1 00:00:00,360 --> 00:00:03,240 If your friend is just getting divorced and you' re happy in your marriage, 2 00:00:03,680 --> 00:00:07,280 get her out of your life for a while until she gets the divorce 3 00:00:07,360 --> 00:00:11,640 thing out of her head. Studies have established that surrounding yourself with divorced people 4 00:00:11,759 --> 00:00:15,519 has been prone to you considering divorce as an option. If he' s 5 00:00:15,759 --> 00:00:20,600 going through a situation in your relationships, then I want him to talk to 6 00:00:20,600 --> 00:00:25,760 people who ended up getting divorced because a divorced friend filled his head with cockroach 7 00:00:25,839 --> 00:00:29,359 wing and then he realized the relationship of a married friend with a divorced friend 8 00:00:29,399 --> 00:00:34,320 he has worried. I' ve been in conversations this ado me there. 9 00:00:34,560 --> 00:00:42,880 Good morning, good morning, everything, hello. Greetings. Hey there' 10 00:00:42,880 --> 00:00:48,280 s an aunt of my wife who is thirty- six years old, lying 11 00:00:49,039 --> 00:00:54,920 thirty married and the guy was given a missing zapa, which doesn' t 12 00:00:54,960 --> 00:01:00,399 even appear on function records and she wants to divorce so torn up a mistress, 13 00:01:00,880 --> 00:01:03,079 either she has to disposition it or she has to declare it. Man 14 00:01:03,120 --> 00:01:07,400 disappeared, not who declares herself a widow, who goes through his process, 15 00:01:07,519 --> 00:01:10,519 who declares herself a widow. A friend tells him around here, I mean, 16 00:01:10,560 --> 00:01:11,879 what a relationship it is with what you said to what we' re 17 00:01:11,879 --> 00:01:15,680 talking about. But it' s okay. It' s all right, 18 00:01:15,959 --> 00:01:17,359 tell me, she' s telling me a friend around here. He says 19 00:01:17,840 --> 00:01:22,159 hi, guys. In my case, a friend got divorced. It lasted 20 00:01:22,200 --> 00:01:26,200 four months. After four months divorced, we started getting together and she started 21 00:01:26,239 --> 00:01:30,879 talking weird about my husband. There came a point where my husband lost his 22 00:01:30,000 --> 00:01:34,000 job, not because of her, not because he lost it. And then 23 00:01:34,000 --> 00:01:37,040 I found out that she broke into the house to give it to her husband. 24 00:01:37,920 --> 00:01:42,959 Oh, dear, good morning to me This is a bad life for 25 00:01:42,959 --> 00:01:46,920 divorced women. Just finish me, I mean, newly divorced. That' 26 00:01:47,000 --> 00:01:49,879 s very unpleasant. It' s horrible, it' s terrible, it 27 00:01:49,879 --> 00:01:53,480 ' s unbearable. It' s nice of you to have your boyfriend and 28 00:01:53,599 --> 00:01:56,879 have a single friend hanging around that. Yeah, it' s dangerous to 29 00:01:56,879 --> 00:01:57,560 look like things. Yes, if not the friends of now do not serve 30 00:01:59,280 --> 00:02:01,079 ladiante, at least they did not respect the Marios. Ajenos. Good morning, 31 00:02:01,439 --> 00:02:05,760 and it' s true that it happened. And good morning. You 32 00:02:05,799 --> 00:02:08,800 know what happened to me I was more jon Yeah, we weren' t 33 00:02:08,800 --> 00:02:14,759 past. Yes, but the girl also mine, because she began to say, 34 00:02:15,000 --> 00:02:20,039 for example, Mira mucho pos was the little son of mine who did 35 00:02:20,400 --> 00:02:23,319 not know and sent me pictures, that is, dyed pictures of me to 36 00:02:23,319 --> 00:02:27,280 his friends. I was going until the straw saw me. That was no 37 00:02:27,400 --> 00:02:30,759 longer the case that I was never with anyone, that I knew no one, 38 00:02:30,000 --> 00:02:36,680 because he listened when he saw that she got me. You know, 39 00:02:37,520 --> 00:02:40,719 it' s pretty bad. The problem was until he saw her cheaply used 40 00:02:40,800 --> 00:02:46,879 Caesar' s rest. Yeah, that was his exa month hunting. He 41 00:02:46,039 --> 00:02:52,039 was recently divorced. Good morning. Good morning, how about coming to Puerto 42 00:02:52,159 --> 00:02:55,719 Plata, give him the most beaded city, said a teacher ode who ended 43 00:02:55,759 --> 00:03:01,039 up being a good friend of mine I had such a law wife of nothing 44 00:03:01,120 --> 00:03:08,719 to be his greatest enemy, nothing else has peruvorciar and advice for all Dominican 45 00:03:08,879 --> 00:03:14,800 men not to mess with lige or maje with a newly divorced woman or that 46 00:03:14,879 --> 00:03:17,840 you are going to look for a problem with which you are divorced because you 47 00:03:17,840 --> 00:03:22,719 will be jealous with you. Yeah, he really takes it out. That 48 00:03:22,759 --> 00:03:24,800 ' s faith to throw them dance yes, yes, yes no, because 49 00:03:24,840 --> 00:03:29,840 this explains the simple as it' s no longer being happy hates having people 50 00:03:29,840 --> 00:03:32,400 come next to it. See if your wife doesn' t have to visit 51 00:03:32,439 --> 00:03:36,879 the divorced version. I know you' re getting ready for the division to 52 00:03:36,879 --> 00:03:42,000 come. Good morning. You know what husbands don' t like when their 53 00:03:42,159 --> 00:03:46,039 wives walk with friends, get divorced, because they have like a warm- 54 00:03:47,039 --> 00:03:51,840 up and a God situation. We' re gonna be a girl, I 55 00:03:52,319 --> 00:03:55,240 ' m gonna drink exactly. I understand that husbands who don' t vote 56 00:03:55,360 --> 00:04:01,919 for women to go out po amilia had and my wife divorced a friend. 57 00:04:02,520 --> 00:04:08,639 I say here there are two options. Either you stop hanging out with that 58 00:04:08,719 --> 00:04:14,039 broad or you leave or I' m out of the house. Of course 59 00:04:14,080 --> 00:04:16,920 there are different is my talking for Whatsapp, block it already I see it. 60 00:04:17,319 --> 00:04:25,360 There' s different behavior from the divorced lady, because there' s 61 00:04:25,519 --> 00:04:29,800 one that gets empowered and takes the street and they want to drag the gymnasium, 62 00:04:30,079 --> 00:04:30,279 they want to show that they do. She can be happy too. 63 00:04:31,040 --> 00:04:34,480 But there' s another thing that sows is cisaña in your marriage. I 64 00:04:34,680 --> 00:04:41,439 lied to be quiet to me and I' m going to your house to 65 00:04:41,639 --> 00:04:44,519 what lie of the devil Café Good morning, two people who do good, 66 00:04:46,240 --> 00:04:46,959 yes, it' s good morning. It' s Alberto. There' 67 00:04:46,000 --> 00:04:49,519 s no greater truth than that phrase you just said they' re people who 68 00:04:49,639 --> 00:04:54,680 can' t. I mean, happiness. The desire to reflect is the 69 00:04:54,720 --> 00:04:58,319 happiness of another cannot see the other happy. Yes, yes, I say 70 00:04:58,480 --> 00:05:04,480 it because in my experience I have a person not very close, but in 71 00:05:04,480 --> 00:05:10,800 the moments that you have to make these kinds of comments, she talks about 72 00:05:10,920 --> 00:05:14,839 her negative experience and the experiences of her negative friends. I have a very 73 00:05:14,920 --> 00:05:18,480 stable marriage thanks to God, and one of the things she tells me don 74 00:05:19,319 --> 00:05:25,920 ' t trust yourself because men my love can stretch out the best. But 75 00:05:26,040 --> 00:05:29,160 when you take it together, it' s not a new carnita. Over 76 00:05:29,199 --> 00:05:32,800 there, oh, you. My daughter lives with this. Everyone' s 77 00:05:32,800 --> 00:05:35,360 open, and I' m telling you, they' ve got pre, 78 00:05:35,360 --> 00:05:39,360 that' s all. He' s a person who has a negativity and 79 00:05:39,920 --> 00:05:45,000 wants whatever it is. It would be happy to inject it into the other 80 00:05:45,000 --> 00:05:47,920 person. That' s like blood. I' m going to tell the 81 00:05:47,959 --> 00:05:54,040 ladies something Look, don' t get out of your head that you want 82 00:05:54,120 --> 00:05:59,720 faithful men next to you. All men stick horn, look and the women 83 00:05:59,759 --> 00:06:02,839 ' s diffa that the woman has other nuances, but they are already there 84 00:06:02,879 --> 00:06:05,720 that makes the pair also to the men. Your wife this year in what 85 00:06:06,079 --> 00:06:09,199 ' s going to hurt Alia, even if it' s oral sex, 86 00:06:09,399 --> 00:06:13,399 If you stop being sexal, she gave herself a little kiss with someone someone 87 00:06:13,480 --> 00:06:18,360 is flitting at work, get out of your head that idea that you can 88 00:06:18,519 --> 00:06:24,920 control everything of the other person and enjoy the time you' re with that 89 00:06:25,040 --> 00:06:30,399 person. Why human beings, in certain stages of their life, live processes 90 00:06:30,680 --> 00:06:33,560 and we all pass, for example, between the thirty and forty, all 91 00:06:33,560 --> 00:06:41,920 men walk given to the devil. It' s not true. My friend, 92 00:06:42,360 --> 00:06:44,199 let' s sit down and talk. Let' s get our knees 93 00:06:44,199 --> 00:06:46,240 together. Dude, I' m afraid of the knee. It is not 94 00:06:46,360 --> 00:06:54,120 true that your husband is unconditionally faithful to you, because I am going to 95 00:06:54,399 --> 00:06:57,879 ask you and who you are to believe that on earth there is a human 96 00:06:57,959 --> 00:07:00,720 being who will only look at you, not look at other people. Stop 97 00:07:00,839 --> 00:07:05,079 thinking you' re unique. No, you' re not the same, 98 00:07:05,360 --> 00:07:10,360 Daddy. After thirty- five, the woman is heartbroken by those souls of 99 00:07:10,439 --> 00:07:15,360 Bolmona, they start to feel old and want to go out on the street. 100 00:07:15,480 --> 00:07:20,480 You and Gusta are hitting your neck, too. Accept it and enjoy 101 00:07:20,600 --> 00:07:24,519 the moments that went together, the time that is with you, etcetera. 102 00:07:24,959 --> 00:07:27,360 It doesn' t get complicated in a goddamn life and don' t get 103 00:07:27,360 --> 00:07:30,439 embittered. That' s why I think the happiest stage of the relationship I 104 00:07:30,480 --> 00:07:34,120 had was when I accepted that there were things I couldn' t control and 105 00:07:34,240 --> 00:07:42,600 I devoted myself to enjoying what I received in that relationship to the infidelities. 106 00:07:42,680 --> 00:07:45,040 In fact, I end up being friends with a very good friend. We 107 00:07:45,079 --> 00:07:48,079 did it and drank Romeo together. She didn' t have a mother and 108 00:07:48,079 --> 00:07:55,040 I was happy. The behavior in that sense of man varied to that, 109 00:07:55,120 --> 00:07:58,800 as you said, for example, from twenty to thirty at least is what 110 00:07:58,839 --> 00:08:01,000 a concerned friend is doing. You' re already forty. You what details 111 00:08:01,000 --> 00:08:05,680 to raise. There' s a problem between the ages of thirty and forty. 112 00:08:05,319 --> 00:08:09,160 Man takes the world ahead, but with a little more considering and waiting 113 00:08:09,160 --> 00:08:16,639 for physios. Yes, women have to get hooked on the downsides of the 114 00:08:16,680 --> 00:08:20,879 40s to the 50s, separates a chin because it devotes a little more time 115 00:08:20,160 --> 00:08:24,959 to economic stability bclear and in the eyes, which it does not stop doing 116 00:08:24,120 --> 00:08:28,800 already if it has children, already preteens or teenagers, there is already less 117 00:08:28,839 --> 00:08:31,519 time to devote to the street. That boy has to go out with him, 118 00:08:31,560 --> 00:08:33,279 you have to put it on, yes, but with more care begin 119 00:08:33,320 --> 00:08:35,919 to observe your son see it to flower man There I can give you attention 120 00:08:35,919 --> 00:08:39,320 to this boy so that he doesn' t finish you boy, I give 121 00:08:39,360 --> 00:08:41,840 you maqui it to a boyfriend at eighteen. On the twenty- fourth of 122 00:08:41,960 --> 00:08:43,320 December, he will make me a dinner, but not because it is a 123 00:08:43,320 --> 00:08:48,039 stop, so that he does not give me the twenty- four years, 124 00:08:48,240 --> 00:08:50,879 but he comes from fifty- six years ago and ten years ago from fifty 125 00:08:50,879 --> 00:08:52,080 to sixty, return to the stage of the twenty. If you don' 126 00:08:52,120 --> 00:08:54,440 t believe you' re here, old man, it' s quiet. 127 00:08:54,559 --> 00:09:01,039 I don' t want to, I want a friend who is like that, 128 00:09:01,360 --> 00:09:03,960 go back to the over stages, so exercised to the fifty and Vaina 129 00:09:03,960 --> 00:09:05,000 is going to go on. Look. I think the question is wisdom. 130 00:09:05,960 --> 00:09:09,799 If there' s something that brings the years to pass, it' s 131 00:09:09,919 --> 00:09:15,840 that when you live through all the processes that you go through, you live 132 00:09:15,879 --> 00:09:20,639 it like a sponge, then the time comes when you start going through inventory 133 00:09:20,720 --> 00:09:24,240 and you say good. Look, I' m doing like this, Vaina, 134 00:09:24,480 --> 00:09:26,879 I' m gonna give that shit,' cause that, to me 135 00:09:26,879 --> 00:09:30,000 it was just too complicated a trance. This was very good, this was 136 00:09:30,159 --> 00:09:33,519 not et cetera, and you already start to see life more clearly you are 137 00:09:33,559 --> 00:09:39,399 wiser, but unfortunately people are thoughtless of the majority. Sometimes one understands that 138 00:09:41,080 --> 00:09:46,320 one does nothing to contribute to the misfortunes that one causes. Certainly, there 139 00:09:46,360 --> 00:09:52,519 are many coincidences, but most things are causal, they are consequences of something 140 00:09:52,519 --> 00:09:56,399 that originally motivates it. Then you get to see all these women who get 141 00:09:56,440 --> 00:10:03,000 divorced and want to grab into the halls. Sister, do catharsis, implicate 142 00:10:03,000 --> 00:10:09,600 yourself in therapy, go to a psychologist or psychological therapist and let the happy 143 00:10:09,679 --> 00:10:16,080 one be happy. I was telling him I have an argument with someone I 144 00:10:16,159 --> 00:10:20,200 saw Fulana' s husband with a broad and I went there and stood up 145 00:10:20,360 --> 00:10:24,120 and told the woman look at me, brother, I have a golden rule 146 00:10:24,200 --> 00:10:28,039 that I didn' t rape her. I can see the wife or the 147 00:10:28,039 --> 00:10:33,279 husband. I can be together with a friend, a friend doing anything to 148 00:10:33,320 --> 00:10:37,279 me. That doesn' t matter to me, because in the only way 149 00:10:37,519 --> 00:10:41,440 that I intervene in those relationships, in those issues and if we' re 150 00:10:41,440 --> 00:10:45,639 sleeping it together and doing threesome, then I have to take care of our 151 00:10:45,639 --> 00:10:48,639 relationships. Not good me, but if I' m not tremendous in that 152 00:10:48,000 --> 00:10:52,240 bed that I' m looking for, I care about issues that I don 153 00:10:52,279 --> 00:10:54,120 ' t care about, that I hit two trucks. Rope, that' 154 00:10:54,120 --> 00:10:56,919 s not my problem and if something I could do is not take the problem 155 00:10:56,960 --> 00:11:01,879 so they follow, because a phrase that a friend told me, what is 156 00:11:01,000 --> 00:11:05,960 not known, what is not known, does not generate suffering. I do 157 00:11:05,000 --> 00:11:09,919 that indiscretion. I' m going to the other time. I' ve 158 00:11:09,440 --> 00:11:09,919 got a gossip.