Hello everyone, and welcome back to other podcast episode. My name is Alicia
Gogin, the host of the Globe Secrets podcast, where I help you expand
your mind and become more self awares so that you can glow up into the
best version of yourself. Y'all voted to keep the intro in, so here
we are. We are not going to get rid of the intro. Okay,
honestly, maybe I was just having a little phase my life where I
wanted to absolutely rebrand my entire life. But now we're back, and quite
frankly, I just had one of those like going into the depth of my
deep dark hole in my life and then just coming out being like, actually,
everything is fine and love does exist. That's how I'm feeling today.
Anyways, thank you guys for all the support in last week's episode when it
came to just asking your guys' advice on anything, especially when it comes to
the intro things like that. I did actually miss last week's episode because I
was not feeling like recording, which leads me into today's episode topic, which
is living life on easy mode. And I found a quote on Instagram.
I don't know where it is, but it basically said if being hard on
yourself worked, then it would work by now, And like, can we
just sit with that quote for a second, genuinely, like we're out here
being so damn hard on ourselves. We are the mental diet sometimes is giving
like girl relax like very tyrant behavior. When you don't do something perfectly correct,
you're just like ruining on ruminating I should say, on it, thinking
about it over and over and over again, trying to micromanage your damn life.
Like we know that doesn't work, Okay, Come on us perfectionists.
We know we can't be perfect. We know, and so many of us
want to live on easy mode, like a lot of us. I think,
you know, the rise of like the soft life, like feminine energy.
I think a lot of girls are kind of like, I don't know,
it was a phase like last year and the year before, and it's
still probably is. Like a lot of us want to just relax and chill.
Not even women, obviously men too, but we're all just sick and
tired of feeling like everything is so hard. And you know, I guess
this episode will be my take in my belief system and how I view life
and how I move through life. So you can take it with a grain
of salt, you can take it for what it is. But I do
think we genuinely make so many things way harder than it needs to be.
And I know that because I am a recovering perfectionist. I am somebody who
has really genuinely realistically in the three D reality, in the three D world,
has lived a hard life. Okay, my mom lived a hard life.
My dad lived a hard life that people around me, a lot of
us, like, we lived a hard life. And I had to work
and I had to grind, and I had to mentally get myself to a
point where I could get myself out of that. And now I live a
life which is way easier than it even was like two years ago. But
that doesn't mean that I completely just like let go of the mindset of like
everything has to be a hustle and everything has to be hard, and I
have to worry about everything because that's how I'm going to get what I want,
like, which we know like doesn't. But it's taken me a while
to slow down and really learn how to not be so obsessive and a perfectionist
and really just decide to you know, look, at life. As you
know, everything is supporting me and life can be easy. And I want
to talk about essentially two things, two mindset shifts really that have helped me.
This is really actually a belief system that I have naturally cultivated over the
years of you know, working through mental health issues, working through health issues,
just trying to discover myself. Going through that self helps improving myself,
seeing what works, seeing what doesn't. And it's interesting because these two things
that we're going to be talking about, I'm going to be putting a name
to them, which is out of the Hermetic Principles, the seven Hermetic Principles,
which are basically, like some people will say, like the laws of
the universe. There is argument on like how many laws of the universe there
is, And you don't have to believe any of this, like honestly,
you don't. I believe it, although I started living life through this lens
before I even had a name to it, like the laws of anything.
But I figured I would just bring that up because I'm going to be using
that and I'm going to read something out for you guys. But essentially this
is just like ancient wisdom back in the day, you know, people kind
of viewed the way that the universe works, and I honestly do believe this,
and I think a lot of you guys will too. So there's two
laws of the universe that I kind of like look at the as that really
helps ground me and bring me back to what I know is deeply true,
which is life does not have to be so hard. I do not have
to be so much of a stress ball. I do not have to try
and be the most perfect version of myself every single day. We know it
doesn't work. So let's first talk about the law of rhythm. And I'm
going to read off of this article that I have so you guys can understand
it, and you guys are going to resonate with this, Okay, So
let's talk about it. What is the law of rhythm? The law of
rhythm is also known by many names, like the law of cycles or the
law of the pendulum. The law of rhythm states that this pendulum swing manifests
in everything from the natural life cycle to our own personal experiences. It's like
a pendulum swing back and forth, always moving, the shifting of the ocean
tides. How your mood swings from good to bad or how life circumstances always
change. Are all samples of this rhythm. Change is the law of life.
Nothing lasts forever, and hold on. It's fine because I don't want
you guys to be stressing and be like, oh my god, everything that's
good in my life is just not gonna last forever. It's not like that.
I'm gonna give you some mindset shifts about how I kind of view this,
but genuinely, like we have to, like, I don't know,
I think this really was something that I don't know, like got switched on
for me through my life of just like growing up and realizing that trying to
do the same thing every single day, fighting against resistance all the time,
whether it had anything to do with work or you know how is feeling like
perfectionist mindset. Like it's like you have to understand that not every single day
is going to be the same. You have different moods. When you're a
woman and you're not on a hormonal both birth control, even if you are,
probably you go through this, but you know, there is cycles of
life that you go through. Your hormones, literally your hormone I don't know
why I said it, like hormone whatever. Your hormones are always fluctuating the
seasons of life, like we're going into spring, which requires us to move
in different ways or think in different ways. The sun is out more,
the days are longer, like for us to always expect to wake up do
the same thing every single day, all the time is the reason a lot
of the times. There's many reasons, but is one of the main reasons,
and especially for my own life, that we feel like everything is so
hard. Why do we feel like everything is so hard because we have consistent
resistance to what is. And this is like, it's normal to have resistance
to things you don't want to feel in life, like let's say negative emotion
or shitty things that are happening in your life. But what makes life even
harder or feel harder is when we push past the natural flow of what is,
which is, yeah, maybe you're going through a breakup right now,
or yeah, like maybe the sun is not out and you don't feel the
best. What we do is we say it's wrong that we feel bad because
the sun is not out and we're not accepting like, okay, just have
like a crappy day and like, you know, don't be motivated and don't
work because the sun is not out. But it's just to accept that,
yeah, you know what, the sun is not out and the sun really
affects me. So today maybe I'm not going to have like the most motivation
and the most like happiest thoughts. But that is okay. And you know
why that's okay because one, why am I going to resist something that is
naturally happening? But also it is going to change, It is going to
change. Understanding the law of rhythm, understanding that everything is essentially cyclical,
has changed the game for me when it comes to living life on easy mode
because when I move through life understanding this principle of life of you know,
I'll give you the example of just being on my like my period, like
my cycle. And if you guys don't know, we do have four phases
of our cycles. It's not just when you bleed. If you want to
understand more to do with cycle sinking. If you don't know, then I'll
link some videos from my main channel explaining cycle sinking. But you know,
the time that you men streight, the time that you bleed, you will
start slowly your hormones and everyone is different, but your homeowners your hormones sorry,
start to kind of like come back up to balance again, which means
you are actually going to feel like you have more energy. You might like,
you know, be more creative, and you want to like get out
in the world and you want to socialize when you're ovulating, like that's a
time where usually you have the most energy and you can do the most amount
of work in this that again completely depends. It's very general, and you
know as you fall back down. Right now, I'm in my luteal phase.
Your luteal phase is span sometimes of two weeks, and I feel that
the most I right now don't have that much energy. I'm kind of like
like trying to do the best to do as much content as I need to
do because I know that I'm going in a period of winter essentially for me,
which is I'm gonna bleed and I'm not gonna have a lot of energy
like my hormones or at its lowest, and I'm gonna understand that fact of
life, and I Am not going to resist that. And when you do
not resist it, life feels easy. Life feels easy because I am not
spending so much energy just being like no, this can't be happening, and
no, I shouldn't be feeling like this and this that and the third and
now a lot of us perfectionists we don't like that because we are so driven
to just like hit all the goals and like you need to be perfect,
but understand this, that's just not how it works. Is it really actually
work out like that for you? And bring it back to what I said
about that quote, like if being hard on yourself actually worked, it would
work. So through a lot of experience in my life, I have seen
that, you know, berating myself and trying to micromanage things that just clearly
are not working in the moment actually creates way more stress than need be.
I am making life way more harder than need be. And now I think,
like understanding the law of rhythm and understanding like life is cyclical, and
understanding my hormones, like my cycle, everything like that has really helped me
not like have this internal battle in my head because it's like it's like a
fact of life, Like it logically doesn't make sense that I'm gonna get mad
at myself for not having one hundred percent energy to go do a leg day
when I'm on my period. Like that that makes like actually no sense.
So I know sometimes it might take you a second to really understand that,
but I think that when you educate yourself on what is truly like, what
life actually is, I think that sometimes it can help you lessen that inner
critic. And I want to read something else from this article where it says
knowing your personal and spiritual rhythm, because I think this really helps, because
everyone is unique. To know your own rhythm, you need to pay attention
and be aware of the different cycles that you go through in your own life
experiences. This involves finding patterns in your thoughts, your feelings, your actions,
observe when you feel joyful and sad, productive and sluggish, when you
want to be alone, and when you want to be with others. And
I think that the ones that are perfectionists, which you can put me in
that same category, we have learned over years a way of moving through life
that is very linear, through a very masculine dominant society, or in general,
we just are influenced and we follow people who are not us. And
it's so okay to get advice, to get knowledge, to get wisdom,
to follow and have people guide you on this journey, whether it's anything to
do with fitness and health or mindset, whatever, but you have to come
back to what is true for you. You are unique, which means,
you know, if you are finding that you're trying to follow a fitness regimen
that your favorite like influencer who you just love their body and you really want
to look like them. It's not bad that you want to look like them.
But at the end of the day, it's like, if you're struggling
with, like, you know, doing what they're doing, maybe the way
that they're doing it is meant for them, but maybe not fully meant for
you. What works for you. What I mean what works for you is
you know, what is the least resistant thing for you. So for me,
like going to the gym at five am just does not work for my
schedule. I don't get enough sleep in time, and then I'm tired,
and then I'm miserable, and then I dread going to the gym, and
then I don't be I'm like, I'm not consistent, Like I'm not in
the identity of somebody who just moves their body, So I don't do it.
I go to the gym, sorry, at a time that works for
me, and now obviously depending on your job, depending on your environment,
things might you have to kind of like, you know, move the puzzle
pleat pieces. And I did that too, like I didn't always have the
job that I have now, but still I really stopped going against what was
true for me, and I understood that the more that I released resistance in
life, I was going to see the fruits of my labor. And I
think this is the reason why sometimes people struggle with being able to go with
the flow of life, essentially is because you don't have any evidence yet that
when you actually go in the direction of what feels good to you and what
works for your schedule, that you would have any actual good results. Because
we've been taught in our lives that actually, don't go in the direction of
what feels good to you. Just grind and hustle and hate your life,
and that's how you're going to get results in life. Like that's literally what
we've been taught. But that's actually not the truth of who we are.
And unfortunately we live in a generation where that's just kind of like how it
is, but does not need to be like that, I promise you,
But how you find that evidence and see that is like let's say, for
example, you try cycle sinking, and you see how good you feel through
the times that you're ovulating, and you genuinely see how much like work you
get done when you have the most energy, and how you feel and how
rested you end up actually being when you slow down when you're menstruating. And
this doesn't mean that you don't work. This doesn't mean that you just like
whatever, like the soft life like I don't know the soft life trend of
being like, oh you just don't work. No, it's not about not
working ever. It's just knowing who you uniquely are and your cycle and your
life and who you need to be and how you need to move through life,
and you be loving with yourself and you understand that like you're this human
being, you're like this little like young child that needs like you know,
maybe you need extra help, or maybe you need more affirmations, or maybe
you need like extra sleep. Like let's stop berating and hating on ourselves for
that. So this article goes on to say the process of knowing your own
rhythm requires you to be in tune with personal tempo when things rise and fall,
which means like stop looking outside of you for people to tell you how
you should feel and how you should move through life again, Like you can
get guidance for sure. You guys listen to me, You listen to other
people. I listen to people sometimes, But the end of the day,
it's like, you got to know your own patterns. You got to know
when you feel the best. Like I also think about this when it comes
to drinking. I'm not really a drinker. I never really have been.
I drank way more when I was in college just because it's just like party
town and whatever. It was really fun. But for me, if I'm
going through something where I know the next day I'm gonna be feeling down and
depressed or you know, whether like let's say I'm going through a breakup or
I miss somebody or things are just chaotic, or I have things to do
the next day. Like genuinely, like, depending on what me in my
life is requiring of me, that's gonna dictate whether I have extra drinks or
not at dinner table. At the dinner table with my friends. So but
we might go out and be like, Okay, well it's Friday night,
and what you do is like you go to the dinner table with your friends,
You go to a dinner party, whatever, and you have drinks because
everyone's having drinks. But just because everyone else is having drinks doesn't mean that
right now it makes sense for you to have so many drinks. But what
we do is we push past that because it's like, oh, well,
everyone else is doing it, or like, you know, this is like
what I maybe even want to do in the moment, which is fine,
but it's also like you have to consider how are you going to feel?
What do you need in this moment. This doesn't mean that you can never
drink, But for me, I know there's certain things that I will and
will not do. I know when I am menstruating, I do my absolute
best not to pile my weekend up with a bunch of social events because I'm
not going to be in the mood. Is this like, is this always
a thing? Can I always do that? Absolutely not. Even as I
work for myself, there's still events that I need to do, There's still
content that I need to create, There's still things that I got to do.
When I worked three jobs, I still had to work through my period.
But even when I was working three jobs, I made sure to do
the absolute best that I could, to give myself grace and say my self
love and compassion and not push myself and not add an extra leg day when
I like worked an eight hour shift and I'm on my period. Like there
are ways in Whish that you can support yourself, but you have to really
listen to who you are. This article also says once you accept this and
work on identifying your natural pace, you will be better prepared to handle life's
ups and downs. My gosh, sorry, which is very true. So
again, like when I am feeling my body naturally move into my ludeal phase,
at first, I might think like, oh my god, I'm not
feeling like like motivated to do content. Let's say, like I have a
day where I'm like supposed to be doing content and then like I'm waking up
and I'm like not in the best mood, and I see that I'm like
in my ludial phase. I'm like, oh, okay, Like no problem,
Like I'm not like mad at myself for doing that. And sometimes there's
no reason and that's also okay as well, Like we don't need to have
a reason for everything, but it's just to give yourself more grace. Now
let's go into the next part of this article, which leads me into the
next law that I want to talk about. So this says learning to go
with the flow, which I know, I know this is like the worst
thing that we could hear as women sometimes when men will be like, oh,
I just want to go with the flow and listen. I am not
a girl who likes to go with the flow, but I will say,
throughout my life, I have learned that, actually, you know what,
there's something about men that we just don't want to listen to. And some
of them, not the ones that just want to waste your time, but
some of them be knowing that going with the flow is actually the best way.
And I don't know if I'm just like picking up more of that that
energy in a healthy way or not, but like, genuinely listen, I
will I don't know if I'll ever identify as somebody who goes with the flow,
But God, does it feel good to go with the flow sometimes,
which is very hard to do, but when you do it, you actually
create so much magnetism. Things just align, Things genuinely will align if you
allow it, if you just go in the direction. What makes you feel
good, Like you wake up and you decide, hmmm, I actually don't
want to do this thing, or hmm, you know what today I told
myself I was going to do X, Y, and Z, but I
want to do it in like reverse because I feel more energy to like start
this project versus like I don't know for me, like record a podcast first.
And I know life can't always be like whatever you want, but I'm
telling you there's many pockets of your life where you can do things that you
actually want. You're just making it harder. The need be okay, so
let's continue. Instead of feeling fear when things are not going well, prepare
yourself for when things rise. By thinking this way, you stay grounded in
reality, but at the same time you remain hopeful when things are tough.
Preparing for the challenges to come helps you become stronger, more resilient, and
more adaptable in the face of challenges. And we're not trying to set ourselves
up for like, oh my god, I'm going to have the worst days
ever, but just understanding that that might just be a normal part of life.
And when I've really like stopped being so rate of bad days or negative
emotions or days that I'm not going to be so productive. It's like it's
like way less, like the lows of natural like rhythm of life, don't
feel so low because I am not looking at it like that, which brings
me into the next law, which is essentially the law of assumption, but
in the Hermetic principles it's called the law of mentalism. So let me quickly
explain what that is and how I use that as well on the times which
we've kind of already been talking about, but on the times where uh,
things might actually do feel like they might be hard, or things are kind
of in a low right now. Principle of mentalism states that the universe is
acting to a mental projection. This is like manifestation one on one, which
is all about using your thoughts to shape your reality. For anything to be,
a thought must proceed through it this principle, it's believed that God is
consciousness or thought, and the universe is a menta festation of the mind of
God. Using this law, we too can harness the power of our minds
to create the life that we want. Now, let me just like disclaim
this is a belief system. Some people don't believe this. I think that
a lot of you guys who listen to the podcast you probably do resonate with
this because you guys are very much so like under for the most part,
Like you guys focus a lot on mindset, and you guys know, like
the more you change your mindset, the more you love yourself, the more
you like look at things differently, like usually you tend to see different results
in your life. And then it goes on to say to how to apply
it. This is a good example. I think. Consider the initial thought
that led you to be able to read this on whatever device that you're on,
or even the thought that is most influencing your mood right now, which
like, let's stop and think, like there's always a thought that you have
before you do something. Okay, When we recognize how much our thoughts manifest
every day, whether internally as a physiological or emotional state or externally as the
things we do or places we go, we see that when we can control
our mind, we control our lives. We can get better at this through
spiritual practices such as meditation, which helps us train the mind. And this
is something that I've learned on my journey from a very young age of like
probably sixteen, I would say, like I usually kind of bring it back
to sixteen years old, you know, I started using the power of my
mind to think different thoughts, which led me to a different reality in my
life. I told myself when I was young, I'm going to get the
dream life. I'm going to do whatever it takes. I'm going to think
positively. I'm going to think in my favor when shit hits the fan,
when things happen, I'm going to decide to look at it from a place
of a lesson of it's working for me. Of I don't even need to
know the answer, but it is what it is, like the universe has
my back, that God has God has my back, whatever it is.
And I think this is important for the times when, like I just said,
things aren't necessarily going your way, circumstances are all messy in your life
or in general, just as you're going through the natural dip of life,
like when I am, let's say, bring it back to menstruating or not
feeling the best. Like yes, like I obviously know that I'm like like
all my period or like whatever, but I still need to have a mindset
to keep me in check. When I'm on my last week before I believe
my luteal phase, like the last week, like my mindset is like I
just want to rebrand my entire life, like nothing works. I hate everything,
Like I don't feel good, like my skin's not looking good, like
this that. And so when I'm recognizing that I have those thoughts, I'm
reminding myself in the moment, I'm using the power of my mind and aka
the law of assumption. I am assuming first of all, no problem,
this is a normal phase of life. But also redirecting my thoughts actually listen,
And this is not even about this is not about being delusional. It's
not about like telling yourself that you love yourself if you don't in the moment.
But it's like, okay, it's fine, I don't even need to
love myself right at this moment. Or maybe it's Alicia, you're like on
your period right now, Like you're gonna have a different mindset in like a
week's time, give it a second. Things are going to change, Things
are gonna work out in your favor. When you understand that life is just
a rhythm, okay. And also you can use your mind to really affect
the way you feel in your day to day life, you are going to
start feeling like life is on easy mode. Now this is an art,
Okay, this is an absolute art. And the reason why I'm saying it's
an art is because it's taken me many years to even really like adopt this
mindset and like see in real life, like, oh, actually, like
everything does rise and fall, and it's not a bad way. It's not
a bad way at all. It's just like that's just what it is.
And using the law of mentalism to remind yourself or loss of assumption to remind
yourself. Okay, so if it falls, it's going to come back,
and falling doesn't need to be this bad thing. And this is like where
I'm not going to get into it, but this is like what alchemists do
is essentially like when they understand that there is a natural dip in life,
you using the power of your mind and everything else, you do your best
to understand that you don't even need to go into these negative low like virations.
If you don't need to, you can keep yourself kind of neutralized and
just understand like I can stand and I can work with the flow of life,
bringing it back to like the fact that when I'm menstruating, Okay,
how can I adapt? How can I use what I have right now to
really support myself? How can I use the power of my mind? But
also okay, what does my body need? How do I move? How
do I win the game at adapting? Perfectionists are so good at trying,
and I mean trying because you don't actually win trying to win the game of
being linear, and the gag is is you can never win the damn game.
Okay, So if you want to win the fucking game because you just
have this perfectionist part of you that just like needs to win and like needs
to hit goals and like needs to whatever. I want you to try your
best, because we don't need to be perfect. But if you want to
try your best to win the game at adapting, and that is what I
have been doing for many years. I have gotten so good at knowing what
feels good and what doesn't. I've gotten so good at tracking my period.
I have gotten so good at understanding, you know, like the mindset that
I need to have on the days where feel things don't feel good. I
have gotten so good at understanding that, you know, what in the mornings.
I need to have a journal practice because if I do not, and
I don't have to be perfect with this, but if I do not,
yeah, you know, my mindset's not going to be the absolute best.
And there's times where I don't need the journal practice because I'm feeling one hundred
percent my self concept is on point whatever. And then there's sometimes that I
do or you know, there's sometimes in my body I feel like there's resistance
and I don't want to go out, but I'm telling myself, oh,
this is perfect night to go out. No, I'm not doing it.
I am releasing resistance, and I'm reminding myself that going in the direction of
what feels good to me is going to create the best results for me in
my reality but also just in my body, which is going to make me
feel really good. And this takes practice. It takes honoring yourself, it
takes not abandoning yourself genuinely. Now, at the end of the day,
you still live in a universe where the law of rhythm is happening, and
whether you like it or not, or whether you want to like you know,
acknowledge it or not. So I would if I were you and this
is just my advice, and you can do whatever you want. But I
would no longer look at the law of rhythm, a the downs in life,
the changes, the ebbs and flows as bad as a weakness, because
this is sometimes what we do. We make meaning out of everything. We
are mean making machines. Okay, we love to think and we love to
just like get all in there. I love that about us. But sometimes
what we do is we decide to go to the negative. So we look
at the fact that, like this is what I used to do. Especially
again we're gonna use the example of my period. I'd be like, oh,
it's such a weakness, Like I wish I wasn't a girl for this,
and like I wish I wasn't a woman because like all the guys they
get to just be productive and they get to whatever, and now I have
this period and it's just like a weakness and da da da dad. Why
are you looking at it as a weakness? Why are you looking at your
bad days? Is wrong? Like it shouldn't be happening. When you change
your mindset about the things that are happening in your life, you find whiz
dumb in it and a lot of people ask me, how do you come
up with topics for your podcast? Or how do you like, how do
you like whatever? All this kind stuff. A lot of it is because
I have changed a way that I've viewed some of the lowest times in my
life, and I have pulled wisdom from these things that I am able to
speak on. And that's also how I've leveled up in my life. I
didn't level up in my life by looking at every shitty circumstance and being like,
Wow, this is so bad, this is my reality. Life sucks,
and continue to perpetuate down that line. Listen, this doesn't mean that
I had perfect days and I was like, Okay, I have negative emotion
today, great, beautiful lesson learned. No, there's times that I got
triggered af there's times that I needed a week to freaking like come up from
my nervous system being shot. But one thing about me is I always come
back on top, and not only on top, but tenfold, and I
come out with wisdom, and I come out with something that changes my actual
reality. It's almost like I alchemize that energy that was, whatever it was.
That's how I look at life, and I think that's how a lot
of people are trying to look at life, and they do their best,
but I think that sometimes in the process of doing that, we just focus
so much on the low, like we just we focus so much on the
circumstance of being like, Okay, I'm trying to look at this positive.
But the thing is is this is happening right here in my reality. I'm
not trying to tell you to ignore the fact that you're going through a breakup.
I'm not trying to tell you to ignore the fact that you're feeling negative
emotion. And I think that in a spiritual realm, in a spiritual community,
sometimes what happens is like you get taught to spiritually bypass, meaning pretend
that you don't feel what you feel. Mm mmm mmmm No, we're not
gonna do that. And also you don't need to do that because how you
feel is actually very important to show you where you need to go. Okay,
so understand that. And that's how I look at any time that I
have a bad day, a crappy day, this that, And I'm not
telling I'm not saying I do this every single time, but like when I'm
not feeling good or things are not going on in my life. I'm like,
Okay, this is actually very valuable information. And I don't know what
this information is gonna mean yet, but all I know is it's valuable versus
looking at it as it shouldn't be happening. This is just such a nuisance.
This is just something that I shouldn't be happened, like whatever. If
you look at it like that, then you're gonna resist everything. You're gonna
feel like shit. And then when you do feel better, you haven't really
alchemized any of that energy, and it's gonna continue to perpetuate. And this
is not to mean that you're never gonna have again the ebbs and flows of
life, because that's normal, but the way that you experience it, it's
gonna feel hard. And so if you're wondering, like why life feels so
hard, a lot of the times, it's because it's the way that you're
moving, it's the way that you're viewing things. And am I gonna sit
here and say it's always our fault? No? Was it my fault that
I was born in a family where we didn't have a lot of money.
Was it my fault that I went through traumatizing things? Was it my fault
that my mom was an addict? Was it my fault that my dad you
know, didn't know how to freaking show up for me and love me?
This that, No, it wasn't. But what I'm doing in my reality
now is I am no longer playing that story out why I came out of
the womb, Okay, very deserving of love and affection and abundance and lights
and happiness. Unfortunately, for many of us, things happen in our life
and we can either look at that and be like, oh my god,
my circumstance is like, this is just how my life is supposed to be,
or you can remind yourself of the thing that is very very true,
whether you want to believe it or not. But I'm just gonna say this.
I'm just gonna like genuinely say this. You did not come here to
suffer and live out that story forever. You just didn't. Okay, I
personally do not believe whether you believe in the universe, you believe in God,
whatever, that God specifically wanted you to come out of the womb and
get traumatized and have a shitty fucking life for the rest of your life.
I don't believe that. You can believe it if you want, but I
just want to know how that it's helping you. And trust me, I've
been there when I had when I really started to become aware of like oh,
okay, well I have this type of life and these type of parents,
and this type of financial situation and like these type of health issues.
I could have looked at it been like, oh, this is what it
is. But then I realized, h this doesn't really make any sense though
logically, as much as it is real, all of it is real,
it doesn't really make much sense logically for me to go through life thinking that
life is against me, that I am this victim for the and this is
how I'm supposed to live my life. No, I'm not doing it,
And that is how I got out of the situation. How bringing it back
to the law of mentalism, I had to think differently first, before I
saw it reflected back in my life. When you think differently, you show
up differently and you feel differently. Okay, whether you want to believe in
manifestation or any of that, well, we'll bring it to the very logical
standpoint of you move through the world differently when you think better thoughts, You
get up and you just sigh. To take care of yourself, you decide
to not go in the direction of having shitty like conversations with people. You
stop gossiping so much, you stop complaining so much. You go and you
find opportunities for yourself. That's what I did when I realized I don't want
this reality. I said, you know what, hmm, what feels better
is to listen to a podcast that teaches me about something that I haven't been
taught about yet, or it goes let me go in the direction of you
know, going on a Pinterest or Tumbler. At the time, I was
a Tumblr girl and envisioning and imagining a life that I don't have yet.
That feels better to me, that feels better than me than to sit here
and be like, mmmm, oh my god, my life is just so
terrible and look at everyone else and what they have. And again I'm not
trying to call anyone else because like that was literally me, but it just
doesn't do us any good. And that is what that's the reason, not
reason, but like that's what sometimes feels so hard. So you have,
in my personal opinion, a lot more control over whether you feel like life
is on easy mode or hard mode, and it's an art. And I
think that the first action step that you can take in your life is to
decide to do one thing every single day that feels good to you. And
this can be big or small, and this is so unique to you.
I can give you like a few examples, Like the other day, it
was a day that I was like, Okay, I'm going to record a
podcast episode, and the next day it was like raining. And this was
for sure, it was my tenth day out of my period, which if
you guys cycle sync then you'll know about the tenth day. It's so real.
And I started feeling like my mood was just not there to be able
to talk, like genuinely, like I couldn't if you even tried. I
mean I probably could, but I just probably wouldn't have liked the episode.
And so I woke up in the morning and I had a decision right then
and there. I had a decision to make life hard. And what I
mean make life hard, I mean to feel resistance all day by saying,
do the thing that you need to do, and you have to do it
today. I genuinely actually had other days that I could have recorded, or
waking up and making things hard by deciding not to record, but in my
mind berating myself because I didn't record and I should have recorded on this day
and oh my god, you're not being perfect and you're not da da da.
So I decided in that moment when I realized what feels better to me
is to not record today. And I know this is like again, you
can't always be perfect with this, but in this certain circumstance, I know
that I can't record today. So I'm going to decide to go in the
direction of what feels good to me, which is not that right now,
and I am going to decide not to berate myself, and that is that
the story is done. Okay, So what did I do instead? I
ended up spending the entire day watching YouTube videos on quantum physics because that's what
I wanted to do, like literally, that's just what I wanted to do,
and I stopped feeling like crap about it, and even today, actually
this or actually yesterday, I had a plan on like what I was going
to do and how I was going to do the content that I need to
do. I have to record a podcast, I have to do brand work
today and whatever. So I was thinking, like, actually, last night
I let my hair out for the first time in forever, and I was
like, holy crap, your hair has grown so long. It's so beautiful
this that like you really need to do your hair again. And I was
like, oh, maybe I should do my hair tomorrow. But I was
like, whatever, I'll just decide in the morning. There's not a point
in me deciding to like decide how I'm going to feel now when I can
just decide tomorrow in the morning. Okay. So I woke up and I
just had this after I journaled, I had this like deep desire to do
my hair. And I was like, you know what, like move your
nail appointment to one one hour later you can do like because I had a
certain like schedule and whatever, but I had some flexibility. And this is
bringing it back to the fact that I have a lot of time freedom now,
more than I did ever, and I will still do these behaviors of
being a perfectionist when I don't need to be, so like just want to
like give you that like two cents. But I was like, you know
what, I just want to do my hair. So I ended up starting
to do my hair, and I decided I am not going to be obsessive
over time and be like, oh my god, I could have started my
podcast now, but I decided to do my hair. Maybe I shouldn't have
done it, and that back and forth. Nope, I'm deciding that this
is what's going to be and why because I know that everything's going to work
out. Everything's gonna work out in my favorite doesn't even matter. As I'm
doing my hair, I realized that I didn't strip my hair enough, like
I didn't shampoo it well, I didn't shampoo it at all, and I
was using a moose that wasn't like correct. So as I was doing my
hair, I started to realize that my hair wasn't turning out the way that
I wanted to. And in that moment, I could have then spiraled even
more because I'm like, oh my god, and I've done it and this
that, and now I'm like halfway through my hair and I don't want to
do it and what I want to do, and I decided in that moment,
I'm like, absolutely not. We're not doing this. We are not
making life harder than it needs to be. And I know this sounds like,
oh my god, like you know, like this is kind of like
stupid in a way, but it's not like this is like the things that
I do in my life and how I've always moved through life. Just making
everything such a big deal. So halfway through my hair, I said,
you know what, no problem, just gonna put it up into a nice
little bun. If you're watching on YouTube, you see you just like a
little clock clip. No problem. I'm gonna order the product that I need.
We're gonna do your hair, and the next podcast episode not an issue.
You can still do your podcast. You're gonna get everything done and on
with it. I went and I didn't spiral. I didn't feel like shit
about everything. I didn't feel resistant. And now I'm here recording my podcast
and I know you can't tell, but I feel really good and I feel
like life is on easy mode. But I could have made life not on
easy mode just by the internal thought process that I was going through, making
it a whole entire thing. Okay, So using the power of your mind
to go in the direction what feels good, and when you decide to go
in the direction that you want where you're practicing, you know, you know,
I'm gonna decide to walk on this side of the sidewalk then that,
and I'm not gonna feel bad about it. You obviously use the mindset of
not feeling bad about it, you will find life feels so good. And
when you feel good. And this is kind of only believe in manifestation,
but I mean, I think a lot of you guys kind of do.
You will attract different experiences based off of how you feel. Okay, whether
it's you actually taking action or energetically the law of vibration, which is also
another hermetic principle, you will attract. Okay, So I just want you
to decide. I guess, is what I'm saying. I kind of went
on a big rant, but decide and I guess. Another example is like
even as simple as the other day, I was literally walking down the road
and there was like one side of the road that just felt like genuinely gross
and dirty and like there's pigeons everywhere. And then there was another side of
the road that was like the pavement was new, and it was on a
side of the street where they were like building a new condo, so everything
like felt new and like whatever. And I decided in that moment, it
actually does matter which side of the road that I walk on because I care
about how I feel. So I decided to even though I didn't need to
because it's already on the side where like the pigeons were, I said,
you know what, m no, I'm going to cross the road. And
just simply by crossing the road and deciding to go in the direction that like
makes me feel good, life felt like it was on easy mode. And
this is not to say that, oh, if I walked on the other
side with the pigeons, like life is hard, like it's not, but
it's just how you feel and doing small things like that in your life.
I promise you, I promise you you will start to feel so much better
about yourself. Even when it comes to a song. If you put on
a song of the gym and you're like, I do not feel this song,
like this not motivating me, change it. Change it. If you're
listening to a podcast episode and it's like, oh, it's just like not
making me feel good and it's making me spiral. Change it. If you
go on freaking social media or TikTok and you're not feeling good, stop going
on it, okay, go in the direction that makes you feel good.
I don't care if you feel it illusional. I don't care if no one
else is doing it, I don't care. So anyways, I think that's
it for the most part. Oh, actually, maybe I'll give you one
more quick example. The other day I went to dinner with my friends,
and I don't have the biggest appetite. I do, but it depends.
But when I go out, I like to have my drink first, and
I like to let it like sit for a second, and then I like
to eat. I like to actually feel my hunger signals like turn on and
eat. Okay, But a lot of people who go for dinner usually they
eat and drink at the same time, or they're drinking their drink and then
the food comes and then they dive in. And some of my friends were
like eat. They were like before the food even came, they were like
appetizers and they're like, oh, here have like Alicia tries some pizza,
which, by the way, like just a disclaimer. I love my friends,
and they weren't trying to like push me to do anything stupid, Like
it wasn't like that, Like I love them, like it's not. It's
like, no, I'm not offended by any of this. But they were
like, oh, try the pizza, and I was like, oh,
yeah, will like when I'm like ready. I didn't say it like that,
but like in my head, I'm like, yeah, I'll do it
when I'm ready. And then they said it again, and they said it
again, and then one of my friends put the pizza pizza on my plate
like as if like just like eat it, and I'm like, yeah,
I'm just gonna like have my drink first. And then the food came and
you know, everyone's diving in and I'm grabbing some food and I'm eating it
as I want to eat it. I'm eating a little bit of salad.
I'm still drinking my drink. I'm relaxing. I'm just that. And now
I have this huge plate of food and like everyone's eating and people are commenting
being like oh like alisah, like how do you still have this food?
Like everyone was commenting on it, like making it no a big thing,
but they were just like very much so like hyper focused on my plate and
I'm sitting here like y'all just need to relax, Okay. I am so
good here drinking my drink, eating my food when I want to eat it,
and listen, I didn't need to over explain, but I also did
not need to feel bad about how it is that I wanted to eat my
food. And this is just bringing it back to like not feeling bad about
going in the direction that feels good to you. Listen, some people are
not gonna like it. Some people are gonna comment in on it. Some
people are gonna be like, why are you doing it? Like that doesn't
matter. And in that moment, I just like kind of told myself in
my head. Again, I wasn't like actually really triggered, but I told
myself in my head, like, you know what, it's fine, Like
people don't get it. I know what's true for me, and what's true
for me in this moment again, silly example, I want to drink my
drink first and I want to feel hungry before I eat. Okay, And
that's that. And I ate what I ate, and people thought what they
wanted to think, and I don't care because you know what I did,
what I wanted to do exactly how I wanted to do it, and that's
just what you need to do in life. I think more of and now
you have to obviously, you know, consider other people, and you need
to respond in a way that's like not you don't need to be triggered about
things. And that's how I've learned in my life, because you know,
the more you choose yourself, the more people are gonna be like, h
why are you doing like that? Or who you should do like this?
Respectfully? Love you just not doing it? Okay, Anyways, I think
that that's gonna be it for today's episode. I hope you guys enjoyed.
I'm going to actually say I think there's one or two things that I had
on here one. So we're going back to just doing one episode a week.
And I know some of you might be like, oh my god,
no, like we want more. The reason why I'm doing that is because
I have decided, at least for right now, that, like I said
last week's episode, the monthly reek like I'm doing the off topic episodes are
going to be monthly instead of doing it week. So the reason why,
if you guys are new here, why I was doing two episodes a week
was because the Mondays were considered off topic episodes and I was basically just updating
you guys on life, I was, I don't know, like talking about
things commentary like whatever I wanted to, and I was separating that from like
the main topic episodes because I didn't want them to be too lengthy. And
then some people just want to hear what like the episode is and this that,
so I kind of separated that. But because I realized that sometimes there's
just and this is coming back to like the law of rhythm, the law
of damn life. There's just some weeks I just don't have things to say.
So I have found that doing like a monthly recap kind of like works
better for me right now. And so with that said, bringing it back,
there's just some weeks that I cannot get out to episodes of like potent
wisdom or like topics, I just can't, Like there's just whatever. And
then there's some weeks that I bang them out like I bang them out.
But right now in my life, like actually now being in my luteal phase,
like I'm gonna be chilling life on easy mode. Sometimes I think,
like so much I go into like deep dark spirals, like the past week,
I've been in a quantum physic like deep dark hole and I'm thinking a
lot, so I don't have much to share right now because I'm still in
this energy of just thinking and processing things. So with that said, there's
just not sometimes there's nothing to share, or there's just like genuinely like I'm
busy in life and there's just something I'm not to share. So anyways,
going to one episode a week just works better for me. That way.
I make sure that I am not over exerting myself and like pushing myself too
much, and I have like the proper episodes. And what I'm gonna do
is if for some reason I have something wild that I really want to share
with you guys and it's not an off topic episode, I'll throw it in
on the Thursday. So we're gonna be moving I just figured, like we've
always done Thursday episodes to be like the episode because that's how I started my
podcast. But I figured I'll just keep it on Mondays because I kind of
like the idea of you guys having like a Monday episode to go into your
week with. So that's what we're going to be doing moving forward. Don't
forget to subscribe on my main channel YouTube though, if you guys want to
see like if you need an extra piece of content from me, because a
lot of those videos are kind of like parallel to some of the things that
I'm talking about on the podcast, and you can see like actually kind of
more what I'm doing in my life. So that's that. Also one quick
thing, I want to address the ads situation on YouTube. So some people
have been commenting being like there's so many ads, blah blah blah. YouTube
places my ads on my videos, but I didn't realize how many ads that
they were placing because I didn't I Usually what happens is YouTube will just place
as many ads depending on like how the length of a video. But sometimes
what YouTube does is they add a to of ads. I didn't know this,
but they add a ton of ads because not every single ad will play
for every single person depending on where you live and stuff. So what they
do is they maximize it and they add like a bunch of them and like
whatever. So anyways, depending on where you live and like whatever, sometimes
they're getting literally all of those ads. And also I use YouTube Premium,
so like I wasn't, like sometimes it's rare, but sometimes I'll rewatch my
episodes for some reason, like let's say I'm posting it on that day,
I'll just like play it for a second just to like think about what I
was talking about, and then I'll see the ad. But I no longer
see the ads anymore because I have YouTube Premium. Anyways, I have gone
in and I've taken many ads out, so there should be like a normal
amount of ads now in the YouTube videos. But if you don't like ads
at all, y'all just need to get premium. Like, like I'm telling
you, premium change my life as somebody who actively watches YouTube videos all the
time and is not expensive. Okay, So sorry to anyone who felt like
there was a lot of ads. There was For the most part, there
was just no I didn't actually go in there though, and like do that
on purpose. I didn't. I was just trusting that YouTube was placing the
ads based off of what they thought because that's usually how they do it.
But whatever, so I fixed that. And the last thing is next week
we have a very fun episode. We're gonna be talking about glowing Up.
Okay, I want to talk about the perfect formula that I have created.
I don't know really what I'm gonna title it, but something maybe along the
lines of that of how to glow up this Spring. Okay, this is
not gonna just be like I'm telling you to like do your hair care and
do your skincare like this that, although I'm gonna be showing you guys what
I'm gonna be doing internally and externally for my body and like physically on the
YouTube channel. So definitely go watch that. But it's gonna like correlate,
like we're gonna talk about a lot of things to do with mindset and then
like action and things like that, Like don't worry about it, but we're
gonna be talking about that next week. Okay. So I hope you guys
enjoyed and I will see you in the next one. Bye.