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All right, here we go with
the hello with the weekend version of the

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Minnesota Goodbye, Let's see what we
got here? First one says politics,

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Minnesota Goodbye, Let's see what we
got here? Dave, how dare you

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just kidding? I don't give a
fuck about your politics as I am Canadian

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and we have our own issues.
That's funny. One thing I did want

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to chime in on was about how
I kind of understand what that person was

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saying when it comes to the weed
talk. Now, remember a couple of

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days ago a woman wrote in and
she said she was I think fifty five

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ish, and she didn't like that
we talked about Drake openly smoking weed,

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and he doesn't smoke a lot of
weed. But I think the thing about

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it was that there's so many people
that do. And the stereotype is you're

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lazy, you're unemployed, you eat
a lot of Pringles and Doritos and Taco

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bell, you sit in your basement
and you're wasting your life. Well that's

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true. Now I'm making that up. There's a lot of people that smoke

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weed that they're professional responsible. It's
just not our thing. So though it

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is very much like the norm here, in Canada. My biggest fear is

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it opens up others stuff. For
example, now it seems Canada is almost

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trying to make mushrooms the new norm. Where I live, there are actually

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illegal mushroom shops popping up with storefronts. He may mean legal, I'm not

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sure. Oh okay, it says
illegal, although the police raid them constantly.

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They just opened right back up Todd
in Canada, thank you very much

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for listening. I didn't really think
that we had a lot of people listening

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in Canada, but I guess we
do, so thank you. Mushrooms are

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a hallucinogenic. I don't know what
effect they have on you. I am

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not interested in doing mushrooms, and
I think my thing with any drug that's

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like I know, I don't like
weeds, so I don't worry about that.

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I worry that if I tried any
other drug, i'd like it.

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Like if you and I smoke meth, we would get addicted, yes,

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and we would just would because that's
what happens when you smoke meth. So

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I don't want that problem. I
was watching Cops, remember the show Cops.

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When were you watching Cops? Came
home from ukulele club, last night,

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Susan was watching Cops I don't know
why, and there was a guy

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that got pulled over. He was
driving and his girlfriend or friend or whatever

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was also in the car. He
was a total meth head. He looked

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like a meth head. The cops
said, we've pulled him over many times

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and he was just, you know, just kind of like hyper and giggly

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and whatever. And I told Susan, I said, I can't imagine a

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life where you are addicted to fucking
meth. Can't imagine it. And then

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she, on the other hand,
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I don't know anything about it.
Those aren't because they always say that's not

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mine, and those aren't my drugs, and they really weren't. They were

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her friends. So thank you Todd
for that one. Next one, Dave,

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I really feel what you said.
I'm not living life anymore. Life

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is living me. I said that
yesterday because it kind of dawned on me

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that there's so much that I have
to do, I am obligated to do,

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don't necessarily want to do that.
I feel like life is living me

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and steering me, and I'm not
living the life that I want to live.

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She says, I feel like my
life has turned into an obligation.

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I have to go to this kid's
birthday party, plan my mom's fiftieth,

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plan this baby shower, come to
this dinner, go to this bar,

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go on this trip. Social obligations
are truly constant lately, and I'm exhausted.

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If I went to every single one
of my friend's kid's birthday parties,

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I'd go to eighteen kid birthday parties
in one year. Guys, fuck that,

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she says with several k's on there. If I'm not hanging out with

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a majority of my friends regularly,
weekly, bi weekly, I'm now a

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bad friend. If I don't check
in enough, I'm not a good friend.

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This is truly some shit I did
not expect to be dealing with in

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my thirties. I feel like this
is a new phenomenon, especially among youngish

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women. If I hung out with
every friend I had regularly, I would

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never be alone or spend time with
my husband. Does anybody have this kind

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of time? Besides, because during
the week, I'd rather be doing my

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workouts, prepping meals, walk them
and dogs, reading books, and then

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work in some social time. Obligations
on the weekends please tell me I'm not

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alone, because I feel like I'm
the only one with this perspective. Okay,

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love you all. Bye. That's
from Samantha. What do you think.

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I definitely feel that I have like
these I have Like I have like

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a handful of close friends, you
know, like my Harry and Tina kind

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of friends, right, that I
see decently frequently. Then you have like

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your next tier, and then you
have your next tier if you will well,

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and even if you only see a
couple of those other tiers once,

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let's say every two months, if
you have a handful of them, you

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could easily fill every weekend or random
weekday with seeing them, and it does

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become exhausting. I think that that's
if your friends don't understand, then I

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think that they maybe aren't the best
friend because once you hit your thirties,

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most people have started their own lives. Not everyone, trust me, I

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get it, not everyone. So
I don't know they will understand if they

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don't have families yet eventually when they
have them, I would think, yeah,

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I bet they're going through the same
thing, sam Is. That is

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exactly kind of what I don't have. The social obligations I have, like

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the work obligations, and then I
have You know, I love my family,

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but I think I was talking on
the radio a couple of weeks ago

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that I do not want to spend
the rest of my vacations going to see

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my kids. I don't. I
love my kids, but Carson's going to

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live in La Beth is in North
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here. I don't want to spend
every vacation feeling obligated to go see my

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kids. I want to go to
Fiji. I want to go to the

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Pyramids. I want to go to
Alaska. And I don't want to feel

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like every vacation has to be spent
going to see the kids, which is

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weird because I love my kids so
much and I'd love to see them.

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Yeah, but the last few vacations
have been not to where we had always

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wanted to go, but to go
see Chase. And if Chase here's this,

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I hope he doesn't get it wrong. I loved our time together,

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loved it. We went to Benny
Hanna, we went to the pool,

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We had a great time. But
I want to go other places. Yeah,

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So I feel like I think that
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is just take more control and say
I got plans. I can't come to

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your baby shower, I can't do
this, I can't go to this dinner,

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I can't go on this trip because
you're obviously if it struck a chord

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with you, I'm not living life
anymore. Life is living me. Then

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maybe you're the only one that's going
to take control of it. I've always

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said, nobody is going to respect
your time like you will. Nobody has

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any respect for your time. They'll
say something like, well, can you

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do this extra thing? Can you
volunteer at the mud run this weekend?

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Well? No, I can't.
I've got a thing. Well can you

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do this instead? Or can you
go to dinner on Thursday night? No,

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I can't go Thursday. What about
Friday? No, can't go Friday.

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I can't go the entire next week. Okay, well what about the

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next week? I think sometimes people
have just got to say I can't anytime

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soon. Yeah, but I get
it. It's hard, all right.

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Last one, Samantha, let us
know and if you have any ideas on

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that one, if you also feel
like life is living, you send me

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your thoughts. This one starts off
with don't say my name. I don't

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think my generation was lied to about
college. Remember yesterday we read an email

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from somebody who said they had a
modest income from a job they didn't really

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like their husband. I think they
were in the first responder, I'm not

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really sure they went to college for
something that doesn't pay well. Now they've

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got massive student loans and they really
don't have a lot of extra cash.

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And they said our generation was lied
to about college where you go to college

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for four years and you get an
amazing job. And it didn't work out

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that way for her. So she
goes on to say, I don't think

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my generation was lied to about college. I'm thirty, my husband thirty two.

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My parents were huge on letting us
do what we wanted, not pushing

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a four year degree. Out of
four kids, one of us has a

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four year degree and he got a
full scholarship because he worked his ass off

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as a golf caddy. I have
no student debt. My other two siblings

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have no student debt. We all
do well. My parents made sure we

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understood about student loans, while I
have a lot of extended family that their

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parents didn't apparently, and it also
is like they are treading water. Our

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parents were raised the same, but
they instill the different mindset in us.

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My husband works for a blue collar
job, works his ass off, but

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thanks to no student loans, I
am able to stay home with our three

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kids. We own a home,
we have a paid off vehicle. I

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hate when people basically blame the Times, because I know tons of people,

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mostly blue collar workers, honestly,
who are the same age and don't complain

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about being lied to. Interesting it
is an interesting take. I will say

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that one thing that is just fucking
ridiculous is the price of owning a home,

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because I know several people who are
like, oh, yeah, we

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bought our home for let's throw out
a number. We bought our home for

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four hundred thousand dollars in twenty seventeen, and it's already worth six hundred thousand

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dollars. And I'm like, are
you crazy? I mean, good for

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you that you've made two hundred thousand
dollars, But what about the person whose

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income has only gone up three percent
a year in the last several years.

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Now the home that they could have
bought in twenty seventeen for four hundred is

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now six hundred that's where it gets
tough. And I think that you know,

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car prices are car prices are ridiculous
too, they're just it's a huge

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investment. But home prices, that's
what everybody wants, is they want to

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buy their own home. Yep,
they do, but they're too expensive and

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they go so quickly, and they
go to people who already have a house

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and this is their second house,
and they can they're older, so they

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can pay in cash. And it's
like crazy. Yeah. And you hear

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about something like I know somebody who
is I don't know them, but I

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know of them. They bought a
house for something like three point four million

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a couple of years ago. It
is not a friend of mine. I

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don't have friends to have that kind
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say three point four million, and
a few years later it's like four point

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five million. And it's like you
made a million dollars by doing nothing but

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owning a house in just a few
years. Wow. And that's just the

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way it is. And you know, we've been looking at some homes lately

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and it's like, well, let's
see what they paid for it. Oh,

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they paid let's say six hundred thousand
for it in twenty fifteen, and

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now they're selling it for whatever,
nine hundred thousand dollars. Holy shit,

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nobody's income goes up that fast.
So homes are just I mean, that's

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another one. So that is really
kind of it for the Minnesota goodbye today.

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Unless you wanted to add anything else
fallon, I don't think so.

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I mean, have a good weekend, and now you're off next week,

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and then I'm off the week after
that. So we had a busy couple

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of weeks where you going the week
when you're gone Olympic National Park? Is

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that in Washington? It is?
Yeah? And you know what's odd,

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No one knows where it is.
I you're the first person I've heard of

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Olympic Washington. I think. So
every time I've said Olympic National Park,

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people look at me and they feel
dumb. They're like, I feel dumb.

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Where's that? I'm bad at geography. I've had so many people say

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that. I'm like, you're not
dumb. But I also didn't realize so

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few people what draws you to Olympic
National Park? Well, we just pick

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a different national park every year,
and Olympic National Park is really cool because

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it has a rainforest in it,
so you can go check out the rainforest

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one day, and then you can
go look at you know, waterfalls and

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mountains like a normal one the other
day. So it's kind of like different

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cool areas of it. That is
really cool. I went to a Hawaii

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rainforest a few years ago, and
it literally does it rains all the time.

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They get like six hundred inches of
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a year, and it's it's just
weird because Hawaii you think of as warm

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and sunny and tropical, but you
get up into these mountains there's always a

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cloud around them for some reason,
and it rains all the time. So

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in this rainforest, it supposed rains
all the time. I assume it sounds

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miserable. Good trail. I think
it's like a mile or two trail called

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the Hall of Mosses, I think. And yeah, I think it's gonna

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be really pretty and cool. So
we'll see, all right, have a

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good time. We will. That
is it for the Minnesota. Goodbye for

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me for a week, and I
guess we'll see you again. Well,

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we're doing it next week. It'll
still happen. It'll just be with different

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people. We don't know who,
No, we do. We'll see you

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next week here on the Minnesota Goodbye. Send those emails too, Ryan Show

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at katie able deba dot com.
I really would be interested if you are

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up against the same dilemma that Sam
and I are up against, where you

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feel like life is living you and
it's pulling you around by the nose and

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you don't have a choice, but
you got to go do this, and

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you got to go do this,
and some of it you want to do,

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like you want to go to this
or socialize with your friends. So

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let us know