WEBVTT 1 00:00:00.480 --> 00:00:06.080 And here we go with today's Minnesota Goodbye. And this we got a bunch 2 00:00:06.120 --> 00:00:08.960 of emails, so I'm excited to see what you have come up with here 3 00:00:09.000 --> 00:00:13.439 as a staff writer, because again, the Minnesota Goodbye is mostly written by 4 00:00:13.480 --> 00:00:17.559 you. We respond to it and that is why we love it, because 5 00:00:17.600 --> 00:00:20.239 we never know what you are going to come up with. Here is one 6 00:00:20.239 --> 00:00:24.199 from Hannah. Hey, guys, Happy New Year. Got a question. 7 00:00:24.239 --> 00:00:27.879 Do you get annoyed when a certain radio station in southern Minnesota copies all your 8 00:00:27.879 --> 00:00:32.719 stuff? I follow them on Facebook because before I realized there was iHeartRadio. 9 00:00:33.320 --> 00:00:37.240 I listened to them when I first moved to New Olm from New Hope. 10 00:00:37.280 --> 00:00:41.280 They copy bits. They even asked the same questions you guys post on Facebook 11 00:00:41.280 --> 00:00:44.560 a lot of the time, and it's wild to me that they just blatantly 12 00:00:44.600 --> 00:00:47.840 do that. Imitation is the finest form of flattery. But this is a 13 00:00:47.880 --> 00:00:53.200 little excessive. If it's a radio station in New Olm, I don't know, 14 00:00:53.719 --> 00:00:56.560 but I know that there used to be one in man Cato that would 15 00:00:56.600 --> 00:01:00.399 steal our stuff. I think the thing is with KATIEWB, we are the 16 00:01:00.439 --> 00:01:06.239 center of the universe when it comes to radio stations in this region. KTWB 17 00:01:06.400 --> 00:01:08.680 is the radio station. There's I mean, there's ninety three Acts and KQ 18 00:01:08.799 --> 00:01:14.640 and whatever. But I think we're one that other radio stations listen to to 19 00:01:14.799 --> 00:01:21.280 steal ideas because KTWDB is the legendary station and in radio, stealing bits is 20 00:01:21.680 --> 00:01:26.480 so commonplace. M it is it just is. I guess. I'm surprised 21 00:01:26.560 --> 00:01:30.400 that they're stealing it like so frequently, I guess, and then exactly the 22 00:01:30.400 --> 00:01:34.840 way that we did it, Like we might see like a good idea that 23 00:01:34.920 --> 00:01:37.680 someone did on TikTok, but then it's like, well, how do we 24 00:01:37.760 --> 00:01:41.799 make this like Dave Ryan Show, like what we want to do and how 25 00:01:41.840 --> 00:01:47.560 it's like our kind of radio show flavor. Yes, I don't know what 26 00:01:47.640 --> 00:01:51.079 specific ones, but you know, I'm sure that if we asked something like 27 00:01:51.799 --> 00:01:56.439 what did we ask on the show today? We asked what was your lock 28 00:01:56.519 --> 00:02:00.439 screen on your phone? Okay, right, yep? And and I guess 29 00:02:00.480 --> 00:02:06.200 if somebody steals it, I'm not sure why, but I would say that 30 00:02:06.319 --> 00:02:08.039 one of the things that I learned in radio was if I come up with 31 00:02:08.039 --> 00:02:13.280 my own ideas, I get better, and if I steal other people's ideas, 32 00:02:13.319 --> 00:02:17.199 I'm not getting better. So if I'd come up with my own idea 33 00:02:17.280 --> 00:02:21.759 and it works, that I'm like, oh, that works. But if 34 00:02:21.759 --> 00:02:23.639 I come up with an idea and it didn't work, I go, oh, 35 00:02:23.680 --> 00:02:27.280 well that didn't work. So I would get better at coming up with 36 00:02:27.319 --> 00:02:29.599 ideas. And a lot of times Jenny and I and Drake sit around and 37 00:02:29.639 --> 00:02:31.680 go let's try that, and then we go, nah, that's not going 38 00:02:31.719 --> 00:02:35.400 to work. We'll only get two phone calls on it, or that's a 39 00:02:35.400 --> 00:02:37.919 little bit kind of a who cares? Yeah, what was one that we 40 00:02:37.919 --> 00:02:40.280 were talking about. It was something that you would come up with and we 41 00:02:40.319 --> 00:02:43.840 said, well, we can talk about it for a minute. It was 42 00:02:43.919 --> 00:02:46.120 a podcast you're listening to, Yes, And it was all about it was 43 00:02:46.199 --> 00:02:52.120 just a discipline expert, and it's all about stoicism and how you should do 44 00:02:52.759 --> 00:02:55.639 the verb, not try to be the noun. So instead of saying am 45 00:02:55.680 --> 00:03:00.879 I a writer, it'd say am I writing? So you need to do 46 00:03:00.919 --> 00:03:02.919 what you're trying to do, not trying to be a writer. You need 47 00:03:02.960 --> 00:03:06.719 to do writing. You need to write, you don't need to try to 48 00:03:06.759 --> 00:03:08.080 be a writer. Okay, that makes sense. For example, I could 49 00:03:08.120 --> 00:03:14.120 say am I a runner? Or am I running? Yeah, yeah, 50 00:03:14.159 --> 00:03:19.439 because I think it's all about the validation that you get with stoicism, Like 51 00:03:19.680 --> 00:03:23.319 you need to have internal validation from the things that you do. So if 52 00:03:23.360 --> 00:03:24.960 you're just like am I a writer? Am I a famous writer? And 53 00:03:25.080 --> 00:03:30.120 you're you're looking at outside factors to validate if you're this writer versus if you 54 00:03:30.159 --> 00:03:34.240 truly care about writing, you should just be writing and that's what you should 55 00:03:34.280 --> 00:03:38.120 care about instead of outside validation of like you sold a million copies of a 56 00:03:38.120 --> 00:03:40.319 book or something like that. Now. See, that's what's interesting because Jenny 57 00:03:40.360 --> 00:03:43.960 and I and we kind of would we could talk about it a little bit 58 00:03:43.960 --> 00:03:46.719 more, but our point was we talked about that and we just said, 59 00:03:46.800 --> 00:03:49.520 eh, you know what, we probably won't spend a lot of time about 60 00:03:49.520 --> 00:03:52.520 that on the radio. I mean, I got an Xbox for Christmas, 61 00:03:52.520 --> 00:03:54.240 and I don't want to spend a lot of time talking about my Xbox because 62 00:03:54.240 --> 00:03:57.319 who fucking cares, right, you know what I mean? I can talk 63 00:03:57.360 --> 00:04:00.560 about all the games I played, But so Jenny and I will edit ourselves 64 00:04:00.599 --> 00:04:04.080 and say, eh, but if we come up with something really compelling in 65 00:04:04.120 --> 00:04:10.159 a radio station in New all Or Mancato, here's it. Some of them 66 00:04:10.159 --> 00:04:12.680 are going to steal it. Yeah, but Jenny and I have learned, 67 00:04:12.719 --> 00:04:15.919 and I'll come up with something sometimes and Jenny will say, like, is 68 00:04:15.919 --> 00:04:20.120 anybody going to care that Phyllis in Lakeville loves Cocker Spaniels because that's your favorite 69 00:04:20.120 --> 00:04:24.439 breed of dog, you know what I mean? So, but thanks, 70 00:04:24.720 --> 00:04:26.759 Hannah. If you get a chance, write me back and let me know. 71 00:04:26.800 --> 00:04:30.079 And I'm not going to embarrass anybody. I would never embarrass another radio 72 00:04:30.079 --> 00:04:31.680 station and call them out for doing this, but I'd love to know. 73 00:04:31.920 --> 00:04:34.519 Tell me and I'll read it off the air. What station is it in 74 00:04:34.560 --> 00:04:38.800 what city? And what specific bits have you heard? I'd be really curious 75 00:04:38.800 --> 00:04:42.920 about that. Yeah, but I'm not going to blast anybody. Next one, 76 00:04:44.519 --> 00:04:47.800 okay, hold on trying to find one. This one says, first 77 00:04:47.800 --> 00:04:50.720 of all, please don't say my name for background. I am thirty and 78 00:04:50.800 --> 00:04:56.959 currently single. I am writing to ask you both an intimate question. The 79 00:04:57.079 --> 00:05:01.600 Naughty Tuesday this week and recently seeing a short Taylor Tomlinson's comedy routine got me 80 00:05:01.639 --> 00:05:06.399 thinking. And then it gives a link. But I'll see if I can 81 00:05:06.480 --> 00:05:10.240 do it without watching the link, because I haven't watched it. I am 82 00:05:10.319 --> 00:05:15.079 curious about what you both found your forever someone's when you both found your forever 83 00:05:15.120 --> 00:05:17.800 someone's. Did your partner become the best you ever had? Or do you 84 00:05:17.839 --> 00:05:20.879 love your partner but also think back about the time that you had the best 85 00:05:20.920 --> 00:05:27.720 sex ever with a former sexual partner. Up to this point in my life, 86 00:05:27.759 --> 00:05:30.079 I've had a long term boyfriend in other dates hookups, but I've always 87 00:05:30.079 --> 00:05:34.680 thought about this crazy hot hookup I had. He is still the best I 88 00:05:34.720 --> 00:05:39.199 have ever had. The entire time was so hot. Unfortunately he moved to 89 00:05:39.240 --> 00:05:44.079 Sweden. What do you think? Does anybody eventually top your best or does 90 00:05:44.079 --> 00:05:46.839 the former person become the best in other areas but not always enough to erase 91 00:05:46.879 --> 00:05:51.560 those previous best sexual times from your mind? Other Minnesota goodbyes for listeners. 92 00:05:51.560 --> 00:05:56.240 Feel free to send in your comments if you have a story about this Anonymous 93 00:05:56.519 --> 00:06:01.360 so I'm gonna read that again. Does somebody eventually top your best or does 94 00:06:01.399 --> 00:06:06.839 the former person become the best in other areas but not enough to erase those 95 00:06:06.879 --> 00:06:12.759 previous best sexual times from your mind. I really can't answer this one because 96 00:06:13.639 --> 00:06:16.199 I'm not gonna say anything about whether this is the best, or that was 97 00:06:16.240 --> 00:06:19.120 the best, or there was somebody better than whatever. I'm not really gonna 98 00:06:19.120 --> 00:06:27.399 answer that one, but I will say almost everybody has somebody who blew their 99 00:06:27.519 --> 00:06:30.680 fucking socks off in bed mm hm. And that might not be the person 100 00:06:30.720 --> 00:06:35.759 that you're currently with. And sometimes you have amazing, mind blowing, lightning 101 00:06:35.800 --> 00:06:41.040 bolt sex with somebody that you're never going to be in love with, yeah, 102 00:06:41.040 --> 00:06:45.879 and you're never gonna date seriously. And then sometimes you're with somebody that 103 00:06:45.920 --> 00:06:49.720 you love dearly and they're good but not the best, And I think that's 104 00:06:49.759 --> 00:06:54.800 okay mm hmm. I also do think that love changes sex in a way 105 00:06:54.879 --> 00:06:58.319 for I mean for women maybe more. But I think being in love with 106 00:06:58.360 --> 00:07:02.360 someone can elevate sex more than someone who gave you mind blowing sex because there's 107 00:07:02.439 --> 00:07:06.600 so much more of an emotional connection in that. So I would say that 108 00:07:06.600 --> 00:07:11.759 that plays a factor. And also, if you're with someone, I mean, 109 00:07:11.800 --> 00:07:15.680 you can still continue to have sex in multiple different ways and do different 110 00:07:15.680 --> 00:07:19.720 things and stuff. And maybe Jenny, I don't know, maybe on a 111 00:07:20.439 --> 00:07:27.759 yeah, maybe on an infiltrate no, so I feel like maybe, I 112 00:07:27.759 --> 00:07:30.920 don't know, how did she say how fresh her relationship is? Uh, 113 00:07:30.120 --> 00:07:32.959 she's currently single? Oh? Yeah, sorry? I three years old, 114 00:07:32.959 --> 00:07:35.639 currently single. Yeah, you would get the impression after this after thinking that 115 00:07:35.680 --> 00:07:40.319 she was in a relationship. I don't know. I just I think that 116 00:07:40.480 --> 00:07:44.439 maybe you go into a relationship, you're dating them, maybe a year in 117 00:07:44.519 --> 00:07:47.480 you're still thinking about someone who gave you mind blowing sex and that was better. 118 00:07:47.560 --> 00:07:50.439 But you never know, like a year and a half and you might 119 00:07:50.480 --> 00:07:55.399 start having that kind of sex with that partner. Like sex is something in 120 00:07:55.439 --> 00:07:58.480 my opinion that I think you should continue to grow in with your partner, 121 00:07:58.600 --> 00:08:03.160 because it can be like Dave says, cheese pizza, like yeah, it 122 00:08:03.199 --> 00:08:05.560 gets like you still like it, but it becomes kind of just like a 123 00:08:05.560 --> 00:08:09.439 little boring sometimes and if you continue to try different things, then you never 124 00:08:09.519 --> 00:08:16.759 know what might happen. I think it's just so interesting that And Jenny's right, 125 00:08:16.079 --> 00:08:20.279 if you really love someone, your sex is going to be a lot 126 00:08:20.360 --> 00:08:26.160 more of like eye contact and touching and foreplay and building up to it. 127 00:08:26.480 --> 00:08:31.720 And if you love someone, you'll have things to talk about afterward. Because 128 00:08:31.759 --> 00:08:35.360 back in my twenties, I would hook up with some like I don't know, 129 00:08:35.480 --> 00:08:39.840 some girl that I didn't know well, and it was always the worst, 130 00:08:39.919 --> 00:08:43.960 Jenny, because we'd hook up at my apartment and then you try to 131 00:08:45.000 --> 00:08:46.720 fall asleep because I wasn't going to say, well, you know what, 132 00:08:46.799 --> 00:08:50.919 you need to leave now, so and then you try to go to sleep, 133 00:08:52.159 --> 00:08:56.440 and she couldn't sleep and I couldn't sleep. We had nothing really left 134 00:08:56.440 --> 00:09:00.519 to talk about necessarily, and I could tell she wasn't sleep. And when 135 00:09:00.519 --> 00:09:05.240 I say she, I mean multiple she's because they weren't breathing steadily, so 136 00:09:05.320 --> 00:09:09.879 you would hear them over there not breathing, so they're not sleeping. And 137 00:09:09.960 --> 00:09:13.840 I couldn't sleep because it made me uncomfortable. But there they were eight inches 138 00:09:13.879 --> 00:09:20.679 away, foot away, and they weren't sleeping, and it was the worst 139 00:09:20.679 --> 00:09:24.720 it was like. And so sex might have been okay, but sex is 140 00:09:24.720 --> 00:09:30.919 so much better when you want to cuddle with them or talk with them afterwards. 141 00:09:31.039 --> 00:09:35.639 Yeah, for sure. All right, next one it is I'm taking 142 00:09:35.679 --> 00:09:39.120 a picture of her name right now. It is from Nicole. She says, 143 00:09:39.240 --> 00:09:41.159 Happy New Year, Dave, Jenny's Rake. This is the first time 144 00:09:41.200 --> 00:09:45.440 writing to the Minnesota Goodbye, very very long time listener. I actually met 145 00:09:45.519 --> 00:09:48.240 Dave a few times at the studio to get your book signed, and not 146 00:09:48.279 --> 00:09:52.960 once but twice because my dog ate part of it. Dave, you also 147 00:09:52.000 --> 00:09:56.440 met my old dog Moose. As I sit here listening to your podcast and 148 00:09:56.519 --> 00:09:58.480 putting my five year old son to bed for the night, and listening to 149 00:09:58.519 --> 00:10:01.879 an older podcast about the Jello thing, the Jello in the Grand Canyon, 150 00:10:03.159 --> 00:10:05.320 a question popped into my head that I got asked a couple of years ago. 151 00:10:05.600 --> 00:10:09.080 And just like the Jello thing, it makes you think and not everybody 152 00:10:09.080 --> 00:10:11.960 will have the same answer. So here it goes. If you were in 153 00:10:11.000 --> 00:10:16.159 a boxing ring with an animal that is bigger than you, which animal do 154 00:10:16.200 --> 00:10:20.440 you think you'd be able to beat? And why whatever you can't? Well, 155 00:10:20.480 --> 00:10:24.440 you pick cannot live in water. Okay, Now I'm not going to 156 00:10:24.480 --> 00:10:28.480 give an answer her answer, because I want you to think, and she 157 00:10:28.519 --> 00:10:33.440 gives actually a really good answer. So you're gonna fight an animal bigger than 158 00:10:33.480 --> 00:10:39.279 you. What animal do you think you could beat? You want me to 159 00:10:39.320 --> 00:10:41.720 say, please, gosh, I mean, if it's bigger than me, 160 00:10:41.799 --> 00:10:46.679 but I think I can beat them, I'm gonna go with a deer. 161 00:10:46.159 --> 00:10:52.519 Oh good answer, yeah, because I mean they're they're not gonna they're not 162 00:10:52.639 --> 00:10:54.960 known to like mall and they're fighting back. That's a good question. Does 163 00:10:56.000 --> 00:10:58.279 the deer have boxing gloves or do they just like like kick or like use 164 00:10:58.320 --> 00:11:01.080 their antlers, right, And that's what I was gonna say. I also 165 00:11:01.080 --> 00:11:05.000 would like one that does not have antlers, because then they probably just like 166 00:11:05.039 --> 00:11:09.799 gouge me to death and then I definitely would be out. But I think 167 00:11:09.840 --> 00:11:11.879 a deer is a really good idea. I was going to say a cow, 168 00:11:11.919 --> 00:11:16.600 because cows are pretty passive unless she gets up on her hind legs and 169 00:11:16.639 --> 00:11:18.600 she's like, you know, like punching me in the face. But I'm 170 00:11:18.600 --> 00:11:22.639 going to steal your answer and say a deer. Here's what Hannah said. 171 00:11:22.639 --> 00:11:24.399 My answer is a giraffe because I could just take him out of the knees. 172 00:11:24.879 --> 00:11:28.279 Oh okay, that's a good one. But they also have you seen 173 00:11:28.360 --> 00:11:33.480 giraffes fight them? No, I've not seen a giraffe. Have you really 174 00:11:33.519 --> 00:11:35.879 not? I swear we were talking about this on the show before. They 175 00:11:35.960 --> 00:11:39.519 use their necks and they like smack each other with their long necks. Oh 176 00:11:39.519 --> 00:11:43.480 my gosh. Google giraffes fighting and tell me like it is aggressive? I 177 00:11:43.559 --> 00:11:48.679 might. I might do it later today, Dave Jenny, Happy New Year, 178 00:11:48.759 --> 00:11:50.600 Dave. I might have missed it, but do you ever finish all 179 00:11:50.679 --> 00:11:54.240 nine seasons of Suits. I started watching it over the summer just because I 180 00:11:54.279 --> 00:11:56.799 wanted to see if Megan Markle was a good actress, and I got sucked 181 00:11:56.840 --> 00:12:01.039 in. I binge watched all nine seasons in about a month. Nice. 182 00:12:01.120 --> 00:12:05.200 So I'm curious, what do you think about Megan Markle's acting and what did 183 00:12:05.240 --> 00:12:07.759 you think of the last season? If you watched it, you can find 184 00:12:07.759 --> 00:12:09.840 the last season on Amazon Prime if you need to. Also a heads up, 185 00:12:09.919 --> 00:12:13.720 Donna from Suits is on a new Netflix show called My Life with the 186 00:12:13.720 --> 00:12:18.200 Walter Boys. It's a teen drama. Oh, I watch that. I'm 187 00:12:18.200 --> 00:12:22.559 watching that show right now. I think she plays the mom. Then she's 188 00:12:22.639 --> 00:12:24.559 kind of a redhead. Oh, she's definitely the mom on that show. 189 00:12:24.600 --> 00:12:28.679 She is very beautiful. She's so hot. She's the hottest woman on current 190 00:12:28.840 --> 00:12:33.240 or moderately current TV. I love redheads and she is gorgeous. And it's 191 00:12:33.279 --> 00:12:37.879 funny if you watch Suits, we make fun of the Donna walk because when 192 00:12:37.960 --> 00:12:41.840 Donna walks, there is a certain way that's very powerful but very sexy, 193 00:12:41.919 --> 00:12:46.399 the way she walks, and Jessica also has a little bit of that, 194 00:12:46.440 --> 00:12:50.679 but not as much as Donna. Let's go back to the show Suits. 195 00:12:50.720 --> 00:12:52.480 I'm not going to spend a lot of time on it, but because there's 196 00:12:52.480 --> 00:12:56.000 nothing more boring than hearing somebody talking about a show you don't watch, I'm 197 00:12:56.000 --> 00:13:00.159 bored with it. I am bored with it right now at the part where 198 00:13:00.360 --> 00:13:07.120 spoiler spoiler, spoiler, spoiler spoiler, Mike just got out of prison and 199 00:13:07.519 --> 00:13:11.840 I don't care. I don't care anymore. It feels like they've just run 200 00:13:11.840 --> 00:13:15.600 it into the ground. What season are you on? Six or seven? 201 00:13:15.840 --> 00:13:18.879 Oh? I mean I thought you're gonna say maybe like three or four. 202 00:13:18.799 --> 00:13:22.799 And Susan still wants to watch Suits every night, and last night I said 203 00:13:22.799 --> 00:13:26.799 there's a movie that Jenny recommended called Salt Burn. Let's watch that instead. 204 00:13:26.919 --> 00:13:30.679 I don't care about Suits anymore. And it's not that it sucks. I've 205 00:13:30.840 --> 00:13:35.200 just totally lot. I don't care anymore. So you know, maybe it 206 00:13:35.200 --> 00:13:37.440 gets better. Jenny, you and I are about the same age. We 207 00:13:37.519 --> 00:13:41.720 got two sisters. Also, I'm curious what your sister dynamics are. My 208 00:13:41.879 --> 00:13:46.360 sister and I have completely different personalities become even more apparent when we all became 209 00:13:46.440 --> 00:13:52.919 parents. We all three parent are kids very differently as sisters were cordial to 210 00:13:52.960 --> 00:13:54.679 each other, but none of us are best friends, which makes me kind 211 00:13:54.679 --> 00:14:00.000 of sad when I see sisters who are best friends. We're still a close 212 00:14:00.320 --> 00:14:03.120 family. We live near each other and support our nieces and nephews at events 213 00:14:03.159 --> 00:14:07.039 in sports. Any who wondering if you're dynamics with your sisters are similar to 214 00:14:07.120 --> 00:14:11.799 mine or different, I would love a staff writer sticker before you run out 215 00:14:11.159 --> 00:14:16.120 done, wishing you health and happiness in the new year. That is from 216 00:14:16.200 --> 00:14:20.639 Ali in Wisconsin. You know me. I feel you on that about watching 217 00:14:20.759 --> 00:14:24.559 sisters that are just absolutely best friends. I think that I am pretty close 218 00:14:24.600 --> 00:14:28.559 with my sisters, but we're not the type that are so so close and 219 00:14:28.600 --> 00:14:31.879 best friends. We talk like text every once in a while in a group 220 00:14:31.960 --> 00:14:35.600 chat and stuff like that, but truthfully, we like don't tell each other 221 00:14:35.679 --> 00:14:39.480 things like I tell my friends so much more than I tell my sisters, 222 00:14:39.480 --> 00:14:43.480 and I get sad sometimes that I don't have that relationship with my sister is 223 00:14:43.519 --> 00:14:46.559 to be more open about certain things, but I know that, like in 224 00:14:46.679 --> 00:14:50.639 terms of my specific relationship, my older sister and I have always been like 225 00:14:50.840 --> 00:14:54.840 just a little bit closer only because our age difference is only a year and 226 00:14:54.879 --> 00:14:58.200 a half, but our lives are so different now. She's got two kids 227 00:14:58.200 --> 00:15:01.480 with a third on the way, and I'm a single person living in a 228 00:15:01.519 --> 00:15:05.200 city five hours away. And then my younger sister and I kind of connect 229 00:15:05.279 --> 00:15:07.759 more on like an emotional level because I think we understand each other a little 230 00:15:07.759 --> 00:15:11.440 bit more in that aspect. So she comes to me a lot with like 231 00:15:11.159 --> 00:15:16.240 boy problems or something like that. So it's it's definitely not like those you 232 00:15:16.279 --> 00:15:20.480 see all of the Instagram posts at Christmas and the sisters are all wearing like 233 00:15:20.600 --> 00:15:24.399 matching pajamas together and they're like, you know, taking pictures in front of 234 00:15:24.440 --> 00:15:28.960 the tree. I don't have that close like relationship with my sisters, but 235 00:15:28.120 --> 00:15:31.200 it's still a pretty close relationship. And I think that everybody's on kind of 236 00:15:31.200 --> 00:15:37.200 a sliding scale, like either you can't stand your siblings or they're your best 237 00:15:37.240 --> 00:15:39.720 friend and you call them every day. And I totally get that. I 238 00:15:41.039 --> 00:15:45.759 understand how you see sisters that love each other and they'll post pictures of themselves 239 00:15:45.759 --> 00:15:48.919 on vacation and hugging each other and laughing. It's like, I love my 240 00:15:48.039 --> 00:15:52.320 sister, she's my best friend. And then other people they just don't have 241 00:15:52.360 --> 00:15:54.639 that. Yeah, and in the three of us, we have very different 242 00:15:54.679 --> 00:15:58.360 interests in life, like very different interests. Neither of my sisters are going 243 00:15:58.440 --> 00:16:03.440 to do some extreme hike out in Tahiti and stuff like that. So it's 244 00:16:03.519 --> 00:16:07.159 just we have very different lifestyles, but we're close where we can be. 245 00:16:07.240 --> 00:16:12.240 I feel like, Okay, Dave, next one, This is from Andrew, 246 00:16:14.200 --> 00:16:17.519 not your Andrew. I will never hear if you respond to this because 247 00:16:17.519 --> 00:16:21.600 I don't listen to your show. However, my girlfriend says you will be 248 00:16:21.679 --> 00:16:25.759 joining adult FriendFinder. Is this because you couldn't get any matches on Grinder? 249 00:16:25.879 --> 00:16:30.080 Ha ha ha? Please keep pleasing my girlfriend with your show as I sure 250 00:16:30.200 --> 00:16:33.399 can't. Thanks Andrew. That's funny, Andrew, you know what. That's 251 00:16:33.440 --> 00:16:37.440 fucking random and funny. I like, where is this gone? And I 252 00:16:37.480 --> 00:16:41.759 love it? You know. I joke about joining an adult FriendFinder and because 253 00:16:41.840 --> 00:16:48.240 yesterday I took a picture of my bicep and I put it on my Weekend 254 00:16:48.240 --> 00:16:52.320 in five Photos on Dave ryndshow dot com. And my arm looks actually pretty 255 00:16:52.320 --> 00:16:56.360 good. And I left my face out of it because the face does not 256 00:16:56.440 --> 00:16:57.840 look as good. But I said, I'm going to use it as my 257 00:16:57.879 --> 00:17:03.679 profile picture on adult friend Finder, which I don't go on adult friend Finder 258 00:17:03.279 --> 00:17:07.720 because as soon as I did go on adult friend Finder, somebody would see 259 00:17:07.720 --> 00:17:11.920 me and be like, yeah, Dave, Ryan's an adult friend Finder. 260 00:17:11.000 --> 00:17:15.519 His wife knows about that. Yeah. So next thing you know, the 261 00:17:15.559 --> 00:17:21.119 city pages has your picture of your profile. Wait, that doesn't exist anymore, 262 00:17:21.200 --> 00:17:25.079 Right, that's funny. Okay, next one is a delete. It 263 00:17:25.160 --> 00:17:30.960 is spam, and here comes one from Brie, Dave Jenny Drake. This 264 00:17:30.119 --> 00:17:33.559 is Brian from San Antonio, Texas. First of all, Happy New Year 265 00:17:33.599 --> 00:17:37.720 to y'all. Hope this year will be full of great memories and we'll treat 266 00:17:37.759 --> 00:17:40.759 you well. Do you have any new re Year's resolutions For me? I'm 267 00:17:40.759 --> 00:17:44.160 going to make it my goal to finish all my crochet projects that I keep 268 00:17:44.319 --> 00:17:51.279 that I keep starting and abandoning your's resolutions. No, my goal was the 269 00:17:51.359 --> 00:17:53.680 hike up Pike's Peak, and that's still my big thing. Yeah, fitness, 270 00:17:53.720 --> 00:17:59.119 I think health. Yeah, I just say like having better habits is 271 00:17:59.160 --> 00:18:02.119 like one of my big things and I post it on my actual Instagram if 272 00:18:02.160 --> 00:18:04.279 you want to see like the trend of the ins and outs that people are 273 00:18:04.279 --> 00:18:07.160 doing. I kind of did that whole thing, and it's more to do 274 00:18:07.200 --> 00:18:11.000 with like lifestyle habits. Like something that's out for me in twenty twenty three 275 00:18:11.160 --> 00:18:15.839 is comparison, because comparison is the thief of joy, and it takes a 276 00:18:15.839 --> 00:18:18.839 lot of joy out of my life when I'm constantly comparing myself to other people. 277 00:18:18.000 --> 00:18:22.359 And I have to just remember that I am Jenny and I am good 278 00:18:22.480 --> 00:18:26.880 enough. I don't know if you're good enough. I got to work out 279 00:18:26.440 --> 00:18:27.720 there. No, you know, I'd have heard a long time ago, 280 00:18:27.720 --> 00:18:32.799 and I think it's true, is compare yourself down, not up, because 281 00:18:32.799 --> 00:18:37.039 there's always going to be somebody who is more successful, drives a nicer car, 282 00:18:37.279 --> 00:18:41.960 makes more money, is better liked, has more friends. So compare 283 00:18:42.000 --> 00:18:48.240 yourself down to somebody who is not doing as well as you, Yeah, 284 00:18:48.279 --> 00:18:52.000 and you're going to feel better. And I don't really compare myself to a 285 00:18:52.000 --> 00:18:53.960 lot of people, honestly, because I think I'm pretty happy with who I 286 00:18:55.000 --> 00:18:56.519 am, So I don't really feel the need to like, oh, he 287 00:18:56.599 --> 00:19:00.319 makes more money or she has more friends. I don't really feel that's necessary, 288 00:19:02.279 --> 00:19:04.079 but something to think about. Second, I'm catching up on the old 289 00:19:04.079 --> 00:19:07.799 Minnesota Goodbye episodes. Want to know what this staff writer sticker is all about. 290 00:19:08.079 --> 00:19:11.039 I think I understand the gist of it, but want to know how 291 00:19:11.039 --> 00:19:15.319 it got started. Well, it started probably three or four or five months 292 00:19:15.359 --> 00:19:19.440 ago because I said, you write the show, I will send a sticker 293 00:19:19.680 --> 00:19:25.559 to you that says Minnesota Goodbye, official staff writer if we read your email 294 00:19:25.599 --> 00:19:30.440 on the Minnesota Goodbye. So somebody listened designed a great round sticker and they 295 00:19:30.480 --> 00:19:36.680 sent me the design and I had it printed, probably maybe five hundred stickers 296 00:19:37.160 --> 00:19:41.200 and I'm probably got about one hundred left or sit. I haven't Maily kept 297 00:19:41.240 --> 00:19:45.839 track, but something like that, so I'll probably order more because they seem 298 00:19:45.880 --> 00:19:48.279 to be pretty popular. Lastly, are we allowed to send snail mail? 299 00:19:48.359 --> 00:19:52.160 Yes? I would love to write you a physical letter to send If so, 300 00:19:52.440 --> 00:19:55.519 would you mind replying to this email with the address to send it to 301 00:19:56.200 --> 00:19:59.319 PS. My birthday is tomorrow, January third. I'd appreciate a shout out 302 00:19:59.359 --> 00:20:00.640 if you could. I'm trying twenty five years old. That is from Briann. 303 00:20:02.680 --> 00:20:07.720 I'm sorry that I did not get this email in time to do it 304 00:20:07.759 --> 00:20:11.599 on the show, but here is your Minnesota Goodbye birthday shout out. So 305 00:20:11.759 --> 00:20:15.880 happy did is today? January third, Happy twenty birthday, Brianne. And 306 00:20:15.880 --> 00:20:22.799 I'm going to write her back really quick and say a quick address Dave Ryan 307 00:20:25.279 --> 00:20:30.880 KATIEWBB sixteen hundred Youdica Avenue. Are you fast, hyper Jenny? I'm okay, 308 00:20:30.920 --> 00:20:33.680 but when I'm put under pressure, I'm not. I'm constantly screwing up 309 00:20:33.680 --> 00:20:37.599 and I'm like, God, delete delete or one six There we go, 310 00:20:38.160 --> 00:20:41.480 and it is on his way to send that. Okay, next one, 311 00:20:44.680 --> 00:20:47.240 here we go. You can say my name. My name is Kayla. 312 00:20:47.599 --> 00:20:51.799 Listen to your show this morning. A husband wrote in about his wife feeling 313 00:20:52.000 --> 00:20:55.640 self conscious postpartum. I've never written in before, but I thought it might 314 00:20:55.640 --> 00:20:57.960 be helpful. He wrote in, said, my wife had a baby last 315 00:20:59.000 --> 00:21:02.000 May. She's not lost her bab bab wait. She went from walking around 316 00:21:02.079 --> 00:21:04.839 naked in underwear and now she doesn't like too. She covers up. We 317 00:21:04.920 --> 00:21:07.799 have sex in the dark. She doesn't let me see her body. When 318 00:21:07.799 --> 00:21:10.920 I look at her body, she says, what are you looking at? 319 00:21:11.680 --> 00:21:14.720 And she feels very self conscious. So we talked about that. So she 320 00:21:14.799 --> 00:21:18.200 says, I recently went through the same situation, and I think everybody has 321 00:21:18.440 --> 00:21:22.359 valid thoughts. Yes, she grew an entire human being, which is an 322 00:21:22.359 --> 00:21:27.319 insane and beautiful thing. Yes, it's more about how she feels, which 323 00:21:27.319 --> 00:21:30.640 he acknowledged. He said, Hey, listen, I get it's not just 324 00:21:30.680 --> 00:21:33.960 about how I feel, but about how she feels too. Yes, if 325 00:21:33.960 --> 00:21:37.119 she is dealing with postpartum depression, she should absolutely look into getting help. 326 00:21:37.880 --> 00:21:41.039 No, the husband won't be able to convince her otherwise. But and maybe 327 00:21:41.039 --> 00:21:45.039 this was already mentioned, I missed it. I found it way more meaningful 328 00:21:45.319 --> 00:21:48.759 when my husband would give me specific compliments like you have beautiful eyes, or 329 00:21:49.279 --> 00:21:53.160 I like you when your hair, wear your hair like that gave me positive 330 00:21:53.200 --> 00:21:59.440 things to focus on for me personally, I never really knew what your hot 331 00:21:59.680 --> 00:22:03.519 meant. If that makes sense. It won't fix the problems, but it 332 00:22:03.559 --> 00:22:07.559 could help. Love listening to you guys on my hour long commute from Kayla. 333 00:22:07.920 --> 00:22:11.880 So, Kayla, thank you. Yeah for sure, definitely appreciate that 334 00:22:11.920 --> 00:22:15.000 one. Okay, delete, I go to delete these as I go. 335 00:22:17.920 --> 00:22:23.720 This one says sorry, you guys are wrong on this one. They knew 336 00:22:23.759 --> 00:22:29.599 what they were doing. Oh this was the girls you talked about it, 337 00:22:29.680 --> 00:22:33.799 the sixteen year old girls. I think who stole a package? Oh yeah, 338 00:22:33.839 --> 00:22:36.319 well I think That was an email we got yesterday. I don't remember 339 00:22:36.359 --> 00:22:38.799 tell you it was an email where the person wanted to know if we would 340 00:22:38.839 --> 00:22:45.039 press charges. Yes, somebody lived in an apartment complex or a whatever, 341 00:22:45.119 --> 00:22:48.880 a condominium or town whatever, and on the security camera, two girls were 342 00:22:48.920 --> 00:22:52.720 caught stealing a package. They got caught, and the person wonders whether they 343 00:22:52.759 --> 00:22:56.680 should press charges on these sixteen year old girls. I think we said no. 344 00:22:56.519 --> 00:23:00.000 Talk to them, talk to their parents and tell them how upsetting it 345 00:23:00.160 --> 00:23:03.759 was and how it made you feel violated instead of like you're lucky. I 346 00:23:03.759 --> 00:23:10.519 don't press charges. This person says, they stole, they knew what they 347 00:23:10.519 --> 00:23:12.880 were doing, they tried to get away with it. Press charges. Put 348 00:23:12.880 --> 00:23:18.279 those felons in jail. Your attitude of going, well, that's all right, 349 00:23:18.519 --> 00:23:22.519 they stole is the reason we're in the problem of crime that we're in 350 00:23:22.559 --> 00:23:26.119 today, because nobody wants to press charges. Put those criminals in jail. 351 00:23:26.680 --> 00:23:30.240 Lick Dart, Dart Dart, lick Oh, I love the creativity. I 352 00:23:30.240 --> 00:23:33.440 think you're wrong on that one, Michael, and I'm gonna tell you why. 353 00:23:33.440 --> 00:23:37.240 Because it's a package carjacking. I think they should be put in jail. 354 00:23:37.640 --> 00:23:44.799 That's dangerous. It's a fucking car that somebody worked hard to buy and 355 00:23:44.839 --> 00:23:48.279 they stole it. The reasoning is, and we've talked about the reasoning is 356 00:23:48.319 --> 00:23:53.920 because they don't want young people at sixteen years old to have a giant crime 357 00:23:55.000 --> 00:23:59.079 on their record that will affect their employability for the rest of their lives. 358 00:23:59.160 --> 00:24:03.400 Yeah, and I get that to a degree, but I still think if 359 00:24:03.440 --> 00:24:07.720 they steal your car, especially if there's any kind of violence or gun play 360 00:24:07.839 --> 00:24:12.880 involved, arrest them, put them in prison, let them be as an 361 00:24:12.920 --> 00:24:17.839 example to other people so they'll go oh. Because I think a lot of 362 00:24:17.839 --> 00:24:19.880 reasons there's so much crime now is because people know they're not going to get 363 00:24:19.920 --> 00:24:23.480 punished for it, but if they see other people get punished. This is 364 00:24:23.519 --> 00:24:26.720 why they used to crucify people. And I'm not saying we should bring back 365 00:24:26.720 --> 00:24:32.559 crucifixion, although I'm open to debate. They like they used to like hang 366 00:24:32.640 --> 00:24:34.799 people on a cross. It's not Jesus wasn't the only one to die on 367 00:24:34.839 --> 00:24:37.759 across. I know, I'm a well aware. I've seen Game of Thrones. 368 00:24:37.960 --> 00:24:41.039 Okay, I've never seen it, but they used to hang people on 369 00:24:41.119 --> 00:24:47.640 a cross to die slowly over three or four or five days it is, 370 00:24:47.799 --> 00:24:51.799 so other people would go, shit, I don't want to die that way. 371 00:24:52.400 --> 00:24:56.079 I'm not going to steal. I'm not going to do this. But 372 00:24:56.279 --> 00:25:03.480 right now there's no cross, so people just go I can steal, I 373 00:25:03.519 --> 00:25:07.200 can car jack, and there's no consequence, So why the fuck shouldn't I 374 00:25:07.200 --> 00:25:14.559 do it? So Yeah, I think that I've said everything that I want 375 00:25:14.599 --> 00:25:18.599 to say. Yeah, all right, all right. Next one, This 376 00:25:18.640 --> 00:25:25.519 one says, do not say my name. I am emailing because I'm struggling. 377 00:25:26.279 --> 00:25:27.680 I'm in a job that I don't really enjoy. I stay because it 378 00:25:27.720 --> 00:25:32.400 pays the bills, but I'm not happy. For the longest time I expect 379 00:25:32.480 --> 00:25:36.640 I accept it, Oh, accepted that you're not always going to love your 380 00:25:36.680 --> 00:25:40.119 job. Lately, I've just been dreading going to work and going through the 381 00:25:40.119 --> 00:25:42.880 motions, really just living for the weekend. I've come to the realization that 382 00:25:42.920 --> 00:25:47.039 life is way too short to live like this. This thing that is stopping 383 00:25:47.079 --> 00:25:51.160 me is I don't know what to do. My first thought is maybe I 384 00:25:51.200 --> 00:25:52.920 no longer like the company that I work for. But then I asked myself, 385 00:25:52.920 --> 00:25:56.400 do I even enjoy what I'm doing? The answer is no, not 386 00:25:56.519 --> 00:26:00.240 really, do I need to go back to school. A lot of degrees 387 00:26:00.279 --> 00:26:06.839 I'm interested in aren't in the evening or aren't offered online. College is expensive, 388 00:26:07.359 --> 00:26:10.359 and I just can't stop working. I need to pay for my house 389 00:26:10.359 --> 00:26:12.279 and pay for my family. I'm afraid I'll be too scared to change and 390 00:26:12.359 --> 00:26:15.119 just continue with the way that this is going. I tend to play it 391 00:26:15.160 --> 00:26:19.480 safe in life. My husband and I dream of starting our own business, 392 00:26:19.960 --> 00:26:23.640 but again not really sure for what, and we don't have much knowledge on 393 00:26:23.680 --> 00:26:27.119 how to go about doing that. Dave, if one of your kids was 394 00:26:27.160 --> 00:26:30.319 going through this, what would you say to them? Any words of wisdom 395 00:26:30.359 --> 00:26:33.720 will help? Thanks in advance. I won't say the name. I don't 396 00:26:33.720 --> 00:26:41.720 really have anything that immediately comes to mind, but you gotta do something, 397 00:26:41.759 --> 00:26:45.240 I will say. Some of it comes into well, how big is your 398 00:26:45.240 --> 00:26:48.799 family? Is it kids that you can't cut back expenses on or is it 399 00:26:48.880 --> 00:26:52.559 just you and your partner that you can cut back expenses on. Because if 400 00:26:52.599 --> 00:26:56.079 you've got a kid or two, you probably cut back as much as you 401 00:26:56.160 --> 00:27:00.480 can. But if it's just you and your husband, then maybe you could 402 00:27:00.480 --> 00:27:04.200 work part time and go to school and also be careful about what you go 403 00:27:04.200 --> 00:27:07.079 to school for. You don't go to school for something that's unemployed. They 404 00:27:07.559 --> 00:27:11.759 just be careful because if you're going to go back into having student debt and 405 00:27:11.759 --> 00:27:15.119 then also trying to find a new job, it's just it's a hard thing. 406 00:27:15.240 --> 00:27:18.680 Right now, what are the fields that we read an article today? 407 00:27:18.720 --> 00:27:22.039 And one of the things that stuck out was plumbing because there will always be 408 00:27:22.079 --> 00:27:25.000 a need for plumbers. Well, and that is not something that you just 409 00:27:25.119 --> 00:27:26.759 learn naturally. You have to go to school for it. Also, the 410 00:27:26.839 --> 00:27:30.200 average age of like a lot of trade jobs, those people are starting to 411 00:27:30.240 --> 00:27:34.079 retire and so and there's not younger people who are doing those jobs anymore. 412 00:27:34.160 --> 00:27:37.880 So now there's like a higher need for that. So if you have like 413 00:27:38.440 --> 00:27:41.680 just some kind of ability to do a trade and I'm not telling this person 414 00:27:41.720 --> 00:27:45.039 to go get a job in some kind of trade, if do what you 415 00:27:45.079 --> 00:27:49.319 want to do. But what I'm hearing though, is that trade positions are 416 00:27:49.359 --> 00:27:52.519 making pretty decent money right now. I mean, Andrew does real estate and 417 00:27:52.559 --> 00:27:56.960 he's got properties himself, and he's got a guy for everything who like, 418 00:27:56.720 --> 00:28:00.240 I mean, they make decent money. Like when we have to have them 419 00:28:00.279 --> 00:28:03.960 come over and clear our drain that's clogged from my hair, like, I 420 00:28:04.000 --> 00:28:07.039 mean, it's not that cheap, no, And I think there's a lot 421 00:28:07.039 --> 00:28:12.920 of places that are so not desperate but desperate to hire somebody that they might 422 00:28:12.960 --> 00:28:18.000 do some on the job training. I think Dean's Home Services when they used 423 00:28:18.039 --> 00:28:22.640 to advertise on KWB, they were always looking for somebody, and I think 424 00:28:22.720 --> 00:28:26.400 they might train. I'm not sure, but there's such a shortage of crafts 425 00:28:26.559 --> 00:28:33.319 people yep, and electricians and plumbers and you know whatever, that might be 426 00:28:33.359 --> 00:28:37.039 a route to go. I don't want to sound stupid, but one way 427 00:28:37.079 --> 00:28:40.119 to get some extra income so you could pad your income a little bit while 428 00:28:40.119 --> 00:28:44.319 you're going to school, donate plasma. I know probably three or four people 429 00:28:44.359 --> 00:28:48.640 that make like ninety dollars a week donating plasma. And I know that sucks, 430 00:28:48.680 --> 00:28:52.000 and maybe it's not for you, but if you're looking for something to 431 00:28:52.079 --> 00:28:57.000 kind of pad you tied you over a little bit. What else I would 432 00:28:57.039 --> 00:29:00.640 say, is there anything else you can tell this person about, like changing 433 00:29:00.680 --> 00:29:06.920 careers and getting to a career. I just think that I don't know. 434 00:29:06.960 --> 00:29:08.839 I don't want to be this person that says don't go back to college because 435 00:29:10.039 --> 00:29:11.200 I think that if that's what you feel like you should do, you should 436 00:29:11.240 --> 00:29:15.799 do, But the Internet has a lot of information on it, and you 437 00:29:15.839 --> 00:29:19.240 can teach yourself a lot of things nowadays without needing to go get yourself into 438 00:29:19.319 --> 00:29:25.039 student debt, because I mean, the gen Z generation is learning so much 439 00:29:25.079 --> 00:29:29.599 from TikTok that we didn't have the access to. Like it's like if you 440 00:29:29.680 --> 00:29:33.720 needed a recipe for something like thirty years ago, you called someone and asked 441 00:29:33.759 --> 00:29:37.400 them all question and did whatever. Google is now your answer to everything. 442 00:29:37.759 --> 00:29:41.559 I just think that there are so many teachable things. My sister has basically 443 00:29:41.599 --> 00:29:48.480 renovated two houses mostly on her own from teaching herself off of YouTube. So 444 00:29:48.559 --> 00:29:52.519 it's like, I don't know, maybe try to find something you really like 445 00:29:52.599 --> 00:29:55.480 as a hobby and figure out if you can turn it into a business, 446 00:29:55.559 --> 00:29:57.880 because that's another thing that people are learning to do. I know that's difficult, 447 00:29:57.920 --> 00:30:02.440 but I'm saying, like I well, a woman who started painting a 448 00:30:02.640 --> 00:30:06.960 like painting ceilings, walls that just like regular painting of a house. Okay, 449 00:30:07.119 --> 00:30:08.599 now she paints a bunch of people houses. She's learned how to do 450 00:30:08.640 --> 00:30:12.039 Wayne's coding, so she does all this other stuff and she's made it to 451 00:30:12.119 --> 00:30:15.640 business that like she didn't go to school for that, she just started doing 452 00:30:15.680 --> 00:30:19.359 it and made it into a business, and maybe there's something there. I 453 00:30:19.359 --> 00:30:25.279 would say, don't try to become a photographer. The world is saturated with 454 00:30:25.440 --> 00:30:30.279 photographers, and a lot of them. I would say probably one percent of 455 00:30:30.359 --> 00:30:37.000 photographers make ninety percent of the money and the rest of the photographers, I 456 00:30:37.000 --> 00:30:38.920 mean, if they're good, if they're wedding photographers. And I don't know 457 00:30:40.000 --> 00:30:42.079 the stats. I could be wrong on that one, but I know a 458 00:30:42.119 --> 00:30:48.599 bunch of people who tried to get into photography as a career and it's so 459 00:30:48.799 --> 00:30:52.359 competitive, and when you're getting your wedding pictures taken, people want somebody who's 460 00:30:52.400 --> 00:30:56.400 had experience and is really good, not somebody who is just starting out. 461 00:30:56.519 --> 00:31:02.759 So anyway, if you have any advice for this person, then send me 462 00:31:02.799 --> 00:31:07.400 an email to Ryanshow at KATWB dot com. And that is it for the 463 00:31:07.440 --> 00:31:11.680 Minnesota Goodbye, Ryanshow at ktwdb dot com. Whether you want to talk about 464 00:31:11.720 --> 00:31:18.559 that, or whether you want to talk about oh Naughty Tuesday, or the 465 00:31:18.599 --> 00:31:22.039 best sex that you had, whether it's with your current partner or whether it's 466 00:31:22.079 --> 00:31:26.079 with somebody from back in the day, whatever you want to talk about. 467 00:31:26.079 --> 00:31:29.359 It's kind of your show and if you want to Minnesota Goodbye, staff writer 468 00:31:29.480 --> 00:31:33.319 Sticker, just put your address in the email and we'll see you tomorrow on 469 00:31:33.359 --> 00:31:33.400 the Minnesota Goodbye