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And hey, hang them back with
something for you to think about. Before

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you do something to hurt your significant
other, think about the problems it's gonna

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cause. Before you do something to
hurt your significant other, think about the

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consequences you're gonna have to face.
If people would be honest and really look

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at what they are doing and be
honest that if it happened to them,

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how they would feel. If people
would really take that moment to think about,

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what if he or she did it
to me, how would I feel.

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People need to start thinking about what
they're doing before they do it,

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because one thing for certain is you
know when you're doing wrong. You know

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when you're talking out of pocket,
you'll know you know whatever you're doing is

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gonna hurt your significant other. All
of that crap about I'm sorry, I

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didn't mean it. What did you
think was gonna happen? When you're doing

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wrong. People who do not have
a second thought about what they're doing or

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what they're saying. Talking out of
pocket with someone, getting emotionally involved with

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someone, physically involved with someone,
whatever the case may be, you know

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it's wrong. You know it's wrong, and you also know if you're found

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out it's gonna cause problems for the
relationship, So why do it? So

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many people are very immature. They
have not grown to that level of maturity

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that they should be. They should
be at a higher level of maturity,

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but most people have not reached that
because they're still chasing after the flesh.

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It's still about what I want,
what I desire self gratification, only us.

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It's caused problems in your life.
I really believe if people cannot be

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loyal and faithful and committed to the
person that they're with, they should never

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be in a relationship. Why cause
issues in your relationship when it's unnecessary?

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Why do wrong when you know it's
gonna cause problems, You know it's gonna

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hurt your significant other. Why do
it? If you don't care enough about

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your significant other to not hurt him
or her, you don't need to be

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with them. You don't need to
be in a relationship period, because you're

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too focused on self self gratification.
So many people are in relationships with individuals

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who are constantly doing wrong, talking
to'em crazy, you know, just

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doing foolishness. Some of you allow
your significant others to treat you like they're

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your parents. They treat you like
crap, and then on top of that,

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some of them don't even bring anything
to the table. You know,

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it's crazy. It's crazy the things
people accept. It's crazy the things people

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settle for in their relationships for love
when they don't even get love in return.

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It's not love. When someone's speaking
to you any kind of way,

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that's disrespect. That's not love.
A person who love you will not do

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that. It's not love. When
someone's going out messing around, cheating on

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you, it's not love. Individuals
who do these types of things, they

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don't even love self, so how
can they love you. Some of you

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just go along with anything. You're
miserable, but you still go along with

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anything because you rather be in that
relationship than be by than to be by

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yourself. It's sad so many people
who are in relationships yet they are miserable

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and lonely, unsatisfied, unhappy.
Yet people do nothing about it. They

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don't try to fix the relationship because
a lot of times people can't even communicate.

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One person was afraid to say something
because the other person's gonna go off,

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so they'll tiptoe going around. That's
crazy, and especially when it's individuals

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who are doing the wrong thing.
Some of you do the wrong thing.

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Then you don't want your significant others
to say anything. You don't want them

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to talk about it. You don't
want them to keep bringing it up.

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Yet you keep messing up, but
you don't want them to keep going back

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to it. You act as if
they supposed to get over it because you

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want them to get over it as
soon as you want them too, quick

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as you want them too But that's
not reality. Some of you just do

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anything to your significant others, total
disrespect. You disrespect them in front of

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other people. You know you're wrong
and you know it's hurtful, but you

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still do it. That's why so
many people are so miserable in their relationships.

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They thought that they had someone who
love them, only to find out

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it's not love. It's not love
when you're mistreated, it's not love.

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When people just do you any kind
of way, it's not It is not

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love at all. So you you
you you get in a relationship knowing,

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because you know yourself better than anyone. You get in that relationship no one.

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You shouldn't be in a relationship with
anyone. You're not ready mentally,

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But you get in the relationship anyway, bringing habit, reaking habit, causing

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drama, causing pain, projecting your
unresolved issues onto the individuals you're with,

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bringing all your drama into the relationship. So many people are this way,

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So many they just go through life. It's like that revolving or that will,

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you know, that hamster that's on
the will, and all they do

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is go in one direction all the
time. That's the way most people live

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their lives, truly, totally and
completely unhappy, but they stay there in

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that unhappy place with someone who make
them miserable. There are more people in

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relationships who shouldn't be than those who
have real, good, strong and healthy

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relationships. You can see it sometimes. But you know another thing. People

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spend so much time faking, acting
as if their relationship is so great when

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they know they can't even get alonge
they can't stand one another, or the

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individual have messed up so much,
they have hurt you so much until you

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cannot stand that individual. You don't
want to be with that person, but

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you don't do anything about it because
you rather stay in the relationship than to

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start over to be by yourself.
It's the craziest thing it's very unfortunate.

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It's sad, but this is where
a lot of people, this is where

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they're at in their relationships. You
get into to these relationships knowing you are

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not ready. You know you still
wanna do what you wanna do, so

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you get in the relationship bringing all
of that mess into the relationship knowing it's

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gonna cause problems. Some of you
messed up the same day you got married,

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or the day before you got married. You just messed up, and

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you knew exactly what you were doing
because that's what's in you. You think

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your significant other is never gonna find
out until they do. I mean,

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it's it's something that could be avoided. It definitely can be avoided. But

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the problem is so many people it's
all about what they want, how they

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feel, what they desire, So
they don't care although they're in a relationship.

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They don't care how the things they
do affect their significant others. They

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don't care because their focus is on
being that individual who's getting that self gratification.

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That's what they care most about.
They don't care anything about having to

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deal with the consequences because they know
the consequences are coming. Some of you

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even get an attitude. You've done
wrong, but you have the goal,

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the audacity to get an attitude because
now you're being called out. Well,

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you wouldn't be called out if you
did the right thing. You know the

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things that you're doing are wrong.
You know they're gonna affect your relationship.

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You know they're gonna hurt the person
you're with. You know it, you

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know it, So why do them? Why do those things when you can't

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help yourself? You feel that you
can't help yourself. That tells you something

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about yourself. You really have some
healing to do, You have some growing

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to do, because that is not
conducive to healthy It's not conducive to a

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healthy relationship in no kind of way. But people spend their lives still doing

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the same crap for years and years
and years in and out of relationships,

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doing the same things. That is
ridiculous. You're doing the same things you've

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been doing for years and years and
years, still messing up, still making

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bad choices and decisions, knowing what
you're doing is gonna cause problems in your

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relationship, going to affective of the
person. You know it, but you

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still do it. Grow up,
You need to grow up. That's the

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bottom line. You need to grow
up. If you're not ready to be

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in a relationship, don't get in
one. Don't get into one. People

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are stressing themselves out. They're stressing
stressing out, they're significant others. You're

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stressed out because you're being called out. How dare you after as if the

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significant other is the problem when you're
the one who always bringing in the drama,

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but now you're stressed out. If
only people would just think, If

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only people will be honest, because
you know when you're doing wrong. But

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you have to be able to think
beyond your desires and your wants and your

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feelings. You have to think beyond
that best stuff. You have to be

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more mature. Unfortunately, a lot
of people can't be because they're not mature,

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So they just go through life doing
the same things. Instead of trying

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to become better. They keep doing
the same thing. Old. Its dirt

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some people, and that I'm not
trying to be derogatory. I'm not.

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I'm just saying people get old,
old, old, and they still want

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to do the same things. It's
not that they have to, it's a

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choice they want to because they're still
chasing after the flesh they're still chasing that

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self gratification. That's why so many
people never mature to the level that they

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should be, because they're still stuck
on self gratification. What they want,

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what they design. They totally ignore
the fact that they're in a relationship with

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someone. They're sneaking doing whatever they
wanna do, and then when they're found

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out and they're called out, they
have an issue with that crazy, just

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all kinds of wrong. Then significant
others, they're stressed out. Some of

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them feel what have I done?
What am I doing wrong? You should

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never never ever allow anyone to make
you feel as if you're the culprit,

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you're the one doing wrong when you
know you're not. If you let someone

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make you feel this way, you
need to look at yourself. There is

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something that needs to be healed inside
of you too, And if you keep

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taking what your significant other is dishing
out, you need to look at yourself.

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Something inside of you is not healed
completely. I've told you many of

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times that people attract like minded individuals, you know, people who are broken

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to some degree as well, because
it's not all the individual who's bringing the

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drama. You are a part of
the issue or the problem. If you

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are on the other end taking it, you're receiving that drama and settling for

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it, so you're part of the
problem too. I'm not saying these things

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to hurt anyone. I just want
you to take a closer look at your

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problem, at your situation, at
your relationship. What are you contributing.

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I'm not saying that you're the person
that's that's causing the the habit as far

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as being disrespectful, bringing in situations
such as cheating, infidelity, I'm not

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saying that that that you're the person
who's doing that. But what I am

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saying is when you take it,
you're almost just as bad because you are

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affecting the relationship too, because you're
allowing you're a significant other to do to

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do to you whatever they want.
When you have no consequences for a person's

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actions, when you do nothing,
you are teaching them that what they're doing

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is okay, even though it's not. They know it's not, but it's

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like it's okay because you never say
anything, or you stay and repeatedly go

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through the same thing. You may
say something, but they don't take you

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serious because they keep doing it and
you keep allowing it so they don't take

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you serious. So many people would
rather be in unhappy, miserable relationships than

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to be by themselves. This tells
me that people still need to learn how

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to love self. When you don't
love yourself, you will take all kinds

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of crap. You will allowing accept
all kinds of crap. When you don't

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love yourself, and you think you
don't love yourself, your significant other don't

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love his and herself either. That's
why they do what they do. That's

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why they bring all of the drama
into the relationship. They don't love self.

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That's why they're out doing all the
stuff that they've been doing. They

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don't love self. So many people
just open the doors to unnecessary drama in

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their lives. So many people,
the ones doing the rung and the ones

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who accepting the wrong opening the door
to drama, unnecessary drama. You're going

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through it because you are allowing it. It's happening because you are allowing it.

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They keep getting away with it because
you are allowing it. You are

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allowing them to do whatever it is
they're doing to you. Whatever it is,

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they will deal with the aftermath because
they know it's not gonna be much,

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you're gonna forgive them and keep going
like it never happened, although you're

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measerable inside because they keep messing up. You have to love yourself enough.

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You have to love yourself beyond what
you feel for him or her, because

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it's obvious they don't love you the
way they should because they keep doing to

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you what they're doing, and they
will continue to do it as long as

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you you allow it. So all
I'm trying to say to people, look

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at yourself. If you're a person
who always bring a drumma into your relationship,

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look at yourself. It's time to
stop. It's time to grow up

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and mature. If you're a person
who keep taking it, keep allowing it,

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look at yourself. It's time to
grow. It's time to mature.

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It's time to love self, both
you and the other person. It's time

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to love self, because neither person
love self because you're taking the drama and

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you're bringing the drama. People who
love themselves don't do that. And that's

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it. That's all I'm gonna say
on this, Thank you for listening.

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So many people are going through in
their relationships, so many, so many.

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But the thing is, people are
going through situations they don't even have

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to go through. They don't.
That's why I tell you, over and

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over and over and over, look
at yourself, Look at you. What

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are you allowing? People are so
desperate, reaching outward, looking for love

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and all of these things, but
they're not getting it. They're getting drama,

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hurt, pain. So you have
to look at yourself and figure out

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why am I allowing this guy to
treat me like this? Why am I

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allowing this woman to treat me like
this? Why what's going on in me

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that I need to fix to change
my mindset? No one can do that

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for you but you. No one
can change you but you. It's totally

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up to you. So please share
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tell you how to reach me.
I will respond. Thank you so much

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again. I end every episode the
same, and I hope you make a

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change in your life. I hope
you do it. Thank on it