WEBVTT 1 00:00:00.040 --> 00:00:03.040 Hi everyone, and welcome back to another podcast episode. My name is Alicia 2 00:00:03.040 --> 00:00:06.160 Gogin, the host of the Globe Secrets podcast, where I help you expand 3 00:00:06.160 --> 00:00:09.279 your mind and become more self awares that you can glow up into the best 4 00:00:09.400 --> 00:00:15.080 version of yourself. Hello, how are we doing? And Hi to some 5 00:00:15.160 --> 00:00:20.600 of the new subscribers on the YouTube because if you are currently listening on audio 6 00:00:20.679 --> 00:00:25.239 or Spotify, you won't know, but one of my videos for this channel 7 00:00:26.000 --> 00:00:30.039 got a lot more views than it usually does, so that's great. That 8 00:00:30.280 --> 00:00:34.159 was basically in the plan when I was telling you guys about how I wanted 9 00:00:34.159 --> 00:00:38.880 to start posting when I felt aligned, So I'm not surprised that that video 10 00:00:39.240 --> 00:00:43.560 did that. That's usually what happens with some of my main channel videos. 11 00:00:44.359 --> 00:00:48.960 I usually find that there's a lot of potent alignment before a video will go 12 00:00:49.560 --> 00:00:53.159 more viral than most of the other ones. So the title of this episode 13 00:00:53.280 --> 00:00:57.799 is you are not broken, you just need to respond differently. So the 14 00:00:57.880 --> 00:01:00.799 other day I was thinking, as I always do, because that's that's what 15 00:01:00.880 --> 00:01:03.959 I do. I think a lot of things all the time, and I 16 00:01:04.040 --> 00:01:11.560 come to lots of conclusions, and I was listening to actually listening to Tate 17 00:01:11.599 --> 00:01:15.439 McRae. I freaking love her, and she was just she sings a lot 18 00:01:15.480 --> 00:01:22.560 about her ex boyfriend, honestly, about him not being loyal and just cheating 19 00:01:22.599 --> 00:01:25.680 and things like that or just like relationship issues. And I was sitting there 20 00:01:26.159 --> 00:01:29.439 and I was thinking about the fact that, like, damn, like everyone 21 00:01:29.519 --> 00:01:33.599 is going through something, even celebrities, if you listen to their music, 22 00:01:33.719 --> 00:01:36.920 and I know, like some of these songs are maybe written for them this 23 00:01:37.079 --> 00:01:40.560 that, but I don't know. I'm pretty connected with Tate's music, and 24 00:01:40.599 --> 00:01:44.400 I followed her like genuinely, a lot of her songs are definitely about her 25 00:01:44.439 --> 00:01:48.359 ex boyfriend. Like she's a small town girl and she dated I think he 26 00:01:48.400 --> 00:01:52.439 was a hockey player and whatever. Like it's very authentic, you can definitely 27 00:01:52.519 --> 00:01:56.159 tell. But I was thinking about how, you know, again the celebrities, 28 00:01:56.359 --> 00:02:00.480 everyone is fighting something, everyone to get out of a cycle. Everyone 29 00:02:00.640 --> 00:02:06.400 has some sort of trauma, everyone has some sort of demon And the reason 30 00:02:06.400 --> 00:02:10.919 why I was thinking this is important to think about is that when we are 31 00:02:10.960 --> 00:02:15.319 on a healing journey, we have this idea of how we need to be. 32 00:02:15.599 --> 00:02:17.479 We look at ourselves like we are broken and we need to heal, 33 00:02:19.199 --> 00:02:23.960 but how do we even know what that even looks like? If everyone is 34 00:02:23.039 --> 00:02:28.199 fighting a demon like nobody is perfect, even the people that you look at 35 00:02:28.240 --> 00:02:32.199 are like online or celebrities. Like I said, everyone is battling something, 36 00:02:32.280 --> 00:02:36.680 So what are you even aiming for? How do we get out of these 37 00:02:36.719 --> 00:02:40.039 cycles? And something that's very prevalent in my life that I'm seeing is I 38 00:02:40.199 --> 00:02:45.719 need to respond differently in order to get a new result in my life. 39 00:02:45.800 --> 00:02:50.560 Which we know this, but realistically, if you want to break a pattern 40 00:02:50.680 --> 00:02:53.680 or you don't want to be broken anymore, and we can talk about the 41 00:02:53.680 --> 00:02:58.120 fact that no one's really perfect, you're gonna need to respond differently. But 42 00:02:58.199 --> 00:03:00.159 then that got me thinking about this, why don't we just respond differently? 43 00:03:00.599 --> 00:03:04.680 If we want a new result, we will respond differently. We will break 44 00:03:04.719 --> 00:03:07.120 the pattern, we will stop the cycle, we will fight the demon. 45 00:03:07.319 --> 00:03:10.039 Well, I think what gets in your way of actually doing that is the 46 00:03:10.080 --> 00:03:15.000 mere fact that you look at yourself like you are broken. When your life 47 00:03:15.080 --> 00:03:19.639 is calling you to respond differently, it's ten times harder for you to not 48 00:03:19.719 --> 00:03:23.719 only respond, but to keep that response until you get a new result in 49 00:03:23.719 --> 00:03:27.840 your life. When you are constantly looking at yourself like you are broken. 50 00:03:28.120 --> 00:03:30.879 When you are constantly telling yourself that you are broken, it feels like this 51 00:03:31.039 --> 00:03:35.879 mountain that you have to climb every single day, and it's no wonder you 52 00:03:35.919 --> 00:03:38.039 don't end up doing it. It's no wonder why you keep going into these 53 00:03:38.039 --> 00:03:43.159 self sabotaging behaviors. It's no wonder. As soon as you have anything on 54 00:03:43.199 --> 00:03:46.439 your calendar where you're telling yourself you have to improve your life and you have 55 00:03:46.479 --> 00:03:49.439 to do X, Y and Z and you're going to be different and you 56 00:03:49.479 --> 00:03:53.599 have to cut out these things that you end up falling back into a cycle. 57 00:03:53.680 --> 00:03:57.520 Because the mere fact of you telling yourself that you need to change, 58 00:03:57.960 --> 00:04:01.080 the energy that you're coming at yourself with is you are broken, and you're 59 00:04:01.120 --> 00:04:04.240 not going to be good enough until you are fixed. You have to fix 60 00:04:04.319 --> 00:04:11.400 something about yourself. It's not about ridding that bad habit or the fact that 61 00:04:11.439 --> 00:04:15.759 you're in a cycle or there's something wrong with you away completely like healing it 62 00:04:15.800 --> 00:04:17.360 completely. Or it's like, oh, I have this wound from childhood and 63 00:04:17.360 --> 00:04:21.959 this needs to be healed completely before I change my life, or this is 64 00:04:23.000 --> 00:04:25.600 the reason why things keep happening. It's not even about that. It's not 65 00:04:25.680 --> 00:04:30.399 about ridding yourself until you are perfect, because that doesn't even exist. It 66 00:04:30.480 --> 00:04:33.680 literally, it does not exist. Where true healing and change actually comes from 67 00:04:34.199 --> 00:04:42.839 is you adapting and you leading into your deepest wounds and your patterns in your 68 00:04:42.839 --> 00:04:46.759 cycles versus leaning out from it. When you're leaning out from these things, 69 00:04:46.120 --> 00:04:49.879 you're separating things from yourself, and you're saying like, I am not whole. 70 00:04:50.319 --> 00:04:54.360 I have this thing that is not good, it's bad, it's wrong. 71 00:04:54.399 --> 00:04:56.360 I have to fix it. Until then, I'm not going to be 72 00:04:56.399 --> 00:05:00.079 happy. Until then, people won't love me. Until then something there's going 73 00:04:59.920 --> 00:05:02.680 to to be something, And that is what's constantly keeping you in this cycle. 74 00:05:02.800 --> 00:05:09.639 Now. I have been really obsessed with the song called Angel Numbers Slash. 75 00:05:09.959 --> 00:05:13.959 I think it's ten Toes by Chris Brown. And if you have not 76 00:05:14.040 --> 00:05:18.519 listened to that song, I feel if you're resonating with this message, that 77 00:05:19.319 --> 00:05:25.759 you will feel a connection of that song to this energy of this podcast episode 78 00:05:25.800 --> 00:05:29.879 and probably the phase of your life that you're in right now. Maybe I 79 00:05:29.920 --> 00:05:32.199 don't know. I just feel like very called that song, and I feel 80 00:05:32.240 --> 00:05:36.680 like I pick up songs in my life that are fully the soundtrack of the 81 00:05:36.759 --> 00:05:41.680 current energy or the current thing that I am learning or deepening within myself, 82 00:05:41.680 --> 00:05:45.680 and I feel like that is kind of the song. But anyways, in 83 00:05:45.720 --> 00:05:48.639 that song, he says a lot that he needs healing energy, and I 84 00:05:48.680 --> 00:05:55.040 really want you to understand that healing energy is not fixing energy, and that 85 00:05:55.160 --> 00:05:58.920 is what you're going to need to do in your life if you want different 86 00:05:58.959 --> 00:06:00.800 outcomes in your life, if you want to feel better, if you want 87 00:06:00.839 --> 00:06:04.920 to get out of these cycles. The thing that I can tell you actually 88 00:06:05.040 --> 00:06:10.720 changed me was when I started to learn how to give myself healing, loving 89 00:06:11.000 --> 00:06:16.920 energy versus braiding myself into trying to change and hating myself into change. It 90 00:06:17.040 --> 00:06:21.000 never worked. And usually that happens at the end of you going through so 91 00:06:21.040 --> 00:06:27.920 many cycles because you're so fed up with trying, and you see how habits 92 00:06:28.079 --> 00:06:31.160 or mindsets or whatever clearly just they're not going to be the things that serve 93 00:06:31.240 --> 00:06:38.680 you, and you tend to sometimes break down and hopefully rise up. And 94 00:06:38.839 --> 00:06:42.800 every time that I've risen up in my life, it's been from this loving 95 00:06:42.959 --> 00:06:48.120 energy of radical self acceptance and self love and just realizing that the way that 96 00:06:48.240 --> 00:06:51.519 I am going to start to love myself again, whether it's my body, 97 00:06:51.639 --> 00:06:57.040 my face, my lifestyle, my self, content, my confidence, whatever. 98 00:06:57.560 --> 00:07:03.720 It really seems to only work when I actually stop berating myself and when 99 00:07:03.720 --> 00:07:06.800 I'm not rebrating myself. That really just means I'm accepting the fact that I'm 100 00:07:06.800 --> 00:07:11.360 not a perfect human being. I'm accepting that I had a messy day instead 101 00:07:11.360 --> 00:07:13.439 of saying, oh my god, I ruined it. I ruined it. 102 00:07:13.439 --> 00:07:16.120 I ruined it once again, over and over berating myself and just like going 103 00:07:16.160 --> 00:07:20.000 into that cycle that doesn't work. And so I had to get to a 104 00:07:20.000 --> 00:07:23.560 point where I was like, you know what, I have to be okay 105 00:07:23.639 --> 00:07:27.439 with not being perfect today. I literally can't not like I've tried the opposite 106 00:07:27.439 --> 00:07:30.279 way and it literally doesn't work. So as much as it hurts me, 107 00:07:30.560 --> 00:07:32.560 as much as it makes me feel uncomfortable, as much as I don't want 108 00:07:32.600 --> 00:07:35.639 to, because it means that I'm not gonna whatever I was making, it 109 00:07:35.680 --> 00:07:40.399 mean I have to be okay with not being perfect today. I have to 110 00:07:40.480 --> 00:07:43.600 let people see a side of me that I don't really want them to see, 111 00:07:43.680 --> 00:07:46.839 because I know that that's going to allow me to actually build a relationship 112 00:07:46.839 --> 00:07:49.240 with them. I have to be vulnerable. I can't keep responding to the 113 00:07:49.279 --> 00:07:54.519 things in my life the same way, it literally doesn't work. And the 114 00:07:55.560 --> 00:07:59.600 key message that I had, the mindset that I had going through those times, 115 00:07:59.720 --> 00:08:01.959 was having to tell myself, you are not broken, Alicia. You're 116 00:08:03.000 --> 00:08:07.040 not broken. You're not broken because you are not showing up one hundred percent 117 00:08:07.120 --> 00:08:09.319 today like you are fine, you are accepted, you are loved. You 118 00:08:09.319 --> 00:08:13.480 were these things I had to learn how to tell myself, and that's how 119 00:08:13.519 --> 00:08:18.439 I was able to actually respond differently. If a relationship is calling you to 120 00:08:20.000 --> 00:08:24.519 communicate, aka for you to show up differently, respond differently. If that's 121 00:08:24.560 --> 00:08:28.720 what you know your relationship is going to need for it to actually go deeper, 122 00:08:28.800 --> 00:08:31.960 Like logically you know that, then you're going to need to respond differently. 123 00:08:33.159 --> 00:08:35.080 But the only way that you're going to actually allow yourself to respond differently 124 00:08:35.399 --> 00:08:39.799 is if you don't look at yourself like you are broken or you are wrong, 125 00:08:39.919 --> 00:08:43.039 or you have to be perfect in order to respond differently, because then 126 00:08:43.039 --> 00:08:45.360 you won't do it. You have to be okay with the fact that, 127 00:08:45.480 --> 00:08:48.759 Okay, this thing is calling me to communicate in a new way and I 128 00:08:48.759 --> 00:08:52.559 have no idea how to do it, and I'm scared and this feels cringey, 129 00:08:52.679 --> 00:08:56.080 But you know what, I am not broken because I'm showing up in 130 00:08:56.120 --> 00:08:58.279 a non perfect way. Quite frankly, I'm allowed to be like this. 131 00:08:58.559 --> 00:09:01.879 I am broken, And that's how you get new results in your life, 132 00:09:03.000 --> 00:09:05.840 obviously, because you've responded in a new way. So think about some of 133 00:09:05.879 --> 00:09:11.840 the things in your current life that are requiring you to respond differently, and 134 00:09:11.919 --> 00:09:15.799 see how you are actually getting in your way of doing that. See how 135 00:09:16.120 --> 00:09:20.080 the internal dialogue that you have about how not perfect you are, or how 136 00:09:20.120 --> 00:09:22.720 broken you are if you don't do it right, or whatever story that you 137 00:09:22.799 --> 00:09:26.679 have going on, see how that is the thing that is getting in your 138 00:09:26.679 --> 00:09:31.480 way of being able to respond differently. And I have lived many days of 139 00:09:31.519 --> 00:09:35.159 my life feeling depressed, feeling broken, feeling like I have to fix something 140 00:09:35.200 --> 00:09:39.759 about myself. Until I have this, then I won't be that. And 141 00:09:39.799 --> 00:09:45.000 the life that I created from that place was a life of constant resistance. 142 00:09:45.120 --> 00:09:48.200 And you know when you feel resistance in your life, You know when you 143 00:09:48.279 --> 00:09:52.039 feel not good. You know when it feels like an uphill battle every day. 144 00:09:52.639 --> 00:09:56.120 But a lot of that feeling, a lot of that you not wanting 145 00:09:56.159 --> 00:10:01.039 and you dreading, and you whatever is coming from how you're perceiving your situation 146 00:10:01.159 --> 00:10:05.639 in your life and how you're looking at yourself right now in this moment. 147 00:10:05.159 --> 00:10:09.320 So doing your best to stop looking at yourself like you are broken, that 148 00:10:09.360 --> 00:10:13.720 you need to be fixed, that things are wrong until you change or this 149 00:10:13.840 --> 00:10:18.080 that will really help you be able to respond differently in your life. When 150 00:10:18.120 --> 00:10:20.519 you feel more ease in your life because you're waking up every day being like, 151 00:10:20.600 --> 00:10:24.320 you know what, life is imperfect and that's okay. I don't have 152 00:10:24.399 --> 00:10:26.360 to be one hundred things to one hundred people. I don't have to say 153 00:10:26.360 --> 00:10:28.840 the perfect thing. I don't have to do the perfect thing and the perfect 154 00:10:28.879 --> 00:10:33.120 step and feel the same way every single day. When you move through life 155 00:10:33.159 --> 00:10:37.759 like that, you will feel so much more motivated to take care of yourself 156 00:10:39.080 --> 00:10:43.720 and to love yourself and to communicate and to go for your dreams because there's 157 00:10:43.840 --> 00:10:48.000 not all of this weight. There's not this like constant resistance every single day, 158 00:10:48.039 --> 00:10:50.559 Like no wonder, you don't have motivation towards the things that you keep 159 00:10:50.559 --> 00:10:54.919 saying that you want to do. No wonder, you don't show up in 160 00:10:54.960 --> 00:10:58.080 the ways that you know you need to show up in your relationships. When 161 00:10:58.080 --> 00:11:01.919 you have constant resistance when everything feels so hard in your life, but you 162 00:11:01.960 --> 00:11:03.720 are the one that's making it like that. You are thinking like that every 163 00:11:03.759 --> 00:11:07.159 single day. So doing your best to look at your life like it doesn't 164 00:11:07.200 --> 00:11:11.120 need to be as hard as I'm making it be. Right now, I 165 00:11:11.240 --> 00:11:13.720 am not broken. I just have patterns in my life that I need to 166 00:11:13.840 --> 00:11:18.039 learn how to adapt and be with. And everyone's going to be different, 167 00:11:18.080 --> 00:11:24.120 Okay. I have unique cycles that I run through based off of my childhood 168 00:11:24.159 --> 00:11:28.120 trauma, based off of where I'm currently living, the age that I'm at, 169 00:11:28.559 --> 00:11:31.240 the self concept that I have, all of the memories, all of 170 00:11:31.240 --> 00:11:35.519 the things, everything that I'm interested in, every single thing. Okay, 171 00:11:35.759 --> 00:11:39.759 So I have this unique story that I'm currently living out, and it's not 172 00:11:39.879 --> 00:11:43.879 about ridding all of these things, right, It's about tuning into them and 173 00:11:43.919 --> 00:11:48.360 being like, Okay, what is my pattern here? What am I doing? 174 00:11:48.399 --> 00:11:50.159 Why am I living this out? How can I adapt? How can 175 00:11:50.200 --> 00:11:54.200 I support myself through this? What do I need to go deeper in? 176 00:11:54.480 --> 00:11:56.960 How do I need to communicate that is going to work for me? Who 177 00:11:58.000 --> 00:12:01.639 do I need to surround myself with the moment? When is too much work? 178 00:12:01.840 --> 00:12:03.720 When is not enough work? What are my interests. Why do I 179 00:12:03.759 --> 00:12:07.159 think the way that I do on certain days of the month and some days 180 00:12:07.159 --> 00:12:11.360 that I don't, And what can I do to support myself on those days? 181 00:12:11.639 --> 00:12:15.080 What can I do to instead of berate myself the way that I always 182 00:12:15.080 --> 00:12:18.559 have? How do I know myself deeper? How do I stop asking and 183 00:12:18.639 --> 00:12:22.039 searching for answers outside of me, and how do I start cultivating them within 184 00:12:22.120 --> 00:12:26.000 myself? And everyone's going to be different. For me, having a general 185 00:12:26.000 --> 00:12:30.000 practice in the morning and getting very clear with my thoughts and writing out things 186 00:12:30.080 --> 00:12:33.720 has always been like a place of therapy for me. Same with speaking. 187 00:12:33.759 --> 00:12:37.000 This is literally what I do for a living because I know that is like 188 00:12:37.399 --> 00:12:39.519 it is so visceral to me, and that's how I communicate into the world, 189 00:12:39.679 --> 00:12:43.039 and that's how I do it. But you know, I'll kind of 190 00:12:43.039 --> 00:12:46.159 give you like a side example of what I mean by like, don't keep 191 00:12:46.200 --> 00:12:50.960 asking other people what is good for you? Is because podcasting works for me, 192 00:12:50.120 --> 00:12:54.600 Okay, coming on the camera works for me, and speaking out all 193 00:12:54.679 --> 00:12:58.200 the things that I feel like deeply about works for me on this platform. 194 00:12:58.360 --> 00:13:01.159 Some people would tell me that I need to like be a therapist or I 195 00:13:01.240 --> 00:13:05.440 need to do it this way or I need to like so many things, 196 00:13:05.480 --> 00:13:07.480 and it doesn't even mean that that might not be an option for me. 197 00:13:07.679 --> 00:13:11.919 Like I'm always open to everything, but what feels the best to me, 198 00:13:13.279 --> 00:13:16.759 but feels the most aligned to me, what I know where I don't have 199 00:13:16.879 --> 00:13:20.360 resistance too in my current reality right now, this moment is doing a YouTube 200 00:13:20.440 --> 00:13:24.879 video or doing a podcast episode. So I'm going to go in that direction. 201 00:13:24.039 --> 00:13:26.960 And when you truly go for the things that you want in your life, 202 00:13:28.000 --> 00:13:31.720 it will feel good and most likely you'll probably even be successful at it. 203 00:13:31.799 --> 00:13:33.559 And we can even see the same thing when it comes to movement. 204 00:13:33.919 --> 00:13:37.919 When you are working out and doing workouts that you enjoy, do you not 205 00:13:39.200 --> 00:13:43.240 just do it more versus you telling yourself that you need to do it because 206 00:13:43.240 --> 00:13:46.000 this person over here told you need to do it like that. And I 207 00:13:46.039 --> 00:13:48.519 even think about this. When it comes to hot girl walking, I call 208 00:13:48.559 --> 00:13:50.279 it hot girl walking, but it's essentially just going outside for a walk. 209 00:13:50.679 --> 00:13:54.840 I never liked walking. I never liked really exercising too much. I was 210 00:13:54.879 --> 00:13:58.000 really into like weightlifting and stuff, obviously, like when I got into college 211 00:13:58.039 --> 00:14:01.879 and I wanted to change my body that and like that felt really hard, 212 00:14:01.919 --> 00:14:05.159 but there is an aspect of weightlifting that I still really really love, but 213 00:14:05.279 --> 00:14:07.759 I never really moved my body a lot because I was like following what everyone 214 00:14:07.759 --> 00:14:11.240 else is doing, and also I cared a lot about the end result. 215 00:14:11.720 --> 00:14:15.440 But when I got into my later years, like there was just something so 216 00:14:15.960 --> 00:14:20.159 like visceral about walking that made me feel so good. But even as I 217 00:14:20.240 --> 00:14:24.360 started walking, in my head, the programming that I had is, oh, 218 00:14:24.399 --> 00:14:26.600 well, walking is not going to be the thing that's going to get 219 00:14:26.600 --> 00:14:28.720 you fit, and you know it's not going to give you the result that 220 00:14:28.720 --> 00:14:31.039 you want, or whatever the case is. But I also learned over the 221 00:14:31.120 --> 00:14:35.919 years that if I continue to walk all the time and I move my body 222 00:14:35.960 --> 00:14:39.440 all the time out of a place of non resistance, of course I'm going 223 00:14:39.480 --> 00:14:41.320 to get more results. And I don't even mean physically, and of course 224 00:14:41.440 --> 00:14:46.440 yeah physically, but also mentally. And there's so much clarity that comes out 225 00:14:46.440 --> 00:14:50.120 of walking for me. And I never used to be like that, but 226 00:14:50.240 --> 00:14:52.320 I had to be the one to follow something that felt good in my life 227 00:14:52.360 --> 00:14:56.799 versus doing whatever I thought that I needed to do on paper. So when 228 00:14:56.799 --> 00:15:00.799 it comes to responding differently in my life, when I am presented with the 229 00:15:00.919 --> 00:15:03.480 same thing in different colors, because that's what happens in our lives. I'm 230 00:15:03.519 --> 00:15:09.480 gonna respond in a way that feels the best to me and what is true 231 00:15:09.679 --> 00:15:13.200 to me and what is the most loving thing that I can do for myself, 232 00:15:13.279 --> 00:15:16.720 regardless if what I've been programmed with is telling me that, oh, 233 00:15:16.759 --> 00:15:20.519 I shouldn't do it like that, or no, that's not how you communicate, 234 00:15:20.639 --> 00:15:24.240 or know you should work out like this, or you should follow this 235 00:15:24.320 --> 00:15:26.919 thing, and this is the practice. This is hard, And I'll even 236 00:15:26.960 --> 00:15:28.200 bring it back to what I just said at the beginning of this episode, 237 00:15:28.840 --> 00:15:33.279 and for the ogs, the people who have been listening to me, you 238 00:15:33.320 --> 00:15:37.480 know how I've been talking about how I create podcasts, and I speak from 239 00:15:37.480 --> 00:15:41.840 these places when I'm in the most alignment that I can be in, and 240 00:15:41.879 --> 00:15:45.000 not every single day I'm like super aligned, Like I talk about it a 241 00:15:45.000 --> 00:15:48.039 lot, but like you just know when you're feeling good and you're interested in 242 00:15:48.120 --> 00:15:50.200 doing something when you're not, okay, So I try to create out of 243 00:15:50.240 --> 00:15:54.480 that, and so that has led me to change my uploading schedule basically to 244 00:15:54.639 --> 00:16:00.320 just record and film whenever, because if I don't, then there be comes 245 00:16:00.320 --> 00:16:03.440 a lot of resistance to episodes, and I don't want that to be the 246 00:16:03.480 --> 00:16:07.200 way that I create. But I still had some anxiety. I definitely still 247 00:16:07.279 --> 00:16:12.639 had the not trusting that this is the right decision and like being afraid to 248 00:16:12.679 --> 00:16:17.720 do it because that meant change. But I knew deep down this is what 249 00:16:17.759 --> 00:16:21.000 I need, even though I might be afraid right now. And so in 250 00:16:21.039 --> 00:16:23.399 my life, I really just try to respond in those ways as much as 251 00:16:23.440 --> 00:16:26.320 I possibly can, even if I have a little bit of fear, and 252 00:16:26.399 --> 00:16:30.639 I just remind myself that what is the most important is to be true to 253 00:16:30.720 --> 00:16:34.519 me, and as long as I'm true to myself, I will get the 254 00:16:34.519 --> 00:16:37.320 results that I want in my life, even if I don't see it right 255 00:16:37.320 --> 00:16:41.799 at the beginning, because that's sometimes what happens when you follow your intuition or 256 00:16:41.840 --> 00:16:45.159 your gut, because I feel like sometimes you manifest that in a way, 257 00:16:45.200 --> 00:16:48.039 but if you don't believe in that, that's fine whatever. I think that 258 00:16:48.240 --> 00:16:52.639 regardless, sometimes things take time. So like trusting yourself, it could be 259 00:16:52.720 --> 00:16:56.120 like you're scared because you don't know. It's literally the unknown, like you 260 00:16:56.159 --> 00:17:00.000 don't even have any evidence, but it's like that, of course is the 261 00:17:00.039 --> 00:17:03.359 way to go of course it's the way to go because you've tried to do 262 00:17:03.400 --> 00:17:07.519 it the other ways and look at where it gets you. So I want 263 00:17:07.559 --> 00:17:10.839 you to just maybe think about some of the things in the way that you've 264 00:17:10.839 --> 00:17:14.039 been responding in your life, really trying to tap into your intuition that knows 265 00:17:14.119 --> 00:17:17.759 the next step for you. You know the next step, you know what 266 00:17:17.799 --> 00:17:19.240 you need to do and how you need to do it. So in my 267 00:17:19.279 --> 00:17:25.160 life right now, I feel like that's the phase that I'm experiencing, is 268 00:17:25.599 --> 00:17:30.599 going deeper and trusting my intuition and going towards what feels good, even when 269 00:17:30.599 --> 00:17:33.279 I have that mental chatter that says, no, you shouldn't do like this, 270 00:17:33.519 --> 00:17:37.160 you should do it by the book or whatever, and just reminding myself 271 00:17:37.200 --> 00:17:41.119 like that mental chatter, it's just things that are trying to keep me stuck, 272 00:17:41.160 --> 00:17:42.519 trying to keep me in that cycle. And at the end of the 273 00:17:42.640 --> 00:17:47.680 day, you're gonna be fine. But I do think if you are really 274 00:17:47.720 --> 00:17:51.240 wanting those new results in your life, which I feel like we are always 275 00:17:51.240 --> 00:17:56.039 sitting here like waiting for that next thing, especially when things are like brewing 276 00:17:56.079 --> 00:18:00.359 in your life right now, there's things happening, it's calling you to go 277 00:18:00.400 --> 00:18:06.720 deeper. It's so important that you respond differently, like you have to respond 278 00:18:06.720 --> 00:18:11.160 differently, which is gonna call you to have this healing energy, this love 279 00:18:11.200 --> 00:18:17.000 for yourself, this following what feels good, this practice of tapping into your 280 00:18:17.039 --> 00:18:21.000 intuition, throwing out this identity of that you are broken and instead looking at 281 00:18:21.000 --> 00:18:23.359 yourself like you are going through the process right now, you are learning some 282 00:18:23.720 --> 00:18:29.559 insane things about yourself. And really what I'm saying is ground yourself and your 283 00:18:29.599 --> 00:18:33.440 nervous system into this energy of healing, because this is the thing. If 284 00:18:33.480 --> 00:18:37.400 you can really embody yourself and like be in this present moment and take things 285 00:18:37.440 --> 00:18:40.880 for what they are as like day by day and you know, go for 286 00:18:41.039 --> 00:18:44.640 what feels good and give yourself time and just love yourself through this process right 287 00:18:44.680 --> 00:18:51.119 now, that is the definition of actually healing your nervous system. When you 288 00:18:51.160 --> 00:18:53.640 are experiencing something, when you're experiencing life in a new way, by you 289 00:18:53.759 --> 00:18:57.279 responding in a new way, by you no longer like talking to yourself like 290 00:18:57.279 --> 00:19:02.640 shit or you like for today, you decided to go follow what you wanted 291 00:19:02.720 --> 00:19:06.240 instead of telling yourself to do whatever is on your to do list, your 292 00:19:06.440 --> 00:19:11.279 nervous system is experiencing something different. Okay, your nervous system is literally encoding 293 00:19:11.319 --> 00:19:18.039 these literal downloads, this actual feeling of rest and digest of calm. And 294 00:19:18.079 --> 00:19:21.319 when you do that over and over and over and over again, you're going 295 00:19:21.359 --> 00:19:23.960 to be able to show up in your life differently. You are no longer 296 00:19:25.039 --> 00:19:26.960 operating out of all of this deep trauma. And it doesn't even mean that 297 00:19:27.000 --> 00:19:32.119 you fully rid yourself of all of these things whatever, but you will start 298 00:19:32.160 --> 00:19:37.960 to feel differently because you're really grounding yourself into something that is real, because 299 00:19:37.960 --> 00:19:41.359 you're taking your time through this process, because you're looking at yourself like, 300 00:19:41.400 --> 00:19:44.920 I'm not broken. I'm going to experience this period of my life right now. 301 00:19:45.000 --> 00:19:47.400 I'm going to feel into it. I'm going to let my emotions out, 302 00:19:47.440 --> 00:19:49.039 I'm going to cry. I'm going to connect to my intuition. I'm 303 00:19:49.039 --> 00:19:52.839 going to journal every single morning. I'm going to follow what feels good on 304 00:19:52.839 --> 00:19:56.720 a moment to moment basis. I am going to communicate with people in a 305 00:19:56.720 --> 00:20:00.319 new way which is going to allow my nervous system to feel differently, going 306 00:20:00.359 --> 00:20:03.559 to keep showing up for myself even on the days that things don't feel the 307 00:20:03.599 --> 00:20:07.640 best. When you continue to do that, you will start to change, 308 00:20:07.759 --> 00:20:11.519 You will be able to respond differently, you will start to magnetize things in 309 00:20:11.559 --> 00:20:15.279 your life that are so completely different. And that is what I'm doing currently 310 00:20:15.319 --> 00:20:18.440 in my life, and I am taking things very slow. So maybe this 311 00:20:18.519 --> 00:20:22.160 is just another reminder. When you find that you're transitioning in your life right 312 00:20:22.200 --> 00:20:26.160 now with something, take it so slow because you want your nervous system to 313 00:20:27.240 --> 00:20:32.079 encode that. You want your nervous system to get used to that feeling, 314 00:20:32.200 --> 00:20:36.720 so that when you continue to move on in your life, you have built 315 00:20:36.759 --> 00:20:41.759 something, you have normalized a feeling of I am here, I am safe, 316 00:20:41.880 --> 00:20:48.039 I am not broken, I am experiencing life. And I think some 317 00:20:48.119 --> 00:20:51.480 of the things that help me in my life is to really get my senses 318 00:20:51.559 --> 00:20:56.319 like moving and going and flowing. So for me, like I'm really when 319 00:20:56.359 --> 00:20:59.160 it comes to my habits in my life, I'm really trying to cycle through 320 00:20:59.160 --> 00:21:03.240 things that you know, get my senses like moving and flowing. I guess. 321 00:21:03.240 --> 00:21:04.960 So I'll give you kind of a few examples and they're very simple, 322 00:21:06.000 --> 00:21:08.640 but like going out on walks, on long walks, like getting out into 323 00:21:08.720 --> 00:21:12.319 nature every single day is really really big for me. And moving my body. 324 00:21:12.359 --> 00:21:15.480 Like you need to be moving your body. You don't have to do 325 00:21:15.519 --> 00:21:18.920 your walks, but like, what are you doing, like workout classes, 326 00:21:18.119 --> 00:21:22.039 pilates, yoga, whatever it is, go in the direction. I'm doing 327 00:21:22.079 --> 00:21:23.599 a lot of yoga right now. I also have a new gym membership, 328 00:21:23.640 --> 00:21:26.440 which I even just think when it comes to weight training, it's changing a 329 00:21:26.440 --> 00:21:29.839 lot for me. But regardless, I'm moving my body all the time. 330 00:21:29.880 --> 00:21:34.599 I'm taking time to disconnect from social media and from the world and from my 331 00:21:34.680 --> 00:21:38.400 thoughts and from ideas and from things. I'm doing my best to do that, 332 00:21:38.440 --> 00:21:41.880 and I'm putting my time and my attention into my vision, which is 333 00:21:41.920 --> 00:21:45.440 my podcast, which is my work. So for you maybe you have a 334 00:21:45.440 --> 00:21:49.440 different vision, but really disconnecting and going into something and just like being present. 335 00:21:49.519 --> 00:21:53.039 Also, boundaries are a really big thing. I'm really trying to in 336 00:21:53.079 --> 00:21:59.480 the most beautiful way hold boundaries and really not go into cycles of you know, 337 00:21:59.759 --> 00:22:04.519 lou using myself in social situations and exerting myself too much. So really 338 00:22:04.599 --> 00:22:07.599 saying no to things that are not serving me, or when I know it's 339 00:22:07.599 --> 00:22:10.920 too much for me, I'm not gonna go out that night, or I'm 340 00:22:10.960 --> 00:22:14.640 not gonna go out this weekend, or I can't go to this event whatever. 341 00:22:14.720 --> 00:22:17.720 Even when it comes to content, like really having boundaries with things, 342 00:22:17.759 --> 00:22:21.279 people, places, things are really huge around this time. Like I've been 343 00:22:21.319 --> 00:22:23.079 saying, I like to follow what feels good, because I feel like when 344 00:22:23.079 --> 00:22:26.720 you're following what feels good, usually you have some sort of sense that's on. 345 00:22:27.279 --> 00:22:30.279 For me, it's always speaking out of a place of alignment for me 346 00:22:30.400 --> 00:22:34.079 because I literally feel like, you know, like I'm I'm speaking, I'm 347 00:22:34.160 --> 00:22:38.880 using my voice and journaling as well, like getting my thoughts out there. 348 00:22:40.400 --> 00:22:44.039 Also listening to a lot of spiritual stuff. Right now, I'm in my 349 00:22:44.759 --> 00:22:49.039 Abraham Hicks Morning videos again, which just as soon as I wake up, 350 00:22:49.079 --> 00:22:52.319 I just play one of them and I kind of get a little bit aligned, 351 00:22:52.359 --> 00:22:53.680 and then I go and I journal. But maybe for you, you're 352 00:22:53.720 --> 00:22:57.000 listening to some sort of YouTuber probably maybe even me. I know a lot 353 00:22:57.039 --> 00:23:00.799 of you guys will say that, But whoever it is that really gets your 354 00:23:00.799 --> 00:23:03.480 mind right day in and day out, just saturating your mind and just being 355 00:23:03.480 --> 00:23:07.920 with yourself and cultivating a practice in the morning even at nights. For me, 356 00:23:08.119 --> 00:23:12.279 I really love to listen to music. I like to spend time like 357 00:23:12.400 --> 00:23:18.079 listening to music and just dancing and just doing what feels the best to me, 358 00:23:18.200 --> 00:23:22.400 having conversations with people that feel the best to me. Really just dropping 359 00:23:22.559 --> 00:23:27.519 this this masculine energy of this protection and this have to do it a certain 360 00:23:27.559 --> 00:23:32.279 way and I have to survive and just really honestly like yeah, like embracing 361 00:23:32.319 --> 00:23:37.039 some more feminine energy and just going in the direction of what feels good essentially, 362 00:23:37.319 --> 00:23:40.680 and that's going to look different for everyone. I think even like being 363 00:23:40.799 --> 00:23:44.880 vulnerable in your relationships can be really huge. And I think, I don't 364 00:23:44.920 --> 00:23:48.359 know, maybe this is an off topic or like a different type of topic, 365 00:23:48.880 --> 00:23:53.599 but you know, being somebody who is very independent and realize on ourself, 366 00:23:53.920 --> 00:23:57.799 a lot of you guys totally relate with me. It's hard to open 367 00:23:57.880 --> 00:24:03.200 up or trust people, even in your romantic relationships. I feel like sometimes 368 00:24:03.279 --> 00:24:07.359 we're waiting for this perfect pitch, are perfect relationship, or this person needs 369 00:24:07.400 --> 00:24:11.000 to show up exactly like this before I'm going to open up to them or 370 00:24:11.039 --> 00:24:17.359 whatever, or sometimes we're hyper focusing on someone's behavior when realistically we just need 371 00:24:17.400 --> 00:24:22.640 to relax for a second and maybe potentially even let them in and also express 372 00:24:22.680 --> 00:24:25.279 what you're feeling. And again that's to each their own, but you know, 373 00:24:25.400 --> 00:24:27.119 maybe just like thinking about letting your guard down a little bit. Of 374 00:24:27.119 --> 00:24:30.359 course, you want to have your boundaries with people, and you have to 375 00:24:30.480 --> 00:24:33.160 discern who we're even talking about. But you know what I mean, I 376 00:24:33.160 --> 00:24:37.640 think that sometimes the way that we are really going to experience that love, 377 00:24:37.880 --> 00:24:41.400 in that connection and the things that we're longing for is if we actually take 378 00:24:41.440 --> 00:24:45.240 that step forward and let that guard down a little bit, Because how else, 379 00:24:45.599 --> 00:24:49.039 how else are you going to build a beautiful, deep relationship with someone 380 00:24:49.079 --> 00:24:53.279 when you are not willing to open up, when you are waiting for all 381 00:24:53.599 --> 00:24:57.440 the right pieces of the puzzle to be perfectly aligned for you to be able 382 00:24:57.440 --> 00:25:00.839 to do that. That's not even how it works. So take your time 383 00:25:02.400 --> 00:25:06.720 with things in your life when you are trying to really cultivate something new. 384 00:25:07.279 --> 00:25:10.400 And I think that's all I'm going to say. Honestly, I didn't even 385 00:25:10.440 --> 00:25:12.599 really plan on making this episode. I just was thinking about the fact that, 386 00:25:14.119 --> 00:25:17.319 yeah, you know what, on one hand, we're all broken. 387 00:25:17.559 --> 00:25:22.559 So catch yourself when you're thinking that you're trying to like ascend to be this 388 00:25:22.599 --> 00:25:26.000 person that's not broken, because like, really like, we have no actual 389 00:25:26.039 --> 00:25:30.359 example of that in life anyways, because everyone is dealing with something and instead, 390 00:25:30.519 --> 00:25:36.200 it's really about learning how to move with yourself and your trauma and your 391 00:25:36.240 --> 00:25:40.319 cycles and what you need uniquely, and how to support yourself and reparent yourself 392 00:25:40.319 --> 00:25:42.799 and love yourself through that process. And actually I wrote a lot about that 393 00:25:42.839 --> 00:25:45.480 in my book, The Ultimate Globe Guide, and if you're interested in my 394 00:25:45.519 --> 00:25:48.559 book, i'll have it linked down below. Really just being there with yourself 395 00:25:48.559 --> 00:25:52.880 and giving yourself that healing, loving energy. Stop judging yourself, stop criticizing 396 00:25:52.880 --> 00:25:56.119 yourself, stop looking at yourself like you're broken, and that is going to 397 00:25:56.160 --> 00:26:00.200 bring you a long way when it comes to responding differently to new things in 398 00:26:00.240 --> 00:26:03.319 your life, which is gonna be required. If you want new things in 399 00:26:03.359 --> 00:26:07.599 your life, you gotta respond differently, right, But if you stop looking 400 00:26:07.640 --> 00:26:11.240 at yourself like you're such a broken person, you'll be able to be able 401 00:26:11.279 --> 00:26:15.799 to find the perfect way to respond differently that works for you. So I 402 00:26:15.839 --> 00:26:18.319 hope you guys enjoyed. Don't forget to subscribe if you are watching on YouTube, 403 00:26:18.359 --> 00:26:22.240 and if you're new or you're watching on YouTube, if you want to 404 00:26:22.680 --> 00:26:26.799 listen on your hat girl walk or whatever you want. You can find me 405 00:26:26.880 --> 00:26:30.079 on Spotify and Apple and wherever you get your podcasts. And I'll see you 406 00:26:30.079 --> 00:26:30.680 guys and the next one. Bye.