So we're not going to go to Sturgist this year. Susan and I had
planned to go to Sturgis and we are going to rent an RV and we
had not been to Sturgis in I don't know, eight years or so,
and so we went to an RV show, we found an RV to rent
a trailer to tow the motorcycle out there, and we were going to go
live our best life in Sturgis first part of August. But we decided to
cancel because there is that Morning Show convention that kind of overlaps with that,
and I want to go to the Morning Show convention because I get that award
and I'm not going to not show up for the award. Dave, come
on up here, make us beat Dave. Dave, he's not here,
he's in Sturgis, that son of a bitch. Ye. So we just
with driving out there. Takes half a day or more to drive to Sturgis,
and then we would only be able to be out there for a couple
of days and then we'd have to drive back. Then I'd have to fly
to Dallas. So instead of trying to figure that out and cut the trip
short, we just said let's do it another time. Why don't you fly
out a not Texs with a fun and then you guys fly in like a
rend motorcycles that you've done before and then just fly straight to Texas for event.
That's what we're gonna do. Yeah, actually, oh you are gonna
but you are gonna gour No, no, no, we're not gonna go.
No, I'm confused a little bit. We're gonna we're gonna go to
Dallas a couple of days early, rent a motorcycle, drive us to Austin
instead of driving to Sturgison like the thing, fly there and rent bikes that
you have before, and then just fly straight to Texas. Because we wanted
the RV experience. Yeah, we just want the whole experience. But you
know what, it is a first world problem. Oh my god, I
have to cancel one fun trip to take another fun trip. So we're not
complaining. I just thought that was a little life update. Let's check into
the Minnesota goodbuye emails and see what we got. Hello, friends, Please
don't use my name. My mother in law comes multiple times a year,
and every time she comes, it's an argument between me and my husband.
He thinks I'm being unable, unreasonable, and I just need some perspective.
I already know whose side I'm on. She usually stays with us for a
week. She comes here with literally no plans and does not rent a car.
She would be happy sitting on the couch the entire seven days. She
does offer to help, but it's never really anything I really need help with.
She is not conversational and has no interest or input in anything. I
put up with her visits because I obviously want my kids to spend time with
her grandma. I don't want to sound mean, because she's not a terrible
person. She's just kind of a lump and it's awkward and miserable. I
really have no personal relationship with it or at all, despite us being together
for nearly ten years. My husband says I need to be more relaxed about
it and not stress so much. But it's a huge disruption in our day
to day life to have one extra adult who really isn't contributing much or taking
the weight off. As parents, I dread these visits and the argument surrounding
them. Any suggestions you might have would be very welcome. Thank you.
I absolutely understand where you're coming from. Even if the mom had a big
personality and was helpful, I still would be like, multiple times a year.
Now, to me, what does multiple times a year she stays for
a week. If she came, let's say four times a year for a
week, that's a lot. I guess you could look at the bright side
and say, at least she wants to be around her grandkids. But to
sit around on the couch doing nothing for seven days and you don't really connect
with her, there's nothing. I'll be telling you that right now. There's
nothing you can do. You're not going to be able to get your husband
to say, Mom, you come too often, please stop coming. Maybe
plan activities, Say hey, guess what, mom, I got some zoo
passes. Take the kids down to the zoo, or we're gonna drop you
off at the zoo if she doesn't drive, or we're gonna take it to
the arboretum, or we're gonna drop you off of the mall so she's not
sitting there the entire time. Yeah, I was gonna say the same thing.
I trust me, I get it, like I mean I do and
don't. But because at first I was like, if this is one time
a year, you know, I know that you would be like this,
You wouldn't care book whatever, it's one him a year. I'm like,
Dave, I want to know what multiple times a year means. And I
also think, yeah, take advantage of this, be like hey, Grace,
love that you're here. Was thinking maybe you and the kids could go
to a movie tonight and then we could go on a date, and like
you free up. Maybe this kind of benefits you a little bit here and
there where you leave the kids at home with her. Now, I don't
know how old your kids are, because obviously if it's a newborn, you
may not feel comfortable leaving the newborn with grandma. I don't know. But
then go on to a date or maybe play on like a like a cooking
class for him and her. He wants to spend so much time with her.
Get your husband and her out of the house. I don't know.
I'm trying to think of like different things. I personally kind of like some
of my friends that are fine just being lumps on the couch, Like my
friends Samantha, She's finding a lump on the couch. So I don't sit
around feeling guilty that I'm not entertaining her, which is kind of nice.
I don't know. Yeah, that's a tough one. I remember Steve his
mother in law. They used working the show. His mother in law would
come into town a lot and stay for like a couple of weeks, and
I said, dude, that would drive me nuts. And he's like,
no, I kind of like it. And maybe he did, or maybe
that's what he was told to say. I'm not really sure he would genuinely
say he did, because she would do she would help out, yeah,
and actually watch the kids. So he got they kind of got a break
because they didn't have parents that lived here that ever helped them. Yeah.
Well, you know, Susan and I never had that either. We were
talking about that with Alison with you know, Alison, she's got Justin's parents
and they will watch the kids part of the time, and then she's got
us who can watch them, like, you know whatever. But we never
had that when we had little kids. We never had We had Beth.
Beth would help out because she went to the UFM with Carson when he was
little, and Alison whatever, but we never had two at the same time.
We always had like Alison and Carson nine years apart. But but Susan's
mom would come and visit, and honestly, looking back, she's gone.
Now. I wish that she would have come to visit more because she just
didn't, you know what I mean, And I think she probably didn't feel
like she wanted to do intrude or whatever. Next one, I thought you'd
appreciate a story about how my son almost got kidnapped without the kidnapper even knowing.
Here we go backstory. We go to my husband's family's house a bit
where people he doesn't really know that he's related to drive him in golf carts.
So okay, we're talking like great aunts, great uncle's, husband's cousins,
etc. On Saturday, we're at the park at a birthday party.
There was a family reunion. There are two lots of people and a golf
cart. I was pushing my two year old twins on swings and I noticed
what looked like my four year old on the back of a golf cart.
I started yelling, where's Duke? And then it started driving away, So
I started running and yelling to my husband and in laws, where's Duke.
The golf cart circled back and the grandpa age guy said, does he belong
to you. I didn't even know he's on the back until my grandson said
we had an extra passenger. I asked Duke how he got on, and
he said, I saw it driving away, so I ran and I jumped
on the back. Oh God. And when I said, it's not like
it's Uncle Tim's golf cart, he said, who's Uncle Tim? Good God?
He went to soccer camp this morning. I told him there's a golf
cart there, do not get on. And he came back and said,
Mamma, you were right. There was a golf car, but I didn't
get on it. Moral of the story, don't get into strangers cars or
golf carts. Talk with your kids again. Probably they will forget like mine
did. Thank you, Hannah for that messed up story. Hannah. I'm
naming the episode Who's Uncle Tim because it's funny. I love it. First
and foremost. This one is the next one. First foremost, you guys
are raded, And although I don't want to sound like Joan Rivers, I'm
going to ask some sensitive things. One. I loved your segment yesterday on
heartbreak. It was really, really healing to hear I'm not the only one
who took two plus years to fully recover from someone you thought was your human.
Luckily I found my new human. But new is different, and it
indeed sometimes takes a while to realize that new is better. Two questions for
Fallon. Okay, I cannot lie. I follow you on everything. I
love your adorable life. You are literally goals, Dave. I met you
twice at the State Fair, and you are literally so the man. But
at times I feel like a little sprinkle of flavor could be added a little
more often. So if you ever need a twenty something mixed girl views,
I got you bonus, Jenny, your vulnerability, hard work and grind as
a parent and saying for you Drake, and what dude and what that dude
is accomplished in the last two years is amazing. Any who, y'all are
the Bee's knees Chow Chow from Alice. Alice, I like your flavor because
you write in a very colorful way. And I'm impressed that somebody as young
as you knows who Joan Rivers is. Yeah, because Joan Rivers is like,
I mean, she's been dead for like ten years, and she was
like popular back in the eighties and nineties. Maybe he was still popular on
the two thousands up until she passed because she did like fashion police still on
e with her daughter. Okay, see if I got another one one question
for you. I listened to your podcast religiously, and the second I get
off work, I check the irheart app for new podcasts to listen to him
I drive home. It seems like it's been happening more and more, but
the podcast isn't uploaded till the next day or super random times like ten pm.
Is this an issue with the app or are they just getting uploaded late
some days. Love listening to guys so much I get disappointed when I see
there's not a new podcast up from the day. Seriously, love your podcast.
Don't let any minute of them go to waste between my long car rides,
walks and falling asleep to you guys at night. Thanks for all you
do. Wow, thank you, Jessica. I get. Here's how I
know if it's a real problem with the entire platform. We get multiple text
messages and dms, but usually once or twice a week, I'll get somebody
who says, hey, the podcast isn't uploaded. It's three o'clock in the
afternoon, and I always say, try closing the app and restarted again,
or turn your phone off and restarted again, and usually they'll text back and
go, oh, yeah, that worked. I also have completely deleted the
app and redownloaded it because for some reason I've had the app not do you
know how like you get those daily update all these apps I've had it worked,
didn't update my app for a long time and it was outdated and that's
why I wasn't getting stuff. So sometimes I've even deleted the app and redownloaded
it and everything's fine. But yeah, if we if that was consistent,
yeah what you're saying, we would get so many emails and texts. So
I think it's got to be your app. Because Drake definitely puts it up
around the same time every day. I think maybe once every six months somebody
will forget to put the click the upload button and it doesn't get uploaded.
But the most part it should be there. But if it's not just tried
again, what else we got here? Hello? I heard Dave say he
is no longer speaking with Brentley. Brentley is my friend. I'm in friends
with him for over thirty years and we've had our falling outs over the years
because he said it was a terrible friend because I wouldn't call him. He
bought a new house and I never came to visit his new house, and
I never really thought there was an expectation to go see his new house.
But he would get mad at me because when he called, he had the
worst timing ever. Yeah, he would call to talk and catch up.
And one time I was doing a wedding rehearsal because is marrying this couple,
and he calls. I answered the phone because he gets pissed when I don't
answer it, so I called, said hey, I answered. I said,
I'm doing a wedding rehearsal. I can't talk right now, okay bye.
Fine. Another time we were at boy Scout camp. We were literally
getting off the bus and getting our backpacks off the bus. He calls.
I answered the phone and I said, hey, we just got to boy
Scout camp. I can't talk right now, okay fine, bye, And
so that happened a couple of times. I'd give him shit because it was
like, your timing is the worst, And so then he really went off
on me one time and told me what a terrible friend I was, and
then we made up. Probably about five years ago was Susan Eddar cancer scare,
and he made the funny joke about how do you make you know?
How can you tell she's looking at you? Because Susan's eyes are wonky,
and I said, she looked at me and said I don't want to die.
And Brentley broke the tension and he said, how can you tell she's
looking at you? Yea, which is what a friend does. He made
me laugh in a moment that I was not laughing. But even after that,
you guys weren't the same, not quite the same. No, he
was kind of mean. Every time I'd call him. He would spend the
first fifteen minutes of the phone call be like basically making fun of me.
And I was like, okay, all right enough ha ha ha. And
then he had a great moment of vulnerability a year or so ago because we
were talking and he said, man, I'm getting older. I think of
all the girls that I dated that I should have married, and now I'm
alone, and I think of all the girls that I let get away,
that I took for granted, etc. Etc. And I really liked that
conversation and I said man, it's not too late. You're not old.
I said, you'll be old another year or two, but right now,
you're not old. Man can have babies in there like eighties and nineties.
As we can see, you're right good and he son then basically then I
called him in a very vulnerable moment of my own and he was not nice.
He was rude, and I think that he thought that he was justified
in being rude. And that was in November, and I said, I'm
not talking to right now and I haven't talked to him since. So anyway,
just curious if you would do a group therapy on what happened, and
if people think Dave should give him or not. Yeah, I mean,
it wouldn't be a bad idea. I don't know. I just you're not
going to base that on like a pole basically. I mean, people would
say call and makeup, and I would normally say callin makeup too, but
we just there's just so much water under the bridge. Now you kind of
have done that too. You call the makeup and then it's like, you
know, you get to that point a relationship where you have called and made
up a few times, but then you fall back into the same toxic pattern.
So it's probably just not ever going to go back. And it's a
shame because he was the one person in the world, and I mean even
more than Susan in a lot of ways, that I could tell anything too
and there was no shame. Yeah, So we could talk about something disgusting
that we did back in Phoenix or whatever, or something embarrassing that happened back
in Ohio, and we would laugh about it and we would go like,
oh my god, are you kidding you actually did that, But we would
never be like, I can't speak to you anymore after you slept with two
girls in one night and you had a pregnant girlfriend. Not not that that,
actually you get what I'm saying. It was more like, dude,
you're a dog. Yeah, what are you doing this weekend? That type
of thing. So anyway, I hope you have a friend like that,
and I really miss having a friend like that. So please send your friendship
applications. If we can talk about anything, send those into Ryan Show at
KATWB dot com. No, that's the email address. For any questions for
the Minnesota Goodbye, send those to Ryan Show at KATWB dot com. Thank
you for listening. And we'll see tomorrow on the Minnesota. Goodbye,