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The law of the mirror. Monica
will see a housewife who will be forty

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- one. I was worried.
Her five- grade primary son Cori is

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mistreated at school by his classmates.
Even if he says he' s being

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mistreated, it seems they can'
t beat him. The most common thing

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is that the companions ignore him or
that they accuse him of any problems that

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arise. They don' t mistreat
me. Cori insists, but it hurts

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Monica' s soul to see her
son so alone and sad. Cori likes

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baseball, but his teammates don'
t invite him to play, so when

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he gets back from school, he
goes to the park alone to play ball

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against the wall. About two years
ago there was a time when Cori played

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baseball with friends. During that time, Monica had seen him play in the

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school yard back from shopping. But
Cori made a mistake during a game and

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they blamed him a lot. The
teammates accused him with no mercy. Your

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reflexes are too slow because of you. We' ve lost three points.

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If we lose it' s your
fault Monica thought. It is true that

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Corin' s sports skills are not
excellent, but he also has his virtues

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with the good boy, which is
what most. The hurt was that they

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didn' t give any value to
their son' s virtues and it was

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very hard for him to see how
Coria endured the terrible comments of teammates while

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she apologized with a smile. From
that incident, they stopped inviting him to

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play baseball. You can' t
play with us because you' re making

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us lose, they said. It
seems that for Cori the hardest thing was

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that he would never be invited to
play baseball anymore. And in addition,

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this was noted in a considerable increase
in bad faces and confrontations with Monica.

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But Cori didn' t want to
talk to her mother about her problems or

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loneliness. He insisted on me.
I don' t have a problem.

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For Monica, the hardest thing was
that Corin didn' t open her heart.

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Even if she tried to teach him
the right way to relate to friends,

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he would just tell her not to
give me the can. Leave me

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alone. The next morning, Monica
decided she' d call someone. I

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' d call Metti, an acquaintance
of your husband' s. Monica had

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never spoken to Metty, but she
had the business card she had given her.

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Her husband, Netti, had practiced
staying in the same gym as her

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husband. During the high school years
they happened to meet on the street after

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twenty years without seeing each other for
a long time, so they were very

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excited and decided to enter a cafeteria, where they were chatting for several hours.

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Metti works as a company consultant.
According to her husband, Metti knows

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a lot about psychology and is very
good at solving business and personal problems.

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Looks like her husband told him about
Cor' s problems and said maybe he

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could help you and passed him his
card. That day, her husband gave

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her the card while saying if you
want to call him. I' ve

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already told you a little bit about
it. Why do I have to talk

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to someone I don' t know? It' s not better for you

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to ask for advice, I'
m the one I' m worried about.

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You spend the day worrying about Cori, so I told Metti and when

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she suggested changing schools, she replied
if you change me I will never forgive

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you. Monica felt useless and miserable
when she thought she could do nothing to

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solve her son' s problems.
The day after school, Cory went to

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the park, as usual, but
returned immediately and in a very bad mood.

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Even if I asked him what had
happened, he would answer nothing.

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The mystery was soon solved by a
phone call. That night, a friend

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of mine from the neighborhood called him
Monica told you something Cori said about not

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being. This afternoon I went to
the swings with my son, Cori arrived

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and as always, he started playing
ball against the wall Then came seven or

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eight children of his class and shouted
out that we' re going to play

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baseball and annoying and one of them
has hit him with the ball. Cori

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left right away. I' m
so sorry because I couldn' t do

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anything. Monica was amazed why she
didn' t tell me anything. He

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was very sad that I didn'
t tell him anything. Despite having such

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an unpleasant experience that night, he
had no encouragement or attempt to make his

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son speak again. What do you
mean, I have a problem. It

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' s natural she' s worried. I' m his mother. You

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spend the day in the truck and
this is why you' re so calm.

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I' m the one who'
s really educating coris You don'

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t even want to share the concern
with me. I have no intention of

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talking to this man. I'
m sure you have no idea how to

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educate a child. Then Monica threw
the card on the table. A week

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later, Monica was completely sunk and
ready to grab a nail. Burning.

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The night before I got the friend' s call. Telling what had happened

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in the park, I' m
sick of suffering. I need help,

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whoever it is. He thought and
soon remembered Metti. Luckily, he found

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his card about an hour after he
left Coria for school, took courage and

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called him. At that time Monica
could not even imagine everything that was about

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to happen that day, the receptionist
answered and immediately passed to Mr Metti,

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although Monica had only left her name. Mett' s voice on the phone

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wasn' t very nice and that
made him doubt. It' s enough

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for me to tell you my problems. He didn' t know what to

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say, but then Metti started talking. You' re not the woman of

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vera. Yeah, so it'
s nice to meet you MMM. My

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husband already told you. No,
I don' t. He told me

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a little bit. He told me
you' re worried about your son.

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It' s okay with you.
If I tell you, I have about

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an hour off, so if you
want, you can tell me now.

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Monica briefly explained that her son was
abused, ignored, and also what had

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happened the day before, after listening
to her, Metty told her this is

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hard enough for a mother. There' s nothing worse. Right. When

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Monica heard this, her eyes were
filled with tears. Meetti realized that Monica

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was crying, so he waited for
her to calm down to say Monica if

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she really wanted to fix it.
Then it is possible to find a way

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out, leading to the solution.
Monica couldn' t believe finding a way

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out. She' d been trying
for years. Still, I strongly wished

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Metti' s words to be true. I' m willing to do anything

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to fix it. I' m
determined what to do. Well, here

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' s what we' re looking
for. First, what is clear is

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that you have a grudge towards someone
who is Next to you how do you

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mean? Maybe he' s going
too fast. I' d better explain

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the theory, but in that case
I need time and now I don'

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t have it. So I'
ll start explaining it to you from the

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bottom line. What I' m
going to tell you now has theoretical foundations.

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Then I' ll pass you some
books you can consult. Well,

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the conclusion that the fact that you
are concerned because your beloved child is being

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blamed by another is because you don’ t thank someone for what you should

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thank and that they also continue to
blame you. What a relationship my son

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' s abuse at school has with
my personal situation. To me, all

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this sounds a little bit like religion. It' s not uncommon for me

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to think that way. After all. What they teach us at school always

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focuses on physical science, what can
be seen with the eyes. I'

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m talking about a law discovered in
psychology a few years ago. Perhaps it

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' s easier for you to understand
it if you think it' s the

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same as in many religions, although
I don' t believe in any religion,

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tell me this law of psychology.
The events that occur in reality are

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the result. Each result always has
a cause and this cause is within it.

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That is, you must know that
the reality of your life is the

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mirror that reflects your interior. For
example, when you look in the mirror

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you realize that I' ve gone
down or today I have a bad color.

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True, without a mirror one cannot
see oneself. Consider that life is

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like a mirror. Thanks to the
mirror, which is life, we can

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realize the person himself and have the
opportunity to change. Life. It'

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s made to allow us to develop
as far as we can. What my

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concerns about me reflect the result of
what is happening to you is my dear

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son, you have problems because someone
blames you. One possible cause is that

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you' re blaming someone you should
love. It is not true that you

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blame someone, someone close to you, to whom you should be grateful for

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something, for example, how about
the closest person your husband. I am

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grateful to my husband for his work
as a truck driver. We can eat

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This is very important. So,
you value your husband very much. He

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respects Monica. He was surprised to
hear the word respect for some time.

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Sometimes Amónica despised him, her husband, optimistic in character, found him unsensitive.

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Besides, I found him inconceivable.
She had graduated from college, while

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her husband had only finished high school. Not only that, but he also

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spoke rough and only read magazines.
Monica, whose hobby was reading, thought

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she didn' t want Cori to
be like her father, and this she

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also told Mr Metti. You believe
that a person' s value depends on

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his education, knowledge, and sensitivity. I don' t think so.

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I think everyone has their strengths and
abilities. Then why should it be that

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when it comes to her husband,
he despises him from his lack of education.

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MMM. I' m contradicting the
truth about the relationship with your husband.

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The things he does and says make
me crazy. We even fight sometimes.

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And about the problem with Cori,
how' s she doing with her

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husband? I' m sorry to
my husband about Cori' s abuse at

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school. But whatever you say,
I don' t think that' s

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right. In fact, we haven' t discussed it seriously yet. I

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' m afraid my husband is the
kind of person I find it hard to

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accept. I understand, I think
there' s another cause that' s

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fundamental. Before getting her to accept
her husband, it will be necessary to

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solve a fundamental cause. Yes,
first of all, we need to find

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the basic cause that prevents her from
accepting her husband. Allow me to ask

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you you are grateful to your father. To my father, of course,

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I' m grateful, but deep
down he doesn' t feel I can

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' t forgive him. Amonic that
I can' t forgive him. The

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impact thought in fact, maybe I
haven' t forgiven my father yet.

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As her father, she was grateful
to him, but she couldn' t

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get him to like her. Since
he married, he spent every year the

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end of the year and summer holidays
with his parents’ family. However,

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the only conversation he used to have
with his father was the four words of

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greeting when he arrived and left.
On second thought, since he entered high

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school, he only treated his father
like he was a stranger. I don

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' t think I' ve forgiven
my father, and I' m not

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sure I can. I see you
don' t seem to be able to

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forgive him yet you still want to, at least try. It is truly

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true that the cause of my concerns
is related to my father and my husband.

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I think you' ll see this
when you try. All right,

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tell me what I have to do
very well. Do what I' m

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going to tell you first. Write
on a paper all that about your father,

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which makes you feel that you cannot
forgive him. Write everything you want,

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even if it' s a text
full of anger. He can write

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even I can' t stand it, asshole, idiot, etcetera. If

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you remember an incident, write it
down and add it. Also, at

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that time I felt like writing down
everything I hurt and couldn’ t stand.

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Write mercilessly, express your feelings.
Write until you feel satisfied. When

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you think that' s enough,
call me. I' ll give you

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my cell phone number, too.
Monica doubted that it would solve the problems

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of cori, but thought it was
better to try than to hesitate and do

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nothing. He thought if it'
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I' ll do anything. Moreover, while he did not understand the basis

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for what Metti was saying, he
perceived a strange convincing power. Monica hung

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up the phone, picked up a
sheet of paper, and started writing everything

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she could think of about her father. When I was little, my father

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always criticized him. Everything. Dinner
time often became the time for sermons.

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Besides, he was a father who
quickly got angry about everything and screamed when

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we didn' t do what he
expected. I often thought that my father

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had no interest in what I felt
I could not stand when complaining about work.

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After drinking, my father was the
construction manager of a construction company and

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was returning home in dirty clothes of
earth and mud and Greek. He often

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sat down to eat without changing clothes
and I didn' t like this either.

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Monica continued writing. When he realized
he had already written many words strong

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enough towards his father, not hand
as father you are an incompetent, etcetera.

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He also remembered a certain incident in
high school. When I was in

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high school on a Sunday, I
went out with a guy in class on

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a date. As we walked down
the street, my father happened to see

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us back home and gave me an
interrogation and a sermon. I' d

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lied to my parents saying I was
dating a friend and my father wouldn'

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t forgive me. Yet. I
remember my father' s words, that

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' s how you treat your parents
mean and lying you won' t do

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anything good in life. As he
remembered it, tears burst over his disgust.

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He also put that anger on the
paper. You have that character that

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makes you feel like lying is that
you don' t see it' s

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your fault. Besides, you'
re not gonna do anything good in life,

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they don' t sound like horrible
words to you. You have no

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idea how much you hurt me.
You' re the one who' s

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not a good father. From that
day on, I stopped talking seriously to

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you. He who does evil ends
while writing did not cease to weep as

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soon as he realized it, it
was already more than 12 noon. He

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had spent more than two hours writing
a dozen leaves full of anger well for

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having been writing mercilessly or for having
been venturing crying. The truth is,

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she was pretty relieved. After a
monic called Metti has already written what she

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felt. Yeah, I' ve
already written all my feelings. I'

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ve cried a lot and now I
feel a little better. She' s

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ready to forgive her father. If
I have to tell you the truth,

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I may not be ready yet,
but I intend to try to do everything

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I can. If I could forgive
him, I' d like to do

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it and maybe I' d be
more relieved, so let' s try.

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Forgiving your father is just for yourself, for no one else I implore

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a sheet of paper and write the
following title that I can thank my father.

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If it were a question of thanking
your father, what would I be

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grateful for? Well, especially the
fact of working and raising me thanks to

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the money for your work. The
family could eat and I could grow up.

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Write this on the paper something more
mmm as a girl. He often

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took me to the park and we
played together write it also something else,

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sort of, that' s all
right, so I have another sheet write

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the title that I want to apologize
to my father. There' s something

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you' d like to apologize for. Now I can' t think of

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anything special, but I do have
to tell you something, maybe deep down

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I still feel antipathy for him,
but I don' t feel at heart

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that I want to apologize for this, even though I don' t really

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feel it doesn' t matter.
For starters, we' ll pretend he

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' s sorry. For the moment
write what you just told me. I

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' ve already written it. When
he says we' ll pretend what he

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means. What you have to do
from now on requires a lot of courage.

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In fact, it is probably about
the situation that implies having the most

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value of your entire life. What
I' m going to suggest to you

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now is surely what makes you feel
the most resistance. You decide whether you

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want to do it or not.
Call your father and tell him the words

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of thanks and apology. If it
doesn' t come from within, you

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can pass on only the phrases you' ve prepared. You can also read

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what I have written on the titled
sheets that I can thank my father and

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that I want to apologize to my
father. After you say so, you

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can immediately hang up the phone you
want to try. I certainly can'

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t do this unless I gather more
value than I' ve used in my

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entire life to this day. But
if doing this serves to solve my problem,

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I think it' s worth trying, even if it' s difficult.

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Decide for yourself whether you do it
or not. I think it'

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s worth it. Well, I' m busy now, so if you

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' ll excuse me, I'
ll say goodbye to you. If you

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do, tell me and we'
ll move on to Monica' s next

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step. What helped him was that
we' ll pretend he' s sorry.

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I couldn' t really feel like
I wanted to apologize like the bad

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guy' s my dad. It
was absurd for her to apologize, but

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it was simply a matter of reading
a text perhaps and that she could so,

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without a doubt, it would be
best to try. Monica got in

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a little bit of a rush to
call. It made him very strange to

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feel that he wanted to call.
If it wasn' t for the circumstances

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of the moment. Surely Monica would
never have spoken on the phone to her

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newlywed father. One day he phoned
home, put on his father, and

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then he said it was me.
You put me through to Mom. Since

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then it' s just saying it' s me. His father called his

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mother right away. Monica' s
on the phone. His father had already

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realized that Monica had nothing to say
to him, but that day he was

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going to talk to his father on
the phone. The more I doubt,

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the harder I' ll be called. Monica thought so she decided to call

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right away. His mother answered Monica' s phone how well you' re

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normal, he' s dad how, dad you want to talk to dad

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mmm, yeah, a little,
this is weird. Why do you want

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to talk to him? How good
is something a little weird and hard to

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explain to me. You' re
making it clear for a moment during the

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few seconds it took your father to
get here. Monica' s nervousness surpassed

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all levels. Until then. His
father had always disliked him, refused to

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open his heart, and now it
was necessary to thank him and apologize if

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he thought it cold, that was
impossible to do. But because Monica suffered

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from cori and this suffering was very
serious. He was able to do something

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he would not have been able to
do under normal circumstances. If there was

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any way to get rid of that
concern, he would do anything, even

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if it was a matter of grasping
a fiery nail. This thought was what

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directed Monica towards what she was about
to do. His father put himself on

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the phone Yeah, what do you
want. Monica started talking with a panic

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attack, almost without knowing what she
was saying. Mmm. Well, I

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' ve never told you before,
but I thought it was better to tell

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you, and that' s why
I called Dad. I think your work

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on the play must have been pretty
hard. Thanks to your work and your

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effort, you raised me and you
really took me to the park. I

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mean, so far I' ve
never told you that' s to be

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appreciated. I haven' t even
shown you my gratitude and for this I

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thought for once I' d want
to tell you properly. Besides, I

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didn' t like you, and
I' d like to apologize for this,

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too. He was not able to
say thank you properly, nor am

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I sorry, but somehow he was
able to convey what he had to say.

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I' ll hang up after I
hear what my father has to tell

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me. This is what he had
planned, but his father said nothing.

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Right after thinking if you don'
t say anything, no, don'

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t see me, I can'
t hang up. What he heard was

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his mother Monica' s voice.
But you told Dad what, but what

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a horrible thing you must have told
him. You don' t realize he

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' s crying. His father'
s pits began to be heard on the

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other side of the surprise phone.
Monica was stunned. Until that day he

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had never heard his father cry with
how strong he was and now he heard

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him sob. She had conveyed her
thanks only by pretending to be sorry.

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And now it turned out that his
father, who had always shown strength,

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was sobbing there listening to his father' s cry, Amónica also shed tears.

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Her father wanted her much more.
Now he saw that he also wished

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to have many talks with his daughter, but all this time she had denied

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him her love. His father was
sad the one who was strong so he

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could resist him. Everything that was
necessary in the play was now crying with

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a live tear. It had been
so hard for him not to be able

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to convey his love to his own
daughter. Monica' s tears also became

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a sob, for a while.
Then the mother' s voice was heard

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again. Monica, you' ve
calmed down a little bit. You tell

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me, Mom, please, you
can pass me back to Papa Asterisk.

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The father took the earphone, the
voice trembled at him from the Asterisk cry,

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Monica forgive me. I haven'
t been a good father to you.

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I made you have a lot of
bad times. Dad, I'

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m sorry I' m the one
who' s been a bad daughter.

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Besides, thanks for raising me.
Monica' s voice also disappeared into the

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pits. For a while. Then
the mother' s voice was heard again,

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but what happened. Well, when
you calm down, you explain it

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to me for now. After hanging
up the phone, she was still a

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little surprised. He' d been
hating his father for over 20 years.

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I' ve never been able to
forgive him I thought she was the only

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victim. He only saw his father
from one point of view and had never

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tried to see him from another perspective. He had not seen his father'

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s love, his father' s
weaknesses, his father' s clumsiness.

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What a bitter experience he must have
suffered until then. What a bitter experience

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she had made her father suffer Then
several thoughts passed through her head and also

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the feeling of gratitude to her father
sprang up. Then, finally, he

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understood the meaning of Metha' s
words by saying for the moment we'

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ll pretend he' s sorry.
The feeling will come out later. Asterisk.

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When I had just thought Cori would
arrive within an hour, the phone

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rang. It was Metti Hi.
I' m Metti Now I' ve

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got about forty or fifty minutes off, and that' s why I called

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you before I had a job and
you gave me the impression that I cut

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off half a conversation. The truth
is, I called my father, and

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I' m so glad I did. Thank you very much. I have

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to thank you. Monica briefly told
him about the conversation. Yeah, I

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' m glad he had the courage
and he did. I thought Cori'

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s abuse at school was the biggest
problem, but not having forgiven my father

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for so many years gives me the
feeling that it was an even bigger problem.

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Now I think that thanks to my
son' s problem, I'

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ve been able to make peace with
my father and I even feel I'

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m glad about Cori' s problem. I see that you can now accept

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the concern for Cori and constructively.
And up to this point there is what

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is called the law of the inevitable
and if you study, you can see

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the following. In fact, all
the problems that arise in life occur to

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make us realize something important, that
is, that they do not happen by

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chance inevitably does what must happen,
that is, nothing happens to us,

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that we cannot solve. All the
problems that appear to us exist because we

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can solve them and if we put
ourselves in them positively and with love,

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then if without any doubt they will
bring us some benefit that will make us

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say I am glad to have had
that problem, thanks to which it seems

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so. But what I' m
still worried about is that Cory' s

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problem is still unsolved. So,
you still believe that the Cori problem remains

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unresolved at all. Perhaps you have
already taken a great step forward towards the

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solution, because in the world of
feelings everything is intertwined. If the cause

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is solved, the result also has
to change. It' s really true

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that Cory' s problem will be
solved. I think this is up to

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you. Come on. Now it' s time to put some order in.

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For you. The hardest part is
that Corin doesn' t open his

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heart. You say that, as
a mother, you regret very much and

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it is very hard for you not
to be able to do anything. Besides,

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you don' t want to have
to feel this pain anymore. Yeah,

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that' s right. He doesn' t tell me he' s

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being mistreated. I want to help
him, but he rejects me by saying

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leave me alone. I feel powerless
despite understanding your son' s grief.

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There' s nothing harder for a
mother than to be able to do anything.

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It' s really hard. By
the way, you must know by

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now who has been suffering this same
pain. What a who. At the

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time, Monica thought of her father. Yes, that unbearable grief must have

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been the same pain your father had
had to endure for so many years.

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The penalty for a daughter who didn' t open her heart, the penalty

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for a daughter who rejected her,
the penalty of not being able to do

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anything. As a father it was
the same grief she had. His father

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had had to endure that. For
more than 20 years. A tear rolled

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down his cheek. I get it. I' ve been suffering the same

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as my father. He had just
as much trouble. I also understand why

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you cried. The problems that arise
in life appear to make us see something

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that is important to us. Now
I realize again what my father has suffered.

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I think I' ve noticed that
thanks to Cori. Thanks to the

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fact that Corin doesn' t open
my heart. Your son, your father

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and yourself are united at the bottom
of the heart. The position you take

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towards your father is the same as
the one that Coria has taken towards you.

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Thanks to this, you could have
noticed. Now I feel like I

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want to thank Cori. I want
to thank you for making me understand something

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so important. Deep down. I
was blaming him so far why you don

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' t want to talk to your
mother. You can now understand how your

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son feels. Yes, as a
child. I couldn' t stand my

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father because he was a pain in
the ass. I couldn' t stand

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that I wanted to express my opinion, especially seen from now on I guess

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that came from his love too,
but at that time it was unbearable.

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I think Cori thinks the same thing
now. My oppressive love carries you too

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much when you were little. What
kind of father I wanted. I wanted

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him to trust me, I wanted
him to trust me, to think it

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' s ironic. It' s
gonna be okay. I don' t

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think I trust Cori either. I
think if I don' t help him,

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he won' t know how to
handle it, and that' s

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why I' m trying to get
him out and lecture him. I'

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d like to trust him more.
Now you are able to understand what your

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father has suffered and what Cori is
suffering. Let' s focus on your

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husband now. You remember that this
morning, when you called me, I

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told you that the reason your son, Cori, is blamed is because you

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' re blaming someone close to you. Yes, I remember, and I

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told him it was impossible for me
to respect my husband. Well, you

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could explain to me again how you
feel about your husband. I can'

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t help but think he' s
an uneducated man who has little sensitivity,

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etcetera. Even though I am so
worried about Cori, He without any foundation

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is optimistic. I regret it,
but seriously speaking about it we have not

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yet done so anyway. I couldn' t accept what he said to me

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either. While Monica was speaking,
she realized that the position she had taken

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toward her husband resembled the one she
had taken toward her father. It looks

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like the position I had taken towards
my father. No yes, this is

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often the case with women, the
position they take towards their father is reflected

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in their attitude towards their husband.
By the way, from what you'

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ve told me, I gather your
husband trusts Cori. Right, yeah,

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that' s right I should learn
from my husband. Looks like Cori tells

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his father pretty much what he thinks. Trust him and that' s why

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Cori opens his heart. No.
I didn' t realize my husband'

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s virtues. I understand that'
s how you felt. Okay. Now

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I' ll send you homework.
You decide whether you want to make them

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or not. Before, he'
s prepared two titled sheets that I can

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thank my father and that I want
to apologize to my father. Add to

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those leaves everything you can thank him
and everything he wants to apologize for.

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Write as much as you can.
You can use as many sheets as you

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need. When I finish another sheet
of paper, write the title as I

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would have liked to deal with my
father. This will not be written to

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00:33:15.079 --> 00:33:19.559
regret the past relationship with her father, but will serve to find clues as

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to how to relate to her husband
something else at night. When Cori is

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00:33:23.759 --> 00:33:30.640
asleep, look at his face and
musite Thank you, a hundred times what

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00:33:30.720 --> 00:33:36.400
you think he wants to do.
Yes, without a doubt, shortly after

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00:33:36.400 --> 00:33:40.039
hanging up the phone Cori came home, threw his wallet in the entrance and,

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00:33:40.200 --> 00:33:44.119
as always, took the glove and
baseball and went out to the park.

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00:33:45.200 --> 00:33:50.359
Monica was very worried. Today he
returns there, even though yesterday the

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00:33:50.400 --> 00:33:54.759
comrades threw him out. However,
to distract himself from the concern, Monica

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00:33:54.839 --> 00:34:00.119
dedicated herself to doing her homework.
He remembered many things that he could thank

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00:34:00.160 --> 00:34:05.680
his father, that I can thank
my father. Keeping the family working on

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the hard job of a child’
s work director, when he had sometimes

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00:34:09.280 --> 00:34:13.679
had a high fever. He had
accompanied me by car to the emergency room

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00:34:13.679 --> 00:34:15.840
for my father, whose work required
a lot of physical effort. I'

435
00:34:15.920 --> 00:34:21.079
m sure going out at midnight was
exhausting as a child. He often took

436
00:34:21.079 --> 00:34:25.519
me to the river and to the
sea. She taught me how to swim

437
00:34:25.519 --> 00:34:28.639
when I was a kid. I
liked the melon and every year for my

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00:34:28.719 --> 00:34:34.199
birthday I bought a melon before I
got home. For a while, a

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00:34:34.280 --> 00:34:37.719
girl in the neighborhood mistreated me and
my father went to complain to her home.

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00:34:38.360 --> 00:34:43.400
I studied at a private university and
he paid me the tuition cups without

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00:34:43.440 --> 00:34:46.039
complaining for the family economy of that
time. I' m sure it was

442
00:34:46.039 --> 00:34:51.119
a big burden. When I found
my first job, he ordered a tray

443
00:34:51.159 --> 00:34:54.320
of Suchi to celebrate. It was
a very luxurious Suchi tray. That day

444
00:34:54.480 --> 00:34:57.960
I said the Suchi I don'
t like and I didn' t eat.

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00:34:58.880 --> 00:35:02.840
My father was very depressed. They
opened an account in the bank for

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00:35:04.000 --> 00:35:07.039
each of the brothers for an emergency
and every month, even if it were

447
00:35:07.360 --> 00:35:09.760
not enough, they would send us
some money. The day before I got

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00:35:09.760 --> 00:35:14.039
married, my father wanted to give
them to me, but I told him

449
00:35:14.039 --> 00:35:17.840
I didn' t want to walk
them down the street, so just put

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00:35:17.920 --> 00:35:22.119
them on my account and I didn' t get them that I can thank

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00:35:22.119 --> 00:35:22.760
my father and that I want to
apologize to my father. They came to

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00:35:22.800 --> 00:35:27.719
his head mixed. While writing that
I can thank my father and that I

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00:35:27.760 --> 00:35:32.280
want to apologize to my father.
She got tears. He loved me so

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00:35:32.280 --> 00:35:37.199
much. Even though I turned it
down. He continued to love me as

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00:35:37.280 --> 00:35:40.400
I could not let go of the
feeling that I had no forgiveness. I

456
00:35:40.440 --> 00:35:45.519
didn' t realize his love.
Besides, despite being so dear, I

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00:35:45.519 --> 00:35:49.880
haven' t given anything to my
father. I' ve hardly done anything

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00:35:50.000 --> 00:35:52.480
for him as a daughter. He
also realized that, in fact, he

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00:35:52.519 --> 00:35:57.920
did not value his father' s
work He thought that a director of the

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00:35:58.000 --> 00:36:01.639
work was of little rank and nothing
intellectual. Although it was thanks to the

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00:36:01.679 --> 00:36:07.280
continued work of his father that he
was able to graduate from college for the

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00:36:07.280 --> 00:36:10.000
first time he realized, he began
to feel gratitude and respect for his father.

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00:36:12.400 --> 00:36:16.239
I thought your husband' s work
had an unintelligent image. The image

464
00:36:16.239 --> 00:36:21.519
associated with the feeling of rejection by
her husband' s incultura was exactly the

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00:36:21.559 --> 00:36:25.199
same as his father' s image. I' m sure there were a

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00:36:25.239 --> 00:36:30.519
lot of things I should thank your
husband for. While I was thinking about

467
00:36:30.519 --> 00:36:34.480
all this, he prepared the sheet
entitled How I would have liked to deal

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00:36:34.480 --> 00:36:38.679
with my father. He wrote the
following. How I would have liked to

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00:36:38.719 --> 00:36:45.159
deal with my father to realize the
love implied in his actions. Like me,

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00:36:45.320 --> 00:36:49.000
I' m imperfect. I understand
that my father is also imperfect and

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00:36:49.960 --> 00:36:53.920
clumsy to thank what he does for
me, not only to be loved,

472
00:36:54.280 --> 00:36:59.920
but also to want to do something
that makes him happy, to convey my

473
00:37:00.199 --> 00:37:02.280
disagreement with what I dislike and to
build a pleasant relationship for both of us.

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00:37:02.840 --> 00:37:07.519
She thought it was exactly how she
should treat her husband, a husband

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00:37:07.559 --> 00:37:13.280
who works for me, the husband
who is my partner in life. I

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00:37:13.360 --> 00:37:16.840
forgot to thank you for everything you
do for me. Maybe this was the

477
00:37:16.920 --> 00:37:22.199
first time I thought frankly about your
husband. This may be related to what

478
00:37:22.199 --> 00:37:25.480
I' ve been able to thank
you for. My father. I'

479
00:37:25.559 --> 00:37:30.719
ll thank you today. Monica realized
that while she was thinking about all this,

480
00:37:31.400 --> 00:37:37.079
it was dark. In fact,
that day he had done hardly any

481
00:37:37.159 --> 00:37:40.119
of the housework. Since he had
called Metia at nine in the morning,

482
00:37:40.239 --> 00:37:45.159
he had only been dealing with himself. What I' ll prepare for dinner.

483
00:37:46.119 --> 00:37:53.599
Right after thinking this came Cori mom, you' re listening to me

484
00:37:53.599 --> 00:38:00.119
what' s going on. Something
positive happened. You remember Taiky Yesterday Taki

485
00:38:00.239 --> 00:38:05.760
hit me with the ball. Ah
yes, Taiki is the child that bothers

486
00:38:05.840 --> 00:38:09.039
you the most. Not so,
right now, when I was already coming

487
00:38:09.039 --> 00:38:15.400
home, Taiki has come to the
park and apologized saying sorry that it always

488
00:38:15.519 --> 00:38:20.800
bothers you. Eh and so and
while I was saying this, I felt

489
00:38:20.880 --> 00:38:24.000
like a miracle was happening. It
seemed to him that it was certainly related

490
00:38:24.039 --> 00:38:29.880
to the fact that he had made
amends sincerely with his father Monica decided that,

491
00:38:30.239 --> 00:38:32.760
instead of dedicating himself to making dinner. He preferred to chat with Cori,

492
00:38:32.920 --> 00:38:38.360
so he ordered her while they waited. He told her I' m

493
00:38:38.440 --> 00:38:42.800
so sorry I' ve been getting
too into your stuff. From now on,

494
00:38:44.519 --> 00:38:47.800
I will try not to get into
them so much and when you need

495
00:38:47.880 --> 00:38:54.280
help, do not hesitate to tell
me in agreement, because I trust in

496
00:38:54.280 --> 00:38:58.320
You Corin' s face. He
showed great joy and agreed Thank you.

497
00:39:00.840 --> 00:39:05.400
Of course, Cori wanted me to
trust him. Today' s a great

498
00:39:05.400 --> 00:39:12.679
day.“ Good things come one
after another,” Cori continued. Soon

499
00:39:12.760 --> 00:39:16.119
after dinner came. I want to
wait for Dad for dinner, so you

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00:39:16.119 --> 00:39:23.639
start eating. Why if you always
eat before. I feel like having dinner

501
00:39:23.679 --> 00:39:28.639
with Dad today. Dad works a
lot for us. If she gets home

502
00:39:28.679 --> 00:39:32.639
tired, it' s bad that
she has to eat rice with chicken just

503
00:39:32.760 --> 00:39:36.880
doesn' t feel like it,
because I want to have dinner with Dad,

504
00:39:36.880 --> 00:39:39.760
too. They' ll be more
fun and we' ll eat all

505
00:39:39.760 --> 00:39:45.679
three together. You really are a
treasure. You look like Dad, you

506
00:39:45.800 --> 00:39:50.679
' re really weird, but if
you always complain about Dad being untapped.

507
00:39:51.760 --> 00:39:57.000
Yeah, uh, Mom was wrong. Dad' s kind, he'

508
00:39:57.079 --> 00:40:00.880
s a strong man, he'
s a man among men. Yeah,

509
00:40:00.199 --> 00:40:05.440
but if you don' t study, you just get a job like his.

510
00:40:05.639 --> 00:40:07.360
I' m sorry, but in
this, Mom was wrong, too.

511
00:40:08.280 --> 00:40:13.239
Dad' s job is a great
job, it' s useful to

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00:40:13.239 --> 00:40:16.039
people. Besides, it' s
thanks to your work that we can eat.

513
00:40:16.960 --> 00:40:22.119
We really have to thank him.
You think so, Mom, yes,

514
00:40:22.800 --> 00:40:27.679
I' m sure. Cori'
s face became even more smiling and

515
00:40:27.760 --> 00:40:32.159
happy. Children, in essence,
should grow up feeling respect for their parents

516
00:40:32.199 --> 00:40:37.719
and using them as a model.
Monica' s words now gave permission to

517
00:40:37.800 --> 00:40:44.719
Cori. I can admire Dad ah
Cori, this is what had made him

518
00:40:44.840 --> 00:40:49.960
happier. A while later her husband
arrived and the three of them ate the

519
00:40:50.000 --> 00:40:53.519
rice with chicken already cold, perhaps
because he was glad they had waited for

520
00:40:53.920 --> 00:40:58.840
him that day. Her husband was
especially in a good mood. He ate

521
00:40:58.920 --> 00:41:04.000
the cold rice saying it' s
delicious. Cori fell asleep while her father

522
00:41:04.079 --> 00:41:08.960
bathed. Monica began to thank him
inwardly as she looked at his sleepy face,

523
00:41:10.440 --> 00:41:14.599
perhaps because of the influence of the
word. Thank you, but from

524
00:41:14.639 --> 00:41:17.960
the bottom of your heart began to
flow the feeling of gratitude. I thought

525
00:41:19.039 --> 00:41:22.199
I was suffering because of this child
and yet it is thanks to him that

526
00:41:22.280 --> 00:41:28.679
I have realized something important. The
truth is, maybe this kid has guided

527
00:41:28.760 --> 00:41:35.639
me. As I thought this cori
seemed to an angel in the blink of

528
00:41:35.719 --> 00:41:40.039
an eye. She got tears.
It had certainly been a day of much

529
00:41:40.159 --> 00:41:46.840
weeping. A while later the phone
rang. It was a fax. His

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00:41:46.880 --> 00:41:54.320
mother had sent him and said Monica. Your father told me he was crying

531
00:41:54.440 --> 00:42:00.400
as he told me I also felt
like crying for joy. Your father has

532
00:42:00.480 --> 00:42:06.559
said of my seventy years this has
been the happiest day, unlike the usual

533
00:42:06.599 --> 00:42:10.360
of every night today during dinner he
did not want to drink anything. He

534
00:42:10.400 --> 00:42:15.119
said if I drink, I'
ll get drunk and it' s a

535
00:42:15.199 --> 00:42:17.440
pity I can' t enjoy these
moments of joy. When you will come

536
00:42:17.440 --> 00:42:25.559
to visit us, we will be
very excited to see you, Mom Dad

537
00:42:25.599 --> 00:42:29.280
used to drinking every night today has
not drunk anything at all. It seems

538
00:42:29.320 --> 00:42:34.199
that my words have made him really
happy that until today my father could not

539
00:42:34.239 --> 00:42:37.719
have stopped drinking, even when he
was sick. It had to be as

540
00:42:37.719 --> 00:42:45.000
a result of sadness. Monica'
s tears came back. What are you

541
00:42:45.079 --> 00:42:47.599
crying about? Her husband asked her
that she had just left the bathroom.

542
00:42:50.000 --> 00:42:53.840
Monica told him everything that had happened
during the day, that she had called

543
00:42:53.920 --> 00:42:58.960
Metti, that she had been writing
on a paper, the difficulties and problems

544
00:42:59.039 --> 00:43:02.079
with her pair that in the afternoon
had called her father and that had made

545
00:43:02.119 --> 00:43:09.679
peace. So your father also cried. Her husband listened to her half crying.

546
00:43:10.599 --> 00:43:15.559
He also told her that the friend
who mistreated Cory had apologized. Certainly,

547
00:43:15.599 --> 00:43:21.480
strange things happen sometimes. True,
I don' t understand Metti'

548
00:43:21.480 --> 00:43:23.639
s methods much, but I'
m glad because it seems like you'

549
00:43:23.639 --> 00:43:29.760
ve worked well. Then Monica apologized
crying to her husband. Thank you.

550
00:43:30.639 --> 00:43:34.639
I thank you so much for everything
you do. Today I have again felt

551
00:43:34.800 --> 00:43:37.960
a great admiration for You and I
am very sorry that until today I have

552
00:43:38.000 --> 00:43:43.920
not realized enough of how wonderful You
are. Monica' s husband was crying

553
00:43:44.039 --> 00:43:47.559
while he was listening. The next
day, Monica called Metti to tell her

554
00:43:47.639 --> 00:43:52.719
what had happened and thank her.
It seems that early in the morning her

555
00:43:52.760 --> 00:43:58.920
husband had also called. Your husband
called me, too. I' m

556
00:43:58.960 --> 00:44:01.840
so glad I could be read is
helpful. I' m impressed by your

557
00:44:01.960 --> 00:44:06.639
courage and what you' ve done
right from now on. It is very

558
00:44:06.679 --> 00:44:09.880
important that you spend time every day
to give in your heart a hundred times

559
00:44:09.920 --> 00:44:14.719
thanks to your father, your husband
and your son. Cori, I'

560
00:44:14.760 --> 00:44:19.320
d like to recommend you read a
few books. I' ll pick some

561
00:44:19.400 --> 00:44:22.039
of them and send you the titles
by fax today. That day, at

562
00:44:22.119 --> 00:44:29.039
night Hello, it was Cori'
s joyful voice coming home. Today,

563
00:44:29.079 --> 00:44:31.920
the kids in the class invited me
to play baseball. I' m leaving.

564
00:44:32.800 --> 00:44:37.119
Cori grabbed the glove and ran off
to Monica, her eyes were wet,

565
00:44:37.360 --> 00:44:42.679
her voice was blocked and she couldn' t even say goodbye Fax.

566
00:44:45.559 --> 00:44:50.280
Dear Monica will see the mirror that
is life, makes us see what is

567
00:44:50.360 --> 00:44:53.519
important. You don' t think
so. I was very impressed by your

568
00:44:53.559 --> 00:44:57.639
courage and daring. I' d
just like to ask you a favor.

569
00:44:58.599 --> 00:45:04.480
I think this experience can help other
people. I wish you' d count

570
00:45:04.599 --> 00:45:08.519
it if you took the case with
my best wishes of love, gratitude and

571
00:45:08.639 --> 00:45:15.320
joy for your life as bringing happiness
to our life. Epilogue. Life is

572
00:45:15.440 --> 00:45:22.039
a mirror that reflects our interior.
Thank you for reading this account to the

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00:45:22.039 --> 00:45:25.480
end. Despite being fictitious names and
professions, it is based on people and

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00:45:25.519 --> 00:45:31.719
real facts. When a certain time
ago and this story is published in my

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00:45:31.800 --> 00:45:36.639
WAB coach from emotional quotient to increase
day by day the strength to achieve success

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00:45:36.719 --> 00:45:42.400
and happiness. It had a surprising
repercussion and I received a lot of emails

577
00:45:42.400 --> 00:45:47.599
from readers. It has been a
long time since I wept so much I

578
00:45:47.639 --> 00:45:53.159
gathered strength to forgive those I could
not forgive For years a strong feeling of

579
00:45:53.159 --> 00:45:58.960
gratitude has invaded me. I received
so many messages full of gratitude and feeling

580
00:45:59.000 --> 00:46:02.880
that I too did not understand a
great emotion. I also made copies of

581
00:46:02.920 --> 00:46:07.480
this story and shared them among the
attendees of the courses I teach in companies,

582
00:46:07.880 --> 00:46:12.039
courses to improve the emotional quotient.
On the first day of the course,

583
00:46:12.320 --> 00:46:15.639
I sent, as homework, to
read the text the next day I

584
00:46:15.639 --> 00:46:20.400
asked them their opinion. Ninety percent
of the participants had cried or ended with

585
00:46:20.519 --> 00:46:24.360
weeping eyes. I realized that this
story has something that reaches our hearts.

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00:46:27.559 --> 00:46:30.760
Needless to say, every time I
reread it, I also end up with

587
00:46:30.880 --> 00:46:34.840
weeping eyes. And every time I
want to judge someone' s acts,

588
00:46:35.320 --> 00:46:39.559
I remember this story and I feel
like I' m purified now I'

589
00:46:39.639 --> 00:46:44.400
m so glad that this story has
been published in book format. I want

590
00:46:44.440 --> 00:46:50.639
many more people to be able to
know these facts and what you have felt

591
00:46:50.679 --> 00:46:54.440
like reading this account. Monica was
very worried about her son and didn'

592
00:46:54.519 --> 00:46:59.599
t know how to solve the problem. Then Metti taught him a very simple

593
00:46:59.639 --> 00:47:02.880
law that would give him the solution, a law that says the reality of

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00:47:04.000 --> 00:47:07.400
our life is the mirror that reflects
our heart. It' s the law

595
00:47:07.400 --> 00:47:13.079
of the mirror. If we fill
the interior only with dissatisfaction, more and

596
00:47:13.199 --> 00:47:19.800
more events will occur that want to
express this discontent and, on the contrary,

597
00:47:19.920 --> 00:47:23.679
if we have our hearts always full
of gratitude, more events will occur

598
00:47:23.719 --> 00:47:28.599
that will make us feel more grateful. Life. It is a mirror that

599
00:47:28.679 --> 00:47:34.800
reflects our heart, that is,
events occur that exactly tune into our interior.

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00:47:35.239 --> 00:47:37.079
Or it can also be said that
the cause within us becomes a reality.

601
00:47:38.000 --> 00:47:44.119
As a result, this law has
many points in common with traditional Eastern

602
00:47:44.159 --> 00:47:49.320
religion and philosophy. It is a
very simple law, but which, if

603
00:47:49.360 --> 00:47:54.199
known, teaches us to control our
own life by coaching as an advisor to

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00:47:54.280 --> 00:48:00.239
numerous clients to achieve their goals and
personal fulfillment. And during these years of

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00:48:00.239 --> 00:48:05.159
experience I have been able to verify
that this law works on all individuals without

606
00:48:05.159 --> 00:48:09.880
any exception. Using this law,
many people have succeeded in changing an adverse

607
00:48:09.920 --> 00:48:15.639
current situation and in making the desired
situation a reality. Like when we look

608
00:48:15.679 --> 00:48:19.639
in a mirror, we can know
our own image. If we look at

609
00:48:19.679 --> 00:48:22.039
what happens to us in life,
we can know that we have within our

610
00:48:22.039 --> 00:48:28.039
heart. Metti, who knew this
law when he knew what was happening to

611
00:48:28.039 --> 00:48:30.199
him Amónica, that is, that
his dear son was criticized by the companions.

612
00:48:30.599 --> 00:48:37.239
He realized Monica was inwardly criticizing someone. By the way, what do

613
00:48:37.239 --> 00:48:38.760
you do when you don' t
like your picture reflected in the mirror.

614
00:48:40.119 --> 00:48:44.639
For example, if you look in
the mirror and see that it is bare

615
00:48:44.719 --> 00:48:50.000
diagonal bar, what does for a
long time extend your hand to fix the

616
00:48:50.000 --> 00:48:52.800
hairs of your image in the mirror. He' s not gonna make it,

617
00:48:52.800 --> 00:48:55.559
is he? Probably what you will
do is reach out your hand to

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00:48:55.639 --> 00:49:00.079
your head and fix them in a
similar way. To solve the problems of

619
00:49:00.199 --> 00:49:04.239
life at its root, it is
necessary to eliminate the cause in one’

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00:49:04.440 --> 00:49:08.679
s heart. If we do not
change our internality and only hope that others

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and situations will change, we will
not get what we want. In the

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case of Monica, when she managed
to reconcile and feel gratitude inside her for

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her father and her husband, the
current problem, the concern for her son

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disappeared When I say that we need
to change our interior. I don'

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t mean that you don' t
have to act in reality, for example,

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if someone is being mistreated by someone
else, the first thing you have

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to do is act to protect yourself
in real life. But while trying to

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do the best in real life,
it is also important to change what is

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inside your heart. With forgiveness you
get calm. Let' s think a

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little bit about forgiveness. When I
think I can' t forgive him,

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it means that I still live tied
to the past, that the heart is

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full of resentment towards someone. In
this case, Monica was tied to the

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popes words spoken by her father in
the past and this made her inwardly resent

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him. Although he had recently stopped
thinking of his father at the bottom of

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his heart, he still felt reproach
for him. If I resent someone and

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tell myself I can' t forgive
them, I' ll never get inner

637
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peace. We are upset because an
extra force is acting on us and if

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this situation is prolonged, it will
eventually become suffering. This is certainly a

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difficult situation. I' ve experienced
it, too, right now. We

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have two options, forgiving or not
forgiving. If in the past we are

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injured from the relationship with someone,
we can choose not to forgive. In

642
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this case it means that we allow
ourselves to be anchored in the past event

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and because of that past situation,
we eliminate the possibility of having a life

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full of peace. On the other
hand, we also have the option to

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forgive. If we forgive, then
both our body and our interior calms down

646
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and we can' t relax.
We free ourselves from the spell of the

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past and achieve peace and freedom of
spirit. Forgiveness doesn' t mean we

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give the go- ahead to what
they' ve done to us or that

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we overlook it. Nor does it
mean that we have patience, despite thinking

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that the diagonal bar is her fault. Forgiveness means that we are free from

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the past, that we are bound
to stop reproaching and that we choose the

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calm of the present moments. And
you feel at this time resentment toward someone

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would be willing to forgive that person
in order to achieve a happy life.

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For you to keep in mind that
forgiving someone is only for yourself. diagonal

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bar is not for anyone else.
Let' s forgive ourselves. There'

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s probably someone who thinks it'
s impossible for me to forgive such a

657
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person. In this case don'
t blame yourself or think. I'

658
00:52:02.639 --> 00:52:07.480
m a mess because I can'
t forgive him or so I can'

659
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t be happy, etcetera. You
have to understand that you have been hurt

660
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and you will need to accept it
first. Maybe he' s not ready

661
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yet, diagonal bar. You need
to accept yourself. diagonal bar, first

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one forgives himself. This is what
in psychology is known as self- acceptance.

663
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First we accept that we have been
hurt and then we forgive ourselves for

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not being able to forgive such a
person. In this way, we manage

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to self- accept and get the
relief that will enable us to forgive.

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It is also necessary to search among
one' s own beliefs. Beliefs are

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the ideas that we have rooted within
us, in the notebook of emotional quotient

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to increase day by day the strength
to achieve success and happiness. Neither Hitsuchi

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nor Powershin. Methods of searching for
and eliminating them are discussed. For example,

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having the ideas cited below holds back
the power to forgive. If I

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forgive, I' d lose 100% of the blame for me having had

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a bad time It' s yours. I don' t have any responsibility.

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It is easier to be the victim
than to accept responsibility itself. You

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have to pay for what you'
ve done. The pain won' t

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go away unless I take revenge to
protect myself diagonal bar. I must not

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forgive him. The list might be
longer, but for now think about whether

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or not these ideas will let you
be happy eight steps to get forgiveness.

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Now I' ll tell you eight
steps to get forgiveness. Those people who

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so far haven' t been able
to forgive anyone. If you put it

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into practice, you will have the
possibility of taking a clearly favorable turn to

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your life. You make a list
of those people you can' t forgive.

682
00:53:54.119 --> 00:53:58.360
Write on a sheet of paper the
name of those people you think about.

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I' d feel better if I
could forgive him. I wish I

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could make peace with the diagonal bar
on her. The relationship with parents is

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especially important. Ask yourself if you
do not reproach your father or mother and

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if you are really grateful to them. Diagonala bar and if this is the

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case, write your names on the
list as well. If you are married,

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Barra Diagonala, ask also about your
partner, if you are divorced,

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Barra diagonal or ask if you have
reconciled with your former partner. This step

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remains valid, even if the person
has already died. Also enter in the

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list the name of all those you
cannot forgive alive or dead. Once elaborate.

692
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The list chooses the person with whom
you will implement the eight steps to

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get forgiving two. Express your feelings, priper several sheets of paper, and

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write down your feelings for that person. Write down the feelings I had in

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this moment, more than the concrete
situations. If you have feelings of anger,

696
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you can express them with the swearing
words you can think of. You

697
00:55:08.400 --> 00:55:15.599
son of a bitch, it doesn' t matter if you remember the sadness

698
00:55:15.960 --> 00:55:19.079
and pain you felt, then you
can also write it down. Write down

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00:55:19.079 --> 00:55:22.400
your feelings as they come out.
No one' s going to read it,

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so you don' t have to
do compliments or control yourself if you

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' re going to cry, cry, cry as much as you want,

702
00:55:34.199 --> 00:55:37.480
because then you' ll feel better
when you think you' ve already written

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everything you feel, stop and break
the paper throw it in trash three look

704
00:55:43.840 --> 00:55:45.679
for the reasons for those acts.
A scribe who made that person he cannot

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00:55:45.719 --> 00:55:52.320
forgive. Two, imagine and write
down the motives that led that person to

706
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act in such a way. The
motives that make people act can be broadly

707
00:55:55.280 --> 00:56:02.239
divided into two types. Believes to
feel pleasure and avoid feeling pain. Think

708
00:56:02.239 --> 00:56:06.840
of what pleasure he wanted to feel
for that person who made him act that

709
00:56:06.840 --> 00:56:12.719
way, or what pain he intended
to avoid. Imagine the causes and write

710
00:56:13.719 --> 00:56:16.840
them three when you have finished writing, do not misjudge the motives, but

711
00:56:16.880 --> 00:56:22.480
try to understand the immaturity, clumsiness
and weakness of that person. Human beings

712
00:56:22.559 --> 00:56:29.840
often make mistakes. For example,
we do something thinking that will make us

713
00:56:29.840 --> 00:56:34.559
happy, but it ends up making
us suffer. Sometimes we act to avoid

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00:56:34.639 --> 00:56:39.320
some suffering, but all we get
is more pain. This demonstrates our immaturity,

715
00:56:39.679 --> 00:56:46.000
our weakness and how clumsy we are. We must understand that the acts

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00:56:46.039 --> 00:56:51.400
of others are because of their immaturity, their little ability and their weakness.

717
00:56:52.840 --> 00:56:55.079
Four. You should not think about
whether the acts of others will be right

718
00:56:55.119 --> 00:56:59.559
or wrong. You need to focus
on the reasons that led you to act

719
00:56:59.559 --> 00:57:04.440
and say the following. Like I
can wish for the diagonal bar, she

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also wished to feel pleasure. Like
I can wish for the diagonal bar,

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00:57:07.159 --> 00:57:14.239
she also wished to avoid feeling pain. Four. Write down what you can

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00:57:14.239 --> 00:57:19.440
thank him for. Write down everything
you can thank that person, even if

723
00:57:19.480 --> 00:57:25.239
it seems insignificant. Try to write
as much as you can, even if

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00:57:25.360 --> 00:57:28.199
you need a lot of time,
try to remember as much as possible.

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Five use the force of words.
One. First, make the following statement

726
00:57:34.840 --> 00:57:40.519
for my own happiness, calmness and
freedom. I forgive two. Then repeat,

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forgive, if possible, repeat it
aloud, even if it is so

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00:57:45.800 --> 00:57:51.920
low that no one can hear it. You don' t have to feel

729
00:57:51.960 --> 00:57:54.920
it in your heart, even if
your feelings tell Nene or I can forgive

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00:57:54.920 --> 00:58:00.360
you. You can say that by
simulating it. Repeat it for more than

731
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ten minutes, in ten minutes,
you can repeat it between four hundred and

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five hundred times and, if possible, do it for half an hour.

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This is a crucial step. In
the case of Mónica Metti, he skipped

734
00:58:14.679 --> 00:58:20.079
this step and advised him to call
his father directly to consider him an exceptional

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case. Metti knew Monica' s
personal situation and decided that was the right

736
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thing to do. In general,
I advise to do this step well and

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act after the feeling of gratitude appears. Six, write down what you'

738
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d like to apologize for. Write
down what you' d like to apologize

739
00:58:37.079 --> 00:58:40.519
to that person for. The better. Seven, write down what you have

740
00:58:40.519 --> 00:58:44.840
learned, write down what you have
learned through your relationship with that person.

741
00:58:45.840 --> 00:58:49.760
If you think about how it would
have been better to deal with that person,

742
00:58:50.119 --> 00:58:53.880
you may be able to realize or
learn something new how you think you

743
00:58:53.920 --> 00:58:58.840
might have dealt with that person to
make them both happier. Eight declare it,

744
00:58:58.880 --> 00:59:04.719
forgive me, but I donate to
these were the eight steps to get

745
00:59:04.719 --> 00:59:07.880
forgiveness. It doesn' t matter
if, after having completed the eight steps,

746
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he still persists feeling I can'
t forgive him. In this case,

747
00:59:14.480 --> 00:59:19.760
repeat paragraph two of step five.
Repeat the person' s name while

748
00:59:20.039 --> 00:59:24.400
remembering his face. If possible,
repeat it every day for more than five

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00:59:24.480 --> 00:59:30.760
minutes. A few days later I
should feel a change. How to make

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a happy life come true if during
the process of carrying out these steps you

751
00:59:35.320 --> 00:59:38.920
have been grateful to that person,
what would you like if I thanked him

752
00:59:38.920 --> 00:59:42.960
and if I had thought I would
apologize. How would you like to pass

753
00:59:42.960 --> 00:59:46.199
on to the action before the feeling
fades. Thanks to what he did,

754
00:59:46.519 --> 00:59:51.639
Monica was released from the prison that
represented him. He couldn' t forgive

755
00:59:51.639 --> 00:59:54.679
and got freedom. Like Monica,
she had enough courage to act and this

756
00:59:54.760 --> 01:00:00.400
changed her life. I think your
courageous acts can also change yours. If

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01:00:00.480 --> 01:00:06.719
among the people included in the list
of I cannot forgive that you have written

758
01:00:06.760 --> 01:00:09.079
in step one finds the name of
your father or your mother, it is

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above all necessary that you do all
the steps. Thanks to this, the

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lives of many people will change incredibly
favorably. The relationship with parents is reflected

761
01:00:22.280 --> 01:00:25.480
in many human relationships and will be
very beneficial to them if they reconcile heartily

762
01:00:25.519 --> 01:00:31.920
with them. One day they told
me, like Monica did, one day

763
01:00:32.000 --> 01:00:36.519
I had the courage to thank my
parents, but they did not accept them

764
01:00:36.559 --> 01:00:40.880
and they replied. And now that
you' re telling us, in this

765
01:00:40.920 --> 01:00:45.320
case, most likely a lot of
people get mad at their parents. If

766
01:00:45.360 --> 01:00:50.360
you expect your parents to react like
Monica' s father, you' ll

767
01:00:50.400 --> 01:00:52.920
probably end up more angry than you
were when you apologize or give thanks.

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The ideal is to do it without
waiting for others to change. The goal

769
01:00:58.800 --> 01:01:01.440
is to transmit it, even if
you do not know whether that person will

770
01:01:01.440 --> 01:01:06.199
accept it or not. If you' re able to transmit it, that

771
01:01:06.199 --> 01:01:09.920
' s enough. If they reject
you, it means that person is very

772
01:01:09.920 --> 01:01:15.039
hurt. This is his weakness.
Moreover, even if he openly rejects you,

773
01:01:15.480 --> 01:01:22.440
your words in the background may make
him feel something. In any case,

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01:01:22.480 --> 01:01:25.679
I would like you to appreciate the
fact that you have acted and feel

775
01:01:25.719 --> 01:01:30.199
satisfied that you have chosen to forgive, that you have forgiven. You are

776
01:01:30.239 --> 01:01:36.119
no longer the victim and you are
responsible for your own life again. You

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01:01:36.119 --> 01:01:40.360
should be proud of this. Don' t forget the words, the law

778
01:01:40.400 --> 01:01:45.360
of Metti' s inevitable. All
the problems that arise in life occur to

779
01:01:45.400 --> 01:01:50.880
make us realize something important. You' ll never have any problems you can

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01:01:51.000 --> 01:01:54.960
' t fix. You have the
strength to solve any problem that happens so

781
01:01:55.039 --> 01:02:00.920
that, through your solution, you
realize something important. I want this book

782
01:02:01.039 --> 01:02:06.800
to help you realize a happy life
and it would make me immensely happy if

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01:02:06.880 --> 01:02:12.599
with this book you could broaden the
circle of happy people around you. If

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01:02:12.639 --> 01:02:15.800
while you have read this book you
have noticed something or felt some emotion.

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Do not hesitate to share it with
those around you. Imagine his face of

786
01:02:20.719 --> 01:02:25.079
happiness. By sharing it, it
might be that their actions brought good luck,

787
01:02:25.239 --> 01:02:30.920
freedom, and reconciliation with someone with
my best wishes to make wonderful friendships.

788
01:02:32.360 --> 01:02:37.440
I hope that the circle of happy
people will expand around you and I

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hope that the earth will be filled
with good feelings and gratitude. Part of

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the income from the sale of this
book goes to the headquarters organization Shelrein is

791
01:02:46.400 --> 01:02:52.239
a non- governmental organization or ng
recognized by the United Nations, which works

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01:02:52.639 --> 01:02:58.519
for children. It works on aid
programmes to make children' s rights a

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01:02:58.599 --> 01:03:02.480
reality in over 150 countries of the
world' s one hundred and thirty-

794
01:03:02.639 --> 01:03:07.199
two million children born annually, eleven
million die before they reach the age of

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01:03:07.280 --> 01:03:13.920
five. Children who are undernourished and
live in poverty before thinking about whether or

796
01:03:13.920 --> 01:03:17.000
not they forgive their parents must worry
about how I can survive and how I

797
01:03:17.079 --> 01:03:22.760
will achieve a safe life. I' ll be very lucky if I can

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01:03:22.800 --> 01:03:27.559
help the children of the world with
this book. If you like content like

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01:03:27.760 --> 01:03:31.719
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