You're listening to k I Am sixty on demand. Janet, Welcome to the
Jesus Christ Show. Good morning. Jesus said, before I'd gone you since
I was a child, and you got me through a lot of crap when
I was young, and mat tell you anyway I went through. Um,
I was really killed, made fun of all to my childhood for being overweight.
In my friends. It was like, you're so pretty, you'd be
great if you've lost weight. Nothing acceptable. I was a fool, made
fun of. And then fast forward, Okay, I'm educated. I became
a teacher, I trained kids for students from LA I've the ninety one marathons,
and then I spent in that time, I spent forty years as a
blimic hardcore and I'm owning now free. I'm free now because I thought I
was dying. Basically, I had a tumor on my long and it straightened
me up. It really kind of put me back on the right path because
usually it takes a big smack in the head for me to get it.
You know. But I'm capable good things, I know I am. But
there's just you know, all these feelings, all this crap, anger,
just stuff that I don't want to feel because I'm want to be a good
person. I want to love, I want to be an angel, moving
kid. I alwaysn't wanted to go out blessing people or something. You know.
I'm re reading the Bible since i've as a child, and I'm so
good in the morning. I'm retired now as a teacher, and I'm writing
and I want to share and help other people. It's my heart. And
I just feel like the world's not gonna give me a chance because I can't
trust the world. I've had so much rejection and I want to do good
and I just I have all these good things the morning. I'm positive,
I bless people, I've I'm loving and positive with everybody around me. I'm
at the gym for four freaking hours a day. I'm a little crazy still
okay, and I mean no issues there, But I guess it's because I'm
just so afraid of I don't know. I don't trust life, you know,
I don't I know God stronger, I could do all things through crisis
strengthens me. But and I went off prozac too because I had best effects.
I'm just I'm dealing with this stuff. I'm going to I'm doing the
hard work that maybe I wasn't taught to do as a child, which would
have I told my students all the time, it's like, deal your feelings.
You'll you'll avoid a lot of garbage. You learn to deal your feelings.
It really can help us get away from those addictions. Yeah, it
really would help. But yeah, so there's a lot to unpack there.
What's hard. No, no, no, don't be sorry. That's first
thing you got to learn. Don't be sorry. You're allowed to have feelings,
You're allowed to express yourself, You're allowed to talk about those things.
No sorry needed. My thought is, what is your question? If you
can put that into a question for me, so we can take a look
at it. Okay, why is it the harder I work, the harder
I worked to renew my mind and let go of all this past and all
this pain and just love people and trust people again. Because the first time
I threw up, I remember thinking, oh yeah, now I don't need
people because I have food. I remember having that thought in my head.
It's a voice I heard, and I know I'm free of it. I
mean, in the answer, forty years I know that. But it's like
all the stuff that comes up, and why am I so like I feel
so close and positive and strong. And then it's like I get out of
the gym and I start driving and I get irriable, and I just everything's
in my way, and I find myself with these stupid little anger and rage
and I fight it and say, okay, calm it down, peace,
And it's just such a struggle. So you think the rage comes from it's
an expression of things you dealt with in the past, perhaps, or maybe
I'm just a selfish person. I mean, I have selfishness too. I
just I just I find myself being irriable. And I guess because I always
had. I don't know, I don't know what it is. It doesn't
it probably is a lot of things. They're coming up. Resentments, feeling
like people discount me and I made a fool of some kind, people like
fun of me, and that's how I feel, you know. And and
on the outside, every timmy how hot I look, even at my age,
you know, it's just like I get like compliments, and but that's
just it's just such hard work. I mean, I work really hard at
it, and I'm trying to be a good, good peaceful person in my
brain and I don't have peace right now? There's why? Am I why?
That's why? Yeah, you'd mentioned that people say bad things to you,
yet you also have people saying nice things to you. What are what
are some of the things that people say to you that are negative that bring
you down? Like this an objection of like I've tried to I'm writing,
and you know it just just feeling like, oh, you can't do that.
Um, it's hard to get into that, you know. Um,
you know, if you want to be a pub you have to be published
already, and it's just I don't know, that doesn't make sense. Somebody's
got to be published first. So I will say this that people are going
to be negative. You can accept that or not accept it. People are
going to want to pull you down. You can accept that or not accept
it. I feel I feel controlled a lot. I feel like somebody's trying
to control me. I gets me mad thinking that somebody's trying to control me.
That's what it is. Okay, Well, again, either you let
them control you and manipulate you, or you don't. The truth of the
matter, you don't have an implant in your brain where somebody has a remote
control when make you do whatever they want you to do. This is your
human being that can control those things. And in this particular case, I
want you to hear this illustration that when you're a fish or bird, that
what makes them do and be themselves is resistance. A fish can't swim without
the resistance of water pushing against it. A bird can't fly without the resistance
of the air flow. And in order to do great things in life,
there's going to be resistance. It's one of the things that elevates, quite
honestly, like the bird. No air, no air pushing at the bird,
no bird flies. If you're worried about the resistance in life, God
promises it basically. John sixteen thirty three. I've said these things to you
that in me you will have peace, but in the world you will have
tribulation. Period. But take heart, I have come, I have overcome
the world. You are going to have issues, John fifteen eighteen. If
the world hates you, that it has hated me before it hated you.
You know this verse comes up for those of you who know Chris Pratt,
actor, funny, talented, handsome fellow, gets a lot of heat for
his faith. Unfortunately, as we've talked about before, people equate faith with
politics and that they're inseparable now, which is highly problematic. So people push
on him and recently, he said in an interview, he said, they
you know, they hated Jesus, and people like always comparing himself to Jesus.
Now they're looking for excuses to hate somebody who pushes themselves to be better,
to pushes themselves to grow their faith, to pushes who pushes themselves to
be person, to be a better person each day. People don't like that,
and they try and tear it down, mostly in the United States,
it seems so as that continues to press through, those attitudes press through,
it goes for every believer. Anybody who's trying to do something good for themselves
for their faith is perceived to be hateful, a bigot, all of these
things. And you can't set yourself apart from that either. Now that,
I think there's some other things there, and I would recommend finding a therapist
or someone you could talk to. I think that would be a good thing,
and also chat with a doctor. You said you mentioned some meds in
there, a psychiatrist that could be more focused on that This is not a
medical show. It's a moral show. And think about those things things as
well, Janet, because it sounds like there's some intensity and anxiety in there
as well. Frank, Welcome to the Jesus Christ. Hi, Frank,
Yes, I have a two part question on baptism because it's just's been disturbing
me for a long time. I know when Jesus ascended to heaven to the
Father that he commanded his disciples to preach the gospel and baptize the name of
the Father's son in the Holy Spirit. And then in Mark sixteen sixteen,
Jesus says he who is he who believes and his baptized will be saved.
And then the guy on the cross, of course was under the old company
because Jesus hasn't didn't pass yet. And so I'm wondering, do we just
nullify those commandments or how does that work? No, Well, a couple
of things. And it's not that the death is taking place on the cross,
and saying that today you will be with me in paradise is true because
he professed with his mouth that he believed. So think of it this way.
If someone has a deathbed confession and they receive Jesus's Lord in their heart
and don't get baptized. Does it make sense to you in the wholeness of
scripture that they would go to hell? Well, I mean, the way
I see it is okay if somebody's on your deathbed and I'm not Jesus,
so I can't really say. But I don't know how they lived their life
or anything like that. Did they live for God or did they live for
themselves and just wanted to get saved at the last minute. But I guess
the guy on the cross did that. But that was under the old covenant
that Jesus passed. When Jesus passed, the new Covenant came in and he
gave He specifically gave a commandment to his disciples to baptize the name of the
Fall of Sun and the Holy Spirit. And Mark sixteenth says, sixteen sixteenth
says if you, if you believe and are baptized, you are saved.
So I'm kind of do we nullify that or how does that work? I
don't understand. It's not nullified, it is it is a compound statement.
And the assumption is there of in a compound statement that they're both of equal
value, but it doesn't mean that way. This actually gets into something called
a negative inference fallacy, which is an informal logical fallacy. So it's um
if you say say something like all cops carry guns, and then you go
to the conclusion, well, then everyone with a gun is a cop.
Is not a legitimate way to look at that statement. So if you made
a statement that a let's say, a giraffe is an animal is a long
necked animal, and that's true, but you wouldn't say that all animals have
long necks. There it's a compound statement. One is saying that the giraffes
have long necks and they're animals, but it's not saying all animals have long
necks. So in this case, it's saying that the believer, yes,
the believer should be baptized, but it wasn't before. You can't separate it
and say, well, that was the Old Testament and New Testament in this
context, because they were already baptizing prior to the death. You had,
you know, so they were doing it prior to the death. And Mark
Mark sixteen sixteen is in a category of scripture that has an asterix by it.
There's a few statements within there that you have to look with a little
bit of an asterix because the fact that it's not in all of the better
manuscripts, and that's why in most Bibles it will have a statement next to
it. Still even that. Yes, the reason why I asked this question,
and this has bothered me for years, is because in Romans it says
when when you are baptized, it's it's it's a spiritual baptism, just like
when Jesus was baptized, the Holy Spirit offended on him. When he's a
baptized. It says in Romans, when you are baptized, the old man,
the center dies. And this is an actual event, you know,
a spiritual thing, not a physical thing that's going on in the world.
It's not nothing symbolic, it's a it's an actual event in the spiritual world.
The old center, the man dies, and you come up out of
the water, you come up as a new believer in Christ. And that's
why I have a lot of trouble with, you know, with baptism and
stuff like that. You know, I've been for years this is the subject
has followed me. Well, I know it gets confusing, but when a
couple of things. So there are textual problems with Mark chapter sixteen, verse
nine through twenty. There are issues in there that are bigger and outside,
meaning that they could have been added later. But the reality of the scripture
in its fullness, does not promote having anything extra done to salvation other than
that that was done on the cross. Period. There's no place for it.
You can't add something to the death and the Cross and the blood and
the Cross. You can't add to it. That's just blasphemy. Everett,
Welcome to the Jesus Christ Show. Thank you. It's nice to be on
the show. Calling. Last week I couldn't get in, But it's just
funny. I've been new to the Lord and like I pray for things and
things come like this. I couldn't get in last week. This week I
prayed on it. There I am. But anyways, I was calling because
I have like a like situation question. Okay, I'm doing good with the
Lord. Finally been sober now fifteen months. Oh, I'm wonderful, divorce
seven years now because of alcohol. Anyway, it's long story short. I've
reconnected with my high school girlfriend and about nine months ago, and we've been
doing good but I just need to know how far it was too far because
we both want the next level we've already discussed. I want to marry her.
You would love that. We wanted to wait a year before we started
dating, which is almost that. But in that time we've been fissing in
just lately. One time it was a handy makeout sessions. So I don't
know what it's too far. I don't know what. I don't sure,
Sure you do, sure you don't rather have that? But well, yeah,
yes, I know. Okay, Well let's look at that bound What
are the boundary? I don't here. Here's the truth of the matter.
It's it's beautiful. Human connection is beautiful. I don't want to shame you.
I want you to understand that it's beautiful. I want you to understand
all the feelings you have and the connection is created by God. Now controlling
it, girding it and making making the formality of marriage will beautify it even
more. And it's not to say, oh, well, this is how
it works in some sort of nineteen fifties sort of concept. It's not about
that. It's it's for you. It's for you, it's for her,
it's for the two of you to experience things in their proper model, and
that in that space is where you experience the most beautiful part of it.
It's not just wow, it feels great. Don't do it like God's the
cosmic wet blanket. It's not about that. The passion, the intensity,
all of that is of God and is beautiful. It's just making her from
your point of view, and her making you from her point of view,
special enough to to wait. In this case, I mean, you're you're
you're so close. I get the intensity of it all. But you're so
close, you're planning to do it right, you want to get married.
Why not focus on that part of it? What I don't like is people
making it bad it you know, really to make the beauty and the intensity
of passion and kissing and making love and touching and connecting with one another,
to make that bad is ugly, And I think it's it's it's the wrong
where place to go. We shame people too much, and it's it's not
healthy. So what I want you to do is not make it bad,
but make something else more important for now, and that means connecting with each
other through non physical ways. Because as much as you love each other and
are connected and all those things, the physicality does drift off or change.
So really, your communicative skills and your ability to connect with one another are
the skills you're going to be using more than anything else. Finding out about
each other, seeing how one reacts to trials, seeing how one reacts to
birthdays, holidays, seeing these things and getting to know that part is often
blinded, and I believe that the enemy tries to do that. And as
you focus on the physical, so you don't get to know each other,
you don't build those skills. So the first thing you think when you get
married is, oh, my gosh, this was the wrong decision, rather
than building things up as far Everett of seeing how close you can get with
not sinning, which is usually the question people ask, is really you know
better, You know what you should and should not be doing, and it's
very easy to get so close to the creek that you slip in. And
the rule of thumb is if you're not supposed to go into Santa Monica here
in Los Angeles, then don't go into California, and you'll never ever accidentally
go into Santa Monica. So to give yourself a wide berth to protect yourself
and your loved one from putting yourself in that point where you you know,
and and if it happens, I don't want you to feel ugly or dirty
or any of those things. It's really about. Sex is wonderful. All
that's great, But building a life is what you're trying to do. And
a life is not going to center on just the physical. So get it
all together, get it you know, put it all together. Talk about
your wishes, your dreams. Make sure you guys are on the same page
as things. That's what's going to build the best marriage and consequently the best
intimacy for all the hot, sweaty, great fun times that you'll have later.
Does that make sense? Absolutely it does. Don't make it bad,
Okay, up in this situation because I do. I go to know one
live fifty two miles away, So if I can't work down there, I'll
go work down there like I'm going to do today, and then after we
go hang out. She has two kids. My kids are all growing up
and older, but she has a sixteen and twenty one old that seemed to
like me, So I go hang out with them. We eat, do
things together, talk the Boys twenty one and has interested line he like sera
bikes I used to ride when I was you just good things. But if
when we're alone, when we say goodbye and then it gets really high seated,
of course it does, and it got really but so what So what
I'm taking is just don't allow ourself to be alone. And well, yes,
do do your best to not put yourself in those situations where you're going
to fail. Don't set yourself up to fail, but use it as opportunities
to talk about one another, to learn more about one another, and to
focus on your goal. And if your goal is marriage, then that's that's
the finish line you're trying to get to, not the finish line. In
quotes love the connection, the building of a relationship is like building anything.
You have to have a good foundation. And I'm saddened. That's something that
God designed so beautiful. Sex making love, the connection between two people and
their physicality. That everyone makes that bad, makes it shameful, makes it
ugly or dirty. And is there lustfulness that takes it to a different place?
Yes, there's For everything God created, the enemy wants to pervert,
there's love, and the devil makes lust There is the encouragement of doing something
great, the understanding that I'm growing and I'm being strong, and then there's
vulgar pride or hubris. There is anger that's legitimate, and then hate desire
to harm that the enemy does. Putting physical connection into some sort of garbage
pale that is labeled sex is a slap on the face of God. However,
it has to be in its proper context. That's when it's most beautiful.
That's when it's most protected, most revered. It's when you make it
as important as it actually is that it becomes the most beautiful. The problem
is it's also one of the easiest ways to connect. I'm sorry, but
it is. You look at you know, tab a and we'll stop the
analogy there. But you look at the parts and you say, okay,
lets fit together. Let's fit them together. It's basic. It's easy.
What's not easy is working towards a relationship. What's not easy is caring about
somebody to learn enough about them. So everybody wants to, you know,
let's build the penthouse first. Well, no, that's not how you build.
You have to have all those levels in between, sturdy, girded,
protected, stabilized, and then the beautiful will come. It's not that people
make mistakes or get caught up in it and do it, because they do.
Happens all the time. Looking at you, Producer Neil, they get
that. But if you want to know the best way to do it,
the best way to prepare yourself in one another is to connect in its proper
place, to make it precious, to make it sweet and connective. But
I will tell you you must work on the muscles of communication, not just
physical communication, because body communication is different and it's easier. The body moves,
it feels that the connected energy, it comes together as one, and
it moves as one. But to be at a distance to communicate and learn
how to speak to one another, to understand each other's goals and passions,
and what brings someone joy? Types of foods they like learning these things.
What's their favorite way to celebrate the holidays? What's the one thing that is
brings them pleasure outside of the physical knowing those that takes time, that takes
concentration. Two monkeys, two frogs, two gazelles. They can all do
the other stuff as simply too, but truly connecting outside of just a physical
that's when you're playing by the best rules of the game. K f I
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