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Hey, hey, hey, I'm
back with something for you to think about.

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It so early in the morning,
so forgive my voice, but I

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want to get on here quickly and
talk about something. Don't worry yourself when

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people are doing you wrong, when
people are saying mean things to you,

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are about you, always remember it
is that individual who has those inner issues

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that he or she has not resolved. One thing that urged me is for

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people to be on the job and
just have an attitude. You try to

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ask them something, they go off. You send them an email, they

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go off. I mean, just
rude and disrespectful. Don't let it get

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you down. Know that that person
has inner issues that he or she needs

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to work out. By no means, am I saying a loud person to

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treat you any kind of way.
I will never tell you that cause I

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don't do it, and I don't
expect for you to do it. It's

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always a way to get a person
off your back in a respectful way.

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But just know that person is dealing
with some inner issues. When people lie

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and connive and manipulate to try to
make others think a certain way, don't

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worry about it. Don't worry about
it. I believe in confrontation. When

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I say confrontation, I mean I
believe in calling you out. A spade

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is a spade. I believe in
telling you the truth. So don't worry

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about what people are saying. Just
remember it's coming from that dark place inside

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of them. You don't have to
take mistreatment, disrespect, or any of

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that from anyone, but you should
not take on the ownership of that pain

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that stems from it because it hurts
you on the level that you allow for

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it to hurt you. And if
you keep pondering over something someone else did

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or say it, then you need
to look at yourself. Why are you

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pondering over it something somebody else said
or did. It may be hurtful,

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it may sting, but you should
not just keep reliving it in your mind.

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You should not. So many people
do. They take the ownership of

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other people's pain. Let me tell
you, in my profession, I deal

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with it all of the time,
and even before what I was doing before

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this current position. I've always dealt
with people for as long as I can

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remember. I've always dealt with people
to some capacity, especially dealing with their

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mental issues. So I can read
people like a book. I can see

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what's not saying, and it's not
always a good thing. It's not always

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a good I don't know talent or
ability, but I have it because I

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have put in the time and it's
always been important to me to know myself

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first. But also no other know
when they're coming to you sideways, know

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when it's the devil who's standing before
them and they're the puppet. So you

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can let people get you down because
remember they are individuals who have their own

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unresolved issues. People go so long
with their unresolved issues because they're familiar,

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they're comfortable, they have become complacent. They go so long that they deceive

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themselves. And the Bible tells us
it happens. People lie, connive,

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manipulate so long until they deceive themselves. They don't even realize the person that

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they've turned into. So don't worry
about them, don't take their crap by

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no means, but don't let it
fester inside of you and make you feel

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a certain type of way. Deal
with it and move on. Because you're

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dealing with a lot of broken people. You can't fix them when they're not

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trying to work on self. You
certainly cannot fix them, but you can

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cause yourself unnecessary druma by taking on
their pain. People lie, they have

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words sweeter like a honey comb.
And the sad part is so many people

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believe what they say because they sound
so good saying it, They sound so

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believable saying it. But like I
always say, the devil have words sweeter

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than a honey comb. I mean, he knows the Bible back and forth,

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he know everything to say and do. But he's the devil, He's

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a snake. He's the greatest manipulator, deceiver, author of confusion. But

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because of the words screwed out of
the mouths of people, many millions fall

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for it because they don't have eyes
to see. And that's dangerous because it

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leads you down path that you should
never be on. You open yourself up

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to people who should never be in
your life. See, God already have

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set the path, He's already made
the way. But millions go on their

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own. They don't choose to follow
God's path. They want to do things

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on their own. And that's why
you have so much problems. You have

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so much going on in your life. It's just very tumultuous. By the

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way, the first time I use
that word tumultuous. I didn't even know

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what it was. God just dropped
it in my spirit and I said it.

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Then I went to look it up. But people open themselves up to

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so much unnecessary drama and chaos because
of their hearts and their minds, because

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of that unhealed part of self.
So all I want to say to you

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is stop taking on the pain of
other people making it your own. Stop

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it. You don't have to live
your life that way. If you're taking

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on the pain of other people,
taking in their negative energies and all of

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that foolishness, you have to look
at yourself. You look at yourself because

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something is going on inside of you
that's making you do that. That mindset

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that you have is causing you to
be that type of person. Just like

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those individuals who's trying to hurt you, who's picking with you, who's manipulating,

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who's lying, who's deceiving. Those
people have unresolved issues inside of them.

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Stop feeling down, sad and bad
about what other people are doing when

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you know where it's coming from.
It may be directed to you. Because

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that's what undehealed hurt people do.
They try to hurt others. I see

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them every day on my job.
And then, let me tell you,

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A couple have tried me, but
they found out quickly. I'm not the

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one. You will never hear me
say a cuss word. You will never

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see me going crazy. But let
me tell you, baby, I know

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how to get people off of my
back. I don't mess with anyone,

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and I do not tolerate it from
anyone else. I don't disrespect anyone,

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and I don't tolerate it from anyone
else. I had a couple people try

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me, not to my face,
but through email. They still found out.

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They found out not me, not
today or ever. Because I don't

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give it, I certainly won't take
it. I know who I am,

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I know who I serve. Therefore
not happening, and I mean I don't

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take it from anyone. I don't
care who they are, what position they

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hold. I deal with a lot
of high ranking people, high high high

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ranking, and I don't care who
who they are. You have a way

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to approach me, just like I
have a way to approach you. You

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have a way to speak to me, just like I have a way to

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speak to you. And I'm not
gonna sit around all day being mad about

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what you've said or done. Because
I've handled the situation and I've moved on

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from there. One thing about me, I have no grudges. I hate

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no one. I don't hold in
negative things that people have done to me.

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I just don't. I mean,
what's the point. It don't benefit

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me? And I know where it's
coming from. I know when people are

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hateful, mean, envious, and
jealous. I know where it's coming from.

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People look at you and they feel
a certain way, but it's really

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not you. It's them what they're
lacking inside of self. They see what

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you've chosen to do and it angers
them, and that envy and jealous turns

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into anger. So you cannot be
bothered by anyone else's pain. And when

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I say not be bothered by anyone
else's pain, what I'm saying specifically is

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not taking it in and allowing it
to affect you. I wanna make that

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clear, because I'm not saying if
a person come to you and they are

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grieving or they have some type of
burden, I'm not saying not to listen

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to people and assist where you can. I'm not saying that. I'm saying

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those people who are negative, who's
trying to bring negativity in your life,

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who's trying to make you feel a
certain I'm talking about those people don't take

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in their pain. They haven't dealt
with their own. It's not yours to

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deal with. That's what I'm trying
to tell you. Because people will do

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it. They do it every day
all over the world, just projecting their

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pains in different ways onto people all
of the time. I mean, it

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don't matter what position they hold,
people from high ranks down to low ranks.

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And when I say high ranks,
I'm talking about military, civilians,

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all people. It does not matter
what walk of life you come from.

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All people do it because all people
all around the world have unresolved issues.

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You just cannot take here in their
pains and hold it in. And the

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reason I tell you that it's because
so many in this world have unresolved issues

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that's causing them so much grief in
their lives, so much unnecessary pain,

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because they will not let go of
the baggage. And those are the people

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who are projecting their pains most of
them, not all people do it that

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have unresolved issues. They may not
project their pain, but their pain still

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affects their lives. It affects how
they think, It affects how they feel,

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it affects how they act. They
have insecurities on great levels. They

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have all types of things going on
because although they're not projecting it out on

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others, they taking it. They've
taken it, they're taking it in,

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holding it in, and we're seeing
it play out in different decisions and choices

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and and lifestyles and different things like
that. So I want you to truly

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understand what I'm saying today. Stop
surrounding yourself with negativity. Stop allowing negative

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peace people to come into your life
and recab it. Stop taking on the

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pains of others because it is not
yours to take. Every last one of

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us individually must be willing to deal
with those unresolved issues. Yours don't belong

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to me, and mine don't belong
to you. I like to think that

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I have dealt with those things that
I've gone through. That's why I don't

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even think about them. Really.
Every now and then when a certain conversation

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or something may make me think about
things, but it quickly goes boom just

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as quick as it can. You
just cannot give power to people and things

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you just can't. Life goes on
whether you roll with it meant or not.

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It's going to keep on going.
Just because you don't want to move

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forward, life still goes on.
So many people are trapped in their mental

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states of negativity because they have come
become so comfortable and familiar with the way

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they've always been that it's normal to
them when it's actually not normal and it's

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definitely not healthy. It's not a
good place to be mentally, but many

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stay in that mental state because that's
what they're used to being. That go

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through life, either projecting that pain
onto others or holding it in and just

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living a life that their cause and
self sabotage and self inflicted pains, causing

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themselves all types of unnecessary issues and
stress. So this episode is not long,

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but I just had to get on
here. It's early in the morning,

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my voice is going in and out, but I needed to say this.

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I needed to tell you, so
thank you for listening. Please share

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this episode. Much love to each
and every one of you. I appreciate

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you so much. Go to relationship
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chronicles. Check it out, share
and thank you again. Much love,

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you know, I end every episode
the same, and I hope and pray

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that you do it. Thank on
it,