WEBVTT 1 00:00:01.280 --> 00:00:14.240 Andlogy such Cancel, So High, Ecstasy, Sage, cancerge hoa, not 2 00:00:14.519 --> 00:00:22.559 Sorry, andlogy what's up? Positive bitches? How are we doing today? 3 00:00:23.039 --> 00:00:26.480 If you're hearing this episode, you were meant to be here, So keep 4 00:00:26.519 --> 00:00:31.879 listening on that Bitch's Positive Podcast. Sometimes we will laugh. Other times, 5 00:00:32.000 --> 00:00:36.679 Baby Girl, we're gonna cry, but we will always walk away feeling our 6 00:00:36.759 --> 00:00:43.359 most empowered positive bitch self. That is Babe in true connection with herself. 7 00:00:44.000 --> 00:00:48.640 On this podcast, we unbecome who we are not so we can fully step 8 00:00:48.679 --> 00:00:53.799 into exactly who we came here to be. Today we are talking about, 9 00:00:53.840 --> 00:00:58.520 oh, you know, a mid life crisis, a quarter life crisis, 10 00:00:58.880 --> 00:01:06.239 anytime your life crisis where you realize, oh, I don't know who I 11 00:01:06.280 --> 00:01:11.319 am. I am in this really weird stage in my life where I'm not 12 00:01:11.439 --> 00:01:15.519 who I used to be, but I'm also not yet who I wish to 13 00:01:15.599 --> 00:01:23.280 become. I am dangling in the middle of the unknown. And I know 14 00:01:23.359 --> 00:01:29.280 we all fear the unknown, but there is nothing nothing to fear about the 15 00:01:29.439 --> 00:01:33.560 unknown. And that's what we're going to talk about today, how to find 16 00:01:33.719 --> 00:01:40.439 yourself again while you're doing the tango in the unknown. I'm going to give 17 00:01:40.480 --> 00:01:46.760 you five exact steps that I've used to get out of the unknown and back 18 00:01:46.959 --> 00:01:51.280 on my pedestal. I'm going to walk you through the mindset shifts, the 19 00:01:51.480 --> 00:01:57.599 energetic shifts, the behavioral shifts you need to make so you can find yourself 20 00:01:57.079 --> 00:02:02.040 again or maybe find a new version of yourself that you did not even know 21 00:02:02.680 --> 00:02:09.479 existed. Could you imagine that there are so many different parts of you and 22 00:02:09.520 --> 00:02:15.159 all of them deserve to be discovered, seen and realized. So if you're 23 00:02:15.199 --> 00:02:21.840 going through an ego death right now, AKA you're feeling like you don't know 24 00:02:21.879 --> 00:02:25.520 who you are, you're losing the identity of who you've been, you have 25 00:02:25.639 --> 00:02:31.280 come to the perfect episode for you. Now. Before I give you all 26 00:02:31.319 --> 00:02:37.120 my dazzling secrets, a couple of announcements. If you're not yet following me 27 00:02:37.360 --> 00:02:40.800 on Instagram at vibin Witcci, be sure to follow me there and at that 28 00:02:40.879 --> 00:02:45.120 Bitch is Positive. All the links will be in the show notes below. 29 00:02:46.080 --> 00:02:51.159 I am going to announce it here first, but all of my packages, 30 00:02:51.240 --> 00:02:58.560 all of my coaching will be going on sale the first day of Thanksgiving week 31 00:02:58.879 --> 00:03:04.520 all the way through Black Friday. Okay, I don't have any sales throughout 32 00:03:04.560 --> 00:03:08.919 the year. And for Black Friday, ninety percent of all the offerings I 33 00:03:09.240 --> 00:03:15.919 have go on sale. So if you've been wanting to do coaching, if 34 00:03:15.960 --> 00:03:19.280 you've been wanting to do the work, if you've been wanting to work with 35 00:03:19.360 --> 00:03:23.479 me, you can dm me now to find out more information about the pricing 36 00:03:23.639 --> 00:03:29.400 for one on one coaching and all the different packages. I have a plethora 37 00:03:29.599 --> 00:03:35.719 of different coaching options for you and offerings anything from self concept tune up where 38 00:03:35.759 --> 00:03:40.400 we shift your identity to divine feminine healing, and activation attachment system healing. 39 00:03:40.439 --> 00:03:45.879 That's a lot of nervous system work. If you have anxiety and relationships, 40 00:03:45.879 --> 00:03:47.439 if you're wanting to level up but don't know how, if you want to 41 00:03:47.439 --> 00:03:52.400 have that glow up of your life, dm me now for more information. 42 00:03:52.800 --> 00:03:58.400 And my twelve week program, my Magnetic Mastery program will also be on sale. 43 00:03:58.639 --> 00:04:01.240 So this is the only time of the year that these programs go on 44 00:04:01.360 --> 00:04:04.599 sale. If you want to work with me, if you want to work 45 00:04:04.599 --> 00:04:10.199 on yourself, find out more. Okay, without further ado, let's get 46 00:04:10.240 --> 00:04:14.159 into today's podcast episode because we have so much to talk about. I do 47 00:04:14.240 --> 00:04:18.560 think it's worth mentioning a little disclaimer. You are going to shift through so 48 00:04:18.720 --> 00:04:25.279 many different identities while you're on planet Earth. You're not meant to be a 49 00:04:25.319 --> 00:04:30.040 solid rock, one identity forever. We are energy and energy. Its natural 50 00:04:30.079 --> 00:04:34.839 state is movement. You're going to move in and out of identities, in 51 00:04:34.959 --> 00:04:39.360 and out of feelings and emotions, in and out of thoughts and ideas. 52 00:04:39.600 --> 00:04:43.680 You're going to shift over time. Your opinions are going to change. Your 53 00:04:43.800 --> 00:04:47.839 values are going to change, your thought processes. Your organization even is going 54 00:04:47.879 --> 00:04:51.040 to change. How you live is going to change. Your likes and your 55 00:04:51.079 --> 00:04:57.839 dislikes are going to change. That's oh okay. We're allowed to wake up 56 00:04:57.879 --> 00:05:00.519 today and decide to be someone new. You were allowed to wake up tomorrow 57 00:05:00.519 --> 00:05:04.680 and decide, actually, I want to be someone even different. I think 58 00:05:04.720 --> 00:05:09.360 we're so caught up in cancel culture sometimes that we think, Okay, I 59 00:05:09.399 --> 00:05:11.959 have to be this, and I can't change my mind and I can't speak 60 00:05:12.000 --> 00:05:15.040 about what I want to speak about because I'll be canceled. No, the 61 00:05:15.079 --> 00:05:20.800 only person who can cancel you is you. You are going to move through 62 00:05:20.879 --> 00:05:27.560 so many different identities naturally, It's what we do as humans. You didn't 63 00:05:27.600 --> 00:05:31.279 come here to be one stagnant thing and never change your mind. You came 64 00:05:31.399 --> 00:05:35.279 here to live, to learn, develop and grow, and it's a natural 65 00:05:35.519 --> 00:05:41.920 byproduct of growing and evolving is that you're going to change. If you never 66 00:05:42.040 --> 00:05:46.639 changed your mind about anything, that would be concerning, because that means you're 67 00:05:46.680 --> 00:05:53.759 not learning and you're not sculpting yourself in accordance to what you're learning. If 68 00:05:53.920 --> 00:05:57.000 you have been told that you have to be the nice girl, or you 69 00:05:57.040 --> 00:05:59.800 have to be the class clown, or whatever it may be, I want 70 00:05:59.839 --> 00:06:01.439 you to take a second rine here, to take a deep breath in through 71 00:06:01.439 --> 00:06:09.480 your nose and ex heal through your mouth, and just say, I give 72 00:06:09.680 --> 00:06:15.279 my self permission to be whoever it is I want to be. I give 73 00:06:15.439 --> 00:06:21.319 my self permission to show up as I truly am. I give myself permission 74 00:06:21.439 --> 00:06:28.639 to change as I wish. This is my life. I will create the 75 00:06:28.720 --> 00:06:33.759 rules that I want to create for my life. I can choose my identity, 76 00:06:34.240 --> 00:06:41.160 and so I will. You have the power to cultivate the person you 77 00:06:41.240 --> 00:06:46.160 want to be. You have in endless amounts of different traits within yourself that 78 00:06:46.199 --> 00:06:49.839 you can turn on and you can turn off. We are born thinking, 79 00:06:49.879 --> 00:06:53.959 oh I'm either this way or that way. Sure, we have a certain 80 00:06:54.040 --> 00:07:00.360 nature about ourselves. But we have a spectrum of different talents and traits and 81 00:07:00.560 --> 00:07:04.160 aspects of ourselves that we can turn on and turn off as we go through 82 00:07:04.199 --> 00:07:09.199 life. Most of us make these key decisions when we're one, two, 83 00:07:09.240 --> 00:07:12.160 three, four, five, sixty seven about who we have to be in 84 00:07:12.240 --> 00:07:15.439 order to get love and affection from our parents. And then we think, 85 00:07:15.480 --> 00:07:19.000 well, this is just the identity I am wrong, wrong, false, 86 00:07:19.279 --> 00:07:23.680 fake news. That's who you thought you had to be. That's who you 87 00:07:23.839 --> 00:07:26.199 decided to be because you thought you had to do that in order to get 88 00:07:26.199 --> 00:07:29.560 love. That's not who you actually are. It's a role you decided at 89 00:07:29.600 --> 00:07:32.040 age seven, and you've never stepped out of that role, and now you've 90 00:07:32.079 --> 00:07:35.319 manifested a life based on that role. But that's not who you actually are. 91 00:07:36.120 --> 00:07:39.600 That's the role you decided you had to be in order to get love. 92 00:07:39.759 --> 00:07:45.439 And there's a difference. There's a difference. So if you're feeling lost, 93 00:07:46.240 --> 00:07:49.319 yeah, there's a reason for that. It's because maybe you've never actually 94 00:07:49.399 --> 00:07:55.560 been found. Your role is just so outdated that you can't stand it anymore. 95 00:07:55.920 --> 00:07:59.680 The role you created is so uncomfortable because it's so far from who you 96 00:07:59.720 --> 00:08:05.680 tan. We are that your inner being is flipping out. A lot of 97 00:08:05.759 --> 00:08:09.519 us aren't necessarily having an identity crisis because we're losing who we truly are. 98 00:08:09.800 --> 00:08:13.800 It's because we're trying to find who we truly are, because we've not found 99 00:08:13.879 --> 00:08:18.480 it thus yet, and the role we thought we had to be it's not 100 00:08:18.519 --> 00:08:24.040 gonna work forever. When are we most likely to go through an ego death 101 00:08:24.199 --> 00:08:28.120 a death of who we think we are? Anytime we go through a transition, 102 00:08:28.279 --> 00:08:31.279 really, we get fired from a job, we have to make ends 103 00:08:31.279 --> 00:08:35.000 meet in a new way, we go off to college, we graduate eighth 104 00:08:35.080 --> 00:08:39.279 grade, we go to a new school. Any time we change our environment 105 00:08:39.519 --> 00:08:46.200 or we're embarking on this new season of our life. A lot of us 106 00:08:46.320 --> 00:08:50.960 go through this ego death because all of those external triggers that reminded us of 107 00:08:52.000 --> 00:08:56.600 who we are at our freshman teachers, hallways, friends, those things are 108 00:08:56.639 --> 00:09:01.519 no longer there. So if all of the triggers that remind us who we 109 00:09:01.600 --> 00:09:09.840 are are no longer there, we begin to do this really human thing where 110 00:09:09.879 --> 00:09:15.440 we start to question. We start to question who am I without those external 111 00:09:15.480 --> 00:09:22.440 triggers? Who am I without those friends or that school, or that career 112 00:09:22.799 --> 00:09:28.200 or that hobby or that sport. Who am I without that thing? A 113 00:09:28.240 --> 00:09:31.679 lot of athletes, if any of them get injured or they just don't get 114 00:09:31.720 --> 00:09:37.320 renewed with their contract, they go through this ego death because they've been known 115 00:09:37.759 --> 00:09:41.480 this whole entire time for being this athlete. Now that they don't have that 116 00:09:41.559 --> 00:09:46.000 attached to their name, they don't know who they are anymore. So think 117 00:09:46.039 --> 00:09:50.240 about your own life and maybe you're going through an ego death right now, 118 00:09:50.360 --> 00:09:54.320 or maybe you're just wanting to have a glow up of your identity. You're 119 00:09:54.360 --> 00:10:00.480 wanting to shift your self concept. Either way, when we're w wanting to 120 00:10:01.039 --> 00:10:05.320 either land on an identity or create a new one, we have to let 121 00:10:05.480 --> 00:10:11.519 ego death happen. We have to let the old version of ourselves rest in 122 00:10:13.039 --> 00:10:16.200 peace, because that new version, that new life that we want, it's 123 00:10:16.279 --> 00:10:20.159 gonna cost us our old one. If we want a new life, we 124 00:10:20.279 --> 00:10:24.440 have to transition how we're thinking, how we're feeling, how we're being, 125 00:10:24.480 --> 00:10:31.200 how we're behaving, our hobbies, our actions, our intentions, everything. 126 00:10:31.360 --> 00:10:35.200 So, if you're going through an ego death right now, what are five 127 00:10:35.279 --> 00:10:41.919 steps you can take to find yourself again? Maybe find an even better version 128 00:10:41.919 --> 00:10:45.639 of you, or if you're wanting to shift who you are, how can 129 00:10:45.679 --> 00:10:52.840 you do that? Step one, you need to let yourself be lost. 130 00:10:52.559 --> 00:10:58.639 I know it feels itchy. It feels like you are in this itchy, 131 00:10:58.200 --> 00:11:03.559 sticky sweater and you just want to rip this sweater off, and it's driving 132 00:11:03.600 --> 00:11:07.600 you crazy because it is so uncomfortable not to know. You know who wants 133 00:11:07.639 --> 00:11:13.559 to know? It's your ego. The reason it's hard to find ourselves again 134 00:11:13.720 --> 00:11:18.440 is because our ego craves familiarity. So it's gonna keep trying to go back 135 00:11:18.480 --> 00:11:22.320 to the same friend group who is so mean to us, to the same 136 00:11:22.399 --> 00:11:28.519 school, to the same activities, to the same bad behaviors. Our egos 137 00:11:28.600 --> 00:11:31.360 always gonna try to go back to what it knows because that's where it feels 138 00:11:31.440 --> 00:11:37.519 safe. Let's say you have a relationship and you break up and now you're 139 00:11:37.519 --> 00:11:41.200 having this ego death. What is your ego gonna tell you. It's gonna 140 00:11:41.200 --> 00:11:45.039 tell you to end this pain, just get back with that person. That 141 00:11:45.120 --> 00:11:48.639 person might be abusive, they might be terrible for you, but your ego 142 00:11:48.759 --> 00:11:56.720 thinks it rather be in a dangerous situation that it can predict than a healthy, 143 00:11:56.919 --> 00:12:03.919 safe situation that it cannot predict because your ego is obsessed with human survival. 144 00:12:03.480 --> 00:12:07.840 So a lot of the time we're trying to figure out things so fast. 145 00:12:07.840 --> 00:12:09.960 We're trying to figure out who am I, what should I do? 146 00:12:11.320 --> 00:12:16.799 That's your ego trying to rush you when your spirit needs to slow down. 147 00:12:16.600 --> 00:12:22.000 There's a reason you don't have all the dots connected just yet. Your spirits, 148 00:12:22.360 --> 00:12:31.000 the energies, are still downloading. Everything manifests and downloads spiritually and energetically 149 00:12:31.080 --> 00:12:35.440 first before it can physically manifest. Before we have that billion dollar business, 150 00:12:35.480 --> 00:12:41.879 we have the billion dollar business idea, before we manifest a new invention. 151 00:12:41.080 --> 00:12:46.840 We're thinking of the new invention before something is physically on planet Earth. It's 152 00:12:46.919 --> 00:12:52.639 first in energy, then it becomes an idea, then it becomes a physical 153 00:12:52.759 --> 00:12:56.279 thing. In this world. We are going to feel like there is pressure 154 00:12:56.279 --> 00:13:00.480 on us. We're gonna feel like there's a timer on us. Let it 155 00:13:00.799 --> 00:13:05.360 go, because what you need right now isn't to figure out all the answers. 156 00:13:07.039 --> 00:13:11.600 You need time. If no one has told you, let me tell 157 00:13:11.639 --> 00:13:16.600 you. It's okay to feel lost. It's okay to feel like you don't 158 00:13:16.600 --> 00:13:22.200 know who you are. It's okay to be in the inn between. It's 159 00:13:22.240 --> 00:13:28.799 okay to not have all of the answers. Your body needs to spiritually energetically 160 00:13:28.480 --> 00:13:35.360 become grounded before you download everything and have it come physically in your reality. 161 00:13:35.559 --> 00:13:41.600 When I was feeling especially lost going through my own quarter life crisis, I 162 00:13:41.639 --> 00:13:46.960 sat down and I did what I always do when I'm feeling lost. I 163 00:13:46.120 --> 00:13:52.840 called on my spirit guides and I said, guys, what's what's the tea? 164 00:13:52.879 --> 00:13:56.759 What's going on? And this is what they told me about being lost, 165 00:13:56.919 --> 00:14:01.440 this is what I channeled. I tell you to not even just hear 166 00:14:01.519 --> 00:14:03.440 me, but really listen to what I'm saying. Close your eyes if you 167 00:14:03.519 --> 00:14:09.039 can. You're not lost. You're just ready for the next big thing. 168 00:14:09.440 --> 00:14:13.879 And there's a difference. You're not lost. Your soul is just evolving. 169 00:14:13.399 --> 00:14:18.759 You're not lost. Your vibration is changing and wanting differently. You're not lost. 170 00:14:18.919 --> 00:14:22.919 You're growing. You're not lost. You're discovering new parts of yourself. 171 00:14:24.279 --> 00:14:28.960 You're not lost. You're realizing the old is no longer in vibrational alignment with 172 00:14:28.120 --> 00:14:35.600 you. You're not lost, but being found. Right now, your energy 173 00:14:35.679 --> 00:14:41.120 is changing in ways you probably don't even know about. The universe is rearranging 174 00:14:41.240 --> 00:14:46.039 your world in ways you don't even know about. If you've ever seen in 175 00:14:46.080 --> 00:14:50.559 a captain's room a boat's radar, a boat's radar will scan fifty feet one 176 00:14:50.639 --> 00:14:54.799 hundred feet two hundred feet around the boat to make sure that the boat's not 177 00:14:54.919 --> 00:15:01.360 going to hit into anything. The universe works the same way. The universe 178 00:15:01.440 --> 00:15:05.279 has a radar, and even if something isn't on our radar, even if 179 00:15:05.320 --> 00:15:11.159 we can't see something directly in our point of view like we are the captain, 180 00:15:11.200 --> 00:15:16.240 the captain can't see everything around the boat in every single direction. We 181 00:15:16.279 --> 00:15:20.480 can't see everything in our own life and around our own life in every single 182 00:15:20.519 --> 00:15:22.759 direction. We have a radar, though. Just like a boat has a 183 00:15:22.840 --> 00:15:28.360 radar, the universe is our radar, and this universe is looking for all 184 00:15:28.440 --> 00:15:33.440 possible opportunities for you. It's always scanning, it's always scanning, it's always 185 00:15:33.519 --> 00:15:39.600 rearranging to be in virational alignment with you. Just because you don't understand what's 186 00:15:39.639 --> 00:15:43.480 going on right now, just because you can't see how everything's going to unfold, 187 00:15:43.879 --> 00:15:48.159 doesn't mean it's not on the universe's radar. The universe has an understanding 188 00:15:48.200 --> 00:15:54.879 that is beyond yours because we are stuck with this limited, limited mind. 189 00:15:54.320 --> 00:16:00.279 The universe has this huge radar that has so much more information. So just 190 00:16:00.399 --> 00:16:03.919 because you don't know who you are right now, you don't know why everything's 191 00:16:03.960 --> 00:16:08.240 happening, doesn't mean the universe is in the dark. No, it's on 192 00:16:08.279 --> 00:16:17.279 the universe's radar, even if it's not on yours. So the first step 193 00:16:17.320 --> 00:16:25.799 of finding yourself again is actually relaxing into letting yourself be lost, letting yourself 194 00:16:26.120 --> 00:16:33.399 question, wonder, think, feel, lean into it. Why because the 195 00:16:33.519 --> 00:16:40.159 universe is rearranging things for you, because your body is downloading your new vibrational 196 00:16:40.320 --> 00:16:44.960 energy. And just because you don't know that yet doesn't mean it's not happening. 197 00:16:45.320 --> 00:16:51.159 It means it's outside your conscious awareness. Let's get to step two. 198 00:16:52.200 --> 00:16:57.320 Step two to finding yourself again or cultivating a new concept to self concept is 199 00:16:57.399 --> 00:17:03.559 experimenting with new ways of being. If you don't want to exist in your 200 00:17:03.600 --> 00:17:08.519 current form, you have to engage with new ways of being, opening up 201 00:17:08.599 --> 00:17:15.839 your mind and saying hmm, it's literally the definition of insanity for me to 202 00:17:15.920 --> 00:17:18.599 keep doing the same thing and expecting different results. If I want a different 203 00:17:18.599 --> 00:17:22.559 result, if I want a different reality, if I want a different identity, 204 00:17:22.640 --> 00:17:27.599 I have to start doing new things. Your personal reality becomes your personality. 205 00:17:29.759 --> 00:17:33.359 What should you be experimenting with? Is the question? I would like 206 00:17:33.440 --> 00:17:38.240 to extend this question to you. What would you do every day if money 207 00:17:38.279 --> 00:17:44.880 and time didn't matter. That's the thing you need to start doing or continuously 208 00:17:44.960 --> 00:17:48.799 doing, but daily. What would you do if time didn't matter, if 209 00:17:48.839 --> 00:17:52.960 money didn't matter? Would you create videos? Would you write a book? 210 00:17:53.319 --> 00:17:57.960 Would you garden? What would you do? And you need to start doing 211 00:17:57.960 --> 00:18:06.480 this every day because I truly believe that your passions, what you love to 212 00:18:06.559 --> 00:18:11.599 do, that's tightly, tightly wound up with your purpose. If you want 213 00:18:11.599 --> 00:18:14.279 to find out with your what your purpose is, if you want to find 214 00:18:14.279 --> 00:18:17.799 out who you are, you gotta start doing things that make you feel like 215 00:18:17.880 --> 00:18:22.039 you, that make you feel good. And maybe right now you're saying CC, 216 00:18:22.240 --> 00:18:26.599 well, I don't know what feels like me. That's okay, But 217 00:18:26.680 --> 00:18:29.960 you do know what feels good, and you do know it doesn't feel good, 218 00:18:30.400 --> 00:18:33.960 so simply follow your bliss. Another way to find out what should I 219 00:18:34.039 --> 00:18:38.200 be experimenting with? Is think about what did I love to do when I 220 00:18:38.240 --> 00:18:42.000 was younger? Again, time and money didn't matter. What did I love 221 00:18:42.039 --> 00:18:45.599 to do? Did I love to ride horses? Did I love gymnastics? 222 00:18:45.640 --> 00:18:51.319 Did I love dance? And start doing those things again. So many of 223 00:18:51.400 --> 00:18:57.599 us have just lost touch with our authentic frequency because we've had to join the 224 00:18:57.680 --> 00:19:02.519 corporate world. We've been in college. We're so seduced by the three D 225 00:19:02.720 --> 00:19:07.519 world. We've forgotten us, We've forgotten ourselves. Get back in touch with 226 00:19:07.680 --> 00:19:11.799 what you used to like to do. I would also love if you could 227 00:19:11.799 --> 00:19:15.920 experiment with things that you think you might like to do. When I went 228 00:19:15.960 --> 00:19:21.440 through a breakup, I had literally no identity besides being that of a girlfriend. 229 00:19:21.839 --> 00:19:25.079 So when I went through a breakup, I now had all this time. 230 00:19:25.400 --> 00:19:27.880 I had no identity, and I had no idea what to do with 231 00:19:27.920 --> 00:19:32.799 myself. So I asked myself, well, what did I used to love 232 00:19:32.839 --> 00:19:37.200 to do. I used to make so much content on iMovie when I was 233 00:19:37.240 --> 00:19:41.079 little. So I got on TikTok. I started to make content again. 234 00:19:41.359 --> 00:19:48.160 I started to have fun with different mediums. I also asked myself, what 235 00:19:48.200 --> 00:19:52.119 do I think I might like to do? And that was yoga. And 236 00:19:52.160 --> 00:19:56.400 now I found a new passion of yoga, and I found my purpose through 237 00:19:56.440 --> 00:19:59.839 TikTok. That led me to becoming a certified life coach, which led to 238 00:19:59.880 --> 00:20:03.920 me starting a podcast, which led to me growing my following, which led 239 00:20:03.960 --> 00:20:08.160 to me getting this book deal. It leads to things. That's why I'm 240 00:20:08.200 --> 00:20:12.559 saying, even if something isn't on your radar, it doesn't mean it's not 241 00:20:12.599 --> 00:20:17.480 on the univers's radar. Just because you're the captain on the boat and you 242 00:20:17.519 --> 00:20:22.200 can't see that iceberg that's fifty feet to the left of you doesn't mean it's 243 00:20:22.240 --> 00:20:26.000 not there. It's just not on your radar, but the ship's radar will 244 00:20:26.000 --> 00:20:33.440 definitely catch that. I didn't understand why I needed to lose my older identity, 245 00:20:33.559 --> 00:20:37.799 but through experimenting with myself, I found a new way of being. 246 00:20:37.880 --> 00:20:41.039 I found my purpose. I found my career, I found my mission. 247 00:20:41.519 --> 00:20:48.279 I found a better relationship with the same person. So how can you start 248 00:20:48.880 --> 00:20:52.200 trying new things? Can you sign up for a new class? Can you 249 00:20:52.319 --> 00:20:57.400 join a book club? Something I started to do was read, simply read. 250 00:20:59.079 --> 00:21:03.400 I read new forms of content, self help books. I read so 251 00:21:03.680 --> 00:21:07.240 much of them of a huge stack in my room. Now I thought I 252 00:21:07.359 --> 00:21:11.119 hated reading. Turns out I just hated the material. I was reading, 253 00:21:11.160 --> 00:21:18.279 but I love to read, So we have to experiment with new ways of 254 00:21:18.400 --> 00:21:22.839 being, try new things that maybe will like. I also tried pottery. 255 00:21:23.680 --> 00:21:27.519 Turns out I do not like pottery. Not a fan. Not a fan, 256 00:21:27.960 --> 00:21:30.480 But I never would have known that if I didn't try it, I 257 00:21:30.519 --> 00:21:34.839 never would have become this yogi. If I didn't try it. You owe 258 00:21:34.839 --> 00:21:40.839 it to yourself to take healthy risks and go out there and do the things 259 00:21:40.880 --> 00:21:44.559 you used to love to do, and try new things that you've never tried 260 00:21:44.599 --> 00:21:48.519 before. Think about your favorite foods. You would never have known you loved 261 00:21:48.559 --> 00:21:53.599 that food if you never tried it. We have to experiment with new ways 262 00:21:53.599 --> 00:21:57.319 of being, hanging out with new people. When I was going through this 263 00:21:57.400 --> 00:22:00.559 identity shift, I reached out to people and they reached out to me. 264 00:22:00.920 --> 00:22:04.160 People I wasn't really hanging out with in high school. People I didn't really 265 00:22:04.200 --> 00:22:07.599 know, but I knew. Okay. If I want to make new friendships 266 00:22:07.680 --> 00:22:11.119 as this new self, I have to start hanging out with different people. 267 00:22:11.200 --> 00:22:17.359 I need to experiment with different energies. Another thing I want to do, 268 00:22:17.400 --> 00:22:22.200 which is still part of number two, is change up your environment. Like 269 00:22:22.240 --> 00:22:26.240 I said before, when someone goes from home to college, or to a 270 00:22:26.319 --> 00:22:33.599 new school. New environments, even just a vacation can trigger new energetic parts 271 00:22:33.640 --> 00:22:38.240 of yourself. Our environments, the environments we know that we exist within daily, 272 00:22:38.720 --> 00:22:44.319 have all these little triggers that retrigger us into our old way of being. 273 00:22:44.759 --> 00:22:48.720 Our environments, our teachers, our parents, our siblings, they all 274 00:22:48.759 --> 00:22:56.440 have certain triggers that trigger us into reremembering who we used to be. If 275 00:22:56.480 --> 00:23:00.680 we want to be a new person, just changing up your environment can help 276 00:23:00.720 --> 00:23:06.839 you find yourself and shift who you've been. Going to this local harbor that 277 00:23:06.880 --> 00:23:10.880 I go to all the time, that was a new environment I never went 278 00:23:10.960 --> 00:23:15.640 to prior. In this new environment, it allowed me to activate different parts 279 00:23:15.680 --> 00:23:18.079 of myself. I would go there to journal, things I would never do 280 00:23:18.200 --> 00:23:22.599 before. I would go there to meditate, something I would never do before. 281 00:23:22.759 --> 00:23:26.160 I would go there to just talk to my angels. I would go 282 00:23:26.200 --> 00:23:30.000 there to take a walk, all these things I wasn't doing before, and 283 00:23:30.079 --> 00:23:34.319 it allowed me space to step into a new identity. It gave me room 284 00:23:34.519 --> 00:23:41.640 to be someone else, to be someone new. So if you can try 285 00:23:41.880 --> 00:23:45.759 eating in a new environment, or going to a new library, a new 286 00:23:45.799 --> 00:23:48.759 park, a new trail, a new restaurant, a new bar, even, 287 00:23:48.960 --> 00:23:55.480 just try to shift up your environment so those old triggers won't trigger you 288 00:23:55.599 --> 00:24:00.480 back into older ways of being. The third thing that you can do to 289 00:24:00.599 --> 00:24:04.480 find yourself is ask your future self or your angels, what do I need 290 00:24:04.559 --> 00:24:11.559 to know right now? You can ask your future self questions any time of 291 00:24:11.640 --> 00:24:15.559 the day. Your future self exists just like your past self exists, because 292 00:24:15.599 --> 00:24:22.039 all time exists equally in the quantum field. If you're not sure how to 293 00:24:22.079 --> 00:24:26.799 get to the next level or activate your next version of yourself, take five 294 00:24:26.880 --> 00:24:30.920 to ten minutes, close your eyes and say, futu yourself, what do 295 00:24:30.960 --> 00:24:34.920 I need to know right now in order to activate this next phase in my 296 00:24:36.039 --> 00:24:38.880 life? What do I need to do right now to get into contact with 297 00:24:38.920 --> 00:24:45.279 the next version of myself? Give me all of the details. Just ask 298 00:24:45.319 --> 00:24:51.160 your future self and don't be so conclusive of how this is going to come 299 00:24:51.200 --> 00:24:53.519 through. It might come through as a song lyric, or an image or 300 00:24:53.559 --> 00:24:59.400 a metaphor, or just straight up information, but just be open minded to 301 00:24:59.440 --> 00:25:03.480 how the will come through. You can also ask your spirit guides, spirit 302 00:25:03.480 --> 00:25:08.960 guides of highest vibration, healing, spirit guides, what can I do to 303 00:25:10.079 --> 00:25:12.839 ease my anxiety right now? What can I do to feel more comfortable in 304 00:25:12.880 --> 00:25:18.240 my own skin right now? I recommend putting on a calming frequency and doing 305 00:25:18.240 --> 00:25:22.599 this in nature for the best results. I also recommend keeping a notebook handy 306 00:25:22.720 --> 00:25:27.319 by you so that you can jot down the information if you want more details 307 00:25:27.359 --> 00:25:33.039 on how to contact your spirit guides. I have many episodes. They're all 308 00:25:33.079 --> 00:25:37.160 always in October. That's usually when we talk about spirit guides. For more 309 00:25:37.200 --> 00:25:41.640 information on that, just go through the podcast number four, Get Comfortable with 310 00:25:41.720 --> 00:25:47.839 the Uncomfortable. This brings us back to your ego. Your ego, like 311 00:25:47.880 --> 00:25:51.599 I said before, is going to try to pull you back to that relationship 312 00:25:51.640 --> 00:25:53.839 that's not healthy for you, that friend group that's not healthy for you. 313 00:25:55.200 --> 00:25:57.720 The binging is going to try to bring you back there, not because it's 314 00:25:57.799 --> 00:26:03.119 good for you, but because that is what's familiar to your ego. That 315 00:26:03.200 --> 00:26:11.799 is what is familiar to it. You're going to feel a little stressed during 316 00:26:11.880 --> 00:26:15.799 this season. But here's the thing. Our body is going to produce cortisol 317 00:26:15.920 --> 00:26:22.319 adrenaline either way, whether it's excitement or nervousness or stress. So if our 318 00:26:22.480 --> 00:26:26.480 body and our minds can't really tell the difference between what's stress and what's anxiety 319 00:26:26.519 --> 00:26:32.279 and what's excitement, you can decide what it's going to be for you. 320 00:26:32.839 --> 00:26:36.640 What I mean by this is, instead of every time you go on an 321 00:26:36.680 --> 00:26:41.480 interview or first date, instead of telling yourself, oh, this feeling is 322 00:26:41.519 --> 00:26:45.720 anxiety, start telling yourself this feeling is excitement. Because we actually don't know 323 00:26:47.000 --> 00:26:51.400 because it feels the same, we're just labeling it. We're guessing if you're 324 00:26:51.400 --> 00:26:55.279 gonna lie to yourself, lying a way that actually is conducive to your desires. 325 00:26:56.160 --> 00:27:00.160 While you're taking healthy risks during this season and you're making changes in your 326 00:27:00.200 --> 00:27:04.720 life, you're gonna be faced with uncomfortable situations that your ego is not gonna 327 00:27:04.799 --> 00:27:08.599 like because it's gonna say I've never done this before, I want to go 328 00:27:08.839 --> 00:27:15.240 back. If we know that, instead of seeing this uncomfortable feeling as a 329 00:27:15.279 --> 00:27:18.599 red light to stop, I want you to see it as a green light 330 00:27:18.680 --> 00:27:22.160 to keep going again healthy risk. I want you to see this feeling of 331 00:27:22.519 --> 00:27:26.160 I've never done this before, or oh, I'm feeling all weird about it 332 00:27:26.200 --> 00:27:30.400 as a green light to keep going. During this season, if you can 333 00:27:30.440 --> 00:27:34.480 do one new thing every single week, oh, you'll be off to the 334 00:27:34.599 --> 00:27:41.880 races. Put yourself in a position to win. Ask a friend at yoga 335 00:27:41.960 --> 00:27:45.200 who maybe isn't a friend just yet, but someone you would like to be 336 00:27:45.240 --> 00:27:48.480 friends with. Hey, would you ever want to get green juices after or 337 00:27:48.640 --> 00:27:52.279 lunch or just start up a conversation with them? Go out to a new 338 00:27:52.440 --> 00:27:56.039 trail, to a new nature walk, read a new book, listen to 339 00:27:56.079 --> 00:28:00.079 a new podcast, try to do something you've been wanting to make that Etsy 340 00:28:00.160 --> 00:28:06.319 store. Take healthy risk. And when that feeling comes of this is uncomfortable. 341 00:28:06.319 --> 00:28:07.119 I don't want to do this. See it as a green light. 342 00:28:07.720 --> 00:28:11.759 See it as a green light to keep going. Most of us, when 343 00:28:11.759 --> 00:28:14.880 we get this feeling, we're like, no, no, no, no, 344 00:28:15.319 --> 00:28:18.680 I have to stop. This is too uncomfortable. I'm done, and 345 00:28:18.720 --> 00:28:22.799 we stop, and then we miss the blessing. See it as a green 346 00:28:22.920 --> 00:28:29.119 light and keep going. Get used to the uncomfortability, I promise you. 347 00:28:29.599 --> 00:28:32.480 At first, I used to hate this feeling, and now I get so 348 00:28:32.599 --> 00:28:36.200 bored without it. I'm like, oh, there's nothing new in my life. 349 00:28:36.279 --> 00:28:37.720 I feel stagnant. At the end of the day. If we're not 350 00:28:37.839 --> 00:28:45.559 growing, we're dying. So choose your avatar and get going. The fifth 351 00:28:45.680 --> 00:28:53.640 thing you can do to find yourself during this identity crisis ego death. This 352 00:28:53.799 --> 00:29:00.680 is twofold. It's say guess more and change your language. What do I 353 00:29:00.720 --> 00:29:04.039 mean by this? If you want to become someone new, you have to 354 00:29:04.240 --> 00:29:10.799 answer like someone else. I would always catch myself saying no to my friends 355 00:29:10.920 --> 00:29:14.759 asking me to get dinner, to go out, because that's just what my 356 00:29:14.839 --> 00:29:18.480 old self would do. She would rather stay in with her boyfriend, and 357 00:29:18.519 --> 00:29:22.359 she would rather just be in her pajamas or her sweats, and she just 358 00:29:22.559 --> 00:29:26.960 wanted to be like a bear in hibernation. But I knew that if I 359 00:29:27.079 --> 00:29:33.519 wanted to become someone new, I couldn't keep answering like my old self. 360 00:29:33.799 --> 00:29:38.480 So I had to start saying yes more. Now. I know there is 361 00:29:38.519 --> 00:29:42.319 this whole notion of if it's not a hell yes, it's a hell no. 362 00:29:42.720 --> 00:29:47.599 But when you're trying to become a new person, your hell knows, 363 00:29:48.440 --> 00:29:52.960 sometimes you have to override and make them hell yeses because you don't know how 364 00:29:53.000 --> 00:29:57.319 your new version of yourself would answer yet, because you're not them yet. 365 00:29:57.680 --> 00:30:04.200 See what I'm saying, Feel what I'm putting down here instead of me jumping 366 00:30:04.319 --> 00:30:07.880 to my old self's answer and just saying no, I don't want to go 367 00:30:07.920 --> 00:30:11.599 out. No, you know, I'm fine. I'm fine. I said, 368 00:30:11.119 --> 00:30:15.519 what would my future self say? What would the best version of me 369 00:30:15.680 --> 00:30:18.039 say? She would say yes, she would just go and see what happens, 370 00:30:18.079 --> 00:30:22.920 because she knows if she doesn't like it, she can leave. Uber 371 00:30:22.960 --> 00:30:30.160 exists pretty much everywhere. Say yes more, Say yes more. If you're 372 00:30:30.160 --> 00:30:33.359 in a season that you know who you are, maybe then you don't need 373 00:30:33.400 --> 00:30:37.200 to say yes more. If you're trying to find who you are. The 374 00:30:37.359 --> 00:30:42.400 reason I advise you to say yes more is because it opens up more opportunity, 375 00:30:42.680 --> 00:30:47.640 and right now you need opportunity to discover who you are. And one 376 00:30:47.720 --> 00:30:51.559 of the best ways to discover who you are is putting yourself in new situations 377 00:30:51.559 --> 00:30:56.839 with new people, in new environments. That's going to allow you to exist 378 00:30:56.960 --> 00:31:00.559 in new ways, engage in new ways, answer in new ways. So 379 00:31:00.839 --> 00:31:03.920 forget if it's not a hell yes and it's a hell no, and just 380 00:31:04.000 --> 00:31:08.960 say yes more for this season because right now you don't know what your hell 381 00:31:10.079 --> 00:31:12.519 yes is and you don't know what your hell no is because you don't know 382 00:31:12.559 --> 00:31:17.799 who you are right now. So instead of being so locked down, and 383 00:31:17.839 --> 00:31:21.400 this is my hell no, this is my hell yes, experiment, this 384 00:31:21.480 --> 00:31:26.400 is experimental season, this is stranger things, but it's your life. Okay, 385 00:31:26.440 --> 00:31:30.480 we are in that lab. We're cooking something up. Say yes more. 386 00:31:30.720 --> 00:31:36.599 In order to fully bloom into this new version of you, you can't 387 00:31:36.640 --> 00:31:42.079 just be interested. You have to be one hundred percent committed. This means 388 00:31:42.720 --> 00:31:48.319 it's going to be uncomfortable sometimes. But you're not working based on emotion right 389 00:31:48.359 --> 00:31:55.079 now. You're working based on what you value and what you value because you're 390 00:31:55.119 --> 00:31:59.359 a strong person. What you value is finding yourself. What you value is 391 00:31:59.359 --> 00:32:02.720 getting ground. What you value is creating a good life that feels good to 392 00:32:02.799 --> 00:32:07.119 you. Maybe you need to sit down and write a list of five to 393 00:32:07.160 --> 00:32:14.200 ten things that you do value to help yourself understand what your new north star 394 00:32:14.559 --> 00:32:20.480 is. When you're trying to cultivate a new self, your emotions are going 395 00:32:20.559 --> 00:32:23.440 to be all over the place, and emotions are very fleeting, and emotions 396 00:32:23.480 --> 00:32:27.440 are not facts. Feelings are not facts or feelings. They're here and then 397 00:32:27.480 --> 00:32:30.000 they go, they oxidize, they change over. They're all over the place. 398 00:32:30.599 --> 00:32:36.160 So we need to call on our angels and our guides and our future 399 00:32:36.160 --> 00:32:39.559 self to help us. But we also need to prioritize what do I value 400 00:32:39.640 --> 00:32:45.160 right now over my emotions, because a lot of our emotions have more to 401 00:32:45.240 --> 00:32:49.000 do with our past self than they have to do with where we want to 402 00:32:49.039 --> 00:32:52.640 go. When you're becoming this new person, not only do I want you 403 00:32:52.759 --> 00:32:58.759 saying yes more so you can engage with new opportunity. I need you to 404 00:32:58.839 --> 00:33:04.279 be one hundred percent committed to becoming this new version of you based on whatever 405 00:33:04.319 --> 00:33:07.960 you value. Your values won't be the same as mine. They're not supposed 406 00:33:07.000 --> 00:33:12.319 to do with different people. But for example, when I was becoming a 407 00:33:12.359 --> 00:33:15.480 new person, I said, Okay, I don't know anything about me and 408 00:33:15.519 --> 00:33:20.119 I don't know how to cultivate a self, but I do know what I 409 00:33:20.319 --> 00:33:24.880 value. I value health, I value taking care of myself. I value 410 00:33:24.920 --> 00:33:31.079 creating a financial foundation for myself. I value creativity, I value friends, 411 00:33:31.119 --> 00:33:35.920 and I value family. How can I move in ways and say yes to 412 00:33:36.039 --> 00:33:42.079 things that allow me to fill my cup in accordance to these values? And 413 00:33:42.119 --> 00:33:45.319 that's where I'm going to go. Because I don't really know how I feel 414 00:33:45.359 --> 00:33:50.079 about all these different things just yet, but I know I value them. 415 00:33:50.519 --> 00:33:53.720 I don't know exactly how I want my life to look. But your values 416 00:33:53.759 --> 00:34:00.279 can be cornerstones for you to follow and for you to create an outline your 417 00:34:00.319 --> 00:34:06.960 life. On top of saying yes more, on top of clarifying what you 418 00:34:07.160 --> 00:34:10.559 value and building your life from that, on top of making a commitment to 419 00:34:10.639 --> 00:34:15.800 this self, I want you to focus on your language and only claim what 420 00:34:15.960 --> 00:34:21.639 it is you want to be true about your life. No more claiming things 421 00:34:21.679 --> 00:34:27.519 about your old self. I know that we think that self deprecating humor is 422 00:34:27.559 --> 00:34:30.960 the funniest thing, and it is funny sometimes, but I would never use 423 00:34:30.000 --> 00:34:35.119 it on myself. If someone else wants to use that humor on themselves and 424 00:34:35.159 --> 00:34:37.800 it's funny, I'll chuckle, but I'll also say, don't talk bad about 425 00:34:37.800 --> 00:34:43.840 yourself. It's not good because your subconscious mind hears you everything you say, 426 00:34:43.880 --> 00:34:46.679 whether it's a joke or not, your subconscious mind hears you, and it 427 00:34:46.719 --> 00:34:51.679 thinks you're being one hundred percent for real. So if you don't want it 428 00:34:51.719 --> 00:34:54.039 to manifest in your reality, or if you want it to stop being a 429 00:34:54.079 --> 00:34:59.239 part of your identity, stop joking about it, stop claiming it, stop 430 00:34:59.280 --> 00:35:05.840 talking about it. Let it go. Whether I'm joking or being serious or 431 00:35:05.880 --> 00:35:10.119 in any other silly mood. I never say anything negative ever, ever, 432 00:35:10.559 --> 00:35:16.679 ever, No, no, won't do it because my subconscious mind hears that, 433 00:35:17.639 --> 00:35:22.639 receives it, and then manifests it for me, and I don't want 434 00:35:22.679 --> 00:35:28.159 that life. Whatever traits you don't like about yourself, stop claiming them. 435 00:35:28.400 --> 00:35:32.800 Stop claiming them. And the traits you do want to have, start claiming 436 00:35:32.880 --> 00:35:37.960 them. I claim that I'm beautiful, I'm smart, I'm funny, I'm 437 00:35:38.039 --> 00:35:45.800 interesting, I'm talented. I never claim anything that's negative. And whether I'm 438 00:35:45.920 --> 00:35:49.400 joking and I'm saying, oh, I'm just such an icon, it doesn't 439 00:35:49.440 --> 00:35:53.760 matter because that's a positive thing. But I would never joke about something negative 440 00:35:53.760 --> 00:35:58.960 about myself because I don't want to see that manifesting. Even if you think 441 00:35:59.000 --> 00:36:01.119 it's funny, it doesn't out of your subconscious mind doesn't get the joke. 442 00:36:01.159 --> 00:36:07.039 It things. You're being serious. Watch your language again? Why? Because 443 00:36:07.039 --> 00:36:10.519 you can't just be interested in this. You have to be committed to this 444 00:36:10.599 --> 00:36:14.480 new version of you. It's up to you. Who do you want to 445 00:36:14.519 --> 00:36:17.239 commit to? Your past self or your future self. When we live from 446 00:36:17.280 --> 00:36:21.360 our past self, we repeat our past. When we live from our future 447 00:36:21.400 --> 00:36:25.599 self, whoa we're psychic. Suddenly we know exactly what to do, we 448 00:36:25.719 --> 00:36:29.320 know how to show up, We know who we want to be, and 449 00:36:29.360 --> 00:36:32.000 we manifest from our future. We live from our future. We're psychic rather 450 00:36:32.079 --> 00:36:37.800 than repeatedly manifesting be as from our past. You have so much control over 451 00:36:37.880 --> 00:36:43.159 your reality, you just have to reach out and use it. Can't just 452 00:36:43.239 --> 00:36:45.760 know about it. You gotta be about it. You gotta put your action 453 00:36:45.960 --> 00:36:52.320 behind it. So the five steps are leaning into being lost, letting yourself 454 00:36:52.400 --> 00:36:59.360 be lost, experimenting with new things, being in new environments. Three is 455 00:36:59.480 --> 00:37:04.960 asking your future self or your spirit guides. Four is getting comfortable with the 456 00:37:05.119 --> 00:37:08.079 uncomfortable, seeing it as a green light. And five is saying yes to 457 00:37:08.239 --> 00:37:14.920 more and changing your language, being committed to yourself, not just interested, 458 00:37:15.320 --> 00:37:20.119 and only claiming what it is you want to be true about your reality. 459 00:37:20.440 --> 00:37:23.480 As always a sparkle in me. Honors of sparkling you. Thank you so 460 00:37:23.599 --> 00:37:28.519 much for joining me here today. I'm sending you so much love. If 461 00:37:28.519 --> 00:37:31.000 you enjoy this podcast, please post it on social media and be sure to 462 00:37:31.039 --> 00:37:35.519 tag me so I can repost it. 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