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Hello everyone, and welcome back to
other podcast episode. My name is Alicia

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Gogin, the host of the Globe
Secrets podcast, where I help you expand

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your mind and become more self awares
so that you can glow up into the

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best version of yourself. Y'all voted
to keep the intro in, so here

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we are. We are not going
to get rid of the intro. Okay,

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honestly, maybe I was just having
a little phase my life where I

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wanted to absolutely rebrand my entire life. But now we're back, and quite

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frankly, I just had one of
those like going into the depth of my

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deep dark hole in my life and
then just coming out being like, actually,

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everything is fine and love does exist. That's how I'm feeling today.

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Anyways, thank you guys for all
the support in last week's episode when it

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came to just asking your guys' advice
on anything, especially when it comes to

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the intro things like that. I
did actually miss last week's episode because I

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was not feeling like recording, which
leads me into today's episode topic, which

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is living life on easy mode.
And I found a quote on Instagram.

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I don't know where it is,
but it basically said if being hard on

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yourself worked, then it would work
by now, And like, can we

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just sit with that quote for a
second, genuinely, like we're out here

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being so damn hard on ourselves.
We are the mental diet sometimes is giving

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like girl relax like very tyrant behavior. When you don't do something perfectly correct,

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you're just like ruining on ruminating I
should say, on it, thinking

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about it over and over and over
again, trying to micromanage your damn life.

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Like we know that doesn't work,
Okay, Come on us perfectionists.

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We know we can't be perfect.
We know, and so many of us

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want to live on easy mode,
like a lot of us. I think,

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you know, the rise of like
the soft life, like feminine energy.

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I think a lot of girls are
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it was a phase like last year
and the year before, and it's

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still probably is. Like a lot
of us want to just relax and chill.

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Not even women, obviously men too, but we're all just sick and

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tired of feeling like everything is so
hard. And you know, I guess

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this episode will be my take in
my belief system and how I view life

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and how I move through life.
So you can take it with a grain

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of salt, you can take it
for what it is. But I do

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think we genuinely make so many things
way harder than it needs to be.

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And I know that because I am
a recovering perfectionist. I am somebody who

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has really genuinely realistically in the three
D reality, in the three D world,

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has lived a hard life. Okay, my mom lived a hard life.

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My dad lived a hard life that
people around me, a lot of

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us, like, we lived a
hard life. And I had to work

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and I had to grind, and
I had to mentally get myself to a

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point where I could get myself out
of that. And now I live a

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life which is way easier than it
even was like two years ago. But

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that doesn't mean that I completely just
like let go of the mindset of like

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everything has to be a hustle and
everything has to be hard, and I

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have to worry about everything because that's
how I'm going to get what I want,

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like, which we know like doesn't. But it's taken me a while

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to slow down and really learn how
to not be so obsessive and a perfectionist

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and really just decide to you know, look, at life. As you

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know, everything is supporting me and
life can be easy. And I want

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to talk about essentially two things,
two mindset shifts really that have helped me.

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This is really actually a belief system
that I have naturally cultivated over the

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years of you know, working through
mental health issues, working through health issues,

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just trying to discover myself. Going
through that self helps improving myself,

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seeing what works, seeing what doesn't. And it's interesting because these two things

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that we're going to be talking about, I'm going to be putting a name

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to them, which is out of
the Hermetic Principles, the seven Hermetic Principles,

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which are basically, like some people
will say, like the laws of

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the universe. There is argument on
like how many laws of the universe there

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is, And you don't have to
believe any of this, like honestly,

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you don't. I believe it,
although I started living life through this lens

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before I even had a name to
it, like the laws of anything.

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But I figured I would just bring
that up because I'm going to be using

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that and I'm going to read something
out for you guys. But essentially this

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is just like ancient wisdom back in
the day, you know, people kind

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of viewed the way that the universe
works, and I honestly do believe this,

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and I think a lot of you
guys will too. So there's two

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laws of the universe that I kind
of like look at the as that really

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helps ground me and bring me back
to what I know is deeply true,

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which is life does not have to
be so hard. I do not have

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to be so much of a stress
ball. I do not have to try

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and be the most perfect version of
myself every single day. We know it

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doesn't work. So let's first talk
about the law of rhythm. And I'm

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going to read off of this article
that I have so you guys can understand

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it, and you guys are going
to resonate with this, Okay, So

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let's talk about it. What is
the law of rhythm? The law of

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rhythm is also known by many names, like the law of cycles or the

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law of the pendulum. The law
of rhythm states that this pendulum swing manifests

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in everything from the natural life cycle
to our own personal experiences. It's like

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a pendulum swing back and forth,
always moving, the shifting of the ocean

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tides. How your mood swings from
good to bad or how life circumstances always

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change. Are all samples of this
rhythm. Change is the law of life.

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Nothing lasts forever, and hold on. It's fine because I don't want

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you guys to be stressing and be
like, oh my god, everything that's

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good in my life is just not
gonna last forever. It's not like that.

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I'm gonna give you some mindset shifts
about how I kind of view this,

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but genuinely, like we have to, like, I don't know,

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I think this really was something that
I don't know, like got switched on

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for me through my life of just
like growing up and realizing that trying to

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do the same thing every single day, fighting against resistance all the time,

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whether it had anything to do with
work or you know how is feeling like

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perfectionist mindset. Like it's like you
have to understand that not every single day

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is going to be the same.
You have different moods. When you're a

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woman and you're not on a hormonal
both birth control, even if you are,

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probably you go through this, but
you know, there is cycles of

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life that you go through. Your
hormones, literally your hormone I don't know

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why I said it, like hormone
whatever. Your hormones are always fluctuating the

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seasons of life, like we're going
into spring, which requires us to move

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in different ways or think in different
ways. The sun is out more,

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the days are longer, like for
us to always expect to wake up do

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the same thing every single day,
all the time is the reason a lot

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of the times. There's many reasons, but is one of the main reasons,

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and especially for my own life,
that we feel like everything is so

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hard. Why do we feel like
everything is so hard because we have consistent

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resistance to what is. And this
is like, it's normal to have resistance

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to things you don't want to feel
in life, like let's say negative emotion

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or shitty things that are happening in
your life. But what makes life even

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harder or feel harder is when we
push past the natural flow of what is,

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which is, yeah, maybe you're
going through a breakup right now,

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or yeah, like maybe the sun
is not out and you don't feel the

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best. What we do is we
say it's wrong that we feel bad because

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the sun is not out and we're
not accepting like, okay, just have

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like a crappy day and like,
you know, don't be motivated and don't

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work because the sun is not out. But it's just to accept that,

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yeah, you know what, the
sun is not out and the sun really

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affects me. So today maybe I'm
not going to have like the most motivation

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and the most like happiest thoughts.
But that is okay. And you know

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why that's okay because one, why
am I going to resist something that is

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naturally happening? But also it is
going to change, It is going to

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change. Understanding the law of rhythm, understanding that everything is essentially cyclical,

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has changed the game for me when
it comes to living life on easy mode

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because when I move through life understanding
this principle of life of you know,

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I'll give you the example of just
being on my like my period, like

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my cycle. And if you guys
don't know, we do have four phases

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of our cycles. It's not just
when you bleed. If you want to

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understand more to do with cycle sinking. If you don't know, then I'll

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link some videos from my main channel
explaining cycle sinking. But you know,

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the time that you men streight,
the time that you bleed, you will

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start slowly your hormones and everyone is
different, but your homeowners your hormones sorry,

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start to kind of like come back
up to balance again, which means

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you are actually going to feel like
you have more energy. You might like,

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you know, be more creative,
and you want to like get out

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in the world and you want to
socialize when you're ovulating, like that's a

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time where usually you have the most
energy and you can do the most amount

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of work in this that again completely
depends. It's very general, and you

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know as you fall back down.
Right now, I'm in my luteal phase.

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Your luteal phase is span sometimes of
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the most I right now don't have
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like trying to do the best to
do as much content as I need to

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do because I know that I'm going
in a period of winter essentially for me,

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which is I'm gonna bleed and I'm
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like my hormones or at its lowest, and I'm gonna understand that fact of

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life, and I Am not going
to resist that. And when you do

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not resist it, life feels easy. Life feels easy because I am not

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spending so much energy just being like
no, this can't be happening, and

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no, I shouldn't be feeling like
this and this that and the third and

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now a lot of us perfectionists we
don't like that because we are so driven

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to just like hit all the goals
and like you need to be perfect,

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but understand this, that's just not
how it works. Is it really actually

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work out like that for you?
And bring it back to what I said

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about that quote, like if being
hard on yourself actually worked, it would

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work. So through a lot of
experience in my life, I have seen

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that, you know, berating myself
and trying to micromanage things that just clearly

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are not working in the moment actually
creates way more stress than need be.

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I am making life way more harder
than need be. And now I think,

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like understanding the law of rhythm and
understanding like life is cyclical, and

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understanding my hormones, like my cycle, everything like that has really helped me

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not like have this internal battle in
my head because it's like it's like a

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fact of life, Like it logically
doesn't make sense that I'm gonna get mad

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at myself for not having one hundred
percent energy to go do a leg day

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when I'm on my period. Like
that that makes like actually no sense.

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So I know sometimes it might take
you a second to really understand that,

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but I think that when you educate
yourself on what is truly like, what

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life actually is, I think that
sometimes it can help you lessen that inner

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critic. And I want to read
something else from this article where it says

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knowing your personal and spiritual rhythm,
because I think this really helps, because

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everyone is unique. To know your
own rhythm, you need to pay attention

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and be aware of the different cycles
that you go through in your own life

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experiences. This involves finding patterns in
your thoughts, your feelings, your actions,

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observe when you feel joyful and sad, productive and sluggish, when you

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want to be alone, and when
you want to be with others. And

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I think that the ones that are
perfectionists, which you can put me in

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that same category, we have learned
over years a way of moving through life

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that is very linear, through a
very masculine dominant society, or in general,

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we just are influenced and we follow
people who are not us. And

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it's so okay to get advice,
to get knowledge, to get wisdom,

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to follow and have people guide you
on this journey, whether it's anything to

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do with fitness and health or mindset, whatever, but you have to come

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back to what is true for you. You are unique, which means,

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you know, if you are finding
that you're trying to follow a fitness regimen

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that your favorite like influencer who you
just love their body and you really want

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to look like them. It's not
bad that you want to look like them.

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But at the end of the day, it's like, if you're struggling

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with, like, you know,
doing what they're doing, maybe the way

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that they're doing it is meant for
them, but maybe not fully meant for

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you. What works for you.
What I mean what works for you is

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you know, what is the least
resistant thing for you. So for me,

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like going to the gym at five
am just does not work for my

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schedule. I don't get enough sleep
in time, and then I'm tired,

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and then I'm miserable, and then
I dread going to the gym, and

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then I don't be I'm like,
I'm not consistent, Like I'm not in

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the identity of somebody who just moves
their body, So I don't do it.

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I go to the gym, sorry, at a time that works for

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me, and now obviously depending on
your job, depending on your environment,

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things might you have to kind of
like, you know, move the puzzle

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pleat pieces. And I did that
too, like I didn't always have the

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job that I have now, but
still I really stopped going against what was

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true for me, and I understood
that the more that I released resistance in

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life, I was going to see
the fruits of my labor. And I

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think this is the reason why sometimes
people struggle with being able to go with

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the flow of life, essentially is
because you don't have any evidence yet that

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when you actually go in the direction
of what feels good to you and what

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works for your schedule, that you
would have any actual good results. Because

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we've been taught in our lives that
actually, don't go in the direction of

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what feels good to you. Just
grind and hustle and hate your life,

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and that's how you're going to get
results in life. Like that's literally what

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we've been taught. But that's actually
not the truth of who we are.

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And unfortunately we live in a generation
where that's just kind of like how it

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is, but does not need to
be like that, I promise you,

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But how you find that evidence and
see that is like let's say, for

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example, you try cycle sinking,
and you see how good you feel through

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the times that you're ovulating, and
you genuinely see how much like work you

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get done when you have the most
energy, and how you feel and how

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rested you end up actually being when
you slow down when you're menstruating. And

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this doesn't mean that you don't work. This doesn't mean that you just like

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whatever, like the soft life like
I don't know the soft life trend of

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being like, oh you just don't
work. No, it's not about not

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working ever. It's just knowing who
you uniquely are and your cycle and your

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life and who you need to be
and how you need to move through life,

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and you be loving with yourself and
you understand that like you're this human

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being, you're like this little like
young child that needs like you know,

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maybe you need extra help, or
maybe you need more affirmations, or maybe

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you need like extra sleep. Like
let's stop berating and hating on ourselves for

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that. So this article goes on
to say the process of knowing your own

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rhythm requires you to be in tune
with personal tempo when things rise and fall,

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which means like stop looking outside of
you for people to tell you how

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you should feel and how you should
move through life again, Like you can

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get guidance for sure. You guys
listen to me, You listen to other

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people. I listen to people sometimes, But the end of the day,

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it's like, you got to know
your own patterns. You got to know

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when you feel the best. Like
I also think about this when it comes

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to drinking. I'm not really a
drinker. I never really have been.

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I drank way more when I was
in college just because it's just like party

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town and whatever. It was really
fun. But for me, if I'm

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going through something where I know the
next day I'm gonna be feeling down and

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depressed or you know, whether like
let's say I'm going through a breakup or

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I miss somebody or things are just
chaotic, or I have things to do

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the next day. Like genuinely,
like, depending on what me in my

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life is requiring of me, that's
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not at dinner table. At the
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we might go out and be like, Okay, well it's Friday night,

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and what you do is like you
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You go to a dinner party,
whatever, and you have drinks because

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everyone's having drinks. But just because
everyone else is having drinks doesn't mean that

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right now it makes sense for you
to have so many drinks. But what

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we do is we push past that
because it's like, oh, well,

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everyone else is doing it, or
like, you know, this is like

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what I maybe even want to do
in the moment, which is fine,

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but it's also like you have to
consider how are you going to feel?

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What do you need in this moment. This doesn't mean that you can never

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drink, But for me, I
know there's certain things that I will and

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will not do. I know when
I am menstruating, I do my absolute

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best not to pile my weekend up
with a bunch of social events because I'm

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not going to be in the mood. Is this like, is this always

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a thing? Can I always do
that? Absolutely not. Even as I

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work for myself, there's still events
that I need to do, There's still

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content that I need to create,
There's still things that I got to do.

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When I worked three jobs, I
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the absolute best that I could,
to give myself grace and say my self

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love and compassion and not push myself
and not add an extra leg day when

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I like worked an eight hour shift
and I'm on my period. Like there

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are ways in Whish that you can
support yourself, but you have to really

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listen to who you are. This
article also says once you accept this and

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work on identifying your natural pace,
you will be better prepared to handle life's

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ups and downs. My gosh,
sorry, which is very true. So

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again, like when I am feeling
my body naturally move into my ludeal phase,

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at first, I might think like, oh my god, I'm not

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feeling like like motivated to do content. Let's say, like I have a

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day where I'm like supposed to be
doing content and then like I'm waking up

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and I'm like not in the best
mood, and I see that I'm like

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in my ludial phase. I'm like, oh, okay, Like no problem,

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Like I'm not like mad at myself
for doing that. And sometimes there's

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no reason and that's also okay as
well, Like we don't need to have

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a reason for everything, but it's
just to give yourself more grace. Now

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let's go into the next part of
this article, which leads me into the

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next law that I want to talk
about. So this says learning to go

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with the flow, which I know, I know this is like the worst

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thing that we could hear as women
sometimes when men will be like, oh,

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I just want to go with the
flow and listen. I am not

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a girl who likes to go with
the flow, but I will say,

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throughout my life, I have learned
that, actually, you know what,

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there's something about men that we just
don't want to listen to. And some

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of them, not the ones that
just want to waste your time, but

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some of them be knowing that going
with the flow is actually the best way.

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And I don't know if I'm just
like picking up more of that that

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energy in a healthy way or not, but like, genuinely listen, I

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will I don't know if I'll ever
identify as somebody who goes with the flow,

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But God, does it feel good
to go with the flow sometimes,

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which is very hard to do,
but when you do it, you actually

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create so much magnetism. Things just
align, Things genuinely will align if you

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allow it, if you just go
in the direction. What makes you feel

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good, Like you wake up and
you decide, hmmm, I actually don't

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want to do this thing, or
hmm, you know what today I told

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myself I was going to do X, Y, and Z, but I

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want to do it in like reverse
because I feel more energy to like start

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this project versus like I don't know
for me, like record a podcast first.

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And I know life can't always be
like whatever you want, but I'm

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telling you there's many pockets of your
life where you can do things that you

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actually want. You're just making it
harder. The need be okay, so

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let's continue. Instead of feeling fear
when things are not going well, prepare

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yourself for when things rise. By
thinking this way, you stay grounded in

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reality, but at the same time
you remain hopeful when things are tough.

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Preparing for the challenges to come helps
you become stronger, more resilient, and

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more adaptable in the face of challenges. And we're not trying to set ourselves

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up for like, oh my god, I'm going to have the worst days

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ever, but just understanding that that
might just be a normal part of life.

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And when I've really like stopped being
so rate of bad days or negative

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emotions or days that I'm not going
to be so productive. It's like it's

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like way less, like the lows
of natural like rhythm of life, don't

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feel so low because I am not
looking at it like that, which brings

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me into the next law, which
is essentially the law of assumption, but

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in the Hermetic principles it's called the
law of mentalism. So let me quickly

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explain what that is and how I
use that as well on the times which

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we've kind of already been talking about, but on the times where uh,

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things might actually do feel like they
might be hard, or things are kind

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of in a low right now.
Principle of mentalism states that the universe is

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acting to a mental projection. This
is like manifestation one on one, which

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is all about using your thoughts to
shape your reality. For anything to be,

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a thought must proceed through it this
principle, it's believed that God is

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consciousness or thought, and the universe
is a menta festation of the mind of

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God. Using this law, we
too can harness the power of our minds

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to create the life that we want. Now, let me just like disclaim

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this is a belief system. Some
people don't believe this. I think that

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a lot of you guys who listen
to the podcast you probably do resonate with

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this because you guys are very much
so like under for the most part,

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Like you guys focus a lot on
mindset, and you guys know, like

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the more you change your mindset,
the more you love yourself, the more

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you like look at things differently,
like usually you tend to see different results

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in your life. And then it
goes on to say to how to apply

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it. This is a good example. I think. Consider the initial thought

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that led you to be able to
read this on whatever device that you're on,

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or even the thought that is most
influencing your mood right now, which

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like, let's stop and think,
like there's always a thought that you have

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before you do something. Okay,
When we recognize how much our thoughts manifest

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every day, whether internally as a
physiological or emotional state or externally as the

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things we do or places we go, we see that when we can control

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our mind, we control our lives. We can get better at this through

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spiritual practices such as meditation, which
helps us train the mind. And this

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is something that I've learned on my
journey from a very young age of like

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probably sixteen, I would say,
like I usually kind of bring it back

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to sixteen years old, you know, I started using the power of my

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mind to think different thoughts, which
led me to a different reality in my

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life. I told myself when I
was young, I'm going to get the

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dream life. I'm going to do
whatever it takes. I'm going to think

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positively. I'm going to think in
my favor when shit hits the fan,

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when things happen, I'm going to
decide to look at it from a place

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of a lesson of it's working for
me. Of I don't even need to

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know the answer, but it is
what it is, like the universe has

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my back, that God has God
has my back, whatever it is.

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And I think this is important for
the times when, like I just said,

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things aren't necessarily going your way,
circumstances are all messy in your life

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or in general, just as you're
going through the natural dip of life,

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like when I am, let's say, bring it back to menstruating or not

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feeling the best. Like yes,
like I obviously know that I'm like like

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all my period or like whatever,
but I still need to have a mindset

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to keep me in check. When
I'm on my last week before I believe

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my luteal phase, like the last
week, like my mindset is like I

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just want to rebrand my entire life, like nothing works. I hate everything,

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Like I don't feel good, like
my skin's not looking good, like

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this that. And so when I'm
recognizing that I have those thoughts, I'm

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reminding myself in the moment, I'm
using the power of my mind and aka

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the law of assumption. I am
assuming first of all, no problem,

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this is a normal phase of life. But also redirecting my thoughts actually listen,

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is not about being delusional. It's

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not about like telling yourself that you
love yourself if you don't in the moment.

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But it's like, okay, it's
fine, I don't even need to

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love myself right at this moment.
Or maybe it's Alicia, you're like on

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your period right now, Like you're
gonna have a different mindset in like a

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week's time, give it a second. Things are going to change, Things

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are gonna work out in your favor. When you understand that life is just

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a rhythm, okay. And also
you can use your mind to really affect

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the way you feel in your day
to day life, you are going to

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start feeling like life is on easy
mode. Now this is an art,

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Okay, this is an absolute art. And the reason why I'm saying it's

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an art is because it's taken me
many years to even really like adopt this

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mindset and like see in real life, like, oh, actually, like

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everything does rise and fall, and
it's not a bad way. It's not

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a bad way at all. It's
just like that's just what it is.

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And using the law of mentalism to
remind yourself or loss of assumption to remind

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yourself. Okay, so if it
falls, it's going to come back,

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and falling doesn't need to be this
bad thing. And this is like where

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I'm not going to get into it, but this is like what alchemists do

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is essentially like when they understand that
there is a natural dip in life,

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you using the power of your mind
and everything else, you do your best

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to understand that you don't even need
to go into these negative low like virations.

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If you don't need to, you
can keep yourself kind of neutralized and

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just understand like I can stand and
I can work with the flow of life,

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bringing it back to like the fact
that when I'm menstruating, Okay,

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how can I adapt? How can
I use what I have right now to

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really support myself? How can I
use the power of my mind? But

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also okay, what does my body
need? How do I move? How

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do I win the game at adapting? Perfectionists are so good at trying,

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and I mean trying because you don't
actually win trying to win the game of

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being linear, and the gag is
is you can never win the damn game.

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Okay, So if you want to
win the fucking game because you just

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have this perfectionist part of you that
just like needs to win and like needs

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to hit goals and like needs to
whatever. I want you to try your

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best, because we don't need to
be perfect. But if you want to

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try your best to win the game
at adapting, and that is what I

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have been doing for many years.
I have gotten so good at knowing what

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feels good and what doesn't. I've
gotten so good at tracking my period.

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I have gotten so good at understanding, you know, like the mindset that

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I need to have on the days
where feel things don't feel good. I

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have gotten so good at understanding that, you know, what in the mornings.

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I need to have a journal practice
because if I do not, and

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I don't have to be perfect with
this, but if I do not,

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yeah, you know, my mindset's
not going to be the absolute best.

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And there's times where I don't need
the journal practice because I'm feeling one hundred

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percent my self concept is on point
whatever. And then there's sometimes that I

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00:28:04.599 --> 00:28:11.200
do or you know, there's sometimes
in my body I feel like there's resistance

412
00:28:11.240 --> 00:28:12.400
and I don't want to go out, but I'm telling myself, oh,

413
00:28:12.480 --> 00:28:15.720
this is perfect night to go out. No, I'm not doing it.

414
00:28:15.759 --> 00:28:19.000
I am releasing resistance, and I'm
reminding myself that going in the direction of

415
00:28:19.000 --> 00:28:22.720
what feels good to me is going
to create the best results for me in

416
00:28:22.759 --> 00:28:26.880
my reality but also just in my
body, which is going to make me

417
00:28:26.880 --> 00:28:30.400
feel really good. And this takes
practice. It takes honoring yourself, it

418
00:28:30.480 --> 00:28:36.240
takes not abandoning yourself genuinely. Now, at the end of the day,

419
00:28:36.680 --> 00:28:41.480
you still live in a universe where
the law of rhythm is happening, and

420
00:28:41.559 --> 00:28:45.799
whether you like it or not,
or whether you want to like you know,

421
00:28:45.519 --> 00:28:52.319
acknowledge it or not. So I
would if I were you and this

422
00:28:52.440 --> 00:28:55.720
is just my advice, and you
can do whatever you want. But I

423
00:28:55.759 --> 00:29:02.000
would no longer look at the law
of rhythm, a the downs in life,

424
00:29:02.079 --> 00:29:04.680
the changes, the ebbs and flows
as bad as a weakness, because

425
00:29:04.720 --> 00:29:07.519
this is sometimes what we do.
We make meaning out of everything. We

426
00:29:07.599 --> 00:29:11.920
are mean making machines. Okay,
we love to think and we love to

427
00:29:12.039 --> 00:29:17.599
just like get all in there.
I love that about us. But sometimes

428
00:29:17.599 --> 00:29:19.480
what we do is we decide to
go to the negative. So we look

429
00:29:19.519 --> 00:29:22.039
at the fact that, like this
is what I used to do. Especially

430
00:29:22.039 --> 00:29:26.799
again we're gonna use the example of
my period. I'd be like, oh,

431
00:29:26.839 --> 00:29:29.720
it's such a weakness, Like I
wish I wasn't a girl for this,

432
00:29:29.839 --> 00:29:33.119
and like I wish I wasn't a
woman because like all the guys they

433
00:29:33.160 --> 00:29:34.799
get to just be productive and they
get to whatever, and now I have

434
00:29:34.880 --> 00:29:37.160
this period and it's just like a
weakness and da da da dad. Why

435
00:29:37.200 --> 00:29:41.279
are you looking at it as a
weakness? Why are you looking at your

436
00:29:41.319 --> 00:29:44.920
bad days? Is wrong? Like
it shouldn't be happening. When you change

437
00:29:44.920 --> 00:29:48.519
your mindset about the things that are
happening in your life, you find whiz

438
00:29:48.880 --> 00:29:53.720
dumb in it and a lot of
people ask me, how do you come

439
00:29:53.799 --> 00:29:57.599
up with topics for your podcast?
Or how do you like, how do

440
00:29:57.680 --> 00:30:02.599
you like whatever? All this kind
stuff. A lot of it is because

441
00:30:02.680 --> 00:30:06.240
I have changed a way that I've
viewed some of the lowest times in my

442
00:30:06.359 --> 00:30:10.400
life, and I have pulled wisdom
from these things that I am able to

443
00:30:10.480 --> 00:30:14.240
speak on. And that's also how
I've leveled up in my life. I

444
00:30:14.240 --> 00:30:18.319
didn't level up in my life by
looking at every shitty circumstance and being like,

445
00:30:18.400 --> 00:30:22.039
Wow, this is so bad,
this is my reality. Life sucks,

446
00:30:22.119 --> 00:30:26.039
and continue to perpetuate down that line. Listen, this doesn't mean that

447
00:30:26.079 --> 00:30:29.680
I had perfect days and I was
like, Okay, I have negative emotion

448
00:30:29.759 --> 00:30:33.039
today, great, beautiful lesson learned. No, there's times that I got

449
00:30:33.079 --> 00:30:36.720
triggered af there's times that I needed
a week to freaking like come up from

450
00:30:36.720 --> 00:30:41.440
my nervous system being shot. But
one thing about me is I always come

451
00:30:41.519 --> 00:30:45.039
back on top, and not only
on top, but tenfold, and I

452
00:30:45.119 --> 00:30:49.200
come out with wisdom, and I
come out with something that changes my actual

453
00:30:49.279 --> 00:30:53.400
reality. It's almost like I alchemize
that energy that was, whatever it was.

454
00:30:53.720 --> 00:30:56.400
That's how I look at life,
and I think that's how a lot

455
00:30:56.440 --> 00:31:00.039
of people are trying to look at
life, and they do their best,

456
00:31:00.079 --> 00:31:03.839
but I think that sometimes in the
process of doing that, we just focus

457
00:31:03.920 --> 00:31:07.440
so much on the low, like
we just we focus so much on the

458
00:31:07.440 --> 00:31:11.640
circumstance of being like, Okay,
I'm trying to look at this positive.

459
00:31:11.640 --> 00:31:14.799
But the thing is is this is
happening right here in my reality. I'm

460
00:31:14.799 --> 00:31:18.039
not trying to tell you to ignore
the fact that you're going through a breakup.

461
00:31:18.119 --> 00:31:22.079
I'm not trying to tell you to
ignore the fact that you're feeling negative

462
00:31:22.079 --> 00:31:26.359
emotion. And I think that in
a spiritual realm, in a spiritual community,

463
00:31:26.559 --> 00:31:32.319
sometimes what happens is like you get
taught to spiritually bypass, meaning pretend

464
00:31:32.319 --> 00:31:36.240
that you don't feel what you feel. Mm mmm mmmm No, we're not

465
00:31:36.279 --> 00:31:37.839
gonna do that. And also you
don't need to do that because how you

466
00:31:37.880 --> 00:31:41.920
feel is actually very important to show
you where you need to go. Okay,

467
00:31:42.119 --> 00:31:45.680
so understand that. And that's how
I look at any time that I

468
00:31:45.680 --> 00:31:47.880
have a bad day, a crappy
day, this that, And I'm not

469
00:31:47.960 --> 00:31:51.000
telling I'm not saying I do this
every single time, but like when I'm

470
00:31:51.000 --> 00:31:52.480
not feeling good or things are not
going on in my life. I'm like,

471
00:31:52.799 --> 00:31:56.680
Okay, this is actually very valuable
information. And I don't know what

472
00:31:56.680 --> 00:32:00.880
this information is gonna mean yet,
but all I know is it's valuable versus

473
00:32:00.960 --> 00:32:06.119
looking at it as it shouldn't be
happening. This is just such a nuisance.

474
00:32:06.319 --> 00:32:08.279
This is just something that I shouldn't
be happened, like whatever. If

475
00:32:08.279 --> 00:32:12.799
you look at it like that,
then you're gonna resist everything. You're gonna

476
00:32:12.839 --> 00:32:15.960
feel like shit. And then when
you do feel better, you haven't really

477
00:32:16.000 --> 00:32:21.039
alchemized any of that energy, and
it's gonna continue to perpetuate. And this

478
00:32:21.079 --> 00:32:24.000
is not to mean that you're never
gonna have again the ebbs and flows of

479
00:32:24.039 --> 00:32:30.000
life, because that's normal, but
the way that you experience it, it's

480
00:32:30.000 --> 00:32:34.039
gonna feel hard. And so if
you're wondering, like why life feels so

481
00:32:34.160 --> 00:32:36.759
hard, a lot of the times, it's because it's the way that you're

482
00:32:36.799 --> 00:32:39.759
moving, it's the way that you're
viewing things. And am I gonna sit

483
00:32:39.839 --> 00:32:44.640
here and say it's always our fault? No? Was it my fault that

484
00:32:44.720 --> 00:32:46.599
I was born in a family where
we didn't have a lot of money.

485
00:32:47.079 --> 00:32:51.799
Was it my fault that I went
through traumatizing things? Was it my fault

486
00:32:51.839 --> 00:32:54.960
that my mom was an addict?
Was it my fault that my dad you

487
00:32:55.000 --> 00:32:59.200
know, didn't know how to freaking
show up for me and love me?

488
00:32:59.240 --> 00:33:02.480
This that, No, it wasn't. But what I'm doing in my reality

489
00:33:02.559 --> 00:33:09.400
now is I am no longer playing
that story out why I came out of

490
00:33:09.440 --> 00:33:16.480
the womb, Okay, very deserving
of love and affection and abundance and lights

491
00:33:16.599 --> 00:33:24.359
and happiness. Unfortunately, for many
of us, things happen in our life

492
00:33:24.799 --> 00:33:28.119
and we can either look at that
and be like, oh my god,

493
00:33:28.200 --> 00:33:30.720
my circumstance is like, this is
just how my life is supposed to be,

494
00:33:31.559 --> 00:33:36.480
or you can remind yourself of the
thing that is very very true,

495
00:33:36.519 --> 00:33:37.720
whether you want to believe it or
not. But I'm just gonna say this.

496
00:33:37.799 --> 00:33:42.799
I'm just gonna like genuinely say this. You did not come here to

497
00:33:42.960 --> 00:33:46.279
suffer and live out that story forever. You just didn't. Okay, I

498
00:33:46.319 --> 00:33:50.440
personally do not believe whether you believe
in the universe, you believe in God,

499
00:33:50.559 --> 00:33:53.119
whatever, that God specifically wanted you
to come out of the womb and

500
00:33:53.160 --> 00:33:57.160
get traumatized and have a shitty fucking
life for the rest of your life.

501
00:33:57.519 --> 00:34:00.519
I don't believe that. You can
believe it if you want, but I

502
00:34:00.559 --> 00:34:04.480
just want to know how that it's
helping you. And trust me, I've

503
00:34:04.519 --> 00:34:07.599
been there when I had when I
really started to become aware of like oh,

504
00:34:07.719 --> 00:34:10.239
okay, well I have this type
of life and these type of parents,

505
00:34:10.239 --> 00:34:14.599
and this type of financial situation and
like these type of health issues.

506
00:34:14.840 --> 00:34:16.239
I could have looked at it been
like, oh, this is what it

507
00:34:16.320 --> 00:34:20.559
is. But then I realized,
h this doesn't really make any sense though

508
00:34:20.599 --> 00:34:22.559
logically, as much as it is
real, all of it is real,

509
00:34:23.039 --> 00:34:28.199
it doesn't really make much sense logically
for me to go through life thinking that

510
00:34:28.280 --> 00:34:31.079
life is against me, that I
am this victim for the and this is

511
00:34:31.119 --> 00:34:34.960
how I'm supposed to live my life. No, I'm not doing it,

512
00:34:35.239 --> 00:34:38.280
And that is how I got out
of the situation. How bringing it back

513
00:34:38.280 --> 00:34:42.880
to the law of mentalism, I
had to think differently first, before I

514
00:34:42.880 --> 00:34:45.840
saw it reflected back in my life. When you think differently, you show

515
00:34:45.880 --> 00:34:49.159
up differently and you feel differently.
Okay, whether you want to believe in

516
00:34:49.199 --> 00:34:52.639
manifestation or any of that, well, we'll bring it to the very logical

517
00:34:52.639 --> 00:34:58.760
standpoint of you move through the world
differently when you think better thoughts, You

518
00:34:58.840 --> 00:35:00.920
get up and you just sigh.
To take care of yourself, you decide

519
00:35:00.960 --> 00:35:06.599
to not go in the direction of
having shitty like conversations with people. You

520
00:35:06.639 --> 00:35:09.320
stop gossiping so much, you stop
complaining so much. You go and you

521
00:35:09.440 --> 00:35:15.320
find opportunities for yourself. That's what
I did when I realized I don't want

522
00:35:15.320 --> 00:35:17.679
this reality. I said, you
know what, hmm, what feels better

523
00:35:17.800 --> 00:35:21.880
is to listen to a podcast that
teaches me about something that I haven't been

524
00:35:21.920 --> 00:35:24.679
taught about yet, or it goes
let me go in the direction of you

525
00:35:24.719 --> 00:35:28.519
know, going on a Pinterest or
Tumbler. At the time, I was

526
00:35:28.519 --> 00:35:32.199
a Tumblr girl and envisioning and imagining
a life that I don't have yet.

527
00:35:32.199 --> 00:35:36.280
That feels better to me, that
feels better than me than to sit here

528
00:35:36.320 --> 00:35:37.840
and be like, mmmm, oh
my god, my life is just so

529
00:35:38.000 --> 00:35:42.679
terrible and look at everyone else and
what they have. And again I'm not

530
00:35:42.719 --> 00:35:45.320
trying to call anyone else because like
that was literally me, but it just

531
00:35:45.320 --> 00:35:49.800
doesn't do us any good. And
that is what that's the reason, not

532
00:35:49.880 --> 00:35:54.239
reason, but like that's what sometimes
feels so hard. So you have,

533
00:35:55.280 --> 00:36:04.000
in my personal opinion, a lot
more control over whether you feel like life

534
00:36:04.079 --> 00:36:07.760
is on easy mode or hard mode, and it's an art. And I

535
00:36:07.840 --> 00:36:14.039
think that the first action step that
you can take in your life is to

536
00:36:14.320 --> 00:36:20.199
decide to do one thing every single
day that feels good to you. And

537
00:36:20.239 --> 00:36:24.239
this can be big or small,
and this is so unique to you.

538
00:36:24.679 --> 00:36:30.599
I can give you like a few
examples, Like the other day, it

539
00:36:30.639 --> 00:36:31.880
was a day that I was like, Okay, I'm going to record a

540
00:36:31.920 --> 00:36:37.559
podcast episode, and the next day
it was like raining. And this was

541
00:36:37.599 --> 00:36:40.079
for sure, it was my tenth
day out of my period, which if

542
00:36:40.119 --> 00:36:44.800
you guys cycle sync then you'll know
about the tenth day. It's so real.

543
00:36:45.360 --> 00:36:47.719
And I started feeling like my mood
was just not there to be able

544
00:36:47.760 --> 00:36:51.880
to talk, like genuinely, like
I couldn't if you even tried. I

545
00:36:51.880 --> 00:36:53.480
mean I probably could, but I
just probably wouldn't have liked the episode.

546
00:36:54.199 --> 00:36:58.840
And so I woke up in the
morning and I had a decision right then

547
00:36:58.880 --> 00:37:00.840
and there. I had a decision
to make life hard. And what I

548
00:37:00.880 --> 00:37:07.719
mean make life hard, I mean
to feel resistance all day by saying,

549
00:37:07.760 --> 00:37:10.239
do the thing that you need to
do, and you have to do it

550
00:37:10.239 --> 00:37:15.079
today. I genuinely actually had other
days that I could have recorded, or

551
00:37:16.119 --> 00:37:21.639
waking up and making things hard by
deciding not to record, but in my

552
00:37:21.880 --> 00:37:24.719
mind berating myself because I didn't record
and I should have recorded on this day

553
00:37:24.760 --> 00:37:28.440
and oh my god, you're not
being perfect and you're not da da da.

554
00:37:28.519 --> 00:37:30.880
So I decided in that moment when
I realized what feels better to me

555
00:37:31.039 --> 00:37:35.519
is to not record today. And
I know this is like again, you

556
00:37:35.559 --> 00:37:38.960
can't always be perfect with this,
but in this certain circumstance, I know

557
00:37:39.480 --> 00:37:44.280
that I can't record today. So
I'm going to decide to go in the

558
00:37:44.280 --> 00:37:46.039
direction of what feels good to me, which is not that right now,

559
00:37:46.280 --> 00:37:50.880
and I am going to decide not
to berate myself, and that is that

560
00:37:51.199 --> 00:37:55.440
the story is done. Okay,
So what did I do instead? I

561
00:37:55.559 --> 00:38:01.599
ended up spending the entire day watching
YouTube videos on quantum physics because that's what

562
00:38:01.639 --> 00:38:05.480
I wanted to do, like literally, that's just what I wanted to do,

563
00:38:05.800 --> 00:38:08.719
and I stopped feeling like crap about
it, and even today, actually

564
00:38:09.519 --> 00:38:14.039
this or actually yesterday, I had
a plan on like what I was going

565
00:38:14.079 --> 00:38:15.320
to do and how I was going
to do the content that I need to

566
00:38:15.320 --> 00:38:17.559
do. I have to record a
podcast, I have to do brand work

567
00:38:17.559 --> 00:38:22.360
today and whatever. So I was
thinking, like, actually, last night

568
00:38:22.760 --> 00:38:27.880
I let my hair out for the
first time in forever, and I was

569
00:38:27.920 --> 00:38:30.440
like, holy crap, your hair
has grown so long. It's so beautiful

570
00:38:30.480 --> 00:38:32.519
this that like you really need to
do your hair again. And I was

571
00:38:32.519 --> 00:38:37.800
like, oh, maybe I should
do my hair tomorrow. But I was

572
00:38:37.840 --> 00:38:39.480
like, whatever, I'll just decide
in the morning. There's not a point

573
00:38:39.480 --> 00:38:45.679
in me deciding to like decide how
I'm going to feel now when I can

574
00:38:45.760 --> 00:38:49.119
just decide tomorrow in the morning.
Okay. So I woke up and I

575
00:38:49.239 --> 00:38:52.400
just had this after I journaled,
I had this like deep desire to do

576
00:38:52.480 --> 00:38:54.199
my hair. And I was like, you know what, like move your

577
00:38:54.239 --> 00:38:58.719
nail appointment to one one hour later
you can do like because I had a

578
00:38:58.719 --> 00:39:02.039
certain like schedule and whatever, but
I had some flexibility. And this is

579
00:39:02.079 --> 00:39:05.719
bringing it back to the fact that
I have a lot of time freedom now,

580
00:39:05.760 --> 00:39:08.679
more than I did ever, and
I will still do these behaviors of

581
00:39:09.039 --> 00:39:13.400
being a perfectionist when I don't need
to be, so like just want to

582
00:39:13.440 --> 00:39:15.440
like give you that like two cents. But I was like, you know

583
00:39:15.519 --> 00:39:19.519
what, I just want to do
my hair. So I ended up starting

584
00:39:19.519 --> 00:39:24.039
to do my hair, and I
decided I am not going to be obsessive

585
00:39:24.079 --> 00:39:28.039
over time and be like, oh
my god, I could have started my

586
00:39:28.079 --> 00:39:30.199
podcast now, but I decided to
do my hair. Maybe I shouldn't have

587
00:39:30.239 --> 00:39:32.039
done it, and that back and
forth. Nope, I'm deciding that this

588
00:39:32.079 --> 00:39:36.760
is what's going to be and why
because I know that everything's going to work

589
00:39:36.760 --> 00:39:38.480
out. Everything's gonna work out in
my favorite doesn't even matter. As I'm

590
00:39:38.480 --> 00:39:44.840
doing my hair, I realized that
I didn't strip my hair enough, like

591
00:39:44.920 --> 00:39:49.159
I didn't shampoo it well, I
didn't shampoo it at all, and I

592
00:39:49.199 --> 00:39:52.280
was using a moose that wasn't like
correct. So as I was doing my

593
00:39:52.320 --> 00:39:53.599
hair, I started to realize that
my hair wasn't turning out the way that

594
00:39:53.639 --> 00:39:58.119
I wanted to. And in that
moment, I could have then spiraled even

595
00:39:58.159 --> 00:40:00.840
more because I'm like, oh my
god, and I've done it and this

596
00:40:00.920 --> 00:40:02.280
that, and now I'm like halfway
through my hair and I don't want to

597
00:40:02.320 --> 00:40:05.000
do it and what I want to
do, and I decided in that moment,

598
00:40:05.000 --> 00:40:07.039
I'm like, absolutely not. We're
not doing this. We are not

599
00:40:07.079 --> 00:40:09.480
making life harder than it needs to
be. And I know this sounds like,

600
00:40:10.280 --> 00:40:14.000
oh my god, like you know, like this is kind of like

601
00:40:14.039 --> 00:40:15.800
stupid in a way, but it's
not like this is like the things that

602
00:40:15.880 --> 00:40:20.280
I do in my life and how
I've always moved through life. Just making

603
00:40:20.320 --> 00:40:22.280
everything such a big deal. So
halfway through my hair, I said,

604
00:40:22.440 --> 00:40:25.639
you know what, no problem,
just gonna put it up into a nice

605
00:40:25.639 --> 00:40:28.639
little bun. If you're watching on
YouTube, you see you just like a

606
00:40:28.679 --> 00:40:31.480
little clock clip. No problem.
I'm gonna order the product that I need.

607
00:40:31.800 --> 00:40:37.119
We're gonna do your hair, and
the next podcast episode not an issue.

608
00:40:37.239 --> 00:40:40.239
You can still do your podcast.
You're gonna get everything done and on

609
00:40:40.440 --> 00:40:45.239
with it. I went and I
didn't spiral. I didn't feel like shit

610
00:40:45.360 --> 00:40:50.800
about everything. I didn't feel resistant. And now I'm here recording my podcast

611
00:40:51.079 --> 00:40:54.320
and I know you can't tell,
but I feel really good and I feel

612
00:40:54.360 --> 00:40:58.719
like life is on easy mode.
But I could have made life not on

613
00:40:58.800 --> 00:41:02.400
easy mode just by the internal thought
process that I was going through, making

614
00:41:02.440 --> 00:41:07.639
it a whole entire thing. Okay, So using the power of your mind

615
00:41:07.639 --> 00:41:09.559
to go in the direction what feels
good, and when you decide to go

616
00:41:09.599 --> 00:41:14.360
in the direction that you want where
you're practicing, you know, you know,

617
00:41:14.559 --> 00:41:16.360
I'm gonna decide to walk on this
side of the sidewalk then that,

618
00:41:16.639 --> 00:41:21.159
and I'm not gonna feel bad about
it. You obviously use the mindset of

619
00:41:21.199 --> 00:41:23.480
not feeling bad about it, you
will find life feels so good. And

620
00:41:23.519 --> 00:41:28.840
when you feel good. And this
is kind of only believe in manifestation,

621
00:41:28.960 --> 00:41:30.639
but I mean, I think a
lot of you guys kind of do.

622
00:41:30.320 --> 00:41:36.519
You will attract different experiences based off
of how you feel. Okay, whether

623
00:41:36.559 --> 00:41:42.159
it's you actually taking action or energetically
the law of vibration, which is also

624
00:41:42.159 --> 00:41:46.840
another hermetic principle, you will attract. Okay, So I just want you

625
00:41:47.400 --> 00:41:50.920
to decide. I guess, is
what I'm saying. I kind of went

626
00:41:50.920 --> 00:41:54.559
on a big rant, but decide
and I guess. Another example is like

627
00:41:54.639 --> 00:41:59.559
even as simple as the other day, I was literally walking down the road

628
00:41:59.760 --> 00:42:05.639
and there was like one side of
the road that just felt like genuinely gross

629
00:42:05.679 --> 00:42:08.159
and dirty and like there's pigeons everywhere. And then there was another side of

630
00:42:08.199 --> 00:42:13.199
the road that was like the pavement
was new, and it was on a

631
00:42:13.360 --> 00:42:15.679
side of the street where they were
like building a new condo, so everything

632
00:42:15.719 --> 00:42:22.400
like felt new and like whatever.
And I decided in that moment, it

633
00:42:22.440 --> 00:42:25.960
actually does matter which side of the
road that I walk on because I care

634
00:42:27.000 --> 00:42:30.760
about how I feel. So I
decided to even though I didn't need to

635
00:42:30.800 --> 00:42:32.199
because it's already on the side where
like the pigeons were, I said,

636
00:42:32.239 --> 00:42:35.679
you know what, m no,
I'm going to cross the road. And

637
00:42:35.800 --> 00:42:38.039
just simply by crossing the road and
deciding to go in the direction that like

638
00:42:38.079 --> 00:42:42.800
makes me feel good, life felt
like it was on easy mode. And

639
00:42:42.840 --> 00:42:44.639
this is not to say that,
oh, if I walked on the other

640
00:42:44.679 --> 00:42:46.679
side with the pigeons, like life
is hard, like it's not, but

641
00:42:46.719 --> 00:42:51.679
it's just how you feel and doing
small things like that in your life.

642
00:42:51.679 --> 00:42:54.320
I promise you, I promise you
you will start to feel so much better

643
00:42:54.320 --> 00:42:57.639
about yourself. Even when it comes
to a song. If you put on

644
00:42:57.679 --> 00:42:59.679
a song of the gym and you're
like, I do not feel this song,

645
00:42:59.760 --> 00:43:02.000
like this not motivating me, change
it. Change it. If you're

646
00:43:02.000 --> 00:43:06.360
listening to a podcast episode and it's
like, oh, it's just like not

647
00:43:06.440 --> 00:43:09.320
making me feel good and it's making
me spiral. Change it. If you

648
00:43:09.360 --> 00:43:15.480
go on freaking social media or TikTok
and you're not feeling good, stop going

649
00:43:15.800 --> 00:43:17.760
on it, okay, go in
the direction that makes you feel good.

650
00:43:17.760 --> 00:43:21.320
I don't care if you feel it
illusional. I don't care if no one

651
00:43:21.360 --> 00:43:24.000
else is doing it, I don't
care. So anyways, I think that's

652
00:43:24.039 --> 00:43:27.880
it for the most part. Oh, actually, maybe I'll give you one

653
00:43:27.920 --> 00:43:31.239
more quick example. The other day
I went to dinner with my friends,

654
00:43:31.639 --> 00:43:37.599
and I don't have the biggest appetite. I do, but it depends.

655
00:43:38.199 --> 00:43:42.440
But when I go out, I
like to have my drink first, and

656
00:43:42.480 --> 00:43:45.960
I like to let it like sit
for a second, and then I like

657
00:43:45.000 --> 00:43:52.440
to eat. I like to actually
feel my hunger signals like turn on and

658
00:43:52.519 --> 00:43:57.599
eat. Okay, But a lot
of people who go for dinner usually they

659
00:43:57.679 --> 00:44:00.760
eat and drink at the same time, or they're drinking their drink and then

660
00:44:00.800 --> 00:44:04.800
the food comes and then they dive
in. And some of my friends were

661
00:44:04.840 --> 00:44:07.800
like eat. They were like before
the food even came, they were like

662
00:44:07.840 --> 00:44:10.800
appetizers and they're like, oh,
here have like Alicia tries some pizza,

663
00:44:10.920 --> 00:44:14.440
which, by the way, like
just a disclaimer. I love my friends,

664
00:44:14.440 --> 00:44:15.320
and they weren't trying to like push
me to do anything stupid, Like

665
00:44:15.320 --> 00:44:19.119
it wasn't like that, Like I
love them, like it's not. It's

666
00:44:19.239 --> 00:44:22.360
like, no, I'm not offended
by any of this. But they were

667
00:44:22.360 --> 00:44:23.559
like, oh, try the pizza, and I was like, oh,

668
00:44:23.599 --> 00:44:27.360
yeah, will like when I'm like
ready. I didn't say it like that,

669
00:44:27.400 --> 00:44:28.800
but like in my head, I'm
like, yeah, I'll do it

670
00:44:28.840 --> 00:44:32.119
when I'm ready. And then they
said it again, and they said it

671
00:44:32.119 --> 00:44:36.519
again, and then one of my
friends put the pizza pizza on my plate

672
00:44:37.079 --> 00:44:38.480
like as if like just like eat
it, and I'm like, yeah,

673
00:44:38.480 --> 00:44:42.480
I'm just gonna like have my drink
first. And then the food came and

674
00:44:42.639 --> 00:44:45.280
you know, everyone's diving in and
I'm grabbing some food and I'm eating it

675
00:44:45.360 --> 00:44:46.440
as I want to eat it.
I'm eating a little bit of salad.

676
00:44:46.480 --> 00:44:51.679
I'm still drinking my drink. I'm
relaxing. I'm just that. And now

677
00:44:51.679 --> 00:44:53.760
I have this huge plate of food
and like everyone's eating and people are commenting

678
00:44:53.840 --> 00:44:57.920
being like oh like alisah, like
how do you still have this food?

679
00:44:57.920 --> 00:45:00.599
Like everyone was commenting on it,
like making it no a big thing,

680
00:45:00.639 --> 00:45:02.840
but they were just like very much
so like hyper focused on my plate and

681
00:45:04.000 --> 00:45:07.079
I'm sitting here like y'all just need
to relax, Okay. I am so

682
00:45:07.400 --> 00:45:10.960
good here drinking my drink, eating
my food when I want to eat it,

683
00:45:12.440 --> 00:45:15.480
and listen, I didn't need to
over explain, but I also did

684
00:45:15.480 --> 00:45:19.039
not need to feel bad about how
it is that I wanted to eat my

685
00:45:19.119 --> 00:45:22.079
food. And this is just bringing
it back to like not feeling bad about

686
00:45:22.119 --> 00:45:27.760
going in the direction that feels good
to you. Listen, some people are

687
00:45:27.760 --> 00:45:30.079
not gonna like it. Some people
are gonna comment in on it. Some

688
00:45:30.079 --> 00:45:31.760
people are gonna be like, why
are you doing it? Like that doesn't

689
00:45:32.079 --> 00:45:36.480
matter. And in that moment,
I just like kind of told myself in

690
00:45:36.519 --> 00:45:38.800
my head. Again, I wasn't
like actually really triggered, but I told

691
00:45:38.840 --> 00:45:40.599
myself in my head, like,
you know what, it's fine, Like

692
00:45:40.639 --> 00:45:45.280
people don't get it. I know
what's true for me, and what's true

693
00:45:45.280 --> 00:45:50.239
for me in this moment again,
silly example, I want to drink my

694
00:45:50.480 --> 00:45:54.639
drink first and I want to feel
hungry before I eat. Okay, And

695
00:45:54.679 --> 00:45:58.639
that's that. And I ate what
I ate, and people thought what they

696
00:45:58.639 --> 00:46:01.280
wanted to think, and I don't
care because you know what I did,

697
00:46:01.320 --> 00:46:05.599
what I wanted to do exactly how
I wanted to do it, and that's

698
00:46:05.639 --> 00:46:07.519
just what you need to do in
life. I think more of and now

699
00:46:07.519 --> 00:46:12.880
you have to obviously, you know, consider other people, and you need

700
00:46:12.920 --> 00:46:15.119
to respond in a way that's like
not you don't need to be triggered about

701
00:46:15.199 --> 00:46:17.840
things. And that's how I've learned
in my life, because you know,

702
00:46:17.880 --> 00:46:21.440
the more you choose yourself, the
more people are gonna be like, h

703
00:46:21.519 --> 00:46:22.719
why are you doing like that?
Or who you should do like this?

704
00:46:23.039 --> 00:46:28.440
Respectfully? Love you just not doing
it? Okay, Anyways, I think

705
00:46:28.480 --> 00:46:30.639
that that's gonna be it for today's
episode. I hope you guys enjoyed.

706
00:46:30.800 --> 00:46:34.679
I'm going to actually say I think
there's one or two things that I had

707
00:46:34.719 --> 00:46:40.280
on here one. So we're going
back to just doing one episode a week.

708
00:46:40.320 --> 00:46:43.119
And I know some of you might
be like, oh my god,

709
00:46:43.199 --> 00:46:46.960
no, like we want more.
The reason why I'm doing that is because

710
00:46:47.199 --> 00:46:52.199
I have decided, at least for
right now, that, like I said

711
00:46:52.519 --> 00:46:57.840
last week's episode, the monthly reek
like I'm doing the off topic episodes are

712
00:46:57.880 --> 00:47:00.920
going to be monthly instead of doing
it week. So the reason why,

713
00:47:00.960 --> 00:47:05.039
if you guys are new here,
why I was doing two episodes a week

714
00:47:05.199 --> 00:47:09.280
was because the Mondays were considered off
topic episodes and I was basically just updating

715
00:47:09.280 --> 00:47:14.119
you guys on life, I was, I don't know, like talking about

716
00:47:14.119 --> 00:47:17.760
things commentary like whatever I wanted to, and I was separating that from like

717
00:47:17.800 --> 00:47:22.880
the main topic episodes because I didn't
want them to be too lengthy. And

718
00:47:22.920 --> 00:47:27.079
then some people just want to hear
what like the episode is and this that,

719
00:47:27.079 --> 00:47:30.840
so I kind of separated that.
But because I realized that sometimes there's

720
00:47:30.880 --> 00:47:32.679
just and this is coming back to
like the law of rhythm, the law

721
00:47:32.719 --> 00:47:37.159
of damn life. There's just some
weeks I just don't have things to say.

722
00:47:37.239 --> 00:47:40.079
So I have found that doing like
a monthly recap kind of like works

723
00:47:40.079 --> 00:47:45.159
better for me right now. And
so with that said, bringing it back,

724
00:47:46.719 --> 00:47:51.960
there's just some weeks that I cannot
get out to episodes of like potent

725
00:47:52.159 --> 00:47:55.039
wisdom or like topics, I just
can't, Like there's just whatever. And

726
00:47:55.039 --> 00:47:58.320
then there's some weeks that I bang
them out like I bang them out.

727
00:47:58.320 --> 00:48:00.519
But right now in my life,
like actually now being in my luteal phase,

728
00:48:00.599 --> 00:48:07.119
like I'm gonna be chilling life on
easy mode. Sometimes I think,

729
00:48:07.880 --> 00:48:10.719
like so much I go into like
deep dark spirals, like the past week,

730
00:48:10.760 --> 00:48:16.599
I've been in a quantum physic like
deep dark hole and I'm thinking a

731
00:48:16.639 --> 00:48:21.440
lot, so I don't have much
to share right now because I'm still in

732
00:48:21.599 --> 00:48:25.599
this energy of just thinking and processing
things. So with that said, there's

733
00:48:25.599 --> 00:48:30.199
just not sometimes there's nothing to share, or there's just like genuinely like I'm

734
00:48:30.239 --> 00:48:31.840
busy in life and there's just something
I'm not to share. So anyways,

735
00:48:32.079 --> 00:48:36.360
going to one episode a week just
works better for me. That way.

736
00:48:36.480 --> 00:48:39.800
I make sure that I am not
over exerting myself and like pushing myself too

737
00:48:39.880 --> 00:48:44.760
much, and I have like the
proper episodes. And what I'm gonna do

738
00:48:44.920 --> 00:48:47.800
is if for some reason I have
something wild that I really want to share

739
00:48:47.840 --> 00:48:52.159
with you guys and it's not an
off topic episode, I'll throw it in

740
00:48:52.199 --> 00:48:53.920
on the Thursday. So we're gonna
be moving I just figured, like we've

741
00:48:53.920 --> 00:48:59.320
always done Thursday episodes to be like
the episode because that's how I started my

742
00:48:59.360 --> 00:49:02.559
podcast. But I figured I'll just
keep it on Mondays because I kind of

743
00:49:02.559 --> 00:49:07.800
like the idea of you guys having
like a Monday episode to go into your

744
00:49:07.800 --> 00:49:12.679
week with. So that's what we're
going to be doing moving forward. Don't

745
00:49:12.679 --> 00:49:16.199
forget to subscribe on my main channel
YouTube though, if you guys want to

746
00:49:16.239 --> 00:49:21.039
see like if you need an extra
piece of content from me, because a

747
00:49:21.039 --> 00:49:24.039
lot of those videos are kind of
like parallel to some of the things that

748
00:49:24.079 --> 00:49:28.840
I'm talking about on the podcast,
and you can see like actually kind of

749
00:49:28.840 --> 00:49:31.480
more what I'm doing in my life. So that's that. Also one quick

750
00:49:31.480 --> 00:49:36.960
thing, I want to address the
ads situation on YouTube. So some people

751
00:49:36.960 --> 00:49:39.159
have been commenting being like there's so
many ads, blah blah blah. YouTube

752
00:49:39.679 --> 00:49:46.000
places my ads on my videos,
but I didn't realize how many ads that

753
00:49:46.360 --> 00:49:51.760
they were placing because I didn't I
Usually what happens is YouTube will just place

754
00:49:51.840 --> 00:49:57.519
as many ads depending on like how
the length of a video. But sometimes

755
00:49:57.599 --> 00:50:00.800
what YouTube does is they add a
to of ads. I didn't know this,

756
00:50:00.920 --> 00:50:06.559
but they add a ton of ads
because not every single ad will play

757
00:50:06.599 --> 00:50:09.920
for every single person depending on where
you live and stuff. So what they

758
00:50:09.960 --> 00:50:15.639
do is they maximize it and they
add like a bunch of them and like

759
00:50:15.679 --> 00:50:19.599
whatever. So anyways, depending on
where you live and like whatever, sometimes

760
00:50:19.639 --> 00:50:22.239
they're getting literally all of those ads. And also I use YouTube Premium,

761
00:50:22.599 --> 00:50:27.800
so like I wasn't, like sometimes
it's rare, but sometimes I'll rewatch my

762
00:50:27.880 --> 00:50:30.559
episodes for some reason, like let's
say I'm posting it on that day,

763
00:50:30.559 --> 00:50:32.480
I'll just like play it for a
second just to like think about what I

764
00:50:32.519 --> 00:50:35.639
was talking about, and then I'll
see the ad. But I no longer

765
00:50:35.719 --> 00:50:39.079
see the ads anymore because I have
YouTube Premium. Anyways, I have gone

766
00:50:39.119 --> 00:50:44.559
in and I've taken many ads out, so there should be like a normal

767
00:50:44.599 --> 00:50:49.840
amount of ads now in the YouTube
videos. But if you don't like ads

768
00:50:49.840 --> 00:50:52.480
at all, y'all just need to
get premium. Like, like I'm telling

769
00:50:52.519 --> 00:50:57.880
you, premium change my life as
somebody who actively watches YouTube videos all the

770
00:50:57.920 --> 00:51:01.159
time and is not expensive. Okay, So sorry to anyone who felt like

771
00:51:01.199 --> 00:51:04.679
there was a lot of ads.
There was For the most part, there

772
00:51:04.840 --> 00:51:07.800
was just no I didn't actually go
in there though, and like do that

773
00:51:07.840 --> 00:51:10.800
on purpose. I didn't. I
was just trusting that YouTube was placing the

774
00:51:10.800 --> 00:51:15.199
ads based off of what they thought
because that's usually how they do it.

775
00:51:15.320 --> 00:51:20.719
But whatever, so I fixed that. And the last thing is next week

776
00:51:20.800 --> 00:51:24.000
we have a very fun episode.
We're gonna be talking about glowing Up.

777
00:51:24.320 --> 00:51:29.280
Okay, I want to talk about
the perfect formula that I have created.

778
00:51:29.719 --> 00:51:31.320
I don't know really what I'm gonna
title it, but something maybe along the

779
00:51:31.360 --> 00:51:36.920
lines of that of how to glow
up this Spring. Okay, this is

780
00:51:36.960 --> 00:51:39.960
not gonna just be like I'm telling
you to like do your hair care and

781
00:51:40.000 --> 00:51:44.559
do your skincare like this that,
although I'm gonna be showing you guys what

782
00:51:44.599 --> 00:51:50.519
I'm gonna be doing internally and externally
for my body and like physically on the

783
00:51:50.599 --> 00:51:53.159
YouTube channel. So definitely go watch
that. But it's gonna like correlate,

784
00:51:53.199 --> 00:51:57.360
like we're gonna talk about a lot
of things to do with mindset and then

785
00:51:57.440 --> 00:52:00.119
like action and things like that,
Like don't worry about it, but we're

786
00:52:00.119 --> 00:52:01.880
gonna be talking about that next week. Okay. So I hope you guys

787
00:52:02.079 --> 00:52:06.639
enjoyed and I will see you in
the next one. Bye.