WEBVTT 1 00:00:00.360 --> 00:00:11.919 Hello? What' s up? What a welcome pleasure I am Luis Miguel 2 00:00:11.919 --> 00:00:13.720 Salgado. It' s a pleasure and a privilege for me. Today I 3 00:00:13.759 --> 00:00:18.920 am accompanied by an exceptional woman because not only does wonderful work on social networks, 4 00:00:19.199 --> 00:00:23.440 but also helps the human being a great deal. How much we need. 5 00:00:23.719 --> 00:00:27.199 It is a privilege and an honor for me to present Andrea Niño to 6 00:00:27.199 --> 00:00:31.760 you. How are you, Andrea, welcome. Thank you so much for 7 00:00:31.760 --> 00:00:34.119 this invitation. I am very happy and very honored to be with you. 8 00:00:34.799 --> 00:00:39.079 Let' s talk about this weirdo, let' s talk about a lot 9 00:00:39.079 --> 00:00:44.560 of things. Let me, please, introduce Andrea Niño. She is a 10 00:00:44.560 --> 00:00:50.479 psychotherapist, specialist in therapy, systemic, self- esteem and healing of childhood 11 00:00:50.479 --> 00:00:59.280 injury. Believe me, there are many or many adults carrying childhood wounds, 12 00:00:59.439 --> 00:01:03.599 even if we are forty- fifty to ninety years old. It' s 13 00:01:03.680 --> 00:01:08.680 really impressive and the work Andrea does is wonderful. You' ll be welcome 14 00:01:08.719 --> 00:01:30.159 and all of you are fine with it. We begin s n Andrea welcome. 15 00:01:30.480 --> 00:01:33.000 Nice to meet you. Really, as you know here, what a 16 00:01:33.040 --> 00:01:37.040 good question. We' ll ask questions of all kinds. We want to 17 00:01:37.120 --> 00:01:40.000 know how you think? We want to know how you think. Obviously, 18 00:01:40.040 --> 00:01:42.560 there will be questions that do not carry an order. No, but the 19 00:01:42.640 --> 00:01:48.000 idea is to have a good time, but to learn, but to know, 20 00:01:49.319 --> 00:01:52.319 but to positively impact people. And before I start, I love asking 21 00:01:52.359 --> 00:01:57.599 this question. It' s like getting out of when you start a football 22 00:01:57.680 --> 00:02:00.680 or tennis game not, regardless of everything you' ve studied, what you 23 00:02:00.760 --> 00:02:05.959 ' ve prepared, all the master' s degrees, courses, workshops, 24 00:02:07.159 --> 00:02:10.800 don' t tell me by taking all these things away. Who' s 25 00:02:10.919 --> 00:02:15.560 Andrea Niño. Welcome. Thank you, Luis, my good one. This 26 00:02:15.599 --> 00:02:23.439 is a very deep question, which goes beyond what we can all think, 27 00:02:23.240 --> 00:02:30.560 and I think that depends on the moment of life where we meet. I 28 00:02:30.639 --> 00:02:32.639 don' t like it. I don' t like labels in general, 29 00:02:34.159 --> 00:02:39.400 neither in therapy nor in general life. So I think we' re what 30 00:02:39.919 --> 00:02:44.919 we' re forming of ourselves every moment, every day, and that' 31 00:02:44.960 --> 00:02:49.479 s a wonderful thing, because every day we have as that chance of that 32 00:02:49.960 --> 00:02:53.680 super power to choose who we want to be. So, today I am 33 00:02:54.319 --> 00:02:59.560 defining myself at every moment and that is what I always invite to the communion 34 00:02:59.599 --> 00:03:04.680 that we have built, that we do not define ourselves, because that limits 35 00:03:04.680 --> 00:03:07.479 us. So who I am, I can do whatever I want, whenever 36 00:03:07.479 --> 00:03:12.759 I want, when I want to, and I have that superpower, so, 37 00:03:12.960 --> 00:03:16.680 beyond the definitions that I feel limit us a lot, that we are 38 00:03:16.680 --> 00:03:22.800 infinite. Okay, hey, that superpower. Sounds a lot to me about 39 00:03:22.840 --> 00:03:28.919 superheroes. Not that all superheroes, if you notice, have those superpowers that 40 00:03:28.960 --> 00:03:31.960 we often crave as a little boy. No. However, we are growing 41 00:03:32.000 --> 00:03:38.400 up and we understand the superheroes and we are seeing that they are people with 42 00:03:38.400 --> 00:03:40.240 deep wounds. If there' s no Batman who lost his mom and dad, 43 00:03:40.360 --> 00:03:44.759 he' s spider Man, he doesn' t have dads and there 44 00:03:44.759 --> 00:03:46.800 ' s the grandmother who takes care of him and then he dies. And 45 00:03:46.840 --> 00:03:55.319 there' s a lot of superheroes not that obviously are perfect, but they 46 00:03:55.319 --> 00:04:00.840 ' re really cracked inside. I want to ask you at what point in 47 00:04:00.000 --> 00:04:03.400 your life you had this enlightenment to say. I' m going to study 48 00:04:03.400 --> 00:04:08.840 this. I' m going to study this because I don' t want 49 00:04:09.159 --> 00:04:11.000 to be a firefighter or I don' t want to be an accountant, 50 00:04:11.000 --> 00:04:13.960 less a lawyer. At what point this woke up in me. Well, 51 00:04:13.960 --> 00:04:17.000 no one knows that my community, because I' ve never touched on that 52 00:04:17.079 --> 00:04:23.319 subject. I studied psychology already large. I studied first. Well, I 53 00:04:23.360 --> 00:04:28.600 ' m in medicine first. I didn' t finish, I did just 54 00:04:28.680 --> 00:04:30.879 two semesters and then I' m marketing. I didn' t graduate either. 55 00:04:32.199 --> 00:04:36.720 Then I get pregnant with my oldest son. I married my oldest son 56 00:04:36.800 --> 00:04:42.480 ' s dad and we had a family, I have my second son and 57 00:04:42.560 --> 00:04:47.800 after there we had company, we had clothing shoe companies. We drove from 58 00:04:47.879 --> 00:04:51.680 the United States to Colombia, we had a factory, we had warehouses. 59 00:04:51.720 --> 00:04:57.839 Anyway, after I attend therapy and fall in love with how that can transform 60 00:04:57.839 --> 00:05:03.959 trans life the way we see our past experiences, re- meaning many things. 61 00:05:04.839 --> 00:05:10.199 I fall in love with that, I start to read, I start 62 00:05:10.240 --> 00:05:15.920 to nourish myself empirically and after that, of being a mom, of not 63 00:05:15.959 --> 00:05:19.600 having finished two previous careers, I enter psychology in a formal way. Hey 64 00:05:19.759 --> 00:05:26.399 it' s super interesting, because obviously you talk to us then that one 65 00:05:26.519 --> 00:05:30.439 can change, that one is constantly changing. You open up that possibility of 66 00:05:30.839 --> 00:05:34.319 change, because many times we think and I don' t know if it 67 00:05:34.319 --> 00:05:38.639 happens to you or it happens to you, or it happens to them in 68 00:05:38.720 --> 00:05:40.360 Colombia, but here, in Mexico, Mexican culture is a lot to see. 69 00:05:40.920 --> 00:05:47.720 Study finishes a career. After that, you get married you have kids 70 00:05:47.839 --> 00:05:51.720 and you' re happy forever more or less. So, of course, 71 00:05:51.839 --> 00:05:57.319 times have changed and today this whole scheme has been broken and we have been 72 00:05:57.360 --> 00:06:03.480 involved in many issues, obviously, to break that bubble. You open this 73 00:06:03.600 --> 00:06:09.560 possibility to us. When I say hey I' m studying something else and 74 00:06:09.560 --> 00:06:11.439 I' m getting ready, regardless of whether I have a business. You 75 00:06:11.480 --> 00:06:14.120 would have stayed in the business and we won' t be talking. For 76 00:06:14.120 --> 00:06:19.759 example, now, right now, your specialty is to find that childhood wound 77 00:06:19.800 --> 00:06:27.399 and start healing it. Why it takes us so much work Andrea to heal 78 00:06:27.439 --> 00:06:32.639 this kind of thing, that is, one would think that as it grows, 79 00:06:32.639 --> 00:06:34.959 it heals. But it' s not like that. True, what 80 00:06:34.959 --> 00:06:39.759 happens is that from the zero to the seven years the basis of what is 81 00:06:39.800 --> 00:06:44.319 going to be our personality structure and the way we see life is built. 82 00:06:45.439 --> 00:06:48.800 Yes, it' s like and we chase ourselves and others. So, 83 00:06:49.120 --> 00:06:54.319 from the zero to the seven years all traumas, limiting beliefs and many very 84 00:06:54.439 --> 00:07:01.040 nice things originate, but also, because we need to solve. And from 85 00:07:01.120 --> 00:07:06.199 zero to seven years old, neural connections are created that are going to be 86 00:07:06.240 --> 00:07:12.839 the basis of our life. And when we don' t do the work 87 00:07:12.839 --> 00:07:15.959 of re- signifying that, because we have thirty what you said in the 88 00:07:15.959 --> 00:07:21.000 beginning, forty fifty sixty years, but we continue to function with those neural 89 00:07:21.040 --> 00:07:24.800 connections that were created from zero to seven. So our perception, actually, 90 00:07:25.120 --> 00:07:30.279 is a childish perception that originated with the tools and rationing capabilities that we had 91 00:07:30.319 --> 00:07:36.079 from zero to seven. And many people don' t mean that and go 92 00:07:36.199 --> 00:07:41.600 through life trying to be adults, functional, trying to be a couple, 93 00:07:41.759 --> 00:07:48.079 trying to be entrepreneurs or professionals, mom parents, with the mental and emotional 94 00:07:48.800 --> 00:07:53.959 structure from which it was built from zero to seven. That' s super 95 00:07:53.959 --> 00:07:58.040 bad, Wow sounds, really bad. It is because, of course, 96 00:07:59.000 --> 00:08:03.439 it is good. How many couples are thundered, failed just because they are 97 00:08:03.480 --> 00:08:11.279 two young children fighting fractures, not or how many or how many adults with 98 00:08:11.639 --> 00:08:16.120 children and educate children according to their fractures and stories, but not only that. 99 00:08:18.720 --> 00:08:26.959 How many people aren' t in a broken workplace and trying to pull 100 00:08:26.079 --> 00:08:31.279 off an impressive production. Now, in this sense, I will love to 101 00:08:31.920 --> 00:08:33.879 ask you how it is that you can detect. I understand it' s 102 00:08:33.960 --> 00:08:39.200 through therapy, but how can you detect that you say here there' s 103 00:08:39.240 --> 00:08:43.480 something, that there' s something, and what' s the reaction of 104 00:08:43.559 --> 00:08:46.080 your patients who say oh don' t come back again to the seven years 105 00:08:46.080 --> 00:08:50.039 you' re lax. Not how that works well, each case is special, 106 00:08:50.240 --> 00:08:56.799 yes, but basically more than coming back and what gives us the first 107 00:08:56.960 --> 00:09:01.559 clue is the results. What results it has and all results are quantifiable. 108 00:09:01.759 --> 00:09:07.679 What results you have in five main aspects of your life. Relationships that are 109 00:09:07.720 --> 00:09:13.039 not just couples, but all relationships. Yeah, if they' re good, 110 00:09:13.600 --> 00:09:16.919 those results, well okay, but they' re usually not good. 111 00:09:16.960 --> 00:09:20.279 And that' s why people go to therapy the relationship with themselves. Yes, 112 00:09:22.120 --> 00:09:31.159 how is your relationship with yourself patterns of thought, of feeling. Then 113 00:09:31.320 --> 00:09:35.720 how I feel. If I feel bad, it' s because I' 114 00:09:35.840 --> 00:09:39.440 m not relating well to the thoughts I' m having and that generates me, 115 00:09:41.519 --> 00:09:45.240 well, a lot of discomfort my health. People who have psychopathologies or 116 00:09:45.320 --> 00:09:50.519 disorders get more sick. That is a reality and science, because it has 117 00:09:50.840 --> 00:09:56.919 already been confirmed by the economy. How is my ability to serve the other. 118 00:09:58.000 --> 00:10:03.519 How I relate to service to others, and that will be reflected in 119 00:10:03.720 --> 00:10:09.440 economic results. Yes, and so, on a transcendental or spiritual level, 120 00:10:11.080 --> 00:10:16.159 how I perceive my existence on this plane, on this world. So, 121 00:10:16.399 --> 00:10:22.519 based on those five results, we can identify whether there' s anything to 122 00:10:22.519 --> 00:10:26.480 solve or not. Now, obviously, we' re all used to it 123 00:10:26.519 --> 00:10:30.720 and I think that' s a very bad practice of the human being and 124 00:10:30.759 --> 00:10:37.480 I might understand it as a defense mechanism of starting to occupy masks to the 125 00:10:37.559 --> 00:10:39.360 simple, plain question of how you' re doing well, no, how 126 00:10:39.360 --> 00:10:41.120 you' re doing well. And the truth is, we' re not 127 00:10:41.120 --> 00:10:43.679 doing well. And the truth is, we' re not okay. No. 128 00:10:43.720 --> 00:10:46.000 But we always say how you' re doing, cool, no. 129 00:10:46.120 --> 00:10:52.679 Everything is walking on this subject that I become certain, are certain taboos or 130 00:10:52.759 --> 00:10:58.679 certain issues, for example. Now it is very fashionable these clichés of loose 131 00:10:58.039 --> 00:11:03.519 flow and this type of clichés we are rooting them, we make them ours. 132 00:11:03.679 --> 00:11:07.480 And then those clichés are very dangerous because, well, you can' 133 00:11:07.559 --> 00:11:11.000 t just let your partner go in life, no more because they fought or 134 00:11:11.519 --> 00:11:15.840 because he got up and dressed him up. Not a thing so you tell 135 00:11:15.840 --> 00:11:22.279 her this as how you can you in therapy, like cushion that like what 136 00:11:22.399 --> 00:11:26.679 you tell them, obviously, without going into very specific cases, but some 137 00:11:26.759 --> 00:11:31.799 tool for her to see wait and take off those masks. Let' s 138 00:11:31.919 --> 00:11:35.440 not talk about you to you. Every case is very punctual. Yes, 139 00:11:35.559 --> 00:11:39.840 each case is specific and the handling given to it of the truth given to 140 00:11:39.879 --> 00:11:45.399 it, as it is dependent on the requirements of that case, but at 141 00:11:45.480 --> 00:11:50.320 a very general level it is like the external is actually only showing us something 142 00:11:50.399 --> 00:11:54.279 that we must solve internally. I always give my patients the example of when 143 00:11:54.320 --> 00:12:03.399 we print something on a sheet and a word goes wrong and I delete the 144 00:12:03.559 --> 00:12:07.480 sheet and it' s choneo and everything. But that' s actually the 145 00:12:07.519 --> 00:12:11.720 result of what' s written in World. Then let' s change the 146 00:12:13.039 --> 00:12:16.960 World, because outside is just the result of what' s inside to be 147 00:12:16.960 --> 00:12:22.200 solved. Then always look inside. And what you said about couples going loose. 148 00:12:22.200 --> 00:12:26.879 If you release a couple, because yes, you choose to end a 149 00:12:26.919 --> 00:12:31.720 relationship, but you don' t do the inner work, the next couple 150 00:12:31.759 --> 00:12:37.399 is going to be equal or worse and the dynamics and the situation is going 151 00:12:37.480 --> 00:12:43.639 to be exactly the same, because you haven' t solved it in and 152 00:12:43.039 --> 00:12:46.600 never the issue is that it' s the other one, or it' 153 00:12:46.840 --> 00:12:50.000 s my job, or it' s my boss, or it' s 154 00:12:50.000 --> 00:12:50.000 the President, or it' s a system, but it' s something 155 00:12:50.000 --> 00:12:54.519 I have to solve inside. And my external results are a reflection of that 156 00:12:54.600 --> 00:12:58.600 internal situation. You only take care of what you truly love, I see 157 00:12:58.759 --> 00:13:05.600 it in an Instagram post. And why don' t we take care of 158 00:13:05.600 --> 00:13:07.799 ourselves. Why don' t we love each other. It' s just 159 00:13:07.879 --> 00:13:11.240 that he' s super tough. That' s not true, it' 160 00:13:11.279 --> 00:13:15.440 s super rough and we can' t love what we don' t know. 161 00:13:15.960 --> 00:13:22.279 And we usually don' t invest time, energy, tools, resources 162 00:13:22.279 --> 00:13:28.159 to know each other, because no one taught us. No one taught us 163 00:13:28.200 --> 00:13:33.600 to know us, We were taught to obey, to fulfill a stereotype, 164 00:13:33.120 --> 00:13:37.600 the duty to be functional, but no one taught us. What' s 165 00:13:37.960 --> 00:13:43.240 important to know about me a few days ago was instagram. You know what 166 00:13:43.320 --> 00:13:46.720 gives you pleasure, what' s basic, what' s not very profound 167 00:13:46.879 --> 00:13:50.519 or transcendental, but there are many people who don' t even have a 168 00:13:50.559 --> 00:13:54.679 list of ten things that give you pleasure. It' s not welfare. 169 00:13:54.960 --> 00:13:58.039 Pleasure other than well- being, but not even that. What' s 170 00:13:58.080 --> 00:14:05.080 the most superficial thing there is, that something forgives me for interrupting you, 171 00:14:05.240 --> 00:14:09.919 something that called me a lot. The attention is that, obviously, going 172 00:14:09.960 --> 00:14:16.480 to therapy you put it and I loved it is brave, because the way 173 00:14:16.480 --> 00:14:20.679 we face ourselves today. I think another cliché is that everyone is going to 174 00:14:20.720 --> 00:14:31.039 therapy, which would be worth it to give a deep sense back to the 175 00:14:31.200 --> 00:14:35.879 topic of therapy, because a few years ago it got in a way to 176 00:14:35.919 --> 00:14:39.879 run and everyone runs marathons and then now the father got here in Mexico. 177 00:14:41.159 --> 00:14:43.320 Well, the father is one thing you don' t know. No, 178 00:14:43.360 --> 00:14:48.720 so now everyone goes to the father and you ask anyone and before going to 179 00:14:48.759 --> 00:14:52.440 therapy, it was even embarrassing, it wasn' t like how you go 180 00:14:52.480 --> 00:14:56.639 to therapy. Hey, you' re wrong. No, and now everyone 181 00:14:56.720 --> 00:15:00.000 ' s going to therapy, according to this. But the truth is that 182 00:15:00.000 --> 00:15:03.519 even to choose a therapist, it' s a whole subject, not what 183 00:15:03.720 --> 00:15:07.399 recommendation you can give us. For example, if someone says I really want 184 00:15:07.559 --> 00:15:13.840 to transform myself, I would love to go with Andrea, but how do 185 00:15:15.080 --> 00:15:20.000 you distinguish Andrea, from a good therapist, from a bad therapist or from 186 00:15:20.120 --> 00:15:24.120 that quote coach who takes a YouTube course and already feels not good, not 187 00:15:24.120 --> 00:15:30.960 how you can distinguish, because first the academic training that she studied, what 188 00:15:30.960 --> 00:15:33.159 is your specialty, what is her methodology. A person who does not know 189 00:15:33.200 --> 00:15:39.720 how to explain the methodology applied in therapy, as it is not a good 190 00:15:39.720 --> 00:15:45.799 option. Second, and ninety percent of my patients are referred to other patients 191 00:15:45.879 --> 00:15:50.960 who have had results. I mean, most patients and I in networks really 192 00:15:50.000 --> 00:15:54.000 even right now is that I' m kind of starting to move because it 193 00:15:54.080 --> 00:15:58.919 was something that I had very quiet, but my patients are referred to people 194 00:15:58.919 --> 00:16:03.559 who have had results. Yeah, and another thing. Well, I respect 195 00:16:04.240 --> 00:16:11.159 people' s practices and everything, but a therapist that makes you dependent on 196 00:16:11.720 --> 00:16:17.240 therapy so that you feel good, it' s not a good option, 197 00:16:17.639 --> 00:16:22.279 because, as therapists, we must promote people to have autonomy, is to 198 00:16:22.279 --> 00:16:29.200 share tools for them to know how to self- manage and not have to 199 00:16:29.240 --> 00:16:30.720 go to therapy for two years, three, years, five, that is, 200 00:16:32.080 --> 00:16:36.240 seven years in therapy. Obviously, if a specific subject appears that requires 201 00:16:36.240 --> 00:16:41.000 an accompaniment, it is something exceptional, but not return to dependent patients and 202 00:16:41.039 --> 00:16:45.799 I am terrified of patients who come to consult. In my case, he 203 00:16:47.000 --> 00:16:51.159 ' s the patient who lasts longer with me, lasts six sessions. Yes, 204 00:16:51.799 --> 00:16:56.840 and that obviously to see there are exceptional cases with usual topics, but 205 00:16:56.919 --> 00:17:00.759 a person who lasts I say today, with the advances there are with the 206 00:17:00.799 --> 00:17:06.440 techniques, that there are two and three years in therapy, because handling the 207 00:17:06.480 --> 00:17:10.359 same topic. It' s like you' re not serving her therapy. 208 00:17:10.440 --> 00:17:14.400 I mean, if you already have three sessions and you don' t see 209 00:17:14.519 --> 00:17:18.359 any changes and what I told you at the beginning of results. If you 210 00:17:18.400 --> 00:17:23.200 don' t feel better thinking about an experience and if it has still generated 211 00:17:23.240 --> 00:17:29.279 pain and there is no measurable advance, how you feel, then that therapy 212 00:17:29.279 --> 00:17:34.599 and that therapist are not serving you. I call the brain all of a 213 00:17:34.920 --> 00:17:40.160 sudden that inhabits a crazy woman from the house, a crazy woman from the 214 00:17:40.279 --> 00:17:45.799 house who is screaming and who is saying because we don' t have and 215 00:17:45.839 --> 00:17:52.759 I want to generalize it is also lying, but I want to talk in 216 00:17:52.799 --> 00:17:53.200 plural control about the crazy woman from the house. No, we suddenly thought 217 00:17:53.319 --> 00:17:59.319 of something. Suddenly we think we have a negative thought and suddenly it comes 218 00:17:59.359 --> 00:18:04.039 back and we don' t know how to control the emotions and then it 219 00:18:04.160 --> 00:18:07.200 becomes the crazy one of the house and the feelings, then it' s 220 00:18:07.200 --> 00:18:11.599 an awesome roll. Here I want to ask you this because I find wonderful 221 00:18:11.720 --> 00:18:17.160 what you' re sharing with us. It also takes an act of honesty 222 00:18:17.319 --> 00:18:22.160 on our part, not to say speaking the truth a hundred percent. I 223 00:18:22.240 --> 00:18:26.200 think with you, with the lawyers and you say that with a priest you 224 00:18:26.200 --> 00:18:30.319 always have to talk the truth. This one but yes, the idea is 225 00:18:30.480 --> 00:18:33.519 to overflow and say things as they are. I mean, I was wrong, 226 00:18:33.519 --> 00:18:37.960 I made my partner, I made this mistake and we were just my 227 00:18:37.200 --> 00:18:45.839 parents, not etcetera. I mean, it' s also a lot of 228 00:18:45.920 --> 00:18:52.359 the development of good therapy, the person, the patient, of course, 229 00:18:52.160 --> 00:18:56.960 that' s fundamental. But self as therapists We know that many patients lie 230 00:18:56.039 --> 00:19:06.240 in therapy and it' s part of the therapist' s job to learn 231 00:19:06.400 --> 00:19:10.319 how to manage that while creating the path where the person already has the tools 232 00:19:10.319 --> 00:19:12.279 and can do the job. But that' s not in the first session, 233 00:19:12.480 --> 00:19:18.559 I mean, it' s very common, very common for consultants to 234 00:19:19.640 --> 00:19:22.599 lie in therapy, which gives very common. Then, part of the work 235 00:19:22.599 --> 00:19:27.200 you do of that accompaniment is obviously understanding going, managing and helping you see 236 00:19:27.240 --> 00:19:33.880 the origin of many things yourself. But, because it' s a job, 237 00:19:34.000 --> 00:19:41.039 I mean, it' s a job, obviously you need the right 238 00:19:41.039 --> 00:19:45.799 tools, the ability of the therapist to identify which tool suits the person in 239 00:19:47.440 --> 00:19:52.240 what way and also clearly, the commitment and responsibility of the person who attends 240 00:19:52.279 --> 00:19:56.680 therapy because there are bad therapists. That' s a reality. There are 241 00:19:56.720 --> 00:20:02.079 bad therapists who impose content, who impose belief during the therapy session, and 242 00:20:02.119 --> 00:20:04.079 that is very dangerous. Yeah, yeah, that' s a reality. 243 00:20:04.480 --> 00:20:10.720 But there are also patients who do not take advantage of excellent therapists because they 244 00:20:10.880 --> 00:20:15.119 do not have the commitment to themselves to put into practice or to take advantage 245 00:20:15.200 --> 00:20:19.920 of the tools that are shared in therapies. Systemic therapy consists precisely in that, 246 00:20:21.200 --> 00:20:26.640 in giving them tools. I' ve been in therapy, I' 247 00:20:26.720 --> 00:20:32.799 m currently in therapy and I' ve touched, like some therapists, as 248 00:20:32.839 --> 00:20:36.720 you say too very bad, very very bad that literal are solving things for 249 00:20:36.720 --> 00:20:38.640 you. I mean, you' re saying look at me and you' 250 00:20:38.640 --> 00:20:41.200 re answering, because you should do this. No more you do it and 251 00:20:41.480 --> 00:20:45.799 it' s chaos or suddenly they' re inducing you to look. You 252 00:20:45.839 --> 00:20:48.880 have to read this book, you have to do this, and they go 253 00:20:48.960 --> 00:20:51.599 in one other way like driving them to their court. I don' t 254 00:20:51.720 --> 00:20:55.279 know if it' s right or not. What I want to ask you 255 00:20:55.799 --> 00:21:00.599 is this systemic therapy. You' re giving us tools for the people who 256 00:21:00.720 --> 00:21:03.839 are seeing us and who are in another country and who say listen to me 257 00:21:03.839 --> 00:21:07.039 beat about Andrea. I want to get closer, I want to take therapy 258 00:21:07.039 --> 00:21:11.000 with her. I' d be interested to talk to you about this case 259 00:21:11.480 --> 00:21:14.200 How wonderful it could be in six sessions. Look here what' s important 260 00:21:14.200 --> 00:21:17.559 is this. Maybe in six sessions, in four, in three you get 261 00:21:17.640 --> 00:21:21.079 to wake up and say face to face. I know this is the link 262 00:21:21.160 --> 00:21:26.759 I needed to wake up. No, but that doesn' t mean you 263 00:21:26.880 --> 00:21:30.640 probably don' t have to run another process. Here. The question I 264 00:21:30.759 --> 00:21:37.000 ' m asking you is what this psychotherapy therapist is like, this systemic psychotherapy. 265 00:21:37.319 --> 00:21:41.119 Well, the systemic one we handle as a system in general, not 266 00:21:41.480 --> 00:21:45.880 as an isolated case. The symptom. Yeah, then systemic. There is 267 00:21:45.920 --> 00:21:49.880 a family systemic system that works with the entire family or systemic system at the 268 00:21:49.880 --> 00:21:56.039 individual level. So I like people to be aware that we' re all 269 00:21:56.079 --> 00:22:03.640 systemic in general. Talk about mental health when I don' t sleep the 270 00:22:03.759 --> 00:22:08.839 hours my brain needs to be functional, when I' m overstimulating my nervous 271 00:22:10.400 --> 00:22:17.480 system because I consume a lot of coffee or energy drinks, or I consume 272 00:22:17.480 --> 00:22:21.279 alcohol or other substances. So we' re systemic beings. It' s 273 00:22:21.319 --> 00:22:25.359 an integral issue. So, as a systemic, we call what the person 274 00:22:25.440 --> 00:22:30.440 is handled in a system way, not as an isolated thing, but as 275 00:22:30.480 --> 00:22:37.400 part of an integrated system. Yes, then my husband is a doctor, 276 00:22:37.319 --> 00:22:41.079 so I tell them it' s important that we send out some tests to 277 00:22:41.160 --> 00:22:48.400 see how your body is working, because on a moral level, how certain 278 00:22:48.400 --> 00:22:52.480 measures are. That' s already being handled by him as a doctor and 279 00:22:52.640 --> 00:22:53.920 we can' t talk about mental health. But then, I have a 280 00:22:55.039 --> 00:22:59.279 hormone issue that I haven' t solved and that goes against my life to 281 00:22:59.359 --> 00:23:04.440 want to feel good. But it' s just that I have the hormones 282 00:23:04.440 --> 00:23:07.000 in a mess. We have to sort that out. First, what are 283 00:23:07.119 --> 00:23:15.559 your eating habits? There are foods that promote episodes of anxiety and depression. 284 00:23:15.000 --> 00:23:19.480 There are others who promote that I have in torphine, serotomine, well, 285 00:23:19.720 --> 00:23:23.400 all the chemistry of well- being, which is already very, very common 286 00:23:23.480 --> 00:23:27.519 and very popular today. Then we have to handle everything at the system level. 287 00:23:27.960 --> 00:23:34.960 When a little boy goes to therapy, it wouldn' t be totally 288 00:23:34.960 --> 00:23:38.720 inefficient to give him therapy and little girl is not the mom and dad, 289 00:23:38.720 --> 00:23:41.519 the caregiver or the couple. I' m just here to be a couple 290 00:23:41.519 --> 00:23:45.000 ' s therapy. Do not come together and work at the individual level and 291 00:23:45.119 --> 00:23:48.680 at the individual level. It is also on a systemic level. Yeah, 292 00:23:48.759 --> 00:23:55.839 there' s a story, there' s a set of thought habits, 293 00:23:56.279 --> 00:24:03.000 there' s a set of dream, feeding, routine, and relationship habits. 294 00:24:03.160 --> 00:24:07.359 How I communicate. Anyway, hey, tell us, please, you. 295 00:24:07.440 --> 00:24:10.519 I also imagine that with all this and with your husband they will be 296 00:24:10.599 --> 00:24:15.160 a wonderful couple for the whole care issue. I mean what they eat to 297 00:24:15.359 --> 00:24:21.599 what they see. Evidently, there are also studies that say you' re 298 00:24:21.640 --> 00:24:23.480 the result of the five people you get together with, not if you get 299 00:24:23.559 --> 00:24:26.000 drunk, the sixth you' re going to do. If you get together 300 00:24:26.079 --> 00:24:30.240 with five people who read, the sixth person will do you. Tell me 301 00:24:30.279 --> 00:24:33.440 a little bit about your husband' s everyday life. What they eat, 302 00:24:34.920 --> 00:24:41.440 what they exercise, they isolate themselves a little bit from the media or if 303 00:24:41.559 --> 00:24:48.160 they see them, how is a life of someone who already knows this whole 304 00:24:48.200 --> 00:24:53.200 subject and I imagine that your family nucleus of being wonderful because you solve things 305 00:24:53.279 --> 00:24:57.640 like more easily at times, but so I imagine that do not talk to 306 00:24:57.640 --> 00:25:00.240 us a little bit. Please, well, I' m all of them. 307 00:25:00.279 --> 00:25:03.599 He' s a high- performance athlete. In fact, I met 308 00:25:03.640 --> 00:25:08.599 him because he was my teacher at an intelligence cox. Nutrition intelligence, intelligent 309 00:25:08.680 --> 00:25:15.200 nutrition based on scientific evidence. He is passionate about the whole issue of nutrition 310 00:25:15.319 --> 00:25:22.559 and preventive medicine. He' s vegan more than twenty years ago and well, 311 00:25:22.799 --> 00:25:29.119 a few years ago I went into a course that I dictated of intelligent 312 00:25:29.119 --> 00:25:30.519 nutrition because he' s raised me ten kilos. I' ve had Eskirles. 313 00:25:30.599 --> 00:25:34.240 So I wanted to lose weight and I' ve been very curious about 314 00:25:34.319 --> 00:25:38.799 the welfare issue in general. I was a vegetarian for a while, just 315 00:25:38.839 --> 00:25:42.680 like very curious. So I go into the course with him and I realize 316 00:25:45.039 --> 00:25:51.799 that many products we consume bring esogenic themes or h and I was trying to 317 00:25:51.839 --> 00:25:56.599 lose weight because it was a hormonal issue and for personal issues as well that 318 00:25:56.839 --> 00:26:00.079 I was going through a few years ago. And all that we subtly subtly 319 00:25:59.799 --> 00:26:04.480 in which then I begin this way and then I become vegan, I become 320 00:26:04.559 --> 00:26:10.000 vegan He is vegan more than twenty years ago. I am vegan almost three 321 00:26:10.079 --> 00:26:15.680 years ago and because here our food is very clean, based on plants. 322 00:26:15.960 --> 00:26:18.920 I am fortunate enough to live with him, who is an expert on this 323 00:26:18.960 --> 00:26:23.559 subject of intelligent nutrition based on scientific evidence, is not in personal beliefs, 324 00:26:25.000 --> 00:26:32.160 but dull in evidence. Then I realized as a person that how we feed 325 00:26:32.200 --> 00:26:38.359 and it has an impact but very direct in how we feel, in how 326 00:26:38.359 --> 00:26:45.079 we sleep, in our weight, in our energy level, in our ability 327 00:26:45.200 --> 00:26:48.799 to solve and manage things that arise in the day to day. And something 328 00:26:48.920 --> 00:26:52.079 basic that I always share with my women, because I have only women. 329 00:26:52.839 --> 00:26:59.359 In change, I don' t know why not, but they' re 330 00:26:59.400 --> 00:27:03.079 my female patients and I say they' re also hormonal series. So I 331 00:27:03.480 --> 00:27:08.519 don' t have the same ability my day, before my monthly period comes 332 00:27:08.519 --> 00:27:14.279 to me, to manage certain things, to have some handling, with certain 333 00:27:14.319 --> 00:27:19.759 things that can be delicate, to make certain decisions, to have certain conversations. 334 00:27:21.480 --> 00:27:23.079 So, in my house, both with him, I have two teenage 335 00:27:23.119 --> 00:27:26.319 children, I tell you, count me out. I mean, I' 336 00:27:26.359 --> 00:27:32.359 m not available today. We' re not having that conversation today because I 337 00:27:32.519 --> 00:27:37.680 can' t get to be wise, understanding, loving, quiet, etcetera. 338 00:27:38.039 --> 00:27:44.640 Not sure, of course, then I learned over time that there are 339 00:27:45.000 --> 00:27:48.799 times where I must not be available to others and to handle certain things. 340 00:27:48.000 --> 00:27:52.240 Then I allow myself, I allow myself not to be for my children, 341 00:27:52.519 --> 00:27:56.400 for him, etcetera. Then that works very well. That' s amazing. 342 00:27:56.599 --> 00:28:02.799 And how good we are meeting a boy. We' re getting to 343 00:28:02.880 --> 00:28:03.480 know her more check this fact. Please, all the people who see us 344 00:28:03.480 --> 00:28:10.480 and listen to us. I' m not available at certain times for certain 345 00:28:10.519 --> 00:28:15.279 people or situations, and it' s that sometimes we pretend to be available 346 00:28:15.440 --> 00:28:18.400 all the time, solve everything at all times. And the truth is that 347 00:28:18.960 --> 00:28:25.200 I have a maxim that says we' re not everything to everyone at all 348 00:28:25.200 --> 00:28:29.880 times. There aren' t just things you have to let go of There 349 00:28:30.200 --> 00:28:33.039 are battles that you just have to lose and give the reason. There are 350 00:28:33.119 --> 00:28:36.039 no times when people don' t want to fight the only thing that wants 351 00:28:36.039 --> 00:28:40.240 reason. Well, the reason and then two or three days later you can 352 00:28:40.240 --> 00:28:45.200 fix that. Andrea, let me congratulate you on all the excellent work you 353 00:28:45.240 --> 00:28:48.160 ' re doing in networks. Please remind people that nothing else is listening to 354 00:28:48.240 --> 00:28:53.400 us what your social networks are, your Instagram, please. If you give 355 00:28:53.640 --> 00:28:57.559 therapy online, please talk to us a little bit good. I currently only 356 00:28:57.680 --> 00:29:00.839 give therapy online. We also have a retreat that is face- to- 357 00:29:02.559 --> 00:29:03.559 face, which is spectacular. It' s only one a year. It 358 00:29:03.640 --> 00:29:10.920 is a retreat where we work at a very deep level, many themes not 359 00:29:11.039 --> 00:29:17.200 only of childhood, but previous themes, of family programmings, of stories that 360 00:29:17.200 --> 00:29:19.160 are repeated. I don' t know if you' ve seen some people 361 00:29:19.160 --> 00:29:25.960 or families repeating and repeating the same pattern from generation to generation. Then we 362 00:29:25.960 --> 00:29:30.400 work. That' s what some people called and got very fashionable. Also 363 00:29:30.519 --> 00:29:33.440 as the theme of constellations, these are not constellations, they are therapy, 364 00:29:34.119 --> 00:29:40.039 family systemic. Diftinta in When you retire, please, this year is going 365 00:29:40.039 --> 00:29:42.960 to be May 25th May, near Bogotá, in Colombia, people come from 366 00:29:44.880 --> 00:29:48.920 all over. It' s a wonderful retreat. They are unlimited quotas and 367 00:29:48.960 --> 00:29:56.160 they can find us information in pure arrobas of pure soul with two so pure 368 00:29:56.720 --> 00:30:00.079 aloof soul, of pure soul actually hear those who are seeing and listening to 369 00:30:00.079 --> 00:30:07.079 us give the opportunity of these retreats, of these encounters. See if you 370 00:30:07.160 --> 00:30:12.440 do accounts, spend more money on many other things that there is to buy 371 00:30:12.519 --> 00:30:18.440 a ticket, buy a ticket, go to Colombia. It' s two 372 00:30:18.480 --> 00:30:21.359 three days of an intense retreat. Later they leave if they want to meet 373 00:30:21.400 --> 00:30:23.240 those they don' t know. But what is important is to have an 374 00:30:23.279 --> 00:30:27.480 encounter with yourself each time I have this opportunity to take advantage of it, 375 00:30:27.640 --> 00:30:36.240 because evidently, it is so liberating, healing is so one has come back 376 00:30:36.319 --> 00:30:37.799 with ideas as very clear of what one is looking for. What' s 377 00:30:37.880 --> 00:30:44.799 more, it' s so cathartic that all of a sudden you end up 378 00:30:44.799 --> 00:30:47.680 making decisions like saying I' m not getting divorced or not, or if 379 00:30:47.680 --> 00:30:51.160 I' m getting married, because there are people who want to marry us 380 00:30:51.240 --> 00:30:52.519 and say yes now I' m getting married I didn' t already find 381 00:30:52.519 --> 00:30:55.039 out why Andrea doesn' t really hear anymore. Thank you for being with 382 00:30:55.039 --> 00:30:59.000 us. Now let' s start a second part of the interview. There 383 00:30:59.440 --> 00:31:03.440 ' s no good or bad body parts. Let' s play a little 384 00:31:03.759 --> 00:31:07.680 bit with the theme of imagination and so on. So the first part. 385 00:31:07.079 --> 00:31:12.960 I' d like to ask you, ask you questions about what you prefer 386 00:31:14.000 --> 00:31:18.319 the cold or the heat comes out then we start very quickly. Please answer 387 00:31:18.319 --> 00:31:23.920 me what do you prefer cold or cold heat? Spend a year at forty 388 00:31:25.039 --> 00:31:30.759 degrees Celsius or at less than ten degrees Celsius minus ten, you can only 389 00:31:32.119 --> 00:31:41.880 talk screaming or you can only talk whispering while you can fly or be invisible, 390 00:31:41.759 --> 00:31:45.759 m ferpolar, sing everything you say or say aloud everything you read? 391 00:31:51.200 --> 00:31:56.319 Say out loud everything I read? Ok you prefer to dance every time you 392 00:31:56.599 --> 00:32:01.160 listen to music or sing every time you listen to a song, sing how 393 00:32:01.200 --> 00:32:07.119 you are for singing. M a very good one, but when was the 394 00:32:07.160 --> 00:32:13.079 last time you sang for you was a long time ago, I don' 395 00:32:13.279 --> 00:32:15.359 t remember right now, I mean, what a long time ago, now, 396 00:32:15.359 --> 00:32:17.119 I' m going to put in other questions. I want to ask 397 00:32:17.160 --> 00:32:22.880 you when today morning you got up, you saw yourself in the mirror, 398 00:32:22.480 --> 00:32:28.759 tell me first, what' s the story Andrea tells Andrea. I don 399 00:32:28.839 --> 00:32:30.119 ' t know the others, but I at least see myself in the mirror 400 00:32:30.119 --> 00:32:34.000 and suddenly I say ah you' re half a slap or you want to. 401 00:32:34.119 --> 00:32:37.640 We' re going well, no, and suddenly I' m talking 402 00:32:37.720 --> 00:32:40.880 to a friend of mine in the mirror, not what a story, what 403 00:32:40.880 --> 00:32:44.440 a story you' re telling yourself. Well, that starts earlier, when, 404 00:32:44.880 --> 00:32:49.839 before I open my eyes, like I try to have the gesture of 405 00:32:49.880 --> 00:32:52.640 affection with me, it can be like caressing me or hugging me. That 406 00:32:53.359 --> 00:32:59.720 ' s how I say powerful, positive things. I remember the things I 407 00:32:59.720 --> 00:33:01.799 ' m capable of. Then that starts before you open your eyes. And 408 00:33:01.799 --> 00:33:06.559 when I' m still in bed ok ok and when you' re dressed 409 00:33:06.559 --> 00:33:12.240 today in the morning, in the mirror, tell me according to how you 410 00:33:12.359 --> 00:33:19.440 dress and how you feel, how old you think, what you would actually 411 00:33:19.519 --> 00:33:22.400 be like just how you look and how you feel. Well, I really 412 00:33:22.440 --> 00:33:27.519 like the way I look. So I' m not that objective, because 413 00:33:27.559 --> 00:33:31.920 I love how I look even when I can be your weight diet or whatever 414 00:33:31.960 --> 00:33:35.319 or not is Wis N in the gym and everything then, like I learned 415 00:33:35.599 --> 00:33:38.079 to, there was a theme and I want it to end, so tell 416 00:33:38.480 --> 00:33:43.440 me an incidence. I' m a mom of two boys, they' 417 00:33:43.480 --> 00:33:46.079 re already fifteen and thirteen. I' m a very young mom and I 418 00:33:46.079 --> 00:33:49.000 was very thin. Then, the skin stretched a lot and I got a 419 00:33:49.079 --> 00:33:53.680 lot of stretch marks and that was something that tortured me. I spent thousands 420 00:33:53.759 --> 00:33:59.839 of dollars trying to erase those stretch marks with laser and well, a lot 421 00:34:00.039 --> 00:34:04.839 of things and that' s just when I learned that that' s not 422 00:34:04.880 --> 00:34:08.079 that that' s not what I look like and say to myself and that 423 00:34:08.760 --> 00:34:15.079 ' s not a very deep thing to understand that my value as a person 424 00:34:15.159 --> 00:34:21.239 and my beauty as a being lies much deeper than what my skin looks like 425 00:34:21.239 --> 00:34:28.599 at some point or at some point, because it' s that, besides, 426 00:34:28.599 --> 00:34:30.280 we women especially define our whole being by a scar. Yes, but 427 00:34:30.920 --> 00:34:34.360 it' s just that we are much more and don' t talk about 428 00:34:34.400 --> 00:34:38.280 how deep we are as personality beings, as values of structure. I' 429 00:34:38.320 --> 00:34:45.880 m not much more body level than those stretch marks. Then learn to like, 430 00:34:45.079 --> 00:34:52.639 learn to see everything cute we have and not limit something as little as 431 00:34:52.800 --> 00:34:58.679 a scar, a stretch, a weight or something. If there' s 432 00:34:58.719 --> 00:35:01.760 something we don' t like, then of course there are resources to change 433 00:35:01.760 --> 00:35:05.280 them if we don' t like them. But we' re way beyond 434 00:35:05.320 --> 00:35:09.679 that. Notice that this is wonderful, because how many people, Ahorita thought, 435 00:35:10.159 --> 00:35:15.679 how many women would want to have those stretch marks and never in life 436 00:35:15.679 --> 00:35:20.239 will be able to have it no and then also think that that is a 437 00:35:20.239 --> 00:35:22.920 blessing. Maybe you had an accident and you' re going to say no, 438 00:35:23.159 --> 00:35:27.079 but as if I might walk it, then thank God that you' 439 00:35:27.199 --> 00:35:30.480 re alive, that you' re alive, not that you obviously have that 440 00:35:30.480 --> 00:35:35.719 chance today. Others had a minor accident and are not here. So it 441 00:35:35.800 --> 00:35:38.000 ' s not silly comfort, it' s just smart comfort. It is 442 00:35:38.079 --> 00:35:43.039 not to say life is lived forward, it is not lived backward, always 443 00:35:43.039 --> 00:35:46.320 forward. Yes, here, you have to be careful with something, because 444 00:35:46.360 --> 00:35:51.000 when there' s an upset, you have to pay attention, that is, 445 00:35:51.840 --> 00:35:53.519 when something I don' t like. And it' s all like 446 00:35:53.519 --> 00:35:58.480 yes, and it' s like how we' d treat a little kid 447 00:35:58.480 --> 00:36:00.840 like there' s fallen off. It' s okay Get up It' 448 00:36:00.840 --> 00:36:04.639 s not valet. It is valid to have in distress, it is valid 449 00:36:04.679 --> 00:36:08.360 that it is costing you the change of your new image to call it somehow. 450 00:36:09.000 --> 00:36:13.880 Then it' s listening to him. It' s obviously listening to 451 00:36:14.239 --> 00:36:17.440 you, because if it is, you have to pay attention so it' 452 00:36:17.480 --> 00:36:23.000 s not how we put everything under the mat, but also do all the 453 00:36:23.079 --> 00:36:27.000 work, which is a lot to understand that you' re much more than 454 00:36:27.000 --> 00:36:29.679 that absolutely. Let' s go with the next question. You' d 455 00:36:29.719 --> 00:36:35.360 rather be the funniest person in the room or the smartest person. Smarter, 456 00:36:36.320 --> 00:36:42.840 okay, but you have to detect every lie you hear or believe every lie 457 00:36:42.920 --> 00:36:49.519 that you say detect every lie, what do you say OK? You' 458 00:36:49.639 --> 00:36:59.039 d rather never wait in line or always have a place to park. That 459 00:36:59.159 --> 00:37:02.360 ' s hard to take place where you' re going to park. As 460 00:37:02.480 --> 00:37:07.480 you are with waiting Andrea, you are patient. You' re impatient when 461 00:37:07.559 --> 00:37:12.159 you go to the bank, when you go to a supermarket and there' 462 00:37:12.280 --> 00:37:15.360 s a lot of people waiting for you to use that time or flat and 463 00:37:15.440 --> 00:37:15.000 say no man, I' ll come tomorrow or I' ll come another 464 00:37:15.000 --> 00:37:21.119 day. Uy I was the most impatient person in the world, but the 465 00:37:21.760 --> 00:37:24.280 most for me that will arrive five minutes late that would make me wait or 466 00:37:24.320 --> 00:37:28.000 line up. I was suffering from it, that is to say, I 467 00:37:28.000 --> 00:37:30.440 was really laughing. But, right now, I don' t take a 468 00:37:30.519 --> 00:37:34.239 book, or I start reading something on it or on my cell phone or 469 00:37:34.239 --> 00:37:37.119 something. But I mean, I don' t suffer at all, no 470 00:37:37.480 --> 00:37:44.079 no and I don' t have any problems, right now, that we 471 00:37:44.159 --> 00:37:49.519 were talking about the previous question of the lie, not whether you' d 472 00:37:49.519 --> 00:37:51.960 rather detect the lies or believe the lies? What an opinion you deserve this 473 00:37:52.119 --> 00:37:55.480 part of always telling the truth. You ask any human being and what do 474 00:37:55.559 --> 00:38:00.760 you prefer to be told the truth or lied to? We all tend to 475 00:38:00.880 --> 00:38:04.119 say no, man, I mean the truth. I want you to tell 476 00:38:04.159 --> 00:38:07.000 me the truth. But the truth suddenly isn' t for everyone. Not 477 00:38:07.039 --> 00:38:12.559 to say, there are things that better stay hidden, you better not know 478 00:38:12.599 --> 00:38:16.960 because a truth can be, because you can literally even destroy yourself. What 479 00:38:17.000 --> 00:38:21.400 ' s your opinion about it? I think honesty has been given an exaggerated 480 00:38:21.519 --> 00:38:28.760 value and it' s really not a virtue because, I mean, I 481 00:38:28.760 --> 00:38:31.440 say what you' re saying it for, I mean, it' s 482 00:38:31.480 --> 00:38:34.119 what you' re doing it for. And if you' re going to 483 00:38:34.119 --> 00:38:37.159 use something, then it does have value, but if it' s not 484 00:38:37.199 --> 00:38:42.400 going to serve, if it' s unnecessary, if you haven' t 485 00:38:42.480 --> 00:38:44.280 verified it, what is the intention of walking through life telling my truth. 486 00:38:44.360 --> 00:38:47.119 Besides, because we have to be clear that universal truth does not exist. 487 00:38:49.079 --> 00:38:54.440 Everyone who builds their truth depends on the tools they have. Then, first, 488 00:38:54.519 --> 00:38:59.239 for me there is no absolute truth. Everyone has their perception of things 489 00:38:59.280 --> 00:39:02.280 and from there they will generate their own truth to what they will call their 490 00:39:02.280 --> 00:39:10.239 truth. And why walk like screaming at the four s into our truth. 491 00:39:12.079 --> 00:39:15.039 I don' t see it as necessary, efficient or useful. I tell 492 00:39:15.599 --> 00:39:22.480 my children. If there' s anything about you, take a good look 493 00:39:22.519 --> 00:39:24.159 at who you' re going to share it with, of course, your 494 00:39:24.159 --> 00:39:25.800 friends. It' s necessary. It' s going to help you, 495 00:39:27.559 --> 00:39:30.400 if you need to handle it with a therapist and he goes to therapy if 496 00:39:30.599 --> 00:39:35.280 you need to, not with me, but with someone else or with me. 497 00:39:35.360 --> 00:39:38.719 If I can support you, but it' s what I' m 498 00:39:38.840 --> 00:39:42.360 saying it for and who I' m telling. And apart from the age 499 00:39:42.400 --> 00:39:49.320 of adolescence, that well, it' s interesting, it' s not 500 00:39:49.320 --> 00:39:52.920 motivating. Let' s not say that if anything was missing from our life 501 00:39:52.960 --> 00:39:55.960 of emotion, it' s adolescence. Young people, yes, it' 502 00:39:57.079 --> 00:40:00.280 s interesting. Hey let' s go with quick questions of whether or not 503 00:40:00.360 --> 00:40:07.199 the only thing that' s worth answering and yes or no, and in 504 00:40:07.320 --> 00:40:10.639 some cases you can say step by step goes then first question. You consider 505 00:40:10.719 --> 00:40:15.559 yourself a happy person. Yeah, you' re 100% satisfied with your 506 00:40:15.559 --> 00:40:21.880 physique. No, you consider yourself a nice person. You broke someone' 507 00:40:21.920 --> 00:40:31.559 s heart. I can do parentheses if they think so, okay, but 508 00:40:32.679 --> 00:40:38.760 I know that nobody has that power over others. Okay, wonderful, you 509 00:40:38.800 --> 00:40:45.119 ' re depressed. You don' t feel lonely. You haven' t 510 00:40:45.239 --> 00:40:50.239 done your homework. Yeah, you already threw away the trash. You didn 511 00:40:50.320 --> 00:40:54.480 ' t take me for a dog walk today. I don' t have 512 00:40:54.480 --> 00:41:00.320 a dog, okay, you bought what I asked. No, you don 513 00:41:00.360 --> 00:41:05.280 ' t remember what day it is today. Yes, you were satisfied. 514 00:41:06.159 --> 00:41:13.960 Yeah, you want to finish the interview. Not anymore. You' ve 515 00:41:14.039 --> 00:41:20.800 ever tried someone secretly who told you some secret that you told it. Someone 516 00:41:20.880 --> 00:41:23.159 confessed a secret to you and you told it. That' s ever happened 517 00:41:23.239 --> 00:41:28.280 to you, no, no good you do, yeah, okay, okay, 518 00:41:28.440 --> 00:41:34.480 tell me something. You believe in the life of those who believe in 519 00:41:34.559 --> 00:41:40.559 life outside this planet. Yeah, yeah, how you imagine extraterrestrials. You 520 00:41:40.599 --> 00:41:45.280 ' ve ever had an audition, seen something or something or not. No, 521 00:41:45.280 --> 00:41:49.679 no, but it' s a very big university and to think we 522 00:41:49.760 --> 00:41:51.800 ' re the only ones, because I don' t know, it seems 523 00:41:51.800 --> 00:41:54.280 weird to me. I know, yes, I can imagine if I offered 524 00:41:54.440 --> 00:42:00.639 to turn you into a robot, you' d accept that you don' 525 00:42:00.639 --> 00:42:07.480 t support sexual diversity. I don' t think I need to support her 526 00:42:07.599 --> 00:42:14.960 about it, okay? You' d like to be born again. Yeah, 527 00:42:15.159 --> 00:42:20.800 you' d be able to be completely alone for six months. Yeah, 528 00:42:21.320 --> 00:42:23.239 I think it wouldn' t be chevere, but I would be able 529 00:42:23.719 --> 00:42:30.679 to, okay, you agree with the death penalty. M no, okay, 530 00:42:30.239 --> 00:42:35.320 okay. Now I say one thing. Which you prefer to measure half 531 00:42:35.440 --> 00:42:42.320 of what you measure or weigh twice as much as you weigh and despite the 532 00:42:42.480 --> 00:42:47.199 pain or what weight. Hey, you' d like to earn fifty thousand 533 00:42:47.679 --> 00:42:52.039 euros today or five euros for what' s left of your life. Yeah, 534 00:42:52.119 --> 00:42:59.800 let' s go right now, Güey, tell us, please, 535 00:43:00.000 --> 00:43:04.920 what do you do then when you' re sad, how you cheer up, 536 00:43:05.239 --> 00:43:07.960 and how you cheer up someone who' s sad. Well, it 537 00:43:07.039 --> 00:43:13.960 depends on the context, but when I feel sad and this is something I 538 00:43:14.000 --> 00:43:20.280 always invite patients to, Luis has taught us to get out of the emotion 539 00:43:20.280 --> 00:43:24.400 quickly. And emotions are neither good nor bad. Emotions are messengers. And 540 00:43:24.599 --> 00:43:34.920 when there is an emotion of sadness, I observe it in order to identify 541 00:43:35.920 --> 00:43:40.480 where it comes from and with much humility and respect, I open myself to 542 00:43:40.559 --> 00:43:46.639 receive the message that that emotion has for me and allow me to receive it 543 00:43:46.719 --> 00:43:52.719 and learn what that emotion is teaching me at that moment, then I do 544 00:43:52.920 --> 00:43:55.880 not run out, but I observe it, I accept it, because if 545 00:43:55.880 --> 00:44:00.360 it is because it is necessary. But let' s say practical things like 546 00:44:00.440 --> 00:44:04.760 you grab, the boat sideways and you eat it you watch sad movies or 547 00:44:04.760 --> 00:44:07.480 you get up or you watch. There are people who are sad and sometimes 548 00:44:08.440 --> 00:44:13.119 we have two not or we lie down and we approach the prayer not to 549 00:44:13.320 --> 00:44:15.559 turn us around. And there are others who say no. No, no, 550 00:44:15.440 --> 00:44:17.760 no, not sad in mothers, and they stop and we' re 551 00:44:17.760 --> 00:44:22.079 going to exercise and listen to happy music how you do it. What happens 552 00:44:22.119 --> 00:44:27.239 is that the one and the other from a therapeutic, psychological context, The 553 00:44:28.119 --> 00:44:31.480 one is to evade the emotion that distracts me by doing something else, and 554 00:44:31.480 --> 00:44:37.400 that is not healthy. Yes he believes and the first one, which is 555 00:44:37.480 --> 00:44:43.719 I turn into emotion, because it is neither healthy nor necessary, because I 556 00:44:43.800 --> 00:44:46.679 do not need to stay in emotion any longer. It is necessary to observe 557 00:44:46.840 --> 00:44:51.960 it I feel it, because, if it is there it is to identify 558 00:44:52.079 --> 00:44:54.440 something else, but I neither turn around nor bring myself to hear about it. 559 00:44:55.000 --> 00:44:59.400 Tell us, please, what was the last thing you searched on the 560 00:45:04.039 --> 00:45:12.000 Internet, in cpt ok chat to help me create today' s publication coping. 561 00:45:12.599 --> 00:45:15.880 As ah look at me very well, very well. Tell me, 562 00:45:15.119 --> 00:45:20.239 please, if I ever imagine I say many times they' ve made you 563 00:45:20.239 --> 00:45:24.239 laugh until you cry. That' s not how the caste gets you stuck, 564 00:45:24.599 --> 00:45:29.199 you can' t breathe to make weird noises makes you pee I don 565 00:45:29.239 --> 00:45:34.639 ' t know something that happened like that, something weird, well, because 566 00:45:34.760 --> 00:45:37.039 right now or before I don' t, before some story, of some 567 00:45:37.039 --> 00:45:37.559 anecdote that you say children. Yes, once I attacked with laughter and this 568 00:45:37.559 --> 00:45:43.360 happened to me and because to see me stop and the wine you know not 569 00:45:43.360 --> 00:45:45.199 good, once very small, I remember, very small, but very small 570 00:45:45.199 --> 00:45:51.599 and it is one of the memories, as well as to experience shame that 571 00:45:51.639 --> 00:45:54.320 I started to laugh a lot and started as a more ranito, very hard 572 00:45:54.400 --> 00:45:59.000 and very small. Then everyone stayed as if what was wrong with him. 573 00:45:59.480 --> 00:46:05.039 Well, something that was both bigger and bigger, already at school. I 574 00:46:05.119 --> 00:46:08.719 had a laugh at school. Yeah, that was super traumatic. And so 575 00:46:09.480 --> 00:46:15.480 you passed the super laugh, super note, not what he hears tell us. 576 00:46:15.559 --> 00:46:17.960 Please, if you' ve ever been confused with someone you' re 577 00:46:19.039 --> 00:46:22.360 going on the street and suddenly you' re told that I' m signed 578 00:46:22.400 --> 00:46:25.039 by an autograph or something so I' m really happy. They confuse you 579 00:46:25.159 --> 00:46:30.599 with a singer with someone like that famous, I don' t know if 580 00:46:30.599 --> 00:46:32.880 they mistook me. I lived in New York for a while, but I 581 00:46:32.920 --> 00:46:35.760 don' t know if I was confused. I thought it was super weird. 582 00:46:35.840 --> 00:46:39.679 It' s only happened to me once in my life, and one 583 00:46:39.719 --> 00:46:44.760 person asked to take a picture with me and I, okay, but I 584 00:46:44.880 --> 00:46:45.880 don' t know if he mistook me for someone. I didn' t 585 00:46:45.920 --> 00:46:49.280 understand what you would have signed here is a signature or not. Everything is 586 00:46:49.320 --> 00:46:52.239 fine, very good, not and I took the picture, but then I 587 00:46:52.400 --> 00:46:54.800 mean it was weird, because no, because we sent a greeting to the 588 00:46:54.800 --> 00:46:58.920 person. If he sees me in one of those, he doesn' t 589 00:46:58.920 --> 00:47:01.960 hear. I want to ask you about fame, about that kind of fame. 590 00:47:02.039 --> 00:47:08.880 Luis Miguel you know you can' t get out you prefer fame without 591 00:47:08.960 --> 00:47:13.840 money or money without fame, money without fame. It doesn' t take 592 00:47:13.920 --> 00:47:17.159 long for you to be like that, for example, appearing in the history 593 00:47:17.639 --> 00:47:24.119 of your country' s history books. If it' s any important input, 594 00:47:24.639 --> 00:47:28.639 I' d think it' s very cool. But I don' 595 00:47:28.679 --> 00:47:32.519 t think it' s fame as such, because Fama being very well known 596 00:47:32.800 --> 00:47:37.320 and that doesn' t okay hear, you' d like to control people 597 00:47:37.320 --> 00:47:42.800 ' s emotions. It wouldn' t be horrible, it wouldn' t 598 00:47:42.800 --> 00:47:45.480 be something like very complex. He doesn' t hear and it would be 599 00:47:45.480 --> 00:47:49.480 respect. You remember there' s a movie right now. It came to 600 00:47:49.480 --> 00:47:52.800 mind I think it' s Robert de Niro, one of my analysis I 601 00:47:52.800 --> 00:47:59.039 think it' s called in Spanish Analyze me It' s from a psychotherapist 602 00:47:59.159 --> 00:48:00.199 who gives therapy to one of the hoods. No, and then the capo 603 00:48:00.320 --> 00:48:04.599 cries and looks for him at 3: 00 in the morning and goes after 604 00:48:04.679 --> 00:48:07.760 him at 2: 00 in the morning and puts him in a bar and 605 00:48:07.760 --> 00:48:09.639 forces him. Yeah, you saw her. No. No, it' 606 00:48:09.679 --> 00:48:12.679 s not very good. Then I' ll give you the name so you 607 00:48:12.719 --> 00:48:15.199 ' ll have fun at the same time. It' s familiar and it 608 00:48:15.199 --> 00:48:20.519 ' s very interesting, because this dependence we were talking about a little while 609 00:48:20.599 --> 00:48:23.000 ago has happened to you some dependency case, so that they talk to you 610 00:48:23.000 --> 00:48:27.159 on the phone at 2: 00 in the morning, not in therapy, 611 00:48:27.480 --> 00:48:30.840 uh, not in a process of urgency, of a need, but that 612 00:48:30.840 --> 00:48:32.239 ' s how I don' t know what to do, what I do, 613 00:48:32.239 --> 00:48:35.639 what happened like that. But many years ago when it was happening, 614 00:48:37.760 --> 00:48:44.480 it does fall into that. I think that when a good therapist is doing 615 00:48:45.039 --> 00:48:52.679 an intervention of his own, this kind of emergency presents us. Or then 616 00:48:52.880 --> 00:49:00.880 if you at some point a patient who was having suicidal thoughts at that time, 617 00:49:00.920 --> 00:49:05.519 then I accompanied her. Like, but I' ve been talking to 618 00:49:05.519 --> 00:49:08.559 you for so many years. I was just a graduate, and then I 619 00:49:08.679 --> 00:49:15.320 was super inexperienced, and I accompanied him and everything. But now, no, 620 00:49:15.559 --> 00:49:20.239 no, no, no, how you take off, how you take 621 00:49:20.400 --> 00:49:23.519 critical distance, because I imagine there must be cases in which your heart touches 622 00:49:23.559 --> 00:49:27.320 you deeply. Well, you' ve got to get me in with the 623 00:49:27.639 --> 00:49:28.920 bride to, you know, kick her out, I mean, go. 624 00:49:29.000 --> 00:49:31.280 It' s not such a scandalous case. But all of a sudden there 625 00:49:31.320 --> 00:49:36.880 must be cases that come with you and tell him that they touch your heart 626 00:49:36.920 --> 00:49:39.840 and that maybe you stay thinking about two or three days like how you let 627 00:49:39.880 --> 00:49:44.239 go or if you get disconnected very quickly. I think that happens to a 628 00:49:44.280 --> 00:49:52.000 very good one. It happened to me in a tough way when I did 629 00:49:52.039 --> 00:49:59.000 clinical practice with abused minors because I had children or children. Of course, 630 00:49:59.079 --> 00:50:02.239 that was very strong for me, but very strong so much that I thought 631 00:50:02.320 --> 00:50:06.239 this wasn' t my thing I said I won' t be able to. 632 00:50:06.360 --> 00:50:08.679 This is very painful. Obviously, I don' t see patients, 633 00:50:09.039 --> 00:50:17.400 I don' t see children or teenagers, I see adults, but it 634 00:50:17.519 --> 00:50:28.119 ' s a very personal process where it goes beyond psychology, which is a 635 00:50:28.119 --> 00:50:31.400 subject I interpreted it yes, there we are back as a break, forgivingly 636 00:50:32.000 --> 00:50:37.599 you remained that you interpreted it as something far beyond as I see it as 637 00:50:37.639 --> 00:50:44.360 transcendental, spiritual and conscious. And it is clear that each being is living 638 00:50:44.480 --> 00:50:49.239 an experience that needs to live. Yes, then that already freed me personally 639 00:50:49.360 --> 00:50:53.320 from suffering for what the other one lives, because woe but because if you 640 00:50:53.440 --> 00:50:59.760 see it from reason, it is impossible. Many things are impossible to understand, 641 00:51:00.239 --> 00:51:04.320 but how this happens, and you will suffer a lot and you will 642 00:51:04.320 --> 00:51:08.639 be bitter. But if you manage to see it from a much more transcendent 643 00:51:08.639 --> 00:51:13.639 subject, obviously, with respect for each process, and that' s what 644 00:51:13.760 --> 00:51:20.039 I tell patients with cases of their personal stories, how to re- mean 645 00:51:20.119 --> 00:51:24.400 those stories, those experiences of them or their parents, for example, then 646 00:51:25.039 --> 00:51:31.119 it' s to see that as something that is sacred, that happened, 647 00:51:32.039 --> 00:51:37.159 that needs to be seen with respect and that if I can be support and 648 00:51:37.199 --> 00:51:44.159 tool for that person to build a well- being despite having lived that, 649 00:51:44.400 --> 00:51:50.920 because I serve him with all my love. How do you distinguish this theme 650 00:51:50.960 --> 00:51:53.760 is that I am made to people like you, who have a full schedule 651 00:51:53.840 --> 00:51:59.320 in terms of therapy and that now with your husband, who do a click 652 00:51:59.360 --> 00:52:05.559 mys with medical issues and who work a lot and who are always like turned 653 00:52:05.679 --> 00:52:10.679 towards being if it gives them enough time to build their marriage for your family, 654 00:52:12.119 --> 00:52:15.239 because also the other side is super absorbent, no, that is, 655 00:52:15.719 --> 00:52:20.599 you get out of one absorbent side to a hundred and you get another absorbent 656 00:52:20.719 --> 00:52:23.440 more than a hundred not and how you distinguish it has been easy for you, 657 00:52:23.840 --> 00:52:28.280 as a couple, to distinguish to see these jobs, to see here 658 00:52:28.639 --> 00:52:31.320 the family already begins, here the children begin, no, and here I 659 00:52:31.320 --> 00:52:35.639 already start as a person. Well, the schedule issue is very clear and 660 00:52:35.719 --> 00:52:43.360 we handle it very well. We are not slaves to jetary people. Yeah, 661 00:52:43.800 --> 00:52:45.920 and we' re both very helpful. Then we love to serve. 662 00:52:46.079 --> 00:52:51.360 It' s not like I went out at eight o' clock, I 663 00:52:51.360 --> 00:52:55.599 mean. Obviously, my kids are already big. We can already enjoy other 664 00:52:55.599 --> 00:53:00.280 things, we already have very established schedules, very flexible that allow us to 665 00:53:00.280 --> 00:53:02.639 have clear many activities. He' s the sportsman. I share a lot 666 00:53:02.719 --> 00:53:05.719 with him, with the children. Anyway, that' s pretty clear, 667 00:53:05.800 --> 00:53:13.440 like not. But as for issues of how to differentiate, because we do 668 00:53:13.519 --> 00:53:15.679 retreats together. We do that retreat together, he' s also a facilitator 669 00:53:15.719 --> 00:53:21.199 in this retreat. The Conference is as if we are always on the basis 670 00:53:21.239 --> 00:53:27.679 of that service. Then it is very integrated, but not in a negative 671 00:53:27.679 --> 00:53:32.039 way, but, for example, in a meal we can talk about feedback, 672 00:53:32.400 --> 00:53:36.719 what handling is given to a situation that a patient needs like looking at. 673 00:53:36.760 --> 00:53:39.119 This person is going through this and this and this I address this topic 674 00:53:39.239 --> 00:53:43.800 you see as we are always, but it already becomes day to day. 675 00:53:44.480 --> 00:53:49.079 So, because it' s part of our life at a very integral level, 676 00:53:49.280 --> 00:53:53.760 because in my case I love and breathe that that is me, that 677 00:53:53.800 --> 00:54:00.440 ' s part of my being So I don' t feel the need like 678 00:54:00.559 --> 00:54:02.440 we' re going to be at this table, talk at this dinner and 679 00:54:02.519 --> 00:54:07.320 we' re not going to touch family issues, because I think it' 680 00:54:07.440 --> 00:54:08.679 s all an opportunity to learn how to be and to serve and learn as 681 00:54:08.679 --> 00:54:13.360 a family. Andrea, there are so many things we need to talk to 682 00:54:13.360 --> 00:54:16.559 you about. I' m really happy, very grateful for the opportunity on 683 00:54:16.679 --> 00:54:20.519 your agenda to open up a space and be able to talk to you. 684 00:54:20.599 --> 00:54:22.800 I' m going to invite these microphones again. They are open for a 685 00:54:22.800 --> 00:54:28.199 second, third, and tenth talk, and I also want to invite your 686 00:54:28.239 --> 00:54:31.199 husband to please be the bearer of the invitation. I think there are also 687 00:54:31.199 --> 00:54:36.679 very interesting things to talk to him, but well, here. The interesting 688 00:54:36.719 --> 00:54:40.480 thing about this is to ask you what' s next in Andrea' s 689 00:54:40.960 --> 00:54:45.719 life, i e, You' re, Mom, You' re wife, 690 00:54:46.239 --> 00:54:52.519 You' re, a person who already has a great, great trajectory, 691 00:54:52.639 --> 00:54:59.000 that we' re out there having a connection theme and coming back, 692 00:55:00.239 --> 00:55:00.679 Andrea, asked you Andrea, that' s still for you in this walk. 693 00:55:00.599 --> 00:55:04.639 You see yourself writing the book and you already have some practical books. 694 00:55:06.519 --> 00:55:08.679 There are many courses, many courses and what I tell you about digital. 695 00:55:10.280 --> 00:55:14.760 I' m very new. It was old school. In fact, it 696 00:55:14.800 --> 00:55:19.320 took me a lot to switch to online therapy because I said that' s 697 00:55:19.400 --> 00:55:24.519 not the same when it started in pandemic, because we had many, but 698 00:55:24.679 --> 00:55:29.599 it took me a lot to switch from face- to- face therapy to 699 00:55:29.599 --> 00:55:31.719 online. So, even right now I' m raiding. We' re 700 00:55:32.239 --> 00:55:37.840 going to have courses in hotmark, have courses on how to be the woman 701 00:55:37.920 --> 00:55:40.199 of your dreams, because this one is addressed to women, because many women 702 00:55:40.199 --> 00:55:44.920 are obsessed with getting a prince blue, but they don' t even blow 703 00:55:45.039 --> 00:55:47.360 the woman of their life. Yeah, then it' s first focus. 704 00:55:47.639 --> 00:55:52.400 You' re gonna be your best version and you' re gonna have plenty 705 00:55:52.400 --> 00:55:54.639 of options for what you can choose. That' s one. The other 706 00:55:54.880 --> 00:56:01.280 is mental health management, supporting the organization and planning on how to have a 707 00:56:01.320 --> 00:56:06.559 urma bulb that is super efficient in the subject of handling, habits and routines. 708 00:56:07.159 --> 00:56:12.199 Those are the two who are already leaving this month and remember, please, 709 00:56:12.559 --> 00:56:17.000 from the May retreat. Please, the date, the place where we 710 00:56:17.039 --> 00:56:23.719 can register and, obviously, what we can expect when this retreat is over. 711 00:56:23.800 --> 00:56:29.079 Well, the retreat will be two thousand hundred and twenty- six May 712 00:56:29.079 --> 00:56:31.480 in Cundinamarca. It' s now and a half from Bogotá. It' 713 00:56:31.480 --> 00:56:35.639 s in a country place, on the mountain, in the middle of nature. 714 00:56:36.000 --> 00:56:38.760 It will be a retreat from a space where you will be able to 715 00:56:39.199 --> 00:56:44.800 share with other people who are also on this path, to get to know 716 00:56:44.800 --> 00:56:49.360 each other, to heal, to take charge, to free themselves from limiting 717 00:56:49.480 --> 00:56:53.079 patterns, beliefs and programming, programming that we have not only of this life, 718 00:56:53.760 --> 00:57:00.480 but of many previous generations that have destined us to have certain results in 719 00:57:00.480 --> 00:57:04.800 life. So, this retreat is a wonderful space. There are beautiful testimonies 720 00:57:04.840 --> 00:57:08.719 of people who have experienced it and have come out with a new way of 721 00:57:08.719 --> 00:57:13.920 seeing life and re- signifying its history of origin. The information can be 722 00:57:13.960 --> 00:57:19.800 found in pure soul, on Instagram or via Whatsapp. Plus fifty- seven 723 00:57:20.239 --> 00:57:23.840 three hundred, sixteen, twenty- six, sixty- six little fifty- 724 00:57:23.920 --> 00:57:30.400 three remind us, please, the number so that the people who are listening 725 00:57:30.719 --> 00:57:34.360 to us have there to run fast on their cell phone, write it down 726 00:57:34.440 --> 00:57:36.039 on their iPad or, if not, on a paper on a sheet. 727 00:57:36.400 --> 00:57:43.239 Then whatsapp, please. Plus fifty- seven three sixteen, twenty- six, 728 00:57:43.400 --> 00:57:46.079 sixty- six, eight hundred, fifty- three. That' s 729 00:57:46.079 --> 00:57:51.519 wonderful, Andrea Niño. Thank you very much and before saying goodbye, I 730 00:57:51.559 --> 00:57:58.440 would love you to help us and tell us that we have just been told 731 00:57:58.559 --> 00:58:00.840 that tomorrow, Andrea Niño is going to give a message, and this message 732 00:58:00.840 --> 00:58:06.360 is going to be given at ten in the morning, it is going to 733 00:58:06.360 --> 00:58:09.880 be translated into all languages, languages, dialects, it is not going to 734 00:58:09.920 --> 00:58:15.079 be translated and it is going to be translated and it is going to be 735 00:58:15.159 --> 00:58:17.320 shown on radio, television, it is not going to be broadcast in all 736 00:58:17.320 --> 00:58:21.599 digital media, etcetera. We are already aware that tomorrow we will receive a 737 00:58:21.639 --> 00:58:27.280 message from Andrea Niño. What would be this final message and really thank you 738 00:58:27.719 --> 00:58:30.679 infinitely for your time, your kindness and your kindness, your story. It 739 00:58:30.800 --> 00:58:37.599 doesn' t define the experiences of your past They don' t have to 740 00:58:37.679 --> 00:58:39.199 define who you are today. What happened you can' t change it, 741 00:58:39.599 --> 00:58:44.639 but what you can change is what you' re going to do from now 742 00:58:44.719 --> 00:58:49.280 on with your life wow how wonderful. Thank you so much, Andrea. 743 00:58:49.440 --> 00:58:54.039 Thank you for the opportunity We invite you all to follow Andrea in her instagram. 744 00:58:55.280 --> 00:58:58.920 They' re really going to learn a lot on their social networks. 745 00:58:59.360 --> 00:59:04.320 Arroba is pure- souled, with double, please, pure- souled. 746 00:59:05.440 --> 00:59:09.000 They can' t find him there. They' re gonna learn from a 747 00:59:09.000 --> 00:59:13.840 lot of things. Get in there You' re going to see her and 748 00:59:13.920 --> 00:59:15.360 it' s been a pleasure to me in privilege. We have a website, 749 00:59:15.480 --> 00:59:21.000 a good question, point com and many blessings, Andrea you have. 750 00:59:22.119 --> 00:59:24.199 Thank you. Leisme. Thank you very much. See you soon.