All right in this radio eight forty w h as Tony VENETI, Dwight Whitten,
Dave Jennings rolling on through. That's someone we're gonna be talking about here
in just a second. I want to talk about a wonderful organization. Over
the past four weeks, I've lost two very influential men in my life and
I've had a friend overdose. This is all happened in the past four weeks.
So I know about grief and it's no joke. I want to bring
in a very very kind woman and talk about an organization called First Hour Grief
Response. Hey Lisa, Hey Towai, thanks for having me on today.
Well, of course, and great timing. Is the events of my life
for unfolding, see not very well because she could have been with you last
week. Oh no, I find it's interesting, So there you go,
right, So it's uh, I find it interesting. But it is the
name of the place, and what you do is just describe what you do.
We do. We are there for people in the very first hours.
Sometimes that means that it's right after the loss, or it could be two
or three weeks later when everybody goes back to their normal lives. So we
help people primarily with sudden loss. That's our niche. If you will,
you know, not that we don't turn people away that have long term illnesses,
but primarily sudden loss, so suicides, overdoses, car crashes, just
anything that happens suddenly to people. And then tomorrow we heard Granger Smith country
music singer Granger Smith on the way in. You can actually see him as
a special guest tomorrow at a lunch and talk about tomorrow's events and how people
get in contact with you all to attend. Yes, So tomorrow is our
third annual luncheon. We're going to have that at the Waterfront Botanical Gardens.
That's from a eleven thirty to one o'clock and Granger Smith is our guest speaker.
And unfortunately he has a story of loss. In twenty nineteen, he
lost a son named River in a drowning accident, and so he wrote a
book about that called Like a River. And this book details the story of
what he and his family went through after losing River and how he actually ended
up laying down his music career to go into full time ministry. And so
I highly recommend the book. The book is great for anyone that has any
type of grief in their life. It's not only just about child loss.
He also has a new book out that came out April second that's called Up
Towards the Light, and that is about it's a book for children who are
grieving. So that's also a nice option for children, because we know a
lot of children don't have a lot of resources to get help. Is there
anything, Look, people deal with this stuff in different ways. You know,
some people laugh and these not laugh. But you know, if people
get nervous or they whatever, they laugh. But some people don't cry,
some people cry. What is there anything that we all have in common in
these hours right after a sudden death. Yes, a couple of things.
First of all, we're typically exhausted. So if Dwight is very tired these
days, it's because he's carrying around that grief and it feels like two great,
big, giant bricks that he's carrying around. And so we highly recommend
that you try to get a good night's sleep and take naps as possible.
The other thing I would say is that you need to stay hydrated. And
because you're mourning and you need to cry and you need to be sad,
you need to also realize that your brain is not working as well as it
normally does, and so grief brain, as we call it, is a
very real thing. And so be sure and write down information that you need
to take care of or pay attention to, and recommend putting dates in your
phone and appointments. So those are two things that are definitely common with everyone.
And allow people to help you by the way, you know, people
want to do something and not a lot of times we are always saying no,
I don't need anything, but people really do want to help, and
so say yes, let people help you. Greece is also very isolating,
so sometimes we just want to stay home and not be around other people.
And that's understandable. And buye people into your life that will support you and
just be okay with sitting there with you and not trying to fix something.
If you're a friend or a family member of someone that experiences sudden lass,
are there things you shouldn't do. Yes, you shouldn't say things like oh,
he's in a better place, or God has a plan and this was
just part of the plan. People just aren't ready to hear those things,
even though men with you, even though those things. Yeah, even those
things, those could be true. They're just people are not ready to say
that. Also, don't say things. Hey, listen, just give me
a call if you need anything, because we don't know what we need.
You know, I lost a child in twenty eleven and I didn't know at
that time would I needed. I had no idea. So just show up
for your people, and you know, do the yard work, bold the
laundry, help them with their appointments, even help them pick out an outfit
if they are facing the funerals anytime soon. Those are things that you can
do. Just show up for them, don't ask them what they need.
Talk with Lisa. The name of the organization is First Hour Grief Response.
It's based out of loul was nonprofit, by the way, and it's crazy.
Everything you describe was you. Tony and I were looking at each other
and her I you were talking and I was like, from the past month,
I've not that I'm wall for crime cot. I yelled at you to
get your sleep every day, get sleep. Haven't there with sleep. I'll
search for words while I'm on the air. It's saus I've been miserable and
this going on for the past month. Unbelievable. But how can people help
support your organization? I want you to hit the lunch and tomorrow with Grangersmith,
but also hit the website for First Hour Grief Response if you could lead.
Yeah, where's this lunch tomorrow? The lunch iss at the Waterfront Botanical
Gardens and it starts at eleven thirty will be done by one o'clock. We
have about thirty seats still available, so we would love for you to join
us for that. And then our website at First Hourgrief dot org that has
the event right banner link on there, so that's how you can get to
the tickets. We also have a lot of information on our websites. It
can be really helpful to people who are suffering from grief. And then there's
the contact ust form if you are grieving and you need help. Talk therapy
is one of the best things that you can do, and the first session
is free with First Hour Grief. Nice nice, yeah, yeah, come
in and try it. We give you ninety minutes, which if you've ever
been through therapy you only get about fifty minutes, so we are we'll spend
ninety minutes with you and we pair you up with somebody who typically has a
similar loss. And that's the other thing. All of the people that work
for us have lost stories, and so they get it. It's not going
to be the same as yours, obviously, but they know a little bit
about what you're feeling, Lisa Man. So interesting, it really is,
because I know so many people like you're telling me that your body is going
to force you to be grieving. But how many times do we know people
that we would say, hey, you're not dealing with this, no,
and that you need to deal with this. And that's me, by the
way, because the Wintons, the cure is to suppress everything. I don't
know if you've ever seen the terminator as a cybor org emotionless killer. That's
that's the that's the Wintons. But my point is sometimes you have to con
family members, have to confront other family members and say, look, you're
not dealing with this. Yeah, that's so true. And a lot of
times we'll try to im ount with drug your alcohol, which is not the
answer. That's what I've been Will you stopped describing? Wait? Please?
Why are you just going to say? And then often they love Barone's Pizza
and Number one to Quela. Uh, you know sometimes Barone's pizza number one
to Quila sitting their souther covered hot you're describing me to a t. You
really are. Maybe you should go tomorrow, right, let's be honor to
help you. Dwight. Maybe you should knock off early and go to this
meeting to Wirow eleven thirty. It's right down the street, garden. Yeah,
we got a seat for we have a seat. Yeah, listen,
God bless everybody down. The First Hour Grief Response Incorporated as based out Louislle,
Kentucky, is a nonprofit. Uh. I'm anxious to meet you,
guys and gals, and I can't thank you enough for all you're doing for
so many Okay, yeah, thanks for having us on to share the message
today. I really appreciate you. My best of luck to you. Keep
in touch with me, sir, you got my number? Sure, thank
you to you. Well, here we go. In today's divided world,
you can you can bet that we can all agree on one or two things
together. I hope, so I'll think of that I all agree on this
one. As a hang on, let me take a value before I say
their name. Ticketmaster Live reportedly, uh, they're responsible for ninety percent of
all the tickets to Concrete. You want that again, say what what percentage?
Ninety percent? Wow? So can you imagine having a dollar for ninety
percent of every concert, every comedy show, every you know, truck Asaurus,
every Disney on IYCE. Why is this not a monopoly that the government
is concerned? No? No, no, no, you're right. I
think if you teach a class, a business class, you would use this
as an example of a monopoly. Well, the source on this is barstool
Sports. By the way, evident in the United States Justice Department is now
planning to sue Ticketmaster slash Live Nation for running an illegal monopoly over the ticketing
industry with an anti trust lawsuit. It's expected to be in a matter of
weeks when they hit them with this, and I cannot wait because I was
talking to somebody just a couple of days ago. Hey girl, Oh sorry,
I was talking to somebody just a couple of days ago, and we
were talking about how insane it is that you want one ticket to a concert.
I used the Sammy Hagar example. I want to see him at Cincinnati.
I put two decent seats at one hundred and forty five each in my
basket when I go to my basket, now they're eight hundred and fifty a
piece. Okay, you realize that Ticketmaster and Live Nation are one company?
No, they are? Okay, good, Okay, No, I think
I don't want to confuse people out in the audience that are saying that don't
understand when we say Ticketmaster and Live Nation, that's not two companies. That's
one company, right, controlling ninety percent of the ticket. If there was
competition, legitimate competition, your tickets would not be eight hundred dollars. No,
they would not. They would not. And listen, people freak out
like I don't know, certain horse tracks freak out when competition was in town.
Uh, listen, Competition is what this nation is built upon, darn
tutin. If I've got zero competition, let's say, let's say I'm a
coach and I'm given a lifetime contract that could have found not having a competition
a threat of losing my job. I might not be that motivator. Speaking
of that, I do want to make one caveat okay that if any of
our presidents or vice presidents are listening, yes, we totally support Live Nation
in everything that they do in any way that this show can help sell those
said tickets for an exhortited price, then we are there for you, sir,
No man, might I suggest raises for those of us supporting jarn Tuton.
We don't even need raises. We believe in Live Nation. End of
quote. But if you look at it, part of the part, if
you look at the laundry list, it looks like a a ticker tape of
all when you get the charges for the tickets, all of the fees on
there. One of the fees is service chargers. What exactly is the service
Because I'm no longer getting a paper ticket, there's no longer employee there.
I'm buying it digitally from a program. This is when the Feds can do
something good. We'll see. This is when the no, they're gonna have
to break up. There's no possible way that can allow one company to sell
all the tickets in the United States for concerts that that can't that camp State
Concerts, comedy shows, Uh Truck Asaurus, Monster Truck Sunder, Harlem,
Globe Rodders, Disney on Eyes. It's all that crap, not the Louisville
Bends. I I'm so glad it's back. Who we have I was?
I said, you ever wear axe body spray? Tony? Oh no I
didn't. But if you look at the commercial, apparently if you pray acts
body spray on your body, then women come running from all sorts of places.
Wait, what's this magical thing? This is called axe body spray.
I gotta get there. It's also going to hurt some folks out in the
state because it apparently affects sheep. Also, whoa ho stop? Are you
sitting up a joke? It starts in the UK and around the world.
Rams stop fighting when they're sprayed with axe body spray. It's the widespread solution
for calming aggressive sheep. Stop. How could you? How could they?
Who possibly did this study this? But you know some guy that was wearing
it, the sheep wouldn't say yes. The secret to acts as effectiveness is
the fact that the scent is confusing because there's nothing like it in nature.
Huh. So if you're playing the La Rams, I think you know your
whole team should spray up that Axe body spray is just a version of the
nineteen It's a today version of nineteen eight. These draw car yea or polo.
Some others still were both I swear, no, I swear, Okay,
my mother's eyes. When I get home, I'm gonna send you a
picture from my bathroom. No, no, I've got your car. No
listen, these are these are my afford to go to? All right,
Oh well let's go to Yeah, you listen to this. This is smart.
This is not much time. All here, am I going to Colognes
and I'll send you pictures while you're home. Draw car polo, eternity and
obsession. Oh my, I'm dead serious. Nineteen eighties billboards. No,
I'm not even joking. I will send you a picture today as confirmation.
At one time, Axe had a commercial that showed a guy in the car
and he's spraying down below. You can't see it, but his arm is
off camera. No, you never want to do that, And then the
phrase comes up, show her the way I want you to do like a
Zoolander of session ad for Facebook where you spray yourself obsessions. If only you
still had clothes from the nineties that you could wear and the promo piece,
well, word, luck, look at these shorts I got, right hunk.
The shirt you're wearing right now. The shorts that I'm wearing right now
I bought in nineteen ninety seven. I'm serious, I we believe you.
We have pictures. No, we have a picture because these are the khakis.
We have a picture of me and Tony doing a we're playing a footballball
the Louisville fire in two thousand and why I show them the picture goes,
are those the same shorts? And they were? They were exact same shorts.
You know what else was popular in nineteen ninety seven? What's lots of
pasta? Damn right? It was? Yes, I have timeless Yes.
What did I have for lunch today? Or what I'm gonna bite? All
I bite? I was biting on a little couple of minutes ago, benedictine
wraps. I put it a little entity of benedictine to spread it out on
a low carb wrap, and I rolled it up and I cut it in
half, put it a little sandwich bagging. That's what we're going to have
for lunch before I head out of here today at noon? What did I
have for breakfast? You had the ugly dip again? I had ugly dip
on eggs. Because that's what I'm telling you. Go into there and get
the ugly dip it so it's near where the benedictine is. You will.
It's a breakfast dip. You can eat it with chips, but I put
it on eggs. It's so delicious as fresh salsa is also right there amongst
the dips. They have really good hummus. Becky loves their hummus. You
dip, we dip. Everyone's a dip dip. Yeah, all right,
lots of Pausta thirty seven seventeen Lexington Road in the Heart of Saint Matthews.
Back after this, Joan Donnagher will catch us up on the lukewarm market and
what's going on with the Bloomberg Buddy minute a couple of seconds away on news
Radio eight forty whas all right, News Radio eight forty wahas Tony Whit Jennings
rolling up for its time. This is maybe one of the more creative videos
of old time. The cartoony people video like pencil sketch drawings to seriously for
its time. It was really creative. It was so you know how I
used to I could get back to this making videos of our interviews and posting
them. The software that I use Movie Studio platinum. It had it had
the option to do like these cartoony people like you can turn people in the
cartoons, Well, let's do that with us. We should do it.
We should make a we should reach shoot these people are people are driving around
going fellas you are cartoons. But what's the deal with the old time e
race car driver and the wrench as the bad guy? Remember? Oh?
Yeah, it was like a racer looking. Yeah, it was the eighties
and it was the hot girl too. If you don't do what I want,
I'm gonna turn your screw. And he does. He throw himself against
the wall again. Yeah, well they both do, and then she reaches
her hand up. I would have just when that hand came up. Story,
I never mind. I will finish. That's all right, Welcome back
News Radio forty w h A s Hey, I want to I want to
thank a couple of people. Uh, yesterday we laid my uncle to rest,
Russell Witten. But I want to thank a couple of organizations of people.
Number one, Hosperus, God Love the men and women of Hosperus of
Louisville. David Cook, doctor Sandy, Nurse Judy, the entire crew of
Hospers. I also want to thank cook and Reeves. When you hear us
talking about sponsors on here, we're not just saying things about him. It's
it's it's it's one genuine and I want to say thank you to all the
men and women of Cooking Reeves. And then finally Betsy and uh and uh
Lee the entire crew of rch L. Heady Funeral Home. AKAA dignity.
That's uh that's the Wittings go to when a Witton dies. That's where we
go arch all heady, but a couple of real quick stories because my uncle
had a great sense of humor and he would want us to talk about this.
So we're going down and Uh he had his funeral pre arranged. Okay,
So that means when Mitch and I got there everything he'd already take care
of everything. But we still had to sit down with Betsy out there and
she says, well, here here's some other things blah blah blah. And
we were going through different options, and I said, what other options you
have. I'm going to respect his wishes and we're going to stick to this,
but let's talk about other options that we could have done. And so
she starts going through them, and she goes, okay, here's one.
It's if you would want a Dove release. Yeah, and she says,
when we release doves at the funeral. I said, well, what's a
Dove release cost? And she said seven hundred and fifty dollars. I don't
think that's bad. I didn't think it was. I said, I said,
up, how many how much is the Dove guy? Well? I
said, is there a dumb guy? Right? I said, that's what
I said. I said, well, how many doves is it? And
she goes, well, that's three doves. I said, wow, y'all
three domes. Wait, an, you're offul proud of Patsy. But she
says, uh. She goes, well, no, that's the standard rate,
you know, nashally whatever we talk about, and she goes, she
goes, I wouldn't recommend it anyway, though, I said, why is
that? She said, they did one Dove release. Don't say poop,
no, no way, worse the hawk got him. Yeah, that's it.
So they do this Dove release and then how the blow of this hawk
comes down cursed the duve into a bloody bash. Kids starts screaming and crying.
She said, it was pantemonium and uh so, I said, okay,
let's go on to a couple more. We went through the moor and
then she said, uh, well, look at this one, and it
was do you want to send your loved one to outer space? Oh?
Yeah, that's the thing I didn't know. So well, they take like,
uh some of the ashes, right, and it's a size of lipstick
container. I didn't get in detail, but they actually you take your loved
one's ashes and they get sent into out of space. Yeah. Yeah,
all right. So I said that's interesting. What would that run? And
she said, uh, I think it was twelve five hundred. Oh,
but that's not that bad, right, I mean, because there's no coffin,
there's no grave site, and you and your loved ones is smart.
I don't care what you do. Listen, let me. I would like
a Viking funeral, but I don't really care. I told you guys this,
and I'll tell everyone hanging out with us Wittings can be a little bit
cold when it comes to huh So. The two most influential men in my
life were Russell Whitten, who I just lost, and his brother Ed.
Witten and Ed lived in Florida, and would visit here in the summer.
And the last time he left he said, well, this is the last
time you over see me again. I said, well, what do you
mean there'll be a funeral and he goes, no, I'm not coming back.
Will be no funeral. Want to be a headstone. And and that's
why he went and went out Russell. He wanted the same thing. There
was zero visitation. We had a grave site. I respect that with Greg
Gezer. By the way, I want to thank the sneak. Indeed did
the service and where was the service? The services in Bonnieville, Kentucky.
So you didn't like ask him to go down to wherever Fern Creek you had
steak and deacon had to clear his schedule and go to bonnie Castle now Bonnieville,
Kentuckyyville. Whatever it's it's about hour and twenty minutes. It's a it's
an hour and twenty minutes. Oh you owe him? Oh no, what
No, he's a man of God. He has to do this for me.
He has he has to do it for me. But anyway, hang
on time out before to run out of to I do want to say this
about Dwight. He acts like a soaball, you know, a robot and
unfeeling. But you spent every single day just about for the last six weeks,
Yeah, going to the home to feed your uncle, to make sure
that his bags were changed and that he was getting the care that he needed
from the facility, and you were there. There's not a lot of family
members left for this guy, he's ninety three years old. There's not a
lot of people that were stepped up. You stepped up. Yes, you
were an emotional cyborg and drive people crazy, but you stepped up for your
uncle. Every single day you would leave here and you would drive straight there
for him. I commend you. And when he could talk, he would
always say, hey, go on, get out here. And I told
Russell the story. I'm a very stupid person that has been that way even
since I was a child. At five years old, I was playing the
part of a shepherd at a play. In backstage, someone told me to
put a laundry clip onto my finger. I was too stupid to figure out
how to get it off, and I sat up there and toil too bad,
start crying. Russell gets up in the middle of the play, doesn't
care what anybody thinks, walks down the center of the aisle, gets on
stage, takes it off from me. I told him that story and he
remembered. I said, you know how you were there for me. Now
that's my turn to be there for you. And so it's not a way.
You put a clip on his fingers, So a clip on his finger
I said, try to get it off. Now. Look, I'm glad
you brought that up, Tony. But here's here's why I want to encourage
everybody and Dave, you can go ahead and hit the song if you want.
I want to leave you with this. It's a little bit unusual from
the way he normally leave the show. But if you have a loved one
and they're in a nursing home or in a special care, they're people.
They're human beings. Okay, they're in the worst part of their time of
their life, and you can believe me, they're absolutely scared and they need
somebody to be there with them. Please don't wear house your elderly. I
saw it every single night when we walk by the rooms of all of these
people, just stuck there by themselves, with no one even to give them
a simple hello. So please, I'm encouraging you to take care of your
old people and the elderly. Here's John Prime.