WEBVTT 1 00:00:00.200 --> 00:00:11.800 This is pod popular podcast for the people, the Great Love Debate. It's 2 00:00:11.839 --> 00:00:18.239 the Great Love Debate, the Great Love Debate. It's a great loved base. 3 00:00:18.480 --> 00:00:22.879 Hi again, everyone's Brian Howie. Welcome to The Great Love Debate, 4 00:00:22.920 --> 00:00:27.239 the world's number one dating and relationship podcast since twenty fifteen. I am back 5 00:00:27.280 --> 00:00:31.519 here in these studios of Pod Populive podcast for the people. I am at 6 00:00:31.519 --> 00:00:34.600 the one in Palm Beach Gardens, which I have not been at in quite 7 00:00:34.640 --> 00:00:38.520 some time. It's very nice here if you have the means Palm Beach Gardens. 8 00:00:39.719 --> 00:00:42.520 Quick note before I get into what I want to get into and who 9 00:00:42.600 --> 00:00:46.000 I want to get into it with. I know I guys have promised you 10 00:00:46.039 --> 00:00:50.960 the Bachelor and Bachelorette Party Spectacular. I've been teasing it for like three episodes 11 00:00:51.000 --> 00:00:53.960 now that I keep saying it's going to be the next episode, you guys 12 00:00:54.000 --> 00:01:00.000 have been absolutely burying us with these horror stories about your bachelor bachelorette parties. 13 00:01:00.079 --> 00:01:03.320 I'm surprised anybody gets married once I hear all these. So I'm going to 14 00:01:03.359 --> 00:01:06.760 give it one more week because you guys just even as of like an hour 15 00:01:06.799 --> 00:01:11.959 ago, I got like thirty more choosing email Great Love Tobait at gmail dot 16 00:01:11.040 --> 00:01:15.359 com with your herds stars, whether you were the bride, the groom, 17 00:01:15.840 --> 00:01:19.680 the best man, the maid of honor, or in a wedding party, 18 00:01:19.760 --> 00:01:23.079 or just did something really bad or witness something really bad at a bachelor party. 19 00:01:23.159 --> 00:01:26.959 And we have had two deaths so far at one of these things. 20 00:01:26.000 --> 00:01:32.120 So tell you that's where the bar. It's these things and many many divorces 21 00:01:32.120 --> 00:01:36.680 and breakups. So cave at mtur. If you're gonna have a bachelor bacherette 22 00:01:36.680 --> 00:01:40.480 party, send those in and we will get to that. I want to 23 00:01:40.519 --> 00:01:44.840 continue ours. I don't know how to say this without sounding insulting. As 24 00:01:44.920 --> 00:01:47.799 I've said several times over the last couple of months, we're doing this series 25 00:01:47.799 --> 00:01:53.120 that are focused on women that are say plus thirty five, and they are 26 00:01:53.159 --> 00:01:57.079 what I think is the single best group of women that exists in the dating 27 00:01:57.120 --> 00:02:01.439 pool. However there are is the one that they're the ones that have the 28 00:02:01.480 --> 00:02:08.080 most consternation issues, quandaries, forks in the road, things to deal with. 29 00:02:08.599 --> 00:02:14.199 So I had somebody that I had some I have a lot of questions 30 00:02:14.199 --> 00:02:16.039 for it because she has had some forks in the road, she has made 31 00:02:16.039 --> 00:02:20.520 some changes. I don't know what she looked like at twenty three. She 32 00:02:20.599 --> 00:02:23.080 might never look better than now. I don't know. Her hair looks fantastic, 33 00:02:23.159 --> 00:02:27.520 so i'll give her that she is. Her husband was on here a 34 00:02:27.560 --> 00:02:30.039 couple months ago and he told you guys, how to spend your money or 35 00:02:30.039 --> 00:02:31.240 not spend your money, and it was very, very smart. So I 36 00:02:31.280 --> 00:02:37.639 brought in his better half today. She's the host of the Spoiled Milk podcast, 37 00:02:37.919 --> 00:02:39.879 and I'm gonna let her explain why that is because it leads to what 38 00:02:39.919 --> 00:02:44.400 I want to get into. Brooke rash how are you? Hey? What's 39 00:02:44.479 --> 00:02:47.479 up? I'm laughing about the Bachelor Bachelorette. You're like, oh, I 40 00:02:47.479 --> 00:02:51.759 think I'd like to come back for that one. I mean, yeah, 41 00:02:51.759 --> 00:02:55.879 well, I mean I had I had a very interesting bachelorette party. Where 42 00:02:57.000 --> 00:02:59.639 was it? It was in Vegas, and of course it was you know, 43 00:02:59.680 --> 00:03:01.159 the numb We're going to break this out on the episode. The number 44 00:03:01.199 --> 00:03:07.120 one place is Nashville for bachelor, right. I got married twenty one years 45 00:03:07.159 --> 00:03:09.439 ago, so that was afore Nashville, right, Exactly, you should just 46 00:03:09.479 --> 00:03:14.960 be Vegas. One is Nashville. Two is Scottsdale? Interesting? Yeah, 47 00:03:15.000 --> 00:03:19.520 and then there's Nashville or Vegas, Miami, and we will get into all 48 00:03:19.560 --> 00:03:24.479 of that spoiled milk. Where did that come from? So it actually came 49 00:03:24.759 --> 00:03:30.120 from an internet troll. We were my husband and I were having an internet 50 00:03:30.159 --> 00:03:38.240 discussion about Leonardo DiCaprio and his tendency to date these girls that are so super 51 00:03:38.280 --> 00:03:42.199 young, and the most recent one is like nineteen. Now keep in mind 52 00:03:42.240 --> 00:03:49.080 he's almost fifty, and for us personally, it's really disturbing because we have 53 00:03:49.120 --> 00:03:53.280 a nineteen year old daughter, right, so Leo's older than us and he's 54 00:03:53.360 --> 00:03:58.520 dating someone that is our daughter's age. And so through this like internet conversation, 55 00:03:58.599 --> 00:04:00.479 of course, a lot of people agreed with the uh that they thought 56 00:04:00.479 --> 00:04:03.240 it was disturbing, But then they're the people that were like, he's an 57 00:04:03.280 --> 00:04:06.439 adult, he can do what he wants to do. I just was like, 58 00:04:06.479 --> 00:04:10.319 this girl's just got out of high school. But hey, whatever, 59 00:04:10.400 --> 00:04:15.759 I digress. So this one commenter said, well, of course he dates 60 00:04:15.800 --> 00:04:19.920 younger women because women age like spoil milk. And I was just like, 61 00:04:20.040 --> 00:04:23.399 at first, like it made my blood boil, and you know, I 62 00:04:23.480 --> 00:04:26.959 went like I started like keyboard like and then I was like nope, like 63 00:04:27.079 --> 00:04:29.199 back it up. And I was like, you know what, that's actually 64 00:04:29.319 --> 00:04:32.639 kind of like catchy. I think I'm gonna like I was already like stirring 65 00:04:32.759 --> 00:04:35.360 on the whole podcast idea, and I was like, I think I'm gonna 66 00:04:35.959 --> 00:04:40.279 use that because that's my bosf and motivated. Yeah, I'm like, that's 67 00:04:40.319 --> 00:04:43.839 my whole goal in life is to not become spoil milk. Like I see 68 00:04:43.839 --> 00:04:47.959 these older women who they just quite honestly, they let themselves go. I'm 69 00:04:47.959 --> 00:04:51.079 not saying we shouldn't age at all, and of course women should do what 70 00:04:51.120 --> 00:04:54.120 they want to do. Okay, if you want to let yourself go, 71 00:04:54.319 --> 00:04:58.160 let yourself go. I'm personally not going to be one of those women that 72 00:04:58.240 --> 00:05:02.759 becomes spoiled milk that society doesn't even see you anymore because you're like you're expired. 73 00:05:03.560 --> 00:05:08.720 Yeah. I agree not to defend Leo because I think it's weird. 74 00:05:09.720 --> 00:05:13.639 I think it's part of his brand at this point that if he started dating 75 00:05:13.680 --> 00:05:16.560 somebody more age appropriate, and I don't if the world decide what that is. 76 00:05:16.720 --> 00:05:21.600 If he suddenly started to date like a forty one year old woman, 77 00:05:23.160 --> 00:05:28.319 I think that makes him suddenly accelerate the way he's perceived into an almost fifty 78 00:05:28.399 --> 00:05:30.319 year old man, because he still has come off as kind of boyish and 79 00:05:30.399 --> 00:05:35.560 whatever, sort of like George Clooney when George Clooney got George Clooney carried around 80 00:05:35.639 --> 00:05:41.439 this illusion that he was this perpetual bachelor for many many years. He was 81 00:05:41.519 --> 00:05:46.480 married in his twenties for several years. That never because part of his image 82 00:05:46.519 --> 00:05:49.600 was I am Bacheler's George's ever gonna settle down or whatever. He didn't put 83 00:05:49.600 --> 00:05:53.800 that on his bio at all. So once he got married, people are 84 00:05:53.839 --> 00:05:56.079 like, oh, of course, that's how he was holding out for this 85 00:05:56.160 --> 00:05:59.160 mature woman who runs his chair and everything, like, no, this is 86 00:05:59.199 --> 00:06:03.120 his second wife. And I think it's all part of branding. And I 87 00:06:03.120 --> 00:06:06.920 think Leo, if he suddenly dates, you know, forty two year old 88 00:06:06.959 --> 00:06:11.519 woman, I think it shifts therapy. So I think a lot of there's 89 00:06:11.560 --> 00:06:15.639 a lot of upside to him being seen with the nineteen year old Victoria's Secret 90 00:06:15.639 --> 00:06:19.319 model, who he may actually not be dating. I've heard rumors, but 91 00:06:19.360 --> 00:06:23.480 I'm not sure if we want to talk about that. Okay, he turned 92 00:06:23.480 --> 00:06:27.000 into spoiled milk for those for those rumors. Yeah, there's a lot of 93 00:06:27.040 --> 00:06:30.920 famous men who have a lot of young models that they're probably not in the 94 00:06:30.920 --> 00:06:34.199 same house with. We'll just put it that way, right the subtitle of 95 00:06:34.240 --> 00:06:39.040 your podcast, because I want to get into that is the Hot Girl's Midlife 96 00:06:39.079 --> 00:06:44.600 Survival Guide. Now it's I've always very excited when the hot girl says she's 97 00:06:44.639 --> 00:06:48.639 a hot girl. It's very empowering. It takes back what most people are 98 00:06:48.680 --> 00:06:53.839 saying about you anyway, and it lets you control the dialogue. If it's 99 00:06:53.839 --> 00:06:57.839 okay, this is the way you perceive me, I'm going to tell you 100 00:06:57.839 --> 00:07:00.399 how I'm going to be perceived. And I am and I'm hot, and 101 00:07:00.480 --> 00:07:04.000 I'm forty and here's how I'm going to make the moves and I'm a mom 102 00:07:04.240 --> 00:07:08.519 to navigate in the world. When did you decide to sort of own that? 103 00:07:09.920 --> 00:07:12.319 When I was trying to come up with a subtitle, I guess you 104 00:07:12.360 --> 00:07:15.160 know. I mean, I've just I'll be forty three on Friday, so 105 00:07:15.199 --> 00:07:18.800 in two days, I'll be forty three. Happy birthday, and I'm Jim 106 00:07:18.839 --> 00:07:25.279 and I and I'm sure that's not a surprise. But I've just always been 107 00:07:25.319 --> 00:07:29.120 told like people are just always shocked at my age, Like just for years 108 00:07:29.120 --> 00:07:31.399 and years and years, people have always told me how young I look, 109 00:07:31.439 --> 00:07:33.600 and they always think I'm a lot younger. And now I have, like 110 00:07:33.600 --> 00:07:36.120 I said, I have a teenage daughter, and so she and I will 111 00:07:36.160 --> 00:07:41.120 be out in public somewhere shopping and we're having a conversation and people will hear 112 00:07:41.199 --> 00:07:45.759 her call me mom and what like they thought we were sisters. And so 113 00:07:45.800 --> 00:07:47.639 it wasn't like really an intentional thing, but I was like, hmm, 114 00:07:47.720 --> 00:07:51.800 maybe, like I'm onto something with this whole like looking younger than I am 115 00:07:53.439 --> 00:07:58.399 and wanting to help other women feel good as they get older. So like 116 00:07:58.439 --> 00:08:01.920 my whole mission with this podcast and with you know what I'm what I do 117 00:08:01.000 --> 00:08:05.720 for a living is to help women be the happiest, healthiest, and hottest 118 00:08:05.800 --> 00:08:09.480 in their forties and beyond. So I feel like women get to a certain 119 00:08:09.519 --> 00:08:13.319 point where it's like they feel like it's too late, and that's really just 120 00:08:13.360 --> 00:08:18.319 people in general, but women especially right, and so I'm like, it 121 00:08:18.360 --> 00:08:20.040 can actually get better. Because you mentioned about what I looked like when I 122 00:08:20.079 --> 00:08:22.680 was twenty three, I was not hot. When I was twenty three, 123 00:08:22.800 --> 00:08:26.439 I was overweight. I was not health conscious at all. It was like 124 00:08:26.480 --> 00:08:31.319 super inflamed. I like if I pulled up a photo of myself, you 125 00:08:31.319 --> 00:08:35.919 would be shocked. So it's been It wasn't one of those things where I 126 00:08:35.120 --> 00:08:39.720 just was like, oh, like just effortlessly hot. Like. It's taken 127 00:08:39.759 --> 00:08:43.120 me a lot of intention, and I've had a lot of health issues that 128 00:08:43.120 --> 00:08:46.720 I've had to overcome as well through that process. So I just want to 129 00:08:46.960 --> 00:08:52.919 help women with all of the experiences I've had. So when did you shift 130 00:08:52.480 --> 00:09:00.879 more change from a woman who needed help to a woman who was providing the 131 00:09:00.960 --> 00:09:03.600 help. Was there like a fork in the road where you flip the cards 132 00:09:03.679 --> 00:09:05.639 enough to think like, Okay, I have a handle on this and I've 133 00:09:05.679 --> 00:09:09.799 gone far enough down this journey that i think I can influence and have a 134 00:09:09.879 --> 00:09:15.159 voice in this conversation. I mean, it's been ongoing, but I would 135 00:09:15.240 --> 00:09:20.320 say really, for me, in the last probably six to eight months, 136 00:09:20.440 --> 00:09:24.159 you know, one of my first episodes I did was the three like shifts 137 00:09:24.200 --> 00:09:26.320 that I made in my health over the last year. And one of those 138 00:09:26.360 --> 00:09:30.320 big things for me was I lost twenty five pounds. I had been really 139 00:09:30.320 --> 00:09:33.240 sick for about three or four years. I had mold exposure which caused me 140 00:09:33.320 --> 00:09:35.440 to gain a lot of weight, and I finally got that weight off. 141 00:09:35.600 --> 00:09:39.559 You know, like I didn't feel good about myself this time last year. 142 00:09:39.559 --> 00:09:41.240 I'll just say that, like I was. I was definitely struggling. It 143 00:09:41.279 --> 00:09:46.320 was affecting how I was showing up. It was affecting my business. And 144 00:09:46.080 --> 00:09:50.039 that's why it's so important. That's why I really think it's so important, 145 00:09:50.120 --> 00:09:54.120 because when you don't feel confident, it affects how you show up and how 146 00:09:54.159 --> 00:09:58.360 you can impact others and impact the world. So I saw my business suffer 147 00:09:58.840 --> 00:10:01.960 as a result of, you know, low self esteem. So there was 148 00:10:01.000 --> 00:10:05.080 that. I lost weight, I got some things shifted and fixed with my 149 00:10:05.159 --> 00:10:07.000 health, and we moved to Florida. I was living in Colorado, which 150 00:10:07.080 --> 00:10:11.159 was beautiful, but it was cold for I don't know, like nine ten 151 00:10:11.200 --> 00:10:16.039 months out of the year, we had snow in the you know. At 152 00:10:16.039 --> 00:10:18.799 the end of May last year, my daughter graduated in a blizzard, and 153 00:10:18.840 --> 00:10:20.279 I just said, I can't do this anymore. I moved to Florida, 154 00:10:20.360 --> 00:10:24.159 and I just feel so good in the sunshine, like it's just healing my 155 00:10:24.240 --> 00:10:26.799 body. But you also can't hide behind the clothes anymore. You have to 156 00:10:26.879 --> 00:10:31.200 be out there. You're wearing less. You have to end, as I 157 00:10:31.200 --> 00:10:33.960 said, your husband is on this podcast. He's very fit. Yes, 158 00:10:35.480 --> 00:10:39.000 during that time, did that motivate you that or did that put you into 159 00:10:39.080 --> 00:10:43.240 like a darker hole because you were struggling with your health and you're struggling with 160 00:10:43.279 --> 00:10:46.120 your body. How does that work? Because normally it's the man who's kind 161 00:10:46.120 --> 00:10:52.200 of it's definitely a motivator because he's always been fit and he's always been just 162 00:10:52.480 --> 00:10:56.240 into fitness. Like, he's always looked good personally. I think he looks 163 00:10:56.279 --> 00:11:01.759 better now than he ever has at forty five years old. But yeah, 164 00:11:01.799 --> 00:11:03.519 I mean it definitely made me self conscious. I mean, first of all, 165 00:11:03.519 --> 00:11:07.879 I'm secure in my relationship. Ain't no bitch coming along and stealing my 166 00:11:07.960 --> 00:11:11.639 husband. I'll just say that, bitchy bitches, but beacious. But I 167 00:11:11.679 --> 00:11:15.200 want to look good. I want to look good for him, but you 168 00:11:15.200 --> 00:11:16.519 know I want to look good for me too, So yeah, I mean 169 00:11:18.039 --> 00:11:22.799 it definitely there. It definitely has made me feel self conscious over the years 170 00:11:22.799 --> 00:11:28.600 because he's always been more into the fitness arena than I have. I wrote 171 00:11:28.600 --> 00:11:31.120 a line twenty years ago. I wrote this line. I wrote it in 172 00:11:31.159 --> 00:11:35.200 a play that I did. But I look back and I stand by it, 173 00:11:35.480 --> 00:11:39.000 and I said that a woman finds her finds her way through her teens, 174 00:11:39.519 --> 00:11:41.240 finds her body in her twenties, finds her face in her thirties, 175 00:11:41.240 --> 00:11:46.000 and finds herself in her forties. When did you feel you found yourself? 176 00:11:46.480 --> 00:11:50.600 Was that after becoming a mom? Was that after like was there a moment, 177 00:11:50.679 --> 00:11:54.720 like a light bulb moment where you because you know you and your husband 178 00:11:54.799 --> 00:11:58.919 both have shared your fairly publicly, your sort of rags to rich's story, 179 00:12:00.559 --> 00:12:03.639 what was the light bulb that went on for you that had been like, 180 00:12:03.879 --> 00:12:07.159 I can do whatever I want to do, how I want to do it. 181 00:12:07.039 --> 00:12:13.080 I think it would be really hard to define it into just one single 182 00:12:13.080 --> 00:12:18.759 moment. It's been a journey with lots of ups and downs and bumps, 183 00:12:18.799 --> 00:12:22.399 and it's not necessarily been linear. Was there a lowest low though? Like, 184 00:12:22.480 --> 00:12:26.879 can you pinpoint that it's like we have got to make some changes and 185 00:12:26.159 --> 00:12:31.159 fuck this? Because that's where people are in the dating world where I tell 186 00:12:31.159 --> 00:12:33.679 people all the time you talk about moving from Colorado. I know you moved 187 00:12:33.720 --> 00:12:35.960 to Colorado. I know you've moved a bunch of times where I say that 188 00:12:37.279 --> 00:12:39.960 if you are in a funk and you really need to shake up your snow 189 00:12:39.960 --> 00:12:45.639 globe, Get the fuck out, go somewhere else. Change your scenery, 190 00:12:45.799 --> 00:12:50.480 change your perspective, probably change your outcome. Was there a low point where 191 00:12:50.519 --> 00:12:54.600 you, guys or you on your own were just like, I'm not doing 192 00:12:54.600 --> 00:12:58.679 fifty years like this. Yeah, I mean there's been there's been several. 193 00:12:58.840 --> 00:13:03.200 I would say that the the big shift for us started about sixteen years ago 194 00:13:03.240 --> 00:13:07.039 when I started my first business, and that was I had a three year 195 00:13:07.039 --> 00:13:11.240 old, I was pregnant with my second child. I didn't want to just 196 00:13:11.279 --> 00:13:15.559 basically work to pay for daycare, and I knew I had to do something. 197 00:13:15.639 --> 00:13:18.960 So I started my first like home business at the time, and that 198 00:13:18.600 --> 00:13:22.840 was when I first made that decision like I'm going to make a shift, 199 00:13:22.879 --> 00:13:26.879 And so it initially started as like a survival like I need to be able 200 00:13:26.919 --> 00:13:35.080 to survive, and it shifted me into this state of just running after success 201 00:13:35.559 --> 00:13:41.399 and deciding I wasn't gonna continue living the way that I was living. The 202 00:13:41.440 --> 00:13:45.799 next shift for me was in twenty ten when my son was diagnosed with autism 203 00:13:45.840 --> 00:13:48.519 and we just weren't really giving any help from the medical world. Simultaneously, 204 00:13:48.559 --> 00:13:54.080 I'm dealing with my own health challenges and you know when you go to someone 205 00:13:54.120 --> 00:13:56.840 that is the expert and they basically tell you good luck. You know, 206 00:13:58.960 --> 00:14:01.480 I had a pity party for myself for a couple of months, you know, 207 00:14:01.559 --> 00:14:05.080 like I had to like process everything, and then I was like, 208 00:14:05.159 --> 00:14:07.120 fuck this, I'm can I say that on parre of it? Okay, 209 00:14:07.840 --> 00:14:11.320 I'm going to take matters into my own hands. And so you know, 210 00:14:11.399 --> 00:14:16.879 my son is fifteen and he's doing great. But it was because I took 211 00:14:16.919 --> 00:14:22.240 that power into my hands, and honestly, that was probably the thing that 212 00:14:22.320 --> 00:14:28.200 really changed my health and just kind of got me to where I am now. 213 00:14:28.240 --> 00:14:31.919 Okay, So I will say this, because of the changes that we 214 00:14:31.000 --> 00:14:35.279 made because of our son, with our lifestyle and our diet and our health, 215 00:14:35.679 --> 00:14:39.360 I truly believe that because of that, my husband and I have aged 216 00:14:39.679 --> 00:14:46.279 substantially better than our peers. Like it was that that rock bottom thing that 217 00:14:46.919 --> 00:14:50.840 was like awful for us that forced us to make those changes that now here 218 00:14:50.879 --> 00:14:56.840 we are thirteen years later, and I'm actually thankful that that happened, because 219 00:14:56.840 --> 00:14:58.840 if it hadn't, I would I would probably be fifteen sitting here in the 220 00:15:00.120 --> 00:15:01.639 chair. I wouldn't be sitting in this chair across from you, But if 221 00:15:01.639 --> 00:15:05.960 I was, I would probably be fifty pounds heavier, dealing with all kinds 222 00:15:07.000 --> 00:15:09.639 of chronic health issues, not feeling good about myself, right, you know 223 00:15:09.639 --> 00:15:13.600 what I mean? Good? And I'm glad you're sitting in this chair. 224 00:15:13.799 --> 00:15:16.720 We have to pay for fresh milk around here. We are with a host 225 00:15:16.799 --> 00:15:18.440 of spoiled milk. She's an influencer and a whole lot of other things, 226 00:15:18.440 --> 00:15:22.480 brokerash. We are going to get into a lot of that because I have 227 00:15:22.519 --> 00:15:26.200 a bunch of questions, but I'm going to take a break right after this 228 00:15:31.039 --> 00:15:37.200 and we are back. Being an influencer means that you are setting yourself up 229 00:15:37.200 --> 00:15:41.879 for a whole lot of haters. Did you instantly learn to tune that out? 230 00:15:43.279 --> 00:15:46.600 Or is it still to this day? You're like, every time you 231 00:15:46.679 --> 00:15:50.320 go on social media you pay attention to that. How do you tune up 232 00:15:50.360 --> 00:15:56.600 that noise? I mean, yeah, it's it. The louder you are, 233 00:15:56.639 --> 00:16:02.200 the more people you hear from. Right, So, I think over 234 00:16:02.240 --> 00:16:03.799 the years, I've gotten used to it. You know, people are going 235 00:16:03.879 --> 00:16:07.000 to have opinions. I always that's what you know. I work with women, 236 00:16:07.039 --> 00:16:11.919 and I help women make money online. I help influencers leverage their platform, 237 00:16:11.519 --> 00:16:15.120 and people don't want to put themselves out there because they're afraid of judgment. 238 00:16:15.320 --> 00:16:18.720 And I'm like, why do you care? Like those people aren't paying 239 00:16:18.759 --> 00:16:22.399 your bills. Like people are going to have opinions of you regardless, no 240 00:16:22.480 --> 00:16:27.399 matter what you do. And so it definitely has taken me time in developing 241 00:16:27.879 --> 00:16:33.639 thick skin to just you know, be like okay, whatever now. Jason, 242 00:16:33.679 --> 00:16:36.159 I will say he deals with it a lot better than I do. 243 00:16:36.200 --> 00:16:38.120 I think he really enjoys it, like he gets off on it. Yeah, 244 00:16:38.120 --> 00:16:41.080 I like me. I love it as long as you're listening. Yeah, 245 00:16:41.840 --> 00:16:47.399 yeah, But I definitely see how it can shut people down who aren't 246 00:16:47.440 --> 00:16:49.759 maybe strong enough to handle it. Well. You know, when you set 247 00:16:49.799 --> 00:16:53.399 some goals and you achieve some of them, I think it's positive to share 248 00:16:53.440 --> 00:16:57.000 them. I talked a little bit on that podcast with Jason about this, 249 00:16:57.200 --> 00:17:03.720 and as you said, and most people are just trying to get through the 250 00:17:03.759 --> 00:17:07.920 hour, much less the day, and especially if you are a parent, 251 00:17:07.960 --> 00:17:11.240 which I can under I can understand from a distance, not up close. 252 00:17:11.559 --> 00:17:15.319 It is a shit storm trying to survive every single day as a parent, 253 00:17:15.359 --> 00:17:18.359 which is why I am not one. It seems awful, But when you 254 00:17:18.400 --> 00:17:21.519 were in a place like this, a lovely part of the world. You 255 00:17:21.519 --> 00:17:26.079 are in Palm Beach and it is beautiful. It does you have a choice 256 00:17:26.119 --> 00:17:30.359 to look at these twenty thirty forty million dollar homes and look at them with 257 00:17:30.640 --> 00:17:36.720 envy or look at them with motivation. And I get that people are most 258 00:17:36.720 --> 00:17:38.880 people are. You can barely, you know, get through the week and 259 00:17:40.039 --> 00:17:41.759 pay your bills and cover that. It's really hard to see that as an 260 00:17:41.759 --> 00:17:47.480 option. But if you have an incremental goal that substantially moves you out of 261 00:17:47.519 --> 00:17:49.920 your place in life or your comfort zone and sort of shoot for that, 262 00:17:51.000 --> 00:17:55.079 that was what he said is the biggest mistake that people make, at least 263 00:17:55.079 --> 00:17:57.640 when it comes to money, is they don't make goals big enough. How 264 00:17:57.680 --> 00:18:00.759 do you go from a day of just like, listen, I'm just trying 265 00:18:00.799 --> 00:18:04.039 to survive. I'm just trying to get some answers here too. Is there 266 00:18:04.079 --> 00:18:10.279 a path for me to have a second home or a first home, or 267 00:18:10.279 --> 00:18:14.920 a boat or move or private school or any of these things? How do 268 00:18:14.960 --> 00:18:21.960 you sort of harness the negativeness and still point your arrow in a better direction? 269 00:18:22.920 --> 00:18:29.160 Mindset? I mean, here's the thing I have a really hard time 270 00:18:30.000 --> 00:18:33.839 dealing with people who make excuses because we're all dealing with shit, all the 271 00:18:33.880 --> 00:18:37.759 things that you just talked about. Everyone has no matter what walk of life 272 00:18:37.759 --> 00:18:44.599 you come from, everyone's dealing with something right. It's up to you how 273 00:18:44.640 --> 00:18:48.960 you choose to deal with it right. And I came from nothing and I've 274 00:18:48.000 --> 00:18:52.440 made something out of myself because I chose to. I wasn't lucky, I 275 00:18:52.519 --> 00:18:56.759 wasn't privileged, No one gave me anything, like, I've worked my ass 276 00:18:56.799 --> 00:19:02.359 off for everything that I have, every opportunity, like if it comes to 277 00:19:02.400 --> 00:19:06.079 me, awesome, or I'll chase it down if I have to, you 278 00:19:06.079 --> 00:19:08.480 know. So it really boils down to mindset, like I'm just coming off 279 00:19:08.519 --> 00:19:12.400 of. I was sick for a few days and that was really triggering for 280 00:19:12.440 --> 00:19:17.839 me after being ill for four years. I actually had to go to the 281 00:19:18.279 --> 00:19:21.960 er because my fever got really high and I got dehydrated. I had to 282 00:19:21.960 --> 00:19:26.400 go get fluids and anyhow, I mean, yeah, I mean it all 283 00:19:26.480 --> 00:19:29.960 comes back to mindset. It's like, Okay, I have to make a 284 00:19:30.799 --> 00:19:33.559 mindset shift, right. You have to make a mindset shift, and you 285 00:19:33.640 --> 00:19:37.359 have to be intentional and you have to work on your mindset every day. 286 00:19:37.400 --> 00:19:41.200 Every day is not going to be great. But as long as each day, 287 00:19:41.680 --> 00:19:42.440 as long as you don't stew in it, right, as long as 288 00:19:42.440 --> 00:19:45.079 you don't stay there, like if you need to have a bad day, 289 00:19:45.119 --> 00:19:48.359 like I have a bad day, but just don't let yourself, don't let 290 00:19:48.400 --> 00:19:52.279 yourself stay there. And you mentioned about the homes here, and it's very 291 00:19:52.319 --> 00:19:55.440 interesting that you said that because I feel like when we were in Colorado we 292 00:19:55.480 --> 00:20:00.759 got a little complacent because people out there are just kind of like into nature 293 00:20:00.839 --> 00:20:03.519 and hiking, you want to be out of your home, Yeah, in 294 00:20:03.519 --> 00:20:07.799 Colorado. Yeah, It's just it's a different vibe there, whereas here, 295 00:20:07.799 --> 00:20:11.799 like people are motivated, you know, like we've met a lot of really 296 00:20:11.839 --> 00:20:17.680 cool people here and it actually helped us step our game up and start to 297 00:20:17.759 --> 00:20:21.279 dream again. So you can look at those houses and you can have envy, 298 00:20:21.319 --> 00:20:25.400 and you can think negative things about those people, But the truth is 299 00:20:25.400 --> 00:20:26.400 a lot of those people, you know, of course, some of them 300 00:20:26.480 --> 00:20:32.400 are not first generation money, right, but at somewhere, somewhere along the 301 00:20:32.440 --> 00:20:34.640 line, somewhere in their fam someone and their family had to say this stops 302 00:20:34.640 --> 00:20:37.079 with me. I'm going to make a change and that's what my husband and 303 00:20:37.079 --> 00:20:41.519 I are doing. So you can look at those people and you can be 304 00:20:41.680 --> 00:20:45.759 envious, or you can look at them and you can be inspired. And 305 00:20:45.839 --> 00:20:48.039 that's that's what they do for us here. Like I'm glad we move because 306 00:20:48.039 --> 00:20:52.079 now I'm around bigger things and it's given me something more to work for. 307 00:20:52.200 --> 00:20:55.960 Because you always have to have goals out in front of you. If you 308 00:20:56.480 --> 00:20:59.920 stop, you're just gonna stop. Like if you stop dreaming and you stop 309 00:21:00.000 --> 00:21:03.000 setting goals, you're going to get complacent. And you have got to get 310 00:21:03.119 --> 00:21:08.480 rid of the words why her or why him, Like you have got to 311 00:21:08.480 --> 00:21:11.680 stop looking at other people as envy. You have to look at the other 312 00:21:11.720 --> 00:21:15.319 people as there are possibilities out there. I bet we will bring this up 313 00:21:15.359 --> 00:21:19.799 on the Bachelor and Bacherette Party show, but there's a different energy between we. 314 00:21:19.920 --> 00:21:22.480 I shot a pilot for VH one about this years ago. It was 315 00:21:22.480 --> 00:21:27.200 called Last Night, and it was about men and women's bachelorette and bacherette parties, 316 00:21:27.200 --> 00:21:32.759 and the men wanted to go to bachelor parties to do bad things. 317 00:21:33.279 --> 00:21:37.079 The women wanted the bride to do bad things because there was a certain element 318 00:21:37.160 --> 00:21:44.720 of jealousy and cattiness that they did not necessarily support her in this. And 319 00:21:44.799 --> 00:21:47.680 when you surround yourself with that negative energy, you should be like, great, 320 00:21:47.680 --> 00:21:49.400 she's getting married. That means it's possible for somebody to find happiness and 321 00:21:49.440 --> 00:21:52.240 love or whatever. That's a good environment to be around. When you were 322 00:21:52.559 --> 00:21:56.440 in a wealthy community like that, you shouldn't drive around being pissed off at 323 00:21:56.440 --> 00:22:00.240 the one percent or the point one percent that is here. You should be 324 00:22:00.319 --> 00:22:04.119 like, there are possibilities for people from all walks of life who took all 325 00:22:04.160 --> 00:22:08.000 paths to get there. When you surround yourself and you get rid of the 326 00:22:08.279 --> 00:22:12.480 envy of people around you, you should want people to be happy and successful 327 00:22:12.519 --> 00:22:15.920 and not look at it. It just means the odds are better than you 328 00:22:17.000 --> 00:22:19.720 thought. That people can make it right one hundred percent. You have to 329 00:22:19.720 --> 00:22:23.599 believe that anything and everything is possible for you, and if you don't believe 330 00:22:23.640 --> 00:22:29.240 that it's possible, then it's not. And you're originally from where I'm originally 331 00:22:29.240 --> 00:22:33.319 from a really small town in Alabama. Okay, so a really small town 332 00:22:33.359 --> 00:22:37.680 in Alabama? Are you? Is there always a point where you're like, 333 00:22:37.720 --> 00:22:38.799 I want to get out of my small town in Alabama? Because most of 334 00:22:38.799 --> 00:22:41.079 people in your small town in Alabama are probably still in your small town in 335 00:22:41.119 --> 00:22:45.759 Alabama, just like every town. Eighty percent of people stay in their hometown, 336 00:22:45.759 --> 00:22:48.920 regardless of what that is for most of their lives. Some of that 337 00:22:48.000 --> 00:22:51.759 is habits, some of that is laziness of as family. Sometimes it's just 338 00:22:51.759 --> 00:22:55.440 a really nice town. I don't know, I grew up in a really 339 00:22:55.480 --> 00:22:56.640 nice town. I don't want any part of it. If that's me, 340 00:22:57.559 --> 00:23:00.039 were you when did you be? Like? I want to get beyond my 341 00:23:00.079 --> 00:23:03.400 small town in Alabama. I want to get out of Alabama. Like how 342 00:23:03.400 --> 00:23:07.039 did those increments go? As long as I could remember, I mean, 343 00:23:07.079 --> 00:23:11.000 I grew up in poverty, so I remember from a very young age being 344 00:23:11.079 --> 00:23:14.319 like, why aren't we rich? I don't understand, like why do we 345 00:23:14.359 --> 00:23:15.759 not have money? Like I see other people on TV that have money, 346 00:23:15.799 --> 00:23:18.519 Like I want more? So yeah, I always wanted to get out. 347 00:23:18.559 --> 00:23:22.400 And don't get me wrong, there are great people where I'm from, and 348 00:23:22.440 --> 00:23:26.319 I love Alabama. I appreciate my roots because I really especially my grandparents, 349 00:23:26.359 --> 00:23:30.559 like really raise me to have morals and you know, really developed who I 350 00:23:30.599 --> 00:23:36.559 am underneath. But I felt that in anyone who is from a small town 351 00:23:36.599 --> 00:23:41.119 probably understands this that there's a very limited thinking, especially when people never get 352 00:23:41.119 --> 00:23:45.759 outside of that area. So I knew I had to I had to get 353 00:23:45.799 --> 00:23:48.440 out, right, you can always go back, but you got to get 354 00:23:48.440 --> 00:23:52.160 out to know whether or not you want to go back. You've got to 355 00:23:52.279 --> 00:23:53.960 leave at some point. I don't care how comfortable you are, are you 356 00:23:55.119 --> 00:23:57.440 you've got to go try it. We bring that up on this podcast all 357 00:23:57.480 --> 00:24:03.799 the time that we think if you are not in a committed relationship or you're 358 00:24:03.799 --> 00:24:07.880 not you need to move at least seven hundred miles every seven years, yep, 359 00:24:10.039 --> 00:24:12.079 like a real distance, not just from here to there, not two 360 00:24:12.119 --> 00:24:17.319 towns over, like really experience what it's like to live in a different part 361 00:24:17.359 --> 00:24:19.480 of the country, even even different part of the world. You will discover 362 00:24:19.640 --> 00:24:22.640 more things about yourself than you ever will about the new town that you're in 363 00:24:22.720 --> 00:24:26.880 or the town that you left behind. And I think people don't do that, 364 00:24:26.000 --> 00:24:30.960 and I'm always you know, we run into a lot of people who 365 00:24:30.960 --> 00:24:34.400 are frustrated in their love, dating, relationship environment. They're going to the 366 00:24:34.400 --> 00:24:38.400 same bar they went to in high school. You know, they're recycling the 367 00:24:38.440 --> 00:24:42.279 boyfriend from junior year, they're hoping the guy down the street who they had 368 00:24:42.319 --> 00:24:47.319 a crush on him got divorced, Like there has to be a different sandbox 369 00:24:47.359 --> 00:24:49.359 to kick around in, you know, I know those people. Actually, 370 00:24:51.240 --> 00:24:55.240 do you feel when you're in communication with them? Do you feel envy from 371 00:24:55.319 --> 00:24:59.240 them? Do you feel like you go brook? Like what are you getting 372 00:24:59.279 --> 00:25:03.880 back? I just you know, like my best friend growing up, that's 373 00:25:03.880 --> 00:25:08.039 her kind of situation. Like she's my age, she's divorced, she's doing 374 00:25:08.039 --> 00:25:11.240 the whole dating app thing, still in the same you know, like small 375 00:25:11.279 --> 00:25:15.640 town, and I just feel bad for her, Like, you know, 376 00:25:15.680 --> 00:25:18.599 she's not like MBS. She's always been supportive of me. But I just 377 00:25:18.400 --> 00:25:22.720 I just like, wow, Like I'm just I'm grateful that I'm not in 378 00:25:22.720 --> 00:25:29.680 that situation. Slight pivot here, and not to sound like your gay best 379 00:25:29.680 --> 00:25:32.960 friend, but you have fantastic hair, and I know you take great pride 380 00:25:33.000 --> 00:25:36.119 in that. Somebody told me this a couple of months ago, as she 381 00:25:36.160 --> 00:25:40.799 was actually a doctor. She said, the thing that people underestimate about what 382 00:25:40.880 --> 00:25:45.880 is going to help them look youthful and vibrant is not the color of their 383 00:25:45.880 --> 00:25:48.000 hair. They spend too much time worrying about grays, it's the health of 384 00:25:48.039 --> 00:25:52.240 their hair, and they say a healthy hair frames the face and sets up 385 00:25:52.319 --> 00:25:57.839 everything for youthfulness. You believe in that, And how do we get healthier 386 00:25:57.880 --> 00:26:00.240 hair? Oh yeah, I mean you have the wrong hairstyle and it can 387 00:26:00.319 --> 00:26:04.480 age you twenty years for sure. One of the things that people don't know 388 00:26:04.519 --> 00:26:08.599 women, especially is that our hair actually ages faster than our skin. We're 389 00:26:08.720 --> 00:26:14.960 very busy slathering anti aging skincare products all over our face and our neck and 390 00:26:15.000 --> 00:26:18.799 the rest of our body, but we're completely neglecting our hair and our scalp. 391 00:26:18.839 --> 00:26:21.599 And your hair health starts with your scalp. So if you support your 392 00:26:21.680 --> 00:26:26.640 scalp and you support scalp health, then you're going to have healthy hair growth. 393 00:26:26.279 --> 00:26:29.240 And then of course a lot of that has to do with what you're 394 00:26:29.279 --> 00:26:32.039 putting into your body as well, like what is your lifestyle, Like what 395 00:26:32.039 --> 00:26:33.960 are you eating? Are you running through the drive through at McDonald's or you 396 00:26:34.000 --> 00:26:37.640 know, And if you have that healthy glow, you're going to make yourself 397 00:26:37.680 --> 00:26:41.079 attractive and more noticeable and just look like you give a shit. And people 398 00:26:41.119 --> 00:26:45.480 worry way too much about the color the grays and don't worry about the rest 399 00:26:45.519 --> 00:26:49.160 of the stuff. I don't care personally about my hair, but I have 400 00:26:49.240 --> 00:26:52.680 hair. It's easier for me to say, you know, the balding men 401 00:26:52.759 --> 00:26:57.519 out there like to do something, you know, work on it, book 402 00:26:57.559 --> 00:27:02.039 healthier, whatever. A right. I'm gonna let you plug all your stuff 403 00:27:02.079 --> 00:27:03.640 and the podcast in a second. But this is your first time on the 404 00:27:03.680 --> 00:27:06.799 show. You have to think back to your many many years, to your 405 00:27:06.839 --> 00:27:11.319 swinging single days. We play something called worst date or first date, So 406 00:27:11.440 --> 00:27:15.799 you have to either give us the absolute worst date you ever went on your 407 00:27:15.799 --> 00:27:18.039 life or the greatest first date you ever went on in your life. Your 408 00:27:18.119 --> 00:27:25.160 choice. Oh my gosh. So here's the thing you said, you're swinging 409 00:27:25.160 --> 00:27:27.359 twenties. I met Jason when I was nineteen. Okay, Well, in 410 00:27:27.599 --> 00:27:33.799 your Alabama swinging teen days, I dated a few losers. I'll just say 411 00:27:33.839 --> 00:27:36.279 that. Okay, Well, what was your first date with your husband at 412 00:27:36.319 --> 00:27:38.720 nineteen? Do you remember? Is it going down to the well? I'll 413 00:27:38.720 --> 00:27:41.039 tell you the story of how we met. How about that, deil? 414 00:27:41.200 --> 00:27:45.720 Okay, So we met in English class. We both enrolled in our local 415 00:27:45.920 --> 00:27:51.000 community college, and we were in English one oh one and we kind of 416 00:27:51.039 --> 00:27:52.319 had ran in some of the same circles, so we never met each other. 417 00:27:52.880 --> 00:27:56.839 Well, he walked in and I was immediately enamored, like who was 418 00:27:56.839 --> 00:28:00.759 this guy? I was attracted to his energy. So it had been a 419 00:28:00.799 --> 00:28:03.240 few weeks. And then finally we go to a computer lab. Okay, 420 00:28:03.279 --> 00:28:06.000 so this is dating it a little bit. So this is before we carried 421 00:28:06.799 --> 00:28:08.000 like computers in our hand, right, So you had to go to the 422 00:28:08.000 --> 00:28:12.240 computer lab. You had to go to the computer lab for whatever the project 423 00:28:12.440 --> 00:28:15.880 was. And he comes in late, the last seed available, sitting next 424 00:28:15.920 --> 00:28:21.359 to me at the computer lab, and so I'm over there feverishly typing because 425 00:28:21.359 --> 00:28:23.400 I've always been a social media girl, even like from the very beginning. 426 00:28:25.119 --> 00:28:26.680 And he's like, so what do you what are you doing over there? 427 00:28:26.759 --> 00:28:29.960 And I'm like, I'm just talking to my friend in New York. And 428 00:28:30.160 --> 00:28:32.359 keep in mind we're in Alabama, so I don't, you know, have 429 00:28:32.440 --> 00:28:34.440 a network at this point, but like you're talking to someone New York, 430 00:28:34.799 --> 00:28:37.039 like New York, Like now, that's like no big deal. But in 431 00:28:37.440 --> 00:28:41.039 the year two thousand, we had just survived y two k Okay, this 432 00:28:41.079 --> 00:28:44.440 is where we're at. And he was like, what is that? And 433 00:28:44.480 --> 00:28:47.480 I was like, oh, it's AOL instant messenger, and he says, 434 00:28:48.880 --> 00:28:52.440 I know right, and he's I probably downloaded it illegally on the school computer 435 00:28:52.559 --> 00:28:55.759 too, now that I think about it, I'm sure it wasn't on there, 436 00:28:56.759 --> 00:29:00.119 but or installed it. But he says, hey, I just got 437 00:29:00.119 --> 00:29:06.039 a computer for Christmas, actually, and would you mind coming over to my 438 00:29:06.200 --> 00:29:11.319 place after class and showing me how to install this program? So of course 439 00:29:11.359 --> 00:29:12.839 I'm like, well, yeah, like ause, I totally had the hots 440 00:29:12.880 --> 00:29:17.240 for this guy. So that was really kind of our first date. I 441 00:29:17.319 --> 00:29:21.720 had a tutoring session afterwards because I sucked at math and my tutor happened to 442 00:29:21.720 --> 00:29:23.160 live in the same neighborhood as him. So I was like, after my 443 00:29:23.240 --> 00:29:26.519 math session, which I totally didn't pay attention to at all, I'm like, 444 00:29:26.559 --> 00:29:30.200 I'll swing by and I'll show you how to install this program. And 445 00:29:30.279 --> 00:29:33.920 so I go over to his house and I show him how to install the 446 00:29:33.960 --> 00:29:37.519 program, and we hung out and talked for a while, and I remember 447 00:29:37.559 --> 00:29:41.519 I was so angry he didn't not so angry, Okay, I was disappointed 448 00:29:41.880 --> 00:29:45.000 that he didn't like try to kiss me, like the first time that I 449 00:29:45.039 --> 00:29:47.039 went over to his place. He's like, all right, see you later. 450 00:29:47.079 --> 00:29:49.119 And shut the door, and I was like, what come to find 451 00:29:49.160 --> 00:29:53.119 out he had a girlfriend and he had to break up with But years later 452 00:29:53.480 --> 00:29:56.960 I found out. I mean it was probably like ten or more years later. 453 00:29:56.119 --> 00:29:59.839 All of a sudden, we were talking to someone and he tells some 454 00:30:00.519 --> 00:30:07.319 that he actually ran home after class and he deleted AOL and some messenger off 455 00:30:07.359 --> 00:30:11.079 of his computer. So he played he acted like, you know, played 456 00:30:11.119 --> 00:30:14.200 dumb. He acted like he didn't know what AOL and some messenger was so 457 00:30:14.200 --> 00:30:18.200 he could get me to come back to There you go AOL instant messenger love 458 00:30:18.319 --> 00:30:19.759 and there you go, dump the girl, kiss the girl. That's a 459 00:30:19.759 --> 00:30:23.640 good lesson. Good, that's good story. He had integrity. But I 460 00:30:23.680 --> 00:30:29.079 mean I can't remember like a worst day. The worst day to ever had 461 00:30:29.160 --> 00:30:32.920 with Jason was our second wedding anniversary when we went to Macaroni Grill and his 462 00:30:33.000 --> 00:30:37.880 card decline. Yeah, he told the same story. Wow, that was 463 00:30:37.920 --> 00:30:40.519 good. My first time in Alabama. And this is going back to the 464 00:30:40.559 --> 00:30:41.960 phone book days. There were a phone book I had. I was looking 465 00:30:41.960 --> 00:30:45.599 for restaurants and I saw under Italian restaurants and I just saw Dominoes and I 466 00:30:45.640 --> 00:30:49.359 was like, I'm not in New York anymore. No, But I just 467 00:30:49.359 --> 00:30:52.000 remember the respect I got when I said it's from New York. Somebody goes, 468 00:30:52.039 --> 00:30:55.160 I go away from I go New York where New York City? And 469 00:30:55.160 --> 00:30:56.759 they go, oh, do you have sex with supermodels? And I'm like, 470 00:30:56.839 --> 00:31:00.480 well, no, there's like twelve million people there, maybe four have 471 00:31:00.559 --> 00:31:03.160 sex with supermodels. Leo is one of them. I was not one of 472 00:31:03.200 --> 00:31:07.119 fum that was my Alabama are are you know? Like for me, Like, 473 00:31:07.400 --> 00:31:10.720 my impression of New York City was like watching Friends in the nineties. 474 00:31:11.200 --> 00:31:17.000 Growing up as a deal all our foreigners learn English, they watch Friends at 475 00:31:17.039 --> 00:31:18.599 six people talking at the same time. That's not a good impression of New 476 00:31:18.640 --> 00:31:22.759 York because nobody affords that size apartment at that age. So anyway, all 477 00:31:22.839 --> 00:31:26.880 right, plug your plug your world to the world, plug my world. 478 00:31:27.920 --> 00:31:33.160 Yeah. So check out my podcast Spoil Milk. It's the Hot Girl's midlife 479 00:31:33.160 --> 00:31:36.640 Survival Guide. 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