring together five teenagers, five adults and five elderly people and the five 36 00:02:54,840 --> 00:03:00,000 go to talk about the same thing as what has happened to him, to 37 00:03:00,520 --> 00:03:06,000 the same thing then because life is like that, that is, the problems 38 00:03:06,000 --> 00:03:08,400 are age- specific. They' re called life cycle, even in marriage. 39 00:03:08,520 --> 00:03:12,759 The problems of a marriage from zero to five are not the same as 40 00:03:12,800 --> 00:03:16,479 five to ten, and so on. So, in life everything has that 41 00:03:17,039 --> 00:03:24,439 moment and then it means that one has to be prepared to face those realities. 42 00:03:27,599 --> 00:03:32,319 The second element is, and that is what you were talking about now, 43 00:03:32,680 --> 00:03:38,840 the blessed social expectations. What the people say, what the people say, 44 00:03:38,919 --> 00:03:44,520 what the culture says, what a young boy with the last name he 45 00:03:44,879 --> 00:03:50,039 has like he should walk in a pipette and he should have those little ones 46 00:03:50,120 --> 00:03:53,000 to menu, as one said right now. So, what does the society 47 00:03:53,080 --> 00:03:59,319 say about an elegant young woman who has to get married, who has to 48 00:03:59,400 --> 00:04:04,840 have children, what does the society say about an entrepreneur, a consultant, 49 00:04:04,919 --> 00:04:11,039 maybe like me, or a doctor, etcetera, etcetera. So, without 50 00:04:11,159 --> 00:04:18,720 realizing it, society puts a very high stress on our status to what I 51 00:04:18,920 --> 00:04:24,240 ' m supposed to be. Then they see you on the street and simply 52 00:04:24,399 --> 00:04:30,399 from those standards, they judge you really the way to dress, where in 53 00:04:30,399 --> 00:04:34,160 the restaurants that see you, etcetera, etcetera. So, already today, 54 00:04:34,319 --> 00:04:40,240 everyone knows and understands and believes that there is a standard that is set and 55 00:04:40,279 --> 00:04:46,079 that we have to go to and what the problem is, where the first 56 00:04:46,079 --> 00:04:51,160 conflict begins. When I' m satisfied and I' ve hit the balls 57 00:04:51,279 --> 00:04:55,079 in my life, I mean, I' ve gone well, but I 58 00:04:55,319 --> 00:04:58,319 don' t have a home and the one I have is very far, 59 00:04:59,160 --> 00:05:00,160 but I have an x vehicle. So then. Here it comes in the 60 00:05:00,480 --> 00:05:08,680 first existential crisis that I understand and I would like to hear some opinion of 61 00:05:08,680 --> 00:05:11,000 the century that we are. I think there' s a bigger crisis because 62 00:05:11,160 --> 00:05:15,240 of the social pressure than actually, so I' ve achieved, because sometimes 63 00:05:15,240 --> 00:05:19,319 you say, but you' re young, you' re professional, you 64 00:05:19,319 --> 00:05:24,199 have a master' s degree, you have this, yes, but I 65 00:05:24,319 --> 00:05:30,800 don' t have those, those, but and who it is that puts 66 00:05:30,839 --> 00:05:35,759 those things to you, then it' s supposed and here' s what 67 00:05:35,800 --> 00:05:40,240 ' s interesting and hear it well, no matter what happens to you it 68 00:05:40,319 --> 00:05:44,319 ' s always for the good that' s true, I mean, no 69 00:05:44,439 --> 00:05:44,920 matter what to you, well, there' s always the one that' 70 00:05:44,920 --> 00:05:47,399 s good that doesn' t come. There is no evil that it lasts 71 00:05:47,519 --> 00:05:51,600 a hundred years or body that resists it, and the night is never darker 72 00:05:51,720 --> 00:05:56,600 than when it is going to dawn. Now, if you go, as 73 00:05:56,839 --> 00:06:00,600 in my case I don' t have, I don' t have that 74 00:06:00,600 --> 00:06:02,240 much ability to walk on the street. The first time I went to Santiago 75 00:06:02,360 --> 00:06:10,519 using the new bypass, I got lost almost getting to the airport this way 76 00:06:10,959 --> 00:06:14,120 when I' m on my way, there' s no sign that tells 77 00:06:14,279 --> 00:06:15,800 me where I' m going. I asked Well, in the end look 78 00:06:15,800 --> 00:06:20,360 motor, right now, I took forward, right, then already now, 79 00:06:20,639 --> 00:06:26,120 second time, well, the same time when I went to face tip the 80 00:06:26,160 --> 00:06:29,040 detour, when I came to see and I was in the middle of the 81 00:06:29,040 --> 00:06:32,560 Roman, then the problem is not to lose you. The problem is to 82 00:06:32,639 --> 00:06:40,240 get lost and stay around, instead of saying I' m going to get 83 00:06:40,240 --> 00:06:44,759 out of here. So that' s the point. No matter where you 84 00:06:44,839 --> 00:06:48,360 are, you have to say good out of here I am going out and, 85 00:06:48,560 --> 00:06:54,399 in fact, and in fact, it is not possible to achieve success 86 00:06:54,480 --> 00:06:58,720 without being lost, without having made mistakes. There' s no such easy 87 00:06:58,759 --> 00:07:02,720 life they' re selling us in the tiktoks and all that and in the 88 00:07:02,759 --> 00:07:05,079 show and in the movies. That doesn' t exist. That only exists 89 00:07:05,319 --> 00:07:12,439 in Hollywood, only exists in Holum. So, what does it mean that 90 00:07:13,079 --> 00:07:18,600 we have to be prepared for crises then, for example, in the crisis 91 00:07:18,720 --> 00:07:23,079 of adolescence, which is the most terrible, it is the most shocking, 92 00:07:23,800 --> 00:07:30,439 it is the strongest of all, because there is the crisis of adolescence and 93 00:07:30,720 --> 00:07:33,759 I will mention it, in case there is any father who has children who 94 00:07:33,839 --> 00:07:40,399 are on their way to adolescence or are there in adolescence, it is like 95 00:07:40,519 --> 00:07:43,040 the border between what is it that I am going to do? I look 96 00:07:43,120 --> 00:07:45,519 like my dad, but I don' t want to look like him. 97 00:07:46,000 --> 00:07:49,519 I look like my mom, but I hate it because my mom is too 98 00:07:49,600 --> 00:07:51,319 soft on my dad and I don' t want to be like that. 99 00:07:53,680 --> 00:07:57,680 What I' m gonna do, I' m gonna do engineer cop and 100 00:07:57,759 --> 00:08:01,319 what I' m gonna live with all those big interrogations. I' m 101 00:08:01,560 --> 00:08:05,839 shy, I' m shy, I' m lazy, that is, 102 00:08:07,639 --> 00:08:09,160 all those questions that are asked in the stage of adolescence. It' s 103 00:08:09,160 --> 00:08:13,720 a crisis. It' s a crisis that we all went through, notice 104 00:08:13,720 --> 00:08:20,040 that, in fact, all the American films that exploit that stage, with 105 00:08:20,120 --> 00:08:26,279 all the film that they' ve made, we all enjoy it because we 106 00:08:26,680 --> 00:08:31,000 all live through those prohibitions, the parents' theme, the awakening of sexuality, 107 00:08:31,159 --> 00:08:35,320 that body that wants to sleep play as if it were a child, 108 00:08:35,840 --> 00:08:39,759 play and everything easy and everything simple. The subject of mathematics is that I 109 00:08:39,799 --> 00:08:43,039 don' t understand chemistry, etcetera, etcetera, bullying, which at that 110 00:08:43,080 --> 00:08:48,200 age is very sensitive. So what is the point where I want to reach 111 00:08:48,240 --> 00:08:54,519 with adolescence and the crisis of adolescence, which needs parents to guide right now 112 00:08:54,679 --> 00:09:00,960 in society. Every time I have to work with children of parents who have 113 00:09:01,000 --> 00:09:05,519 these ages or even who are in because adolescence reaches, say, until nineteen, 114 00:09:05,519 --> 00:09:13,120 when you already start getting out of college. But there you can identify 115 00:09:13,279 --> 00:09:20,240 another crisis. Then, because there parents also face a crisis, when their 116 00:09:20,240 --> 00:09:24,159 children are in adolescence, how to face it, I let it go, 117 00:09:24,480 --> 00:09:28,840 how you notice it, that the point with the parents is that the others 118 00:09:28,919 --> 00:09:35,519 passed them from zero to ten years with the children, eleven years being respected 119 00:09:37,080 --> 00:09:43,759 authority, admired and loved, and suddenly, this boy already begins to disqualify 120 00:09:43,799 --> 00:09:50,559 the dad. Then the dad who learned, who spent ten years being authoritarian, 121 00:09:50,639 --> 00:09:54,159 which is what had authority, because from zero to ten with the children 122 00:09:54,240 --> 00:09:58,000 you have to be authoritarian, that is, you have to respect rules and 123 00:09:58,000 --> 00:10:03,759 rules, but the dad thinks he has to follow the same style. And 124 00:10:03,840 --> 00:10:07,120 it' s quite the opposite. The crisis of adolescence is no longer authority. 125 00:10:09,320 --> 00:10:13,320 No. Now we' re going to talk, we' re going 126 00:10:13,320 --> 00:10:16,120 to talk and we' re going to agree, because now there are consequences 127 00:10:16,159 --> 00:10:16,840 for a six- year- old who doesn' t want to go to 128 00:10:16,840 --> 00:10:20,000 bed. I can' t put a punishment on a child or minor, 129 00:10:20,519 --> 00:10:24,120 and I can' t put him in a castle. So, that' 130 00:10:24,519 --> 00:10:26,720 s why it' s then implemented in the teen crisis. What' s 131 00:10:26,759 --> 00:10:33,399 the critical point. Today, as never before, young people need as much 132 00:10:33,559 --> 00:10:37,519 guidance as they do today. Then, the teenager must be guided, it 133 00:10:37,559 --> 00:10:43,159 must be explained what is right, what is right. You have to say 134 00:10:43,200 --> 00:10:48,279 that you' re hearing is not music. This is the way you dress 135 00:10:48,679 --> 00:10:50,840 that you see on TV. It' s not right, it' s 136 00:10:50,840 --> 00:10:54,159 not necessary. Here we are of such a religion. The values here are 137 00:10:54,240 --> 00:10:58,240 ready, because they' re bombarding him everywhere, everywhere. Sure, then, 138 00:10:58,320 --> 00:11:01,480 how do you do I remember I said there' s a social part. 139 00:11:01,840 --> 00:11:09,440 So, this teenage boy what exactly does a teenager want to belong to 140 00:11:09,440 --> 00:11:15,399 you, very well what your license plate is. All right, and look, 141 00:11:16,559 --> 00:11:18,960 he wants to belong to a group. And that' s where the 142 00:11:18,039 --> 00:11:24,240 boys start telling the big lies, where you start lying because you want to 143 00:11:24,360 --> 00:11:28,440 belong and you don' t smoke, but you take your cigarette, you 144 00:11:28,519 --> 00:11:33,320 don' t take a drink. So, that social pressure, if you 145 00:11:33,480 --> 00:11:37,960 don' t find in parents firm guidance, that' s where you don 146 00:11:37,960 --> 00:11:41,159 ' t. Not here. Here, when you go to the table, 147 00:11:41,240 --> 00:11:43,639 you have to come with your commission on. You don' t eat here 148 00:11:43,639 --> 00:11:46,799 without a shirt. Here you have to arrive at this hour. Here' 149 00:11:46,879 --> 00:11:50,440 s the schedule, like this, not like this. Here, then, 150 00:11:50,080 --> 00:11:56,039 in the crisis of adolescence, which is twelve to nineteen, we must study 151 00:11:56,039 --> 00:12:01,960 the presence and the advice and control of the extraordinary parents to the twelve, 152 00:12:03,200 --> 00:12:09,120 from the twelve two to the nineteen that today, in fact, it is 153 00:12:09,200 --> 00:12:16,399 necessary to start about ten to get used to negotiating. You get used to 154 00:12:16,519 --> 00:12:22,000 the negotiating part. But that stage, which is quite, as I said, 155 00:12:22,080 --> 00:12:28,840 critical of parents, because they have a critical role. The next critical 156 00:12:28,960 --> 00:12:35,240 stage is from the 20s to the 40s, from the 20s to the 40s, 157 00:12:35,320 --> 00:12:39,159 people come back again with the same question, because from the 20s to 158 00:12:39,200 --> 00:12:43,440 the 40s it is assumed that everything you said you wanted as a teenager. 159 00:12:43,799 --> 00:12:48,159 I can take it to my house and I want independence. And I want 160 00:12:48,279 --> 00:12:50,960 this and I want to be and I want to lead and I don' 161 00:12:50,960 --> 00:12:52,799 t want to ask. Forgive me, for Blessed be God, he reached 162 00:12:52,799 --> 00:12:58,200 that stage. Let' s go now. So now the true stage has 163 00:12:58,200 --> 00:13:05,080 come, where now you have to become self- sufficient. Twenty to forty 164 00:13:05,120 --> 00:13:09,279 you have to start and what I' m going to live from, what 165 00:13:09,320 --> 00:13:13,000 I' m going to study, what I' m going to do with 166 00:13:13,120 --> 00:13:16,039 my life, what I want. And they know that at that age, 167 00:13:16,759 --> 00:13:24,120 ninety percent of entrepreneurs already know what they wanted. The great entrepreneurs already at 168 00:13:24,240 --> 00:13:28,120 that age of twenty, even long before they were clear, know what they 169 00:13:28,120 --> 00:13:35,200 wanted to where they are going And then the problem of twenty to forty that 170 00:13:35,279 --> 00:13:41,639 choose a highway and leave the city that, if they know what that means 171 00:13:41,720 --> 00:13:48,679 do not explain to us, stops walking on so many roads. Take one 172 00:13:48,919 --> 00:13:52,519 Choose one not to be with a friend here today, a friend there, 173 00:13:52,799 --> 00:13:56,320 a girlfriend one day I find you here, one day it is over there, 174 00:13:56,960 --> 00:14:01,159 not twenty to forty choose a path. Note that in the United States 175 00:14:01,799 --> 00:14:07,399 you are going to choose an important manager before the age of thirty- five. 176 00:14:09,720 --> 00:14:16,480 So the American system is doctoral master' s university, that is, 177 00:14:16,759 --> 00:14:20,679 you have to know then. There are many people who, as I say 178 00:14:20,799 --> 00:14:26,080 when I give cochi what edato is thirty- eight, have two years to 179 00:14:26,080 --> 00:14:28,519 solve all the issues that you have, that is, before the forties, 180 00:14:28,879 --> 00:14:35,399 you have to solve all the most existential conflicts. That is the age where 181 00:14:35,440 --> 00:14:41,519 relationships and attention are established. It is not possible to get anywhere without having 182 00:14:41,559 --> 00:14:46,840 relationships, healthy relationships with dad, with mom, with my cousin, with 183 00:14:46,960 --> 00:14:52,720 my uncle, with my neighbor at work, with everyone it is very difficult 184 00:14:52,799 --> 00:14:58,600 to find an entrepreneur that when you ask him how you came to the success 185 00:14:58,679 --> 00:15:03,000 of today and he will mention up to ten people who on the way helped 186 00:15:03,039 --> 00:15:09,000 him, helped him along the way. So and what it is to help 187 00:15:09,039 --> 00:15:15,559 you on the way Relationships, relationships, that is, everything in life. 188 00:15:15,679 --> 00:15:18,039 It' s about relationships. So twenty to forty, that' s the 189 00:15:18,159 --> 00:15:22,879 thing. So twenty to forty, you have to be clear that this is 190 00:15:24,759 --> 00:15:28,039 what I' m going to live from and this is what I want to 191 00:15:28,039 --> 00:15:33,879 be. In this part there are some crises, there are some situations that 192 00:15:33,960 --> 00:15:37,159 complicate his life and that is that some focus so much his life on the 193 00:15:37,519 --> 00:15:41,559 economics, that they move away from dad and mom, move away from friends 194 00:15:41,600 --> 00:15:46,159 and stay alone. So, that crisis of the 20s to the 40s. 195 00:15:46,759 --> 00:15:48,440 It' s important. We have always heard of the crisis of the forties. 196 00:15:48,840 --> 00:15:52,639 True, of course, then comes another crisis. After the forties he 197 00:15:52,720 --> 00:15:58,360 spends it. The last crisis is when I see St Peter or I see 198 00:15:58,399 --> 00:16:03,159 the enemy already, but then that crisis of the twentieth to the forties does 199 00:16:03,159 --> 00:16:07,120 not stop. I love it because most of the customers I have are there. 200 00:16:07,600 --> 00:16:10,799 All right, I mean, I tell you, look at all this 201 00:16:10,799 --> 00:16:15,799 stuff that you told me, you' ve got thirty- nine left a 202 00:16:15,879 --> 00:16:19,120 year, when you' re thirty- five, all right, you' 203 00:16:19,320 --> 00:16:25,519 ve got five years left to get out of all this, because you can 204 00:16:25,639 --> 00:16:27,279 ' t get up to your beak with your backpack from the first floor down 205 00:16:27,279 --> 00:16:29,600 to the top. I mean, there are things. You have to go 206 00:16:30,159 --> 00:16:33,000 solving it. You' ve got to figure it out and see what' 207 00:16:33,000 --> 00:16:37,759 s interesting. When you work your twenty- forty crisis well, you' 208 00:16:37,840 --> 00:16:44,519 re already getting ready for the next crisis. So now the next crisis, 209 00:16:44,679 --> 00:16:48,399 which is not the last one. She' s an old woman, so 210 00:16:48,759 --> 00:16:52,440 if she' s already and until she' s forty, then the other 211 00:16:52,480 --> 00:16:56,320 is forty- two to fifty. Up there, that' s the make, 212 00:16:56,159 --> 00:17:03,240 raise the face. Well, that crisis of forty- one to sixty 213 00:17:03,480 --> 00:17:10,400 - five is a niche already has its niche. I divide it to fifty 214 00:17:10,640 --> 00:17:17,079 in my experience. It' s my real practical experience, because this crisis 215 00:17:17,119 --> 00:17:22,759 has to do with biology, psychology, society, etcetera. But I like 216 00:17:22,880 --> 00:17:26,359 the forty- fifties better, because it' s like the second teens, 217 00:17:26,640 --> 00:17:32,240 like your second chance, it' s like when you' re told to 218 00:17:32,319 --> 00:17:33,720 look here we' re on the border of two countries where you' re 219 00:17:33,720 --> 00:17:41,599 going. So if you' re 50, you' re still not sure 220 00:17:41,720 --> 00:17:45,319 if it' s Jordan or it' s for here, then you' 221 00:17:45,319 --> 00:17:47,960 re in serious trouble. To the fifty that you begin to say already I 222 00:17:48,000 --> 00:17:49,200 am paid that you know the sun because where you want, no, no, 223 00:17:49,480 --> 00:17:55,960 no that, that is at sixty then and otherwise, also without personal 224 00:17:56,079 --> 00:18:03,480 offense, then forty to fifty is where already you are supposed to say. 225 00:18:06,000 --> 00:18:11,799 I' m on the road I want, I' m with the person 226 00:18:11,839 --> 00:18:15,880 I want, in the city I want to do what I want. I 227 00:18:15,960 --> 00:18:19,279 haven' t arrived yet, I haven' t completed, I mean, 228 00:18:19,799 --> 00:18:25,880 I' m in San Pedro and it' s for expensive tip I' 229 00:18:26,319 --> 00:18:33,119 m going and I' m firmly already know absolutely that the route is this 230 00:18:33,160 --> 00:18:36,440 way already the Weis told me there are seven guys on the way with a 231 00:18:36,440 --> 00:18:37,279 gun pointing at me to see if I go faster. I know everything, 232 00:18:37,640 --> 00:18:41,599 I' m going to be fine, I even know I can make a 233 00:18:41,680 --> 00:18:45,279 little stop there in the typical one and I' m in no hurry. 234 00:18:45,440 --> 00:18:48,200 I' m calm enough to get there, because I already know everything, 235 00:18:48,400 --> 00:18:52,160 I mean, I know what' s going to touch me and I' 236 00:18:52,160 --> 00:18:55,960 m ready for that. I' m healthy. You say then, that 237 00:18:56,039 --> 00:19:02,160 ' s the person who says I need a diploma, you need to master 238 00:19:02,160 --> 00:19:03,839 this because I' m gonna need it, I need to save for something. 239 00:19:04,240 --> 00:19:10,440 So those crises that can be lived there I come back and I repeat 240 00:19:10,519 --> 00:19:14,000 that it reminds me that crisis means I am not happy, I am not 241 00:19:14,000 --> 00:19:18,000 satisfied. I have a conflict, I have an discomfort, like the one 242 00:19:18,319 --> 00:19:21,440 who' s not like the one who' s in prison. I mean, 243 00:19:21,480 --> 00:19:22,799 I' m uncomfortable. Here? I don' t want to be 244 00:19:22,799 --> 00:19:26,319 here? I feel no, no, I can' t be here? 245 00:19:26,720 --> 00:19:30,480 So, that' s the crisis until you' re 50. Then already 246 00:19:30,720 --> 00:19:34,960 from the fifties, I repeat, you are already on the way. In 247 00:19:36,039 --> 00:19:40,839 fact, for many people the stage of forty- sixty the most productive, 248 00:19:41,640 --> 00:19:45,160 because your brain is more active. You' re supposed to already have an 249 00:19:45,160 --> 00:19:48,279 experience, you know, it' s well located. It' s well 250 00:19:48,279 --> 00:19:51,880 located. You don' t have a European bike, but you know how 251 00:19:51,880 --> 00:19:53,160 to get it out. You don' t have a visa for but you 252 00:19:53,240 --> 00:19:56,720 already, if you know how to say, that age you' re going 253 00:19:56,759 --> 00:19:59,680 to achieve what you want, because you already know how it is. You 254 00:19:59,720 --> 00:20:03,079 ' re already pushing the price you have to have. So, at that 255 00:20:03,160 --> 00:20:07,319 age it' s when you hear music and listen to television, I people 256 00:20:07,359 --> 00:20:10,440 talk and say good. I don' t think that' s the way 257 00:20:10,440 --> 00:20:14,720 it is. You already have a personal judgment and you' re in some 258 00:20:14,799 --> 00:20:18,160 way vaccinated against society. Not that aparatage and that, that' s not 259 00:20:18,160 --> 00:20:22,359 it. I' ll take it another way, that is, forty- 260 00:20:22,039 --> 00:20:29,759 fifty you start living your life as you understand it, how it makes sense 261 00:20:29,759 --> 00:20:33,400 to you, it does you good, you don' t care to walk 262 00:20:33,839 --> 00:20:36,519 in whatever vehicle it is and you' re already with the friends you want 263 00:20:36,519 --> 00:20:40,799 to be. Before there were twenty, now and ten, but those are 264 00:20:41,000 --> 00:20:45,119 the real ones, they are the real ones. You used to worry because 265 00:20:45,240 --> 00:20:48,599 you wanted to. You don' t have any worries anymore. Eye doesn 266 00:20:48,720 --> 00:20:52,400 ' t mean he stayed that way. No. Quite the opposite now is 267 00:20:52,440 --> 00:20:56,319 that it will produce. But like I said, like when I have to 268 00:20:56,279 --> 00:21:02,039 go to love I go every fortnight. I' m going easy, I 269 00:21:02,039 --> 00:21:03,960 have a meeting there at ten, at eleven, relax, I know I 270 00:21:04,279 --> 00:21:08,799 have to wake up at that hour. I take my ring, my fast 271 00:21:08,799 --> 00:21:12,839 pace, happy, but I' m in trouble. I have the situations, 272 00:21:14,079 --> 00:21:18,720 but I know then in that crisis that most of my clients are between 273 00:21:18,759 --> 00:21:25,680 forty and less than forty- fifty, it is the crises that I come 274 00:21:25,720 --> 00:21:29,400 back and repeat all do not matter. What you are living is for the 275 00:21:29,519 --> 00:21:33,799 good. Now, if you' re living something you can take advantage of, 276 00:21:34,319 --> 00:21:38,480 and you don' t, it' s something else. You know 277 00:21:38,519 --> 00:21:45,039 what' s more surprising when I evaluate people than when I evaluate a kind 278 00:21:45,119 --> 00:21:48,799 of a foda, I give them psychological tests, I mean, but you 279 00:21:48,799 --> 00:21:52,720 have two personality traits here, which are what you need to solve the problems 280 00:21:52,759 --> 00:21:56,440 you have, but you say you' re strong, you say that' 281 00:21:56,559 --> 00:22:02,079 s what it takes to get out of trouble where you are, you say 282 00:22:02,240 --> 00:22:06,160 you are, but that' s what you say you' re what it 283 00:22:06,200 --> 00:22:11,680 takes for this. Obviously, that, as I always say in my house, 284 00:22:11,920 --> 00:22:15,480 if I had to stay alone and prepare food at noon, I' 285 00:22:15,480 --> 00:22:18,519 m going to starve, but it' s not for lack of food. 286 00:22:18,680 --> 00:22:23,279 The pantry is full, but what' s the problem? Not that I 287 00:22:23,359 --> 00:22:26,920 don' t know the know, the know, then there are people who 288 00:22:26,920 --> 00:22:30,119 think they have. If it' s not to have, it' s 289 00:22:30,119 --> 00:22:34,240 not to have, it' s to know, to use what you have 290 00:22:34,240 --> 00:22:37,960 in favor of, yours i mean vi de fish, it' s full, 291 00:22:37,640 --> 00:22:38,960 there' s meat, there' s everything and I could use it 292 00:22:38,960 --> 00:22:41,519 in my favor, but I don' t know. Then there are people 293 00:22:41,559 --> 00:22:44,480 who say I am, I am, but blessed be God. If you 294 00:22:44,519 --> 00:22:48,599 say you are, what you are, then people who are like you say 295 00:22:48,720 --> 00:22:52,880 you are, don' t have the problem you have. Or you' 296 00:22:52,920 --> 00:22:55,160 re gonna talk to a rich man and he' s gonna tell you he 297 00:22:55,240 --> 00:22:56,839 ' s got a problem because he can' t pay. But you say 298 00:22:56,839 --> 00:23:02,200 you' re rich, you say you have money, so either it' 299 00:23:02,240 --> 00:23:07,759 s a lie what you' re telling me or you' re bragging about 300 00:23:07,359 --> 00:23:12,680 something that' s not really like that, is that existential crises are typical 301 00:23:12,839 --> 00:23:17,720 of people who are alive today. This peter does, then, but it 302 00:23:18,119 --> 00:23:26,400 also arrives at that act of time. Sometimes you see things, you know 303 00:23:27,640 --> 00:23:33,599 how bad, but you end up accepting me Yes. There, what' 304 00:23:33,680 --> 00:23:36,960 s called it is that you don' t care. Yeah, the brain 305 00:23:37,319 --> 00:23:42,640 has the ability to adapt to things it doesn' t want. That is 306 00:23:42,720 --> 00:23:48,680 what is somehow called resignation, which is nothing but a defeat, which is 307 00:23:48,839 --> 00:23:59,599 nothing but surrendering without even fighting. Certainly, in many of the human crises, 308 00:23:59,720 --> 00:24:06,079 everyone should have at least one friend. Someone to tell a priest. 309 00:24:07,079 --> 00:24:11,319 It' s not once or twice that I' ve sent professional executives where 310 00:24:11,400 --> 00:24:14,880 the priest when I' ve seen him, look here already. All you 311 00:24:14,920 --> 00:24:18,599 have left is to go to Mass, I mean, there' s always 312 00:24:18,799 --> 00:24:22,400 a way out. Now what' s going to be the problem. It 313 00:24:22,480 --> 00:24:26,799 ' s not always going to be the one you want, it' s 314 00:24:26,839 --> 00:24:27,799 not always going to be the one you understand. He' s like the 315 00:24:27,880 --> 00:24:32,720 one who dislocates a foot or dislocates something. How we' re gonna straighten 316 00:24:32,720 --> 00:24:33,799 it out for you. You don' t think it' s gonna hurt. 317 00:24:33,039 --> 00:24:36,279 Of course it' s gonna hurt. It' s gonna hurt. 318 00:24:36,319 --> 00:24:41,119 Then straightening things out pretending they don' t hurt is a lie. That 319 00:24:41,240 --> 00:24:45,839 ' s why some people go to retreats and get euphoric. They go to 320 00:24:45,920 --> 00:24:51,640 a workshop and get euphoric or lying. Bullshit. The big change. I 321 00:24:51,640 --> 00:24:53,960 ' m talking about life change. Not that this Christian said he' s 322 00:24:53,960 --> 00:24:56,599 going to remove his beard over any problems. You go and sit down and 323 00:24:56,680 --> 00:25:00,839 they take it off and you' re gonna get a tattoo. That' 324 00:25:00,880 --> 00:25:06,480 s, that' s simple. But life changes have to hurt. They 325 00:25:06,559 --> 00:25:11,599 ' re called type two change, because it' s a change that goes 326 00:25:11,599 --> 00:25:15,720 from the inside out. It' s a conviction. I remember my brother 327 00:25:15,920 --> 00:25:21,279 - in- law, who was an alcoholic, resting in peace, coming 328 00:25:21,319 --> 00:25:29,480 to Tremen delirium and having a situation and doing everything, but one day something 329 00:25:29,599 --> 00:25:33,720 happened that struck him in an extraordinary way and he commented to me. I 330 00:25:33,839 --> 00:25:41,319 took it I got to the bottom of the bottle and I said I never 331 00:25:41,319 --> 00:25:45,920 drink again. And indeed, it was. That is, all great changes 332 00:25:45,960 --> 00:25:53,440 require sacrifices. They have to hurt. Obviously, that pain is what advantage 333 00:25:53,480 --> 00:25:57,599 you have for your next stage. You' re not going to live that 334 00:25:59,359 --> 00:26:02,640 anymore, that' s an example. I know, I' m a 335 00:26:02,720 --> 00:26:04,880 friend and it relates to everyone, but I can' t be friends with 336 00:26:04,920 --> 00:26:08,799 everyone. I like movies, I like drinks, I like this, but 337 00:26:08,880 --> 00:26:12,839 I don' t drink drinks with everyone. It means I' m a 338 00:26:12,839 --> 00:26:18,640 reaper. It doesn' t mean that I segment or reject, but that 339 00:26:18,720 --> 00:26:22,440 there is already an age when you have to feel comfortable. I mean, 340 00:26:22,480 --> 00:26:25,880 I can' t be at a gallero meeting because I' m not me 341 00:26:25,960 --> 00:26:27,359 I don' t know about cock and I don' t care about that. 342 00:26:27,720 --> 00:26:32,319 Then I can' t have three friends who are yesterday then the day 343 00:26:32,359 --> 00:26:37,240 they invite me. Not you have to have true that kind of relationship that 344 00:26:37,319 --> 00:26:44,240 looks like you. Resignation is not healthy. It is not healthy to surrender, 345 00:26:44,519 --> 00:26:47,720 it is not healthy, because it says the word of God, that 346 00:26:47,839 --> 00:26:52,160 God places no burden on anyone with whom he cannot. And it is really 347 00:26:52,680 --> 00:26:56,880 clear that there is and hear well. Only about ten to fifteen percent of 348 00:26:56,000 --> 00:27:02,799 the population know how to get out of their crises. Only a ten to 349 00:27:02,960 --> 00:27:07,440 a fifteen. Others, which may be a ten or a fifteen, go 350 00:27:07,000 --> 00:27:15,160 out listening, listening, reading about those people who have a strong self- 351 00:27:15,319 --> 00:27:19,880 critical formation and reflect. They are analytics and reading themselves can come out, 352 00:27:21,200 --> 00:27:26,480 but the vast majority need guidance, they need help, that is what you 353 00:27:26,519 --> 00:27:32,759 want to go guidance and help They need to go to a place to talk 354 00:27:32,799 --> 00:27:36,559 to someone who can be an important friend or a friend. I always recommend 355 00:27:36,680 --> 00:27:41,559 when my customers are reeling in the marketing part and they have economic problems. 356 00:27:41,880 --> 00:27:48,480 I' m telling you, go meet a businessman who' s doing well 357 00:27:48,519 --> 00:27:51,680 and they don' t have any problems. With advice, go pay him 358 00:27:51,799 --> 00:27:55,720 dinner and talk and talk to him and of course he will tell you everything 359 00:27:55,720 --> 00:28:00,000 you have to do, because there are always moments in him that it will 360 00:28:00,200 --> 00:28:07,759 not be easy to go out alone. Help is needed, guidance is needed. 361 00:28:08,240 --> 00:28:14,359 So my message is no matter how old you are, you' re 362 00:28:14,400 --> 00:28:19,119 always changing. Crises are opportunities. As I said in Japan, the crisis 363 00:28:19,200 --> 00:28:23,720 has one part that they call danger and the other part an opportunity. Of 364 00:28:23,799 --> 00:28:26,759 course you can get out of a crisis because you took the danger part. 365 00:28:30,200 --> 00:28:33,279 I' m not doing that again. I' m going to shine, 366 00:28:33,799 --> 00:28:36,799 and it' s kind of a drama. So I urge you to face 367 00:28:36,839 --> 00:28:45,079 your crises. Lean seek help, seek guidance, and always do what needs 368 00:28:45,119 --> 00:28:48,519 to be done. If you' re getting married, or you have to 369 00:28:48,599 --> 00:28:51,640 get ready to be married. If you' re going to get a company, 370 00:28:51,839 --> 00:28:53,599 or you have to be prepared for that. If you are going to 371 00:28:53,680 --> 00:29:00,000 promote the leader, you have to prepare for that, then everyone has to 372 00:29:00,039 --> 00:29:06,400 be prepared. In the style of the players, the players spend more time 373 00:29:06,480 --> 00:29:10,799 practicing than playing. I believe that the most complicated crisis all that involves the 374 00:29:11,039 --> 00:29:17,079 crisis of adolescence, both for father, yes, involves the entire family exactly. 375 00:29:18,440 --> 00:29:23,599 That stage is quite complicated and you were talking about some guidance, yes, 376 00:29:25,319 --> 00:29:30,400 guidance. Most parents at that stage support and forget about the part of 377 00:29:30,480 --> 00:29:38,319 the orientation. In fact, I would extend the role of father to today 378 00:29:38,400 --> 00:29:45,720 until I was thirty. I mean, I feel very young. I have 379 00:29:45,799 --> 00:29:55,799 to evaluate a lot of people recruiting profiles and there is an extraordinary disorientation or 380 00:29:55,799 --> 00:29:57,200 confusion. You know, Don Luis, who wrote me to a listener and 381 00:29:57,240 --> 00:30:02,640 told me that in cases where you try to heal with your parents, but 382 00:30:02,680 --> 00:30:06,960 parents are what they don' t help, that you have already gone to 383 00:30:07,000 --> 00:30:10,000 therapy and everything, but with your parents you have not been able to have 384 00:30:10,079 --> 00:30:15,759 a healthy relationship. What happens is there' s a mix- up. 385 00:30:17,000 --> 00:30:22,240 There' s a mistake there. It is one thing to re- establish 386 00:30:22,279 --> 00:30:27,440 the relationship, to have a fluid relationship on both sides, and another is 387 00:30:27,599 --> 00:30:30,680 for you to resolve your conflict with them, that is, I forgave you. 388 00:30:30,079 --> 00:30:34,759 I want to talk to you, I want to have a positive relationship, 389 00:30:34,920 --> 00:30:38,240 but it' s two, that is, if the other one wants 390 00:30:38,319 --> 00:30:44,519 it, well, I have to respect it, but I already healed the 391 00:30:44,559 --> 00:30:45,759 relationship, then it' s she you can' t. I can' 392 00:30:45,359 --> 00:30:48,680 t go to a human relationship course so everyone gets along with me, but 393 00:30:48,759 --> 00:30:52,480 I have control of that, I mean, I want to be friends with 394 00:30:52,559 --> 00:30:57,799 you, but there' s always a two- way decision. I have 395 00:30:59,200 --> 00:31:03,279 always kept in my life that when I open it to my heart the one 396 00:31:03,400 --> 00:31:07,640 who wants does not enter, between which I let in and out the one 397 00:31:07,759 --> 00:31:12,759 who wants. But to get in is not my decision, so I get 398 00:31:12,839 --> 00:31:18,799 along with you is my decision and I' m going to do everything, 399 00:31:18,000 --> 00:31:22,720 but it' s two. So she must be reconciled with her parents in 400 00:31:22,759 --> 00:31:27,599 the heart and brain. And to the extent that she reconciles herself with her 401 00:31:27,640 --> 00:31:33,440 parents and forgives him, things are going to change, because she' s 402 00:31:33,640 --> 00:31:41,400 going to start generating a positive energy of opening up pain. When I have 403 00:31:41,480 --> 00:31:44,799 a problem with a brother, no, what happens is that my brother doesn 404 00:31:44,799 --> 00:31:47,960 ' t. I hurt myself, I mean, I want to go to 405 00:31:48,079 --> 00:31:52,279 him, but he doesn' t get me that hurts. So that' 406 00:31:52,359 --> 00:31:56,240 s a problem that I hurt because it' s not what I want. 407 00:31:56,680 --> 00:32:00,759 But I have the disposition if he will ever knock on my door. I 408 00:32:00,799 --> 00:32:07,400 ' ll get it. That is true reconciliation, true inner healing. Well, 409 00:32:07,480 --> 00:32:09,920 there it is. Thank you, Mr Luis do Luis Minaya. With 410 00:32:10,039 --> 00:32:16,039 us remember Luis Minaya com and we follow the networks out there and thanks to 411 00:32:16,160 --> 00:32:22,640 Luis. Or there' s this morning rhythm. Don' t move. Your ri