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This it's the two seventeen Recovery Podcast
with Corey Winfield. I'm kind of on

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the outs with the little people of
America. So I tried getting on a

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dating site once and they would not
let me on there. So I'm the

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little person and co hold Marnie Winfield. You're tapering yourself down from your hangover

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or whatever. Oh no, when
that started rolling in up to a whole

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another entire day of drinking, it
just didn't stop. It is the twentieth

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of September twenty twenty three. My
name's Cory Winfield, and with me today

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is not Marnie Winfield. It is
Justin Burke, justin Welcome to the podcast.

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How are you doing well? Man? Dow'd you hear? We're having

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a little fun today. Yeah,
and you're actually going to get to pick

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the topic because I said in the
last podcast that we did from the North

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Studio, which is where we're at, that you got to pick the topic.

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In the topic that you picked was
cramps in your fat role. Oh

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yeah, if I'm not drinking enough
water, yeah, you're you're saying you're

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drinking maybe too many energy drinks.
Yeah, now your phone's ringing in it's

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way over there because we had to
move it because it was messing with the

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microphones. You want to talk to
her, you can answer it, we

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can answer it, we can pause
this. No, sure, it's fine.

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He's gonna this your mom that way. Yeah. Setting boundaries, I

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like it, boundaries act. Yeah, So energy drinks people in early recovery,

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it happens a lot to mix.
But you're you're saying because when you

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went to Harvard or where'd you get
your doctor? I didn't get it nowhere?

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Okay the mean screets. Yeah,
get your doctors of the mean screets.

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But you were just assuming that,
you know what, I drink a

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lot of energy drinks and I don't
drink a lot of water. I'm having

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cramps. Obviously, if you're dehydrated, you get cramps, right, So

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you're thinking that energy drinks dehydrate you. This is all speculation, not dehydrate

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you. They just if you don't
drink enough water in the day, you're

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gonna bound up with cramps. And
I've been killing the energy drinks s lately.

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That has water in it, though, Oh I don't think it's makes

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up for it. My wife and
I have this debate often because she'll say

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you never drink water, and I
say, I drink water all the time.

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I'm drinking a diet coke and coffee
has water in it. So yeah,

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but dehydrates you because the caffeine.
Okay, I've heard that a couple

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of times too, But the diet
coke doesn't. The power raid doesn't powerade

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is good for you. Well,
oh, it's not power raid. It's

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the sugar free power raid. Which
then they'll tell me the other asperg tain

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or whatever it's called. They say
that is worse than sugar half a dozen

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one the other. Well, we
need as much ice cream as I do.

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I have to cut out sugar in
other areas of my life. Otherwise

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I'd be like eight hundred pounds man, right, it's six hundred pound life.

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You see me on there, and
I'm like, what happened? Like,

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well, I started drinking regular,
regular drinks with sugar man, because

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that aspartain was so bad for me. Junior, hand me that robe over

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there. I got a couple of
my steel fullp That's what I would say,

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more like a sheet. Yeah,
and no joke. But you know,

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in Mitch, I'm not gonna tell
his story or nothing, but he

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kind of did already, but he
lost a lot of weight and he said

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that it was it was hard man, you know, being you know,

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so heavy that you can't move.
And I feel, you know, bad

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for those people. And Mitch has
kind of gotten himself together. He does

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way more physical activity than I think
anybody else here. Yeah, at the

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office, he's always out discolfing doing
stuff like that, and way more than

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me. Well, hold on,
let me let me phrase that. He

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always says he's gonna take his recovery
is discolfing. But I don't know if

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he ever does. I mean,
it sounds good when you say that every

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weeknd I'm gonna take him. I'm
taking a discolf in this weekend. Well,

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typically if Mitch says he's gonna do
something, he typically does it on

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that Okay, wasn't sure about that, you know, but I guess you

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probably talked to him more than I
do. So. Yeah, but cramps

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in the fat role, they're an
issue. Definitely. Maybe you should try

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to drink water and let me know
how that goes. I'm having an update

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next week about how many cramps you
get right and you're in your fat role.

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Was there another topic you want to
talk about today. Music therapy.

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Ah, music therapy. You went
to another concert, didn't you? I

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did, and I'm going to another
one. Oh my god? What was

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this last one? You went to? Betray You? Memphis Made Fire and

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catch your breath? How many boobies
went flying out one set? There you

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go, So you're moving up,
We're moving up. Nice. It was

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an accidental booby show. No,
she definitely got on her dude shoulders and

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said look everybody as well, there's
my boobies. Yeah, that was during

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the tray to you. Did you
see people taking pictures? Yeah, of

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the chick. Well, I mean
she showed them. I mean people were

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taking pictures at that time and recording, but you didn't. No, I

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was next to the mosh pit,
so I didn't have my phone out much.

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I didn't want to break it and
then be like boss man, I

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broke my phone at a concert and
be told, well, how are you

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going to get a new phone?
So I kept it put away, giving

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one of those Obama phones that I
have just kicking around somewhere that's messed up.

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Here you go, justin, here's
your new phone. Good luck.

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Yeah, it's all right. It's
so you get in the mosh pit,

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didn't break your phone, didn't get
pictures of boobs. But that's cool though,

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Yeah, fun, Yeah, and
I didn't know catch your Brussels gonna

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be there. I liked their some
of their music. Okay. They got

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a song called dial Tone it's really
good, and another one called twenty one

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gun Salute. How does the dial
Tone song go? I don't remember number?

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Right off him? Like that?
Well, what about the other one

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you were talking about? Plenty one
gun Salute? How's that going? It

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talks about a relationship, really yeah, on sexual relationship, no no,

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no, no, no no,
it talks about like ending a relationship and

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then for all the heartache and bys
that you went through during it, like

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you know, you deserve a twenty
one gun salute. It's been kind of

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hard trying to find a like a
nineteen twenty year old that's totally wrong,

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so it's not okay, all right? Well sorry Mitch, Yeah, he

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kind of had that little twisted Yeah, but they were good. And what's

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the next count you're going to?
I prevail bad Omens and Bad Flower and

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someone else. And then there's another
stage that's got like four bands on it.

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I've never even heard of this is
riff fest. Yes, that's over

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and it would be good. Ben
Flower. Are they singing this song about

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suicide? Correct? Yeah, Ghosts, Yeah, yep. That came out

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a couple of years ago. It
was in treatment when that song was kind

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of big, and I was like, I kind of like the song,

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Like, wait a minute, is
it okay to like the song? But

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I can relate to, you know, some of it. And yeah.

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So a lot of people in recovery
during our time and active addiction have you

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know, thought about Yeah, and
I'm glad I'm still here too, But

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there was times where I was like, man, this might be better,

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you know. And I never thought
about the family, about how it would

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affect them, and I actually at
the time, and this is how wrong

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my thinking was. I thought that
this would be easier for them because then

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I would have to I would stop
putting them through hell when it would be

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the ultimate hell. Yeah, exactly, you know, And an active addiction

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and life gets crazy. And as
many times as I tried and failed and

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tried and failed, you know,
And I say tried, and I'm gonna

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use that very loosely because I was
trying to do it my way, where

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I could still, and I mean, ultimately, you have to do it

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your way, you know, if
you really think about it, some people

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like, you know, you can't
do it your way. You can't do

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it. You can, but you
just have to let go of your old

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way, you know, to think
that I'm gonna go back into radio,

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get a job in California and in
five years I can drink again. Yeah.

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I had to squash that because that
was like my plan in the back

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of my head, like, oh
yeah, I'll fake it, I'll do

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what I need to. And this
is when you have to be honest with

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yourself because you're the only one that's
going to know this, You're the only

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one that's feeling this. If you
can squash that in your head and be

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honest with yourself and tell yourself,
like I can just never do it again.

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Yeah, and once life starts happening
for you, and sometimes it takes

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longer. I was telling my cousin
last nice. He was asking me if

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I could help somebody, and I
told him the importance of you know,

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getting onto anti depression locations sometimes because
you know how the brain works, and

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if you're doing drugs during drugs,
drugs, drugs drugs are drugs, and

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yes, alcohols are drugs. I'm
including that in there. And then you

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stop. Your brain's like, oh
man, we gotta make all this or

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a tonin you know, we gotta
make you get this dope mein going.

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And so at first, if you're
in detox, you're getting out of the

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tax and you haven't drink a few
days, you're like, wow, this

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is great, man, life is
awesome. It feels great not to be

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hungover, and you feel great.
You feel good, and then your brain

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says, whoa, whoa, whoa, whoa, we're making way too much

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of this because it kind of shut
down for a minute because the drugs were

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doing the rest of it. So
they're like, we don't have to do

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nothing. So when I had the
brain jumps back in. It's like,

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hey, let's make all this.
And then the brain's like, whoa,

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slow down, we don't need to
make that much, and it kind of

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puts the brakes on it. And
that's when a lot of people they call

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it hitting the wall. And that's
when it feels like nothing changes, nothing's

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happening, and a normal thing that
would cause someone to be interested, be

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entertained, be excited, it's not
it's hard. It's hard for them to

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even get up to do anything,
you know, and that brings them the

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depression again. And a lot of
people don't know this, but that's why

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people will often go back and use
again, because your brain is like,

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hey, help help help run a
little low, and you start taking a

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drinking and you're like, oh yeah, I started doing drugs again. You're

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like, oh yeah, yeah,
this feels great, and then meanwhile you're

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right back in the vicious circle again. So if there's somebody suffering depression,

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you know, it's very important to
talk to your doctor. There's different options.

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You don't have to be on these
drugs forever either, you know,

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tell the doctor, but like,
look I need something to you know,

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their tools. Yeah, And they
didn't tell me right off the bat either

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that if you drink on these,
it resets it back to days at zero,

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So don't drink on these. And
when they would tell me that,

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I'm like whatever. And then one
well beutri and they told me don't drink

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on this because it'll cause some crazy
stuff and I'm like whatever. Well,

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the next thing I know, I
wake up and I guess I was trying

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to drown myself in a bathroom,
like a bathtub, dang. Yeah,

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And I don't remember any of it. And when I talked to my therapist

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after that, he's like, do
you see the problem here, Corey?

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Like its took your own life and
you don't even remember doing it, Like

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you weren't even in your right mind
when you had this great plan, you

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know, Like, no, this
is horrible, and this is why I

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told you not to drink on it, you know. And I was like,

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yeah, I thought you meant because
it make me messed up more or

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something, you know. And he's
like, well it did did make it

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did make you more messed up,
but not in the way you wanted.

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And you still didn't quit drinking after
that, did you? No? Yeah,

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no, nope. We're just talking
earlier about the time when I was

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on SQUI because I was used and
meth apheta means. I was telling it

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actor why I can't sleep at night, but I didn't tell her I was

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doing meth amphetamans like high dose every
day, you know, and like there's

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no reason why I can't go to
sleep at night, like that's the reason,

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you know, And so she puts
me on circle and tris it don't.

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She just keeps up in my dose
and whatnot, and I'm like,

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well, when I wanted to crash
out, I would take it, and

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yeah, i'd crash out, But
it got to the point where you know,

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you'd take it and you'd start almost
like blacking out, like walking in

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the walls and stuff because you're just
so tired that you don't even realize what

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you're even doing. They call it
like being quilled in the streets. But

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I remember giving it to my brother
and watching him do it and be like,

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man, that's really how I act
on this stuff. I'm not doing

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it no more. Yeah. They
give it to my roommate when I was

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in treatment last time, and he'd
get a lot of food. You bring

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a lot of food up, and
he would just be talking to us and

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just just be out sandwich, not
even chewed all the way, just hanging

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out of his mouth and be like, dude, wake up. And we

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were both like, Nope, whatever
you're on, we're not getting on that.

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And it's on sequal. I'm like, yeah, no, thanks.

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Yeah, it's some heavy stuff,
but some people need it though other people

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don't. Yeah, But I think
that's when dosing probably should come in and

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you know, maybe not so much. But the transitone. I don't like

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any of that stuff. Really.
My doctor gave me some transitone the other

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day and I took one, and
I hate it. I can't wake up

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in the morning, oh man.
And I hate the way that I can't

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you know, like I really just
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I'm like, oh, when isn't
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come on, let's go. I
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then let's okay, it's time to
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liked that. Man. I'm toss
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it. I can relate, but
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that, can't get out of bed, can't can't do nothing like that next

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morning. And there's some people that
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I got off all my night meds, and I feel got off my

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night meds. Got off night meds. Yeah all right, and just make

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sure you're saying that right. Yeah, I said it right. But okay,

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so you got off the night meds
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the morning. Yeah. It feels
great, doesn't it. Yeah. I

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mean I may hit the snooze button
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third time, I'm like, man, I really got to get up,

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so I can't do the snooze thing. Man. Like every once in a

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while, like because I heard that
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better make it twenty minutes. If
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you're kind of screwing yourself because it's
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then I've had days where I'm sitting
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yeah, I'm talking about that earlier, and I was just like,

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can't man, I'm bean writing people's
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desk, right because yeah, because
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to our building, Yeah, sleeping
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like, he must not have a
love seat in his office. Yeah,

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let we start talking about that.
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I'll just You're like, what do
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and still feel drowsy and like very
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to drink an energy drink, it
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I wanted to. I know.
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like, hey man, you want
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guy? Yeah, person whatever he
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them they? Yeah, sounds about
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it's nice though, to be in
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and to know that you can talk
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do I need to get off these
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You know, like what's going on? Can I just not take him?

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Be good? You know? And
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justin so we recommend you talk to
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doctor. They're gonna tell you they
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the cold Turkey method. It was
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days where it was a little ros
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I just gotta quit vaping. It
seems to be the thing to do now.

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and you can get nick right,
gum right. You know there's patches

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and we just had the vehicle detailed, so I don't even want to like

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really vap in there at all.
Put all the they smoke stuff on my

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windows. Yeah, I mean that's
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Truck did for us, right,
you know, that's the place we had

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a detail. Then. Pretty cool
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young business owners. Early thirties i'd

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say, maybe late twenties. Yeah, I'm not I don't do women's ages

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because that's that's inappropriate. Yeah,
but Destiny and Isaac over there, they're

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Yeah, they're cool people, man. And they asked right away do you

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take donations? Like yeah, And
we start talking to them and it's funny

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how addiction and recovery kind of affect
everybody man like in one way or another,

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whether it's you, whether it's a
fan fly member, whether it's a

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friend, somebody who knows friends,
Like there's somebody that pretty much everybody knows

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that either struggled or has issues currently, you know, And yeah, the

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beauty of it is recovery is possible
for everybody. We're proof of that.

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A couple of knuckleheads, you know, we're making things happen and there are

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a lot of people that probably thought
we never could. Here we are.

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So you know, if somebody you
love, somebody you know, friendily friend,

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and all those people are just named. If they're struggling, you know,

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like it's hard to say, you
know, to just hang in there

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with them, support them. But
there's different ways to do it. And

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there's a group over at Addiction Stream
of Services. It's a family group.

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And if you're interested in that,
I get to hold the Nancy Doo because

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she can really help. She kind
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things that are going on, because not

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every person's the same, not every
or some response the same, you know,

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but there might be some good advice
or some techniques or just getting them

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off your chest, you know,
because it's hard for the family member to

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go through and to see it their
loved ones going through it and you can't

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do shit about it. I'm going
through it right now with my brother.

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You know, he says he's not
smoking moth after he got busted for meth

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and fetamens. My mom bailed him
out of jail, but he's drinking,

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Like you're just substitute one for the
other, dude, Like you're still violation

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your bond. Told my mom to
go pull his bond the other day,

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and then she went in to tell
me, well, when I was in

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jail for my du I, your
brother's spent about anywhere from two to twenty

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five hundred dollars my money then paying
one of my rent, Like I come

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out of jail owing my landlord money. And I'm like how And she was

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just like fiber gasses that he wouldn't
even at least pay a rent, Like

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he just spent all her money doing
dumb and went through her house found anything

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that whatever money she had staves dashed
it was gone like yeah, like it's

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just and that just was just a
couple of years ago. And she was

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like, I didn't tell you about
that. I'm like no, like I

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would have told you not even bail
him out, you know, like he's

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got to learn eventually, and like
he's looking at quite a bit of time

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to have to go away for it. And it's it's heart disheartening, but

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at the same time, like how
can you keep enabling someone to keep doing

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what we're doing, you know,
And maybe she doesn't know the right thing

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to do, and that's her baby
in there, you know. That's so

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Yeah, it's hard, you know, to know when to do the right

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thing, but not to do the
right thing because I'll be hurting him if

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I leave him in there, And
it seemed like I won't love him,

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and I don't want him to suffer
and I don't want him to have a

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hard time, and you just pray
that hey, you know, maybe me

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getting him out, maybe maybe he
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who knows what he said to her. He probably fed her a line of

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some bullshit. Each sure did.
Then she was like, okay, maybe

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it's different, and look at Justin. You know, he made it.

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You know, he's doing great.
You know, maybe this is this is

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what it's gonna take. And then
clearly you said it's not changed the whole

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life around, Like I realized I
had to let everyone go and had go

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do me for a while and too, you know, like I said,

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like, that's obviously if he's not
doing things he needs to be doing,

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you know, it's it's gonna be
harder for him. And can't do the

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about it. Man, Like I
even quit seeing my daughter, Like I

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spent a year in county and then
spent like a whole other year where I

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wasn't even seeing her, you know, And it was disheartening. But at

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the same time, you know,
if I couldn't get myself in that right

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predicament in space where I knew I
was gonna be all right to have her,

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like, it was one of those
things, you know, And I

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ended up having to go back through
the courts and everything else, and they're

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like, oh, well, you've
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and she's still refusing you to see
your kid. I'm like, yeah,

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that's why we're here today. And
the judge was not happy. He was

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like about this, man, He
goes, you're disobeying the core ordered.

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It's not like you had anything,
not like you came back in here to

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change your core order when he was
locked up in jail or nothing so you

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know, he technically still had fifty
fifty custody and like he has rights.

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She she's like throwing that around a
lot, like, well, you don't

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have any rights, and yeah I
do, Yeah I got. I made

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sure I got fifty fifty, you
know, and split rights and all that

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stuff, because some people don't have
rights, but you have visitations and that's

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a big thing. You know,
you gotta know what you got when you're

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dealing with the court system like that
and fight for it at a young age

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because it's pain to get a hold
of. And you should zoom into the

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Recovery Dance meeting on Sunday. I
should. It's on our app to seventeen

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recovery app. You can just zoom
right in that. There's also a link

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to seventeen recovery dot com has the
zoom password, the passwords recovery. It's

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all lowercase, but it has the
ID number and stuff. I'm there and

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check that out and jump in Sunday
mornings at ten am Recovery Dad's meeting.

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Yeah, it's that stuff that that
should be talked about in there. Man.

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I think that's good stuff. Yeah, I should definitely do that on

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one of these times. Normally I'm
still in bed sleeping at ten am.

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Wow, it's like I go to
my mom's. I can actually just lay

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down, rest, stay up all
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sleeping. My mom's gone at work. Typically she's there. I'm up by

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I don't know, nine ten o'clock
because she will be up five am just

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waiting for us to get up.
So making pancakes? No, oh,

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no, I wish that was the
case. My mom. My mom's apartment,

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it's like tiny, Like her downstairs
kitchen area is smaller than your office.

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Then there's a stairway that goes off
of that to her upstairs living room

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to her bedroom. Then another stairway
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down to her laundry room stairs.
Yeah, there's two stairwells. So it's

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definitely an exercise. Get her.
What's your mom? Stay in shape?

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She's single? Yeah? Okay?
She is it Tinder? No? Is

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that the right one? We swipe
left or something? Yeah? Yeah,

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she ain't on no dating platforms.
She says she don't want nobody. She

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says she's fine with being single.
Did you talk to her about lying and

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tell her it's not a good thing. Nobody wants to be single. But

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but I mean, I can see
where she's coming from. She says some

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doozy relationships over the years. She
should stop getting on Tinder. Would you

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freak out if you saw your mom
on Tinder? If you're just swiping away

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mom? Would you call her up? But like, hey, oh I

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just saw you on Tender? No
you wouldn't you just act like you didn't

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see it. Yeah, I just
let her live her life. You wouln't

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like fake like Messenger, a fake
account. That'd be creepy. Yeah,

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I guess I don't know. My
mom wouldn't be on Tender, So I

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don't know. Oh I'm too old. She don't even know what Tinder is.

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Oh I bet she does. I
had a short how do you Spotify?

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See they play this like I'm too
old to understand technology, But see

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they're not that old. Our grandparents
absolutely well. The reason why I had

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a shorter Spotify was I bought her
a Jball Flip five speaker, like the

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one that we got when we went
down to you him. So I got

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her one of those for her birthday. And she'll explained music in her Bluetooth

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speaker that she had for years finally
quit working and I told her. I

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was like, well, don't waste
your money on a junk one. She

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goes, well, no, that's
you're missing the point. And she had

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a few, and I was just
like, okay, whatever, I'll go

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buy you one. I'll just go
buy you a cheap one that worked for

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the weekend. And because I knew
her birthday was coming up the following week,

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and I went out and got her
a nice Bluetooth speaker, which she

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loves. She thought I was gonna
buy her something dumb for a birthday,

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so she's like, don't buy me
nothing. And she likes these laundry sheets.

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They're soap. You can only buy
him at Menard's. This is like

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real equal friendly because containers plastic.
It's cardboards have a plastic drug so it's

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hands one. The other got her
some some dish soap or some soap sap,

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and a speaker for her birthday.
It's gonna be clean. Yeah,

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clothes anyway, right, it made
her day. Why didn't you buy her

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like a Echo Amazon Echo that or
something. Her wifi's real poopy at her

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house. H Why it's just the
way it set up Old equipment. She

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don't want to mess around with it
and end up having to pay more money

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than what she pays for internet.
Now it's in my brother's name underneath one

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of his accounts through like the government
or something, where it's like five bucks

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a month is all she pays for
internet. Well, why wouldn't you just

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paying like twenty bucks a month?
You get good internet? I don't know,

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I don't understand it. So but
you stream movies over there? Right,

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Yeah, it sucks. Why don't
you do something about that? Justin

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Well, I do something about I
wish my boss would pay me more money

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so I could be a better song. Oh, now your boss's fault,

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that's your Your mother is living the
way she is thought them stairs and no

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internet. Well, I later some
internet one day. I'm just saying,

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I get my mom internet. I
try. I try. I go over

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there seriously, and it's basically because
it's real slow and I don't like it.

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But when I go over there and
I try to do a podcast from

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there, it like it pings at
like one point six. I got like

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right now, I could do it
on my phone, it'd be like four

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hundred whatever. Those middle big bites
a second thing stuff is go to my

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mom's one point one, Like how
do you people even get internet to stream

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TV shows? Like, how do
you do it? It's impossible, you

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know, to upload a podcast over
there. It's just it's crazy, man,

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It's crazy. And so I gave
them a different router because I'm like,

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I don't think the router is even
fast enough for their modem to even

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get that. And then one of
the one I gave them isn't compatible with

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their whatever service they had. That's
horrible that they won't switch from for some

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reason. And I'm sure they're paying
way too much for it, Oh,

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I'm sure. And so that wouldn't
work with their things, so they get

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that's my sister who has the same
company, so it wouldn't work with her

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shit either, And I'm like,
what in the hell, Like, I

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don't know, It's just one of
those things, man, like, let

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you let your son just set you
up. They're gonna pay for it.

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I'm not gonna pay for it for
him, but I will set them up

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the good equipment stuff. But then
I think there might be like a my

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stepda happy and he might be listening
to this going Corey showed up, You're

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stupid. You don't know what you're
talking about. Maybe I don't, but

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I know I did a speed test
and it's at one point six or one

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point two. I do know that, and it took us an hour to

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upload that. So that's what I
know. Yeah, my mom told me

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pretty much if I wanted better internet, I could pay for it, and

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I'm like, I don't pay for
my own internet. You should go.

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I would say, get like those
things that we have, like when our

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power goes out here, it works
pretty good man. Yeah, I thought

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about spot things. Well, if
I still have my Team Mobile account,

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I thought about getting her like a
home internet for fifty bucks a month.

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Well, those things are the thing
I have is cheaper, is it?

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It was like twenty bucks? Is
it prone limited? Yeah? Oh really

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nice? Fabulous? Yeah, as
I say that, it's better than nice,

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Justin, It's yes, it is. Anyway, I gotta wrap this

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up. We're gonna do a twenty
minute podcast. We're over achievers. We

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didn't when that's like thirty minutes.
So I hope you enjoyed the fat Role

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cramp talk and music talk and whatever
else we talked about internet speeds. Yeah,

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Justin's mom on Tender or maybe not
on Tender. If you're interested,

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email Justin Justin at two seventeen recovery
dot com. He's got picks from the

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concert. Wow, he was like, she doesn't look that old. I

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mean, that's that's for another time. We do have to wrap it up,

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but Justin, thanks for coming in
and hopefully, well I don't know

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what it'll be next week before we
can do one together, but yeah,

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busy, Yeah, it's gonna be
busy. Ye. So were people problems,

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so we're people problems next time.
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