Hello everyone, Happy Wednesday, and welcome back to this week's episode of your
Manifesting Bestie podcast. I'm your host, Flora, and we are diving into
all things mindset and manifestation like we always do on this podcast. This is
actually our last episode that we're wrapping up season three with, but don't worry,
we're not digging too long of a break. We'll be back after the
holiday season in January, just giving it a little bit of a revamp when
we come back. I am gonna miss you guys a ton though, Like
I'm not gonna lie. It's gonna be a little bit hard without you guys,
But we'll be back with new material, new episodes, new content for
you guys, to inspire you more on your manifestation journey. Now, today
I want to get into a topic that I think is so important. I
think it's all important. Every every episode I feel like is important. But
this is something about your worth and your value and how it turns you into
a complete magnet for your desires and just how to become more magnetic in your
real how to become more valuable, how to attract in the things that you
desire based off of your energetic frequency that you're outputting within the quantum field.
And the reason I want to go over this is because I think it's going
to make so much sense as the way that your self image looks in your
own mind is a direct correlation to everything that you are creating in your reality,
and how we can level up that self image, how we can increase
the strength of our self image, which is our self concept. More so,
I was talking to one of my girlies inside of the Self Concept Mastery
Academy, which is the online manifestation program that I run, and she recently
manifested her romantic relationship and she was working on it for a while, I
want to say, maybe over two years that she was calling in this person
that she was once in a relationship with that she wanted to repair things with.
And when we started to work together inside of SCMA, it happened for
her pretty quick. And what I want to go over and what happened with
her is just so like it just made so much sense. So her self
image in the past was pretty low, so she would kind of see herself
as not very valuable, not like a prize, not like a chosen individual,
not like anyone's dream girl. She would more so like devalue herself.
That's the nicest way I can put it. So she had pretty lousy thoughts
about who she was as an individual. She felt like she was always second
best, and she really believed these things to be true. You know,
she didn't feel necessarily worthy of like healthy love, of healthy companionship, healthy
relationships. She felt like, you know, anyone would pick someone else over
her. That was her immediate self image. That was her mindset about herself.
When we kind of talked through the issues that she was struggling with,
so I told her, you know, one of the things that we work
on in the program is increasing the belief that we have about ourselves, increasing
our self worth. And when I spoke to her after she told me about
her success with it, how she got her partnership, she got her relationship
with her person. I asked her, so, you know, outside of
the academy and the formula, what was something that you really did, Like,
how did you know? I was just curious because she was at this
for two years and then out of nowhere, it happened for her within I
want to believe, a month and a half of her doing the program,
and she says, she goes, I listened to everything that you said inside
of the videos, and she goes, I had to increase my value.
I have to see myself as a really valuable individual. I had to increase
my self worth because I felt very much unworthy. And she goes, not
just in my relationship, but this also stumbled into how I ran and operated
my business. She goes, I never was making sales. I kept discounting
my program. I kept doing this and not to try to get clients to
work with me. So she kept kind of looking at her reality and realizing
that she's always seeing herself as someone smaller, someone who isn't good enough.
She was always devaluing herself. In the past, she would be the first
person to pretty much put herself up for sale because she would lower her value
to try to gain affection, try to gain love, trying to gain money,
trying to do anything she could. She would devalue herself. So she
would do these different things in her reality and by using the formula and other
methods that she had going to increase her self worth. And as I was
talking to her about that, I'm like, that is so crucial because as
soon as we elevate our worth. We become more magnetic, we become more
attractive, we become more valuable, we become someone that is recognizing their own
self worth and therefore universal laws or like, oh okay, I see your
worth too, I also see your value. Because the universe doesn't judge,
it's not taking score on what you've done in the past. It just agrees
with you. That's all it does. It's just there for agreeance and to
support you. So if you feel shitty about yourself and you devalue yourself,
the universe will agree with you. So it's going to bring into your reality
events that correlate with that self image of not being good enough, of not
being valuable. It's just going to agree with everything that you're doing and give
you more of it. So as she increased her value, increased her self
worth, the universe once again agreed because it's loyal. The universe is extremely
loyal. It's a faithful servant. It wants to serve you, wants to
support you. It will tend x anything that you make commands for. So
as soon as she began to pour, you know, more into herself and
increase her value as an individual, the universe said, great, I'm going
to give you very valuable circumstances and events and occurrences coming into your life that
are going to bring you dooor that are going to make you feel worthy,
that are going to make you feel good and trusting the process and feeling more
joy and feeling more abundance and feeling more love. And then the relationship came
in really really quick, and then the money started to come in. Now
that she's operating her online business, it's going really well for her. So
the reason that I'm even bringing this up is because if you want to be
a person who is magnetic, a person who is attractive energetically, a person
who just draws in good things, you need to increase your value. And
just to note that you being born and you being alive is already making you
extremely valuable and extremely worthy. You just don't realize it. So you feel
like you need to prove yourself more. You need to do things to manipulate
your reality to gain more things, because you don't see that you were born
valuable and that you were born worthy of all the things that you want.
You forgot somewhere along the line, you adopted beliefs that made you forget how
important you are, and you diminish yourself and you start to play small,
you start to cut corners. You started to become more of a people pleaser,
right. You started to apologize for everything. I'm sorry, I'm sorry.
Oh you say sorry about everything? Why what are you so sorry about?
Why do you keep apologizing? There's nothing to apologize for. A Stop
apologizing for taking up space. Stop apologizing for having a voice, and having
needs and having desires and having one. Stop being sorry for being who you
are. The more that you diminish yourself, the more that you kind of
try to shrivel yourself up, the more you lose your magnetism, the more
you lose out on the desires that were meant for you, the more you
lose out on the reality that you were guaranteed and promised. Because you're not
being the authentic you, You're not being the valuable, worthy, bold,
powerful version of yourself. So I really want to talk about how to increase
our value and our worth because this is the foundation of your self concept.
You cannot create a strong and powerful self image if you keep playing small,
and if you keep seeing yourself as not good enough, and you keep seeing
yourself as unworthy, and these things trickle into anxiety, depression, mental health
issues. You feel crippled in your own reality. You feel hindered and handicapped,
like you can't go out and just do the things that you want to
do, because why why not? Why can't you start that thing? Why
can't you talk to that person that you want to talk to, Why can't
you live out the dream that you want to know? Why? It's because
you just keep telling yourself you're unworthy for those things. You keep telling yourself
you're not valuable enough. And I need you to know that you are valuable
enough. And then you need to add tax to that too, so know
you're worth and then add tax. Make yourself expensive, okay, not for
sale. You are the Burken Bag of your reality. Okay, You're not
the Michael Cores. You're the Burken No one can just walk into a store
and buy a Burken bag when they go into Arimez. You have to build
a relationship with the sales associates. You have to show interest in other items,
and you have to make frequent visits to those really expensive stores, and
then you're invited to view those type of bags it's really expensive. I don't
know, thirty thousand, forty thousand and sixty thousand dollars handbags. Be the
burken bag of your reality. Know your worth and attacks you are not for
sale, okay, And this is gonna go all across the board of increasing
your value. So if we look at relationships and having boundaries, I need
you to know that having boundaries is so sexy, it's so attractive. It's
like it makes a person irresistible. I'm like, damn, they're not lowering
their standards for me. They're unbreakable. Their self concept is bulletproof, their
self image is so powerful. They stand firm, ten toes deep in their
stay and they're not lowering them for anybody. Okay. So, if you're
somebody that's manifesting a relationship, for example, stand on your standards, stand
on them, keep your standards high, know your value. If somebody messages
you at ten PM to meet up, Nope, you're not even getting a
response from me. Why in the world where I lower my value and diminish
my standards and my expectations and give into them for what to receive affection for
one night? Is that really how I value myself? Or am I being
cheap about who I am? Am I putting myself out for sale? That's
not okay. That is not how you develop a strong self concept. You
have to set high expectations and high boundaries of who you are so that people
in your reality come correct. They level up to those expectations. They have
to meet you where you are or else you do not engage with them.
This is how you become like a repellent of low vibrational people. Okay,
if you want to stop attracting narcissists and fuck boys and fuck girls and people
who are players and people who use in a use people, elevate your standards
and stand firmly on them. This does not make you a bitch. It
doesn't make you lonely or anything like that or conceded. It means you value
yourself. It means you know you're worth You add tax to it, and
you will only engage with people and respond to those who are willing to pay
that price and meet you out at your standards. Right, So, you
really want to find ways in your reality to increase your value. If someone
speaks low about you or speaks down to you, would the highest version of
you even entertain that person, Would they engage, would they react? Would
they start cursing them out and getting angry and getting furious and reacting. No,
you know what your higher self would do if somebody speaks down on you
and it like to your face, they would literally smile and walk away.
You're too good to interact with people like that. You're too good. View
yourself as I'm way too fucking good for this. I'm way too valuable.
I am not for sale. There's no discount code to access to my energy.
Absolutely not. Okay, So ask yourself when it comes to like the
dating world, what type of standards am I representing? Like? What is
the energy that I'm putting out there? Do I really see my own value?
Do I engage with people who just want to hook up? Do I
engage with people with low effort who just want to text me and just say
what are you doing? But they don't know how to plan anything for me?
Do I engage with people who don't put me first, they actually put
me last and only hit me up when it's convenient for them. Am I
going to continue engaging with these people and increasingly lowering my own value? Like?
Why the world would I even do that to myself? Why would I
play myself like that. I'm over here trying to manifest a new reality,
and I'm over here putting myself on a fucking discount for people for what?
Why would I do that? This goes for everything, for clients, for
your business, for your love life, for your friendships. How do your
friends treat you? Do your friends value you? Do they respect you?
Or do they only call you when they want a gossip? Do they only
call you when they want to go drinking? Do they actually value you and
your mental health and your well being? Do they support you? Right?
Like? Figure out what are the things I'm reacting to and engaging with?
Because that is the standard I'm setting for myself. That is the value of
myself that I'm holding myself too. So if you saw yourself from an external
view, would you respect your own behavior? Would you respect your own actions?
Would you look at you and be like, damn, that is a
worthy, valuable, honorable individual. I look up to that person. They're
sexy and fucking magnetic because they honor themselves so much that they do not bend
over backwards for anyone. They do not lower their standards for anyone. And
they hold they stand true to who they are. So back to the girl
who, after two years, finally manifested that specific person that she wanted.
What was actually happening in the past is this guy that she was trying to
attract them was giving her hot and cold behavior all the time. He was
literally treating her like a fuck boy. He was coming in and out.
He only wanted to hook up. He only wanted late night stuff. No
commitment. I'm not ready for commitment, right, We've all heard that story.
So I told her when she first started the program, is why do
you keep engaging with this person? Why do you keep offering a reaction and
offering your energy to a person who clearly doesn't see and doesn't respect your value
because you don't see it yourself. So you're expecting someone to change, but
you have not changed yourself. How can that be? That doesn't make sense.
That's illogical, right, that's insanity doing the same thing over and over
and over and expecting another person to change. Why. Because you're being nice
to them, because you're letting them in, you're giving them your energy.
You think that's gonna make them want to commit to you. No, that's
gonna make them look at you as a fucking joke, no offense, But
I'm being serious, right, you don't want to be a joke. You
want to be a person who holds true to their own standards and their own
values. Okay, Now let's look at this from an abundant standpoint too,
because I know we all want more money. We want to manifest success and
everything. That's, you know, my favorite thing to always talk about.
I was working with somebody and she had the eight coaching program, but I
believe she does fitness and nutrition in like a holistic way. And she was
putting out a program for two hundred and fifty dollars, which is affordable.
Right, the average person should be able to afford that for their health and
well being if they're really serious about it. Now, she got no sales,
no leads, no clients coming, nothing, and I was like,
okay. So when she was asking me about manifesting, She's like, should
I offer a discount? Should I put my program and make it cheaper?
Maybe people just can't afford it. I was like, are you kidding?
Are you crazy? You need to increase your pricing because the return on the
investment of what a person is buying into is a brand new body, a
brand new lifestyle, brand new health, brand new mindset. You're changing their
whole life. You really think two fifty is the right price and you want
to lower it. I'm like, you should double it, maybe even triple
it, honestly, because she's really good at what she does, and I
know that we want to accommodate everybody. We want to be accessible, we
want to people please. But that doesn't make you valid. That decreases your
own value. So she increased her pricing, she changed her mindset, she
did the program with the business module that we have inside of SCMA. Now
she's getting leads, and she doubled her price. I'm like, you say,
you don't put yourself on discount. You don't decrease your value. You
never put your worth lower than what it is. You're honestly way better off
increasing your prices when it comes to business, because people believe in something that's
more valuable. If I saw a program that told me it's going to change
something about my body, or if I saw a program it says it's going
to turn me into a millionaire, and they were pricing it at five hundred
bucks, I wouldn't even buy it. I wouldn't even take the person seriously,
How are you selling me a program for five hundred bucks If it's going
to change my whole life? That should be one thousand bucks, that should
be two thousand bucks. Know your worth and then at tax. Okay,
this goes on everything. Stand firmly on who you are and develop the right
mindset that I know who I am. I'm authentic to who I am.
I'm not a people pleaser. I'm not bending over backwards to please other people
for what for what? That's lowering my authenticity, it's lowering my value.
That's not who I am. I'm not here to play small, no way,
Like, absolutely fucking not. I'm not for sale. I have a
business client of mine who's inside of my academy, and she messaged me and
she was like, I don't know why you price your monthly subscription so low?
Like it's a sixty nine dollars offer that anyone can access. Why do
you price it so low? And I understood where she was coming from because
her return on investment from using the program, I believe she manifested like roughly
forty five thousand dollars in the first two months, which is insane, right,
it's incredible. So in her mind as a business order, she's like,
Flora, your prices are way too low. And I get where she's
coming from, But my pricing for my subscription goal is gonna keep going up
month by month, not for the people who are already in it, but
for new members. Right, the price always goes up because I add more
into it. We do group coaching, this more that evolves throughout the program.
But I listened to what she was saying, and she was like,
for people who are manifesting money, like you need to create programs for them
that are in the thousand dollars ranges because they're going to increase their belief in
the outcome more. And she was so right. I'm like, I love
how you're schooling me on my own business. You're absolutely right. And she
said this at the perfect time because I am working on a program strictly for
entrepreneurs, like a blueprint for making money online, and I've been struggling with
how to price it because I've made everything super affordable for people, and this
episode that I'm creating, like, I'm literally talking to myself right now,
Like, know you're worth and then attacks like, know what the result of
a person who has access to you can gain, and then attacks to that.
Really, so you need to start doing this all across the board in
every area of your life. I was I was gonna go out with a
couple of friends and I asked one of my girlfriends to come and I was
like, Hey, we're going to go grab drinks after whatever. She's like,
oh, I didn't plan on that, and I have pilates in the
morning, and then I have a meeting that I have to get to.
So she turned down the invite to come out for a fun night. And
instead of me getting mad at her or being like feeling some type of way
that she didn't want to come hang out, my respect for my friend grew
ten times more because I'm like, she values her time, she values her
boundaries, She respects herself so much to stay true to her fitness goals,
her health goals, her business goals, that she will say no to anything
firmly if it does not align with the outcome that she wants for her life,
if it doesn't honor the way that she sees herself, if it contradicts
her own self image, she will not bend over backwards for anyone, and
I fucking love that about her. I respect her so much it makes her
more attractive, more magnetic. Like if I think of myself and I'm like,
what can I improve about myself, it's my own boundaries, it's sticking
true and keeping promises to myself. Right, That's what makes you magnetic.
That's what draws in the money, the opportunities, the right friendships, the
right relationships. That's what creates more blessings in your reality. The more valuable
you see yourself as, the stronger your self image becomes, the better the
reality becomes. Because everything is a mere image of you. So if you
feel lousy about yourself, if you don't respect yourself, if you don't honor
your boundaries, if you don't set super high standards and keep promises to yourself,
your universe is reflecting your poor self image back to you. Okay,
So this could look like a low quality of life, low income, low
value friendships, low value partners, right do you want that? No?
Absolutely not? And you don't have to fight your way out of those lifestyles
right now. If that's where you are, If you're in a low state
in your life, you don't have to fight your way out of it.
You have to see yourself as a new person. You create a brand new
self image and you stay true to it. Your actions, your thought patterns,
your beliefs about yourself will need to represent that new self image. Then
the reality must shift. Then the money comes, then the opportunities come,
then the right people come. You can't really expect things in your reality to
change until you have changed, until you are the new identity, until you
view yourself through the eyes of a higher standard and you stay true to it.
Okay, So respecting yourself and honoring yourself and knowing your value, this
is the fundamentals of your self concept and manifestation. It's the fundamentals of conscious
creating in your reality. So really take inventory of where your life is.
Do a little scan. How do I feel about this? Does this honor
my beliefs about who I am and who I want to become? What am
I doing in this area of my life? Does this represent who I am
and what I want to become? Or is this the old me that it's
representing? Like, really take inventory, because we don't do this enough.
We don't stop and realize like we really are responsible for everything. We don't
do it enough, or we're like, Okay, let me make the change.
I am the problem and I am the solution, and I have all
the power. And this is a huge relief to know all this right.
It's good to know that I don't have to beg anyone for change. I
don't have to move to a new city and pray for a better lifestyle.
I just created internally. I create the environment internally. I create the higher
standards and expectations and boundaries and value and worth internally, so my universe must
reflect it back. It's a natural cause and effect of universal law. I
noticed this in my sister too, my older sister. She's super disciplined.
And I'll be like, oh, I want to go to this restaurant,
or I want to try this, and I want to go here, and
she's like, I can't go because I can only eat X, Y and
Z. She has like a strict diet, vegetarian. She has to go
to the gym at nine thirty for like a super vigorous workout, and then
she goes swimming practice. She does all these different things. She's so disciplined,
and I realize that that people around her respect her for that. They
see that as a valuable trait, and I'm like, these are the things
that make a person magnetic and attractive. Like, you want to become more
attractive to your specific person or to attract and high value individuals. It's not
about posting more thirst traps on Instagram. It's about changing the internal environment and
then everybody externally changes too, and they see you in a new light,
so that when you do post something on social media, you draw on the
right crowd. You don't draw in the low vibrational people who just want to
like hook up and link up and like, you know, just dm you
talk about what you're doing. No, you want to attract the type of
people who are like I want to court this woman, or I want to
court this man, or I want to you know, please them. I
want to satisfy them. I want to accommodate them. I want to show
them how special that I see them. I want to take note of who
they are and make them feel really good. Like that's the type of person.
You want to attract them to your reality. But you have to do
the internal work first. You have to know your value and you got to
stand on it. Okay, and throughout your day. There are so many
ways that you can increase your value and honor yourself more. Okay, this
turns you into a very valuable person. So finding different routines like a morning
routine, right, maybe this involves some breathwork and some meditation. Maybe it
involves outdoor walks or a workout. Maybe this involves proper skincare routines, taking
care of your hair and your hygiene. I don't know about you, guys,
but when I see a person and like, they smell really good,
that increases like my attraction to them, like sexually, energetically everything. Why
Because subconsciously, when someone smells really good, I'm like, oh, they
must really take good care of themselves. They must take really good care of
their home, they must be great in bed. Like literally, these are
the subconscious thoughts I have of a person who smells incredible. So like,
finding routines that ups your hygiene also a really great way to honor and value
yourself and poortant to yourself. Finding routines that pour into your mental health.
That might be reading, listening to podcasts, proper self talk practices. Okay,
learning how to say no to people is a great way to honor and
value yourself too, because some people that bend over backwards for others, other
people don't value them. They just look at them as like a lower tier.
Literally, they look at you like you're kind of cheap because you're always
bending over backwards for people. You're constantly trying to people please so you can
control everyone's idea of you. And that's not how we do that. That's
ass backwards. It's totally wrong, like totally wrong. You're you're looked at
as lower when you are constantly pleasing others. So don't do that to yourself.
And as you guys know, like my favorite way I've talked about this
on multiple episodes is understanding your own love language. This is so potent and
so energetic to do this. So if you guys go on like Google and
you take the love language test, there's five love languages. I believe it's
physical touchwards of affirmation, receiving gifts, acts of service, and quality time.
Understand what is like the highest form of love that you like to receive,
and then you want to give that to yourself. So I like physical
touch, So I like having like a weighted blank, I like getting massages
every other week. I love getting facials and reflexology on my feet. Self
pleasure practice also a great way to honor your physical touch needs. Right,
if your style is words of affirmation, do mirror work. Pour into yourself
in the mirror. Tell yourself the beautiful things about you, even if you
don't believe them yet. Okay. Acts of service. Go out and find
ways of people giving you, providing the type of service that you like,
whether it's at a restaurant or at a salon, getting your nails, don
your lashes on whatever, receiving gifts. Honor yourself by being like, I'm
worthy enough to purchase this thing, whether it's a handbag, new furniture,
a little sweet treat yourself thing on the way home, whatever it is.
Stop restricting yourself and telling yourself, I'm not good enough to spend that money
on myself. Yes, you are, honor yourself, Okay, value who
you are. You come first. You need to be up on that fucking
pedestal. No one else in your reality belongs on a pedestal but you.
You're the creator. You are the operant power, You are the literally the
almighty. You're up on a throne, but you don't see yourself that way,
so you don't give yourself the power. You're giving your power away to
everyone. You keep discounting yourself and lowering your worth. Stop it, please
stop. If your love language is spending quality time, you can do this
by spending quality time with friends or spending quality time with yourself, like some
people find so much relaxation and meditation by taking themselves on a drive and listening
to their music and talking to themselves kindly, or going to the beach by
themselves, going for a swim, just doing anything that allows you to have
peace and serenity internally. Take I love to take myself out on dates.
I don't mind going out to lunch by myself. It to me it's fun.
I get to people watch, I get to eat what I want.
I run on my own time. I can take things slowly like honor yourself.
You're good enough for that, You're worthy enough for it. You're valuable
enough. So find ways throughout the day to pour into you. The universe
is going to ten exit through the law of increase. It must. The
more you pour into self, the more you see that your value is so
fucking high. You're increasing your energetic frequency in the quantum field. So the
higher that you start to vibrate, the higher that you feel about yourself,
the higher that you see yourself, the higher the circumstances and the events and
occurrences that come into your life, as well as the people, places,
and things that enter your life. You are. You're not operating at a
lower frequency anymore. So you do not attract low vibrational people. You do
not attract low vibrational money, which is the lack of money. Okay,
you don't attract the car accidents and the losing your house and getting fired from
a job and getting sick and having to live off a prescription medication your whole
life. You're not operating in that frequency anymore. You've elevated yourself. You're
shifting timelines by increasing your self worth and your value. Okay, So make
this not a chore, not like a fuck another thing I have to do.
This should be fun. How can I please myself today? How can
I stand and honor my boundaries today? How can I live like the highest
version of myself today? How can I think like her? How can I
be like him? What are my actions stating about me right now? Like?
What type of energym I'm putting out into the field that is being reflected
back to me in my three D reality. I have to recognize these things
and elevate level the fuck up. It's time. Okay, it's about to
be twenty twenty four, guys, it's time. The old you dead and
gone. We're done with them. Draw the line in the sand and step
over it. Say goodbye, say a little prayer, thank you for serving
your time here. But the new me is here. Okay. Bad bitch
energy, boss, bitch energy. Please, I'm begging you to stand firmly,
stand up with your head held high. See yourself as the fucking prize.
Honor yourself. Okay, know your fucking worth and then add some text
to it, and then double your value. The more you increase your value,
the priceer it costs to access your energy. Okay. The days of
you playing small and lowering your standards for others is done. That does not
resonate with you anymore. Okay, So make this commitment to yourself and watch
how your reality pays you back. Watch how the energy you pour into yourself
is the entire universe pouring into you as well. It's a beautiful mirror reflection
of the way that you see yourself now. Thank you guys so much for
tuning in to our last episode of season three. We will be back again.
I hope you guys have a wonderful holiday season. I love you all
so much. Make sure you are following me and keeping up with me on
social media at Flora Siebo's on TikTok on Instagram, possibly soon on YouTube as
well. And if you want more coaching, you can join the Manifestation Academy.
The link should be on my socials as CMA as well as here on
my podcast. That way you can have access to me at all times within
the community board, get the lesson plans, change your entire reality. It's
really all in your hands. You guys, I love you so much much.
Have a wonderful week.