Hi everyone, and welcome back to the other podcast episode. My name is
Alicia Gogin, the host of the Globe Secrets podcast, where I help you
expand your mind and become more self aware so that you can glow up into
the best version of yourself. Hello, how are we doing today? Well?
I hope that we are doing better than we were when we started this
podcast, because I need to drive something home today to you guys, and
that is I really need this next six months of your life to be about
you, one hundred percent all in. I need these next six months to
be about you. Right now. I'm recording in July, so we are
literally dead set in the mid year right now. But even if you're listening
to this in a few months, this message will be for you for the
next six months, so just trust that. But I have been feeling a
really big call in my life, but also a very big clear message from
the universe. I like to say the universe in which the overall theme and
message that I keep getting that I keep extracting out of these examples that I'm
seeing in my own life is that we need to radically self love, radically
accept ourselves, and radically chase ourselves. The reason why you are so aware
of all the things you don't want in your life, why you are so
distressed to the point where you can't focus in your day to day life and
you're constantly thinking, does this person like me? Is this person going to
choose me? Or you're literally seeing your worst fears manifest in your life,
is because your attention and your relationship towards yourself has not been solid. When
you find yourself in a situation where it is very clear that you are not
getting chased by somebody, you have been doing the chasing. And what I
mean by that is, even if you actually haven't taken that action, you
are energetically chasing this person. You are thinking about them all day. You're
anxious, you're wondering, you're waiting, You're waiting for somebody to make you
happy. You're waiting for them to choose you. Or let's say you're not
happy with the way that your body looks, or your health status right now,
or even your work life. A lot of what you have right now
is a result of the way you've been showing up for yourself. When you
are not well, when you have gut health issues, when you have skin
issues, when you are overweight, when you know you're not as healthy as
you really want to be or you should be. A lot of the times,
it's the relationship that you've been having towards yourself. And this is not
about blaming yourself. If you get a disease or something that you had no
idea about, or you have breakouts that you have no idea how to control,
it's not about blaming yourself. But if we are to be very honest
with ourselves, and I have had to be very honest with myself in the
most loving way. When I had gut health issues, when I had skin
issues, when I was not happy with my body, when I was not
happy with my dating life or my money situation. A lot of these things
were a result of the way I was showing up in my life. Now,
there's a lot of reasons why you can't show up the way you want
in your life right. Maybe you're operating out of trauma, maybe you're really
struggling in your life, or you don't have a lot of time, or
whatever it is. These are real things. But at the end of the
day, the things that you're not happy with in your life are a result
of the way you have been showing up for yourself aka the relationship that you
have towards yourself. So if there's something in your life like not getting commitment
or you know, stressing about the fact that you don't have what you want
in your life when it comes to your health or your beauty or your bank
accounts, these things are calling you to go deeper within yourself. These things
are requiring you to finally love yourself and commit to yourself and show up for
yourself and coming back to your relationship example. I think this is very easy
to see within many of us. I've totally been there. I see my
friends go through these situations at time, and even you you guys ask me
all the time about dating advice. It is very easy to lose yourself in
a relationship when you haven't had a relationship towards yourself. Because when you don't
have a relationship with yourself, you tend to not have a lot of confidence
and that is going to be reflected in the focus that you have in your
life. So if you're focused on somebody not chasing you, if you're waiting
around for somebody to commit to you, my question is why is it that
you would be somebody who waits for commitment. Why are you somebody who has
to wonder if somebody's going to chase you? Why don't you know that you're
the chosen one. Why don't you look at yourself like, yes, I
would be chosen, Yes, I would be chased. This person would be
out of their mind if they didn't chase me until the day that they die.
Why don't you look at yourself like that? You don't look at yourself
like that because you haven't been having a relationship towards yourself. You haven't been
spending that time pouring into yourself. You haven't been reminding yourself every single day
that you are worthy, that you are good enough. But in instead,
you're putting your focus into sitting around and waiting for somebody else to tell you
that you're good enough, that you're worthy of being chased. And that's never
going to work. It is never going to work. And the ones that
are actually getting chased, the ones that are actually being committed to, those
are not the people who are sitting here and wondering if that's going to happen
for them. And now you might think, oh, well, I've gotten
a commitment before. But if you struggle with this still, this self concept
thing, this confidence thing, you not having a relationship towards yourself thing.
Most likely you got commitment from somebody that you knew was going to be easy
to get commitment from, or it was going to be easy for them to
chase or you played a game. Okay, and we're not talking about playing
games, because we can play games all day with people, right we know
what we should say or we shouldn't say, or how we should move or
how many times we should text somebody or the right wording of this or posting
this many times to get them to chase us. But that's fake confidence.
That's fake you not believing in yourself that still has you having your energy on
them by you thinking what move can I make so that this person can like
me. That's not what we're going to do anymore. Even when it comes
to your health or job opportunities or whatever it is in your life, I
want you to focus on building real confidence within yourself to know that even when
things aren't working out, even when your health seems a little bit up and
down, that you know that you are going to get the result that you
want because you are showing up for yourself and you love yourself and you deserve
this and you are going to get it. So this morning I made a
new Spotify playlist. If you guys don't know, I make a lot of
Spotify playlists and I share it with you guys, and you love it.
I'll have them linked down below. And this morning I titled it a Girly
Pop Summer because I feel like girly pop music is so in like Sabrina Carpenter,
the Billie Eilish, the Honestly, I didn't want to love it,
but Ariana Grande, she got the Bangers, do a Lipa, all of
these really good artists. And one of the songs I added in this playlist
was from Dua Lipa and it's called Training Season. And when I listen to
it, it's such a bop, Like it's such a freaking good song.
So definitely go check that out. But I was listening to it and she
was saying Training Season is over, and it just like you know, when
you hear something and it just it completely connects to the thing that you have
been going through in your life or the message that's been clearly in your face.
This was it, and let me try to explain to you what I
mean by training season is over. It is the middle of summer now,
so yes, we have six months until the end of the year. I
feel like the past six months has been a growth period, a very big
growth period, at least for me. Moving out of the winter it was
hard for me. I got myself out of a lot of dark places.
I transformed in a lot of ways. I also invited just new things into
my life and I still am like I'm doing things in a new way.
I've learned a lot of different lessons in my life that I am now allowing
to compound my life and to change me in different ways that I was not.
I'm not going back to the old version of me last summer. I'm
becoming a new version of me, but it's a better version of me.
And I've spent the last six months really putting in that work. And when
I mean putting in that work, some of those days were not work.
Some of those days were living out cycles that I continue to try to get
out of. And I've come to a point in my life right now,
the mid year reset, where I have completely been so sick and tired of
cycles that I have been living out that I'm at that point where like it's
just a no brainer to me that I'm no longer going to be living out
certain cycles because I know that it just does not serve me. And there's
certain themes in my life that always come up, whether that's with love,
with money, with self confidence, whatever it is that is going to require
me in this period of my time to take everything that I have learned from
the past six months, even the past year, but the past six months
that I trained for, that I worked on, that I observed within myself
that reflected on for so long, and that I is on an uphill battle
like through and finally apply it and live it out and take that action towards
the best version of me, because I know if I want the things that
I want in my life, it is gonna require me to finally stop training
and finally take action. We know the things that we need to do,
we know the boundaries we need to set with people. We know what we
deserve and what we do not. We know our patterns, we know what
we do not want in our lives. But it's gonna be up to us
to finally, like finally take that action and that is what I want this
next six months to be for myself, and I want that to be for
you guys. There's no more waiting, there's no more chasing other people.
There's no more falling into those limiting beliefs that kept us stuck for so long.
You know that shit is not real. You know that it is not
serving you in this season of your life. I want you to continue to
choose yourself over and over and over and over and over again, like radically,
and I mean radically, choose yourself every single day, day in and
day out, whether that is putting up a boundary to someone, removing yourself
from situations that do not serve you, catching yourself when you're saying a negative
belief, or you're confirming to yourself that you're not going to get what you
want, and telling yourself you are going to get what you want, Catching
yourself when you're chasing somebody, when you're waiting, when you're wondering, when
your spotlight is on them, and bringing it back to yourself every single time.
I'm not saying that this is going to be the most easy thing,
but I'm going to say that this is something that is going to be required
for you to get the thing that you keep crying about. You keep crying
about the fact that you don't get commitment from people. You keep crying about
the fact that, oh, things happen for a bit and then you lose
them. You keep crying about the fact that you don't have what you want.
When it comes to looking in the mirror, having confidence, or the
money that you want, it is going to be up to you who else,
literally who else. So I'm going to give you a few things that
you can think about doing when it comes to moving into the next six months
of your life. This is something that I've really done and I feel like
I'm really into new energy right now. And the first thing, I don't
know where this it just like popped out of my mind, but I'm calling
it holding your vision. Okay. I want you to get very clear on
a few things that you want to drive home until it becomes normalized in your
life. Understand, when you're trying to change or you're trying to level up,
you need to be consistent with that thing until it becomes normalized. And
being consistent can be whatever it means to you right like, it could be
a daily thing. It could be a depending on what it is that you
are obviously wanting, but I want you to hold that vision in front of
your face until you get that. So currently in my season of life right
now, I'm really really focusing on growing my podcast. So that is a
thing that is so front and center of my vision in my life that I'm
not taking my eyes off of it until I accomplish that thing. Also,
when it comes to my fitness, that is something that I'm very much so
holding because it's just something that's important to me. It's something that I want
and I know when I have fitness and moving my body and wellness in general
front and center, I am always so aligned. I always feel better about
myself. Like you can't tell me that being a wellness girl does not make
you feel the best you've ever felt. So that's something that I'm continuing to
hold. And another one for me is my dream home. I am really
wanting my dream home, you guys know. And that requires a lot of
attention and a lot of focus, and that also requires me to move in
different ways when it comes to my work, and so I have for certain
pieces of content, I'm really interested in making different pieces of content moving into
the new season of my life. This is mainly just for short form,
but there's a few things in my life right now that I'm really holding a
vision too. So I want you to think of the person you want to
be, the feeling that you want to feel every single day, and I
want you to only be in that energy. So something that I really like
to do when I'm getting very clear on my vision is to create a vision
board. This is different than a mood board. I already created a mood
board for the summer and on my main channel, so I can link that
video down below if you just if you're just like wanting an aesthetic summer and
you want to have like this fun like moody pinterest board. I like making
those as well for my wallpapers and stuff. But I wanted to make an
actual vision board of a few things, a few pictures essentially that really reflect
the next six months that I want to be living by. So a few
things on my vision board. Maybe you know what I'll do is just I'll
show it on the screen. I guess you can only see this if you
are watching on YouTube, So if you're on audio, maybe you want to
come here and see. But if you follow me on Instagram then you've probably
already seen it. There's just a few photos that emulate this feeling of what
it is that I'm trying to hold. So obviously might's not going to look
like yours. But I have things on this vision board that resemble exactly what
I want, which is my new home, which is wellness. There's a
lot of focused work as you can see, the laptops, the books,
podcasting studio or podcasting mic. There's a YouTube plaq. There's just a few
things that really give me this clear cut vision of what I am really living
out right now in my life. But I want to continue to have that
in the forefront of my mind. And I created even like a smaller wallpaper
for my phone to have on there, so that is front and center.
So I just want you to think about your vision that you have the things
that you really want, and I want you to drive it home. The
dream relationship that you want, the dream job, the dream whatever. It
is going to require you to really hold this vision and for you to take
that action and bringing it back to the relationship that you have towards yourself as
everything. This is where I want you to be spending time with yourself.
Because I was talking to my friend about this, this relationship towards herself,
and how she's realizing, oh, she doesn't really necessarily have or she hasn't
really cultivated that relationship towards herself. She's kind of lost herself a little bit,
which we always do, especially when we're dating somebody or in general,
like when life is not maybe the most exciting. And this is why I
think it's important to have a vision. But this is what I want you
to be doing, and this is what I'm doing for myself. When I
mean, I'm having a relationship towards myself. I have goals, I have
things to do. So instead of me wasting my time wondering if this person's
gonna choose me, wondering why I'm not being treated the way that I need
to be treated, why I'm not getting certain things in my life, I'm
too busy. I'm too busy focusing on my vision. Get busy with your
vision, Get busy with your life, and when it comes to your daily
habits, your daily habits should be connected to your bigger vision. So,
like I said, for me, I'm creating a schedule where I'm getting up
and I'm making my content. I'm making my short form content. I'm making
my podcast episodes like I'm showing up every single day. I'm doing the things
that i need to do, and I'm being very clear with that. I'm
even actually, after this podcast is done, I'm going to sign up for
a new gym membership because this is beautiful chim. You don't need to go,
you know, spend a lot of money to try and change your life
at all. You really don't. But for me, I just really wanted
that call. And I'm maybe I'll explain it in a different episode as to
why I'm like changing gyms and stuff like that, but regardless, I'm just
doing some energetic shifts. Maybe for you it's just you're moving around your space
or again you're creating a mood board. Another thing that's really really important in
this time, and I think that can really drive it home for you for
the next six months is finding expanders. And expanders are basically a term that
to be Magnetic, which is a manifestation podcast they came up with or maybe
they didn't come up with this, but they talk about it all the time.
Expanders, and that is finding people who have what you want, finding
people who resemble even yourself, just people who you really align to. Now,
I've found that watching YouTubers and podcasters and going on Pinterest has always really
helped me hold my vision. It's not to say that people in my immediate
life don't motivate me or inspire me. But I also think that a lot
of people who listen to my podcast like you guys. You guys are the
outliers. You guys are unique and very special, and you most likely are
gonna need a specific type of person or this niche tome topic or this I
don't know if this vibe or this aesthetic that you're going to need to really
help you hold this vision, because you have a vision that's bigger than most
people around you. So it's not to say that you can't seek out people
in your immediate life or in real life to help motivate you. I actually
think that that's really healthy and there's power in both. There's some things that
you're never ever going to be able to get from me that you could get
from a one on one interaction in real life, of course, So I
never want you to think that nobody in your immediate life or nobody in real
life will ever help you. Please don't, because I think it's very,
very helpful, and also it allows you to be a very diverse type of
person and a real smart, in my personal opinion person. If you know
how to actually go out into the world and you're not just somebody who's chronically
online but for the time being, I'm sure you can find somebody who you
really look up to. I feel like throughout my years there was definitely YouTubers
and podcasters that I really looked up to, and I listen to all of
their things, and I just I stayed focused on them. I stop listening
to people who weren't talking about the things that I really felt called to or
didn't motivate me, people who were complaining about shit that didn't really help me
in any sort of way. I really just kept my eyes on the prize
and I stopped wasting my time on consuming people's lives that they just didn't have
what I wanted. And I think around these times is when I dive headfirst
into Pinterest, because it's yourth is at least for me. I'm a content
creator and I'm on my phone and I really try to make use of my
time the best way I can when I'm on my phone. So I mean,
I think I do a good job with this because really I'm creating a
lot more than i'm consuming. But if you aren't a creator, I would
like you to consider how much you're consuming versus creating. And I don't actually
mean you becoming a content creator if that's not what you want to do,
But think about it's either like you're consuming a lot of content and other people
get to live their lives and you're just constantly consuming it, or you're actually
taking maybe some inspiration. You're going out and you're living your life and you're
making a beautiful life for yourself and you're connecting to yourself and you're living your
own, you know, beautiful life. So just consider that. But if
you are going to consume, what type of content are you consuming? And
for me, I love to spend time on pinchest because I can curate that
feed to really match my vision. I can only look at those photos that
remind me to go to the gym or remind me to keep working hard for
my goals when it comes to my podcast or the type of suburban lifestyle that
I want to live versus if I go on Instagram and I'm looking at ten
people's lifestyles and somebody has a suburban home, and then somebody has a beautiful
condo in New York, and somebody lives on a farm, and then somebody
you know whatever. Right, there's all of these opinions, there's all of
these styles of living. But the truth is a lot of these things are
not aligned to where I'm trying to go, and I don't want to forget
that. And in this life, you will forget your own goals because there's
so many people pushing so many things. And it's not about demonizing, it's
not even about comparing. It's not even about saying that you're better than these
people. But it's like, I need to choose myself. Coming back to
the fact that the next six months are going to be about you. You
have to choose your own goals and what you want for yourself. So if
I go on Instagram and I'm consuming everyone else's lifestyles, that's not me choosing
myself. That's not me choosing the suburban home that I want. That's not
me choosing the fitness that I want or the workouts that I want or the
X, Y, and Z, So just be careful with the things that
you're consuming. If you are consuming it, have it aligned to the vision
that you're trying to hold in your life. There's so much noise outside of
yourself essentially, and you're gonna have to just kind of be the one to
create some healthy boundaries over your mindset and your vision for your life. Now,
something that is very crucial, and I always talk about this, but
it is your mental diet. Now. What I just talked about is a
part of your mental diet. But I would highly highly suggest during this time,
especially during this time when you're trying to call in new things in your
life, is you get really good at having a daily practice of healthy bas
and making sure that you're looking at yourself in a beautiful way and driving home
again the goals that you want to accomplish to yourself every single day. I
do this by waking up every single morning and journaling. I journal out things
that I really want in my life, things that are happening. I write
sometimes out in ways that are like I am statements. So I am a
podcaster who is super successful with what she does. My life is compounding and
I keep getting better and better every single day. I am beautiful. I
am the most unique person that this person has ever met. I am chosen.
I get exactly what I want. The men that I date choose me
whatever it is that I need to work on, whatever it is that I
want to drive home. I only speak to myself that way. No longer
speaking to yourself in a way that is negatively self obsessed will do you absolute
wonders. You are so committed to talking to yourself like shit, you are
so committed to pointing out all your flaws. This is the time where you
get to practice speaking to yourself nicely and quite frankly. When you catch yourself
chasing somebody, wondering if they're going to pick you, you don't have those
thoughts. You don't because if you did, when you, let's say,
for whatever reason, because you're a human being, if somebody is doing something
and you kind of think, oh, well, why aren't they chasing me,
you know that you're the chosen one. So I'm not even going to
get myself wrapped up over here, because I know the truth about me,
and I am good enough. I accept myself. I am exactly the way
that I want to be I'm showing up and I'm hitting my goals and I'm
doing the things that I want to do. So if you don't have those
thoughts, you need to start having a practice to have those thoughts. And
I have people ask me all the time, well, how do you think
like that? How do I change my thoughts? You change it through practice.
You don't even have a practice. Again, you're not even committed to
yourself. You're not committed to the daily practice of speaking to yourself nicely,
but you are committed to having a daily practice of focusing on every single thing
that you don't want in your life. You're so committed to speaking to yourself
negatively every single day and pointing out your flaws. How do you think that
you are going to change your mindset? You're going to have to commit to
the opposite. And of course, when you want to feel like you are
unstoppable, that you can't be replaced, that you're going to get exactly what
you want in your life, that confidence also does come from true action,
right, So those daily habits. What am I doing in the morning?
Do I have a morning routine? What am I doing for the majority of
my day? Am I going to work? Am I working on a side
thing after work? Where am I putting my time and my energy? Am
I putting too much time into somebody and I'm losing myself over here? Am
I putting too much time into friendships that are not serving me? Do I
need to remove myself from certain things and put myself in different places? What
is it that I need to do? Look at your habits, and your
habits will directly correlate to the things that are happening in your life. It's
actually quite simple. Even when it comes to your health or your beauty or
your whatever. How many times a day do you spend actually taking care of
yourself when it comes to your self care or cleaning your space or making healthy
meals for yourself? Where is that time for yourself? And you're wondering why
you feel so shit, You're wondering why people are not choosing you, You're
not choosing yourself. And the last thing that I really want you to think
about is moving in the direction that feels the best to you on a moment
to moment basis. Okay, not every single day is going to feel good.
Not every single day. You have the freedom to choose what feels good
right, You've got to sometimes do the things that feel a little bit hard.
But I would like you to think about the things that do make you
feel the most excited about life and go into that direction more because you will
find a lot more alignment and ease, and you will be more happy in
your life, and you'll be happy with yourself. So finding a routine that
actually works for you versus you forcing yourself to do a routine that really really
feels very resistant. And I actually talked about this in last week's episode,
about taking the path of least resistance when you do have those down days and
just honoring yourself and you know, realizing that that life doesn't need to be
so serious and some of the best things that you will attract in your life
are going to come from a place of true happiness and fulfillment. So if
you need to take a break, or if you need to go do that
workout class versus the weight training workout that you keep telling yourself you have to
do at six am every single morning, if you need to take a break
from that, you need to go and do something, or you got to
go out with your friend that night, or you got to stay in that
weekend, go do it. Honor yourself, Honor yourself every single day as
much as you can. And honoring yourself also means allowing yourself to have those
bad days, allowing yourself to cry, allowing yourself to feel your feelings,
allowing yourself to spiral, and just knowing that you're gonna be fine after you
spiral, and that you did not mess anything up. You did not ruin
your goals, you didn't ruin your relationship, you didn't ruin the relationships you
have towards yourself because you quote unquote made a mistake. That's not how it
works, that is not how real. Unconditional love is. Uncusal love is
accepting yourself, loving yourself, and choosing yourself over and over and over again.
So I just wanted to send you guys that message because that's what I'm
going to be doing in my life. This is very potent in my current
reality right now. I'm really seeing that reflected in so many examples with other
people, but also even myself. It's just like this huge call to keep
choosing yourself. And even if you've been choosing yourself, because I have,
like I really am always kind of choosing myself I also live alone, Like
I've also spent so much time alone and really cultivating a relationship with myself.
I think my relationship with myself is so beautiful and I'm so so proud of
myself for having this type of relationship. But I think that regardless, there's
always going to be deeper seasons, like deeper layers of something that you can
get to. And I feel like in my life right now, it's so
apparent with things that are popping up in my life, it's almost like tests.
You know. It's like if something's not really fully exactly the way that
you want in your life, but you're almost there, Like it keeps It's
almost like it keeps happening and you're kind of frustrated or you're almost there and
you kind of see that light, but it's just like it's not there yet.
Perfect use that as evidence to show yourself that you're going to get exactly
what you want. But in order for you to get exactly what you want,
it's going to require you to show up differently. And that's where I'm
at right now in my life. So I'm going to continue to do that.
I hope you guys do that too. I hope you guys have an
amazing day and I'll see you in the next one. Bye.