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Whoa, what's up, beautiful people. It is your baby mama, favorite

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baby Mama, Stormy Pe And this
is another episode of Chocolate Chip and Sive

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the modern day female perspective during my
son back at it again. And honestly,

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y'all, we are not back at
it again because we are alive at

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the se Content House in Atlanta.
Y'all make some noise, Stormy makes some

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noise. I just want to thank
each and everyone y'all for coming out to

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rock with me tonight. I ain't
gonna lie. I was a little bit

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nervous, but your girl is already
say eighteen something night away. Okay.

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Now, before we get started,
I do have to say, y'all know

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I take care of my grandma.
She just turned ninety and may my old

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lady. And because she is ninety, the fact that I don't have a

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nine to five but I always have
money, she think I'll be fucking for

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money. So um, what I
like to do you is at every one

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of my events, I like to
on account of three y'all all say hi

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Anna, just so she no I'm
not hoeing, okay, all right,

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So on account of three one two
three, Hi, thank you. Thanks

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see see support black women. Thank
you, thank you, thank you.

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Um So, before we getting started, I want to thank the se Content

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House and some Maya for sponsoring this
event. And I also want to say

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the drinks is slowing, the drinks
is good. Don't forget to tip your

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bartender. And they have three drinks
all catered to me. Of course,

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the Pink Ranger for obvious reasons,
y'all know that's my secret identity. Of

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course, the keep it Pee and
the book then Busy, all of them

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are amazing. And she got cash
up, she got zeal, she got

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memo, all that. Okay,
So it's nobody right hands have you a

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bartenders? Okay. Also, so
the way this is gonna go is we're

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gonna have three segments. At the
end of each segment, we're gonna have

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an intermission you can refill, chit
chat, make some new friends, say

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hi to your new cousins on that. Okay, sounds good. All right,

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So let's get this thing started,
y'all. So to focus, Like

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me, I really wanted to talk
to y'all about myself about a few things.

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And y'all know I've been on this
day in journey for a while.

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I've been healing on this date in
journey, learning a lot on this day

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in journey, and right now I'm
at the point where I feel like we

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need to go back to acknowledging the
importance of honesty and comfortability. I think

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that a lot of times we're so
busy putting on our representative that we miss

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opportunities to be intimate, genuine,
real, Right, So I want to

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talk about a few opportunities that I
feel like are missed to be honest and

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to be comfortable. The first one, fellas, can we please stop sneak

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sniffing. I like the fact that
I didn't have to say what that was,

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and y'all all knew what I was
talking about. Okay, okay,

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okay. My man said, expound, Um, you know, when you

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get an intimate with a lady,
you gotta do you know, the sniff

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test? Right now, everyone in
here just said, m we all acknowledge

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that you are doing a sif a
sniff test, right, So why do

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y'all feel like y'all need to sneak
and do it like y'all be swearing,

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y'all slick with the we see you, we see you. It's not one

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woman in here who has never missed
a man when he tried to sneak sniff.

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We know what you're doing, We
know what you're doing. Like I'm

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not sure, okay, I understand
that you're trying not to be rude.

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You want to test the waters on
a low. But at the end of

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the day, if her couchie snak, she know her couchie snink before you

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know her couchie snak. So we
don't have to be like sensitive about it.

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At the end of the day,
we just drying. Are you gonna

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go? Like? And then I
always think, like, you know,

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what's a good way to tell a
woman, like, oh, you're a

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little tart? Is it a good
way to tell a woman you a little

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tart? So this is why I
want to go back to the honesty and

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the comfortability, Like how are you
able to share your body with somebody but

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you're not able to be honest in
saying something? Rip your body? Right?

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And then I think, like,
what would I ever do if a

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guy told me, like, bitch, you a little tart? Like,

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ladies, I want you to sit
and marinate on that for a second.

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What would you do if your partner
said to you you sank a little bit.

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Okay, I'm gonna be like,
I know, I know, I

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know you ain't gotta tell me.
You ain't gotta tell me. I know,

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I know. I was just trying
to see you. And I think

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that once you have that mindset,
somebody saying something like that too, you

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can never affect you because at the
end of the day, ladist, we

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know, we know, we know, we know, we know. We

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just be trying to see how far
are you gonna go? And I want

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to say, you want to point
out the amount of chivalry and respect that

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you men try to put off by
doing the sneak sniff does not go you

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know, unnoticed. We appreciate you, thank you, But if a snake

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is sneak, okay, and I
just think we should keep it there.

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Okay. Um, next, when
we talk about honesty and we talk about

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comfortability, right, can we be
honest and say that being a side chick

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is played out? I don't,
I don't, ye ain't. I'm gonna

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hear that it was a lot of
m Okay, hear me out though,

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Just give me a second, please, please, When I say being a

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side chick is played out, I
think that if you are still willingly accepting

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the role of a side chick right
now. Maybe I know times is hard,

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but it's being by yourself can't be
that bad. It can't be that

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bad. And if it is that
bad for you, you need to go

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talk to the lady because something going
on with you. Okay, if you

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really are having that much of a
problem being with yourself, maybe it's you,

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Like damn, maybe it's you.
So I do want to point out

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though, this isn't the the polly
or the open relationship conversation. I'm not

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talking about that. I'm talking about
you are willingly signing up to be with

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someone knowing that they have a partner
Like I don't know. I just can't

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get behind condoning sloppy seconds like that. That don't make sense to me.

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And I know that the day in
Bullish Trash, it got pissed, diarrhea,

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all of it. I know,
I know, we all know,

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But that don't mean we automatically have
to jump behind. I don't deserve being

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number one, you know what I
mean. And it's like the good old

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American bread affairs are thriving right now, thriving, Like I know every one

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of y'all know, at least one
person who is just got out of or

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is currently in the process of being
a side chick because oh wow, God

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damn for god, everybody, God
damn. I thought I was going gona

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want it too. Verybody's like shit, yeah, yeah, yeah, you

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know, Keisha, she just put
that in the group check you so yeah,

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that's it's crazy crazy. He took
out the etho it was okay,

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it was okay. Um yeah,
man, I don't I don't know,

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like, and I also want to
point out, like, men, if

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you made a commitment to be in
a monogamous relationship with your partner, you

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got stand on that. Like,
I can't get behind the oh well,

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you know, she don't say nothing, so was cool, Like it just

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doesn't do it for me, because
I think a part of being a man

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is being mature enough to say I'm
not happy. This is what needs to

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change, and if it doesn't,
I am prepared to leave because I keep

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telling you I'm not happy. Like
I am appreciative that we are now getting

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to the point where we're like,
yo, men deserve to be happy too.

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It's no more you know, happy
wife, happy life. Like now

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we're all getting on the board of
happy spouse happy house, Like, that's

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cool, fucking right, because I'm
not gonna hold you. Y'all know,

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I got a son, and if
he ever tell me some flyshit like happy

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wife, happy life, dump that
bitch. Nope, don't like her.

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She's not invited to Thanksgiving. She
don't get no fucking banana point, nothing

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right, nothing, nothing. Because
anybody who's willing to make you feel like

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you come second in a relationship that
you should be equaling, I don't want

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that bitch in my house, much
less I eat in my food like I

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don't believe in that, So I
refuse to let my son believe in that.

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You know what I mean. And
a large part of it that I

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feel like we don't talk about a
lot either, is on both sides.

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Some of us are in relationships because
we've been in relationships for a very long

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time, and I don't feel like
starting over. I don't feel like getting

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to know somebody knew. I don't
feel like taking a time to figure out

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you know how you like your eggs
cooked, and you know what's snaps you

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like when we go to the movies, Like, I know it sucks,

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but that is a part of they
didn't being in relationship and if you being

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happy means you have to relearn all
those things for somebody. You're just gonna

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have to learn as we got temn
things to somebody like god Lee, Like

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Yo, it's hard because we all
say, like, you know, the

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dating pool is so hard right now, but we also don't make any attempts

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for it to be better, and
it's like you're just gonna keep swimming in

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the piss or somebody going throwe chlorine
tablit in this bitch. Like at some

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point we have to be like,
yeah, that is trash as a union.

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I don't think we should do these
type of behaviors anymore, you know,

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like huh, I don't like feeling
like that. I know my partner

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doesn't like feeling like that. These
are things that we really shouldn't still be

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doing, and having a side check
is one of them, okay, Like,

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how can you really be happy if
you're dividing up your attention, your

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love, your dick with somebody else
and somebod y'all ain't got enough dick to

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split in the first place. So
it's very rood of you, very roode

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of you, very rood of you, very roode of you, very roode

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of the audacity. I tell you, one thing these niggas never went out

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of is the audacity. So so
so I think that we need to go

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back to being committed and focusing on
being in happy relationships so that the side

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chick no longer exists. Now decide, niggas is on the rise too,

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Ladies. I ain't gonna sit here
and let y'all have all the time we

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want to talk shit on niggas.
You know, that's not what we do

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here. We take accountability here.
So and I know you're like, oh

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my god, I would never do
that to my man. I would never

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I love him. We as happy. We'll stop telling Earl about you lunch

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because you know, Earl won't your
panty draws. Okay, So we need

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to be honest and saying yeah,
no, that's no, it's cool.

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It's cool because just because I know, right, I don't know why Earl

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is just jumped in my name.
I don't know, I don't if your

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name Earl. I'm sorry, big
dog. I don't even mean to come

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and shoot like that. Hey,
Earl, I'm sorry, big dog.

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Earl. Earl is sweating like a
motherfucker here, right if it's an earl

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a here he is, he is, he's hot, he's nervous, and

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he is hot. Okay, But
like you know, there are certain people

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who only certain things for you because
they're interested in what they could potentially get

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out of here. Like that is
very much a thing. Now. Granted,

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don't nobody want to be in the
house every Saturday, so sometimes you

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are gonna go off to eat with
Earl because you don't want to be in

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the house. But it's like,
we gotta shift out of that mentality and

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get to the point where it's like, yo, if I want better,

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I have to put time and effort
into being better and getting better. And

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some of that is y'all. I
remember seeing my dumbass in the house,

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Like that's cool. I don't you
feel like buying a new outfit anyway,

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that's fine, that's fine. I
really ain't feel like putting this wig back

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going anyway, that's fine, that's
fine. Like I'm not gonna hold y'all.

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I did not feel like shaving my
legs, that's fine. I gotta

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stay inside. I gotta stay inside. It's getting cold. I got my

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leg warmers on already. Cool.
Cool, But like I really want us

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to get to a self sufficient love, one that isn't you know, dependent

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on outside factors, so that we
don't feel like we need outside factors.

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Where the it be, you know, earl, side chick whatever, right,

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And I also want to say when
we talk about side chicks, right,

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sometimes we get into this mentality of
you know, well, my girl

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not saying nothing so I can have
it, you know, blah blah blah

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blah blah, or like, you
know, I'm not happy, so I

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deserve to have these times of you
know, happiness, enjoyment, fulfillment,

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whatever. But you having a side
chick isn't a flex. You having a

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side chick and your girl being okay
with it, it's the real flex.

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Like somehow we got wrapped up in
oh I just get so much pussy.

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No no, no, that don't
impress me. That don't impress me,

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Like you getting outside pussy and your
wife being like, hey you got a

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big dog. Okay, cool.
I can respect that. That's some players

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shit, that's players shit. I
can get behind that. But you just

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fucking willy nilly on the low.
It's not it. And ladies, I

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also want to say, we will
not have the luxury of not having to

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share our niggas until we stop sharing
our niggas. Right, So when we're

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entertaining these people who absolutely you know, you know, you know they are

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trash and them being handsome, maint
enough, them having money ain't enough,

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Like you just want to share because
you just want something like going back to

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like I said, we're just being
by yourself, Like it just ain't it.

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It ain't it? Next card,
The last thing I want to talk

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about when we talk about being honest
and comfortability is I want to tap into

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being sexually comfortable with your partner.
Like I'm all for trying new things,

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but like sometimes nigga read the room, like seriously read the room, Like

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if you know that your girl is
not secure within herself, why are you

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even proposing bringing in someone else into
the sexual bedroom? Or like you know

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what I mean, Like, if
you know that your partner is barely getting

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by with you, why are you
trying to jump to eat masts? Baby?

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We still we didn't even master hitting
it from the back first, Like

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you can't even catch it properly for
real, for real, So so so

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why are we automatically jumping to or
we need to try some new shit,

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Can we be comfortable with us first? Can we be comfortable with us first?

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Like, can we focus on mastering
a level of intimacy where we are

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both satisfied before we jump out the
window and you know, bias X swinging

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da dadda. I'm all for trying
new things. I'm not saying we shouldn't

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try new things. I'm saying,
can we take the time to build a

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stable foundation before we jump out the
window and god damn, just do some

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off the wall ship like off the
wall shit. Like now, I'm not

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saying you gotta do missionary until you
saved the thousand lives. That's not what

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I'm saying. What I am saying
is tap into your partner. Are they

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being consistently satisfied? Like if you
haven't mastered making your person reach the point

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of pleasure every single time, don't
you worry about what other toys we can

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bring into the badroom. Don't you
worry about buying butt plugs and candles and

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wax whips, chains bringing somebody else
into it. Okay, we're gonna get

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there eventually. Let's have a solid
foundation to build upon so that, hey,

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we know there's no insecurities evolved,
like sometimes people are hesitant to use

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toys and be comfortable taking things on
to the next level because it's like,

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bitch, I'm barely making it.
I don't know if you can see this

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or not, but I'm barely making
it. So if we take the time

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to build this level of foundation,
I think it's it's gonna be so much

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better. Like the intimacy is more
intense, like damn a bitch, you

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might want to start kissing again.
Like it's it's it's it's it's different.

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I don't know the word for it, but it makes my shoulders go like

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this, I don't know. It's
it's different. It's real different. Um,

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And I think that it's baby steps. You build your foundation. You

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provide a safe space because also when
we're venturing out and we're trying to be

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comfortable with one another, we want
to make sure that we have a safe

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space. Like I want to make
sure if I let you eat my ashing

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or tell nobody this is between us, bitch, Okay, I want to

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make sure if you know, I
let you you know if I'm sucking upside

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down Spider Man style off the side
of the bed, like you ain't gonna

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tell anybody if I throw up a
little bit, that's between us. It's

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between us. Don't tell nobody.
Don't tell nobody. Right. So more

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important than building a foundation is always
building a safe space. Now, who

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who got the navigation on where you
trying to go? Baby? We're here,

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we're here? Who who you know? What? See? Okay?

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Um? Another thing I wanted to
talk about where we're being honest and comfortable.

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I know I said the last thing
is the last thing, So what

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shout up? It's my show?
Um. Another thing I want to talk

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about, and this is this is
real. This really hits me in the

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heart. Who my t swingting?
Whole swing a lot, dude, my

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tesus swinging? Can I get a
napkin? Jesus, Ain't nobody gonna give

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me? No, No, I
just want to napkin to the preacher.

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Pat you know you don't rub you
just tap it real quick, just just

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tap it. Yeah. Hell yeah, thank thank you, God, bless

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you, sir, thank you.
I hope them be to sweat. Don't

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pop up on that goddamn camera.
You ain't gonna see no clips from the

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ship. Come out and carry here. You ain't gonna be talking about me

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on the internet. Oh that's that
bitch with the sweaty titties. Did you

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give me a napkin that had a
chip on it? Because when I swung

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it, a chip a chip fell
off. And I know I ain't had

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no chips in my titty. I
had no chips in my titty. I

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know that for a fact. Okay, so no, no, no,

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I gotta not your titties. It's
it's cool, it's cool. I got

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some some Totinos titties, just Totinos
titties. Thank you, Thank you for

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the Totinos titties. Thank you.
You know what. It's I'm I'm here,

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thank you. They're mine, thank
you, thank you. Um,

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I'm just gonna put this behind me. Shut shut your ass up, Shut

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your ass up. You know see
that's why we can't have nice things.

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Okay, Um, I don't remember. I'll talk about chocolate, jess,

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y'all. You know what? Okay, you know what if that we're just

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going to end segment. Why now, Okay, we'll run take a quick

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break. Take this time to get
some drinks, talk amount yourselves, sip

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your barts in there. We're gonna
be right back with our guests for this

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evening and really the hostess with the
Moses Samaya from the se Content House.

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We'll be right back, y'all.
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makes a noise. All right,
y'all, we're back, makes a noise,

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makes some noise, makes a noise. Yes, And I just want

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to remind you, guys, any
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today, make sure you tag se
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come one down to se Content House. Okay, make sure you guys look

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them up. It's amazing hashtag support
black women. All right. So we

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are back with segment two of our
live taping of Chocolate Chip and Sip here

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in Atlanta, Georgia. And I
have a guess with me today, ladies

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and gentlemen. And not only is
she the finest woman with locks I've seen

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this side in a Mason Dixon Okay, she is informative. Okay, she

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is smart, she is kind,
she is beautiful. All right, I

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want you all to make some noise
for Miss Sexual Essentials, your hands on

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sexual educator, makes a noise,
make noise, makes a noise, and

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she shows pretty you're the oldest woman, got an old spirit talking about jen

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is the liquor of choice. Yes, then she said earl earlier. I

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didn't forget that one. On this
side of the Mason Dixon. I got

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an old soul that can't help it. I understand. It's given nineties five.

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See listen, you know, did
y'all people? The sip in the

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background, the paint, it's a
sip. The chocolate chip and sip.

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Okay. Um, So, I
wanted to talk to you guys about this

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lovely lady to my left. Um. One of the things I really want

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to stress is the makings of a
bad bitch, all right, And I

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think that's really exemplified and me and
you and how we came to, you

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know, know each other. And
I just wanted you to expand on it

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and talk on that for a little
bit for sure. Um. So,

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hey, y'all, y'all look good, y'all look good. Um. So,

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my name is Saboya. I'm the
owner of Sexual Essentials. And I

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met Stormy on the set of Tonight's
Conversation podcasts and we were there and I

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just I really gravitated to her,
and honestly, I didn't know her from

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a can of paint. But making
relationships as an adult it's kind of hard,

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you know, like you don't really
yeah, you don't really go anywhere.

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You kind of wait for somebody to
break in your house and be like,

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oh I love you, or like
let's go out. Yeah, like

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I got snacks and I honestly,
I just vibed with her energy, and

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I told her it was just it
was a few things that she did that

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kind of just told me that we
were in alignment, or at least I

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should, you know, get her
number, or at least just you don't

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ask her about like hey, can
I hit you up sometime, or like,

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you know, let's get to know
each other. Even though we both

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had a show, I didn't directly
ask her to be on my show,

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and she didn't ask to be asked
me to be on hers. I like

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that because a lot of people just
give that stuff away, like you didn't

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work for it, earn it,
and like, you know how difficult it

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is we get all the way to
Atlanta or live shows like she was.

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She had boundaries around her business and
just the conversations that we tapped into on

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the show. Her responses just told
me that, Okay, we think in

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a like minded way, and I
think just as adults, you have to

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be after you get past thirty,
a lot of the relationships that have been

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in your life are starting to transition
now where you gotta tell my business.

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Damn bitch, I was talking about
people. I'm twenty five. I was

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talking about self, selfless self.
Just turn you look at as thank you

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know, black don't crack unless she's
spending the gym posting every day. I

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was like, oh, I'm gonna
not eat so she get here so um.

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But yeah, it's just like her
responses, and it was multiple things.

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It was like her approaches on dating
that we were talking about, some

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of the business things that we were
talking about, Um, the things that

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she was asking for when we were
just talking about networking with each other and

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some business ideas. And also she
was nasty and I was like, okay,

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grow a woman shit Like that's some
grown wanna shit. Like I don't

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know, as an adult, I
don't really want to be around a woman.

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It's like grind sucking his deep.
I don't support that. Yeah,

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it's it's me what I wish yall
could see the standing ovations. They just

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standing ovation, the standing over stand. It was the standing ovation for bed.

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Y'all gonna have to tap in the
patriarch and watch the live video events

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right now, because is that what
I feel like? It's what I do

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more. I need to know bel
Peace Prize or something, because like they

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stood up and I felt kind of
good listening listen, like, yeah,

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did you see them praising the Lord? It is praise God is not pleased.

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He is not pleased. No,
it's not. I thought that was

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okay, okay, but go ahead. I say all that. I say

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all that to say that's real.
But like, I don't I don't think

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there's anything to your point, you
know, segment one. I don't think

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there's anything attractive about being a subpart
person in anyone's life. Like I think

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we can all agree that adulthood hard
is like it it's so hard. And

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then as soon as you pay all
your bills, I sort of God the

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first come in like uh yeah,
like and it's it's like y'all in here

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and y'all see the product of like
some amazing stuff, but it's so much

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other stuff that goes on behind that
and just even talking to her, um

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the things that she said she wanted
to do and you know what she wanted

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to get into next. A lot
of people are fine where they are,

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and the fact that she was already
talking about next when you know, you

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know, it's just I like that
and so in you know, we contacted

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each other when I left for the
recording and then let's see what else.

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Oh, I call her crime one
time because life was like I was like,

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gir I got work to do and
I don't feel like doing it.

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I said, so if you listen. But you know why, I think

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that a lot of times women especially
struggle with is making genuine connections without feeling

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like there's a competition between you and
for us both to be you know,

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in this social media space, it's
similar, but it's separate, Like we

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align on different platforms in different topics, but for us still to support each

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other was very important to me,
and I feel like it's never been in

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any sense of like competition or a
lot. I can't help you because that's

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going to fear what I got going
on, Like, I appreciated that a

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lot, a lot, and honestly, that's really what did it I was

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able to reach out and do more
because we were being honest about like where

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we had similarities, and a lot
of our pasts are very similar, they

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literally overlap. So a lot of
times you're running away from the person that's

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like all they're trying to do the
same thing as me, So I don't

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need to be rolling with them.
Perhaps in a barrel, perhaps in a

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barrel, but most of the times
you're scared because you don't have the boundaries

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to say what parts should you guys
be sharing or doing together, or resources

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should you be sharing? Or you
don't know how to really teach someone,

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you just know how to give them
the answer. And so those are some

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things that I think that we need
to reflect on internally. But I called

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Storm because I was just having a
really hard time with like getting this house

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up and going and she was just
like I was, like, you know,

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as especially as a mom, she's
also a mom that talks about sensitive

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to topics and vulnerable topics and you
know, very vocal with her sexuality and

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just a live wire, you know
what I'm saying, A bit strenth gym

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for goodness face like you know what
I'm saying. So being able to call

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her and just be like, this
is what I'm going through, but I

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have work to do. Can I
talk it through to you? And she's

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like hell yeah. So just even
in that conversation finding out more about what

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she wants it to do. UM, I was able to send her some

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people there. There are people that
want to work here at the concert House

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that I don't They're not ready for
that step, but I'm not ready to

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commit with them yet. But I'm
like, hey, I have someone else

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who also does like production. Um, and I think this is more of

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you guys to speed. Let me
introduce. She being very generous, your

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girls the plug okay out here,
saying business back and forth, and I

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said, thank you, gonna bless
you for this. So yeah, you

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got a question already? Cant can
we wait till we get to the question

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part? Or you gotta like right
now, right now, right now,

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right now? Or you can't wait
it? What? Can you come over

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here to the mic? Can you
come over here to the mic? All

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right? Watch my man's chords over
here. I can't hear you out on

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the mic. You on a mic
on a mic, Mic on a mic,

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big dog on a mic? How
do you feel about co parent co

406
00:29:47.119 --> 00:29:52.640
parenting. Oh yes, oh I
love this woman. Huh huh, life

407
00:29:55.920 --> 00:29:59.319
on a mic, on a mic. We're going through some shit. Okay,

408
00:30:00.960 --> 00:30:11.279
I got two kids sixteen eleven,
okay, before her, like even

409
00:30:11.359 --> 00:30:18.759
tonight, my daughter around side?
Oh michee outside, good connection, good

410
00:30:18.799 --> 00:30:26.559
connection. What do you feel about
that? Now? I have no problems

411
00:30:27.480 --> 00:30:33.119
mhm, sexy, no problems with
anything. Hey, hey, hey,

412
00:30:33.759 --> 00:30:40.000
takes good care of me. Amen. Good word. Well, I'm gonna

413
00:30:40.079 --> 00:30:44.599
interject right here. So when she
was asking you about your question, um,

414
00:30:44.680 --> 00:30:45.640
I think she wasn't sure what you
were gonna say. But she has

415
00:30:45.680 --> 00:30:48.160
a whole Q and a part at
the end of the show. So this

416
00:30:48.319 --> 00:30:52.480
we're gonna finish some of the topics
here and they will respond to that one.

417
00:30:52.519 --> 00:30:59.559
Okay, all right, but you
hold that, you hold that U

418
00:31:00.960 --> 00:31:04.519
So yeah, So I feel like
a lot of that just her being able

419
00:31:04.559 --> 00:31:07.599
to be vulnerable with me and tell
me what she wants. A lot of

420
00:31:07.680 --> 00:31:12.640
grown ass women, boss ass women
are not able to tell you what they

421
00:31:12.720 --> 00:31:15.240
want, you know what I mean. A lot of us get nervous.

422
00:31:15.319 --> 00:31:19.839
It gives us anxiety. We do
not feel comfortable saying, actually I want

423
00:31:19.880 --> 00:31:22.920
it this way, you know,
what I mean or hey, I know

424
00:31:23.000 --> 00:31:26.240
we're doing this, but this is
actually what I want to do. So

425
00:31:26.359 --> 00:31:29.119
if you know anybody that can connect
me with that, please let me know,

426
00:31:30.119 --> 00:31:33.000
tell me, tell me what you
need. I don't have time,

427
00:31:33.079 --> 00:31:36.759
Verrio, God damn minds. Yeah, just turn that off today. So

428
00:31:37.599 --> 00:31:42.279
went to jail for that shit.
Yeah yeah, that not the makings of

429
00:31:42.319 --> 00:31:48.160
a bandage. So so yeah,
it was just different things like that and

430
00:31:48.319 --> 00:31:52.400
just just being able to recognize those
things, but ultimately just saying myself and

431
00:31:52.559 --> 00:31:55.920
her. You know, when you're
in alignment with yourself, it's easier to

432
00:31:56.000 --> 00:31:59.240
pick up on other people that are
similar to you in that way. You

433
00:31:59.319 --> 00:32:01.039
know what if you know how like
you get dressed and you're about to go

434
00:32:01.039 --> 00:32:02.960
somewhere, you put on the outfit
and you get that feeling like, yeah,

435
00:32:02.960 --> 00:32:05.799
it's the one I'm goot to suck
them up with this one. Like

436
00:32:05.960 --> 00:32:07.680
that that feeling where you're like,
okay, yeah, this you might put

437
00:32:07.720 --> 00:32:10.240
on one of two, that one
that you feel like okay, yeah,

438
00:32:10.279 --> 00:32:15.200
this's it. You start feeling that
when you grow your intuition and you grow

439
00:32:15.240 --> 00:32:19.039
yourself love and you grow self awareness, saying you build those business boundaries and

440
00:32:19.119 --> 00:32:22.599
you have the tough conversations and you
grow, you know, when you pick

441
00:32:22.680 --> 00:32:24.519
self. And as a woman,
I feel like it's been easier to make

442
00:32:24.599 --> 00:32:30.119
friends in business colleagues, like even
with men, being more aware of those

443
00:32:30.160 --> 00:32:32.519
things, because I'm able to recognize
the people that are ready and willing to

444
00:32:32.640 --> 00:32:37.559
get that back but also ready to
receive it. It's been easy to love

445
00:32:37.640 --> 00:32:39.359
on Stormy and I like that,
like as a woman, like a lot

446
00:32:39.400 --> 00:32:42.279
of them, like I don't fuck
with women. She ain't say that.

447
00:32:42.680 --> 00:32:45.160
She was like, gird, I've
been like a girl because I have.

448
00:32:45.759 --> 00:32:50.079
I have. That is a real
thing. Now. When we were talking

449
00:32:50.240 --> 00:32:52.880
previously about you know, quote unquote
the makings of a bad bitch, there

450
00:32:52.920 --> 00:32:57.119
are a few moments that really stuck
out in my mind, and I wanted

451
00:32:57.160 --> 00:33:00.480
to know if you had any to
share it as well. So I want

452
00:33:00.480 --> 00:33:05.680
to talk about sexually. So I
was like all of you, the men

453
00:33:05.759 --> 00:33:09.319
too, think about when you felt
like you peaked sexually, like yo,

454
00:33:09.680 --> 00:33:16.240
I'm that nigga, or like yo, I'm that bitch. Like it could

455
00:33:16.279 --> 00:33:20.599
be different things for you. It
could be like yo, you stop gagging.

456
00:33:21.200 --> 00:33:24.799
It could be like yo, you
went more than ten minutes without pumping,

457
00:33:24.920 --> 00:33:28.160
like we're stop pumping, you know
what I mean? Like it could

458
00:33:28.200 --> 00:33:31.599
be different things, right, so
listen, it could be anything. So

459
00:33:32.319 --> 00:33:37.160
for me, I think like sexually, especially if we're talking about just sexually.

460
00:33:38.079 --> 00:33:43.599
I felt like a bad bitch the
first time I told a man I

461
00:33:43.720 --> 00:33:49.359
didn't come, And it wasn't just
I didn't come. I demanded a duel,

462
00:33:49.720 --> 00:33:52.920
okay, like nah, ain't gonna
being all like yo, I didn't

463
00:33:52.920 --> 00:33:59.000
come that si, I demanded he
finished, and like I can't explain it,

464
00:33:59.480 --> 00:34:04.079
but it gave me such a feeling
of empowerment, like I felt like

465
00:34:04.279 --> 00:34:07.160
that bitch, Like these niggas ain't
gonna be humping on me no more.

466
00:34:07.960 --> 00:34:10.199
I got feelings too, I gotta
put me first, Lucius, like I

467
00:34:10.400 --> 00:34:17.719
felt that hand. I felt that
so I wanted to acts like what's a

468
00:34:17.840 --> 00:34:22.079
moment for you sexually where you felt
like this is the makings of a bad

469
00:34:22.119 --> 00:34:25.920
bitch. This is where I feel
like it's it. I'm her, I

470
00:34:27.039 --> 00:34:30.880
got too, Can I go to
Yeah? Absolutely? Okay. I feel

471
00:34:30.880 --> 00:34:35.079
like the first time I realized I
could drive the boat, like I didn't

472
00:34:35.280 --> 00:34:38.039
need the man for sex, Like
I was able to do the four play

473
00:34:38.119 --> 00:34:44.119
for both of us do the oral, do the riding, and we both

474
00:34:44.199 --> 00:34:46.639
get off. Yeah, like the
flip you over a girl, let me

475
00:34:46.719 --> 00:34:51.719
just do it myself, like when
you realize you could hit that ship just

476
00:34:51.800 --> 00:34:52.639
as good as he could hit that
ship. Because you know, when men

477
00:34:52.639 --> 00:34:54.400
don't like how you hit it there, just flip you over and do the

478
00:34:54.400 --> 00:34:58.519
shit theyself because they know what you
know to do. Y'all. Y'all,

479
00:34:58.519 --> 00:35:00.639
I'll be thinking, y'all slick out
like yeah, I'll be like, oh,

480
00:35:00.719 --> 00:35:02.440
girl, I was right. Who's
so good? He just had to

481
00:35:02.440 --> 00:35:06.039
flip me over for he can't know, bitch, he was hurting, so

482
00:35:06.239 --> 00:35:08.119
he had to flip you over.
Um. So I feel like the first

483
00:35:08.159 --> 00:35:12.159
time I knew I was able to
do that, to be like a thorough

484
00:35:12.280 --> 00:35:15.360
giver. Um, I take part
of that just because in a partner,

485
00:35:15.400 --> 00:35:19.000
I think a lot of people be
on the slow road to resentment because they're

486
00:35:19.039 --> 00:35:22.000
not really getting the things that they
want sexually. UM. So, just

487
00:35:22.119 --> 00:35:24.280
being able to like show up for
my partners, you know, it's important.

488
00:35:24.920 --> 00:35:29.599
Um. And I think not I
think I even know. I feel

489
00:35:29.599 --> 00:35:32.960
like this story I know, and
you know because you know you know what

490
00:35:34.039 --> 00:35:35.559
it is. You know how you
say some of you go be like,

491
00:35:36.000 --> 00:35:38.639
how did that come out? Like
I remember amongst friends, we all cousins

492
00:35:38.679 --> 00:35:43.840
are here, all right, so
y'all have a what's sucking on the dick?

493
00:35:43.960 --> 00:35:49.320
And then it like a lot of
men know, and I may be

494
00:35:49.400 --> 00:35:52.719
wrong, I may be wrong,
but a lot of men here like maybe

495
00:35:52.800 --> 00:35:55.880
he just lose a little win,
like he don't he don't stay hard or

496
00:35:55.960 --> 00:36:00.360
whatever, and you know their sexual
chemistry and you know they want to fuck

497
00:36:00.480 --> 00:36:02.280
like because sometimes you know, like
when get hard, you know it's because

498
00:36:02.320 --> 00:36:05.559
he wasn't really that interested. You
know, I'm not talking about them.

499
00:36:05.719 --> 00:36:08.320
I'm talking about like nigga get excited
and like y'all really been playing or doing

500
00:36:08.320 --> 00:36:12.719
something his shit just don't you know
it just fuck with him on purpose,

501
00:36:12.760 --> 00:36:14.760
because it's like it's like us when
I like a period, come on,

502
00:36:14.800 --> 00:36:17.360
when you know you're about to get
about to damn, you know, it's

503
00:36:17.400 --> 00:36:21.280
like that. I think that's the
same thing for him. The first time

504
00:36:21.480 --> 00:36:25.119
that I responded and my response got
his dick hard, I was like,

505
00:36:27.400 --> 00:36:30.119
I'll show you that girl. M
It was a confidence booster. It was,

506
00:36:30.320 --> 00:36:32.840
And a lot of times I think
that a lot of women their confidence

507
00:36:32.880 --> 00:36:37.639
booster is how they do certain things. But I think my confidence booster is

508
00:36:37.679 --> 00:36:44.320
the way that I can make people
feel by being kind, being intentional,

509
00:36:44.559 --> 00:36:49.880
Like it's like four play all day
when you cannot be rude to someone and

510
00:36:50.039 --> 00:36:52.719
still like have boundaries, communicate what
it is that you want, Communicate what

511
00:36:52.840 --> 00:36:57.199
it is that you don't want not
offend people, you know what I mean,

512
00:36:57.280 --> 00:37:00.920
Like, really communicate what you're feeling. Like the howard of being able

513
00:37:00.000 --> 00:37:04.360
to get your point across where people
don't have to agree with you, but

514
00:37:04.480 --> 00:37:07.280
they can't respect to what you're saying
or hear what you're saying and say okay,

515
00:37:07.320 --> 00:37:10.599
I can receive that and just now
have so many argument of moments in

516
00:37:10.719 --> 00:37:15.599
your life, or like have awkward
sexual moments, like I don't want to

517
00:37:15.639 --> 00:37:19.440
re traumatize myself, you know,
because I can't communicate how I'm feeling in

518
00:37:19.519 --> 00:37:22.800
a sexual situation that may not be
what I thought it was going to be.

519
00:37:22.360 --> 00:37:29.000
And I I mean, I think
that a lot of people don't invest

520
00:37:30.000 --> 00:37:36.440
a lot of people don't invest in
getting better in sexual terms. They might

521
00:37:36.760 --> 00:37:40.000
buy more toys, but they don't
really buy more classes that are talking about

522
00:37:40.079 --> 00:37:45.599
sexual education. A lot of people
are skipping the foreplay of everything when you

523
00:37:45.960 --> 00:37:49.039
It's funny when because when you started
a conversation, I thought you were going

524
00:37:49.119 --> 00:37:51.679
on the path of, oh,
you're just a pleaser, but it seems

525
00:37:51.719 --> 00:37:53.840
like, no, you're just a
good communicator and you're able to make your

526
00:37:53.880 --> 00:37:58.079
partner feel comfortable through that. Am
I like on a right path saying that

527
00:37:58.239 --> 00:38:04.519
or no? Yes and no,
okay, yes, because I definitely became

528
00:38:04.639 --> 00:38:07.800
like a giver, but I think
that the elevation of that was not becoming

529
00:38:07.840 --> 00:38:12.880
a giver. I think I started
off as a giver and really I'm a

530
00:38:13.440 --> 00:38:17.599
I'm more like a give like I
remember, more of a rewarder. Yeah

531
00:38:17.880 --> 00:38:21.119
you know what I mean, Like
at the end of the day, when

532
00:38:21.159 --> 00:38:23.400
you take care of me, whether
that's emotionally, physically, or whatever,

533
00:38:23.519 --> 00:38:27.039
the things that it is that I
need, which I'm able to tell you

534
00:38:27.400 --> 00:38:30.880
that I need right when you're able
to do that, I'm able to be

535
00:38:30.159 --> 00:38:34.239
laid back. I'm not defensive,
you know what I'm saying. And when

536
00:38:34.239 --> 00:38:37.800
I'm in my natural state, just
as most women in our natural like feminine,

537
00:38:37.880 --> 00:38:42.159
like most relaxed, not aggressive or
and y'all know how y'all be when

538
00:38:42.199 --> 00:38:45.400
y'all walk past, when you at
the at the gas station. You like

539
00:38:45.480 --> 00:38:47.880
your ass cheeks has cleansed. You
defend like that's not your most relaxed state.

540
00:38:49.079 --> 00:38:52.000
Not me. I don't when somebody
to tell me I'm beautiful. That's

541
00:38:52.039 --> 00:38:55.840
where I get all my compliments is
at a gas station, and I just

542
00:38:57.280 --> 00:39:01.440
I think that I'm more. That's
not funny. Don't laugh at him,

543
00:39:01.519 --> 00:39:06.119
y'all. Don't laugh if y'all didn't
hear over there, he said from earl.

544
00:39:06.599 --> 00:39:14.280
Don't please just please shut up,
please down the street. You know

545
00:39:14.360 --> 00:39:16.239
it's funny, you said, taking
care of me, right, and so

546
00:39:16.559 --> 00:39:22.800
I wanted to get into the makings
of a bad bitch mentally. So what

547
00:39:23.079 --> 00:39:25.239
was the point on your journey where
you said, like, you know,

548
00:39:25.400 --> 00:39:30.840
like mentally emotionally like this right here, I'm a bad bitch. Like being

549
00:39:30.920 --> 00:39:37.400
able to be responsible for my emotional
reactions to things and not make people responsible

550
00:39:37.480 --> 00:39:42.920
for how they make me feel,
and understanding that no one has a responsibility

551
00:39:43.159 --> 00:39:47.440
to my feeling. It's the accountability, you know, auntability. Somebody please

552
00:39:49.000 --> 00:39:55.039
please they they are, you know, everyone is responsible for respecting me and

553
00:39:55.199 --> 00:40:00.960
respecting the boundaries that I set up
right, and I'm responsible for or sticking

554
00:40:00.000 --> 00:40:06.159
to those boundaries and committing to them, And so ultimately I feel like I

555
00:40:06.280 --> 00:40:09.400
am responsible when either I let someone
in that I knew shouldn't I be there?

556
00:40:09.519 --> 00:40:13.559
They didn't, you know, go
through the things, um. And

557
00:40:13.639 --> 00:40:17.159
I also feel like I'm responsible emotionally
when when I don't like the way something

558
00:40:17.199 --> 00:40:22.000
happens, like I don't just because
something makes you mad don't mean you should

559
00:40:22.000 --> 00:40:23.840
tell somebody like you made me mad
that how did did they make you mad?

560
00:40:24.000 --> 00:40:29.199
Or did the way they responded upset
you? Or like what finding out

561
00:40:29.280 --> 00:40:30.760
why I was responding to things the
way that I respond to them, so

562
00:40:30.840 --> 00:40:35.239
I can find a better way to
respond. Like, I just feel like

563
00:40:35.320 --> 00:40:38.039
a lot of the things that as
women we were focused on that we value,

564
00:40:38.480 --> 00:40:43.079
like love and trust and you know
shit like that, I don't think

565
00:40:43.119 --> 00:40:46.719
those are the same things. All
right, you are you? You gotta

566
00:40:47.320 --> 00:40:52.480
pause for me, Okay, we're
gonna do question. But this is also

567
00:40:52.519 --> 00:40:54.119
a live recording, so her audio
is going to go out next week,

568
00:40:54.360 --> 00:40:58.159
so we don't want to mix and
have all the blurred sounds from the background.

569
00:40:58.199 --> 00:41:00.559
That's why it's like super pin quiet. It's not It's not like we

570
00:41:00.639 --> 00:41:04.239
don't want you to participate. She
just has a time for it so that

571
00:41:04.320 --> 00:41:06.800
they with the audio can come out
the way she wants to. Next week,

572
00:41:07.719 --> 00:41:12.079
Covie, thank you. I think
that something important that you said is,

573
00:41:12.320 --> 00:41:15.679
um, I'm responsible for me right. And I felt that because I

574
00:41:15.800 --> 00:41:21.159
felt like I was a bad bitch, like mentally emotionally when like I'm like,

575
00:41:21.280 --> 00:41:25.000
yo, I know my worth,
yeah, even though my pussy or

576
00:41:25.000 --> 00:41:30.000
stumping and I want my gut stirred, I know my worst right and having

577
00:41:30.039 --> 00:41:35.760
a strength to be like you can't
have it like that was my moment of

578
00:41:35.880 --> 00:41:39.079
like I felt that like the power
and not being And I don't want to

579
00:41:39.079 --> 00:41:42.800
say when I say weak, I
don't mean it in a derogatory term,

580
00:41:43.280 --> 00:41:46.599
but like sometimes the flesh g's weak, not the flesh. The flesh weak,

581
00:41:46.960 --> 00:41:51.840
okay, And you end up giving
yourself, whether it be your time,

582
00:41:52.000 --> 00:41:55.320
your body, whatever, to people
who don't really deserve you because the

583
00:41:55.440 --> 00:41:59.840
flesh is weak. And once I
reached that point, was like, yo,

584
00:42:00.159 --> 00:42:05.079
I don't care how moisty s panties
get. I don't care. You

585
00:42:05.199 --> 00:42:09.239
know how many cramps I get from
blue walls, not blue balls, blue

586
00:42:09.280 --> 00:42:15.239
walls, Okay, I don't care. I don't care how hard it gets.

587
00:42:15.360 --> 00:42:19.760
I'm not going to give it to
somebody unless they deserve it. Once

588
00:42:19.880 --> 00:42:22.719
I reached that point, I'm like, yeah, no, I'm not bitch.

589
00:42:22.000 --> 00:42:24.679
Yeah I'm that bitch. Yeah yeah. I feel like a lot of

590
00:42:24.800 --> 00:42:30.000
us um our panties be controlling every
thing. Yeah, just like we talk

591
00:42:30.039 --> 00:42:31.599
about like ro man need to learn
to control they dig nah, y'all,

592
00:42:31.599 --> 00:42:34.679
I need to learn control. Y'all
puts it too, because y'all be doing

593
00:42:34.719 --> 00:42:36.880
a whole bunch of shits. I
think, don't nobody know about We could

594
00:42:36.880 --> 00:42:38.639
tell. We could tell that you're
still sucking on him. I can tell

595
00:42:38.679 --> 00:42:43.719
because every time you walk in the
room, you start acting different. I'm

596
00:42:43.840 --> 00:42:47.079
acting different. I just think a
lot of women, a lot of women

597
00:42:47.159 --> 00:42:50.800
be putting on this. Fuck it's
Audie, And look, don't let the

598
00:42:50.880 --> 00:42:53.800
potters stop part potting, okay,
because he gotta pay for this, and

599
00:42:53.880 --> 00:42:57.360
he gotta pay for that, and
then you'll be fucking on the nigga that

600
00:42:57.519 --> 00:43:00.800
you're paying for it. It's crazy
that you say that, like it's so

601
00:43:00.000 --> 00:43:02.559
full of shit, Like you can't
be honest. I feel like even if

602
00:43:02.599 --> 00:43:07.119
you are doing something for someone,
like oh, you're doing something y'all don't

603
00:43:07.159 --> 00:43:10.199
even be honest that you're helping someone, Like you're not really honest about anything.

604
00:43:10.360 --> 00:43:14.320
Y'all just be loud as fuck for
no fucking reason. And it's just

605
00:43:14.400 --> 00:43:17.039
like you offering information and nobody even
asks. That's the clear sign that you're

606
00:43:17.039 --> 00:43:22.719
not even confident in who the fuck
you are. It's crazy. It's so

607
00:43:22.880 --> 00:43:27.400
crazy that you say that, because
I don't think standards are a real thing

608
00:43:28.480 --> 00:43:35.119
people. I don't think standards exist
because if someone is fine enough, has

609
00:43:35.280 --> 00:43:38.639
enough money, or makes you feel
special enough, all of them standards go

610
00:43:38.719 --> 00:43:42.719
off the window. Since I thought
you said he had to wait ninety days,

611
00:43:43.000 --> 00:43:45.159
Oh he's six two with a gold
chain in a pretty smile, So

612
00:43:45.320 --> 00:43:47.360
now he don't like you know what
I'm saying, Like, I don't think

613
00:43:47.480 --> 00:43:53.360
that standards really exist. It's just
finding someone who checks off enough boxes where

614
00:43:53.360 --> 00:43:57.159
it's like, I mean, I
can't, I guess, And I think

615
00:43:57.199 --> 00:44:00.920
that's for most people. Standards don't
exist, and I think, and I

616
00:44:00.079 --> 00:44:04.719
think I know for me, those
those boundaries are difficult to have. These

617
00:44:04.760 --> 00:44:07.159
things that we're talking about are saying
that if I want this type of person,

618
00:44:07.559 --> 00:44:09.599
what does that type of person,
what does their life look like,

619
00:44:09.679 --> 00:44:13.199
how do they speak to people like, y'all don't know how to details of

620
00:44:13.239 --> 00:44:15.119
what y'all want. Y'all just tell
y'all want them to be tall, y'all

621
00:44:15.119 --> 00:44:16.159
want them to be fine. Y'all
want them to be smart. That's general

622
00:44:16.239 --> 00:44:23.960
as fuck. Hitler was all of
probably those all them things, all them

623
00:44:24.039 --> 00:44:28.760
things, like y'all literally asked,
y'all asked for somebody to be six three.

624
00:44:28.760 --> 00:44:30.159
You want them to make six figures. You want them to be,

625
00:44:30.559 --> 00:44:32.840
you know, powerful, You want
them to be able to put you on.

626
00:44:34.440 --> 00:44:36.920
Donald Trump can do each and every
one of those things. That's what

627
00:44:37.000 --> 00:44:38.960
you want to be fucking on ye
Like, you don't be specific, it's

628
00:44:39.000 --> 00:44:44.760
just you date someone that fits in
the spot that you have open. You

629
00:44:44.960 --> 00:44:46.599
date like you trying to take a
cab or a taxi and you have no

630
00:44:46.639 --> 00:44:50.639
accountability for that because you don't know
how to sit alone. You don't know

631
00:44:50.760 --> 00:44:52.280
how to think. Damn, I'm
gonna get him to get my number when

632
00:44:52.280 --> 00:44:54.800
you get into place, like you
you be ansty like, how'm gonna make

633
00:44:54.800 --> 00:44:59.039
sure that he see me? So? Like you be so pressed, so

634
00:44:59.239 --> 00:45:02.199
pressed, set up up, start
off like I think so and you don't

635
00:45:02.239 --> 00:45:07.000
and we don't be pressed enough about
ourselves. That's the problem. I don't

636
00:45:07.039 --> 00:45:08.039
give a damn what the fuck you
pressed? Aboy? Bitch? Do you

637
00:45:08.440 --> 00:45:12.960
but make sure you keep that same
energy for yourself. He ain't by hell,

638
00:45:13.159 --> 00:45:15.000
I need a man it buy me
flowers every week, bitch. I've

639
00:45:15.079 --> 00:45:17.000
never seen a flower in your house. Why would I know? Like,

640
00:45:17.079 --> 00:45:22.559
I don't have time to memorize how
to love you, especially when you're not

641
00:45:22.960 --> 00:45:24.599
You're not even practicing on how you
want to be loved, to love you,

642
00:45:25.119 --> 00:45:29.760
how you love you. This set
today is giving nineties vibe? Is

643
00:45:29.760 --> 00:45:32.000
it not? Does Does she not
look like like a like a little chilly

644
00:45:32.360 --> 00:45:37.480
Liliah? You know what I know
about you know what I know about Stormy

645
00:45:37.800 --> 00:45:40.599
is that's her vibe. You know
what I'm saying, Like she gonna always

646
00:45:40.599 --> 00:45:44.480
be a sporty, fine ass chick. It's like, damn, she kind

647
00:45:44.519 --> 00:45:46.559
of hood with you, but she
pretty as fucked. Like I knew this

648
00:45:46.760 --> 00:45:50.519
was gonna be her energy. Like
when we called the set designer, was

649
00:45:50.519 --> 00:45:53.400
like, hey, this is her
style, Like things like that the bartenders.

650
00:45:53.480 --> 00:45:59.320
You saw the name of the drinks
er. We're not looking at create

651
00:45:59.400 --> 00:46:01.519
the fucking wi We're trying to see
what information is she telling us so we

652
00:46:01.599 --> 00:46:06.000
can figure out how to love that
person. If you don't know, if

653
00:46:06.039 --> 00:46:08.800
you're bland as fuck and you're just
you're not difficult, I'm easy going,

654
00:46:08.920 --> 00:46:13.199
I'm simple to please. Then bit
you're gonna get some simple ass shit like

655
00:46:13.760 --> 00:46:17.800
nobody is saying. Y'all don't have
the specifics. You know what I'm saying,

656
00:46:17.920 --> 00:46:20.559
the type of person you want.
You don't really know what you want.

657
00:46:20.639 --> 00:46:23.360
I don't uphold the specifics. And
because you don't treat yourself nice,

658
00:46:23.719 --> 00:46:28.280
you end up dating anybody that treats
you better than you. Yep, anybody

659
00:46:28.440 --> 00:46:30.719
that treats you betting you. So
if that nigga gets you on a massage,

660
00:46:30.880 --> 00:46:31.880
that's what you like. Oh,
I ain't never had a nigga do

661
00:46:32.079 --> 00:46:37.000
nothing like that. That's my husband, that ninety minute massage. Come on,

662
00:46:37.119 --> 00:46:39.519
somebody like, come on, you
have to treat you so good that

663
00:46:39.679 --> 00:46:45.320
you can tell when the energy stepping
in is matching or is it less than

664
00:46:45.360 --> 00:46:47.159
what you're giving yourself. You know
what I'm saying. That doesn't mean that

665
00:46:47.199 --> 00:46:51.159
they're a bad person or that you
need to pull them up to that level

666
00:46:51.199 --> 00:46:53.559
and teach them. It means that
right now, this doesn't really align for

667
00:46:53.639 --> 00:46:57.840
me, but you know, maybe
we can revisit that, y'all. So

668
00:46:58.920 --> 00:47:00.760
you know we're so thirsty for nigga. I know it's more it's more of

669
00:47:00.880 --> 00:47:05.199
us than it is to them.
But that don't mean like except shit.

670
00:47:05.440 --> 00:47:07.320
Like she said earlier, like if
you want certain things to stop, you

671
00:47:07.400 --> 00:47:12.199
gotta stop playing into it. And
y'all think that people don't talk. What

672
00:47:12.360 --> 00:47:14.920
y'all post on the internet is not
what we're talking about. Niggas are talking.

673
00:47:14.920 --> 00:47:15.760
They're like, man, that the
girl is lying. I wouldn't over

674
00:47:15.760 --> 00:47:20.079
there on the first night. And
I know this. They're telling me.

675
00:47:20.440 --> 00:47:23.880
The niggas tell me, they tell
and I'm not saying you can be telling

676
00:47:23.920 --> 00:47:29.119
me, just so ya know,
they'd be telling me all that stuff y'all

677
00:47:29.159 --> 00:47:30.559
be saying on the internet. Do
not be what y'all really be doing.

678
00:47:30.719 --> 00:47:34.880
Okay, it's not. That's why
the nigga laughing so hard. Okay,

679
00:47:35.320 --> 00:47:37.400
it's not. It's really not.
And I want y'all to stop it,

680
00:47:38.079 --> 00:47:42.800
you know, so you know,
go without a little bit, you know,

681
00:47:42.960 --> 00:47:44.920
go without a little bit if you've
been in a relation, if you

682
00:47:45.079 --> 00:47:46.679
camemeber the last time you've been single
for longer than a year, the odds

683
00:47:46.719 --> 00:47:52.320
aren't probably talking to you at me, bitch. How many people, I

684
00:47:52.400 --> 00:47:54.840
mean, think about how many great
people are really in the world. We'd

685
00:47:54.880 --> 00:47:58.679
be having so many time feelers because
we'd be bored, yes, and then

686
00:47:58.719 --> 00:48:00.679
you wonder why you ain't got this
and why you ain't got that when you

687
00:48:00.679 --> 00:48:02.960
could have been using that energy because
you're settling. You're settling making every moment

688
00:48:04.000 --> 00:48:07.360
of your life a dating moment.
Every moment is not always like a great

689
00:48:07.400 --> 00:48:09.639
relationship moment for you. Maybe the
relationship to the great relationship that youre is

690
00:48:09.679 --> 00:48:13.719
just you. Maybe it's working on
your relationship with your family. But I

691
00:48:13.760 --> 00:48:16.119
always got a nigga on the mind, like always and always. You know

692
00:48:16.159 --> 00:48:21.039
what's crazy? Men are like that
too. They've really been programmed to think

693
00:48:21.079 --> 00:48:22.679
like how many women can you have? And how many bitches as you fucking?

694
00:48:22.760 --> 00:48:25.679
And so a lot of them are
always with time filler people too,

695
00:48:25.760 --> 00:48:30.320
people that they really don't one a
day. They just feel like they got

696
00:48:30.440 --> 00:48:32.760
to be with the woman to show
up or you know, as quiet as

697
00:48:32.800 --> 00:48:36.920
it's kept. I know that we
have this notion of like, oh,

698
00:48:37.159 --> 00:48:38.920
men are pussy crazy that's all they
wanted to do. How many notches can

699
00:48:38.960 --> 00:48:43.800
they get on that belt? How
many women can they conquer? But ladies,

700
00:48:44.000 --> 00:48:46.199
we be husband crazy. All we're
trying to figure out is when is

701
00:48:46.239 --> 00:48:49.559
my husband gonna come? What I
gotta do to get them? How I'm

702
00:48:49.599 --> 00:48:52.920
going to get on the black love
feet page. Okay, that's all We're

703
00:48:52.000 --> 00:48:58.119
worried about. Me and somebody's son. Me and somebody's son, that's all

704
00:48:58.199 --> 00:49:00.760
we focus on. It's not even
how do I prepare myself to be a

705
00:49:00.840 --> 00:49:05.039
wife, you know? How do
I prepare myself to be a good girlfriend?

706
00:49:05.119 --> 00:49:07.320
How do I make sure if me
and my partner get into something,

707
00:49:07.360 --> 00:49:09.800
we're gonna be able to work it
out and move forward successfully without further issue.

708
00:49:10.119 --> 00:49:14.119
We're not worried about nothing else.
How am I going to get the

709
00:49:14.239 --> 00:49:16.199
right lighting so that my picture is
good enough to be on me and somebody's

710
00:49:16.239 --> 00:49:20.079
son like that? That's what we're
worried about. And that's not it.

711
00:49:20.559 --> 00:49:22.480
You know, that's so wild.
Because we have this panel. It's called

712
00:49:22.760 --> 00:49:28.760
what Men Want, and it's for
June for like Men's Health Awareness Month,

713
00:49:29.199 --> 00:49:34.000
And one of the things we talk
about is like literally what they actually want

714
00:49:34.039 --> 00:49:36.440
and a lot of men don't really
bring up sex. I feel like a

715
00:49:36.519 --> 00:49:40.000
lot of men bring up peace what
they want are not even And this came

716
00:49:40.079 --> 00:49:45.800
up on my podcast. A lot
of this came up on my podcast where

717
00:49:45.840 --> 00:49:50.400
a man was talking about he doesn't
enjoy sex as much as he used to

718
00:49:50.440 --> 00:49:52.159
because it's so much pressure pressure for
him to show up, for him to

719
00:49:52.199 --> 00:49:54.480
perform. He gotta how hard dick, he gotta have the moves. He

720
00:49:54.559 --> 00:49:59.599
can't just do the same thing every
time. And it's like sometimes he don't

721
00:49:59.599 --> 00:50:01.639
even want to have sex. But
it's like when men don't want to have

722
00:50:01.719 --> 00:50:04.800
sex, it's like, well,
damn, you don't like me no more,

723
00:50:05.039 --> 00:50:07.119
or like they can't they always have
to show up when the woman wants

724
00:50:07.119 --> 00:50:10.639
sex. But at the same time, women can always decline sex with men

725
00:50:10.719 --> 00:50:13.960
and they have to be cool with
it and things like that, when a

726
00:50:14.000 --> 00:50:15.920
lot of women don't even know how
to respond if a man doesn't want to

727
00:50:15.920 --> 00:50:20.760
be sexual. And so a lot
of men aren't pussy crazy at all,

728
00:50:20.880 --> 00:50:23.239
they really have just a lot of
men have not really found women that they

729
00:50:23.800 --> 00:50:28.480
like or have affection with that they
aren't having sex with. A lot of

730
00:50:28.559 --> 00:50:31.840
them are treating sex as the affection, as the confidence booster, as the

731
00:50:32.840 --> 00:50:37.079
validation, it's all of those.
They get a lot of those things from

732
00:50:37.119 --> 00:50:40.239
sex. So a lot of men
have never felt real affection because they always

733
00:50:40.280 --> 00:50:45.480
get affection from women that they're fucking, so they don't even know the difference.

734
00:50:45.840 --> 00:50:47.480
A woman doesn't have to be having
sex with you to respect you,

735
00:50:47.639 --> 00:50:52.920
but a lot of men the bars
in hell, like they don't even get

736
00:50:52.039 --> 00:50:57.440
respect. Like I love pickymn.
I love a pickyman, like stand on

737
00:50:57.559 --> 00:51:00.719
it, like there's nothing wrong with
that. Like I'd rather a lot of

738
00:51:00.760 --> 00:51:04.599
woman man that they can fuck a
man. I'd rather pick me. I'd

739
00:51:04.679 --> 00:51:07.480
rather picky man than a pick me
man. I can't stand those pick me

740
00:51:07.599 --> 00:51:10.760
man, you know what, I'm
pick me man maybe on the internet talking

741
00:51:10.760 --> 00:51:16.119
about like, oh, you know
you should send your girl four hundred dollars

742
00:51:16.159 --> 00:51:29.800
for a first state to get her
hair and then be fucking everything everything walking

743
00:51:30.559 --> 00:51:34.280
from the side. Don't get you
know, I don't be thinking. I

744
00:51:34.400 --> 00:51:36.639
don't feeling like I got a podcast. I feel like I got a TV

745
00:51:36.719 --> 00:51:39.079
show. So I can't relate to
some of these. But I just I'd

746
00:51:39.119 --> 00:51:43.679
be so sick of it. I'd
be so sick of it fucked up everything.

747
00:51:43.679 --> 00:51:45.320
That's why we brought back nineties audience
recordings. I know that's right.

748
00:51:45.400 --> 00:51:47.719
What that man said, y'all want
you to make some noise. That's stay

749
00:51:47.719 --> 00:51:50.719
in a segment too. We're gonna
come back with some more of y'all make

750
00:51:50.760 --> 00:51:53.199
some noise, makes some noise.
I wanted to tell this story, and

751
00:51:53.280 --> 00:51:59.239
I wanted to bring someone up,
hopefully to provide some clarification. Okay,

752
00:52:00.039 --> 00:52:07.000
So you know how like when you're
dating right and you decide this is fun,

753
00:52:07.119 --> 00:52:12.440
but we're not a good fit.
So now we are ending said dating

754
00:52:12.559 --> 00:52:16.119
period. Right. So me and
this man went on probably about five dates.

755
00:52:17.039 --> 00:52:21.679
He paid for three, I paid
for two. Now this last fifth

756
00:52:21.760 --> 00:52:24.880
one that we are going on.
I picked him up, I took him

757
00:52:24.880 --> 00:52:30.400
out to eat, I paid,
I dropped him off at his house.

758
00:52:31.039 --> 00:52:37.679
Now, before he got out the
car, let me finish. Don't think

759
00:52:37.679 --> 00:52:40.159
you getting nitties. Let me finish, Let me finish, let me finish.

760
00:52:40.239 --> 00:52:45.039
Okay, Now, before he got
out the car on this fifth date,

761
00:52:45.920 --> 00:52:49.639
I said, hey, I really
like hanging with you, but I

762
00:52:49.760 --> 00:52:53.039
just don't feel like things are developing
romantically for me. So you know,

763
00:52:53.360 --> 00:52:57.239
we can still be friends if you
want. If not, it's cool,

764
00:52:57.400 --> 00:53:00.599
just let me know. Right The
door opened, like, like, are

765
00:53:00.599 --> 00:53:04.719
you saying this? Honestly? He
had he had winning for a kiss,

766
00:53:04.760 --> 00:53:06.320
and I said, hey, real
fast, let me just talk to you.

767
00:53:09.280 --> 00:53:13.519
See something you gotta ask questions because
she was gonna leave that part out,

768
00:53:14.239 --> 00:53:20.320
so I said, you know,
I don't see things developing romantically.

769
00:53:20.880 --> 00:53:22.719
I'm open to being friends. If
that's not what you want to do,

770
00:53:22.760 --> 00:53:25.000
it's okay. Just let me know, take some time to think about it.

771
00:53:25.679 --> 00:53:30.119
And he looked at me. He
was like, why would you make

772
00:53:30.199 --> 00:53:34.000
me work a full shift before you
fire me? And I was like,

773
00:53:34.159 --> 00:53:36.760
whoa, what do you mean?
He was like, you could have been

774
00:53:36.840 --> 00:53:37.920
did this ship? You didn't have
to, you know, take me out

775
00:53:37.960 --> 00:53:42.400
to eat and blah blah blah blah
blah. But I'm confused because in my

776
00:53:42.599 --> 00:53:45.440
mind, I'm treating you would love
and care. Yes, I'm handling it

777
00:53:45.599 --> 00:53:50.360
tenderly. I was doing a nice
gesture like at least you don't feel like

778
00:53:50.440 --> 00:53:52.920
you wasted your time. I took
you out, I picked you up,

779
00:53:53.000 --> 00:53:57.159
I paid, I dropped you off. Now, don't get me wrong,

780
00:53:57.360 --> 00:53:59.840
I didn't do all this because I
wanted to stop talking to him because I

781
00:54:00.079 --> 00:54:01.400
I'll take me on dates like I
chuck on niggas. I'll tell him I'm

782
00:54:01.400 --> 00:54:07.440
not a shamed exactly. I like
niggas that like nice things exactly. I

783
00:54:07.480 --> 00:54:12.480
don't like niggas that don't like come
on, come on. So but now

784
00:54:12.719 --> 00:54:15.719
somehow, because I am ending it
on this terms, those same claps don't

785
00:54:15.719 --> 00:54:21.719
apply, you know what I mean. So I wanted to, Like I

786
00:54:21.800 --> 00:54:23.639
said, I got a lot of
pushback from it, and I didn't understand

787
00:54:23.679 --> 00:54:29.400
why. So I wanted to bring
someone up to hopefully clarify. So I

788
00:54:29.519 --> 00:54:32.639
wanted to call out my man Taishan
from the Hardly Initiated podcast? Can you

789
00:54:32.719 --> 00:54:35.320
can you put up? Can you
come up to the mic from me for

790
00:54:35.440 --> 00:54:43.039
us? Can you tell me what
I did wrong? Because I thought I

791
00:54:43.159 --> 00:54:45.239
was being nice. I thought this
was what it is. I think really

792
00:54:45.519 --> 00:54:51.760
both of y'all last was wrong.
Okay, okay, so first let me

793
00:54:52.079 --> 00:54:55.679
clarification questions. Okay, you picked
him up, uh huh, he sat

794
00:54:55.760 --> 00:55:02.400
in the passenger seat. Huh my
little passenger prints. Yeah yeah, y'all

795
00:55:02.480 --> 00:55:06.679
roll to the date show. Did
you dropped them off back in the house,

796
00:55:07.239 --> 00:55:12.079
had him try oysters for the first
time, too. You had my

797
00:55:12.199 --> 00:55:20.920
nigga's nice and then went home with
desert did and you did this for two

798
00:55:21.039 --> 00:55:23.559
dates? Well, well it wasn't
back to back, But I'm just saying,

799
00:55:23.599 --> 00:55:25.920
like, of the five dates that
we went on, he paid for

800
00:55:27.039 --> 00:55:30.119
three, I paid for two.
So prior to this day, you pretty

801
00:55:30.199 --> 00:55:34.119
much knew this cat was okay.
Now, if we're talking about growth and

802
00:55:34.199 --> 00:55:37.000
being honest, right, yeah,
genuinely I knew by date one. I

803
00:55:37.199 --> 00:55:42.360
wasn't interested, but we were doing
that seat fillers thing where we go out

804
00:55:42.760 --> 00:55:45.599
just because we want to go out. Right now, Now I realized said

805
00:55:45.639 --> 00:55:49.079
that part was wrong, But I'm
saying, as far as ending it,

806
00:55:49.199 --> 00:55:51.880
what was wrong there? Well?
How long did the five dates go on?

807
00:55:52.039 --> 00:55:54.079
Like was this like three months over
like five dates? And what time

808
00:55:54.159 --> 00:55:59.000
frame like a month? Five days? And probably like I'm off and a

809
00:55:59.119 --> 00:56:08.199
half too. Yes, that's not
let me tell you. Listen, listen,

810
00:56:09.559 --> 00:56:15.239
we're grown. Your discernment is strong. After date one, you already

811
00:56:15.320 --> 00:56:17.719
knew this cat wasn't it. That's
why he was in the passenger seat,

812
00:56:20.559 --> 00:56:24.480
that's but anyway, But anyway,
the thing about it is at the point

813
00:56:24.519 --> 00:56:29.679
where you know and I've already decided
that this dude not gonna make it.

814
00:56:30.239 --> 00:56:35.639
Let's just let's let's just make it
a rule to communicate that right then and

815
00:56:35.719 --> 00:56:38.559
there. It don't waste nobody time. I am there now. But the

816
00:56:38.719 --> 00:56:44.079
pushback was, don't fire me after
making me work a full shift. I

817
00:56:44.159 --> 00:56:50.320
can't treat you nice before I let
you go. I mean treated treating him

818
00:56:50.400 --> 00:56:57.159
nice, but I actually getting give
us masks him him him some dinner.

819
00:56:57.960 --> 00:57:00.400
It's not necessarily tread. It was
a nice said I ate before I came.

820
00:57:02.400 --> 00:57:07.400
So I, Tyshawn, did you
have something else to say to that

821
00:57:07.519 --> 00:57:10.440
before I ad I just don't want
to let you off. I'm working on

822
00:57:10.559 --> 00:57:15.800
it. The Lord is working on
it, am. So I feel like

823
00:57:15.880 --> 00:57:20.119
a couple of things one two things
can be true. Let's just say that,

824
00:57:20.280 --> 00:57:22.960
okay. So first, I feel
like him coming in for a kiss

825
00:57:23.079 --> 00:57:28.039
is a mad, vulnerable moment to
find out that you weren't interested anyway.

826
00:57:29.239 --> 00:57:31.639
I feel like that's the part that
sucks. And I don't think that's your

827
00:57:31.719 --> 00:57:36.039
fault because you didn't know he was
going to kiss you. But I also

828
00:57:36.159 --> 00:57:38.960
think on both of y'all behalves,
how many dates were y'all kissing on the

829
00:57:39.039 --> 00:57:43.400
other dates or was this a first
kiss? Because if if he waited five

830
00:57:43.599 --> 00:57:49.800
dates for a first kiss knew what
was going on, that's that's one and

831
00:57:49.960 --> 00:57:52.679
then two. I feel like I'm
not gonna say that she's wrong for the

832
00:57:52.760 --> 00:57:55.880
five day thing. Now, I
will say, as a woman, you

833
00:57:57.159 --> 00:58:00.400
know that if you will fuck in
ten seconds, you know I did that.

834
00:58:00.559 --> 00:58:04.360
Now, that don't mean you will, but you know in ten seconds

835
00:58:04.400 --> 00:58:06.320
when you meet that nigga, Yeah, I get a nigga some pussy.

836
00:58:06.480 --> 00:58:07.719
Now, I might not be in
a position to offer some up. The

837
00:58:07.800 --> 00:58:13.239
bank may be empty, but I
know that your circumstances. Was writing he

838
00:58:13.320 --> 00:58:15.840
respected me in all blah bah blah, that I would have given that nigga

839
00:58:15.880 --> 00:58:21.679
some pussy. You know you know
I did. Now, I will also

840
00:58:21.880 --> 00:58:25.159
says she taking this real will She's
like, all right, whatever, y'all

841
00:58:25.199 --> 00:58:30.960
saying the other thing. Though,
we are wrong and you cannot cut off

842
00:58:30.000 --> 00:58:35.199
every single person if your pussy don't
pop immediately on the first or second date,

843
00:58:35.280 --> 00:58:37.800
because a lot of times every time
y'all pop quick, y'all popping for

844
00:58:37.840 --> 00:58:42.400
the wrong one. So how do
you really know? Sometimes sexual chemistry is

845
00:58:42.400 --> 00:58:45.119
a little late comfortable. Yeah,
toxic ass, bad habits, that ship

846
00:58:45.199 --> 00:58:49.480
comfortable because I'm not gonna lie.
If one day three he would have pulled

847
00:58:49.519 --> 00:58:51.599
out like a backflip or some shit, I'm like, oh wait, hold

848
00:58:51.639 --> 00:58:53.079
on, let's revisit this. Like
he got some skills I ain't know about.

849
00:58:54.000 --> 00:58:58.159
Yeah, bitch, can you do
a backflip? Can you do atactly?

850
00:58:59.400 --> 00:59:06.000
Like? Damn? He called her
to be a power ranger? You

851
00:59:06.079 --> 00:59:08.480
know what? We could two power
rangers. We only need a few more.

852
00:59:08.800 --> 00:59:13.159
Okay, that's real, But but
I do feel like as an adult,

853
00:59:13.239 --> 00:59:16.519
if you're really trying to date,
you can't y'all fucking everybody that you

854
00:59:16.719 --> 00:59:22.480
date or are y'all not dating because
you shouldn't be fucking every single person that

855
00:59:22.559 --> 00:59:25.280
you're dating. Dating has to mean
like can we be cool? And do

856
00:59:25.400 --> 00:59:29.920
I want to fuck without us having
a fuck yet? And damn, I

857
00:59:29.960 --> 00:59:32.119
can't respect you enough to go out
a couple of times before I make sure

858
00:59:32.119 --> 00:59:36.360
that I'm sure everything don't happen on
the first time. Now when y'all fuck

859
00:59:36.480 --> 00:59:38.679
up fucking and the y'all, y'all
nut quick, y'all want that second time?

860
00:59:38.760 --> 00:59:43.199
No, don't you like we could
say bad because one time? No,

861
00:59:43.559 --> 00:59:45.760
Like women usually be kind of courteous, like, let me just make

862
00:59:45.840 --> 00:59:50.639
sure, but the fact that you
acknowledge from jump on date one that you

863
00:59:50.760 --> 00:59:53.599
knew damn well, you wasn't interested, You wasn't none of those things that

864
00:59:53.639 --> 00:59:55.800
I just said, I gave a
whole bunch of excuses that you can't use

865
00:59:55.840 --> 01:00:00.679
because you did say I'm not You're
right, and I don't apply. I'm

866
01:00:00.679 --> 01:00:04.239
going to be honest with y'all all
those things about in hindsight, in retrospect,

867
01:00:04.400 --> 01:00:06.840
I look back and reflect and say, yeah, I could have stopped

868
01:00:06.840 --> 01:00:08.960
to shit a long time ago.
But I wanted to ask Tashan, at

869
01:00:09.039 --> 01:00:15.400
what point should he have said I'm
good, Because we're now on date five.

870
01:00:15.639 --> 01:00:17.599
We've had a few hugs, but
there have been no kisses, there

871
01:00:17.639 --> 01:00:22.000
have been no intimacy really between us. So now I will also put out

872
01:00:22.039 --> 01:00:25.599
there I'm one of those girls that
I know it's going to sound crazy that

873
01:00:27.159 --> 01:00:30.320
you will forget you didn't fuck,
right, because we're gonna have such a

874
01:00:30.400 --> 01:00:37.239
good time being assholes and providing genuine
laughter and intimacy on other levels that you

875
01:00:37.360 --> 01:00:40.159
will forget that you didn't fuck.
You will forget you didn't kiss me.

876
01:00:40.239 --> 01:00:50.679
You will forget we weren't really that
intimate, right and please? Oh so

877
01:00:51.039 --> 01:00:53.679
at what point should he have said, Yeah, I am enjoying myself,

878
01:00:53.719 --> 01:00:55.880
but I still want to make sure
I'm want to check in and make sure

879
01:00:55.920 --> 01:00:59.880
we're on the same level whatever whatever
I mean At this point in my life,

880
01:01:00.159 --> 01:01:05.679
after the first date, I've had
enough data to know what the situation

881
01:01:05.880 --> 01:01:09.119
is. But I understand if we
move to a date two to really get

882
01:01:09.199 --> 01:01:14.880
some security and understanding, to make
sure that I know what I think I

883
01:01:15.000 --> 01:01:19.000
know. So it's not going past
a day two, And it's not even

884
01:01:19.079 --> 01:01:23.079
really about you getting wet or the
sexual chemistry because it really starts up here

885
01:01:23.199 --> 01:01:27.880
first, and the fact that y'all
really not even able to really vibe on

886
01:01:28.000 --> 01:01:31.760
that level. YEA, both knew
it's so really want to take out a

887
01:01:31.800 --> 01:01:37.719
bad bage, That's exactly. I
think he was just very happy to be

888
01:01:37.840 --> 01:01:44.760
in your presence and to be around
you, and he was genuinely even it

889
01:01:44.880 --> 01:01:50.400
was a level of satisfaction and that
to be around you. But you I

890
01:01:50.440 --> 01:01:53.000
wouldn't recommend you do that again.
I I know better. I learned my

891
01:01:53.079 --> 01:01:57.079
lesson. I learn my lesson.
Huh. I have a question, Yeah,

892
01:01:57.679 --> 01:02:02.639
what's so wrong about men and women
exchanging like feminine and masculine energy.

893
01:02:04.199 --> 01:02:07.760
I think I don't want to feel
the pressure to not go out or not

894
01:02:07.840 --> 01:02:10.159
get dressed up, or to dumb
myself down to go out with you,

895
01:02:10.280 --> 01:02:13.920
So you don't think that I want
to give you some pussy Like I'm sorry,

896
01:02:14.000 --> 01:02:15.360
but the bad bitshness is every day, so I'm not going to turn

897
01:02:15.400 --> 01:02:17.880
it down a little bit just because
I don't want to fuck. But at

898
01:02:17.920 --> 01:02:22.639
the same time, I feel like
sometimes men want to just want to take

899
01:02:22.679 --> 01:02:25.679
somebody out too, because they want
to, you know, look after somebody

900
01:02:25.840 --> 01:02:29.400
or like pull out a chair,
open the door, like sometimes they miss

901
01:02:29.480 --> 01:02:35.440
being used in a chivalry way as
well. Hold on. But I think

902
01:02:35.480 --> 01:02:37.920
the problem is that sometimes men will
be like, hey, I just want

903
01:02:37.920 --> 01:02:40.119
to take you out whatever, and
then a woman not wanting to fuck,

904
01:02:40.199 --> 01:02:43.480
don't know how to respect him or
just be a decent human, she'd be

905
01:02:43.480 --> 01:02:45.880
like, yeah, you're gonna get
that, like treating him like shit.

906
01:02:45.000 --> 01:02:50.320
And then now they resent taking women
out to just date and eat because y'all

907
01:02:50.400 --> 01:02:53.039
treat them like they're not fucking people. But would be pissed if they did

908
01:02:53.119 --> 01:02:57.719
that ship to your son. So
you wonder why niggas won't take you out

909
01:02:57.840 --> 01:03:01.719
just to eat like people, I'm
doing shit for me like my friends expect,

910
01:03:01.800 --> 01:03:06.519
like especially masculine ones, Like I
don't mind exchanging that energy. So

911
01:03:07.000 --> 01:03:08.559
if you're doing things for me,
I don't mind, Like, hey,

912
01:03:08.599 --> 01:03:12.800
I'm cooking. You're not my nigga, so that shit looks a little different.

913
01:03:12.920 --> 01:03:15.000
But hey, I'm fine with exchanging
this because sometimes you come up and

914
01:03:15.079 --> 01:03:17.079
help me with this and at the
end of the day, as long as

915
01:03:17.079 --> 01:03:21.159
you're not thinking that like there's an
eyele you on this pussy, then we're

916
01:03:21.239 --> 01:03:22.679
good at the end of the day. If you like women, just sometimes

917
01:03:22.760 --> 01:03:27.400
being around a feminine energy is enough
at the end of the day. If

918
01:03:27.440 --> 01:03:29.840
we can be mutual, you know, if can we mutually respect that because

919
01:03:29.840 --> 01:03:30.880
I like you, said you a
vibe. You know what I'm saying.

920
01:03:30.880 --> 01:03:35.840
I respect you. But yeah,
if you was pressed about getting this pussy,

921
01:03:35.880 --> 01:03:37.960
you knew on day one when she
wasn't giving you the look that you

922
01:03:37.039 --> 01:03:39.679
wasn't getting that pussy, So pimping
you gotta chill. Like I said,

923
01:03:39.679 --> 01:03:43.400
I do think his feelings was hurt
because he was like going in for that

924
01:03:43.519 --> 01:03:46.039
eighty twenty like off a hitch.
He was like going, and she does

925
01:03:46.119 --> 01:03:50.000
the last bit. I didn't do
the last bit. That was the first

926
01:03:50.039 --> 01:03:51.719
rejection, by the way, that
was the first time he went in.

927
01:03:51.760 --> 01:03:59.639
And if I'm being honest, it
was the first like intentional. Right,

928
01:04:00.239 --> 01:04:03.840
he's done like a hug and then
like tried to motion for like a kiss,

929
01:04:03.960 --> 01:04:06.840
but you know I'm a pink ranger, so I stopped that shit got

930
01:04:06.880 --> 01:04:11.360
in the further. But it was
the first, like, no, I

931
01:04:11.440 --> 01:04:14.960
am being intentional and trying to kiss
you right now, to sound the first

932
01:04:15.000 --> 01:04:18.039
one you felt the move away.
There were no hes. Probably no he

933
01:04:18.119 --> 01:04:20.119
felt the movie, yes, for
sure, he knew to move away for

934
01:04:20.239 --> 01:04:23.800
sure. Yeah, I don't like
women can't read the room though, just

935
01:04:23.920 --> 01:04:26.679
like just like women, women be
mad aggressive when they like a nigga like

936
01:04:27.119 --> 01:04:29.880
you know, but but me and
are two like you know damn well that

937
01:04:29.960 --> 01:04:31.039
you can't fuck. And you saw
how you tried to flick with her in

938
01:04:31.079 --> 01:04:35.400
the way she responded in that business
casual tone. She ain't interested. If

939
01:04:35.559 --> 01:04:40.519
if you she had her customer service
voice on, she was not interesting.

940
01:04:40.760 --> 01:04:44.119
Absolutely, Now I know how women
get stupid sound like and y'all know she

941
01:04:44.159 --> 01:04:46.920
ain't sounding stupid anything else. She
would like to add, Uh, Philly

942
01:04:47.000 --> 01:05:00.639
Nigga is definitely down that one.
Y'all make some noise sometime, all right,

943
01:05:00.880 --> 01:05:03.639
so um before you when y'all came
in, I did ask y'all to

944
01:05:03.800 --> 01:05:08.199
write some questions down, but you
know it's gonna be like at random me

945
01:05:08.280 --> 01:05:11.280
picking them out. So I wanted
to open up the floor if anyone had

946
01:05:11.320 --> 01:05:14.840
any questions that they felt comfortable asking, like upfront on camera. Whatever.

947
01:05:15.480 --> 01:05:17.599
You can do that now, or
you can play the lottery and wait your

948
01:05:17.679 --> 01:05:20.599
chance and hope your question comes up. If you want to step up to

949
01:05:20.679 --> 01:05:25.039
the mic that the floor is open. The Lord is calling one of you

950
01:05:25.159 --> 01:05:30.639
to step forward. Let him use
you, won't you come? Oh,

951
01:05:30.760 --> 01:05:32.800
y'all all gonna be pussy sign.
Come on, come on, come on,

952
01:05:32.960 --> 01:05:39.599
bright you come and come out.
First of all, Look at my

953
01:05:39.679 --> 01:05:42.480
girl's shirt. Look at my girl's
shirt. We got merch for sale after

954
01:05:42.519 --> 01:05:45.599
this, y'all just like ya,
Come on, come on, come on,

955
01:05:45.760 --> 01:05:47.760
come on. Somebody is definitely come
on backing off to that at home

956
01:05:49.320 --> 01:05:53.199
for sure. That's a wild ass
shirt. Yeah, I liked it.

957
01:05:53.480 --> 01:05:58.480
You know what. You know,
what's so crazy? We talk about like

958
01:05:58.599 --> 01:06:01.400
us being so similar, have a
shirt that I never released. It looks

959
01:06:01.400 --> 01:06:05.199
like that it's from the Mouth master
Class. I can't wait to see it.

960
01:06:05.559 --> 01:06:12.920
I can't wait to see it.
Come on, all right, son,

961
01:06:13.000 --> 01:06:16.280
we're gonna talk about that. After
that, we're gonna have some ahead.

962
01:06:16.320 --> 01:06:20.280
Come on, come on. So
my question, so my question is,

963
01:06:20.599 --> 01:06:28.280
come on, come on somebody.
So if you've known someone like like

964
01:06:28.440 --> 01:06:31.320
for fifteen years. I'm thirty by
the way. Uh So if you know

965
01:06:31.440 --> 01:06:34.320
someone like over a fifteen years that
you guys been friends for a long time,

966
01:06:34.400 --> 01:06:38.760
holding each other down and you want
to transition into a different space.

967
01:06:39.559 --> 01:06:43.960
But you guys are both getting out
of like six to eight year relationships and

968
01:06:45.280 --> 01:06:49.679
you know, you take a nap
together and then they say, oh but

969
01:06:49.760 --> 01:06:54.719
I don't really want a relationship,
but then they continue leading you on with

970
01:06:54.840 --> 01:06:58.440
that energy. Do you just leave
them alone or give them time? Because

971
01:06:58.440 --> 01:07:00.280
I feel like that after myth s
faith of break up, some people just

972
01:07:00.519 --> 01:07:05.360
missed out comfort. So how do
you move leave his ass alone? Thank

973
01:07:05.400 --> 01:07:09.280
you? Thank you? I think
I think that she knows that, but

974
01:07:09.400 --> 01:07:11.400
she's up there because she needs a
reason why. I think I'm gonna give

975
01:07:11.400 --> 01:07:14.400
her a reason why. Okay,
we got time, Yeah, how are

976
01:07:14.440 --> 01:07:19.679
you gonna ask for permission for what
you feel? And what the hell does

977
01:07:19.800 --> 01:07:26.360
lead you all means if you're not
opening each door like and why y'all trying

978
01:07:26.400 --> 01:07:31.000
to why are you trying to trauma
buy with your homeboy after the It's because

979
01:07:31.039 --> 01:07:36.480
it's comfort and it's safe. I
challenge you to explore friendship intimacy at this

980
01:07:36.559 --> 01:07:40.840
time because maybe there is something that
your friend can give you, But at

981
01:07:40.880 --> 01:07:44.320
the same time, you can't be
looking for him to feel a gap that

982
01:07:45.719 --> 01:07:48.239
might need to be filled. I
think you need to feel that gap yourself.

983
01:07:49.119 --> 01:07:57.639
You know, I believe that right
yourself, right um, And don't

984
01:07:57.679 --> 01:08:00.320
be putting the ball in nobody else's
court because at the end of to day,

985
01:08:00.840 --> 01:08:02.000
what I know about like the type
of man we say we like,

986
01:08:03.679 --> 01:08:08.800
You don't have to suggest much to
them. They the type of man I

987
01:08:08.880 --> 01:08:11.079
know, I like, They know
exactly what they want, you know what

988
01:08:11.119 --> 01:08:15.000
I mean. I don't have to
worry about them grabbing or getting it or

989
01:08:15.199 --> 01:08:17.800
whatever like that. You know,
men ain't gonna they're gonna get what they

990
01:08:17.880 --> 01:08:21.319
want. And you know, don't
don't push it on you already offering it,

991
01:08:23.640 --> 01:08:26.439
you letting them know the door open
now I don't push them, be

992
01:08:26.479 --> 01:08:28.680
like, come and check that.
We can't go down like that. While

993
01:08:28.680 --> 01:08:30.399
you win, you get this healing
phase. You might not be able to

994
01:08:30.399 --> 01:08:31.800
see it because you win it bless
it's not And then in a couple of

995
01:08:31.800 --> 01:08:33.359
months you're like, oh, I'm
so glad. How you do that?

996
01:08:33.520 --> 01:08:36.880
Like or unless you really fuck you
telling this whole story but outside of that,

997
01:08:38.880 --> 01:08:42.199
no, like what I mean when
I say we took naps like no,

998
01:08:42.359 --> 01:08:49.479
no, I was fucking it happened
once, and it's like, girls,

999
01:08:49.560 --> 01:08:54.920
what I said, I say what
I said. What I want to

1000
01:08:55.000 --> 01:08:59.760
say. I want to say,
sometimes sometimes you and your couch you don't

1001
01:08:59.760 --> 01:09:03.600
be the same page. I feel
right, But I do want to say,

1002
01:09:04.039 --> 01:09:09.199
it's no special set of rules or
playbook that you need to go by

1003
01:09:09.319 --> 01:09:12.920
in order to get your man okay. And if you feel like you have

1004
01:09:13.039 --> 01:09:15.520
to do certain things or move certain
ways, that just means that he's not

1005
01:09:15.680 --> 01:09:19.600
interested. A man who is interested
and intentional about you won't make you question

1006
01:09:19.680 --> 01:09:24.680
yourself. And if you feel like
it's getting down to that point, it's

1007
01:09:24.720 --> 01:09:26.880
not to say it's nothing wrong with
it, because it's okay for people to

1008
01:09:26.960 --> 01:09:30.239
want different things. At this point
I don't think y'all want the same thing.

1009
01:09:30.840 --> 01:09:32.560
But more so than that, don't
feel like you have to validate you

1010
01:09:32.680 --> 01:09:36.199
being sexually open or trying anything.
At the end of the day, if

1011
01:09:36.239 --> 01:09:40.039
it is your friend, and it's
a real friend, that still is somebody

1012
01:09:40.079 --> 01:09:43.239
that you should feel safe with and
comfortable with. And you know, if

1013
01:09:43.279 --> 01:09:45.119
one thing leads to another, you
don't owe anybody in explanation for you fucking

1014
01:09:45.159 --> 01:09:47.840
on that nigga, like, so, don't feel like you have to create

1015
01:09:47.960 --> 01:09:51.319
something from it to validate or like
feel like you didn't, like, damn,

1016
01:09:51.359 --> 01:09:54.760
I fucked on my friends, So
now I gotta make it mean something

1017
01:09:54.880 --> 01:09:58.119
like on your own sexuality, which
is you know what, I really needed

1018
01:09:58.159 --> 01:10:00.079
that comfort. Thank you and leave
it at that. Hey, sometimes one

1019
01:10:00.159 --> 01:10:04.760
plus one equals skeet, skeat.
It's okay, and maybe they like,

1020
01:10:05.439 --> 01:10:12.079
maybe that's why you outside. You
gotta all right, don't make a thank

1021
01:10:12.119 --> 01:10:15.520
you, thank you, thank you? Yes, anybody else got any questions?

1022
01:10:15.800 --> 01:10:18.560
Come on up, baby, come
on up, shut up, don't

1023
01:10:18.600 --> 01:10:25.159
do that. Shut up, shut
up. I mean, why and when

1024
01:10:25.920 --> 01:10:30.079
did we end up having the Internet
be our god such as such as Evan

1025
01:10:30.119 --> 01:10:39.560
and be a reference to a relationship. I think the internet became our rule

1026
01:10:39.680 --> 01:10:45.199
book when it came to relationships once
we stop having an abundance of examples of

1027
01:10:45.279 --> 01:10:49.159
good relationships. So instead of being
able to refer to, you know,

1028
01:10:50.039 --> 01:10:54.439
your aunties and uncles who've been married
for thirty plus years, or your grandparents

1029
01:10:54.479 --> 01:10:56.800
who've been married for fifty plus years, even though we don't really want the

1030
01:10:56.880 --> 01:11:00.199
examples because that ship wasn't healthiest,
but like, you don't have those to

1031
01:11:00.359 --> 01:11:03.880
go to anymore. So we're we
grew up in an age where if you

1032
01:11:03.920 --> 01:11:08.199
wanted to know something, you googled
it, So now we are just transferring

1033
01:11:08.239 --> 01:11:11.039
that to relationships. We want to
know something, so we listen to what

1034
01:11:11.199 --> 01:11:15.319
we hear on the internet. What
do you think? To be honest,

1035
01:11:15.479 --> 01:11:19.840
I think that this generation mad different. They looking for something that's deeper.

1036
01:11:20.039 --> 01:11:23.359
And I think that when you're looking
for something new, you make a lot

1037
01:11:23.439 --> 01:11:27.640
more mistakes. And we know that
because like the people that came before us,

1038
01:11:27.760 --> 01:11:30.479
and like our parents and our aunts, and we love them, but

1039
01:11:30.600 --> 01:11:33.439
they stood still for a really long
time just being okay with how things were

1040
01:11:33.520 --> 01:11:36.520
because we don't want to suck it
up. And this generation just so bad

1041
01:11:36.560 --> 01:11:39.680
ass. They'd be like, oh, I'm not happy at this job by

1042
01:11:40.279 --> 01:11:43.359
like out, you know what I'm
saying, Like they're just there. We're

1043
01:11:43.680 --> 01:11:45.439
way more like discover base. We're
trying to figure something out, and I

1044
01:11:45.479 --> 01:11:47.520
don't know, like if we're gonna
figure it out in this lifetime, I

1045
01:11:47.600 --> 01:11:51.640
really don't know. But I do
think that the people that raised us didn't

1046
01:11:51.680 --> 01:11:55.720
really have great boundaries. It was
more so do as I say, not

1047
01:11:55.840 --> 01:11:58.159
as I do, and do it
because I said so. They don't really

1048
01:11:58.239 --> 01:12:02.439
have the words or the vocabulary or
the emotional intelligence to still respect you and

1049
01:12:02.520 --> 01:12:05.840
explain why something may not be good
for you or whatever. And so we

1050
01:12:05.920 --> 01:12:11.359
have a lot of trauma. But
this new generation like has two parts.

1051
01:12:11.399 --> 01:12:13.880
We have the trauma, but we
also see the light and like I think

1052
01:12:13.880 --> 01:12:16.319
we're some dreamers. We believe that
something totally different is possible, and just

1053
01:12:16.920 --> 01:12:19.520
we're pulling towards that, you know
what I'm saying. So I think that

1054
01:12:20.039 --> 01:12:25.960
the Internet started off as a resource
and it became something that we overly leaned

1055
01:12:26.000 --> 01:12:29.520
on because sometimes, like I know, there's a lot of negative stuff on

1056
01:12:29.600 --> 01:12:32.000
there, but you're affected by what
you follow. I don't follow a lot

1057
01:12:32.039 --> 01:12:34.079
of stuff like I have to go
on the shade room if I want to

1058
01:12:34.119 --> 01:12:40.079
see the shade room, you know
what I'm saying. So sometimes we find

1059
01:12:40.119 --> 01:12:43.000
out that we have an issue from
the Internet or we find our passion from

1060
01:12:43.000 --> 01:12:45.199
it. Like most of the places
that I've traveled too are beautiful, but

1061
01:12:45.520 --> 01:12:47.359
I would not have learned about them
outside of Instagram, just because that's not

1062
01:12:47.479 --> 01:12:49.680
really what my parents were teaching or
how it was raised, you know what

1063
01:12:49.720 --> 01:12:54.439
I'm saying. Like you raised like
especially if you raised like in a place

1064
01:12:54.479 --> 01:12:57.119
that don't have no money, or
like your parents ain't got no money,

1065
01:12:57.399 --> 01:12:59.640
you know how to survive, you
know how to work hard. Like there's

1066
01:12:59.680 --> 01:13:00.720
some people but it was in all
the clubs and groups, and then there's

1067
01:13:00.760 --> 01:13:03.800
that person that just always had a
job since they turned fifteen, and it's

1068
01:13:03.840 --> 01:13:06.680
okay, we can all get there. So I love the Internet because it's

1069
01:13:06.680 --> 01:13:10.359
a resource, you know what I'm
saying. But I think that we give

1070
01:13:10.399 --> 01:13:15.199
it too much power versus you know, the accountability that's on us because we

1071
01:13:15.319 --> 01:13:18.119
are looking for something else, because
we're looking for more fulfillment and more passion

1072
01:13:18.199 --> 01:13:23.720
and like real happiness, we're making
more mistakes, you know what I'm saying.

1073
01:13:23.800 --> 01:13:27.319
So you know it's just putting stuff
out there. I think that that's

1074
01:13:27.760 --> 01:13:30.479
not think. I know. That's
exactly why I credit this. There's something

1075
01:13:30.520 --> 01:13:32.840
extradinary content house. I just got
tired of people now puts as like content

1076
01:13:32.960 --> 01:13:35.840
to be honest, like you know
what I'm saying, Like this takes real

1077
01:13:35.920 --> 01:13:40.199
shit, Like this takes real intellect, This takes real balls, Like I

1078
01:13:40.279 --> 01:13:42.600
just sweat it through my shirt twice
getting up here talk to y'all, Like

1079
01:13:42.960 --> 01:13:45.399
it takes like you know what I'm
saying. But a lot of people don't

1080
01:13:45.479 --> 01:13:47.880
have a career outside of that mic. They sit at home, thorough paths

1081
01:13:47.960 --> 01:13:51.159
and from the internet and don't have
one client. Yep, like a lot

1082
01:13:51.199 --> 01:13:54.079
of it, Like you know what
I'm saying. I really want to bring

1083
01:13:54.119 --> 01:13:56.760
back people that are doing it in
real life. Like you have to ask

1084
01:13:56.760 --> 01:13:59.600
yourself what proof are you looking for? What is your boundaries when you following

1085
01:13:59.680 --> 01:14:00.920
somebody, Like do they do this
in real life? Or you can you

1086
01:14:01.039 --> 01:14:03.840
google them? Or only their clips
gonna pop up? Ye? Look who

1087
01:14:03.880 --> 01:14:06.279
you're looking into? You know what
I'm saying. So I think that we

1088
01:14:06.439 --> 01:14:11.239
need to be willing to do more
boring things, you know what I'm saying,

1089
01:14:11.279 --> 01:14:13.920
which is take a class or come
to shit like this, Like that's

1090
01:14:13.960 --> 01:14:16.640
why we're doing stuff that's more fun, that's like help like R and B

1091
01:14:16.760 --> 01:14:19.279
yoga and shit here Like why because, bitch, you don't want to look

1092
01:14:19.279 --> 01:14:23.000
like a hunchback when you forty.
So if I gotta play taint to get

1093
01:14:23.039 --> 01:14:25.720
you to stretch, let's do it, you know what I'm saying. So

1094
01:14:26.239 --> 01:14:29.840
it's about creating, you know,
creating more things that have like more positive

1095
01:14:30.239 --> 01:14:31.800
you know, so I ain't mad
at it. Run on a flaws,

1096
01:14:31.840 --> 01:14:38.439
y'all, Run on glass. All
right? Listen, man, we have

1097
01:14:38.640 --> 01:14:42.840
just about ran up on our regular
episode. If you enjoyed everything that took

1098
01:14:42.920 --> 01:14:45.520
place today, For those who are
alive and on the set, after this,

1099
01:14:45.640 --> 01:14:48.720
we're going to be filming a special
Patreon episode if you want to stick

1100
01:14:48.760 --> 01:14:51.359
around for that. We're gonna read
some of the edibles that you guys sent

1101
01:14:51.520 --> 01:14:56.000
in and all that jazz. Please
stick around for that. If you're listening

1102
01:14:56.159 --> 01:15:00.119
or watching on the internet out Gore's
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this, sign up to the Patreon
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1104
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Before we get out of here,
I want to thank some Maya from

1105
01:15:06.640 --> 01:15:14.520
Sexual Essential as y'all make some noise
for her. Absolutely, absolutely, the

1106
01:15:14.760 --> 01:15:17.520
se Content House is amazing. I
love that it's black owned. I love

1107
01:15:17.640 --> 01:15:21.960
that it's black woman owned. Okay, you deserve every blessing that is coming

1108
01:15:23.000 --> 01:15:27.600
your way, my chocolate goddess.
Okay. Now, before when we keep

1109
01:15:27.680 --> 01:15:30.560
going, I'm wanta trying to clap
for every name that I say, Okay,

1110
01:15:30.600 --> 01:15:33.079
because every name I'm about to say
is important. Okay, So first

1111
01:15:33.119 --> 01:15:35.680
I want y'all to give it up
for the av team we got shot at

1112
01:15:35.760 --> 01:15:40.880
a a ron make some noise,
make Allois, Thank y'all, Thank y'all,

1113
01:15:40.960 --> 01:15:45.479
Thank Y'allum, and my painting the
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1114
01:15:45.520 --> 01:15:48.439
from Philly. Y'all give it up
for DJ Instand we trust and Main y'all

1115
01:15:48.520 --> 01:15:55.640
makes a noise, makes alois and
the woman who has been lifting y'all spirits

1116
01:15:55.800 --> 01:16:00.439
all night via liquids of my girl, Kay little bartender makes yall tip,

1117
01:16:00.600 --> 01:16:04.600
makes some noise. Worr y'all,
And we got my man brand on a

1118
01:16:04.680 --> 01:16:11.159
BTS makes some noise a brand y'all. Once again, I want to thank

1119
01:16:11.199 --> 01:16:14.279
the se Content House. If you
are then landed area and you want to

1120
01:16:14.319 --> 01:16:16.520
have a special event, and you
want to support black people while you do

1121
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it, definitely get into contact with
some Maya from Sexual Essentials that I miss

1122
01:16:20.840 --> 01:16:25.359
anything. Um. I'm not sure
what time it is, but I'm pretty

1123
01:16:25.359 --> 01:16:30.600
sure we bout ran out of time. If you called a ride, you

1124
01:16:30.720 --> 01:16:34.079
know, just go hidden order you. I love y'all so much, Just

1125
01:16:34.239 --> 01:16:39.000
you know, back to be all
right, let's finish changing up. Listen

1126
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man as usual, Okay, follow
me on the Graham at Stormy p p

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I should probably do that. I
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on, somebody tipsy off that Ginger
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as something extraordinary content house. We
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posing classes, um lighting classes,
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1138
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01:17:41.239 --> 01:17:44.439
so make sure that you just tap
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1140
01:17:44.479 --> 01:17:46.840
out the podcast Stormy. We'll be
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1141
01:17:46.880 --> 01:17:49.239
be great. Hell yeah, man, tune into the page round. We

1142
01:17:49.319 --> 01:17:53.479
are about to review some male sex
toys. We're gonna answer some of the

1143
01:17:53.560 --> 01:17:57.439
questions that we're sending. It's gonna
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or stick around, all right,
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1145
01:18:00.720 --> 01:18:02.880
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1146
01:18:02.960 --> 01:18:09.159
anything else, please remember don't make
somebody work a full shift before you fire

1147
01:18:09.239 --> 01:18:20.079
them. I love you and I'll
see you next week. Peace. Same

1148
01:18:20.119 --> 01:18:20.840
as it everyone was