This is Doctor Wendy Walsh and you're listening to kf I Am six forty,
the Doctor Wendy Walsh Show on demand on the iHeartRadio app a a by Am
six forty. You have Doctor Wendy Walsh with you. This is Doctor Wendy
Walsh Show. If you're new to my show. I have a PhD in
clinical psychology. I'm not a therapist, though I'm a psychology professor, but
in my private life I have been obsessed with the science of love for more
than three decades. I've written three books on relationships. I've written a dissertation
on attachment theory, and well, I like to think I solved a lot
of my own relationship nonsense over the years, with lots of help from professionals,
of course. Kayla, how you doing? I am great? How
are you good? I want to hear your opinion in a minute, because
I know that you're going to have a strong opinion about something that I have
coming up, So get ready, okay, but I want to start by
just telling you that the funniest thing happened today having to do with relationships.
Now, you know I never judge, right, I know the science of
human mating strategy. There are no morals to it. It's just how people
behave. Also, because I know the science of it, I can predict
in almost a kind of eye rolling way, things that people do. So
here's the funny story. Today, my daughter is having two friends over.
I know one of the girls, I don't know the no no. She
told me she was having a sorry a friend and her stepmother coming to pick
her up, and they were going shopping at Alta beauty. I'd never met
the stepmother before. I didn't know her. The girl had told me recently
that the stepmother is now divorcing separated from her dad, so obviously his second
marriage is falling apart. And I'm like, okay, cool, So your
mom is going to pick up my daughter and with your her friend, all
going to be good. Let the moment they're pulling in the driveway, I
happen to be pulling out with a girlfriend of my own in my car,
and I look over and I roll down my window and I go, HI,
nice to meet you. I'm Wendy, and she goes, hi,
I'm one of Her name was right, because I didn't even know the name.
And we pass by. I pull on into the street, and then
I start judging, judging, judging. I say, oh my god,
I cannot believe, no wonder that man is getting divorced a second time.
That looks like a child. She looks like she's barely older than his daughter.
That is terrible. And then we get into this whole conversation about how
men will go young and they'll go with hot before they'll think of a good
companion. And in fact, in my Patreon zoom room this past Wednesday,
that was one of the topics. And we have men in the group.
What we men and women, but men age like say thirty five to fifty,
And the older ones were saying, could you tell a younger man to
not just go for hot, to actually choose a good mate. So we
got into this whole big comp they said, no, probably not. We
got in this whole big conversation about it. So we get home and there's
the young, hot divorcing stepmom in my mind, there's her stepdaughter in my
kitchen. They're talking about the makeup they bought. An out of the bathroom
comes a grown up woman. It was just another girl they brought along.
I was like, oh my goodness, we thought your friend was your stepmother.
And they laughed so hard. I said, we spent twenty minutes in
the car hating on your dad and now we love them again. Is that
crazy? At least you aren't, I know. Well, let me tell
you what we were wrong. Because she was a young girl and she was
a friend of the daughter. That's it. The stepmom, I guess,
came in another car. I don't know how she got there, but there
she was at my house. Anyway. See, we make you know what,
We make up all kinds of stories in our heads. Remember last week
we were talking about the author who wrote that book Us and he was saying
that we make up these made up stories in our heads about situations and if
we could just get to the truth of things. And here we were apologizing
to a man who ever hurt us, you know, railing on him.
But I have HouseGuests this weekend and two girlfriends who are delight. But it's
interesting. There's a Japanese word. I don't know what the word is.
Don't ask me to speak Japanese, but there is a Japanese word for a
feeling that we all know very well, but we don't have a word in
English for it. And The word basically means the feeling you have right after
your house guests leave. So it's both sadness and loss because it's fun having
people over, and it's both a little bit of happiness because now I get
your house back and your routine back and everything else. It is a definitely
a cognitive dissonance. House guests, if you're listening, please keep staying you're
fine, everything's great. But I just want you to know that the feeling
is going to come on me tomorrow. I'm prepared for it. But one
of the things they asked me, because both of them have been in very
long term relationships, one married for like thirty years, the other has a
boyfriend of forty years. I go, you still call him a boy friend?
She goes, what am I going to call him? I go?
Do you live together? Oh? Yes? And I'm like, she goes,
what am I going to say? Significant other? My partner? I'm
like, I don't know. I say my lover like the French, you
know it's I don't know. So anyway, they asked me, because I've
only been with my boyfriend three years, how did you know you were in
love with them? Now, if you followed me for a long time.
You know that I come from all kinds of trauma, all kinds of a
bad relationship history. If you've read my book The Boyfriend Test, The Girlfriend
Test, The Thirty Day Love Detox, you know that I have lots of
stories that I have shared about all the really bad choices that I made in
my life. I totally forgive myself. I was young, I was traumatized.
I was trying to resolve early childhood conflicts unconsciously I didn't know. But
through all kinds of work, which i'll explain in a minute, I learned
to have a secure attachment. So my girlfriend said, well, how did
you know you were in love? And I told them a story that one
time I got Okay, so what happens. I'm not perfect, all right.
I got in a little tiff with a girlfriend one night. I was
visiting her in a city far away and I get in my rent a car
and I'm tearing away. Okay, I'll tell you. She was videotaping me
without my knowledge. It really bothered me and she wouldn't stop. So anyway,
in long story, so I leave and I call my boyfriend. Now
I had only been dating him like three four weeks at that point, and
I'm like, oh my god, you wanna believe this thing that happened.
He's like, calm down, pull over right now, gentlemen, are you
listening. That's all you need to do. Pull over right now. Share
your location with me, got it? Okay, I'm gonna find you a
hotel. I'm gonna pay for it. You're going to drive there, you're
going to check in, you're gonna order some room service, you're gonna be
okay, you'll fly back tomorrow. And this this calmness and this caregiving but
you know you can't say it'll dude. Three weeks into it, Oh I
love you. That was fabulous. So then like a couple months later,
we're on a road trip driving. It's my shift because it's a long road
drift and we pull in for gas and he jumps out of the passenger seat
before I can even do anything, and runs around and starts pumping my gas.
Now, you've got to understand, if you're a guy and a nice
guy, which most of you are, you're going, yeah, so that's
what you do. As suppose you'd be like a girl, don't you right,
But if you're a woman who has dated bad people her whole life.
This is like someone handing you a strawberry shortcake with whip cream. It's just
like, what, oh amazing. So I stupidly said to him, oh
my god, I love you, and he looked at me and said,
you are so unromantic at a gas station. Really, that's how you do
it. You know what I learned over the years is I learned to tolerate
kindness. Now you have to understand if you come from trauma, you don't
have a healthy model of love in your brain, and you often get addicted
to longing. You get addicted to the moments where it feels good, and
that in between times when it feels so bad, you're just in love with
hope that the good times will come back. That roller coaster was so painful,
and I had it so many times and for so many years in different
relationships. So if you're on that same track, if you've been in bad
relationships a lot, I want to tell you that there are ways that you
can use your own neuroplasticity to heal. So you know what neuroplasticity is,
right, It's the brains across a lifespan, ability to grow, learn,
change, and it's all happening in response to new experiences. I think my
favorite quote from Charles Darwin, and this won't be exact words, is it
is not the intelligent who survive. It is not the strongest who survive.
It is the ones who can adapt the most quickly. So you've got to
adapt to a new relationship. You've got to adapt to love. Now we
know that neuroplasticity can work in the negative. If you've been in a bad
relationship for a long period of time, you're actually now addicted to these negative
It's almost like you have chronic post traumatic stress disorder, right, your brain
has altered in response to these kind of disturbing experiences of a bad relationship.
Maybe it's highly critical, maybe there's violence, maybe there's drinking, cheating,
whatever. So I have a little bit of advice for you based on my
own experience of learning how to have a healthy relationship. Number one, get
off the fence and just do it. I was most in pain when I
was sitting on the fence and I couldn't decide. Just do it. Break
up, break up, break up. Don't let them guilt you into returning,
don't let them use Oh remember when or we've done so much together,
or we've overcome so much. In fact, they're gonna make you feel guilty
because that's why they targeted you unconsciously, because you have such can passion.
They're going to try to tell you you're a bad person for leaving. They're
going to tell you this is hurting your kids. Whatever. You can't let
them gilt you. And then you're going to practice some mental self care,
journaling, yoga, mindfulness therapy. I did it all, but here's one
that's really important. Set your house in order, clean, redecorate, reorganize,
bake, build, do whatever in your nest to make it different and
better. This actually can shift your brain and the way you look at the
world. Get yourself in nature. That'll help heal you and forgive yourself.
Show compassion. I spend a lot of years feeling shame. I couldn't have
even talked to you on the radio about this because I felt like, oh
my god, I'm so smart. Why did I make some dumb choices?
And I won't lie to you. Every once in a while, somebody will
say to me, you are so smart. How could you have dated that
person or how could you have been in that relationship, and I remind everybody
that the intellectual brain and the emotional brain are two separate things, and the
emotional brain always wins. Finally, I want to say this, curate your
friends. Carefully, decide who you're going to leave in your closest circle,
and get rid of those that you think are on his side or her side,
whoever the bad one is I can't remember. Remember not everyone's got your
best interest at heart, and don't let people manipulate you. Choose your friends
carefully. All right, That's how I did it. When we come back,
can we switch things a little bit. I want to talk about the
mental health of some of our politicians. I want to talk a little bit
about cognitive decline, Alzheimer's, dementia. And then I want to open up
the phone lines. I want to find out what you think should we have
an age that says you're too old to govern the rest of us? When
we come back, you are listening to the Doctor Wendy Welsh Show and kf
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You have Doctor Wendy Walsh with you this year is the Doctor Wendy Walsh
Show. I want to tell you a story. A few weeks ago,
I told friends on a Friday night when I saw them out, that I
would see them on Sunday at the husband's birthday party. On Sunday morning,
I woke up. You know what I do on Sunday, right, I'm
here with you. But what I told them is I have to do my
radio show from seven to nine. And they said it starts really early.
It starts at four, And I said, okay, I'm going to come
at four o'clock. I'll stay for like ninety minutes, zip over to the
studio and do my radio show. That was Friday night. On Sunday morning,
I wake up and I get a text from another friend who says,
hey, we're performing at this place in the afternoon. Why don't you come
over and listen to us sing? And I go, okay, I got
nothing to do before my show, and I go on over there. So
I listened to them sing. On one of their breaks, I say,
I'm so sorry, I have to dash now, I have to get over
to do my radio show, and she says, okay, cool, so
we'll see at Anthony's birthday party. Then afterwards, I'm like, what what?
And I realized at the very moment that I was watching them sing,
I was supposed to be at the birthday party that I promised the host and
hostess of that I would be there at four o'clock. And I was five
thirty or six, and I was racing to go do my radio show at
K five, and it was going to be over too late. By the
time I would get to their party would be ten o'clock at night. And
I had to call the hostess and leave this long message because she was busy
with their party, of course, saying how sorry I was. And I
signed off by saying, clearly an early sign of dementia. I have no
idea how I forgot this important thing. It made me wonder, really,
like, what is happening this time? Pic of cognitive decline dementia Alzheimer's is
very much in the national discourse right now. Remember Supreme Court Justice Ruth Bader
Ginsburg. A lot of people are mad at her that she did not step
down. She died at the age of eighty seven. Now she was not
officially diagnosed with dementia rather cancer. But I've seen plenty of videos of her
falling asleep at things like inaugurations. Right, I mean, if you can't
even stay awake for important processes or hearing Supreme Court hearings, Okay, maybe
it's not dementia, but you're sleepy. You need a nap. Okay,
maybe you should step down. Remember retired Supreme Court Justice Sandra Day O'Connor,
the first female on the Court. She stepped down in twenty eighteen at the
age of eighty eight because she was diagnosed with quote, the beginning stages of
dementia, probably Alzheimer's. Dementia's the umbrella term, right, Alzheimer's is the
disease. Now we have ninety ninety year old Senator Dianne Feinstein. For the
last couple of years, it's no secret that Diane Finestne has been struggling,
particularly with her short term memory issues. She frequently appears confused. There have
been reports that her staff briefs her and then she'll forget what she's been told.
Well, kind of like me and that birthday invitation. Sometimes she forgets
that she's even been briefed at all. I don't know if you saw that
round robin that happened last week when they were saying her, just say it's
a vote, just say I just say, I just say I, and
she was rambling on about something unrelated. There was another moment recently that cast
well you could say, a grim light on America's aging leadership. Senate minority
leader Mitch McConnell literally froze mid sentence. He was opening up his weekly news
conference. He just stood there. I don't know if you've seen the video.
He wasn't blinking, His mouth was pursed for a full twenty seconds.
Now, twenty seconds doesn't seem a lot, and so you let yourself be
silent for twenty seconds in front of an audience, it's a long time.
It was in his colleague it was so scary to see. I'm so worried
for him. Means going around about it are funny. It was scary.
No, it's sad. Then his colleagues as quartered him away, and then
he did come back later and was able to carry on. Taylor, you're
so young to remember. But do you remember President Ronald Reagan? No?
No, but I've read about him well before Trump. He was the oldest
president wait for it, at the age of seventy eight. He was actually
eventually diagnosed with Alzheimer's, and one of his sons, the one named Ron
Reagan, wrote in his book that his father showed signs of this Alzheimer's before
the beginning of his second term. What I've heard rumors that the last two
years of his presidency Nancy Reagan ran the show, which you know, couldn't
be a bad thing. She's a woman. So McConnell is eighty one,
and he's much older than President bidenant former President Trump. Oh not much older.
Sorry. We know that a severe health crisis or a mental health crisis
for any one of these people could literally change the direction of the nation.
But nobody's stepping aside. Nobody wants to step down. Now. There are
a couple of theories on this. I was reading this great article on this
in The Atlantic, and one of my favorite quotes said, if the World
War two generation was the greatest generation, then the Baby Boom generation is the
longest generation. They just refuse to retire. They can't imagine retiring, They
won't retire. You have to understand it was only one or two generations ago.
When people fought in a war, came home to build what they hoped
would be an idyllic life, so that they could then bet fit from the
fruits of their labor in a lovely, relaxing retirement. That's how it went
right Now, I did a little bit of research on dementia today. It's
most common over the age of sixty five. Fifty three of our one hundred
senators are over the age of sixty five. What is the data say nationally
of us? Well, in the first nationally representative study of cognitive impairment looking
for prevalence in our society in America here for the last twenty years, done
by Columbia University researchers, they found the ten percent of US adults age sixty
five and older have dementia, while twenty two percent have mild cognitive impairment.
Okay, let's just set that aside. We got a hundred senators and fifty
three of them are over the age of sixty five, twenty two percent of
them have mild cognitive appairment. If in fact they equate with these statistics,
so that's the question. Should we have age limits on governance? Now here's
a problem if we do, then we're knocking out our two presidential candidate.
I mean, I know we have more than two, okay, but we
all know we're going to end up with two two presidential candidates, and people
don't want to do that. The other thing is, I'm a professor who
teaches developmental psychology, and I teach my students all the time that in a
kindergarten classroom, you're going to see everything from a five year old wedding their
pants and crying to a five year old quietly reading in the corner. There's
such a developmental range of abilities. And in the same sense, at the
other end of the life, you're going to see ninety year olds getting college
degrees and opening up businesses and sixty year olds rotting away in a recliner watching
Netflix. I mean, should there be a test? I want to take
your calls. I want to know what should we do about this? Numbers
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is the Doctor Wendy Walsh Show, speaking of mental health. Should we have
age limits on governance? If so many are experiencing cognitive decline, should they
be able to make decisions that impact the rest of us? If you'd like
to call in with your opinion, the number is one eight hundred five two
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hy Producer Kala. Who do we have with us? We have Ellie with
the Hi. Elliot's Doctor Wendy. Hi, great to talk to you.
The point I want to make is that about maybe fifteen years ago, I
learned about two things. One is called chronological age. One is called biological
age. So a person of who has their biological age that's the day they
were born. Moving forward, a person could be a forty or fifty or
sixty based on the day they were born. The chronological age has something to
do with the I'm sorry, yeah, yeah, yeah, the other way
around, as to do with how their cells are declining or not. Yeah,
And so some people take better care of themselves than others. And there's
a big genetic piece. Well, a forty year old can look fifty,
a forty year old can look thirty. And it goes back to kindergarten where
you said, you know, one is reading the book and one is crying
and hysterical. So it's no different if you're forty or eighty or one hundred.
As stars, each person develops differently and has a different view online.
It sounds like you're saying there shouldn't be an age limit. Should we base
it on something else? Ellie, Yes, we should base it on their
track record, their intelligence, they're willing to jump, willingness to jump in
their ability to communicate, their ability to reach out to their constituents, and
basically being as alive at eighty as they were at forty. Right, But
who's going to do it. Who's going to tap on Diane Feinstein's and Mitch
McConnell's shoulder and go, excuse me, it's time, Like we don't have
a system for that. Great, we don't and that's what we need to
figure out. And we probably will never happen before this next presidential election because
that might acts out two of the people. Ellie, thanks so much for
calling, Producer Gay. Who do we have next? We have Brian?
Brian, Hi, Brian, it's doctor Wendy. That afternoon. I'm sorry,
good evening, missus Wendy, it is evening. What's your opinion on
this? Should we have an age limit on governance? I think there should
be a term limit on quite a few judicial positions. Even in the court
system, you have honorable judges that have been put on the bench by governors
of the states. And what happens is that even when they get to a
certain point, you can tell that their decisions in what they say where they
refer to the clerks, and the clerks of the court have to direct them
in the direction they need to do or what they cannot do, even if
they are a pro tem as an attorney that's in practicing for five years or
more and they're sitting on the bench. So therefore, the same way,
when there was an accident in Santa Monica, California, years ago, they
put a limit when you got to a certainly you had to retake your drive
test exactly. That's what I say. You have to take a driver's test
at a different age. Why wouldn't you have to take a mental acuity test
if you're in such an important position where you're making decisions about people's lives.
Ryan, I hate to cut you off. We have someone else waiting,
But that's a really good point. We should have term limits in a lot
of places. Thanks for making that point. Okay, producer, Kayla,
who we got? Now we have Claudia. Hi, Claudia, it's doctor
Wendy. Oh. Hello. I think there shouldn't be the limits. And
the reason why you can look up look this up in any encyclopedia. But
the Chancellor of West Germany from nineteen forty nine to sixty three was Conrad Adenauer.
And he was seventy five when he took office, and then he brought
Germany out of the pits, you know. And anyway, he was seventy
five, and he worked until he was eighty three, and he only lived
four years after to that. But anyway, he's a good example. And
exactly, we do have a lot of older states men and women who are
still clear of clear mind and making good decisions around the world. That's a
really good point, Claudia, thanks for letting us know. Kayala, what
do you think I agree with Brian as far as is if we have to
take a test for the drive for being on the road again, we should
definitely take test for positions of power that are going to affect others. If
you're not mentally able to do stuff, you're not cognitive. We should know
that before you're making such heavy decisions. So I agree with Brian that there
should be a test, not an age limit, but a test. Raoul,
what do you think I would agree? Yeah, there's got to be
some kind of test because you just you have to be sharp in these positions.
You just have to be And here's the problem though, So somebody has
got to put a bill in Congress that gets past that says that there should
be a cognitive skill test that aging politicians should have to take, but nobody
he's going to do it because it could hurt their own party. You know.
Then we go back to the two party system thing where they're like,
well, if I do it, then we're gonna, you know, make
a seat open up, and the other side might come in and so we
just it's like tax law, right. I was out for a walk with
a girlfriend today. We had this conversation about tax law, and she's a
payroll expert who really believes that if everybody just paid their taxes the way you're
supposed to by, like the law says, we would literally have no national
deficit. But I was saying, yeah, but what about all the laws
that are there that are legal that give benefits to the wealthy and not to
the lower income people. And she said, well, no one's ever going
to try to change those laws because it's the politicians themselves who benefit. So
that's our problem. We're stuck with it. When we come back, I
want to talk about some early signs of dementia. Let's move off politics for
a moment and think about our families and think about ourselves. What are some
of the early signs of dementia and are there things that we can do about
it? What is the latest research say about keeping our brains healthy? When
we return, you are listening to the Doctor Wendy Waalsh Show on KFI AM
six forty. We're live everywhere on the iHeartRadio app. You're listening to Doctor
Wendy Walsh on demand from KFI Am sixty KIM six forty. You have doctor
Wendy Walsh with you. This is the Doctor dy Wells Show. I've got
some relationship stuff coming up, but i want to finish this little bit on
dementia because it's something that affects one in eight Americans before I get to it.
Though. One of the things I love about having this soapbox, if
you will, this beautiful radio station KFI, is that, like we did
during COVID, we love to give small business shoutouts every once in a while,
just from the goodness of our heart, because it's a public service to
do that. I think small businesses are the most important thing we can all
be patronizing because they keep communities alive. One in particular is one of my
favorites. It's called krem Broulet. It's a French bankery, of course,
false a French bakery. It's also black owned, which makes it extra cool.
In Inglewood, they are having trouble and they want to keep their location
and they want to stay a staple in the community, but they may not
be able to to renew their lease. So as a result, this is
how small businesses work. One of their customers named Bow said, she's gonna
save the day. She's going to help them. She's gonna put together a
fundraiser that's going to help Krembrouley. And the event is called a Wardrobe Wake
Up Clothing Swap. Who doesn't love a good clothing swap? So it will
also help people struggling financially and help save Kremberley's location. So here's what it
is. This event is this Saturday, August twelfth, from eleven to five
pm. The address is six thirty North Librea Avenue in Inglewood. Is that
where Kremberlet is. Yeah, it is. It's actually a website if people
cram Relatum And here's how it works. You bring your clothing items that you're
just done with you need to purge, and you should purge if you haven't
warn something in more than a year, you're not ever going to wear it.
Make sure it's clean, press, make sure it's in good condition,
and someone could just put it on and take it. And then when you
go, you give your clothes and you can choose other clothes to take away.
You don't have to bring clothes, you can just go buy clothes and
get a whole new wardrobe. So head on out there this Saturday from eleven
to five pm, save a restaurant, get a new wardrobe. Six thirty
North, LaBrea. What website did they go to? They can go to
can on a website. Oh, but on my website on page than you.
What would I do without you? What would you about you? Okay?
So, uh the other day I bought a set of antique silverware.
I just my dad used to say, if something's shiny, you're you're a
crow Wendy. If something's shiny, you go pick it up. But I
love antique silverware, and I have a vacation rental I'm putting it. So
I was like, you know, I'll figure out a way to shine this
up. I was very excited about it. I drive into the driveway,
I go in the house, and like two hours later, I go,
oh, my gosh, I left that silverware in the car, Like I
didn't even think to carry it in yet. I was so excited about this
purchase. Again, like missing Anthony's birthday. Do I have early dementia?
Well, according to the research, it's good to ask yourself if these common
forgetful things are starting to buy it up for you. How often do you
misplace your cell phone or keys? Okay, Julio, I love you,
but you lose your cell phone all the dime. He has one of those
fineom eyes, and he's got a sticker on it. It's got an alarm
on it. I call it whatever. Yeah, he loses it all the
time. So misplace cell phone or keys? Is it happening more often?
Is it happening regularly? Have you missed an important appointment like a birthday party
like I did? Have you forgot your groceries in the car? No?
Fine silver, That's what I forgot in the car. Do you ever get
confused following like a new cooking recipe or maybe the operating instructions how to put
something together a new item? Of course I do that always. I do
not have a mechanical brain. And I look at those instructions and those funny
little diagrams of the stick people doing things. Sometimes they put moods on them.
Do they're like exasperated or they're happy? I can't figure them out at
all. Do you lose your train of thought? I just did? There
you go? Do you lose your train of thought? Do you have trouble
following the plot of a book or a movie. That let's all pause here.
We all have a little ADHD now, no matter what your age,
we have been clicking through on websites. We have such a short attention span
now because of what technology has done to our brains. But for some so
I'm not a good reader anymore. And I used to plow through a book
a week, but now I like to read articles and I like to click
through for other things. So I don't know. Is it aging or is
it technology? Here's another one? Or do you find yourself re reading chapters
of the same book. Well, I have to say, I don't read
every single night, so if I skip a night, then I go back
and I reread the chapter before, just to get myself back in time.
And I don't know. Is it an early sign of dementia? I thought
everyone did that? Really? Okay, okay? How about disorganization? Do
you find it hard to finish a task, to follow instructions, to make
decision? Not me? I'm you know Hulu's nicknamed for me, Kayla.
Do you remember what it is? Ceo CEO that's right, I am like
the project manager. I know where things go I know how to follow things,
so I'm good. There. Okay, no dementia there? Do you
are you having trouble finding your way around places? How often do you lose
your car in the parking lot? Now? I mean we all do every
once in a while. Especially. It used to be if you have a
white Prius. Now it's if you have a white test block. All the
cars look the same. I started to have poor judgment. Have your friends
and family said anything to you? I have a friend, but I would
like to say something too, but I can't figure out the words because I
have noticed a lot of this stuff. You know. Here's the thing.
When you start to have mild cognitive impairment, it often gets commingled with some
mental health crises like depression, anxiety, a short temper, aggression, or
just yeah, a lack of interest, like I don't want to go right,
Ah, it's okay, I don't have to I'm not interested anymore.
So think about it. Think about if this stuff is happening to you,
all right, deep dive on what kind of treatments are available. There are
a couple medical i mean pharmaceuticals that you can ask your doctor about that are
looking towards treating mild cognitive impairment. But at the end, it's all about
our lifestyle. The big five food to link to better brain power and prevention
of cognitive decline, green vegetables. You should be eating five cups a day,
five a day, Remember fatty fish, salmon, and tuna. Berries.
I do eat raspberries and blueberries every day. I love this one.
Tea and coffee. Tea and coffee, not just short term concentration booths.
Research has shown that high caffeine consumption scored better. People with high caffeine I
can't say it. I'm not drinking of caffeine scored better on tests of mental
function, and I am a four cup of day girl, Thank you very
much. All nuts are great for your brain. But while nuts are particularly
good for your brain, also exercise. Physical fitness. Get that blood flowing
to your brain tissue can reduce the risk of damage or deterioration. Aerobic exercise
is the important Sleep. Oh my god, the other night I had not
had a good night's sleep. The night before, I'd been up manufacturing fears
at three thirty in the morning for about an hour, and so I didn't
really feel rested. Next day. So the next night I took these two
chocolate melatonin candies from Whole Foods that looked totally normal, and they said take
two and whatever. You would think. I had taken a deep sleeping pill
or valume. I slept in so much that I was late picking up a
friend at the airport. I mean I was in like a deep sleep coma
dream. Anyway, it was amazing. But I don't think we're supposed to
do that all the time, or at least not that amount. Oh here's
some interesting research on alcohol, folks. If you drink a lot, not
good for your brain. If you never ever ever drink, oh, not
good for your brain. The research says people who consume one alcoholic beverage a
day have a lower risk of dementia. But who can have just day one
a day? I know, but I don't think you can save them up,
Kaylin have seven on Saturday night. Also doing the mental stimulation stuff,
playing board games, crosswords, reading, engaging in animated group discussions. Get
into it, Okay. I'm obsessed with the game Rummy Cube Rummy cub Rumy
Cube. I don't know, but I'm play it almost every day these days.
If anybody comes to my house and look, you play Rumy Cube with
me and they're on it. And the biggest one is social social interactions,
being with your friends and family. They have the biggest effect on your health
and your lung chevity. All right, let me come back. Marriage rates
have fallen sixty percent over the last fifty years. I've got the reasons why
as well. Is your marriage on decline? Are you about to divorce?
Let's find out. You're listening to the Doctor Wendy Walls Show and KFI amc
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