And hey, hang them back with something for you to think about. Before
you do something to hurt your significant other, think about the problems it's gonna
cause. Before you do something to hurt your significant other, think about the
consequences you're gonna have to face. If people would be honest and really look
at what they are doing and be honest that if it happened to them,
how they would feel. If people would really take that moment to think about,
what if he or she did it to me, how would I feel.
People need to start thinking about what they're doing before they do it,
because one thing for certain is you know when you're doing wrong. You know
when you're talking out of pocket, you'll know you know whatever you're doing is
gonna hurt your significant other. All of that crap about I'm sorry, I
didn't mean it. What did you think was gonna happen? When you're doing
wrong. People who do not have a second thought about what they're doing or
what they're saying. Talking out of pocket with someone, getting emotionally involved with
someone, physically involved with someone, whatever the case may be, you know
it's wrong. You know it's wrong, and you also know if you're found
out it's gonna cause problems for the relationship, So why do it? So
many people are very immature. They have not grown to that level of maturity
that they should be. They should be at a higher level of maturity,
but most people have not reached that because they're still chasing after the flesh.
It's still about what I want, what I desire self gratification, only us.
It's caused problems in your life. I really believe if people cannot be
loyal and faithful and committed to the person that they're with, they should never
be in a relationship. Why cause issues in your relationship when it's unnecessary?
Why do wrong when you know it's gonna cause problems, You know it's gonna
hurt your significant other. Why do it? If you don't care enough about
your significant other to not hurt him or her, you don't need to be
with them. You don't need to be in a relationship period, because you're
too focused on self self gratification. So many people are in relationships with individuals
who are constantly doing wrong, talking to'em crazy, you know, just
doing foolishness. Some of you allow your significant others to treat you like they're
your parents. They treat you like crap, and then on top of that,
some of them don't even bring anything to the table. You know,
it's crazy. It's crazy the things people accept. It's crazy the things people
settle for in their relationships for love when they don't even get love in return.
It's not love. When someone's speaking to you any kind of way,
that's disrespect. That's not love. A person who love you will not do
that. It's not love. When someone's going out messing around, cheating on
you, it's not love. Individuals who do these types of things, they
don't even love self, so how can they love you. Some of you
just go along with anything. You're miserable, but you still go along with
anything because you rather be in that relationship than be by than to be by
yourself. It's sad so many people who are in relationships yet they are miserable
and lonely, unsatisfied, unhappy. Yet people do nothing about it. They
don't try to fix the relationship because a lot of times people can't even communicate.
One person was afraid to say something because the other person's gonna go off,
so they'll tiptoe going around. That's crazy, and especially when it's individuals
who are doing the wrong thing. Some of you do the wrong thing.
Then you don't want your significant others to say anything. You don't want them
to talk about it. You don't want them to keep bringing it up.
Yet you keep messing up, but you don't want them to keep going back
to it. You act as if they supposed to get over it because you
want them to get over it as soon as you want them too, quick
as you want them too But that's not reality. Some of you just do
anything to your significant others, total disrespect. You disrespect them in front of
other people. You know you're wrong and you know it's hurtful, but you
still do it. That's why so many people are so miserable in their relationships.
They thought that they had someone who love them, only to find out
it's not love. It's not love when you're mistreated, it's not love.
When people just do you any kind of way, it's not It is not
love at all. So you you you you get in a relationship knowing,
because you know yourself better than anyone. You get in that relationship no one.
You shouldn't be in a relationship with anyone. You're not ready mentally,
But you get in the relationship anyway, bringing habit, reaking habit, causing
drama, causing pain, projecting your unresolved issues onto the individuals you're with,
bringing all your drama into the relationship. So many people are this way,
So many they just go through life. It's like that revolving or that will,
you know, that hamster that's on the will, and all they do
is go in one direction all the time. That's the way most people live
their lives, truly, totally and completely unhappy, but they stay there in
that unhappy place with someone who make them miserable. There are more people in
relationships who shouldn't be than those who have real, good, strong and healthy
relationships. You can see it sometimes. But you know another thing. People
spend so much time faking, acting as if their relationship is so great when
they know they can't even get alonge they can't stand one another, or the
individual have messed up so much, they have hurt you so much until you
cannot stand that individual. You don't want to be with that person, but
you don't do anything about it because you rather stay in the relationship than to
start over to be by yourself. It's the craziest thing it's very unfortunate.
It's sad, but this is where a lot of people, this is where
they're at in their relationships. You get into to these relationships knowing you are
not ready. You know you still wanna do what you wanna do, so
you get in the relationship bringing all of that mess into the relationship knowing it's
gonna cause problems. Some of you messed up the same day you got married,
or the day before you got married. You just messed up, and
you knew exactly what you were doing because that's what's in you. You think
your significant other is never gonna find out until they do. I mean,
it's it's something that could be avoided. It definitely can be avoided. But
the problem is so many people it's all about what they want, how they
feel, what they desire, So they don't care although they're in a relationship.
They don't care how the things they do affect their significant others. They
don't care because their focus is on being that individual who's getting that self gratification.
That's what they care most about. They don't care anything about having to
deal with the consequences because they know the consequences are coming. Some of you
even get an attitude. You've done wrong, but you have the goal,
the audacity to get an attitude because now you're being called out. Well,
you wouldn't be called out if you did the right thing. You know the
things that you're doing are wrong. You know they're gonna affect your relationship.
You know they're gonna hurt the person you're with. You know it, you
know it, So why do them? Why do those things when you can't
help yourself? You feel that you can't help yourself. That tells you something
about yourself. You really have some healing to do, You have some growing
to do, because that is not conducive to healthy It's not conducive to a
healthy relationship in no kind of way. But people spend their lives still doing
the same crap for years and years and years in and out of relationships,
doing the same things. That is ridiculous. You're doing the same things you've
been doing for years and years and years, still messing up, still making
bad choices and decisions, knowing what you're doing is gonna cause problems in your
relationship, going to affective of the person. You know it, but you
still do it. Grow up, You need to grow up. That's the
bottom line. You need to grow up. If you're not ready to be
in a relationship, don't get in one. Don't get into one. People
are stressing themselves out. They're stressing stressing out, they're significant others. You're
stressed out because you're being called out. How dare you after as if the
significant other is the problem when you're the one who always bringing in the drama,
but now you're stressed out. If only people would just think, If
only people will be honest, because you know when you're doing wrong. But
you have to be able to think beyond your desires and your wants and your
feelings. You have to think beyond that best stuff. You have to be
more mature. Unfortunately, a lot of people can't be because they're not mature,
So they just go through life doing the same things. Instead of trying
to become better. They keep doing the same thing. Old. Its dirt
some people, and that I'm not trying to be derogatory. I'm not.
I'm just saying people get old, old, old, and they still want
to do the same things. It's not that they have to, it's a
choice they want to because they're still chasing after the flesh they're still chasing that
self gratification. That's why so many people never mature to the level that they
should be, because they're still stuck on self gratification. What they want,
what they design. They totally ignore the fact that they're in a relationship with
someone. They're sneaking doing whatever they wanna do, and then when they're found
out and they're called out, they have an issue with that crazy, just
all kinds of wrong. Then significant others, they're stressed out. Some of
them feel what have I done? What am I doing wrong? You should
never never ever allow anyone to make you feel as if you're the culprit,
you're the one doing wrong when you know you're not. If you let someone
make you feel this way, you need to look at yourself. There is
something that needs to be healed inside of you too, And if you keep
taking what your significant other is dishing out, you need to look at yourself.
Something inside of you is not healed completely. I've told you many of
times that people attract like minded individuals, you know, people who are broken
to some degree as well, because it's not all the individual who's bringing the
drama. You are a part of the issue or the problem. If you
are on the other end taking it, you're receiving that drama and settling for
it, so you're part of the problem too. I'm not saying these things
to hurt anyone. I just want you to take a closer look at your
problem, at your situation, at your relationship. What are you contributing.
I'm not saying that you're the person that's that's causing the the habit as far
as being disrespectful, bringing in situations such as cheating, infidelity, I'm not
saying that that that you're the person who's doing that. But what I am
saying is when you take it, you're almost just as bad because you are
affecting the relationship too, because you're allowing you're a significant other to do to
do to you whatever they want. When you have no consequences for a person's
actions, when you do nothing, you are teaching them that what they're doing
is okay, even though it's not. They know it's not, but it's
like it's okay because you never say anything, or you stay and repeatedly go
through the same thing. You may say something, but they don't take you
serious because they keep doing it and you keep allowing it so they don't take
you serious. So many people would rather be in unhappy, miserable relationships than
to be by themselves. This tells me that people still need to learn how
to love self. When you don't love yourself, you will take all kinds
of crap. You will allowing accept all kinds of crap. When you don't
love yourself, and you think you don't love yourself, your significant other don't
love his and herself either. That's why they do what they do. That's
why they bring all of the drama into the relationship. They don't love self.
That's why they're out doing all the stuff that they've been doing. They
don't love self. So many people just open the doors to unnecessary drama in
their lives. So many people, the ones doing the rung and the ones
who accepting the wrong opening the door to drama, unnecessary drama. You're going
through it because you are allowing it. It's happening because you are allowing it.
They keep getting away with it because you are allowing it. You are
allowing them to do whatever it is they're doing to you. Whatever it is,
they will deal with the aftermath because they know it's not gonna be much,
you're gonna forgive them and keep going like it never happened, although you're
measerable inside because they keep messing up. You have to love yourself enough.
You have to love yourself beyond what you feel for him or her, because
it's obvious they don't love you the way they should because they keep doing to
you what they're doing, and they will continue to do it as long as
you you allow it. So all I'm trying to say to people, look
at yourself. If you're a person who always bring a drumma into your relationship,
look at yourself. It's time to stop. It's time to grow up
and mature. If you're a person who keep taking it, keep allowing it,
look at yourself. It's time to grow. It's time to mature.
It's time to love self, both you and the other person. It's time
to love self, because neither person love self because you're taking the drama and
you're bringing the drama. People who love themselves don't do that. And that's
it. That's all I'm gonna say on this, Thank you for listening.
So many people are going through in their relationships, so many, so many.
But the thing is, people are going through situations they don't even have
to go through. They don't. That's why I tell you, over and
over and over and over, look at yourself, Look at you. What
are you allowing? People are so desperate, reaching outward, looking for love
and all of these things, but they're not getting it. They're getting drama,
hurt, pain. So you have to look at yourself and figure out
why am I allowing this guy to treat me like this? Why am I
allowing this woman to treat me like this? Why what's going on in me
that I need to fix to change my mindset? No one can do that
for you but you. No one can change you but you. It's totally
up to you. So please share this episode. Thank you for listening.
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