WEBVTT 1 00:00:00.040 --> 00:00:02.640 Hi everyone, and welcome back to the other podcast episode. My name is 2 00:00:02.640 --> 00:00:05.599 Alicia Gogin, the host of the Globe Secrets podcast, where I help you 3 00:00:05.799 --> 00:00:09.279 expand your mind and become more self aware so that you can glow up into 4 00:00:09.279 --> 00:00:13.839 the best version of yourself. Hello, how are we doing today? Well? 5 00:00:13.919 --> 00:00:16.359 I hope that we are doing better than we were when we started this 6 00:00:16.440 --> 00:00:20.480 podcast, because I need to drive something home today to you guys, and 7 00:00:20.559 --> 00:00:24.480 that is I really need this next six months of your life to be about 8 00:00:24.679 --> 00:00:30.039 you, one hundred percent all in. I need these next six months to 9 00:00:30.160 --> 00:00:34.600 be about you. Right now. I'm recording in July, so we are 10 00:00:35.240 --> 00:00:39.000 literally dead set in the mid year right now. But even if you're listening 11 00:00:39.039 --> 00:00:42.920 to this in a few months, this message will be for you for the 12 00:00:42.960 --> 00:00:47.159 next six months, so just trust that. But I have been feeling a 13 00:00:47.200 --> 00:00:54.960 really big call in my life, but also a very big clear message from 14 00:00:55.200 --> 00:00:59.280 the universe. I like to say the universe in which the overall theme and 15 00:00:59.399 --> 00:01:03.520 message that I keep getting that I keep extracting out of these examples that I'm 16 00:01:03.520 --> 00:01:08.680 seeing in my own life is that we need to radically self love, radically 17 00:01:08.840 --> 00:01:15.239 accept ourselves, and radically chase ourselves. The reason why you are so aware 18 00:01:15.400 --> 00:01:19.079 of all the things you don't want in your life, why you are so 19 00:01:19.200 --> 00:01:23.560 distressed to the point where you can't focus in your day to day life and 20 00:01:23.640 --> 00:01:26.680 you're constantly thinking, does this person like me? Is this person going to 21 00:01:26.760 --> 00:01:32.159 choose me? Or you're literally seeing your worst fears manifest in your life, 22 00:01:32.200 --> 00:01:38.920 is because your attention and your relationship towards yourself has not been solid. When 23 00:01:38.000 --> 00:01:42.680 you find yourself in a situation where it is very clear that you are not 24 00:01:42.680 --> 00:01:46.959 getting chased by somebody, you have been doing the chasing. And what I 25 00:01:47.079 --> 00:01:51.319 mean by that is, even if you actually haven't taken that action, you 26 00:01:51.359 --> 00:01:55.640 are energetically chasing this person. You are thinking about them all day. You're 27 00:01:55.680 --> 00:01:59.159 anxious, you're wondering, you're waiting, You're waiting for somebody to make you 28 00:01:59.200 --> 00:02:01.319 happy. You're waiting for them to choose you. Or let's say you're not 29 00:02:01.439 --> 00:02:06.280 happy with the way that your body looks, or your health status right now, 30 00:02:06.400 --> 00:02:09.960 or even your work life. A lot of what you have right now 31 00:02:10.400 --> 00:02:15.840 is a result of the way you've been showing up for yourself. When you 32 00:02:15.039 --> 00:02:20.199 are not well, when you have gut health issues, when you have skin 33 00:02:20.400 --> 00:02:24.240 issues, when you are overweight, when you know you're not as healthy as 34 00:02:24.280 --> 00:02:28.000 you really want to be or you should be. A lot of the times, 35 00:02:28.039 --> 00:02:31.120 it's the relationship that you've been having towards yourself. And this is not 36 00:02:31.240 --> 00:02:37.159 about blaming yourself. If you get a disease or something that you had no 37 00:02:37.280 --> 00:02:39.960 idea about, or you have breakouts that you have no idea how to control, 38 00:02:40.240 --> 00:02:44.400 it's not about blaming yourself. But if we are to be very honest 39 00:02:44.400 --> 00:02:47.039 with ourselves, and I have had to be very honest with myself in the 40 00:02:47.080 --> 00:02:52.439 most loving way. When I had gut health issues, when I had skin 41 00:02:52.520 --> 00:02:54.680 issues, when I was not happy with my body, when I was not 42 00:02:54.719 --> 00:02:59.759 happy with my dating life or my money situation. A lot of these things 43 00:02:59.800 --> 00:03:04.199 were a result of the way I was showing up in my life. Now, 44 00:03:04.240 --> 00:03:07.439 there's a lot of reasons why you can't show up the way you want 45 00:03:07.479 --> 00:03:09.919 in your life right. Maybe you're operating out of trauma, maybe you're really 46 00:03:09.919 --> 00:03:13.639 struggling in your life, or you don't have a lot of time, or 47 00:03:13.759 --> 00:03:15.599 whatever it is. These are real things. But at the end of the 48 00:03:15.719 --> 00:03:20.919 day, the things that you're not happy with in your life are a result 49 00:03:21.039 --> 00:03:24.680 of the way you have been showing up for yourself aka the relationship that you 50 00:03:24.759 --> 00:03:30.479 have towards yourself. So if there's something in your life like not getting commitment 51 00:03:30.800 --> 00:03:32.840 or you know, stressing about the fact that you don't have what you want 52 00:03:32.879 --> 00:03:37.280 in your life when it comes to your health or your beauty or your bank 53 00:03:37.319 --> 00:03:42.599 accounts, these things are calling you to go deeper within yourself. These things 54 00:03:42.639 --> 00:03:47.120 are requiring you to finally love yourself and commit to yourself and show up for 55 00:03:47.159 --> 00:03:52.840 yourself and coming back to your relationship example. I think this is very easy 56 00:03:53.319 --> 00:03:55.639 to see within many of us. I've totally been there. I see my 57 00:03:55.719 --> 00:04:00.719 friends go through these situations at time, and even you you guys ask me 58 00:04:00.199 --> 00:04:04.039 all the time about dating advice. It is very easy to lose yourself in 59 00:04:04.039 --> 00:04:10.240 a relationship when you haven't had a relationship towards yourself. Because when you don't 60 00:04:10.280 --> 00:04:14.840 have a relationship with yourself, you tend to not have a lot of confidence 61 00:04:15.240 --> 00:04:18.240 and that is going to be reflected in the focus that you have in your 62 00:04:18.240 --> 00:04:21.759 life. So if you're focused on somebody not chasing you, if you're waiting 63 00:04:21.800 --> 00:04:26.920 around for somebody to commit to you, my question is why is it that 64 00:04:27.040 --> 00:04:31.319 you would be somebody who waits for commitment. Why are you somebody who has 65 00:04:31.360 --> 00:04:34.600 to wonder if somebody's going to chase you? Why don't you know that you're 66 00:04:34.600 --> 00:04:38.279 the chosen one. Why don't you look at yourself like, yes, I 67 00:04:38.319 --> 00:04:41.560 would be chosen, Yes, I would be chased. This person would be 68 00:04:41.839 --> 00:04:44.839 out of their mind if they didn't chase me until the day that they die. 69 00:04:45.120 --> 00:04:46.920 Why don't you look at yourself like that? You don't look at yourself 70 00:04:46.959 --> 00:04:51.199 like that because you haven't been having a relationship towards yourself. You haven't been 71 00:04:51.199 --> 00:04:57.160 spending that time pouring into yourself. You haven't been reminding yourself every single day 72 00:04:57.480 --> 00:05:00.399 that you are worthy, that you are good enough. But in instead, 73 00:05:00.600 --> 00:05:03.040 you're putting your focus into sitting around and waiting for somebody else to tell you 74 00:05:03.199 --> 00:05:06.560 that you're good enough, that you're worthy of being chased. And that's never 75 00:05:06.680 --> 00:05:10.279 going to work. It is never going to work. And the ones that 76 00:05:10.319 --> 00:05:14.680 are actually getting chased, the ones that are actually being committed to, those 77 00:05:14.720 --> 00:05:17.839 are not the people who are sitting here and wondering if that's going to happen 78 00:05:17.879 --> 00:05:20.120 for them. And now you might think, oh, well, I've gotten 79 00:05:20.120 --> 00:05:25.839 a commitment before. But if you struggle with this still, this self concept 80 00:05:25.879 --> 00:05:29.319 thing, this confidence thing, you not having a relationship towards yourself thing. 81 00:05:29.680 --> 00:05:33.160 Most likely you got commitment from somebody that you knew was going to be easy 82 00:05:33.199 --> 00:05:36.120 to get commitment from, or it was going to be easy for them to 83 00:05:36.240 --> 00:05:41.800 chase or you played a game. Okay, and we're not talking about playing 84 00:05:41.839 --> 00:05:44.480 games, because we can play games all day with people, right we know 85 00:05:44.560 --> 00:05:46.439 what we should say or we shouldn't say, or how we should move or 86 00:05:46.519 --> 00:05:50.800 how many times we should text somebody or the right wording of this or posting 87 00:05:50.839 --> 00:05:55.879 this many times to get them to chase us. But that's fake confidence. 88 00:05:56.120 --> 00:06:00.319 That's fake you not believing in yourself that still has you having your energy on 89 00:06:00.439 --> 00:06:04.720 them by you thinking what move can I make so that this person can like 90 00:06:04.800 --> 00:06:08.920 me. That's not what we're going to do anymore. Even when it comes 91 00:06:08.959 --> 00:06:13.000 to your health or job opportunities or whatever it is in your life, I 92 00:06:13.040 --> 00:06:16.560 want you to focus on building real confidence within yourself to know that even when 93 00:06:16.560 --> 00:06:20.000 things aren't working out, even when your health seems a little bit up and 94 00:06:20.040 --> 00:06:24.759 down, that you know that you are going to get the result that you 95 00:06:24.879 --> 00:06:28.759 want because you are showing up for yourself and you love yourself and you deserve 96 00:06:28.800 --> 00:06:30.759 this and you are going to get it. So this morning I made a 97 00:06:30.800 --> 00:06:34.000 new Spotify playlist. If you guys don't know, I make a lot of 98 00:06:34.000 --> 00:06:36.360 Spotify playlists and I share it with you guys, and you love it. 99 00:06:36.399 --> 00:06:40.560 I'll have them linked down below. And this morning I titled it a Girly 100 00:06:40.600 --> 00:06:44.800 Pop Summer because I feel like girly pop music is so in like Sabrina Carpenter, 101 00:06:45.120 --> 00:06:48.959 the Billie Eilish, the Honestly, I didn't want to love it, 102 00:06:49.120 --> 00:06:53.920 but Ariana Grande, she got the Bangers, do a Lipa, all of 103 00:06:53.920 --> 00:06:56.879 these really good artists. And one of the songs I added in this playlist 104 00:06:57.120 --> 00:07:00.360 was from Dua Lipa and it's called Training Season. And when I listen to 105 00:07:00.439 --> 00:07:02.199 it, it's such a bop, Like it's such a freaking good song. 106 00:07:02.279 --> 00:07:05.759 So definitely go check that out. But I was listening to it and she 107 00:07:05.879 --> 00:07:10.079 was saying Training Season is over, and it just like you know, when 108 00:07:10.120 --> 00:07:14.000 you hear something and it just it completely connects to the thing that you have 109 00:07:14.040 --> 00:07:17.360 been going through in your life or the message that's been clearly in your face. 110 00:07:17.519 --> 00:07:20.480 This was it, and let me try to explain to you what I 111 00:07:20.560 --> 00:07:26.160 mean by training season is over. It is the middle of summer now, 112 00:07:26.240 --> 00:07:28.759 so yes, we have six months until the end of the year. I 113 00:07:28.800 --> 00:07:33.160 feel like the past six months has been a growth period, a very big 114 00:07:33.199 --> 00:07:36.800 growth period, at least for me. Moving out of the winter it was 115 00:07:36.839 --> 00:07:41.319 hard for me. I got myself out of a lot of dark places. 116 00:07:41.360 --> 00:07:46.079 I transformed in a lot of ways. I also invited just new things into 117 00:07:46.120 --> 00:07:48.360 my life and I still am like I'm doing things in a new way. 118 00:07:48.439 --> 00:07:53.839 I've learned a lot of different lessons in my life that I am now allowing 119 00:07:53.920 --> 00:07:57.600 to compound my life and to change me in different ways that I was not. 120 00:07:57.959 --> 00:08:00.439 I'm not going back to the old version of me last summer. I'm 121 00:08:00.439 --> 00:08:03.000 becoming a new version of me, but it's a better version of me. 122 00:08:03.120 --> 00:08:05.920 And I've spent the last six months really putting in that work. And when 123 00:08:05.920 --> 00:08:09.279 I mean putting in that work, some of those days were not work. 124 00:08:09.360 --> 00:08:13.720 Some of those days were living out cycles that I continue to try to get 125 00:08:13.800 --> 00:08:16.360 out of. And I've come to a point in my life right now, 126 00:08:16.920 --> 00:08:24.879 the mid year reset, where I have completely been so sick and tired of 127 00:08:24.279 --> 00:08:30.519 cycles that I have been living out that I'm at that point where like it's 128 00:08:30.680 --> 00:08:33.039 just a no brainer to me that I'm no longer going to be living out 129 00:08:33.039 --> 00:08:35.919 certain cycles because I know that it just does not serve me. And there's 130 00:08:37.000 --> 00:08:39.720 certain themes in my life that always come up, whether that's with love, 131 00:08:41.080 --> 00:08:46.320 with money, with self confidence, whatever it is that is going to require 132 00:08:46.440 --> 00:08:50.840 me in this period of my time to take everything that I have learned from 133 00:08:50.879 --> 00:08:52.879 the past six months, even the past year, but the past six months 134 00:08:54.159 --> 00:08:56.440 that I trained for, that I worked on, that I observed within myself 135 00:08:56.480 --> 00:09:01.360 that reflected on for so long, and that I is on an uphill battle 136 00:09:01.559 --> 00:09:05.679 like through and finally apply it and live it out and take that action towards 137 00:09:05.879 --> 00:09:09.879 the best version of me, because I know if I want the things that 138 00:09:09.919 --> 00:09:13.840 I want in my life, it is gonna require me to finally stop training 139 00:09:13.919 --> 00:09:18.879 and finally take action. We know the things that we need to do, 140 00:09:18.960 --> 00:09:22.279 we know the boundaries we need to set with people. We know what we 141 00:09:22.320 --> 00:09:24.559 deserve and what we do not. We know our patterns, we know what 142 00:09:24.600 --> 00:09:28.000 we do not want in our lives. But it's gonna be up to us 143 00:09:28.039 --> 00:09:33.080 to finally, like finally take that action and that is what I want this 144 00:09:33.159 --> 00:09:35.720 next six months to be for myself, and I want that to be for 145 00:09:35.799 --> 00:09:39.559 you guys. There's no more waiting, there's no more chasing other people. 146 00:09:39.759 --> 00:09:43.960 There's no more falling into those limiting beliefs that kept us stuck for so long. 147 00:09:45.080 --> 00:09:46.720 You know that shit is not real. You know that it is not 148 00:09:46.879 --> 00:09:50.879 serving you in this season of your life. I want you to continue to 149 00:09:50.960 --> 00:09:56.279 choose yourself over and over and over and over and over again, like radically, 150 00:09:56.440 --> 00:10:00.440 and I mean radically, choose yourself every single day, day in and 151 00:10:00.519 --> 00:10:03.279 day out, whether that is putting up a boundary to someone, removing yourself 152 00:10:03.279 --> 00:10:07.600 from situations that do not serve you, catching yourself when you're saying a negative 153 00:10:07.639 --> 00:10:11.679 belief, or you're confirming to yourself that you're not going to get what you 154 00:10:11.720 --> 00:10:13.639 want, and telling yourself you are going to get what you want, Catching 155 00:10:13.639 --> 00:10:16.960 yourself when you're chasing somebody, when you're waiting, when you're wondering, when 156 00:10:18.000 --> 00:10:20.799 your spotlight is on them, and bringing it back to yourself every single time. 157 00:10:22.200 --> 00:10:24.519 I'm not saying that this is going to be the most easy thing, 158 00:10:24.559 --> 00:10:26.759 but I'm going to say that this is something that is going to be required 159 00:10:26.799 --> 00:10:31.159 for you to get the thing that you keep crying about. You keep crying 160 00:10:31.200 --> 00:10:35.039 about the fact that you don't get commitment from people. You keep crying about 161 00:10:35.080 --> 00:10:37.000 the fact that, oh, things happen for a bit and then you lose 162 00:10:37.039 --> 00:10:39.919 them. You keep crying about the fact that you don't have what you want. 163 00:10:39.919 --> 00:10:43.679 When it comes to looking in the mirror, having confidence, or the 164 00:10:43.720 --> 00:10:46.759 money that you want, it is going to be up to you who else, 165 00:10:46.200 --> 00:10:50.039 literally who else. So I'm going to give you a few things that 166 00:10:50.200 --> 00:10:52.120 you can think about doing when it comes to moving into the next six months 167 00:10:52.159 --> 00:10:54.360 of your life. This is something that I've really done and I feel like 168 00:10:54.399 --> 00:10:58.440 I'm really into new energy right now. And the first thing, I don't 169 00:10:58.440 --> 00:11:03.279 know where this it just like popped out of my mind, but I'm calling 170 00:11:03.360 --> 00:11:07.159 it holding your vision. Okay. I want you to get very clear on 171 00:11:07.240 --> 00:11:11.159 a few things that you want to drive home until it becomes normalized in your 172 00:11:11.200 --> 00:11:16.200 life. Understand, when you're trying to change or you're trying to level up, 173 00:11:16.360 --> 00:11:20.679 you need to be consistent with that thing until it becomes normalized. And 174 00:11:20.720 --> 00:11:24.519 being consistent can be whatever it means to you right like, it could be 175 00:11:24.559 --> 00:11:26.440 a daily thing. It could be a depending on what it is that you 176 00:11:26.679 --> 00:11:31.720 are obviously wanting, but I want you to hold that vision in front of 177 00:11:31.720 --> 00:11:35.240 your face until you get that. So currently in my season of life right 178 00:11:35.240 --> 00:11:37.600 now, I'm really really focusing on growing my podcast. So that is a 179 00:11:37.679 --> 00:11:41.320 thing that is so front and center of my vision in my life that I'm 180 00:11:41.320 --> 00:11:46.360 not taking my eyes off of it until I accomplish that thing. Also, 181 00:11:46.440 --> 00:11:48.720 when it comes to my fitness, that is something that I'm very much so 182 00:11:48.919 --> 00:11:52.120 holding because it's just something that's important to me. It's something that I want 183 00:11:52.159 --> 00:11:58.039 and I know when I have fitness and moving my body and wellness in general 184 00:11:58.200 --> 00:12:01.480 front and center, I am always so aligned. I always feel better about 185 00:12:01.480 --> 00:12:05.080 myself. Like you can't tell me that being a wellness girl does not make 186 00:12:05.120 --> 00:12:09.039 you feel the best you've ever felt. So that's something that I'm continuing to 187 00:12:09.320 --> 00:12:15.679 hold. And another one for me is my dream home. I am really 188 00:12:15.720 --> 00:12:20.279 wanting my dream home, you guys know. And that requires a lot of 189 00:12:20.320 --> 00:12:26.080 attention and a lot of focus, and that also requires me to move in 190 00:12:26.120 --> 00:12:30.879 different ways when it comes to my work, and so I have for certain 191 00:12:30.919 --> 00:12:33.759 pieces of content, I'm really interested in making different pieces of content moving into 192 00:12:33.799 --> 00:12:37.720 the new season of my life. This is mainly just for short form, 193 00:12:37.759 --> 00:12:41.000 but there's a few things in my life right now that I'm really holding a 194 00:12:41.080 --> 00:12:43.879 vision too. So I want you to think of the person you want to 195 00:12:43.919 --> 00:12:46.840 be, the feeling that you want to feel every single day, and I 196 00:12:46.879 --> 00:12:50.720 want you to only be in that energy. So something that I really like 197 00:12:50.799 --> 00:12:54.679 to do when I'm getting very clear on my vision is to create a vision 198 00:12:54.720 --> 00:12:58.879 board. This is different than a mood board. I already created a mood 199 00:12:58.919 --> 00:13:01.519 board for the summer and on my main channel, so I can link that 200 00:13:01.600 --> 00:13:05.519 video down below if you just if you're just like wanting an aesthetic summer and 201 00:13:05.559 --> 00:13:09.519 you want to have like this fun like moody pinterest board. I like making 202 00:13:09.519 --> 00:13:13.399 those as well for my wallpapers and stuff. But I wanted to make an 203 00:13:13.440 --> 00:13:18.679 actual vision board of a few things, a few pictures essentially that really reflect 204 00:13:18.879 --> 00:13:22.919 the next six months that I want to be living by. So a few 205 00:13:22.919 --> 00:13:26.200 things on my vision board. Maybe you know what I'll do is just I'll 206 00:13:26.240 --> 00:13:28.720 show it on the screen. I guess you can only see this if you 207 00:13:28.919 --> 00:13:31.200 are watching on YouTube, So if you're on audio, maybe you want to 208 00:13:31.240 --> 00:13:35.360 come here and see. But if you follow me on Instagram then you've probably 209 00:13:35.360 --> 00:13:39.399 already seen it. There's just a few photos that emulate this feeling of what 210 00:13:39.519 --> 00:13:41.200 it is that I'm trying to hold. So obviously might's not going to look 211 00:13:41.200 --> 00:13:46.360 like yours. But I have things on this vision board that resemble exactly what 212 00:13:46.399 --> 00:13:48.960 I want, which is my new home, which is wellness. There's a 213 00:13:50.000 --> 00:13:52.759 lot of focused work as you can see, the laptops, the books, 214 00:13:54.399 --> 00:13:58.200 podcasting studio or podcasting mic. There's a YouTube plaq. There's just a few 215 00:13:58.200 --> 00:14:05.799 things that really give me this clear cut vision of what I am really living 216 00:14:05.799 --> 00:14:07.399 out right now in my life. But I want to continue to have that 217 00:14:07.720 --> 00:14:13.120 in the forefront of my mind. And I created even like a smaller wallpaper 218 00:14:13.120 --> 00:14:16.600 for my phone to have on there, so that is front and center. 219 00:14:16.759 --> 00:14:20.279 So I just want you to think about your vision that you have the things 220 00:14:20.279 --> 00:14:22.879 that you really want, and I want you to drive it home. The 221 00:14:24.320 --> 00:14:26.639 dream relationship that you want, the dream job, the dream whatever. It 222 00:14:26.720 --> 00:14:31.399 is going to require you to really hold this vision and for you to take 223 00:14:31.440 --> 00:14:35.600 that action and bringing it back to the relationship that you have towards yourself as 224 00:14:35.639 --> 00:14:39.159 everything. This is where I want you to be spending time with yourself. 225 00:14:39.200 --> 00:14:43.480 Because I was talking to my friend about this, this relationship towards herself, 226 00:14:43.559 --> 00:14:46.440 and how she's realizing, oh, she doesn't really necessarily have or she hasn't 227 00:14:46.480 --> 00:14:50.600 really cultivated that relationship towards herself. She's kind of lost herself a little bit, 228 00:14:50.600 --> 00:14:54.840 which we always do, especially when we're dating somebody or in general, 229 00:14:54.000 --> 00:14:56.639 like when life is not maybe the most exciting. And this is why I 230 00:14:56.639 --> 00:15:00.600 think it's important to have a vision. But this is what I want you 231 00:15:00.639 --> 00:15:03.039 to be doing, and this is what I'm doing for myself. When I 232 00:15:03.159 --> 00:15:05.679 mean, I'm having a relationship towards myself. I have goals, I have 233 00:15:05.759 --> 00:15:09.799 things to do. So instead of me wasting my time wondering if this person's 234 00:15:09.840 --> 00:15:13.559 gonna choose me, wondering why I'm not being treated the way that I need 235 00:15:13.600 --> 00:15:16.360 to be treated, why I'm not getting certain things in my life, I'm 236 00:15:16.399 --> 00:15:20.240 too busy. I'm too busy focusing on my vision. Get busy with your 237 00:15:20.320 --> 00:15:24.559 vision, Get busy with your life, and when it comes to your daily 238 00:15:24.600 --> 00:15:28.720 habits, your daily habits should be connected to your bigger vision. So, 239 00:15:28.240 --> 00:15:33.080 like I said, for me, I'm creating a schedule where I'm getting up 240 00:15:33.080 --> 00:15:35.960 and I'm making my content. I'm making my short form content. I'm making 241 00:15:37.000 --> 00:15:39.399 my podcast episodes like I'm showing up every single day. I'm doing the things 242 00:15:39.399 --> 00:15:43.840 that i need to do, and I'm being very clear with that. I'm 243 00:15:43.879 --> 00:15:46.720 even actually, after this podcast is done, I'm going to sign up for 244 00:15:46.759 --> 00:15:50.240 a new gym membership because this is beautiful chim. You don't need to go, 245 00:15:50.440 --> 00:15:52.559 you know, spend a lot of money to try and change your life 246 00:15:52.879 --> 00:15:56.879 at all. You really don't. But for me, I just really wanted 247 00:15:56.879 --> 00:15:58.559 that call. And I'm maybe I'll explain it in a different episode as to 248 00:15:58.559 --> 00:16:02.399 why I'm like changing gyms and stuff like that, but regardless, I'm just 249 00:16:02.440 --> 00:16:06.039 doing some energetic shifts. Maybe for you it's just you're moving around your space 250 00:16:06.399 --> 00:16:10.080 or again you're creating a mood board. Another thing that's really really important in 251 00:16:10.120 --> 00:16:11.480 this time, and I think that can really drive it home for you for 252 00:16:11.519 --> 00:16:17.080 the next six months is finding expanders. And expanders are basically a term that 253 00:16:17.559 --> 00:16:21.440 to be Magnetic, which is a manifestation podcast they came up with or maybe 254 00:16:21.480 --> 00:16:22.519 they didn't come up with this, but they talk about it all the time. 255 00:16:22.559 --> 00:16:26.600 Expanders, and that is finding people who have what you want, finding 256 00:16:26.639 --> 00:16:32.679 people who resemble even yourself, just people who you really align to. Now, 257 00:16:32.759 --> 00:16:37.399 I've found that watching YouTubers and podcasters and going on Pinterest has always really 258 00:16:37.440 --> 00:16:41.360 helped me hold my vision. It's not to say that people in my immediate 259 00:16:41.399 --> 00:16:45.440 life don't motivate me or inspire me. But I also think that a lot 260 00:16:45.480 --> 00:16:48.600 of people who listen to my podcast like you guys. You guys are the 261 00:16:48.639 --> 00:16:55.480 outliers. You guys are unique and very special, and you most likely are 262 00:16:55.519 --> 00:17:02.519 gonna need a specific type of person or this niche tome topic or this I 263 00:17:02.519 --> 00:17:04.119 don't know if this vibe or this aesthetic that you're going to need to really 264 00:17:04.119 --> 00:17:07.079 help you hold this vision, because you have a vision that's bigger than most 265 00:17:07.119 --> 00:17:11.200 people around you. So it's not to say that you can't seek out people 266 00:17:11.240 --> 00:17:15.400 in your immediate life or in real life to help motivate you. I actually 267 00:17:15.440 --> 00:17:18.799 think that that's really healthy and there's power in both. There's some things that 268 00:17:18.799 --> 00:17:22.200 you're never ever going to be able to get from me that you could get 269 00:17:22.240 --> 00:17:25.880 from a one on one interaction in real life, of course, So I 270 00:17:25.920 --> 00:17:29.559 never want you to think that nobody in your immediate life or nobody in real 271 00:17:29.559 --> 00:17:30.839 life will ever help you. Please don't, because I think it's very, 272 00:17:30.960 --> 00:17:36.720 very helpful, and also it allows you to be a very diverse type of 273 00:17:36.759 --> 00:17:41.000 person and a real smart, in my personal opinion person. If you know 274 00:17:41.079 --> 00:17:44.039 how to actually go out into the world and you're not just somebody who's chronically 275 00:17:44.079 --> 00:17:48.519 online but for the time being, I'm sure you can find somebody who you 276 00:17:48.599 --> 00:17:52.440 really look up to. I feel like throughout my years there was definitely YouTubers 277 00:17:52.440 --> 00:17:55.920 and podcasters that I really looked up to, and I listen to all of 278 00:17:55.920 --> 00:17:59.160 their things, and I just I stayed focused on them. I stop listening 279 00:17:59.240 --> 00:18:03.720 to people who weren't talking about the things that I really felt called to or 280 00:18:03.960 --> 00:18:07.279 didn't motivate me, people who were complaining about shit that didn't really help me 281 00:18:07.319 --> 00:18:11.839 in any sort of way. I really just kept my eyes on the prize 282 00:18:11.880 --> 00:18:15.519 and I stopped wasting my time on consuming people's lives that they just didn't have 283 00:18:15.559 --> 00:18:19.519 what I wanted. And I think around these times is when I dive headfirst 284 00:18:19.559 --> 00:18:22.799 into Pinterest, because it's yourth is at least for me. I'm a content 285 00:18:22.839 --> 00:18:27.440 creator and I'm on my phone and I really try to make use of my 286 00:18:27.559 --> 00:18:32.400 time the best way I can when I'm on my phone. So I mean, 287 00:18:32.559 --> 00:18:36.079 I think I do a good job with this because really I'm creating a 288 00:18:36.079 --> 00:18:40.359 lot more than i'm consuming. But if you aren't a creator, I would 289 00:18:40.440 --> 00:18:45.160 like you to consider how much you're consuming versus creating. And I don't actually 290 00:18:45.200 --> 00:18:47.680 mean you becoming a content creator if that's not what you want to do, 291 00:18:47.759 --> 00:18:52.079 But think about it's either like you're consuming a lot of content and other people 292 00:18:52.119 --> 00:18:55.519 get to live their lives and you're just constantly consuming it, or you're actually 293 00:18:55.599 --> 00:18:57.519 taking maybe some inspiration. You're going out and you're living your life and you're 294 00:18:57.519 --> 00:19:02.480 making a beautiful life for yourself and you're connecting to yourself and you're living your 295 00:19:02.480 --> 00:19:04.880 own, you know, beautiful life. So just consider that. But if 296 00:19:04.920 --> 00:19:07.799 you are going to consume, what type of content are you consuming? And 297 00:19:07.839 --> 00:19:11.960 for me, I love to spend time on pinchest because I can curate that 298 00:19:12.079 --> 00:19:17.240 feed to really match my vision. I can only look at those photos that 299 00:19:17.319 --> 00:19:19.759 remind me to go to the gym or remind me to keep working hard for 300 00:19:19.920 --> 00:19:25.599 my goals when it comes to my podcast or the type of suburban lifestyle that 301 00:19:25.640 --> 00:19:30.160 I want to live versus if I go on Instagram and I'm looking at ten 302 00:19:30.279 --> 00:19:33.119 people's lifestyles and somebody has a suburban home, and then somebody has a beautiful 303 00:19:33.160 --> 00:19:37.839 condo in New York, and somebody lives on a farm, and then somebody 304 00:19:37.920 --> 00:19:40.480 you know whatever. Right, there's all of these opinions, there's all of 305 00:19:40.519 --> 00:19:44.640 these styles of living. But the truth is a lot of these things are 306 00:19:44.640 --> 00:19:47.759 not aligned to where I'm trying to go, and I don't want to forget 307 00:19:47.799 --> 00:19:51.480 that. And in this life, you will forget your own goals because there's 308 00:19:51.559 --> 00:19:56.000 so many people pushing so many things. And it's not about demonizing, it's 309 00:19:56.039 --> 00:19:59.119 not even about comparing. It's not even about saying that you're better than these 310 00:19:59.160 --> 00:20:02.440 people. But it's like, I need to choose myself. Coming back to 311 00:20:02.519 --> 00:20:04.200 the fact that the next six months are going to be about you. You 312 00:20:04.319 --> 00:20:07.039 have to choose your own goals and what you want for yourself. So if 313 00:20:07.079 --> 00:20:11.799 I go on Instagram and I'm consuming everyone else's lifestyles, that's not me choosing 314 00:20:11.880 --> 00:20:15.359 myself. That's not me choosing the suburban home that I want. That's not 315 00:20:15.400 --> 00:20:18.640 me choosing the fitness that I want or the workouts that I want or the 316 00:20:18.759 --> 00:20:22.119 X, Y, and Z, So just be careful with the things that 317 00:20:22.119 --> 00:20:25.640 you're consuming. If you are consuming it, have it aligned to the vision 318 00:20:25.640 --> 00:20:29.759 that you're trying to hold in your life. There's so much noise outside of 319 00:20:30.000 --> 00:20:33.079 yourself essentially, and you're gonna have to just kind of be the one to 320 00:20:33.720 --> 00:20:37.279 create some healthy boundaries over your mindset and your vision for your life. Now, 321 00:20:37.319 --> 00:20:41.839 something that is very crucial, and I always talk about this, but 322 00:20:41.000 --> 00:20:44.920 it is your mental diet. Now. What I just talked about is a 323 00:20:44.960 --> 00:20:49.680 part of your mental diet. But I would highly highly suggest during this time, 324 00:20:49.839 --> 00:20:52.400 especially during this time when you're trying to call in new things in your 325 00:20:52.400 --> 00:21:00.440 life, is you get really good at having a daily practice of healthy bas 326 00:21:00.880 --> 00:21:04.920 and making sure that you're looking at yourself in a beautiful way and driving home 327 00:21:06.319 --> 00:21:10.240 again the goals that you want to accomplish to yourself every single day. I 328 00:21:10.279 --> 00:21:14.960 do this by waking up every single morning and journaling. I journal out things 329 00:21:14.960 --> 00:21:18.440 that I really want in my life, things that are happening. I write 330 00:21:18.480 --> 00:21:22.759 sometimes out in ways that are like I am statements. So I am a 331 00:21:23.160 --> 00:21:29.119 podcaster who is super successful with what she does. My life is compounding and 332 00:21:29.160 --> 00:21:32.640 I keep getting better and better every single day. I am beautiful. I 333 00:21:32.680 --> 00:21:36.519 am the most unique person that this person has ever met. I am chosen. 334 00:21:36.839 --> 00:21:40.160 I get exactly what I want. The men that I date choose me 335 00:21:40.480 --> 00:21:42.000 whatever it is that I need to work on, whatever it is that I 336 00:21:42.039 --> 00:21:47.559 want to drive home. I only speak to myself that way. No longer 337 00:21:47.640 --> 00:21:52.799 speaking to yourself in a way that is negatively self obsessed will do you absolute 338 00:21:52.799 --> 00:21:56.759 wonders. You are so committed to talking to yourself like shit, you are 339 00:21:56.759 --> 00:22:00.799 so committed to pointing out all your flaws. This is the time where you 340 00:22:00.839 --> 00:22:04.680 get to practice speaking to yourself nicely and quite frankly. When you catch yourself 341 00:22:04.799 --> 00:22:08.000 chasing somebody, wondering if they're going to pick you, you don't have those 342 00:22:08.039 --> 00:22:11.960 thoughts. You don't because if you did, when you, let's say, 343 00:22:12.240 --> 00:22:15.680 for whatever reason, because you're a human being, if somebody is doing something 344 00:22:15.720 --> 00:22:18.720 and you kind of think, oh, well, why aren't they chasing me, 345 00:22:18.480 --> 00:22:22.000 you know that you're the chosen one. So I'm not even going to 346 00:22:22.000 --> 00:22:23.880 get myself wrapped up over here, because I know the truth about me, 347 00:22:23.960 --> 00:22:29.759 and I am good enough. I accept myself. I am exactly the way 348 00:22:29.759 --> 00:22:32.559 that I want to be I'm showing up and I'm hitting my goals and I'm 349 00:22:32.599 --> 00:22:34.440 doing the things that I want to do. So if you don't have those 350 00:22:34.440 --> 00:22:37.880 thoughts, you need to start having a practice to have those thoughts. And 351 00:22:38.119 --> 00:22:41.519 I have people ask me all the time, well, how do you think 352 00:22:41.559 --> 00:22:44.359 like that? How do I change my thoughts? You change it through practice. 353 00:22:44.920 --> 00:22:47.519 You don't even have a practice. Again, you're not even committed to 354 00:22:47.519 --> 00:22:49.599 yourself. You're not committed to the daily practice of speaking to yourself nicely, 355 00:22:49.880 --> 00:22:53.400 but you are committed to having a daily practice of focusing on every single thing 356 00:22:53.400 --> 00:22:56.319 that you don't want in your life. You're so committed to speaking to yourself 357 00:22:56.319 --> 00:23:00.079 negatively every single day and pointing out your flaws. How do you think that 358 00:23:00.119 --> 00:23:03.119 you are going to change your mindset? You're going to have to commit to 359 00:23:03.160 --> 00:23:07.160 the opposite. And of course, when you want to feel like you are 360 00:23:07.240 --> 00:23:11.000 unstoppable, that you can't be replaced, that you're going to get exactly what 361 00:23:11.000 --> 00:23:15.720 you want in your life, that confidence also does come from true action, 362 00:23:15.039 --> 00:23:18.880 right, So those daily habits. What am I doing in the morning? 363 00:23:18.920 --> 00:23:21.759 Do I have a morning routine? What am I doing for the majority of 364 00:23:21.799 --> 00:23:23.920 my day? Am I going to work? Am I working on a side 365 00:23:23.920 --> 00:23:26.839 thing after work? Where am I putting my time and my energy? Am 366 00:23:26.839 --> 00:23:30.359 I putting too much time into somebody and I'm losing myself over here? Am 367 00:23:30.400 --> 00:23:33.839 I putting too much time into friendships that are not serving me? Do I 368 00:23:33.920 --> 00:23:37.920 need to remove myself from certain things and put myself in different places? What 369 00:23:38.000 --> 00:23:41.960 is it that I need to do? Look at your habits, and your 370 00:23:41.000 --> 00:23:45.279 habits will directly correlate to the things that are happening in your life. It's 371 00:23:45.319 --> 00:23:48.839 actually quite simple. Even when it comes to your health or your beauty or 372 00:23:48.839 --> 00:23:52.720 your whatever. How many times a day do you spend actually taking care of 373 00:23:52.759 --> 00:23:56.759 yourself when it comes to your self care or cleaning your space or making healthy 374 00:23:56.799 --> 00:24:00.559 meals for yourself? Where is that time for yourself? And you're wondering why 375 00:24:00.079 --> 00:24:03.319 you feel so shit, You're wondering why people are not choosing you, You're 376 00:24:03.359 --> 00:24:07.119 not choosing yourself. And the last thing that I really want you to think 377 00:24:07.119 --> 00:24:10.440 about is moving in the direction that feels the best to you on a moment 378 00:24:10.480 --> 00:24:12.880 to moment basis. Okay, not every single day is going to feel good. 379 00:24:14.079 --> 00:24:17.160 Not every single day. You have the freedom to choose what feels good 380 00:24:17.279 --> 00:24:19.240 right, You've got to sometimes do the things that feel a little bit hard. 381 00:24:19.599 --> 00:24:22.319 But I would like you to think about the things that do make you 382 00:24:22.319 --> 00:24:26.240 feel the most excited about life and go into that direction more because you will 383 00:24:26.240 --> 00:24:30.440 find a lot more alignment and ease, and you will be more happy in 384 00:24:30.480 --> 00:24:33.920 your life, and you'll be happy with yourself. So finding a routine that 385 00:24:33.960 --> 00:24:37.839 actually works for you versus you forcing yourself to do a routine that really really 386 00:24:37.839 --> 00:24:41.480 feels very resistant. And I actually talked about this in last week's episode, 387 00:24:41.559 --> 00:24:45.880 about taking the path of least resistance when you do have those down days and 388 00:24:47.319 --> 00:24:52.200 just honoring yourself and you know, realizing that that life doesn't need to be 389 00:24:52.279 --> 00:24:55.359 so serious and some of the best things that you will attract in your life 390 00:24:55.359 --> 00:24:57.799 are going to come from a place of true happiness and fulfillment. So if 391 00:24:57.839 --> 00:25:02.599 you need to take a break, or if you need to go do that 392 00:25:03.240 --> 00:25:07.000 workout class versus the weight training workout that you keep telling yourself you have to 393 00:25:07.000 --> 00:25:08.720 do at six am every single morning, if you need to take a break 394 00:25:08.720 --> 00:25:11.680 from that, you need to go and do something, or you got to 395 00:25:11.680 --> 00:25:14.319 go out with your friend that night, or you got to stay in that 396 00:25:14.400 --> 00:25:18.960 weekend, go do it. Honor yourself, Honor yourself every single day as 397 00:25:19.039 --> 00:25:22.799 much as you can. And honoring yourself also means allowing yourself to have those 398 00:25:22.839 --> 00:25:27.039 bad days, allowing yourself to cry, allowing yourself to feel your feelings, 399 00:25:27.200 --> 00:25:30.640 allowing yourself to spiral, and just knowing that you're gonna be fine after you 400 00:25:30.720 --> 00:25:34.400 spiral, and that you did not mess anything up. You did not ruin 401 00:25:34.440 --> 00:25:38.160 your goals, you didn't ruin your relationship, you didn't ruin the relationships you 402 00:25:38.200 --> 00:25:41.839 have towards yourself because you quote unquote made a mistake. That's not how it 403 00:25:41.880 --> 00:25:47.240 works, that is not how real. Unconditional love is. Uncusal love is 404 00:25:47.279 --> 00:25:51.759 accepting yourself, loving yourself, and choosing yourself over and over and over again. 405 00:25:51.839 --> 00:25:55.359 So I just wanted to send you guys that message because that's what I'm 406 00:25:55.359 --> 00:25:59.119 going to be doing in my life. This is very potent in my current 407 00:25:59.160 --> 00:26:03.279 reality right now. I'm really seeing that reflected in so many examples with other 408 00:26:03.319 --> 00:26:06.799 people, but also even myself. It's just like this huge call to keep 409 00:26:06.920 --> 00:26:10.279 choosing yourself. And even if you've been choosing yourself, because I have, 410 00:26:10.400 --> 00:26:12.799 like I really am always kind of choosing myself I also live alone, Like 411 00:26:12.880 --> 00:26:18.039 I've also spent so much time alone and really cultivating a relationship with myself. 412 00:26:18.079 --> 00:26:21.480 I think my relationship with myself is so beautiful and I'm so so proud of 413 00:26:21.480 --> 00:26:26.720 myself for having this type of relationship. But I think that regardless, there's 414 00:26:26.759 --> 00:26:30.920 always going to be deeper seasons, like deeper layers of something that you can 415 00:26:30.960 --> 00:26:33.240 get to. And I feel like in my life right now, it's so 416 00:26:33.400 --> 00:26:36.920 apparent with things that are popping up in my life, it's almost like tests. 417 00:26:36.960 --> 00:26:40.400 You know. It's like if something's not really fully exactly the way that 418 00:26:40.480 --> 00:26:42.160 you want in your life, but you're almost there, Like it keeps It's 419 00:26:42.160 --> 00:26:47.200 almost like it keeps happening and you're kind of frustrated or you're almost there and 420 00:26:47.240 --> 00:26:48.920 you kind of see that light, but it's just like it's not there yet. 421 00:26:49.359 --> 00:26:53.119 Perfect use that as evidence to show yourself that you're going to get exactly 422 00:26:53.160 --> 00:26:56.920 what you want. But in order for you to get exactly what you want, 423 00:26:56.960 --> 00:26:59.720 it's going to require you to show up differently. And that's where I'm 424 00:26:59.759 --> 00:27:00.880 at right now in my life. So I'm going to continue to do that. 425 00:27:02.119 --> 00:27:03.160 I hope you guys do that too. I hope you guys have an 426 00:27:03.200 --> 00:27:06.920 amazing day and I'll see you in the next one. Bye.