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Hey, Hey, I'm back with
something for you to think about. I

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really, really, really hope and
pray that you really think about the words

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that I'm gonna say in this episode. No one, and I do mean

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no one is exempt from life struggles. No one is exempt from life struggles.

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Most of the things you go through
you bring upon yourself most. So

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many of you are so focused on
hurting someone your mother, your father,

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your sibling, your friend, your
neighbor, your coworker, voss and so

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on. You're so focused on hurting
someone or getting back someone, that all

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you're doing is hurting yourself. Any
time you're giving so much time and energy

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to hurt someone because you mad,
you don't like what they did to you,

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or whatever the situation is, you're
giving all of your time and energy

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to hurting that person back. You
lose. You lose. So many people

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are carrying around hurt, bitterness,
anger, pain, unresolved issues that is

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decaying them, decay in them mentally, physically, mind, body, and

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soul, just decay and riding them
from the inside out because you're so full

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of that negative energy, and all
it does is hurt you. You carry

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around all of this inside and the
person that you trying to get or you

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hate, or whatever the situation is. They're going on by their business.

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They're not thinking about you, But
you're spending all of this time and energy

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thinking about that person or those people. It doesn't make sense, but people

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are doing it every day. You
cannot even live a functional life because you

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got so much pen hurt inside of
you. You think if you hate someone

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or you don't like someone, that's
going to affect them. They're not affected

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by your feelings and your thoughts.
You are. You're the one carried around

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the negativity. They going on by
their business. And I've told you before

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in an episode, some of you
are holding on to old pain and the

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people that hurt you are dead and
gone. It is sad, it's very

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sad. It's unfortunate, but it
is reality for many people. You live

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your life year after year after year
holding on to hostility, just being totally

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toxic. But you are the one
who's hurting. Is self inflicted. Self

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inflicted. Some of you meet people
and you instantly don't like them because you

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don't like yourself. So you take
it out on that new person because you

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see something in them that you wish
you had in yourself. You don't like

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yourself, so you projected onto that
individual. All of this that I'm talking

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about are things that people bring into
their own life, that people cause unnecessary

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self inflicted pain because you don't choose
to change. No one is exempt from

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struggles. I don't care if you
want from rag to riches, because you

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carry you everywhere you go, and
you cannot separate yourself from yourself. From

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rag to riches, You're gonna take
those unresolved issues. If you do not

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change, you're gonna take that same
negativity from rag to riches. Because I've

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already told you. People can obtain
greatness. They can obtain many things in

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life, they can have many great
accomplishments, but they're still internally struggling because

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and mentally because they haven't healed from
the inside. It takes inside work for

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the outside to work. No one
can do it for you, only you

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can do it for yourself. We've
seen people who have attained a lot in

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life, who have become even rich, struggling with alcoholism, drugs, weight,

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sex, addictions, all types of
things. Got all the money in

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the world, but they're still struggling. Because no one is exempt, No

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one, no one gets away.
We all go through life struggles. Sometimes

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people bring the struggles into our life
because we open ourselves up to it.

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If someone brings struggles into your life, you don't have to accept it.

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You may feel the effect of something, but you don't have to let it

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change or all to your life in
a negative way. You accept whatever it

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is. It is what it is, but you keep on moving when you

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do not let negative people affect your
life. But most people can't do that

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because negativity is what they gravitate towards. And that is why I say no

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one is exempt. Because if you
have not dealt with who you are now,

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who you pretend to be, but
who you really are, you have

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not dealt with that individual, that
man or woman in the mirror, You're

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gonna keep going through life with the
same negative mindset. I've always told you

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people who have not healed, listen
to me. Now healed from their past

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pains. You're gonna always be the
prey or the predator. And some of

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you have went and become the prey, and now you're the victim who victimizes.

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And I've talked about that many times
on episodes. You're once was the

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prey and now you're the predator,
and then you have those who are either

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or. But it's that mindset,
and it's because of what you're holding on

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to. You can't expect to go
through life with the peace of mind when

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you're full of negativity, when you
have not healed from past pains. You

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can put on a good show pretending, but you know for yourself what the

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truth is. You know that in
a termo that you have. You know

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the mental struggles that you have because
you holding on to negativity. And guess

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what, Sometimes people are holding on
to things that are not even true.

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They've made them up in their heads. And because they made them up in

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their head, and they repeat the
same stories they believe that. Some of

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you will have other people hating a
person because of the lies you told on

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that person. All of this stuff
is happening for real. But what I'm

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trying to tell you is you're not
exempt. You're not exempt from struggles in

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this world. We all until the
day we die, gonna go through those

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hills and valleys, in and out
of situations that don't feel so good sometimes,

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because that's just life. You gotta
take the good with the bad,

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because the bad is coming, and
the good is coming. As wall people

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struggle the most because us they already
have negativity that they have not dealt with,

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and then when their storms come,
they can't handle the handle the storms

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because of the negativity that's already there. But you're not exempt. Some people

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think because they get to a certain
status they are exempt from the things.

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They're not exempt. Pain, the
desire for love, you know, sadness,

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happiness, all of those things are
universal. Everybody experienced them to some

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degree at some point or another.
People are seeking after the same things,

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even though individuals are on different levels. They're seeking after the same things money,

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love, recognition of validation, etc. Etc. And you will forever

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do that until you know who you
are as a person. Some of you

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cannot even live a day without so
many people around you, or you want

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to be around certain people, you
just got to be around them. But

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that's telling me something about yourself.
You have a void in you, and

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too many people are trying to fill
voids within self. A lot of people

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go to work every day to feel
voids, looking for love, looking for

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friendships, looking for marriage, looking
to move up, so they'll do things

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they know that are lone. I
mean to fill all types of voids.

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But all it does is open doors
to more problems in your life. That's

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why you gotta get to know yourself, love yourself, figure you out,

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and the rest will follow. But
people, for the life of living,

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they can't do it. They can't
do it because most people live their lives

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to try to please other people.
They live their lives wanted to be other

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people. It's sheer madness, that's
what it is. Madness truly, because

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your focus is on the wrong things. You think that you're not gonna go

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through. You're gonna go through.
We all go through, and we're gonna

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forever go through until the day we
execut natural body. It's just life.

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Troubles and trials don't come to break
you. They actually come to make you,

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make you stronger and stronger. But
people can't see it because they focus

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on that negativity because of their mindsets. Now, you can believe whatever you

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want to, But all I do
is challenge you to just think about what

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I'm saying and think about your life, what you've experienced, what you're going

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through right now, how you're handling
things, how have you perceived things.

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A lot of you just react,
you act or react, but you don't

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think through to the consequences. You
act or react immediately because of your mindset.

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You want to go off. You
just want to go off. But

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that is because of your mindset.
That's not a good thing. That's not

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a good thing. You're always angry, just ready to explode. That's not

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a good thing. And some of
you have been this way all of your

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life and you still refuse to change. But all it does is cause you

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issues. You're so worried about hurting
someone that all you're doing is hurting yourself.

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All you are doing is hurting yourself. When you hold on to negativity,

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you're hurting yourself. When you're jealous
and envious, you're hurting yourself,

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When you're full of bitterness, hate, rage, anger, you're hurting yourself.

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I mean, I can go on
and on and on and on about

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this. Many people are like this, many holding on to negativity, thinking

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they're doing something. Because I'm not
speaking to my mom. I'm not speaking

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to my dad, or my sister
or my un to you know, my

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cousin, my friend. I'm not
gonna talk to them. You're only hurting

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yourself. God want us to love
one another, but instead, many hearts

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have waxed cold. Families are not
families anymore. But no one, no

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one know, no one on the
face of the earth is exempt. Now,

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how you, whether you're storms totally
told me, told me something else,

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But it is according to your mindset. How you whether you're stories,

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because they are going to come.
I really really wanted to talk about it

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because people are struggling. We're seeing
how people are struggling. Look at all

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the craziness people are doing. Brothers
shooting sisters, moms killing their kids,

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dads killing their kids, husbands and
wife killing each other, boyfriend and girlfriend

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are killing each other. I mean, just so much reactions and actions.

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But people are not thinking through to
what's gonna happen after they make the decision

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to act. And it comes from
all of the unresolved and people. All

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of your experiences in life forms your
mindset, and unfortunately most of the population

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around the world hold on to that
negativity. Trying so hard to get back

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at people, You're only getting back
at yourself, holding yourself back, holding

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yourself down for a lifetime over something
that may or may not be true,

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even if it's true, even if
you went through hell serious trauma. That

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is no reason to sign up for
a life sentence of negativity. You're you're

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doing even worse to yourself than what
was done to you. But it all

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goes back to the mindset and the
one you heard of the most, no

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matter what you think, is yourself. Some people are so stagnant. They've

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been stagnant for years and years and
years and years and still no signs of

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change, not even wanting to entertain
the thought is really really unfortunate, but

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it's the case for millions of people. Don't take my word for it,

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just look around and research all of
the foolishness and the unfortunate events that have

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taken place. It comes from unhealed
hearts and minds, no matter how people

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got there, unhealed hearts and minds, and no one is exempt, no

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one. If you carry around that
negativity, you're only hurting yourself. And

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that is the truth, the whole
truth, and nothing but the truth.

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You may not want to hear it, but it's still the truth, and

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I'm here to tell you all about
it. If you want to be a

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better person, don't look at me. Anyone is to make you better.

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You have to make you better.
Some of you compare yourself to other people,

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only to end up feeling even worse
about yourself. Don't do that.

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Stop doing that to yourself. Stop
torturing yourself over past pains. Some of

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you just want to whole on to
negativity and it's just chipping away at you.

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You can't love anyone because you don't
even love yourself, but you wanna

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blame other people from whom you have
chosen to become as an adult. So

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that's it on this episode. That's
all I'm gonna say. I hope it's

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enough for you to understand what I'm
saying. If you don't reach out to

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me, go to my podcast pace. It'll tell you how to reach me.

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We can talk about it. I'm
willing, so thank you so much

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for listening. Please share this episode. You know I have two platforms,

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Check them out and share. Thank you

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so much. You know I in
every episode the same and I hope you

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do it. Thank on it