Bottled Up Bitches is hosted by a horny Mary couple. Content may include adult
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advised. It's season three. Welcome to Bottles Up Bitches, your favorite sex
podcast with Me Rihanna Campbell and Me producer Mana Adam Rihanna. Are you ready
for some hot topics and even guests? Well, you know, I am,
let's fucking do this, see Horny Bitches. How's it going? Motherfuck
us? Am I the motherfuckers? I think everyone's a motherfucker. Okay,
well you usually you usually start these off by saying hi to me, right,
but it's a very special day, so I thought I would do the
intro, all right, I just can change the system of well, I'll
go guess right here. In honor of our very special guests, I thought
I would do the intro the way she does the interest to her videos.
Oh okay, yeah, okay, that's fair, that's fair. So,
UM, I always say that I'm excited, but this is this is what
I treat, what I dream. This is one you've been looking forward to
for for for for for for quite a while, for quite a while.
Um, I was waiting on emails and responses. Not emails necessarily, but
like, this incredible guest just kind of fell in our lap, even though
I'd reached out to her already. M I reached out to one of her
sponsors to sponsor this podcast, thanks fun Factory, And then fun Factory did
this incredible thing where they're like, hey, you're a sex podcast, we
have an incredible person you'd like that would go well on your show. And
I nearly died because I was like, what, I've already reached out to
her, this is a treat and you're such a fan of hers. Yeah,
I'm just such a fan of hers. So the fact that there was
like a doubling down of an introduction and not just me like cold calling her,
cold emailing, instagramming her being like come beyond this show. Um.
So we get to talk to Luke today of lou and lou Land, and
I'm I just had the incredible time listening to her talk about her journey and
her story and what were your thoughts, What were your thoughts as a male
because her big thing is her journey an empowerment of Yeah, yeah, no,
it was. It was super fun to it was super fun to talk
to her. She's just like such a fun personality and she has such a
positive outlook on life and things like you know, metopause she talks about in
the show like it's this fun thing. It can be fine if you make
it fun. I don't know. She just has such this like this way
of looking at the world that is so uplifting and honorable to talk to her.
Yeah, and I did find it amazing that we're gonna We decided to
make her episode the finale episode because it was a longer time, so we
thought it would be a nice little treat for all you guys since this is
our season three finale, thanks for being here with us. We would make
it a little lengthier, just kind of as a bonus. We you know,
talking to Lou was so good we weren't about to cut her off or
shorten or edit anything out. So yeah, I've just been We've been sitting
on this episode since November and I've just been itching to get it out,
So I'm quite excited. Yeah, anything you'd like to add before we hop
right into the conversation. Um, yeah, just just thanks to all of
our fans for sticking with us through the second season. And of course that
means we're gonna take a little bit of a brace the third season. Yes,
the third season. Sorry to the third season, well new fans,
it's only the second season for them that they have available. Sure, but
yeah, thanks for sticking it out. And then we'll see you guys in
a little while. Yeah, we'll be coming back in April. M we're
gonna take a little break. We're gonna go on our Tucson Adventure to the
Tusson Erotica Art Show. So if you haven't followed them yet on social media,
do that. We'll be posting lots of fun things about it on our
Instagram, so make sure you follow us there as well to keep up to
date on what we're up to during our off season. And without further if
you if you do want to continue listening to new episodes, you can sign
up for our patreo. We have so many bonuses and they'll be gone.
They're going to continue going those don't go on break. Yes, correct,
so shout out to Billy. He's going to keep getting all the good stuff
because he's our Patreon member. Um. But yeah, if you don't know
who lou and lou Land is, she is an incredible British woman who gained
a social media following by her take and stance on and adventures with metapause and
just living a fun, free naked lifestyle. Um she does a lot of
cool things and they can't wait free to learn more about her. Um,
have fun. You were in the hospital recently, how are you doing?
How more? I think I was chronically de I drated and got a terrible
kidney infection. It was so awful. I've never found so awful. It
was terrible, and I think it was just I think it was just the
straight It was the stress of sort of all the move and ending the tour
and put British tap water is so gross. I couldn't drink it. I
literally hadn't drunk a drop of water all week. I'd drunk his gin and
champagne. I've been so neat. I was so many welcome home drinks.
I was like, literally put my savage hospitals out. Yeah, I was
a bit. I was a bit shameful of be honest, and everyone was
so loved. Everybody on Instagram was so lovely to me, and I was
like I drunk myself into the hospitalist. It's not okay. I remember reading
the caption and I was like, I love it because I had. The
way I found you was I was I watched your interview with Alice Alice B.
Wilder, she's a vulva artist and yeah that Instagram live with her a
while back, and that was my first time ever seeing you, and I
was like, oh my gosh, I'm obsessed with this woman. And I
was like following you on everything, watching all of your videos and your interviews,
and I was like, oh, this is incredible. So I'm very
much geeking out over here. You're one of the first people where I was
like, I would love to talk to this person. I hope they want
to talk to me. Of course, thank you well. I mean,
I love I love a podcast. I always think it's like free therapy.
I have so many breakthroughs in the middle of podcasts. I'm like, yes,
yes, everybody asks questions in different ways, you know. Sometimes it's
about getting older, Sometimes it's about taking my clothes off. Sometimes it's about
the vibrato. Sometimes it's about also I you know, everybody asks you questions
in such different ways. I get to think about and reflect on my life
so much. I kind of love it, and I was halfway through one
about a couple of years ago, and I'm like, shit, this is
oh my god. You see what I did then? Fuck? Oh god,
I'm a genius. And so I was like, it's like literally like
therapy. So thank you. Yeah, absolutely. And my name is Rihanna
and this is my producer, me and Adam, I producer and Adam.
How are you. Oh I'm good. I'm good, good, excited to
talk to you. Thank you well, Lou. We're in Austin, Texas,
so that's where we're based out of. So it's very fun hearing about
your times in the US and what that's been like and just hearing the differences
and everything. Because you when you lived in the US, you lived in
Oregon, right, Yeah, I lived in Oregon for eight years. I
actually came through Austin on my tour, so I wish we found each other
soon are gone. That would have been fun. I loved Austin. I
think it's one of the favorite places that I went on the tour. Everyone's
always like, what was your favorite place? I'm like, Austin, but
sure, I loved it. I love the people I met, the most
sane, fun, kind, generous, people. It's where I got first
sniff of Southern hospitality in realize it's a real thing. Um So, yeah,
it was amazing. I loved it. I love Austin. If I
could live anywhere, I would move to Austin. I think, wow,
yeah, it's id have fun here for sure. We're Texas native, so
we've lived in different places in Texas and in Arsin's been a good time.
We've been here for about five or six years now. Yeah. Yeah,
it was such a good vibe. I loved It's a good time. Everyone's
really friendly. Yeah, it was super friendly. It's funny because when I
lived in in England, people go out really late, like they go you
meet me down the public, like nine pm. And then when I moved
to Portland, everybody goes out for dinner at five pm. You can't get
a seat in a restaurant at five o'clock. And they're all in bed at
nine, so everything's pretty much closed at nine. And then I threw and
so I used to throw loads of events and I knew how things worked Importland,
and I tried to throw an event in La on a Friday night and
no one turned up. I sold loads of tickets but no one turned up,
and I was like, what the fuck? People buy tickets and then
just don't even show up. Then I got to Austin and everyone turned up
late. I started ticketing people turned out, but they turned up really late
because it's so hot right there, everyone just comes out a bit later.
It stays out late. And then where did I get to next? And
they just don't go to sleep? Oh that's right, Tennessee. Where was
I Nashville? No one actually went to bed at all. It is so
everywhere I went it was just like completely different. Everyone in Nashville. Yeah,
we don't come out to all about ten eleven because it's too hot.
It's funny, makes sense, like I would wait till school for sure.
Yeah, definitely. Okay, I really timed the tall badly. I just
followed the heat basically, which meant everywhere I went and went, why is
there no one here? Like where? And everyone had warned me. They
said, you know you're going really you're really going the wrong way from stinking
hot, and I was like, I'll be fine, I'll be fine.
Well, oh my god, I was just lying with a wet towel straped
over me. And in Austin on the floor of the bus to go while
were I thinking. I spent most of my time in Barton Springs just lying
in the in the river there. Yeah, it was wicked, wicked.
I got what everyone likes to hang out for sure. Yeah, I happened
upon a I was stand up paddling and sort of like turned the corner and
there was like a house and people on their stand up padding from DJ playing
and everyone's drinking out. These are my people. I love it. Yeah,
a good good time. So for the people that don't know about your
self, Love Revolution Tour, what is that? Well, um, it's
been a long time coming. I think I just I kind of found my
confidence in middle age. I kind of sort of hit my stride. You
know. I think I spent a lot of my life thinking, oh,
you know, oh god, I'm thirty, you know, oh god,
now I'm forty. And actually as I started to get towards fifty, I
was like fuck yeah, and then these fifty I don't know, I just
found as I got older, I started to give a lot less bucks.
I mean I've always been pretty like, um, you know, live and
let live, and you know, I've always trying to make the most of
my life. But I just started to give less bucks and care a little
bit less about what people think, and I started to find my confidence.
When we moved to America, I think, which was eight years ago,
I was forty two. I'd done it. I'd always been a terrible shopperholic,
and when I was forty one, I woke up I'd bought a ridiculously
expensive pair of shoes. And I woke up in the middle of the night
having a cold sweat that I spent all this money on a pair of shoes.
I've been I was working for social services at the time, working with
families in crisis, and I don't know where I thought I was wearing these
shoes. I really don't. But I bought these blooming shoes and it was
a shoe too far, and I was like, I've got to change.
I'm sick. I've been in debt all my life. I just run myself
up credit cards, catalogs. You know, you name me. If you
give me a sniff of credit, I would spend a lot. And then
I was all, it was a shifty way to live. I'd run my
husband and too debt, you know, secret credit cards. I forw in
his name. I'd stolen money from work with I proper addiction to spending,
and I was like, this is this is it. It's gotta finish.
So I gave up shopping that year. I was like, I woke up
the next morning and I went right, I'm giving up shopping for a whole
year. I'm not buy anything anything, no clothes, no except there is
nothing. Um. My husband at the time was like all right then,
and I was like, no, I'm going to do it. And I
did it. I set up a blog the next day. It was early
early days of blogs. It was only Tumbler. I had it on Tumbler.
Instagram hadn't even started Facebook. With a round Oh hang, I'm sorry.
I just dropped you. I decided to talk to you on the bed
and then very stable, um and um. I did it. I set
up this blog and I wore a different outfit every day for a whole year,
and I still had outfits to spare at the end. And I started
writing on the blog. You know what it was like. It was a
proper sort of like withdrawal, Like it almost like I was given up drugs,
like cold turkey. I had to change my route home from work,
so I didn't pass stores and I had just stopped buying magazines and just you
know, to change my behavior a lot. And at the end of the
year, I bought two things over the year, but we don't talk about
that. We're just gloss over. But can't you can't judge me. They
were special Anyway, After the year finished, I was so proud of myself
and I was such I was like, fuck, what is that feeling?
And it was like, I actually feel proud of myself and it was one
of the first times in my life it's got actually proud of myself. And
then I was like, ohso, what is that other funny feeling? And
it was confidence? And I was like, I'm forty one. This is
the first time I feel proud of myself and I feel confident. I mean,
you know, I felt proud of when I'd had my son, but
then I had postnatal depression with him for a couple of years. You know,
even that I didn't feel particularly proud of. I had quite a traumatic
birth, so I felt like I hadn't done that properly. So this is
the first thing I've kind of done for myself, and I felt really proud
of myself, and for the first time in my life, I thought,
oh my god, what if I can achieve that? If I could not
shop for a whole year, what else could I possibly do if I set
my mind to it? And then I was like, I just need to
decide what I want to do, and I'm going to be fucking great.
And then it took me really long time to figure out what that was going
to be. And I always felt like life was had to be more than
about just me, and then it was my dad was a vicar, which
is a minute of church. He's in the church and ministers. It's Biscopalian,
and my mum's in probation in the probation service and worked with some quite
serious offenders. So Phrasiers was like, is it godt you know? I
always thought there was something more in me, and I worked with kids in
care for a very long time and I thought maybe that was it. And
then as my confidence started to grow after the non shopping project, we moved
to America not long after, and it was just a really it was an
amazing blessing to be able to leave your life and to start again in another
country, almost to reinvent yourself, and so I had this pause on real
life almost. Um, it's funny. Now I'm home and I've just moved
back. I feel like I've been on an eight years vacation and now I've
got to go back to work, like this is real life now, I
feel like I've just this like amazing, had this gift of pause and time.
And I couldn't work when we first got there. We up for my
husband's job and I couldn't work because I didn't have a visa for working.
I went as his dependent. And I was busy trying to get us un
established in school, and you know, you know, I was a soccer
mom across mum snowboard team. Mum, I mean, has just insane.
It was just, you know, it was such a busy life doing that.
And I threw myself into the PTA at school and I started hiking.
Someone had bought us a book to welcome us to Portland. Someone had done
us a hamper of Portland things. I think there was an axe and some
coffee and I don't know, but there was a hiking book twenty best hikes
within an hour and a half of Portland. So I was like, oh,
you know, I've no real friends, and I didn't know what to
do with myself. I decided to go on one of these hikes. I
got back from the hike and posted a few pictures of me by a walk
and a few of the few of the mums had started to meet were on
Facebook and they saw and they were like, oh, we'll come with you.
And so the next week I went, all right, meet me at
the coffee shop by school and we could go and do one of other kids
at school. And so literally, really quickly I formed Hike Squad. I
just collected women all over town. They would see the post and they,
you know, they go, can we come, And I'm like, yeah,
I'll can bring my mate. Yeah. Each week it would vary from
some weeks we would have like fifteen women. Some weeks we now have two.
And so hike Squad was born, and I had the most amazing crew
of women. There was a hardcore of about eight of us that kind of
were always sort of regular solid hike Squaders. And then we started doing bigger
and bigger tricks. So we do a little week, we do one in
the week or every other week, and then we've done the Grand Canyon.
We walked up Mount Saint Helen's. We've circumnavigated Mount Hood, We've well,
oh my god, we've done so many hikes. And so my confidence met
these amazing women, and my confidence started to grow. And I started cross
fit, and which I just changed my life. I met amazing bunch of
people who are just like you know, they'll clap you while you're dying on
the side of the road, you know, And that was a really empowering
and I just started to grow in confidence and really started to find myself and
I started, you know, I love It's a very long answer to one
question. Sorry. I was like, she'll get to the Self Love Revolution
Tour eventually. I'm just letting you go. I love listening to you.
Often when I do a podcast it ends up being a two partner because I
don't be shut up. Yeah you have to. We have to have a
safety words. You need to give me a signal like the fuck up.
It's just such a long it was such as so many parts of it to
get to this. So I started to find my confidence, and then my
husband and I just started to really drift apart. As my confidence was soaring,
his was he was struggling with his job. He really didn't enjoy America
so much. He hadn't found his people like I had. He'd been,
you know, I'm busy swalling around up down volcanoes. He's you know,
he's struggling at work, having to actually pay for me just worn around volcanoes.
But we really just started to lose each other and he was really struggling,
and he then parted company with his job and he went and took contact
in New York. And then we really really did drift apart because he went
for three months, ended up staying eighteen and we saw each other regularly,
but the gap in between when he come home and was just like, yeah,
we had less and less in common, and we had really drifted apart.
So then when COVID hit, that was challenging, we suddenly got locked
down together like that, unfortunately was the end of our twenty year marriage,
which was cripplingly sad because no one did anything. You know, it sounds
we just literally lost each other along the way, and we just ended up
wanting different things and he found he actually found my confidence I think quite difficult,
and so we separated during lockdown, which was really hard, and so
as soon as lot might. I was running a little rent my lardrobe business.
So I've got the most I've got quite an epic collection of clothes,
and I started rent my wardrobe because I love. Women were coming to the
wardrobe and I was getting dressed up, and I was, you know,
renting out my clothes for them to go to weddings and parties and the whole
on vacations. They would rent all my rent the vintage, and I loved
the impact that was having on these women. And I was like, fuck
yeah, you know when I could see myself and these women and you know,
giving them confidence and passing that arm was just filling my cup up so
much. I was like, maybe this is what I meant to do.
And as the lockdown was the Foos lockdown here, obviously no one was renting
any clothes for that business. Ground world fairly crickly, but and I was
like, I'm gonna cheer everybody up on the internet. That's what I'm going
to do. And an Instagram had been growing through the hikes and the vintage
and the styling stuff. Instagram had been growing slow. I probably had about
eight or nine thousand parts. I guess as we went into Lockdown, and
then I started doing more, doing just some fun stuff and talking about confidence
and positivity. And I was going through the menopause and I was like,
fuck, yeah, I feel fucking great. Supposed to I was going to
dread this and actually feel great, and I all the time and behind the
scenes kind of leaving Guy and i'd separated, I got into the spare room
and I was feeling fantastic. It's awful because I was like, you know,
while it's cripplingly sad, it was empowering me and I was getting stronger
and stronger. And the more I talked about my confidence, more women were
flocking to Instagram and loving coming for the confidence and the positivity. So Lockdown
was such a game changer for me. And so then I started to write
an online positive positivity course, Positivity Rebellion, I called it. And I
wrote a whole online course that was just about to launch, and then Lockdown
ended, and I was like, no one wants to do an online course
every again, and everyone sort of like, I don't know, since COVID,
I think everyone's just looking for connection, right. People don't want to
want to buy any more stuff. We don't need any more stuff. Everyone's
gone enough stuff. People are looking for feeling and connection and adventures and experiences.
And I just had so many women write to me, and she was
sharing their deepest, darkest secrets, you know, their husband's leaving them,
or their menopause problems. And I was like, initially, I found that
quite sad that so many women would open up to a stranger who they didn't
know. But I also I sometimes I think I sound like a bit of
a wanker, but I take those things. I take it quite seriously when
people write to me with their problems, Like, I can't just dismiss that
people. God, God believe you replied, I'm like, you just told
me your husband's left you, you've got breast cancer? What am I going
to do? Not reply to you? Sometimes it can take me a few
days, but I will always reply to you. And I'm like, how
can we meet you? How can we meet you? And you know,
I'd stayed in the house. I stayed in the house with guys through lockdown,
and our son was at high school, and so I started to think
about when Oscar graduates from high school, what am I going to do?
Where am I going to go? And my mum died at the end of
last year from Alzheimer's, and so I started to feel a bit of a
drawer to come back take care of my dad a little bit, and you
know, I miss England and America's a bit scary by myself um, and
so I decided I would move home and businesses. You know, there's a
good business for me here. They talk the menopause conversations a lot further ahead
here, and I don't know, I'm quite a British people are quite negative
or can be, so I you know, I think I'm a bit of
an antidote for that. And my followers a real fifty fifty. There's a
real fifty percent American fifty percent and when I'm very popular in Melbourne, Australia,
but anyway, I'm very popular in India, about twenty percent of our
listener bases in India. And I was like, there's always different pockets.
So I was like, I didn't know it would be so consistent in India,
a very that's where they need these conversations the most. I get it.
Yeah, And so I thought, well, I could just get on
a plane and fly home with all my stuff, or I could I could
do something. And just as I was wondering what I could do, I
drove by a vintage bus on the side of the road. It was an
old Greyhound bus that someone had done up into a camper. And I was
with my mate, who I've actually just been in Waynes with. We drove
by and saw this bus and we jumped out to have a look and we
were like, fuck, this is brilliant. Imagine. I was like,
what can I do with the bus? What can I do with this bus?
Anyway, that night I went home and I didn't know where the boys
were. They were both out. But there was a huge storm. I
had a joint and a gin. There was this huge storm and a tree
and this hundred one hundred years absolutely huge fell down. We lived in a
forest, fell down click the edge of the house, tick the edge of
the neighbor, but fell between the two houses. Well, they'd fallen on
the house and be dead. And I was like, it's a fig I
need to buy the bus. And so I became obsessed with the idea of
us. And I knew that that wasn't the right bus, but I was
like, oh, one of us, I'm going to go on tour.
I want to take Lu and lu Land on tour. I want to go
out and meet these women. I want to go out and connect with people,
and I want to go out and pople are always like, ho,
do you meet your squad? How do you meet your people? And I'm
like, women find it people. It's not just women. People find it
hard sometimes to find their people. You're stuck in your day to day routine
and I don't know, it's hard. And I thought, well, I
could do. I could throw events and I'll roll into town. I'll throw
events. I'll connect people in there. You know. I'll put all these
rad women together and I'll connect them, and then I'll roll onto the next
town and then they get over it and I'll go and do it and I'll
meet all these people. And That's what I'll do. And then I was
chatting to a friend literally two or three days later, telling her about my
plan, and she went, oh, I think I know someone. I've
got a friend down in Phoenix, Arizona who's renting some land to someone who's
got a funky They're flipping an old bus. They've got an old bluebird wonder
Lodge who were made by the Bluebird who made the old school buses, and
he's flipped the inside. He's done it all up, and I know he's
looking to put it on the market. And I was like, shiit me
his number. So I texted this guy. I went, I've got a
mate in Portland who says you're renting some land from her mate. And anyway,
I heard your bus is pretty cool. Sent me the pictures. Well
that was it. I mean, my bus was like she's she's h and
she's like a thirty five foot bus. But inside he'd done it up,
like there's green tiger print and there's these funky um palm tree prints everywhere.
And I'm like, if that's not my bus, I just don't know what
is. I you did all that and us did all the degree because it's
so you. Right. Yeah, I added I added the disco ball and
some bits and bobs, but I was like, that's so my bus.
I was like, you have this is my Instagram. This is what I
want to do. I don't have the money. You have to wait for
me. Please can you give me some time anyway? You can have four
weeks. So it gave me. He gave me a month, and I
was like, what I'm gonna do, What we're gonna do? What I'm
gonna do? Uh? And I crowdfunded it. I just I sold seats.
I sold seats on the bus to friends and family and some Instagram um
brands that I've worked with before. I did a whole presentation of like thousand
dollars for a seat on the bus. This is what you get, my
undying love and a ride on the bus. And this is what this is
my mission, this is what I want to do. I want to use
it to empower him, and I want to use it as a a a
vessel to bring people together. I just want to I don't want to make
her really crazy on the outside, so she's a good talking point. And
I raised the money in a week and bought the bus. And then on
Christmas Day, the day after Christmas Day last year, I took I got
one way ticket down to Phoenix, Arizona to go and collect her. I
trunged, trungled off the plane, got an uber, got to the field
where she was waiting, and I just took one look at her and fell
onto my knees and burst into tears. I was like, what have I
done? What have I done. I'm absolutely like, this is ridiculous.
I'm never going to be able to drive her. Um, but I say
my follow up question was, that's what is it like driving the dank bus
around? It's so scary. Well, number one, you don't even have
to have a special license, which is terrifying, and honestly you really should.
It's so scary. Some steaks you do with, some steaks don't.
Obviously, Luckily Arizona wasn't one of them. So I was like, oh,
buy, so I pick her up in the first afternoon. He kind
of showed me around the bus, so he'd only he'd bought the bus just
to flip it, and so he didn't really know he hadn't been away in
it. I couldn't tell me. And she's so old, she's like nineteen
eighty three, so she's so quirky. She's got like you have to have
hold one thing with one hand and kick it with the left to make it
work, like it's you need. I needed someone who could teach me the
insidey bits or the camper vanny bits, Like I'm like, how do I
turn the cest cooker on? He'm like, wow, I mean I think
that's I think that, and I'm like, so then I went right,
all right, so should we go out for a test drive? You make
yes, and tennis and we go off for a little test drive. I'm
like, oh, three miles an hour and the steering wheel was like this
bit. So I'm like, h we literally made it around the car park
and I get back and I went right, here's what I think. I
would probably stay here for two or three days and maybe you could take me
out each day and in our little practice. So I was like, yeah,
I think that's probably a good idea. So okay, So off he
goes for the night. I spent the night on board and I gone.
I went off and got some shopping, got myself about the champagne, came
back and a couple of glasses of champagne. Made a video for Instagram.
And I hadn't told anybody I was doing it because like, hey, I
didn't believe it was really happening, and I just I just wanted to get
down there and get there and see what I see how it fell. So
I made this video for Instagram. I'm like, I'm done. I bought.
I don't I'm really scared. Oh god, what I done? I'm
so scared. And then I did a really funny tour and I'm just crying
my eyes out. It was a really terrible story. It's all out anyway,
it's so funny. Went to sleep shaking and crying. I wake up
the next morning and Instagram's just like gone wild, and messages from all of
my lou and lu Landians just go, fuck yes, do it, do
it, do it. Oh my god, We're so proud of you.
You've got this, you can do it, like this is amazing, the
best thing I've ever seen. This is a drink. There were so many
people's dreams to drive around and do a road to it um and I woke
up in the morning and just went, fuck, yeah, I can do
it. And he came round. He popped by the bus back ten am
to take me on a rope, to take me on the next test light,
little test run, and I went, I'm going, and he went
what do you mean? And I went, I'm going. I'm just gonna
go because I just can keep practicing for days, or I'm just gonna think
he's better than I just go and he went, you think that's Bella.
I was like, yeah, I'm off and he went, okay. I
literally just got the bus and off I drove. And that's it. I
haven't looked back. How in the wax. I drove her home back to
Oregon. I picked a friend up on the way. She was in Palm
Spring, so I stopped to stay hi to her and show with the US,
and she went to wy me to come with you, and I went,
yeah, that'd be really nice. So she came with me. We
got COVID. We got COVID on the way, so that was She's in
the back shivering. We couldn't get out of the bath room, was in
the bus. I was like, you can't get out of the wise the
b and then we broke down about two or three times. I was like,
oh my god. And then I got home and then I spent the
next couple of months. I did another presentation and started pitching to brands to
sponsor the tour. So I decided on my I just like looked at the
map, or where where have I been? And I've done quite a lot
of the West Coast. We've done that. We're big campus anyway with my
husband UM, and so we've done quite a lot of the West Coast.
So I was like, I just want to go to some places that's never
been Um, I want to go down South because I've been kind of scared
to go down South between the guns and the racism. I just apparently the
lack of get the lack of women's rates that we have, yeah, for
everyone. Yeah. So I was like, I'm sure they're my people.
And then I was like, but there, that's exactly where you need to
be. What's the point in preaching to the choir or preaching to the converted.
They're exactly you know who you need to be, where you need to
be and the people that you need to be reaching out to a meeting.
So I approached some brands that I have worked with before and said, you
know, can you give me some money. I'm going on this tour.
I'm going to do these events in these places. You get me an aim
on the bus. So I'll do you some reels and some posts and promote
you and the events. I'll have your brand, you know, I'll put
your gin. So I ended up with a Vibrator brand, a gin brand,
locally owned women distillery from Portland. I had produced some edibles with an
edibles company. Honestly, I was trumbling around America with gin edibles and vibrators
in the back, came over the border of Texas. I'm breaking so many
lauds right now. If anybody comes on board, I'm going to me in
so much trouble. I literally had two hundred and fifty vibrators and about twenty
gallons of back. I'm so funny, but I did it. I did
it. They sponsored me. I got it wrapped the letter print wrap.
I wrapped it in pink and green leap print and had lou and lou Land
on it. And there's a super cartoon of me on the front and all
the brands are on there, and you know, as I'm driving down the
road, I was like truck drivers. Everyone's like where people out the sunroof
waving at me, like people swerving to try and take pictures while they're driving.
And then every time I sort of like did a leg of the journey,
when I stopped, there'd be emails from people with my websites on the
back. So I'm even me l from people going, oh my god,
I'm just passed you on the freeway. Who the hell are you? What
are you doing? It was just wild. So I set off in June
and I went from Portland. I went through Oregon, Idaho, Utah,
Nevada, Arizona, New Mexico, Texas, and then I just got so
damn high. Hoped to go down to Louisiana, but I was like,
I am going to die and this there's no air conditioning. While I was
driving. I only at the aircom when I was hooked up. I was
just I was surviving again to get up at four in the morning and like
just do really short trips every day. I had one of those fans that
you put batteries in the spray and that was my air conditioning while I was
driving, Yeah, and Arizona, Austin, and then I started to wait
work my way up to Tennessee and then I broke it down in Nashville for
about three weeks. So it's completely screwed it because I was going to go
over to Georgia and West Virginia and come up and in the end I ended
up being a month in Nashville, which was great, but I was kind
of over Nashville by the time I left, and I had to hear it.
Oh. I did arkasil Joe, and I had to hear it to
New York because I had a big event, a big sex exhibition in New
York, so I had to be there. And then the tour finished in
New York, and then I had to leave Susie behind. She's and I'm
shipping her here. So she's waiting for a spot on the ship, but
all the ships are super congested, so in the moment, she's in New
Jersey and a store unit, waiting to get on a ship. So I'm
like, I was just wanting her here, um, And my initial plan
had been to buy a field and put her in a field and there be
and be her. But she just she creates so much joy to people.
I am gonna tore her here and take her around the events. I was
like, oh my god, by the time I get to New York,
I'm going to be finished. I'll be filling filling Madison Square gardens. I'll
be like the new Glen and Doyle. People were going to come and hear
my wisdom and my wise words. It wasn't quite Madison Square Gardens, but
the events were made. The events were amazing, But actually it was the
people that I met, the individuals that I met, and the women that
came knocking on my door. So I'd like roll into the RV park and
of course I stand out like a saucer and everyone's in their gray white rbs
and they hardly ever come out of them and they're all like and they're like,
ah, who's that. So then of course they google me or look
me up and go on Instagram. So then they come by. Then they
either pretend that they haven't googled me when they blamed me, and we're like,
oh, hi, you wasn't doing so we saw on Instagram, so
like, you do know what I'm doing because it's so funny. But then
there was all and men were quite funny. Men are like lightly birth,
what years that then? And what is it? And I'm like nine bird
under large. So men are like, oh, quite pressed, okay,
and the women are like what are you doing? And I'm like, well,
I'm just driving around America trying to empower women find their confidence in middle
age. I've just left my husband. So all the husbands are like,
right, maybe away I stopped talking to her now, Yeah exactly. I
have the same same situation with a lot of my friends and their husbands.
I'm like, your husbands are gonna hate me because I'm gonna just I'm just
gonna constantly empower you to do your to do you and be confident and have
fun. And husbands usually they either love me or they're like a man into
this. I'm going to say, were all more about you than may anyway,
So the um but the women that came knocking on my door, and
the thing was a lot of this is not on Instagram because a I didn't
anticipate this happening, but I ended up like a rosing agg in the aunt
and I honestly, I could still be driving and I would pull into the
RV park. Sometimes it would take an hour or two, but after it
didn't take that long when women would just knock on the door and and come
looking for help and Ausbie and I had a woman who'd been beaten up by
her husband was sitting on my doorstep when I came home from a night out.
She ended up staying with me for a couple of days till we could
get her into a shelter. I had women who had just so I met
so many when who've lost their homes and their jobs from you know, through
pandemics, through violence, through fucking healthcare system and through violence, just living
in their RVs and these parks in the middle of nowhere. You know,
some ice, some who just basically I met one woman who's her boyfriend basically
just has isolated her from her family and now got her pretty much health costage
and in her in her RV. I went to one RV park. Three
women alone just had no healthcare. They're just basically dyeing cancer in their in
their RVs, um no healthcare, no no access to any care, and
just susting there quietly, just waiting for their time to calm um. So
I helped some along the way. I set up a few women's groups some
of the RV parks. The women. There was one particular little in Arkansas.
The camp site manager was super lovely, and she just bought a bunch
of steps, you know, the old aerobic steps. She managed to shoot
down a gym it's closing down, and she bought a bunch. She went.
I thought, I throw some classes some of the women, and I
was like, that's a bloody brilliant idea, and so and I helped her
set up a women's group. I was, you know, and so now
you know that some of them are cooking for the ones who've got cancer,
and um, you know, they just found some connection. Um, even
though they've been living next door to each other for quite a while, I
managed to sort of, you know, get them out of the bands and
to meet each other. And um, it was just and I can't.
I didn't want to talk about that while I was on the tour because I
was like, if I'm sitting on Instagram blathering about this, you know it's
going to stop another woman when they do google me to see what I'm doing.
I'm not going to come knocking on my door. They'd see me blathering
on about the last camp site I was in, so I sort of,
you know, I needed to respect their privacy. And I also it was
very intense for me. You know, I'd just driven when I left Portland,
I was driving away from my husband, although we separated actually two years
before I left. Leaving physically leaving at Portland was incredibly difficult because I had
made a really beautiful life for myself. You know, he was literally standing
on the side of the road going by then, and I'm like, God,
it was all that was a long drive that day, wearing different poland
to drive away. You know, and then getting ready for the tours.
Of of course, I was so excited and he was like, oh,
you know, most women when they leave their husbands, like I don't know,
they have an affair of fuck offle they get caught grab suitcase. There's
a big argument. We had it on the calendar, mom leave, Mom's
leaving in two months, you know, if they countdown to me leaving and
everyone's like he excited, and I'm like, yes, no, well no,
it was really difficult. Um, what's the question? Answer your question?
Is it? I expected nothing less? I told him ahead of time.
I was like, this is gonna be incredible because if there's one thing
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But part, a big part of your conversation is is menopause and uh me
being twenty seven years old and having a mother who doesn't really talk to me.
Tell myself and our and our listeners, you know what exactly is menopause?
And what are those menopause myths that you're you know, trying to break.
I mean, I think we just we direct getting old, it,
don't we? But you know, and I don't know why now now I'm
mystified. I can't remember why I worried. I mean, obviously there's the
obvious things. You know, the skin's not what it was. Um.
You know, when things are, you know, things are trickier to keep
in check. Um. Menopause is based just it can that it can be
what life's what you make it, right. All the cliches the cliches for
a reason. And I think, I don't know, it's for years it's
been midlife crime. You know, men all call it a midlife crisis.
And I think that's because all the women are getting stronger and more powerful,
and men are freaking out because they all do. But you know, when
you hit me, I think you've had child, particularly children's You know,
lots of people now choose not to or are able to have children so much.
But it's usually a period of time when you sort of hit the menopause
or perimenopause can be sort of late forties, early fifties. It's generally when
your kids are starting to get a little bit older and more independent, probably
flying the nest a little bit. Um. It's slightly different now because women
having children a bit later or not at all, but you know that's certainly
another thing. Now. You know, Oscar is starting to leave home and
look to leave home and build his life, and you've kind of done that
part of what you know, you've done that job as a mum or whatever,
and then you're sort of looking around going right, okay, what's next.
Well, you know, I looking at your husband on the sofia,
going, oh, Fox, just the two of us forever, like we're
going to do now. But menopause, I don't know. So many women
have different experiences like periods, right Solockmen have chronic chronic PMT PMS, you
know, bleed terribly, are so grouchy, you know, put them in
bed for days on end with a migraine. You know, it's pretty horrendous
for a lot of can be a horrendous for a lot of women. Menopause
can be the same. You know, it's your hormones are all over the
shop. It's like PMS every day. I know, my friend she talks
that she's got some great stories her mum. She remembers her mom having terrible
rages, just throwing She threw a jar of jam at her once and hit
the kitchen all and it's you know, it's a real memory for her.
Unfortunately, my mom got outside so I couldn't ask her about her menopause.
I don't remember. I know, I remember that I remember it being a
thing and her going on hrtum And here, particularly in the UK, the
conversation so much further ahead about it, Like there's now workplace schemes where women
are getting time off work for menopause symptoms. It's considered you know, yeah,
so it's considered you know the same as maternity. Um, you know
that you can take time out because you know it can it bugs up,
your hormones. Weight, there's a big issue for a lot of women.
Women. You know, to start to find you cling onto it a lot
more than you used to. You know, um, your body slows down
a lot. So you know, I've really kept my fitness up, and
the last few months I haven't because I've been on tour and I just couldn't
couldn't keep up the leavel of fitness that I did have when I was in
a routine at home and I've just been hiking with a friend and like,
my knees, my knees coming down the hill were like creaking. I'm like,
this is not okay. I am not. I can't live like this.
I've got to get back to the level of fitness that I was because
you know, it is just things are just a bit more of a struggle.
Um. But you know people think, oh, he vagina gets a
bit dry. Uh, you know, in sex can go a bit wonky
donkey, but the periods are finished hello anymore. It's funny, brilliant also,
that's what looms more. Um, And I found I got a hornia
like with my confidence grow and I think and I'm like, it's you know,
I'm like, fuck, yeah, I was fucking great for fifty who
people don't want to bang me? Um, I'm just gonna get to find
that person. But I'm sugure out there somewhere. Um. So I've actually
found myself hornia um and sexier with a metaphorse. Um So, yeah,
I don't know, it's it's a tricky it's a tricky journey for some women.
I've I've just found keeping a positive mindset has always been as how I
was trained. I was lucky with Mum. She was you know, mum,
and Dad was super positive. Mum in particular was very POSSI satively minded.
And I think you know it's up to you, isn't it. How
you You've always got two choices in life how you want to approach something.
And I just women, I think sometimes fine, finely difficult to keep positive
mindset. Busy, bog down with the kids and you know, life and
work and it's all going to make time for yourself, particularly if you've got
the kids around. Busy jobs and life kind of changes change. I mean,
change can be great and brilliant if you want to make it that way,
or it can be really scary and daunting, So it's kind of up
to you which way you want to play it, really, isn't it.
Yeah. I love that you're like showing people how amazing like it can be
getting older. I think, like in my mind, in the zeitgeist,
menopause has always been like portrayed as this like it's the end of a woman's
like fun life and oh now like your past, your sexual crime, and
like it's portrayed as this very horrifying things. So I love it you like
you saying it is what you make it, like if you're confident, if
you're able to like build that yourself up like that, like it can be
a fucking great time because you're right, you don't have to worry about getting
pregnant, you don't have to like have periods. We live in two twenty
two, like I think, and I think that's just something that we go
through often in regards to like marriage, was like that, Like, Yeah,
my mom told me I thought you were going to be the CEO of
a company one day when I told her that I was engaged, and I
was like, uh, two can exist. I was like, Mom,
do you realize there are there are married female CEOs um out there in the
world. She's like, yeah, but I don't think they're on their first
marriage, and I'm like, neither are you. It like, so,
there's just there's this thing that when it comes to certain things in women's lives,
it's always looked at as like it's the end of something great. You're
getting married, at the end of your single life, you're gonna be miserable.
Oh, you're you're pregnant, You're having baby. That's the end of
your fun times. Now you're you have a kid and you have nothing to
look forward to in life. It's just this ongoing thing of trying to put
us down about narrow things in life happening, and it's baffling to me.
It's baffling, right, And the funny I mean, I think the funniest
thing is that makes me laugh, Like, you know, we are just
women are genetically we're designed to accommodate somebody else. Our bodies are from eleven,
eleven or twelve. We get a period to prepare ourselves to take care
of somebody else. Are you're fucking kidding me? By the time they finished,
you're like, yeah, okay, my turn, thanks very much.
That was my time to shine it's not about anybody else. It doesn't have
to be about anybody else. Now now it's my body, it's back to
being mine. I'm going to take some control over it. But it does.
Yeah, it's I don't know. I just it's so good you I
can't even explain it. People keep going, women keep saying we just don't
care. I'm like, if you hit fifty, and they're like yeah,
and I'm like, I know, it just happens. You just you literally
just give less bucks. It just starts to happen, and you're just,
oh, you something in your mind switches from you know, i'm older,
I'm getting agent, and then one day you're like, fuck, yeah,
I'm great. You know, I look good. I'm fifty. I'm like
this because I'm older. Like, I don't know, you've earned just strikes.
I suppose, I don't know, but I just haven't found I've just
found positivity out of it. Really, And you know, oh, I
don't know. America just shy about talking about things. We don't have these
conversations, you know, from sex education in school. I mean, how
much what a different world it would be, and we could just talk about
religions and we could talk about periods and we could make these conversations just like
you know, top takes take the shame out of all these things and just
have these conversations. But it's just why it's wild to me in America,
Like yeah, like I've said sorry about three or four times, the conversations.
Just there's a couple of celebrities here, big TV personalities who have gone
between the menopause and talked about it a lot more publicly than it's made it.
You know, it's bought it to the table. Everybody is very well
aware, and she encourages everybody to go help. I also, women think
they have to tough it out, you know, if you're really struggling or
you're getting you know, lots of women get quite a lot of rage in
pregnancy. There's you know the hot flushes and you know sometimes people don't get
those at all, but you know, sometimes like PMT get, you can
get quite a rage, and you know, women are scared or they tough
it out because that's what we do. We just like get out with it.
You know, I would shut up and put up with it. It's
like you don't have to go and get some help, like get some HRT,
get some you know, get your hormones balance. Um, you know,
just ask for help. It's okay, it's not shameful. You know.
We just surround the other thing to do with sex and the reproductive system,
which it's all the shame. That's just shameful. That's shameful. It's
like we're all over here just having periods and children, you know, with
no informationigation or looked at with like this weird obligation or like you're a female,
so when are you having kids? It's like y'all us to do something
and not want to talk about what goes into it. Because I'm also a
prenatal yoga instructor, so I am in the labor space and hearing all the
different stories and all the different things that go into You're fine, but just
just that alone. People don't want to talk about pregnancy and what all goes
into that and postpartum, all the things that happen to a woman in regards
to physically or emotionally. It's like they want the action but not all the
work behind it, Like great, have a kid and all the other things
that happen, like figure out on your own. It's very often well that's
not going to create a happy mom. That's not going to create a happy
child. If they're having to figure everything out on their own, especially after
the fact and they do go into postpartum, it's we're not helping anybody,
No, And I just I don't know. I remember really clearly, I
really struggle to breath feed. I got mastitis a couple of times, and
I've had such a tramatic words. I'm so determined I was going to breathe.
It was so painful, and I was like, why did no one
told me that this, like, like about I was doing it wrong.
I thought I was failing. No one had said to me that really hurts.
I was like, it's I've got to do it otherwise I'm a bad
mum. I've got to get I must be doing it wrong because it hurts
him much. Everyone says it's the most natural, beautiful thing, and I
should be doing it to my child three and I was like, oh my
god. And then you know, I had ended up actually having a general
anesthetics the area a C section, so I was asleep my law school was
born. So I literally wake up and this is giant, huge child's nine
pounds eleven, these giant toddlers just there and I could not connect with him.
I'm just like, where did you come from? You definitely mind like
we I just the first two years for me, and people were just like
all you've ever wanted. I'm like, is it though I don't like him
that it's thoughtful? What about me? But I just sort of like just
struggled quietly along for two years so measurable, and then kind of came out
of it. And now when I even just make you know, every now
and again, I'll do a post and I go, yeah, right,
two years the postmable depression, Like those pictures of making I think I want
to keep baby, and I look at them and I'm like, oh my
god, I do not feel like I'm trying to look at that picture here
and it makes me feel sick, you know, And my note makes all
my family and friends feel sick because they had no idea either. I was
sort of like literally hid it away. It was so ashamed that I love
this kid. Yeah, it would be such a mind fact when you're when
you have a full child and you're you're happy to have the child, but
you're like a why why am I not more thrilled. Why every because I
knew everybody just wants to talk about how rewarding it is, but nobody wants
to talk about how struggling it can be. How sh Yeah, yeah,
I want it's so hard and there's so many expectations on you. Even now
what I do with the odd post, and I'll say about postnatal depression.
My inbox goes, why, oh, I got me too, and so
many women who had it and still don't. We're just acknowledging it now.
And there kids like twenty twenty one, they went here. Yeah, you
know, you don't want to scare people, of course, and lots of
women do just naturally take to it all. They're very few and far between
from my experience. Um, So I'm just I'm more to bring up the
conversation. You know. I think that's why where I think I've come to
the conclusion, that's why I wear the crazy outfits and where I decorated Susie
the way I did on the outside. You know, it's because it starts
conversations, and that's what I like having they and I like the difficult conversations
with people that I don't agree with. And I met plenty of those on
the tour, but they're fascinating because if we don't talk to people who we
don't agree with, how do we learn anything. I'm like, why,
why, why? Why do you believe that a woman shouldn't be able to
having a borshit? Like why do you believe that? How have you got
to that? Why? You know? And the number of conversations I had
with people and they just go and I would say, for example, this
couple in a pool and bagas she was trying to drag him away. We
were everywhere at about five o'clock, everyone would go to the pool and have
a drink sundown. It was kind of fun. And I'm in the pool,
I'm chatting away to this couple. They seem very sweet and its ro
versus Wade had just been overturned at that point, and she I said something
and she said, and I said, well, of course, now the
tours turned into them. You know, it's turned onto a bit of a
mission as well with roversus way. And you're a you're a pro choice,
are you? And I went, oh, your pro life and she said
yes, and I went, oh, interesting, She went, those babies,
those babies could be adopted, those couples all around the world that need
to, you know, adopt children. And I and I and I said,
well, I said, it's not that easy. I said, these
are not all cute, sweet babies. Lots of these babies have been born
out of trauma or drug addiction, or you know, aren't wanted. And
I said, I don't know. I worked for social services for many years,
and kids in calf and very low have a very low outcomes. You
know, they rarely get to college they were even if they are adopted into
loving families. If they've been born into an addict or something like, they
have very low threshold of good outcome in life. And she went, stop
talking to her, and she's trying to drag her husband away from me.
And I think. She went, it's gonna end in a fight. And
I went, it's not gonna end in a fight. I said, I
just want to hear I'm interested in your opinion, because you know, I
have my opinion of your opinion. But if we don't talk to each other
and we don't understand each other, we're just gonna end up constantly hating each
other. And just you dragging your husband away. I said, I'm just
curious, you know, do you have sisters and daughters? And he was
like, I have two sisters and we have a daughter, and the woman's
going get away from her, get away from her, And I might just
write out of the conversation with him, and I said, just to have
curiosity. Then if either of them were raped, you know, on a
real base level of ether of them were raped, would you truly expect and
want to watch them have to go through a pregnancy and then go through the
trauma of giving birth, and then go through the trauma of having to give
that child up, and then what kind of life do you think that child's
gonna have? And how is your sister or your daughter then continue their life?
He went, I just never thought about it like that, And I'm
like, what, how what do you think? How do you think them?
It was fascinating to me. And I met some racist lesbians from Florida
the same thing. They were very that's just a funny sentences. The whole
thing racis was like, you know, we had a long conversation. They
were mad about Kaepernick. They wanted to know what I thought about Kaepernick and
I, you know, taking the knee, and it was round and we
were. They invited me around the campfire and it was going quite well.
I was like, my Florida, but they're lesbian. And then they suddenly
said, well you think and I went probably incredible. Uh yeah, I
mean one of the most powerful statements we see in our lifetime. And I
just, you know, I applaud him. And they went while they're ripping,
they're ripping down the statues. So I was like, yeah, but
you are you proud of slavery? And they went, oh, no,
of course, not that that you know. And then why would earth if
you want to statue praising you know, plantation owners or slave owners. It's
just bizarre to me. Why would you Why would you want that? If
you genuinely think that slavery was a bad thing, why would you want a
statue in honor of that, of that period of shameful history? Um?
And they're like huh, I thought about it like that. And I'm like,
well, i've let you know, not being funny, but as a
minority group, and I would think in Florida, you too walk in holding
hands or as a couple in Florida, you get pretty much judged. And
there's another minority group, Um, you know, if anybody's got some sort
of like affinity or understanding what it's like to be a person of color and
be judged just by purely walking into a room and having people make judgments on
I would have thought you were pretty close to being upto to sort of feel
what that feels like. Huh. I never really thought about it like that,
like how do you think that? Like? Where's your starting point?
And then the more I thought about it, the more people I met who
just went never thought about it like that, And I would, you know,
just amazed the way I asked a question. I just realized, you
know, my mum was always like, you know, if you have a
disagreement with someone, the place you start is their shoes. You go,
why are they like that? How are they like? Why are they being
in asshole? And you put yourself in their shoes and you try and think,
how have they got to this point? Why are they angry? Why
they crossed? Why are you was? What's upsetting there? And you start
from somebody else's shoes and and that's where you start when you've got a problem
with somebody or something. And I'm not everybody was gifted a mom like that
or gifted someone who showed them away like that. Um, and so I
actually just thoroughly enjoyed meeting all these people. I completely disagree with it again,
it was but I found I was like, why everything in America has
to be it's this or it's that. There's nothing in the middle. And
I like, unless I'm driving around in the US, people aren't going to
meet in the middle. You know, it's going to be with this or
with that. There's just no And I think people just find it hard to
find information. Where do you go Fox or CNN, where's something in the
middle. If you live in a tiny state without much compact, you haven't
left the country, you've not barely left your state or your hometown. How
do you find that information? There's no middle of the road information, and
they should go looking for it. Our feeds, our Instagram, our Facebook,
our social media or filled with people we agree with and we like and
we get on you know, we are politically aligned with it. And someone
upsets and still makes a racist comment everybody, you delete them because you don't
want them in your feed, you're want anything to do with them, and
raises you. And lots of times you have to do that because otherwise you
go absolutely insane and you just can't just follow a bunch of races for the
sake of it. But then they do the same, and then you just
stay away from each other, and so there's no meeting. And then because
we because our leaders are like, we don't leader, everyone's just obsessed with
themselves. I don't know. It's just infuriating anyway, Sorry, it's okay.
We talked about talking about well, we have plenty of episodes because with
us living in Texas, we uh, we deal with a lot of these
things firsthand. And like when the overturning of Robe Wed happened, we made
an episode called a Bitch Slat to the Uterus UM. So we talk about
these things often, um because we experienced them. And we just talked about
how we just lost our our governor's race for someone we supported. So but
they go hand in hand when it comes to our bodies, when it comes
to sex, when it comes to menopause, and it comes to pregnancy,
all of these different functionalities of having a woman. A woman's body is our
global owner's body is um. It's constantly attacked. We're not in a place
where all these things are spoken about or understood you're talking about menopause leave,
Like that's incredible. I I'm excited for the day when specifically in Texas as
well, where maternity leave can last longer than six weeks, like there's there's
so much or the fact when they will get paternity leave, like as men
need to be there as well, so they These conversations are hard, but
they're worth having and they all lead into something. And if we can't have
the conversations, you know, like you mentioned that just talking to someone getting
to know someone in a pool in Vegas, how are we going to have
these conversations with our kids? How are we going to have the conversations in
schools, let alone government? So it all stems from being able to just
talk to one another in an understanding way, trying to understand and relate and
come to a conclusion together. We can't do that in a high end way
if we can't do it just amongst peers, right, And I think I
was when I got to off the So I mean I remember really clearly when
I crossed the Texas border. I was making a video because before the night
before, because I was really scared, and I drove through and there's a
checkpoint. There's quite a big checkpoint in which I didn't know there was.
And I was laughing earlier about the vibrators and the gin and the edibles.
Um I called a complete white privilege card as I drove through this through.
As I drove through the thing, and they were all there, the dogs
were snarling, and the board of patrol guys were like super scary, and
there was like two African Americans bent over the bloody car Trump being searched,
and you know, I guide through like white British h God, don't come
forward. I got loads of edibles and you know, la la la,
And as I drove I felt so ashamed of myself. I cried because I
was scared that text, you know, people were not going to receive me
well, and I was scared that, you know, I was going to
get sharp. And then I felt so ashamed of myself pulled this complete white
privilege card. I was like, they take they were taking pictures of me
as I went through the don't taking pictures and it's like going through the board
of thing and I'm just like, I'm so ashamed of my album. Then
that whole drive I drove along the border, and I was a bit I
don't know, I felt anxious that I think I just I've been watching too
much TV. And in the South it was all like, you know,
they're getting over the wall. We need the wall. With the wall,
I'm like, what's going to happen. I'm gonna get rushed by a bunch
of Mexican immigrants trying to get you know. And then instead I had to
drive. I drove along the border in one hundred and twenty degree heat,
moaning when I didn't have an air conditioning along the route where people just trying
to get to a better life. I never felt so ashamed of myself.
I literally sat in my own shame for about three or four days. And
then and then I started to hit more busier towns and started to meet people.
And then when I got to Austin, I met started to meet some
relay people and I was like, how do you live here? Though?
Like it's just so in turns and they're like, Noah, this is where
we have to be. We you know, I have both counts like here
it's with is where you come to fight? And I realized it's sitting in
you know, liberal Oregon and surrounded by like minded people, and actually that's
not where the fight happens. The fight happens in these places and these people
I met, I was like mind blown. I was like, fuck,
yes, this you people are the people who are leading the way. So
yeah, I do. I mean, I think I just my head on
that tour. I'm still kind of recovering from that. It's nice to talk
about it, actually, because they've been so intense, sort of like coming
back in China, you know, a similar acclimator, and here I'm having
complete like reverse culture shock coming back to my own country. I like,
it's so wild, and then I find myselfing, well that was better in
America. Well that's better here, and like you completely fuck yourself when you
move abroad, because then you don't belong anywhere. Like I've never really you
know, and it ever belong quiet there, and now I don't believe it.
And now I'm not sure I still believe believe belong here. I'm like,
I just I've learned so much and I know so much, and I'm
like, should I stay in America and keep fighting and doing what I do
that? You know? I don't. I just don't know. It's really
nice to talk about a tour and reflect back. So thank you. Yeah,
of course I can't wait to see you doing the tour in the UK
and maybe coming back one day as well, because because it is it is
very important to have the conversations here. It's just it's so stuffy and it's
so it's so frustrating. I think we're getting to a good place though,
where people are being raised to be more open and to have conversations and look
at things in that gray area. But that was the biggest pushback we got
from that episode was people reaching out saying that why why don't you just move?
You should just move? Well, do you know how expensive for whatnot?
Everyone has resources to just up and move to a completely different Yeah,
well yeah, that's kind of like we've thought, don't have resources? Yeah,
go ahead, And we've talked about this before, Like I was born
and raised here, Like I'm not gonna just like give up on my home
state. Like as much as problematic it is, like I am a very
like proud text and then I love like where I live and I want to
like be part of making it a better place for everyone to be at.
So yeah, I never you know, even the fights here. Like you
said, this is where we need to make a difference. The differences are
already being made in these other states where they have choice, they have weed,
they have all the good things. Like we can't contribute what we're trying
to contribute there. Um, like having just sex conversations. Um. We
always laugh because it's really hard being in Texas, let alone in the US
where we have stupid presidents and stupid people. But as soon as we leave
Texas or we leave the US, or like these colors still rent blue USA,
like we're so proud. It's so bad. It infuriates me because America,
you know, everyone that's part of you know, everybody sees this or
that, right, so they all see the crump and it's so you know,
and everybody has this vision of America and it's not it's not the experience
I've had, you know, everywhere of being leaving the people I did in
greeting the racist lesbian incredibly generous and kind and uplifting, positive and supportive and
like welcoming and like I have women chasing me down giving me crystals for my
journey and I don't know it. I just I am most insane kind people
on my on my journey, and it infuriates me the rap that America gets
because it's just like, it's just it's so, it's so the extremes.
It's like I was saying, it's this, or it's that, it's black
or it's white. It's gotta be this, it's gotta be red, it's
gotta be blue. It's like, where's the bit in the middle and the
you know, the whole don't even go to starting political system. Remember,
don't have the answers in Britains. And everyone said miserable here. I'm like,
oh god, Everyone's well, what do you miss the most? And
I'm like, I miss uplifted, Like I missed the positivity of America and
Americans. You know. Everybody's like, if you come up with a business
idea here, this is how. I use this example quite a lot of
my talk that idea sometimes, and I'll go, I'll tell you what the
difference is between America and Britain. So you've come up with a really ludicrous
business plan and I come up, we say, a three legged pink lama
farm. Because it's the most stupid thing I could ever think of. If
you said to people in Britain in the pub. You know, I'm thinking
I might open the three legged pink Lama farm. British people will go,
well, I can tell you ten reasons why that won't work. And if
you say it to Americans, they go, oh my god, that's the
best idea I've ever heard. You must talk to my uncle Bob. He
has a lama cousin, Sheila, she owns a pink lama. And they
give you have some money, how can I invest in you? What can
I do for you? And uh, yeah, it's night and day,
chalk and cheese. It ships. It's so as such a gift to do.
We did see both sides. It's just wild to me. I don't
know what to do with all this information yet selves the world. I am
all world problems. But yeah, it's fascinating. It's so fascinating. I
had no idea. Our cultures are so different where I move so naive.
Now. I've been to the UK once when I was twelve or thirteen.
My uncle lived in Scotland for years, so I've been to Scotland and then
we were in London for a while and I think that was the biggest,
the biggest takeaway that I had was As I'm walking around, I'm like,
man, no one seems happy to be here. Yeah, And in Texas
were like, wow, it's only seventy two degrees today, what a win,
Like we're all excited about the weather not being hot. Garbage. Um,
but you're not wrong. There's I think, especially here in the South,
because we had our first experience going to the East Coast. We had
never been. Oh, I hadn't been. He went when he was younger.
I'd never been to Boston. So we went to Boston in August,
and um specifically for a Lady Gaga concert because I go to every tour and
we always dress we always dress up, and at that time, she didn't
have a Texas date. So we were like, I said, Chicago or
Boston because I've never been to those places, and so I bring my like
purple bondage outfit. My ass, cheeks are out on the tree, and
no one is dressed up. I was like, everyone's going to be dressed
up when we get to Fenway Park. As silly as I feel right now,
like nobody was dressed up, and I'm like, y'all have all of
your rights here, and it shows like We're out here, full full drag,
full ass cheeks and titties out whenever we have the opportunity, because in
Texas we're fighting for our lives and we're like, we're gonna be ourselves even
if it kills us. The biggest difference, at least in the States,
um is we have so much personality down south because we've been so suppressed,
and so we're like, no, we're proud, we're gonna dress up,
we're gonna say what we want to say, We're gonna be positive and loving
to each other. Um. It can be a very positive place when we're
in an area that doesn't have all of our rights or parents that brought us
up to be ashamed of ourselves or our bodies or who we love. So
yeah, oh my god, see you're my people. Well, Lou,
I don't want to take up too much more of your time. But where
would you like people to find you? Oh? Well, I'm only on
Instagram, my website, my new shiny web. It's so nice. Um,
it's gonna be better when I pull my finger out, um and hopefully,
I don't know, we'll see what happens. I'm going to be running
some I'm going to continue the tour as soon as soon as he gets back,
I'm gonna launch adventures Love and Loveland Goes Wild. I think I'm going
to start taking people hiking in England, do some adventures, m start spreading
the love around here a little bit as well, trying to scheer them.
Motherfucker's up, seriously. The instagrams my main home. You can always find
my arms out well, yeah, it'll be in the description so everyone can
find you. Um yeah, I can't wait for us to go to the
UK and we'll find you there too, and go on out come and stay
in my spare room. Well, Lou, I hope you have a great
est of your Is it what time is it there? It's gonna be evening
right, there's a ten hour difference. It's ten past five and I'm taking
my son to see a Bob Marley. There's a musical about Bob Marley and
the West End. How cool that he's got a friend over from the US.
Is one of his friends Reportland came to visit to watch the World Cup.
They've been going to the pub to watch the walk. It's a very
cultural trip. So I'm dragging him at the West End to go and see
Bob Marley. I love it. I hope you guys have a blast and
I'll be in touch soon. All right, darling, let me school here.
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