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You're listening to k I Am sixty
on demand. Janet, Welcome to the

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Jesus Christ Show. Good morning.
Jesus said, before I'd gone you since

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I was a child, and you
got me through a lot of crap when

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I was young, and mat tell
you anyway I went through. Um,

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I was really killed, made fun
of all to my childhood for being overweight.

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In my friends. It was like, you're so pretty, you'd be

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great if you've lost weight. Nothing
acceptable. I was a fool, made

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fun of. And then fast forward, Okay, I'm educated. I became

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a teacher, I trained kids for
students from LA I've the ninety one marathons,

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and then I spent in that time, I spent forty years as a

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blimic hardcore and I'm owning now free. I'm free now because I thought I

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was dying. Basically, I had
a tumor on my long and it straightened

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me up. It really kind of
put me back on the right path because

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usually it takes a big smack in
the head for me to get it.

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You know. But I'm capable good
things, I know I am. But

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there's just you know, all these
feelings, all this crap, anger,

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just stuff that I don't want to
feel because I'm want to be a good

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person. I want to love,
I want to be an angel, moving

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kid. I alwaysn't wanted to go
out blessing people or something. You know.

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I'm re reading the Bible since i've
as a child, and I'm so

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good in the morning. I'm retired
now as a teacher, and I'm writing

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and I want to share and help
other people. It's my heart. And

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I just feel like the world's not
gonna give me a chance because I can't

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trust the world. I've had so
much rejection and I want to do good

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and I just I have all these
good things the morning. I'm positive,

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I bless people, I've I'm loving
and positive with everybody around me. I'm

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at the gym for four freaking hours
a day. I'm a little crazy still

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okay, and I mean no issues
there, But I guess it's because I'm

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just so afraid of I don't know. I don't trust life, you know,

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I don't I know God stronger,
I could do all things through crisis

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strengthens me. But and I went
off prozac too because I had best effects.

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I'm just I'm dealing with this stuff. I'm going to I'm doing the

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hard work that maybe I wasn't taught
to do as a child, which would

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have I told my students all the
time, it's like, deal your feelings.

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You'll you'll avoid a lot of garbage. You learn to deal your feelings.

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It really can help us get away
from those addictions. Yeah, it

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really would help. But yeah,
so there's a lot to unpack there.

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What's hard. No, no,
no, don't be sorry. That's first

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thing you got to learn. Don't
be sorry. You're allowed to have feelings,

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You're allowed to express yourself, You're
allowed to talk about those things.

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No sorry needed. My thought is, what is your question? If you

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can put that into a question for
me, so we can take a look

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at it. Okay, why is
it the harder I work, the harder

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I worked to renew my mind and
let go of all this past and all

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this pain and just love people and
trust people again. Because the first time

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I threw up, I remember thinking, oh yeah, now I don't need

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people because I have food. I
remember having that thought in my head.

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It's a voice I heard, and
I know I'm free of it. I

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mean, in the answer, forty
years I know that. But it's like

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all the stuff that comes up,
and why am I so like I feel

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so close and positive and strong.
And then it's like I get out of

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the gym and I start driving and
I get irriable, and I just everything's

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in my way, and I find
myself with these stupid little anger and rage

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and I fight it and say,
okay, calm it down, peace,

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And it's just such a struggle.
So you think the rage comes from it's

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an expression of things you dealt with
in the past, perhaps, or maybe

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I'm just a selfish person. I
mean, I have selfishness too. I

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just I just I find myself being
irriable. And I guess because I always

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had. I don't know, I
don't know what it is. It doesn't

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it probably is a lot of things. They're coming up. Resentments, feeling

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like people discount me and I made
a fool of some kind, people like

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fun of me, and that's how
I feel, you know. And and

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on the outside, every timmy how
hot I look, even at my age,

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you know, it's just like I
get like compliments, and but that's

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just it's just such hard work.
I mean, I work really hard at

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it, and I'm trying to be
a good, good peaceful person in my

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brain and I don't have peace right
now? There's why? Am I why?

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That's why? Yeah, you'd mentioned
that people say bad things to you,

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yet you also have people saying nice
things to you. What are what

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are some of the things that people
say to you that are negative that bring

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you down? Like this an objection
of like I've tried to I'm writing,

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and you know it just just feeling
like, oh, you can't do that.

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Um, it's hard to get into
that, you know. Um,

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you know, if you want to
be a pub you have to be published

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already, and it's just I don't
know, that doesn't make sense. Somebody's

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got to be published first. So
I will say this that people are going

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to be negative. You can accept
that or not accept it. People are

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going to want to pull you down. You can accept that or not accept

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it. I feel I feel controlled
a lot. I feel like somebody's trying

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to control me. I gets me
mad thinking that somebody's trying to control me.

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That's what it is. Okay,
Well, again, either you let

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them control you and manipulate you,
or you don't. The truth of the

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matter, you don't have an implant
in your brain where somebody has a remote

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control when make you do whatever they
want you to do. This is your

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human being that can control those things. And in this particular case, I

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want you to hear this illustration that
when you're a fish or bird, that

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what makes them do and be themselves
is resistance. A fish can't swim without

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the resistance of water pushing against it. A bird can't fly without the resistance

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of the air flow. And in
order to do great things in life,

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there's going to be resistance. It's
one of the things that elevates, quite

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honestly, like the bird. No
air, no air pushing at the bird,

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no bird flies. If you're worried
about the resistance in life, God

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promises it basically. John sixteen thirty
three. I've said these things to you

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that in me you will have peace, but in the world you will have

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tribulation. Period. But take heart, I have come, I have overcome

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the world. You are going to
have issues, John fifteen eighteen. If

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the world hates you, that it
has hated me before it hated you.

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You know this verse comes up for
those of you who know Chris Pratt,

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actor, funny, talented, handsome
fellow, gets a lot of heat for

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his faith. Unfortunately, as we've
talked about before, people equate faith with

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politics and that they're inseparable now,
which is highly problematic. So people push

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on him and recently, he said
in an interview, he said, they

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you know, they hated Jesus,
and people like always comparing himself to Jesus.

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Now they're looking for excuses to hate
somebody who pushes themselves to be better,

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to pushes themselves to grow their faith, to pushes who pushes themselves to

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be person, to be a better
person each day. People don't like that,

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and they try and tear it down, mostly in the United States,

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it seems so as that continues to
press through, those attitudes press through,

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it goes for every believer. Anybody
who's trying to do something good for themselves

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for their faith is perceived to be
hateful, a bigot, all of these

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things. And you can't set yourself
apart from that either. Now that,

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I think there's some other things there, and I would recommend finding a therapist

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or someone you could talk to.
I think that would be a good thing,

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and also chat with a doctor.
You said you mentioned some meds in

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there, a psychiatrist that could be
more focused on that This is not a

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medical show. It's a moral show. And think about those things things as

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well, Janet, because it sounds
like there's some intensity and anxiety in there

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as well. Frank, Welcome to
the Jesus Christ. Hi, Frank,

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Yes, I have a two part
question on baptism because it's just's been disturbing

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me for a long time. I
know when Jesus ascended to heaven to the

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Father that he commanded his disciples to
preach the gospel and baptize the name of

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the Father's son in the Holy Spirit. And then in Mark sixteen sixteen,

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Jesus says he who is he who
believes and his baptized will be saved.

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And then the guy on the cross, of course was under the old company

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because Jesus hasn't didn't pass yet.
And so I'm wondering, do we just

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nullify those commandments or how does that
work? No, Well, a couple

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of things. And it's not that
the death is taking place on the cross,

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and saying that today you will be
with me in paradise is true because

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he professed with his mouth that he
believed. So think of it this way.

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If someone has a deathbed confession and
they receive Jesus's Lord in their heart

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and don't get baptized. Does it
make sense to you in the wholeness of

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scripture that they would go to hell? Well, I mean, the way

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I see it is okay if somebody's
on your deathbed and I'm not Jesus,

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so I can't really say. But
I don't know how they lived their life

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or anything like that. Did they
live for God or did they live for

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themselves and just wanted to get saved
at the last minute. But I guess

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the guy on the cross did that. But that was under the old covenant

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that Jesus passed. When Jesus passed, the new Covenant came in and he

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gave He specifically gave a commandment to
his disciples to baptize the name of the

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Fall of Sun and the Holy Spirit. And Mark sixteenth says, sixteen sixteenth

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says if you, if you believe
and are baptized, you are saved.

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So I'm kind of do we nullify
that or how does that work? I

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don't understand. It's not nullified,
it is it is a compound statement.

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And the assumption is there of in
a compound statement that they're both of equal

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value, but it doesn't mean that
way. This actually gets into something called

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a negative inference fallacy, which is
an informal logical fallacy. So it's um

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if you say say something like all
cops carry guns, and then you go

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to the conclusion, well, then
everyone with a gun is a cop.

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Is not a legitimate way to look
at that statement. So if you made

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a statement that a let's say,
a giraffe is an animal is a long

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necked animal, and that's true,
but you wouldn't say that all animals have

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long necks. There it's a compound
statement. One is saying that the giraffes

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have long necks and they're animals,
but it's not saying all animals have long

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necks. So in this case,
it's saying that the believer, yes,

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the believer should be baptized, but
it wasn't before. You can't separate it

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and say, well, that was
the Old Testament and New Testament in this

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context, because they were already baptizing
prior to the death. You had,

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you know, so they were doing
it prior to the death. And Mark

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Mark sixteen sixteen is in a category
of scripture that has an asterix by it.

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There's a few statements within there that
you have to look with a little

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bit of an asterix because the fact
that it's not in all of the better

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manuscripts, and that's why in most
Bibles it will have a statement next to

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it. Still even that. Yes, the reason why I asked this question,

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and this has bothered me for years, is because in Romans it says

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when when you are baptized, it's
it's it's a spiritual baptism, just like

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when Jesus was baptized, the Holy
Spirit offended on him. When he's a

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baptized. It says in Romans,
when you are baptized, the old man,

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the center dies. And this is
an actual event, you know,

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a spiritual thing, not a physical
thing that's going on in the world.

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It's not nothing symbolic, it's a
it's an actual event in the spiritual world.

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The old center, the man dies, and you come up out of

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the water, you come up as
a new believer in Christ. And that's

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why I have a lot of trouble
with, you know, with baptism and

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stuff like that. You know,
I've been for years this is the subject

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has followed me. Well, I
know it gets confusing, but when a

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couple of things. So there are
textual problems with Mark chapter sixteen, verse

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nine through twenty. There are issues
in there that are bigger and outside,

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meaning that they could have been added
later. But the reality of the scripture

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in its fullness, does not promote
having anything extra done to salvation other than

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that that was done on the cross. Period. There's no place for it.

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You can't add something to the death
and the Cross and the blood and

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the Cross. You can't add to
it. That's just blasphemy. Everett,

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Welcome to the Jesus Christ Show.
Thank you. It's nice to be on

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the show. Calling. Last week
I couldn't get in, But it's just

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funny. I've been new to the
Lord and like I pray for things and

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things come like this. I couldn't
get in last week. This week I

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prayed on it. There I am. But anyways, I was calling because

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I have like a like situation question. Okay, I'm doing good with the

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Lord. Finally been sober now fifteen
months. Oh, I'm wonderful, divorce

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seven years now because of alcohol.
Anyway, it's long story short. I've

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reconnected with my high school girlfriend and
about nine months ago, and we've been

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doing good but I just need to
know how far it was too far because

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we both want the next level we've
already discussed. I want to marry her.

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You would love that. We wanted
to wait a year before we started

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dating, which is almost that.
But in that time we've been fissing in

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just lately. One time it was
a handy makeout sessions. So I don't

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know what it's too far. I
don't know what. I don't sure,

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Sure you do, sure you don't
rather have that? But well, yeah,

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yes, I know. Okay,
Well let's look at that bound What

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are the boundary? I don't here. Here's the truth of the matter.

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It's it's beautiful. Human connection is
beautiful. I don't want to shame you.

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I want you to understand that it's
beautiful. I want you to understand

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all the feelings you have and the
connection is created by God. Now controlling

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it, girding it and making making
the formality of marriage will beautify it even

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more. And it's not to say, oh, well, this is how

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it works in some sort of nineteen
fifties sort of concept. It's not about

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that. It's it's for you.
It's for you, it's for her,

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it's for the two of you to
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that in that space is where you
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It's not just wow, it feels
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cosmic wet blanket. It's not about
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all of that is of God and
is beautiful. It's just making her from

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your point of view, and her
making you from her point of view,

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special enough to to wait. In
this case, I mean, you're you're

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you're so close. I get the
intensity of it all. But you're so

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close, you're planning to do it
right, you want to get married.

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Why not focus on that part of
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making it bad it you know,
really to make the beauty and the intensity

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of passion and kissing and making love
and touching and connecting with one another,

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to make that bad is ugly,
And I think it's it's it's the wrong

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where place to go. We shame
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healthy. So what I want you
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but make something else more important for
now, and that means connecting with each

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other through non physical ways. Because
as much as you love each other and

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are connected and all those things,
the physicality does drift off or change.

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So really, your communicative skills and
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the skills you're going to be using
more than anything else. Finding out about

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each other, seeing how one reacts
to trials, seeing how one reacts to

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birthdays, holidays, seeing these things
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blinded, and I believe that the
enemy tries to do that. And as

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you focus on the physical, so
you don't get to know each other,

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you don't build those skills. So
the first thing you think when you get

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married is, oh, my gosh, this was the wrong decision, rather

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than building things up as far Everett
of seeing how close you can get with

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not sinning, which is usually the
question people ask, is really you know

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better, You know what you should
and should not be doing, and it's

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very easy to get so close to
the creek that you slip in. And

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the rule of thumb is if you're
not supposed to go into Santa Monica here

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in Los Angeles, then don't go
into California, and you'll never ever accidentally

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go into Santa Monica. So to
give yourself a wide berth to protect yourself

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and your loved one from putting yourself
in that point where you you know,

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and and if it happens, I
don't want you to feel ugly or dirty

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or any of those things. It's
really about. Sex is wonderful. All

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that's great, But building a life
is what you're trying to do. And

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a life is not going to center
on just the physical. So get it

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all together, get it you know, put it all together. Talk about

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your wishes, your dreams. Make
sure you guys are on the same page

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as things. That's what's going to
build the best marriage and consequently the best

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intimacy for all the hot, sweaty, great fun times that you'll have later.

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Does that make sense? Absolutely it
does. Don't make it bad,

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Okay, up in this situation because
I do. I go to know one

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live fifty two miles away, So
if I can't work down there, I'll

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go work down there like I'm going
to do today, and then after we

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go hang out. She has two
kids. My kids are all growing up

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and older, but she has a
sixteen and twenty one old that seemed to

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like me, So I go hang
out with them. We eat, do

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things together, talk the Boys twenty
one and has interested line he like sera

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bikes I used to ride when I
was you just good things. But if

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when we're alone, when we say
goodbye and then it gets really high seated,

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of course it does, and it
got really but so what So what

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I'm taking is just don't allow ourself
to be alone. And well, yes,

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do do your best to not put
yourself in those situations where you're going

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to fail. Don't set yourself up
to fail, but use it as opportunities

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to talk about one another, to
learn more about one another, and to

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focus on your goal. And if
your goal is marriage, then that's that's

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the finish line you're trying to get
to, not the finish line. In

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quotes love the connection, the building
of a relationship is like building anything.

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You have to have a good foundation. And I'm saddened. That's something that

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God designed so beautiful. Sex making
love, the connection between two people and

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their physicality. That everyone makes that
bad, makes it shameful, makes it

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ugly or dirty. And is there
lustfulness that takes it to a different place?

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Yes, there's For everything God created, the enemy wants to pervert,

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there's love, and the devil makes
lust There is the encouragement of doing something

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great, the understanding that I'm growing
and I'm being strong, and then there's

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vulgar pride or hubris. There is
anger that's legitimate, and then hate desire

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to harm that the enemy does.
Putting physical connection into some sort of garbage

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pale that is labeled sex is a
slap on the face of God. However,

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it has to be in its proper
context. That's when it's most beautiful.

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That's when it's most protected, most
revered. It's when you make it

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as important as it actually is that
it becomes the most beautiful. The problem

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is it's also one of the easiest
ways to connect. I'm sorry, but

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it is. You look at you
know, tab a and we'll stop the

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analogy there. But you look at
the parts and you say, okay,

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lets fit together. Let's fit them
together. It's basic. It's easy.

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What's not easy is working towards a
relationship. What's not easy is caring about

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somebody to learn enough about them.
So everybody wants to, you know,

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let's build the penthouse first. Well, no, that's not how you build.

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You have to have all those levels
in between, sturdy, girded,

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protected, stabilized, and then the
beautiful will come. It's not that people

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make mistakes or get caught up in
it and do it, because they do.

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Happens all the time. Looking at
you, Producer Neil, they get

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that. But if you want to
know the best way to do it,

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the best way to prepare yourself in
one another is to connect in its proper

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place, to make it precious,
to make it sweet and connective. But

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I will tell you you must work
on the muscles of communication, not just

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physical communication, because body communication is
different and it's easier. The body moves,

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it feels that the connected energy,
it comes together as one, and

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it moves as one. But to
be at a distance to communicate and learn

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how to speak to one another,
to understand each other's goals and passions,

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and what brings someone joy? Types
of foods they like learning these things.

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What's their favorite way to celebrate the
holidays? What's the one thing that is

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brings them pleasure outside of the physical
knowing those that takes time, that takes

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concentration. Two monkeys, two frogs, two gazelles. They can all do

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the other stuff as simply too,
but truly connecting outside of just a physical

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that's when you're playing by the best
rules of the game. K f I

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