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Hey, hey, hey, I'm
bad. It's something for you to think

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about. This episode is for you
individuals who are mad all the time.

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You individuals who do not think that
you have time to think before you act

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or react. This is for individuals
who get so mad you don't care what

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you say or do. If the
shoe don't fit, Hey it doesn't fit,

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but if it does, it's for
you. If it's not for you,

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or maybe for someone you know,
because we all know people like that.

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Individuals who have this mindset definitely are
people who need to look inward.

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They need to deal with whatever it
is to make them so angry. See

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the problem that I've found what people
is so many people have been the way

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they are for so long until they
it's it's just to them, it's just

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who they are. It's normal.
They've been that way for so long until

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they just accept being, you know, being that angry person. That's what

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they accept. But it's not a
good look at all. When you are

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a person who's so angry that you
don't care what you do, you don't

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care what you say, sometimes that
comes back to bite you. And also

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sometimes people don't want to be around
you because they know you flip out at

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the mouth, or you flip out
out period. People don't wanna be around

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angry people who are this way.
So sometimes individuals will go through life and

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they never choose change, and because
of it, they have a hard time

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in life, just angry and mad
all the time saying things to people thinking

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because hey, I can do what
I wanna do. You know, they

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developed that reputation that other people when
they see them coming, they're like,

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oh Lord, here she come or
here he comes, or they're like on

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eggshells because they don't know what you're
gonna say or what you're gonna do.

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That's not good. These types of
individuals need definitely to work on self.

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These type of individuals definitely need to
try and be those individuals that choose change,

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because you know, you should get
to a point as an adult that

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you want better. You can't take
back things that you say, you can't

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take back things that you've done.
You just cannot take them back. Some

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people think, hey, I'm bad, I'm tough, no one would mess

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with me. You think that's a
good thing to have that type of of

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behavior. You think that's great that
people look at you like that, Oh

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she'll do anything or she mad.
That's not good. Some people would kill

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their own family members out of anger. That's not good. You get so

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angry, you will harm your own
family member, your sister, your brother,

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or someone else because you're so angry, because you have lack of control.

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That is not good. That is
a very dangerous person. Someone who's

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willing to hurt anyone when they're angry. That's a dangerous and irrational person.

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Very dangerous and irrational. So this
episode is for those types of people.

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Seek help. And if you don't
want to seek help, you must be

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willing to become better. Look at
yourself and know that it be in that

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way. It's not a good thing. It is not a good thing at

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all. And if you wanna be
better, you have to choose to be

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better. If you wanna be an
individual who is no longer living your life

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an angry person, then you have
to get to the bottom of it.

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While you're angry in the first place. You have to get to the bottom

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of it. What happened that caused
you so much anger. Sometimes people didn't

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have a bad childhood, it's other
things that they got involved with. They

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got involved in relationships with individuals who
were mean, who had insecurities, who

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were obsessive and possessive, and all
of those things, and that person began

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to turn bitter. They become that, they begin to turn angry. Every

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thing is not from childhood, not
everything. Most are, but not everything.

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So sometimes people learn to be that
way because that's their defensive mechanism.

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But then they get to a point
of being comfortable and complacent with being like

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that, so they treat everyone like
that. They treat everyone with that same

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type of behavior. It's not right. It is wrong, and no one

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should do that. No one should
embrace that type of behavior. When you

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know you're doing wrong, you should
want to be better. You should want

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to be better when you know you're
doing wrong. You should absolutely want to

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be better. But most people don't. They so complacent and comfortable with their

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own negativity. You don't have to
live your life man already to snap at

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any moment. You wanna pop off
at the mouth at any moment. You

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shouldn't wanna live your life like that. That is what you need to work

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on, So quick to jump the
gun, that's what you need to work

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on. Don't choose to be the
same. And like I said in the

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beginning. It's not a good look
at all. It's not a good look.

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People may love you, but they
really don't want you around because they

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don't know how you're gonna act at
any given time. And that's terrible.

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It is terrible when you don't care
what you do or say, or you

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get so mad that you'll do anything
to anyone, to include your loved ones.

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That's horrible. It is horrible.
But there are so many people in

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the world this way, but they
don't choose change. Choosing change is a

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choice, just like not choosing Choosing
change is a choice. Unfortunately, so

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many people make those choices, not
choosing to change, instead of going through

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life the same way. We see
it every day. People committing murder because

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they're so angry, people committing row, rage, rage because they're so angry,

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people doing the unthinkable on their jobs
because they're so angry, when you

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could have dealt with your anger and
move on, became a more humble,

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docile, calm individual. Anybody can
change if they choose change, whether it's

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for the good or bad. People
can choose change. I'm talking only about

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choosing positive change to be better.
I'm never gonna talk about choosing negativity.

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If people choose change in their lives, I'm telling you, the world would

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be a much better place to live
in right now, it's not because of

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all the brokenness, all of the
people who are not choosing the change,

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all of the angry individuals. This
world is a tough place to be right

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now, and I don't I only
see it getting worse. Some of you

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just you're stagnant, the walking dead, literally, the walking dead, because

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you choose to stay on the wheel, you choose to remain the same.

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Then you wonder why your children are
angry because that's all they see in you,

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anger, the behavior you display,
that's all they know because that's what

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you show them all the time.
Now, because they're showing you anger towards

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you, you wondering why they're so
angry? Uh the uh duh? Because

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you've shown them anger over and over
and over again. You've shown them how

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you flip out on their dad or
their mom. You've shown them how you

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flip out on other people. So
they have developed the same characteristics as you,

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because that's what you've taught them,
and more than likely they'll be just

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like you, an adult, still
angry and mad, still easy to go

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into a rage. That's not good. I don't think I was ever that

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bad. I used to be a
hot head, and I'll tell you right

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now, I'm taking I'm not taking
anyone's crap right now today. But I'm

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not that hot head that I used
to be. Oh man, I used

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to be a person. We might
as well go nothing of get it on

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over with. That's the way I
used to be. I'd rather slap your

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face, get it over with.
I'm not trying to argue with you or

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none of that. But even then
as a hothead, I still was always

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mindful of the words that came out
on my mouth. I was still mindful

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of my actions. I didn't go
crazy with it ever. I could have

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easily gone crazy with it, but
I never chose to do that. Person.

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But I know plenty of people who
are. I just always stood up

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for myself and I never took anyone's
crap, even as a kid. So

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I'm saying a person can be better, a person can control that if they

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choose. You have to want to
be a better individual. And I was

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admit I was a hot head,
but I still hey, I was a

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hot head with standards. Can you
believe that I was a hot head,

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I still was aware of what I
said to people and what I've done because

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I always cared about how I presented
myself and I'm the same today. I

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care about how I represent myself and
most of all, my Lord and Savior.

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So I can't be walking around easily
being out of shape and ready to

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pounce. Now. I stay ready, but that's only because we have to

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in this world we're in today.
But I'm still aware of what I do

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and what I say, and that
takes maturity, it takes self control,

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because as I said, I ain't
want to represent myself as being the best

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that I can be, because I
am the best that I can be,

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not for safe in pretense, but
because that's who I am. It means

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something to me. But unfortunately,
for some people that don't mean anything.

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And some people aren't nice individuals until
they feel like they're pushed in that corner,

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when really they're not pushed in the
corner. It's just who they are.

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It's their way of acting or reacting
because they never chose to act or

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react better. Some people have taught
me, oh, you don't think,

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you just don't. You don't even
have a second to think personally, I

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don't believe that. I don't believe
that people never have a moment to think.

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When that lady jumped in the in
the river to say that that baby,

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she may have a split reaction,
but she still thought to jump in

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the river. When that person jumped
in front of the the bus to push

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their child away, they they acted
swiftly, but they still chose the action

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that they took. When you reach
in your pocket to pull out a weapon,

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whether it's a nice or gone or
whatever, you still I don't care

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how angry, what split second,
you still chose to reach in your pocket

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because you knew that that's where the
weather was. So I don't believe that

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people don't think, oh I blacked
out. I don't think, yes you

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did. You thought to do whatever
you did, You thought to do it.

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I don't care how quickly you still
thought to do it. So I

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just don't believe that. If anyone
could prove me wrong on it, please

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please do. But I don't believe
it. I think we have the time

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to think. Like I said,
it does not matter how swiftly, how

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quickly a person do whatever it is, they still thought to do it.

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Just think about it. If you
were so angry you pulled out your gun.

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You you didn't. You didn't reach
in the cabinet to get your gun.

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You didn't reach out in the bed
and get your gun. You didn't

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reach it in the glove box to
get your gun. You reach wherever your

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gun was, and you retrieve your
weapon because you wanted to shoot somebody out

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of anger. That's the problem,
lack of control, because when you lose

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focus, you lose control. If
you don't have focus, you don't have

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control. And unfortunately, so many
people lived their lives this way, just

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ready cocked and loaded, ready any
second to cause habit because they they they

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don't know how to control their anger. They never chose to. They still

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put kindling on their angry fire.
They like that people are afraid of them.

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They don't understand why people don't want
to be around them. I mean,

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it's a whole lot of things that
are in play. If you wanna

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be better, that's your choice.
If you don't, that's your choice.

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But because a person does not choose
to become better, don't project your pain

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and crap on to other people.
Go to the mountains, then the caves

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in the bottom of the ocean,
whatever, and deal with yourself. But

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don't inflict your pain and your immaturity
on someone else because you refuse to deal

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with you. It's not right.
It's not right. Anybody can change if

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they choose change. You have to
choose it. You have to willfully and

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intentionally choose change and work on it
consistently. And that goes back to self

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love too. If you don't love
yourself, you don't care how you could

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present yourself. You don't care.
You'll do it whatever. And like I

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said, some people think they're so
big and bad. That's an ugly look

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ugly. I don't care how beautiful
you may up here. It's ugly and

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it makes you ugly. So what
you choose and how you choose to be

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it's your choice, your choice all
I'm trying to tell you, as an

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adult, you could choose to be
better, but you have to want it.

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You have to want it. Somebody
else may want it for you,

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but you have to want it for
yourself. And on that note, I'm

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leaving it right there. We don't
need these angry people. We don't want

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these angry people. We want you
to change. We want more love.

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That's what we want in this world, that's what we need. Thank you

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for listening. Please share this episode. Also go check out Relationship Producals.

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Good stuff over there, Please share. Thank you so much for listening.

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You know are in every episode the
same and I hope you do it.

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Thank on it