WEBVTT 1 00:00:00.640 --> 00:00:03.960 This is Doctor Wendy Walsh and you're listening to kf I Am six forty, 2 00:00:04.080 --> 00:00:08.599 the Doctor Wendy Walsh Show on demand on the iHeartRadio app a a by Am 3 00:00:08.679 --> 00:00:12.919 six forty. You have Doctor Wendy Walsh with you. This is Doctor Wendy 4 00:00:12.919 --> 00:00:15.960 Walsh Show. If you're new to my show. I have a PhD in 5 00:00:16.000 --> 00:00:20.559 clinical psychology. I'm not a therapist, though I'm a psychology professor, but 6 00:00:20.719 --> 00:00:24.399 in my private life I have been obsessed with the science of love for more 7 00:00:24.440 --> 00:00:28.839 than three decades. I've written three books on relationships. I've written a dissertation 8 00:00:29.120 --> 00:00:32.840 on attachment theory, and well, I like to think I solved a lot 9 00:00:32.840 --> 00:00:38.240 of my own relationship nonsense over the years, with lots of help from professionals, 10 00:00:38.280 --> 00:00:41.880 of course. Kayla, how you doing? I am great? How 11 00:00:41.920 --> 00:00:44.880 are you good? I want to hear your opinion in a minute, because 12 00:00:44.880 --> 00:00:48.240 I know that you're going to have a strong opinion about something that I have 13 00:00:48.280 --> 00:00:51.039 coming up, So get ready, okay, but I want to start by 14 00:00:51.079 --> 00:00:56.840 just telling you that the funniest thing happened today having to do with relationships. 15 00:00:56.880 --> 00:01:00.840 Now, you know I never judge, right, I know the science of 16 00:01:00.920 --> 00:01:06.799 human mating strategy. There are no morals to it. It's just how people 17 00:01:06.879 --> 00:01:10.879 behave. Also, because I know the science of it, I can predict 18 00:01:10.959 --> 00:01:15.000 in almost a kind of eye rolling way, things that people do. So 19 00:01:15.079 --> 00:01:19.480 here's the funny story. Today, my daughter is having two friends over. 20 00:01:19.920 --> 00:01:23.560 I know one of the girls, I don't know the no no. She 21 00:01:23.599 --> 00:01:26.680 told me she was having a sorry a friend and her stepmother coming to pick 22 00:01:26.719 --> 00:01:30.000 her up, and they were going shopping at Alta beauty. I'd never met 23 00:01:30.000 --> 00:01:34.359 the stepmother before. I didn't know her. The girl had told me recently 24 00:01:34.760 --> 00:01:40.760 that the stepmother is now divorcing separated from her dad, so obviously his second 25 00:01:40.760 --> 00:01:45.239 marriage is falling apart. And I'm like, okay, cool, So your 26 00:01:45.480 --> 00:01:49.640 mom is going to pick up my daughter and with your her friend, all 27 00:01:49.640 --> 00:01:53.480 going to be good. Let the moment they're pulling in the driveway, I 28 00:01:53.640 --> 00:01:56.280 happen to be pulling out with a girlfriend of my own in my car, 29 00:01:56.719 --> 00:01:59.159 and I look over and I roll down my window and I go, HI, 30 00:01:59.599 --> 00:02:02.040 nice to meet you. I'm Wendy, and she goes, hi, 31 00:02:02.319 --> 00:02:05.640 I'm one of Her name was right, because I didn't even know the name. 32 00:02:06.040 --> 00:02:09.280 And we pass by. I pull on into the street, and then 33 00:02:09.479 --> 00:02:15.520 I start judging, judging, judging. I say, oh my god, 34 00:02:15.599 --> 00:02:19.319 I cannot believe, no wonder that man is getting divorced a second time. 35 00:02:19.560 --> 00:02:23.280 That looks like a child. She looks like she's barely older than his daughter. 36 00:02:23.599 --> 00:02:28.039 That is terrible. And then we get into this whole conversation about how 37 00:02:28.479 --> 00:02:30.520 men will go young and they'll go with hot before they'll think of a good 38 00:02:30.599 --> 00:02:35.840 companion. And in fact, in my Patreon zoom room this past Wednesday, 39 00:02:36.120 --> 00:02:38.319 that was one of the topics. And we have men in the group. 40 00:02:38.400 --> 00:02:42.280 What we men and women, but men age like say thirty five to fifty, 41 00:02:42.599 --> 00:02:46.039 And the older ones were saying, could you tell a younger man to 42 00:02:46.199 --> 00:02:50.400 not just go for hot, to actually choose a good mate. So we 43 00:02:50.439 --> 00:02:53.520 got into this whole big comp they said, no, probably not. We 44 00:02:53.599 --> 00:02:59.599 got in this whole big conversation about it. So we get home and there's 45 00:02:59.639 --> 00:03:05.199 the young, hot divorcing stepmom in my mind, there's her stepdaughter in my 46 00:03:05.280 --> 00:03:08.240 kitchen. They're talking about the makeup they bought. An out of the bathroom 47 00:03:08.319 --> 00:03:12.759 comes a grown up woman. It was just another girl they brought along. 48 00:03:13.319 --> 00:03:16.719 I was like, oh my goodness, we thought your friend was your stepmother. 49 00:03:16.840 --> 00:03:21.360 And they laughed so hard. I said, we spent twenty minutes in 50 00:03:21.400 --> 00:03:27.319 the car hating on your dad and now we love them again. Is that 51 00:03:27.360 --> 00:03:30.439 crazy? At least you aren't, I know. Well, let me tell 52 00:03:30.479 --> 00:03:32.800 you what we were wrong. Because she was a young girl and she was 53 00:03:32.800 --> 00:03:37.159 a friend of the daughter. That's it. The stepmom, I guess, 54 00:03:37.199 --> 00:03:38.680 came in another car. I don't know how she got there, but there 55 00:03:38.719 --> 00:03:43.280 she was at my house. Anyway. See, we make you know what, 56 00:03:43.639 --> 00:03:46.759 We make up all kinds of stories in our heads. Remember last week 57 00:03:46.759 --> 00:03:50.719 we were talking about the author who wrote that book Us and he was saying 58 00:03:51.000 --> 00:03:54.479 that we make up these made up stories in our heads about situations and if 59 00:03:54.479 --> 00:03:59.319 we could just get to the truth of things. And here we were apologizing 60 00:03:59.319 --> 00:04:02.039 to a man who ever hurt us, you know, railing on him. 61 00:04:03.360 --> 00:04:09.439 But I have HouseGuests this weekend and two girlfriends who are delight. But it's 62 00:04:09.479 --> 00:04:12.080 interesting. There's a Japanese word. I don't know what the word is. 63 00:04:12.120 --> 00:04:15.439 Don't ask me to speak Japanese, but there is a Japanese word for a 64 00:04:15.479 --> 00:04:17.839 feeling that we all know very well, but we don't have a word in 65 00:04:17.879 --> 00:04:25.000 English for it. And The word basically means the feeling you have right after 66 00:04:25.079 --> 00:04:30.079 your house guests leave. So it's both sadness and loss because it's fun having 67 00:04:30.079 --> 00:04:33.240 people over, and it's both a little bit of happiness because now I get 68 00:04:33.279 --> 00:04:38.959 your house back and your routine back and everything else. It is a definitely 69 00:04:39.800 --> 00:04:43.519 a cognitive dissonance. House guests, if you're listening, please keep staying you're 70 00:04:43.560 --> 00:04:46.160 fine, everything's great. But I just want you to know that the feeling 71 00:04:46.199 --> 00:04:48.720 is going to come on me tomorrow. I'm prepared for it. But one 72 00:04:48.759 --> 00:04:53.600 of the things they asked me, because both of them have been in very 73 00:04:53.680 --> 00:04:57.560 long term relationships, one married for like thirty years, the other has a 74 00:04:57.600 --> 00:05:00.319 boyfriend of forty years. I go, you still call him a boy friend? 75 00:05:00.560 --> 00:05:01.319 She goes, what am I going to call him? I go? 76 00:05:01.399 --> 00:05:04.480 Do you live together? Oh? Yes? And I'm like, she goes, 77 00:05:04.480 --> 00:05:09.439 what am I going to say? Significant other? My partner? I'm 78 00:05:09.480 --> 00:05:12.399 like, I don't know. I say my lover like the French, you 79 00:05:12.399 --> 00:05:15.240 know it's I don't know. So anyway, they asked me, because I've 80 00:05:15.240 --> 00:05:17.800 only been with my boyfriend three years, how did you know you were in 81 00:05:17.800 --> 00:05:21.040 love with them? Now, if you followed me for a long time. 82 00:05:21.639 --> 00:05:26.040 You know that I come from all kinds of trauma, all kinds of a 83 00:05:26.079 --> 00:05:29.920 bad relationship history. If you've read my book The Boyfriend Test, The Girlfriend 84 00:05:30.000 --> 00:05:32.199 Test, The Thirty Day Love Detox, you know that I have lots of 85 00:05:32.240 --> 00:05:36.800 stories that I have shared about all the really bad choices that I made in 86 00:05:36.839 --> 00:05:43.319 my life. I totally forgive myself. I was young, I was traumatized. 87 00:05:43.759 --> 00:05:48.439 I was trying to resolve early childhood conflicts unconsciously I didn't know. But 88 00:05:49.560 --> 00:05:54.000 through all kinds of work, which i'll explain in a minute, I learned 89 00:05:54.040 --> 00:05:57.360 to have a secure attachment. So my girlfriend said, well, how did 90 00:05:57.360 --> 00:06:00.519 you know you were in love? And I told them a story that one 91 00:06:00.560 --> 00:06:02.399 time I got Okay, so what happens. I'm not perfect, all right. 92 00:06:02.439 --> 00:06:04.920 I got in a little tiff with a girlfriend one night. I was 93 00:06:05.040 --> 00:06:10.040 visiting her in a city far away and I get in my rent a car 94 00:06:10.360 --> 00:06:13.480 and I'm tearing away. Okay, I'll tell you. She was videotaping me 95 00:06:13.839 --> 00:06:16.480 without my knowledge. It really bothered me and she wouldn't stop. So anyway, 96 00:06:16.480 --> 00:06:20.480 in long story, so I leave and I call my boyfriend. Now 97 00:06:20.519 --> 00:06:26.839 I had only been dating him like three four weeks at that point, and 98 00:06:27.079 --> 00:06:28.800 I'm like, oh my god, you wanna believe this thing that happened. 99 00:06:28.839 --> 00:06:31.839 He's like, calm down, pull over right now, gentlemen, are you 100 00:06:31.879 --> 00:06:35.839 listening. That's all you need to do. Pull over right now. Share 101 00:06:35.839 --> 00:06:39.879 your location with me, got it? Okay, I'm gonna find you a 102 00:06:39.879 --> 00:06:42.800 hotel. I'm gonna pay for it. You're going to drive there, you're 103 00:06:42.800 --> 00:06:45.319 going to check in, you're gonna order some room service, you're gonna be 104 00:06:45.399 --> 00:06:50.279 okay, you'll fly back tomorrow. And this this calmness and this caregiving but 105 00:06:50.360 --> 00:06:53.879 you know you can't say it'll dude. Three weeks into it, Oh I 106 00:06:53.920 --> 00:06:57.959 love you. That was fabulous. So then like a couple months later, 107 00:06:58.279 --> 00:07:00.879 we're on a road trip driving. It's my shift because it's a long road 108 00:07:00.920 --> 00:07:04.920 drift and we pull in for gas and he jumps out of the passenger seat 109 00:07:04.959 --> 00:07:10.680 before I can even do anything, and runs around and starts pumping my gas. 110 00:07:11.279 --> 00:07:14.720 Now, you've got to understand, if you're a guy and a nice 111 00:07:14.759 --> 00:07:17.519 guy, which most of you are, you're going, yeah, so that's 112 00:07:17.560 --> 00:07:19.879 what you do. As suppose you'd be like a girl, don't you right, 113 00:07:20.439 --> 00:07:25.560 But if you're a woman who has dated bad people her whole life. 114 00:07:26.079 --> 00:07:30.199 This is like someone handing you a strawberry shortcake with whip cream. It's just 115 00:07:30.279 --> 00:07:35.040 like, what, oh amazing. So I stupidly said to him, oh 116 00:07:35.079 --> 00:07:38.319 my god, I love you, and he looked at me and said, 117 00:07:38.319 --> 00:07:42.199 you are so unromantic at a gas station. Really, that's how you do 118 00:07:42.279 --> 00:07:48.079 it. You know what I learned over the years is I learned to tolerate 119 00:07:48.879 --> 00:07:54.759 kindness. Now you have to understand if you come from trauma, you don't 120 00:07:54.800 --> 00:07:59.680 have a healthy model of love in your brain, and you often get addicted 121 00:08:00.439 --> 00:08:05.720 to longing. You get addicted to the moments where it feels good, and 122 00:08:05.759 --> 00:08:09.120 that in between times when it feels so bad, you're just in love with 123 00:08:09.160 --> 00:08:13.079 hope that the good times will come back. That roller coaster was so painful, 124 00:08:13.399 --> 00:08:16.399 and I had it so many times and for so many years in different 125 00:08:16.399 --> 00:08:22.920 relationships. So if you're on that same track, if you've been in bad 126 00:08:22.959 --> 00:08:26.120 relationships a lot, I want to tell you that there are ways that you 127 00:08:26.160 --> 00:08:31.519 can use your own neuroplasticity to heal. So you know what neuroplasticity is, 128 00:08:31.600 --> 00:08:37.200 right, It's the brains across a lifespan, ability to grow, learn, 129 00:08:37.519 --> 00:08:43.840 change, and it's all happening in response to new experiences. I think my 130 00:08:43.919 --> 00:08:48.039 favorite quote from Charles Darwin, and this won't be exact words, is it 131 00:08:48.120 --> 00:08:52.240 is not the intelligent who survive. It is not the strongest who survive. 132 00:08:52.759 --> 00:08:58.799 It is the ones who can adapt the most quickly. So you've got to 133 00:08:58.799 --> 00:09:03.360 adapt to a new relationship. You've got to adapt to love. Now we 134 00:09:03.519 --> 00:09:07.639 know that neuroplasticity can work in the negative. If you've been in a bad 135 00:09:07.679 --> 00:09:13.600 relationship for a long period of time, you're actually now addicted to these negative 136 00:09:13.360 --> 00:09:18.840 It's almost like you have chronic post traumatic stress disorder, right, your brain 137 00:09:18.919 --> 00:09:24.360 has altered in response to these kind of disturbing experiences of a bad relationship. 138 00:09:24.360 --> 00:09:28.120 Maybe it's highly critical, maybe there's violence, maybe there's drinking, cheating, 139 00:09:28.279 --> 00:09:33.840 whatever. So I have a little bit of advice for you based on my 140 00:09:33.919 --> 00:09:37.720 own experience of learning how to have a healthy relationship. Number one, get 141 00:09:37.720 --> 00:09:41.600 off the fence and just do it. I was most in pain when I 142 00:09:41.639 --> 00:09:43.519 was sitting on the fence and I couldn't decide. Just do it. Break 143 00:09:43.600 --> 00:09:48.879 up, break up, break up. Don't let them guilt you into returning, 144 00:09:48.279 --> 00:09:52.799 don't let them use Oh remember when or we've done so much together, 145 00:09:52.879 --> 00:09:54.919 or we've overcome so much. In fact, they're gonna make you feel guilty 146 00:09:54.960 --> 00:10:00.399 because that's why they targeted you unconsciously, because you have such can passion. 147 00:10:00.840 --> 00:10:03.600 They're going to try to tell you you're a bad person for leaving. They're 148 00:10:03.600 --> 00:10:07.080 going to tell you this is hurting your kids. Whatever. You can't let 149 00:10:07.120 --> 00:10:11.480 them gilt you. And then you're going to practice some mental self care, 150 00:10:11.960 --> 00:10:16.399 journaling, yoga, mindfulness therapy. I did it all, but here's one 151 00:10:16.440 --> 00:10:20.639 that's really important. Set your house in order, clean, redecorate, reorganize, 152 00:10:20.759 --> 00:10:24.759 bake, build, do whatever in your nest to make it different and 153 00:10:24.960 --> 00:10:30.519 better. This actually can shift your brain and the way you look at the 154 00:10:30.559 --> 00:10:35.399 world. Get yourself in nature. That'll help heal you and forgive yourself. 155 00:10:35.960 --> 00:10:39.960 Show compassion. I spend a lot of years feeling shame. I couldn't have 156 00:10:39.000 --> 00:10:43.039 even talked to you on the radio about this because I felt like, oh 157 00:10:43.039 --> 00:10:46.200 my god, I'm so smart. Why did I make some dumb choices? 158 00:10:46.240 --> 00:10:48.519 And I won't lie to you. Every once in a while, somebody will 159 00:10:48.519 --> 00:10:52.000 say to me, you are so smart. How could you have dated that 160 00:10:52.039 --> 00:10:56.279 person or how could you have been in that relationship, and I remind everybody 161 00:10:56.639 --> 00:11:01.399 that the intellectual brain and the emotional brain are two separate things, and the 162 00:11:01.440 --> 00:11:05.879 emotional brain always wins. Finally, I want to say this, curate your 163 00:11:05.919 --> 00:11:11.639 friends. Carefully, decide who you're going to leave in your closest circle, 164 00:11:11.399 --> 00:11:15.799 and get rid of those that you think are on his side or her side, 165 00:11:15.799 --> 00:11:18.519 whoever the bad one is I can't remember. Remember not everyone's got your 166 00:11:18.519 --> 00:11:24.480 best interest at heart, and don't let people manipulate you. Choose your friends 167 00:11:24.600 --> 00:11:26.799 carefully. All right, That's how I did it. When we come back, 168 00:11:26.840 --> 00:11:31.240 can we switch things a little bit. I want to talk about the 169 00:11:31.360 --> 00:11:37.080 mental health of some of our politicians. I want to talk a little bit 170 00:11:37.120 --> 00:11:43.279 about cognitive decline, Alzheimer's, dementia. And then I want to open up 171 00:11:43.320 --> 00:11:46.399 the phone lines. I want to find out what you think should we have 172 00:11:46.559 --> 00:11:52.840 an age that says you're too old to govern the rest of us? When 173 00:11:52.840 --> 00:11:54.600 we come back, you are listening to the Doctor Wendy Welsh Show and kf 174 00:11:54.639 --> 00:12:01.200 I AM six forty. We're live everywhere on the iHeartRadio app. You're listening 175 00:12:01.200 --> 00:12:09.120 to Doctor Wendy Walsh on demand from kf I AM six forty Kim six forty. 176 00:12:09.399 --> 00:12:11.279 You have Doctor Wendy Walsh with you this year is the Doctor Wendy Walsh 177 00:12:11.320 --> 00:12:15.399 Show. I want to tell you a story. A few weeks ago, 178 00:12:16.080 --> 00:12:20.159 I told friends on a Friday night when I saw them out, that I 179 00:12:20.200 --> 00:12:26.679 would see them on Sunday at the husband's birthday party. On Sunday morning, 180 00:12:26.720 --> 00:12:28.759 I woke up. You know what I do on Sunday, right, I'm 181 00:12:28.799 --> 00:12:33.039 here with you. But what I told them is I have to do my 182 00:12:33.159 --> 00:12:35.440 radio show from seven to nine. And they said it starts really early. 183 00:12:35.440 --> 00:12:39.080 It starts at four, And I said, okay, I'm going to come 184 00:12:39.279 --> 00:12:43.159 at four o'clock. I'll stay for like ninety minutes, zip over to the 185 00:12:43.200 --> 00:12:50.080 studio and do my radio show. That was Friday night. On Sunday morning, 186 00:12:50.279 --> 00:12:52.360 I wake up and I get a text from another friend who says, 187 00:12:52.399 --> 00:12:56.720 hey, we're performing at this place in the afternoon. Why don't you come 188 00:12:56.720 --> 00:13:00.879 over and listen to us sing? And I go, okay, I got 189 00:13:00.919 --> 00:13:05.039 nothing to do before my show, and I go on over there. So 190 00:13:05.080 --> 00:13:07.840 I listened to them sing. On one of their breaks, I say, 191 00:13:07.879 --> 00:13:11.799 I'm so sorry, I have to dash now, I have to get over 192 00:13:11.840 --> 00:13:15.519 to do my radio show, and she says, okay, cool, so 193 00:13:15.559 --> 00:13:18.960 we'll see at Anthony's birthday party. Then afterwards, I'm like, what what? 194 00:13:20.720 --> 00:13:22.799 And I realized at the very moment that I was watching them sing, 195 00:13:24.200 --> 00:13:26.759 I was supposed to be at the birthday party that I promised the host and 196 00:13:26.840 --> 00:13:28.600 hostess of that I would be there at four o'clock. And I was five 197 00:13:28.759 --> 00:13:31.360 thirty or six, and I was racing to go do my radio show at 198 00:13:31.440 --> 00:13:35.039 K five, and it was going to be over too late. By the 199 00:13:35.039 --> 00:13:39.120 time I would get to their party would be ten o'clock at night. And 200 00:13:39.480 --> 00:13:43.039 I had to call the hostess and leave this long message because she was busy 201 00:13:43.200 --> 00:13:46.240 with their party, of course, saying how sorry I was. And I 202 00:13:46.279 --> 00:13:50.639 signed off by saying, clearly an early sign of dementia. I have no 203 00:13:50.720 --> 00:13:56.440 idea how I forgot this important thing. It made me wonder, really, 204 00:13:56.919 --> 00:14:03.759 like, what is happening this time? Pic of cognitive decline dementia Alzheimer's is 205 00:14:03.879 --> 00:14:09.360 very much in the national discourse right now. Remember Supreme Court Justice Ruth Bader 206 00:14:09.360 --> 00:14:13.120 Ginsburg. A lot of people are mad at her that she did not step 207 00:14:13.360 --> 00:14:18.240 down. She died at the age of eighty seven. Now she was not 208 00:14:18.759 --> 00:14:22.559 officially diagnosed with dementia rather cancer. But I've seen plenty of videos of her 209 00:14:22.559 --> 00:14:26.399 falling asleep at things like inaugurations. Right, I mean, if you can't 210 00:14:26.399 --> 00:14:31.559 even stay awake for important processes or hearing Supreme Court hearings, Okay, maybe 211 00:14:31.559 --> 00:14:35.480 it's not dementia, but you're sleepy. You need a nap. Okay, 212 00:14:35.879 --> 00:14:41.399 maybe you should step down. Remember retired Supreme Court Justice Sandra Day O'Connor, 213 00:14:41.440 --> 00:14:45.799 the first female on the Court. She stepped down in twenty eighteen at the 214 00:14:45.840 --> 00:14:50.320 age of eighty eight because she was diagnosed with quote, the beginning stages of 215 00:14:50.399 --> 00:14:56.799 dementia, probably Alzheimer's. Dementia's the umbrella term, right, Alzheimer's is the 216 00:14:56.879 --> 00:15:05.399 disease. Now we have ninety ninety year old Senator Dianne Feinstein. For the 217 00:15:05.480 --> 00:15:09.600 last couple of years, it's no secret that Diane Finestne has been struggling, 218 00:15:09.879 --> 00:15:16.639 particularly with her short term memory issues. She frequently appears confused. There have 219 00:15:16.720 --> 00:15:22.200 been reports that her staff briefs her and then she'll forget what she's been told. 220 00:15:22.200 --> 00:15:26.240 Well, kind of like me and that birthday invitation. Sometimes she forgets 221 00:15:26.279 --> 00:15:28.879 that she's even been briefed at all. I don't know if you saw that 222 00:15:30.360 --> 00:15:33.159 round robin that happened last week when they were saying her, just say it's 223 00:15:33.200 --> 00:15:35.919 a vote, just say I just say, I just say I, and 224 00:15:35.960 --> 00:15:41.799 she was rambling on about something unrelated. There was another moment recently that cast 225 00:15:43.480 --> 00:15:48.799 well you could say, a grim light on America's aging leadership. Senate minority 226 00:15:48.879 --> 00:15:54.000 leader Mitch McConnell literally froze mid sentence. He was opening up his weekly news 227 00:15:54.080 --> 00:15:58.120 conference. He just stood there. I don't know if you've seen the video. 228 00:15:58.440 --> 00:16:02.279 He wasn't blinking, His mouth was pursed for a full twenty seconds. 229 00:16:02.279 --> 00:16:04.480 Now, twenty seconds doesn't seem a lot, and so you let yourself be 230 00:16:04.519 --> 00:16:07.600 silent for twenty seconds in front of an audience, it's a long time. 231 00:16:07.679 --> 00:16:11.039 It was in his colleague it was so scary to see. I'm so worried 232 00:16:11.080 --> 00:16:15.080 for him. Means going around about it are funny. It was scary. 233 00:16:15.480 --> 00:16:19.279 No, it's sad. Then his colleagues as quartered him away, and then 234 00:16:19.320 --> 00:16:23.840 he did come back later and was able to carry on. Taylor, you're 235 00:16:23.840 --> 00:16:30.399 so young to remember. But do you remember President Ronald Reagan? No? 236 00:16:30.399 --> 00:16:33.360 No, but I've read about him well before Trump. He was the oldest 237 00:16:33.480 --> 00:16:37.480 president wait for it, at the age of seventy eight. He was actually 238 00:16:37.480 --> 00:16:41.200 eventually diagnosed with Alzheimer's, and one of his sons, the one named Ron 239 00:16:41.240 --> 00:16:48.200 Reagan, wrote in his book that his father showed signs of this Alzheimer's before 240 00:16:48.399 --> 00:16:52.720 the beginning of his second term. What I've heard rumors that the last two 241 00:16:52.799 --> 00:16:55.840 years of his presidency Nancy Reagan ran the show, which you know, couldn't 242 00:16:55.840 --> 00:17:00.720 be a bad thing. She's a woman. So McConnell is eighty one, 243 00:17:03.360 --> 00:17:07.079 and he's much older than President bidenant former President Trump. Oh not much older. 244 00:17:07.119 --> 00:17:12.880 Sorry. We know that a severe health crisis or a mental health crisis 245 00:17:14.160 --> 00:17:18.720 for any one of these people could literally change the direction of the nation. 246 00:17:19.799 --> 00:17:25.039 But nobody's stepping aside. Nobody wants to step down. Now. There are 247 00:17:23.960 --> 00:17:27.599 a couple of theories on this. I was reading this great article on this 248 00:17:27.759 --> 00:17:33.480 in The Atlantic, and one of my favorite quotes said, if the World 249 00:17:33.480 --> 00:17:37.680 War two generation was the greatest generation, then the Baby Boom generation is the 250 00:17:37.839 --> 00:17:45.279 longest generation. They just refuse to retire. They can't imagine retiring, They 251 00:17:45.359 --> 00:17:51.960 won't retire. You have to understand it was only one or two generations ago. 252 00:17:52.480 --> 00:17:56.880 When people fought in a war, came home to build what they hoped 253 00:17:56.920 --> 00:18:00.200 would be an idyllic life, so that they could then bet fit from the 254 00:18:00.279 --> 00:18:07.519 fruits of their labor in a lovely, relaxing retirement. That's how it went 255 00:18:07.240 --> 00:18:12.759 right Now, I did a little bit of research on dementia today. It's 256 00:18:12.799 --> 00:18:19.440 most common over the age of sixty five. Fifty three of our one hundred 257 00:18:19.519 --> 00:18:26.000 senators are over the age of sixty five. What is the data say nationally 258 00:18:26.039 --> 00:18:33.039 of us? Well, in the first nationally representative study of cognitive impairment looking 259 00:18:33.079 --> 00:18:38.119 for prevalence in our society in America here for the last twenty years, done 260 00:18:38.119 --> 00:18:45.759 by Columbia University researchers, they found the ten percent of US adults age sixty 261 00:18:45.759 --> 00:18:52.039 five and older have dementia, while twenty two percent have mild cognitive impairment. 262 00:18:52.079 --> 00:18:56.599 Okay, let's just set that aside. We got a hundred senators and fifty 263 00:18:56.640 --> 00:19:00.839 three of them are over the age of sixty five, twenty two percent of 264 00:19:00.920 --> 00:19:07.559 them have mild cognitive appairment. If in fact they equate with these statistics, 265 00:19:08.359 --> 00:19:15.359 so that's the question. Should we have age limits on governance? Now here's 266 00:19:15.359 --> 00:19:21.279 a problem if we do, then we're knocking out our two presidential candidate. 267 00:19:21.319 --> 00:19:22.960 I mean, I know we have more than two, okay, but we 268 00:19:22.000 --> 00:19:26.119 all know we're going to end up with two two presidential candidates, and people 269 00:19:26.160 --> 00:19:30.279 don't want to do that. The other thing is, I'm a professor who 270 00:19:30.319 --> 00:19:33.000 teaches developmental psychology, and I teach my students all the time that in a 271 00:19:33.119 --> 00:19:37.240 kindergarten classroom, you're going to see everything from a five year old wedding their 272 00:19:37.279 --> 00:19:41.119 pants and crying to a five year old quietly reading in the corner. There's 273 00:19:41.160 --> 00:19:44.960 such a developmental range of abilities. And in the same sense, at the 274 00:19:45.000 --> 00:19:48.119 other end of the life, you're going to see ninety year olds getting college 275 00:19:48.119 --> 00:19:53.039 degrees and opening up businesses and sixty year olds rotting away in a recliner watching 276 00:19:53.079 --> 00:19:56.279 Netflix. I mean, should there be a test? I want to take 277 00:19:56.319 --> 00:20:00.319 your calls. I want to know what should we do about this? Numbers 278 00:20:00.319 --> 00:20:04.319 one eight hundred five two zero one KFI. That's one eight hundred five two 279 00:20:04.400 --> 00:20:11.039 zero one five three four on eight hundred five two zero one five three four 280 00:20:11.119 --> 00:20:15.200 Do you think we should have age limits on our governance? And if so, 281 00:20:15.359 --> 00:20:18.640 why or why not? You are listening to The Doctor Wendy Walsh Show 282 00:20:18.680 --> 00:20:23.799 on KFI AM six forty. We're live everywhere on the iHeartRadio app. You're 283 00:20:23.839 --> 00:20:30.039 listening to Doctor Wendy Walsh on demand from kf I AM six forty. K 284 00:20:30.119 --> 00:20:33.279 f I AM six forty, you have doctor Wendy Walsh with you. This 285 00:20:33.440 --> 00:20:37.039 is the Doctor Wendy Walsh Show, speaking of mental health. Should we have 286 00:20:37.240 --> 00:20:44.640 age limits on governance? If so many are experiencing cognitive decline, should they 287 00:20:44.680 --> 00:20:48.000 be able to make decisions that impact the rest of us? If you'd like 288 00:20:48.039 --> 00:20:51.960 to call in with your opinion, the number is one eight hundred five two 289 00:20:52.119 --> 00:20:56.960 zero one KFI. That's one eight hundred five two zero one five three four 290 00:20:56.039 --> 00:20:59.599 hy Producer Kala. Who do we have with us? We have Ellie with 291 00:20:59.640 --> 00:21:03.799 the Hi. Elliot's Doctor Wendy. Hi, great to talk to you. 292 00:21:04.319 --> 00:21:10.880 The point I want to make is that about maybe fifteen years ago, I 293 00:21:10.960 --> 00:21:17.200 learned about two things. One is called chronological age. One is called biological 294 00:21:17.279 --> 00:21:23.319 age. So a person of who has their biological age that's the day they 295 00:21:23.319 --> 00:21:27.480 were born. Moving forward, a person could be a forty or fifty or 296 00:21:27.519 --> 00:21:33.039 sixty based on the day they were born. The chronological age has something to 297 00:21:33.119 --> 00:21:38.279 do with the I'm sorry, yeah, yeah, yeah, the other way 298 00:21:38.279 --> 00:21:41.839 around, as to do with how their cells are declining or not. Yeah, 299 00:21:41.880 --> 00:21:47.359 And so some people take better care of themselves than others. And there's 300 00:21:47.400 --> 00:21:51.880 a big genetic piece. Well, a forty year old can look fifty, 301 00:21:51.960 --> 00:21:56.319 a forty year old can look thirty. And it goes back to kindergarten where 302 00:21:56.359 --> 00:22:00.119 you said, you know, one is reading the book and one is crying 303 00:22:00.160 --> 00:22:04.799 and hysterical. So it's no different if you're forty or eighty or one hundred. 304 00:22:04.799 --> 00:22:10.720 As stars, each person develops differently and has a different view online. 305 00:22:10.880 --> 00:22:15.079 It sounds like you're saying there shouldn't be an age limit. Should we base 306 00:22:15.119 --> 00:22:18.119 it on something else? Ellie, Yes, we should base it on their 307 00:22:18.200 --> 00:22:22.960 track record, their intelligence, they're willing to jump, willingness to jump in 308 00:22:25.240 --> 00:22:32.240 their ability to communicate, their ability to reach out to their constituents, and 309 00:22:32.519 --> 00:22:37.440 basically being as alive at eighty as they were at forty. Right, But 310 00:22:37.519 --> 00:22:41.079 who's going to do it. Who's going to tap on Diane Feinstein's and Mitch 311 00:22:41.160 --> 00:22:45.559 McConnell's shoulder and go, excuse me, it's time, Like we don't have 312 00:22:45.599 --> 00:22:49.480 a system for that. Great, we don't and that's what we need to 313 00:22:49.519 --> 00:22:55.240 figure out. And we probably will never happen before this next presidential election because 314 00:22:55.279 --> 00:22:57.759 that might acts out two of the people. Ellie, thanks so much for 315 00:22:57.839 --> 00:23:02.079 calling, Producer Gay. Who do we have next? We have Brian? 316 00:23:02.759 --> 00:23:07.359 Brian, Hi, Brian, it's doctor Wendy. That afternoon. I'm sorry, 317 00:23:07.359 --> 00:23:10.559 good evening, missus Wendy, it is evening. What's your opinion on 318 00:23:10.599 --> 00:23:15.240 this? Should we have an age limit on governance? I think there should 319 00:23:15.279 --> 00:23:19.200 be a term limit on quite a few judicial positions. Even in the court 320 00:23:19.319 --> 00:23:26.119 system, you have honorable judges that have been put on the bench by governors 321 00:23:26.240 --> 00:23:29.839 of the states. And what happens is that even when they get to a 322 00:23:29.880 --> 00:23:34.000 certain point, you can tell that their decisions in what they say where they 323 00:23:34.039 --> 00:23:38.880 refer to the clerks, and the clerks of the court have to direct them 324 00:23:40.400 --> 00:23:44.160 in the direction they need to do or what they cannot do, even if 325 00:23:44.200 --> 00:23:48.920 they are a pro tem as an attorney that's in practicing for five years or 326 00:23:48.960 --> 00:23:52.079 more and they're sitting on the bench. So therefore, the same way, 327 00:23:52.160 --> 00:23:56.480 when there was an accident in Santa Monica, California, years ago, they 328 00:23:56.519 --> 00:24:02.359 put a limit when you got to a certainly you had to retake your drive 329 00:24:02.440 --> 00:24:06.200 test exactly. That's what I say. You have to take a driver's test 330 00:24:06.319 --> 00:24:08.839 at a different age. Why wouldn't you have to take a mental acuity test 331 00:24:10.240 --> 00:24:14.839 if you're in such an important position where you're making decisions about people's lives. 332 00:24:15.119 --> 00:24:15.960 Ryan, I hate to cut you off. We have someone else waiting, 333 00:24:17.000 --> 00:24:18.519 But that's a really good point. We should have term limits in a lot 334 00:24:18.599 --> 00:24:22.519 of places. Thanks for making that point. Okay, producer, Kayla, 335 00:24:22.519 --> 00:24:25.880 who we got? Now we have Claudia. Hi, Claudia, it's doctor 336 00:24:25.880 --> 00:24:32.559 Wendy. Oh. Hello. I think there shouldn't be the limits. And 337 00:24:32.680 --> 00:24:37.279 the reason why you can look up look this up in any encyclopedia. But 338 00:24:38.240 --> 00:24:45.000 the Chancellor of West Germany from nineteen forty nine to sixty three was Conrad Adenauer. 339 00:24:45.000 --> 00:24:49.440 And he was seventy five when he took office, and then he brought 340 00:24:49.519 --> 00:24:53.839 Germany out of the pits, you know. And anyway, he was seventy 341 00:24:53.839 --> 00:24:57.720 five, and he worked until he was eighty three, and he only lived 342 00:24:57.759 --> 00:25:03.160 four years after to that. But anyway, he's a good example. And 343 00:25:03.480 --> 00:25:07.880 exactly, we do have a lot of older states men and women who are 344 00:25:07.920 --> 00:25:12.759 still clear of clear mind and making good decisions around the world. That's a 345 00:25:12.799 --> 00:25:17.079 really good point, Claudia, thanks for letting us know. Kayala, what 346 00:25:17.079 --> 00:25:21.359 do you think I agree with Brian as far as is if we have to 347 00:25:21.359 --> 00:25:22.680 take a test for the drive for being on the road again, we should 348 00:25:22.720 --> 00:25:26.519 definitely take test for positions of power that are going to affect others. If 349 00:25:26.559 --> 00:25:30.079 you're not mentally able to do stuff, you're not cognitive. We should know 350 00:25:30.160 --> 00:25:33.359 that before you're making such heavy decisions. So I agree with Brian that there 351 00:25:33.400 --> 00:25:37.640 should be a test, not an age limit, but a test. Raoul, 352 00:25:37.680 --> 00:25:41.160 what do you think I would agree? Yeah, there's got to be 353 00:25:41.200 --> 00:25:45.599 some kind of test because you just you have to be sharp in these positions. 354 00:25:45.680 --> 00:25:48.640 You just have to be And here's the problem though, So somebody has 355 00:25:48.640 --> 00:25:53.000 got to put a bill in Congress that gets past that says that there should 356 00:25:53.000 --> 00:26:00.000 be a cognitive skill test that aging politicians should have to take, but nobody 357 00:26:00.079 --> 00:26:02.839 he's going to do it because it could hurt their own party. You know. 358 00:26:02.880 --> 00:26:04.640 Then we go back to the two party system thing where they're like, 359 00:26:04.680 --> 00:26:07.240 well, if I do it, then we're gonna, you know, make 360 00:26:07.279 --> 00:26:11.279 a seat open up, and the other side might come in and so we 361 00:26:11.359 --> 00:26:15.039 just it's like tax law, right. I was out for a walk with 362 00:26:15.079 --> 00:26:18.319 a girlfriend today. We had this conversation about tax law, and she's a 363 00:26:18.400 --> 00:26:22.480 payroll expert who really believes that if everybody just paid their taxes the way you're 364 00:26:22.480 --> 00:26:26.359 supposed to by, like the law says, we would literally have no national 365 00:26:26.440 --> 00:26:30.200 deficit. But I was saying, yeah, but what about all the laws 366 00:26:30.200 --> 00:26:33.759 that are there that are legal that give benefits to the wealthy and not to 367 00:26:34.039 --> 00:26:38.039 the lower income people. And she said, well, no one's ever going 368 00:26:38.079 --> 00:26:42.960 to try to change those laws because it's the politicians themselves who benefit. So 369 00:26:44.000 --> 00:26:47.839 that's our problem. We're stuck with it. When we come back, I 370 00:26:47.880 --> 00:26:52.240 want to talk about some early signs of dementia. Let's move off politics for 371 00:26:52.240 --> 00:26:57.000 a moment and think about our families and think about ourselves. What are some 372 00:26:57.039 --> 00:27:00.880 of the early signs of dementia and are there things that we can do about 373 00:27:00.920 --> 00:27:07.559 it? What is the latest research say about keeping our brains healthy? When 374 00:27:07.559 --> 00:27:11.680 we return, you are listening to the Doctor Wendy Waalsh Show on KFI AM 375 00:27:11.720 --> 00:27:15.599 six forty. We're live everywhere on the iHeartRadio app. You're listening to Doctor 376 00:27:15.599 --> 00:27:22.799 Wendy Walsh on demand from KFI Am sixty KIM six forty. You have doctor 377 00:27:22.799 --> 00:27:25.960 Wendy Walsh with you. This is the Doctor dy Wells Show. I've got 378 00:27:26.000 --> 00:27:30.759 some relationship stuff coming up, but i want to finish this little bit on 379 00:27:30.359 --> 00:27:36.759 dementia because it's something that affects one in eight Americans before I get to it. 380 00:27:36.799 --> 00:27:41.279 Though. One of the things I love about having this soapbox, if 381 00:27:41.279 --> 00:27:45.720 you will, this beautiful radio station KFI, is that, like we did 382 00:27:45.799 --> 00:27:48.839 during COVID, we love to give small business shoutouts every once in a while, 383 00:27:48.880 --> 00:27:52.400 just from the goodness of our heart, because it's a public service to 384 00:27:52.400 --> 00:27:56.839 do that. I think small businesses are the most important thing we can all 385 00:27:56.920 --> 00:28:02.480 be patronizing because they keep communities alive. One in particular is one of my 386 00:28:02.519 --> 00:28:04.960 favorites. It's called krem Broulet. It's a French bankery, of course, 387 00:28:06.759 --> 00:28:10.359 false a French bakery. It's also black owned, which makes it extra cool. 388 00:28:10.400 --> 00:28:15.039 In Inglewood, they are having trouble and they want to keep their location 389 00:28:15.160 --> 00:28:18.599 and they want to stay a staple in the community, but they may not 390 00:28:18.720 --> 00:28:22.400 be able to to renew their lease. So as a result, this is 391 00:28:22.400 --> 00:28:29.640 how small businesses work. One of their customers named Bow said, she's gonna 392 00:28:29.720 --> 00:28:32.200 save the day. She's going to help them. She's gonna put together a 393 00:28:32.200 --> 00:28:37.640 fundraiser that's going to help Krembrouley. And the event is called a Wardrobe Wake 394 00:28:37.720 --> 00:28:41.319 Up Clothing Swap. Who doesn't love a good clothing swap? So it will 395 00:28:41.359 --> 00:28:45.799 also help people struggling financially and help save Kremberley's location. So here's what it 396 00:28:45.920 --> 00:28:52.039 is. This event is this Saturday, August twelfth, from eleven to five 397 00:28:52.200 --> 00:28:56.480 pm. The address is six thirty North Librea Avenue in Inglewood. Is that 398 00:28:56.480 --> 00:29:00.559 where Kremberlet is. Yeah, it is. It's actually a website if people 399 00:29:00.759 --> 00:29:04.920 cram Relatum And here's how it works. You bring your clothing items that you're 400 00:29:04.960 --> 00:29:07.519 just done with you need to purge, and you should purge if you haven't 401 00:29:07.519 --> 00:29:11.160 warn something in more than a year, you're not ever going to wear it. 402 00:29:11.480 --> 00:29:14.119 Make sure it's clean, press, make sure it's in good condition, 403 00:29:14.119 --> 00:29:15.720 and someone could just put it on and take it. And then when you 404 00:29:15.759 --> 00:29:18.720 go, you give your clothes and you can choose other clothes to take away. 405 00:29:19.039 --> 00:29:22.359 You don't have to bring clothes, you can just go buy clothes and 406 00:29:22.359 --> 00:29:26.279 get a whole new wardrobe. So head on out there this Saturday from eleven 407 00:29:26.279 --> 00:29:29.519 to five pm, save a restaurant, get a new wardrobe. Six thirty 408 00:29:29.519 --> 00:29:32.000 North, LaBrea. What website did they go to? They can go to 409 00:29:32.039 --> 00:29:37.960 can on a website. Oh, but on my website on page than you. 410 00:29:37.240 --> 00:29:41.039 What would I do without you? What would you about you? Okay? 411 00:29:41.160 --> 00:29:45.839 So, uh the other day I bought a set of antique silverware. 412 00:29:45.920 --> 00:29:48.799 I just my dad used to say, if something's shiny, you're you're a 413 00:29:48.839 --> 00:29:52.839 crow Wendy. If something's shiny, you go pick it up. But I 414 00:29:52.920 --> 00:29:55.920 love antique silverware, and I have a vacation rental I'm putting it. So 415 00:29:56.000 --> 00:29:56.640 I was like, you know, I'll figure out a way to shine this 416 00:29:56.720 --> 00:30:00.599 up. I was very excited about it. I drive into the driveway, 417 00:30:02.079 --> 00:30:04.319 I go in the house, and like two hours later, I go, 418 00:30:04.720 --> 00:30:07.359 oh, my gosh, I left that silverware in the car, Like I 419 00:30:07.359 --> 00:30:10.680 didn't even think to carry it in yet. I was so excited about this 420 00:30:10.720 --> 00:30:15.839 purchase. Again, like missing Anthony's birthday. Do I have early dementia? 421 00:30:15.480 --> 00:30:21.039 Well, according to the research, it's good to ask yourself if these common 422 00:30:21.319 --> 00:30:26.000 forgetful things are starting to buy it up for you. How often do you 423 00:30:26.119 --> 00:30:30.240 misplace your cell phone or keys? Okay, Julio, I love you, 424 00:30:30.319 --> 00:30:33.759 but you lose your cell phone all the dime. He has one of those 425 00:30:33.759 --> 00:30:37.559 fineom eyes, and he's got a sticker on it. It's got an alarm 426 00:30:37.640 --> 00:30:40.240 on it. I call it whatever. Yeah, he loses it all the 427 00:30:40.279 --> 00:30:44.079 time. So misplace cell phone or keys? Is it happening more often? 428 00:30:44.160 --> 00:30:48.200 Is it happening regularly? Have you missed an important appointment like a birthday party 429 00:30:48.240 --> 00:30:52.279 like I did? Have you forgot your groceries in the car? No? 430 00:30:52.559 --> 00:30:56.480 Fine silver, That's what I forgot in the car. Do you ever get 431 00:30:56.519 --> 00:31:03.319 confused following like a new cooking recipe or maybe the operating instructions how to put 432 00:31:03.359 --> 00:31:06.319 something together a new item? Of course I do that always. I do 433 00:31:06.359 --> 00:31:10.880 not have a mechanical brain. And I look at those instructions and those funny 434 00:31:10.880 --> 00:31:14.680 little diagrams of the stick people doing things. Sometimes they put moods on them. 435 00:31:14.720 --> 00:31:18.359 Do they're like exasperated or they're happy? I can't figure them out at 436 00:31:18.400 --> 00:31:22.160 all. Do you lose your train of thought? I just did? There 437 00:31:22.160 --> 00:31:25.160 you go? Do you lose your train of thought? Do you have trouble 438 00:31:25.279 --> 00:31:29.839 following the plot of a book or a movie. That let's all pause here. 439 00:31:30.640 --> 00:31:34.319 We all have a little ADHD now, no matter what your age, 440 00:31:34.759 --> 00:31:41.839 we have been clicking through on websites. We have such a short attention span 441 00:31:41.960 --> 00:31:47.279 now because of what technology has done to our brains. But for some so 442 00:31:47.319 --> 00:31:48.880 I'm not a good reader anymore. And I used to plow through a book 443 00:31:48.880 --> 00:31:52.839 a week, but now I like to read articles and I like to click 444 00:31:52.880 --> 00:31:56.400 through for other things. So I don't know. Is it aging or is 445 00:31:56.400 --> 00:32:00.880 it technology? Here's another one? Or do you find yourself re reading chapters 446 00:32:00.880 --> 00:32:02.920 of the same book. Well, I have to say, I don't read 447 00:32:04.000 --> 00:32:07.480 every single night, so if I skip a night, then I go back 448 00:32:07.559 --> 00:32:09.599 and I reread the chapter before, just to get myself back in time. 449 00:32:09.599 --> 00:32:13.920 And I don't know. Is it an early sign of dementia? I thought 450 00:32:13.920 --> 00:32:20.359 everyone did that? Really? Okay, okay? How about disorganization? Do 451 00:32:20.400 --> 00:32:22.759 you find it hard to finish a task, to follow instructions, to make 452 00:32:22.799 --> 00:32:25.920 decision? Not me? I'm you know Hulu's nicknamed for me, Kayla. 453 00:32:25.960 --> 00:32:30.599 Do you remember what it is? Ceo CEO that's right, I am like 454 00:32:30.680 --> 00:32:35.200 the project manager. I know where things go I know how to follow things, 455 00:32:35.240 --> 00:32:38.480 so I'm good. There. Okay, no dementia there? Do you 456 00:32:38.720 --> 00:32:43.599 are you having trouble finding your way around places? How often do you lose 457 00:32:43.640 --> 00:32:45.799 your car in the parking lot? Now? I mean we all do every 458 00:32:45.799 --> 00:32:49.119 once in a while. Especially. It used to be if you have a 459 00:32:49.119 --> 00:32:52.559 white Prius. Now it's if you have a white test block. All the 460 00:32:52.599 --> 00:32:58.440 cars look the same. I started to have poor judgment. Have your friends 461 00:32:59.279 --> 00:33:04.720 and family said anything to you? I have a friend, but I would 462 00:33:04.720 --> 00:33:07.119 like to say something too, but I can't figure out the words because I 463 00:33:07.200 --> 00:33:12.920 have noticed a lot of this stuff. You know. Here's the thing. 464 00:33:13.240 --> 00:33:19.440 When you start to have mild cognitive impairment, it often gets commingled with some 465 00:33:19.559 --> 00:33:27.480 mental health crises like depression, anxiety, a short temper, aggression, or 466 00:33:27.559 --> 00:33:31.200 just yeah, a lack of interest, like I don't want to go right, 467 00:33:31.279 --> 00:33:34.960 Ah, it's okay, I don't have to I'm not interested anymore. 468 00:33:36.279 --> 00:33:39.319 So think about it. Think about if this stuff is happening to you, 469 00:33:40.359 --> 00:33:45.559 all right, deep dive on what kind of treatments are available. There are 470 00:33:45.559 --> 00:33:52.559 a couple medical i mean pharmaceuticals that you can ask your doctor about that are 471 00:33:52.720 --> 00:33:59.160 looking towards treating mild cognitive impairment. But at the end, it's all about 472 00:33:59.240 --> 00:34:02.839 our lifestyle. The big five food to link to better brain power and prevention 473 00:34:02.880 --> 00:34:07.360 of cognitive decline, green vegetables. You should be eating five cups a day, 474 00:34:07.400 --> 00:34:12.719 five a day, Remember fatty fish, salmon, and tuna. Berries. 475 00:34:13.119 --> 00:34:16.039 I do eat raspberries and blueberries every day. I love this one. 476 00:34:16.119 --> 00:34:21.559 Tea and coffee. Tea and coffee, not just short term concentration booths. 477 00:34:22.000 --> 00:34:25.960 Research has shown that high caffeine consumption scored better. People with high caffeine I 478 00:34:27.000 --> 00:34:30.039 can't say it. I'm not drinking of caffeine scored better on tests of mental 479 00:34:30.039 --> 00:34:31.719 function, and I am a four cup of day girl, Thank you very 480 00:34:31.800 --> 00:34:37.239 much. All nuts are great for your brain. But while nuts are particularly 481 00:34:37.280 --> 00:34:40.400 good for your brain, also exercise. Physical fitness. Get that blood flowing 482 00:34:40.440 --> 00:34:46.440 to your brain tissue can reduce the risk of damage or deterioration. Aerobic exercise 483 00:34:46.480 --> 00:34:52.320 is the important Sleep. Oh my god, the other night I had not 484 00:34:52.519 --> 00:34:55.760 had a good night's sleep. The night before, I'd been up manufacturing fears 485 00:34:55.800 --> 00:34:59.199 at three thirty in the morning for about an hour, and so I didn't 486 00:34:59.199 --> 00:35:02.119 really feel rested. Next day. So the next night I took these two 487 00:35:02.320 --> 00:35:07.760 chocolate melatonin candies from Whole Foods that looked totally normal, and they said take 488 00:35:07.800 --> 00:35:12.199 two and whatever. You would think. I had taken a deep sleeping pill 489 00:35:12.320 --> 00:35:15.199 or valume. I slept in so much that I was late picking up a 490 00:35:15.199 --> 00:35:20.400 friend at the airport. I mean I was in like a deep sleep coma 491 00:35:20.639 --> 00:35:22.320 dream. Anyway, it was amazing. But I don't think we're supposed to 492 00:35:22.360 --> 00:35:25.199 do that all the time, or at least not that amount. Oh here's 493 00:35:25.239 --> 00:35:30.599 some interesting research on alcohol, folks. If you drink a lot, not 494 00:35:30.719 --> 00:35:36.039 good for your brain. If you never ever ever drink, oh, not 495 00:35:36.079 --> 00:35:39.880 good for your brain. The research says people who consume one alcoholic beverage a 496 00:35:40.000 --> 00:35:45.000 day have a lower risk of dementia. But who can have just day one 497 00:35:45.079 --> 00:35:47.800 a day? I know, but I don't think you can save them up, 498 00:35:47.840 --> 00:35:55.400 Kaylin have seven on Saturday night. Also doing the mental stimulation stuff, 499 00:35:55.679 --> 00:36:02.719 playing board games, crosswords, reading, engaging in animated group discussions. Get 500 00:36:02.760 --> 00:36:07.119 into it, Okay. I'm obsessed with the game Rummy Cube Rummy cub Rumy 501 00:36:07.119 --> 00:36:09.480 Cube. I don't know, but I'm play it almost every day these days. 502 00:36:09.679 --> 00:36:12.840 If anybody comes to my house and look, you play Rumy Cube with 503 00:36:12.920 --> 00:36:17.159 me and they're on it. And the biggest one is social social interactions, 504 00:36:17.719 --> 00:36:22.800 being with your friends and family. They have the biggest effect on your health 505 00:36:22.880 --> 00:36:28.199 and your lung chevity. All right, let me come back. Marriage rates 506 00:36:28.519 --> 00:36:34.760 have fallen sixty percent over the last fifty years. I've got the reasons why 507 00:36:35.239 --> 00:36:38.360 as well. Is your marriage on decline? Are you about to divorce? 508 00:36:39.400 --> 00:36:43.760 Let's find out. You're listening to the Doctor Wendy Walls Show and KFI amc 509 00:36:44.000 --> 00:36:49.519 forty with Live everywhere on the iHeartRadio app. You've been listening to Doctor Wendy 510 00:36:49.559 --> 00:36:52.639 Walls. You can always hear us live on kf I AM six forty from 511 00:36:52.679 --> 00:36:57.440 seven to nine pm on Sunday and anytime on demand on the iHeartRadio app.