All right, here we go with the hello with the weekend version of the
Minnesota Goodbye, Let's see what we got here? First one says politics,
Minnesota Goodbye, Let's see what we got here? Dave, how dare you
just kidding? I don't give a fuck about your politics as I am Canadian
and we have our own issues. That's funny. One thing I did want
to chime in on was about how I kind of understand what that person was
saying when it comes to the weed talk. Now, remember a couple of
days ago a woman wrote in and she said she was I think fifty five
ish, and she didn't like that we talked about Drake openly smoking weed,
and he doesn't smoke a lot of weed. But I think the thing about
it was that there's so many people that do. And the stereotype is you're
lazy, you're unemployed, you eat a lot of Pringles and Doritos and Taco
bell, you sit in your basement and you're wasting your life. Well that's
true. Now I'm making that up. There's a lot of people that smoke
weed that they're professional responsible. It's just not our thing. So though it
is very much like the norm here, in Canada. My biggest fear is
it opens up others stuff. For example, now it seems Canada is almost
trying to make mushrooms the new norm. Where I live, there are actually
illegal mushroom shops popping up with storefronts. He may mean legal, I'm not
sure. Oh okay, it says illegal, although the police raid them constantly.
They just opened right back up Todd in Canada, thank you very much
for listening. I didn't really think that we had a lot of people listening
in Canada, but I guess we do, so thank you. Mushrooms are
a hallucinogenic. I don't know what effect they have on you. I am
not interested in doing mushrooms, and I think my thing with any drug that's
like I know, I don't like weeds, so I don't worry about that.
I worry that if I tried any other drug, i'd like it.
Like if you and I smoke meth, we would get addicted, yes,
and we would just would because that's what happens when you smoke meth. So
I don't want that problem. I was watching Cops, remember the show Cops.
When were you watching Cops? Came home from ukulele club, last night,
Susan was watching Cops I don't know why, and there was a guy
that got pulled over. He was driving and his girlfriend or friend or whatever
was also in the car. He was a total meth head. He looked
like a meth head. The cops said, we've pulled him over many times
and he was just, you know, just kind of like hyper and giggly
and whatever. And I told Susan, I said, I can't imagine a
life where you are addicted to fucking meth. Can't imagine it. And then
she, on the other hand, was like, I don't do it.
I don't know anything about it. Those aren't because they always say that's not
mine, and those aren't my drugs, and they really weren't. They were
her friends. So thank you Todd for that one. Next one, Dave,
I really feel what you said. I'm not living life anymore. Life
is living me. I said that yesterday because it kind of dawned on me
that there's so much that I have to do, I am obligated to do,
don't necessarily want to do that. I feel like life is living me
and steering me, and I'm not living the life that I want to live.
She says, I feel like my life has turned into an obligation.
I have to go to this kid's birthday party, plan my mom's fiftieth,
plan this baby shower, come to this dinner, go to this bar,
go on this trip. Social obligations are truly constant lately, and I'm exhausted.
If I went to every single one of my friend's kid's birthday parties,
I'd go to eighteen kid birthday parties in one year. Guys, fuck that,
she says with several k's on there. If I'm not hanging out with
a majority of my friends regularly, weekly, bi weekly, I'm now a
bad friend. If I don't check in enough, I'm not a good friend.
This is truly some shit I did not expect to be dealing with in
my thirties. I feel like this is a new phenomenon, especially among youngish
women. If I hung out with every friend I had regularly, I would
never be alone or spend time with my husband. Does anybody have this kind
of time? Besides, because during the week, I'd rather be doing my
workouts, prepping meals, walk them and dogs, reading books, and then
work in some social time. Obligations on the weekends please tell me I'm not
alone, because I feel like I'm the only one with this perspective. Okay,
love you all. Bye. That's from Samantha. What do you think.
I definitely feel that I have like these I have Like I have like
a handful of close friends, you know, like my Harry and Tina kind
of friends, right, that I see decently frequently. Then you have like
your next tier, and then you have your next tier if you will well,
and even if you only see a couple of those other tiers once,
let's say every two months, if you have a handful of them, you
could easily fill every weekend or random weekday with seeing them, and it does
become exhausting. I think that that's if your friends don't understand, then I
think that they maybe aren't the best friend because once you hit your thirties,
most people have started their own lives. Not everyone, trust me, I
get it, not everyone. So I don't know they will understand if they
don't have families yet eventually when they have them, I would think, yeah,
I bet they're going through the same thing, sam Is. That is
exactly kind of what I don't have. The social obligations I have, like
the work obligations, and then I have You know, I love my family,
but I think I was talking on the radio a couple of weeks ago
that I do not want to spend the rest of my vacations going to see
my kids. I don't. I love my kids, but Carson's going to
live in La Beth is in North Carolina, Chases in Arizona, Alison lives
here. I don't want to spend every vacation feeling obligated to go see my
kids. I want to go to Fiji. I want to go to the
Pyramids. I want to go to Alaska. And I don't want to feel
like every vacation has to be spent going to see the kids, which is
weird because I love my kids so much and I'd love to see them.
Yeah, but the last few vacations have been not to where we had always
wanted to go, but to go see Chase. And if Chase here's this,
I hope he doesn't get it wrong. I loved our time together,
loved it. We went to Benny Hanna, we went to the pool,
We had a great time. But I want to go other places. Yeah,
So I feel like I think that I don't know if maybe the suggestion
is just take more control and say I got plans. I can't come to
your baby shower, I can't do this, I can't go to this dinner,
I can't go on this trip because you're obviously if it struck a chord
with you, I'm not living life anymore. Life is living me. Then
maybe you're the only one that's going to take control of it. I've always
said, nobody is going to respect your time like you will. Nobody has
any respect for your time. They'll say something like, well, can you
do this extra thing? Can you volunteer at the mud run this weekend?
Well? No, I can't. I've got a thing. Well can you
do this instead? Or can you go to dinner on Thursday night? No,
I can't go Thursday. What about Friday? No, can't go Friday.
I can't go the entire next week. Okay, well what about the
next week? I think sometimes people have just got to say I can't anytime
soon. Yeah, but I get it. It's hard, all right.
Last one, Samantha, let us know and if you have any ideas on
that one, if you also feel like life is living, you send me
your thoughts. This one starts off with don't say my name. I don't
think my generation was lied to about college. Remember yesterday we read an email
from somebody who said they had a modest income from a job they didn't really
like their husband. I think they were in the first responder, I'm not
really sure they went to college for something that doesn't pay well. Now they've
got massive student loans and they really don't have a lot of extra cash.
And they said our generation was lied to about college where you go to college
for four years and you get an amazing job. And it didn't work out
that way for her. So she goes on to say, I don't think
my generation was lied to about college. I'm thirty, my husband thirty two.
My parents were huge on letting us do what we wanted, not pushing
a four year degree. Out of four kids, one of us has a
four year degree and he got a full scholarship because he worked his ass off
as a golf caddy. I have no student debt. My other two siblings
have no student debt. We all do well. My parents made sure we
understood about student loans, while I have a lot of extended family that their
parents didn't apparently, and it also is like they are treading water. Our
parents were raised the same, but they instill the different mindset in us.
My husband works for a blue collar job, works his ass off, but
thanks to no student loans, I am able to stay home with our three
kids. We own a home, we have a paid off vehicle. I
hate when people basically blame the Times, because I know tons of people,
mostly blue collar workers, honestly, who are the same age and don't complain
about being lied to. Interesting it is an interesting take. I will say
that one thing that is just fucking ridiculous is the price of owning a home,
because I know several people who are like, oh, yeah, we
bought our home for let's throw out a number. We bought our home for
four hundred thousand dollars in twenty seventeen, and it's already worth six hundred thousand
dollars. And I'm like, are you crazy? I mean, good for
you that you've made two hundred thousand dollars, But what about the person whose
income has only gone up three percent a year in the last several years.
Now the home that they could have bought in twenty seventeen for four hundred is
now six hundred that's where it gets tough. And I think that you know,
car prices are car prices are ridiculous too, they're just it's a huge
investment. But home prices, that's what everybody wants, is they want to
buy their own home. Yep, they do, but they're too expensive and
they go so quickly, and they go to people who already have a house
and this is their second house, and they can they're older, so they
can pay in cash. And it's like crazy. Yeah. And you hear
about something like I know somebody who is I don't know them, but I
know of them. They bought a house for something like three point four million
a couple of years ago. It is not a friend of mine. I
don't have friends to have that kind of money that I know of. Let's
say three point four million, and a few years later it's like four point
five million. And it's like you made a million dollars by doing nothing but
owning a house in just a few years. Wow. And that's just the
way it is. And you know, we've been looking at some homes lately
and it's like, well, let's see what they paid for it. Oh,
they paid let's say six hundred thousand for it in twenty fifteen, and
now they're selling it for whatever, nine hundred thousand dollars. Holy shit,
nobody's income goes up that fast. So homes are just I mean, that's
another one. So that is really kind of it for the Minnesota goodbye today.
Unless you wanted to add anything else fallon, I don't think so.
I mean, have a good weekend, and now you're off next week,
and then I'm off the week after that. So we had a busy couple
of weeks where you going the week when you're gone Olympic National Park? Is
that in Washington? It is? Yeah? And you know what's odd,
No one knows where it is. I you're the first person I've heard of
Olympic Washington. I think. So every time I've said Olympic National Park,
people look at me and they feel dumb. They're like, I feel dumb.
Where's that? I'm bad at geography. I've had so many people say
that. I'm like, you're not dumb. But I also didn't realize so
few people what draws you to Olympic National Park? Well, we just pick
a different national park every year, and Olympic National Park is really cool because
it has a rainforest in it, so you can go check out the rainforest
one day, and then you can go look at you know, waterfalls and
mountains like a normal one the other day. So it's kind of like different
cool areas of it. That is really cool. I went to a Hawaii
rainforest a few years ago, and it literally does it rains all the time.
They get like six hundred inches of rain I'm guessing, I don't know
a year, and it's it's just weird because Hawaii you think of as warm
and sunny and tropical, but you get up into these mountains there's always a
cloud around them for some reason, and it rains all the time. So
in this rainforest, it supposed rains all the time. I assume it sounds
miserable. Good trail. I think it's like a mile or two trail called
the Hall of Mosses, I think. And yeah, I think it's gonna
be really pretty and cool. So we'll see, all right, have a
good time. We will. That is it for the Minnesota. Goodbye for
me for a week, and I guess we'll see you again. Well,
we're doing it next week. It'll still happen. It'll just be with different
people. We don't know who, No, we do. We'll see you
next week here on the Minnesota Goodbye. Send those emails too, Ryan Show
at katie able deba dot com. I really would be interested if you are
up against the same dilemma that Sam and I are up against, where you
feel like life is living you and it's pulling you around by the nose and
you don't have a choice, but you got to go do this, and
you got to go do this, and some of it you want to do,
like you want to go to this or socialize with your friends. So
let us know